Photographed a wedding a few years ago that probably had around a 100+ young kids in attendance. The bride was a preschool teacher and had been for years. She invited all the students in her AM and PM classes along with any siblings. These kids were so well behaved throughout the ceremony as they were so excited to see their teacher get married! I was honestly impressed as when she first told us I thought it was going to be a disaster! She apparently had also discussed in her class ahead of time how to behave at a wedding too. That wedding was definitely an exception though...
That is awesome! Super impressive, the way she clearly expressed expectations to the kids and their parents-I’m imagining there was a field trip type of packet to answer any questions and special activities for the kids at the reception.
This is such a nice little story to hear!!! This also just further proves that kids just need to be taught and have the right guidance for them to be able to participate in big events. Weddings are great life experiences for them, when things go well. I remember going to my cousin's wedding when I was very small, and I know I didn't do anything to make a fuss. People loved seeing me try to be a social butterfly on the dance floor, and if someone directed me away, I always went willingly. My mother had taught me manners from the very start, and I was always so proud to show them off in public to prove I was a good girl.
The reason no one wants kids at weddings anymore isn't so much that kids misbehave it's because the parents don't act like parents and make them behave. A chaplain at a church I went to said at the beginning of the service " Crying, screaming children, like all good intentions, should be carried out immediately!""
@@darlamartin8486 Agreed, that's why I only had my nephews as invited children at my wedding. I didn't think it was right to not invite some friends/coworkers that are important to us (which takes up two seats each) so that other friends, who are just as important to us, could bring their kids (4-5 seats each). We got married at 35 and I'm a teacher so we have a lot of friends that already had kids! So each guest got a plus 1 and they could choose to bring one of their kids if they wanted to. My bridesmaid and a guest each brought their daughter. All good with me! I don't have a problem with kids either way, but I have a problem with certain guests costing twice as much, or more. All the kids were well behaved and the ones who got a sitter or relative to watch theirs said they were happy to have a date night with an open bar and free food and dessert and dancing. 😁
I don't know why some people still get mad when others say the don't want children, like their kids aren't all over the groom and bride, all over the place screaming crying, fighting, throwing food, getting in photo shots, video shots, etc, they don't parent their kids, not even bother to intervene with their childs bad behavior and still do an absolute fuss when they're told that, now we know who's the real child here, they need to learn to respect the decision of other (weather their reason of having no kids at their wedding is liked or not, it's theirs to say, not yours), and may say "well if my kid isn't wanted, than so am I, I'm not going", then don't go, I'll be glad that you didn't with that mind set, yall need to stop being so selfish and stop just thinking about your feelings and it's making you feel like, instead of thinking what it's going to make the people who invited you, where you're going to as a guest, where you were chosen to go because they want you there, and then turn them out becuse of a tantrum a 3 year-old would do, next time think in all the others, not just you
I was just at a small wedding where the only child was a 2yo who was flower girl. She showed all of us up by being so well behaved throughout the ceremony, the meal and the reception. She sat quietly, got a beautiful dolly for doing such a good job and played with it for the rest of the night. She also sat and ate her meal without making a mess. I did not know 2yo could be so well behaved but her mother clearly does an incredible job.
My 2 year old niece was the flower girl for my SIL's wedding. She did a great job walking down the aisle but kinda forgot to throw the petals. So she marched down the aisle, basket in hand, not throwing a petal. Her Dad ran after her and threw the petals behind her and she suddenly realized she could throw the petals as we had practiced... at the end on the aisle 😂 She was amazing
It’s when you are doing things like these with kids so young I fully recommend training your children like dogs. Sounds bad but kids are literally geared to being trained with positive reinforcement and overall is one of the single best ways through pretty much all neurodivergence (kids with adhd it’s pretty much impossible to punish them) to teach your kid. You just make it more obvious in this case with bribery, give the kid some chocolate every time they make it down the isle.
An oft repeated family tale is about my aunt's lovely wedding, where I was the three year old Flower Girl--I threw a tantrum because I wanted to be the only "Princess" walking up the aisle. I loudly announced to my grandmother as we stood up there "I have to go peepee!". And the kind Priest stopped the entire ceremony until we got back. I then livened up the reception seriously choking on a piece of gristle on the steak. While the family panicked, my uncle's new girlfriend who was a nurse turned me right over and hit my back and it popped out. He married her that year. I was **not** their flower girl. Lol.
I was in my auntie’s wedding when I was 2 and I was the flower girl I had to walk down with my cousin and sister afterwards and I was crying with the flower petals
I attended a wedding where someone's kid inserted themselves into the first dance. To my horror the parents didn't pull the kid away, they laughed and filmed encouraging the kid to continue. Main character by proxy. Thankfully the videographer skillfully got between the kid and the couple whilst filming and with his body maneuvered the kid back to the circle of guests. The parents glared at him with disgust and I wanted to applaud him. Now that I think about it he did it so smoothly that I'm afraid this wasn't the first time he had to intervene 😬
This seems to be an Arab wedding. And that is par for the course. The bride doesn’t really walk around. But sits in a throne. And kids are encouraged to dance and take space. She was the only one. There were three kids there. Still side eye worthy since the bride was standing up. But not as egregious as if it was in a western wedding.
@@hajarmdn4883 which wedding do u mean? Bc OP's comment gave me the impression they saw that at a western wedding, as well as the last story with the terrible kids. But I could def be confused.
@@who__cares__ Again...no. we don't victim blame here. You have no idea why she felt compelled to do that. And it doesn't matter. Its HIS behavior that is the problem here. Period. I've seen you comment this at least twice now. Why are you so against holding him accountable for his actions? I think you may have some personal things to delve into on this. Maybe you need to hear this: If someone hurt you, then you're not at fault. Even if your own behavior put you in a more likely situation for it to occur. Still not your fault.
Of all the women who have worn a white dress to someone else's wedding, that cousin's dress is the brideiest bridal gown I have ever seen. The audacity!!!
Right!!! My cousin wore a white dress to my wedding, but it was just a simple summer dress. I never even noticed until someone else pointed it out later... but if someone had worn a bridal style dress, it would've been on lmao 🤣
Thing is if she does show up in that she will just make herself look like a crazy bitch. All the other guests will be looking at her and talking about her but not in a good way.
When my ex best friend told me she dressed in the sluttiest white dress she could find, just to show up at her brother's wedding, I felt disgusted with her. It was no wonder the brother never wanted to talk to the sisters, ever. That was the last time they talked. Ratchet.
Certain cultures have a designated person in the bridal party to be “the bad guy” so the bride doesn’t have to. And no one is allowed to hold it against them. I love this
Yes, we actually have this in my country, it's pretty common, you basically hire someone to yell at kids if they misbehave and make sure that they won't be running around and will be seated during the whole thing, this person will also make sure that none of the guests are taking any pictures of the bride without permission or doing anything that they shouldn't be doing.
I photographed weddings for 11 years, and I've seen some kids that were wild and disruptive, but like 90% of the time I've seen kids at weddings they've been completely chill and didn't cause any issues. The difference is 100% with the parents--I've seen some parents who simply don't understand the concept of teaching their kids to respect others.
I went to my mom's brother's wedding as a 4-year-old. I cried because I was tired but wanted to stay, so my dad took me outside to get some fresh air and calm down. He and my mom did that a couple times during the party. I came back with a genuine smile and made it to the end of the party/reception. The groom or bride never had to deal with my 4yo stupid stuff because my parents were, well... parenting.
My bestie invited my family to her wedding, our 2 year old and 4 year old had a few moments but my husband did exactly as your dad did and it was GREAT. Bride was absolutely happy we there and it was our first time attending a wedding as a family
When I was 4 I went to my cousins wedding I was suprising quite and good just playing with my flowers and tool on my dress. Until the reception where I saw for the first time in my life a chocolate fountain... I got it and strawberries all down my dress that I was suppose to wear on Easter Sunday in a week or so.
When I was 7 I was a flower girl in my brothers wedding 13 years ago it was all good and fun everybody had a blast I didn’t misbehave I genuinely had a good time but half the time I was sitting at our table sleeping because my feet was killing me I have eczema since I was born it attacks my feet and hands and it hurts if I stand or walk for too long so I was just sleeping and I slept again on the sidewalk when they left for their honeymoon but nobody said anything they didn’t make me dance or do anything they wasn’t embarrassed because his sister wasn’t dancing they was just concerned and let me be they didn’t say anything to my mom and dad they didn’t take me out outside or anything like I wasn’t causing a scene I did end up wearing that dress for Halloween when I dressed up as a princess and my dad was carrying me the whole time because my feet was hurting moral of the story I wasn’t a brat and wasn’t ruining my brothers wedding
My sister had kids at her wedding, and she encouraged them to be themselves because she wanted them to enjoy her day too. Nothing bad happened because none of us raised monsters. Grandparents, Parents, Aunts and Uncles took turns calming them down or removing them if they got upset and my sister has loads of cute pictures of her nieces and nephews dancing, chasing each other on the dance floor or hiding behind skirts. Some of the best pictures had the kids in them. The problem is never the kids it's when no one is willing to take responsibility for the kids.
The problem can absolutely be the kids but it's because their parents either aren't raising them or they have no boundaries or discipline and let them do whatever they want, which only churns out little monsters that no one wants to deal with. So, yes, the problem can be the kids but the root cause is nearly always the parent(s).
If they are acting up you as a parent need to parent your child. We always had kids at our weddings and ours danced and had a great time. The only wedding we were all on major munchkin duty was my cousins when we were letting several under 3 year olds run around on the patio and the couple decided to do their first dance out their instead we all kept on alert so no kids ran through their first dance. Even though the couple said it’d be fine.
Old lady who went to a few weddings as a child, I wouldn’t be writing this if I EVER behaved like this. My parents were loving and good and we just behaved well. This is ridiculous!
@@lcoq19 How the hell can the parents sit there watching this go on? Unreal. I am not a sue happy person, but I hope the bride wins in small claims court.
I was a professional wedding and funeral attendant for a few years. My job was to dance with awkward people, defuse situations and move rude aunties away from the bride and dump wine on anyone in white. At funerals I changed the subjects, got tissues, called Uber for the drunk or distraught and interrupted speeches. People say disgusting things at funerals.
thank you for your work. im so glad that there's been a funeral attendant at every funeral i have been too. sadly there's been a lot for someone not in a funeral or clerical profession. you and others are amazing to do this for families.
I don't think she was a close friend or anything. I got the impression that they knew each other from work or something and she randomly decided to give a speech.
I'm in my mid-thirties right now, I've been online since I was about 9 years old... To this day, that is one of a very small handful of videos I cannot watch all the way through.
My daughter is getting married and she is letting people bring children. In the invitation we put a note "Children are welcome but they are your responsibility."
It's sad that you have to spell out that parents will need to be responsible for their children while in public. Good luck, and I hope you have a beautiful wedding!! ❤
@@lisamelroy2855 I know but some parents feel their children can do no wrong. We are inviting great people & their children are usual well behaved but with water feature at the venue we thought better safe than sorry. Plus there is a surprise reward for the kids if the behave. Thank you for the well wishes
My kids have been to many, many weddings but god help them if they misbehaved! The closest Auntie or uncle would have dealt with them immediately and then dragged them back to one of their parents for a second dose…. I’ve only been to one wedding where the kids were out of control and no one stepped in…. The goblins went to all the outlying tables to shake and spray 2 L bottles of soda pop all over the back of the room. The parents were obviously at fault and should have been keeping the kids controlled but I don’t know why the catering staff left full bottles of pop on empty tables for hours…. Tempting crazed monkeys hopped up on sugar with mischief ammunition doesn’t seem like a smart idea..
If its a dear friend to me, Id be willing to go to jail for jumping a b-word. But Id try pouring wine down her cleavage first. Id have red wine in my purse and either a bottle bbq sauce (squeezy bottle for ease VERY IMPORTANT)/chocolate sauce for the mens butts and red wine for the women. Humiliation is ALWAYS the most effective. Even MORE than violence. None of them want to walk around looking like they (bleeped!) themselves, you know??? haha... (but it needs to be bottles/containers that release the fluid "easilly")
I'm the officiant. The bride (a good friend of mine)'s mother is a piece of s*** who I am almost certain will try to make the day about her, and her little brother (15) has autism and was unsupported and is so screwed up because of mom as well. I am a 5'10" woman with the strength to definitely tackle and haul their a**es out of there. It's gonna be fun. "By the power vested in me from the State of Washington ULC, b****es." 😂😂😂
I don't think I've ever been in a child free wedding, and never saw anything like that happen. I once had a 3yo cousin stop the bride for a second because she wanted a hug from the princess, but it was actually really cute and didn't made anyone upset.
We had one kid at our wedding that kept asking to "dance with the princess" it was absolutely adorable! I think I danced with that little girl more than my own husband that evening. Lol
in my culture (the same as the second video) there is no such thing as outshining the bride. We all have to be dressed like we're going to the met gala and dancing where the bride is standing (just like that girl) is normal. Most times it's the bride herself that gets the kids to dance with her or next to her. So altough i understand the outrage white tiktok was having regarding the girl, I do believe that people should get educated before commenting because this whole reaction on tiktok just goes along with the idea that wetern norms are the standard when they are not and that's just ignorance.
@@abba9092 "Get educated" lol. I mean I agree that each culture is different, but some things are universal. The bride attitude was screaming "not happy". The non smiling face, the whispering, the multiple glances toward the little girl and finally her departing are very telling.
BAD KIDS ARE A REFLECTION OF BAD PARENTING!!! I've never been to a wedding were there wasn't children present... never has it been an issue. Ive attended receptions where its been listed, no children allowed, but this is crazy....the wedding coordinator should've told the family to leave.
Same! I have only been to one wedding where there were no children. Every other wedding, at least a dozen kids present, and never a serious issue. I can only assume its bad parenting to let you kids go feral and do nothing. If one of my kids behaved badly or had a melt down i would probably leave. Fair to say weddings and big events in general can be overwhelming to little people and staying over long isn’t fair to them. Get a babysitter or go home early.
There was an update for the last story! The parents countersued the bride for medical care the kid supposedly required because the cake fell on him. The entitled family is being ostracized by everyone who was at the wedding and the bride has received emails and calls from the crazy parents demanding they drop the suit while badmouthing them on social media. I don't know if there's been another update but I can't help but hope the newlyweds get everything they're owed and more.
I really really hope it’s recorded in small claims court. Next up on Court Cam: The awful mother of crotch goblins is being sued for rampant destruction of property 🤣
This is why we write down our speeches. That being said, my cousin almost had everyone fall out of their chairs when she mentioned her sister's first love and said the groom could never replace him. We all thought she meant cousin bride's first bf. Nope. MoH cousin pulled out the stuffed monkey which was bride cousin's favorite toy that went everywhere. Told the groom that he still hasn't broken up with the bride and if the groom ever did anything, she would tell the monkey. Ultimately what we thought was going to be a shocking speech turned very sweet and only something a sister could do.
I recently attended a wedding with my 4 year old little cousin. She was so well behaved and never cause a ruckus. She even took pictures with the groom and bride during the reception and they love her. The bride and groom were so beautiful and my little cousin was so well behaved and sat through the whole thing. There is no excuse for children acting like that with the parents right there.
that's why i have a no kids under 4 rule for my wedding...because my nephew is VERY MUCH like the mom in the last story. he let his 2 year old just run around doing fuck all in a restaurant and NO ONE, not him, not his wife, not his parents who were with us because it was my brother's, his dad, birthday dinner. everyone even tried to justify "they're both tired after working and "rachel's" pregnant." idgaf if thats why, its inexcusable behavior and shows they enable a LOT of bad behaviors and i will not have a crotch goblin running uncontrolled or a baby screaming the entire time once they have their second. Kids will be kids and 4 and up should know when it is time to sit and listen and when to play by that point so only 4 and up for mine
A colleague of mine was really annoying me at work today and was demanding I do all kind of (boring) tasks that he is responsible for, but doesn't feel like doing. While he was continuing with his rant and demands, I all of a sudden heard Charlotte in my head "Aaaaabsolutely NOT!!" 😂😂 I started laughing and left my colleague very confused 🙈😂
My daughter was a flower girl when she was 11 months old. She did amazingly well but I could tell she was getting fidgety during the ceremony so I took her outside to play in the grounds of the Abbey. After that she was fine. With the permission of the bride and groom we took a travel cot to the reception which she sat in playing with her toys and eventually sleeping. She had an incredible time and so did we. Parents need to take responsibility for their kids!
My cousin was MOH in her sister's wedding, and her toddler was the flower girl. She did well getting down the aisle and her dad was sitting at the end of the second row so he could grab her. But she wanted mommy to pick her up so my cousin ended up holding her at the altar during the ceremony. She wasn't crying or anything, though, so it was cute. (That toddler is now married with two little ones of her own.)
my cousin and I were flower girls at 4 & 5 years old, we both freaked out and didn't walk down the aisle and went to hide in the bathroom idk why. My aunt and uncle STILL won't let us forget. They thought it ruined the wedding at the time but it's been 20 years and now they laugh 💀
@@mishaa7263 My friend's ring bearer was about 3 and as soon as he saw all the people he balked. His dad was trying to encourage him to go with his sister (she was the flower girl, and a couple years older), and she was beckoning him to come with her, but he wouldn't do it. They anticipated this possibility, though, and the best man actually had the rings. No one thought it ruined anything. You have to be prepared for some unpredictability if you're going to have such little kids in your wedding party.
Went to a wedding that was supposed to be no kids. Parents brought their kid anyway. He spent the ceremony quiet, but at the reception everyone walked in from cocktail hour to find the kid alone in the dining room going elbow deep in the buffet trays eating directly out of them and double dipping EVERYTHING. Caterers had to toss five trays of food. When the caterers were trying to get the unattended child away from the table, he kicked and spit at them. Parents show up FIFTEEN minutes later asking why the kid was upset.
i've been the bestman @ 3 weddings. i told all the other groomsmen, we are security. it is LITERALLY the original job of groomsmen! i posted 1 at each door & told them who wasn't supposed to be there & stop them then come get me. i pissed off 2 ex's and 1 family. but the bride & grooms were both quite pleased.
@@mariecolette170 thankfully there was only 1 instance out of the four weddings i was in. but it was the instance that made me think for the other three!
There was a time I was at the hospital for an appointment, and I asked if I could bring my daughter in with me. She told me “she can, as long as she doesn’t run around and cause any trouble.” I replied with a laugh, “I hope not, she’s 24.” I guess kids causing trouble in this hospital had been a regular thing. I also felt flattered, that she thought I looked too young to have an adult child. 😊
I worked at a hospital for 46 years doing x-rays and mammograms. You’d be amazed at the number of people who bring small children with them to their appointments and seem shocked that we didn’t have child care! And surprised that the child can’t come in the room-duh, radiation!!
I invited as many family members, littles included, to my wedding. Only one family brought their four-year-old daughter. She was adorable! Got "she's a princess!" On my video from her when I walked down the aisle, and a "they lived happily ever after" when we kissed. During the reception, she even sang a song on the microphone. I love the idea of having kids at weddings, but I absolutely believe the parents are the ones who can ruin that for everyone, including their kids.
I at first didn’t want children at my wedding, but my 1.5 year old nephew is literally the only child on either side so we decided to allow him to come. He was not happy for a good portion of the day since he isn’t used to so much attention, but the grandparents handled any issues right away! And now we have pictures of him in the family photos and some adorable ones of him from the reception, so I’m really glad I changed my mind 😊
So I remember being a kid at weddings and absolutely being bored out of my mind. So I knew we’d have kids at our wedding and decided to create something fun for the kids to do and it was a hit. We set up a kids craft table with those little wooden bird houses for them to decorate. I bought stick on decorations and paint crayons and bought kid aprons. I told my planner that I wanted her to make sure that the kids knew that this was for them so that they could have fun and she did. The result was amazing. And I almost bawled when the kids gave my husband and I some of their decorated projects as wedding presents. We also made time to dance with each of the kiddos and our photographers got some of my favorite pics of us with our godchildren ❤
That's awesome! I have trauma from a wedding when I was 6 that I was in. I hate weddings and never go to them. You however message this seem like the perfect wedding to have kids at! 💜💜💜💜
I've only ever been to one wedding where kids were there. Both kids were under a year (they were the flower girl & ring bearer, they came down the aisle in a wagon!! So CUTE!) & they were ANGELS!! No crying fits, no screaming, nothing. They were so well behaved throughout the ceremony AND reception.
I only went to church weddings growing up and hardly anyone watched their kids. Random people had to keep them away from the cake and photographer. I don't understand how the parents would just check out and forget they had kids. And there was never alcohol so who knows where their brains were.
The story of the guest expecting a provided babysitter made me think of our daughter's wedding. Due to nursing mothers, etc. we did offer a babysitter option. Some friends, who are both nurses, were raising money for a foreign medical charity trip. We set them up in a large room off the reception hall stocked with food, toys, games, plus a rocking chair. We told the parents that used the room, they could give a donation toward the trip. People were very generous, even guests without kids who were happy to have the babies/kids close by, but not continually there. It was win-win.
I've had a friend who was very involved in her church & a church member offered their land (which was BEAUTIFUL w\a quaint little pond almost like a little fairy village) for my BFFs wedding. BUT they said NO kids due to them being hurt or damaging property. Which everyone understood. So the church stepped in again & opened it's doors & nursery for anybody w\kids who needed. & They found ppl to work said nursery. &It all worked out fine. BUT not everyone can do something like that which is understandable. & I think in the story you're discussing, her kids wld've been the only kids really. & Therefore it's NEVER on the Bride & Groom to provide daycare for kids that aren't theirs. They even invited the kids. The parents just didn't want to watch their own kids at a wedding. Again it's cool & neat if they can have a kids room etc. But it's not always possible. & No parent should expect an already stressed out bride & groom to provide childcare for guests who just don't want to watch their own kids for a wedding.
RE-read my comment & realize it came off as if I was scolding you or saying you were agreeing w\the lady. & I apologize bc that's not how I meant it. & I meant no snark!
At my wedding I had 2 kids under 6 and 2 teenagers. It was a small wedding so no specific accommodations were made for them but they were well behaved and didn't need iPads. They danced and played with the balloons, the venue was in the countryside so they ran outside, picked flowers, they gave me a cute bouquet of wild flowers 🥺 and they struck conversations with the adult guests.
I had a very small wedding reception so there were only about 4 kids under 10, they all knew each other so started getting progressively louder and more energetic the longer they were around each other. After about an hour seeing the energy level get up too high I grabbed the goodie bags I’d prepared and had all the kids come over and said, “I’ve got these gift bags for you but if you want them you have to promise that you’ll all be mindful of the other guests here and not be screaming and running around, can you do that?”. They all agreed and got their bags that had some little toys, activities and foam wearables, they loved it and were totally preoccupied and well behaved the rest of the night. For something super small scale it worked like a charm.
Omfg that story about the kids absolutely destroying that wedding got me so heated....i would've thrown them all out before the ceremony even started, whyyyy did they not have someone kick them out before it got to the point of destroying not only the wedding dress, but the cake too?? I feel so bad for that couple. If my son had ever done something like that when he was younger, he'd only be allowed to leave his (empty) room to use the bathroom. I'm beyond grateful to have a well behaved kid after hearing that story 😂
The “crotch goblins” story is the reason I don’t hate the kids, I hate the parents. Kids are naturally explorative and mischievous. Parents are the ones who need to step in and teach when things are and aren’t appropriate.
I'm eternally grateful that my parents taught me and my siblings how to behave around other people, whether it be a wedding, going to the grocery store, meeting handicapped people or just generally being in public.
Every wedding I’ve been to that allowed kids, they were well behaved. There was one time where a 1 yr old was tired & fussy but the mom took the baby out of the reception area right away to rock her baby to sleep & there was no disturbance at all to the wedding. If kids are at a wedding, it is the PARENT’S responsibility to keep the kids in check-no one else’s.
My parents had 5 kids, they took us to weddings, adult's meetings and bday parties. There were no phones, tablets or kids' zones. We just behave and find ways to have fun that didn't interrupted the adults'moments.
Yep.. same with us. And we played with the other kids.. looked after the smaller ones.. we didn't scream or yell.. didn't nag.. We asked nicely if we could go play outside or upstairs . And we only disturbed the adults if one of us fell on a knee or something 😊 Aaah...good times ❤
I have this vivid memory of going to a wedding when I was 9 or 10 (I'm 30) and AFTER the ceremony us kids were instructed to behave ourselves and don't knock over anything. Since the reception was informal and also immediately after the ceremony and outside, we laid effing Labrynth (I can't spell it I'm so sorry) and pretending the arches and gates and facades were a maze. Weird awesome memory I've always had. Btw. Never played with those kids again because we weren't THAT close or anything 🤷♀️
Due to those parents horrible parenting of the crotch goblin kids, they will likely end up like the choosing beggars feeling entitled to free stuff as adults.
We didn't have wedding planners, but I had a team of 5 friends on secret security detail. They all got a power point of which guests were likely to cause problems and were ready to tackle anyone at a moment's notice 😂
Very smart! I’ve seen so many people destroy weddings and the couple getting married (B&G) then get really upset. Problem is, they forget that people are who they are. Their drunken uncle will get drunk. Their unruly nephews will be unruly. Their immature brother and his toxic girlfriend will get into a fight and cause a scene. People don’t suddenly start acting differently bc the B&G hope they will, unfortunately. But you? You’re a smart cookie! You foresaw issues and were proactive in your approach You should share that advice far and wide my friend
I can't imagine being in a scenario where I would still invite any of the people with the potential to ruin it to my wedding or even simply allow them in my life.
Also, I let kids at my wedding. It was a backyard wedding so wasn't fancy, but I am very open about who's in my life. Those invited I knew were good parents and would look after their kids and they did. I never had a issue with any of the kids and I loved spending time with them. ❤
I made my wedding child free (except the one flower girl) because of my friend that brought her two young children to my bridal shower and let them cry and scream through the whole event, never taking them outside to calm them down. When she RSVP'd to the wedding she included her children in the count and I had to call to explain that I wasn't allowing children. She told me that her children did not do well with babysitters but I stuck to my no-kids rule. I hated that she wouldn't come but this video makes me extra glad I stuck to it.
I think it’s absolutely fair to have a child free wedding. I also think it’s fair to expect that might mean some of guests can’t come. I had a child free wedding very unapologetically despite being a teacher. Now that I have children of my own I still suggest that every couple considers making their wedding child free. The only time I would make exceptions is if someone you really want at your wedding has a newborn that is too young to leave with a caregiver. See if some accommodations can be made. Otherwise, big no to kids at a wedding.
As if you’d just add your kids to the count, how fuckin rude! If I ever got married it would definitely be child free. I don’t like kids lol I’m not having my own, and I sure as shit am not having them at my wedding. Also weddings are expensive af
You made the best call for your special day. I think irresponsible parents should be excluded from formal events. I understand there she some medical factors that can effect behaviour, however I don't think this is a factor in most cases. So of yiu can't raise yiur children to have manners and respect in social settings, why should yiu ruin it for everybody else? Also, the entitled ones who expect others to think about the care of their children... erm, that is not my job sir-mam.
I'm guessing the kids don't do well with a babysitter because someone else likely tries to impose rules on the kids and they lose their minds. I've been the babysitter in those situations. If she's not willing to manage her children at a bridal shower, ain't no way she would at a wedding. Good on you for sticking to your guns.
I'm out walking my bulldog, just started the video "Hey Everybody! Welcome Back!" When i hear "I LOVE CHARLOTTE DOBRE!" from the balcony of a random condo 😂😂😂😂
I’ve actually met someone on Facebook that I told her we were going to be besties because she’s so awesome. I then asked if she was a Charlotte fan, and we then talked about Charlie and naked man for almost an hour. I love you tater tot petty people. I love you all.
I had 4 kids under 12 at my wedding. Two were angels, and two were caught running in the street. The keeper of our venue has to corral them into a fenced area and lock it. The mom of those two did not even look at them all night - she just got drunk, smoked a joint and said they were fine on their own. Definitely the parents at fault, not the kids. At one point, a friend of ours picked up her son and handed him to her. She still didn't get it.
And there you have it --too many of today’s parenting!! It’s amazing how many parents I’ve seen just let their kids go at someone’s house , at a party or a wedding and just not even check on them!! I’ve seen it in my family and still shocked!
@@Stelvei I honestly think it used to be far worse in the past. People used to do a lot of things that were seen as normal and nowadays are considered child abuse ...
@@carpediem4091 So true. Smoking in cars, letting kids sit in the back of pick-ups, no seat-belts. My parents let me play in the neighborhood, the creek, etc for hours with other kids. Just had to be home by supper time.
The "crotch goblin" one just made me want to yell for years and years at those parents i cant express how much anger and rage had been put in my system just hearing that story
As someone who’s getting married this Saturday and made a strict no kids allowed rule, I got a lot of flack from friends and family that not allowing kids was creating an unnecessary burden for parents to attend. After hearing the story about the kids at that last wedding, I’m standing by my decision with zero regrets 😂
I believe there should be a age requirement just enough for people under 18 to be responsible enough. Me personally I’ll probably let children 13 and up in. Maybe a couple years younger if I know the children and I know their responsible! I hope you enjoy your wedding!
First and foremost, congrats on the wedding! Second, you could send a few of the gazillion stories about kids ruining weddings to anyone that gives you crap. There's a reason people want child-free weddings and 99.9% it's a reasonable request.
🎉🎉🎉 Congratulations on your wedding this Saturday. Second you stand firm by your decision. I love kids but no I have seen too many melt downs from the kids in my life and that wasn't at a wedding is enough to say no to kids at weddings.
It's absolutely the couples' decision. Too much money and emotion involved, and the decision should be respected even if not agreed upon. I would neither attend nor hold it against you, and would expect the same. I had kids at my wedding, and everyone behaved beautifully. My cousin and her fiance' didn't allow them, and his family allowed this decision to become the cause of a 21 year and ongoing rift between them. Pretty ridiculous, imho. Enjoy your day!
In my day my a$$ would have been whooped if I ever even thought of misbehaving at any special event. Kids aren’t the problem. It’s the parents not wanting to parent. That poor bride.
Same here. My parents didn't allow us to be disruptive and destructive. We were taught how to behave in public and how to respect other people's property.
I had one child at my wedding, in my wedding. She was my best friend's daughter. Basically, my niece. And she was an absolute angel. 2 years old, and an absolute angel. It's not the age of the child, it's the parents' ability to properly raise that child, which determines how well that child behaves.
Believing that you can fully determine how a 2-year old toddler behaves is... amazing. I admire your faith in parental guidance. There is nothing, truly nothing, that can stop a toddler from letting the world know how they feel when they truly want to share it. The only thing you can control? Your response as a parent. You were eternally lucky on your wedding day. Feel blessed but don't parent shame others.
Exactly, the parents should have stepped in. It shows how horrible parents they are.i try not to judge other's parenting skills because I've been in situations where my twins have run wild, but I am running after them. If a parent is trying it's one thing, but these parents did nothing!
@@RainyRaven if a parent shows their child to be destructive, to run rampant and to just be a total asshole at somebody else's important event they deserve every bit of parent shaming that they get. A parent needs to actually parent their children. I personally know a few unruly children but knowingly their parents don't bring them to important events such as weddings or funerals because of it and if they do they do what they can to not disrupt the spece event. That story was about an entitled parent raising entitled brats. I hope she pays for the consequences and maybe actually step up and parent her kids before they end up with nobody who wants to be around them and the kids grow up thinking they can do whatever till want to they end up locked up
@@RainyRavenif I didn't know this child as well as I did, she would not have been invited, let alone my flower girl. She's super shy around people she doesn't know, so I knew that no shenanigans would ensue.
13:52 I could cry for that bride. The fact that those parents did not get their kids under control is horrible. How nice of that photographer to be so kind and give her money off 🩷
At my sister's wedding, my son (flower boy) was taken home by grandma after 1st dance. She was tired & he needed to be taken to bed. OF COURSE we kept him under strict control. & his cuteness added to photos (he happened to be a very beautiful child. Not so much now, but he was then)
I absolutely could not contain the embarrassment I have for that one blonde girl in the blue dress trying to give her friend a speech... Yikes. So much secondhand embarrassment 😬
Sometimes people seem to forget that parenthood is a permanent, 24h thing. As a teacher, the amount of times I've heard things like "at school they're your problem" or similar is staggering. Parents can't just excuse themselves from their role just because they want to enjoy someone else's party.
@@sleepycat92 What's acceptable, though? Because even with a babysitter, if the child is misbehaving, the parents should definitely go help! In addition, some wedding have a child "entertainer" thing, but again, it's not child minding - for that the parents needed to have left the child precisely with a childminder.
I think you miss the point of what they’re saying. The kids legally have to be at school. The school is legally bound to provide safety and education for the kid. The school is legally bound to accomidate special needs to ensure safety and education. A lot of the times teachers are very quick to drop problems, that actually do have a fix/solution. Like allowing for movement breaks, allowing the kid to keep the books at their desk if their executive dysfunction makes it hard to get the correct books, having seats that work for low muscle tone (common trait in adhd), not having points taken off due to dysgraphia, having possibility to indoor recess... Etc. It IS the school that needs to accomidate the areas in a way that make it possible for the student to be safe, and get their education. (And even better if the areas in school also have clear recess activities one can easily join even if one have social difficulties. (Like laying puzzles, dance to music, card decks, drawing, caring for plants…)) I’m completley with the parents most of the time. It’s not their fault if the school continue to trigger students into meltdowns, when it’s often wellknow what triggers the meltdowns. The parent already avoid that at home, and it has nothing to do with ”getting used to it” when it comes to neurological development disorders.
Then they are literaly breaking the law and should be reported to whatever the school district is called. ”Skolinspektionen” is the name in my country. This mindset is literaly what makes parents burn out and having to go down in work time to support kids the school is unable to accomidate for. It’s illegal and sad. It’s not even that difficult to create a healthy enviorment. I’m so happy the school my kids go to understand this. Even tho she’s 2e with 4 different diagnosis, she’s still able to thrive. They even have three dogs that work at the school that brighten her day and keeps her concentration to be able to read for them. I wish all kids got positive vibes like this, instead of naysayers that create mental health problems for our youth.
I remember when that awkwardly racist video went viral. It's really bizarre. I have mixed children, and can confirm that there are white people who do this stuff all the time. It's really bizarre that they think it's okay, or that I somehow chose to have mixed children "because they're beautiful" as if that was somehow a part of the decision making when I chose my partner. Just... Ew 😬
I guess I'm an asshole, I'm not attracted to white men, at all. So I knew it I ever had kids they would be mixed. I also think mixed children are 100% cuter than white babies. I have 4 mixed children.
My God, some people are so cringey and cannot accept or be happy for someone just because they think all people are " racey" labbeled and think it is funny to try to hummiliate sb just bc they got issues with the colour of your skin. The skin colour should not matter. What matters is to say no! To such narrow minded people .
I’m 66. I’ve never been to a wedding with unruly kids. At My middle daughters wedding three years ago , the kids were adorable and well behaved. But then we, all of our families, are all pretty strict parents.
As a retired teacher, I feel so much sympathy for the teachers that will have those little hooligans in their classroom. I taught for 32 years and some of the more recent parents truly frightened me
Every wedding I've been to in 50 years has had children. No problems. It's only the parents nowadays that cause these problems to happen. If your child can't behave, don't bring them.
The problem is entitled parents don’t care and think their child isn’t a problem. So to avoid any problems all together just say no kids. Saves the headache
@@tasiahampton7857 I don't want kids at my wedding but if someone has kids, I won't stop them, if they're family. If it's family whom has kids, that's fine. If it's a friend and they have kids, no way.
Agreed! I had little ones at my wedding but it’s definitely on the parents for lack of discipline and we had a little toys for them.. (they were under 2) and needed entertainment.. so if they got fussy one of the parents would get up and walk them away from the group .. I have pictures of them in my wedding book.. they were adorable.. and I know kids will be kids but a lazy parent who thinks they can bring a child to a family function ( wedding or party etc ) and ignore them the whole time while they run amok is pure selfishness And as a parent myself now.. if I were to go to a wedding .. if I wanted to bring my little one i know I have to be prepared and if I just wanna go and have a good relaxing time I’ll make preparations to not bring them .. plain and simple
There were kids at my wedding. If the baby cried, mom took her outside. The two year old flower girl was very shy, so we let her stand by my brother, her father who was singing. She and the older flower girls, aged 5 and 6. Sat on the steps by the altar playing quietly together. It didn’t concern us a bit. They looked so pretty and happy that it made everyone happy! When my brother got up to sing his daughter toddled to his side and looked up at him with love. So many people said I had one of the most lovely weddings they’d ever seen. It wasn’t fancy, but the obvious love is what made it so great. We’ve been married for 30 years now and our own children attended many weddings both fancy and casual. They were always well behaved. Also there was never any problem with any of the kids at our reception. They played and danced together but didn’t cause a ruckus. I think you have to be careful, though about the ADULTS and parents you invite. They are the ones who can be trouble! A decent person won’t allow their children to cause harm at a special occasion. If a small child has a tantrum they’ll just remove them until they are calm.
My sister (the bride) was soooo mad that I left to take my infant home at 9pm. It was an hour and a half drive home minimum for everyone in attendance. I had been there since 8am to help set up, take photos, etc. while trying to fit in breastfeeding in between everything. As soon as the ceremony was over, I was told I'd have enough time to breastfeed before heading into the barn for the reception. I rushed to the bathroom to change my baby and feed him then headed to the barn. Everyone was already sitting and eating. I grabbed what was easy and close and sat down at the wedding party table. As soon as I took a single bite was told it was time to do my speech. I never had time to actually eat anything as I had to attend my baby again, and by the time i was able to search food out, everything was gone. I was exhausted and starving, and my baby was hungry because my supply was so low that day because I wasn't able to properly care for myself. I wish I had said no to being a part of the wedding party. She didn't speak to me for a couple of weeks because I left when I did.
I’m super ignorant about child-related things so this might be a dumb question but couldn’t you just pump and leave the kid with dad or a friend for the day? I’m not trying to be mean or offensive - like I said I have no knowledge about childcare but that seems like the proper solution in my mind. If I’m wrong I totally accept that.
@@cc1526 my daughter wouldn't take the bottle at all, it was breastfeed or nothing. Especially for first time mothers it's difficult to leave the baby behind. My husband and I were invited to a child-free wedding in Finland once (we live in Germany), and the bride couldn't understand why I wouldn't leave my then 3-month-old firstborn with my parents for a couple of days. I just couldn't imagine being apart from may baby for more than a couple of hours. We didn't go to that wedding btw.
@@cc1526 yes she very well could have, but then she wouldn’t get to be upset with her sister for stretching herself too thin. I work with babies who “don’t take bottles” every day and they do take a bottle once the smell of mom is gone. For really finicky babies mason bottle with a nice wide nipple which feels close to having their face against a breast as it has more surface area so more face contact.
I am a teacher and proud aunt, so i had a ton of kids at my wedding. We had board games and dancing, it was amazing. I definitely think it's all on the parents to control their kids
It sounds like you planned for kids and had kid friendly things to do! Makes a world of difference when things are set up so all can have fun. Sound like yall had a really great wedding !!
In our country at least in my province, there's a part of the wedding party,were all dance the Carioca carnival , everyone dance to fun uplifting music , do like what in USA would call a conga line, and the bride and groom gives to the guest hats of plastic, maracas, funny glasses, all kinds of stuff to dress up, whistles, noisemakers, and maybe some light cotillion , so the kids wait for this moment unless sleep has gained
My husband and I had kids at our wedding and everything went wonderfully. There was only about 7 kids total. I had made little coloring books, little packs of crayons for the kids when sitting at table when everyone is eating and later on when everyone could dance, I handed out glow sticks :) Kids had a blast running around and dancing. The biggest issue is when parents can't respect the bride & groom during their big day, don't let your kids run havoc on everything. That's incredibly rude.
I love that you had activities for them to do, which makes them feel included and most likely less likely to act up. Very smart. U can’t blame kids for beings kids! And wen they are bored they can be dangerous lol You did it right good job
My son's favorite part of weddings is the dancing. Whenever we are invited to one he always asks if there will be dancing. Once went to a wedding where the reception was a tad awkward because no one was partying, but my son and the flower girl started dancing together which warmed everyone else up. Ended up being one of the best ones.
My 5yo was the flower girl at my cousin's wedding. It was a great day and she did the same thing you did. She made little goodie bags for the kids. There were about 10 total, and they were all well behaved. It doesn't have to be a disaster if everyone is respectful.
I just binge all of your videos randomly, I can't help but listen to drama - it's so entertaining, and I can confidently confirm that your channel should be classed as educational. Being an introverted, anxiety induced, mental mess, I have learnt a lot about people and just social occasions in general. Thank you.
I hope the wedding photographer is going to court with the bride as a witness for her small claims case against that nightmare guest and her equally nightmares.
She should have made a ‘ruined wedding album’ which is made up of only pictures of the kids ruining everything. Send it to their parents and make a copy for the judge 😘
That last story was riveting. That one family completely destroyed a wedding, from start to finish... My heart goes out to the bride, and I really wished that someone else in the crowd, seeing the huge problem, could have stepped in on the bride and groom's behalf to at least salvage some sense of a happy memory. Just pray that their marriage is one of the keepers, despite this unholy fiasco. And yeah, sue these idiots for all damages.
I definitely would not be able to stop crying after the dress and the cake. I honestly don’t know if I could’ve avoided punting the little bugger. There are two things I love in life-food and clothes. Especially desserts and ball gowns. Someone would’ve had to intervene before I did.
The bride should not have to deal with that nonsense. Members of the wedding party know the couple well and should be authorized to deal with bad guests. I cant even imagine this escalating this far without someone telling them to leave.
I love kids. Ive worked with them in daycare, always babysit for friends and family. Im getting married in 3 months. 3 out of 10 people in the bridal party have young kids (1 of them is my godson). Some of our guests also have kids. We have decided to have a no kids wedding. I know these kids are nice but its my 1 bridezilla moment. Its MY DAY. I dont want to have to deal with kids😂
Having children at my wedding, led to one of the sweetest, funniest memories I have. After our ceremony, while opening wedding gifts, as my cousin Zack (5yrs) watched. A car filled with my bridesmaids and new husband went driving past, honking and hollering as they took off. (a tradition, the groomsmen stole me shortly after and we all met up at a local bar) As soon as Zack saw what was happening he looked at me and said in the most serious and concerned voice, “Don’t worry Superman will get him!” It was adorable and 42 years later the memory still makes me grin.
When my brother got married, the ring bearer and flower girl were brother and sister and the children of his best friend/groomsmen. They stood up there really well and behave themselves. It was near the end of the ceremony, which was not long, when the little girl leaned forward looks down her brother and said "I am bored are you?" It was really cute and everyone in the room had a very good chuckle.
In México, when I was a teenager, there was the wedding of a retired soldier. ( Silver wedding) Before the ceremony all tge parents that brought kids/teenagers with them were directed to the church's courtyard and asked to stand in formation; a Colonel then gave a Stern warning drill Sargent style for any and all who would be disrespectful during the celebrations (mass or party). The parents were warned to be watchful of their kids and the kids of their parents(so they did not get drunk.) Everyone got along BEAUTIFULLY in that wedding. 😎
The only wedding I’ve ever attended was when I was like one year old. Apparently during the super long Catholic service I was asleep, then at the reception I just ‘butt scooted’ around in a circle on the dance floor for like 2 hours. I did indeed take attention away from the bride and groom since apparently everyone found me hilarious and the best entertainment there. This is the kind of happy things kids can add to a wedding, but I feel like the risk is just too great to have a kid friendly wedding. (Ps me and my older brother were the only kids there. He slept for the service and then sat in a corner playing on a game boy color after the first 20 minutes of the reception)
Our eldest was married 6 years ago. She had kids at the wedding and it was wonder. Everyone commented on how fun was the reception. Our second born is marrying in a few months and she will also have children at the wedding. She did exclude one family’s children because they are hellions, but should anyone get out of hand hubby and I will immediately handle it! I don’t tolerate rude, disrespectful or destructive people no matter how small.
Oh that poor woman at the end. I would be mortified. I can't believe nobody had the balls to escort that lady and kid outside (and maybe quietly knock her out). 😱
If I were a guest at the kid monster- ruined wedding, I would have been roping and yelling at the kid. Yes, I yell at other people's kids when it calls for it. I grew up in a world when strangers would set kids straight when they were out of line-because it does take a community to raise a child.
Exactly.. being Nigerian I know damn well someone else would have straightened that kid and their Parents (yes! Here the adults will get a fair share since they can’t raise their child right) I’m wondering why no one said anything or sent them out and just let this go on forever
Yes I've had to do that at events and the mothers get so angry at me like look after your damn kids I don't care if I'm a lot younger than you, teach your kids manners
7:41 Maids of honour are legally allowed to attack anyone making the bride uncomfortable. tell the MOH she is legally able to tackle, punch, fight, and kick out anyone making the bride uncomfortable
Or throw wine on them. lol Honestly, I would definitely have a designated MOH to be the bouncer or "villainess" to put rude and inappropriate guests in their place.
Oh my goodness the last story. Reminds me when I was working for a catering company and while I was catering a wedding at this beautiful venue with elk and water features on the property, a wedding guest literally changed her baby right there on the table with white linens during the reception. It never ceases to amaze me what people do.
I was a teacher when I got married. Anyone who knows me will tell you my students were VERY important to me. I gave them love and affection like they were my own. So when it came to the invitations... I picked a select few I knew would behave themselves at the wedding. I didn't invite any child I wasn't close with their parents so I knew they wouldn't act up. My day was amazing (minus my wedding topper being broken by my MIL) and all my students got to play with me and take pictures. It was great.
I literally had my retired sheriff uncle be the peacekeeper at my wedding. It was up to him to make sure no one was disrespectful, too loud, or causing problems so my husband and I could enjoy my day. Everyone needs to have a designated no BS monitor at their wedding.
I did the same. Assigned a Master of Ceremonies at my wedding... such a good feeling knowing there is someone ready to make any "problem" go away. Highly recommended!
I invited my mother to my wedding to my late husband despite a long history of abuse. My friends went behind my back, and all agreed if my mom started anything, they'd give her the bum's rush and get her out as fast as possible. As it turned out my mother was fine and they didn't have to do anything, but I really appreciated their protection of me.
I've gone to three weddings now with my daughter (she was 3 months, 10 months and 18 months old. So like, tiny.) You just accept that if you're going to a wedding with your kid that you may have to miss out on stuff if your kid is crying or needs to get away. The wedding is not for you. It is for the bride and groom. Yeah it sucks that I missed part of the reception and had to leave early... But I chose to have kids and that's the kind of sacrifice you have to make. I also had at least a dozen kids at my wedding and none of them caused any issues. People just need to deal with the fact that kids require sacrifice.
I applaud you for this! 👏🏻 children are huge responsibilities and if leaving them with a babysitter is not an option, you have to make sacrifices. I wish more people had your mentality because man… I’ve come across some entitled parents who think the rest of the world are their personal babysitters when their kids are out in public 😐
The fact that parents somehow don’t know that parenting requires sacrifice by the time they are bringing them to these weddings… like, that’s in the definition of “parent”. 😂 There are so many ways to make this work, how are they not embarrassed as parents? (I’m not talking about the kid who starts bawling because they’re cranky and the parent has to take them out of the room-that’s life, the parent has nothing to be embarrassed about then.)
One of my bridesmaids brought her infant. She had to travel a long distance and her husband couldn’t get off work. My bridal party took turns carrying him and playing with him in the days beforehand, then my two janes-of-all-trades took charge of him during the ceremony. (The “janes” were unofficial bridesmaids that did my hair, makeup, ushering after the guys were in place, etc.) We had a dozen or so kids (family & friends’ kids) that all behaved perfectly during both ceremony and reception. There are so many cute photos of the kids with different adults-when the parents needed breaks, friends and family took over, it was fun.
I was single mom for most of my kids lives... I can tell you right now neither of my kids would have even thought to behave this way especially at a wedding. My oldest was 4 when my sis got married and she was being loved on by everyone and had a great time. The wait staff took her in the back and gave her a apron and let her go around with them taking orders lol it was great fun for everyone! My youngest is a handful to me and me only. He is very polite and well behaved when he is out in the world. So if all else fails I feel like I at least did one thing right lol. I could never and I hope that bride won her case and that mom had to pay everything plus court costs back
I find this to be common among my friends who have strong-willed children. You know you're doing good if other children and adults like your kid, even if they're a trial for you.
@@jennyanswer42 I just can't imagine just sitting there and watching my kids damage everything (they never would have) and not do anything about it. I would have had my kid by the scruff and walking out the first sign of anything funky. Embarassing and now everyone knows your child really is a crotch goblin 😈🤬🤣
My kids were not crotch goblins or high speed ankle biters in public thank God but you better believe if they had stepped out of line once they're narrow butts would have been out of there so fast I would apologize depending on how bad maybe an extra gift
@@jewels964 I know, right! I feel like these parents and the ones from the one from the other skit (What? You're not paying for third party babysitting while I party at your wedding?!?) Might be the same type of parents.
15:34 I did not have kids at my wedding. It caused a lot of drama but I stood firm and my wedding was a crazy party. No regrets!! We had “adult themed” balloon sculptures and the artist there taking requests!
My Mom was a florist and every week, she would make 2 - 3 very large, beautiful arrangements on wrought iron stands, for her church. Brides & grooms were told in advance that there would be flowers in the church, but for a small extra charge, they could choose the colour to match their wedding. This particular couple chose to do this & the flowers were arranged as requested. Now when I say ‘small fee’ it was exactly that, £10 for arrangements that would easily cost £25 - 30 each. At the end of the wedding, when almost everyone had left, my Mom went back into the church (she was in charge of security etc), to lock up, when the stragglers had left. However, she found, two women, struggling to carry 2 of the arrangements and stands, down the aisle. She asked what they were doing and they said that they ‘were taking the arrangements, that they’d paid for, to put them into the reception venue and then to give them as presents to the Bride and Groom’s Mothers!’ My Mom replied that they had only paid to choose the colour & the arrangements & stands belonged to the Church and most definitely not the Bride and Groom! One started to try to push passed my Mom, to no avail, while the other, started to cry and accuse my Mom, of stealing the flowers and destroying the wedding. Fortunately, at this point, the vicar hearing the commotion, came back into the church. He backed up, everything my Mom had said & told them that if they didn’t leave immediately, he would call the Police. At this, they started yelling ‘imagine how that will look, when we go to the newspapers & TV (this was before social media) & they make reports, showing how the Church & the Vicar, had ruined their wedding!’ My Mom replied ‘& how will it look, when we prove that you, have been caught stealing from the Church!!!’ At this they threw the arrangements to the ground, pretty much destroying them and stalked out !!! How they ever thought that they were going to get away with it, I’ve no idea 🤷♀️
Getting married in two days and had a big fight with my mother about not inviting the children of my cousin (kids 1 and 3). After speaking with the wife of my cousin and mother of the children she told me she already had a babysitter for 2 months so not to worry, it was my uncle and my mom who insisted. After watching this video I am glad with my decicion (english is not my first languages, so sorry for any spelling mistakes)
Bit late to the party but wanted to share a wholesome story with kids at a wedding. At my grandmas wedding my 7yo cousin (at the time) was the ring bearer. When he walked up to present the rings, his little brother (3) also walked up even though he wasnt supposed to. Then the youngest sister, the 2 year old flower girl also walked up with them. Everyone laughed because it was obviously unintended but little kids having silly misunderstandings can be cute.
I'm sorry, SOMEBODY at this wedding, friend, family, assassin, should have stepped up and handled this parent and rotten kids for them. Was everyone scared of her, who was she?...a mobsters wife?
Literally, this is the job of the bridesmaids and the maid of honour; they are supposed to make sure everything goes smoothly for the bride. My friend recently got married and I was one of the bridesmaids, if anyone pulled this shit at her wedding I would have throat punched them.
I literally was thinking the whole time how if I was the bride I probably would have ended up smacking the kid in the face. But if I was a guest I think I would have physically stood up and picked the kid up kicked and screaming. Someone's got to do it
A mate was getting married, his fiance''s cousin turned up with her b.f. she was wearing a bridle dress. His wife was upset as they had put something about only the bride wearing white (imagine having to tell people that?). My mate wanted the best man to sort it out but his wife to be was didn't want to cause truble. Best man has a word with me, No probs. I go over to say hello etc, "trip"on the dress and spill half a pint of red wine down her dress. She screamed blue murder at me (I think she may have had a medical background) and left. One of the very few weddings I enjoyed attending.
If a kid smeared chocolate on my wedding dress I would 100% deck that kid in the face, grab them by the ear and drag them to their parents no matter how old they were. I don't care if people call me a bridezilla or a bitch, discipline your kids so I don't have to
I had kids at my wedding. It was great! Seeing all the little cousins dancing and having fun together was delightful. My cousin's oldest talked my ear off (he was so cute!) and he was very respectful when I told him that we were going to go cut the cake now and we'd talk later. It's 100% because the parents are involved and responsible.
1st... You said DELULU !! ❤️ 2nd... Those parents are 💯 % to blame for allowing such horrible behavior by their crotch goblins. I'm so glad she sued. I'd have no problem telling them to leave.
That last one. I lost it when the crazy mom finally went up to get her son after the wedding cake and table fell on him. And she had the audacity to accuse the bride and groom of hurting her kid! No lady, he did this to himself because you wouldn't step up and stop him and his siblings the first time they acted up. I hope that bride gets not only the money for the damages, but also some for the embarrassment and emotional damage they suffered because of those little brats. I can remember being taken to a wedding when I was about 10 or 11. It was one of my mom's cousins kids, I had no idea who any of these people were. I was totally bored, but sat still, because that's what you do when your mom tells you to behave. At the reception I saw a lot of people filling up glasses out of what I thought was a fountain of lemonade. So I got a glass. Turns out it was a champagne fountain. I drank some it, thought it was sour and went to find my mom to tell her 'Don't drink the lemonade, it's sour." Luckily the cousin and the bride and groom thought it was funny. I was taken to the kitchen to get a soda and then one of the brides younger siblings took me out to the stable behind the house (they lived on a farm). I spent most of the rest of the reception petting the horses and ponies they had.
Just going to say that the problem wasn't the crotch goblins ... the problem was the adult goblins that brought them. The SECOND my kids misbehaved in public they were snatched up and we left. At a restaurant? Nope, we're leaving and I'll feed you PB & J at home. In the store? We're leaving and no you aren't getting a toy or snack. At the park? Nope, we're going home and you can play in the backyard by yourself. Having kids at a wedding is fine ... but asking them to leave if they misbehave is ALSO fine. That is what bridesmaids, groomsmen and ushers are for.
My brothers wedding: Some kid (probably 7 or 8 years old) knocked over the entire wedding cake before even the bride got to see it. My brother asked me to go get another cake… like where was I to find a wedding cake in under 20 minutes!? 😭 but per his request I left, I missed the whole ceremony and came back with a hideous tower of various flavors and colors of cake from a bakery. It got a good laugh but it was super sad because the original cake was so pretty. My wedding: I got married on the edge of the Grand Canyon, so being my worrisome self I made my wedding child free so I didn’t have some tot literally falling to their death on the day. When I told my family, my sister simply said “Well then I’m not coming”. I gave her a years notice and also offered to pay for a babysitter she just didn’t come. The rest of my family came even my brother from overseas, she couldn’t be bothered though 🤷🏼♀️ Having a child free wedding is so much more peaceful. I love kids but they sure can make things get chaotic really fast haha
Man if my grandmother was at that wedding, she would've given that kid such a whooping he wouldn't EVER think to misbehave like that again. Shame on the parents for not raising their hooligans properly!! Really makes me fuming, feel SO sorry for the bride. Glad she got them back!
Exactly! The facts that the parent blamed everyone else instead of themselves is terrible! I am traumatized. if i eve get married it is an Absolute N-O on kids at a wedding unless they are 12 and up lol
Yup! If I'd ever behaved like that I wouldn't have sat down for a week 😂 my great grandmother wouldve lost her sh1t, rest her soul. All it ever took was THE LOOK from my great grandmother in our direction and we were absolute Angels 😂
@@jackiekurtz6494 this, among many others, is why my fiance and I are eloping and why we are both childfree 😅 I absolutely adore my niblings, dont get me wrong, but only because I can give them back when they p1ss me off 😂
@@maddydavidsdottir9862 Niblings? I've NEVER heard them called THAT! But I absolutely ADORE IT! & What a PERFECT way to shorten it from nieces & nephews!
I definitely was thinking while listening to that story, where the heck are the grandparent's? Bc they'd have grabbed the kids & I'm not even meaning spanking but they'd have for SURE jerked a knot in the parents tails (their kids!) & Children always behave better for grandparents!
Miss Charlotte could not get far enough away from the racist toaster! I legit thought she was gonna fall out of her chair! “I’m not gonna be racist.” Proceeds to be racist. 🤦🏻♂️ Why do we have bridal parties if not for these reasons?!
People have forgotten the old traditional roles of the wedding parties. Example, ushers are not just for showing people to seats, they're also for showing people the door - it's called ushering the troublemakers away from the bride and groom. Also depending on who is doing the horrifying speech making, the bridesmaids or groomsmen surround the offending speaker, remove the microphone, and walk the person away in the middle of the group, after giving the microphone to someone with some sense
@@erikarussell1142 I have family that would either a) handle it before it even came to my attention or b) make them wish it hadn’t come to my attention. Either way; you’re right. I could watch other people’s drama all day! (Provided they are being reacted to by Miss Charlotte, of course! Otherwise, why bother?)
I had to put it on 2x speed to get through it. Can't imagine surviving it irl. Even the kid in the front made a face like "someone come get this lady" 😬
2:26 Yeah that's part of the reason why, but I'm gonna use my 10 years older sister's wedding as an example for why it's not always the case. I was 11 or 12 when she had her wedding and I took a video of the cake cutting that I somewhat recently refound and showed to my older sister. According to her my angle was basically the same as the photographer they highered and she really liked my video of it. You could hear her friends being funny, she liked the that I got a good shot of the back of her dress and might've even had the actual cutting better then the photographer. Their anniversary is comming up again in June and I plan to wish her a happy anniversary and send her it. Also sometimes the adults are a WAAAYY bigger hazard than the kids, like one of my older sister's friends set my little sister's dress of fire and burned it some by accident. We're lucky it was a poofy dress or else my sister could've caught on fire herself and not just the dress. The person that put her on fire was also the one to put her out, using just her bare hands mind you, so everything worked out but still...
My wife is in child care and wanted to have a bunch of kids in our wedding party (flower girls and what not). We had tons of kids at our wedding reception. All of them were perfectly behaved. Their ages ranged from 4-11 (we had 12 kids total walk the isle). Not a single issue with any of them. Good parenting and setting expectations help kids know their boundaries. Some people should spare mankind and not breed.
I was once at a wedding reception where a boy, about 3 or 4, sneezed green snot all over his hands (it was DRIPPING), then promptly ran up to the cake and stuck two green snot covered fingers all the way in it to the last knuckles. One of the bridesmaids started screaming at the mother, who was just letting him run wild. Nobody would eat the cake, it wasn't a cheap-looking one either.
Regarding the first story. Ladies! Call the man out EVERY time. The gross ones keep being creepers, or worse, because they keep getting away with it. The embarrassment you think you might feel ONLY goes to the gross creeper. Everyone will be on your side. ❤️
Or, in as loud a voice as you can, say, "I am NOT an escort! I don't care how much you are willing to pay me!" If nothing else, that should give him pause.
@@who__cares__ No. We don't victim blame here. Even if she agreed to shake his hand 50 times, his behavior is HIS. And thats where the blame and accountability should go.
@@who__cares__ let’s not blame her, she was the victim of grotesque behavior, and not at fault. Also he had only been weird prior to the second handshake and she was the wedding planner so it’s a complex position to be in.
You were being nice the first touch - when he touched you or came closer the second time,that’s when you Must say something firm low voice. He didn’t get resistance so he thought he was cute and forged on much to your dismay. Sadly You we’re the one just trying to be nice, sorry you had to put up with this.
I'm a teacher and when I got married, I invited my 2nd grade class. I believe 26 students back then? And of course, all the cousins, neighbors and so on. I even stumbled across an unknown mystery child that I had never met before (turned out to be a foster child who was new in her foster home). My husband and I arranged a bouncing castle, a face painter and some coloring books. A recipe for disaster you might think. Not in this case. They were on their best behaviour! They had a blast and I have amazing memories of that day. Last schoolyear, that class went to highschool and I was welling up during their ceremony a couple of times...
Photographed a wedding a few years ago that probably had around a 100+ young kids in attendance. The bride was a preschool teacher and had been for years. She invited all the students in her AM and PM classes along with any siblings. These kids were so well behaved throughout the ceremony as they were so excited to see their teacher get married! I was honestly impressed as when she first told us I thought it was going to be a disaster! She apparently had also discussed in her class ahead of time how to behave at a wedding too. That wedding was definitely an exception though...
That is awesome! Super impressive, the way she clearly expressed expectations to the kids and their parents-I’m imagining there was a field trip type of packet to answer any questions and special activities for the kids at the reception.
This is such a nice little story to hear!!! This also just further proves that kids just need to be taught and have the right guidance for them to be able to participate in big events. Weddings are great life experiences for them, when things go well. I remember going to my cousin's wedding when I was very small, and I know I didn't do anything to make a fuss. People loved seeing me try to be a social butterfly on the dance floor, and if someone directed me away, I always went willingly. My mother had taught me manners from the very start, and I was always so proud to show them off in public to prove I was a good girl.
This is how you know she is a good teacher!
that's also be a social lesson for the kids and pretty much valuable life skill to learn.
That is amazing!
The reason no one wants kids at weddings anymore isn't so much that kids misbehave it's because the parents don't act like parents and make them behave. A chaplain at a church I went to said at the beginning of the service " Crying, screaming children, like all good intentions, should be carried out immediately!""
That Chaplin knows what's what!
Plus the costs for a wedding is so ridiculously expensive. 👰
@@darlamartin8486 Agreed, that's why I only had my nephews as invited children at my wedding. I didn't think it was right to not invite some friends/coworkers that are important to us (which takes up two seats each) so that other friends, who are just as important to us, could bring their kids (4-5 seats each). We got married at 35 and I'm a teacher so we have a lot of friends that already had kids! So each guest got a plus 1 and they could choose to bring one of their kids if they wanted to. My bridesmaid and a guest each brought their daughter. All good with me!
I don't have a problem with kids either way, but I have a problem with certain guests costing twice as much, or more. All the kids were well behaved and the ones who got a sitter or relative to watch theirs said they were happy to have a date night with an open bar and free food and dessert and dancing. 😁
That's the truth.
I don't know why some people still get mad when others say the don't want children, like their kids aren't all over the groom and bride, all over the place screaming crying, fighting, throwing food, getting in photo shots, video shots, etc, they don't parent their kids, not even bother to intervene with their childs bad behavior and still do an absolute fuss when they're told that, now we know who's the real child here, they need to learn to respect the decision of other (weather their reason of having no kids at their wedding is liked or not, it's theirs to say, not yours), and may say "well if my kid isn't wanted, than so am I, I'm not going", then don't go, I'll be glad that you didn't with that mind set, yall need to stop being so selfish and stop just thinking about your feelings and it's making you feel like, instead of thinking what it's going to make the people who invited you, where you're going to as a guest, where you were chosen to go because they want you there, and then turn them out becuse of a tantrum a 3 year-old would do, next time think in all the others, not just you
I was just at a small wedding where the only child was a 2yo who was flower girl. She showed all of us up by being so well behaved throughout the ceremony, the meal and the reception. She sat quietly, got a beautiful dolly for doing such a good job and played with it for the rest of the night. She also sat and ate her meal without making a mess. I did not know 2yo could be so well behaved but her mother clearly does an incredible job.
My 2 year old niece was the flower girl for my SIL's wedding. She did a great job walking down the aisle but kinda forgot to throw the petals. So she marched down the aisle, basket in hand, not throwing a petal. Her Dad ran after her and threw the petals behind her and she suddenly realized she could throw the petals as we had practiced... at the end on the aisle 😂
She was amazing
It’s when you are doing things like these with kids so young I fully recommend training your children like dogs. Sounds bad but kids are literally geared to being trained with positive reinforcement and overall is one of the single best ways through pretty much all neurodivergence (kids with adhd it’s pretty much impossible to punish them) to teach your kid. You just make it more obvious in this case with bribery, give the kid some chocolate every time they make it down the isle.
@@addyshorhnr3544This one works with home works too. Tried on the youngest sibling. Full success. Now they look forward to study with me
An oft repeated family tale is about my aunt's lovely wedding, where I was the three year old Flower Girl--I threw a tantrum because I wanted to be the only "Princess" walking up the aisle. I loudly announced to my grandmother as we stood up there "I have to go peepee!". And the kind Priest stopped the entire ceremony until we got back. I then livened up the reception seriously choking on a piece of gristle on the steak. While the family panicked, my uncle's new girlfriend who was a nurse turned me right over and hit my back and it popped out. He married her that year. I was **not** their flower girl. Lol.
I was in my auntie’s wedding when I was 2 and I was the flower girl I had to walk down with my cousin and sister afterwards and I was crying with the flower petals
I attended a wedding where someone's kid inserted themselves into the first dance. To my horror the parents didn't pull the kid away, they laughed and filmed encouraging the kid to continue. Main character by proxy. Thankfully the videographer skillfully got between the kid and the couple whilst filming and with his body maneuvered the kid back to the circle of guests. The parents glared at him with disgust and I wanted to applaud him. Now that I think about it he did it so smoothly that I'm afraid this wasn't the first time he had to intervene 😬
That’s when the parents and the kid get escorted out of the reception. If you can’t be respectful, then you don’t belong there.
This seems to be an Arab wedding. And that is par for the course. The bride doesn’t really walk around. But sits in a throne. And kids are encouraged to dance and take space. She was the only one. There were three kids there. Still side eye worthy since the bride was standing up. But not as egregious as if it was in a western wedding.
@@hajarmdn4883 which wedding do u mean? Bc OP's comment gave me the impression they saw that at a western wedding, as well as the last story with the terrible kids. But I could def be confused.
We need to normalize a LOUD, shocked “What are you doing?” when someone touches us without permission.
@@peachesandpoets yes, exactly! And no, being “nice” doesn’t include the right to grope. It’s exactly the opposite.
THIS EXACTLY!!!!
Or maybe not shake a person's hand a second time when they already made you uncomfortable???
@@who__cares__ Again...no. we don't victim blame here. You have no idea why she felt compelled to do that. And it doesn't matter. Its HIS behavior that is the problem here. Period.
I've seen you comment this at least twice now. Why are you so against holding him accountable for his actions? I think you may have some personal things to delve into on this. Maybe you need to hear this: If someone hurt you, then you're not at fault. Even if your own behavior put you in a more likely situation for it to occur. Still not your fault.
It's what I do already. I'll say it louder, though. Let's do it.
Of all the women who have worn a white dress to someone else's wedding, that cousin's dress is the brideiest bridal gown I have ever seen. The audacity!!!
Its a beautiful dress though. I can't imagine why she thinks it's okay to troll her family members this way.
Just a glass 🍷 and problem is solved.
Right!!! My cousin wore a white dress to my wedding, but it was just a simple summer dress. I never even noticed until someone else pointed it out later... but if someone had worn a bridal style dress, it would've been on lmao 🤣
Thing is if she does show up in that she will just make herself look like a crazy bitch. All the other guests will be looking at her and talking about her but not in a good way.
When my ex best friend told me she dressed in the sluttiest white dress she could find, just to show up at her brother's wedding, I felt disgusted with her. It was no wonder the brother never wanted to talk to the sisters, ever. That was the last time they talked. Ratchet.
Certain cultures have a designated person in the bridal party to be “the bad guy” so the bride doesn’t have to. And no one is allowed to hold it against them. I love this
I think that we should do that in all cultures! It’s like the bridesmaid that’s willing to dump wine on the mother-in-law’s white dress
@@tealablu3759 You gift your bridesmaid enforcer the largest super soaker possible and box of red wine.
My sister is our designated bad guy. She appointed herself ;W;
Yes, we actually have this in my country, it's pretty common, you basically hire someone to yell at kids if they misbehave and make sure that they won't be running around and will be seated during the whole thing, this person will also make sure that none of the guests are taking any pictures of the bride without permission or doing anything that they shouldn't be doing.
Had someone like this for my wedding just in case something happened in general! Best decision I ever made!
I photographed weddings for 11 years, and I've seen some kids that were wild and disruptive, but like 90% of the time I've seen kids at weddings they've been completely chill and didn't cause any issues. The difference is 100% with the parents--I've seen some parents who simply don't understand the concept of teaching their kids to respect others.
I was going to say the same thing.
I went to my mom's brother's wedding as a 4-year-old. I cried because I was tired but wanted to stay, so my dad took me outside to get some fresh air and calm down. He and my mom did that a couple times during the party. I came back with a genuine smile and made it to the end of the party/reception. The groom or bride never had to deal with my 4yo stupid stuff because my parents were, well... parenting.
So your uncle's wedding?
My bestie invited my family to her wedding, our 2 year old and 4 year old had a few moments but my husband did exactly as your dad did and it was GREAT. Bride was absolutely happy we there and it was our first time attending a wedding as a family
When I was 4 I went to my cousins wedding I was suprising quite and good just playing with my flowers and tool on my dress. Until the reception where I saw for the first time in my life a chocolate fountain... I got it and strawberries all down my dress that I was suppose to wear on Easter Sunday in a week or so.
I was in a wedding when I was about 6/7 and I was a total brat
When I was 7 I was a flower girl in my brothers wedding 13 years ago it was all good and fun everybody had a blast I didn’t misbehave I genuinely had a good time but half the time I was sitting at our table sleeping because my feet was killing me I have eczema since I was born it attacks my feet and hands and it hurts if I stand or walk for too long so I was just sleeping and I slept again on the sidewalk when they left for their honeymoon but nobody said anything they didn’t make me dance or do anything they wasn’t embarrassed because his sister wasn’t dancing they was just concerned and let me be they didn’t say anything to my mom and dad they didn’t take me out outside or anything like I wasn’t causing a scene I did end up wearing that dress for Halloween when I dressed up as a princess and my dad was carrying me the whole time because my feet was hurting moral of the story I wasn’t a brat and wasn’t ruining my brothers wedding
My sister had kids at her wedding, and she encouraged them to be themselves because she wanted them to enjoy her day too. Nothing bad happened because none of us raised monsters. Grandparents, Parents, Aunts and Uncles took turns calming them down or removing them if they got upset and my sister has loads of cute pictures of her nieces and nephews dancing, chasing each other on the dance floor or hiding behind skirts. Some of the best pictures had the kids in them. The problem is never the kids it's when no one is willing to take responsibility for the kids.
We never know how the kids are raised.
The problem can absolutely be the kids but it's because their parents either aren't raising them or they have no boundaries or discipline and let them do whatever they want, which only churns out little monsters that no one wants to deal with. So, yes, the problem can be the kids but the root cause is nearly always the parent(s).
If they are acting up you as a parent need to parent your child. We always had kids at our weddings and ours danced and had a great time. The only wedding we were all on major munchkin duty was my cousins when we were letting several under 3 year olds run around on the patio and the couple decided to do their first dance out their instead we all kept on alert so no kids ran through their first dance. Even though the couple said it’d be fine.
Old lady who went to a few weddings as a child, I wouldn’t be writing this if I EVER behaved like this. My parents were loving and good and we just behaved well. This is ridiculous!
@@lcoq19 How the hell can the parents sit there watching this go on? Unreal. I am not a sue happy person, but I hope the bride wins in small claims court.
I was a professional wedding and funeral attendant for a few years. My job was to dance with awkward people, defuse situations and move rude aunties away from the bride and dump wine on anyone in white. At funerals I changed the subjects, got tissues, called Uber for the drunk or distraught and interrupted speeches. People say disgusting things at funerals.
wow, I have never knew such profession existing but it makes so much sense actually
Woooow!! I think I would enjoy doing that! 😂😂😂😂
thank you for your work. im so glad that there's been a funeral attendant at every funeral i have been too. sadly there's been a lot for someone not in a funeral or clerical profession. you and others are amazing to do this for families.
Bless you. We all need people with your talents.
Please tell me how do I go about starting such a profession and how much can I charge
If you didn't prepare for a speech, just say "love you, wish a great marriage, please count on me. Wish you love". OMG, WHY NO ONE STOPPED HER.
I couldn't understand what she was saying. Can you translate for me?
I don't think she was a close friend or anything. I got the impression that they knew each other from work or something and she randomly decided to give a speech.
She thinks she’s Amy Schumer😂😂
I'm in my mid-thirties right now, I've been online since I was about 9 years old... To this day, that is one of a very small handful of videos I cannot watch all the way through.
@@bekkes7923omg! Literally couldn’t😂 same!
My daughter is getting married and she is letting people bring children. In the invitation we put a note "Children are welcome but they are your responsibility."
Your daughter should also include ‘Children are not permitted to yell and runaway during the ceremony’
@@FernRoses Thanks for the suggestion
It's sad that you have to spell out that parents will need to be responsible for their children while in public. Good luck, and I hope you have a beautiful wedding!! ❤
@@lisamelroy2855 I know but some parents feel their children can do no wrong. We are inviting great people & their children are usual well behaved but with water feature at the venue we thought better safe than sorry. Plus there is a surprise reward for the kids if the behave. Thank you for the well wishes
My kids have been to many, many weddings but god help them if they misbehaved! The closest Auntie or uncle would have dealt with them immediately and then dragged them back to one of their parents for a second dose…. I’ve only been to one wedding where the kids were out of control and no one stepped in…. The goblins went to all the outlying tables to shake and spray 2 L bottles of soda pop all over the back of the room. The parents were obviously at fault and should have been keeping the kids controlled but I don’t know why the catering staff left full bottles of pop on empty tables for hours…. Tempting crazed monkeys hopped up on sugar with mischief ammunition doesn’t seem like a smart idea..
Fact: anyone who tries to “attack” the bride, or anyone making the bride uncomfortable, the maid of honor is LEGALLY allowed to tackle them
If I’am ever a maid of honor I’m so doing this
Someone:*making the bride uncomfortable*
Also them:”why’s doom music playing”
The brides maid:”cuz I’m the final boss” *football tackle dramatically*
If its a dear friend to me, Id be willing to go to jail for jumping a b-word. But Id try pouring wine down her cleavage first. Id have red wine in my purse and either a bottle bbq sauce (squeezy bottle for ease VERY IMPORTANT)/chocolate sauce for the mens butts and red wine for the women. Humiliation is ALWAYS the most effective. Even MORE than violence. None of them want to walk around looking like they (bleeped!) themselves, you know??? haha... (but it needs to be bottles/containers that release the fluid "easilly")
I'm the officiant. The bride (a good friend of mine)'s mother is a piece of s*** who I am almost certain will try to make the day about her, and her little brother (15) has autism and was unsupported and is so screwed up because of mom as well. I am a 5'10" woman with the strength to definitely tackle and haul their a**es out of there. It's gonna be fun.
"By the power vested in me from the State of Washington ULC, b****es." 😂😂😂
@@OmniOrchid😂
I don't think I've ever been in a child free wedding, and never saw anything like that happen. I once had a 3yo cousin stop the bride for a second because she wanted a hug from the princess, but it was actually really cute and didn't made anyone upset.
That is just precious. That would have been an absolute highlight for me. I hope the photographer got a good shot of that!
I think that little girl might have stolen a sip of some unattended wine 😂
We had one kid at our wedding that kept asking to "dance with the princess" it was absolutely adorable! I think I danced with that little girl more than my own husband that evening. Lol
in my culture (the same as the second video) there is no such thing as outshining the bride. We all have to be dressed like we're going to the met gala and dancing where the bride is standing (just like that girl) is normal. Most times it's the bride herself that gets the kids to dance with her or next to her. So altough i understand the outrage white tiktok was having regarding the girl, I do believe that people should get educated before commenting because this whole reaction on tiktok just goes along with the idea that wetern norms are the standard when they are not and that's just ignorance.
@@abba9092 "Get educated" lol. I mean I agree that each culture is different, but some things are universal. The bride attitude was screaming "not happy". The non smiling face, the whispering, the multiple glances toward the little girl and finally her departing are very telling.
BAD KIDS ARE A REFLECTION OF BAD PARENTING!!!
I've never been to a wedding were there wasn't children present... never has it been an issue.
Ive attended receptions where its been listed, no children allowed, but this is crazy....the wedding coordinator should've told the family to leave.
This!!!!!!! Hearts 💕 💯
@@B.Harper7 to be that bride and groom.....you plan your whole life for that moment.....
Same! I have only been to one wedding where there were no children. Every other wedding, at least a dozen kids present, and never a serious issue.
I can only assume its bad parenting to let you kids go feral and do nothing. If one of my kids behaved badly or had a melt down i would probably leave.
Fair to say weddings and big events in general can be overwhelming to little people and staying over long isn’t fair to them. Get a babysitter or go home early.
There was an update for the last story! The parents countersued the bride for medical care the kid supposedly required because the cake fell on him. The entitled family is being ostracized by everyone who was at the wedding and the bride has received emails and calls from the crazy parents demanding they drop the suit while badmouthing them on social media. I don't know if there's been another update but I can't help but hope the newlyweds get everything they're owed and more.
I hope the photographer prepared a set of ‘evidence’ photos for them!
That's b.s. it's 100% on the lousy parents who didn't do jacksh*t to watch their kids!!!!
I really really hope it’s recorded in small claims court. Next up on Court Cam: The awful mother of crotch goblins is being sued for rampant destruction of property 🤣
I don't know if you can call witnesses, but I sure would!
The parents of the crotch goblins need to be sterilized immediately
This is why we write down our speeches.
That being said, my cousin almost had everyone fall out of their chairs when she mentioned her sister's first love and said the groom could never replace him. We all thought she meant cousin bride's first bf. Nope. MoH cousin pulled out the stuffed monkey which was bride cousin's favorite toy that went everywhere. Told the groom that he still hasn't broken up with the bride and if the groom ever did anything, she would tell the monkey. Ultimately what we thought was going to be a shocking speech turned very sweet and only something a sister could do.
You had me in the first half, not gonna lie.
The first love 😹💖🙈 adorable
Omfg 🙀 😅
I recently attended a wedding with my 4 year old little cousin. She was so well behaved and never cause a ruckus. She even took pictures with the groom and bride during the reception and they love her. The bride and groom were so beautiful and my little cousin was so well behaved and sat through the whole thing. There is no excuse for children acting like that with the parents right there.
my son is 5 & autistic and he was a complete angel at the first wedding he ever attended 😇 it’s definitely the parents in 99% of cases!
that's why i have a no kids under 4 rule for my wedding...because my nephew is VERY MUCH like the mom in the last story. he let his 2 year old just run around doing fuck all in a restaurant and NO ONE, not him, not his wife, not his parents who were with us because it was my brother's, his dad, birthday dinner. everyone even tried to justify "they're both tired after working and "rachel's" pregnant." idgaf if thats why, its inexcusable behavior and shows they enable a LOT of bad behaviors and i will not have a crotch goblin running uncontrolled or a baby screaming the entire time once they have their second. Kids will be kids and 4 and up should know when it is time to sit and listen and when to play by that point so only 4 and up for mine
Being autistic doesnt make someone to a jerk. More often WE autistic people dont wanna bother anyone , because than WE dont get bothered too😂😂
A colleague of mine was really annoying me at work today and was demanding I do all kind of (boring) tasks that he is responsible for, but doesn't feel like doing. While he was continuing with his rant and demands, I all of a sudden heard Charlotte in my head "Aaaaabsolutely NOT!!" 😂😂 I started laughing and left my colleague very confused 🙈😂
ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!
What a legend 😂
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this is now a daily occurrence for me lol
It is a wonder how Charlotte can change our life for a better ❤
My daughter was a flower girl when she was 11 months old. She did amazingly well but I could tell she was getting fidgety during the ceremony so I took her outside to play in the grounds of the Abbey. After that she was fine. With the permission of the bride and groom we took a travel cot to the reception which she sat in playing with her toys and eventually sleeping. She had an incredible time and so did we. Parents need to take responsibility for their kids!
My cousin was MOH in her sister's wedding, and her toddler was the flower girl. She did well getting down the aisle and her dad was sitting at the end of the second row so he could grab her. But she wanted mommy to pick her up so my cousin ended up holding her at the altar during the ceremony. She wasn't crying or anything, though, so it was cute. (That toddler is now married with two little ones of her own.)
my cousin and I were flower girls at 4 & 5 years old, we both freaked out and didn't walk down the aisle and went to hide in the bathroom idk why. My aunt and uncle STILL won't let us forget. They thought it ruined the wedding at the time but it's been 20 years and now they laugh 💀
Sadly, the majority of parents aren’t that responsible. 😮
@@mishaa7263 My friend's ring bearer was about 3 and as soon as he saw all the people he balked. His dad was trying to encourage him to go with his sister (she was the flower girl, and a couple years older), and she was beckoning him to come with her, but he wouldn't do it. They anticipated this possibility, though, and the best man actually had the rings. No one thought it ruined anything. You have to be prepared for some unpredictability if you're going to have such little kids in your wedding party.
Went to a wedding that was supposed to be no kids. Parents brought their kid anyway. He spent the ceremony quiet, but at the reception everyone walked in from cocktail hour to find the kid alone in the dining room going elbow deep in the buffet trays eating directly out of them and double dipping EVERYTHING. Caterers had to toss five trays of food. When the caterers were trying to get the unattended child away from the table, he kicked and spit at them.
Parents show up FIFTEEN minutes later asking why the kid was upset.
That's horrendous behaviour! The fact that a child was unattended for so long too 😮
I hope they were told to take their crotch goblin and go home. Those "parents" should've been made to pay for the wasted food their child ruined.
i've been the bestman @ 3 weddings. i told all the other groomsmen, we are security. it is LITERALLY the original job of groomsmen! i posted 1 at each door & told them who wasn't supposed to be there & stop them then come get me. i pissed off 2 ex's and 1 family. but the bride & grooms were both quite pleased.
Greatest. Best. Man. Ever.
@@pamhuffman4529 thank you! i took that shit seriously! it's my best-friend's day and i'll be damned if i'm gonna let some a-hole ruin it!
@@estibon3872 Thank you for help to make your friends wedding day a happy one☺️Talk about taking one for the team😃‼️‼️‼️
Super cool of U and ur boys!
@@mariecolette170 thankfully there was only 1 instance out of the four weddings i was in. but it was the instance that made me think for the other three!
There was a time I was at the hospital for an appointment, and I asked if I could bring my daughter in with me. She told me “she can, as long as she doesn’t run around and cause any trouble.”
I replied with a laugh, “I hope not, she’s 24.”
I guess kids causing trouble in this hospital had been a regular thing.
I also felt flattered, that she thought I looked too young to have an adult child. 😊
“I hope not, she’s 24.”
I read this 5 mins ago, and I'm STILL laughing.
I worked at a hospital for 46 years doing x-rays and mammograms. You’d be amazed at the number of people who bring small children with them to their appointments and seem shocked that we didn’t have child care! And surprised that the child can’t come in the room-duh, radiation!!
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@@Ariesgirl8403 My daughter is now 34, and we are still laughing about it. 😂
@@brendafrazier811 it is amazing that people are surprised by that.
I invited as many family members, littles included, to my wedding. Only one family brought their four-year-old daughter. She was adorable! Got "she's a princess!" On my video from her when I walked down the aisle, and a "they lived happily ever after" when we kissed. During the reception, she even sang a song on the microphone. I love the idea of having kids at weddings, but I absolutely believe the parents are the ones who can ruin that for everyone, including their kids.
I think I just died from the cute. Omg how adorable!
How special is that?! 🥰🥺👌
That is so dang cute, I’m dying 🥰
omg thats so sweet, her parents definitely are raising her right, congrats!!!
I at first didn’t want children at my wedding, but my 1.5 year old nephew is literally the only child on either side so we decided to allow him to come. He was not happy for a good portion of the day since he isn’t used to so much attention, but the grandparents handled any issues right away! And now we have pictures of him in the family photos and some adorable ones of him from the reception, so I’m really glad I changed my mind 😊
So I remember being a kid at weddings and absolutely being bored out of my mind. So I knew we’d have kids at our wedding and decided to create something fun for the kids to do and it was a hit. We set up a kids craft table with those little wooden bird houses for them to decorate. I bought stick on decorations and paint crayons and bought kid aprons. I told my planner that I wanted her to make sure that the kids knew that this was for them so that they could have fun and she did. The result was amazing. And I almost bawled when the kids gave my husband and I some of their decorated projects as wedding presents. We also made time to dance with each of the kiddos and our photographers got some of my favorite pics of us with our godchildren ❤
That's awesome! I have trauma from a wedding when I was 6 that I was in. I hate weddings and never go to them. You however message this seem like the perfect wedding to have kids at! 💜💜💜💜
That's an awesome thing to do, I also remember being bored when i was a kid and attended a wedding
Oh that's a brilliant idea! I might have to steal that!
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I've only ever been to one wedding where kids were there. Both kids were under a year (they were the flower girl & ring bearer, they came down the aisle in a wagon!! So CUTE!) & they were ANGELS!! No crying fits, no screaming, nothing. They were so well behaved throughout the ceremony AND reception.
Every time I’ve gone to a wedding there’s been small kids and they are always well behaved. You barely notice them being there.
I only went to church weddings growing up and hardly anyone watched their kids. Random people had to keep them away from the cake and photographer.
I don't understand how the parents would just check out and forget they had kids. And there was never alcohol so who knows where their brains were.
The story of the guest expecting a provided babysitter made me think of our daughter's wedding. Due to nursing mothers, etc. we did offer a babysitter option. Some friends, who are both nurses, were raising money for a foreign medical charity trip. We set them up in a large room off the reception hall stocked with food, toys, games, plus a rocking chair. We told the parents that used the room, they could give a donation toward the trip. People were very generous, even guests without kids who were happy to have the babies/kids close by, but not continually there. It was win-win.
I've had a friend who was very involved in her church & a church member offered their land (which was BEAUTIFUL w\a quaint little pond almost like a little fairy village) for my BFFs wedding. BUT they said NO kids due to them being hurt or damaging property. Which everyone understood. So the church stepped in again & opened it's doors & nursery for anybody w\kids who needed. & They found ppl to work said nursery. &It all worked out fine. BUT not everyone can do something like that which is understandable. & I think in the story you're discussing, her kids wld've been the only kids really. & Therefore it's NEVER on the Bride & Groom to provide daycare for kids that aren't theirs. They even invited the kids. The parents just didn't want to watch their own kids at a wedding. Again it's cool & neat if they can have a kids room etc. But it's not always possible. & No parent should expect an already stressed out bride & groom to provide childcare for guests who just don't want to watch their own kids for a wedding.
Great idea.
RE-read my comment & realize it came off as if I was scolding you or saying you were agreeing w\the lady. & I apologize bc that's not how I meant it. & I meant no snark!
Love this!! 💕
@@Amber-yq9ee sounds like a great church that helped out 😊
At my wedding I had 2 kids under 6 and 2 teenagers. It was a small wedding so no specific accommodations were made for them but they were well behaved and didn't need iPads. They danced and played with the balloons, the venue was in the countryside so they ran outside, picked flowers, they gave me a cute bouquet of wild flowers 🥺 and they struck conversations with the adult guests.
I had a very small wedding reception so there were only about 4 kids under 10, they all knew each other so started getting progressively louder and more energetic the longer they were around each other. After about an hour seeing the energy level get up too high I grabbed the goodie bags I’d prepared and had all the kids come over and said, “I’ve got these gift bags for you but if you want them you have to promise that you’ll all be mindful of the other guests here and not be screaming and running around, can you do that?”. They all agreed and got their bags that had some little toys, activities and foam wearables, they loved it and were totally preoccupied and well behaved the rest of the night. For something super small scale it worked like a charm.
Omfg that story about the kids absolutely destroying that wedding got me so heated....i would've thrown them all out before the ceremony even started, whyyyy did they not have someone kick them out before it got to the point of destroying not only the wedding dress, but the cake too?? I feel so bad for that couple. If my son had ever done something like that when he was younger, he'd only be allowed to leave his (empty) room to use the bathroom. I'm beyond grateful to have a well behaved kid after hearing that story 😂
The “crotch goblins” story is the reason I don’t hate the kids, I hate the parents. Kids are naturally explorative and mischievous. Parents are the ones who need to step in and teach when things are and aren’t appropriate.
I'm eternally grateful that my parents taught me and my siblings how to behave around other people, whether it be a wedding, going to the grocery store, meeting handicapped people or just generally being in public.
You must follow Mamaccuses :)
Agreed! I think if you are a bad parent, you are not getting invited sorry not sorry.
I absolutely agree.
Exaaaaactly!!
Kicking somebody out of a wedding for inappropriate dress or behavior is the responsibility of the maid of honor and the best man.
Maid of Honor and Best Man titles will always be up there with the Royal Guard as far as I'm concerned.
Every wedding I’ve been to that allowed kids, they were well behaved. There was one time where a 1 yr old was tired & fussy but the mom took the baby out of the reception area right away to rock her baby to sleep & there was no disturbance at all to the wedding. If kids are at a wedding, it is the PARENT’S responsibility to keep the kids in check-no one else’s.
My parents had 5 kids, they took us to weddings, adult's meetings and bday parties. There were no phones, tablets or kids' zones. We just behave and find ways to have fun that didn't interrupted the adults'moments.
Yep.. same with us.
And we played with the other kids.. looked after the smaller ones.. we didn't scream or yell.. didn't nag..
We asked nicely if we could go play outside or upstairs .
And we only disturbed the adults if one of us fell on a knee or something 😊
Aaah...good times ❤
I have this vivid memory of going to a wedding when I was 9 or 10 (I'm 30) and AFTER the ceremony us kids were instructed to behave ourselves and don't knock over anything. Since the reception was informal and also immediately after the ceremony and outside, we laid effing Labrynth (I can't spell it I'm so sorry) and pretending the arches and gates and facades were a maze. Weird awesome memory I've always had.
Btw. Never played with those kids again because we weren't THAT close or anything 🤷♀️
Yesss same
Same! The older ones (me and some cousins) would look after the younger ones
Due to those parents horrible parenting of the crotch goblin kids, they will likely end up like the choosing beggars feeling entitled to free stuff as adults.
We didn't have wedding planners, but I had a team of 5 friends on secret security detail. They all got a power point of which guests were likely to cause problems and were ready to tackle anyone at a moment's notice 😂
These are freind goals man. You got a real homie if they willing to football tackle a problem guest
Very smart! I’ve seen so many people destroy weddings and the couple getting married (B&G) then get really upset.
Problem is, they forget that people are who they are. Their drunken uncle will get drunk. Their unruly nephews will be unruly. Their immature brother and his toxic girlfriend will get into a fight and cause a scene.
People don’t suddenly start acting differently bc the B&G hope they will, unfortunately. But you? You’re a smart cookie! You foresaw issues and were proactive in your approach
You should share that advice far and wide my friend
whoot! Awesome tactical plan there
I LOVE that. You’re such a creative problem solver!
I can't imagine being in a scenario where I would still invite any of the people with the potential to ruin it to my wedding or even simply allow them in my life.
Also, I let kids at my wedding. It was a backyard wedding so wasn't fancy, but I am very open about who's in my life. Those invited I knew were good parents and would look after their kids and they did. I never had a issue with any of the kids and I loved spending time with them. ❤
I made my wedding child free (except the one flower girl) because of my friend that brought her two young children to my bridal shower and let them cry and scream through the whole event, never taking them outside to calm them down. When she RSVP'd to the wedding she included her children in the count and I had to call to explain that I wasn't allowing children. She told me that her children did not do well with babysitters but I stuck to my no-kids rule. I hated that she wouldn't come but this video makes me extra glad I stuck to it.
I think it’s absolutely fair to have a child free wedding. I also think it’s fair to expect that might mean some of guests can’t come. I had a child free wedding very unapologetically despite being a teacher. Now that I have children of my own I still suggest that every couple considers making their wedding child free. The only time I would make exceptions is if someone you really want at your wedding has a newborn that is too young to leave with a caregiver. See if some accommodations can be made. Otherwise, big no to kids at a wedding.
As if you’d just add your kids to the count, how fuckin rude!
If I ever got married it would definitely be child free. I don’t like kids lol I’m not having my own, and I sure as shit am not having them at my wedding. Also weddings are expensive af
You made the best call for your special day. I think irresponsible parents should be excluded from formal events. I understand there she some medical factors that can effect behaviour, however I don't think this is a factor in most cases. So of yiu can't raise yiur children to have manners and respect in social settings, why should yiu ruin it for everybody else?
Also, the entitled ones who expect others to think about the care of their children... erm, that is not my job sir-mam.
You peeps are gross
I'm guessing the kids don't do well with a babysitter because someone else likely tries to impose rules on the kids and they lose their minds. I've been the babysitter in those situations. If she's not willing to manage her children at a bridal shower, ain't no way she would at a wedding. Good on you for sticking to your guns.
I'm out walking my bulldog, just started the video "Hey Everybody! Welcome Back!" When i hear "I LOVE CHARLOTTE DOBRE!" from the balcony of a random condo 😂😂😂😂
YAAAS
You might need to figure out which neighbor that is and get to know them!
I’ve actually met someone on Facebook that I told her we were going to be besties because she’s so awesome. I then asked if she was a Charlotte fan, and we then talked about Charlie and naked man for almost an hour. I love you tater tot petty people. I love you all.
OMG STOP THAT IS HILARIOUS
😂 You must have a cool neighbor.
I had 4 kids under 12 at my wedding. Two were angels, and two were caught running in the street. The keeper of our venue has to corral them into a fenced area and lock it. The mom of those two did not even look at them all night - she just got drunk, smoked a joint and said they were fine on their own. Definitely the parents at fault, not the kids. At one point, a friend of ours picked up her son and handed him to her. She still didn't get it.
And there you have it --too many of today’s parenting!! It’s amazing how many parents I’ve seen just let their kids go at someone’s house , at a party or a wedding and just not even check on them!! I’ve seen it in my family and still shocked!
@@arlenesmith7883 Not just today's parenting. There have been parents like this for generations. 😞
@@Stelvei I honestly think it used to be far worse in the past. People used to do a lot of things that were seen as normal and nowadays are considered child abuse ...
@@Stelvei True true..sadly ! Lol
@@carpediem4091 So true. Smoking in cars, letting kids sit in the back of pick-ups, no seat-belts. My parents let me play in the neighborhood, the creek, etc for hours with other kids. Just had to be home by supper time.
The "crotch goblin" one just made me want to yell for years and years at those parents i cant express how much anger and rage had been put in my system just hearing that story
Me2 lol
As someone who’s getting married this Saturday and made a strict no kids allowed rule, I got a lot of flack from friends and family that not allowing kids was creating an unnecessary burden for parents to attend. After hearing the story about the kids at that last wedding, I’m standing by my decision with zero regrets 😂
Stand by it firmly, Love.
People don't discipline their children well enough to ruin
YOUR day!
And....
CONGRATULATIONS on your upcoming nuptials!🎊
I believe there should be a age requirement just enough for people under 18 to be responsible enough. Me personally I’ll probably let children 13 and up in. Maybe a couple years younger if I know the children and I know their responsible! I hope you enjoy your wedding!
First and foremost, congrats on the wedding! Second, you could send a few of the gazillion stories about kids ruining weddings to anyone that gives you crap. There's a reason people want child-free weddings and 99.9% it's a reasonable request.
🎉🎉🎉 Congratulations on your wedding this Saturday.
Second you stand firm by your decision. I love kids but no I have seen too many melt downs from the kids in my life and that wasn't at a wedding is enough to say no to kids at weddings.
It's absolutely the couples' decision. Too much money and emotion involved, and the decision should be respected even if not agreed upon. I would neither attend nor hold it against you, and would expect the same. I had kids at my wedding, and everyone behaved beautifully. My cousin and her fiance' didn't allow them, and his family allowed this decision to become the cause of a 21 year and ongoing rift between them. Pretty ridiculous, imho. Enjoy your day!
In my day my a$$ would have been whooped if I ever even thought of misbehaving at any special event. Kids aren’t the problem. It’s the parents not wanting to parent. That poor bride.
Same here
My mother would’ve pulled out the special Israeli backhand on my butt cheek if I so much as thought it.
Same here. My parents didn't allow us to be disruptive and destructive. We were taught how to behave in public and how to respect other people's property.
And as you said. I never would have even considered acting the way I see some kids behave. I knew what my father would have done!
you and me girl
I had one child at my wedding, in my wedding. She was my best friend's daughter. Basically, my niece. And she was an absolute angel. 2 years old, and an absolute angel. It's not the age of the child, it's the parents' ability to properly raise that child, which determines how well that child behaves.
Believing that you can fully determine how a 2-year old toddler behaves is... amazing. I admire your faith in parental guidance. There is nothing, truly nothing, that can stop a toddler from letting the world know how they feel when they truly want to share it. The only thing you can control? Your response as a parent. You were eternally lucky on your wedding day. Feel blessed but don't parent shame others.
I think so as well.❤
Exactly, the parents should have stepped in. It shows how horrible parents they are.i try not to judge other's parenting skills because I've been in situations where my twins have run wild, but I am running after them. If a parent is trying it's one thing, but these parents did nothing!
@@RainyRaven if a parent shows their child to be destructive, to run rampant and to just be a total asshole at somebody else's important event they deserve every bit of parent shaming that they get. A parent needs to actually parent their children. I personally know a few unruly children but knowingly their parents don't bring them to important events such as weddings or funerals because of it and if they do they do what they can to not disrupt the spece event. That story was about an entitled parent raising entitled brats. I hope she pays for the consequences and maybe actually step up and parent her kids before they end up with nobody who wants to be around them and the kids grow up thinking they can do whatever till want to they end up locked up
@@RainyRavenif I didn't know this child as well as I did, she would not have been invited, let alone my flower girl. She's super shy around people she doesn't know, so I knew that no shenanigans would ensue.
13:52 I could cry for that bride. The fact that those parents did not get their kids under control is horrible. How nice of that photographer to be so kind and give her money off 🩷
At my sister's wedding, my son (flower boy) was taken home by grandma after 1st dance. She was tired & he needed to be taken to bed. OF COURSE we kept him under strict control. & his cuteness added to photos (he happened to be a very beautiful child. Not so much now, but he was then)
I absolutely could not contain the embarrassment I have for that one blonde girl in the blue dress trying to give her friend a speech... Yikes. So much secondhand embarrassment 😬
Girl, I was soooooo embarrassed for her. The “I’m just kidding, just kidding” means she isn’t actually kidding. 😂😂
She gave me Amy Schummer vibes 😅
I had secondhand embarrassment so badly that I hid my face in my pillow at that part 😂
😯😯 She shocked me. Wowsers
I had to pause that multiple times just to breathe
Sometimes people seem to forget that parenthood is a permanent, 24h thing. As a teacher, the amount of times I've heard things like "at school they're your problem" or similar is staggering. Parents can't just excuse themselves from their role just because they want to enjoy someone else's party.
That's true but if they schedule a baby sitter in advance then that is totally acceptable.
@@sleepycat92 What's acceptable, though? Because even with a babysitter, if the child is misbehaving, the parents should definitely go help! In addition, some wedding have a child "entertainer" thing, but again, it's not child minding - for that the parents needed to have left the child precisely with a childminder.
I think you miss the point of what they’re saying. The kids legally have to be at school. The school is legally bound to provide safety and education for the kid. The school is legally bound to accomidate special needs to ensure safety and education. A lot of the times teachers are very quick to drop problems, that actually do have a fix/solution. Like allowing for movement breaks, allowing the kid to keep the books at their desk if their executive dysfunction makes it hard to get the correct books, having seats that work for low muscle tone (common trait in adhd), not having points taken off due to dysgraphia, having possibility to indoor recess... Etc.
It IS the school that needs to accomidate the areas in a way that make it possible for the student to be safe, and get their education.
(And even better if the areas in school also have clear recess activities one can easily join even if one have social difficulties. (Like laying puzzles, dance to music, card decks, drawing, caring for plants…))
I’m completley with the parents most of the time. It’s not their fault if the school continue to trigger students into meltdowns, when it’s often wellknow what triggers the meltdowns. The parent already avoid that at home, and it has nothing to do with ”getting used to it” when it comes to neurological development disorders.
🤔🤔🤔. Nah...teachers have too much to worry about without parents demanding special treatments for their "special" darlings.
Then they are literaly breaking the law and should be reported to whatever the school district is called. ”Skolinspektionen” is the name in my country.
This mindset is literaly what makes parents burn out and having to go down in work time to support kids the school is unable to accomidate for. It’s illegal and sad. It’s not even that difficult to create a healthy enviorment. I’m so happy the school my kids go to understand this. Even tho she’s 2e with 4 different diagnosis, she’s still able to thrive. They even have three dogs that work at the school that brighten her day and keeps her concentration to be able to read for them. I wish all kids got positive vibes like this, instead of naysayers that create mental health problems for our youth.
I remember when that awkwardly racist video went viral. It's really bizarre.
I have mixed children, and can confirm that there are white people who do this stuff all the time. It's really bizarre that they think it's okay, or that I somehow chose to have mixed children "because they're beautiful" as if that was somehow a part of the decision making when I chose my partner.
Just... Ew 😬
I believe mixed children are drop-dead gorgeous, but you gotta put love first. Like, you are very right!
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Now I'm feeling very awkward.
Lmfao 🤣 you always know them people that have absolutely no black friends at all😂
I guess I'm an asshole, I'm not attracted to white men, at all. So I knew it I ever had kids they would be mixed. I also think mixed children are 100% cuter than white babies. I have 4 mixed children.
My God, some people are so cringey and cannot accept or be happy for someone just because they think all people are " racey" labbeled and think it is funny to try to hummiliate sb just bc they got issues with the colour of your skin.
The skin colour should not matter. What matters is to say no! To such narrow minded people .
Noooooo! 😳😳😳😳😳😳😳
I’m 66. I’ve never been to a wedding with unruly kids. At My middle daughters wedding three years ago , the kids were adorable and well behaved. But then we, all of our families, are all pretty strict parents.
As a retired teacher, I feel so much sympathy for the teachers that will have those little hooligans in their classroom. I taught for 32 years and some of the more recent parents truly frightened me
@@marthaduncan7694 way to completely miss the point. I bet you are one of those parents.
I agree with you Charlotte. She should have sued for the ENTIRE wedding cost.
Every wedding I've been to in 50 years has had children. No problems. It's only the parents nowadays that cause these problems to happen. If your child can't behave, don't bring them.
Right. The entitlement of the parents is sickening.
The problem is entitled parents don’t care and think their child isn’t a problem. So to avoid any problems all together just say no kids. Saves the headache
@@tasiahampton7857 I don't want kids at my wedding but if someone has kids, I won't stop them, if they're family. If it's family whom has kids, that's fine. If it's a friend and they have kids, no way.
Agreed! I had little ones at my wedding but it’s definitely on the parents for lack of discipline and we had a little toys for them.. (they were under 2) and needed entertainment.. so if they got fussy one of the parents would get up and walk them away from the group .. I have pictures of them in my wedding book.. they were adorable.. and I know kids will be kids but a lazy parent who thinks they can bring a child to a family function ( wedding or party etc ) and ignore them the whole time while they run amok is pure selfishness
And as a parent myself now.. if I were to go to a wedding .. if I wanted to bring my little one i know I have to be prepared and if I just wanna go and have a good relaxing time I’ll make preparations to not bring them .. plain and simple
There were kids at my wedding. If the baby cried, mom took her outside. The two year old flower girl was very shy, so we let her stand by my brother, her father who was singing. She and the older flower girls, aged 5 and 6. Sat on the steps by the altar playing quietly together. It didn’t concern us a bit. They looked so pretty and happy that it made everyone happy! When my brother got up to sing his daughter toddled to his side and looked up at him with love. So many people said I had one of the most lovely weddings they’d ever seen. It wasn’t fancy, but the obvious love is what made it so great. We’ve been married for 30 years now and our own children attended many weddings both fancy and casual. They were always well behaved. Also there was never any problem with any of the kids at our reception. They played and danced together but didn’t cause a ruckus. I think you have to be careful, though about the ADULTS and parents you invite. They are the ones who can be trouble! A decent person won’t allow their children to cause harm at a special occasion. If a small child has a tantrum they’ll just remove them until they are calm.
My sister (the bride) was soooo mad that I left to take my infant home at 9pm. It was an hour and a half drive home minimum for everyone in attendance. I had been there since 8am to help set up, take photos, etc. while trying to fit in breastfeeding in between everything. As soon as the ceremony was over, I was told I'd have enough time to breastfeed before heading into the barn for the reception. I rushed to the bathroom to change my baby and feed him then headed to the barn. Everyone was already sitting and eating. I grabbed what was easy and close and sat down at the wedding party table. As soon as I took a single bite was told it was time to do my speech. I never had time to actually eat anything as I had to attend my baby again, and by the time i was able to search food out, everything was gone. I was exhausted and starving, and my baby was hungry because my supply was so low that day because I wasn't able to properly care for myself. I wish I had said no to being a part of the wedding party. She didn't speak to me for a couple of weeks because I left when I did.
I’m super ignorant about child-related things so this might be a dumb question but couldn’t you just pump and leave the kid with dad or a friend for the day? I’m not trying to be mean or offensive - like I said I have no knowledge about childcare but that seems like the proper solution in my mind. If I’m wrong I totally accept that.
@@cc1526 my daughter wouldn't take the bottle at all, it was breastfeed or nothing. Especially for first time mothers it's difficult to leave the baby behind. My husband and I were invited to a child-free wedding in Finland once (we live in Germany), and the bride couldn't understand why I wouldn't leave my then 3-month-old firstborn with my parents for a couple of days. I just couldn't imagine being apart from may baby for more than a couple of hours. We didn't go to that wedding btw.
@@miralyse.3846 So fully agree xxx
@@cc1526 yes she very well could have, but then she wouldn’t get to be upset with her sister for stretching herself too thin. I work with babies who “don’t take bottles” every day and they do take a bottle once the smell of mom is gone. For really finicky babies mason bottle with a nice wide nipple which feels close to having their face against a breast as it has more surface area so more face contact.
@@miralyse.3846 the difference is you chose to not go vs stretching yourself thin and then blaming the bride..
I am a teacher and proud aunt, so i had a ton of kids at my wedding. We had board games and dancing, it was amazing. I definitely think it's all on the parents to control their kids
It sounds like you planned for kids and had kid friendly things to do! Makes a world of difference when things are set up so all can have fun. Sound like yall had a really great wedding !!
In our country at least in my province, there's a part of the wedding party,were all dance the Carioca carnival , everyone dance to fun uplifting music , do like what in USA would call a conga line, and the bride and groom gives to the guest hats of plastic, maracas, funny glasses, all kinds of stuff to dress up, whistles, noisemakers, and maybe some light cotillion , so the kids wait for this moment unless sleep has gained
My husband and I had kids at our wedding and everything went wonderfully. There was only about 7 kids total. I had made little coloring books, little packs of crayons for the kids when sitting at table when everyone is eating and later on when everyone could dance, I handed out glow sticks :) Kids had a blast running around and dancing. The biggest issue is when parents can't respect the bride & groom during their big day, don't let your kids run havoc on everything. That's incredibly rude.
I love that you had activities for them to do, which makes them feel included and most likely less likely to act up. Very smart. U can’t blame kids for beings kids! And wen they are bored they can be dangerous lol You did it right good job
My son's favorite part of weddings is the dancing. Whenever we are invited to one he always asks if there will be dancing. Once went to a wedding where the reception was a tad awkward because no one was partying, but my son and the flower girl started dancing together which warmed everyone else up. Ended up being one of the best ones.
My 5yo was the flower girl at my cousin's wedding. It was a great day and she did the same thing you did. She made little goodie bags for the kids. There were about 10 total, and they were all well behaved. It doesn't have to be a disaster if everyone is respectful.
I just binge all of your videos randomly, I can't help but listen to drama - it's so entertaining, and I can confidently confirm that your channel should be classed as educational. Being an introverted, anxiety induced, mental mess, I have learnt a lot about people and just social occasions in general. Thank you.
I hope the wedding photographer is going to court with the bride as a witness for her small claims case against that nightmare guest and her equally nightmares.
That's why she asked for the photogrph, as proof
She just might. Apparently they are becoming fast friends.
@@mygoodlife204 that's not the same as her being there as a WITNESS.
I hope the photographer got a few other shots of the kids being disruptive to help the bride and groom with their case.
She should have made a ‘ruined wedding album’ which is made up of only pictures of the kids ruining everything. Send it to their parents and make a copy for the judge 😘
That’s the best idea ever!!!
That last story was riveting. That one family completely destroyed a wedding, from start to finish...
My heart goes out to the bride, and I really wished that someone else in the crowd, seeing the huge problem, could have stepped in on the bride and groom's behalf to at least salvage some sense of a happy memory.
Just pray that their marriage is one of the keepers, despite this unholy fiasco. And yeah, sue these idiots for all damages.
i dont think i’d be able to stop crying after the dress
I definitely would not be able to stop crying after the dress and the cake. I honestly don’t know if I could’ve avoided punting the little bugger. There are two things I love in life-food and clothes. Especially desserts and ball gowns. Someone would’ve had to intervene before I did.
I'm hoping that for the rest of her life that mom get a non invitation any time someone she knows gets married.
I’d sue her for a whole new wedding
The bride should not have to deal with that nonsense. Members of the wedding party know the couple well and should be authorized to deal with bad guests. I cant even imagine this escalating this far without someone telling them to leave.
I love kids. Ive worked with them in daycare, always babysit for friends and family. Im getting married in 3 months. 3 out of 10 people in the bridal party have young kids (1 of them is my godson). Some of our guests also have kids. We have decided to have a no kids wedding. I know these kids are nice but its my 1 bridezilla moment. Its MY DAY. I dont want to have to deal with kids😂
Having children at my wedding, led to one of the sweetest, funniest memories I have. After our ceremony, while opening wedding gifts, as my cousin Zack (5yrs) watched. A car filled with my bridesmaids and new husband went driving past, honking and hollering as they took off. (a tradition, the groomsmen stole me shortly after and we all met up at a local bar)
As soon as Zack saw what was happening he looked at me and said in the most serious and concerned voice, “Don’t worry Superman will get him!”
It was adorable and 42 years later the memory still makes me grin.
When my brother got married, the ring bearer and flower girl were brother and sister and the children of his best friend/groomsmen. They stood up there really well and behave themselves. It was near the end of the ceremony, which was not long, when the little girl leaned forward looks down her brother and said "I am bored are you?" It was really cute and everyone in the room had a very good chuckle.
In México, when I was a teenager, there was the wedding of a retired soldier. ( Silver wedding)
Before the ceremony all tge parents that brought kids/teenagers with them were directed to the church's courtyard and asked to stand in formation; a Colonel then gave a Stern warning drill Sargent style for any and all who would be disrespectful during the celebrations (mass or party).
The parents were warned to be watchful of their kids and the kids of their parents(so they did not get drunk.)
Everyone got along BEAUTIFULLY in that wedding. 😎
Brilliant!
Omg this is amazing
The only wedding I’ve ever attended was when I was like one year old. Apparently during the super long Catholic service I was asleep, then at the reception I just ‘butt scooted’ around in a circle on the dance floor for like 2 hours. I did indeed take attention away from the bride and groom since apparently everyone found me hilarious and the best entertainment there.
This is the kind of happy things kids can add to a wedding, but I feel like the risk is just too great to have a kid friendly wedding. (Ps me and my older brother were the only kids there. He slept for the service and then sat in a corner playing on a game boy color after the first 20 minutes of the reception)
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Our eldest was married 6 years ago. She had kids at the wedding and it was wonder. Everyone commented on how fun was the reception. Our second born is marrying in a few months and she will also have children at the wedding. She did exclude one family’s children because they are hellions, but should anyone get out of hand hubby and I will immediately handle it! I don’t tolerate rude, disrespectful or destructive people no matter how small.
Thank you and your husband!
Did said hellion's parents make a scene? 11:42
Oh that poor woman at the end. I would be mortified. I can't believe nobody had the balls to escort that lady and kid outside (and maybe quietly knock her out). 😱
@feralfarmgirl I like your Style 😉🤭🤔👍🏻
If I were a guest at the kid monster- ruined wedding, I would have been roping and yelling at the kid. Yes, I yell at other people's kids when it calls for it. I grew up in a world when strangers would set kids straight when they were out of line-because it does take a community to raise a child.
Exactly.. being Nigerian I know damn well someone else would have straightened that kid and their Parents (yes! Here the adults will get a fair share since they can’t raise their child right)
I’m wondering why no one said anything or sent them out and just let this go on forever
Yes I've had to do that at events and the mothers get so angry at me like look after your damn kids I don't care if I'm a lot younger than you, teach your kids manners
I’d also be yelling at the parents to control their damn kids
Absolutely 💯 👏🏼
I would scream at the kids. It is my special day not yours! I would also yell at thier parents for being irresponsible and to leave
That girl at the wedding dancing in front of the bride had me laughing sooo hard!! It was hilarious! Made me tear up a bit. Thank you for that!
7:41 Maids of honour are legally allowed to attack anyone making the bride uncomfortable. tell the MOH she is legally able to tackle, punch, fight, and kick out anyone making the bride uncomfortable
Not you recommending assault 😂😂 but I get your point
Or throw wine on them. lol Honestly, I would definitely have a designated MOH to be the bouncer or "villainess" to put rude and inappropriate guests in their place.
Oh my goodness the last story. Reminds me when I was working for a catering company and while I was catering a wedding at this beautiful venue with elk and water features on the property, a wedding guest literally changed her baby right there on the table with white linens during the reception. It never ceases to amaze me what people do.
I was a teacher when I got married. Anyone who knows me will tell you my students were VERY important to me. I gave them love and affection like they were my own. So when it came to the invitations... I picked a select few I knew would behave themselves at the wedding. I didn't invite any child I wasn't close with their parents so I knew they wouldn't act up. My day was amazing (minus my wedding topper being broken by my MIL) and all my students got to play with me and take pictures. It was great.
What hell of a rollercoaster ride was this wedding speech? When someone says "just kidding" SO often, she's not kidding at all. 😅
I literally had my retired sheriff uncle be the peacekeeper at my wedding. It was up to him to make sure no one was disrespectful, too loud, or causing problems so my husband and I could enjoy my day. Everyone needs to have a designated no BS monitor at their wedding.
Totally agree. I threw a party for my two daughters. I designated my brothers. One was a former cop.
I did the same. Assigned a Master of Ceremonies at my wedding... such a good feeling knowing there is someone ready to make any "problem" go away. Highly recommended!
I feel like if a wedding party has Ushers this could be part of their job. They can ‘usher’ out any trouble makers.
I invited my mother to my wedding to my late husband despite a long history of abuse. My friends went behind my back, and all agreed if my mom started anything, they'd give her the bum's rush and get her out as fast as possible.
As it turned out my mother was fine and they didn't have to do anything, but I really appreciated their protection of me.
Duh! Perfect!
I've gone to three weddings now with my daughter (she was 3 months, 10 months and 18 months old. So like, tiny.) You just accept that if you're going to a wedding with your kid that you may have to miss out on stuff if your kid is crying or needs to get away. The wedding is not for you. It is for the bride and groom. Yeah it sucks that I missed part of the reception and had to leave early... But I chose to have kids and that's the kind of sacrifice you have to make.
I also had at least a dozen kids at my wedding and none of them caused any issues. People just need to deal with the fact that kids require sacrifice.
I applaud you for this! 👏🏻 children are huge responsibilities and if leaving them with a babysitter is not an option, you have to make sacrifices. I wish more people had your mentality because man… I’ve come across some entitled parents who think the rest of the world are their personal babysitters when their kids are out in public 😐
I wish people could just get it comes down to the parents 🤷
The fact that parents somehow don’t know that parenting requires sacrifice by the time they are bringing them to these weddings… like, that’s in the definition of “parent”. 😂 There are so many ways to make this work, how are they not embarrassed as parents? (I’m not talking about the kid who starts bawling because they’re cranky and the parent has to take them out of the room-that’s life, the parent has nothing to be embarrassed about then.)
One of my bridesmaids brought her infant. She had to travel a long distance and her husband couldn’t get off work. My bridal party took turns carrying him and playing with him in the days beforehand, then my two janes-of-all-trades took charge of him during the ceremony. (The “janes” were unofficial bridesmaids that did my hair, makeup, ushering after the guys were in place, etc.) We had a dozen or so kids (family & friends’ kids) that all behaved perfectly during both ceremony and reception. There are so many cute photos of the kids with different adults-when the parents needed breaks, friends and family took over, it was fun.
I was single mom for most of my kids lives... I can tell you right now neither of my kids would have even thought to behave this way especially at a wedding. My oldest was 4 when my sis got married and she was being loved on by everyone and had a great time. The wait staff took her in the back and gave her a apron and let her go around with them taking orders lol it was great fun for everyone! My youngest is a handful to me and me only. He is very polite and well behaved when he is out in the world. So if all else fails I feel like I at least did one thing right lol. I could never and I hope that bride won her case and that mom had to pay everything plus court costs back
I find this to be common among my friends who have strong-willed children. You know you're doing good if other children and adults like your kid, even if they're a trial for you.
@@jennyanswer42 I just can't imagine just sitting there and watching my kids damage everything (they never would have) and not do anything about it. I would have had my kid by the scruff and walking out the first sign of anything funky. Embarassing and now everyone knows your child really is a crotch goblin 😈🤬🤣
My kids were not crotch goblins or high speed ankle biters in public thank God but you better believe if they had stepped out of line once they're narrow butts would have been out of there so fast I would apologize depending on how bad maybe an extra gift
@@jewels964 I know, right! I feel like these parents and the ones from the one from the other skit (What? You're not paying for third party babysitting while I party at your wedding?!?) Might be the same type of parents.
Sounds like you're a great mom!!
15:34 I did not have kids at my wedding. It caused a lot of drama but I stood firm and my wedding was a crazy party. No regrets!!
We had “adult themed” balloon sculptures and the artist there taking requests!
My Mom was a florist and every week, she would make 2 - 3 very large, beautiful arrangements on wrought iron stands, for her church. Brides & grooms were told in advance that there would be flowers in the church, but for a small extra charge, they could choose the colour to match their wedding. This particular couple chose to do this & the flowers were arranged as requested. Now when I say ‘small fee’ it was exactly that, £10 for arrangements that would easily cost £25 - 30 each. At the end of the wedding, when almost everyone had left, my Mom went back into the church (she was in charge of security etc), to lock up, when the stragglers had left. However, she found, two women, struggling to carry 2 of the arrangements and stands, down the aisle. She asked what they were doing and they said that they ‘were taking the arrangements, that they’d paid for, to put them into the reception venue and then to give them as presents to the Bride and Groom’s Mothers!’ My Mom replied that they had only paid to choose the colour & the arrangements & stands belonged to the Church and most definitely not the Bride and Groom! One started to try to push passed my Mom, to no avail, while the other, started to cry and accuse my Mom, of stealing the flowers and destroying the wedding. Fortunately, at this point, the vicar hearing the commotion, came back into the church. He backed up, everything my Mom had said & told them that if they didn’t leave immediately, he would call the Police. At this, they started yelling ‘imagine how that will look, when we go to the newspapers & TV (this was before social media) & they make reports, showing how the Church & the Vicar, had ruined their wedding!’ My Mom replied ‘& how will it look, when we prove that you, have been caught stealing from the Church!!!’ At this they threw the arrangements to the ground, pretty much destroying them and stalked out !!! How they ever thought that they were going to get away with it, I’ve no idea 🤷♀️
Getting married in two days and had a big fight with my mother about not inviting the children of my cousin (kids 1 and 3). After speaking with the wife of my cousin and mother of the children she told me she already had a babysitter for 2 months so not to worry, it was my uncle and my mom who insisted. After watching this video I am glad with my decicion (english is not my first languages, so sorry for any spelling mistakes)
Congratulations on your approaching nuptials and I am glad you stood up to your family about having children at your wedding.
Congratulations in advance, And here is to hoping that you don't wind up in a Charlotte Dobre wedding video (unless it's the good kind!!)🎉
Congratulations! I wish you many years of love in the future
Lmao the face of that little girl in front at 4:18 she's like "is this bitch for real?"
Bit late to the party but wanted to share a wholesome story with kids at a wedding. At my grandmas wedding my 7yo cousin (at the time) was the ring bearer. When he walked up to present the rings, his little brother (3) also walked up even though he wasnt supposed to. Then the youngest sister, the 2 year old flower girl also walked up with them. Everyone laughed because it was obviously unintended but little kids having silly misunderstandings can be cute.
I'm sorry, SOMEBODY at this wedding, friend, family, assassin, should have stepped up and handled this parent and rotten kids for them. Was everyone scared of her, who was she?...a mobsters wife?
Assassin 🤣🤣 I'm dead
Literally, this is the job of the bridesmaids and the maid of honour; they are supposed to make sure everything goes smoothly for the bride. My friend recently got married and I was one of the bridesmaids, if anyone pulled this shit at her wedding I would have throat punched them.
@@auroralee7451 you are the type of friend I aspire to be!
That is a good gotdam question!!!? Who was she that no one could yank her chain?
I literally was thinking the whole time how if I was the bride I probably would have ended up smacking the kid in the face. But if I was a guest I think I would have physically stood up and picked the kid up kicked and screaming. Someone's got to do it
A mate was getting married, his fiance''s cousin turned up with her b.f. she was wearing a bridle dress. His wife was upset as they had put something about only the bride wearing white (imagine having to tell people that?). My mate wanted the best man to sort it out but his wife to be was didn't want to cause truble. Best man has a word with me, No probs. I go over to say hello etc, "trip"on the dress and spill half a pint of red wine down her dress. She screamed blue murder at me (I think she may have had a medical background) and left. One of the very few weddings I enjoyed attending.
You were the hero of the wedding!
11:13 as a bride I would literally stop my wedding and demand the parents either get control of their brats or leave.
Same and there’s no way they’d get to go to the reception neither
Agreed. There's no reason it should have gone down this way.
If a kid smeared chocolate on my wedding dress I would 100% deck that kid in the face, grab them by the ear and drag them to their parents no matter how old they were. I don't care if people call me a bridezilla or a bitch, discipline your kids so I don't have to
I had kids at my wedding. It was great! Seeing all the little cousins dancing and having fun together was delightful. My cousin's oldest talked my ear off (he was so cute!) and he was very respectful when I told him that we were going to go cut the cake now and we'd talk later. It's 100% because the parents are involved and responsible.
1st... You said DELULU !! ❤️
2nd... Those parents are 💯 % to blame for allowing such horrible behavior by their crotch goblins. I'm so glad she sued. I'd have no problem telling them to leave.
That last one. I lost it when the crazy mom finally went up to get her son after the wedding cake and table fell on him. And she had the audacity to accuse the bride and groom of hurting her kid! No lady, he did this to himself because you wouldn't step up and stop him and his siblings the first time they acted up. I hope that bride gets not only the money for the damages, but also some for the embarrassment and emotional damage they suffered because of those little brats.
I can remember being taken to a wedding when I was about 10 or 11. It was one of my mom's cousins kids, I had no idea who any of these people were. I was totally bored, but sat still, because that's what you do when your mom tells you to behave. At the reception I saw a lot of people filling up glasses out of what I thought was a fountain of lemonade. So I got a glass. Turns out it was a champagne fountain. I drank some it, thought it was sour and went to find my mom to tell her 'Don't drink the lemonade, it's sour." Luckily the cousin and the bride and groom thought it was funny. I was taken to the kitchen to get a soda and then one of the brides younger siblings took me out to the stable behind the house (they lived on a farm). I spent most of the rest of the reception petting the horses and ponies they had.
Just going to say that the problem wasn't the crotch goblins ... the problem was the adult goblins that brought them. The SECOND my kids misbehaved in public they were snatched up and we left. At a restaurant? Nope, we're leaving and I'll feed you PB & J at home. In the store? We're leaving and no you aren't getting a toy or snack. At the park? Nope, we're going home and you can play in the backyard by yourself. Having kids at a wedding is fine ... but asking them to leave if they misbehave is ALSO fine. That is what bridesmaids, groomsmen and ushers are for.
4:05 rethinking allowing speeches at my wedding….
My brothers wedding: Some kid (probably 7 or 8 years old) knocked over the entire wedding cake before even the bride got to see it. My brother asked me to go get another cake… like where was I to find a wedding cake in under 20 minutes!? 😭 but per his request I left, I missed the whole ceremony and came back with a hideous tower of various flavors and colors of cake from a bakery. It got a good laugh but it was super sad because the original cake was so pretty.
My wedding: I got married on the edge of the Grand Canyon, so being my worrisome self I made my wedding child free so I didn’t have some tot literally falling to their death on the day. When I told my family, my sister simply said “Well then I’m not coming”. I gave her a years notice and also offered to pay for a babysitter she just didn’t come. The rest of my family came even my brother from overseas, she couldn’t be bothered though 🤷🏼♀️
Having a child free wedding is so much more peaceful. I love kids but they sure can make things get chaotic really fast haha
Man if my grandmother was at that wedding, she would've given that kid such a whooping he wouldn't EVER think to misbehave like that again. Shame on the parents for not raising their hooligans properly!! Really makes me fuming, feel SO sorry for the bride. Glad she got them back!
Exactly! The facts that the parent blamed everyone else instead of themselves is terrible! I am traumatized. if i eve get married it is an Absolute N-O on kids at a wedding unless they are 12 and up lol
Yup! If I'd ever behaved like that I wouldn't have sat down for a week 😂 my great grandmother wouldve lost her sh1t, rest her soul. All it ever took was THE LOOK from my great grandmother in our direction and we were absolute Angels 😂
@@jackiekurtz6494 this, among many others, is why my fiance and I are eloping and why we are both childfree 😅 I absolutely adore my niblings, dont get me wrong, but only because I can give them back when they p1ss me off 😂
@@maddydavidsdottir9862 Niblings? I've NEVER heard them called THAT! But I absolutely ADORE IT! & What a PERFECT way to shorten it from nieces & nephews!
I definitely was thinking while listening to that story, where the heck are the grandparent's? Bc they'd have grabbed the kids & I'm not even meaning spanking but they'd have for SURE jerked a knot in the parents tails (their kids!) & Children always behave better for grandparents!
Miss Charlotte could not get far enough away from the racist toaster! I legit thought she was gonna fall out of her chair! “I’m not gonna be racist.” Proceeds to be racist. 🤦🏻♂️ Why do we have bridal parties if not for these reasons?!
It’s only fun and games when it’s not your wedding. Lol
People have forgotten the old traditional roles of the wedding parties. Example, ushers are not just for showing people to seats, they're also for showing people the door - it's called ushering the troublemakers away from the bride and groom. Also depending on who is doing the horrifying speech making, the bridesmaids or groomsmen surround the offending speaker, remove the microphone, and walk the person away in the middle of the group, after giving the microphone to someone with some sense
Why did I think about a toaster, as in a kitchen appliance. XD
@@erikarussell1142 I have family that would either a) handle it before it even came to my attention or b) make them wish it hadn’t come to my attention. Either way; you’re right. I could watch other people’s drama all day! (Provided they are being reacted to by Miss Charlotte, of course! Otherwise, why bother?)
I had to put it on 2x speed to get through it. Can't imagine surviving it irl. Even the kid in the front made a face like "someone come get this lady" 😬
2:26 Yeah that's part of the reason why, but I'm gonna use my 10 years older sister's wedding as an example for why it's not always the case. I was 11 or 12 when she had her wedding and I took a video of the cake cutting that I somewhat recently refound and showed to my older sister. According to her my angle was basically the same as the photographer they highered and she really liked my video of it. You could hear her friends being funny, she liked the that I got a good shot of the back of her dress and might've even had the actual cutting better then the photographer. Their anniversary is comming up again in June and I plan to wish her a happy anniversary and send her it. Also sometimes the adults are a WAAAYY bigger hazard than the kids, like one of my older sister's friends set my little sister's dress of fire and burned it some by accident. We're lucky it was a poofy dress or else my sister could've caught on fire herself and not just the dress. The person that put her on fire was also the one to put her out, using just her bare hands mind you, so everything worked out but still...
My wife is in child care and wanted to have a bunch of kids in our wedding party (flower girls and what not). We had tons of kids at our wedding reception. All of them were perfectly behaved. Their ages ranged from 4-11 (we had 12 kids total walk the isle). Not a single issue with any of them. Good parenting and setting expectations help kids know their boundaries. Some people should spare mankind and not breed.
AMEN!!!!😁💖👍
I was once at a wedding reception where a boy, about 3 or 4, sneezed green snot all over his hands (it was DRIPPING), then promptly ran up to the cake and stuck two green snot covered fingers all the way in it to the last knuckles. One of the bridesmaids started screaming at the mother, who was just letting him run wild. Nobody would eat the cake, it wasn't a cheap-looking one either.
WHY TF would they let that happen? Sounds like some someone's jelly? That seems intentional. Specifically, the cake? Nope. That was on purpose.
Regarding the first story. Ladies! Call the man out EVERY time. The gross ones keep being creepers, or worse, because they keep getting away with it. The embarrassment you think you might feel ONLY goes to the gross creeper. Everyone will be on your side. ❤️
Or, in as loud a voice as you can, say, "I am NOT an escort! I don't care how much you are willing to pay me!" If nothing else, that should give him pause.
I seriously doubt she'll do that considering how gullible and stupid she was for even shaking his hand a second time 🙄
@@who__cares__ No. We don't victim blame here. Even if she agreed to shake his hand 50 times, his behavior is HIS. And thats where the blame and accountability should go.
@@who__cares__ let’s not blame her, she was the victim of grotesque behavior, and not at fault. Also he had only been weird prior to the second handshake and she was the wedding planner so it’s a complex position to be in.
You were being nice the first touch - when he touched you or came closer the second time,that’s when you Must say something firm low voice. He didn’t get resistance so he thought he was cute and forged on much to your dismay. Sadly You we’re the one just trying to be nice, sorry you had to put up with this.
I'm a teacher and when I got married, I invited my 2nd grade class. I believe 26 students back then? And of course, all the cousins, neighbors and so on. I even stumbled across an unknown mystery child that I had never met before (turned out to be a foster child who was new in her foster home). My husband and I arranged a bouncing castle, a face painter and some coloring books. A recipe for disaster you might think. Not in this case. They were on their best behaviour! They had a blast and I have amazing memories of that day. Last schoolyear, that class went to highschool and I was welling up during their ceremony a couple of times...