1. Guard your heart. Forgive always but if it ended in a bad way, reconciliation might not be suitable. 2. If no boundaries were crossed you can remain friends but not if you were in a serious relationship. 3. Do not hold into something that can damage a new relationship or allow a new relationship to come or you to move on. 4. Remember that not being friends does not mean you are enemies. Just do not stay connected, move on and take it in a mature way. Excellent. Indeed nobody wants to worry about someone that remains connected to an ex o several of them.
Thanks for making this video. I just ended a relationship 3 days ago because he admitted to me that he is still in love with his ex girlfriend, and she calls him almost every day. It has been a huge struggle for me because he still calls me a few times a day and tells me that he wants us to be friends. I am heartbroken and also torn because I know I need time to heal, but we were best friends before we decided to start dating, and I so wish we could just go back to being friends. I now realize that we should deffinitely not be friends, much less best friends. I'm sure the Lord will help heal my wounds and maybe some day we can be friendly to eachother, but not for now.
Best decision. Just stay away. He did not respect your relationship allowing another woman to share his emotional things. For a reason he ended his previous relationship and is not fair that he keeps you as a backup in case things go wrong again. Pray to God to send you a better man and to the Holy Spirit to guide your decisions. Blessings.
This happened to me too..we were best friends at first, then we dated (for the wrong reasons), then we peacefully broke up, we are still friends and have no plans of getting back together, however we are nolonger best friends..like no beef and no deep conversations
Hey, I hope you're doing better. I'm going through the same exact thing right now. Just confused as to if I should do it or not. But all the signs are there and I'm sure it's the best thing to do right now.
I swear...AGW...is TUNED-INTO the Holy Spirit! This video came out yesterday...something that’s been on my mind for years, and happened to naturally come-up in conversation with a new young lady I’m dating...BEFORE I had the chance to watch it. I’m like...SERIOUSLY...this is the 3rd/4th time this has happened regarding their videos. ALWAYS on time!
I agree 100%, emotions can be confused by staying in a friendship where deep feelings existed once. It is best to cut all tides but have not ill feelings towards each other
Depends I have kids with my ex abit different so we have to get along for our kids but I do not think it helps a person to stay stuck in the past and if a person wants to move on its not respectful to remain friends when you get into another relationship either in my opinion. Good tips.
Hi Mark, I really enjoy your videos! I look forward to them. Thanks for being obedient to the lord with this as they help many. I pray that the Lord will continue to bless you and your family....
We parted from our marriage due to his very serious mental illness schizophrenia, I had a strong sense to part, it was hard, to live with. Heartbreaking for me. He couldn't help his illness not his fault but we had two wonderful children. That was 1990. He pass away on the 12 Jan 2021 at 63years, so unwell, we were always in his life throughout, I kept him seeing his kids all way throughout them growing up. We became close and I on my own used to meet he was in mental health home care. We saw him all to the end we last met even with my new life. Hes soul its in my heart. We have alot of ups and downs, but we got through that. We occasionally got to meet him when we could why he started to move so far away, but always a call away on the phone. That maybe his illness, made him think moving away, strange thoughts, he had strong ways, but we travelled far to see him he was close in our thoughts. I fought for him of his care. In these homes and I got him out of one bad care home. Xxx ❤ xx you can be friends with ex's depending what sort of person they were, I look at life so differently now its so strange can't explain it!! Xx
I am divorcing after 32 years.My husband still wants to be business partners. We have a daughter so it makes sense. There are men who want to date me. I am putting all that on hold until he gets his own medical insurance, etc ... I still feel obligated to the family unit although he has chosen divorce. I wonder how older men feel about that. Either way, I can't think about it just yet. My ex is actually ill right now and still wants a divorce.
My ex and I aren’t friends and it’s been 6 1/2 months since the break up. But I’m having a really hard time moving on, the idea of trying to be with anyone else is crazy to me. We were together almost 3 years and I gave him my virginity. It’s hard for me to accept it’s over. I need help because it hurts so much. I just don’t want to be with anyone else 🥺😓😥
No not if they have done you wrong absolutely not. If it's a mutal breakup and no-one did anything wrong I guess that's one thing but absolutely not If the breakup was bad.
Hi it's Martin here One question is missing here, and missing on the entire internet please answer that would be helpful to lot of people like We did sins knowingly unknowingly okay, now after breakup if were into Christ completely how should we address our ex infront of anybody or even if happen to meet somewhere alone on the street or However, how should we address? For example I'm a guy had a breakup last year so now going forward if that girl meets me anywhere on the way or maybe in the church or anywhere if somebody else ask me about her How should i address her anywhere? Should i call her sister going forward? Or oh you my ex? Or friend or what? As we have forgiven eachother completely left the wicked and evil ways of being sinful by doing fornication and all of that But this is the last thing how should we call eachother? Please answer or if you could make a video on this in detail will be very very helpful God bless you sir....
I have a question .Do you think it's okay if my boyfriend still talk to her ex-girlfriend ?because it's hurt he still talking to her ex-girlfriends everyday I hope you make a video thank you
First, I want to say thank you Mark for making this video. You touched on mostly everything I needed to know, but I also had another question for you that I didn’t hear you mention. Is it okay to continue a friendship with a person who is a really good friend (for many many years), but y’all made the mistake of sleeping together? There was no relationship, but y’all have been friends for 10+ years. Also, what if the person doesn’t have the same beliefs as you or they believe in God, but aren’t walking with Him? Thank you!
Hi Meagan Akins, I would advise that you end that friendship. If sex occurred it seems like the relationship is not one where the focus is God. You don't want to be drawn away from Christ in other ways by this person so I would completely move on and set up boundaries
I used to not be a church person but can I say a happy birthday to her because now there is no relation with her and in the Bible it is written we must love each other .. I feel guilty because I made mistakes before but both of us are now married she with her Husband and I with my wife.. today, for example, on Facebook there are always reminders for someone's birthday and I feel guilty for not saying anything .. what should I do? which doesn't make her remember the past but also I don't disobey god's orders..
I won't stay that, if you are being friends in hope of getting back together you should move on, if not that same ex you blank can be your boss one day, so do good to all everyone, if there block you and don't want to tlk then that's there problem you just move on, if not don't block the person just leave it as is and you focus on your relationship with God
@@phareztrinimand I disagree. Even if that's the case, if you're both mature enough, your ex shouldn't treat you like crap if they're your boss. Outside of that, you are obligated to forgive but you don't have to associate with them.
@@Jeduthunn yes i know some people will literally pass the person straight or act like there don't know the person, if someone has moved on there won't have to act like there don't know the person all in all this comes down to one thing and its sin, YOU MAKE YOU GF OR BF YOUR IDOL AND NOT GOD THE DEVIL WILL USE THE SAME IDOL TO HURT YOU
we haven’t been in a relationship because I told him we don’t match on spiritual side (he is an atheist). And he lied to me that he wants to accept Jesus. when I asked him to apologise for lying to me he said no . I forgave him but I don’t know if I should still talk to him.
Eva if you allow him to be friends with you, he is going to try to get back together and depending on the type of person he is, he may go to church and talk about Jesus just to convince you that he's changed when he hasn't. It's better to part ways for good.
I don’t think that firndship is real to begin with and I’m sure both of you can survive without it. Let the last stay in the past if you want to have a healthy life in the present and future. You can’t be friends with your exes, people, let’s be honest.
But what happens when a guy who you thought was the one and meant left you and you can’t really accept it again being alone and feel mad at him that he left and can’t move forward or accept someone else now.
Something that helped me was to focus on treating myself and turning to God for wisdom and guidance. You’re never going to know why some things happen, but you always have to trust that God is guiding you to someone better. Start learning and working towards finding happiness elsewhere in your life. Reinvest in hobbies you used to enjoy before hand, and look for the lessons God may be trying to teach you through this. Hang In there, God is close to the people who are crushed in spirit/broken hearted
just be part from your past relationship beacuse , you have commited sin having gf ? bf before marriage, when we have same past continuing in future to recall calling sin you commtited and allowing spirit of adultery to continue in future, i am hinduism born guy but i accept jesus christ as my saviour , i have commited adultery with my multipe past relationship, which as allowing demons to continue in my life, so i decide to cut the contact with girls i was in sexual relationship i hve msg them as for forgivness and cut the and contact for life.. now i am completely stying single till god give my life partner.
Hmmm I watched this because I expected that you would Apply Gods Word but the first thing you said was “in my opinion” and you continued from there…never gave scripture for your opinions with the exception of forgiveness. Very disappointing.
Application is opinionated. Expositional preaching is different. The channel is about applying, not exegeting God's word. These are advice videos, not sermons. Additionally, I did talk about the dangers of past sexual sin (a biblical topic) being a factor and, like you said, I did talk about forgiveness. Was this my most Bible-saturated video? No. But it was an application of Scriptural ideas to a topic that is clearly not in the Bible all under 10 minutes? Yes. The channel is an ongoing conversation, not a definitive and all encompassing answer about said topic. These videos may help more: ua-cam.com/video/DP7uIW0irCM/v-deo.html&pp=gAQBiAQB
There was this girl last year who liked me, her mum and my dad wanted us to be together. So they'd try finding ways for us to do stuff together. Apparently she still likes me, but I don't really know her. My dad says I should ask her out and I'm like "I don't really know her though". He's like "that's why you should ask her, so you know each other more" or something. So.. should I ask her out or no?
1. Guard your heart. Forgive always but if it ended in a bad way, reconciliation might not be suitable.
2. If no boundaries were crossed you can remain friends but not if you were in a serious relationship.
3. Do not hold into something that can damage a new relationship or allow a new relationship to come or you to move on.
4. Remember that not being friends does not mean you are enemies. Just do not stay connected, move on and take it in a mature way.
Excellent. Indeed nobody wants to worry about someone that remains connected to an ex o several of them.
“Two heathy adults...”
That’s a key point. Both parties must be healthy mentally
Thanks for making this video. I just ended a relationship 3 days ago because he admitted to me that he is still in love with his ex girlfriend, and she calls him almost every day. It has been a huge struggle for me because he still calls me a few times a day and tells me that he wants us to be friends. I am heartbroken and also torn because I know I need time to heal, but we were best friends before we decided to start dating, and I so wish we could just go back to being friends. I now realize that we should deffinitely not be friends, much less best friends. I'm sure the Lord will help heal my wounds and maybe some day we can be friendly to eachother, but not for now.
Best decision. Just stay away. He did not respect your relationship allowing another woman to share his emotional things. For a reason he ended his previous relationship and is not fair that he keeps you as a backup in case things go wrong again. Pray to God to send you a better man and to the Holy Spirit to guide your decisions. Blessings.
Ventas ECU-GYE Thanks for your words.
Girasol you are doing the right thing. The most important thing is to help YOU heal which means that guy has to stay away.
This happened to me too..we were best friends at first, then we dated (for the wrong reasons), then we peacefully broke up, we are still friends and have no plans of getting back together, however we are nolonger best friends..like no beef and no deep conversations
Hey, I hope you're doing better. I'm going through the same exact thing right now. Just confused as to if I should do it or not. But all the signs are there and I'm sure it's the best thing to do right now.
The majority of the time is best to just part ways for good. Staying friends is just awkward especially when each other find new partners.
Kevin B yeah its really awkward
I swear...AGW...is TUNED-INTO the Holy Spirit! This video came out yesterday...something that’s been on my mind for years, and happened to naturally come-up in conversation with a new young lady I’m dating...BEFORE I had the chance to watch it. I’m like...SERIOUSLY...this is the 3rd/4th time this has happened regarding their videos. ALWAYS on time!
I agree 100%, emotions can be confused by staying in a friendship where deep feelings existed once. It is best to cut all tides but have not ill feelings towards each other
My wife has stated, she is still friends with all her X boyfriend's/lovers. I simply told that was unexpected.. Biblically.
Thank you for this video! I really needed it today. God always gives me exactly what I need to hear through your videos at just the right time. ❤
I used to think it was okay. Now that is no longer my thought process. Just let the ex go. Continuing to talk isn't really necessary.
That's my take too SC Thomas-Joe, it's way cleaner to just fully move on
Depends I have kids with my ex abit different so we have to get along for our kids but I do not think it helps a person to stay stuck in the past and if a person wants to move on its not respectful to remain friends when you get into another relationship either in my opinion. Good tips.
Hi Mark, I really enjoy your videos! I look forward to them. Thanks for being obedient to the lord with this as they help many. I pray that the Lord will continue to bless you and your family....
Thank you so much Rene, and I'm so happy you are enjoying these videos! God bless :)
Good points Mark! I agree...sound advise.
Thanks Rose
Still friends with my ex, but nolonger best friends..no plan of getting back together
"Dear Prudence, won't you come out to play..."🎼🎼🎼
We parted from our marriage due to his very serious mental illness schizophrenia, I had a strong sense to part, it was hard, to live with. Heartbreaking for me. He couldn't help his illness not his fault but we had two wonderful children. That was 1990. He pass away on the 12 Jan 2021 at 63years, so unwell, we were always in his life throughout, I kept him seeing his kids all way throughout them growing up. We became close and I on my own used to meet he was in mental health home care. We saw him all to the end we last met even with my new life. Hes soul its in my heart. We have alot of ups and downs, but we got through that. We occasionally got to meet him when we could why he started to move so far away, but always a call away on the phone. That maybe his illness, made him think moving away, strange thoughts, he had strong ways, but we travelled far to see him he was close in our thoughts. I fought for him of his care. In these homes and I got him out of one bad care home. Xxx ❤ xx you can be friends with ex's depending what sort of person they were, I look at life so differently now its so strange can't explain it!! Xx
Thank you so much this really helped me❤️🙏🏼I love your channel so much
This video did put some sense in me. But only God knows the answers to my questions. Sir is there anyway you can help me with my relationship problem?
Thank you! I really, like really needed this right now! 💕
I am divorcing after 32 years.My husband still wants to be business partners. We have a daughter so it makes sense. There are men who want to date me. I am putting all that on hold until he gets his own medical insurance, etc ... I still feel obligated to the family unit although he has chosen divorce. I wonder how older men feel about that. Either way, I can't think about it just yet. My ex is actually ill right now and still wants a divorce.
My ex and I aren’t friends and it’s been 6 1/2 months since the break up. But I’m having a really hard time moving on, the idea of trying to be with anyone else is crazy to me. We were together almost 3 years and I gave him my virginity. It’s hard for me to accept it’s over. I need help because it hurts so much. I just don’t want to be with anyone else 🥺😓😥
Only the Lord can lead you into freedom, it will take time, but if you follow him he will guide you!
Is it okay to remove them off of social media?
Yes.
No not if they have done you wrong absolutely not. If it's a mutal breakup and no-one did anything wrong I guess that's one thing but absolutely not If the breakup was bad.
Hi it's Martin here
One question is missing here, and missing on the entire internet please answer that would be helpful to lot of people like
We did sins knowingly unknowingly okay, now after breakup if were into Christ completely how should we address our ex infront of anybody or even if happen to meet somewhere alone on the street or However, how should we address?
For example I'm a guy had a breakup last year so now going forward if that girl meets me anywhere on the way or maybe in the church or anywhere if somebody else ask me about her
How should i address her anywhere?
Should i call her sister going forward? Or oh you my ex? Or friend or what?
As we have forgiven eachother completely left the wicked and evil ways of being sinful by doing fornication and all of that
But this is the last thing how should we call eachother? Please answer or if you could make a video on this in detail will be very very helpful God bless you sir....
I have a question .Do you think it's okay if my boyfriend still talk to her ex-girlfriend ?because it's hurt he still talking to her ex-girlfriends everyday I hope you make a video thank you
First, I want to say thank you Mark for making this video.
You touched on mostly everything I needed to know, but I also had another question for you that I didn’t hear you mention. Is it okay to continue a friendship with a person who is a really good friend (for many many years), but y’all made the mistake of sleeping together? There was no relationship, but y’all have been friends for 10+ years. Also, what if the person doesn’t have the same beliefs as you or they believe in God, but aren’t walking with Him?
Thank you!
Hi Meagan Akins, I would advise that you end that friendship. If sex occurred it seems like the relationship is not one where the focus is God. You don't want to be drawn away from Christ in other ways by this person so I would completely move on and set up boundaries
ApplyGodsWord.com/Mark Ballenger
Thank you so much Mark! I definitely appreciate it. ☺️
I used to not be a church person but can I say a happy birthday to her because now there is no relation with her and in the Bible it is written we must love each other .. I feel guilty because I made mistakes before but both of us are now married she with her Husband and I with my wife.. today, for example, on Facebook there are always reminders for someone's birthday and I feel guilty for not saying anything .. what should I do? which doesn't make her remember the past but also I don't disobey god's orders..
DO NOT BECOME FRIENDS WITH YOUR EX YOU ARE WELCOME
Especially if they've... "seen your birthmarks"
I won't stay that, if you are being friends in hope of getting back together you should move on, if not that same ex you blank can be your boss one day, so do good to all everyone, if there block you and don't want to tlk then that's there problem you just move on, if not don't block the person just leave it as is and you focus on your relationship with God
@@phareztrinimand I disagree. Even if that's the case, if you're both mature enough, your ex shouldn't treat you like crap if they're your boss. Outside of that, you are obligated to forgive but you don't have to associate with them.
@@Jeduthunn yes i know some people will literally pass the person straight or act like there don't know the person, if someone has moved on there won't have to act like there don't know the person all in all this comes down to one thing and its sin,
YOU MAKE YOU GF OR BF YOUR IDOL AND NOT GOD
THE DEVIL WILL USE THE SAME IDOL TO HURT YOU
Thanks
so if we don’t remain friends should we still talk from time to time or hang out? or we shouldn’t even talk?
we haven’t been in a relationship because I told him we don’t match on spiritual side (he is an atheist). And he lied to me that he wants to accept Jesus. when I asked him to apologise for lying to me he said no . I forgave him but I don’t know if I should still talk to him.
+Eva no, I wouldn't even go there. If he doesn't love God, then he can't love you.
Eva if you allow him to be friends with you, he is going to try to get back together and depending on the type of person he is, he may go to church and talk about Jesus just to convince you that he's changed when he hasn't. It's better to part ways for good.
I don’t think that firndship is real to begin with and I’m sure both of you can survive without it. Let the last stay in the past if you want to have a healthy life in the present and future. You can’t be friends with your exes, people, let’s be honest.
But what happens when a guy who you thought was the one and meant left you and you can’t really accept it again being alone and feel mad at him that he left and can’t move forward or accept someone else now.
Justyna Chr Are you dating or married ?
Something that helped me was to focus on treating myself and turning to God for wisdom and guidance. You’re never going to know why some things happen, but you always have to trust that God is guiding you to someone better. Start learning and working towards finding happiness elsewhere in your life. Reinvest in hobbies you used to enjoy before hand, and look for the lessons God may be trying to teach you through this. Hang In there, God is close to the people who are crushed in spirit/broken hearted
is to okay to be friend with my with limit? biblical answer pls
Sir I need your help 😶😔
just be part from your past relationship beacuse , you have commited sin having gf ? bf before marriage, when we have same past continuing in future to recall calling sin you commtited and allowing spirit of adultery to continue in future, i am hinduism born guy but i accept jesus christ as my saviour , i have commited adultery with my multipe past relationship, which as allowing demons to continue in my life, so i decide to cut the contact with girls i was in sexual relationship i hve msg them as for forgivness and cut the and contact for life.. now i am completely stying single till god give my life partner.
Hmmm I watched this because I expected that you would Apply Gods Word but the first thing you said was “in my opinion” and you continued from there…never gave scripture for your opinions with the exception of forgiveness. Very disappointing.
Application is opinionated. Expositional preaching is different. The channel is about applying, not exegeting God's word. These are advice videos, not sermons. Additionally, I did talk about the dangers of past sexual sin (a biblical topic) being a factor and, like you said, I did talk about forgiveness. Was this my most Bible-saturated video? No. But it was an application of Scriptural ideas to a topic that is clearly not in the Bible all under 10 minutes? Yes. The channel is an ongoing conversation, not a definitive and all encompassing answer about said topic. These videos may help more: ua-cam.com/video/DP7uIW0irCM/v-deo.html&pp=gAQBiAQB
There was this girl last year who liked me, her mum and my dad wanted us to be together. So they'd try finding ways for us to do stuff together. Apparently she still likes me, but I don't really know her. My dad says I should ask her out and I'm like "I don't really know her though". He's like "that's why you should ask her, so you know each other more" or something. So.. should I ask her out or no?
BittyThread if you want to get to know then go for it! If your not interested, let her know. God bless
I would feel bad.. I might give it a shot.