Your stress effecting your child: | Urdu | | Prof Dr Javed Iqbal |
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- Опубліковано 26 вер 2021
- Mothers emotionality effects on the training and grooming
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Prof Dr Javed Iqbal is a surgeon with special interest in laparoscopic and cancer surgery. His professional qualifications are FCPS, FRCS, FACS, FICLS, MCPS-HPE.
He is one of the pioneers of laparoscopic surgery in the region. He has trained more than 50 surgeons formally as their supervisor and thousands more who have worked with him in various capacities during his four decades long professional journey. He is an official mentor of Royal College of Glasgow and International Course Director of American College of Surgeons for Advance Trauma Life Support (ATLS). He is a well known medical educationist and has been a part of College of Physicians and Surgeons, University of Health Sciences and Nishter Medical University as faculty of medical education.He is on the reviewers panal of various index medical journals. He has more than twenty five research publications on his credit along with a book on surgery entitled "The Operative Surgery"He is a published poet, short story writer, critic and broadcaster. His current areas of effort are teaching and training of soft skill at various national and international fora. He is very active on social media and his team runs a very well subscribed youtube channel covering versatile topics& interests. He is regularly being invited on national & international TV shows for his intellectual contribution. He is an influential speaker. Millions of people are getting benefit from his videos on medical education, FCPS training, parenting, relationships, human wellbeing and various other social issues.
Govt of Punjab has recently assigned him the role of member, Punjab Health Policy Board.
Mery dil dymagh MN Jo BHI stress ho Jo bhi preshni ho MN Bhool kr blkl Khush ho k apny buchy k sth interact krti
I am a bad mother I will try to change my self for my daughter's best life thank you so much sir
Mere sath b yehi problem h 😢
Same 😢
Apko smjh agei yehi brhi bat h dear wrna Kuch parents smjhty b nhi yrr 😢
Same problem is here 😢😢
Same here😢
Next topic must be " Effect of angry Father on children"
👍
I believe mother has more power to distract a child brain. Psychologically. If mother is showing same anger then itan effect child. If she is cool then effect is cancelled to some extent
It's a psychological game.
Child always gets assurity from mom. Even if dad has slapped him just say respect ful words instead of talking about topic. N if serious discussion n fault of kid then convey message in heated situation in a normal but fiem tone. Not shouting. Shouting is never a solution. It's a path to show do like me..follow me when u get anger
@@doctorinthemakinggg ypur right
@@doctorinthemakinggg ypur right
Mere khayal me ek ourat ko stress m pahuchane ka sabse bda zimmedar uska husband hota h ek ourat bhi chahti h k use bhi koi zehni tor par himmat de sab zimmedari uthane ki lekin nhi wo to khud biwi ko ek na thakne wali mulazima samaghta h
Such bilkul thak hai Allah pak maa bap ko saber da or bhot acha say ulad ko tarbiyat karay ameen sub bolo ameen
The more I watch these videos the more I feel regretful for being stressed thus passing on my anger and frustration on my kids but I believe there are certain external elements that affect a person's mental health, the only difference being that some can cope with them while others can't. I wish people stop suppressing others so this cycle of stress and anger comes to a halt.
میں آپ سب لوگوں کو قرآن پاک سننے کی دعوت دیتا ہوں۔ قبول کریں۔
I m also emotional ....just bcz of my law's behaviour.... now I try my best for my kids
U should need to strong ur self
Same case😢
Dr sahb aap ki tareef or shukria k alfaz NAHI mery pas.
Aap bohat Azeem insan Hain.
Thanks
Aapka andaz e bayan.. Bht hi umda h.. Ma Sha ALLAH
Thats me now i l try to set my life with my kids in Sha Allah
That's just me .... I feel so sorry that I treat my kids badly when in stress ... But I m most of the time screaming on them ... Your lectures help a lot
And you are doctor by yourself
@@SERVETHEMORTAL may be that is also the reason I am always stressed 😫 ... No body wants to be this way ... I am consulting a psychologist as well
@@SERVETHEMORTAL even doctors are human atleast she is brave to acknowledge and wants to improve....please don't be so judgemental be appreciative
Yes we too are humans and handle so many things in professional life and then kidss irritate us so much.
Me also.....feeling v bad. So regret
His brain is the most valuable brain in todays world !❤❤❤❤
Seriously?
Yes also pretty male chauvinist brain
@@arshadsyed6628 surely.
This is so true Sir!! Thats the story of my house where everybody is in extreme anger always. My mom do job as a teacher. She always has stress that makes her angry. My grandfather was a very strict & serious person... So my Father turned out to be a very angry man. So stressing so disrupting. & now i got the point why I'm suffering from stress I'm Living in my own made pathetic story. I wish every parent of this nation know how they're inculcating frustrations, depression, Anger & sorrow in their children whom they love the most.
Bachy your comment is indeed an eye opener for me and other parents may Allah guide us , parenthood is not easy. May Allah protect and guide every child of this ummah
So true same here 😭
And the sad part is bachon py hm foran nafrmaan olaad ka label lga dety hain yh to dozagh main jaey ga maa baap ka nafrmaan hy....without knowing the fact that what they are going through bcz of our toxic behaviour....
I can understand you
@@anu-lk1oc very true, i wish parents could realise all this 😓
سر آپ کے کام سے بہت فائدہ ھو رھا ھے
دعا ہے کہ اللہ ہمیں برداشت دے۔۔۔
وقت کے ساتھ میں نے اپنے آپ کو بہت کنڑول کیا ہے۔۔۔
M ny bhi sister
Prof Javed Iqbal..
A down to earth man with real wisdom in his lectures and we Pakistanis are proud of him...and are lucky to have him.. We must work with him to build a beautiful society. 😍
May Allah bless you and your family Aameen ya Rabalaalameen JazakAllah.
you also are amazing person...........
Perfect Analysis Sir and these r common nowadays ALLAH Hamy Asani Farma day Aameen
Agree with U Sir 🙏
jazakAllah for the beautiful guidance .. ALLAH PAK apki umer o sehet may brkt ata farmayn ameeenn
I feel so stressful, not always but sometimes I show anger on my kid that ‘s totally wrong. And I think every mother faces this situation. Your videos helped me alot, I’m a new mother & learning alot from your videos. Thanks sir 🙏🏻
Same here .... I don't know how to control anger on time ....
I feel really bad after shouting on my kids ...
Same here being a mother is not a easiest job...dosro ki waja se stress bacho par niklta hai sara
JazakAllah 😊 Its difficult but not impossible . Will try to implement in sha Allah
Thank you sir . I am very impressed . God bless you. !
Just saw your vedio and my heart felt happy and did my follow-up
U r a great motivational speaker... i havebeen so agressive from past fewdays but i was feeling so helpless then i started watching ur videos.... thanku so much for these type of couselling for the mothers who are fighting with thousands of issues and burdens.... thought provoking words sir.
Jazakallah khair dr sahab
Sir you are my motivation!
Absolutely jazak ALLAH for your guideness
So motivational thank you sir i am newly mother this is so helpful for me
Dr, please I request you to make some videos on mother’s who compare their own kids. Comparing their kids to friends, family,cousins in fact to their other siblings. And what is the role of not listening to ur child and prioritize other extended family. This topic is really imp and we the mothers should understand and learn about it. I would really appreciate and I am thankful someone is working on mother’s and parenting.. thank u so much Sir.
Yes really need....
Really need this
Excatly ...this is vry comn prblm ....
Please give advice on the mothers like these...
Father’s Anger is also Bone of Contention 😐
Very true
Despite all issues ...Dr sab ur aspect regarding handling of a mother is remarkable..
i will surely follow this..
I think maa baap ka jo apas mi taluq hota ha or jo bounding hoti ha strong and peaceful relation hota ha wo sb se zyda bacho py positive effect krta ha .....
Bilkul theek
What a motivational speaker you’re uncle♥️
Sir kiya app se baat hóo sakti hai personally on one to one basics
I need your help
Sir guide us how to control our angry please let me know because I am suffering with the same problem
Sir kya aap se baat hosakti hai
Ap bilkul sahi keh rahy hn dr sahb ,i agree with you ...mn bht achi trah smjhti hn is bat ko 😔😔😔
This video was an eye opener.
These topics are really really important sir particularly parenting
If a woman is performing her all duties household and bringing up her children and along all she suffers with her husband's stressful attitude... And this continues all the day... How she can help herself..do you think she is a human or an ironman
Main samajh sakhti hun ye sab.
I understand
True,I can feel your emotions
Bachon per kisi sorat b chekhna sahi nahi simple
@@htalha1 bilkul theek bat hay... Bachay hi to hum se sab se ziada piar kertay hain. Indeed a woman should be strong because she is a mother a man can't bear a single pain how can hi deliver a baby... He can only criticize and disrespect his wife even when she is going in labor or going to deliver a baby and come back to house. When she needs love and care but she receives nothing but painful attitudes from most wise and strong creature of world..... Is he really owns this status? And when she is managing her household and children and her husband always gives her bad remarks and she faces every negative thing bravely.. Who owns the status of strong person?
Very helpful for me... JazakAllah Khair...
JazakAllah it will inshaaAllah help me alot
قول ہے کہ
" اگر والدین کی روک ٹھوک بھی ایک نعمت ہے اگر یہ نہ ہوتی تو اولاد جگہ،جگہ رسوا ہوتی نظر آتی"۔
Wo rok tok ko nahi manaa kr rahe, balki ghussa ho kar rok tok nahi karna chahiye.
Rok Tok ghalat harkat par honi chahiye na kay apni nakaamiyon ka ghussa masoom bachon par nikalnay par
Your talk always leaves effects on our brains. I would request you to talk on cleanliness. Cleanliness of ourselves, our places where we exist or stay. where are we lacking and what are remedies, etc etc.
Men bta nahi sakti how much i appreciate this post
Bohat Shukria dr sb ...jazaakAllha kher
U r such a great man
In our houses
This is routine work
That we all does to our kids
Sir you are right, in this video your main focus is on mother's behavior, but I know some fathers who have very bad behavior with his children and specially with his wife. They abuse their wives Infront of children, consequenceslly children adopt the Same behavior, even they started abusing their mother, because they think it's normal to abuse her, baba b to aese hi krty hain. Kindly please high light the father's behavior towards children and wife.
Jazakallah
Ryt
True
I m very agressive n angry person n i get this trait from my father..yes i admit tht its wrong n want to fix it but at the same time i m.helpless...so pls focus on both parents rathr thn ony maa
Both parents' behaviour is responsible .. abba ka ghussa or aggressive adamant nature amaa ko effect karti hai wohi phir amaa woh agy transfer kar deti hy bachon py qk amaa ka zda time bachon k sath gzrta hy . Bachon pr kher dono ka behaviour effect krta hy pr amma ka zda qk amma most of thetimes being housewives n caretakers of children zda time spend kri hti hain bachon ke sath. So both the parents need to work n control their behaviours n temperaments once they hv children of growing age so they raise mentally healthy n normal kids n not the other way around.
Maa bap dono ka behave asar karta ha..
Ma Sha Allah bhot kuch sekhny ko melta hai apsy
You described everything so nicely
It is always wrong to blame a mother she is also a human being what if she get negativity from all corners how can she be postive? Father role is also equally important in raising children and giving postive vibes to his wife
Correct , mostly desi house holds keep giving anxiety and stress to the mother by uselessly taunting her and putting all responsibility of parenting on woman’s shoulder , so stress and anger always travel from stronger to the weaker being , mother then def has to take her anger out on children so before u blame a mother or ask her to control herself check for if she has an un supportive husband or family
Yes I agree with you, I believe that husband's should respect and treat good to their wife then automatically children will learn how to be good to everyone. What children see than they learn
V true
Yes. The mothers should not be blamed. The father plays an equal role in how he behaves in the house.
@@mantobibi4852 oioijj
Allah app ko acche sehat de.
Allah Aap Ke Umar Me Barqat De. Aur Aap Ki Batai Achi Baton Ko Rozana Ki Zindagi Me Amal Karna Aasan Kare.
Thanks a lot! Your videos are always helpful 👏👏
We, the school staff are implementing Doctor's sab suggestions to groom our students,
May Allah bless his with more wisdom to benefit others
" agr suraj m daag ho ga tu roshni m b daag ho ga "
O Allah ! Pls help me to become a stain free Sun for my kids specially .Ameen !
Ameen
Aameen !
Ameen
Thanks for this advice I will try my best ❤
Love you sir if today, s teachers and parents get just like you we will keep our eyes down even if our teachers and parents kill us
Ya ALLAH har insan kamyab ho har insan ko Izat Sehat or Dolat barkatatain Ata farma Ameen
مری لله سے دعا ہے کی وہ ہر والدین کو سمجھ عطا کرے اور وہ اپنےبچوں سـے حسن سلوک کرے اور وہ بیٹا اور بیٹی میں فرق نہ کریں اس سے بچوں پر برا اثر پڑتاہے۔
JazakAllah aap me bht acchi baat btayi
Sir ap life saver hain, please continue your work
I agree wid u sir, as now I understand I'm very possessive about cleanliness that's y masha allah my 5 yr old son is alhamdulillah.
What is a ' possessiveness about cleanliness ' ?
Excellent. I’m trying to remove the bad habit of being in stressful state most of the times
Dr Sahib's videos are available to help and guide you on almost every topic.
الله پاک آپکو جزا دے آمین۔
Best sharing
Thankyou for this
Next topic father pe bi karye sir please... Shayed Apki topic se kuch father apne bacchun se acche se pyeash aye... Inshallah...
Really appreciate your video is fantastic and people should listen and act upon it. The only thing I didn’t understand why are you only giving examples of mother(she is very angry many times) Can not be a father. Mother and father are both play the equal parts in life of a child. Nowadays mother and father both work and try their best to give equal time to their children.
I was slso thinking same thing throughout this vedio. Sir only mother not doing all bad. You should also understand n think about it. If u want that we should listen you then lecture should be covering all aspects.
Actually most of the time child is with mother thats why.
kkķ
Mother gets upset when they have to do everything alone and husband doesn't help
Agree
Jazak Allah
Ma Sirf ap sy itna hi kahoun gi JazakAllahu khaira .
ALLAH swt ap ko ap ki khair khahi ka badla apni Shan k mutabq dy Ameen.
I m Shahnawaz Mattoo from jammu and Kashmir...by profession a government teacher. My wife ( PG english;B.Ed.) s a house maker (housewife). When I watched this video I thought it worthwhile to share it with my wife. While sharing with her I told her that this clip is quite important for both of us for the healthy up bringing of our children (Huzaifa 9yr old son and Hurrain 5yr old daughter).
While watching this clip she was sarcastically smiling at me then at the end she said;
"Ye khud mard hain aur sirf auratoon ki hi ziyadah tanqeed kr rahe hain "
Nahin achi tarh sun to loo donu ki baat kr rahe hain... Meri bhi aur ap ki bhi.... Mein ne jawaab diya.
Assalamalikum stay blessed and healthy 💐
Aap bht achi batein smjhaty hn hm apni life m apply krny ki koshish krty
Very nice beautiful mola salamat rukhy ameen
Ya allah Hume bardas karne ki aadt bana aamin
What if a parent doesn't want to change any of his sleeping,eating and talking patterns but expects wife to raise children properly.
How to handle this?
Yes please answer it
same question
Yes plz make a video on this
P
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Same question from me
Dr sahab u r just amzng you do hatd work n dlvr in vry appropriate way jzakAllah uncle lots od duas for u☺
Very nice information.... every parent should know...
Sir I am expecting and it's my 9 month but after watching your videos it helped me a lot in finding a way to how to raise my upcoming baby but on the contrary my husband is not willing at all to give up his bad habits like he is always in tough moods and behaves so rude what should I do please help me in this regard. And I know there are so many other mothers also who are going through like me
Same boat !!
Same case with me
My baby is 3 year old now n I can see that she is behaving like father
@@usmanburki883 that's what I am worrying about that I can change my behaving patterns for my baby for her upbringing but how can I change her father's attitude.
One solution , just LEAVE , men wont change their behavior and would affect a child’s brain badly , this is why we have a bad society as everyone is busy sabotaging women’s emotions and needs and no body lectures men
💯 true. . Please make a video on the next phase. If parent shows extreme behaviour specifically (father to mother) how children alter their behaviour as young adults? As we are in a stages in which we have to move to matrimonial relationships. But now we face extreme stress that how we moved to that phase of life. We have trust issues. My question is now as a young adults how we can get over this stress and trust issues. We want our next life to be happy! And as girl i feel very much disheartened as I never watched a single male person in my family that show affection to his wife and now a days news in our surroundings also strengthening my negative image of men. Please help!
Right aap sahi bole mee ajj se hi cheng karungi app ne adad ko
i wish k sir k is video py unlimited likes dy sakti very impresive video ...
Mi sb parents se yhi kahn gi k ap apny bachy ko time dain quality time....bachy ko khana dy dia or nehla dia change krwa dis sula dia chup krwa dia ..homework krwa dia....and thats it......no its not....unko is se zyda apka unk sath relation chaiye hota ha .....sb kch side py rakh dain kch waqt bs bacho k lye ...na koi kaam na koi mobile....bs ap bacho se baten kren jo unki pasnd hain unk sath khailen jo unhn pasnd ha...unk sath laaadd kren....unki sunen.......positive response dain....unko apni tawajah or muhbat k lye mat tarsaen bs......
Kash k joint family system me yeh krna itna asan hota.. bht mushkil hai Zindagi chote bache k sath joint family system me reh kr
کافی ساری ماؤں کو یہ سن کر غصہ آرہا ہے کہ آخر صرف ماؤں کے غصے کا ذکر کیوں؟ : ))
Q k maa aur bachy ka sath 24 hour ka hai
Kahin na kahin baap ka b ziker h zyada maa ka ziker h qk maa bachy se zyada time sepend krty h
Dr sab pechle video me kikhte h ke nemaaz me b bach chu ko zoor na dallu ye Dat Islam ke khe law h
Sorry Dr sab moje to ap hindo late h os bacha baaz
And wala na Sal 😢 ko kha Raf karte h
❤️ jazakallahu Khairan
Big fan of you Sir !
Whenever I told my husband about ur videos n conversation, that u must watch them bt he got angry n annoyed n refuse to watch... Then Dr. Saab kese un tk apki baatein ponchayen jayen wo to sunne KO e tiar nhi hotay Aur chahtay k bachi well groomed ho...
Exactly true
It's extreme!
Allah tala unhy shaoor Ata kray
Sir Please Guide me about symtoms of Anxiety and why its happen
Very nice lecture JazakaAllah
Thank u sir i will try my best
دعا ہے کہ اللّہ ہر صحافی کو سچ بولنے ،سمجھنے اور کہنے کی توفیق دے (آمین)
حضرت علی علیہ السّلام کا قول ہے۔۔۔۔۔
جھوٹ بول کر جیتنے سے بہتر ہے کہ بندہ سچ بول کر ہار جائے۔۔۔
Sometimes the stress is caused by the head of the family . Which has an adverse effect on the mother and the children . What does one do then ?
i agree
I do agree.. in our cilture baron ka bht pressure huta hy.. h7m ny esa kia tha wysa kia tha..
Ri8
Before sleep make it a habit to think to be kind to your children. Everyday take your tongue under teeth and smile when you look at them.
@@sabasuleman165 this is not about the children . It’s about how the wife is treated by the husband .
JazakAllah
Sir salute u. Bhot qamti video
Dopamine is best known for its role in the brain's reward system, which responds to everything from sex and food to addictive drugs. But dopamine also helps regulate emotional responses, memory and movement. And abnormal dopamine levels have been linked to disorders including Parkinson's, schizophrenia and autism.
Which medicin should be given to cure it...?
is there a lecture on how to beat our stresses so we can be calmer for our kids!?
Sabr
@@javaidbaloch1442 Hahaha
Same question
M. Very worried for it
Your lectures are amazing nd v helpful
Allah apko jaza e khair ata farmye
ہمیں صرف 9 سبسکرایئبر کی ضرورت ہے اس ویڈیو سے قرآن مجید کی تعلیم کے فروغ کے لیے
Sir if a person is already effected due to extreme negative behavior of parents ,how he can be normal. How to deal with extreme negative parents,?????
Very very well said..
I'll try my best to change myself inshaAllah