Why Are Women Obsessed With a Man's Height? (Unrealistic Expectations)
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- Опубліковано 7 лют 2025
- In this short video from our latest episode we are talking to scientist Macken Murphy about the bizarre obsession women have with a man's height.
Why do women care so much how tall a man is? Macken explains that women, just like mammals, generally tend to prefer males that are slightly taller then them. But they do not need to be with someone who is 4,5,6 inches taller then them.
Often times women will say that they only date a man whose over 6 feet tall because they think it'll make them appear more selective and desirable.
In many cases women do not care all that much about a man's height.
Women don't like the tallest men, they just like men who are taller then men that are around them.
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Publicly declaring high criteria is signaling one's (self-rated) status. BINGO. I've been telling people this for ages.
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@@murphymackenit’s funny because gym bros or people over 5’10” are naturally hideous and disgusting to women. Average is near best and slightly above average height is most attractive up to 5’9” or an inch or two taller. Only obscenely tall women would prefer those taller men and that’s a small percent. Societal beliefs make changes but any women who think they want a super tall man aren’t actually attractive to them naturally and those relationships likely fail and she cheats when she finds someone who she thinks looks better. It’s a good tell to hypergamous women. The sex won’t be as good because it’s not natural attraction it’s only her wanting to show off to society for status. This is well studied about the preferences, the interpretation is my own though. Make your own opinion after searching and experience. Don’t follow societal beliefs, average is the most sexually successful which means it’s almost ideal, the slight increases in height overtime show that slightly above average may be better in some ways for men at least.
"A 5'10" man is pretty much the same as one 6 foot".
Yeah, but a male 5'4" is not considered a man by most of the US population.
I'm a 5'4'' man. This sentence hurts. I've never associated height with manliness but apparently girls do. If my muscles don't counteract that, then women are illogical in their perceptions of manhood.
No it's not its a 2 inch difference 5'11 and 6ft looks similar.
Unfortunately 5'4 and below is brutal 😬☠️
@@blacklyfe5543 I am 5'4'' and I spent my entire 22 year long life not knowing about the height preference women have until recently.
@@newwaveinfantry8362same bro 5’6 here 😂
I am 70s born 5'7". I never had dating issues till the mid nineties after which I suddenly realised that I was short for a lot of good looking girls. I think the preference for tall men became much stronger from 90s onwards.
yeah i think your on to something
@@rob345except he was in his 40s in the 90s it's likely he was just less attractive and in touch with pop culture.
Instagram and Internet has ruined it for normal people. In my opinion before people were opportunistic and trying more. Now they just stuck swiping and clicking to find the perfect match. Terrible times.
And guess what, some people don't really think about it but there's time when body's bones grow and you can stretch, it is not a big deal to think that "oh he, 5.4 and below, so this means kids gonna be the same", you can literally stretch them kids untill their bones stop growing.
These fashion standards are out of control.
It's cool listening to this guy. He speaks very clearly.
Thanks bud :)
The disgusting tats detracts from his intelligence.
As a 5’2 31 year old balding man who has been rejected me entire life, I think I’m very close to accepting my fate. At this point I’m still drowning in the depression, loneliness and crushing hopelessness. My only hope is to be able to come out of this pool of sadness and enter a phase of “acceptance” where I can just carry on with my life and accept my fate
Siempre habrá alguien que te ame no importa que tan extraño sea tu físico ❤
Don’t give up
@ no it and you it not you just saying to him feel better
I'm under 5'5", but twice your age. I have a similar problem. There was one girl in 10/17, who followed me around the DAV store on El Cajon, CA. She was not much over 4' but "looked up" to me. I never got her number, because my Mother felt sick and wanted to go home. ( Five years later she told me that I should have had her wait until I got the girl's number----I guess I was an overly-devoted son). I wonder if she's still around...
@ your mother was sick of course you go help your mother because your mother is the only woman that loves you unconditional
I love how it's ok for a woman to want a tall man because men can't control their height but it is body shaming for a man to want a skinny woman even though a woman can control her weight if she is overweight she can lose weight but if a man is short, he is stuck being short because he has no control over his height but a woman has control over her weight.
Yeah women don’t care about how men feel!
why would a men want a "skinny" women???
and a women doesn't always have control over her weight, many things may play a role in the fact that she is overweight...
@@melodiechartier5173 the exception doesnt make then rule. Men ALWAYS cannot control their height. Women SOMETIMES cannot control her weight (due to a medical reason). Lets not sit here and try to downplay what OP is saying...
If you want a skinny woman, that's fine by me and many other women too. I work out and wouldn't date a man too large myself, prefer slimmer, athletic over jacked too.
Although I think many women are a bit too concerned about height... I dont have an explicit height where I wouldnt date, but I do prefer 5 9 to 6 2 (taller are tok lanky) because I am 5 10 myself. Although often the shorter guys have more issue with it than I when I have dated them.
Hollywood sold that the ideal man is 6 feet and it is hypocritical to say that height does not matter, especially in industrialized countries and the upper class, and a curious fact is that the women who pay the most attention to height are those who measure below 5 5
Ironically James Dean was 5'7. I have also noticed shorter woman or women under the average care more about certain heights, which may lend to having standards or creating status as they obviously could date certain men with a height that they feel negates them from certain women.
false, a lot of leading men are NOT 6"
@@jackolman 💯
The one thing that we can’t control and they get upset when we don’t want an overweight woman something they can 95% of the time can control. 🙄
It’s so backwards isn’t it 😂 like there’s a whole movement for fat acceptance accept these nuts lol when these morons stop acting like this out of our controls are a bad or good thing then we’re gonna keep calling people how it is fat short tall lanky whatever it is it’s all fair game
I understand that too
Or a single mother🤮
@@emir6110what about single father, there is such a thing as single father also, should they never date again because they previously had a baby??
I'll say this, people are allowed to like what they like.
Just male body shaming.
I'm 6'6 and most women couldn't care less. In fact, I'm actually too tall for a lot of them. 6'4 seems to be the cut off. Just figured I would share my experience. I'm also in my forties.
i think mate preference is more down to social proof, for example a man that is very enjoyable for many to be around is more attractive than the average guy who usually only have his small friend group that he constantly surrounds himself with, he's typically wanted by many friendgroups or places, he's welcomed with open arms everywhere he goes and so this signals a lot about his character, sometimes it's very obvious who this guy is, he doesn't struggle to fit in anywhere and nobody is really suspicious or have any bad thoughts about him from just seeing him.
and this overrules a lot of the conventional qualities like looks and height and strength and aesthetics and personal qualities.
and so typically this character comes off as very agreeable but they are not sucking up to anybody, they are in all very approachable.
because what i find is very interesting is when people get to be intimidatingly good looking and so they become less approachable and that i think more often hinders their ability to be succesful with people and more often the opposite sex, but with that said it can be overcome with good sociability or behaving in a way that makes them approachable.
because i do think people measure people up a lot through popularity.
Im 5'4".... im not salty, just trying to understand why and accept my fate. 😂
When I first met my wife she would constantly ask me why am I going out with her, back then I said I wanted to. I recently asked my wife after 35 years of marriage why she kept asking me why I was going out with her and she said because what I looked like. I dont see what is on the surface, I look for beauty within. Got to go now my wife is calling me back to bed. Bless you all.
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It genuinely doesn’t take a PhD to figure out a level 1.01 maths: height is a good proxy for size (and, conversely, strength). Same level of development at 5’4 and at 6’4 produces vastly different outcomes in terms of strength and that matters.
Also doesn’t take a PHD to figure out that women still go for noticeably scrawny, tall men. And would much rather prefer that man than a 5’10 jacked dude who knows how to wrestle with the same face.
If it had to do with height acting as a proxy, then evident attributes such as size that are extremely noticeable would turn women off. It doesn’t. Because it’s not based on wanting to be “protected,” it’s based off the social capital gained from being with a tall man
There's definitely a shift in standards these days people be working at taco bell and trying to date tall doctors that volunteer at homeless shelters.
Sadly, character is probably somewhere in the middle on their checklist. Actually, having character is probably a bit of a turn-off to a lot of women. Based on what I've seen in my lifetime, women prefer a tough aggressive risk-taking type of guy with charisma. The guy could be a broke ugly sociopath but if he checks the aforementioned boxes, he's good to go.
Face is always number one. Height is just a bonus or a disqualifier
@jimbojimbo6873 yeah if youre extra tall like over 6'5. And still face will matter more. Woman who still prioritize face over height wont care youre tall if youre not attractive
You can get your face improved, for a price. But you can't gain 12-15" in height.
@@elultimo102 limb lengthenig. Face takes a billion surgeries to be fixed
@@Chiesco From what I have seen, lengthening limbs is a slow and agonizing process. It's usually done to correct a deformity in one side (short leg, etc.) See if you can find a before & after of David Duke---despite his politics, they did nice work on him.
lol, no. I've always been told I'm a 7/8 by women, always had a small circle to choose from. Get hit on occasionally and even cat called but the one thing that occasionally stopped me getting over the finishing line was them finding my height a turn off. I'm 175cm which is below the average in my country.
When I had a tinder and had my real height set I got some matches, mostly fat women. When I changed my height to 6ft my matches literally multiplied by at least ten times the amount. I was sitting on hundreds of matches in a matter of weeks.
The thing is not a single one called me out for lying about it, that's the weird thing. They care much more about that number than reality, most women can't tell the difference between 5'9 and 6ft anyway. My friend who has an obese autistic jobless boyfriend (he's 6'6) told me I should just lie about it too, because "it's the only thing that matters".
You face guys need to cut out this coping, it's all height. Short guys generally do have much better faces/bodies than taller guys, but taller guys statistically have more money, partners and children and it's not even close. Maybe you were right a decade or two ago sure, but now thanks to social media height is EVERYTHING.
They all want a 6'4" guy who knows how to slam the G.
Not all of them
@@blacklyfe5543no all of them. some of them just haven't experienced it so they think they don't want it.
@@jurassicthunder no
@@jurassicthunderyou can never say all you haven't met all women and there are some exceptions.
@@blacklyfe5543 they only care about superficial shit that don’t matter in the long run
Height is the only thing that matters. Everything positive you will do will have lesser impact.
You are tall and fat ? Go to the gym and dirt , you gain 5 or 6/10 points.
You are short and fat ? Well you will be stuck at 4 max because no girl want a short guy.
Career ? Be prepared to have to be twice the man other can be because nobody will take you seriously. Especially if there are women in management.
It is the same thing for everything.
It is just ridiculous at that point and it won't last long , I can't believe people could accept that and not change the situation.
Crap a decent number of woman don’t mind dating a short man but for the majority he has to be taller than her!
the same reason men obsessed with women weight, it's not about look or easthetic but more about the feeling it gives you. A tall man make women feel safe, like he will be able to defend her and "take care" whereas a petite smallish women makes a man think he is bigger and stronger and more in control then a muscular athletic or bigger women. It's mostly about biology.
You can use biology to justify lots of terrible things, including bigotry. But the thing is, we aren’t animals anymore to cling to such outdated concepts. As for the weight argument, it is something that can be changed unlike height. Being fat is a lifestyle, being short is genetics.
@@emperorpalpatine6239 we’re still biologically wired the same way
Being fat is NOT A LIFE STYLE.
MY MOTHER HAD A THYROID PROBLEM.
I EAT ONCE A DAY , IF I GAVE YOU A LIST YOU WOULD SEE MY POINT.
STOP YOUR IGNORANCE.
I knew a guy he was 7’2ft n couldn’t play basketball couldn’t fight homeless and clumsy and the other things the guy said well he doesn’t know any culture where shorter men are the prize. That’s incorrect because I use to work with a few Mexicans men no taller then 5’3ft and there women treat them like kings from what I saw
Latin culture still holds onto masculine & feminine roles.Men are the prize regardless of their height with Hispanics.
Not true It depends in which cultures and countries. In Spain or France this is much less important than in UK and USA. For instance young women here who are football fans esteem Gavi (1´73cm) is the most attractive player in Spain`s national team. In UK or Usa it would be Piqué, Unai Simón, Pau Torres, etc.
The question is if I should reject a woman who thinks height is very important even if I am much taller than her. With that, more expectations are to follow, of course - expectations that I have no buisness fullfilling.
Kings don't disappoint because looking at world history most of the men who created history were between 5.4 and 5.9 feet tall, 6 feet and above were very rare compared to them as western term "short kings" ruled the world in most of the sections!!
World history doesn't correlate with modern society. Women had no rights or choice back then. They do now, and they choose tall. In modern society, the reality is short men are disrespected by most men, rejected by most women, and paid less by employers. I don't make the rules, those are facts, and statistics backed by 20 years of scientific studies.
Man look I understand what short guys are feeling but if you work on your body and become very toned or shredded and get your finances in order then beautiful women will come, most short men don’t want to level up, but at the same time they don’t wanna date fat girls. So they end up lonely and sad. Every time I tell a short dude to date big women they get mad and refuse but yet they don’t wanna work on themselves to level up.
I don't want to attract gold diggers
@ Then get in shape, my gold digger friends always go after the out of shape guys. Also, you can always tell a gold digger to fuck off.
Pretty much 5’10 and up your good stop complaining
Wrong 5'8 and up is valid.
@@blacklyfe5543 you think 5’8 is a decent height?
5ft9 men🗿
@@mrswollsI'm 5'8 never had problems. I'm lean and have good posture.
More like 5’8 and up, the average woman is like 5’3/5’4.
Its just very recent so something is just really fishy
For real, I am 31 and never heard about height preference until I was 27 and starting spending a lot of time in the internet.
Short people live longer and are naturally stronger (both in men and women). Society glamorizes tallness and stigmatizes shortness, though, so you see a lot more tall people gravitate toward physical aspects of life. Tallness isnt some magical superior genetic like people want to pretend. Rate people on who they actually are.
6'1 here .
I am a dwarf or 5'5'' and I have never kissed and I have never had sex... I will die alone...
Your not a dwarf, I’m 5,4 and have had relations, just keep trying
@corbinsmith6025 Explain me how you do
@@juanga9748 persevere, eventually you will run into a girl like you, I’m telling you it’s best motvv be to quit
You probably will
They don't care how tall you are if you got money. Study that!
cope!
@@NoctuloConElEnfasis-6.5how is he coping.
@noalliances facts.
@@blacklyfe5543 bc why would a man want a woman just bc she wants your money. If its just for sex sure, but they will bleed you dry bc thats all they wanted
@@NoctuloConElEnfasis-6.5 exactly.Don't tell them that most CEO's (including the presidents) heights start with 6 feet.
I believe height is just the easiest thing to look at for how formidable a guy is. Thinking about what should a woman be instinctively attracted to, it comes down to who is the baddest MFer for every other mammal. Who wins the fight literally is who they mate with. The buck that defeats his his challengers has does in different area codes. Since at this point in human history, physical fights are fairly rare, how it appears the man would do in a fight becomes important. It just turns out on average taller men are actually more formidable in a fight, but it isn't the end all be all. Mike Tyson is 5'10", but looks like a scary MFer even if you didn't know he was a legendary boxer. I would guess he is seen as above average by women. As alluded to in the video, width is attractive to women (given it isn't just width from being fat). Width sends a strong message that the guy will do fairly well in combat, that that man is capable of defending her if need be.
How is freaking mike tyson short? Get the f out there with your dumb analysis
yes, let's face it 6ft you what top10% or so of men, thats elite all by itself, sad but true
its insanity that women want Super Tall man and I will not date short women has Tall man I am 1.91cm
Dude you don’t need to go that far it’s not just short women it’s tall women too that’s just their requirements honestly it’s just an America thing I know plenty of women who don’t care
Personally feel like men care more about their height and how its perceived than as many women think its important. There are women that feel that way, but in my experience it is just how you come across.
From my experience it’s usually age driven inversely for both sexes, except for single moms. I noticed a lot of women with no kids tend to keep up with the joneses up to age say 35. If their sister or best friends married a 6’2 guy, chances are they’ll want the same. I also noticed that after a breakup women usually date a taller man than their ex or exes. It’s almost if subconsciously they want their final mate to be capable of beating/intimidating all her prior exes.(depending on the woman’s class, this could switch from height to financial status or both)
My youngest aunt was the first one I noticed with this trend, but she ended up marrying her 5th and final husband, a truck driver, who is my same height at 5’7. All her prior husbands(the ex-men) were 5’10 or taller. So the older she got, the less she cared about height. She also said she felt comfortable knowing that she’s less likely to get cheated on by him, her prior husbands always had women flirting with them, sometimes even with her right next to them.
Men however it’s the reverse, the younger we are we tend to not care about our height, but as we get older, we are more conscious of it as the rejections added up no matter how many times we improved ourselves physically and financially. It then became clear that something else other than the cliche confidence was the root. I’m now 46 and the height thing didn’t hit me until i was around age 34. I was with a single mother of two who couldn’t have any more kids and I decided to try going to a sperm bank and got rejected because the minimum height is 5’10. After that I decided to try getting back out in the dating market again, but this time I’m doing both Online Dating and Going out to singles events. I went to speed dating events and the only women to respond to me were the single moms, none of the no kids ladies picked me or the other guys similar in height. They usually picked the one or two tallest guys at the session. I then did an experiment with my match profile. I changed my height from 5’7 to 5’10 and within a week I got more responses than I can count, but I could not live with lying like that.
You obviously don’t talk to women then because it really don’t matter how old are they all want the same thing and their standards actually goes up the older women get
Height affects your earning potential as well. I read an article: "Short Men get Short-changed.' from '71, before affirmative action took hold. 80% the taller guy got the job, and the pay increases with height. I worked with a guy 11" taller than I am, who got twice the pay and benefits, as well as a company car. (Same job title, and I had an MBA).
Wth has height 2 do with anything? The one with a gun will always been😅
I'm 5'11
The fact that you had to tell us that you’re 5’11” means that you are definitely shorter than 5’11” 😂
No necessarly@@shoryukennn00
I am 5 11
Do men care about a woman height?
ofc,but not as much as woman cares about a men's height
@00muIe Would there be men out there who would be with a woman who is say 4'11 or 4'10?
I am 4'10, I will date and be with a short king 🤴🏻 I do not care for men who are 6 ft and up. I prefer men below 5'11.
@@MissMolls short guys dont rlly care about height when it comes to dating a girl lol, but some tall guys tend to want a woman who is 5' or less shorter than them
Can't speak for all but I definitely don't
I don't see any short guys here talking. Why is that? Fear of them telling the truth?
There could well be short guys on talking who just haven’t disclosed their heights!
5.5 in india can work
because their stuck in the pass
That’s great but since you’re so short it’ll be extremely hard for you to out attract men who are taller than you. Facts, hate to say it
not if your handsome
men dont like when women have unrealistic expectations? irony
What unrealistic standards do men have? all men generally want is a woman who keeps her body weight down, has a low body count, and is kind and feminine to us. meanwhile, women on the other hand, have a list of mile long of what they want in a guy.
Where is the irony? Men’s standards are not high
Do your homework Sir!
Most elite soldies are of average hight or shorter. Stop the fascist bullshit!
great point!
in ancient times when our DNAs were still brewing tall dudes had the vest chance of survival because of strength and vision against other men.
On the Japanese version of "Ninja Warriors," the winners were usually 5'3' and 130 pounds. (tough little cusses).
@@jurassicthunderwhere your source ? Because men were renowned for their intelligence
Little man syndrome is not attractive to females either.
what is little man syndrome? Is it a medical condition? If so is there such thing called big man syndrome then?
Why do you assume ever short man has “little guy syndrome”?
Probably cuz of all the bashing they receive
Little man is syndrome is a man who is of small physical stature but he is extraordinary in intellect and his success and greatness is labelled as crime as he is not supposed to succeed or be intelligent
His struggle for respect he always deserved is called a little man syndrome
@@yukinagato-hr3xqnot even that probably. Every category of height has personality flaws. It is more likely that little man syndrome is a rationalisation that women started in order to feel better about ignoring short men.