Here’s what I’ve learned: You can cut a person off completely for weeks, months and even years. If you let them come back into your life, they’ll play possum for a week or so, but as soon as you let your guard down, their masks slip off and they’ll go back to treating you badly again. Sometimes, they’ll be worst than before because they secretly despise you and resent you leaving them in the first place. Who else can they use, drain and manipulate when you’re not around? XOXO
What is your definition of betrayal tho? Some people will betray someone in reaction to feeling like that person has betrayed them in some way, in order to get back at them.
Words to live by I hate when people all crying about their ex who ghosted them like “but I never got closure!” The closure is that person don’t give a fuck about you! Bye! Thank you! NEXT!!!
What you say is so true, people always want to say ghosting is bad, ghosting is necessary for toxic energies. Especially after you have already calmly explained your feelings and boundaries and they could care less.
Anyone who you consider a friend or family member who regularly tries to make you feel shame about who you are as a person, needs to be ghosted. They will keep you in that role and continue with that behavior for as long as you are around them. If you are sensitive, getting this treatment from someone you "love" may hurt so much that it can drive you to an addiction or even suicide. These are mentally-ill people who get satisfaction from emotionally damaging others. They are weak people who don't have the strength to deal with their own damage in a healthy way, so they put it on others. That's their only way of feeling "strength" and it's pathetic. You can try to talk it out, but people who do this are usually the angry, miserable types and they are not receptive to reasonable communication. Losers. They will usually just try to put you back in your place with shouting, fear, guilt, threats, whatever it takes. Or at most, maybe give you a false apology and gradually go back to the usual mistreatment over time. It's bullshit, take care of yourself and leave it behind. They will probably hate you more than they will miss you for it, but that's their problem. Get that shitty energy out of your life at all costs.
Wow you totally described my childhood and life in my family. It's hard to stay away from these people because you want to have a positive relationship with them but they don't even realize how toxic they are. So I just set up boundaries and alot of them. It's taken me awhile to figure it out. Thanks for advice.
Thank you so much Gary. I’ve been through this from a none friend and none family member who decided she had a right to stalk me after I ghosted/blocked her on sm due to a disagreement. I felt interrogated, harassed and manipulated. She then went after me on a google-stalking campaign until I finally shut all my accounts down and changed my online identity in autumn 2021. Some people absolutely need to be ghosted at all costs.
I always ghost ppl for my sanity, I can't help it. When I become vulnerable, ppl take advantage of that and I get depleted. I've realized, the only ppl I can't ghost are my children.
I just ghosted a guy. It’s appropriate in some circumstances like when you’ve given someone multiple chances. He disrespected me multiple times so he had to go. People know what they do wrong. I don’t have to keep talking it out, just move on. 🤣
@Lollipop love trust your instincts. It’s only been a few days and he can’t respect your boundaries? Block him. Don’t allow men multiple chances to disrespect.
@@davedave1364 it’s insane because I honestly think you’re right. I’ve been going through a lot and just needed some space to get my mind together yet he kept asking to meet with me. I didn’t respond fast enough and later I check Instagram and he posted another girl 😂😂 so I ghosted and blocked
I’m bout to ghost a 5 year relationship, I just don’t want to fight before I leave I’m a introvert and have to be up to early for work, I don’t have time to be trying to get sleep while a person thinks it’s ok to go kick it with ppl idk if it’s family or not. I should not have to go to sleep with you gone and wake up until you come in, not this nigga I’m good I can be alone for a while I’m not letting no more females get this close
As an INTJ personality type, I tend to "ghost", "door slam" or gladly avoid an individual as soon as I detect their absolute fakery and realize their vibes are too toxic to be around. We have every right to stay away from individuals who can't add any benefit to our overall well-being. Time spent in chatting with them for hours could be productively used on reading, contemplating and self-improvement, far away from their negativity, laughable lies and cringy acts.
I like everything you said except the adding to your life. People arent Lego pieces meant to fit whatever model you desire. People are a privilege not a novelty
Ghosting is the best. If someone does you dirty, they don’t deserve a conversation, an explanation or a confrontation!!! Block, dismiss, delete, move on, and don’t even flinch!!!! The kicker is this: Most of the people shaming ghosting, are the soul-killing narcissists who should be ghosted, but gaslight you into believing it’s wrong. One more thing: People KNOW when they have done hurtful things to you. They don’t need shit to be explained to them.
They can't accept shutting the door in their face AND changing the locks. That's real life scary because the truth will start to come out. That smearing with your name gets real. People will start to see who is clinically insane and tried to kill the other person.
I ghosted my whole damn family, they excused people who abused me, they were never really there in my hardest time and expressed they didn't care about my grieving when my mom died, and they never once blamed my baby as family though she certainly was. They only called me to use to attend their events and for their kids and never helped me and then told me to just let it go and forget what they do. I refuse to speak to them anymore, I am GONE.
I was tested a few times after a major shift. The guards around my heart told me exactly who the person was. Everything was on point. I'm so thankful my eyes are open and the veil has been lifted.
Ghosting a toxic person is the KIND thing to do. It's about self control. Meaning, you are controlling yourself and refraining from telling them things about themselves that will hurt them very much, because their ego's cant handle the negative feedback. They should THANK you for ghosting them, instead of unleashing the truth. You are being kind and holding back. You are sending out a message by what you DONT say, instead of what you DO say. Safer that way. Toxic people are dangerous. They can land you in jail if you are not careful. Do yourself the biggest favor and just dip out. Fade away unscathed and protected.
That's right! When people don't respect you walk all over you talk down on you lie on you turn other family members against you steal your money/ identity..mistreat you on every turn gang up on you laugh at your downfalls & wish death on you, threaten to kill you especially when you never done anything wrong to them oh yeah it's time to ghost them, stay far away from them and find your inner peace.
Evil doesn't respect it. Thats why they send in unfamiliar faces as a means to creep back in. Those people tell on themselves too because the conversation is information based and tied to specific situations. When you don't give the intel...sometimes they will send in more. It's crazy just how pressed evil is to not exposing their behavior.
I ghost anyone that never takes me seriously, I’ve got a lot of enemies now. They always talk mess about me with my peers too when I’m not around 😒 They tell me everything in DM’s and I laugh that they still are pressed about it. It makes me feel special to know people wanted my company that badly when all they do is disrespect me when I was in their presence. That’s why I ghost people…
Im going through the same right now. Glad to read your comment. I used to have a hard time ghosting someone but now I don’t. I have about 3 friends in real life who I call my true friends. I have run into a lot of fake people. Be careful who you choose your friends!
You don't have to constantly tell a grown person about their bad habits towards you! Every grown person knows exactly what they are doing and how to treat each individual so yes, ghosting 👻 is good for not tolerating BS from someone who doesn't show you any respect at all! Ghosting someone will show you the real results on who they are as a individual! You will find out how a person actually feel about themselves and you whenever you ghost on 👻 them! Good video brother!
@@sarahk6254 communication is not the key itself; you must have common senses as well. If you know someone who's constantly disrespecting you, why would you want to tolerate that? You will find many things about the other person whenever you ghost on him or her; only if you ghost the right way and not with pettiness!
I've had to ghost people who were a negative influence on me, or seriously bad for my mental health. Others are just plain dangerous, and really need to go, no explanation needed. They will drag you down if you let them. Thank you, Tyler 💯
Exactly what I was thinking. Some people are just plain dangerous. Birds of a feather flock together, when they go down you’re going down right along with them. Individuals who are a danger to their own lives, are a danger to those closest to their lives as well.
I just ghosted a so called friend. She only returned my calls when she felt like it and was constantly looking for attention. I got tired of it and bounced! Blocked her on everything. I feel so much better
When i ghost or someone ghost me its a forever thing It's cause I won't let them run over me or think I'm naive because I don't say nothing to their disrespect. GHOST IS GOOD. keep on telling the truth Tyler thank you.❤
I feel like I naturally do this. I’m in my own world and doing my own thing and I don’t reach out to people for long periods of time. It’s not like I hate them I just don’t keep in constant contact with people.
But what about those who are tryna date you? You don’t owe anybody anything but I can say that it’s childish. If you’re tryna date me and I need my space I’ll give you the respect to tell you I need some space. Y’all act like telling someone you need space is equivalent to heart surgery
I keep my distance from people because I enjoy my company and keep to myself a lot. I’m casual with people but if there’s someone who I’m not feeling that much I’ll keep my distance from them and not make myself too available from them.
Yes same here !!.I stay to myself I don't hang around anybody. I don't have time for unnecessary drama or energy leeches to.be around me.. I love my peaceful space !
Me too but I don't pop up suddenly in people's lives after weeks gone and expect them to care about me again. Alot of people are saying they don't do people and only keep to theyself but they consider checking in on people once a month is still doing them and trying to keep the door open to them.
I ghosted my ex gf for wasting my time, trying to lead me on. But it wasn't just out of nowhere, I just didn't get upset, I accepted it ,and walked away, I just didn't open her last response. And even though she was acting cold to me, she started stalking my page for a month, and so then I blocked her. After about 3 months , I have finally unblocked because I don't care anymore. My mum recently got married last weekend. And during that 3 month period of cutting her off , I ended up gaining myself back, got a new job and I've moved out at 19. So it's definitely an experience. Do what's best for you! Love from the UK 🇬🇧 Jamaica 🇯🇲
I just cut off a so called friend because they straight up told me they would not be upset if I left them and never contacted them again.I’m ghosting them because like you said Tyler I can’t change them so I’m going to move on and forget about them.Thank you Tyler I needed this message!
Everyone I will be doing a video of when not to ghost and a coming part 2 of why ghosting is good. Before folks start getting down my throat, I will say again I WILL BE DOING UPCOMING VIDEO ON WHEN NOT TO GHOST
Like it eloquently says in Ecclesiastes, there's a time and a place for so many things under the sun. Ghosting is definitely one of them, despite what some manipulative, pontificating a-hole sits there and tries to tell you.
You gotta love yourself period. Nobody will do it for you. Loyalty and respect go both ways. It's not a one way street. Keep doing what your doing man!
Ghosting is actually very UNDERATED! They say ghosting is bad but some people you have to ghost and move forward! It all depends on who you ghost on if they are toxic and negative people YES but if they are positive and good people NO after your experiences with some people for a while you should know who to ghost on and who not to! I totally agree with him 100%!
It’s sad but I don’t give a shit what people think. It took a little practice and it gets lonely at times. But it’s worth it. I have a business to run. What people think isn’t relevant to me.
Proverbs 4:14-19 14 Enter not into the path of the wicked, and go not in the way of evil men. 15 Avoid it, pass not by it, turn from it, and pass away. 16 For they sleep not, except they have done mischief; and their sleep is taken away, unless they cause some to fall. 17 For they eat the bread of wickedness, and drink the wine of violence. 18 But the path of the just is as the shining light, that shineth more and more unto the perfect day. 19 The way of the wicked is as darkness: they know not at what they stumble.
I can sense the bs from meters away.You have to learn how to ghost someone if you feel like something isn’t right with them and they come up with anything to take your energy.
4 years ago I was hanging around a bunch of people that weren't adding value to my life all they were doing was taking at the end every day I would feel drained to the point to where I became depressed once I stop being around those type of people my life became more peaceful started to get backlash from these individuals because I chose peace over drama , at first I felt some type of way because I was always alone but I realize self-reflection is the key
This is true, I was with someone who was only a taker and I was fed up. I didn’t even have the energy to get emotional or argue I just blocked him without warning and will never contact him again. No one likes being used.
If your trying to elevate ghost. If you need a peace of mind ghost. Self care is everything. Look out for yourself and others. Just dont look out for others. Dont forget about (you)
Tyler, this came in like a blessing. I exactly did this starting last night to someone that took me for granted before I watch this vid. I am so with you. GOD BLESS YOU!
@@TylerJTI look I ghosted everyone and delete all my social media's to self improve in silence the girl I tried to get with went back to her ex again and my friends minus 2 of them ignore me and leave me on seen so I just said fuck em if that girl comes back she will submit to me smash her and leave but as for now I'm on my grind through semen retention and self improvement
👻 ing is good because what it does is it teaches people boundaries also let's them know not to cross you again and what you are and are not willing to put up with and if they don't respect it leave em alone period bro
This video should have a million thumbs up and probably 2 million in views. #1. I concur with everything you're saying, and I love the way you said it. I've never heard of ghosting put in a positive light, but I'm once also looking at the half-full glass as see it just like you see it; kudos to you. #2. I've ghosted my entire family and met new friends and new love interests, and I'm pursuing the new path that I carved out for myself and feels good. #3. when I look back at all those I have to ghost it, they were sucking the life out of me, and I wasn't getting anything in return. Or I was having to compromise what I was reaching for what I've given, and I've given an awful lot over a significant span of my life. I raised someone else's children, my children, took care of my sibling (whose children I raised), I also took care of my mother (deceased, my grandmother's deceased, my father's dead), and I have grown folks around me or not really around me. They should be around me, and those that are around me dictate to me try. Well, what I've done with my life since I've ghosted my family is remarkable. I've met a lot of younger people who are beautiful people who also have their needs. I've encouraged them to share books with some of them; we have the same interests. I enjoy several of them on my job, and then I met a new love interest with such chemistry and compatibility that I'm falling in love every day. He's putting out as much as I'm putting out, and that's wonderful; there's no just one side it takes, and not only that, he recognizes that it's because of our interests in 1 another and his ability to show me something I hadn't seen in myself in a long time that now has me looking better and my family is the was is trying to creep back into my world, but I'm telling them said remain where they are at this point because I'm not complete I'm not finished with my journey at this time. I'm carving out a new path for my life. I thank you so much!
Brother I love that we have the same name. Perhaps us Tyler’s are too wise for our own good. You got lots of good wisdom out here to share and I appreciate it. I’m tempted to start binging all your videos. You see this world for how it really is and very few people seem to be able to do that. Or maybe we just have a similar perspective. I don’t know but I vibe with you. Take care
Thank you so very much ty. You can bing my videos if you please. If you feel like you want to contact me, you can do so at tjlwriter32@gmail.com. peace and blessings
Thanks for your content Tyler. I've been watching your videos through my whole undergraduate (microbiology)years in college and your videos helped me remove and deal with negativity in my family and remove toxic friends.
Dating the way the world does it will get you sick. The ones who have been sick for the longest are still hunting down others to drag them down. It's evil, but it does not care. God's way is best. You won't take Ls that you won't recover from.
It gets easier to cut off the fakes and phonies after you turn 30, and when you turn 40, the cut-off game becomes lethal and ice-cold. They'll run to tell people the poison about you, but not about what made you make the decision. In the end, moving in silence and focusing on your success, will always put you and keep you on top.
Tyler all the words you have said everything is true.I experience all of that..I overcome all of that.Yes sir is nothing but the truth.I love your you tube channel everything makes sense.it takes confidence to act on it.And comes with fear too but all things work it out.Thank you tyler.I believe you.
I ghosted a girl who i was seeing. She was not putting in any effort or anything, i would have to start any conversation via text, she couldnt bother to text me first and see how was i doing or anything, i was always starting it, so i realized my worth and just ghosted and never texted her again, and im happy
You got it brother. Going through this right now and it works. If nothing else you see where persons ❤ is at. And i can handle the truth about ❤ and loyalty
If I ghost, then the ghosted person has earned it. If a person is ghosted then they should take the hint and move on. Every person has a right to ghost if they aren’t happy with being around someone and they are done with the connection and want to be left alone. If you get shit for ghosting, then the shit bringers don’t respect your boundaries. They don’t understand your need for space and have earned the ghosting experience, especially if they are toxic people. They need to back off and learn from the experience instead of criticising those who want to leave. If you get ghosted, respect yourself and the other person enough to call it quits and move on. Obviously they are not right for you and you are not right for them. Everyone will find their true people eventually. Don’t criticise someone for ghosting. You might not know that they were trying to protect themselves from a harmful person or situation. Ghosting could save your life.
He has well intentions but he steps my boundaries and is inattentive to me, so i have no choice but to leave now out of self love and respect.Especially after multiple tries with him.
Great video as always! For me it comes down to danger. If I feel a person is a danger to their own lives, I will ghost them. Regardless of how long the friendship/relationship has gone on, and regardless of how good it was in the past. If a person goes on a long streak (months or years) of being toxic and dangerous, I clock out. Birds of a feather flock together. When they go down, you’re going down with them.
That's soooo smart. You think you can be that beacon of light. After awhile they will poison you. They will show who they are and what they like. Nobody is exempt from their pain brain. It's cancerous.
Thanks Tyler, this video was very cool and interesting 🤔. You definitely changed my perspective on ghosting entirely 😯👍🏽💯👏🏾. Well said like always man. I been waiting for your videos. I most certainly can't wait to hear your podcasts again they inspired me to my core and I can certainly relate to majority of your podcasts and UA-cam videos 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👍🏽💯.
Amen amen brother so true they mean you no good Praying and fasting is the key and obedience.Powerful message people take heed.These people are satanic keep them out.You are amazing and blessed changing lives thank you sir we appreciate your kindness thank you.Blessings💖💖🙏🍒
This video is super important in my life now, and I am about to ghost someone and most of my entire old life, I should of ghosted years ago cause they toxic to a whole new level.
Words don't mean anything anymore. Liars talk the best. The actions will line up too. It's the intention. Only discernment will allow you to see who is who. People be tied into alot of stuff that will hurt you. Cleaning house is necessary when evil is involved. They don't care about you anyways.
Here’s what I’ve learned: You can cut a person off completely for weeks, months and even years. If you let them come back into your life, they’ll play possum for a week or so, but as soon as you let your guard down, their masks slip off and they’ll go back to treating you badly again. Sometimes, they’ll be worst than before because they secretly despise you and resent you leaving them in the first place. Who else can they use, drain and manipulate when you’re not around? XOXO
These are, the RETURN/REVENGE of the TOXIC GROWN BOYS! Run!
Facts!
So true
"Who else can they use, drain and manipulate when you’re not around?" I can chew on that for weeks. FACTS
I go through that right now
Imo anyone that betrays you is worthy of being ghosted.
I agree
I agree leave those jokers right where they stand !
What is your definition of betrayal tho? Some people will betray someone in reaction to feeling like that person has betrayed them in some way, in order to get back at them.
Facts 💯💯
@@env0x lol
i ghosted so many disrespectful people this year and ive been coming up! been getting blessed!
The less they know, the less they can block your plans.
Same here
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@@theresefournier3269 such a shame, but very true.
@@cashflodigitalsportsnetwork in-DEED 🕊️🎶🕊️
Its not even ghosting, its going no contact. Leaving toxicity alone is a must for survival.
Oh, there’s times you have to ghost to take care of your own self.
True to protect yourself.
These words are worth more then Gold.
Yeah. I wouldn't want to ghost you. ;) lol
Yes. Self Love has to be preserved.
So true
Sometime you got to ghost your entire life, throwing it all away and start new, fresh with no toxic people at all.
Agreed !
No toxic ppl at all??? 🤔
Yesss
@@KAIZENURAMESHI it's possible I just did it. I am alone most of the day and it's peaceful.
I thought I was the only one.😁😀🤣
Seeking "closure" is an appeal to get scammed. Just accept what they did and move on.
Exactly correct !! The name speaks for itself Closure means Close the door on that situation and never look back !
Facts
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Words to live by
I hate when people all crying about their ex who ghosted them like “but I never got closure!” The closure is that person don’t give a fuck about you! Bye! Thank you! NEXT!!!
Facts 💯💯💯
What you say is so true, people always want to say ghosting is bad, ghosting is necessary for toxic energies. Especially after you have already calmly explained your feelings and boundaries and they could care less.
Anyone who you consider a friend or family member who regularly tries to make you feel shame about who you are as a person, needs to be ghosted. They will keep you in that role and continue with that behavior for as long as you are around them. If you are sensitive, getting this treatment from someone you "love" may hurt so much that it can drive you to an addiction or even suicide. These are mentally-ill people who get satisfaction from emotionally damaging others. They are weak people who don't have the strength to deal with their own damage in a healthy way, so they put it on others. That's their only way of feeling "strength" and it's pathetic. You can try to talk it out, but people who do this are usually the angry, miserable types and they are not receptive to reasonable communication. Losers. They will usually just try to put you back in your place with shouting, fear, guilt, threats, whatever it takes. Or at most, maybe give you a false apology and gradually go back to the usual mistreatment over time. It's bullshit, take care of yourself and leave it behind. They will probably hate you more than they will miss you for it, but that's their problem. Get that shitty energy out of your life at all costs.
Gary I love this comment. I agree 100%
Gary, I too, love your comment. So well said. Thank you for sharing your knowledge with us! You are making a difference. 👍💯❤
Wow you totally described my childhood and life in my family. It's hard to stay away from these people because you want to have a positive relationship with them but they don't even realize how toxic they are. So I just set up boundaries and alot of them. It's taken me awhile to figure it out. Thanks for advice.
Thank you so much Gary. I’ve been through this from a none friend and none family member who decided she had a right to stalk me after I ghosted/blocked her on sm due to a disagreement. I felt interrogated, harassed and manipulated. She then went after me on a google-stalking campaign until I finally shut all my accounts down and changed my online identity in autumn 2021. Some people absolutely need to be ghosted at all costs.
How many people just love listen to Tyler he keep it real & call people out on their bullshit..
Love this guys videos
@@Hilary945 yes 😉
Hes he is quick and to the point
Yes !! Tyler keep it all the way real !! He don't sugar coat or beat around the bush he always tell it like it is !
Does anyone know his email? I just found his channel.
I always ghost ppl for my sanity, I can't help it. When I become vulnerable, ppl take advantage of that and I get depleted. I've realized, the only ppl I can't ghost are my children.
I just ghosted a guy. It’s appropriate in some circumstances like when you’ve given someone multiple chances. He disrespected me multiple times so he had to go. People know what they do wrong. I don’t have to keep talking it out, just move on. 🤣
@Lollipop love trust your instincts. It’s only been a few days and he can’t respect your boundaries? Block him. Don’t allow men multiple chances to disrespect.
@@davedave1364 it’s insane because I honestly think you’re right. I’ve been going through a lot and just needed some space to get my mind together yet he kept asking to meet with me. I didn’t respond fast enough and later I check Instagram and he posted another girl 😂😂 so I ghosted and blocked
It sounds like you took the gloves off 🥊😅⛷️🏂🫂🍿
@@davedave1364 100 percent agree! I’ve learned if something feels off, it usually is! Always trust your gut. Sorry for the late reply!
I’m bout to ghost a 5 year relationship, I just don’t want to fight before I leave
I’m a introvert and have to be up to early for work, I don’t have time to be trying to get sleep while a person thinks it’s ok to go kick it with ppl idk if it’s family or not. I should not have to go to sleep with you gone and wake up until you come in, not this nigga I’m good I can be alone for a while
I’m not letting no more females get this close
As an INTJ personality type, I tend to "ghost", "door slam" or gladly avoid an individual as soon as I detect their absolute fakery and realize their vibes are too toxic to be around.
We have every right to stay away from individuals who can't add any benefit to our overall well-being. Time spent in chatting with them for hours could be productively used on reading, contemplating and self-improvement, far away from their negativity, laughable lies and cringy acts.
FACTS 💯💯💯💯
I like everything you said except the adding to your life. People arent Lego pieces meant to fit whatever model you desire. People are a privilege not a novelty
@@kidindie6 calm down ..
@@NewEarthEnglish calm down? I forgot I even left this comment. we all have lives outside the internet guy
@@kidindie6 I don’t 😔
Ghosting is the best.
If someone does you dirty, they don’t deserve a conversation, an explanation or a confrontation!!! Block, dismiss, delete, move on, and don’t even flinch!!!!
The kicker is this:
Most of the people shaming ghosting, are the soul-killing narcissists who should be ghosted, but gaslight you into believing it’s wrong.
One more thing:
People KNOW when they have done hurtful things to you. They don’t need shit to be explained to them.
Real eyes realize real Lies
They can't accept shutting the door in their face AND changing the locks. That's real life scary because the truth will start to come out. That smearing with your name gets real. People will start to see who is clinically insane and tried to kill the other person.
Sometimes, you need to ghost someone if they put you in danger. You have every right to protect yourself.
This shutdown in 2020-2021 turned me into Casper.. A lot of self reflection got me into the right direction. Bless to everyone.
I ghosted my whole damn family, they excused people who abused me, they were never really there in my hardest time and expressed they didn't care about my grieving when my mom died, and they never once blamed my baby as family though she certainly was. They only called me to use to attend their events and for their kids and never helped me and then told me to just let it go and forget what they do. I refuse to speak to them anymore, I am GONE.
You are commenting a chapter in my life, May the creator embrace you with love and joy.
People are all terribly terrible
For peace of mind you need to ghost and remove negative energy from your life
Oh yes yes agree they are demons keep them out Blessings
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So pretty.
I was tested a few times after a major shift. The guards around my heart told me exactly who the person was. Everything was on point. I'm so thankful my eyes are open and the veil has been lifted.
Ghosting a toxic person is the KIND thing to do. It's about self control. Meaning, you are controlling yourself and refraining from telling them things about themselves that will hurt them very much, because their ego's cant handle the negative feedback. They should THANK you for ghosting them, instead of unleashing the truth. You are being kind and holding back. You are sending out a message by what you DONT say, instead of what you DO say. Safer that way. Toxic people are dangerous. They can land you in jail if you are not careful. Do yourself the biggest favor and just dip out. Fade away unscathed and protected.
That's right! When people don't respect you walk all over you talk down on you lie on you turn other family members against you steal your money/ identity..mistreat you on every turn gang up on you laugh at your downfalls & wish death on you, threaten to kill you especially when you never done anything wrong to them oh yeah it's time to ghost them, stay far away from them and find your inner peace.
True that!!! 👍😊
I don't wait for so many reasons to ghost. Two are enough and was gone lonnnnnnng time ago.
People hate ghosting because they love drama.
Ghosting everybody will show you quickly who respects your personal space and time and who doesn't respect that or give a crap.
True.
Evil doesn't respect it. Thats why they send in unfamiliar faces as a means to creep back in. Those people tell on themselves too because the conversation is information based and tied to specific situations. When you don't give the intel...sometimes they will send in more. It's crazy just how pressed evil is to not exposing their behavior.
I ghost anyone that never takes me seriously, I’ve got a lot of enemies now.
They always talk mess about me with my peers too when I’m not around 😒
They tell me everything in DM’s and I laugh that they still are pressed about it.
It makes me feel special to know people wanted my company that badly when all they do is disrespect me when I was in their presence.
That’s why I ghost people…
Im going through the same right now. Glad to read your comment. I used to have a hard time ghosting someone but now I don’t. I have about 3 friends in real life who I call my true friends. I have run into a lot of fake people. Be careful who you choose your friends!
You don't have to constantly tell a grown person about their bad habits towards you! Every grown person knows exactly what they are doing and how to treat each individual so yes, ghosting 👻 is good for not tolerating BS from someone who doesn't show you any respect at all!
Ghosting someone will show you the real results on who they are as a individual! You will find out how a person actually feel about themselves and you whenever you ghost on 👻 them!
Good video brother!
nice comment bro
Most people don’t which is why communication is key. Ghosting is kind of passive aggressive
Big Facts. I agree
@@sarahk6254 communication is not the key itself; you must have common senses as well. If you know someone who's constantly disrespecting you, why would you want to tolerate that? You will find many things about the other person whenever you ghost on him or her; only if you ghost the right way and not with pettiness!
Well said..
I've had to ghost people who were a negative influence on me, or seriously bad for my mental health. Others are just plain dangerous, and really need to go, no explanation needed. They will drag you down if you let them. Thank you, Tyler 💯
Exactly what I was thinking. Some people are just plain dangerous. Birds of a feather flock together, when they go down you’re going down right along with them. Individuals who are a danger to their own lives, are a danger to those closest to their lives as well.
@@jameslane9267 🎯💯❤ Thanks for sharing your comment! So well said!
@Shay 🎯💯👍❤
Truth
Yup, my own father. Not easy.
I just ghosted a so called friend. She only returned my calls when she felt like it and was constantly looking for attention. I got tired of it and bounced! Blocked her on everything. I feel so much better
She won't be missed. The jailbroken phone will keep her entertained. They all obsess over the same thing.
When i ghost or someone ghost me its a forever thing It's cause I won't let them run over me or think I'm naive because I don't say nothing to their disrespect. GHOST IS GOOD.
keep on telling the truth Tyler thank you.❤
I ghost people whenever I feel I need space for myself. My relatives and friends know it and don’t get offended by it.
Same. They understand I need my space
Me too.
I feel like I naturally do this. I’m in my own world and doing my own thing and I don’t reach out to people for long periods of time. It’s not like I hate them I just don’t keep in constant contact with people.
@@candy2325 Same 💯💯
But what about those who are tryna date you? You don’t owe anybody anything but I can say that it’s childish. If you’re tryna date me and I need my space I’ll give you the respect to tell you I need some space. Y’all act like telling someone you need space is equivalent to heart surgery
No need to tell them why you're out the door with them. They will only fault find you and not themselves. Just go.
I keep my distance from people because I enjoy my company and keep to myself a lot. I’m casual with people but if there’s someone who I’m not feeling that much I’ll keep my distance from them and not make myself too available from them.
At least you’re being honest and not playing games.
Yes same here !!.I stay to myself I don't hang around anybody. I don't have time for unnecessary drama or energy leeches to.be around me.. I love my peaceful space !
Me too but I don't pop up suddenly in people's lives after weeks gone and expect them to care about me again. Alot of people are saying they don't do people and only keep to theyself but they consider checking in on people once a month is still doing them and trying to keep the door open to them.
@@ladybird491 Facts
Yes old fake friends and fake family be trying to be cool when they feel like it Naw y’all ain’t my cup of tea 🤷🏽♀️
I ghosted my ex gf for wasting my time, trying to lead me on. But it wasn't just out of nowhere, I just didn't get upset, I accepted it ,and walked away, I just didn't open her last response. And even though she was acting cold to me, she started stalking my page for a month, and so then I blocked her.
After about 3 months , I have finally unblocked because I don't care anymore. My mum recently got married last weekend. And during that 3 month period of cutting her off , I ended up gaining myself back, got a new job and I've moved out at 19. So it's definitely an experience.
Do what's best for you! Love from the UK 🇬🇧 Jamaica 🇯🇲
I just cut off a so called friend because they straight up told me they would not be upset if I left them and never contacted them again.I’m ghosting them because like you said Tyler I can’t change them so I’m going to move on and forget about them.Thank you Tyler I needed this message!
Blocking/Ghosting speaks volumes because you will hear from others that they’ve asked for you.
So true! 💯
Very true. Don't be afraid of knowone, even family. I hate gossips, even family. :
Everyone I will be doing a video of when not to ghost and a coming part 2 of why ghosting is good. Before folks start getting down my throat, I will say again I WILL BE DOING UPCOMING VIDEO ON WHEN NOT TO GHOST
Tyler JTI Can't wait for the next video and your podcasts whenever you get a chance 👍🏽💯👏🏾.
Thank you Tyler! 👍😊
Thank you brother Tyler for your time and energy 🤍✨
Thank you sir we appreciate thanks you .Looking forward.
Life is extremely shorter than you think. Cut out the bad and keep the good!
Like it eloquently says in Ecclesiastes, there's a time and a place for so many things under the sun. Ghosting is definitely one of them, despite what some manipulative, pontificating a-hole sits there and tries to tell you.
Ghosting Is great in situations if abuse betrayal and blatant disrespect.
I love how this man keeps it 100%
This guy should start a podcast omg
OMG I CHECKED HIS DESCRIPTION- HE HAS ONE
You gotta love yourself period. Nobody will do it for you. Loyalty and respect go both ways. It's not a one way street. Keep doing what your doing man!
I'm ghosting flesh of my flesh.
Emotional abuse is real!
💯❤ Hope that you are doing well.
@@kristenmarie9248
Thanks Doll....💃
Best I've felt in years!!
How are you?
A piece of mind and personal space is useful in this situation
Okay and also communicating that you need a piece of mind and personal space is also useful.
Peace of mind? Piece of mind literally means a chunk of brain.
Its good to fall back , so you can reevaluate who you are allowing into your life
Ghosting is actually very UNDERATED! They say ghosting is bad but some people you have to ghost and move forward! It all depends on who you ghost on if they are toxic and negative people YES but if they are positive and good people NO after your experiences with some people for a while you should know who to ghost on and who not to! I totally agree with him 100%!
It’s sad but I don’t give a shit what people think. It took a little practice and it gets lonely at times. But it’s worth it. I have a business to run. What people think isn’t relevant to me.
I would love to have that skill.
Proverbs 4:14-19 14 Enter not into the path of the wicked, and go not in the way of evil men.
15 Avoid it, pass not by it, turn from it, and pass away.
16 For they sleep not, except they have done mischief; and their sleep is taken away, unless they cause some to fall.
17 For they eat the bread of wickedness, and drink the wine of violence.
18 But the path of the just is as the shining light, that shineth more and more unto the perfect day.
19 The way of the wicked is as darkness: they know not at what they stumble.
I can sense the bs from meters away.You have to learn how to ghost someone if you feel like something isn’t right with them and they come up with anything to take your energy.
I was ghosted by someone I cared about /it hurt but It was the best thing thats happened to me in my life. Thank You good to see you
4 years ago I was hanging around a bunch of people that weren't adding value to my life all they were doing was taking at the end every day I would feel drained to the point to where I became depressed once I stop being around those type of people my life became more peaceful started to get backlash from these individuals because I chose peace over drama , at first I felt some type of way because I was always alone but I realize self-reflection is the key
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100% true
This is true, I was with someone who was only a taker and I was fed up. I didn’t even have the energy to get emotional or argue I just blocked him without warning and will never contact him again. No one likes being used.
If your trying to elevate ghost. If you need a peace of mind ghost. Self care is everything. Look out for yourself and others. Just dont look out for others. Dont forget about (you)
I ghosted my family for a year. Best thing ever. Same people that are nice to you in person and talk behind your back
Tyler, this came in like a blessing. I exactly did this starting last night to someone that took me for granted before I watch this vid. I am so with you. GOD BLESS YOU!
Where can I buy an "I'm gonna go ahead and cut this video short." t-shirt?
Maybe I need to sell t-shirts
I'm fixna get my funds available!😂
Please do!!!
@@TylerJTI look I ghosted everyone and delete all my social media's to self improve in silence the girl I tried to get with went back to her ex again and my friends minus 2 of them ignore me and leave me on seen so I just said fuck em if that girl comes back she will submit to me smash her and leave but as for now I'm on my grind through semen retention and self improvement
We need merch, Tyler.
I'm moving on.✨💛✨
Amen keep them out sister god is good keep on evolving .💖💖
He always coming through with the truth!!!!💯🙏🏾❤️❤️
this video was so necessary! I have always felt this way. 👏🏾
If they have to ask why they got cut off, than they are not ready to know why.
Mr tyler im glad you are back to share your knowledge with us again.
👻 ing is good because what it does is it teaches people boundaries also let's them know not to cross you again and what you are and are not willing to put up with and if they don't respect it leave em alone period bro
Tyler is flat out awesome
This video should have a million thumbs up and probably 2 million in views.
#1. I concur with everything you're saying, and I love the way you said it. I've never heard of ghosting put in a positive light, but I'm once also looking at the half-full glass as see it just like you see it; kudos to you.
#2. I've ghosted my entire family and met new friends and new love interests, and I'm pursuing the new path that I carved out for myself and feels good.
#3. when I look back at all those I have to ghost it, they were sucking the life out of me, and I wasn't getting anything in return. Or I was having to compromise what I was reaching for what I've given, and I've given an awful lot over a significant span of my life. I raised someone else's children, my children, took care of my sibling (whose children I raised), I also took care of my mother (deceased, my grandmother's deceased, my father's dead), and I have grown folks around me or not really around me. They should be around me, and those that are around me dictate to me try.
Well, what I've done with my life since I've ghosted my family is remarkable. I've met a lot of younger people who are beautiful people who also have their needs. I've encouraged them to share books with some of them; we have the same interests. I enjoy several of them on my job, and then I met a new love interest with such chemistry and compatibility that I'm falling in love every day. He's putting out as much as I'm putting out, and that's wonderful; there's no just one side it takes, and not only that, he recognizes that it's because of our interests in 1 another and his ability to show me something I hadn't seen in myself in a long time that now has me looking better and my family is the was is trying to creep back into my world, but I'm telling them said remain where they are at this point because I'm not complete I'm not finished with my journey at this time. I'm carving out a new path for my life. I thank you so much!
Brother I love that we have the same name. Perhaps us Tyler’s are too wise for our own good. You got lots of good wisdom out here to share and I appreciate it. I’m tempted to start binging all your videos. You see this world for how it really is and very few people seem to be able to do that. Or maybe we just have a similar perspective. I don’t know but I vibe with you. Take care
Thank you so very much ty. You can bing my videos if you please. If you feel like you want to contact me, you can do so at tjlwriter32@gmail.com. peace and blessings
I am with you Tyler. You just have to discern when it is appropriate, as you say.
Thanks for your content Tyler. I've been watching your videos through my whole undergraduate (microbiology)years in college and your videos helped me remove and deal with negativity in my family and remove toxic friends.
i always love your energy and realness Tyler! thank you for your videos!
So much pain in dating. Is it worth it?
So much out there saying that the idea of love is not real and unattainable.
It's a lonely world
Dating the way the world does it will get you sick. The ones who have been sick for the longest are still hunting down others to drag them down. It's evil, but it does not care. God's way is best. You won't take Ls that you won't recover from.
Exactly! I don't deal with minf games, gaslighting, or any drama!
It gets easier to cut off the fakes and phonies after you turn 30, and when you turn 40, the cut-off game becomes lethal and ice-cold. They'll run to tell people the poison about you, but not about what made you make the decision. In the end, moving in silence and focusing on your success, will always put you and keep you on top.
👍🏼 it’s the best attitude ghosting is the only way to recover get back ou peace of mind and the only way to protect ourselves
Thank you, Tyler. I really appreciate your work helping me understand people.
Tyler all the words you have said everything is true.I experience all of that..I overcome all of that.Yes sir is nothing but the truth.I love your you tube channel everything makes sense.it takes confidence to act on it.And comes with fear too but all things work it out.Thank you tyler.I believe you.
Thank you for the wisdom.
It is good to have to use this tactic
Replayed this twice to be sure its ingrained in my being not just my head HUGE Thanks
You're telling the truth! Know your worth! 💚💫🙏
You are a working men, we realize and respect you for taking the time to create meaningful content Tyler
Agree, this message is what I needed.
This man is speaking the truth
I ghosted a girl who i was seeing. She was not putting in any effort or anything, i would have to start any conversation via text, she couldnt bother to text me first and see how was i doing or anything, i was always starting it, so i realized my worth and just ghosted and never texted her again, and im happy
Your videos are GOLD !
You got it brother. Going through this right now and it works. If nothing else you see where persons ❤ is at. And i can handle the truth about ❤ and loyalty
Ghost master! That's me! Thank you for everything. I 💘 u
Loved this discussion and lecture! You kept it so real 💕yes I'm a working woman on the go too and getting ghost as needed
Protect your energy keep your vibrations high
If I ghost, then the ghosted person has earned it. If a person is ghosted then they should take the hint and move on. Every person has a right to ghost if they aren’t happy with being around someone and they are done with the connection and want to be left alone. If you get shit for ghosting, then the shit bringers don’t respect your boundaries. They don’t understand your need for space and have earned the ghosting experience, especially if they are toxic people. They need to back off and learn from the experience instead of criticising those who want to leave. If you get ghosted, respect yourself and the other person enough to call it quits and move on. Obviously they are not right for you and you are not right for them. Everyone will find their true people eventually. Don’t criticise someone for ghosting. You might not know that they were trying to protect themselves from a harmful person or situation. Ghosting could save your life.
You are awesome! Thank you so much for your advices, they've been so helpfull🙌👏😊
I already knew this within myself thank you for the confirmation I agree
I love how he keep it a buck and straight face . I can watch all day
He has well intentions but he steps my boundaries and is inattentive to me, so i have no choice but to leave now out of self love and respect.Especially after multiple tries with him.
Tyler please do a video on people who try to take the high road when you react after they are the ones who started the drama !
Great video as always! For me it comes down to danger. If I feel a person is a danger to their own lives, I will ghost them. Regardless of how long the friendship/relationship has gone on, and regardless of how good it was in the past. If a person goes on a long streak (months or years) of being toxic and dangerous, I clock out. Birds of a feather flock together. When they go down, you’re going down with them.
Thanks man
That's soooo smart. You think you can be that beacon of light. After awhile they will poison you. They will show who they are and what they like. Nobody is exempt from their pain brain. It's cancerous.
Keep it all the way real Tyler.
Absolutely 👍🏾💯.
Thanks Tyler, this video was very cool and interesting 🤔. You definitely changed my perspective on ghosting entirely 😯👍🏽💯👏🏾. Well said like always man. I been waiting for your videos. I most certainly can't wait to hear your podcasts again they inspired me to my core and I can certainly relate to majority of your podcasts and UA-cam videos 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👍🏽💯.
Amen amen brother so true they mean you no good Praying and fasting is the key and obedience.Powerful message people take heed.These people are satanic keep them out.You are amazing and blessed changing lives thank you sir we appreciate your kindness thank you.Blessings💖💖🙏🍒
This video is super important in my life now, and I am about to ghost someone and most of my entire old life, I should of ghosted years ago cause they toxic to a whole new level.
What about someone who ghosts you after not keeping their word / promise they made with you.
That's coming in the next video. When not to ghost?
Simple! They have revealed to you who they are, & how they feel about you, so you need to cut them loose.
Let go and let God deal with their stupid rear.
Words don't mean anything anymore. Liars talk the best. The actions will line up too. It's the intention. Only discernment will allow you to see who is who. People be tied into alot of stuff that will hurt you. Cleaning house is necessary when evil is involved. They don't care about you anyways.
Right on time message thank you 🙏!!!!!!!!
Now that's to the point Tyler !