WHY I AM LEAVING GERMANY... school, job, friends, and more
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- Опубліковано 29 тра 2024
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There are timestamps in the video that break this video into chunks!
To put a calendar on this long story- this all happened from 2016ish - 2021. This is the last video I will make regarding leaving and my reasoning behind this choice (I will upload an update but a video regarding all of these stories- I won't say anything else).
Like I have stated in multiple videos- I keep things private because a) I am embarrassed of some of the things that have happened in the past b) I don't want everyone knowing my personal life and c) Some things are better left unsaid/forgotten. This is not everything that has happened but a very quick edited down version for UA-cam. I could go on and on about the struggles I have faced but I don't like dwelling on the past/negative. I like to focus on the positive and the good things in life.
I honestly believe that me coming to Germany was very necessary for my personal growth and providing me a path for my life currently. Without coming to Germany I would not have grown into this woman that doesn't let any hurdle or "failure" stop me from achieving my goals. Germany made me realize that anything is possible if you just put your mind to it and actually take a leap into the dark water.
I am not leaving forever (like I stated in my last video) BUT I can not keep running around in circles for crumbs to be thrown at me when I know I have so much more to offer. I enjoy working & I enjoy the social element of having a job/going to school/having a schedule- not having those things for years of my life has taken a huge toll on me (mentally, physically, emotionally, intellectually etc.). Yes I would have preferred having these things in Germany but sometimes you knock at a door that doesn't want to be answered.
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00:00 Life Update 2.0
01:49 Harsh Hayley truths disclaimer
03:08 Failing school
03:56 What am I studying?
04:24 What about Mike?
05:30 Going to university in Germany (Masters)
08:12 Ausbildung/Apprenticeship in Germany (Erzieher)
10:16 Trying to get a job in Germany
11:19 Getting a job offer in Germany & giving it to a friend
13:39 Unnecessary drama
17:19 The straw that broke the camel's back- my final sign
18:30 Giving up is ok & thank you for watching
How old are you?
As old as the days are long
Where are you from?
Florida
Where do you live?
Germany
love yall
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Here is what I wrote in my description box:
To put a calendar on this long story- this all happened from 2016ish - 2021. This is the last video I will make regarding leaving and my reasoning behind this choice (I will upload an update but a video regarding all of these stories- I won't say anything else).
Like I have stated in multiple videos- I keep things private because a) I am embarrassed of some of the things that have happened in the past b) I don't want everyone knowing my personal life and c) Some things are better left unsaid/forgotten. This is not everything that has happened but a very quick edited down version for UA-cam. I could go on and on about the struggles I have faced but I don't like dwelling on the past/negative. I like to focus on the positive and the good things in life.
I honestly believe that me coming to Germany was very necessary for my personal growth and providing me a path for my life currently. Without coming to Germany I would not have grown into this woman that doesn't let any hurdle or "failure" stop me from achieving my goals. Germany made me realize that anything is possible if you just put your mind to it and actually take a leap into the dark water.
I am not leaving forever (like I stated in my last video) BUT I can not keep running around in circles for crumbs to be thrown at me when I know I have so much more to offer. I enjoy working & I enjoy the social element of having a job/going to school/having a schedule- not having those things for years of my life has taken a huge toll on me (mentally, physically, emotionally, intellectually etc.). Yes I would have preferred having these things in Germany but sometimes you knock at a door that doesn't want to be answered.
Also what I forgot to mention in this video (which is pretty funny) is that sprinkle the German bureaucracy into this mix- it has been anything but easy 😅🤣😂
Dear Hayley, fighting German bureaucracy has made you the strong woman you are today. I wish you all the best on your further path and hope that you will return to Germany one day. This country needs women like you.
@@51pinn She will. A German Bakery addiction is hard to break ;-) I hope for her success in the USA ;-)
The Käsespätzle addiction is hard to break 😩😩😩😭😭😭
Hallo Hayley! Ich werde dich vermissen...du hast mir immer "aus der Seele gesprochen"! ! Viel Erfolg - bleib wie du bist*!! Peace**André
I once heard the quote "I hope you learn the difference between giving up and changing direction" ❤️
❤️❤️ and in my heart that is exactly what I believe I am doing
@@HayleyAlexis - You said you gave up. You didn’t. You changed gears. You adapted. You are growing. I took the liberty of placing a comment, don’t know if you have the time to find it. Just remember: You. Did. Not. Give. Up.
Please, please PLEASE be kind to yourself, always. Something tells me that no matter where life takes you, you’re going to make it. Hugs from an internet stranger in Belgium. 💖
@@HayleyAlexisI believe you read the “confirmations” correctly.
BTW, I have had people choose to destroy my life just as that fake-ass “friend” you helped did.
Do you know the story of “Layla & Majnún”? Those people are evil in their motivations, like rabid wolves, but they are still doing the work of Fate or God, which ever you choose for your heart. Let them go to their doom, because living ugly means dying ugly, and you do not want to feel responsible for that. And then accept the guidance their vicious behavior gave you. It’s a whole grown-up journey you are on, so internet trolls don’t get it, and rabid wolves and their confederates don’t get it, because they’re all still in junior high.
I hope you keep us with you on your further adventures.
❤
I’m a doctor and do agree with you that the teacher and childcare workers as well as nurses should get better salaries
Absolutely. But in both the US and Germany. I don't know any preschool teachers here in the US who can live as a single without a second job.
well, you're a minority then.
i'm a psych nurse here in germany and so called
" academicals" couldn't care less.
i can't even count how many times new therapists complained about not earning enough and their
" horrendous" study loans with 0% interest while running around with their gucci bag and brag about their vacations etc..
most of all, the audacadity and sheer ignorance of complaining while talking to ME.
who makes easily a thousand net less. i'm not poor but c'mon....
that's the reality of a nurse.
@@dagmarfrerking2235 Job markets are what job markets are. If one wants better pay one should choose a profession that pays better or start a business.
@@rdmnameEinfach die Wahrheit.
I am so sorry about our bureaucracy. It's a loss for Germany, but I totally understand you and drück all available thumbs for you.
@@kev_scheiba No
Warum entschuldigst du dich dafür? Ist doch INSERE Bürokratie, oder? Wer damit nicht klarkommt hat jederzeit die freie Wahl zu gehen.
Außerdem redet hier eine USAnerin, die sich darüber beschwert, dass ein Gletscherfluss kalt ist, sogar im Sommer.
I hate it when people say "never give up".
What's wrong with having a comfortable life and not being dragged through the mud for nothing.
@@Fragenzeichenplatte yeah sometimes, not constant.
Auf der einen Seite wird in diesem Land über Fachkräftemangel geklagt, auf der anderen Seite macht man es talentierten, gut ausgebildeten Menschen so schwer, hier Fuß zu fassen. Ich kann das alles nicht mehr verstehen. In diesem Land läuft wirklich viel falsch. ☹️ Alles Gute für Euren weiteren Weg.
Genau. Man muss zwischen dem deutschen Sozialstaat und der deutschen freien Marktwirtschaft unterscheiden. Ersterer ist großzügig (gegenüber Flüchtlingen und ungelernten Migranten), letzterer nämlich der Wohnungs- und Arbeitsmarkt, sind brutal restriktiv und diskriminierend (gegenüber qualifizierten Migranten, ausländischen Studenten usw.)
@@val-schaeffer1117In den letzten 20 Jahren hat der deutsche Staat die Renten gekürzt weil kein Geld da war,sozialer Arbeitsmarkt mit minijobs und leiharbeit "liberalisiert",die Arbeitslosenhilfe mit ALG II zur Armutsfalle gekürzt,Leistungen der Krankenversicherung gekürzt,und einen Großteil seiner Sozialwohnungen abgestoßen..dazu noch Bahnprivatisierung,Privatiserung öffentlicher Dienstleistungen...
Weil kein Geld da war,hieß es immer.
Aber um Halb Syrien auf Staatskosten einzuquartieren,ungeachtet ob Opfer oder ISler auf Erholungsurlaub, oder die Vermögenssteuer auszusetzen,das geht mal eben.
Einerseits ist der Wohnungs und Arbeitsmarkt durch Liberalisierung toxischer geworden, andererseits fühlen sich die Deutschen von ihrer Politk ziemlich verarscht und das zu Recht. Als gebürtiger deutscher gucke ich auch schon,ob es nicht woanders vielleicht schöner ist.
Hayley, i was married 10 years with a woman from Honduras. She came here not speaking any german or english word.
She worked her ass of, every day for german class and her drivers license. She vommited every night because of pure stress. But she made it, she's a nurse now and happy, but the life in germany changed her. In Honduras as a girl you can't just go out at night, dancing. We divorced a couple of years ago, but we're still very good friends...
You are a good one, in every aspect, don't you dare to stop doing UA-cam. The world needs more people like you, open minded, emphatic and intelligent. ❤
Good luck in your life’s journey! Don’t worry about the 1%, focus on the 99% of us who just appreciate your channel.
Hi Hayley, wir werden alle nicht jünger, deshalb finde ich es so stark von dir jetzt nochmal durch zu starten...viel kraft und Energie für dich :)
Ich selbst habe mit 42 Jahren beschlossen die Ausbildung zur krankenschwester zu machen und habe es bis heute nicht bereut ;)
Viel Freude und Erfolg für deine future ❤
🥹🥹🥹🥹
@@HayleyAlexis auch ich drücke dir alle Daumen! Fühl dich gedrückt! Liebe Grüße aus Hamburg, Ben❤
@@HayleyAlexis It is never to late for a change. Last year I started an Umschulung (retraining) as "Kaufmann im Gesundheitswesen" (business man for healthcare) with 45 years and do not regret it. In my old company I would otherwise have gotten sick and was on the verge of burnout last summer.
I moved to Germany a few months ago, I was and still am amazed how far behind they are here (or think that online privacy is still a thing) with doing things online or through an app. I get more postal mail here in a week than I did in the last year of me living in the Netherlands. Things take so much longer here...
Deal Hayley,
so sorry to hear that your plans for education in Europe didn’t work out. “Life must be lived forwards, but can only be understood backwards.” (Soren Kierkegaard) God will lead you every step of the way and maybe you will come back to Germany after graduation. ❤
Goodness, I'm in the same boat. Did the Kita route and wasn't happy with the pay. My degree (Psychology) isn't fully recognized so I have to study maybe a year or 2 more to make it equivalent to theirs plus get the masters afterwards because a bachelor just isn't enough here even tho our bachelor is 4 years. They say they have "Personalmangel" but for people like us with degrees from abroad, it's so hard to get it recognized and get the legal docs to stay here, it's easier if you're a refugee with kids though. Sorry but it's what I've seen in my 6 years here.
By the way - I also gave up on something I had been fighting hard for in Germany and wasn't able to overcome obstacles and I moved to the U.S. and started a new career and am doing fantastic - my life is much better in my opinion than if I HAD achieved what I was trying to
I had a struggle similar in Germany too! We try and try for years, German Bureaucracy always enters the chat (oh those papers they love) and the betrayal/mobbing...just wow! The struggle was real. I feel you. It takes a toll.
You didn't give up in my eyes. It sounds like you tried everything, played by their rules and lost every time to a system that wasn't designed for you to win. You cut your losses and changed strategies. Respect!✌🏽
I've been following your page around the same time you entered Germany because I started my journey in Munich at that time too. It was a tough decision for me to leave because I do miss my friends there. However, things became even better for me after Germany! 😁 A new chapter awaits you Hayley! Stay strong and remember to be kind to yourself. You've got this! 😊
Schade, dass man es dir so schwer machte, in Deutschland ein Masterstudium zu absolvieren. Das Bürokratiemonster schreckt auch vorm Bildungswesen nicht zurück. Ich finde es ganz schön demotivierend, was Dir widerfahren ist. Respekt, dass du es ausgehalten und weitergemacht hast.
Überall haben sie ihre Regeln und Bürokratie. Dafür gibt es halt die Möglichkeit seine Papiere online prüfen zu lassen, ob Abschlüsse anerkannt werden. Eine Vereinfachung der Bürokratie wäre gut, aber auch wenn man sich vorher informiert.
Und dann beschweren die sich, dass wir Fachkräftemangel haben 🤣🤣🤣
Kannste dir in Deutschland einfach nicht ausdenken
@@MiaMizunodas mit fachkräftemangel ist eh der größte witz
@@MiaMizuno Die Fachkräfte sind da. Sie sind nur nicht bereit unter katastrophalen Bedingungen zu arbeiten. Letztens einen Kommentar gelesen wo jemand meinte "Das ist als würde ich verzweifelt versuchen einen Porsche für 1000€ zu finden und mich dann beschweren, dass wir in Deutschland einen Porschemangel haben" 😅
I watch videos like these and read the comments at times to see what others have experienced as expats so here’s my testimony:
I’ve been in northern Germany for a year and a half. I’ve Bachelors in Social Science from the U.S. It’s accepted in Germany (approved by ZAB- 3.5 month wait for that) and helped me get a job at a kita as a full-time native English speaker. I make a little less than $40k/year. I pay about 22% in taxes and 8% goes towards healthcare and pension. I’ve 30 days paid vacation and paid sick days that seem to have no cap (I called out 42 days in 7 months last year and 17 so far this year). I wish the salary was higher but I’m quite content because I also make money from writing on Medium (almost $10k last year. Had to pay $1k in taxes this year for it). I’d teach English online and create videos as well if I had more time and energy. Writing full-time is my goal but I appreciate the kita job for many reasons. #1- it allows me to stay in Germany for as long as I want. I can do so many things that I want there as well. The biggest thing I dislike is working 40 hours a week and getting up at 6:30a. I plan to reduce my hours at some point or quit after another year or two. I don’t have kids nor do I want any which helps financially. You have to know what you want for yourself and for your future. I visit friends and family in the States but not more than once a year. The last time I did I was so grateful to return home to Germany.
Good luck with everything Hayley! I went back to school to complete my Bachelors at 37 years old and moved to Europe 5 months after the pandemic started. I finally made it to Germany a little more than a year later, at 44 years old. It’s one of the best things I’ve ever done. Keep your head up and your heart open. 🙌
Thank you for sharing your experience. It is so hard to be a foreign in Germany and I don't think people understand the hoops you have to jump to have at least the opportunity of enrolling in School or having a job. What you said: This last year was hard but better than the last five (or so) is for me a bit hard to hear because it made me realize how strongly we hold onto something that might not be the best for us, maybe even with no reason. I did make it and have a great job, but I don't have that lebesfreude I had when I was in my Heimat.
Hayley, du machst das schon richtig! 🤗 Alles Gute!
I have been following your "crazy journey you call life" for a couple of years. Recently I had the impression that there were unspoken things that weighed you down, now they are in plain view. I wish you all the best for your future endavours. It would be great if you could continue to share your journey with us here in Germany, who have grown to like you like a distant friend. Maybe a few times a year, if that's not asking for too much? Again, all the best!
Couldn't have said it better.
Do what a Hayley have to do . Stay strong and keep up your channel
Honestly, the way that Mike and you interact with each other is perfectly fine. It's more relatable and real. The people complaining about it are probably the ones who have never had a long term relationship😂
I went back to school to become a nurse when I was 34, and I’m hoping to go back again in a few years to become a nurse practitioner. I found it more fulfilling to go back to school when I was older because I knew what I wanted, and I had more maturity and calm to get myself there with a greater sense of ease, even though the course work was still very difficult. It’s gonna be hard but it’s also gonna be great! You got this girl! Proud of you!
Excellent, good nurses are desperately needed and deserve a great salary too!! They do more for humans for absolute certain than the big kids playing ball games ( or ice hockey) 🏈🏉🏀🥎⚾️⚽️🏒, making millions per year do. Alles Liebe ⛑️🩼🥼 🏥
She decided against the kindergarten nurse because the salary is not enough in Germany. You cannot make a living from low salary.
During the 3 years of apprenticeship the salary is like 700 euros.
Normally girls live with their parents when doing apprenticeships. They start at age 17 with no own apartment.
Hayley lives in the surroundings of Munich which is 30 percent more expensive than the rest of Germany.
A small apartment in Hayleys area is 1000 Euro for rent and she would earn 1400 working in kindergarten after three years of school.
You do the math.
Hallo Hayley, ich kann nur sagen, Hut ab. Ich finde es total stark sich für das, was man im Leben will, einzusetzen. Ein Auge wird weinen aber das andere lacht mit dir.
Definitely can relate, I was working so hard to try to get into the corporate sector - only to find out that all of those doors were being shut and so much wasted time and years. Though when I was in the medical field - everyone was so welcoming. I am in my second semester of classes now to try to become an RN - being former military, we were trained to never ever give up. Keep your head up and continue to fight!
I'm also an American and also been living in Germany for the past 10 years. I'm officially moving back to the US this year and I've felt so many things about this decision. Lots of tears but also I know I need this change in my life, and above all, I need to be closer to family. It's a huge step but it's helpful to know that you've been going through something similar. So just wanted to say thank you for sharing ❤
I moved back after 20+ years! It’s a huuuge change.
Hayley, eine Tür geht zu, eine andere geht auf! Du bist eine coole Socke, freue Dich auf neue Abenteuer. Danke für den netten Content in der Vergangenheit:)
Exactly! What she said!! Your channel, your house, and your door that will happily see any disgruntled patooties out!
My best wishes, thanks for sharing your insights all those years.
Congratulations and lots of luck Hayley! Your journey is truly inspirational and it sounds like you are exactly where you’re meant to be 🧡
Thanks for being willing to share so openly Hayley. It's disturbing that a person you thought was a friend betrayed your trust.
I really admire your ability to pick yourself up and switch gears/ adapt. I wish you all the best in your life/endeavors. Please keep us posted. Take care from Vancouver BC
Very disturbing. I'm horrified. Hayley, you're acting with much more grace that I could muster.
All the best for whatever the future holds for you, sometimes we don't get to do certain things where we'd like but if life was easy we'd all be doing what we truly want to be doing... I hope everything works out for you regardless of where your life takes you make the most of any opportunity you can...
11:45 OMG it's always like this, it's always in the LAST WEEK when you already made up your mind for leaving... this happens so often 😥
🍀 Whatever you're going through,I'm by your side!
Always loved you to share your intimate thoughts!
Respect,Hayley!✊
Danke das du diesen Teil deiner Geschichte mit uns teilst
Best of luck! I look forward to seeing your new chapter in life!
Good luck with everything Hayley!
All the best to you and I sincerely hope everything works out as you wish it to be. ❤❤❤❤❤🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀
thanks so much for sharing your story, it's helped me make my own decision. i admire your resilience and hope all is well!
I am so incredibly proud of you, dear Hayley. I am going through a strange transition as well. I am rooting for you 🤗🤗🤗
Love you too
And also wish you the very best both for your career and personal life 💚
You really deserve to continue to thrive 🌱🌄
We love you girl. Keep your head up!
Dear Hayley, wishing you all the best for the future. Please stay true to yourself, it's your life and you should live it the way it feels good for you! But plese keep us updated whenever are able and feel like it. Remember, sometimes miracles happen when you least expect them.
Thank you for the videos and the entertainment.
Hey hayley I'm glad to see now it's been a long time don't watching your video but you know I inspired your vedeo teaching us German. Thank you for sharing and I hope you will be ok.❤
I always enjoyed your content, your insights and your generally positive attitude - thus, sorry to see you leave. But yeah, there are turning points in our lives when we have to make a decision and move forward, and that's where you are right now - good luck with everything!
I totaly feel you. I startet a whole new career and I‘m really happy with it. So go for it. Whatever makes YOU happy. Wish you all the best.😊
I'm so sorry for this experience. It is so dispiriting and exhausting. You don't deserve this. Some people get a unfair shake. I can totally relate. Keep at it. I believe in you.
Good luck for everything that might come
Ma'am whatever you choose to do I wish you all the best , I hope you choose a path that makes you happy & feels positive. Good luck.
Hope it will work out for you as planed. Keep us posted.
Wishing you the very best!
Congratulations that you achieved entering the course for becoming a master in the field you wanted! I am living in 2 worlds / countries too with my wife, sometime like now she is living there and I am living here for a while, she is a doctor I have a master in business. I can understand it very well. I wish you loads of success in your new challenge what ever it might bring to!!!! Taking new challenges in life to grow is really good. Enjoy it.
Since you have a YT channel you are a public person - people project their life on you, but its not about you, its about them. Don't take it personal (Sounds easy because I am not a public person I know).
I wish you the best in what you decide to do❤.
Hey I just wanted to say, I’m glad that you are figuring things out and that I love watching your content. Not sure what else to say but sending love and positive vibes. Take care of yourself and know that I am sure this UA-cam community you have built up will be behind you.
sehr schade, dass das alles so schwierig ist, aber du gehst deinen Weg und ich wünsche dir ganz viel Glück und Erfolg! ❤🍀
Oh my dear Hayley, I am so, so sorry. I am experiencing something similar right now with the job search. My career advisor is confounded why I haven't heard back from anywhere. I have also begun to fear that someone has blacklisted me. You have NOT given up--you are making lemonade from lemons. You CAN do this, and justice will come through. I am so sorry. Props to you for staying graceful and persevering in spite of these IMMENSE challenges. Good for you. We are here to support you!
Stay focused and be positive minded keep up ur great work. Many blessings 😊
It sounds like bureaucracy (as in many countries) made it difficult to pursue your academic/career path in Germany. That is no fault of your own. You went above and beyond in your efforts.
I really like to think I tried every avenue that I could here... I wasn't going to give up without a fight but here we are.....I AM TIRED OF FIGHTING 😂😂😂
@@HayleyAlexis yes, sometimes we need a break. I hope you will find what you are looking for and go back to Germany someday.
@@HayleyAlexis don't worry and don't think you were not "good enough!" No, it is all about our stubborn German bureaucracy which keeps to the rules not matter if the fit the person/situation or not. Most of the companies do not show the SLIGHTEST bit of flexibility.
And even a lot of Germans fight with this problem. For example, when overeducated for a job one would think "well they should feel happy to get me". But no. The German companies think "well, she is overeducated, she says she wants the job, but we are sure, as soon as she finds something better, she will say goodbye to us, so we will not take her into that job! She is only using us as a "running board" to somewhere else!"
It is like tattooed to their foreheads "we have rules. We use them. No matter what happens, we keep to our rules!"
I really hate this part of our working culture. Often I cannot stop shaking my head.
It's done, it's done! Closed a chapter, job well done - congrats! and welcome home ❤
I'm so sorry that it didn't work out!
All the best to you in your future!!!
You go girl, follow your dream. You can do it!!
Trying is always beter than, what if....
Good luck for you in the future Hayley. Immer weiter
I am so sorry that you had to go throug that. I wish you well and all the best going forward.
Take care, besafe!!!!
Just do you !!!!!!! Good luck back in Ft Myers....keep your head down and be safe there!!!!!
Good luck, for sure you will make your way. cheers
I am sad that you had this horrible experience with that person and that they ruined so much for you. I am glad though you see a light and that it seems you are on a good way. I wish you all the best on your journey!
The low salaries in this field was the reason I quit studying social work. It‘s ridiculous.
Alles, alles Gute für Deine (Eure?) Zukunft in den USA ❤🍀 🇺🇸
It is really a discussion that needs to be had at the highest political level.
It's crap in Denmark too. There's also a lot of lay offs in the public sector. The rich needs their tax cuts here. The government thinks so anyway.
I am really torn on this topic (low salaries in the social work sector). I would totally agree that people in this field deserve a higher salary but the question is where that money comes from . You could charge the parents like it is done in the US but this makes it less affordable for parents with lower incomes. You could raise the public funding but that would probably mean higher taxes for everyone. Yeah taxing the rich more might also be a viable solution. You could try to make the companies the parents work for pay for their employees children. The company i work for offered daycare spots to their employees and also paid the fees. Definitely not an easy topic to solve but there are some options that should be explored more.
@@starryk79 I totally get what you mean! But this problem is there for years and little to nothing is done to change it. If the politicians would really see the need to change something they would have done something about it already. They have a yearly household plan and could prioitze education (which also includes childcare) more since it is really important for the economy as they did with the military last year (there is probably a lot of potential to save money if you just really look into it, like making the parliament even smaller, making bureaucracy easier so you don't need to build a new building for the Bundesämter in Berlin - just to name a few). A different strategy could be changing the threshold for the different income taxation percentages which would help a lot. E.g. Why do people with an yearly income of up to 55.000€ pay a staggered tax of up to 42% but form an income of 55.000€ to 200.000€ a year all pay 42% taxes and just after that it is raised to 45%? The staggered taxation burdens the lower income groups (< 55.000€) more than the higher ones, so if the government doesn't want to raise the saleries of people in social fields and other low income groups they could at least change the taxation system in a way people get more out of their saleries. But that could mean that they would see how many people are really struggeling with low income in Germany through getting less money in the states household. A difficult topic indeed.
@thinking 'bout your comment was very nice to read!!
I will follow ur vlogs whatever your decison is. You are interesting. Good luck, take care. God bless ❤
Same type of experiences living here ..Unfortunately. So mature of you to realize "This isn't working for me" with no shame or guilt. Wish you all the best moving forward!🎉😎
Wish you all the best on your journey 🖖
Sad to hear what terrible things happened to you and so you won't get a happy, fulfilling future here.
I wish you all the best. Taking that decision wasn't easy I guess. You have my total respect for your decision to take path that feels right for you. Farewell and remember that you meet at minimum twice in lifetime. Big hugs to you🤗🤗🤗
That is very true!!! I could never say goodbye forever to Germany just... see ya later :)
Haley I am sorry you had to deal with that. I am so proud of how you handled it. I had a Corporate situation that was similar. I was let me go because I was a top paid person in my job and my store did not make there numbers. They told me my position was eliminated. I could apply to other jobs in the company. When I applied to other places in the company I did not get the jobs only HR talking to me. They had put a do not rehire on my record. I did not know this since they offered me apply internally. I was using my old boss as reference for outside new jobs. She was tanking me and I did not know. This was so I could not sue my old company for letting me go. I got hit with super bad depression because I couldn’t get job. My self esteem was in the way down. I am just now starting to dig myself out. Thank you being so candid and sharing your story.
What I like is that you are reflecting about yourself and not blaming others for your "failures". Sometimes you have to crawl through sh1t for a while before it gets good.
I generally do not like to blame others because that gives them a piece of control over my life and that is not what I want. I see everything as a lesson and an opportunity for growth... I also believe karma has a wonderful way of working.
Haley, no matter what other people tell you, it’s your life and it’s your decision to do whatever your heart desires to do. You should always follow your heart. It will lead you the right way. It takes a lot of courage to follow your dreams, and I wish you all the very best that all of your dreams come true. And who knows, maybe one day you’ll find your way back to Germany. We’d be glad to welcome you back. Take care!
Gee, my respect for you becomes greater and greater with each video
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Wish you very best , go on-- make your way, you will succeed in the end :)
Aww Hayley, I've been following you for years, I'm talking Aupair days!! (I was also an Aupair at the time, but in Italy) It's so awesome to see you and your journey in life. I wish you nothing but the best, I know life has a weird way of working, I'm legit in the same boat regarding school and career stuff. Do what's best for you boo, and do what feels right. I'm excited to where life takes you. I know I'm random internet person, but I'm rooting for you.
PS if you're EVER in Tampa, hit me up!! :)
Hayley, sweetheart, here’s a word from a 53-year-old woman who has weathered a storm or two (and more).
Those 1% don’t deserve even a nanosecond of your time. And you do not need to share anything about your personal life unless you want to and are ready to. Also: why start sharing if you feel there’s nothing to share yet? As far as your relationship goes, frankly it’s none of our business even when because of your channel people get invested. Yes, your fans love you and therefore want you to be happy, to have the best, to be treated like the queen you are. But what that means, if Mike makes you as happy as we believe you deserve to be, and if he treats you like we’d like you to be treated, is none of our business. Most important is that YOU are happy. And that’s something YOU and inly YOU can define. Still, if you decide to share, we’ll gladly be there.
As for your degree: GO FOR IT GIRL! Give it your all. Take it by storm. It’s going to be hard, any degree worth its salt is. But you can do it. You have fought so hard, been unafraid to try so many things, shown such resourcefulness, you have what it takes. Should life turn out different, remember that every step of the way you have learned valuable things. You will find your way.
About the ‘friend’ who tried to destroy you: that despicable piece of non-humanity has perhaps opened a door to you that will take you higher than you would ever achieve otherwise. I sincerely hope that one day, Karma is going to come knocking on that person’s door and that at that very moment & for a long time afterwards, that person will be seeing nothing but success from your side. You did not give up. You went for what is giving you an opening to success and happiness. Go live your best life.
Lots of love from Belgium.
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its always a bold move to break a habit or to get out of your comfort zone and even more so, if you decide to draw a line although you didn't like the thought of it, but at the same time knew it was necessary. in my book, if everything else meant that you had to ignore reality, then this was the only reasonable decision to make.
i wish you the best for whatever you have in mind :)
Dear Hayley, I admire your courage and your hands-on creatory personality (might be lost in translation: gestalterische Persönlichkeit). Really hope that you'll have some resources left over for continuing doing UA-cam for us because we love you and support you!
Wish you all the best for your way.
All the best for your future. Really enjoyed your content of your life in Germany. You never know maybe in the future. I wish you the best for your new journey in America. Maybe one day you came back. We loved having you here in Germany.. TSCHÜSS 🥰
I’ve had people in my life who have been that inexplicably vindictive and set out to harm me in ways nobody would believe. Not on quite such a scale as what happened to you, though. And it’s nothing to do with anything you did because even if you or I perceived someone had mistreated me (or you), we would never react by doing what they did. I’m sorry that they targeted you - what a nightmare. And I love that you have persevered and things are taking you in a new direction. 💖
Thanks for this update.
It cleared things up.
Sorry for having you such "friends"
No problem 😊
"I am not leaving forever (like I stated in my last video) BUT I can not keep running around in circles for crumbs to be thrown at me when I know I have so much more to offer." ... totally understand, been there, done that. Other than that, it's never about where we live, but who we are, and who we want to be! Best of luck to you, nothing to fear, much to discover! Love & Blessings!
Hi Hayley - I am also a Hayley hoping to move to Germany (Munich ideally, also) and whoosh your tale is harrowing. I wish you the best of success with your program in the US and I hope if you want to come back to Germany after, you get REAL opportunities. You have put so much work in.
omg, i feel for you. Germany sucks in this matter of trying to get a job. I was in this position of just "I just need a job" for so long and of course I went into a terrible depression phase because a lot of things just don't make sense here and the fact that you get turned down from jobs by whatever reason makes it just worse. I really hope it gets better and all the best for you tho :)!
It's not just an issue in Germany, people have the same issues finding work here in the UK.
It makes me angry how Germany makes life for people like you difficult.
I wish you and Mike all the best for the future!
I am not necessarily angry. I have learned so much and grown so much since being in Germany. I think my videos are a testimony to my growth. Regardless if I was struggling finding a job or not having success in other areas of life... I was learning lessons and working on myself along the way.
I tried to take the more complicated route (mixed with ignorance) to achieve my goals in Germany and it didn't work out for me.... Which is ok because I am still young and have a lot more fight in me!
@@HayleyAlexis I can totally relate to you. I left Germany and achieved my goal to live in Canada. However it wasn’t what I expected. I would like to get back to Europe but can’t anymore.
You leaving Germany is a big loss for Germany! I am wishing you all the best! 😘
@@maxbarko8717 Wieso kannst du nicht mehr zurück?
@@luisahydrangea3783 gesundheitliche Probleme. 👎
Funny thing is they tend to give hard working foreign employees difficulties with their beureucracy. I had this crazy thought that they probably prefer to keep the unskilled ones, so that the germans face less tough competition 😅
Many years ago I looked into the possibility of emigrating from UK to New Zealand. They had a points system for eligibility and at the time they were taking 50,000 people a year but that was from the whole world. I was surprised to find that my UK bachelor degree was worth zero points whereas a New Zealand degree was worth some points.
I kind of know what social media & YT comments can be difficult. Apart from the time factor, this is part of why I'm not an avid reader of comments.
However, I cannot for my life imagine why anyone would assume things above and beyond what is presented on the channel. Also, it should be clear that not everything is shown on social media of any kind!
Your story about your work experiences (or rather application experiences) is fascinating!
I am happy you found at least some solution! As I said before: I wish you all the best and that things really work out! You will reach the summit, I believe - and I just hope you'll give a wave to all uf us from there! 😊
I'm very very sorry you went through such a frustrating experience. I work in Early Education myself and it's wonderful work but hardly enough money to live on. You have so many talents, you'll make your way. Best wishes for you. And Germany misses out big big time. I hope you'll come back later.
Really sad, but good (and much) luck!😉
Hi Hailey. You did the best you can. I'm in solidarity with you. I also applied for graduate school in Germany to be close to my family. That did not work out. I will starting graduate school in the UK in the autumn. And I think you did the right decision. I wish you the best!
She is a looser, didn't make it here. And she didn't do the best she could. If she had, she had been successful
Our loss, have a nice time.
Ich bin sprachlos! Alles Gute! Good bye, Hayley, ich habe viel von und bei dir gelernt!
Hayley, first of all, thank you so much for the video. Telling this story certainly took a lot of courage and overcoming. I did not expect it and would have understood it if you had not told it, because basically your private life is none of my business. It is a pity that your current situation leads you to turn your back on Germany.
Not getting a job because you are overqualified or underqualified, because the recruiter thinks you won't be happy in that job, or because the salary expectations don't fit is one thing. These are things you (unfortunately) have to accept.
But to be wrongly accused of having falsified qualifications and to find out that people you count as close friends turn out to be false friends who talk badly about you behind your back is shameful and a pure horror. This makes so angry and helpless at the same time.
Anyway, I wish you all the luck in the world that you find your way. Maybe you will come back in a few years, who knows? Life often shows you paths that you have not planned or considered.
I just hope that you will not close your YT channel and continue to share your life and your thoughts with us, independend of where you are in this world.
I am in shock re what she told us about the snake (friend).
She helped that snake!
I don't understand why evil people thrive, and good people suffer.
So sorry Hailey, I will miss you so much❣️
Wish you all the very best🤗
And - you're beautiful with and without some eye bags😉😁
Hayley it was great living in Germany this time and your whole experience was very worthwhile, coming back home is a great decision and another thing Dear, you have no idea what the future has in store for you. What is yours, nobody takes it away. Welcome back home!!
if something doesn´t work for you, giving up on it and moving on is the smartest thing to do! good luck with your new plans! go for it!.
You are amazing ❤️
It was great. I am sad to know you are leaving. Pray your best.