I literally just learned how to care about myself and set boundaries without feeling guilty!! So wild. My life has completely shifted because of this. Thanks for the reminders ✨
Literally? Like so just now as you were typing this comment you learned? 🤣 I think it’s hysterical when people use the word literally in a figurative way 🤣
So accurate! While doing an EFT session a month or so ago I realized my 15+ years of chronic pain & headaches has been my way of asserting boundaries for opting out of things I didn’t want to do but didn’t feel I could overtly state. I always needed a lot of personal space as a kid but never got it. My boundaries were always violated & I was always being told what to do EXCEPT when I was sick. Then I was given space, which is what I really wanted.
It would be great to be sure we are not bringing bad things on ourselves for secondary gains and good to realize what we want and need and to be able to do of
OMG, now I understand the amount of pressure put by family upon me. I also understand why I got tuberculosis while being pressure-cooked to be an engineer. I am something else and we completely denied and disowned that as a family.
”If something doesn’t change, or you can’t make something happen no matter how hard you try, it means you are up against resistance. And that resistance is there for a very important reason. In fact, you’re up against two layers of resistance. 1. Your resistance to making the change/doing a certain thing or being a certain way because it opposes your personal truth (boundaries). 2. Your resistance to seeing the truth about yourself/ being honest with yourself and others about that truth you don’t want to see. Because this is the case, you must deal with this resistance and work to resolve it”. Teal. Thank you Teal 🌎
There are some questions that you would benefit by asking yourself: What does my behavior (intentional or not) force other people to do or to not do? And what does that mean about what I truly want? Have I been trying to hide something from myself? Is there something I feel ashamed to admit to? If I could do or be anything at all right now with the snap of my fingers and people would not only be happy about it, but also consider me good for it, what would it be? If I could trade places with anyone else’s life with the snap of my fingers and people would not only be happy about it, but also consider me good for it, whose life would I want? What might be so bad about seeing what I don’t want to see about myself? What do people who have been experiencing my behavior keep reflecting to me regarding what it seems to them like I want? If I didn’t want to see something about myself and about why I am doing what I am doing, what would it be? ❤🙏🏻
I don't really want a career and I only work as many hours as absolutely required for my own survival. I find ways to avoid taking on too many jobs and responsibilities because what I really want is to live a part of my childhood stage where I felt like I'd missed out on the opportunity to be myself, with no expectations and be taken care of simply for existing. It is quite scary to know this about myself because it causes me to worry about how to support myself. I really just want to spend my life in play, so that I can bring wholeness and healing to the inner child aspect. Lately I have been focusing MAINLY on play and less on "work" and I feel like my inner guidance is actually informing me that I will actually make more money once I really embrace my need to play and fill my days with fun.
Thank you, I resonate very closely to your conclusions, not completely but very close to it. But I couldn't put it in words like yourself, so thank you for your comment its inspiring to know I am not alone in thinking and acting like this.
This is exactly what I am going through right now, I just want time to rest and lay back, I don't want to have no talent and no job and no responsibility, I miss the time where time was meaningless, now everything in clocked, and I am constantly thinking about the next thing I gotta do, never a full rest day.
Man, this was a good one. That first example really hit home. My single mother was adamant that I be independent and belittled femininity, but I have always wanted to be a homemaker. I took got myself into a leadership position but feel very insincere about it even when I do an ostensibly good job because I'd rather not be expected to make money on top of caregiving and housework. I have let my body atrophy in order to get my husband to take on more gendered responsibilities because I felt like I would have to do everything if I didn't have some weakness preventing it. I'm overt about my desire now but still have to go through the motions until we can afford for me to be a full time domestic. I wonder how many modern identities are covert bids for relief from expectations. If you have a label, you don't have to directly assert them.
Ahhhh Faith- with a name like Faith, how can you NOT be an amazing home maker…. or an amazing anything/one else for that matter. I too wonder how many of us have drank the koolade and not been true to ourselves. IOW who would Faith or Andrew be if money didn’t matter, we knew we wouldn’t fail, and we were truly capable of deciding AND executing independently of the good or bad opinions of others AND without the need/desire for external approval, validation or affirmation. Now that question is worth asking.. and answering… and doing for that matter. Regardless, thank you, Faith, for your candor, your vulnerability, and your honesty. There are a lot of us out there, and I am one of them.
I found Teal in 2012 and her teachings about boundaries were a humungous part of how I healed from abuse, addiction, depression, and anxiety. My family saw my healing and it has been a huge part of their own inspiration to heal and we have become so much stronger together and continue to take important steps toward healing. I'm thankful for Teal every single day. With her teachings, I was able to discover an actual personality of my own and become an honorable person with real integrity.
My boundary says "do not lie to me." My sense of self is rooted in the knowing that I can be trusted with the truth. When I am treated like I am not allowed to know the truth, I feel hatred and resentment.
I also have a tendency to overreact to people's lies and untruths! I just feel so disgusted with them🤥🤣 I feel that being honest in one's beliefs is hard enough without all the misleading dishonesty added in. Now being more chilled and relaxed, practicing not overreacting😄
Hi Teal! Usually I never write comments but I wanted to say this for such a long time: Thank you so so much for every single video you've ever done!!! Words can't describe how much you have helped me (and therefore indirectly the people in my life) over the years! I don't know where I would be without you... I agree with you on everything I have heard you say so far and that is EXTREMELY rare for me. I never just believe anything but always check everything in my heart. When it comes to covert boundaries I think my skinpicking is the hardest thing for me to replace with real overt boundaries. But I am working on the pile of shame regarding my existence that is at the root of not being able to overtly live by what I want and don't want - and even hiding it from myself because it hurts too much to know what you want when you think you can never have it anyway, so what's the point... Anyway... Maybe you could do a video about skinpicking or BFRBs (body focused repetitive behaviors) in general?? I feel like they are on the rise and I know I am not the only one who would very much appreciate a video on this topic. Lots of love, Charly
Not even the whole hour ago I was thinking right about that issue you mentioned at very begining, issue, which on my opinion is the basis of all the illnesses, especially menthal, in our lifes, and it's the fact, we are taught, since the day we are born, to NOT be ourselves. From various reasons, like our parents fears, we won't be accepted, we will be rejected, bullied, not loved for who we are. "To fit into" society. So we learn to suppress, oppress and reppress parts of us we are told are not ok, or what we see is not likeable from reactions around us. And until we reach puberty, we loose ourselfs completely.
Thank you for the video and its great examples. It resonates. I heard from Marshall Vian Summers - that you confirmed as well - that you should teach children to value their experience - but how many do that? He says that to teach your child to value their experience you should ask these questions from your children: What did you feel today in seeing this thing? How did you feel about being around these people? What are you feeling at this moment? I really resonate!
There's no such thing as A.D.D. The problem is D.A.D.D......... Dad Attention Deficit Disorder. This talking with your children looks like a great start!
This video really lends some new insights into the shadow self. I can see how a fractured consciousness creates a covert boundary that goes against what we know or want. To be more specific: Someone who's been traumatized can feel like they have NO BOUNDARIES at all, and therefore create a fractured protector persona that creates a boundary like a brick wall around them. This brick wall can come in many different forms. It could be from self-sabotage (this way no one or no thing gets near), it could be icy cold and emotionally vapid (again, it keeps everyone away), or it could be just the opposite and be a master manipulator so that it overly controls everyone and everything in its environment.
I love you, Teal. You’ve changed my life entirely for the better, although it is I who stepped into awareness, I couldn’t have done it without these videos ❤ changing the world one video at a time 🙏☺️
I feel like I’ve been mentally tormented around this very issue for weeks and have put so much contemplation to it. I feel like this is the review lesson for myself like the universe asking me “what did you learn this last cycle?” Thank you so much for this video
I'm just here to tell you, that you are amazing, extremely powerful and that you can manifest anything. 😊 If you truly trust in it, your "biggest" manifestations are inevitable! 💖✨ And yes boundaries are important. Follow your inspiration, don't let naysayers discourage you! We were programmed to all be the same and to become powerless working bees. But the truth is, we can be way more than that. There are more than enough examples out there, of what you can achieve when you follow your path and don't let anything or anyone distract or discourage you. 😊🗝️
I truly want to not be alone. I want to be popular and needed and wanted and admired. And I have gone my whole life using my creative output as a means to make myself feel important and garner attention, and when that hasn't worked, because so much of my personality was intertwined in that... I have been using those creative outlets to TRY to fill the part of me that just wants people to like and love and care about me WITHOUT having to give myself a "big special thing" I do. Because I really don't know who I am anymore, as an adult, beyond doing those things. And I've struggled to meet that need for connection, often feeling like my value to others, however small, is always relative to what I can DO for them, or do to impress them. An thus I'm unhappy alone, I lost my creative passion, I always feel like I want more out of life, I feel utterly powerless to meet my OWN needs because beyond the need for connection, I'm not even certain what else I actually want or enjoy. So outside of time spent with others feeling connected, a lot of the time lately I've felt like I'm just doing whatever I can to "get by" when I'm alone... watching UA-cam videos, listening to music, just trying to entertain myself. And often I've felt directionless. Often I either just want to die, or to run away and start fresh somewhere, try to be a new person entirely, just keep trying until I find a new way of life that feels more aligned. I just try to follow whatever impulse feels a little bit better. I may not have even discovered the depths of myself completely, but I do feel this great depth and capacity for greatness beyond just "what I've done" - like there are so many other potential paths or passions or people out there who may share the same values and appreciate me without me even needing to disclose that I make films or art or whatever. I'd love to re-socialize myself without that prior concept of who I've been or who I've been TOLD I am. And that's going to mean I need to try new things, meet new people and continue to challenge my conception of WHO I AM to begin with.
Wow - this makes so much sense and fills in so many blanks, it’s uncanny. Thank you, Teal! BTW - Learning or being taught this sort of subject matter in school vs. oh, say subjects like Latin or Algebra would have been profoundly useful. I can’t remember the last time I spoke Latin or solved a quadratic equation, meanwhile I have subconsciously, unknowingly resisted the/my ‘truth’, and in turn, created a lot of undue, unnecessary discomfort, pain and harm to myself and those around me. Ugh!Thank you Teal.
This information is so valuable...it actually is an eye opener for me....I do have a certain resistance..and nothing changes. Thank you so much for this! I will have to reflect on some things. Wow
Teal, at age 57 I recently decided I'm just defective in these areas and I have failed over and over to change that and so I should just give up trying. I have been feeling so defeated and sad about that. I tried to explain it to my partner and myself but could not articulate exactiy, other than to say "I am failing at life and there is no solution to change it." THANK YOU so much for this video! It's life-changing and I'm so very grateful to you.
Teal, you have simply explained a concept many people including myself have been blind to and in effect suffering from. This gives me hope. Thank you awesome Teal. ❤️
Sincerely thank full for your deep insight into understanding and dissecting the human condition on the highest levels, your videos are my daily motivation into my own awareness in relation to my surrounding. I WISH THE BEST OF BEST, YOU ARE A GIFT TO HUMANITY ❤
Another integration done in my psyche thanks to you Teal. Thank you thank you thank you 💗 I have no idea where I would be in life without your advices Wish you the best !
Mathew is the exact replica of me... even down to the wardolf education, being the forced servant of others, I've given till I have nothing left to give!
Seeing what I don't want to see about myself would make me feel miserable because I was often feeling miserable and abused and left behind in my family. I felt the weakest and nobody was willing to protect me and understand my point of view. I don't want to be weak but I often feel it and that's why I push people away.
I was expecting Matthew to have become a criminal due to the taboo nature of ambition and self interest instilled by his family. And had they not put ambition and self interest in such a bad light, he may have had a healthier relationship with "success". But due to the manipulatory nature of their parents they ended up raising a confused criminal.
Wow, this is life-changing. 🙂 I deeply resonate with nr 1 and see now that my family background and maybe also the general performance society has pushed me into nr 2, maybe even the woman empowerment movement. Seeing this video I feel so much stress is going from me. I feel deeply relieved and at ease. 🙏.I really want to be in my own frame as well... wondering how it all goes together but I am sure step by step...feeling deeply grateful for this perspective... thank you thank you thank you :)
Wow Teal, your incredible wisdom on human behavior and the subconscious is out of this world! I love how you explain everything and the examples you give really hit it home. I thank you so much with all of my being! All my love, and wishing you the happiest of holidays! 🙏💖🤗
Wow! This was powerful. I recognie the overly control;ing parents who misguided me into being something I never wanted to be. I also recognie how I tried to do the same with my son - best intentions in mind. Weak boundaries have always been an issue for me. I have some work ahead of me to do - thank you so much for the enlightenment .
Another piece of the puzzle, thank you so much Teal. Your crystal clear information lights up my path. Deeply grateful. Take care and lots of love XX ❤
I appreciate you somewhat calling out Waldorf education. They definitely tell boys in particular that they have to be feminine and selfless. Been there.
Your stories about different characters were so helpful to getting me to relate this concept to my own life and start to recognise similar patterns. There are some important decisions I've been struggling with and this helps provide clarity.
You rock Teal and you are the best ❤️❤️❤️ I know you had your challenges and there are many forces in this world that probably would like you to fail but you are never going to do that simply because you are so very genuine ❤️❤️❤️ we are many more who love you than those who don’t ❤️❤️❤️
Amazing. The positions I'm putting myself subconsciously I've felt like are needed but hard to explain to my parents why. And this is such a great example putting it in words! A covert way to express the true self! Glad I found your videos Teal!
I'm so ready for your 2023 Predictions video. I'm guessing this next year's going to be a Wild ride. Your insights are always so helpful and great reminders to look within for the world/experience you're desiring.❤️🙏✨
Teal, I’m experiencing extreme shakiness and doubt in my spiritual beliefs in these times. Can you please do a video on that topic? Have you ever gone through something like this?
Please create videos with Spanish subtitles. I am an American Living in Ensenada Baja California Mexico and have a lot of Spanish speaking followers! Thank you!
Hi Teal merry Christmas. And merry Xmas to your team.💜. I listened to this video tonight . I listened to last 10 minutes and questions at least 25 to 30 times. It takes better shape for me this way. I also watched the other 3 and I was becoming and accepting the resistant part before you mentioned channeling. The love was real it really hit me.. ty for videos. Happy new year to all of you.
The last story is me except I was molested or anything and I'm underweight instead of overweight. I already knew why I was dressing grubby. Thanks for the questions, I will think about this.
My behavior forces people to feel bad about themselves because I always try to be the smartest. I believe that by being the smartest I get and deserve the most attention. I actually want people to see and hear my emotions, not my smart thoughts, but my feelings were rejected so many times that I am used to hiding them. I just want the truth to be heard.
Yes, I need a counselor I don’t even know where to start. If anyone has any suggestions, I would be so much very very grateful. At least I have a place to live a mobile home that I own. Thank goodness I’m grateful for that but I am on disability for severe fibromyalgia, etc. And can barely make ends meet I have $.27 to my name right now but deep inside I’ve always known I’m a warrior and I never give up will but I am also all alone. My mother passed away in 2018. she was my best friend and now I have no one sound so pathetic anyway… I’m grateful that I can just voice my feelings at this moment. Thank you.
I do a lot of self work but I’m not naive enough to assume there are things I haven’t worked out yet . How do I work out if I have a covert boundary ? Have I got a covert boundary simply by deliberately following my own path and being clear with my boundaries and goals with others ?
“Thea” got thrust into homelessness and was being haunted possessed and in and out of psychosis which is why she didn’t step up it’s not just pressure. She wanted to be a magician. Matthew is spot on except the greed thing. I wasn’t always so money focused but homelessness and the spiral that came with it made me solely focused on that bc I was terrified to be homeless. Sorry teal but these are me.
It’s very frustrating to hear Swan suggest other helpful videos, and not being able to find them. I have looked for the other ones mentioned in this video and finally gave up. Can’t you put a link to them in the description box?
Performance art. Seriouse not in suspisiouse way. Love to express and in art and terapi. I havent all tools but ots so give me meani ng cure and so much healing. Misunderstandings by public is a Hugh problem.
I literally just learned how to care about myself and set boundaries without feeling guilty!! So wild. My life has completely shifted because of this. Thanks for the reminders ✨
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Ahh I need help with this … I feel so out of touch with myself I don’t even know what my truth is anymore…
Literally? Like so just now as you were typing this comment you learned? 🤣 I think it’s hysterical when people use the word literally in a figurative way 🤣
@@baddidea4820 it (literally) comes from a place of excitement to feel a sense of freedom..but I see what's you're saying
For those who still feel guilty, i think it’s better to live with that than to keep betraying ourselves.
So accurate! While doing an EFT session a month or so ago I realized my 15+ years of chronic pain & headaches has been my way of asserting boundaries for opting out of things I didn’t want to do but didn’t feel I could overtly state. I always needed a lot of personal space as a kid but never got it. My boundaries were always violated & I was always being told what to do EXCEPT when I was sick. Then I was given space, which is what I really wanted.
It would be great to be sure we are not bringing bad things on ourselves for secondary gains and good to realize what we want and need and to be able to do of
Your ability to use words to describe covert patterns and shine light on them by exposing them from the dark is a true gift.
OMG, now I understand the amount of pressure put by family upon me. I also understand why I got tuberculosis while being pressure-cooked to be an engineer. I am something else and we completely denied and disowned that as a family.
Incase You'd Rather Read About It Instead: tealswan.com/resources/articles/the-covert-boundary-pattern-r534/
”If something doesn’t change, or you can’t make something happen no matter how hard you try, it means you are up against resistance. And that resistance is there for a very important reason. In fact, you’re up against two layers of resistance. 1. Your resistance to making the change/doing a certain thing or being a certain way because it opposes your personal truth (boundaries). 2. Your resistance to seeing the truth about yourself/ being honest with yourself and others about that truth you don’t want to see. Because this is the case, you must deal with this resistance and work to resolve it”. Teal. Thank you Teal 🌎
There are some questions that you would benefit by asking yourself:
What does my behavior (intentional or not) force other people to do or to not do?
And what does that mean about what I truly want?
Have I been trying to hide something from myself?
Is there something I feel ashamed to admit to?
If I could do or be anything at all right now with the snap of my fingers and people would not only be happy about it, but also consider me good for it, what would it be?
If I could trade places with anyone else’s life with the snap of my fingers and people would not only be happy about it, but also consider me good for it, whose life would I want?
What might be so bad about seeing what I don’t want to see about myself?
What do people who have been experiencing my behavior keep reflecting to me regarding what it seems to them like I want?
If I didn’t want to see something about myself and about why I am doing what I am doing, what would it be? ❤🙏🏻
🙏Wow, dank je wel, you are like a 2nd Teal🦢! Much appreciated, since I couldn't answer as rapidly as she was firing those questions.
Thank you!
I just replayed the video like 6 times to get these, lol! Wish I'd scrolled through comments first! So kind of you to do this.
Lies... Sniff them out. That's all your questions help find. Free will is there behind all the shame. It's going to be OK🙏
Thank you! I was looking for a list like this
I don't really want a career and I only work as many hours as absolutely required for my own survival. I find ways to avoid taking on too many jobs and responsibilities because what I really want is to live a part of my childhood stage where I felt like I'd missed out on the opportunity to be myself, with no expectations and be taken care of simply for existing.
It is quite scary to know this about myself because it causes me to worry about how to support myself.
I really just want to spend my life in play, so that I can bring wholeness and healing to the inner child aspect.
Lately I have been focusing MAINLY on play and less on "work" and I feel like my inner guidance is actually informing me that I will actually make more money once I really embrace my need to play and fill my days with fun.
Thank you, I resonate very closely to your conclusions, not completely but very close to it. But I couldn't put it in words like yourself, so thank you for your comment its inspiring to know I am not alone in thinking and acting like this.
Thank you for sharing your personal truth as it helped me see it might also be mine. ❤️
This is exactly what I am going through right now, I just want time to rest and lay back, I don't want to have no talent and no job and no responsibility, I miss the time where time was meaningless, now everything in clocked, and I am constantly thinking about the next thing I gotta do, never a full rest day.
Man, this was a good one. That first example really hit home. My single mother was adamant that I be independent and belittled femininity, but I have always wanted to be a homemaker. I took got myself into a leadership position but feel very insincere about it even when I do an ostensibly good job because I'd rather not be expected to make money on top of caregiving and housework. I have let my body atrophy in order to get my husband to take on more gendered responsibilities because I felt like I would have to do everything if I didn't have some weakness preventing it. I'm overt about my desire now but still have to go through the motions until we can afford for me to be a full time domestic.
I wonder how many modern identities are covert bids for relief from expectations. If you have a label, you don't have to directly assert them.
Thank you for sharing ❤
@ᴛᴇᴀʟ sᴡᴀɴ SCAMMER!!!
Ahhhh Faith- with a name like Faith, how can you NOT be an amazing home maker…. or an amazing anything/one else for that matter. I too wonder how many of us have drank the koolade and not been true to ourselves. IOW who would Faith or Andrew be if money didn’t matter, we knew we wouldn’t fail, and we were truly capable of deciding AND executing independently of the good or bad opinions of others AND without the need/desire for external approval, validation or affirmation. Now that question is worth asking.. and answering… and doing for that matter. Regardless, thank you, Faith, for your candor, your vulnerability, and your honesty. There are a lot of us out there, and I am one of them.
I hope you get to be a homemaker soon, and it's everything you dreamed it would be :)
I found Teal in 2012 and her teachings about boundaries were a humungous part of how I healed from abuse, addiction, depression, and anxiety. My family saw my healing and it has been a huge part of their own inspiration to heal and we have become so much stronger together and continue to take important steps toward healing. I'm thankful for Teal every single day. With her teachings, I was able to discover an actual personality of my own and become an honorable person with real integrity.
My boundary says "do not lie to me." My sense of self is rooted in the knowing that I can be trusted with the truth. When I am treated like I am not allowed to know the truth, I feel hatred and resentment.
I also have a tendency to overreact to people's lies and untruths! I just feel so disgusted with them🤥🤣 I feel that being honest in one's beliefs is hard enough without all the misleading dishonesty added in.
Now being more chilled and relaxed, practicing not overreacting😄
So what does that mean for people who experience you as inherently unsafe with their truth?
"You wanna know the truth: you can't haaandle the truth!" was the favorite entrance statement of a math teacher here. The kids loved him. 😆
Hi Teal!
Usually I never write comments but I wanted to say this for such a long time:
Thank you so so much for every single video you've ever done!!! Words can't describe how much you have helped me (and therefore indirectly the people in my life) over the years! I don't know where I would be without you... I agree with you on everything I have heard you say so far and that is EXTREMELY rare for me. I never just believe anything but always check everything in my heart.
When it comes to covert boundaries I think my skinpicking is the hardest thing for me to replace with real overt boundaries. But I am working on the pile of shame regarding my existence that is at the root of not being able to overtly live by what I want and don't want - and even hiding it from myself because it hurts too much to know what you want when you think you can never have it anyway, so what's the point...
Anyway... Maybe you could do a video about skinpicking or BFRBs (body focused repetitive behaviors) in general?? I feel like they are on the rise and I know I am not the only one who would very much appreciate a video on this topic.
Lots of love,
Charly
Crazy . I’m picking my head/scalp to BITSas I read this.
Yoga helps. Seriously try it. Better than hypnosis or regression therapy. Just breathe. No one can teach you to be in your body but you. You got this!
I sooo agree and can relate to the skin picking!! Please Teal if you'd be able to do a video on that would be so helpful
Love it. Teal is the red pill of spirituality
Beautifully put
This is extremely interesting
This video should have “career advice” in the title. Really helpful, thank you Teal 🙏
It is baffling the amount of new information your able to put out so often!
Not even the whole hour ago I was thinking right about that issue you mentioned at very begining, issue, which on my opinion is the basis of all the illnesses, especially menthal, in our lifes, and it's the fact, we are taught, since the day we are born, to NOT be ourselves. From various reasons, like our parents fears, we won't be accepted, we will be rejected, bullied, not loved for who we are. "To fit into" society. So we learn to suppress, oppress and reppress parts of us we are told are not ok, or what we see is not likeable from reactions around us. And until we reach puberty, we loose ourselfs completely.
Thank you for the video and its great examples. It resonates. I heard from Marshall Vian Summers - that you confirmed as well - that you should teach children to value their experience - but how many do that? He says that to teach your child to value their experience you should ask these questions from your children:
What did you feel today in seeing this thing? How did you feel about being around these people? What are you feeling at this moment? I really resonate!
I get it.
Thanks!
There's no such thing as A.D.D. The problem is D.A.D.D......... Dad Attention Deficit Disorder. This talking with your children looks like a great start!
Thank you!
This video really lends some new insights into the shadow self. I can see how a fractured consciousness creates a covert boundary that goes against what we know or want.
To be more specific: Someone who's been traumatized can feel like they have NO BOUNDARIES at all, and therefore create a fractured protector persona that creates a boundary like a brick wall around them. This brick wall can come in many different forms. It could be from self-sabotage (this way no one or no thing gets near), it could be icy cold and emotionally vapid (again, it keeps everyone away), or it could be just the opposite and be a master manipulator so that it overly controls everyone and everything in its environment.
I love you, Teal. You’ve changed my life entirely for the better, although it is I who stepped into awareness, I couldn’t have done it without these videos ❤ changing the world one video at a time 🙏☺️
Same. This video couldn't have come at a better time for me. Best of luck!
I feel like I’ve been mentally tormented around this very issue for weeks and have put so much contemplation to it. I feel like this is the review lesson for myself like the universe asking me “what did you learn this last cycle?”
Thank you so much for this video
I'm just here to tell you, that you are amazing, extremely powerful and that you can manifest anything. 😊 If you truly trust in it, your "biggest" manifestations are inevitable! 💖✨
And yes boundaries are important. Follow your inspiration, don't let naysayers discourage you! We were programmed to all be the same and to become powerless working bees. But the truth is, we can be way more than that. There are more than enough examples out there, of what you can achieve when you follow your path and don't let anything or anyone distract or discourage you. 😊🗝️
I truly want to not be alone. I want to be popular and needed and wanted and admired. And I have gone my whole life using my creative output as a means to make myself feel important and garner attention, and when that hasn't worked, because so much of my personality was intertwined in that... I have been using those creative outlets to TRY to fill the part of me that just wants people to like and love and care about me WITHOUT having to give myself a "big special thing" I do. Because I really don't know who I am anymore, as an adult, beyond doing those things. And I've struggled to meet that need for connection, often feeling like my value to others, however small, is always relative to what I can DO for them, or do to impress them. An thus I'm unhappy alone, I lost my creative passion, I always feel like I want more out of life, I feel utterly powerless to meet my OWN needs because beyond the need for connection, I'm not even certain what else I actually want or enjoy. So outside of time spent with others feeling connected, a lot of the time lately I've felt like I'm just doing whatever I can to "get by" when I'm alone... watching UA-cam videos, listening to music, just trying to entertain myself. And often I've felt directionless. Often I either just want to die, or to run away and start fresh somewhere, try to be a new person entirely, just keep trying until I find a new way of life that feels more aligned. I just try to follow whatever impulse feels a little bit better. I may not have even discovered the depths of myself completely, but I do feel this great depth and capacity for greatness beyond just "what I've done" - like there are so many other potential paths or passions or people out there who may share the same values and appreciate me without me even needing to disclose that I make films or art or whatever. I'd love to re-socialize myself without that prior concept of who I've been or who I've been TOLD I am. And that's going to mean I need to try new things, meet new people and continue to challenge my conception of WHO I AM to begin with.
Thank you Teal. Perfect timing!
@ᴛᴇᴀʟ sᴡᴀɴ I am not sure about writing back so I'm going to research right now. Thank you and Merry Christmas to you.
Wow - this makes so much sense and fills in so many blanks, it’s uncanny. Thank you, Teal! BTW - Learning or being taught this sort of subject matter in school vs. oh, say subjects like Latin or Algebra would have been profoundly useful. I can’t remember the last time I spoke Latin or solved a quadratic equation, meanwhile I have subconsciously, unknowingly resisted the/my ‘truth’, and in turn, created a lot of undue, unnecessary discomfort, pain and harm to myself and those around me. Ugh!Thank you Teal.
This information is so valuable...it actually is an eye opener for me....I do have a certain resistance..and nothing changes. Thank you so much for this! I will have to reflect on some things. Wow
Teal, at age 57 I recently decided I'm just defective in these areas and I have failed over and over to change that and so I should just give up trying. I have been feeling so defeated and sad about that. I tried to explain it to my partner and myself but could not articulate exactiy, other than to say "I am failing at life and there is no solution to change it." THANK YOU so much for this video! It's life-changing and I'm so very grateful to you.
Hits hard but it hits good🙂 thank you, I am big fan of your teachings!
I needed that!!!
So grateful for you.sending love and support to all.namaste xo
People often say I want attention, want to be the best on the stage. Thas is true because being the best guarantees safety in a dysregulated family.
Teal, you have simply explained a concept many people including myself have been blind to and in effect suffering from. This gives me hope. Thank you awesome Teal. ❤️
Your videos are great when I need help with things. You are beautiful both inside and out and your eyes are amazing! Thank you for your knowledge.
Sincerely thank full for your deep insight into understanding and dissecting the human condition on the highest levels, your videos are my daily motivation into my own awareness in relation to my surrounding. I WISH THE BEST OF BEST, YOU ARE A GIFT TO HUMANITY ❤
Thank you I just meditated for like an hour over this video. Really helpful information.
Another integration done in my psyche thanks to you Teal. Thank you thank you thank you 💗
I have no idea where I would be in life without your advices
Wish you the best !
I was waiting for that smile.
Thank you 🙏🏻 thank you 🙏🏻 thank you 🙏🏻
Wow thank you...I shared with all my female family and friends.
As I grew up, I wasn't allowed to have needs NOR boundaries ... nor emotions.
Thank you Teal❤️❤️❤️ it becomes more and more clear
Matthew was a Capricorn 😊
compromising on our own self's values and wants, based on our unconscious beliefs of worthiness/unworthiness.
Thank you 🙏 i needed this ❤ lovelight to you!
@Teal-Swan Merry Christmas 🎄❤🥰
Thank you so much Teal. I do have the boundaries issue with others. This is from how I grew up. 🙏🙏🙏
Every Saturday I get more out of your videos. Thanks for being here Teal. XO :)
Mathew is the exact replica of me... even down to the wardolf education, being the forced servant of others, I've given till I have nothing left to give!
Came looking for this comment ❤️ I feel so much guilt and shame around being a Mathew.
Seeing what I don't want to see about myself would make me feel miserable because I was often feeling miserable and abused and left behind in my family. I felt the weakest and nobody was willing to protect me and understand my point of view. I don't want to be weak but I often feel it and that's why I push people away.
teal is more beautiful now than she was 10 years ago! how?💗💓💗
I was expecting Matthew to have become a criminal due to the taboo nature of ambition and self interest instilled by his family.
And had they not put ambition and self interest in such a bad light, he may have had a healthier relationship with "success". But due to the manipulatory nature of their parents they ended up raising a confused criminal.
Wow, this is life-changing. 🙂 I deeply resonate with nr 1 and see now that my family background and maybe also the general performance society has pushed me into nr 2, maybe even the woman empowerment movement. Seeing this video I feel so much stress is going from me. I feel deeply relieved and at ease. 🙏.I really want to be in my own frame as well... wondering how it all goes together but I am sure step by step...feeling deeply grateful for this perspective... thank you thank you thank you :)
Wow Teal, your incredible wisdom on human behavior and the subconscious is out of this world! I love how you explain everything and the examples you give really hit it home. I thank you so much with all of my being! All my love, and wishing you the happiest of holidays! 🙏💖🤗
Wow! This was powerful. I recognie the overly control;ing parents who misguided me into being something I never wanted to be. I also recognie how I tried to do the same with my son - best intentions in mind. Weak boundaries have always been an issue for me. I have some work ahead of me to do - thank you so much for the enlightenment .
Good video.
Another piece of the puzzle, thank you so much Teal. Your crystal clear information lights up my path. Deeply grateful. Take care and lots of love XX ❤
I appreciate you somewhat calling out Waldorf education. They definitely tell boys in particular that they have to be feminine and selfless. Been there.
Your stories about different characters were so helpful to getting me to relate this concept to my own life and start to recognise similar patterns. There are some important decisions I've been struggling with and this helps provide clarity.
Thank you so much. Now I have the beginning of my red thread. Finally. Thank you so much 🫶🏼
You rock Teal and you are the best ❤️❤️❤️ I know you had your challenges and there are many forces in this world that probably would like you to fail but you are never going to do that simply because you are so very genuine ❤️❤️❤️ we are many more who love you than those who don’t ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you
Amazing. The positions I'm putting myself subconsciously I've felt like are needed but hard to explain to my parents why. And this is such a great example putting it in words! A covert way to express the true self!
Glad I found your videos Teal!
So very helpfull
I liked this video it gave me lots to ask myself and be conscious of. 👍
Exactly what I need right now! ❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥💎💎💎
So enlightening, as always! Eternally grateful for you, Teal.
I'm so ready for your 2023 Predictions video. I'm guessing this next year's going to be a Wild ride. Your insights are always so helpful and great reminders to look within for the world/experience you're desiring.❤️🙏✨
Teal, I’m experiencing extreme shakiness and doubt in my spiritual beliefs in these times. Can you please do a video on that topic? Have you ever gone through something like this?
I love you, Teal ❤️🔥
Incredible woman
Yeah exactly ☺️ thank you 💜
Please create videos with Spanish subtitles. I am an American Living in Ensenada Baja California Mexico and have a lot of Spanish speaking followers! Thank you!
Thank you Teal, for this video you are still the best podcast on youtube 💋
Love it
@Teal-Swan lol
If I could be anything/anyone, I would be a badass teaching self-defence and boundaries and writing books about abuse from my personal experience.
super cool
Greatly explained as always! Thank you, Teal!
Really nice, Thanks
Thank you dear Teal❤😊
I Am Grateful for teal swan
17:10 oh this one is a good question
I'd like to know where the second exemple can be successful and be the right person in the right place.
Oh Teal, I love you so much.
My awareness... Still a Force to Reckoned with ☝️😎 even in this skin suit 😊
Thank you Teal 💙
VERY helpful info
Hi Teal merry Christmas. And merry Xmas to your team.💜. I listened to this video tonight . I listened to last 10 minutes and questions at least 25 to 30 times. It takes better shape for me this way. I also watched the other 3 and I was becoming and accepting the resistant part before you mentioned channeling. The love was real it really hit me.. ty for videos. Happy new year to all of you.
The last story is me except I was molested or anything and I'm underweight instead of overweight. I already knew why I was dressing grubby. Thanks for the questions, I will think about this.
Have a good week Teal 🙏😋
My behavior forces people to feel bad about themselves because I always try to be the smartest. I believe that by being the smartest I get and deserve the most attention. I actually want people to see and hear my emotions, not my smart thoughts, but my feelings were rejected so many times that I am used to hiding them. I just want the truth to be heard.
Thank you Teal! ❤
This was spot on for me today!
Yes, I need a counselor I don’t even know where to start. If anyone has any suggestions, I would be so much very very grateful. At least I have a place to live a mobile home that I own. Thank goodness I’m grateful for that but I am on disability for severe fibromyalgia, etc. And can barely make ends meet I have $.27 to my name right now but deep inside I’ve always known I’m a warrior and I never give up will but I am also all alone. My mother passed away in 2018. she was my best friend and now I have no one sound so pathetic anyway… I’m grateful that I can just voice my feelings at this moment. Thank you.
I do a lot of self work but I’m not naive enough to assume there are things I haven’t worked out yet . How do I work out if I have a covert boundary ? Have I got a covert boundary simply by deliberately following my own path and being clear with my boundaries and goals with others ?
Epic video.
“Thea” got thrust into homelessness and was being haunted possessed and in and out of psychosis which is why she didn’t step up it’s not just pressure. She wanted to be a magician. Matthew is spot on except the greed thing. I wasn’t always so money focused but homelessness and the spiral that came with it made me solely focused on that bc I was terrified to be homeless. Sorry teal but these are me.
Thanks 🥰
May I ask, are you going to make a video regarding your predictions for 2023?
Teal, Can you please do a video on stalking?
I'm not sure what Teal's past is, but her videos are a direct overlap of my weaknesses. I am very attracted to her and feel very secure with her.
It’s very frustrating to hear Swan suggest other helpful videos, and not being able to find them. I have looked for the other ones mentioned in this video and finally gave up. Can’t you put a link to them in the description box?
Performance art. Seriouse not in suspisiouse way. Love to express and in art and terapi. I havent all tools but ots so give me meani ng cure and so much healing. Misunderstandings by public is a Hugh problem.
9:47 He was raised to believe that money is the root is all evil, and he marries a CEO.
Wow. And I thought I knew what "disaster formula" was.