Crying over spilled milk (The Honorary Horse) | VLOG
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- Опубліковано 21 тра 2024
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I will never forget the day my oldest son walked in from his last day of high and I broke down in pent up tears. He asked me “mom, why are you crying now, I don’t graduate till Friday”. I couldn’t even answer him. For just an instant I saw the little boy he used to be coming through the door and then he morphed into that full grown man. He graduated from college two weeks ago and I had the same feelings. I saw the tiny 3lb 9oz baby that first made me a mom in the scariest moments of my life. I saw all the things we never thought we would get to experience. It’s such a bitter sweet moment. But seeing them spread their wings and fly is goals we were striving for during all those sleepless nights and all those firsts. Enjoy the moments momma, and know you did your job well! It’s not just his accomplishments but yours as well. ❤
I’m sitting here, reading your post, and I’m all choked up myself. Nothin like a mamas love (and sentimentality) 🥰
Oh I felt the same way, exactly! I cried for months missing my little (6’2”) boy!
I'm going through the same thing. My 1lb 13 oz baby is now graduating high school in 1 week. We are so blessed to see these precious moments!
My son has been graduated from high school for years and I'm crying reading this. He finished his doctorate last summer and his daddy and I had the privilege of watching him defend his dissertation. We homeschooled through his AA and, as he hugged my neck, he whispered in my ear, "We did it, Mom." I rather lost it in front of a lot of his friends and his advisor. We didn't care.
You never really stop being a parent. You plow a lot of time into rearing them knowing that the goal is for them to be independent, productive, stable adults of character. We are now good friends as well. For us, the cycle has started over with the birth of our grandson. I look forward to the day he can join us in the wood shop.
" Really I just love being alive." Beautiful. May we all be so blessed 🙏🏾
Literally clicked on the comments to say just that♥️
The antidote to most influencers
Haha that picture in my head of a little goat running with horses, ears flapping in the wind.... hilarious!
Yes we all want to see that now!!! ❤😂
Hopefully Jess will be able to get a video of them all running around together. 😃
I was raised on a horse farm. The thunderous sound of their hooves pounding the earth moves me to emotional crying everytime I hear it. 🥹❤️
The sound of horses hooves are definitely worth a stop and listen. Growing up we had over 7 horses at a time, and when riding it was like I became lost in that world. Listening to the hooves, hearing them breathe. All my worries and thoughts just melted away. Mother nature and God's animals do that for me still to this day! 43 and I will lay my head on my dairy cow and feel just a release and I wanna cry. It's something that unless you feel it, it can't be perfectly explained! To be alive and to get to experience LIFE and all that is has to offer all the way down to the buzzing of the bees that are helping polinate my garden is a beautiful thing! Thanks for reminding me of the emotions and the joys I experience everyday. Bless you and your family Jess and anyone else who might read this!
Very well said.
I had my oldest daughter the month before I turned 20. I’ve never been an “adult” without having kids in tow. She and I grew up together. We’ve figured out life together. We’ve had the ups and downs together. I am SO thankful God brought her into my life so early.
My youngest (of 7) is graduating from high school next week and leaving for college this fall. So many emotions of all the lasts I'm experiencing right now!! Big hugs for you, Jess ❤
The older I get the more happy I am to be alive. Used to sweat the small stuff...not any more. What a blessing to live a life of hard, satisfying work with such beauty thrown in for good measure...just have to look for it sometimes! Blessings, Marie
I love that you recognize that Bear is a dog and yes he's a member of the family but it's the humans job to be in charge. It keeps everyone safe.
Jess, love your videos. You have so much joy in your presence now! I could listen to you all day long.
JESS!! I absolutely love your enthusiasm for your farm!! I hope it continues blessing you and your family🕊🕊🕊🕊🕊
I'm a first time mum, I watched this while nursing my 4 month old. The tears were rolling thinking about being at the “start” of the journey and you processing the “finish” ❤ I pulled myself together to leave you a comment and now I’m reading the comment from other mums 😭😭😭😭 sending you love Jess. Thank you for sharing your experiences ❤
Jess, this break has done wonders!!! Your joy,excitement , passion and peace are so wonderful to see!! Enjoy these wonderful celebrations, your road trips and of course the burden of abundance ❤
When my grandson graduated, I started crying while he was walking up to receive his diploma and continued until after the ceremony was over. I was just filled with pride and happiness for him. I won't forget those emotions. Memories
Dang it Jess! Gotta make us all cry first thing this morning! Bless you and your family!
Thank you for sharing your morning and your experiences 🤗♥️♥️♥️
Oh no! I would by crying over the milk. How frustrating. Routines are routines and they are sometimes hard to change up. I love that the little baby goat is now one of the horse pack! How cute!
Congratulations to Jackson on graduation and congratulations to Jess and Miah on raising your son to be the man he will be, it's an amazing thing to hold a new born baby and watch them grow up and we grow with them. ❤
Yay Jackson!
I didn’t think anyone else got so sentimental over the last packed lunch. 😢💕
I sobbed like someone passed away the day I dropped off my oldest at her college, 7 hours away! You’re proud of them, though knowing the mother child relationship will now be mother and young adult. A whole new journey for both of you. Many Blessings to Him and you on your new journey separate though together!!
So well said. The horses, the "finish" of one part of a child's life and the "start" of their next, the spilt milk (that really is one of those moments LOL but we have ALL done something like that!).
I love the picture of Hope. 😊
A friend at work and I decided that the phrase "Don't cry over spilled milk" has definitely rung true for any momma who was pumping and accidentally knocked over the bottle of breastmilk while trying to take care of the pumping equipment. I can personally vouch that tears have been shed in that scenario.
Central texas here. I harvested 10 cups (chopped) of rhubarb from the garden yesterday. Got my first batch of strawberry rhubarb jam in the canner right now ❤ only took 2 cups of rhubarb and 2 cups strawberries. So i have 8 cups left to either can up or cook with 😊😊
Thank you for the mom emotions, the goof up, and the blessings.
Love you Jess! My baby boy just turned 18. The most grateful experience of my life is being a mother. Every little bit of this journey ❤️. Bless you
It is one of the best times of your life, seeing your baby boy grow up into adult hood, but also one of the saddest because he is growing up into an adult and the mother, son relationship is changing so fast. I had to accept that this little boy that the Lord had given me the responsibility to mold and shape him for a season, was coming to an end and although I was still his mother and he was my son, I had to allow him to become the man God planned for him to be. By the way, my son Daniel who is almost 44, has his own plumbing company, a precious wife, and two almost grown kiddos, calls his Mom, me, almost every morning. And I sure treasure those times too. You’ve done a great job Jess, but truly, some of the best time is yet to come. It’s hard to raise them up, and even harder to let them go. ❤️✝️🙏
My oldest, who I had at 19, graduated last year and he is about to finish his first year at university and come home for summer. And I echo all the feelings you shared- I have never been an adult without also being a parent. My overwhelming emotion on watching him enter adulthood is pride. Mainly pride for him because he has done so well to set himself up for success and he is such a wonderful man. And also pride for myself and my partner because it is no small feat to raise a baby while also raising yourself. I hope you are also experiencing that feeling of accomplishment and joy in yourself 🖤
I have always felt the same way. Congratulations you made it.
Being a Mom or Parent for that matter is the most important job we will ever have. Be thankful for Gods Grace that helped you both to not only survive but excel ❤ blessings
I was a baby having a baby at 17. She is 26 now with a 6 month old of her own. Time flies by. I would cry over the milk too. Lol 😢
I'm glad you come back to bless us, 🙌 it bring me joy every time 🙏 ❤TTFN Marianne 🌻
As a mom of young elementary boys, I so appreciate your perspective on motherhood and your encouragement to enjoy it and be thankful! ❤️
❤Jess
Your kids will Always need you just in different ways. I started young have a 43,40,31,27 and 6 grandchildren I'm 60 and my 1st granddaughter is graduating with her masters from university first in our family. You have many memorable times ahead cherish each it goes so fast.❤ from eastern Colorado
We got a good soaking rain yesterday and last night.The first in a good bit. And I am definitely feeling how satiated our lil' homestead is feeling this morning. ☺️ Thanks for always sharing your deep appreciation for how magical it really is to live on this beautiful Earth of ours, Jess!
Just a minute, darlin! I gotta go milk my goat, feed the pigs, and get back in before the next round of storms...oh crap. I should have already been out there. It's sprinkling again here in SE OK. Soggy days.
Awwww Whit - that is the CUTEST thing to hear!!! love this.
We have Jerseys- we cry if the milk is spilled! 😂❤😢 congratulations mom, well done and many blessings in this new season.
I really respect the way you view the situation with Bear and your guardian.
I think Toast is the best name I've heard in forever for a cat. They are both very comforting things to me -toast and cats.
i had an orange tabby named Marmalade ❤
😂 I agree! 😊
Sitting here watching this with my 6 month old baby boy. Trying to soak up every second with him and listening to your experience raising 5 boys. Thank you for sharing and reminding me it goes by so fast and to soak up every second. Thank you also for bringing such joy through your videos. I've been watching while breastfeeding the past 6 months. It helps me stay awake in the middle of the night! ❤
That's just really hilarious about Whit running with the horses! And such wonderfully poetic words about motherhood. You really have a way with words Jess. Your story telling skill is one of the things that makes your channel sit at a whole other level than most.
It’s the hard work and living with these animals, knowing how much work their bodies put into producing for their young and for us. I feel horrible when I drop a fresh egg knowing a little hen had to pop that big thing out ❤️most of us don’t get that understanding from store bought produce
I got goosebumps when you told the story of thundering horse hooves running in the patsure. When you said Wit the goat was running with them..... exhilarating .
Your story about Witt is the sweetest thing…!!!!!
I am glad he has horse buddies.
I agree 💯❤ I feel the same way because my daughter is an only child and I adore her so much she is everything to me and I am so thankful that God gave me her because I never thought I would have kids just having her my butterfly 🦋 means the world to me 🥰
I'm crying because I also had my first at 19. She graduated last year. She's making me a grandmother this year. She will turn 19 right before he is born
Loves the house and baby goat story, very cute and he gets a cookie too. 🥰
just wait this is the first of many milestones of motherhood
Jess would be an amazing children's book author. The honorary house would be an amazing story
So many lovely moments in this video…but dumping fresh milk into the sink brought back this memory. Several years ago I spent hours making the most flavorful vegetable broth I’d ever made. Thought I’d just cracked the code on homemade vegetarian broth and so pleased with the thought of freezing quarts of the stuff for the winter. As I strained out the spent vegetables I realized I’d forgotten one key thing…a vessel under the colander. Sometime later, I was watching a Michael Pollan video or documentary and he was preparing a meal with his siblings and he did the same thing. That he left it in the video made it so endearing. Such a relief to know that none of us are perfect. Thanks for always being so willing to share the good, the bad and the human side of you.
I always think of expressing for my twins when I hear the term ‘don’t cry over spilt milk’ because damn that was hard work, and spilling it is heartbreaking!
The smell and feel of an area after a good deep soaking rain is so vibrant and abundant. One of my favorite times. I hear you on the spilled milk. I have done something similar with many things and the frustration at my own brain is real.
How I love you Jess! I don’t dare change the way I do things or I’ll screw it up! I’ve done the same type of thing! Pour out what you want, keep what isn’t necessary….This Grandma in Virginia understands perfectly how things are…..you get a routine, you change it and OOPS! Tomorrow is another day! I know you and that won’t happen to you again! No worries…..you’ve got this! And all you do! I definitely bless you every time I see a video! If anyone ever said they love life, they couldn’t say it as well as you do! I love life….but I’m almost 75 and appreciate it more now than I ever did! You figured it out very fast! And it just keeps getting better! ❤❤❤
Hi Jess, I'm new to your channel, thanks to my daughter, who is blessing us with our first granddaughter in a few weeks. I totally understand the emotions of our children growing up. The morning I saw our son's college acceptance letter, I cried all day. We farm, and when my husband came in and saw me crying, all I could do was point to the letter. Going from having your child in your home every day to having them home for holidays is very emotional. There is a pride in seeing them going through each stage in life, but that final step was the hardest for me. It wasn't any easier for me when our daughter went off to college, either. I always tell new parents, enjoy every moment with your children. The good will far outweigh the bad moments, because they are only on loan for a short time, before they are out on their own.
I believe the spilled milk comment probably came from someone getting a milk bucket kicked over by a cantankerous cow 😊. Love your farm. It's the best place to raise children.
That is the absolute cutest about Wit! I love that he thinks he is a horse. 😂
Jess your hair is so pretty at end of video! Those goats & kittens are so cute!🥰 Congrats to you & Miah on 1st graduate of your children, you should be so proud!🥲
Amazing how quickly the time went🙏🏼🕊️😍
It is a huge thing. Even as a grandma, I get sappy about my grand kids. I get teary for you going through this.
You just brought back all the years of seeing my 7 step into adulthood. Of course I cried all over again. Such a bitter sweet time of life.😊
Thank you for acknowledging the emotional impact of our kids graduating. My youngest just graduated. It has been rough.
When you mentioned about packing his last lunch, I chuckled. Mine was homeschooled all the way through and just got his first full time job. I was thinking this morning that I now get to pack his lunch- which I never got to do before. And yes, I’m doing it, because we take baby steps around here and it’s a joy. (Except he did graduate, turn 18, get a job, and open a checking account all within 2 weeks… 🤣)
"Really I just love being alive" 😁 Same, Jess. My partner and I are always saying things like that too, and then, just to clarify, everything is our favourite, we love it all, I think it's a moment by moment thing. Right now this thing is just filling us to overflowing, and then later it's something else. Just being present and so grateful, always.
I get you on your kid's last day of school. My oldest son will be 40 this year. While I was really proud, the ideal of him graduating and then moving out was hard. I have 4 kids, and it was hard with all of them. I was the mom who was in no hurry for my kids to move out. Two of them went straight into the military.
That really had to be neat looking to watch the goat running with the horses.
Years ago, I bought a gallon of milk. I was bringing in my groceries and the bag with the milk broke and there went my gallon of milk at my front door. Yes, I cried. My 3 boys went through milk so fast. Today, I will not have milk put in a bag for that reason.
Awww, Whit being one of the (horse) gang!❤❤❤ this makes me happy.😊
I will forever see “Don’t cry over spilled milk” the same again. Thank you for that. I never would have thought that, and as far as I’m concerned this has to be the truth. It just makes sense.😅
I, too, love seeing the rain on my elephant ears. Sorry about your milk. The good news is you'll have more tomorrow. 😊
Sorry about the milk incident, Jess. Hope you're not being too hard on yourself. You wear many hats every day!
Wow, Jess. You really hit me in the feels talking about your baby, Jackson. I too had my first baby young (18) and I’ve never had a moment as an adult where he wasn’t my baby boy. He’s 19 now and stationed in South Carolina in the Navy and although it’s been such a beautiful time to see him become a man, it’s by no means easy to have him leave my little nest. But that’s motherhood, right? It’s so rewarding but often in slightly painful ways ❤ blessings to you and Jackson in this next season. It’s tough but so worth it. And a sweet side effect is that more than ever I cherish the time I have left with my baby girls under my roof ❤
Because y'all will relate- i just pulled a 4lb 10oz (after loose, buggy outer leaves were stripped) napa cabbage from my garden. Weeping over it like a child right now! I have been gardening for YEARS but this is my first full size cabbage from seed. Brassicas are tough in GA sometimes, friends, but we made it!
Beautiful visit with you & realize us humans are perfect in the eyes of God (even though we make mistakes sometimes). Congratulations, Jackson, on your completion of your school years & may your future be inspiring & supportive people! Blessings to all 🤗🇨🇦
I never thought to cry over spilled milk until it was milk pumped for my infant! That will really make you well up!
I cannot unfeel the feelings of each child graduating high school. I have one who just passed his finals for 10th grade, so I have just a couple more years until I am going through those feelings again - and for the last time for the same occasion. Also cannot take back the gasp when it was realized that was MILK going down the drain instead of soapy water! Oh my goodness - Proof that the old adage "old habits die hard" is never truer than when you THINK you've replaced the old habit. Thank you for sharing, though Jess. I am glad you were able to laugh about it, and glad you have other days' milk "stocked up" so this oops didn't hurt quite so badly maybe. And what you said about the plants after a rain and the sound of the horse hooves - all so true for me, too! So HUGS from NW Georgia and I'm glad I got the chance to see your video today!
8:53 Ok, now I am crying. Uriah graduated 2 weeks ago, Asher just made his decision to go down to Cal Poly Pomona for school and leaves mid-summer... I get you so so much!
Big spiritual hugs on the coming of age for our children. That one takes you by surprise. Give yourself grace as you have these crazy roller-coaster of emotions. I found needing more grace for the first and last ones. then they start boomeranging back and it is a whole new set of emotions, lol.
Love watching your videos and congratulations on your oldest graduating. I was 19 when I had my oldest. Nowadays having my 4 children and 10 grandkids and 2 great grandsons I am so much in Love with all of them. But your first has a very special spot in your heart. We all make mistakes but at least you are smiling. Please continue with your videos. Even little is a blessing for me to see. Love you guys. ❤️
Your horses running story brings back memories of tent camping on the Pryor Mountain Wild Horse range in Montana for a week long photo trip. One night after a thunderstorm, as I had just crawled in bed, a group of horses started running , coming closer and closer. They literally shook the ground! I was safe since I put the tent where it was surrounded by trees, but it was fantastic as they thundered by! I don't know how many there were but there are upwards of 150 horses on the range. I've seen them running in the daytime at least 20 or 30 at a time.
Oh, and sorry about the spilled milk. Sometimes it just better to laugh at yourself than cry over the circumstances.
I like the idea of finishing instead of ending. You are also at a starting. You are at the beginning of a new relationship with your adult child. It is a new journey and transition that will continue for som time. Mine are in their 40’s and the relationship grows and changes always. Is a good thing. Life always includes growth and changes. God teaches us so much and it should, including and especially with and for our childrn
Jess I feel you on the spilled milk. I was an exclusive pumper while my son was in the infant stage and once I spilled an entire quart mason jar of breastmilk down the sink. I cried hard because that was about a day and a half of pumping.
At the end of the video when you were telling us goodbye you looked so beautiful . Best haircut you have ever had! Thanks for the video! Glad your back!
Love the Wit story! And you remind me of myself with the pouring the milk down the drain as well as other things! But if we can't laugh later we are a sorry lot! LOL!
Hehe... My kids messed with my setting on UA-cam and my auto captions were describing the sounds of the farm as 'music' and the sheep in the background as 'applause'. Love it.
Running with the horses! Go Whitt!
cheers to Witt becoming one of the herd!😉🐴
Once when I was pregnant, I poured orange juice over my cereal without thinking about it. Ugh! When our minds get so full and we're thinking of other things, we can do the silliest things.
Oh, my goodness - Bear is hilarious. He Knows he's not supposed to be there and doesn't even try to be friends until he's back on the porch (at least that's the way it looks in this video. LOL
Oh Jess please please post a video of Wit with the horses! That story just warmed my heart so much.
Thank you for sharing your life with use Jess.
I too had my first son in my teens. I also bubbled with pride at his graduation. Thank you for reminding me of those fond memories.
As just last year I lost that same young man my son to a drug overdose at 32 yo.
I only say this to empathize I too having a lotta big emotions but my faith is strong..
I admire your dedication to your audience and that you also are taking care of yourself.
Im learning As a mom as a women or simply a humane being self care is very important.
And Sir Wit has himself a pretty good gig at Roots and Refuge. That handsome little guy has got me a little jealous. 🥰
Be free little goat Run little goat run with your new beautiful majestic farm friends. Ahhhh! What a life. 🥰
As always Jess. Thank you for being a light in my life and thank you for being you. ❤️🙏
I love the garden after a good rain 😌
Congratulation on your graduation, Jackson!
Hey Hess, notty Toast ,can't 😢over spilled milk!
Im so glad Whit loves his new buddies,he must of looked ao adorable🤭!
Congratulations first born on your graduation,Kudos🎉
JO JO IN VT 💞
I’m feeling your feels. My youngest (and only son) moved out on Mother’s Day. Oh the pain and pride. 😢😊
My youngest is graduating tomorrow. The baby we decided to have because the current youngest was 10! I feel ALL the emotions as well. 🥰
Jess if you like running horses you need to watch "Man from the Snowy River" 1982 film. You will love it. Ohhh Jess so sorry about the milk😮😢.
Awe congratulations to him ! I’m sure he will do good things in whatever he does!
Take heart Jess. I still have many such humbling moments I 'd rather not have for the same reason you do. Next time we do better.
Thank you Jess , for this video it made me feel better, because I have had some of this days that made me feel like I failed. I have goats and chickens that I have been raising for the past 5 years. I have three grown sons , two of them help me with our farm. Thank you for your video they are inspirational
I want to buy a cow from you, if that's ever a possibility. I've been living in my waiting room for years and just thought I'd put it 'out there'. Thanks for everything you do, Jess! ❤ 🐮
Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts and insights and a little slice of life. Great video! Your story about Whit and the horses made me smile.
OH NO heartbreaking to dump the milk!:😅😂
Lady, you are a ray of sunshine! ❤ You're positively infectious 😊. Thank you for explaining how to steward your animals in a way non-farm folk can appreciate what they see on your homestead. My garden is getting overwhelming at the moment, but I know I got this. 😂 What 6 ft walkways? My melons are taking over ❤
Hey y’all! For anyone looking for a spray nozzle that works and is actually friendly to aging hands!!! I’ve always used the Dramm brand…I found a Dramm 12426 touch shower and stream. I think the last two numbers are the color ( mine is purple/berry) but any way I love it!!!!
live the horse and goat story
I love the elephant ears by the mobile home. They are gorgeous .
I have cried over spilled milk. I milk goats also. And this was to be for the 20 kids and it was a nightmare. Ahh 😖I watch and be so much more careful when I milk. Thank you for sharing. Till next time God Bless.