Here is what I wrote in my description box: To put a calendar on this long story- this all happened from 2016ish - 2021. This is the last video I will make regarding leaving and my reasoning behind this choice (I will upload an update but a video regarding all of these stories- I won't say anything else). Like I have stated in multiple videos- I keep things private because a) I am embarrassed of some of the things that have happened in the past b) I don't want everyone knowing my personal life and c) Some things are better left unsaid/forgotten. This is not everything that has happened but a very quick edited down version for UA-cam. I could go on and on about the struggles I have faced but I don't like dwelling on the past/negative. I like to focus on the positive and the good things in life. I honestly believe that me coming to Germany was very necessary for my personal growth and providing me a path for my life currently. Without coming to Germany I would not have grown into this woman that doesn't let any hurdle or "failure" stop me from achieving my goals. Germany made me realize that anything is possible if you just put your mind to it and actually take a leap into the dark water. I am not leaving forever (like I stated in my last video) BUT I can not keep running around in circles for crumbs to be thrown at me when I know I have so much more to offer. I enjoy working & I enjoy the social element of having a job/going to school/having a schedule- not having those things for years of my life has taken a huge toll on me (mentally, physically, emotionally, intellectually etc.). Yes I would have preferred having these things in Germany but sometimes you knock at a door that doesn't want to be answered.
Also what I forgot to mention in this video (which is pretty funny) is that sprinkle the German bureaucracy into this mix- it has been anything but easy 😅🤣😂
Dear Hayley, fighting German bureaucracy has made you the strong woman you are today. I wish you all the best on your further path and hope that you will return to Germany one day. This country needs women like you.
@@HayleyAlexis - You said you gave up. You didn’t. You changed gears. You adapted. You are growing. I took the liberty of placing a comment, don’t know if you have the time to find it. Just remember: You. Did. Not. Give. Up. Please, please PLEASE be kind to yourself, always. Something tells me that no matter where life takes you, you’re going to make it. Hugs from an internet stranger in Belgium. 💖
@@HayleyAlexisI believe you read the “confirmations” correctly. BTW, I have had people choose to destroy my life just as that fake-ass “friend” you helped did. Do you know the story of “Layla & Majnún”? Those people are evil in their motivations, like rabid wolves, but they are still doing the work of Fate or God, which ever you choose for your heart. Let them go to their doom, because living ugly means dying ugly, and you do not want to feel responsible for that. And then accept the guidance their vicious behavior gave you. It’s a whole grown-up journey you are on, so internet trolls don’t get it, and rabid wolves and their confederates don’t get it, because they’re all still in junior high. I hope you keep us with you on your further adventures. ❤
well, you're a minority then. i'm a psych nurse here in germany and so called " academicals" couldn't care less. i can't even count how many times new therapists complained about not earning enough and their " horrendous" study loans with 0% interest while running around with their gucci bag and brag about their vacations etc.. most of all, the audacadity and sheer ignorance of complaining while talking to ME. who makes easily a thousand net less. i'm not poor but c'mon.... that's the reality of a nurse.
@@dagmarfrerking2235 Job markets are what job markets are. If one wants better pay one should choose a profession that pays better or start a business.
Warum entschuldigst du dich dafür? Ist doch INSERE Bürokratie, oder? Wer damit nicht klarkommt hat jederzeit die freie Wahl zu gehen. Außerdem redet hier eine USAnerin, die sich darüber beschwert, dass ein Gletscherfluss kalt ist, sogar im Sommer.
Hayley, i was married 10 years with a woman from Honduras. She came here not speaking any german or english word. She worked her ass of, every day for german class and her drivers license. She vommited every night because of pure stress. But she made it, she's a nurse now and happy, but the life in germany changed her. In Honduras as a girl you can't just go out at night, dancing. We divorced a couple of years ago, but we're still very good friends... You are a good one, in every aspect, don't you dare to stop doing UA-cam. The world needs more people like you, open minded, emphatic and intelligent. ❤
I watch videos like these and read the comments at times to see what others have experienced as expats so here’s my testimony: I’ve been in northern Germany for a year and a half. I’ve Bachelors in Social Science from the U.S. It’s accepted in Germany (approved by ZAB- 3.5 month wait for that) and helped me get a job at a kita as a full-time native English speaker. I make a little less than $40k/year. I pay about 22% in taxes and 8% goes towards healthcare and pension. I’ve 30 days paid vacation and paid sick days that seem to have no cap (I called out 42 days in 7 months last year and 17 so far this year). I wish the salary was higher but I’m quite content because I also make money from writing on Medium (almost $10k last year. Had to pay $1k in taxes this year for it). I’d teach English online and create videos as well if I had more time and energy. Writing full-time is my goal but I appreciate the kita job for many reasons. #1- it allows me to stay in Germany for as long as I want. I can do so many things that I want there as well. The biggest thing I dislike is working 40 hours a week and getting up at 6:30a. I plan to reduce my hours at some point or quit after another year or two. I don’t have kids nor do I want any which helps financially. You have to know what you want for yourself and for your future. I visit friends and family in the States but not more than once a year. The last time I did I was so grateful to return home to Germany. Good luck with everything Hayley! I went back to school to complete my Bachelors at 37 years old and moved to Europe 5 months after the pandemic started. I finally made it to Germany a little more than a year later, at 44 years old. It’s one of the best things I’ve ever done. Keep your head up and your heart open. 🙌
By the way - I also gave up on something I had been fighting hard for in Germany and wasn't able to overcome obstacles and I moved to the U.S. and started a new career and am doing fantastic - my life is much better in my opinion than if I HAD achieved what I was trying to
Hi Hayley, wir werden alle nicht jünger, deshalb finde ich es so stark von dir jetzt nochmal durch zu starten...viel kraft und Energie für dich :) Ich selbst habe mit 42 Jahren beschlossen die Ausbildung zur krankenschwester zu machen und habe es bis heute nicht bereut ;) Viel Freude und Erfolg für deine future ❤
@@HayleyAlexis It is never to late for a change. Last year I started an Umschulung (retraining) as "Kaufmann im Gesundheitswesen" (business man for healthcare) with 45 years and do not regret it. In my old company I would otherwise have gotten sick and was on the verge of burnout last summer.
I moved to Germany a few months ago, I was and still am amazed how far behind they are here (or think that online privacy is still a thing) with doing things online or through an app. I get more postal mail here in a week than I did in the last year of me living in the Netherlands. Things take so much longer here...
Deal Hayley, so sorry to hear that your plans for education in Europe didn’t work out. “Life must be lived forwards, but can only be understood backwards.” (Soren Kierkegaard) God will lead you every step of the way and maybe you will come back to Germany after graduation. ❤
Thank you for sharing your experience. It is so hard to be a foreign in Germany and I don't think people understand the hoops you have to jump to have at least the opportunity of enrolling in School or having a job. What you said: This last year was hard but better than the last five (or so) is for me a bit hard to hear because it made me realize how strongly we hold onto something that might not be the best for us, maybe even with no reason. I did make it and have a great job, but I don't have that lebesfreude I had when I was in my Heimat.
I had a struggle similar in Germany too! We try and try for years, German Bureaucracy always enters the chat (oh those papers they love) and the betrayal/mobbing...just wow! The struggle was real. I feel you. It takes a toll. You didn't give up in my eyes. It sounds like you tried everything, played by their rules and lost every time to a system that wasn't designed for you to win. You cut your losses and changed strategies. Respect!✌🏽 I've been following your page around the same time you entered Germany because I started my journey in Munich at that time too. It was a tough decision for me to leave because I do miss my friends there. However, things became even better for me after Germany! 😁 A new chapter awaits you Hayley! Stay strong and remember to be kind to yourself. You've got this! 😊
Honestly, the way that Mike and you interact with each other is perfectly fine. It's more relatable and real. The people complaining about it are probably the ones who have never had a long term relationship😂
Auf der einen Seite wird in diesem Land über Fachkräftemangel geklagt, auf der anderen Seite macht man es talentierten, gut ausgebildeten Menschen so schwer, hier Fuß zu fassen. Ich kann das alles nicht mehr verstehen. In diesem Land läuft wirklich viel falsch. ☹️ Alles Gute für Euren weiteren Weg.
Genau. Man muss zwischen dem deutschen Sozialstaat und der deutschen freien Marktwirtschaft unterscheiden. Ersterer ist großzügig (gegenüber Flüchtlingen und ungelernten Migranten), letzterer nämlich der Wohnungs- und Arbeitsmarkt, sind brutal restriktiv und diskriminierend (gegenüber qualifizierten Migranten, ausländischen Studenten usw.)
@@val-schaeffer1117In den letzten 20 Jahren hat der deutsche Staat die Renten gekürzt weil kein Geld da war,sozialer Arbeitsmarkt mit minijobs und leiharbeit "liberalisiert",die Arbeitslosenhilfe mit ALG II zur Armutsfalle gekürzt,Leistungen der Krankenversicherung gekürzt,und einen Großteil seiner Sozialwohnungen abgestoßen..dazu noch Bahnprivatisierung,Privatiserung öffentlicher Dienstleistungen... Weil kein Geld da war,hieß es immer. Aber um Halb Syrien auf Staatskosten einzuquartieren,ungeachtet ob Opfer oder ISler auf Erholungsurlaub, oder die Vermögenssteuer auszusetzen,das geht mal eben. Einerseits ist der Wohnungs und Arbeitsmarkt durch Liberalisierung toxischer geworden, andererseits fühlen sich die Deutschen von ihrer Politk ziemlich verarscht und das zu Recht. Als gebürtiger deutscher gucke ich auch schon,ob es nicht woanders vielleicht schöner ist.
Thanks for being willing to share so openly Hayley. It's disturbing that a person you thought was a friend betrayed your trust. I really admire your ability to pick yourself up and switch gears/ adapt. I wish you all the best in your life/endeavors. Please keep us posted. Take care from Vancouver BC
Definitely can relate, I was working so hard to try to get into the corporate sector - only to find out that all of those doors were being shut and so much wasted time and years. Though when I was in the medical field - everyone was so welcoming. I am in my second semester of classes now to try to become an RN - being former military, we were trained to never ever give up. Keep your head up and continue to fight!
I went back to school to become a nurse when I was 34, and I’m hoping to go back again in a few years to become a nurse practitioner. I found it more fulfilling to go back to school when I was older because I knew what I wanted, and I had more maturity and calm to get myself there with a greater sense of ease, even though the course work was still very difficult. It’s gonna be hard but it’s also gonna be great! You got this girl! Proud of you!
Excellent, good nurses are desperately needed and deserve a great salary too!! They do more for humans for absolute certain than the big kids playing ball games ( or ice hockey) 🏈🏉🏀🥎⚾️⚽️🏒, making millions per year do. Alles Liebe ⛑️🩼🥼 🏥
She decided against the kindergarten nurse because the salary is not enough in Germany. You cannot make a living from low salary. During the 3 years of apprenticeship the salary is like 700 euros. Normally girls live with their parents when doing apprenticeships. They start at age 17 with no own apartment. Hayley lives in the surroundings of Munich which is 30 percent more expensive than the rest of Germany. A small apartment in Hayleys area is 1000 Euro for rent and she would earn 1400 working in kindergarten after three years of school. You do the math.
I'm also an American and also been living in Germany for the past 10 years. I'm officially moving back to the US this year and I've felt so many things about this decision. Lots of tears but also I know I need this change in my life, and above all, I need to be closer to family. It's a huge step but it's helpful to know that you've been going through something similar. So just wanted to say thank you for sharing ❤
Hallo Hayley, ich kann nur sagen, Hut ab. Ich finde es total stark sich für das, was man im Leben will, einzusetzen. Ein Auge wird weinen aber das andere lacht mit dir.
Schade, dass man es dir so schwer machte, in Deutschland ein Masterstudium zu absolvieren. Das Bürokratiemonster schreckt auch vorm Bildungswesen nicht zurück. Ich finde es ganz schön demotivierend, was Dir widerfahren ist. Respekt, dass du es ausgehalten und weitergemacht hast.
Überall haben sie ihre Regeln und Bürokratie. Dafür gibt es halt die Möglichkeit seine Papiere online prüfen zu lassen, ob Abschlüsse anerkannt werden. Eine Vereinfachung der Bürokratie wäre gut, aber auch wenn man sich vorher informiert.
@@MiaMizuno Die Fachkräfte sind da. Sie sind nur nicht bereit unter katastrophalen Bedingungen zu arbeiten. Letztens einen Kommentar gelesen wo jemand meinte "Das ist als würde ich verzweifelt versuchen einen Porsche für 1000€ zu finden und mich dann beschweren, dass wir in Deutschland einen Porschemangel haben" 😅
I have been following your "crazy journey you call life" for a couple of years. Recently I had the impression that there were unspoken things that weighed you down, now they are in plain view. I wish you all the best for your future endavours. It would be great if you could continue to share your journey with us here in Germany, who have grown to like you like a distant friend. Maybe a few times a year, if that's not asking for too much? Again, all the best!
Hayley, eine Tür geht zu, eine andere geht auf! Du bist eine coole Socke, freue Dich auf neue Abenteuer. Danke für den netten Content in der Vergangenheit:)
Goodness, I'm in the same boat. Did the Kita route and wasn't happy with the pay. My degree (Psychology) isn't fully recognized so I have to study maybe a year or 2 more to make it equivalent to theirs plus get the masters afterwards because a bachelor just isn't enough here even tho our bachelor is 4 years. They say they have "Personalmangel" but for people like us with degrees from abroad, it's so hard to get it recognized and get the legal docs to stay here, it's easier if you're a refugee with kids though. Sorry but it's what I've seen in my 6 years here.
I’ve had people in my life who have been that inexplicably vindictive and set out to harm me in ways nobody would believe. Not on quite such a scale as what happened to you, though. And it’s nothing to do with anything you did because even if you or I perceived someone had mistreated me (or you), we would never react by doing what they did. I’m sorry that they targeted you - what a nightmare. And I love that you have persevered and things are taking you in a new direction. 💖
The low salaries in this field was the reason I quit studying social work. It‘s ridiculous. Alles, alles Gute für Deine (Eure?) Zukunft in den USA ❤🍀 🇺🇸
I am really torn on this topic (low salaries in the social work sector). I would totally agree that people in this field deserve a higher salary but the question is where that money comes from . You could charge the parents like it is done in the US but this makes it less affordable for parents with lower incomes. You could raise the public funding but that would probably mean higher taxes for everyone. Yeah taxing the rich more might also be a viable solution. You could try to make the companies the parents work for pay for their employees children. The company i work for offered daycare spots to their employees and also paid the fees. Definitely not an easy topic to solve but there are some options that should be explored more.
@@starryk79 I totally get what you mean! But this problem is there for years and little to nothing is done to change it. If the politicians would really see the need to change something they would have done something about it already. They have a yearly household plan and could prioitze education (which also includes childcare) more since it is really important for the economy as they did with the military last year (there is probably a lot of potential to save money if you just really look into it, like making the parliament even smaller, making bureaucracy easier so you don't need to build a new building for the Bundesämter in Berlin - just to name a few). A different strategy could be changing the threshold for the different income taxation percentages which would help a lot. E.g. Why do people with an yearly income of up to 55.000€ pay a staggered tax of up to 42% but form an income of 55.000€ to 200.000€ a year all pay 42% taxes and just after that it is raised to 45%? The staggered taxation burdens the lower income groups (< 55.000€) more than the higher ones, so if the government doesn't want to raise the saleries of people in social fields and other low income groups they could at least change the taxation system in a way people get more out of their saleries. But that could mean that they would see how many people are really struggeling with low income in Germany through getting less money in the states household. A difficult topic indeed.
Haley, no matter what other people tell you, it’s your life and it’s your decision to do whatever your heart desires to do. You should always follow your heart. It will lead you the right way. It takes a lot of courage to follow your dreams, and I wish you all the very best that all of your dreams come true. And who knows, maybe one day you’ll find your way back to Germany. We’d be glad to welcome you back. Take care!
It sounds like bureaucracy (as in many countries) made it difficult to pursue your academic/career path in Germany. That is no fault of your own. You went above and beyond in your efforts.
I really like to think I tried every avenue that I could here... I wasn't going to give up without a fight but here we are.....I AM TIRED OF FIGHTING 😂😂😂
@@HayleyAlexis don't worry and don't think you were not "good enough!" No, it is all about our stubborn German bureaucracy which keeps to the rules not matter if the fit the person/situation or not. Most of the companies do not show the SLIGHTEST bit of flexibility. And even a lot of Germans fight with this problem. For example, when overeducated for a job one would think "well they should feel happy to get me". But no. The German companies think "well, she is overeducated, she says she wants the job, but we are sure, as soon as she finds something better, she will say goodbye to us, so we will not take her into that job! She is only using us as a "running board" to somewhere else!" It is like tattooed to their foreheads "we have rules. We use them. No matter what happens, we keep to our rules!" I really hate this part of our working culture. Often I cannot stop shaking my head.
Congratulations that you achieved entering the course for becoming a master in the field you wanted! I am living in 2 worlds / countries too with my wife, sometime like now she is living there and I am living here for a while, she is a doctor I have a master in business. I can understand it very well. I wish you loads of success in your new challenge what ever it might bring to!!!! Taking new challenges in life to grow is really good. Enjoy it. Since you have a YT channel you are a public person - people project their life on you, but its not about you, its about them. Don't take it personal (Sounds easy because I am not a public person I know).
"I am not leaving forever (like I stated in my last video) BUT I can not keep running around in circles for crumbs to be thrown at me when I know I have so much more to offer." ... totally understand, been there, done that. Other than that, it's never about where we live, but who we are, and who we want to be! Best of luck to you, nothing to fear, much to discover! Love & Blessings!
First off - 7 years in a foreign country - namely Germany - is a long time to experiment and try things out. BTW, I am the guy who translated Michael's BAYERISCH in TO Hochdeutsch - regarding the 9 Euro ticket last year. Otherwise I haven commented now and then about some of your respective topics on your videos. I wish I could REALLY get down in to DEEP DETAIL, but that could take a day, and you - and people don't and won't have the time to read it. Being 64, American, and having lived in Germany, first as an "Army brat", and then in REAL GERMANY, since 1971, I can say that you have REALLY done your best here in this country. Moved in with my dad's second family in 1983 and moved around a lot in the area of San Diego and found employment - and didn't end up being homeless - and came back to Germany in 1985. In 7 years you have carefully examined your employment options in this country, and I think you are making the RIGHT decision as far as I can tell. After all, YOU are number one, most important, and that will automatically help you help others and interact with others. If you only lived to strictly satisfy others, something would be WRONG As for your private life, as far as I have seen videos made by Americans, Canadians and even a lady from NEW ZEALAND - being in a LOCAL relationship (Michael) - and you being his girlfriend, partner, lifemate - whatever you want to call it - means, one person will always have to make a sacrifice. Michael lives there in Bavaria, you are from Florida, and that will always cause a certain amount of FRICTION. But I will patiently wait for your news in that regard. Some people bring their entire family with them from the U.S. That seems to go again a different route as opposed to "mixed" relationships, by that I simply mean German-American relationships, regardless of race, color or creed. Ergo mixed in " " That's it for now, wish I had had the knowledge you have NOW when I was your age. All the best for you!
What I like is that you are reflecting about yourself and not blaming others for your "failures". Sometimes you have to crawl through sh1t for a while before it gets good.
I generally do not like to blame others because that gives them a piece of control over my life and that is not what I want. I see everything as a lesson and an opportunity for growth... I also believe karma has a wonderful way of working.
Oh my dear Hayley, I am so, so sorry. I am experiencing something similar right now with the job search. My career advisor is confounded why I haven't heard back from anywhere. I have also begun to fear that someone has blacklisted me. You have NOT given up--you are making lemonade from lemons. You CAN do this, and justice will come through. I am so sorry. Props to you for staying graceful and persevering in spite of these IMMENSE challenges. Good for you. We are here to support you!
No the bureaucracy in France is just as much of a nightmare and I get so triggered by it every time. Like one day I will lash out and end up in jail for cursing someone out 🤣😂 (and the worse part is: the taxes are so high which is supposed to pay for gov services, ironically the more staff = more bureaucracy). I’m literally getting worked up as I write this. ANYWAYYYY I FEEL YOU!!!
Agree with you, French bureaucracy is a nightmare when you're not informed enough, and even with information, they can tell you BS and make you move away, for reasons they'll never tell openly (and because it's illegal) Someone should make a comparison between both French and German bureaucracy, that'd be so helpful 🙏
@@Fragenzeichenplatte Some other countries' bureaucracy is even worse because of their strange logic, as in Portugal People there have a hard time with it
Hayley it was great living in Germany this time and your whole experience was very worthwhile, coming back home is a great decision and another thing Dear, you have no idea what the future has in store for you. What is yours, nobody takes it away. Welcome back home!!
I'm so sorry for this experience. It is so dispiriting and exhausting. You don't deserve this. Some people get a unfair shake. I can totally relate. Keep at it. I believe in you.
Haley I am sorry you had to deal with that. I am so proud of how you handled it. I had a Corporate situation that was similar. I was let me go because I was a top paid person in my job and my store did not make there numbers. They told me my position was eliminated. I could apply to other jobs in the company. When I applied to other places in the company I did not get the jobs only HR talking to me. They had put a do not rehire on my record. I did not know this since they offered me apply internally. I was using my old boss as reference for outside new jobs. She was tanking me and I did not know. This was so I could not sue my old company for letting me go. I got hit with super bad depression because I couldn’t get job. My self esteem was in the way down. I am just now starting to dig myself out. Thank you being so candid and sharing your story.
Hayley, first of all, thank you so much for the video. Telling this story certainly took a lot of courage and overcoming. I did not expect it and would have understood it if you had not told it, because basically your private life is none of my business. It is a pity that your current situation leads you to turn your back on Germany. Not getting a job because you are overqualified or underqualified, because the recruiter thinks you won't be happy in that job, or because the salary expectations don't fit is one thing. These are things you (unfortunately) have to accept. But to be wrongly accused of having falsified qualifications and to find out that people you count as close friends turn out to be false friends who talk badly about you behind your back is shameful and a pure horror. This makes so angry and helpless at the same time. Anyway, I wish you all the luck in the world that you find your way. Maybe you will come back in a few years, who knows? Life often shows you paths that you have not planned or considered. I just hope that you will not close your YT channel and continue to share your life and your thoughts with us, independend of where you are in this world.
Dear Hayley, wishing you all the best for the future. Please stay true to yourself, it's your life and you should live it the way it feels good for you! But plese keep us updated whenever are able and feel like it. Remember, sometimes miracles happen when you least expect them.
I'm so sad that a person you thought was a good friend ruined it for you. And because I've followed you since before Mike I have a hunch who that might be. They should be ashamed of themselves. I wish you all the best for the future regardless of how this future may look like. Everything will work out for you and you'll succeed. I just know it.
Many years ago I looked into the possibility of emigrating from UK to New Zealand. They had a points system for eligibility and at the time they were taking 50,000 people a year but that was from the whole world. I was surprised to find that my UK bachelor degree was worth zero points whereas a New Zealand degree was worth some points.
I am not necessarily angry. I have learned so much and grown so much since being in Germany. I think my videos are a testimony to my growth. Regardless if I was struggling finding a job or not having success in other areas of life... I was learning lessons and working on myself along the way. I tried to take the more complicated route (mixed with ignorance) to achieve my goals in Germany and it didn't work out for me.... Which is ok because I am still young and have a lot more fight in me!
@@HayleyAlexis I can totally relate to you. I left Germany and achieved my goal to live in Canada. However it wasn’t what I expected. I would like to get back to Europe but can’t anymore. You leaving Germany is a big loss for Germany! I am wishing you all the best! 😘
Funny thing is they tend to give hard working foreign employees difficulties with their beureucracy. I had this crazy thought that they probably prefer to keep the unskilled ones, so that the germans face less tough competition 😅
Hi Hailey. You did the best you can. I'm in solidarity with you. I also applied for graduate school in Germany to be close to my family. That did not work out. I will starting graduate school in the UK in the autumn. And I think you did the right decision. I wish you the best!
Hayley, sweetheart, here’s a word from a 53-year-old woman who has weathered a storm or two (and more). Those 1% don’t deserve even a nanosecond of your time. And you do not need to share anything about your personal life unless you want to and are ready to. Also: why start sharing if you feel there’s nothing to share yet? As far as your relationship goes, frankly it’s none of our business even when because of your channel people get invested. Yes, your fans love you and therefore want you to be happy, to have the best, to be treated like the queen you are. But what that means, if Mike makes you as happy as we believe you deserve to be, and if he treats you like we’d like you to be treated, is none of our business. Most important is that YOU are happy. And that’s something YOU and inly YOU can define. Still, if you decide to share, we’ll gladly be there. As for your degree: GO FOR IT GIRL! Give it your all. Take it by storm. It’s going to be hard, any degree worth its salt is. But you can do it. You have fought so hard, been unafraid to try so many things, shown such resourcefulness, you have what it takes. Should life turn out different, remember that every step of the way you have learned valuable things. You will find your way. About the ‘friend’ who tried to destroy you: that despicable piece of non-humanity has perhaps opened a door to you that will take you higher than you would ever achieve otherwise. I sincerely hope that one day, Karma is going to come knocking on that person’s door and that at that very moment & for a long time afterwards, that person will be seeing nothing but success from your side. You did not give up. You went for what is giving you an opening to success and happiness. Go live your best life. Lots of love from Belgium. 💖
Sometimes the universe sends us in a different direction then the one we planned. Sometimes it's just a detour and sometimes it's a complete change. The only thing that is important is that you find your path to happiness.
Haley! I follow your channel for some years now. I'm German, live in Berlin. Gurl... I think it's a real pitty you have to leave respectively you decided to do so because of you could not get a school place here. I can just imagine what you've been through and the fact that you tried and applied and it did not work out is just sad and not what you deserve. Anyway... I wish you all the best of luck and success for your way. I also hope that Mike and you will find a good way to not have to split up, it would be a shame. Lot's of love! You would have been a great German citizen.
I have zero knowledge re German bureaucracy. I don't understand why she could not (was not aceepted) go to School or why she didn't get any jobs (that she wanted). This and what she told us about her "friend" made us really sad. Not fair.
I totally get you! German beaurocracy, too little money for Erzieher*innen, things not moving forward, people being a***oles... You just follow your way, girl, you're doing the right thing! I'm going to miss your content of life in Germany, but I would also follow regular updates on your college life in the US. Take good care of yourself! ❤
Dear Hayley, I admire your courage and your hands-on creatory personality (might be lost in translation: gestalterische Persönlichkeit). Really hope that you'll have some resources left over for continuing doing UA-cam for us because we love you and support you!
omg, i feel for you. Germany sucks in this matter of trying to get a job. I was in this position of just "I just need a job" for so long and of course I went into a terrible depression phase because a lot of things just don't make sense here and the fact that you get turned down from jobs by whatever reason makes it just worse. I really hope it gets better and all the best for you tho :)!
I wish you all the best. Taking that decision wasn't easy I guess. You have my total respect for your decision to take path that feels right for you. Farewell and remember that you meet at minimum twice in lifetime. Big hugs to you🤗🤗🤗
Same type of experiences living here ..Unfortunately. So mature of you to realize "This isn't working for me" with no shame or guilt. Wish you all the best moving forward!🎉😎
its always a bold move to break a habit or to get out of your comfort zone and even more so, if you decide to draw a line although you didn't like the thought of it, but at the same time knew it was necessary. in my book, if everything else meant that you had to ignore reality, then this was the only reasonable decision to make. i wish you the best for whatever you have in mind :)
Sehr sehr schade. Die Bürokratie ist in Deutschland leider oftmals eine Katastrophe. Allerdings musste ich mich bisher nur wenig damit beschäftigen und kann verstehen, wenn man daran verzweifelt. Es könnte so viel einfacher sein. Die Bezahlung in sozialen Berufen ist leider durchweg unter aller Kanone (ich arbeite selbst in diesem Feld) und muss dringend überdacht werden. Deine persönlichen Enttäuschungen mit deinem ehemaligen guten Freund ist wirklich ohne Worte! Ich kann nur hoffen, du gehst dennoch gestärkt daraus hervor und wünsche dir alles Gute für deine Zukunft. Vielleicht führt dich dein Weg ja irgendwann wieder hier her zurück. Dein Weggang ist ein echter Verlust. Pass gut auf dich auf!
An American friend of mine was a teacher in Frankfurt at a private school and didn’t make a lot, given her education and experience. It was really low for such a big city.
When I watched a first video of you, maybe was 2017, I just moved to germany, I was doing my master, took a long time to complete (5 years, thesis was the worst part for me, and the way the professors treated me). I was so depressed (I am still dealing with chronic depression) and you looked so happy, and that you knew how to be happy in Germany, so I felt so bad with myself, why you can be happy in Germany and I can not. I am a south american woman, now I am 31, I am a woman of color too, I had been very unhappy in this country, not because the contry itself, but because of things that happened to me while living here, I was already messed up mentally. Now I see these videos of the recent years when you start to talk about your struggles and I feel we were in more than less the same situation and I am sorry for that, nothing worked in my life here, still it does not work. I met my husband here, so maybe I can say something worked out, but now we will separate. I have a master degree in MINT (STEM) but anyway, I do not get any job offer in my field. I do not know if I am a problem or not, I do not know if we as foreigns are doing everything wrong....But I am still confused. I do not want to do waitress jobs or cleaning anymore.
I have been through what you have been through in Germany as a foreigner. I know the feeling of being constantly invalidated in germany! Like its doesn’t matter how much effort you put, they will not evaluate the discipline, the willingness to work, your intelligent will be intentionally disregarded! Then.. the feeling of faliure if you consider quitting, because when you look around, it looks like every body made it.. the graceful life with the German Goddess would make you question your competence often.
What???? People are stupid! You and mike are one of my favourite UA-cam couples ❤ I can't believe you're leaving Germany. I've been here since you had 10k something followers. You were one of the prime motivators for my decision to study in Germany. Please come back sooooon! ❤❤
Awwwww, Hayley! Thank you so much for sharing your heart and even your personal life. Never did it occur that it would be practically impossible for you to get your school done in Germany. You're very wise to see God's signs and follow them.
All the best for whatever the future holds for you, sometimes we don't get to do certain things where we'd like but if life was easy we'd all be doing what we truly want to be doing... I hope everything works out for you regardless of where your life takes you make the most of any opportunity you can...
I know what you talking about the acknowledgment of grades and professional background. It’s the same both sides of the pont. If you don’t have a specific sponsership from a partner university, employer etc. it is better to finish within the system you come from. I wish you good luck and success for the future. It’s great that you always have the energy to move on. Greetings from California
I think this is a very valid point that I can 100% agree with. Most people trying to do higher education in Germany that come from other countries prepare themselves for the move and figure out what needs to be done beforehand. That wasn’t why and how I came to germant so I dropped the ball there 🤣
@@HayleyAlexis thanks for the thumps up and sorry for commenting again. I just want to add, that it's sad to see that someone needs to leave the country to fulfill their dreams, while it would be perfectly possible to make it here if it wasn't for lack of flexibility, unnecessary hurdles or even barriers we installed for whatever reason. I see us weakening ourselves. There's nothing pushing society (a country) forward like gifted people who want to archive something and put in everything they have to offer. We need to change that better earlier than later as much as you needed to find that laborious workaround to get to yourself.
Hey hayley I'm glad to see now it's been a long time don't watching your video but you know I inspired your vedeo teaching us German. Thank you for sharing and I hope you will be ok.❤
You and Mike definitely love each other. It takes a lot of trust on each others part to believe the other won't cheat. I did the long distance relationship for 2 years. I did this because of school. I fell I'm love with a Swiss man. I really believe our relationship is stronger than people who didn't have to deal with long distance relationships (especially different country relationship).
Everything you are telling us is really NONE of anybody's business, and you owe NOTHING to those who are annoying you to share more than you want to! Honestly, people just suck these days. 🙄 I wish you all the best. 💖
All the best for your future. Really enjoyed your content of your life in Germany. You never know maybe in the future. I wish you the best for your new journey in America. Maybe one day you came back. We loved having you here in Germany.. TSCHÜSS 🥰
Really sad to see that some lovely person like you, who likes our way of life here in germany, giving our culture a chance and accepts and adepts it, who is a smart intelligent person who is willing to be part of our system.. studying, ausbildung, everything, you even learned german.. is getting so much trouble to stay here. Especially sad since we get so many ppl from other parts of the world, who just come to abuse our system, just taking all the benefits while not caring at all about being part of germany.. even disliking it. I just wish more ppl who come here were a tiny little bit like you. Best of luck for your next chapter of life.. hope you will be happy where ever you will live:) And mayyyybeee we get to see another episode "why i am leaving the US and going back to germany" :-P
Your resilience is incredible! I had to take some deep breaths just hearing about what you have gone through. I wish you all the best & danke für deine Offenheit!
Hi Hayley - I am also a Hayley hoping to move to Germany (Munich ideally, also) and whoosh your tale is harrowing. I wish you the best of success with your program in the US and I hope if you want to come back to Germany after, you get REAL opportunities. You have put so much work in.
I had a similar experience with different jobs not matching my profession and my Lebenbslauf :) Very depressing. Applying for Bademeister, Briefträger ect. and no chance. It wasn't matching they said. If I'm gonna find sth more matching my profession, I'll be gone in no time and that's not worth their time. Maybe they thought the same way about you like: "She might change her mind overnight and bounce back to the US." For me took me alot of effort and extreme patience to get back on track. But now I can look back and understand why the other things wheren't working for me. Long journey, but worth it! Best of Luck!
Aww Hayley, I've been following you for years, I'm talking Aupair days!! (I was also an Aupair at the time, but in Italy) It's so awesome to see you and your journey in life. I wish you nothing but the best, I know life has a weird way of working, I'm legit in the same boat regarding school and career stuff. Do what's best for you boo, and do what feels right. I'm excited to where life takes you. I know I'm random internet person, but I'm rooting for you. PS if you're EVER in Tampa, hit me up!! :)
Hayley, it is okay, that you are going back to the states, because only there you can study that subject, what you are interested in. It is a pity, but it is, what it is. All the luck for you.
it's so important that young women like you stand on their own two feet, study, get an education and find fulfillment in a job they love. I do understand your decision, which was certainly not easy for you. Perhaps you should know that Germany also makes life difficult for many Germans. Germany is calling for skilled workers, but has nothing to offer that could attract them. I wish you all the best.
Gads.....how freaking stressful!!!! This is why I dont want to rely on the German system for work / income. I will be importing me and my business with passive income from abroad. Not being a "Deutschlander" by birth will likely put up a glass wall all around me and what better way to ruin the experience. Youve tried so hard and along the way taught me so much. Thank you, for helping me. You are dynamic and elastic. Something tells me there will be a video of you from Munchen at some point with you saying "Hey, so remember when....." You are a miracle on two feet. Never say never!
Wow, what happened to you was harsh. Unbelievable how toxic some people can be. I understand you now. Probably would have done the same. I wish you all the best for your future and an abscence of people like that.
Hats off for you being so calm & collected about this person literally committing Rufmord on you. Who does something like this, wtf, it is a dog-eat-dog world out there. Glad you're in a better place now, I wish you and Mike all the best in Florida! :)
I can relate to so much of what you went through. I'm so sorry for the tough times you've been going through and Germany is missing out on having you here. It's crazy to me there is a Fachkräftemangel in Germany and then you hear stories like yours, about how hard it is to get your foot in the door here (even if you have qualifications, skills etc.). I'm glad you came to terms with your decision and did what was best for you in the end. Ignore all the haters and keep being you. I hope you can achieve all your goals and that you can come back to Germany when you can / if you want to! Germany will miss you!
Here is what I wrote in my description box:
To put a calendar on this long story- this all happened from 2016ish - 2021. This is the last video I will make regarding leaving and my reasoning behind this choice (I will upload an update but a video regarding all of these stories- I won't say anything else).
Like I have stated in multiple videos- I keep things private because a) I am embarrassed of some of the things that have happened in the past b) I don't want everyone knowing my personal life and c) Some things are better left unsaid/forgotten. This is not everything that has happened but a very quick edited down version for UA-cam. I could go on and on about the struggles I have faced but I don't like dwelling on the past/negative. I like to focus on the positive and the good things in life.
I honestly believe that me coming to Germany was very necessary for my personal growth and providing me a path for my life currently. Without coming to Germany I would not have grown into this woman that doesn't let any hurdle or "failure" stop me from achieving my goals. Germany made me realize that anything is possible if you just put your mind to it and actually take a leap into the dark water.
I am not leaving forever (like I stated in my last video) BUT I can not keep running around in circles for crumbs to be thrown at me when I know I have so much more to offer. I enjoy working & I enjoy the social element of having a job/going to school/having a schedule- not having those things for years of my life has taken a huge toll on me (mentally, physically, emotionally, intellectually etc.). Yes I would have preferred having these things in Germany but sometimes you knock at a door that doesn't want to be answered.
Also what I forgot to mention in this video (which is pretty funny) is that sprinkle the German bureaucracy into this mix- it has been anything but easy 😅🤣😂
Dear Hayley, fighting German bureaucracy has made you the strong woman you are today. I wish you all the best on your further path and hope that you will return to Germany one day. This country needs women like you.
@@51pinn She will. A German Bakery addiction is hard to break ;-) I hope for her success in the USA ;-)
The Käsespätzle addiction is hard to break 😩😩😩😭😭😭
Hallo Hayley! Ich werde dich vermissen...du hast mir immer "aus der Seele gesprochen"! ! Viel Erfolg - bleib wie du bist*!! Peace**André
I once heard the quote "I hope you learn the difference between giving up and changing direction" ❤️
❤️❤️ and in my heart that is exactly what I believe I am doing
@@HayleyAlexis - You said you gave up. You didn’t. You changed gears. You adapted. You are growing. I took the liberty of placing a comment, don’t know if you have the time to find it. Just remember: You. Did. Not. Give. Up.
Please, please PLEASE be kind to yourself, always. Something tells me that no matter where life takes you, you’re going to make it. Hugs from an internet stranger in Belgium. 💖
@@HayleyAlexisI believe you read the “confirmations” correctly.
BTW, I have had people choose to destroy my life just as that fake-ass “friend” you helped did.
Do you know the story of “Layla & Majnún”? Those people are evil in their motivations, like rabid wolves, but they are still doing the work of Fate or God, which ever you choose for your heart. Let them go to their doom, because living ugly means dying ugly, and you do not want to feel responsible for that. And then accept the guidance their vicious behavior gave you. It’s a whole grown-up journey you are on, so internet trolls don’t get it, and rabid wolves and their confederates don’t get it, because they’re all still in junior high.
I hope you keep us with you on your further adventures.
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I’m a doctor and do agree with you that the teacher and childcare workers as well as nurses should get better salaries
Absolutely. But in both the US and Germany. I don't know any preschool teachers here in the US who can live as a single without a second job.
well, you're a minority then.
i'm a psych nurse here in germany and so called
" academicals" couldn't care less.
i can't even count how many times new therapists complained about not earning enough and their
" horrendous" study loans with 0% interest while running around with their gucci bag and brag about their vacations etc..
most of all, the audacadity and sheer ignorance of complaining while talking to ME.
who makes easily a thousand net less. i'm not poor but c'mon....
that's the reality of a nurse.
@@dagmarfrerking2235 Job markets are what job markets are. If one wants better pay one should choose a profession that pays better or start a business.
@@rdmnameEinfach die Wahrheit.
I am so sorry about our bureaucracy. It's a loss for Germany, but I totally understand you and drück all available thumbs for you.
@@kev_scheiba No
Warum entschuldigst du dich dafür? Ist doch INSERE Bürokratie, oder? Wer damit nicht klarkommt hat jederzeit die freie Wahl zu gehen.
Außerdem redet hier eine USAnerin, die sich darüber beschwert, dass ein Gletscherfluss kalt ist, sogar im Sommer.
@@DschoermaenRetrodaddler could you get a life.
I hate it when people say "never give up".
What's wrong with having a comfortable life and not being dragged through the mud for nothing.
@@Fragenzeichenplatte yeah sometimes, not constant.
Good luck in your life’s journey! Don’t worry about the 1%, focus on the 99% of us who just appreciate your channel.
Hayley, i was married 10 years with a woman from Honduras. She came here not speaking any german or english word.
She worked her ass of, every day for german class and her drivers license. She vommited every night because of pure stress. But she made it, she's a nurse now and happy, but the life in germany changed her. In Honduras as a girl you can't just go out at night, dancing. We divorced a couple of years ago, but we're still very good friends...
You are a good one, in every aspect, don't you dare to stop doing UA-cam. The world needs more people like you, open minded, emphatic and intelligent. ❤
I watch videos like these and read the comments at times to see what others have experienced as expats so here’s my testimony:
I’ve been in northern Germany for a year and a half. I’ve Bachelors in Social Science from the U.S. It’s accepted in Germany (approved by ZAB- 3.5 month wait for that) and helped me get a job at a kita as a full-time native English speaker. I make a little less than $40k/year. I pay about 22% in taxes and 8% goes towards healthcare and pension. I’ve 30 days paid vacation and paid sick days that seem to have no cap (I called out 42 days in 7 months last year and 17 so far this year). I wish the salary was higher but I’m quite content because I also make money from writing on Medium (almost $10k last year. Had to pay $1k in taxes this year for it). I’d teach English online and create videos as well if I had more time and energy. Writing full-time is my goal but I appreciate the kita job for many reasons. #1- it allows me to stay in Germany for as long as I want. I can do so many things that I want there as well. The biggest thing I dislike is working 40 hours a week and getting up at 6:30a. I plan to reduce my hours at some point or quit after another year or two. I don’t have kids nor do I want any which helps financially. You have to know what you want for yourself and for your future. I visit friends and family in the States but not more than once a year. The last time I did I was so grateful to return home to Germany.
Good luck with everything Hayley! I went back to school to complete my Bachelors at 37 years old and moved to Europe 5 months after the pandemic started. I finally made it to Germany a little more than a year later, at 44 years old. It’s one of the best things I’ve ever done. Keep your head up and your heart open. 🙌
By the way - I also gave up on something I had been fighting hard for in Germany and wasn't able to overcome obstacles and I moved to the U.S. and started a new career and am doing fantastic - my life is much better in my opinion than if I HAD achieved what I was trying to
Hi Hayley, wir werden alle nicht jünger, deshalb finde ich es so stark von dir jetzt nochmal durch zu starten...viel kraft und Energie für dich :)
Ich selbst habe mit 42 Jahren beschlossen die Ausbildung zur krankenschwester zu machen und habe es bis heute nicht bereut ;)
Viel Freude und Erfolg für deine future ❤
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@@HayleyAlexis auch ich drücke dir alle Daumen! Fühl dich gedrückt! Liebe Grüße aus Hamburg, Ben❤
@@HayleyAlexis It is never to late for a change. Last year I started an Umschulung (retraining) as "Kaufmann im Gesundheitswesen" (business man for healthcare) with 45 years and do not regret it. In my old company I would otherwise have gotten sick and was on the verge of burnout last summer.
I moved to Germany a few months ago, I was and still am amazed how far behind they are here (or think that online privacy is still a thing) with doing things online or through an app. I get more postal mail here in a week than I did in the last year of me living in the Netherlands. Things take so much longer here...
Deal Hayley,
so sorry to hear that your plans for education in Europe didn’t work out. “Life must be lived forwards, but can only be understood backwards.” (Soren Kierkegaard) God will lead you every step of the way and maybe you will come back to Germany after graduation. ❤
Thank you for sharing your experience. It is so hard to be a foreign in Germany and I don't think people understand the hoops you have to jump to have at least the opportunity of enrolling in School or having a job. What you said: This last year was hard but better than the last five (or so) is for me a bit hard to hear because it made me realize how strongly we hold onto something that might not be the best for us, maybe even with no reason. I did make it and have a great job, but I don't have that lebesfreude I had when I was in my Heimat.
I had a struggle similar in Germany too! We try and try for years, German Bureaucracy always enters the chat (oh those papers they love) and the betrayal/mobbing...just wow! The struggle was real. I feel you. It takes a toll.
You didn't give up in my eyes. It sounds like you tried everything, played by their rules and lost every time to a system that wasn't designed for you to win. You cut your losses and changed strategies. Respect!✌🏽
I've been following your page around the same time you entered Germany because I started my journey in Munich at that time too. It was a tough decision for me to leave because I do miss my friends there. However, things became even better for me after Germany! 😁 A new chapter awaits you Hayley! Stay strong and remember to be kind to yourself. You've got this! 😊
Honestly, the way that Mike and you interact with each other is perfectly fine. It's more relatable and real. The people complaining about it are probably the ones who have never had a long term relationship😂
Auf der einen Seite wird in diesem Land über Fachkräftemangel geklagt, auf der anderen Seite macht man es talentierten, gut ausgebildeten Menschen so schwer, hier Fuß zu fassen. Ich kann das alles nicht mehr verstehen. In diesem Land läuft wirklich viel falsch. ☹️ Alles Gute für Euren weiteren Weg.
Genau. Man muss zwischen dem deutschen Sozialstaat und der deutschen freien Marktwirtschaft unterscheiden. Ersterer ist großzügig (gegenüber Flüchtlingen und ungelernten Migranten), letzterer nämlich der Wohnungs- und Arbeitsmarkt, sind brutal restriktiv und diskriminierend (gegenüber qualifizierten Migranten, ausländischen Studenten usw.)
@@val-schaeffer1117In den letzten 20 Jahren hat der deutsche Staat die Renten gekürzt weil kein Geld da war,sozialer Arbeitsmarkt mit minijobs und leiharbeit "liberalisiert",die Arbeitslosenhilfe mit ALG II zur Armutsfalle gekürzt,Leistungen der Krankenversicherung gekürzt,und einen Großteil seiner Sozialwohnungen abgestoßen..dazu noch Bahnprivatisierung,Privatiserung öffentlicher Dienstleistungen...
Weil kein Geld da war,hieß es immer.
Aber um Halb Syrien auf Staatskosten einzuquartieren,ungeachtet ob Opfer oder ISler auf Erholungsurlaub, oder die Vermögenssteuer auszusetzen,das geht mal eben.
Einerseits ist der Wohnungs und Arbeitsmarkt durch Liberalisierung toxischer geworden, andererseits fühlen sich die Deutschen von ihrer Politk ziemlich verarscht und das zu Recht. Als gebürtiger deutscher gucke ich auch schon,ob es nicht woanders vielleicht schöner ist.
Thanks for being willing to share so openly Hayley. It's disturbing that a person you thought was a friend betrayed your trust.
I really admire your ability to pick yourself up and switch gears/ adapt. I wish you all the best in your life/endeavors. Please keep us posted. Take care from Vancouver BC
Very disturbing. I'm horrified. Hayley, you're acting with much more grace that I could muster.
Hayley, du machst das schon richtig! 🤗 Alles Gute!
Definitely can relate, I was working so hard to try to get into the corporate sector - only to find out that all of those doors were being shut and so much wasted time and years. Though when I was in the medical field - everyone was so welcoming. I am in my second semester of classes now to try to become an RN - being former military, we were trained to never ever give up. Keep your head up and continue to fight!
Do what a Hayley have to do . Stay strong and keep up your channel
I went back to school to become a nurse when I was 34, and I’m hoping to go back again in a few years to become a nurse practitioner. I found it more fulfilling to go back to school when I was older because I knew what I wanted, and I had more maturity and calm to get myself there with a greater sense of ease, even though the course work was still very difficult. It’s gonna be hard but it’s also gonna be great! You got this girl! Proud of you!
Excellent, good nurses are desperately needed and deserve a great salary too!! They do more for humans for absolute certain than the big kids playing ball games ( or ice hockey) 🏈🏉🏀🥎⚾️⚽️🏒, making millions per year do. Alles Liebe ⛑️🩼🥼 🏥
She decided against the kindergarten nurse because the salary is not enough in Germany. You cannot make a living from low salary.
During the 3 years of apprenticeship the salary is like 700 euros.
Normally girls live with their parents when doing apprenticeships. They start at age 17 with no own apartment.
Hayley lives in the surroundings of Munich which is 30 percent more expensive than the rest of Germany.
A small apartment in Hayleys area is 1000 Euro for rent and she would earn 1400 working in kindergarten after three years of school.
You do the math.
I'm also an American and also been living in Germany for the past 10 years. I'm officially moving back to the US this year and I've felt so many things about this decision. Lots of tears but also I know I need this change in my life, and above all, I need to be closer to family. It's a huge step but it's helpful to know that you've been going through something similar. So just wanted to say thank you for sharing ❤
I moved back after 20+ years! It’s a huuuge change.
Hallo Hayley, ich kann nur sagen, Hut ab. Ich finde es total stark sich für das, was man im Leben will, einzusetzen. Ein Auge wird weinen aber das andere lacht mit dir.
Schade, dass man es dir so schwer machte, in Deutschland ein Masterstudium zu absolvieren. Das Bürokratiemonster schreckt auch vorm Bildungswesen nicht zurück. Ich finde es ganz schön demotivierend, was Dir widerfahren ist. Respekt, dass du es ausgehalten und weitergemacht hast.
Überall haben sie ihre Regeln und Bürokratie. Dafür gibt es halt die Möglichkeit seine Papiere online prüfen zu lassen, ob Abschlüsse anerkannt werden. Eine Vereinfachung der Bürokratie wäre gut, aber auch wenn man sich vorher informiert.
Und dann beschweren die sich, dass wir Fachkräftemangel haben 🤣🤣🤣
Kannste dir in Deutschland einfach nicht ausdenken
@@MiaMizunodas mit fachkräftemangel ist eh der größte witz
@@MiaMizuno Die Fachkräfte sind da. Sie sind nur nicht bereit unter katastrophalen Bedingungen zu arbeiten. Letztens einen Kommentar gelesen wo jemand meinte "Das ist als würde ich verzweifelt versuchen einen Porsche für 1000€ zu finden und mich dann beschweren, dass wir in Deutschland einen Porschemangel haben" 😅
Danke das du diesen Teil deiner Geschichte mit uns teilst
Exactly! What she said!! Your channel, your house, and your door that will happily see any disgruntled patooties out!
I have been following your "crazy journey you call life" for a couple of years. Recently I had the impression that there were unspoken things that weighed you down, now they are in plain view. I wish you all the best for your future endavours. It would be great if you could continue to share your journey with us here in Germany, who have grown to like you like a distant friend. Maybe a few times a year, if that's not asking for too much? Again, all the best!
Couldn't have said it better.
I am so incredibly proud of you, dear Hayley. I am going through a strange transition as well. I am rooting for you 🤗🤗🤗
Hayley, eine Tür geht zu, eine andere geht auf! Du bist eine coole Socke, freue Dich auf neue Abenteuer. Danke für den netten Content in der Vergangenheit:)
Goodness, I'm in the same boat. Did the Kita route and wasn't happy with the pay. My degree (Psychology) isn't fully recognized so I have to study maybe a year or 2 more to make it equivalent to theirs plus get the masters afterwards because a bachelor just isn't enough here even tho our bachelor is 4 years. They say they have "Personalmangel" but for people like us with degrees from abroad, it's so hard to get it recognized and get the legal docs to stay here, it's easier if you're a refugee with kids though. Sorry but it's what I've seen in my 6 years here.
I’ve had people in my life who have been that inexplicably vindictive and set out to harm me in ways nobody would believe. Not on quite such a scale as what happened to you, though. And it’s nothing to do with anything you did because even if you or I perceived someone had mistreated me (or you), we would never react by doing what they did. I’m sorry that they targeted you - what a nightmare. And I love that you have persevered and things are taking you in a new direction. 💖
The low salaries in this field was the reason I quit studying social work. It‘s ridiculous.
Alles, alles Gute für Deine (Eure?) Zukunft in den USA ❤🍀 🇺🇸
It is really a discussion that needs to be had at the highest political level.
It's crap in Denmark too. There's also a lot of lay offs in the public sector. The rich needs their tax cuts here. The government thinks so anyway.
I am really torn on this topic (low salaries in the social work sector). I would totally agree that people in this field deserve a higher salary but the question is where that money comes from . You could charge the parents like it is done in the US but this makes it less affordable for parents with lower incomes. You could raise the public funding but that would probably mean higher taxes for everyone. Yeah taxing the rich more might also be a viable solution. You could try to make the companies the parents work for pay for their employees children. The company i work for offered daycare spots to their employees and also paid the fees. Definitely not an easy topic to solve but there are some options that should be explored more.
@@starryk79 I totally get what you mean! But this problem is there for years and little to nothing is done to change it. If the politicians would really see the need to change something they would have done something about it already. They have a yearly household plan and could prioitze education (which also includes childcare) more since it is really important for the economy as they did with the military last year (there is probably a lot of potential to save money if you just really look into it, like making the parliament even smaller, making bureaucracy easier so you don't need to build a new building for the Bundesämter in Berlin - just to name a few). A different strategy could be changing the threshold for the different income taxation percentages which would help a lot. E.g. Why do people with an yearly income of up to 55.000€ pay a staggered tax of up to 42% but form an income of 55.000€ to 200.000€ a year all pay 42% taxes and just after that it is raised to 45%? The staggered taxation burdens the lower income groups (< 55.000€) more than the higher ones, so if the government doesn't want to raise the saleries of people in social fields and other low income groups they could at least change the taxation system in a way people get more out of their saleries. But that could mean that they would see how many people are really struggeling with low income in Germany through getting less money in the states household. A difficult topic indeed.
@thinking 'bout your comment was very nice to read!!
sehr schade, dass das alles so schwierig ist, aber du gehst deinen Weg und ich wünsche dir ganz viel Glück und Erfolg! ❤🍀
Haley, no matter what other people tell you, it’s your life and it’s your decision to do whatever your heart desires to do. You should always follow your heart. It will lead you the right way. It takes a lot of courage to follow your dreams, and I wish you all the very best that all of your dreams come true. And who knows, maybe one day you’ll find your way back to Germany. We’d be glad to welcome you back. Take care!
It sounds like bureaucracy (as in many countries) made it difficult to pursue your academic/career path in Germany. That is no fault of your own. You went above and beyond in your efforts.
I really like to think I tried every avenue that I could here... I wasn't going to give up without a fight but here we are.....I AM TIRED OF FIGHTING 😂😂😂
@@HayleyAlexis yes, sometimes we need a break. I hope you will find what you are looking for and go back to Germany someday.
@@HayleyAlexis don't worry and don't think you were not "good enough!" No, it is all about our stubborn German bureaucracy which keeps to the rules not matter if the fit the person/situation or not. Most of the companies do not show the SLIGHTEST bit of flexibility.
And even a lot of Germans fight with this problem. For example, when overeducated for a job one would think "well they should feel happy to get me". But no. The German companies think "well, she is overeducated, she says she wants the job, but we are sure, as soon as she finds something better, she will say goodbye to us, so we will not take her into that job! She is only using us as a "running board" to somewhere else!"
It is like tattooed to their foreheads "we have rules. We use them. No matter what happens, we keep to our rules!"
I really hate this part of our working culture. Often I cannot stop shaking my head.
@@HerzschreiberIt is the same way in the U.S.
Congratulations that you achieved entering the course for becoming a master in the field you wanted! I am living in 2 worlds / countries too with my wife, sometime like now she is living there and I am living here for a while, she is a doctor I have a master in business. I can understand it very well. I wish you loads of success in your new challenge what ever it might bring to!!!! Taking new challenges in life to grow is really good. Enjoy it.
Since you have a YT channel you are a public person - people project their life on you, but its not about you, its about them. Don't take it personal (Sounds easy because I am not a public person I know).
"I am not leaving forever (like I stated in my last video) BUT I can not keep running around in circles for crumbs to be thrown at me when I know I have so much more to offer." ... totally understand, been there, done that. Other than that, it's never about where we live, but who we are, and who we want to be! Best of luck to you, nothing to fear, much to discover! Love & Blessings!
First off - 7 years in a foreign country - namely Germany - is a long time to experiment and try things out. BTW, I am the guy who translated Michael's BAYERISCH in TO Hochdeutsch - regarding the 9 Euro ticket last year.
Otherwise I haven commented now and then about some of your respective topics on your videos. I wish I could REALLY get down in to DEEP DETAIL, but that could take a day, and you - and people don't and won't have the time to read it. Being 64, American, and having lived in Germany, first as an "Army brat", and then in REAL GERMANY, since 1971, I can say that you have REALLY done your best here in this country.
Moved in with my dad's second family in 1983 and moved around a lot in the area of San Diego and found employment - and didn't end up being homeless - and came back to Germany in 1985.
In 7 years you have carefully examined your employment options in this country, and I think you are making the RIGHT decision as far as I can tell. After all, YOU are number one, most important, and that will automatically help you help others and interact with others. If you only lived to strictly satisfy others, something would be WRONG
As for your private life, as far as I have seen videos made by Americans, Canadians and even a lady from NEW ZEALAND - being in a LOCAL relationship (Michael) - and you being his girlfriend, partner, lifemate - whatever you want to call it - means, one person will always have to make a sacrifice. Michael lives there in Bavaria, you are from Florida, and that will always cause a certain amount of FRICTION. But I will patiently wait for your news in that regard. Some people bring their entire family with them from the U.S. That seems to go again a different route as opposed to "mixed" relationships, by that I simply mean German-American relationships, regardless of race, color or creed. Ergo mixed in " "
That's it for now, wish I had had the knowledge you have NOW when I was your age.
All the best for you!
What I like is that you are reflecting about yourself and not blaming others for your "failures". Sometimes you have to crawl through sh1t for a while before it gets good.
I generally do not like to blame others because that gives them a piece of control over my life and that is not what I want. I see everything as a lesson and an opportunity for growth... I also believe karma has a wonderful way of working.
Oh my dear Hayley, I am so, so sorry. I am experiencing something similar right now with the job search. My career advisor is confounded why I haven't heard back from anywhere. I have also begun to fear that someone has blacklisted me. You have NOT given up--you are making lemonade from lemons. You CAN do this, and justice will come through. I am so sorry. Props to you for staying graceful and persevering in spite of these IMMENSE challenges. Good for you. We are here to support you!
No the bureaucracy in France is just as much of a nightmare and I get so triggered by it every time. Like one day I will lash out and end up in jail for cursing someone out 🤣😂 (and the worse part is: the taxes are so high which is supposed to pay for gov services, ironically the more staff = more bureaucracy). I’m literally getting worked up as I write this. ANYWAYYYY I FEEL YOU!!!
Agree with you, French bureaucracy is a nightmare when you're not informed enough, and even with information, they can tell you BS and make you move away, for reasons they'll never tell openly (and because it's illegal)
Someone should make a comparison between both French and German bureaucracy, that'd be so helpful 🙏
@@Fragenzeichenplatte Some other countries' bureaucracy is even worse because of their strange logic, as in Portugal
People there have a hard time with it
Hayley it was great living in Germany this time and your whole experience was very worthwhile, coming back home is a great decision and another thing Dear, you have no idea what the future has in store for you. What is yours, nobody takes it away. Welcome back home!!
I'm so sorry for this experience. It is so dispiriting and exhausting. You don't deserve this. Some people get a unfair shake. I can totally relate. Keep at it. I believe in you.
Haley I am sorry you had to deal with that. I am so proud of how you handled it. I had a Corporate situation that was similar. I was let me go because I was a top paid person in my job and my store did not make there numbers. They told me my position was eliminated. I could apply to other jobs in the company. When I applied to other places in the company I did not get the jobs only HR talking to me. They had put a do not rehire on my record. I did not know this since they offered me apply internally. I was using my old boss as reference for outside new jobs. She was tanking me and I did not know. This was so I could not sue my old company for letting me go. I got hit with super bad depression because I couldn’t get job. My self esteem was in the way down. I am just now starting to dig myself out. Thank you being so candid and sharing your story.
Hayley, first of all, thank you so much for the video. Telling this story certainly took a lot of courage and overcoming. I did not expect it and would have understood it if you had not told it, because basically your private life is none of my business. It is a pity that your current situation leads you to turn your back on Germany.
Not getting a job because you are overqualified or underqualified, because the recruiter thinks you won't be happy in that job, or because the salary expectations don't fit is one thing. These are things you (unfortunately) have to accept.
But to be wrongly accused of having falsified qualifications and to find out that people you count as close friends turn out to be false friends who talk badly about you behind your back is shameful and a pure horror. This makes so angry and helpless at the same time.
Anyway, I wish you all the luck in the world that you find your way. Maybe you will come back in a few years, who knows? Life often shows you paths that you have not planned or considered.
I just hope that you will not close your YT channel and continue to share your life and your thoughts with us, independend of where you are in this world.
I am in shock re what she told us about the snake (friend).
She helped that snake!
I don't understand why evil people thrive, and good people suffer.
Dear Hayley, wishing you all the best for the future. Please stay true to yourself, it's your life and you should live it the way it feels good for you! But plese keep us updated whenever are able and feel like it. Remember, sometimes miracles happen when you least expect them.
I'm so sad that a person you thought was a good friend ruined it for you. And because I've followed you since before Mike I have a hunch who that might be. They should be ashamed of themselves.
I wish you all the best for the future regardless of how this future may look like. Everything will work out for you and you'll succeed. I just know it.
Many years ago I looked into the possibility of emigrating from UK to New Zealand. They had a points system for eligibility and at the time they were taking 50,000 people a year but that was from the whole world. I was surprised to find that my UK bachelor degree was worth zero points whereas a New Zealand degree was worth some points.
It makes me angry how Germany makes life for people like you difficult.
I wish you and Mike all the best for the future!
I am not necessarily angry. I have learned so much and grown so much since being in Germany. I think my videos are a testimony to my growth. Regardless if I was struggling finding a job or not having success in other areas of life... I was learning lessons and working on myself along the way.
I tried to take the more complicated route (mixed with ignorance) to achieve my goals in Germany and it didn't work out for me.... Which is ok because I am still young and have a lot more fight in me!
@@HayleyAlexis I can totally relate to you. I left Germany and achieved my goal to live in Canada. However it wasn’t what I expected. I would like to get back to Europe but can’t anymore.
You leaving Germany is a big loss for Germany! I am wishing you all the best! 😘
@@maxbarko8717 Wieso kannst du nicht mehr zurück?
@@luisahydrangea3783 gesundheitliche Probleme. 👎
Funny thing is they tend to give hard working foreign employees difficulties with their beureucracy. I had this crazy thought that they probably prefer to keep the unskilled ones, so that the germans face less tough competition 😅
Hi Hailey. You did the best you can. I'm in solidarity with you. I also applied for graduate school in Germany to be close to my family. That did not work out. I will starting graduate school in the UK in the autumn. And I think you did the right decision. I wish you the best!
She is a looser, didn't make it here. And she didn't do the best she could. If she had, she had been successful
Hayley, sweetheart, here’s a word from a 53-year-old woman who has weathered a storm or two (and more).
Those 1% don’t deserve even a nanosecond of your time. And you do not need to share anything about your personal life unless you want to and are ready to. Also: why start sharing if you feel there’s nothing to share yet? As far as your relationship goes, frankly it’s none of our business even when because of your channel people get invested. Yes, your fans love you and therefore want you to be happy, to have the best, to be treated like the queen you are. But what that means, if Mike makes you as happy as we believe you deserve to be, and if he treats you like we’d like you to be treated, is none of our business. Most important is that YOU are happy. And that’s something YOU and inly YOU can define. Still, if you decide to share, we’ll gladly be there.
As for your degree: GO FOR IT GIRL! Give it your all. Take it by storm. It’s going to be hard, any degree worth its salt is. But you can do it. You have fought so hard, been unafraid to try so many things, shown such resourcefulness, you have what it takes. Should life turn out different, remember that every step of the way you have learned valuable things. You will find your way.
About the ‘friend’ who tried to destroy you: that despicable piece of non-humanity has perhaps opened a door to you that will take you higher than you would ever achieve otherwise. I sincerely hope that one day, Karma is going to come knocking on that person’s door and that at that very moment & for a long time afterwards, that person will be seeing nothing but success from your side. You did not give up. You went for what is giving you an opening to success and happiness. Go live your best life.
Lots of love from Belgium.
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Love you too
And also wish you the very best both for your career and personal life 💚
You really deserve to continue to thrive 🌱🌄
Sometimes the universe sends us in a different direction then the one we planned. Sometimes it's just a detour and sometimes it's a complete change. The only thing that is important is that you find your path to happiness.
Haley! I follow your channel for some years now. I'm German, live in Berlin. Gurl... I think it's a real pitty you have to leave respectively you decided to do so because of you could not get a school place here. I can just imagine what you've been through and the fact that you tried and applied and it did not work out is just sad and not what you deserve. Anyway... I wish you all the best of luck and success for your way. I also hope that Mike and you will find a good way to not have to split up, it would be a shame. Lot's of love! You would have been a great German citizen.
I have zero knowledge re German bureaucracy. I don't understand why she could not (was not aceepted) go to School or why she didn't get any jobs (that she wanted). This and what she told us about her "friend" made us really sad. Not fair.
I totally get you! German beaurocracy, too little money for Erzieher*innen, things not moving forward, people being a***oles...
You just follow your way, girl, you're doing the right thing!
I'm going to miss your content of life in Germany, but I would also follow regular updates on your college life in the US.
Take good care of yourself! ❤
Dear Hayley, I admire your courage and your hands-on creatory personality (might be lost in translation: gestalterische Persönlichkeit). Really hope that you'll have some resources left over for continuing doing UA-cam for us because we love you and support you!
omg, i feel for you. Germany sucks in this matter of trying to get a job. I was in this position of just "I just need a job" for so long and of course I went into a terrible depression phase because a lot of things just don't make sense here and the fact that you get turned down from jobs by whatever reason makes it just worse. I really hope it gets better and all the best for you tho :)!
It's not just an issue in Germany, people have the same issues finding work here in the UK.
I wish you all the best. Taking that decision wasn't easy I guess. You have my total respect for your decision to take path that feels right for you. Farewell and remember that you meet at minimum twice in lifetime. Big hugs to you🤗🤗🤗
That is very true!!! I could never say goodbye forever to Germany just... see ya later :)
Ma'am whatever you choose to do I wish you all the best , I hope you choose a path that makes you happy & feels positive. Good luck.
Same type of experiences living here ..Unfortunately. So mature of you to realize "This isn't working for me" with no shame or guilt. Wish you all the best moving forward!🎉😎
Congratulations and lots of luck Hayley! Your journey is truly inspirational and it sounds like you are exactly where you’re meant to be 🧡
I totaly feel you. I startet a whole new career and I‘m really happy with it. So go for it. Whatever makes YOU happy. Wish you all the best.😊
its always a bold move to break a habit or to get out of your comfort zone and even more so, if you decide to draw a line although you didn't like the thought of it, but at the same time knew it was necessary. in my book, if everything else meant that you had to ignore reality, then this was the only reasonable decision to make.
i wish you the best for whatever you have in mind :)
Thanks for this update.
It cleared things up.
Sorry for having you such "friends"
No problem 😊
Sehr sehr schade. Die Bürokratie ist in Deutschland leider oftmals eine Katastrophe. Allerdings musste ich mich bisher nur wenig damit beschäftigen und kann verstehen, wenn man daran verzweifelt. Es könnte so viel einfacher sein.
Die Bezahlung in sozialen Berufen ist leider durchweg unter aller Kanone (ich arbeite selbst in diesem Feld) und muss dringend überdacht werden.
Deine persönlichen Enttäuschungen mit deinem ehemaligen guten Freund ist wirklich ohne Worte!
Ich kann nur hoffen, du gehst dennoch gestärkt daraus hervor und wünsche dir alles Gute für deine Zukunft. Vielleicht führt dich dein Weg ja irgendwann wieder hier her zurück. Dein Weggang ist ein echter Verlust. Pass gut auf dich auf!
It's done, it's done! Closed a chapter, job well done - congrats! and welcome home ❤
Hope it will work out for you as planed. Keep us posted.
An American friend of mine was a teacher in Frankfurt at a private school and didn’t make a lot, given her education and experience. It was really low for such a big city.
When I watched a first video of you, maybe was 2017, I just moved to germany, I was doing my master, took a long time to complete (5 years, thesis was the worst part for me, and the way the professors treated me). I was so depressed (I am still dealing with chronic depression) and you looked so happy, and that you knew how to be happy in Germany, so I felt so bad with myself, why you can be happy in Germany and I can not. I am a south american woman, now I am 31, I am a woman of color too, I had been very unhappy in this country, not because the contry itself, but because of things that happened to me while living here, I was already messed up mentally. Now I see these videos of the recent years when you start to talk about your struggles and I feel we were in more than less the same situation and I am sorry for that, nothing worked in my life here, still it does not work. I met my husband here, so maybe I can say something worked out, but now we will separate. I have a master degree in MINT (STEM) but anyway, I do not get any job offer in my field. I do not know if I am a problem or not, I do not know if we as foreigns are doing everything wrong....But I am still confused. I do not want to do waitress jobs or cleaning anymore.
I have been through what you have been through in Germany as a foreigner. I know the feeling of being constantly invalidated in germany! Like its doesn’t matter how much effort you put, they will not evaluate the discipline, the willingness to work, your intelligent will be intentionally disregarded! Then.. the feeling of faliure if you consider quitting, because when you look around, it looks like every body made it.. the graceful life with the German Goddess would make you question your competence often.
Just try in France , Italy , Sweden or Norway or any eastern European countries - and then try to judge Deutschland again...
The USA trumps Europe in this regard. Even with all it's faults, I appreciate living somewhere where I don't have to constantly prove myself worthy...
What???? People are stupid! You and mike are one of my favourite UA-cam couples ❤
I can't believe you're leaving Germany. I've been here since you had 10k something followers. You were one of the prime motivators for my decision to study in Germany. Please come back sooooon! ❤❤
Awwwww, Hayley! Thank you so much for sharing your heart and even your personal life. Never did it occur that it would be practically impossible for you to get your school done in Germany. You're very wise to see God's signs and follow them.
When the universe throws you signs you listen!
🍀 Whatever you're going through,I'm by your side!
Always loved you to share your intimate thoughts!
Respect,Hayley!✊
All the best for whatever the future holds for you, sometimes we don't get to do certain things where we'd like but if life was easy we'd all be doing what we truly want to be doing... I hope everything works out for you regardless of where your life takes you make the most of any opportunity you can...
I know what you talking about the acknowledgment of grades and professional background. It’s the same both sides of the pont. If you don’t have a specific sponsership from a partner university, employer etc. it is better to finish within the system you come from. I wish you good luck and success for the future. It’s great that you always have the energy to move on. Greetings from California
I think this is a very valid point that I can 100% agree with.
Most people trying to do higher education in Germany that come from other countries prepare themselves for the move and figure out what needs to be done beforehand. That wasn’t why and how I came to germant so I dropped the ball there 🤣
@@HayleyAlexis and still it's sad. For you, many others in similar situations and for our society.
@@HayleyAlexis thanks for the thumps up and sorry for commenting again. I just want to add, that it's sad to see that someone needs to leave the country to fulfill their dreams, while it would be perfectly possible to make it here if it wasn't for lack of flexibility, unnecessary hurdles or even barriers we installed for whatever reason.
I see us weakening ourselves. There's nothing pushing society (a country) forward like gifted people who want to archive something and put in everything they have to offer. We need to change that better earlier than later as much as you needed to find that laborious workaround to get to yourself.
Hey hayley I'm glad to see now it's been a long time don't watching your video but you know I inspired your vedeo teaching us German. Thank you for sharing and I hope you will be ok.❤
You and Mike definitely love each other. It takes a lot of trust on each others part to believe the other won't cheat. I did the long distance relationship for 2 years. I did this because of school. I fell I'm love with a Swiss man. I really believe our relationship is stronger than people who didn't have to deal with long distance relationships (especially different country relationship).
You go girl, follow your dream. You can do it!!
Trying is always beter than, what if....
We love you girl. Keep your head up!
Everything you are telling us is really NONE of anybody's business, and you owe NOTHING to those who are annoying you to share more than you want to! Honestly, people just suck these days. 🙄
I wish you all the best. 💖
Well said.
All the best for your future. Really enjoyed your content of your life in Germany. You never know maybe in the future. I wish you the best for your new journey in America. Maybe one day you came back. We loved having you here in Germany.. TSCHÜSS 🥰
Good luck for everything that might come
Really sad to see that some lovely person like you, who likes our way of life here in germany, giving our culture a chance and accepts and adepts it, who is a smart intelligent person who is willing to be part of our system.. studying, ausbildung, everything, you even learned german.. is getting so much trouble to stay here.
Especially sad since we get so many ppl from other parts of the world, who just come to abuse our system, just taking all the benefits while not caring at all about being part of germany.. even disliking it. I just wish more ppl who come here were a tiny little bit like you.
Best of luck for your next chapter of life.. hope you will be happy where ever you will live:) And mayyyybeee we get to see another episode "why i am leaving the US and going back to germany" :-P
Your resilience is incredible! I had to take some deep breaths just hearing about what you have gone through. I wish you all the best & danke für deine Offenheit!
Hi Hayley - I am also a Hayley hoping to move to Germany (Munich ideally, also) and whoosh your tale is harrowing. I wish you the best of success with your program in the US and I hope if you want to come back to Germany after, you get REAL opportunities. You have put so much work in.
I'm so sorry that it didn't work out!
All the best to you in your future!!!
I loved living in Germany..But i already had friends. I hope you find a better place.
11:45 OMG it's always like this, it's always in the LAST WEEK when you already made up your mind for leaving... this happens so often 😥
Gee, my respect for you becomes greater and greater with each video
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I had a similar experience with different jobs not matching my profession and my Lebenbslauf :) Very depressing. Applying for Bademeister, Briefträger ect. and no chance.
It wasn't matching they said. If I'm gonna find sth more matching my profession, I'll be gone in no time and that's not worth their time. Maybe they thought the same way about you like: "She might change her mind overnight and bounce back to the US." For me took me alot of effort and extreme patience to get back on track. But now I can look back and understand why the other things wheren't working for me. Long journey, but worth it! Best of Luck!
Aww Hayley, I've been following you for years, I'm talking Aupair days!! (I was also an Aupair at the time, but in Italy) It's so awesome to see you and your journey in life. I wish you nothing but the best, I know life has a weird way of working, I'm legit in the same boat regarding school and career stuff. Do what's best for you boo, and do what feels right. I'm excited to where life takes you. I know I'm random internet person, but I'm rooting for you.
PS if you're EVER in Tampa, hit me up!! :)
Hayley, it is okay, that you are going back to the states, because only there you can study that subject, what you are interested in. It is a pity, but it is, what it is. All the luck for you.
thanks so much for sharing your story, it's helped me make my own decision. i admire your resilience and hope all is well!
You go girl. Thanks for sharing those things you choose to.
Stay focused and be positive minded keep up ur great work. Many blessings 😊
it's so important that young women like you stand on their own two feet, study, get an education and find fulfillment in a job they love. I do understand your decision, which was certainly not easy for you. Perhaps you should know that Germany also makes life difficult for many Germans. Germany is calling for skilled workers, but has nothing to offer that could attract them. I wish you all the best.
Gads.....how freaking stressful!!!! This is why I dont want to rely on the German system for work / income. I will be importing me and my business with passive income from abroad. Not being a "Deutschlander" by birth will likely put up a glass wall all around me and what better way to ruin the experience.
Youve tried so hard and along the way taught me so much. Thank you, for helping me. You are dynamic and elastic. Something tells me there will be a video of you from Munchen at some point with you saying "Hey, so remember when....."
You are a miracle on two feet. Never say never!
Wow, what happened to you was harsh. Unbelievable how toxic some people can be. I understand you now. Probably would have done the same. I wish you all the best for your future and an abscence of people like that.
Hats off for you being so calm & collected about this person literally committing Rufmord on you. Who does something like this, wtf, it is a dog-eat-dog world out there. Glad you're in a better place now, I wish you and Mike all the best in Florida! :)
All the best to you and I sincerely hope everything works out as you wish it to be. ❤❤❤❤❤🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀
I can relate to so much of what you went through. I'm so sorry for the tough times you've been going through and Germany is missing out on having you here. It's crazy to me there is a Fachkräftemangel in Germany and then you hear stories like yours, about how hard it is to get your foot in the door here (even if you have qualifications, skills etc.). I'm glad you came to terms with your decision and did what was best for you in the end. Ignore all the haters and keep being you. I hope you can achieve all your goals and that you can come back to Germany when you can / if you want to! Germany will miss you!
Good luck. What the Universe has for you is already yours. You got this!!!