WHAT ITS LIKE TO HAVE GAY PARENTS
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- Опубліковано 11 вер 2024
- Hey everyone, I sometimes get messages asking me what it was like to have lesbian parents, so I thought I would make a video to share with you. Hope you enjoy!
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i have a mom and a dad and i'm uncomfortable around men
Hallie Elizabeth me too..
Hallie Elizabeth same
Hallie Elizabeth same lol i feel like its normal as a woman to be uncomfortable around men
same, because I have two sisters...
Aybel this is what sexism done..
I have a mom and a dad and I'm uncomfortable around everyone.
TeaLover me
Relatable
same
x2
TeaLover I have a mom and dad and i am extremely happy and grateful i have them both. I can only feel sorry for you and her, but no point to slag your heterosexual parents to make her feel more happy.
My parents are heterosexual, and I had the same experience in regards to hair, makeup etc. I think that's how most childhoods are. Cheap blue eyeshadow, terrible hair decisions. Your mothers aren't meant to be your stylists aha, that's more of a sister/best friend thing. Not being rude, just wanted to let you know that things most likely wouldn't have been different in that respect if you had straight parents x
Vienna Elizabeth amazing thank you!
My mum has always had short hair so never really did my hair (besides brushing it) and never taught me how. So now I suck at styling my hair haha XD it's not her fault though, it's just what happened
Vienna Elizabeth same my heterosexual parents too. I'm not even lucky enough to be close with my mom, and my dad is greedy with his money so V(^_^)V.... they're divorced and I'm glad I finally live with my aunt
My mom is a beautician and I still can't do my hair, and I wouldn't let her touch mine when I was younger because I was so tender headed :) ha
Vienna Elizabeth my mom "taught" me makeup but I have never liked the way she did hers. My mom dresses like an old lady and has for as long as I can remember. That being said, when it came to giving me ideas for what to do with my hair and jewelry for things like prom, she was inclined in that sense. But I feel like, like you said, it's a person based thing. And not always just that a mom isn't stylish or into makeup, just that the times have changed.
Hey don't worry I have a mum and a dad and I still can't French braid
Its hard as hell especially the back.
Kaylee Kapital I learned to french braid but my mom didn't teach me and my hair is to short for it anyway.
Same I can't do hair at all
I'm french and i can't french braids lmao
Raeesah same
I'm gay but I'm unlikely to have a kid because even a cactus died under my care.
EDIT: this is unexpected! I never thought I would reach the top comment section ever... i want to thank my family and my coach who always believed in me... and my family pets, Suri and Miss Acacia, and also all the ones who liked this comment: You are the best!!
EDIT2: The cactus is not dead... it rose up again and has a tiny flower on the top... I cried a Little when I saw it...
lol i can't even keep a fish alive for at least a month
XD some fish have short lifespams, maybe it wasn't your fault...
Gero i can't have kids either
i had a cactus too, it died because i didn't water it
Gero my dog ate mine😐
My mom is straight and I can tell you she barely brushes her hair, let alone do her makeup
SeiraVonKarma my parents (man + woman, straight) are the same! I think there is a stereotype of how a typical straight families is...
SeiraVonKarma lmao same
SeiraVonKarma same
my mom is the opposite, her pyjamas are even fancy.
SeiraVonKarma same
Lol my mom was always the one who gave me money my dad was cheap af.
my moms cheap af 😫 my dad would give me his credit card and wouldn't care if I maxed it out while my mom is cheap haha but I still love her 😂
Emily Slaton both my parents are cheap af
Μαρία Παππά calm down lmao
Emily Slaton same
it's her opinion, so if she thinks her dad is cheap, than let her.
I'm scared of older men and I have straight parents haha.
Andrew Harmon I know right
blatantarrogance x 😂😂😂😂😂
Andrew Harmon lol so what's the point!?
Andrew Harmon older men are scared of you so the playing field is leveled.
Blatantarrogance X - are you implying he’s furry or tasty...?
Edit:
... OR BOTH?! :ㅇ
Some of these things aren't gay parent things... For example, my mum didn't teach me anything about makeup and forbid me to wear it, she didn't wear it often either, but she did know how to apply it, to an extent.
And I also didn't have a father, tons of kids don't. That's not a straight or gay parent thing.
A. Coutu-Kellam
It depends on that parents though...
A. Coutu-Kellam You're british?
My parents never really connected with me or my brother(they're straight). So I never really had a nurturing mom who would teach me about girl stuff or to do girl things with (she's not really girly, she's a tomboy). I also never had a "daddy's little girl" type relationship with my dad. I was always nervous or scared around him too. I'd get a little sad when some of the kids in my school would talk about doing fun things with their families. Mine would always just stay in their rooms and never come out.
I agree 100%
We're aware that some kids don't have fathers, sadly
But her mother is dating another woman (I'm not hating at all)
Doesn't that give off gay\bi\pan vibes??
i grew up with heterosexual parents and older men still scare me. i guess it's just a person thing
I'm scared of everyone lol
@@sammysalmon6923 me too
I think many of the struggles you are talking about isn't because your parents are gay, it's about the way they handled the situation
Ida Andersen totally!
But doing things the normal way means there isn't a "situation" to handle or work around. Not by default.
Vinter Vareich i think the donor didn't want to be found.
Were you raised by gay parents yourself though?
#1 anathema stan I just watched like all of ur videos and subscribed. Stay alive |-/
I don't think all straight moms know how to do makeup and French braid and all of that. There are a lot of moms that don't wear dresses and aren't very feminine. I'm gay and I'm like the most girly person you will meet. Okay let's not over do it now haha.. But I like pink and sparkles and makeup and dresses and bows and all that and I like girls that are very feminine as well. So my kids will have two of those moms. So I don't think you didn't have that growing up because you had two moms, but just because it happened to be that both of your parents weren't very feminine.
Oh for sure, it was just my experience. :D
Angela Carlton I think with any type of parents it is important to introduce ur kids to many types of adults, kids, and families. It makes the kids less timid and shy and improves their speech and all those milestones
Angela Carlton as long as you raise your children the right way and make them into strong people they will not resent you for it. Children need a safe base and it doesn't matter if that is a mom and a dad, two moms or two dads, one mom or one dad. Trust me, I work with children and I know what they need to grow into great and greatful adults! Just do your best as a parent and try to give them as much as the world has to offer.
Michelle Engelberts agree my mom is straight as a ruler and Hates makeup and girly stuff and got married in a pant suit. could not even do a basic braid.
mine too and goddamn that suit was ugly :DD
My mum didn't teach me anything about makeup lol I teach her
lydia willyhands SAME
lydia willyhands every time there's a special event I have to do her Make up thats so cute😂
lydia willyhands TOTALLY SAME HERE
My mom's not even wearing makeup 😄
lydia willyhands same
I have heterosexual parents and heck I'm still nervous around grown men even in my early 20s. I have no problem socialising with guys close to/my age but I'm very uncomfortable around older guys. I think its just how we handle it, specially with the dangers we're been raised to be wary of as females.
Kurarisu-san yes but she was nervous around her grandfather.
Adrienne so was I and I have straight parents, actually as I grew up even my own dad started making me uncomfortable bc the world always showed me that men are scary af
I have hetero parents and I'm scared of almost every man in my life, including my dad. it's sad but nobody ever taught me that there are men that aren't the ones commiting crime and stuff, so I kinda just never felt comfortable around them.
yeah same ... I don´t think that that has anything to do with having straight or gay parents
Kurarisu-san honestly same, I'm still scared of them
People calm the hell down she's allowed to say what she want giving to the fact that we're speaking about HER life. So she's the only one that's allowed to judge her own life.
An intelligent comment, thank you for that!
My straight mother didn't wear make up, wear dresses or do her hair and my dad was abusive when he was around. I don't feel like I was ripped off from anything.
TYLER ARTIST ha bitch just shut up youre horrible at this
Good for you. My father left when I was 12 and my nephew just died. I don't feel ripped off either but I understand her life is not easy.
Y'all all need to chill. Some people have more problems than other but y'all can't be doing the one up challenge like that. It's mad annoying. Ppl go through shit and deal with it differently.
DarthYuYevon truth
+Conkuur Ugh... America-centrism...
In my comment: "The huge majority of people that get HIV-infections are straight people in Africa."
You claims it's bullshit and "proofs" it with a page that talks exclusively about the HIV population in America.
I talked about the majority of human beings on the planet, you are the one that added America.
Unless you provide reliable high quality research that says otherwise I'm not going to change my opinion about my original comment being correct.
I don't understand the big difference of possible straight children contracting it through birth instead of sexual contact - it's still a big problem that needs to be solved. Instead of targeting gay/bi men in Africa (especially with all the homophobia floating around it would be very difficult to reach the intended group) it would be a lot better to getting HIV+ people on medication to lower their virus load and stop the spreading, prevent raping and weaken rape culture and helping women giving birth safely to children so that the infection isn't passed on to the child.
Your opinions on homosexuality is not worthy of a comment, but one does wonder why you would seek up a video with this content if that is your mindset.
You came off slightly unappreciative .
I was raised by one mom, we can all say we didn't have the picture perfect family . But you have two humans who loved you raise you.
AyoCarina hey girl my mom's ended up separating and I didn't talk to my bio mom for about 5 years 12-17. I tried to leave it out because they watch my videos.
So you commented it?
Emily Mitchell they most likely wouldn't have seen the comment in the massive flood of comments
I scrolled down twice..
AyoCarina I understand where you're coming from and that's obviously a lot more hard but it is also hard to be raised by gay parents. A lot of children aged 7-15 think it's weird and it makes it hard to have a carefree social life and just invite people round and when you do tell people it can spread and it becomes hot gossip because it's not common. I know myself because my mum is gay but please don't think I'm dismissing how hard it is for you! You just have to understand it's hard for us as well.
i think the "doing the hair and make up" thing has nothing to do with being gay. some women just dont like it, or arent interested.
Camila Go
Yeah I learned how to do makeup and stuff from UA-cam not my mom it's just not her thing.
She just talked about something she wanted to be thaught by her moms , she just feels it lacking.
my mum is always styled and has a feeling for fashion and stuff....But still she NEVER showed me anything. I just decided to wear black and do no make-up or girly stuff.
Camila Go I agree! My partner is not into hair or makeup at all (she's never been), but we're both gay and I'm very into makeup and hair. Just depends on the person!
Camila Go yeah that never happened with my parents, and my father certainly never gave me money xD
I'm reading through the comments on this video, and a lot of them seem so extreme? Guys, life is hard. Children care about little things, and being an adult & a parent doesn't come with a handbook. I come from a straight (now kind of broken) family, and I can promise you that I didn't learn how to braid my hair or do my makeup via my mum. In fact, I taught her a lot of things. I learned on my own. It's TOTALLY OKAY for Kaylee to feel like she missed out on some things, because when you're a kid, the little things are all you have. Her feelings are totally valid. It doesn't make her a bad kid, and it doesn't make her mums bad parents! I'm sure it was hard for everyone, as it is in straight families, divorced families, single parent families, etc. We don't always have to point fingers. We don't always have to have someone to blame. Life just happens to you, and all you can do is your best. I'm certain that I won't be a perfect parent, no matter how hard I try and how good my intentions might be. I will fuck up. We will all fuck up. And when we do, it's up to us to own it, apologise and change. Kaylee told her story- I'm sure her mums could tell their side of it as well! Just think about things and put yourselves in other people's shoes before you spew hatred in either direction. Love x
binky true! ps i love your videos
Agreed for the most part except the part about life just happens to you. The life she has didn’t just happen to her. The two women who adopted her created that reality for her. Good or bad, it didn’t just happen.
I was watching this video on Chrome, and I had to go over to UA-cam to find this comment again and say thank you for expressing my view so perfectly. Thank you.
Westb102 they didnt have to adopte her 😏
My parents are straight and my dad don't do shit for me lol. I'm gay and can't wait to raise a baby with my girlfriend ♥️
Seriously...that's a concern? A mom who doesn't do makeup and a dad to give you money??? That has nothing to do with having straight parents!
ikr xD
she sounds rather ungrateful to me, just saying.
I think she was half joking. It seemed like she didn't execute the joke properly.
Just playing devil's advocate here, but I think I can understand why the absence of small and seemingly insignificant things like this may have had even the tiniest bit of impact on her. There are societal norms translated in multiple venues in our modern culture whether it be television shows, movies, commercials, etc. Having parents of the same gender isn't as common in those venues, so I can understand why she'd feel the way she does. I really don't think it was intended to be ungrateful, it's just something that might have made her feel the absence of societal normality growing up.
Aldora LaPlume exactly ! That is not even I thing!
you should do a mom tag with them :)
Jessie McMahan wouldn't it be a moms tag
Pandas Pizzabox no bc it's one video
Melanie Papadopoulos oh okay
Melanie Papadopoulos But there's two moms
Melanie Papadopoulos are you greek? :)
how frequently are you caught in an endless cycle of "go ask your mom"
MagIsLame OMG
mag never.
Lol at everyone bashing her for not just saying everything was sunshine and rainbows in order to fit a narrative perfectly.
EXACTLY
Independent Mind
I feel like if you are raised in a home with love and care it doesn't matter who your parents love because yes their might be problems but all family's have their problems and you cant say one is better then the other because there are many people with gay parents who are raised perfectly fine
Tbf I feel like a decent amount of the comments are about how some of her criticisms aren't really related to their gayness, rather their personalities. Like when she's talking about not having a mum who knew how to do her hair / teach her about make up / etc - that's more about having a traditionally girly mum rather than having 2. My mum is a bit of a tomboy and never knew how to do any of that. Obviously neither did my dad. I think that's one of the main criticisms people have is acting as though gay parents means anything more than having two parents of the same gender. Their individual personalities are a different issue.
Everyone seems to say that their straight parents have the same issues soooo
I had a female mom and a male dad and they were not good together at all. I wish my mom would've left my dad way before they had been together for 43 years. I have one sibling-- a younger brother. We saw more horrible things when we were growing up than anyone should ever see. Dad was a sexual deviant. Mom didn't like sex at all. I can't say that I blame her knowing what dad did to her. So you have 2 moms. If they made you feel happy as a child rather than anxious and depressed, you're winning this game we call life. If they are still together and you can go to their home on Thanksgiving or Christmas and you can enjoy your time with them, then you are one lucky lady! ❤️
Thanks hun!
Kaylee Kapital You're welcome 😊
I wish my parents divorced as a child too. I always had so much anxiety when they were together. Thanks for sharing.
Maybe she wants a BROKEN HOME just like half of the population right now. MAKEUP. That was her problem dude. Freaking makeup. God! Some people are just...... I can't even..... I'm trying to control myself from saying something negative right now.....
I use to be a homosexual, but Jesus set me free from these abominable lusts.
For this reason God gave them up to dishonorable passions. For their women exchanged natural relations for those that are contrary to nature; 27 and the men likewise gave up natural relations with women and were consumed with passion for one another, men committing shameless acts with men and receiving in themselves the due penalty for their error. (Rom 1.26-27)
Michael Jackson died. We will all die
one day.
Where are you going when you die?
Are you 100% sure that you will go to
heaven?
Are you a good person?
Christianity has bad news and good
news. But first the bad news
GOD sees everything. He knows your
secrets. GOD also hears what comes from your mouth.
"But I tell you, on the day of judgment people will have to give an
accounting for every careless or useless word they speak." (Matthew
12:36.)
Lying is wrong. Masturbation is wrong. Pornography is wrong. Heterosexual sex
before marriage is wrong is also wrong. Homosexuality/Lesbianism is wrong. Jesus
summed up the evilness of our hearts in this way:
For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murder,
adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false witness, slander. 20These are
what defile a person. (Matt 15.19-20)
If you have committed fornication (and
I have myself), or broken any of the 10 Commandments, then you’re guilty of
breaking GOD’s Law, and therefore we all deserve conscious hell fire forever
(like the rest of mankind).
But GOD loves you and sent his sinless
Son to be tortured, and die on the Cross, taking the punishment for sinners. 3
days later, Jesus rose from the Grave.
You MUST turn from your sins (stop
sinning), and obey Jesus, and love him with
all your soul, heart, mind and
strength. Be reconciled with Christ!
“Seek
the Lord while he may be found;
call upon him while he is near;
7let the wicked forsake his way,
and the unrighteous man his thoughts;
let him return to the Lord, that he may have compassion on him,
and to our God, for he will abundantly pardon. (Isa 55)
He calls on the name of the LORD will
be saved. (Romans 10:13)
If you became a Christian, you will
receive
1. forgiveness of sins, your sins and
guilt will be blotted out,
2. GOD himself will dwell inside you,
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in doing you good.
4. your name will be written in the
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7.. Being
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forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. (Galatians
5:22-23)
Otherwise, you will be judged guilty,
and tortured forever.
This is true, whether you believe it or
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You’ve been lovingly warned. Now you
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I live with my two mum's (they identify as bisexuals) who have been together for 32 years.. but I know my dad, and he is gay, and him and his partner have been together for 34 years. They did it like a sperm donor type thing, except they did it privately, in the fact that all my parents were friends for about 4 years, before my mum put forward the idea to have a baby, with my dad as the donor.. they had to try 7 times before I came along (partly because my mum had me when she was 40). I still see my dad's, just not as often, as they run a B&B and are very busy.
that is so cool. you are lucky to have such loving people around
sounds like a cool family
SOUNDS PRETTY FUCK UP.. SHOULD BE ILEGAL..
+Jela SlavicPrincess you should be illegal lol
well homophobia should anyway.
Jela SlavicPrincess Your sarcastic insinuation, is too highly obnoxious, to be physiologically damaging to my higher superior self. And if you think I should tolerate such diabolical nonsense, from a measly piece of fluff, such as yourself, you are way beyond all comprehension.
Why did you only talk about negatives? And negatives that didn't even have to do with two lesbian mothers? I don't know anyone who's mom taught them how to do makeup. My mom is not girly, she never taught me makeup or gave me fancy hairdos. You're just going off of stereotypes man. If I was your mother I'd be kinda hurt by this video, you could have at least talked about what was great about having two moms at least once.
Just to clarify, not saying you don't love your moms. Just would have liked to hear what was awesome about having two moms growing up.
TheMickeyFrancis what if it wasn't so awesome tho? I'm not about to drag the under the bus here because I'm an adult now but I'm not going to lie and say it was soooooo amazing either. Not because they were both women but because they separated when I was 12. Have a good day.
so you don't have a single good childhood memory from before you were 12? Not trying to start anything, but it seems like you're either trying to avoid talking about a horrific childhood or you're just more focused on feeling a little sorry for yourself. Sorry, I know that's mean and it IS your life, but you seem so smart and well-spoken, it's odd to hear such a one dimensional experience.
Lacey Thiessen And? What if she did have a horrific childhood? We are not entitled to it and she has every right to feel how she wants to. It's her life.
As she stated,she has been asked questions about it, so she was answering.
TheMickeyFrancis I know exactly where you're coming from but i have to say being raised by two mums does have some strain and awkward situations etc. Especially when they divorce and have new partners. And even though there are amazing times it's still hard to talk to about the bad to anyone because it sounds like you are ungrateful or unhappy. Maybe this was just an easy way to vent, since there's rarely someone who understands and you don't really know most people on UA-cam. My step sister and I say the exact same things. I found talking to someone about a home problem just confused people and raised stupid questions like ' what do you call them'
-_- this was v long sorry. 😂
I came from hetero parents and my mom still didn't know how to do those things... and i was always scared of older men other than my dad too so those things just make you normal. It sounds like you had a pretty solid childhood. Your moms did a great job raising an intelligent, well spoken young woman! ....and yay for liberals ❤️❤️❤️
Christine Ann liberals can be idiots sometimes and I am a liberal
I know Something You Don’t Know Ur came from "hetero parents" well no shet Sherlock . Without man and woman no child can be born
@@joblupata3673 what they mean is that the "man" is in the relationship, meaning that had a common household consistently with a father(which it seems you're lacking) and a mother, and maybe siblings. We get it science isn't that far yet and it's simple biology ( congratulations for figuring that one out). But perhaps enlighten yourself by conducting simple research as to how lesbian parents make a child before commenting on something that's meant to support the creator of the video and not shunning them.
i just come here to say GAY IS OK
A OK
LOLROFL Yesss!!! It totally is!!! I value other people's opinions but homophobic people literally get my my nerves!!
LOLROFL no
Stahlhelm why are you being rude, I know its your opinion, but why did you come if you knew what was expected in the video
the spread of homosexuality is a function of technological change.
I'm just curious do you call both of them mom? Does it ever get confusing
I call one nana
lol
destinyps I have 2 mums and I call one of them mum and the other by there real name. I know lots of people in the same situation who call one mum and one mummy
destinyps Mom and Mommy.
+Anonymous11243 i just came from a video of a lesbian couple discussing this, they tried "mommy b" and "mommy s" (first letter of their first names), but they said it was quite a mouthful & too difficult for small children to say. they eventually went with "mama" and "mom" and when their first kid learned to spell, she spelled mom like mo-mo-mo and eventually "mo" (pronounced Emm-Oh) stuck with the kid, so that's what she is called. the couple were saying it has to be 1) really easy to pronounce for a kid and 2) organic, like that "mo" nickname developed.
your parents not wearing makeup is a personality preference thing not sexuality. However, this is a great video for people now and many to come.x
Lorna Tw That's what I was thinking😂
I didn't learn anything about makeup from my mom but instead from my sister
All doctors I've heard of ask all teens about their sexuality; regardless of their parents. And most girls do very bad makeup early on, especially grade 8.
Mine ever has
Mine never asked me anything about sexuality or gender. I was just asked if I was sexually active (in front of my parents so I said no even when I finally was) and I'm queer and transgender. I wish somebody would have asked me because I probably wouldn't have had such a hard time figuring it out and feeling alone and isolated until I realized that I wasn't the only person with gender dysphoria and was interested in men and women (I didn't know about nonbinary genders at the time)
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I'm A Human What Doctor do you have
Yeah, when you sign in they ask on the forms.
Awww, don't worry, my mom didn't teach my anything about make-up, hair, menstruation or epilation :))). Not all mothers are like in movies. Some are shy, some are old school, some have awful clothing style or some are very open. Everyone is different, even mothers XD.
I have gay mom's and i grew up just fine (not hating)
Eva Elizabeth Armijo me too
Eva Elizabeth Armijo where is your grandparents and aunts and uncle
1. I grew up with a dad and I was scared of most grown men, too. I'm sorry but you can't blame that on your moms.
2. I grew up with straight parents and my doctors started asking my sexuality/if I was gay when I was 13. It's more to do with making sure you're getting the right care when you're perhaps becoming sexually active or even emotionally attracted to people.
3. Okay so that might be your parents' fault but they were trying to protect you and stop you from being bullied, you can't have things both ways
4. My mom WAS feminine - she never let me wear makeup out of my house, taught me to do my makeup or hair, etc... and I am also feminine but I have a totally different style. And we all went through that blue eyeshadow phase, it's what the teen magazines told us.
5. My dad hasn't ever "given me money" especially not when my mom has already said no lol
The 4th point is absolutely true! I have a very stylish, feminine mother but she never actively taught me anything about makeup - even after I went to her at the age of 13/14 and asked her to do it for me, she was always very against me wearing it often (she deemed it unnecessary for my age and bad for pimples etc, which I totally get tbh). I really only learned about it through friends and the internet.
Said everything
"I'm sorry but you can't blame that on your moms." Uhm, when and where did she blame her parents exactly?
this is totally random and not related to the video at all but i just want to say that i love your profile pic ;)
+twenty one swifties |-/
I can't believe you're 29! You look around 17-22 which I know is a bit of a range but then again most teenagers look like they're 20 lol
Hayley Don thanks!
Kaylee Kapital gurlll u r not 29 you look younger
that child is not 29 in this video. thats like a 15 year old. clearly.
My dad is bi, I have nothing wrong with it. When he told me I just smiled and said that's great, whatever makes my family happy, I'm happy.
are you parents together?
I think the fearing grown men as a little girl is common for most females because we are always warned about predators and being touched in inappropriate ways… I don’t know, what do y’all experienced?
My mum didn't teach me about makeup either lel she was also the one I'd beg for money, not my dad lol
My mother is straight as hell. But I always had to learn everything myself. How to do my hair, how to do my make-up, what to wear... I´m more feminine than her and I´m lesbian. The only thing is that I like more black clothes and she likes to wear white and pink and so. I like bright colors too, but it have to have something with black. :D
I don´t have dad, my biological father kind of hates me? I was a mistake for him I think. :D But my mother have great brother that I really love, even tho I haven´t see him often as a child. :)
Every family have problems and specifics. It doesn´t matter if it´s straight or gay family. Just the things around it may be little different but I believe, to grow up with lesbian mothers must have been difficult because of the time you grew up in. It´s kind of different these days I think. :)
I only didn't like the fact that she made it seem like only straight mom's know how to french braid, or have jewelry, and makeup. My friend Jenna has two moms and when went to her house for sleepover we were doing a little fashion show and they had make-up and jewelry.
At 8:00 when she said "If you're gay and watching this, go and have a kid, man" I misheard and thought she said "Don't have a kid, man" and I stg I choked on a potato chip
biclexual omg it's elke 😍
Stop trying to apply your personal experiences to hers. She said many times throughout the video that this is strictly her personal experience. Regardless of what you think, her feelings and emotions are still the feelings and emotions that she felt. It doesn't matter if you think or "know" that you would feel different because she isn't discussing YOUR situation.
The stereotype that you have of straight mothers teaching their daughters how to do makeup is funny and absurd. A mother is a mother. All mothers are different and just because a few mothers do something doesn't make it the norm.
"Had someone to teach me how to do a French braid" LMAO MY MOM FEMININE AF AND SHE STILL DONT KNOW HOW TO MAKE BRAIDS AND DO FANCY MAKE UP I TEACH HER😂😂😂😂
I would've smacked that doctor.
the makeup thing is for most girls i think... at least as a girl born in 1991 pretty much all people I knew did the most embarrasing makeup. I don't know anyone whose mother taught them how to do makeup and most girls just played around until they eventually got better.
also my dad was never the one that said yes.. lol if I wanted money I had to go to my mom.
Riv Racost lmfao my mom can't do makeup either. I tried to learn but I'm just bad at it.
Savannah Martinez today it seems like everyone is a makeup artist. don't worry I can't do anything beyond the basics either
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I think it's so brave of you to talk about having bad experiences with gay parents in a culture where speaking out about it is so instantly slammed... you are strong and you DESERVE to have a voice girl 😘 😘 😘
WhateverIsTrueASMR I mean like why does it even matter what kind of people certain people are attracted to? That doesn't change people's personalities what so ever, just who they like. All this is stereotypical bullshit. But then again you are right about the "brave for speaking out part" cause with this? Oh man...
WhateverIsTrueASMR YES THANK YOU!!!!!!!
Awesome person Did I say it changes people's personalities? Nope. YOU did.
robbin smdlgbd 🙌🏼 🙌🏼 🙌🏼
I grew up without a father, my mom is straight, and was rarely around grown men and I'm just fine. My mom doesn't wear dresses, wears little to no makeup and doesn't know how to french braid hair because she is not super feminine. I think your issuse are less about your parents and more about you as an individual.
great video! I'm gay, the topic of gay parenting is now discussed quite a lot in our country (the Czech Republic) so this is really informative, thank you:-) PS: you're beautiful!
Aww thanks so much Karel have a good one!
her whole conversation makes me feel like she had problems with her family. and this makes me sad.
+Sarat R I got the same impression. She doesn't hate them, but deep down she knows that she missed out on having a father around because of their selfish decision. I'm not sure I would be so forgiving.
Degenerate Scumbag dude wdym "selfish decision"? if they aren't straight or bi why would they be selfish for not having a father??
Degenerate Scumbag many of my friends with straight parent don't have a dad because he left, so shut it
+Mima awy yea but you don't substitute the dad figure with a woman
Alonzo Garza why not?
Good video. Statistically, gay parents are better parents due to the fact that there are no cases of accidental pregnancies. So all children of gay couples are actually wanted, and therefore more likely to be well treated than cases when kids just happen to straight teens etc.
You said that everyone should be able to have children no matter what is the situation. I would say that there are people who should not have children, for example like someone whose life is a mess due to drugs or mental problems. And the sad truth is that in many places poverty is also a thing that will make your children's life worse. Where I live, becoming a parent (as a gay man) would require a lot of money and a trip to India or some other country that has legal surrogate babybearing system. And I have no ways of getting that amount of money so I'm doomed to be childless..
Jordan Harrison what makes you say that? Is that based on something you have seen or just an opinion that sexual preferences make straight men better at what you said?
U'Koow Kolli just a opinion cause i cant just assume
Jordan Harrison but that opinion is based on assumption if you have nothing to back it up with.
You can adopt me(?) I'm 18, but I need an extra parent to support me financially... I mean, loving parent, I need a loving parent.
Ha!
Why are you guys lashing up to her ! This is a human with different perspectives and feelings ! No right to judge on how she feels .
Ummm to the father that feared that her parents might molested his daughter…ANY PARENT could do that!!! That has nothing to do with sexual orientation. So that man shouldn’t have ever allowed his children to go to anyone’s house because there’s a risk regardless.
Lol. It's funny you say your mothers didn't braid your hair and stuff. I don't think stuff like that is always a gay thing. I'm gay and my mother is totally straight, and she never used make up, she never braided my hair and I had to teach myself to use mascara. I remember when I was little and I told her I wanted her to braid my hair like Pippi Longstocking and she said she didn't know how! I was so disappointed! :o
So even though I am gay I like braids and makeup, and I'm much more feminine than my straight mother. I think those are things that vary from woman to woman. Even if you had a straight mother she might not have been able to teach you those things. ;)
True that! I didn't mean it would happen in every case. :)
My lesbian girlfriend is teaching me how to do makeup not my straight mom :D I think that you have a somewhat idealized imagination of what would be like to have straight parents. Also, I relate to the uncomfortable with men thing because my dad always tried to physically distance himself from me....
Wow, a doctor asking you if you are gay is definitely not okay, especially because it was definitely not relating to you health situation at 12/13.. I'm sorry you felt like you had to hide your family, hopefully, kids that grow up in this day and age don't have to hide it anymore. My mom never thought me how to make and that kind if stuff either haha, and my dad definitely didn't either haha, I only wore mascara until I pretty much graduated high school haha. Great video!
I think you have a pretty stereotypical point of view of straight parents 🤔 which is logical because you were raised with a gay couple, but thinking that moms need to teach you how to put make up and all the "girly" stuff is just the same as thinking that gay parents teach you to be homosexual.
I HAVE GAY PARENTS TOO!!! 😊
This was actually really relatable! Thanks so much for the video
Well my parents aren't gay and i have experienced some of these like the make-up because my mom doesn't wear any and also feeling uncomfortable around men has happende to me before. :) I think it probably depends on the kind of people the parents are. I don't know but it as a nice and interesting video.
Thanks hun!
Same!
Vasilena Andonova My mom has drawers full of make up stuff (literally) and never taught me how to do it or how to wear heels. I was never too interested about it anyway so I don't care (it's more, I'm thankful that she didnt push me to be like her) and everything I can do is a simple eyeliner + lipstick and wear tiny heels if I ever feel like it, haha.
Lmfao my doctors asked if I was gay too. It has nothing to do with a case study. They are going to ask because they want to be made aware of your sexual contact so they can be prepared if you ever get sick.
Reading this, I hope this isn't implicating what I think it is...
Mary Poppins but i'd rather they don't start at 13 and ask
"hey do you like boys?"
it makes me uncomfortable since i have no feelings towards anyone yet so i'd rather they go "hey do you like anyone?"
i just find it a weird thing to ask and it makes it uncomfortable for me
-especially since my mom's against not being straight bc im too young to know and she's literally right next to me during this-
but yeah my mom's logic is
"straight until proven otherwise and you'll always be too young to know even though your doctor asked and i didn't say anything about it"
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That's probably not the reason why...
My doctor hasnt asked me about my sexuality and im over 13.
my mom die when i was little and i have three older sisters. they love putting make up on their face but they never teach me how to put it on. i just teach myself.
Sorry for your loss m8 :( may she rest in peace. And i hope you have a wonderful life! :D
I personally don’t agree with gay couples having children. A child needs a mother and father. Just my opinion, don’t hate
Not everyone is a daddy's little girl, so I wouldn't be to worried about that. It really does depend on the people and the family. Me and my father have a pretty sucky relationship, I guess I'm kinda like you in a way and kind of wish I could kind of be a "daddy's little girl" ya know? All in all I wouldn't stress about feeling like you got left out of that. (Sorry this comment was sort of all over the place😂)
I also have 2 mums and I've always been really nervous about older men. I live in england so its probably different here to America but there has never been any problems
i kinda feel the same way
I'm bi (I'm a girl btw), and I'd rather marry a girl than a boy. I just feel more comfortable around girls, because I can relate to them a whole lot more, and that's really important for me
Awesome. :D
Mathea Munster I'm bi but I like boys was more than girls.
Just because you can relate friendly with females doesn't give you right to fuck them
SO let me get this straight. Because you haven't find True love YET you think ALL GUYS are bad and you will rather spend Entire life been fucked by same gender and NOT HAVING a child ?
Even if you don't wanna child YOU CAN'T marry someone your gender that IS WRONG
Adnan Salihović There are different ideas about right and wrong. Different ways to approach a situation, and differences in people's opinion being one of them. Disagreeing with someone so rudely helps no one, and does nothing to dissuade her from marrying a woman.
And she said she likes guys. She didn't say all guys are bad. She simply said she prefers the company of a woman. If you think she's going to hell, that's none of your business. It's between her and God, and no one else.
In my own opinion, being a complete asshole is more likely to send you to hell than "being confused about sexuality(as some might say)".
Be kind to your neighbor. She didn't hurt anyone by saying her piece, but your comment would make a lot of people angry by how useless it is in accomplishing any goal besides just being mean.
You have the right to express your beliefs. Please do so in the future, in a more convincing manner.
There is different ideas until proven wrong . same as police case. ''everyone is innocent until proven wrong''
this is cool to watch, im gay, not planning any kids yet, but makes me feel confident for when that time comes
I have two lesbian parents. At school whenever people mention a dad, I say "I don't have a dad, my parents are gay" because I love talking about myself. Usually I am sorta nervous for the response, but usually it is neutral because I don't really mind gay jokes, because I make a lot of dark jokes like that anyways. I dont really think people care that much after I tell them, except for when one of my really Christian friends mentioned a dad and I told him. I think that having gay parents gives me a more open mind, and I think it will really help me a lot later in life. I was also born by a sperm donor, so I don't know who my dad is, nor do I wish to meet him. My sister says that if we ever meet our dads they will be like "Thanks for helping me but that flat screen TV, man!" Lmao 😂 My parents do so their makeup and stuff, but I think of them as less feminine because they don't wear dresses or heels or anything like my sister does.
I wanna meet my dad but at the same time I don’t cause what if he’s a real mean or something but I wanna experience having a relationship with my dad I don’t really like being surrounded by my mom and her gf there is nothing wrong with them but they do make to much noise and it’s annoying but it’s funny cause they don’t even live together but she forces me to go when she wants to visit her
Nashypoo eww wtf
Nashypoo where is your grandparents and aunts and uncle
lordnashypoo did you have grandparents
lordnashypoo did you have grandparents and aunts and uncles
We don't know her life, all we know is that she feels like ceartin things that she wanted or admires in other families didn't happen in hers, so stop judging her life expirience. Can you honestly say that your family NEVER had things about them that you didnt like??? Impossible
you look gorgeous and I love your room
thanks!
my mom is almost homophobic and she doesn't even know how to apply lipstick and my father is the cheap one, i think these are not same sex parents problems and to be honest that's great
i have a dad, but when i turned 11, my mom started dating girls and a few years later married her now wife. everyone at my school knows and no one REALLY judges me. some people might cringe when i say i have "moms" but i literally don't care.. but yeah, having gay parents is amazing and really helped me open my mind and be optimistic and non-judgmental :)
My mum is straight, has an androgynous 'style' and never taught me about make up or hair styles or anything like that... she doesn't take me shopping or do anything particularly 'feminine'... in fact my dad was the one who took my sister and I ball dress shopping.... gender doesn't dictate stereotypical femininity.... plus, in my house, my mum is the one who not only says yes when you ask for money, but won't make you feel like you owe her something in return... :P
I just subscribed because you're the only other person I've seen with gay parents that openly talk about it. It's nice to hear that I'm not the only person with gay parents, however I never had as many bad experiences with them.
All doctors ask if you're not straight at a physical, my friends and I also had that question asked
Mikuo Hatsune I've never gotten asked that :o
xEmpty.Abyssx at physicals for highschool teens here it's normal, they ask a series of questions first about if you have suicidal tendencies, then about your sexual preference and your general love life
xEmpty.Abyssx I wouldn't know about every year, because I've only had one physical during highschool
You should do a ''meet my parents' sort of thing.
Well:
My parents are both STRAIGHT, unlike me that i'm BISEXUAL. If this can hush all the people who says that *"A child who grow up with Gay Parents it is very likely to be gay too"* then You're welcome.
My parents are lesbians and I was raised feeling the same way torward men and I’m 13 now and still feel the same about them
I'm still young and gay and thinking about having a family, a kid. scares me, i don't want them to feel how you felt having a gay parents.
Nix Quenzelle pick a place to live wisely.
I have 2 moms! Sometimes it can be embrassing, but l love them and it's just like a normal family!
Lee Guy embarrassing how?
Embarrassing in the sense that people still find it odd to have same-sex parents. People laugh and gossip.
Hey Dude Becouse it is not natural. 99% of the people are straight. (According to the US census)
Well it´s not natural in the sense that it is uncommon, you know...
I have gay parents and I still know my biological father.
Tasha Rose Larkin-Ross I'm sorry for asking you that but I need your help what do u feel about don't having fathers? ???
And the sec question are u feel okay with knowing your biological fathe???
laith saifi she does have a father..?
tasha did you have grandparents
tasha did talks to your grandparents and aunts and uncles
My dad never gives me money I get it all from my mom 😂😂
Not all gay parents are like this. People have different styles on how they handle this situation. So for everyone who's gay and wants to have children, please dont let this video get you down.
I just wanted to say that my mom doesn't know how to braid hair and doesn't wear make-up, so, same. As a kid, I wanted someone "femenine" to look up to. I have two older brothers and my mom is probably as masculine as my dad. Eventually, I learned to live with it and found out there were more people like me out there. Masculine moms are really common, so relax. Stereotypes are getting in your brain about how moms should be. And also how dads should be, in my experience, no one gave me money monthly or anything, but when I asked for some (which was not often), my mom would be the one to give it to me... Remember all parents are different. What you're talking about may not have anything to do with the fact that you have two moms...
we are literally in the same situation, I was a sperm donation and have gay moms
Awesome!
Alex Stalnaker me too!
Alex Stalnaker I’m having a baby with my wife , I just want my child to not be bullied 🙁
You only have one mom and one dad. Facepalm
@@janneth0728 your not having a baby your adopting a baby
if I ever have a kid I won´t be able to french braid either
also I never was "daddys little girl" even though I have a Dad but he just doesn´t care about me.
I feel kinda bad for this girl..Seems like she wanted a male influence. Which she should have had..Maybe the doctor should have been a male..Just so she could have positive male influence in her life. Everyone should have a positive male and female influence in their lives.
Jason Names please tell me I'm curious. Wtf is a "male / female influence?" Like I get it with the whole growing up and becoming an adult and stuff. But saying certain people should have been male to benefit somebody else makes no sense. Gender doesn't define personality. The people themselves do. So what is the doctor supposed to do?
Awesome person because. Like she said. She as afraid of men. So a good make influence would have helped her understand men are not something to be afraid of. I'm not saying it's bad to have gay parents. But every person should have a good make figure and a good female figure in their lives.
I had good male influences in my life and I am still terrified of men. I don't think that her issue is really bc of her moms tbh. Btw I do think that it's important for her to have a male influence in her life but good teachers, friends of the family and grandparents are mostly enough.
Erin Fullem I feel like gender influences your personality to an extent.. Honestly to me what your saying is basically gender stereotypes. I may be wrong though.
KawaiiBelle for me, I didn't have many woman in my life growing up. I had a mom, but she (like my dad) eventually abbandond me. So I find it hard to strike up a conversation with a woman in public. Once I am comfortable, I can talk all day to one, but I have a hard time because I had didn't grow up with a constant female in my life. I had my grandpa. So I am comfortable with men. Woman have been in and out and I never had a constant woman to grow with. So they are more foreign to me. So course, when I see a woman, Its more like seeing an alien. Everyone need one good female constant and one good make constant in life. Or else you will feel alienated from one more than the other. I studied human relations in college. Didn't major in it but I do know it's necessary to understand the relationships and it's affects on a single person.
I found this video very informative , however I feel like most of the "missing out" style points are based off of stereotypes. My dad doesn't give me money just like that, nor did my mum teach me how to do my make up- plenty of straight mothers are not necessarily feminine either. Though I agree that the fears surrounding other children and adult men are completely valid. I would have to say that some of the other points are influenced by the stereotypical family situation. Which, conclusively, I would blame on the media.
I grew up with a single mom who hated my father she was a beautiful and successful doctor. She never taught me anything feminine or girly either. Also she hurt me a lot physically, mentally and emotionally. She stole my productive years.
Older men are just weird lol. Usually... anyway. that wasn’t a fair statement.
Wow there is so much hate in this comment section damn ! Just let her express herself and say how she felt as a child who has two moms ! It's not because her parents are gay that everything as to be perfect , just stop !
At least you have two parents. Some of us aren't that blessed.
You don’t realize as you get older but when you’re a small child theres something about the presence of a father and of a man in the household
john duran Not really, all you need is a faintly masculine parent, which almost any lebian can provide.
Looking at your video I think your parents and you (self evolution), you all did a great job. You feel comfortable in exposing the strange and not necessarily positively colored feelings about your family and to me, this is a sign of internal freedom, confidence and maturity. After watching this I thought that we all luck something, so no matter what we lack, we are the same ;)
Me tooooo i have two lesbian moms i love them very much and i dont jave a father either
Ashley Ayla I do too, except I do not see my birth father and have not since I was six.
Ashley Ayla did you have grandparents and uncle and aunts
every kid is uncomfortable with older men! lol :p
"If you're gay, go have a kid" lmao
Stahlhelm If your gay, make love and laugh in Stahlhelms face after adopting your child.
Hello Kaylee, just wanted to say that I grew up with straight parents and my mom was not very into makeup and style. I learned about all that through magazines, friends and the internet. It's more a personality thing than a gender one. Luckily, we have UA-cam now, so it's not a huge problem. Thank you for sharing your story.
As a person who grew up in the 90s early 2000s with a single mom (unconventional family) I can totally relate to this. I felt like I didnt get the conventional upbringing with the feminine mom and masculine dad. It doesnt mean I'm ungreatful, or self centred. Its from my perspective. Plus my doctor seems to expect me to have mental health issues like my mom did, which has happened my whole life too. I can definitely relate to what you're saying.
This was very helpful!
Thank you~!! 🦋