EMELINE - this is how i learn to say no (Official Lyric Video)
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- Опубліковано 18 сер 2021
- Listen to “this is how i learn to say no” here: emeline.lnk.to/tihiltsnID
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Credits:
Storyboard and directed by EMELINE
Animation by zack sekuler / anythingshop
Lyrics:
Fuck the apologies
Done being sorry for wanting the things that I want
I broke my back carrying baggage for strangers who only ever did me wrong
Was it more appeasing when I was just pleasing?
I look good on my knees
Sucks you’re never gonna get me back again.
When I got healthy, did that make you hate me?
And now, I’m never losing sleep I’m over it.
This is how I learn to say no
Take your pretty words and go choke
People talk shit say they’re gonna get better
I held my breath I can’t hold it forever
This is how I learn to say no
All of the butterflies turned into vicious lies
I’d rather be on my own
Tired of people being sad
Told my mom to leave my dad
Sometimes you just gotta go
Was it more appeasing when I was just pleasing?
I look good on my knees
Sucks you’re never gonna get me back again
When I got healthy, did that make you hate me?
And now, I’m never losing sleep I’m over it.
This is how I learn to say no
Take your pretty words and go choke
People talk shit say they’re gonna get better
I held my breath I can’t hold it forever
This is how I learn to say no
To create healthy boundaries, this song hits hard.
For real
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@@aharrypotterfan5951 p
I’ve been struggling with creating healthy boundries
As a woman who is getting ready to leave her alcoholic abuser this song is everything to me. 8 years of abuse... 4 kids.. it’s never going to stop. He will never change.. this song gives me back my voice when I feel I have none. Thank you for creating something that I’m sure has helped many people.
Praying you were able to get out. If not, I know you have the strength when you’re ready. 💪🏻
Oh girl I know that all to well I left 2 yrs ago And went back thinking he was going to change after being forced to stop bc he was on house arrest he never changed I was cheated on thrown around treated like a dog. A month ago after I found I was pregnant with our fourth I said goodbye for good. my mental health is back
Bad
You got this Mama!🖤
I just left my abusive alcoholic husband as well left with 7 children. And for once im not afraid
This is the perfect song for all types of abuse survivors..It hits hard in a beautiful way! I'm so happy to find the full version released!
This!
YES!!!
Im only 46 seconds in and I feel so.. so strong.
He choked me? He can go choke now.
He gaslit me? It doesn't matter what his own personal narrative is, but I remember the facts.
He was unfaithful? He's now sad and lonely. while I HAVE BLOSSOMED.
Yes!! I agree 💯
Yes!!! I feel so empowered by this! Coming from an abusive home this just helps so much.
FINALLY!!!!! Can't wait to play this on repeat for the next 72hrs 😌
Same. I'm just going to buy it, burn it, and fucking drill it into my head.
Same!!!
Same
Lmaoooo same
Same!
People pleasers, softies, all those who have been used, Highly Sensitive People, Empaths, etc UNITE!!!!
This is our song😭😤✊️🔥
Edit: ahhhh thankyou everyone for the likes :)) Your sensitivity is what makes you beautiful and is your strength, regardless of what anyone says/feels about it. I see you all and I hope for love, healing, peace and strength on all your journeys 🤍
AMEN!!
Yes!
❤
Currently in a not so good relationship. Feeling this
My whole life 🥺 ... setting boundaries... creating a bubble
This is finally a song I can truly relate to. I'm tired of apologizing for things I didn't do, tired of apologizing to ppl who just wanna abuse me. Imma take this song and use it as my motto for life now. Aint no mean person gonna waste my time occupying my mind and heart
You go!!! You can do this and you’re so strong and you are loved ❤️
yass you do you don’t ever forget it!!
My new favorite song. I’ve had a problem with setting boundaries for myself and I’m finally healing from my trauma!
congratulations on ur healing! may it continue to be healthy and happy healing for you ✨
How freeing it must feel...I was there 10 years ago when I walked into my first therapy session, BEST thing I've ever done!
Same! I'm obsessed with this song, because I have an issue with setting boundaries since I've been conditioned to believe my worth comes from what I can provide for others, regardless if it crosses lines. But I'm working to take the steps to learn and unlearn those unhealthy mindsets. Let's hope we both can make it out of this free
@@nuny4592 remember this during your trials and errors....if the action feels uncomfortable you're probably doing something right because in the past your actions were determined on how to avoid being uncomfortable, it lead to a state of being where people pleasing has had more negative outcomes for your own growth, you may well find that the people that makes this transition harder for you will inevitably be the ones you walk away from, when making these changes its hard to avoid losing friends and family who were toxic to begin with...hold strong because those people will try to pull you back and make you behave the way that makes them feel more comfortable, dont fall for that trap 👍
@@angelafahlenkamp9311 Thank you, that's one of my biggest setbacks- the fear of losing someone close to me. I'm trying to actively tell myself that if they respond with resentment or leave, then they're not worth it to begin with. I'm excited to weave out those who aren't truly worthy of me and overtime lose the anxiety that comes from walking over eggshells to please people. Thank you for the advice and reassurance, it's always appreciated 💞
I needed this… so many people needed this 🥺❤️
Masterpiece. Talk about a ‘belt it from the top of your lungs in the car’ song. So empowering. Thank you! I’ve been waiting for this to release!!!
YES!
Literally doing that at this moment
I just heard this song for the first time after today having my dad call me to say he's not coming to my wedding because it won't be "traditional." It hurt me to hear him say that, but I have to stand my ground and do what's right for me, not have my life revolving around what other people expect of me. I'm proud of me. I'm learning. It took a lot of growing up for me to get here.
I totally relate. My dad didn’t come to my wedding for religious reasons. Broke me. But I’ve grown and realized that I’ve tried my whole life to please him and make him love me. You will heal and I’m rooting for your growth ❤️
@@stephanieschaeffer5202 Thank you. I'm sorry you also had to experience that heartbreak, but it's kinda nice knowing I'm not alone. I came from a conservative religious family, so coming out as queer and making the decision to marry my husband in spite of all their hate have been life-changing for me. Totally worth it. I've finally found the real family I never thought I would have when I was younger. 💛
My dad forced me into a marriage, yeah could not be able to shed any tears on that day
@@nandaniraj8532 I'm so sorry you had to go through that. 🫂
@@nandaniraj8532 dad's make better choices
You have no idea how perfect the time was for this song when I found it. It’s really easy now to see the people I thought knew better for me get visibly uncomfortable when they realize they can’t fool me anymore. I see it burns them inside now that I’m using the very word they brainwashed me into thinking was wrong when I spoke it for myself. I can’t thank you enough for making this song❤️
I soooo again
You got this! You know what's right for you!
my 2 ex guy besties / crushes and my ex / our mutaual friend they fooled me so many times . now they can't and they should be ashamed of themselves 😌😌💅💅
@celestial Phoenix queen
And they should be 😌
@@renee997 i'm hoping they are cause they brought it upon themselves 😏😏
This song was stuck in my head for two months before it was released. The full track did not disappoint. This song means the world to me. It's like it was written for me. Thank you.
same here!!!
I agree completely
As someone who is a people pleaser and survived an abusive ex bf, this definitely hits hard. I need to set boundaries and not let people walk all over me.
can't relate to being a people pleaser , I used to be that way but now I do what I want and say what I want regardless of it'll displease anyone . causr I'm not here to please or entertain anyone 💅💅
this women deserves more attention honestly speaking she's so talented and she's my favorite singer from now on
This is so intensely, _intentionally_ written. Lyrically creative, melodically & rhythmically dynamic... this song is instantly unforgettable. Well done, Emeline.
The “intentionally” got me…
Unforgettable? What the fuck are talking about? It's has new sans written all over it. It's the most generic music video, the most generic song, the most generic sound, the most generic looking girl 🤣. I mean come on stop the serious cap. I just came from a video of her singing this live. She sounds horrible live and Hardy could keep a tone. All the comments were people bagging on her for sounding so generic, people just wished singers could actually sing. Now every 20 something American women that's taken singing classes thinks she can sing. There just isn't a lot of deep, soul cutting, eye catching material here.
sure.
This is literally me learning to set boundaries with my dad. It hits so hard I cant even put words to it.
I held my breath I can’t hold it forever
This is how I learn to say no
The first time I heard this on Tic Tok I bawled. I just sent it to my mom and she said she's trying not to cry. Obviously we have a generational issue
since i first heard part of this I've been ryhtmicly looking it up to see if its been released yet, I'm glad the algorithm caught on and put it at the top of my home page the second I opened youtube after it was released. love the song!!
Not a song I can personally relate to or need in my life, but really hoping it will help my friend gather some confidence and stand up for herself more. Sending it straight to her 🙌🏻
I'm glad she has a friend like you in her life.
After my ex boyfriend started abusing me, I felt like I had nothing. But hearing this song makes me want to cry but like in a good way. Thank you
My daughter and I have been waiting for weeks. I cannot stop listening!!!!!!!! Beautifully executed! And one of the most important messages!
Love this song 😂😭
To Emeline, I don’t know if you look at comments, but I just finally left an abusive relationship, he’s trying to get me back and I’m finally learning to say no and set my boundaries. This song found me at the perfect time. Thank you so much for this masterpiece
You are amazing! I'm so happy you left him.
Was in an emotionally abusive (14 years )boarderline physical ( 1 year) relationship. This is strength. This is power. This song is my support to stay strong even though he had me believing i was worthless and nothing without him. Thank you
Listen to it 3 times in tears. It’s better than therapy. You have a gift. Please keep doing what you’re doing. ❤️
The wait felt like a century but its worth it. I resonate on a deep level, this was very much needed !
Emeline really out here helping and empowering us with every song she puts out
I am nearly 35... And have been away from him for nearly 10 yrs. But I can't stop listening and crying.
Thank you for putting my wounds in words... You have a gift for giving others a voice.
The warrior adult self with the inner child at the end (in my interpretation) I CANT SHED ANYMORE TEARS WHAT R U DOINGGG I love it 🤍
This is how it's felt to cut off contact with my dad. It sucks to be tough when you're soft, but it's so so worth it to not be hurt anymore
---- Fuck the apologies
Done being sorry for wanting the things that I want
I broke my back carrying baggage
For strangers who only ever did me wrong
Was it more appeasing when I was just pleasing?
Look good on my knees
Sucks you're never gonna get me back again
When I got healthy, did that make you hate me?
And now, I'm never losing sleep, I'm over it
This is how I learn to say no
Take your pretty words and go choke
People talk shit say they're gonna get better
I hold my breath I can't hold it forever
This is how I learn to say no, oh
All of the butterflies turned into vicious lies
I'd rather be on my own
Tired of people being sad
Told my mom to leave my dad
Sometimes you just gotta go
Was it more appeasing when I was just pleasing?
Look good on my knees
Sucks you're never gonna get me back again
When I got healthy, did that make you hate me?
And now, I'm never losing sleep I'm over it
This is how I learn to say no
Take your pretty words and go choke
People talk shit say they're gonna get better
I hold my breath, I can't hold it forever
This is how I learn to say no, oh
"I think what we proved is that we are family
And no matter what we're always going to be a fuckin' family
Sing with me!
Been listening to this for hours since I got broken up with. He was controlling and I didn't realize it till now. It was for the better, but now he's chasing to get back with me. This is empowering to me and is helping me to say NO!
laying in bed sobbing while listening to this. Very easily my favorite song because of how inspiring it is. I know there had to be some real bad pain in there to make something like this, I hope your journey is treating your better now 💙
Needed to find this song today!! To every survivor reading this!
You are strong, amazing and blessed 💜 May you future shine as bright as you!! 💜
Just ended a 5 year relationship with a narcissist and this song popped up and is exactly what I needed. Thank you!!
Me too the same. We deserve something better and I wish you the best. I hope time to heal our pain in our souls and find our happiness in ourselves 🙏❤
Thank you!! 6 months sober today 🥰🥰🔥🔥going to listen to this ALL DAY
You got this! I just hit 4 years. One day at a time
Such a boss! Way to hit 6 months
I decided to file for divorce yesterday and for the first time I get to listen to this song without feeling wishful
slay I’m soo glad hope life gets better for u!
I had a very toxic friendship and environment. I'm still healing from it and this song is very inspiring to me and I hope it helps other people love you!
Saw her singing a few seconds in her car… came went through all her songs… and am in lost of words by the quality and energy of her songs… wow… can only wish you the mega success you absolutely deserve!!! Wowww
"tired of people being sad, told my mom to leave my dad"
HER POWER
LITERALLY
Why is that celebrated? What's the context? That's not right to air out her parents laundry. What type of person does this and who the fuck celebrates it? This is why you're gonna be a 35 year old cool wine aunt with dogs or cats as her children because who the hell would want to marry a woman so self centered with herself. This song is fucking generic it's so clear and obvious she doesn't write any her material. It's what I'd imagine an 11 year girl would think is deep. I've heard her over open mic and she's not that great a singer either. She's just looks like a girl who's dad has a lot of many and paid to have her dream of being a "hit new artist". Maybe not who knows.
@@frosty_friends1807 i dont care if she's not that great of a singer. if you want my context its that my step dad is a toxic man who beat her?? Also why do you look so deep into the artists lyrics some artists don't write about their life and write music for people who need to feel heard. If you read any of the other comments like the vent comments maybe you'd see why the song is so strongly relied on??? As a child of your parents you should have a say in who your parents are with because maybe they make you uncomfortable. Having the confidence to speak i what a lot of people need, especially victims who were under control by family members in disgusting ways.
I am so ridiculously in love with this song. I can’t wait to share it with my mom, and anyone else I know like her & I who needed this.
As a survivor , this hits harder than a rock 🥺
SENDING LOVE TO ALL OF YOU , STAY HEALTHY , BLESSED AND SAFE WHEREVER YOU ARE 🙏 ❤. ❤🤗😚☺
The power in your "This is how I learn to say NO"... exactly resembles someone who would say that after so long of abuse✨
"people talk shit, saying they're going to get better.
i hold my breath, but i can't hold it forever."
my fav lines.
I felt the lyrics so deeply. Been waiting weeks for this song to come out.
As a woman who was in a very abusive relationship for nearly 2 years…. This song right here!!! This is song means everything to me.
I really want to like this song but I can’t get through it without crying for some reason. I’ve heard it a few times but can’t finish it. Keep doing what you’re doing!
Same here
Been there. Keep listening.
Thats called release...your body seems to crave it...if you don't the energy turns inwards and causes illness....trust me, I'm there
Thank you for writing this song.When you grow up watching a co dependent and a narcissist play out their mess it leaves you seeking out that same role play as an adult.I spent years not knowing why I was doing this or that I even was.I finally understand and now Im free of those chains.💕🙌
I've had this on repeat since it dropped. SUCH an iconic song with an incredible message behind it ❤️
EMELINE babe you are a fighter and a winner! I'm so happy for you that you got better and became happier! This new song rocks! Wish you all the best! Keep on rocking girl! ❤️💕
This is amazing!!! I've recently kind of realized that I'm tired of being a punching bag for everyone else. Or a human diary to dump all of their emotional baggage onto. It hurts me to say no. It really does. But I know this is good for me.
I used to be that way when I was little till I was almost a preteen . eventually something snapped within me and I had enough of it . now I am happier that I made that change 😌
I need this so much in my life right now. My family left me because I left my abusive relationship. They hate me because I said no to his abuse and no to their enabling bullshit. I love this song so much. Thank you for writing, recording and sharing ❤️
This has been MY song! I listen to it on repeat at work and at home. Loudly singing along! (much to my kitties dismay) This is my "I don't have to accept your bs. I deserve better." song. Thank you Emeline!!!! I love it!
Once again, youtube shows me an amazing song via an ad.
This is really a beautiful song that resonates with me deeply I have always had more hope for people than they have for themselves and they always break their promises to me and I am so tired of it.
ditto
It takes time but some of us learn how to recognize the ones who will suck you dry and stay away from them!
She made her own armor out of the spears that hurt her and then gave that armor to a kid, I'm gonna cry this is so beautiful!!!
This song builts my confidence in myself when I completely unable to do what people want me to be or to do:)
I can’t handle how much this song speaks to me. Thank you so much for not only putting it into words, but into song!! So much love for you!
Anyone else get excited when the notification came thru that this was out? 😭😭
I can not stop listening to this song. It's beautiful and I really believe it deserves to be a #1. When I say I have listened to it on repeat for about 5 or 6 now times, I'm not kidding. This song just speaks to me
10 years in recovery from an eating disorder and this gives me such vibes!! OMG. Love to all you young or wise still learning to say no and love themselves
I love the line "take your pretty words and go choke"
Just discovered this song through tiktok a couple hours ago and it's already on my on repeat playlist on spotify.
Frfr
This song speaks to my soul! I’m an empath who has suffered under the abuse of many narcissists, family included! Recently I removed the toxic force and this song tells the story so perfectly! Learning to say no in order to protect yourself is key to a successful happy life! Many blessings to all!
I'm literally the reason my parents split because my mom finally listened to me after over a decade of telling her to leave his abusive ass. I needes this song so bad and i am so very thankful it exists.
Yesssss. Im so excited!!! Ive been waiting for this song so long. I cant wait to blast this in my car!
My life lived... every word. ThankS for this super strength in words and song...I'm well on my way healing from tons of toxic injury through my life... thank you so much!
Been here since Hush in Boston and will still be here after you’re playing the garden
This is such an amazing song. I love it
the only thing wrong with this is that it's too short 😩
WE NEED MORE LIKE THIS AAAH
watch out world, this is gonna be a good one.
FINALLLLLLY! You are being slept on, girl! I am waiting for you to blow up. I love your voice- so freaking beautiful as are you 🖤 keeping throwing us the jams. I AM HERE FOR IT
I have been playing this song a repeat since the day it came out. I’m obsessed with this song!!! It’s so good!❤️❤️❤️❤️ I have sent it to so many people
my bestie sent to me too! can't stop playing it....powerful message
I have this song on replay and it's funny how you find that one song in the time of need for strength. Thanks doll, your words in this song are perfection!
This song goes along great with my therapy and I’ll continue to come back to it when I need strength.
I’m currently experiencing what its like to set boundaries and have people lash out at them. I was certainly “more appeasing when I was just pleasing”, but I almost died that way. Now I’m learning to look inward and respect my energy.
Thank you for this beautiful song 🌿💞
100% OBSESSED with this song. Can not wait for more from this artist!
In the middle of CPT and this song is on repeat. Trying to remember my power, banish the voices that say I'm weak and helpless. To everyone facing down those kinds of thoughts, you've got this.
I am a soft hearted girl with a lot of struggles in life teacher who bully me kids who bully me everyone everyday people bully me this song has changed my life ❤❤❤
The melody to this song sends me. So proud of you!
I will be playing this on repeat on Father’s Day.
That line where it says, "Thank your pretty words and go choke..." that's that moment you realized they never cared and all they ever had were pretty words to cover up their endless lies and empty promises. And I felt that in my soul.
LOVEEE It 💯 Saw Her Mom's Reaction On TikTok To This Song. CAME STRAIGHT HERE 😤🙄 breathing & taking it all in . THIS IS HOW I LEARN TO SAY NO 💕
THIS SONG IS SO GOOD OMG-
FINALLY I LOVE THIS!!! i’m so proud of you!!!
she did amazing right 👏 👏 👏
This is a masterpiece ❤️❤️❤️!!!!!
Thank you for my Anthem for the rest of the day, The power to say No is Immaculate It isn't easy but its Necessary and Universal. Just Thank You!
I sent this to my friend she really needed to hear this perfect timing for her life what a beautiful song I look forward to you having a lot of success in this industry just don't sell your soul
Listening to this til it gets a million views. Cause that's how many times I need to hear it. Thank you for this! I'm sure you created this because its what you've struggled with yourself, thanks for breaking through and creating this song! 💕
Isn't it crazy how we find the perfect songs to the moment we're living?
Yesterday I just had a really anxious day after realizing how much I give in to what everyone wants, and how badly that was affecting me
To the point I felt anxious and angry all the time for days
But then I just decided to finally be more harsh and learn to say no and don't let people walk all over me
This song will be my reminder ❤
This song hits hard when you’ve been through a lot of trauma both in childhood and in relationships, and are now on your healing journey
I did not expect thus song to move me as much as it did. Seriously crying right now. I'm on the other side of a 7-year long abusive relationship. This song is so liberating!!!
Just to be clear I escaped from him almost 2 years ago now I left in the middle of the night with the clothes on my back like something out of a movie. It was the best and scariest thing I've ever done
Im so happy to see this song out. Ive been struggling and i have a story to tell but its shared with people i love and it sucks being in the middle of it and not sharing the story to make sure their reputations are okay. But its my life too. How am i supposed to feel about all this now when im 25? Still feel like im not allowed to say outloud what my truths and experience has been. Im tired of being scared and im still the one alone and confused. I was just a kid. I still feel like one sometimes. In my head i say its not their fault. They were just kids too they didnt know until they experienced it for themselves. Just like their parents did. And now im trying to stop generational Trauma and just not have kids. This life hasnt been too kind. We need people like you who isnt scared of the truth and what you have experienced. Helps people like me, to scared to tell the world.
thank you sooooo much for Cinderella's dead and this song. This is a medicine for my depression. The lyrics are damn good. I am addicted to it.
I feel like she read my mind to write my anthem. LOVE this song more than I could ever tell anyone.
I cried when I heard this for the first time tonight. I hope everything you dream of comes true ❤
Just heard a preview on tiktok broke my legs running here to hear the whole thing!! On repeat it is!🖤🖤🖤
Take this and go as far as you can with it, love. Im rooting GO, GO GO, and when you think you are done.....GOOOOOOO
i knew waiting 2 months would be worth it
Ok but I love how the lyric video is like a music video
Going thru complete turmoil at the moment, but I came out of an intense therapy session the other day and played this on repeat my whole drive home! I'm learning - boundaries, self-respect...I am learning!
Awesome! You have already cleared one of the hardest obstacles, asking for help 👍
I am very empathetic, particularly with my sister. She, on the other hand, is a delegator. In college we lived together and it was awful because everything got delegated to me and I felt like I had to do everything for her. She was struggling at school and I just desperately wanted her to be okay.
It was so hard when I decided to stand up for myself and said I wouldn’t be doing all the cooking and chores anymore. No more “add my laundry to your load” or “make extra for me” because I couldn’t handle the workload. She got upset with me but I stood my ground (it helped that my mom was 100% supporting me).
She still gets a bit hurt anytime it comes up that I refuse to live with her ever again, but I won’t ever let myself end up in a situation like that again (she has not changed as much as she likes to think) and this song is a good reminder.
This song was eveything, it helped me find my voice and the ability to stick up for myself. For many years I let people use me and walk all over me. But this song made me realize that I dont need to do what they say.