EMELINE - this is how i learn to say no (Official Lyric Video)

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  • Опубліковано 20 гру 2024

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  • @somebunnytolove124
    @somebunnytolove124 3 роки тому +4214

    As a woman who is getting ready to leave her alcoholic abuser this song is everything to me. 8 years of abuse... 4 kids.. it’s never going to stop. He will never change.. this song gives me back my voice when I feel I have none. Thank you for creating something that I’m sure has helped many people.

    • @amandakoenig8012
      @amandakoenig8012 3 роки тому +114

      Praying you were able to get out. If not, I know you have the strength when you’re ready. 💪🏻

    • @natashaheffner4602
      @natashaheffner4602 3 роки тому +92

      Oh girl I know that all to well I left 2 yrs ago And went back thinking he was going to change after being forced to stop bc he was on house arrest he never changed I was cheated on thrown around treated like a dog. A month ago after I found I was pregnant with our fourth I said goodbye for good. my mental health is back

    • @natashaheffner4602
      @natashaheffner4602 3 роки тому +14

      Bad

    • @cassiewoldridge8678
      @cassiewoldridge8678 3 роки тому +32

      You got this Mama!🖤

    • @victoriaalvarez1410
      @victoriaalvarez1410 3 роки тому +63

      I just left my abusive alcoholic husband as well left with 7 children. And for once im not afraid

  • @heathercrowe857
    @heathercrowe857 3 роки тому +2371

    To create healthy boundaries, this song hits hard.

  • @ViksonMonroe
    @ViksonMonroe 3 роки тому +3516

    This is the perfect song for all types of abuse survivors..It hits hard in a beautiful way! I'm so happy to find the full version released!

    • @KassieKalena
      @KassieKalena 3 роки тому +10

      This!

    • @deanna1608
      @deanna1608 3 роки тому +7

      YES!!!

    • @HoneyBakedHamlet
      @HoneyBakedHamlet 3 роки тому +33

      Im only 46 seconds in and I feel so.. so strong.
      He choked me? He can go choke now.
      He gaslit me? It doesn't matter what his own personal narrative is, but I remember the facts.
      He was unfaithful? He's now sad and lonely. while I HAVE BLOSSOMED.

    • @Stephandfamily
      @Stephandfamily 3 роки тому +7

      Yes!! I agree 💯

    • @meganlawson4957
      @meganlawson4957 3 роки тому +9

      Yes!!! I feel so empowered by this! Coming from an abusive home this just helps so much.

  • @christianap.7791
    @christianap.7791 3 роки тому +3301

    People pleasers, softies, all those who have been used, Highly Sensitive People, Empaths, etc UNITE!!!!
    This is our song😭😤✊️🔥
    Edit: ahhhh thankyou everyone for the likes :)) Your sensitivity is what makes you beautiful and is your strength, regardless of what anyone says/feels about it. I see you all and I hope for love, healing, peace and strength on all your journeys 🤍

  • @cottonponylover2359
    @cottonponylover2359 2 роки тому +460

    This is finally a song I can truly relate to. I'm tired of apologizing for things I didn't do, tired of apologizing to ppl who just wanna abuse me. Imma take this song and use it as my motto for life now. Aint no mean person gonna waste my time occupying my mind and heart

    • @gianna1417
      @gianna1417 2 роки тому +6

      You go!!! You can do this and you’re so strong and you are loved ❤️

    • @Annoyingblond
      @Annoyingblond Рік тому +1

      yass you do you don’t ever forget it!!

  • @alanalilly3687
    @alanalilly3687 3 роки тому +573

    My new favorite song. I’ve had a problem with setting boundaries for myself and I’m finally healing from my trauma!

    • @melodybones1815
      @melodybones1815 3 роки тому +6

      congratulations on ur healing! may it continue to be healthy and happy healing for you ✨

    • @angelafahlenkamp9311
      @angelafahlenkamp9311 3 роки тому +5

      How freeing it must feel...I was there 10 years ago when I walked into my first therapy session, BEST thing I've ever done!

    • @nuny4592
      @nuny4592 3 роки тому +3

      Same! I'm obsessed with this song, because I have an issue with setting boundaries since I've been conditioned to believe my worth comes from what I can provide for others, regardless if it crosses lines. But I'm working to take the steps to learn and unlearn those unhealthy mindsets. Let's hope we both can make it out of this free

    • @angelafahlenkamp9311
      @angelafahlenkamp9311 3 роки тому +3

      @@nuny4592 remember this during your trials and errors....if the action feels uncomfortable you're probably doing something right because in the past your actions were determined on how to avoid being uncomfortable, it lead to a state of being where people pleasing has had more negative outcomes for your own growth, you may well find that the people that makes this transition harder for you will inevitably be the ones you walk away from, when making these changes its hard to avoid losing friends and family who were toxic to begin with...hold strong because those people will try to pull you back and make you behave the way that makes them feel more comfortable, dont fall for that trap 👍

    • @nuny4592
      @nuny4592 3 роки тому +3

      @@angelafahlenkamp9311 Thank you, that's one of my biggest setbacks- the fear of losing someone close to me. I'm trying to actively tell myself that if they respond with resentment or leave, then they're not worth it to begin with. I'm excited to weave out those who aren't truly worthy of me and overtime lose the anxiety that comes from walking over eggshells to please people. Thank you for the advice and reassurance, it's always appreciated 💞

  • @natalieyork1713
    @natalieyork1713 3 роки тому +924

    FINALLY!!!!! Can't wait to play this on repeat for the next 72hrs 😌

  • @lairdofpawblins
    @lairdofpawblins 3 роки тому +210

    I just heard this song for the first time after today having my dad call me to say he's not coming to my wedding because it won't be "traditional." It hurt me to hear him say that, but I have to stand my ground and do what's right for me, not have my life revolving around what other people expect of me. I'm proud of me. I'm learning. It took a lot of growing up for me to get here.

    • @stephanieschaeffer5202
      @stephanieschaeffer5202 2 роки тому +15

      I totally relate. My dad didn’t come to my wedding for religious reasons. Broke me. But I’ve grown and realized that I’ve tried my whole life to please him and make him love me. You will heal and I’m rooting for your growth ❤️

    • @lairdofpawblins
      @lairdofpawblins 2 роки тому +11

      @@stephanieschaeffer5202 Thank you. I'm sorry you also had to experience that heartbreak, but it's kinda nice knowing I'm not alone. I came from a conservative religious family, so coming out as queer and making the decision to marry my husband in spite of all their hate have been life-changing for me. Totally worth it. I've finally found the real family I never thought I would have when I was younger. 💛

    • @nandaniraj8532
      @nandaniraj8532 2 роки тому +2

      My dad forced me into a marriage, yeah could not be able to shed any tears on that day

    • @lairdofpawblins
      @lairdofpawblins 2 роки тому +2

      @@nandaniraj8532 I'm so sorry you had to go through that. 🫂

    • @christiantaylor1495
      @christiantaylor1495 Рік тому

      ​@@nandaniraj8532 dad's make better choices

  • @shannonparcell357
    @shannonparcell357 3 роки тому +366

    This song was stuck in my head for two months before it was released. The full track did not disappoint. This song means the world to me. It's like it was written for me. Thank you.

  • @s1eepymommaaa
    @s1eepymommaaa 3 роки тому +193

    I needed this… so many people needed this 🥺❤️

  • @renee997
    @renee997 3 роки тому +440

    You have no idea how perfect the time was for this song when I found it. It’s really easy now to see the people I thought knew better for me get visibly uncomfortable when they realize they can’t fool me anymore. I see it burns them inside now that I’m using the very word they brainwashed me into thinking was wrong when I spoke it for myself. I can’t thank you enough for making this song❤️

    • @melodybones1815
      @melodybones1815 3 роки тому +1

      I soooo again

    • @karachristensen2132
      @karachristensen2132 2 роки тому +1

      You got this! You know what's right for you!

    • @celestialphoenixqueen9258
      @celestialphoenixqueen9258 2 роки тому +2

      my 2 ex guy besties / crushes and my ex / our mutaual friend they fooled me so many times . now they can't and they should be ashamed of themselves 😌😌💅💅

    • @renee997
      @renee997 2 роки тому +1

      @celestial Phoenix queen
      And they should be 😌

    • @celestialphoenixqueen9258
      @celestialphoenixqueen9258 2 роки тому +2

      @@renee997 i'm hoping they are cause they brought it upon themselves 😏😏

  • @MountainEssence
    @MountainEssence 3 роки тому +390

    Masterpiece. Talk about a ‘belt it from the top of your lungs in the car’ song. So empowering. Thank you! I’ve been waiting for this to release!!!

  • @idgaffsss
    @idgaffsss 2 роки тому +56

    this women deserves more attention honestly speaking she's so talented and she's my favorite singer from now on

  • @kerrieleidig
    @kerrieleidig 3 роки тому +220

    This is so intensely, _intentionally_ written. Lyrically creative, melodically & rhythmically dynamic... this song is instantly unforgettable. Well done, Emeline.

    • @drbakhshi7064
      @drbakhshi7064 3 роки тому +3

      The “intentionally” got me…

    • @xx_noone_xx
      @xx_noone_xx Рік тому

      Unforgettable? What the fuck are talking about? It's has new sans written all over it. It's the most generic music video, the most generic song, the most generic sound, the most generic looking girl 🤣. I mean come on stop the serious cap. I just came from a video of her singing this live. She sounds horrible live and Hardy could keep a tone. All the comments were people bagging on her for sounding so generic, people just wished singers could actually sing. Now every 20 something American women that's taken singing classes thinks she can sing. There just isn't a lot of deep, soul cutting, eye catching material here.

    • @FflodBSS
      @FflodBSS Рік тому

      sure.

  • @mahnoorkhan7845
    @mahnoorkhan7845 2 роки тому +6

    "people talk shit, saying they're going to get better.
    i hold my breath, but i can't hold it forever."
    my fav lines.

  • @coreykuefler-terweeme7268
    @coreykuefler-terweeme7268 2 роки тому +64

    As someone who is a people pleaser and survived an abusive ex bf, this definitely hits hard. I need to set boundaries and not let people walk all over me.

    • @celestialphoenixqueen9258
      @celestialphoenixqueen9258 2 роки тому

      can't relate to being a people pleaser , I used to be that way but now I do what I want and say what I want regardless of it'll displease anyone . causr I'm not here to please or entertain anyone 💅💅

  • @renivp3208
    @renivp3208 3 роки тому +105

    Not a song I can personally relate to or need in my life, but really hoping it will help my friend gather some confidence and stand up for herself more. Sending it straight to her 🙌🏻

    • @louisasevier1034
      @louisasevier1034 3 роки тому +7

      I'm glad she has a friend like you in her life.

  • @solaugust
    @solaugust 2 роки тому +21

    To Emeline, I don’t know if you look at comments, but I just finally left an abusive relationship, he’s trying to get me back and I’m finally learning to say no and set my boundaries. This song found me at the perfect time. Thank you so much for this masterpiece

    • @E.O.15
      @E.O.15 5 місяців тому

      You are amazing! I'm so happy you left him.

  • @ozislost
    @ozislost 2 роки тому +24

    This is literally me learning to set boundaries with my dad. It hits so hard I cant even put words to it.
    I held my breath I can’t hold it forever
    This is how I learn to say no

  • @calimcdermott4097
    @calimcdermott4097 3 роки тому +111

    My daughter and I have been waiting for weeks. I cannot stop listening!!!!!!!! Beautifully executed! And one of the most important messages!

    • @gianna1417
      @gianna1417 2 роки тому +2

      Love this song 😂😭

  • @thenewclassic18
    @thenewclassic18 3 роки тому +59

    since i first heard part of this I've been ryhtmicly looking it up to see if its been released yet, I'm glad the algorithm caught on and put it at the top of my home page the second I opened youtube after it was released. love the song!!

  • @candicecp
    @candicecp 3 роки тому +64

    Listen to it 3 times in tears. It’s better than therapy. You have a gift. Please keep doing what you’re doing. ❤️

  • @krystenteagarden7133
    @krystenteagarden7133 3 роки тому +6

    I am nearly 35... And have been away from him for nearly 10 yrs. But I can't stop listening and crying.
    Thank you for putting my wounds in words... You have a gift for giving others a voice.

  • @Shy_Shy.
    @Shy_Shy. 2 роки тому +17

    Was in an emotionally abusive (14 years )boarderline physical ( 1 year) relationship. This is strength. This is power. This song is my support to stay strong even though he had me believing i was worthless and nothing without him. Thank you

  • @kristimatsueda5717
    @kristimatsueda5717 3 роки тому +24

    Emeline really out here helping and empowering us with every song she puts out

  • @Lucianoaoao
    @Lucianoaoao 2 роки тому +53

    ---- Fuck the apologies
    Done being sorry for wanting the things that I want
    I broke my back carrying baggage
    For strangers who only ever did me wrong
    Was it more appeasing when I was just pleasing?
    Look good on my knees
    Sucks you're never gonna get me back again
    When I got healthy, did that make you hate me?
    And now, I'm never losing sleep, I'm over it
    This is how I learn to say no
    Take your pretty words and go choke
    People talk shit say they're gonna get better
    I hold my breath I can't hold it forever
    This is how I learn to say no, oh
    All of the butterflies turned into vicious lies
    I'd rather be on my own
    Tired of people being sad
    Told my mom to leave my dad
    Sometimes you just gotta go
    Was it more appeasing when I was just pleasing?
    Look good on my knees
    Sucks you're never gonna get me back again
    When I got healthy, did that make you hate me?
    And now, I'm never losing sleep I'm over it
    This is how I learn to say no
    Take your pretty words and go choke
    People talk shit say they're gonna get better
    I hold my breath, I can't hold it forever
    This is how I learn to say no, oh
    "I think what we proved is that we are family
    And no matter what we're always going to be a fuckin' family
    Sing with me!

  • @Matete_Z
    @Matete_Z 3 роки тому +160

    The wait felt like a century but its worth it. I resonate on a deep level, this was very much needed !

  • @ezek1380
    @ezek1380 2 роки тому +5

    Saw her singing a few seconds in her car… came went through all her songs… and am in lost of words by the quality and energy of her songs… wow… can only wish you the mega success you absolutely deserve!!! Wowww

  • @liannecarson823
    @liannecarson823 2 роки тому +6

    Needed to find this song today!! To every survivor reading this!
    You are strong, amazing and blessed 💜 May you future shine as bright as you!! 💜

  • @victoriapinkerman1134
    @victoriapinkerman1134 3 роки тому +15

    laying in bed sobbing while listening to this. Very easily my favorite song because of how inspiring it is. I know there had to be some real bad pain in there to make something like this, I hope your journey is treating your better now 💙

  • @vivalamadeline
    @vivalamadeline 3 роки тому +21

    I am so ridiculously in love with this song. I can’t wait to share it with my mom, and anyone else I know like her & I who needed this.

  • @elizabethskipper4008
    @elizabethskipper4008 3 роки тому +8

    Been listening to this for hours since I got broken up with. He was controlling and I didn't realize it till now. It was for the better, but now he's chasing to get back with me. This is empowering to me and is helping me to say NO!

  • @brittney868
    @brittney868 3 роки тому +3

    This song speaks to my soul! I’m an empath who has suffered under the abuse of many narcissists, family included! Recently I removed the toxic force and this song tells the story so perfectly! Learning to say no in order to protect yourself is key to a successful happy life! Many blessings to all!

  • @witchyboo_kat
    @witchyboo_kat 3 роки тому +44

    The first time I heard this on Tic Tok I bawled. I just sent it to my mom and she said she's trying not to cry. Obviously we have a generational issue

  • @TheBlackRose7
    @TheBlackRose7 2 роки тому +8

    I had a very toxic friendship and environment. I'm still healing from it and this song is very inspiring to me and I hope it helps other people love you!

  • @xnyroxchannel
    @xnyroxchannel 3 роки тому +10

    The warrior adult self with the inner child at the end (in my interpretation) I CANT SHED ANYMORE TEARS WHAT R U DOINGGG I love it 🤍

  • @StellaisStellar
    @StellaisStellar 3 роки тому +5

    This has been MY song! I listen to it on repeat at work and at home. Loudly singing along! (much to my kitties dismay) This is my "I don't have to accept your bs. I deserve better." song. Thank you Emeline!!!! I love it!

  • @bbaileyno
    @bbaileyno 3 роки тому +13

    I can’t handle how much this song speaks to me. Thank you so much for not only putting it into words, but into song!! So much love for you!

  • @misintrica
    @misintrica 2 роки тому +3

    My life lived... every word. ThankS for this super strength in words and song...I'm well on my way healing from tons of toxic injury through my life... thank you so much!

  • @maddie8942
    @maddie8942 2 роки тому +24

    After my ex boyfriend started abusing me, I felt like I had nothing. But hearing this song makes me want to cry but like in a good way. Thank you

  • @josephboyer7866
    @josephboyer7866 3 роки тому +13

    This is really a beautiful song that resonates with me deeply I have always had more hope for people than they have for themselves and they always break their promises to me and I am so tired of it.

    • @melodybones1815
      @melodybones1815 3 роки тому

      ditto

    • @angelafahlenkamp9311
      @angelafahlenkamp9311 3 роки тому +1

      It takes time but some of us learn how to recognize the ones who will suck you dry and stay away from them!

  • @katdawg6
    @katdawg6 3 роки тому +20

    Just ended a 5 year relationship with a narcissist and this song popped up and is exactly what I needed. Thank you!!

    • @ΑποστολϊαΑναγνώστου
      @ΑποστολϊαΑναγνώστου 6 місяців тому

      Me too the same. We deserve something better and I wish you the best. I hope time to heal our pain in our souls and find our happiness in ourselves 🙏❤

  • @shellyreed2373
    @shellyreed2373 3 роки тому +7

    Thank you for writing this song.When you grow up watching a co dependent and a narcissist play out their mess it leaves you seeking out that same role play as an adult.I spent years not knowing why I was doing this or that I even was.I finally understand and now Im free of those chains.💕🙌

  • @kaylaparker9048
    @kaylaparker9048 3 роки тому +7

    I felt the lyrics so deeply. Been waiting weeks for this song to come out.

  • @rosekay5031
    @rosekay5031 2 роки тому +4

    I need this so much in my life right now. My family left me because I left my abusive relationship. They hate me because I said no to his abuse and no to their enabling bullshit. I love this song so much. Thank you for writing, recording and sharing ❤️

  • @kristinapusec5941
    @kristinapusec5941 3 роки тому +8

    EMELINE babe you are a fighter and a winner! I'm so happy for you that you got better and became happier! This new song rocks! Wish you all the best! Keep on rocking girl! ❤️💕

  • @vanillabeans1000
    @vanillabeans1000 3 роки тому +15

    Thank you!! 6 months sober today 🥰🥰🔥🔥going to listen to this ALL DAY

  • @moonlitdoll13
    @moonlitdoll13 7 місяців тому +1

    This song hits hard when you’ve been through a lot of trauma both in childhood and in relationships, and are now on your healing journey

  • @angellroberts6213
    @angellroberts6213 3 роки тому +29

    I've had this on repeat since it dropped. SUCH an iconic song with an incredible message behind it ❤️

  • @angryartist3170
    @angryartist3170 3 роки тому +15

    This is amazing!!! I've recently kind of realized that I'm tired of being a punching bag for everyone else. Or a human diary to dump all of their emotional baggage onto. It hurts me to say no. It really does. But I know this is good for me.

    • @celestialphoenixqueen9258
      @celestialphoenixqueen9258 2 роки тому

      I used to be that way when I was little till I was almost a preteen . eventually something snapped within me and I had enough of it . now I am happier that I made that change 😌

  • @amanahmadansari9628
    @amanahmadansari9628 2 роки тому +3

    The power in your "This is how I learn to say NO"... exactly resembles someone who would say that after so long of abuse✨

  • @haileybright3967
    @haileybright3967 3 роки тому +7

    I can not stop listening to this song. It's beautiful and I really believe it deserves to be a #1. When I say I have listened to it on repeat for about 5 or 6 now times, I'm not kidding. This song just speaks to me

  • @nicoledaher4983
    @nicoledaher4983 3 роки тому +5

    I have this song on replay and it's funny how you find that one song in the time of need for strength. Thanks doll, your words in this song are perfection!

  • @mamamoonglow
    @mamamoonglow 3 роки тому +2

    In the middle of CPT and this song is on repeat. Trying to remember my power, banish the voices that say I'm weak and helpless. To everyone facing down those kinds of thoughts, you've got this.

  • @crystinapierce6833
    @crystinapierce6833 3 роки тому +77

    I really want to like this song but I can’t get through it without crying for some reason. I’ve heard it a few times but can’t finish it. Keep doing what you’re doing!

    • @kristalwalker5685
      @kristalwalker5685 3 роки тому +1

      Same here

    • @jodydvorak1260
      @jodydvorak1260 3 роки тому +1

      Been there. Keep listening.

    • @angelafahlenkamp9311
      @angelafahlenkamp9311 3 роки тому +1

      Thats called release...your body seems to crave it...if you don't the energy turns inwards and causes illness....trust me, I'm there

  • @AmyLee-ud2sy
    @AmyLee-ud2sy 3 роки тому +2

    I've watched you sing this so many times on the clock app and it's so great. It makes me feel so validated and strong. I love every bit of it and I'm so glad you're getting recognition for it.

  • @starfire8319
    @starfire8319 2 роки тому +8

    As a survivor , this hits harder than a rock 🥺
    SENDING LOVE TO ALL OF YOU , STAY HEALTHY , BLESSED AND SAFE WHEREVER YOU ARE 🙏 ❤. ❤🤗😚☺

  • @miraanda8357
    @miraanda8357 3 роки тому +3

    I sent this to my friend she really needed to hear this perfect timing for her life what a beautiful song I look forward to you having a lot of success in this industry just don't sell your soul

  • @FuschiaScreamin
    @FuschiaScreamin 3 роки тому +2

    100% OBSESSED with this song. Can not wait for more from this artist!

  • @navitachauhan6194
    @navitachauhan6194 2 роки тому +2

    You are too beautiful ... To be true ...
    Too talented ..... Ur all lyrics are getting soooo close to my heart

  • @salamander9575
    @salamander9575 3 роки тому +8

    This is how it's felt to cut off contact with my dad. It sucks to be tough when you're soft, but it's so so worth it to not be hurt anymore

  • @KallianaCorus
    @KallianaCorus 2 роки тому +1

    I am very empathetic, particularly with my sister. She, on the other hand, is a delegator. In college we lived together and it was awful because everything got delegated to me and I felt like I had to do everything for her. She was struggling at school and I just desperately wanted her to be okay.
    It was so hard when I decided to stand up for myself and said I wouldn’t be doing all the cooking and chores anymore. No more “add my laundry to your load” or “make extra for me” because I couldn’t handle the workload. She got upset with me but I stood my ground (it helped that my mom was 100% supporting me).
    She still gets a bit hurt anytime it comes up that I refuse to live with her ever again, but I won’t ever let myself end up in a situation like that again (she has not changed as much as she likes to think) and this song is a good reminder.

  • @starseed11110
    @starseed11110 2 роки тому +25

    Thank you. The worst part of mine, after I tried to kill myself, was having my 3yr old stroking my back saying “it’s ok mommy please don’t cry” while my ex screamed at me. We’ve been on our own for 2 years now and couldn’t be happier. If you’re reading this and need inspiration, girl, just run. Run and never, ever look back.

    • @brittneycoy902
      @brittneycoy902 2 місяці тому +2

      I am so happy you escaped, your little one may never say thank you but I'll thank you for them... my mom didn't leave and me and my siblings paid a heavy price for it.... I'm so happy for you

  • @lunakmii8389
    @lunakmii8389 3 роки тому +4

    This song goes along great with my therapy and I’ll continue to come back to it when I need strength.
    I’m currently experiencing what its like to set boundaries and have people lash out at them. I was certainly “more appeasing when I was just pleasing”, but I almost died that way. Now I’m learning to look inward and respect my energy.
    Thank you for this beautiful song 🌿💞

  • @elidcebriew266
    @elidcebriew266 2 роки тому +4

    This song builts my confidence in myself when I completely unable to do what people want me to be or to do:)

  • @saruprabha6060
    @saruprabha6060 2 роки тому +1

    thank you sooooo much for Cinderella's dead and this song. This is a medicine for my depression. The lyrics are damn good. I am addicted to it.

  • @santanajennings2088
    @santanajennings2088 3 роки тому +10

    I have been playing this song a repeat since the day it came out. I’m obsessed with this song!!! It’s so good!❤️❤️❤️❤️ I have sent it to so many people

    • @melodybones1815
      @melodybones1815 3 роки тому

      my bestie sent to me too! can't stop playing it....powerful message

  • @corrineblanco2421
    @corrineblanco2421 3 роки тому +1

    LOVEEE It 💯 Saw Her Mom's Reaction On TikTok To This Song. CAME STRAIGHT HERE 😤🙄 breathing & taking it all in . THIS IS HOW I LEARN TO SAY NO 💕

  • @ciarajessie3362
    @ciarajessie3362 3 роки тому +5

    Im so happy to see this song out. Ive been struggling and i have a story to tell but its shared with people i love and it sucks being in the middle of it and not sharing the story to make sure their reputations are okay. But its my life too. How am i supposed to feel about all this now when im 25? Still feel like im not allowed to say outloud what my truths and experience has been. Im tired of being scared and im still the one alone and confused. I was just a kid. I still feel like one sometimes. In my head i say its not their fault. They were just kids too they didnt know until they experienced it for themselves. Just like their parents did. And now im trying to stop generational Trauma and just not have kids. This life hasnt been too kind. We need people like you who isnt scared of the truth and what you have experienced. Helps people like me, to scared to tell the world.

  • @nicoleallen661
    @nicoleallen661 10 місяців тому +1

    This song gives me so much strength.

  • @KamiandTedd
    @KamiandTedd 5 місяців тому +3

    “I’m never losing sleep over it” me losing sleep bc I’m too busy vibing to this song

  • @rachaelabney3148
    @rachaelabney3148 3 роки тому +2

    Thank you for this song! I’ve had it on repeat…sometimes you just gotta go. Amen I ended 11 years of feeling not good enough and I’ve grown so much 💕

  • @alethuo76
    @alethuo76 3 роки тому +3

    Thank you for this song!! This hit the nail on the head!! Such a spot on song to explain EVERYTHING my daughter and I have endured!!❤

  • @sadisticplaymate69
    @sadisticplaymate69 3 роки тому +13

    Just discovered this song through tiktok a couple hours ago and it's already on my on repeat playlist on spotify.

  • @beelzebub1107
    @beelzebub1107 3 роки тому +4

    A very good listen.. coming from a complicated childhood.. and being mislead as to what actual love is., Having to learn what it really is one one's own can be very hard.. love this song hope you make many many more..!!

  • @jacquelinecyr390
    @jacquelinecyr390 3 роки тому +6

    Listening to this til it gets a million views. Cause that's how many times I need to hear it. Thank you for this! I'm sure you created this because its what you've struggled with yourself, thanks for breaking through and creating this song! 💕

  • @TheBmenzsays
    @TheBmenzsays 3 роки тому +15

    FINALLLLLLY! You are being slept on, girl! I am waiting for you to blow up. I love your voice- so freaking beautiful as are you 🖤 keeping throwing us the jams. I AM HERE FOR IT

  • @liyanachowdhury1393
    @liyanachowdhury1393 Рік тому

    The line “when I got healthy did that make you hate me “ hits so hard

  • @yahoozie-aka-jess4577
    @yahoozie-aka-jess4577 3 роки тому +9

    The melody to this song sends me. So proud of you!

  • @knockoffairplane1930
    @knockoffairplane1930 2 роки тому +2

    This song was eveything, it helped me find my voice and the ability to stick up for myself. For many years I let people use me and walk all over me. But this song made me realize that I dont need to do what they say.

  • @intentionalmediallc4338
    @intentionalmediallc4338 3 роки тому +5

    10 years in recovery from an eating disorder and this gives me such vibes!! OMG. Love to all you young or wise still learning to say no and love themselves

  • @lucylynn6295
    @lucylynn6295 3 роки тому +3

    I did not expect thus song to move me as much as it did. Seriously crying right now. I'm on the other side of a 7-year long abusive relationship. This song is so liberating!!!

    • @lucylynn6295
      @lucylynn6295 3 роки тому +3

      Just to be clear I escaped from him almost 2 years ago now I left in the middle of the night with the clothes on my back like something out of a movie. It was the best and scariest thing I've ever done

  • @reaganking8827
    @reaganking8827 3 роки тому +12

    FINALLY I LOVE THIS!!! i’m so proud of you!!!

  • @lais9670
    @lais9670 Рік тому +2

    Isn't it crazy how we find the perfect songs to the moment we're living?
    Yesterday I just had a really anxious day after realizing how much I give in to what everyone wants, and how badly that was affecting me
    To the point I felt anxious and angry all the time for days
    But then I just decided to finally be more harsh and learn to say no and don't let people walk all over me
    This song will be my reminder ❤

  • @luv_ash
    @luv_ash 2 роки тому +9

    As a woman who was in a very abusive relationship for nearly 2 years…. This song right here!!! This is song means everything to me.

  • @meganzielinski3213
    @meganzielinski3213 3 роки тому +2

    Please make this song blow up!! Top charts, absolutely beautifully sang/spoken

  • @kaylawilson1838
    @kaylawilson1838 7 місяців тому +3

    This song is the best xoxo thank you ❤❤❤❤

  • @alicegiordano5319
    @alicegiordano5319 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you. I needed this. I’m trying to learn how to say no ‘cause I’m really tired of people who pretend to be my friends only when they need something from me

  • @Kai-uj5go
    @Kai-uj5go 3 роки тому +7

    I love love love it! I knew I would since the preview you showed ur dad on Tiktok I set a reminder on my calendar and everything to remember to go back to your page to check the linktree! So stunning, such an amazing song lyrically as well as performance! 10/10 it's on several playlist and I'm going to have it on repeat until I can sing along word for word! ❤

  • @allimac85
    @allimac85 3 роки тому +4

    Going thru complete turmoil at the moment, but I came out of an intense therapy session the other day and played this on repeat my whole drive home! I'm learning - boundaries, self-respect...I am learning!

    • @angelafahlenkamp9311
      @angelafahlenkamp9311 3 роки тому +1

      Awesome! You have already cleared one of the hardest obstacles, asking for help 👍

  • @jessicamorgan1125
    @jessicamorgan1125 3 роки тому +10

    Yesssss. Im so excited!!! Ive been waiting for this song so long. I cant wait to blast this in my car!

  • @genevab.5316
    @genevab.5316 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you from my heart for this. "Strangers" means something very specific and painful to me. This is a very freeing song.

  • @midnightcreature7583
    @midnightcreature7583 2 роки тому +4

    the only thing wrong with this is that it's too short 😩
    WE NEED MORE LIKE THIS AAAH
    watch out world, this is gonna be a good one.

  • @Fortheloveofbon
    @Fortheloveofbon 3 роки тому +5

    Been here since Hush in Boston and will still be here after you’re playing the garden

  • @_.SONDERSTAR._
    @_.SONDERSTAR._ 3 роки тому +3

    I just found this on ig and my god, your voice is so pretty and angelic! I really admire the message behind this song, I find it not only relatable but it's very interesting. Your style is very creative and the way you hit notes is so beautiful! I can envision you reaching great success ♥︎

  • @clarissawhalen4330
    @clarissawhalen4330 3 роки тому +14

    This is such an amazing song. I love it

  • @miigwans360
    @miigwans360 2 роки тому +3

    I am currently working through a situation like this and I always have a hard time saying no. This was the absolute best timing of finding a song that I have ever had and hopefully it helps me break free from everything so that I can say the same thing.

  • @amandaeakin4862
    @amandaeakin4862 3 роки тому +1

    Take this and go as far as you can with it, love. Im rooting GO, GO GO, and when you think you are done.....GOOOOOOO

  • @xena6115
    @xena6115 2 роки тому +2

    THIS SONG IS SO GOOD OMG-

  • @corneredstone
    @corneredstone 3 роки тому +1

    Came here frm insta nd really not regretting it. Jst love it.. Hope many ppl find this nd appreciate such a beautiful song.. take love