5 Mistakes We Make in Relationships

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  • @trishmnz
    @trishmnz 7 років тому +3628

    lilly claims she's not good at relationships but she literally gives the BEST advices.

    • @firahna5456
      @firahna5456 7 років тому +73

      well usually people that's not in relationship actually give the best advice.i mean come on, maybe thats probably why she is single :D

    • @randyclark3442
      @randyclark3442 7 років тому +2

      annie ayhhhnn

    • @wooji5731
      @wooji5731 7 років тому +17

      thatweirdgirleverywhere i feel like you dont have to specificaly be experienced in relationships to be able to advise people in them, you can just have more people smarts you know ;P

    • @TheMissHantje
      @TheMissHantje 7 років тому +42

      I think people who haven't had that much experience with relationships give the best advice because they're not hurt or messed up yet you know they can see things from a clearer perspective

    • @CleoAgyepong
      @CleoAgyepong 7 років тому +2

      Hann De Grave Loyson speak the truth🙋🏾🗣

  • @myahwoltz3712
    @myahwoltz3712 9 років тому +1418

    I wish EVERYBODY has as much common sense as you. You nailed everything. I'm 13 and at my school so many people already are dating and act like there so mature, when in reality we are kids and should just be worrying about school and our friends. Sure it's normal to have a crush, but seriously is it necessary to be in a ALL TEXTING relationship where you are apparently in "love" with each other. People through that word around WAY too much. To be in love takes time and full commitment. Most adults don't even know what true love is. I'm sure some people can relate to this.

    • @afsmeg
      @afsmeg 9 років тому +83

      Why can't there be more people like you...?

    • @myahwoltz3712
      @myahwoltz3712 9 років тому +16

      Hah, thanks.

    • @liyayu2316
      @liyayu2316 9 років тому +6

      You said we have to be focused on school while you spelled the word throw wrong?!

    • @myahwoltz3712
      @myahwoltz3712 9 років тому +55

      LAnnya YuKamel If you correct my English I correct your face, okey? **what up super woman meme refrence**

    • @Asilverr155
      @Asilverr155 9 років тому +36

      Keep that mentality! You will end up happier through the rest of junior high and highschool. Don't take relationships too seriously if you do end up in one in middle school. I wish you the best of luck through the rest of your school years. :^)

  • @kategan3833
    @kategan3833 9 років тому +1581

    Dont worry if your single, singles are the best in the album

  • @ATrueLoveOfficial
    @ATrueLoveOfficial 6 років тому +1117

    Who says you're not a legit relationship adviser? You may express or deliver it in a funny way but girl, your words are always hitting on the right spot. Basically the truth, yes.

  • @leilasophiawald
    @leilasophiawald 8 років тому +2352

    her degree in phsycology really shows in this video

    • @Saeyoung404
      @Saeyoung404 8 років тому +76

      Leila Wald I know right! Its so amazing

    • @rishinaithani2297
      @rishinaithani2297 7 років тому +12

      me _ exactly dude

    • @mignon6882
      @mignon6882 7 років тому +10

      leila w Ya, I use some her quotes in speech making.

    • @rhiannong9624
      @rhiannong9624 7 років тому +40

      I think it she should be given a degree in common sense cause she is so good at it

    • @AshaEll
      @AshaEll 6 років тому +2

      leila w no u didnt

  • @shelly7294
    @shelly7294 8 років тому +1694

    "Look at me, pretending to know stuff."
    Me taking a test HA

    • @joya5680
      @joya5680 8 років тому +1

      Sameee

    • @shelly7294
      @shelly7294 8 років тому +6

      Joy A ikr, me before a test: omg I know everything! I'm gunna get a 100!!
      me during the test: LOL LOOK AT ME, PRETENDING LIKE I KNEW STUFF YEAH RIGHT WTF IS THIS

    • @OksanaKhoruzhenko
      @OksanaKhoruzhenko 8 років тому

      lol😂

    • @shelly7294
      @shelly7294 8 років тому

      Oksana Khoruzhenko 😂😂😂😂

    • @natalieburnett2068
      @natalieburnett2068 8 років тому +2

      ikr

  • @amrumo8547
    @amrumo8547 8 років тому +2755

    Dear Superwoman,
    Us single folk won't be sad watching this video.
    We'll be pointing fingers at people we know.

  • @emmagrey3069
    @emmagrey3069 7 років тому +348

    Dat psychology degree paid off

    • @nishajohn7847
      @nishajohn7847 3 роки тому +6

      For realllll she should actually be a therapist or psychologist

  • @FKAkingsley
    @FKAkingsley 9 років тому +4315

    Dang! Lilly took us to church like Hozier.

  • @chloeyeap3484
    @chloeyeap3484 8 років тому +521

    She freaking gets everything right. Superwoman is so smart.

    • @kuanchan1696
      @kuanchan1696 7 років тому +5

      Swimming Poet psychology degree

  • @ashley-rx5il
    @ashley-rx5il 9 років тому +462

    i agree with the friend that leaves when they get into a relationship. i had a best friend that left me when she got a boyfriend, and when he dumped her, she had no other friends and when she came back to me asking for forgiveness, i was like we never even talked in 8 months.... you didn't even come to my grandmas funeral because you had a movie date with your boyfriend.....

    • @fnafchampion6365
      @fnafchampion6365 9 років тому

      And how old r u

    • @fnafchampion6365
      @fnafchampion6365 9 років тому

      U HAVE LIKE NOTHING ON YOUT CHANNEL

    • @ashley-rx5il
      @ashley-rx5il 9 років тому

      Fnaf Champion im 15 and i log into different accounts because my other channel has songs and school projects with friends on it

    • @wassssaaap3334
      @wassssaaap3334 9 років тому +30

      ashawashaaa You don't need that type of person in your life, if she wants to be your friend she should have at least put some effort in hanging out with you or something.

    • @casiana1858
      @casiana1858 9 років тому +1

      Hey...tbh I know where your coming from as in she didn't talk to you for such a long period of time...and this is fair if she has not its fair from you not to want to be friends with her but she has got no one, and breaking up with a person love is REALLY hard and I think she loved him because of how much time she spent with him..so maybe give her an other chance? But same time since she didn't come to his fureral etc just bc of a movie date this is pretty cold...anyways goodluck to you to her and its your decision in the end x btw r icon is so cute

  • @sheilapons6442
    @sheilapons6442 7 років тому +194

    Hi, I guess you forgot about one, and it's the fact that some people they claim to love you the firsts month and then after time passes by you realize that they're trying to change who you are. They claim to like your personality, but then they say: "I don't like this thing nor that thing" (messing with your hair style, way of getting dressed, your music taste and stuff like that ), they trynna change you, but you're there wondering "Do I really need to change?" and you ask him/her "But what's wrong with it? it's how I am" and then they say "I'd like you more if you..."...
    Dude, get away from those people. They don't love you, they love the idea of you!

    • @sunnysolaris23
      @sunnysolaris23 5 років тому +13

      Or, because you are young and naive and don't know your own worth, you actually try to be the person your significant other wants you to be. And then there comes the point where you ask yourself why you are so god damn miserable in your "happy" relationship.

    • @dhanyasureshmenon
      @dhanyasureshmenon 4 роки тому +2

      Oh my gosh dude, you gonna be the next Lilly Singh!

  • @faye6344
    @faye6344 8 років тому +1276

    Lilly is my life therapist ❤️

  • @DevinOzmon
    @DevinOzmon 8 років тому +294

    Ok that lollipop/doctor analogy was actually revolutionary

  • @TheInkedOne
    @TheInkedOne 9 років тому +771

    I think toooo many young girls (12-15yo) think their life is nothing without a boyfriend. Like get real girl, there's more important things in life than that! And when they get a douchebag boyfriend, they complain that all guys are the same. No honey no, you were just in too much of a hurry to get laid.

    • @TheGaaraxemi
      @TheGaaraxemi 9 років тому +8

      Preach!

    • @tracyselvaraj7742
      @tracyselvaraj7742 9 років тому +7

      im 13 i dont need bf..im good i have
      my besties..

    • @mad0kamag.karp.
      @mad0kamag.karp. 9 років тому +3

      For my school its like 11+ its disturbing, like seriously

    • @RatRatRat
      @RatRatRat 9 років тому +17

      I am 14, and I feel so uncomfortable knowing that girls amlost 4 yeara younger than me have boyfriends. Like, what's the point? You either gonna date him for 8 years and get married or dump him before then. And those 'relationships' are mostly just the occasional hug or hand holding. Seriously girls, get your shit together.

    • @ReyeLynn
      @ReyeLynn 9 років тому +1

      My friend(12) be saying this guy in my class likes her and that he flirts with her...My bff's sister told him that(cuz they friends) and he was all like "WHAT!!??" She's a hopeless romantic likeeee she's WAAAY to blinded by "Love."
      Like don't get me wrong I had a bf when I was like 7 because all my friends were getting into relationships now I'm Just Like HELLL NOOOOO. :3

  • @theonethatgotaway8346
    @theonethatgotaway8346 7 років тому +740

    I think I'm at the stage where I'm clicking "Thumbs Up" before the video even begins, lol.

  • @nathanhaimson
    @nathanhaimson 9 років тому +178

    The first one really got to me... I do really depend on people a lot for happiness without even realizing it because I simply hate myself and my life. I dunno, being transgender, having social anxiety disorder, and being just plain insecure about every aspect of myself, I have to rely on other people for positivity or else I'd end up going mad and most definitely killing myself. It's scary to think that it's not good or healthy to depend on other people because I really don't know how to make myself happy and I don't think I have the strength to try...

    • @tanvijain1575
      @tanvijain1575 9 років тому +1

      I do too, it's okay. :)
      If you have the luxury to depend on other people then that's great. Don't take it to heart.

    • @isabelle5968
      @isabelle5968 9 років тому +1

      Its okay, I depend on other people a lot for happiness too but to be honest, that makes me happy and people around me would tell me if they are sick of it but this video is sort of telling people how to live their lives but you don't have to follow it if you don't want to, I'm not going to. If depending on other people makes you happier, do that :)

    • @creativezebra5757
      @creativezebra5757 9 років тому +11

      Stop defining yourself if you wanna be free. To define is to confine. Wish you have a great day.

    • @bluemoon1992
      @bluemoon1992 9 років тому +8

      It got to me too. I'm disabled and have no choice but to depend on people even though I want my independence. I also have severe anxiety, insecurity, self hatred and a skin picking ocd. Honestly, I think I would kill myself if I didn't have people around to motivate me into finding my own happiness.
      Depending on people is never a bad thing if you're going through depression or bad times. It may feel like you're being a burden to others but if they truly love and care about you, they will not mind. It's so hard and scary getting out of a vicious cycle of depression so severe that you don't even recognize who you are, but finding the strength to depend on others is the bravest and most difficult thing you can do for yourself. In this case, I like to think of depending on others as a temporary crutch until you find yourself and your own happiness.

    • @roromsg
      @roromsg 9 років тому +8

      You are capable to depend on yourself and that will make you feel happier and stronger... i was a person who constantly depends on others and didn't like myself ..in fact, I couldn't stand being alone :(
      But thanks God I improved myself after reading books and watching videos about self improvement
      It is really nice to feel that you have the power to do any thing and to have people around you when you are in need... it feels amazing to have a voice and to be a leader...
      I don't want you to live your life like that, so think about this issue and try to help yourself by reading or asking experts...
      acknowledge your weaknesses and try to fix them :)
      Feeling insecure is just like a stone on your heart and is really hurtful and when all that feelings goes away you will feel so happy that i can't even describe
      your success will surely comes after you feel happy and confident NOT the opposite ;) k?
      Sorry if there is some grammar or spelling mistakes...English is not my mother tongue , I'm actually an Arab

  • @MrNotThatFamous
    @MrNotThatFamous 9 років тому +65

    biggest problem is rushing into a relationship with someone who obviously isn't loyal just because you "Like" them.

  • @pony360
    @pony360 8 років тому +214

    It's much easier to hear this from someone who isn't family or friends. This was a great video.

  • @adarshtr9437
    @adarshtr9437 4 роки тому +109

    everybody : lilly gives so good relatuionship advice why are you still single?
    lilli : coaches neva play

  • @rodricksyeaaah
    @rodricksyeaaah 8 років тому +285

    Everything I've ever thought about relationships verbalised in one video, you killed it Lily!

    • @2slick4bs
      @2slick4bs 8 років тому

      👍

    • @2slick4bs
      @2slick4bs 8 років тому +1

      👍

    • @WGYPSY
      @WGYPSY 8 років тому +1

      +Megan Rodricks totally agreed!!!

    • @siri5186
      @siri5186 8 років тому

      +Megan Rodricks ha

    • @lucasn.poulsen6882
      @lucasn.poulsen6882 8 років тому

      Do THIS if you feel he's about to BAIL on you facebook.com/The-Bonding-Code-964550660328328/?sk=app_208195102528120

  • @EXOPLANET12
    @EXOPLANET12 9 років тому +1241

    the amount of preach in this video

    • @lindsey9142
      @lindsey9142 9 років тому

      I just subscribed too you like 2 hours ago ! :D

    • @lnel
      @lnel 9 років тому

      I couldn't agree more.

    • @mangogirl1384
      @mangogirl1384 9 років тому +6

      Kpop fans! ❤

    • @bilbobaggins4816
      @bilbobaggins4816 9 років тому +4

      Nica Loreto K-pop!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    • @lnel
      @lnel 9 років тому +2

      Nica Loreto Bilbo Baggins​ YES K-Pop

  • @aarishowton8037
    @aarishowton8037 8 років тому +181

    My boyfriend was totally 100% an example of a fake start.
    Don't worry, I ended up loving who he was anyways and we've been together for two years. But he's practically unrecognizable from the guy I met personality-wise. XD

  • @poplenikomple234
    @poplenikomple234 7 років тому +271

    I am dating some wonderful....... Aka my Netflix account

  • @AmbersCloset
    @AmbersCloset 9 років тому +182

    Yes Lily!! This was perfect!! PREACH!!

  • @TuyetTranArtist
    @TuyetTranArtist 9 років тому +5

    From "people are not in your life to fulfill your every need" to no signs of a healthy relationship on Facebook, I absolutely agree with everything you said. Funny that you post a video of this after I ended my relationship. We didn't make the 2-5 mistakes, but #1 was the big reason it had to end. Thank you for being my voice of reason!

  • @logikgirl12
    @logikgirl12 8 років тому +75

    I so agree with the "fake start" oh boy...which I could read the future

    • @valnunez5241
      @valnunez5241 6 років тому +1

      Girl tell me about it, he went from two weeks since we started dating- putting effort, texting me everyday, calling me cute names and flirting and being interested in getting to know me, wanting to hanging out with me...to dropping the communication, distant and not making time for us.

  • @EllaleahEnchanted
    @EllaleahEnchanted 5 років тому +16

    “Do not get rid of them” DANNNNG THAT HIT IN THE FEELS

  • @jihanoski
    @jihanoski 9 років тому +25

    This girl is a real superwoman! All girls should be like you, you are all yourself in every video not like these "beauty gurus" who fake everything in their videos making girls look stupid. You're so real and this video advice is just amaazing and soo true, it probably took you a long time to make but it ended up being a video that every one have to refer to, especially girls who depend too much on their men

  • @jojomartina3609
    @jojomartina3609 9 років тому +114

    Two Rules We Should All Live By : Don't Make Promises You Can't Keep.
    Don't Ever Treat A Girl Like A Game Or She'll Show You How To Play

  • @celllovevlogs5010
    @celllovevlogs5010 8 років тому +15

    "Look at me! Pretending like I know stuff!!"
    This is literally me with every advice I give.

  • @rainbow279
    @rainbow279 7 років тому +99

    I am married to my high school sweetheart, we've been together for over seven years, and I agree with this video :)

  • @kiraeileen8745
    @kiraeileen8745 8 років тому +127

    My deal with cheating is that one will cheat if they don't want to be with me, and if you don't want to be with me, I don't want to be with you. Why would I want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with me? I will rather be single than with the wrong person.

    • @falirobleh9680
      @falirobleh9680 8 років тому

      Preach🙌🏼

    • @acn-mb8rn
      @acn-mb8rn 8 років тому

      +KiraEileen OMG you couldn't be more right!!! you nailed it!!!

    • @Skh_productions
      @Skh_productions 8 років тому

      I think dats a load of crap! What if a person knows ur the right person for them but they don't know how to express that and have even freaked themselves out because of it! Are you saying you'd through away what could b the best relationship u ever endure or the love of your life because one time when u were young they went home with some1 and did something stupid. U may now b thinking they still did it so its over! But where does that leave u? Without the love of your life!

    • @tiffanymcateer1695
      @tiffanymcateer1695 8 років тому +1

      +Sabrina Spring all she said was if you can't trust your partner then you shouldn't b with them I understand some people are no good at showing their emotions but cheating is wrong and people deserve better so if the cheater Is lucky enough to be given a second chance they should never do it again cuz they new it was wrong the first time if te cheater ID scared of thier own emotions try need to grow up and stop hurting the person they "love" so ya let the jerk go of they don't treat you right in every way mistakes will b made but both should b striving for loving the partner better

    • @marschmallowgirl2423
      @marschmallowgirl2423 8 років тому

      Yes!!! Someone thinks like me!!!

  • @GrayTimber
    @GrayTimber 9 років тому +207

    My best friend dropped me after he got into a relationship. It wasn't even gradual, he got into the relationship and then immediately I never heard from him. We're now acquaintances at best and rarely talk. I'm stuck between, "Yo, fuck 'im" and hoping they break up so I can have my 'bestie' back. I should probably just move on and find some new people to talk to, but I haven't met another person I could call 'best friend' and barely anyone I could call just 'friend.' He and I were close friends for years. *Years.* And he drops me like that. I dunno if I should be bitter, sad, or laugh at it.
    All I know is, if they break up, I might not be here for him. I'm tired of being peoples' backup.

    • @hypertailsx2
      @hypertailsx2 9 років тому +8

      I know how you feel because I have been in your place before and if they break up and he tries to come back to you I think you should just tell him that you don't wanna be friends with someone who would drop you just like that every time a hot girl walks by,find your REAL friends because life is too short to love people with all your heart who don't love you just as much and who aren't there for you like you're there for them.and I know its hard to find someone you could call your best friend but you'll meet them eventually,like I said I have been in your place before and I found someone that showed me how true friends act and what they do.

    • @jesuscrust8096
      @jesuscrust8096 9 років тому +3

      I know exactly how you feel,me and my "best friend" have been with each other since we were born,really. We stuck to each other like glue but then, BAM! Secondary school! As soon as we stepped in there,a boy came up to us and was damn rude! My friend was rude back,then,it stopped. The next thing I knew,is that they're going out, my friend has been dumped numerous times,but she still goes back to him! The other bad,annoying thing,is that she's a gossiper now,so whenever something happened between them,she immediantly goes to me. I don't wanna hear her problems when I've got my own! I chose to go to the school that I now hate,because I wanted to be with her,but now,I've seen many other people who are my BEST friends,and they all go to a different school. The school that I'm trying to get in. But when I tell her,IN CONFIDENCE, she has the nerve to BEG me not to go! Like I'm gonna listen to a girl who only comes to me when she wants to gossip about her boyfriend. Like I'm gonna listen to her! Anyway,sorry for ranting on about my sucky life,hope this helped! See ya in my next rant!

    • @Neferfifi21
      @Neferfifi21 9 років тому +3

      the think about best friends is that you can say what you want to them and you can be honest with them. If you want closure, send him a message or tell him face to face that he was a shitty friend for doing what he did to you. It will help you move on easier

    • @mendezfamily7036
      @mendezfamily7036 9 років тому

      Okay so i understand where your coming from but for me is the other way around i dont let my boyfriend talk to his "sister/Bestie" because that girl is something else i know maybe for u hes just a friend thats all u see him as but my boyfriend and his bestie he told me she liked him ._. And she always bumping our relationship always telling him like brake up with me and all these things now that has stopped we live together having a baby but in my mind im always like what if she comes back . I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with just lies involved. I would want to leave but now i have to think about my baby is complicated

    • @littlelamb2946
      @littlelamb2946 9 років тому

      Keep looking for another friend your bestie isn't a true friend if he is just going to be rude like that

  • @humblethepoet
    @humblethepoet 9 років тому +346

    *I'm getting half of **EssKay Ji** 's cookie*
    We're literally sitting behind Lilly waiting for her to hit 'Publish'

    • @jannanofal6956
      @jannanofal6956 9 років тому +2

      I got first comment this time :D well at least one of the first...now can I have a cookie? :p

    • @keannaxo3312
      @keannaxo3312 9 років тому +4

      Awwww,sharing is caring 😂💁😏😂

    • @taylor3041
      @taylor3041 9 років тому +4

      Humble, you know what's in the combo😉

    • @SwaggyIndian
      @SwaggyIndian 9 років тому

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  • @CassiesPetParent
    @CassiesPetParent 5 років тому +54

    I know this video is 4 years old, but I agree❤

  • @rachelferris1694
    @rachelferris1694 8 років тому +295

    i agree. one of my friends is obessed with her "boyfriend" that they have their own insta account. it is ridicous

    • @d1n0fr0g7
      @d1n0fr0g7 8 років тому +32

      You know that trend on social media where people put their boyfriend/girlfriend's initials in their biography with a love heart after it? That gives me cancer... And makes me feel lonely 😔

    • @rachelferris1694
      @rachelferris1694 8 років тому +34

      fr tho . they are all like "i love you so much babe" like no you aint nothing compared to my dog

    • @ratwoman248
      @ratwoman248 7 років тому +1

      If I ever think about that it be for our cat or doggo people care about that more and make people smile more

    • @siarrabyers5638
      @siarrabyers5638 7 років тому +4

      Is it bad that I legit cringed harder than spongebob?

    • @valkyrie6691
      @valkyrie6691 7 років тому +1

      rachellizzy22 this is such a cringy comment line

  • @prasannakumar6008
    @prasannakumar6008 8 років тому +1031

    Biggest mistake : getting in a relationship! Don't do it. These 5 mistakes won't happen. 😂

    • @ruksree
      @ruksree 8 років тому +2

      Prasanna Kumar ur right 😜👌

    • @katy_xotheweeknd622
      @katy_xotheweeknd622 7 років тому +7

      Prasanna Kumar тσσ ℓαтє 😪😪

    • @prasannakumar6008
      @prasannakumar6008 7 років тому +1

      Katy_XO The Weeknd​ it's never too late but being in a relationship is quite fun (I personally don't know as I've never been in one but I know lots of people who are)! Good luck ! I hope you have a wonderful experience with yours.

    • @dancelifevarsha4109
      @dancelifevarsha4109 7 років тому +4

      yes I agree 😂😂

    • @Music4krista1
      @Music4krista1 7 років тому +4

      Prasanna Kumar literally. Why didn't I read this a year ago

  • @faithjeffcoat6200
    @faithjeffcoat6200 8 років тому +111

    All of what she said was soooooo true

    • @evespuff
      @evespuff 8 років тому +9

      Ya the second one applies to my stupid friend

    • @solargoddess795
      @solargoddess795 8 років тому +5

      IKR

  • @albawoodrecio5928
    @albawoodrecio5928 7 років тому +36

    the fake start also happens with friends

  • @touchdalight
    @touchdalight 9 років тому +1091

    1 mistake people make in relationships is being in 1...lmfao

  • @Onechickarmy
    @Onechickarmy 9 років тому +67

    I'm really digging this. I had the boyfriend who I tried to police into monogamy and all I got was a side bitch threatening my life. Got out of that, took some serious me time and met a wonderful man who is more into PDA's than I am and shows me off to the world. We've been together almost 2 years and there have been no side bitch phone calls, no side bitch late night texting, no side bitches posing as a "cousin", very little drama.
    It is so much more peaceful and fun on the other side of bullshit. I can never see myself going back to that type of foolishness and chaos again. Codependency is for the turds!

  • @shanthipriya2245
    @shanthipriya2245 7 років тому +71

    i love her...she helps me get over my breakup

    • @mohaebody6785
      @mohaebody6785 5 років тому

      If u wants to go in new relationship iam ready contact me on mohaebody@gmail.com you will be happy all time

    • @maisiemarron2077
      @maisiemarron2077 5 років тому +3

      Gurl u waaaayyyyyyyyyyy to goooood...sisters before misters. Fries before guys!!!!!!!!🍟🍟🍟🍟🍟🍟🍟🍟🍟🍟🍟🍟🍟

  • @stefanikulebanova3158
    @stefanikulebanova3158 7 років тому +50

    I don't know why I'm watching this video like.. I've never been in a relationship and I am not close at getting into one either

    • @percyjacksonandmarvelfan8003
      @percyjacksonandmarvelfan8003 5 років тому

      stephanie _ yeah, me neither.

    • @liyasya172
      @liyasya172 5 років тому +4

      stephanie _ it’s not just for romantic relationships it’s also for family,friends etc relationships.Literally any relationships tbh.Cuz that’s what she said 😺

    • @skylovermc2146
      @skylovermc2146 4 роки тому

      Same lol

  • @Wildfire.
    @Wildfire. 9 років тому +298

    All the single ladies, all the single ladies, put your hands up!🙋🙋🙋👐✋👋🙌

  • @Heather117
    @Heather117 9 років тому +126

    Omg I totally relate to the "leaning tower" ship -_- I have a friend who gets depressed a lot and whenever she needs someone to talk to, I'm there for her which is totally fine...... But she's come to rely on me SO much. Like she NEEDS me to tell her she's doing good, or to push her to do things, or fix all her problems. If I don't, she messages me until I do. I've lived on my own since I was 17 and I can't really relate to that. I would be fine with it if she listened to me too once in awhile, but she never does. When I try to tell her stuff that I'm struggling with, she flips it back to herself like "wow that really sucks.... Do you know what else sucks? Today I... (ect.)" It's frustrating and it kind of hurts. Like hi I have stuff I want to vent too! Even though she says I'm her best friend, it's totally one sided :(

    • @skyer.3802
      @skyer.3802 9 років тому +1

      +Heather Kaylie YES. I understand this COMPLETELY! It is really messed up, and somehow they always manage to make anything about you, about them. Or? They just go "Awww, I'm sorry. That sucks." and then change the subject quickly. I had a friend exactly like this, even tried pointing it out to her. She AGREED, and then... nothing changed. Went right back to the world revolving all around her tragic life. Friendship is a two-way street, I think a lot of people don't realize that. My only advice would be... to maybe try talking to her about it, and then point it out AS she's doing it. At appropriate times of course, never when she tells you something extreme like "Oh my dad died." or something, but I think you're smart enough to figure that out. c: Good luck!

    • @janhavee8146
      @janhavee8146 9 років тому +5

      Oh mu god I can totally relate! Sometimes when I'm talking to my friends abt some stuff there always has to be there this one friend who'll cut me and talk to me abt his/her life it's really annoying. By the end of it I can write a whole book on this person

    • @sprinkleyourbeauty7635
      @sprinkleyourbeauty7635 9 років тому

      You mist talk alot how do u type for that long

    • @sprinkleyourbeauty7635
      @sprinkleyourbeauty7635 9 років тому

      You mist talk alot how do u type for that long

    • @Heather117
      @Heather117 9 років тому +5

      +Sprinkleyourbeauty I'm a writer ^^ It's hard for me to abbreviate things. I don't talk as much face to face because I'm very animated. I rely on my actions and facial expressions to make you realize whether I'm joking or am serious. I don't have that option online. Even emojis can be taken the wrong way. so.... When it doubt..... Write!! ^^

  • @raquelpaz6377
    @raquelpaz6377 8 років тому +66

    I love that she is so real 👑

  • @cerysxox
    @cerysxox 6 років тому +32

    Number 3 soo relatable! My friend literally dumps us as soon as she has a new boyfriend. And guess whaaat
    She be 13!

  • @hithere-tn5pf
    @hithere-tn5pf 9 років тому +51

    I'm in a relationship at the moment, and I can agree with you on a lot of things you said. The only problem I have is that number 3 is happening to me cause I feel like I'm getting pushed away by my friends, I'm sure they don't mean it, but I kinda notice it started when I got into a relationship, I try to talk with them and hang out with them, but....... You understand right?

    • @LongNguyen-en9zi
      @LongNguyen-en9zi 9 років тому +4

      Sara Owen Things that I might think:
      1) They feel like they are somewhat violating your relationship
      2)They feel abandoned or not used to their friends not hanging out with them a lot
      3) Or they push you away by lessening the pain of being jealous or something along the lines of that
      4) You might be over thinking it
      5) Other reasons (they could have their own issues to deal with etc etc)6) Make sure you don't give that feeling of boyfriend/girlfriend over friends (Just in case)

    • @hithere-tn5pf
      @hithere-tn5pf 9 років тому

      Ok, thanks

    • @Potpotatoe
      @Potpotatoe 9 років тому +1

      OMFG YESSSS I THOUGHT I WAS ALONE 🙌🏻

    • @EnglishwithKata
      @EnglishwithKata 9 років тому

      Sara Owen same thing happens with me toooo. wow.

    • @deepsikhasm539
      @deepsikhasm539 9 років тому

      and I can relate! u aint alone

  • @VioletRoseLilly
    @VioletRoseLilly 8 років тому +231

    UA-cam get with the program!! I want a LOVE button instead of a like button!!!

    • @audreydaniels515
      @audreydaniels515 8 років тому +6

      YAS! I know, this video is so funny and actually REALLY helpful. ❤️

    • @AlamandaBud
      @AlamandaBud 8 років тому +7

      Years ago they actually tried the reaction function (similar with FB now) and it failed so they just switched back to like.

    • @VioletRoseLilly
      @VioletRoseLilly 8 років тому +6

      Alamanda Bud Really? I didn't know that. That's cool! xD

    • @Wooptywooo
      @Wooptywooo 7 років тому +1

      VioletRoseLilly I think they heard you 😂 because they have heart buttons now

    • @violetperkins6748
      @violetperkins6748 7 років тому

      VioletRoseLilly violets my name, rose is my nieces name and Lily's my sisters name!!!!!

  • @bubbleonfire6488
    @bubbleonfire6488 9 років тому +210

    My girlfriend and I each have one restriction for the other
    Her's for me
    I cannot touch the leftover nässelsoppa if she's sick, she probably wants to eat it.
    Mine for her
    If Alexander Rybak comes on the radio, she is not allowed to change it until the song is done, for I am his ultimate fangirl.

    • @tiffanyfan332
      @tiffanyfan332 9 років тому +4

      BubbleOnFire *CLAP CLAP CLAP CLAP* SO BEAUTIFUL! *CLAP CLAP* PREACH GIRL PREACH!

    • @keanabrowne7644
      @keanabrowne7644 9 років тому

      That is the only restrictions I will allow cause that is just historical😂😂😂😂

    • @caseycleveland8890
      @caseycleveland8890 9 років тому

      YES

    • @leetrenzyme6681
      @leetrenzyme6681 9 років тому

      Are you a girl dating a girl?you said I am his ultimate fan girl and my girlfriend.by the way I'm not judging you

    • @bubbleonfire6488
      @bubbleonfire6488 9 років тому +5

      lee trenzyme mhm

  • @ON-dx4tx
    @ON-dx4tx 5 років тому +41

    Right when she said,"do you hear that" my dad's alarm clock went off

  • @DeussEx
    @DeussEx 8 років тому +173

    "Why can't you make yourself feel good"..I do that once a week!😂😂

    • @unknownFluff
      @unknownFluff 8 років тому +1

      Same xD

    • @haithemnasri8175
      @haithemnasri8175 8 років тому +1

      good for i do it once a day
      but hopefully i stopped and i do it twice a week :) heheh

    • @tango8011
      @tango8011 8 років тому

      LMAO!

    • @tango8011
      @tango8011 8 років тому

      +Jack The reaper You say Pete instead of Pee, so why not day Masticate instead of...

    • @DeussEx
      @DeussEx 8 років тому +1

      Ciri it's an autocorrect fail.

  • @myownangie4553
    @myownangie4553 9 років тому +154

    Preach superwoman,
    I'm 13 and my friends have already had 8+ boyfriends(not at the same time) and I haven't had one. My friends are always like " u need a boyfirend to make u happy" and im like no, I really don't. And half the time their relationships dont even last 2'weeks. They are already thinking about sex, and i've talked to them before that we are kids, and that we should just play outside in the snow. And when one of their relationships last longer that 1 week, they use me just to talk on oovoo with their boyfriends cause they dont have Ipads, ive figured that out so now i dont allow them to come over if they arent gonna talk or play with me. And after that point they arent my friends for like a week until their relatinships dont work out and they need someone to cry to after they've befriended them, right now im really questioning if i should eve call the my frriends. God please help my friends and knock some sense into them

    • @CreeperFacePlaysMC
      @CreeperFacePlaysMC 9 років тому +8

      Get some new friends because these types of friends can put you on the wrong road

    • @chloesuh9811
      @chloesuh9811 9 років тому +14

      Hopefully this doesn't' t come out too blunt, but you need a new group of friends. Get friends that will help you and not use you, and as for your other friends... They can have fun being on Sixteen and Pregnant

    • @chloesuh9811
      @chloesuh9811 9 років тому +9

      Also good job resisting peer pressure

    • @briiluv2247
      @briiluv2247 9 років тому +8

      I know how that feels because my friends are always saying that I should get a life and date someone. I am tired of this and I need to tell them that we are just kids and why have a boyfriend when you don't do absolutely nothing with them?

    • @chloesuh9811
      @chloesuh9811 9 років тому +3

      Briiluv 22 yes girl, yes

  • @sanhaarora2277
    @sanhaarora2277 8 років тому +40

    Every single thing is so damn true,valid universally and inspiring👍🏻

  • @nataliehock1606
    @nataliehock1606 6 років тому +8

    If I was in a relationship and my partner put restrictions on me like tells me not to go somewhere or to hang out with people I would instantly break up with them right there on the spot

  • @vancitygurl
    @vancitygurl 9 років тому +33

    I totally agree with ppl who "broadcast" their relationship on facebook. I mean, seriously, why do ppl feel the need to "show-off" that they are in a relationship? I know of this one friend who whenever they get into a relationship, their status says 'in a relationship' and will even post a picture of themselves together AND everyone will be posting underneath that picture saying how cute they look. I think this friend is merely looking for a validation from her friends and is an attention seeker if you ask me.
    I never ever post a pic of any of my relationships online but then again I'm a very private person. I don't need the entire world to know who I'm dating, where I'm going with that person. Some ppl are attention seekers and that's really sad.

    • @tanyachandra3437
      @tanyachandra3437 9 років тому

      I know right arhhhh so annoy ing arhhh again

    • @SoulinTheBowl
      @SoulinTheBowl 9 років тому +2

      Only those "broadcast" their relationship who are insecure about themselves or their partnership. True love doesn't need an audience.

    • @CreeperFacePlaysMC
      @CreeperFacePlaysMC 9 років тому

      And instagram.

    • @kamillebolton2975
      @kamillebolton2975 9 років тому +2

      I would post pictures once in a while we are doing something fun or memorable, maybe while when i'm just in the mood hanging out, but it;s annoying when people post pictures of them kissing or most of their pics are both of them together.

    • @6Musiholic17
      @6Musiholic17 9 років тому +4

      Best part is when they're suddenly single again, they hide their relationship status and only make it visible again when they think no one will notice lol

  • @skinwalkersal
    @skinwalkersal 9 років тому +5

    You are right Lilly, we all sometimes need to provide for ourselves.

  • @kiarajames97
    @kiarajames97 9 років тому +6

    "It would be covered in cheese... Nacho face" I'm dead XD

  • @WolfMcRadeyLobo
    @WolfMcRadeyLobo 7 років тому

    THIS VIDEO WAS POSTED EXCATLY TWO YEARS AGO!! I'm so proud of you Lilly and I can't believe how far you've gone with your music video and meeting the rock and writing a book!! I'm so happy that all of us ( team supper ) had a part in help YOU get to where you are now. Love you so much and hope you get even farther❤️❤️

  • @thesheepthatwentmooo
    @thesheepthatwentmooo 9 років тому +370

    My girlfriend actually wrote me a poem! Hold on, I'll write it here:
    Roses are black,
    Violets are black,
    Life is black,
    My heart is black.
    Loneliness.
    Pain.
    Screams.
    A pony died in a forest,
    I shed no tears.
    Do you think she's trying to tell me something or am I reading too deep into this?

    • @thesheepthatwentmooo
      @thesheepthatwentmooo 9 років тому +16

      Could be a 'read between the lines' kind of thing I guess

    • @kay2x03
      @kay2x03 9 років тому +1

      no idea it could be anything feeling like it sounds dark and twisted in opinion because it has a pony died in a forest i shed no tears and it has roses are black violet is black i pretty sure they aren't black or they are and i am completely stupid

    • @ashk2568
      @ashk2568 9 років тому

      😐 are u trolling?

    • @anemonam3632
      @anemonam3632 9 років тому +57

      I think she's planning a murder..

    • @alexandraelizondo6885
      @alexandraelizondo6885 9 років тому +7

      Anemona M i agree , what if shes planning a suicide 😞

  • @DrTbone-nz8sj
    @DrTbone-nz8sj 8 років тому +57

    she actually said everything ive been thinking '-' she cool

  • @VanillaDanceChannel
    @VanillaDanceChannel 9 років тому +154

    I pray to God you read this, because it is very important. Superwoman, you are the reason I met my best friend. One day, I heard this girl singing #leh, and I asked her is she was, and she was shocked I knew it. We've been best friends since September and have already gone to California Adventures together because of you. We've convinced our other friends to watch you. Now our handshake is your outro, and our group name is the superwoman squad. Thank you soooooo much for started UA-cam, and giving me my best friend in the whole world. If you never existed, neither would the best friendship I've ever had. I love you so much. Love, Natalie (aka 1/6 of the superwoman squad)

    • @janawrenn7862
      @janawrenn7862 9 років тому +1

      OMG that's so cool!

    • @JujuBearHala
      @JujuBearHala 9 років тому +3

      OMG! That's so freecking cool!!!

    • @marvelousTUD
      @marvelousTUD 9 років тому

      AWESOME

    • @DreAnthony92
      @DreAnthony92 9 років тому

      That's pretty dope! Friends fo eva.

    • @VanillaDanceChannel
      @VanillaDanceChannel 9 років тому +1

      Woah, the story of my best friend and I got 165 likes. I seriously thought nobody would see this. I still have hope that Lilly will see this. Lilly, if you do, Pleeease respond.

  • @Jellybeanisme
    @Jellybeanisme 2 роки тому +4

    Even though this is supposed to be comedy,
    Lilly's advices are gold and so true
    people should hear them out more! ❤❤

  • @JMC5991
    @JMC5991 9 років тому +95

    I don't like it that my boyfriend goes out to party and drinks. I know he goes out with his friend's and they keep him safe. I'm so scared of him finding someone else, sleeping with someone else, and or getting drunk and get hurt. He doesn't have an issue with drinking. I just never liked it. However, I just watched this video and it kinda think about it... I have my insecurities that I should just get over. I can't keep worrying about it when all in all, I know I remained faithful. I should just tell him to go. I've even said this like Lily did. If you have to set things on someone to remain loyal to you, you need someone better. Thanks for making me be more open minded. (:

    • @msasianbarbie
      @msasianbarbie 9 років тому

      Have the same problem with my problem! Nice to know someone else has went through this.

    • @MalikMalik-rs5rh
      @MalikMalik-rs5rh 9 років тому

      xxxs

    • @lionmorris7494
      @lionmorris7494 9 років тому +1

      Be careful....my boyfriend cheated on my once and said it was a mistake and I stayed with him.....a month later he cheated again...

    • @JMC5991
      @JMC5991 9 років тому +6

      +Lion Morris
      Thanks. But I rather not think negative. Best relationship I've ever had.

    • @LemonGrab-qf6xj
      @LemonGrab-qf6xj 9 років тому +5

      YurGardianAngelX ur like the sweetest person ever

  • @SachaCutieGirl
    @SachaCutieGirl 8 років тому +76

    You have the best advice like it's not even funny!!

  • @chloekingomg
    @chloekingomg 9 років тому +353

    My valentines day is going to consists of me laying in my bed watching netflix with a soda and pizza 😏

    • @krissyT0404
      @krissyT0404 9 років тому +2

      Were totally doing the same thing! But in different states!

    • @xXLegacyStealXX
      @xXLegacyStealXX 9 років тому +6

      My food gonna be my valentine's

    • @Abhishek_78
      @Abhishek_78 9 років тому

      Kiki Andre Stop right there!! Dont say lonely shit like that please you're spoiling it

    • @Shenieta
      @Shenieta 9 років тому +3

      Same! But it will be with nuggets and water

    • @iievilbearii6560
      @iievilbearii6560 9 років тому +18

      You are not alone.
      Netflix is there with you,
      Nutella can come too,
      Netflix, Nutella, and you...
      You are not alone.

  • @beatriceclark9099
    @beatriceclark9099 6 років тому +16

    😂 I binge watch all your old vids

  • @briannaluciano6959
    @briannaluciano6959 9 років тому +219

    I get to spend valentines day wit my new boyfriend...and his name is Netflix!!!

    • @deepSea__
      @deepSea__ 9 років тому +10

      WHAT!!! Netflix is cheating on me!!
      Well that's okay, it's too good to me. I love you Netflix. 💕,💖💗💓
      How dare you steal it though. 💔💔💔💔💔

    • @cherylhunter8063
      @cherylhunter8063 9 років тому +7

      *small voice* Netflix is cheating on me?

    • @jayambor8391
      @jayambor8391 9 років тому +2

      Why Netflixs why u cheat on me

    • @r.wittman3895
      @r.wittman3895 9 років тому +6

      My boy, Hulu Plus, is loyal af.

    • @ArianaK5
      @ArianaK5 9 років тому +5

      OMFG NETFLIX IS CHEATING ON US! MY BF'S NAME IS NETFLIX TOO!

  • @CandyCaneLane5678
    @CandyCaneLane5678 8 років тому +16

    I was nodding my head throughout her his entire video! More people need to think like this! This is exactly how I feel about all relationships too. Thank you for this video. I love you Lilly ❤❤❤

  • @mariosaldana5255
    @mariosaldana5255 8 років тому +9

    So true, if a person wants to cheat on you no matter what you do they will do it in the end

  • @mikayla_feldman
    @mikayla_feldman 7 років тому +4

    Even though this is still a light-hearted video, all of this is so true!

  • @eccenterikahunter
    @eccenterikahunter 8 років тому +772

    I'm guilty of being too independent that boys tell me that they feel not needed. I'm just like "boi, I wasn't born to be your ego booster okay? "

    • @Rhea390
      @Rhea390 8 років тому +21

      Amen 😂

    • @aurelialucinus744
      @aurelialucinus744 8 років тому +9

      Me to my friends.

    • @CherryyBombs
      @CherryyBombs 8 років тому +16

      amazing. I feel you gurl

    • @ciaramurray421
      @ciaramurray421 8 років тому +15

      eccenterika I tried to re-tweet that then realised I'm on UA-cam lol

    • @shivam13juna
      @shivam13juna 8 років тому +6

      boiiiiii...rofl!!

  • @natalieelessar
    @natalieelessar 9 років тому +85

    Im 16 and i have to deal with friends in relationships who put their Facebook profile picture AND their cover photo of the EXACT SAME kissy couple photo! Jesus, man! They look like twelvies!

    • @sharanyabose9775
      @sharanyabose9775 9 років тому +1

      Hey Natalie!! (I know it's not related at all,but ) are you a Mortal Instruments fan????? Lol, 'cause I'm too

    • @natalieelessar
      @natalieelessar 9 років тому

      +Sharanya Bose haha yeah! I get these comments a lot everywhere :') we shadowhunter fans are growing bigger and bigger (more of a tid fan though!)

    • @sharanyabose9775
      @sharanyabose9775 9 років тому

      Heeheehee, Natalie Herondale oh I love tid too. Will herondale obsession ❤️💕😍

    • @camtheunicorpse2217
      @camtheunicorpse2217 9 років тому

      +Natalie Herondale The 5 minute "couples" who hug, kiss and hold hands and then break up 5 minutes later! Seriously dude why?!?! I'm going out w/ this guy and we go to different schools, but when we see eachother we aren't like omg! I love you! KISSY KISSY! ew...

    • @rebeccaclement32
      @rebeccaclement32 9 років тому

      Same age as you. I feel Ur pain.😂😂

  • @misstranle
    @misstranle 9 років тому +153

    Commenting on that last one, am I the only one who hates kissing selfies? As a serious question, I want to know why people do it. I just don't understand. Maybe I'm just a really private person but I don't understand the point of it. :P

    • @shanrose3927
      @shanrose3927 9 років тому +7

      i hate it and im in a relationship its just not neccessary to post unless its ur wedding photo

    • @kryzatalavera1718
      @kryzatalavera1718 9 років тому +1

      ikr!! Thank you! you are the first I've met that has the same view. Like your relationship is cute and all but no one wants to see you spit swapping

    • @shanrose3927
      @shanrose3927 9 років тому +1

      Exactly it's like ewwww lol

    • @amyl188
      @amyl188 9 років тому +1

      Exactly ! If you two actually made proper photos with an actual camera cuz you want to send some to your family or to put them in your room Or IDEK and you want to share one of these quality well photos on a social media side im totally down for that. but i really dont see the point in posting some wishy photos of your and your siginificant other kissing. I don't know who likes looking at that. Really.

    • @CreeperFacePlaysMC
      @CreeperFacePlaysMC 9 років тому

      YEAH I HATE IT SO MUCH

  • @Mrbombastic94
    @Mrbombastic94 6 років тому +2

    Totally agree..💯💯💯.. a person should be able to make themselves happy rather than waiting for someone to do so 😊

  • @nienkerood9365
    @nienkerood9365 8 років тому +41

    When I read the title of the video, my head instantly went: Starting one.

  • @deniset945
    @deniset945 9 років тому +197

    Im 18 and didnt had boyfriend till this age
    :D
    Forever alone is my nickname

    • @Neha71580
      @Neha71580 9 років тому +19

      Going to be 19 soon without any bf in my entire life. Be proud boo x

    • @ameliaemily542
      @ameliaemily542 9 років тому +1

      Didn't have*

    • @Claudiaa1225
      @Claudiaa1225 9 років тому +18

      Omg high 5 ! I'm also 18 and tomorrow will be another lonely valentines day ! Aaaaaaaand no one ever kissed me and I feel like a piece of shit sometimes. FOREVER ALONE .

    • @CassielusMaximus
      @CassielusMaximus 9 років тому

      Dammnnnn 18!!!

    • @ritulsangel
      @ritulsangel 9 років тому +4

      High 5 girls!!Even I am 19 n have never had a boyfriend till date!Happily n proudly single!:D

  • @gailboodram9428
    @gailboodram9428 8 років тому +6

    Amen sister ..couldn't have said it better myself

  • @maddie.bolland.7
    @maddie.bolland.7 7 років тому +3

    I agree wholeheartedly. Everything you said here is so important! 💕

  • @nidhi1890
    @nidhi1890 9 років тому +6

    Look at me pretending like I know stuff.. This is so me..😂😂

  • @BBaby1111
    @BBaby1111 9 років тому +17

    My friend always puts her boyfriend before everybody else.. Like we were planning to have this whole weekend like hangout and have a sleepover and go to the mall and all this other stuff, but her boyfriend wouldn't let us.. Last time I checked he's not her parent/guardian.. He doesn't let her sit with us at lunch or let us hang out.. And she doesn't realize this! She thinks he's the best thing in the whole entire world!

    • @chelseadonohue2530
      @chelseadonohue2530 9 років тому

      Wait till they break up and you can just ignore her and then she will feel bad and youll be bffs again :)

  • @icelady1833
    @icelady1833 6 років тому +12

    Lily made a flirty face when she said " yes I want fries with that"
    😂😂😂

  • @Sarah82929
    @Sarah82929 5 років тому +14

    Who else watches the whole add to get Lilly paid more cuz she deserves it

  • @lauraortiz2133
    @lauraortiz2133 8 років тому +68

    I have a boyfriend and we can trust each other there is zero secrets between us so I'm pretty happy 😁😊

  • @briannathedork
    @briannathedork 8 років тому +208

    anyone from 2016?

  • @alishapanjwani2417
    @alishapanjwani2417 8 років тому +24

    Yes i totally agree with you. And i wanna even ask you something.. What if your bf tells you not to talk to a certain guy because if he was your ex?...

    • @tharnyelilvannan504
      @tharnyelilvannan504 8 років тому +24

      He should be able to trust you... even if he's your ex.

    • @blacknyellowblacknyellow9362
      @blacknyellowblacknyellow9362 8 років тому +10

      Alisha panjwani there's a reason he's your EX and not your BOYFRIEND

    • @Jordy1310
      @Jordy1310 7 років тому +14

      Alisha panjwani.
      But sometimes people break up and decide that they are better off being just friends. And if that's the case then your boyfriend should not be telling you that you can't hang out with him.

    • @manishamaahil4517
      @manishamaahil4517 7 років тому +2

      Will you allow your bf to talk to his ex if he had any?

    • @naztorosluoglu91
      @naztorosluoglu91 6 років тому +1

      He should trust u because ur ex could be ur friend. So dump him on da spot jk

  • @theq8688
    @theq8688 6 років тому +1

    You are so right on the first one. That's one of the reasons my relationship with my previous boyfriend failed. It was always my responsibility to make him happy when he was sad, to keep him happy, to always have time for him just in case he got upset for some reason. At least it felt this way.

  • @leonascott9009
    @leonascott9009 7 років тому +19

    THANK YOU SOMEONE WHO ACTUALLY HAS A BRAIN .

  • @abbieross7067
    @abbieross7067 9 років тому +25

    My three year old cousin had a husband at three.....they even had a wedding.....and plastic rings like the cheesey ones u get at the dentist......and cupcakes her friend Aubrey was the brides maid and Zoey was the flower girl.....but it was fake and adorable
    Maribel+David=❤️❤️❤️ adorable love😄😄😄😄😄

    • @harpreetmangat8
      @harpreetmangat8 9 років тому

      I wish I was there

    • @TheAussieGirls
      @TheAussieGirls 9 років тому

      Omg me and my friends did this kind of things at kinder

    • @misslittlefabulas
      @misslittlefabulas 9 років тому +1

      OMG that's so crazy my brothers best friend and I got married when I was 3 and it was obviously fake but I named my brother fartlicker lol

  • @shadesoflife1842
    @shadesoflife1842 8 років тому +10

    lilly i love u...u r the best therapist ill ever have...u literally see through me...😘😘😘😘

  • @oliviaaustin3489
    @oliviaaustin3489 7 років тому

    I agree with you on everything. I used to be all these things in my past relationship yrs ago. Nowadays, I'm changing myself for the better & still figuring out who I am in my own life everyday. Lovy you Lilly. 💛🖒😙

  • @baileyhacker4787
    @baileyhacker4787 9 років тому +25

    The one mistake you can make in a relationship is not knowing what's in the combo

    • @yeshashm.c.5704
      @yeshashm.c.5704 9 років тому

      Hahahahaha!!!!!!!!!!!!....u nailed it!!!!!

  • @taybay199
    @taybay199 9 років тому +89

    Okay paused video. It's kinda hard to find happiness in yourself when you absolutely hate yourself, struggle with anxiety disorder, server depression, being sducidal and use to struggle with self harm. What if finding happiness in other people is the only form of happiness you have? People tell me all the time to find happiness in myself than put that on people. It's really not like it's a heavy weight they have to carry because it's just like I feel okay and happy when I talk to you and hang out with you but I keep that to myself.
    I'm not trying to get attention here whatsoever just trying to make a point that it's not always your decision if you put your happiness in others.

    • @Kolnisun
      @Kolnisun 9 років тому

      I agree with you.

    • @TheKiddeh
      @TheKiddeh 9 років тому +24

      The problem is...people are unreliable. If your source of happiness is outside yourself, you are always at the mercy of that object/person. Finding happiness within yourself means getting at the root of your issues and learning to be ok with who you are without external validation. It takes a lot of work but you become a more stable person that way.

    • @Rooted_Locs
      @Rooted_Locs 9 років тому +2

      It's easy to tell people to just think positively and work harder to achieve what they want...depression is often co-morbid with other mood disorders like anxiety and sometimes that person CANT help but think and feel negatively ALL/MOST of the time. it's not a choice that they can easily make, it's kind of a part of the way their brain is changing (the way they interpret the world around them, themselves, and the future)-it's called cognitive biases. For a depressed person, mental pain is less dramatic than physical pain, but it is more common and also more hard to bear. The frequent attempt to conceal mental pain increases the burden: it is easier to say "my tooth is aching" than to say my heart is broken....my point is this. Some of us DO need others to make us happy. And we are aware that this might be burdensome on the people we rely on.-but having a sense of belonging gives us a sense of identity, And let's face it EVERYBODY relies on somebody-it's only when you KNOW that you have somebody who will always be there for you, only then will you feel supported and safe to be on your own and be okay with who you are.

    • @TheKiddeh
      @TheKiddeh 9 років тому +7

      to the person above...I dealt with depression, ADHD, PTSD and anxiety for over 10 years. Relying on others can only provide a temporary escape and unless these people are your family members (and awesome ones at that), the burden becomes too heavy and people will leave you... Only way to have healthy relationships with others is to work on your issues (with the help of a therapist, support group, etc) in order to be able to comfort those feelings yourself for the most part...

    • @Rooted_Locs
      @Rooted_Locs 9 років тому

      My point was that...you first have to KNOW that someone is there for you. knowing that fact alone gives people a sense of security to explore the world, except their thoughts and be okay with who they are.you can have a therapist, but they are not like family and friends. it's because they don't feel like they have anybody that brings the lack of self worth. And anyways I've been through depression for many years myself and I work as a clinical neuropsychologists...so I kinda have seen both sides of this story.

  • @sharyncardozo479
    @sharyncardozo479 9 років тому +89

    You've helped me get out of my depression. I don't know how, but this video has changed my mind to commit suicide. You've said just the right words. Thank you.

    • @neuroadequate
      @neuroadequate 9 років тому +21

      Much peace, happiness, and healing to you.

    • @isiibelieveinmiracles1903
      @isiibelieveinmiracles1903 9 років тому +2

      God created u as a loving complete spirit, dont take ur life just cuz u havent realized who u are. The Good will overcome the bad if u have enough faith nd learn not to surrender to the evil in the world. Do pray everyday nd u will see how God will lead u. I didnt believe in God until 5 years ago cuz God answered my prayer. since that Im convinced that the Good is the real truth, but u must have faith nd trust. love from Germany

  • @batgirlkc
    @batgirlkc 6 років тому

    GIRL you know so much about relationships without having one!! Im legit sharing this with my bf THANKS

  • @Sx--F
    @Sx--F 7 років тому +4

    Okay, so in friendships, I end up being a leaning tower NOT in the way that I depend on them for everything, but if I'm upset I need someone to talk to me about it. Constantly. It's one of the most annoying things about me, but I just wanted to see if anyone can relate.

  • @KevHick
    @KevHick 7 років тому +23

    Im so inspired to make better videos! Thank you

  • @emilyrivera4704
    @emilyrivera4704 8 років тому +262

    Shouldn't number one be getting in the relationship at all? 😂

    • @annakaterasberry4274
      @annakaterasberry4274 8 років тому +1

      OMG do you remember like 2nd grade it was so easy you told your friend you like someone, they tell them, your crush tells you friend to ask you if you wanted to be his girlfriend, then you tell your friends to tell him yes 😂😂 easy as pie

    • @muskanchouhan03
      @muskanchouhan03 8 років тому +1

      Emily Rivera thats me

    • @marycupcakeunicorn7774
      @marycupcakeunicorn7774 8 років тому +1

      Emily Rivera
      Totaly

    • @mon9468
      @mon9468 8 років тому +4

      lol

    • @norminkhan4394
      @norminkhan4394 6 років тому +2

      Relationships include friendships.....

  • @nathancatapang
    @nathancatapang 6 років тому

    i always come back to this video whenever something in my friendships goes wrong. and usually it’s me overthinking. thank you lilly ❤️