The idea that even IF you do identify as a specific gender that it has to be your entire personality - barbies, trucks, whatever- is also beyond ridiculous
Even as a cis woman this is so absurd for me, even as a small child, for a small example I've never liked the color pink, and I'm still annoyed how much "women products" tend to be pink. Colors have no gender, neither have clothes, that concept is also so stupid, as well as that ur interests would be depending on ur gender😅 We are not all so narrow-minded 😅✌️ But I get that sadly there are still way too many people who are..
Nah fr. I’m a hyper masculine trans man and I’m still asked if I’m sure I’m actually a man cause I don’t like things like fishing, sports, and camping. I’m an artist and that’s okay, you can be more than one thing and not check every box. At least if you’re asking me it somewhat makes sense, but it absolutely pains me when my cis brethren are mocked for not being “real men”.
@@Harudodo reminds me of this one woman that was mocked for "trying to be manly" because she had an instagram (maybe?) account where she was just fishing.
Yup! Chinese (Mandarin) doesn’t actually have a word for they (that I know of, I’ve only been learning about a year), but you can’t distinguish when speaking, and ppl might use ‘it’ (idk personally, just a guess) He=他 tā She=她 tā It=它 tā
I wanna say I read somewhere in my studies that they used 它 but that could just be some random thing I imagined. If I’m not imagining it, it was a whole article about this specifically, and I found it by looking up the nuance between the tas and attempting to research gender identity in China/Chinese
@@dinothedragonet8757 if i remember correctly 他们 is for either a group of male people or for a group that's a mix of all genders. 她们 is strictly for a group of female people. i don't remember exactly what my teacher said about singular they/them use, though, so i'm not sure if there is one.
I'm ftm and I present feminine (I'm a roseboy) and people assume I'm a woman, which isn't the problem, first thing my parents said was "I thought you were a boy"
@@cringelord_67I believe it is basically a synonym for femboy, a man who presents femininely I don’t know, I just heard it for the first time yesterday
@@treely6647 your pretty much correct, A roseboy is someone who identifies as a boy in anyways, wheather it's gender or pronouns. Femboys are boys (he/hims) that dress feminine
@@treely6647 Rosboy has multiple meanings because it’s been coined separately multiple times. One meaning is an alternative label to femboy. Another is a feminine gendered man, a synonym to finboy (gender not presentation.) And, even a third definition, a feminine gay man.
I'm a trans boy and present myself in a very feminine way,so I understand this. It sucks to be constantly gendered as a girl just because I like feminine things( Like let boys be feminine too,we also sometimes like pink and glittery things
I think the way a lot of cis people look at gender can be summed up in one word: shallow. They think "pink is girl, blue is boy, dainty and sparkly is girl, bulky and dull is boy, fruit smell is girl, tree smell is boy," like what?? That's just childish and dehumanizing. I get that our society has always taught things in a binary way, especially in regards to sex/gender, but you can also believe that something is normally a certain way while also not being shitty towards people who don't fit in your predetermined molds (especially when what they're doing and how they express themselves hurts nobody).
I’m cis but not like this at all sure I might not know everything but if someone wants to call called a them/they I’ll do my best to get their pronouns right so please know not all cis people are like that
@@Silver-PawszzWe know. Just like how not all men are predators and not all white people are racist. But enough are that there is a pattern in our society. That is what we are criticizing.
It's really stupid, especially when you consider that this kind of mindset is also damaging to a lot of cis people as well. I'm a cis woman, but I don't like a lot of typically feminine things. And it's really irritating when people try and push me into the box of "girl = pink, dresses, femininity", and it feels really dehumanising. Like, they just see me as being a set specific way for being a woman.
As a cis straight male, I feel very similar to you. I hate dealing with gender roles and how I am "supposed" to act. I like to be how I want to be, not what other people want me to be. I hope you are finding happiness being yourself more!
Literally! The amount of people that hate furries but have no idea what a furry actually is is absolutely astonishing, how can someone hate something so much yet be so clueless? 😭
@@LightYagamisHusband more like cosplay, it's literally just cosplay for oc's. Some furries even use their suit making talents to make cosplay suits of animal characters
@@LightYagamisHusband yea, but they're still not their own gender/ sexuality. An animal (aka furry) still has to have a gender (male fox for example, female cat, nonbinary puppy, etc)
As a cis person (but Bisexual so still LGBT), i can say I know a lot about trans stuff, and my family comes to me with questions because "i'm the LGBT girl." Also the other day my fox news loving grandpa told me his 70 year old neibghor came out as gay and he got him a rainbow necktie as a gift because he read online that you're supposed to give coming out gifts. He supports the gay stuff but sadly thinks trans takes it too far. But he's slowly learning.
Same! I don’t care what gender you call me, I just prefer she/her. I am a girl, I just won’t go crazy if you mistake me for a boy because I wear baggy clothes and hoodies.
Yeah I'm cis but I support trans people I respect people's pronouns but it seems wrong that Yall are generalizing all cis ppl to be not understanding (my bff is trans)
I think this is a little redundant in my opinion Everyone knows that there are plenty of cis people who support gender or are in the process of learning and trying to accept it And if there are a few people who take it that way, honestly they already saw it that way before Sure generalizing is bad but in this context I just don't think it applies as much Coming from another trans person
Generalizing sucks, I know plenty cis people who respect people's gender and pronouns and cis people who don't. Don't assume that all cis people are bigots why don't support you cuz there are,
Who in their right mind would actually think “ALL cis ppl” we say this stuff but obv its an exaggeration. We cant escape cis ppl from our life, they’re everywhere. So ofc there are cis ppl who are good allies
I found the label "antigender" and feel like it matches me the most because I hate all gender constructs and don't want any of them to have anything to do with me. I usually just say I'm nonbinary or agender because antigender seems niche and I dont like having to explain myself
Gender is just as much as a social construct as money. It changes with time and is defined differently throughout countries. I wish people understood that
I present feminine because I like feminine clothes, and I don’t want to cut my hair short, (and lets face it, I can’t pass for a dude) but I act like a teenage boy. Cis people (almost always adults) tell me to act like a girl, and I’m like “but I’m not”
I have a best friend that when I came out as bie she accepted it and loved it I asked her after if she now thought any different of me since we were in a catholic school both our parents are right winged and she stopped looked me in the eyes lovingly and said “of course not this just made me different and she loves that about me how the world would be boring if everyone was the same” we were in grade 6 guys but the same fucking beautiful person can turn around and say “well I just don’t get trans people like appreciate the gender u we’re given u were born that way for a reason “💀I at the time was a closeted gender fluid so not the best thing to hear Bestie u we’re doing so well 😅❤
i'm a cis girl who loves your channel and it's helped me expand my view of gender so much! i want to make sure i can support all of my friends and my community
Same honnestly i am non-binary as well and i used to be like "my pronounce are they them" i did say it with a calm voice like it wasn't that bad of a mistake but eventually i just said f#ck it people can pronounce me however they want i am tired of telling people 😂
Man as a cis ace this really reminds me how much the community likes to make divides. Being cis isn’t a crime y’know. We’re not all backwards in our ideas of gender, I just ended up liking the gender I was given for whatever reason
I wish people would realize that. I prefer to go by she/they because it genuinely feels better for me than she/her. It’s okay to be cis and i don’t understand why we make a big deal out of it.
Sometimes I feel like I shouldn't be non-binary because I don't make an effort to look or act androgynous, then I remember it's about how I feel and not about how other people perceive me
Transphobes encountering someone using all pronouns : Person : You can use any pronouns. Transphobe : So you're one of them, huh? You look like you were amab, so I'm gonna call you "he". P : No problem, if that's what you're comfortable with. T : ...huh? Oh, uh, nevermind, you actually look afab, I'll call you "she". P : Alright, call me whatever you like! T : What??? Okay, what about I just call you "it", then? P : People rarely use that one, but you can use it if you prefer it! T : What the f... You wantvme to call you fe/fi/fo/fum then??? P : I've never heard of these, they're quite original, I like them!
i present mostly feminine because i can’t transition because of my mom. that being said i wear more masculine clothes, i say i wear my hair in a “man bun” and i act masculine, i still loove jewelry and i don’t own a lot of masculine shorts. i just need a trans pin that says “he/him” on it and i shall be fine
In my most recent year of school, I had four classmates that thought I was a boy, two classmates that thought I was a lesbian, and everyone else who were just confused. Worst part, a kid I barely knew asked my best friend, not me, if I was a girl or a boy. My best friend goes “If I’m being honest I don’t really know.”Then she asked me about it and i had to explain to her the existence of the LGBTQ+ community, and how I present more masculine but am nonbinary and use they/them pronouns. Sorry for the rant, but I definitely agree that cis people are really far behind.
I’m a trans man and have a non binary cousin, I’m French and their side of family is french/British and i always find it hard to speak to them in french because there’s no enby pronouns. Technically we have ielle or iel but almost nobody knows the existence of this pronoun and it’s a pain since you have to link everything to gender in French and the gender neutral doesn’t exist. Basically you end up putting a non accorded version of the word with the accorded next to it. For example : iel est seul•e (they’re lonely) and it’s a fucking pain to read 😢
Alors, ça s’est beaucoup perdu. Avant, professeure et autres dénominations de métier au féminin étaient normales. Ça nous a été imposé de réduire notre vocabulaire. Les femmes ne travaillant pas pendant une très courte période de l’histoire, où étaient d’une famille très riche. En ancien français, il y avait des pronoms neutres (al et el, j’utilise principalement al comme ça, c’est distinct à l’oral. Il y a aussi « cest », « cel »…) et l’accord de proximité. On pouvait aussi construire un attribut ou un participe passé neutre avec « estre ». C’est notre histoire que le patriarcat nous a fait oublier. Je trouve ce que propose Alpheratz très intéressant et beaucoup moins lourd que les points médians.
I just came to the realization that I am a transgender nonbinary and go by he/him/they/them, I’ve never really cared about my gender, but lately I’ve been feeling like I want to be a boy, now I am constantly imagining myself with a flat chest and masc clothing. I’m afraid my parents won’t accept me, I’m in the very early stages of puberty, and I already want a binder because my chest is getting bigger every day, and I don’t have bad dysphoria, but lately I’ve wanted to change my whole look completely and just be masculine and have a flat chest, but I still am not entirely sure I am trans yet, I’m giving myself time to think, I think two years max is enough to understand myself enough to get a binder, or my feelings might change completely. I’m still unsure about my sexuality yet but the ones that are more likely are gay mlm, uranic, and bisexual. But this is just what I’m thinking right now it could change completely, but this is the first time I’ve ever questioned my gender, and probably the only time, I feel so comfortable just imagining being a boy and being called he/him pronouns. I still have a long way to go. Also on the topic of the video, I kinda came out to my mom today, I told her I wanted a binder after puberty, and she’s a straight cishet woman, and I can’t blame her completely because she doesn’t know anything about how I feel, and she was like “why do you not want breasts” and “you should accept yourself for your birth gender” so I’ve just been sad after that because I feel like she won’t accept me for who I am. I won’t be able to get a binder for 2 years and I can’t wait that long I want a flat chest and masculine clothing, but I won’t be able to have that because I’m just entering puberty. [ALSO MY MOM IS NOT TRANSPHOBIC WHATSOEVER, she just doesn’t know how I feel on the inside] and once I finally muster up the courage to tell her my feelings, I think she will accept me, or she can just say “you don’t need labels” or “your to young to know your gender” she thinks I’m a lesbian girl but, I’m a trans nonbinary. I might not be masc presenting now, but I will be, soon, hopefully. Sorry for venting/ranting in the comments I’ll probably delete this later so, tell me your experience being trans/nonbinary/ect. ❤️❤️❤️ love you all very much and I hope you have a great day/night ❤️🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
With love (I'm also trans and non-binary/libramasculine, and I get what the main point of this take is) I think we should remember that the quest to further trans education is an issue of progressive rights for all of humanity. It's more than just a social issue, it's an issue of people's health and well-being. It doesnt do any good to turn this into an "us vs. them" issue and pushing people away. If you walked into a physics class and didn't know any of the stuff happening in chapter 12 in your textbook because you havent gotten there yet, and the professor went "Wow, that's so embarrassing for you 🙄" you'd turn around and walk right out. Condescension serves only one's ego and talking about an entire demographic as if we're an elite clique and they're just "embarrassing" is kinda selfish to all of the trans people, present and future: - Trans people who dont realize they're trans bc their understanding of gender is "behind" and they become convinced that they must be cis because they aren't "trans enough" - Those same unhatched trans eggs pushing themselves further into the closet because they don't want to be seen as "embarrassing," and so they're afraid to ask questions - Children of unaccepting parents/ family members who can't come out because their relatives are convinced that the LGBT is a "cult" because of videos like this that promote divisiveness instead of unity (My cousin is in this situation right now but they can't move out) - Trans kids whose parents are on the fence about accepting them, so the parents go online for educational materials and end up stumbling upon heaps of videos like this where they're being insulted and talked down to and become unaccepting based on that (which doesnt make sense, I know, but it does happen and it DOES negatively affect trans people)
Given that I’m genderfluid and lately often a xenogender of “moon” I absolutely understand people thinking I’m a woman at first brush, since “moon” happens to include a lot of the things that are associated with “woman” by the majority of people. It happens to tack on a lot of other things that move it to where I am not comfortable saying it’s even genuinely between male and female.
I'm a demi girl and my mom thinks that they/them pronouns are weird but even though I haven't left my s/h pronouns I prefer t/t and I don't really know how to handle this. I haven't told her that I'm a demi girl btw.
non-binary people are really cool sometimes its kinda sad seeing people disrespect their pronouns and just thinking they are weird for not having a gender
I genuinely don't care what people perceive me as anymore. All i know is I'm like a hippie creature who enjoys food, that's it. I wear what i wear and act how i act. Girl? Boy? Who gives a crap, man? I'm myself, y'know? I don't adhere to the idea that only certain genders can like/be allowed to enjoy certain things
Hi there!! I’m interested in buying a demisexual bat plush, and I noticed your store is all sold out! When will it be stocked again and how frequently? Have a great day ❤
im pretty young (going in high school soon) and im biologically a girl, but i go by he/him and they/them, whatever the person prefers, and i go by mars instead of maria. i still wear skirts to school, and dress girly. looks dont reflect gender. if a kid is old enough to read and understand the concept of lgbtq+, let them identify as male, non binary, anything, just dont let them make stupid mistakes that cant be undone.
Sometimes I wish I could feel the gender euphoria that everyone talks about. I am a girl, was born a girl, and have always been a girl but I’ve always felt such a disconnect from being one. Like I’m a “fake girl” or “cosplaying a girl”. My soul aches to fit in and I wish I could just feel that.
If you don't like being a girl then you probably aren't one and that's okay, I hope you get to a place where you're happy about your gender, whatever it may be
Im a cis and I support and I understand the concept of gender vs sex I SUPPORT but when people hate on straight or cis people it makes me mad and before someone calls me homophobic I’m ace
@@ieatplasticandNOBODYcanstopme yes, it makes you & the entire movement look stupid because you're after the wrong people. you should be hating the people who are being actively queerphobic/transphobic, not cis people in general. regardless, hate doesn't solve the problem & youre only setting the movement back
oh absolutely! like you talk about your experience figuring out your gender with other trans and nonbinary folk, it’s like the greek forums. talk to cis people about it and it’s like being a first grade teacher.
im someone who's currently questioning my gender (i used to be a cis girl) but then all the girls in my grade, they transformed into something i couldnt even BELIEVE in. they became makeup wearing, expensive outfit show-offs, and its probably just me who's not into this (except the people who were completely clean and didnt go into the internet, but they still wear makeup for the sake of their gender) and even my best friend is going mad about my fashion sense, saying that i have the worst clothes in the world, like who tf decides my clothes and style for me? i keep hopping time to time from being cute and aesthetic to being a heartless tomboy and then i see everyone around me turning toxic, embracing gen alpha language and being the most spoilt state i ever seen them in. im concerned for their future now...
i’m genderfluid and most of the time i’m non-binary. i was born a girl and i present feminine so people automatically assume to use she/her and not anything else. (my pronouns are they/them/xe/xem) i have had someone ask my gender so i told them that im non binary and they continued to ask “no, what’s your gender?” they eventually told me “no your a girl”. in my mind i was like “okay that makes sense since im pretty feminine. they asked my pronouns and i told them and they told me “no you’re a she/her” and walked away. it’s honestly shocking how many times that has happened. also, many homophobic people say “only 2 genders” “you can only be born as 2 genders!” but you can be born as three sexes. male, female, and intersex. yes, intersex is a rare medical condition where you are born with both sets of genitalia.
I’m so sorry that happened to you. It’s baffling that they asked and dictated your gender and pronouns to you like they had any say. It sucks to be misgendered even if you’re used it. (Warning for extensive nerding out about biology, but I think it’s important) I recommend a video explaining how sex is a constellation if you don’t want to read what I wrote. For clarification, Intersex is not so much a distinct third sex that presents the same way every instance, but a category for everyone who falls outside the boundaries of male and female. It’s like like the nonbinary of sex. It’s a miscellaneous folder that can be an identity in itself, but also comes with specifics that don’t always line up with other intersex people. The “both sets of genitals” definition isn’t quite accurate because while someone can have an ovotestis, or ambiguous external bits, they are between the two, having aspects of both instead of having two sets of everything along sex lines. Every reproductive organ in one sex has a homologous structure in the other. And not all intersex variations are visible at birth. Androgen insensitivity leads to intersex people with xy chromosomes and typical male levels of hormones, but due to an inability to utilize it, the body develops as typically female. There’s a bunch of other specific manifestations of being intersex. And based on the intersex community’s definition, it’s as rare as red hair, so while it is still rare, it’s not like redheads are treated as so rare they don’t count. I know redheads get treated poorly in other ways though. But that’s likely an undercount due to how benign being intersex is. Some people live their whole lives and die without knowing they were intersex because it never came up. And the population being as big as redheads is despite sterilization and genital mutilation at birth to “normalize” them into an assigned sex. It’s a medical condition because the medical field is only prepared for male and female patients. Really it’s a natural variation in sex, but because it’s relatively rare, it’s treated like a problem that needs to be fixed instead of a group of people that have specific medical needs based on their combination of sex characteristics just like cis endosex men and women. Now that I think about it, medical misogyny treats female bodies as aberrant too which has bad consequences for endosex afab people. And transphobia in the medical field is also related to how unprepared medical staff can be for treating people whose body isn’t in a neat box.
@@starlydonati2008 thank you for the explanation. that’s actually what i was trying to say but i didn’t know the words to say it so i just said “both sets of genitalia” so im really sorry if i made it seem as if i don’t understand. i really appreciate you
@@rainbow_dash444 it’s alright! Intersexuality is very misunderstood and often swept under the rug. My mom didn’t know until I explained it when we went to pride this year and I commented on someone decked out in yellow and purple with a shirt with the flag. I had to explain the definition as we were leaving. It’s understandable to not have the words yet to understand. I’m still learning, but more I do, the more I want to educate others on the basics so an intersex person won’t have to. We’re in this together so I think it’s well worth (and sometimes even fun!) to learn about adjacent communities within the queer umbrella.
I'm noticing this a lot with my partners dad. Weird guy... plays Animal Crossing and loves to cook, yet for some reason judges me for liking stereotypically feminine things. Like... it's fine for cis guys to like stuff that isn't stereotypically masc in his eyes, but for trans people? No, no, no, you have to be as stereotypical as possible, or you're not valid. Neither my partner nor me are even gonna try to explain to him that we're both different flavours of nonbinary (they might be pangender, and I'm agender and masc presenting).
I (cis man) had a friend/coworker who at the time presented as they/them, i for whatever reason was really bad at gendering her and would refer to her in feminine pronouns. one day i had lunch with her and said something along the lines of“im so sorry for misgendering you so often my cis brain is new to gender neutral terms, and some reason my brain just sees you as a woman.” She was like “don’t worry about it” and began presenting as she/her a week later. I don’t know what I mean by this but im glad ive got so many queer friends, they are wholesome 100
so i was recently outed as trans, and the people i was outed to did not understand that i am nonbinary. i was told “you like being a girl though” because i do tend to present more feminine. they assumed trans meant i wanted to be a stereotypical guy and so just do not believe my identity. is it really that difficult?
im ftm and try to present masculine when im feeling really intensely dysphoric and need my Gender Affirmation™ but i dont actually really care about dressing a certain way or "acting how a man should act" i wear what makes me comfortable and thats that
i love your shop! if i ever see that the autistic and bisexual bat is in stock again i will try to buy it, but for now i will stick with the bracelet! also i really really love your items you have the little beady eyes on the bat are so silly!!
Yes!! I'm gender apathetic due to my autism (which isn't the same for everyone) Anyways, due to my autism and other stuff I've always had trouble understanding social constructs. So gender norms are just something I've never understood nor felt strongly about.* I just dress, look, and act how I want and feel comfortable being because why should I have to stress myself out and deal with uncomfortable sensory information just because "oh, short hair is for boys" or whatever like screw off. *(unless I'm feeling strongly about how confusing and stupid it is or how gender and biological sex are two separate subjects that overlap but are still 2 separate things and somehow people can't understand that!!!)
Even though I am not non-binary I understand like I remember as a kid I decided "You know what I am tired of making my hair into pony tails and stuff like that so I will cut it short!" And straight after cutting my hair my teachers looked at me like I was sick in the head.
I told someone I was a gIRLD when I was agender and had he/they/she pronouns (also hated when something gave a feminine nickname) bc I thought for a sec they were homophobic- THEY WERE NONBINARY- 🤠
Ngl I used to have all pronouns but I cut off the she/her ones when people on used that on me. Idk why but it still gets in my nerves- (I’m also Nonbinary :>)
I'm a cis female and this video hurt. it's not okay to generalise that "cis people" are behind. if you're going to generalise, at least give those of us who aren't in that majority a place to stay out of the hurt. (I do not intend to be rude, but this hurt me.)
Hi there! I wanted to respond to this because I found it really interesting, and I wanted to add my perspective. I do not think this creator believes all cisgender people are behind in their understanding of gender. I would liken this to many women saying "Men just don't understand the struggles women face" (this is a iteration of stuff I've heard in the past). Obviously, this statement does exclude some men (for example, transmen) who are aware and knowledgable about the issues many women deal with. But it is more expression of frustration with a overall culture that allows many men to be ignorant to problems most women face. While I do empathize with your hurt, and you are obviously entitled to your feelings, I don't believe this was intended to single out every cisgender person, but rather vent about their anger with a society that trans people constantly have to explain themselves to. Again, this is just my opinion, it's not meant to be a critique of what you are saying, your feelings are real, this was just my take. You seem pretty cool too. Hope you are having a lovely day!
True! In Mandarin ( Chinese) 他 and 她 are the masculine and feminine pronouns for people, 它 on the other hand is for animals and objects. But when speaking, they all sound the same.
Actual question i'm genuinly curious abouth: since homosexuality means attraction to the same gender and heterosexuality means attraction to the "opposite" sex does this mean that there are only pan/bi or asexual non binary people, or can you also only be attracted to non binary people/ only be attracted to binary people, also another thing is there another term for attraction to only men or only women if you are non binary, since its technically not the "opposite" sex?
Im non-binary. Ive always wanted one of these products, but i have strict homophobic and transphobic parents. Im currently 14, i know "young" to already be non-binary. But i hope to get one of these soon :)
I dont know if you gonna reply to this But i would love to talk with someone like u As a man of sience I have a lot of questions in my mind and I really want to understand more of this Its not that I hate LGBT, but all my leftwing peers think that im leaning too much to the right And it looks simmilar in the other way around
My sibling in being NB because f*** the whole "You're a woman. Why don't you like *feminine thing*?" I literally just left an abusive whole household who's goal was to teach me to be "the perfect woman". They tried to convince me I was only pretending to like video games because I just wanted a moment on Harvest Moon after work! Lol.
My parents are weird when it comes to gender... and the german language is also weird with having gender assinged to some words... and explaining it in german to my parents is a pain.
I’ve spent almost five years building a paracosm with a conlang that doesn’t have gendered pronouns. I didn’t even realize I was nonbinary until _after_ I had decided that there is no such thing is masculinity and femininity in the paracosm _and_ that women of my custom species are flat-chested unless they’re nursing. I knew from the start that I wanted to create a utopia and accidentally incorporated my subconscious desires.
Y’all just for da funzies, this is called ‘Apagender’ and is where basically you just do not care, your apathetic about your gender/ what they call you :3 (Just in case u feel this way ^^)
Nonbinary has nothing to do with societies concepts about how people of a certain gender are supposed to act, we are nonbinary regardless of if there is a society. Same with binary trans and cis people. I'm not Nonbinary because of gender roles I'm non binary because i cannot categorize the body that feels right to me as male or female.
Isnt it counterproductive to shape new identity labels around your preferences rather than strengthening the idea that doing things, presenting in a way... that is atypical for your s3x does not mean your identity as such is invalid? I'm not denying something like non Binary exists even though the 'feeling' of gender in such a way is not even conceivable to me, but I remember when it used to be a label used by very few individuals that were mostly neurodivergent to give a name to a self-perception that most people could not grasp (as a neurodivergent person I relate to having completely inexplicable perceptions, though not related to my gender) and now it seems so conflated with what you express rather than what you feel.
??? This is extremely confusing. What are you trying to say? That people only identify as non-binary because they don't feel "woman/man enough"??? Wh-what?????
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The idea that even IF you do identify as a specific gender that it has to be your entire personality - barbies, trucks, whatever- is also beyond ridiculous
Even as a cis woman this is so absurd for me, even as a small child, for a small example I've never liked the color pink, and I'm still annoyed how much "women products" tend to be pink. Colors have no gender, neither have clothes, that concept is also so stupid, as well as that ur interests would be depending on ur gender😅
We are not all so narrow-minded 😅✌️
But I get that sadly there are still way too many people who are..
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Nah fr. I’m a hyper masculine trans man and I’m still asked if I’m sure I’m actually a man cause I don’t like things like fishing, sports, and camping. I’m an artist and that’s okay, you can be more than one thing and not check every box. At least if you’re asking me it somewhat makes sense, but it absolutely pains me when my cis brethren are mocked for not being “real men”.
@@Harudodo reminds me of this one woman that was mocked for "trying to be manly" because she had an instagram (maybe?) account where she was just fishing.
@@blackjackdaw7865 my word
Maybe we just need to delete all social media and stay fresh at this point lol
Yup! Chinese (Mandarin) doesn’t actually have a word for they (that I know of, I’ve only been learning about a year), but you can’t distinguish when speaking, and ppl might use ‘it’ (idk personally, just a guess)
He=他 tā
She=她 tā
It=它 tā
I wanna say I read somewhere in my studies that they used 它 but that could just be some random thing I imagined. If I’m not imagining it, it was a whole article about this specifically, and I found it by looking up the nuance between the tas and attempting to research gender identity in China/Chinese
Yea they all sound the same
I don't know much about how the singular "them" is used in China, but "them" (plural) is "他们" or "她们" (I dont know much about LGBTQ+ people in China)
@@dinothedragonet8757 if i remember correctly 他们 is for either a group of male people or for a group that's a mix of all genders. 她们 is strictly for a group of female people. i don't remember exactly what my teacher said about singular they/them use, though, so i'm not sure if there is one.
@@arch3r_istired That's actually with most places that distiguish between binary and non-binary in language, English is the outlier here
I'm ftm and I present feminine (I'm a roseboy) and people assume I'm a woman, which isn't the problem, first thing my parents said was "I thought you were a boy"
What does roseboy mean if you don't mind my asking
@@cringelord_67I believe it is basically a synonym for femboy, a man who presents femininely
I don’t know, I just heard it for the first time yesterday
Only reason i know what a roseboy is bc of my ex who turned me into one while we were together💀
@@treely6647 your pretty much correct, A roseboy is someone who identifies as a boy in anyways, wheather it's gender or pronouns. Femboys are boys (he/hims) that dress feminine
@@treely6647 Rosboy has multiple meanings because it’s been coined separately multiple times.
One meaning is an alternative label to femboy. Another is a feminine gendered man, a synonym to finboy (gender not presentation.) And, even a third definition, a feminine gay man.
I'm a trans boy and present myself in a very feminine way,so I understand this. It sucks to be constantly gendered as a girl just because I like feminine things(
Like let boys be feminine too,we also sometimes like pink and glittery things
Same
I think the way a lot of cis people look at gender can be summed up in one word: shallow. They think "pink is girl, blue is boy, dainty and sparkly is girl, bulky and dull is boy, fruit smell is girl, tree smell is boy," like what?? That's just childish and dehumanizing. I get that our society has always taught things in a binary way, especially in regards to sex/gender, but you can also believe that something is normally a certain way while also not being shitty towards people who don't fit in your predetermined molds (especially when what they're doing and how they express themselves hurts nobody).
I’m cis but not like this at all sure I might not know everything but if someone wants to call called a them/they I’ll do my best to get their pronouns right so please know not all cis people are like that
@@Silver-PawszzWe know. Just like how not all men are predators and not all white people are racist. But enough are that there is a pattern in our society. That is what we are criticizing.
It’s ironic that non binary literally relies on stereotypes. You guys don’t even make sense anymore. You’re so far left you’re right.
It's really stupid, especially when you consider that this kind of mindset is also damaging to a lot of cis people as well. I'm a cis woman, but I don't like a lot of typically feminine things. And it's really irritating when people try and push me into the box of "girl = pink, dresses, femininity", and it feels really dehumanising. Like, they just see me as being a set specific way for being a woman.
@@georgiag1902
As a cis straight male, I feel very similar to you. I hate dealing with gender roles and how I am "supposed" to act. I like to be how I want to be, not what other people want me to be. I hope you are finding happiness being yourself more!
Im recently out as non binary and I'm the exact way as this. I present fem but I just don't think of myself as a girl
Congratulations!
Same here
Same here, I'm chill with anything tbh. I prefer more boyish things and don't like dresses but I don't mind people calling me a girl much.
She/they :3
No because I literally talked to a boy the other day who genuinely believed furries were a gender identity/sexualitu???
Omg 😭
Literally! The amount of people that hate furries but have no idea what a furry actually is is absolutely astonishing, how can someone hate something so much yet be so clueless? 😭
I mean, being a furry is similar to being in cosplay or drag, right? I have several friends who are furries, and it's more of a hobby than anything.
@@LightYagamisHusband more like cosplay, it's literally just cosplay for oc's. Some furries even use their suit making talents to make cosplay suits of animal characters
@@LightYagamisHusband yea, but they're still not their own gender/ sexuality. An animal (aka furry) still has to have a gender (male fox for example, female cat, nonbinary puppy, etc)
I’m enby and femme too! But I’m also genderfluid and have my transmasc days, so pronouns are chill.
Mostly same, but I go by he/they.
Hey I'm enby and femme too, but I go by they/them :D
I relate to this sm
I'm not behind on the concept of gender, but most of us are
As a cis person (but Bisexual so still LGBT), i can say I know a lot about trans stuff, and my family comes to me with questions because "i'm the LGBT girl." Also the other day my fox news loving grandpa told me his 70 year old neibghor came out as gay and he got him a rainbow necktie as a gift because he read online that you're supposed to give coming out gifts. He supports the gay stuff but sadly thinks trans takes it too far. But he's slowly learning.
Same! I don’t care what gender you call me, I just prefer she/her. I am a girl, I just won’t go crazy if you mistake me for a boy because I wear baggy clothes and hoodies.
Yea, I’m non binary and most of the time I dress masc but sometimes I like to wear skirts and dresses but that shouldn’t define my gender
SAME! I'm a femme nonbinary! How we dress doesn't define our gender!
not all cis people PLEASE keep that in mind, generalising is always a negative thing (this comment was posted by a trans person)
Yeah I'm cis but I support trans people I respect people's pronouns but it seems wrong that Yall are generalizing all cis ppl to be not understanding (my bff is trans)
hmmm maybe lets generalize "elon musk followers" (he says some weird shit and doesn't even understand the term cis) 😭
I think this is a little redundant in my opinion
Everyone knows that there are plenty of cis people who support gender or are in the process of learning and trying to accept it
And if there are a few people who take it that way, honestly they already saw it that way before
Sure generalizing is bad but in this context I just don't think it applies as much
Coming from another trans person
Generalizing sucks, I know plenty cis people who respect people's gender and pronouns and cis people who don't. Don't assume that all cis people are bigots why don't support you cuz there are,
Who in their right mind would actually think “ALL cis ppl” we say this stuff but obv its an exaggeration. We cant escape cis ppl from our life, they’re everywhere. So ofc there are cis ppl who are good allies
I found the label "antigender" and feel like it matches me the most because I hate all gender constructs and don't want any of them to have anything to do with me. I usually just say I'm nonbinary or agender because antigender seems niche and I dont like having to explain myself
Thank you! Someone who understands!
*Screams in Demi girl 🩶🩷🤍🩷🩶*
I am a trans man that is feminine presenting. I understand the society pain. No im not female, but if they don't know that, then its okay.
Gender? What’s that 😂
It’s hell
Gender is just as much as a social construct as money. It changes with time and is defined differently throughout countries. I wish people understood that
I'm a cis-female but I am very open to learning more abt non-binary, A-gender, gender fluid, all of that just to understand it better
Im a cis-ish dude but I realized that the expected media I am to consume is “masculine” when I kinda jive with everything
But GOD FORBID I like pink
I present feminine because I like feminine clothes, and I don’t want to cut my hair short, (and lets face it, I can’t pass for a dude) but I act like a teenage boy. Cis people (almost always adults) tell me to act like a girl, and I’m like “but I’m not”
love the triple a battery at the end lol
I'm transmasc and I either present very fem or androgynous.
I’m non-conforming and it’s the most freeing thing ever.
I have a best friend that when I came out as bie she accepted it and loved it I asked her after if she now thought any different of me since we were in a catholic school both our parents are right winged and she stopped looked me in the eyes lovingly and said “of course not this just made me different and she loves that about me how the world would be boring if everyone was the same” we were in grade 6 guys but the same fucking beautiful person can turn around and say “well I just don’t get trans people like appreciate the gender u we’re given u were born that way for a reason “💀I at the time was a closeted gender fluid so not the best thing to hear
Bestie u we’re doing so well 😅❤
These comments be hating! :p
Don't listen to them, it's just algorithm recommending to the wrong kinds of people. Love your content! ♡⸜(˶˃ ᵕ ˂˶)⸝♡
i'm a cis girl who loves your channel and it's helped me expand my view of gender so much! i want to make sure i can support all of my friends and my community
Same honnestly i am non-binary as well and i used to be like "my pronounce are they them" i did say it with a calm voice like it wasn't that bad of a mistake but eventually i just said f#ck it people can pronounce me however they want i am tired of telling people 😂
Man as a cis ace this really reminds me how much the community likes to make divides. Being cis isn’t a crime y’know. We’re not all backwards in our ideas of gender, I just ended up liking the gender I was given for whatever reason
I wish people would realize that. I prefer to go by she/they because it genuinely feels better for me than she/her. It’s okay to be cis and i don’t understand why we make a big deal out of it.
My only goal in life is to be a femboy tbh. /s all jokes aside. As an enby who presents feminine against their will I TOTALLY get this 😭
Sometimes I feel like I shouldn't be non-binary because I don't make an effort to look or act androgynous, then I remember it's about how I feel and not about how other people perceive me
Transphobes encountering someone using all pronouns :
Person : You can use any pronouns.
Transphobe : So you're one of them, huh? You look like you were amab, so I'm gonna call you "he".
P : No problem, if that's what you're comfortable with.
T : ...huh? Oh, uh, nevermind, you actually look afab, I'll call you "she".
P : Alright, call me whatever you like!
T : What??? Okay, what about I just call you "it", then?
P : People rarely use that one, but you can use it if you prefer it!
T : What the f... You wantvme to call you fe/fi/fo/fum then???
P : I've never heard of these, they're quite original, I like them!
Did this fiasco take place in your little brain? 🥺
@@Roach9373 "Little" brain??? My brain is VERY sensitive, how dare you call it "little"? Hmpf. I bet you don't care about brains as much as I do.
Exaaactlyy. This is what I'd gone through too and now have this same attitude :)
i present mostly feminine because i can’t transition because of my mom. that being said i wear more masculine clothes, i say i wear my hair in a “man bun” and i act masculine, i still loove jewelry and i don’t own a lot of masculine shorts. i just need a trans pin that says “he/him” on it and i shall be fine
Day 2 of asking for Aromantic frog
you can buy one on their website, they dont do requests youre seeing them make peoples orders
In my most recent year of school, I had four classmates that thought I was a boy, two classmates that thought I was a lesbian, and everyone else who were just confused. Worst part, a kid I barely knew asked my best friend, not me, if I was a girl or a boy. My best friend goes “If I’m being honest I don’t really know.”Then she asked me about it and i had to explain to her the existence of the LGBTQ+ community, and how I present more masculine but am nonbinary and use they/them pronouns. Sorry for the rant, but I definitely agree that cis people are really far behind.
I’m a trans man and have a non binary cousin, I’m French and their side of family is french/British and i always find it hard to speak to them in french because there’s no enby pronouns. Technically we have ielle or iel but almost nobody knows the existence of this pronoun and it’s a pain since you have to link everything to gender in French and the gender neutral doesn’t exist. Basically you end up putting a non accorded version of the word with the accorded next to it. For example : iel est seul•e (they’re lonely) and it’s a fucking pain to read 😢
Alors, ça s’est beaucoup perdu. Avant, professeure et autres dénominations de métier au féminin étaient normales. Ça nous a été imposé de réduire notre vocabulaire. Les femmes ne travaillant pas pendant une très courte période de l’histoire, où étaient d’une famille très riche. En ancien français, il y avait des pronoms neutres (al et el, j’utilise principalement al comme ça, c’est distinct à l’oral. Il y a aussi « cest », « cel »…) et l’accord de proximité. On pouvait aussi construire un attribut ou un participe passé neutre avec « estre ». C’est notre histoire que le patriarcat nous a fait oublier. Je trouve ce que propose Alpheratz très intéressant et beaucoup moins lourd que les points médians.
I like your nails they look pretty
I just came to the realization that I am a transgender nonbinary and go by he/him/they/them, I’ve never really cared about my gender, but lately I’ve been feeling like I want to be a boy, now I am constantly imagining myself with a flat chest and masc clothing. I’m afraid my parents won’t accept me, I’m in the very early stages of puberty, and I already want a binder because my chest is getting bigger every day, and I don’t have bad dysphoria, but lately I’ve wanted to change my whole look completely and just be masculine and have a flat chest, but I still am not entirely sure I am trans yet, I’m giving myself time to think, I think two years max is enough to understand myself enough to get a binder, or my feelings might change completely. I’m still unsure about my sexuality yet but the ones that are more likely are gay mlm, uranic, and bisexual. But this is just what I’m thinking right now it could change completely, but this is the first time I’ve ever questioned my gender, and probably the only time, I feel so comfortable just imagining being a boy and being called he/him pronouns. I still have a long way to go. Also on the topic of the video, I kinda came out to my mom today, I told her I wanted a binder after puberty, and she’s a straight cishet woman, and I can’t blame her completely because she doesn’t know anything about how I feel, and she was like “why do you not want breasts” and “you should accept yourself for your birth gender” so I’ve just been sad after that because I feel like she won’t accept me for who I am. I won’t be able to get a binder for 2 years and I can’t wait that long I want a flat chest and masculine clothing, but I won’t be able to have that because I’m just entering puberty. [ALSO MY MOM IS NOT TRANSPHOBIC WHATSOEVER, she just doesn’t know how I feel on the inside] and once I finally muster up the courage to tell her my feelings, I think she will accept me, or she can just say “you don’t need labels” or “your to young to know your gender” she thinks I’m a lesbian girl but, I’m a trans nonbinary. I might not be masc presenting now, but I will be, soon, hopefully. Sorry for venting/ranting in the comments I’ll probably delete this later so, tell me your experience being trans/nonbinary/ect. ❤️❤️❤️ love you all very much and I hope you have a great day/night ❤️🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
With love (I'm also trans and non-binary/libramasculine, and I get what the main point of this take is) I think we should remember that the quest to further trans education is an issue of progressive rights for all of humanity. It's more than just a social issue, it's an issue of people's health and well-being. It doesnt do any good to turn this into an "us vs. them" issue and pushing people away.
If you walked into a physics class and didn't know any of the stuff happening in chapter 12 in your textbook because you havent gotten there yet, and the professor went "Wow, that's so embarrassing for you 🙄" you'd turn around and walk right out.
Condescension serves only one's ego and talking about an entire demographic as if we're an elite clique and they're just "embarrassing" is kinda selfish to all of the trans people, present and future:
- Trans people who dont realize they're trans bc their understanding of gender is "behind" and they become convinced that they must be cis because they aren't "trans enough"
- Those same unhatched trans eggs pushing themselves further into the closet because they don't want to be seen as "embarrassing," and so they're afraid to ask questions
- Children of unaccepting parents/ family members who can't come out because their relatives are convinced that the LGBT is a "cult" because of videos like this that promote divisiveness instead of unity (My cousin is in this situation right now but they can't move out)
- Trans kids whose parents are on the fence about accepting them, so the parents go online for educational materials and end up stumbling upon heaps of videos like this where they're being insulted and talked down to and become unaccepting based on that (which doesnt make sense, I know, but it does happen and it DOES negatively affect trans people)
Given that I’m genderfluid and lately often a xenogender of “moon” I absolutely understand people thinking I’m a woman at first brush, since “moon” happens to include a lot of the things that are associated with “woman” by the majority of people. It happens to tack on a lot of other things that move it to where I am not comfortable saying it’s even genuinely between male and female.
I'm a demi girl and my mom thinks that they/them pronouns are weird but even though I haven't left my s/h pronouns I prefer t/t and I don't really know how to handle this. I haven't told her that I'm a demi girl btw.
non-binary people are really cool sometimes its kinda sad seeing people disrespect their pronouns and just thinking they are weird for not having a gender
I genuinely don't care what people perceive me as anymore. All i know is I'm like a hippie creature who enjoys food, that's it. I wear what i wear and act how i act. Girl? Boy? Who gives a crap, man? I'm myself, y'know? I don't adhere to the idea that only certain genders can like/be allowed to enjoy certain things
Hi there!! I’m interested in buying a demisexual bat plush, and I noticed your store is all sold out! When will it be stocked again and how frequently? Have a great day ❤
Can you please do an aroace mushroom?❤️
Can you do a vid about trixic? (Non binary person who likes girls and other non binary people) 🥰
im pretty young (going in high school soon) and im biologically a girl, but i go by he/him and they/them, whatever the person prefers, and i go by mars instead of maria. i still wear skirts to school, and dress girly. looks dont reflect gender. if a kid is old enough to read and understand the concept of lgbtq+, let them identify as male, non binary, anything, just dont let them make stupid mistakes that cant be undone.
Sometimes I wish I could feel the gender euphoria that everyone talks about. I am a girl, was born a girl, and have always been a girl but I’ve always felt such a disconnect from being one. Like I’m a “fake girl” or “cosplaying a girl”. My soul aches to fit in and I wish I could just feel that.
If you don't like being a girl then you probably aren't one and that's okay, I hope you get to a place where you're happy about your gender, whatever it may be
Your egg shell's pretty damn thick but it looks like you might be cracking it after all
Im a cis and I support and I understand the concept of gender vs sex I SUPPORT but when people hate on straight or cis people it makes me mad and before someone calls me homophobic I’m ace
Hating on literal oppressor groups is a bad thing? Suddenly we're not allowed to hate the people that hate us?
@@ieatplasticandNOBODYcanstopme yes, it makes you & the entire movement look stupid because you're after the wrong people.
you should be hating the people who are being actively queerphobic/transphobic, not cis people in general. regardless, hate doesn't solve the problem & youre only setting the movement back
The queer infighting is real. And as an asexual I’m often targeted for not being “queer enough” ugh
I was a cis person who wasn't behind on gender the I found out I'm agender lol
Oh lord the bots are here hatin 💀
😬 weird cult... so this is what organized religion gets replaced with... some people just want normal lives. No mass, no parades.
@@thomasparkes5707 omfg WHY TF U HATING PARADES!?!!??!! BRO WHAT KIND OF TWITTER ASS DEPRIVED VILLAIN U GOTTA BE💀💀💀💀💀
guess the algorithm recommended this to the wrong group
@@darkXwolf_15as they always do
@@darkXwolf_15nah these people go out of their way to comment on these which just give them this type of video... I don't think they realize that
oh absolutely! like you talk about your experience figuring out your gender with other trans and nonbinary folk, it’s like the greek forums. talk to cis people about it and it’s like being a first grade teacher.
im someone who's currently questioning my gender (i used to be a cis girl) but then all the girls in my grade, they transformed into something i couldnt even BELIEVE in. they became makeup wearing, expensive outfit show-offs, and its probably just me who's not into this (except the people who were completely clean and didnt go into the internet, but they still wear makeup for the sake of their gender) and even my best friend is going mad about my fashion sense, saying that i have the worst clothes in the world, like who tf decides my clothes and style for me? i keep hopping time to time from being cute and aesthetic to being a heartless tomboy and then i see everyone around me turning toxic, embracing gen alpha language and being the most spoilt state i ever seen them in. im concerned for their future now...
The fact that I started to feel the same way and cried
This is my goal in life, to just not care about how I present myself
i’m genderfluid and most of the time i’m non-binary. i was born a girl and i present feminine so people automatically assume to use she/her and not anything else. (my pronouns are they/them/xe/xem) i have had someone ask my gender so i told them that im non binary and they continued to ask “no, what’s your gender?” they eventually told me “no your a girl”. in my mind i was like “okay that makes sense since im pretty feminine. they asked my pronouns and i told them and they told me “no you’re a she/her” and walked away. it’s honestly shocking how many times that has happened. also, many homophobic people say “only 2 genders” “you can only be born as 2 genders!” but you can be born as three sexes. male, female, and intersex. yes, intersex is a rare medical condition where you are born with both sets of genitalia.
I’m so sorry that happened to you. It’s baffling that they asked and dictated your gender and pronouns to you like they had any say. It sucks to be misgendered even if you’re used it.
(Warning for extensive nerding out about biology, but I think it’s important)
I recommend a video explaining how sex is a constellation if you don’t want to read what I wrote.
For clarification, Intersex is not so much a distinct third sex that presents the same way every instance, but a category for everyone who falls outside the boundaries of male and female. It’s like like the nonbinary of sex. It’s a miscellaneous folder that can be an identity in itself, but also comes with specifics that don’t always line up with other intersex people. The “both sets of genitals” definition isn’t quite accurate because while someone can have an ovotestis, or ambiguous external bits, they are between the two, having aspects of both instead of having two sets of everything along sex lines. Every reproductive organ in one sex has a homologous structure in the other. And not all intersex variations are visible at birth. Androgen insensitivity leads to intersex people with xy chromosomes and typical male levels of hormones, but due to an inability to utilize it, the body develops as typically female. There’s a bunch of other specific manifestations of being intersex. And based on the intersex community’s definition, it’s as rare as red hair, so while it is still rare, it’s not like redheads are treated as so rare they don’t count. I know redheads get treated poorly in other ways though. But that’s likely an undercount due to how benign being intersex is. Some people live their whole lives and die without knowing they were intersex because it never came up. And the population being as big as redheads is despite sterilization and genital mutilation at birth to “normalize” them into an assigned sex. It’s a medical condition because the medical field is only prepared for male and female patients. Really it’s a natural variation in sex, but because it’s relatively rare, it’s treated like a problem that needs to be fixed instead of a group of people that have specific medical needs based on their combination of sex characteristics just like cis endosex men and women. Now that I think about it, medical misogyny treats female bodies as aberrant too which has bad consequences for endosex afab people. And transphobia in the medical field is also related to how unprepared medical staff can be for treating people whose body isn’t in a neat box.
@@starlydonati2008 thank you for the explanation. that’s actually what i was trying to say but i didn’t know the words to say it so i just said “both sets of genitalia” so im really sorry if i made it seem as if i don’t understand. i really appreciate you
@@rainbow_dash444 it’s alright! Intersexuality is very misunderstood and often swept under the rug. My mom didn’t know until I explained it when we went to pride this year and I commented on someone decked out in yellow and purple with a shirt with the flag. I had to explain the definition as we were leaving. It’s understandable to not have the words yet to understand. I’m still learning, but more I do, the more I want to educate others on the basics so an intersex person won’t have to. We’re in this together so I think it’s well worth (and sometimes even fun!) to learn about adjacent communities within the queer umbrella.
I'm noticing this a lot with my partners dad.
Weird guy... plays Animal Crossing and loves to cook, yet for some reason judges me for liking stereotypically feminine things.
Like... it's fine for cis guys to like stuff that isn't stereotypically masc in his eyes, but for trans people? No, no, no, you have to be as stereotypical as possible, or you're not valid.
Neither my partner nor me are even gonna try to explain to him that we're both different flavours of nonbinary (they might be pangender, and I'm agender and masc presenting).
Fair point, they do go hard on the "your this so..." just do you is what I say
I (cis man) had a friend/coworker who at the time presented as they/them, i for whatever reason was really bad at gendering her and would refer to her in feminine pronouns. one day i had lunch with her and said something along the lines of“im so sorry for misgendering you so often my cis brain is new to gender neutral terms, and some reason my brain just sees you as a woman.” She was like “don’t worry about it” and began presenting as she/her a week later.
I don’t know what I mean by this but im glad ive got so many queer friends, they are wholesome 100
so i was recently outed as trans, and the people i was outed to did not understand that i am nonbinary. i was told “you like being a girl though” because i do tend to present more feminine. they assumed trans meant i wanted to be a stereotypical guy and so just do not believe my identity. is it really that difficult?
I want to be seen as a person not be reduced to a gender role.
Me too
im ftm and try to present masculine when im feeling really intensely dysphoric and need my Gender Affirmation™ but i dont actually really care about dressing a certain way or "acting how a man should act" i wear what makes me comfortable and thats that
i love your shop! if i ever see that the autistic and bisexual bat is in stock again i will try to buy it, but for now i will stick with the bracelet! also i really really love your items you have the little beady eyes on the bat are so silly!!
Yes!! I'm gender apathetic due to my autism (which isn't the same for everyone)
Anyways, due to my autism and other stuff I've always had trouble understanding social constructs. So gender norms are just something I've never understood nor felt strongly about.* I just dress, look, and act how I want and feel comfortable being because why should I have to stress myself out and deal with uncomfortable sensory information just because "oh, short hair is for boys" or whatever like screw off.
*(unless I'm feeling strongly about how confusing and stupid it is or how gender and biological sex are two separate subjects that overlap but are still 2 separate things and somehow people can't understand that!!!)
Real most cis ppl but not all , there are some cis tomboys who nreak gender norms same way some cis femboys do too
As a cis lesbian who some days feels more fem and more mac i just wear what i feel more comfortable in that day
Even though I am not non-binary I understand like I remember as a kid I decided "You know what I am tired of making my hair into pony tails and stuff like that so I will cut it short!" And straight after cutting my hair my teachers looked at me like I was sick in the head.
I told someone I was a gIRLD when I was agender and had he/they/she pronouns (also hated when something gave a feminine nickname) bc I thought for a sec they were homophobic- THEY WERE NONBINARY- 🤠
I couldn't agree more, I don't wanna br adhered to a geneder, I'm gonna do things how i want to do them not how society expects me to do them.
Ngl I used to have all pronouns but I cut off the she/her ones when people on used that on me. Idk why but it still gets in my nerves- (I’m also Nonbinary :>)
I'm a cis female and this video hurt. it's not okay to generalise that "cis people" are behind. if you're going to generalise, at least give those of us who aren't in that majority a place to stay out of the hurt.
(I do not intend to be rude, but this hurt me.)
Hi there! I wanted to respond to this because I found it really interesting, and I wanted to add my perspective. I do not think this creator believes all cisgender people are behind in their understanding of gender. I would liken this to many women saying "Men just don't understand the struggles women face" (this is a iteration of stuff I've heard in the past). Obviously, this statement does exclude some men (for example, transmen) who are aware and knowledgable about the issues many women deal with. But it is more expression of frustration with a overall culture that allows many men to be ignorant to problems most women face. While I do empathize with your hurt, and you are obviously entitled to your feelings, I don't believe this was intended to single out every cisgender person, but rather vent about their anger with a society that trans people constantly have to explain themselves to. Again, this is just my opinion, it's not meant to be a critique of what you are saying, your feelings are real, this was just my take. You seem pretty cool too. Hope you are having a lovely day!
@@thoughtfuloudmouth No offense was taken! Have a great day yourself!
@@Estrelda Thanks, it's so awesome to get replies like this!
True! In Mandarin ( Chinese) 他 and 她 are the masculine and feminine pronouns for people, 它 on the other hand is for animals and objects. But when speaking, they all sound the same.
Actual question i'm genuinly curious abouth: since homosexuality means attraction to the same gender and heterosexuality means attraction to the "opposite" sex does this mean that there are only pan/bi or asexual non binary people, or can you also only be attracted to non binary people/ only be attracted to binary people, also another thing is there another term for attraction to only men or only women if you are non binary, since its technically not the "opposite" sex?
bro gender doesn’t matter as much as anyone says. so I feel like the world isn’t really dictating this person’s life as much as they perceive.
Im non-binary. Ive always wanted one of these products, but i have strict homophobic and transphobic parents. Im currently 14, i know "young" to already be non-binary. But i hope to get one of these soon :)
this one is literally me except for asexual, it got all of my flags except for asexual 😔
I dont know if you gonna reply to this
But i would love to talk with someone like u
As a man of sience I have a lot of questions in my mind and I really want to understand more of this
Its not that I hate LGBT, but all my leftwing peers think that im leaning too much to the right
And it looks simmilar in the other way around
My sibling in being NB because f*** the whole "You're a woman. Why don't you like *feminine thing*?"
I literally just left an abusive whole household who's goal was to teach me to be "the perfect woman". They tried to convince me I was only pretending to like video games because I just wanted a moment on Harvest Moon after work! Lol.
Trans and or gnc People: exist
CIS people: confused unga bunga
My parents are weird when it comes to gender... and the german language is also weird with having gender assinged to some words... and explaining it in german to my parents is a pain.
I’ve spent almost five years building a paracosm with a conlang that doesn’t have gendered pronouns. I didn’t even realize I was nonbinary until _after_ I had decided that there is no such thing is masculinity and femininity in the paracosm _and_ that women of my custom species are flat-chested unless they’re nursing. I knew from the start that I wanted to create a utopia and accidentally incorporated my subconscious desires.
as an omnigender, this is literally me
stereotyping & generalizing gets us nowhere
But it's literally true lol, it's mostly cis people who enforce expectations based on how someone presents.
I’m Cantonese and there’s actually a gender neutral pronoun (佢), but it’s only for talking (idrk how to put it but it’s 口語）
Y’all just for da funzies, this is called ‘Apagender’ and is where basically you just do not care, your apathetic about your gender/ what they call you :3
(Just in case u feel this way ^^)
Omg I started identifying as this a couple days ago! Glad to see someone else knows it exists, lol
@@3mily2.0 yay :D
I am ✨️AGENDER✨️
im non-binary and i dont even act or dress fem but cause i still have boobs everyone uses she/her pronouns 😐
im nonbinary but i live with right leaning conservative parents so i can’t really wear what i want
Nonbinary has nothing to do with societies concepts about how people of a certain gender are supposed to act, we are nonbinary regardless of if there is a society. Same with binary trans and cis people. I'm not Nonbinary because of gender roles I'm non binary because i cannot categorize the body that feels right to me as male or female.
im gender fluid .. my friend is non binary
People unfortunately dont even try to learn and understand 😢
Isnt it counterproductive to shape new identity labels around your preferences rather than strengthening the idea that doing things, presenting in a way... that is atypical for your s3x does not mean your identity as such is invalid? I'm not denying something like non Binary exists even though the 'feeling' of gender in such a way is not even conceivable to me, but I remember when it used to be a label used by very few individuals that were mostly neurodivergent to give a name to a self-perception that most people could not grasp (as a neurodivergent person I relate to having completely inexplicable perceptions, though not related to my gender) and now it seems so conflated with what you express rather than what you feel.
??? This is extremely confusing. What are you trying to say? That people only identify as non-binary because they don't feel "woman/man enough"??? Wh-what?????
JAPANESE LITERALLY JUST HAS DESU
Your bats that are not premade or sold out, and someone with an anxiety need this for next year for school basically
Me too except I am gender fluid
The fact that pronouns are gendered to begin with continually infuriates me.
im non bi too. :))))
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