I DON'T TRIM My Hair | 5 year Update
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- Опубліковано 29 вер 2024
- Hey guys! In today's video I'm going to be covering why I haven't cut/trimmed my hair in 5 years.
Feel free to share your experiences/comments in the comment section in a RESPECTFUL way please ! See ya soon!
Apologies for the low camera quality/sound! I'm experimenting with some new tools and figuring it out in real time!
I'm a liscensed cosmetologist and product owner and what you are saying has validity. I was a huge proponent of trimming every 3 to 4 months but now i have been changing my stance to more of a search and destroy method and trimming the actual splits. People are so focused on having blunt ends and many times it can make the hair look better for particular styles BUT tampered ends doesn't necessarily mean damage or split ends. Tapered ends are absolutely fine and just as beautiful. Many beat themselves up if their ends aren't blunt. I'm heat trained and I use heat every 2 weeks. I have been retaining length with trims over the last 2 years with trims every 4 months. I'm thinking of changing to every 6 month to a year with monthly search and destroy.
Thank you so much for sharing all of that!
I haven't trimmed my hair in years either.I don't get perms anymore.
Hey it's the Hydrathermal Naturals lady🙋🏾♀️
@@cfoster6804hell yeah! She’s great
@HealthyHairJourney I think my last trim was this past September give or take. I think my hair is doing well with it so far in addition to my moisture, exercise routine, and diet!
Indigenous Strandz and naturally kinky dont trim their hair either and they have thigh/knee length hair. Im a firm believer that if you nourish your ends you don't need to trim. Thank you for this video. 🤗
I'm not familiar with them, i'll have to check them out! Thank you for watching!!
@@preciousfro you're welcome! 🥰🤗
I love Indigenous Strandz!!!
@@Beautifulintel23Me too
Yea indigenous strands almost never trims yet she has hair down to her knees and it’s healthy. she has thick ends.
If someone needs or wants a trim, then fine. But I've been saying for years, "the only thing that trimming does for me is make my hair shorter and more even."
I'm thinking (just my opinion) each follicle grows at different rates also many different factors affect our length, for me I sleep on my left more frequently and that side is shorter, even when i was relaxed, that side was stubborn therefore many factors are to be taken into consideration. Blunt ends aren't naturally akin to curly hair. You made a lot of great points thats most shy away from generally.
Great point!
Opposite for me lol I sleep on my right and it’s much longer than my left.
If the ends don't have splits or knots, they don't need to be cut, I agree.
They don't necessarily need to be cut even if they do. Hair naturally has some split ends. Indigenous Strandz has healthy, full knee length hair and she never trims and she said having a few splits is just a part of life....... People obsess over splits like an ocd nervous tick. Just moisturize everyday and stop obsessing and nit picking splits. Our culture never trimmed before being enslaved.... Most of us never even heard of it or adapted it culturally until the ivory people said to...
I don't think you can say that people from the entire continent never trimmed their hair, esp. when we look at historical photos where some of the men have shorter but still elaborate hairstyles, which you must cut to maintain the shape of. However the reason for cutting may have been much different. But as long as the hair is healthy, a couple splits here and there won't damage it. And you can always do search and destroy to get splits and knots individually instead of cutting a whole lot at once. 😊@@PlusVK22
@@PlusVK22split ends from curls is not the same as the ones from unhealthy hair.
@@PlusVK22 that ist true. WE dont need to cut our hair at all. Hair that is split, will Break of by itself. There is no such Thing, that God had created by accident. Its all perfect the way it is
In 47 years i have never met, seen or had the privledge of dating a woman who has hair like yours, I only see black women like you online.
i live the land of heated hair, weave, and straighten hair.
man i wish more sistas had hair like yours, Wow Beautiful
Her hair is gorgeous but do you want a woman because of her hair or because of her?? Also your bashing of many other women is not a compliment
There are many ppl in our demographic that also prioritize the skin tone of a woman when seeking a partner
@@tiredoftheworld4834 her hair is apart of her. I'm black man who loves younger women with natural hair and skinny body.
I love her hair. I wish more sistas would embrace their natural hair texture.
@@tiredoftheworld4834 define prioritized skin tone.
This is the problem with most of you men, you're all so damn SUPERFICIAL! SOME OF Y'ALL ARE SO DUSTY AND TIRED!
i’m so glad i came across this video! i usually only trim maybe once a year and it’s a light dusting. the natural hair girls will really make you feel as if your hair won’t grow if you don’t trim your ends every 3 months……what’s happening to all that growth??? you’re throwing it down the drain! i think as long as you treat your ends well and have good maintenance you should be fine with trimming only when necessary.
I’m from the old school UA-cam natural hair community (my primary channel) from 2013. It was a conversation back then too. The ends are only supposed to be trimmed if they are split, which happens from over manipulation, combing/heating, etc.. I noticed some newer hair channels teaching things that seem a little off.
Ooooh! You said a WHOLE LOT in this video ❗️And I agree with you 1000 percent! My hair was waist length before I got my locs, and I haven’t cut my hair in almost 10 years. I remember at one point in my hair journey cutting my hair every 2 weeks because that’s what I thought I had to do in order for it to grow 🤦🏿♀️! So glad I know better now😅! Thank you for sharing this awesome video ❤🙏🏿!
I’m so glad you made this video, so many GOOD points made! My hair grew the most when I trimmed it once a year. I already prefer finger detailing, and only use heat for my winter birthday season, but I’m going to experiment for this next year without trimming and see how it goes! Thanks for this 🙏🏾
Yessss i dust my ends but growing my own hair ive learned sooooo much! I realized i would get ut cut straight for it to grow back uneven because my middle is always longer.... so I stopped listening to others and my hair is the longest and thickest its ever been
Learning and watching this makes me so upset for the two times I basically “big chopped” after hairstylists said to cut it as the hair was “damaged” - in 2018 when I had bra strap length hair and then again in 2022- I kept wondering, if my hair was so damaged, why was I able to keep growing and retaining such length🥲 after another chop in 2022, I stopped going to stylists! My mum kindly helps me with my hair and it’s grown back out- I’ve taken hair vitamins on and off for years, I continue to have a hair care routine and I’ll just keep growing it out, only cutting any particular single strand knots, as and when😅
I started following ladies with the same texture as me (like yourself) and I know my hair is absolutely fine🙂 what beautiful hair texture we are blessed with 🙂🥳
Thank you for sharing your wisdom !
I agree…the brainwashing about our hair is real. I despise all the cutting they try and push on us in the natural hair community. I completely ignore them
Heavy on completely ignoring them. Best response/ reaction we could ever give them!
It's in all races.. cutting split ends is a must
It’s not brainwashing.. split ends just aren’t good
I too totally ignore them!😂😂😂😂😂 I do my own thing.. no trims ever and my own afro is really beautiful!❤
You are a God sent and so correct .. infact its not even after 3 months when my hair is cut the same time after it reverts the ends still looks thinner at the ends .. we need to know we are black and have textured hair even when mixed .. it doesnt have to be blunt thats a look not meant for our hair unless its a style we want .... God knows what He is doing is we care for our hair we dont need cut and even when i say this there are times i go back to that feel that i need to see blunt ots been told to us ao long... its so untrue our hair does what it wants no hair care should tell us we need accept who we are ..im back on a healthy journey we need accept ourselves God made us .. mindset is key
Your hair is beautiful!! You look amazing! God made such beautiful women with such gorgeous hair .. we really need to accept ourselves and He does the rest ..
Your hair is perfectly AMAZING, you look radiant and this video is Gold!
I agree with you on all of your points... I don't see much progress do to excessive trimming. I stop it today. Thanks you Mama🤗🤗
You got this!
Your hair looks beautiful Soul sis. ❤️🙏🏾 I love it when our Women embrace their natural hair.
Thank you so much 🤗
I remember how I felt after listening to people namely my stylist at the time abt cutting my hair. It was the longest it had ever been beyond my shoulders and I loved it. It was however in an m in the back and I was told if I didn’t get it cut it’d split up the shaft.
I was miserable after that cut. The stylist seemed pleased. I felt she had taken my length. I am recovering it now it seems.
I'm sorry that happened to you!
yes. this was right on time. i remember her. her channel is titled napp queen and she did not trim her hair. i too have wondered if i should trim my hair. no matter what and how often i trim my hair it seems the right side of my hair still looks ragedy and its shorter than my left side. i'm going to trim maybe once or twice a year. thank you.
Thank sis. I had issues like that before because of my ends. Even if I trimmed my ends, it comes out like that and now I don’t trimmed but I dust my ends twice a year.
You are so amazing thank you for this information I have been natural for five years now and my hair is still in brass strap length I'm cutting it every six weeks which the natural hair community said you just saved my life thank you for this information ❤❤❤
You got this!
Thank you Jesus. Finally someone that agrees with me. God bless you.
Wether I cut my hair or not never made a difference to it being able to grow. I trim my hair only to reshape once a year. Never got regular trims growing up either and people always raved at how long it was. It’s just above my waist right now.
New subscriber!Thanks for the information. I have the same beliefs. When I trim, it's a minute amount (the very ends). My hair is curly and healthy. I felt like a complete fool when I went natural years ago (without any social influence), and discovered my hair was "Jeri Curl" curly when I had a "Jeri Curl" chemical process installed in my hair many years before). The LORD has blessed me with the hair type and texture he wanted me to have. I now KNOW my hair is beautiful.
I have not trimmed mine in almost 7 years. I met a woman on the onset of my journey and she said if I used the right products and stayed far away from the commercialized products and used the LO.C. method, trims would not be necessary. She was right. I have not had split ends since that first chop. She also told me I do not have to wash it every week. I have gone as long as 4 months with no washing with soaps or co-washes. I just wet it with warm water and put the L.O.C method in play and do a deep condition. Also eat and drink well and massage my scalp every 2-3 days.
I was debating on cutting maybe like 3-4 inches bc my ends to my thinking we kinda ragedy but watching this i see they really are ok. Thanks for this! New sub!
Thanks for watching! Glad I could help!
Not me seeing this after I cut a huge chunk of my hair 😭😭
This really depends on genetics and hair practices. Because you’re right. Some ppl’s hair, especially if left alone and treated delicately, won’t need trims. But with all of the manipulation and heat styling, it’s like trims are a must or the damage would split up your hair and eventually even more would need to be cut off.
I do think some hair trim rules go against kinky hair. Just because your hair feels “rough” doesn’t mean it’s damaged. Roughness is a type of natural hair texture. Also just because it’s uneven doesn’t mean you need a trim. Almost no one’s hair grows at the same rate on every part of their head. You just gotta do what works for you. Trimming isn’t needed for everyone.
I don't have 4c hair, but hope it's okay for me to comment. First off, your hair is gorgeous.❤ Your video helped me out so much though. I have wavy hair, but I have had different people comment on my hair. I had struggled with comparing my hair to people with stick straight hair with this perfect blunt bottom. And I got to a point where I would trim my hair obsessively feeling like it looked unhealthy. In the past I would try to just take care of it and let it grow. Your video reminded me I could just trust my hair to just grow and stop obsessing over it. So thank you. Your video had showed up on my newsfeed. Btw your husband is a keeper reminding you of that. Thank you for sharing this video.
God bless you❤
Man, that style is so cute! You are speaking truth. I feel like this is the case for type 4 hair period. I'm 4b only slightly looser texture and face the same is with my ends looking like they need to be cut (according to current social standards) but are just fine. My hair just naturally grows uneven, always has. I'd never gain any length if i just focused on keeping it perfectly blunt.
I’m so happy that I came across this. Everytime my hair would coil at the ends I’m like my hair always does this so how will I keep my ends and here this video appears my hair is still on my neck so I’m happy I’ve seen this now
65 years old in 2023. In 2011, l listened to a nurse telling me that my 4c hair ends needed to be all cut off. I followed her advice. The hair stylist cut off almost all my hair, which never grew back. I hated l ever took her advice. Not knowing that after menopause, hair doesn't grow well or at all for most women. Wished l would have not taken their advice as you did. Listened but not followed.
I've been natural for 4 1/2 years and I used to cut off 1/2 inch or more from my ends every 2 months. I thought the frequent trims were needed to prevent damage to the rest of my hair.
However, the past 4 months I haven't trimmed my ends at all. Yet, I noticed my 4C hair still looks healthy, and is growing (getting thicker and more length) regardless. But, if my ends start looking too thin or straggly, that's the only time I will at least just lightly dust them, try a deep conditioner, and protein treatment instead. I rarely use protein so I guess it wouldn't hurt to try that before I start chopping off my ends again.
In any case, I enjoyed your video and I agree the ends of our hair do not have to be trimmed if not needed.
You just gained a new sub! s
Yea I’ve never cut my 4C hair…didn’t make sense to cut it when you’re trying to grow it long.
Me too I don’t trim either. Thank you for posting
Once I get past this damage and uneven look, I probably won’t cut it for a really long time.
I think it is only Black American stylists (some) who have promoted this “ideal” of constantly having to trim or being on a schedule of trimming. If you take a look at other cultures where the people are descendants of Africans, for example Brazil, they do not accept this same ideology. They have glorious manes of hair that move where strands are not the same length. Same as mine. My stylist is an Afro-Latina of Cuban descent and she understands the assignment each and every time with color, cut, style. She is not a proponent of trimming, unless it is necessary. SN: I use a detangling brush, other than that I use my hands only when working with my hair.
Cathy Howse was also a proponent of not trimming too.
Love this video!!! Was looking for a way to not clip my ends. Seems like every three months my stylist clips my hair and it seems like the ends clipped are roughly the amount of new growth. Thanks for sharing your thoughts! I didn’t think about the combing and brushing bring culprits working against retention. I’ll definitely be more mindful or try to comb less.
I wish I saw this video a month, even a week ago! Just went to a "stylist" this past weekend and though I knew there were some splits in my hair, she ended up cutting so much from my nape and the rest that basically deleted 2.5 months of growth and I don't grow hair quickly in the first place. I had only done knotless braids myself and clip ins since the last trim in March so my hair was always put away. But she claims I didn't do them right (been braiding my hair for 7 yrs now) or that I have to come to her to eliminate any chance for error and ended up arguing with me about it when I don't know what's in her products anyway nor do I have the time or money to do that being in grad school. Mind you every time I wash my hair, it's virtually no real shedding and very limited breakage so either she was scissor happy, felt my "uneven" ends were indicative of splits, or she didn't cut enough the last time like she claimed she did so the splits traveled up. Regardless, the hair's gone and now I know better, trust yourself ladies!
I really enjoyed watching your video. You have amazing afro hair and you are beautiful and well spoken! I too never trim my afro hair. I have learnt how to grow it long and fluffy and super soft. I love my hair a lot. My daughter has mixed hair so I do trim her hair maybe once a year. I have fully learn"t to accept that my afro hair will respond to me dependant on how exactly I choose treat it. I take superb care of it.
Hi sis, your hair is beautiful. I agree i don't run to the hair dresser cutting/trimming my hair. I believe the last time i went was in October.
I had a matted chunk of hair and just as I was going to get the sissors out I added detangling product and oil braided it up and went back two weeks later when I was calm. I was getting anxious and emotional and leaving the kingdom but God saved me and I stepped back into the kingdom.
4c hair requires calm you need to be in Gods kingdom to look after it .
Amen!
You are absolutely beautiful your hair your skin, not a lot of make up. Yes ma’am I’m here for it.
Thank you so much 🤗
Yes yes yes oooh so glad to find someone who has hair like me LOLI can commb through mine and go right back to that same section and it is trying to tangle again
Same here!
:::Plus, the hairs all grow at different times/rates so the end should never be totally even💁🏾♀️
I love the way you assess black woman being obsessed with European beauty standard...
i say everyone is different some don't need to cut, for me i get splits and single strain knots, so I have to trim, but i do it like twice a year. not the 6 to 8 weeks. do it when you feel you need to, if not that is totally fine and your choice.
Hi Queen, great video. Do you “dust” your ends though? Dusting meaning snip a tiny bit off the ends.
Hi! No I do no tdust either. I only cut out split ends and fairy knots if I come across them while detangling or styling my hair.
"watch me style my natural hair in 15 different ways..
6months later: I'm doing a big chop😂😂
Agree. Thank you for saying this!
Totally agree. My 7 y/o son has hair like Omarion and I just trimmed it 😢… Neva again!
I honestly stop trimming mine because it makes no difference. I just wash and go. I can’t bother with the all of that and all my hair does is get worse. Since I stopped, it’s so much better ❤
I started clipping my ends once a year. This year !!! 😂 I really don’t care if my length is uneven aslong as it’s not obviously uneven or damaged. Why should I cut it if nothing’s wrong? 😂❤
Great information! Thank you!
I've just gone down from every 3 months to 2x a year bc I thought it was beginning to be way too much. And I actually think I only went once this year
Just because your able to retain more length from not trimming doesn't mean your ends are healthy and don't have spit ends. I grew my hair down my back without getting trims but 3 yrs in I decided to get a blowout and seen how bad my ends looked it wasn't worth it to have length over healthy so decided to trim them and continue to now. To eachs own of course.
What is your definition of healthy hair?
I hate the whole health over length thing. Its keeping black women bald. You could take your last breath this afternoon and it won't matter how healthy your hair was no one is going to put that in your obituary. Hair does not contribute to the health of the rest of your body it does not feed the body. its just mostly used as a means of expression. Length over health for me! God gave us our hair as a covering. Long hair is a feminie thing. people only see "bad ends" when the nature of the hair is altered through means that have been invented that are not 100% harmless. To think that we could've all been running around from childhood with our longs locs and tresses with out a curly kinky care in the world not even knowing we had "bad Ends" if the european society hadn't made us stretch them out to look at them. We would have long hair and never even even think twice about our ends.
I appreciate your comment but have you ever thought that it MAY be possible that some (additional) damage could be unintentionally caused by the hair being manipulated via the styling process caused by the hairdresser (assuming that you got it done by a hairdresser). There’s the combing out and detangling part, the round brush, comb attachment blow dryer and flat irons. It’s A LOT of manipulation in one sitting and perhaps all that damage wasn’t there until after they were done with styling your hair. I’ve had several experiences by several hairdressers where a worryingly amount of my hair was on their floor and I could hear my hair snapping and breaking throughout. 4c hair has lots of bends and coils so combs etc especially when handled roughly could be very damaging. That was years ago and I had major set backs then. Since then, I’ve being doing my own hair; no combs, just shampoo, conditioner, occasional protein treatment, leave in conditioner and jojoba oil in two strand twists and my hair is the longest and fullest it’s ever been which is now approaching waist length at the back and collarbone length at the front. One thing I have found very interesting is that I get a considerable amount of tangling about 4 inches from the ends of my hair. I literally have to pull each single strand out of the tangle of strands to preserve my length. At the end of all that I always without fail find that the culprit for that tangly mess was ONE single strand that had a knot, which tangled the neighbouring strands. HAD I PUT A COMB THROUGH THAT YOU BEST BELIEVE THAT ALL THOSE STRANDS WOULD’VE BROKEN OFF. I know no hairdresser has time to be pulling out strands one at a time. That’s why I strongly believe whenever we see images of blown out/ straightened hair that is see through, I think it’s because a comb ripped it all out. It took me about two years to mentally adjust to caring for my hair in a completely different way. A lot of unlearning had to be done. Wishing you the very best in your journey! ✨💖
@@Ehlaar I have long, thick healthy hair sis, even after cutting off and growing back! So my comment still stands! If they bald, they choose this , not taking care of their hair properly or listening to strangers on the Internet 🤷🏽♀️
She clearly stated that in the video.
I'm a bit confused about the combing part. If we aren't supposed to comb or brush our hair, how do we detangle it then?
Napp Queen passed?! There was another hair influencer that passed. Can’t remember her name but she was young and thin with very long hair. I’ve been natural 10 years and still haven’t reached waist lenght. My longest part gets to 21 inches. Don’t know what I’m doing wrong. I stopped going to stylists 4 years ago. They all bitches my hair and hindered my growth and health. 8 total stylists. I gave up 😂
Yes unfortunately she passed a couple years ago, so sad. 21 inches is still amazing! maybe try a 3-6 moth protective style to see if you can get past the plateau?
I ask all licensed stylist these questions in sincerity. Why do you take our textured hair out of its natural element by way of heat and mechanical or chemical manipulations (that in essence breaks down the hair strands) to determine if natural the coiled textured hair is healthy? Why do they diagnose and treat “our” hair according to the knowledge obtained from curricula that is based on the Caucasian, Asian, Indian etc textured hair? Stylists take our hair through stress by cutting, applying chemicals and heat for it to shine, be bouncy and even at the ends and to look like what white asian and or Indian hair texture looks because they are taught. It’s so the opposite of what our natural hair presents. Help me to understand.
I recently combed my locs out and HAD to trim because it was knotting up terribly. It was better but this makes sense. Same for detangling.
You cannot fully detangle curly/coily hair, why? BECAUSE IT IS A CURL/COIL! Now I don’t even bother. I just moisturize and style.
Really good video 🤎
You only need to trim off split ends because it will eventually split the follicle and your hair stops growing. But you can also prevent split ends and you don't have to trim.
Wow. Just wow. I feel newly educated on something.
I don’t trim my hair either. I always say our ancestors didn’t trim their hair and if your hair is healthy you don’t need to trim
Thank you for this video! I love your hair
Thank you for watching!
How often do you detangle your hair ? And what do u use to detangle ? Brush? Comb ? Fingers ? Because I know if we do not detangle that’s when the hair begin to lock
I’ve learned to love on my hair. I’ve named my hair “Lovee” and I’ve noticed a difference in how she’s thriving. I really do believe that being gentle and kind to our hair is the key to thriving locks. ❤
Love that!
I dont trim my hair either, i baby my ends and if i feel my ends are split i do a dusting of my ends. I have hip length hair. 😊
I'm definetly dwelling on simply doing dustings every 6 months.
Love that!
Yes sis….that’s my goal…..good for you!!
I argue with my sister about not needing to trim and then I found someone that thinks like me. I knew I wasn't crazy. Doing trims just to do it never made sense to me
Good to know I wasn't the only one! lol
Same here lol
@@preciousfro you spoke of all the conversations I have in my mind about not cutting my hair, and all the observations I’ve made on how my hair naturally grows from a fro to a wide ‘U’ shape then narrows into a well defined tip at the middle as it approaches waist length, and no I don’t want to even it out either, it’s healthy and naturally so because I take care of it well
It only makes sense to not trim if you’re able to retain length without doing it. I used to not trim and my hair would never pass my shoulder blades. I was able to grow my hair past my bra strap once I started trimming every 3 months. I always tell ppl who struggle with growing their hair to trim their ends regularly and they never listen.
Black community act like it's so taboo not to do it. I mean gosh 😑🙄. I did a big chop in 2016. By the time I saw a stylist in 2020 for silk press, My hair was down my back. It even got a couple of people's attention in the salon shop and I barely trimmed it all those years.
Of course, the stylist claimed she had to trim it, I trusted her and allowed her to do it, and I was infuriated that half my length was gone😡. It literally felt like I was starting all over. Now, I did go to her again, which you may think that's crazy, but I kind of feel sorry for these "professionals" who are taught a certain way and believe certain practices pertaining to black hair. The two more times I went to her, I avoided cutting. She was trying to tell me it needed trimming, even the young teenage girl there whispered to her mother why I didn't get it trimmed. I will never let anybody cut my hair again.
My mom did my hair until I was 10 or 11. She used Johnson and Johnson baby shampoo and conditioner on it and I never had a trim until I was 15 and even then it was about a one inch trim on the ends once blown out. My hair was waist length straightened. I know from experience that a lot of this stuff is unnecessary.
This was eye opening on so many levels. My hair has grown a lot the last few months. I attribute that to a healthier diet, exercising, and way less products and manipulation. Just keeping my hair moisturized, ends tucked away and scalp massages, and just dusting my ends as needed. All of that combined is a game changer for me! Thank you for shedding light on this topic! Right on time 🤩🤗
do you ever get raggedy ends.This tends to happen to my hair and drives me mad
@@thepoweroftheoilofjoysame😂 i was cutting mine off when i saw this video
I always say just look at the Rasta man, NEVER cut / trim their hair… and put all that chemicals in their hair no…. Plz everyone stop with the society brainwashed cropped they thought us. Black ppl leave your hair alone and watch what happen.
Shedding...the light lol
Finally someone knows. Each and every hair root is in a different stage . It with grow uneven. Doesn't always means hair is damaged. These blunt hair cuts send horror shivers .
Preach!🎉
Amen...hair always grows uneven.
Well said! ❤
I agree. Indigenous Strandz here on UA-cam has darn near knee length hair, and she says she doesn't trim either. You ladies make a lot of sense. And I can see that it's working. I shudder to think gow much perfectly healthy hair I have cut off through the years.
I'm so glad to know this is a thing that multiple are already doing! It's never too late to change your routine, we can't change the past!
You are a godsend!!! I am 9 min. into this video & so much resonates! My hair looks extremely similar to yours. Same story, I haven’t trimmed or cut my hair since 2020. I’ve only blowdried it twice since then. I always protective style 100% of the time & I have long healthy hair. Recently, I stretched my hair without heat & my ends looked like yours but my gut told me hair is healthy. I’ve been tempted to blowout to get a more informed look at my hair. But there is no excessive breakage, it looks extremely healthy & shows up differently depending on how I stretch it. This is the 2nd time I’ve been waist length without a trim. Thank you for confirming this & your hair is absolutely gorgeous!❤️🙏🏾
Thank you for sharing your story!! That helps confirm things for me as well that I’m not the only one out here avoiding the scissors. Waist length twice is impressive!🎉
Godsent*
@@purplelove3666 Former English teacher here (look it up) *godsend is correct but you had me second guessing myself for a moment!😂🤩
I remember KimmayTube’s journey to tailbone length hair, and she very infrequently did any trims if I recall correctly. The first time I reached waist length, I had only trimmed my hair once a year over a 4 year period. I have never done it on a schedule. Doing it frequently ensures you will never retain length, and keeps “hairstylists” in business.
I trimmed my hair 4 times last year😢
And I just came across this video
I ain't trimming my hair this year
Keeps them in business you’re dropping them knowledge nuggets
Isn't it great how our husbands know us better than we do sometime. I have trouble with my crown area and my husband prayed over me. They be on our journey with us😊
For real! That’s so beautiful that he prayed over you❤️
My husband also started me on my hair journey, he told me stop cutting your hair and allow it to grow. Now my hair is almost to my butt and my hair has never been this long
That’s a good Godly husband she’s blessed
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Thank you for sharing this. I was away from my family when I started my natural hair journey. But ever since I moved back, everyone started from pretending to be excited for about a month, to constantly telling me my hair doesn't look "shiny" enough. My mom has gaslit me to tears telling me my hair is falling out. Fun fact, it's not. But it's like her brain just cannot compute. I try to explain that I don't want my hair to be covered in oil and and she literally CANNOT UNDERSTAND how that's possible. It's so crazy how I've almost gotten to the point of cutting ties with people who just will not shut up about my hair while meanwhile they can barely grow theirs.
That's tough! But kudos to you for standing your ground. It's hard with family at times because they think they're really just trying to help us but sometimes their words are more painful than even a strangers. Stay strong!
Yes, I don't trim anymore either... maybe once a year but...this video may push me into never lol
Glad it’s not just me😂
Me either
Girl me too!
The only thing I cut is that single strand knot.
I'm so glad I finally found someone who actually knows what they're talking about when it comes to our hair
I agree with the over combing and obsession with definition and smoothness. I noticed when I would wear durags and bonnets it would break the nape of my hair off. I haven't worn anything to bed in months and the back and nape of my hair has grown about 4 inches and is beginning to go down my back finally. I also don't believe we should be doing styles that create to much tension like constantly retwisting locs, high sleek ponytails and tight braids. Its creating traction alopecia. And our hair grows up then out and then as it gets heavier it hangs down, other cultures their hair just grows up and then downward. Another thing stylist don't mention is that the hair grows at different rates throughout your hair so it will NEVER be %100 even lol. And for me my sides grows faster then my crown so it gives me a wolf/heart shape.
this might be the tip/answered prayer that I needed for my nape thank you
@@Ehlaar You're welcome, avoid pony tails for couple months if you can and see what happens. If you do wear your hair up you can do half up and leave the back out or you can put the nape hairs into small twist so you aren't straining them trying to get them all in one section. Merry Christmas.
@@theegreendragonyeap, good advice! I keep my nape moisturized and I loosely pin it up with curved bobby pins when I wear a LOOSE high ponytail or updo. It's almost 7 inches long now. My nape used to stay dry and broken off.
@@MT-yx5cu Niceeee, yea the nape and perimeter of the hair is typically the most fragile/thinner parts of the hair so it needs a different type of attention and approach. I can feel the tension and pulling even when I do a loose pull back and lay down on it. I just leave my hair out or keep it is mini twist most days and if it frizzes or shrinks its w.e, it hairs lol its alive and has a mind of its own. Idk how people band the hair 3 and 4 times in one, I get a headache. Also Twisting the nape and side burns and letting it out is a cute style option to, especially for women. It gives an Avant Garde look.
Is doing 2 strand twists and leaving them in for 3 months okay?
Thank you thank you, that has never made since to me. “If you cut your ends, your hair will grow” I don’t cut or trim my hair due to my religious beliefs. And if other ethnicities hair can grow to their butts, hips, ankles then so can mines w/o cutting it. More ppl need to talk about this or better yet do away with the scissor happy mentality .
I don't think ladies of other ethnicities with really long hair are cutting as often either.
YES I hate that saying ! loll I agree, anything that other ethnicities can do when it comes to growing hair, we can do it as well. Our journey will just look different.
True I don’t hear other groups talk about the importance of trimming every 3 months
@@tiredoftheworld4834 They sure do. All I hear from white people is how important it is to trim your hair. Some go as far as saying every SIX WEEKS (vs every 3 months) when you want to grow your hair. Hairstylists from all cultures and races have brainwashed women into this. It's only women in the long hair community that generally suggest just not trimming or only doing search and destroy.
Thank you soo soo much for this video. I have been searching everywhere for anyone who believes as I do. That trimming your hair is not necessary. When I was a kid all the way up until a teenager, I never had a trim. My hair was never damaged, and I never got split ends. It wasn't until I started to go to beauticians that I got my hair trimmed because they said it was necessary. The black hair community has so much trauma behind our hair and how we take care of it. We allow outside influences to tell us what is beautiful about our own hair. Our natural way of taking care of our hair has had to be re-taught by African Americans because Europeans threw away our true African teachings and methods of how to care for black hair.
Thank you so much for watching! I'm sorry to hear that was your experience with the beautician but unfortunately such a common experience in our community. We are slowly getting better and learning each day.
It is necessary for some. What one woman can do others can't. There are plenty of women who go 5 years without trimming and when they finally straighten it the hair is see through for inches.
@@thewordsmith5440 they probably over manipulated their hair & didn’t protect & oil their ends. Not to mention low iron can cause see through ends. Other factors could be at play.
You are the first person I’ve ever heard make this much sense when it comes to hair! People think just because your ends of uneven/not smooth, that it automatically means it’s split ends.
My stylist is very light handed, and I get 2 strand twist every 6 weeks (with hair added) since 2008. I wash and deep condition every week.
I was getting it trimmed every 3 months for a years and she recommended to stop trimming. It wasn’t needed. I take care of my hair, its healthy and I don’t wear it out and its in a protective style.
I finally see a lot of growth.
That's amazing that you found a hair stylist who was honest with you! She's a keeper! Thanks for watching!
Great!! I want 2 strands twist with added hair. What added hair do you use. Thanks
Thank for validating my decision to stop cutting on my hair every 6-8 weeks. ❤ It’s been 5 months since my last trim. I have time to take good care of my ends, so they don’t suffer. My hair is the healthiest it’s ever been. I’m in “hair trim recovery” now 😂 trying not to think about the 4-6 extra inches I could have right now. 🤨
lol...cutting every 6 weeks?? whoever told you to do that is evil.
I don't trim my hair, never have never will. my hair his down to my ass crack. I love it!
@@voguehaven5154 Yes. I believe evil was involved. 😆 I can’t wait to watch my hair grow. It grows pretty fast for an old woman. ☺️
How much would you trim each time?
@@nichie3897 Probably around 3/4”. I went back to my calendar. For 2 years, I went every 8-12 weeks. Which is still way too often. I had no idea what I was doing, so I was listening to my natural hair stylist. I stopped going because she kept snatching head out of my head with fine tooth combs and causing pain. I’m not tender headed and she took it personal. So I stopped going. My hair is growing so fast and retaining length now. It was a hard, painful lesson.
@@twomisfithippies9790 Wow that stylist though. My experience was a little different. I dust less that 1/4" every 8 weeks and I retaining way more length and I don't get actual split strands . I feel 3/4" to be too much for 6-8 weeks. I find there was some misconception cause I was recommended 6-8 weeks too and only later learned that that was to MAINTAIN a hair CUT'S length and shape cause by that time it would have noticeably grown out of it(esp a shorter cut). Not because the strands had split or to aid in length retention, it was to keep the hair looking the exact same way. And somehow that transferred to the natural hair community and so many of us trying to grow hair unfortunately follow that. I started with 8 weeks in between then 9 weeks and so on, and I found 8 weeks to be my sweet spot when I had no slit strands and and few ssknots. When I maintained that I honestly cut about 1/8" cause it's so healthy😂. It got me cocky sometimes and I skipped several months in between cause i thought I need it anymore more. I would end up cutting 2-3" in one session meanwhile If I'm on schedule my dusting for the whole year totals around 1.5" in length. But others go longer without. Takes time to figure out what works best for you individually.
I have always lived by this!! I have waist length hair. I almost never trim my hair.
Honestly I comb and detangle every 4-6 weeks.
Somehow my hair repairs itself when I leave it along.
Can I ASK you how u manage to go that long without combing or detangling it? I'm blonde my hair is thin..i don't use a hairdryer or iron but when I get out of shower, it'd be a mess if I didn't brush or comb it.
@@theresawebb8064 I just do. I wet my hair daily wearing a wash and go using castor oil only. Finger detangle almost daily to remove shed hairs, but I still have lots of tangles and hair clumping together. When I do detangle, it takes hours. Ugh
@@visionsoflight2357 how do you even find the time less muster up the patience!! I go months without detangling!
@@81Xx_demonwhisperer_xX18 Lol. I try to view it by a month timeline. I thread my hair up so that it can stay "maintained". By mid month, I take it down, oil it back up and then thread it back. By the end of the month, I'll take a Friday or Saturday and dedicate that time for hair care. detangling while the shower is running was a huge game-changer for me. I shampoo with a homemade shampoo bar. Thread it back up. Repeat.
Amen… just leave it alone.. look at the Rasta man they don’t do that shit… but it grows right?
I have to say you are so gorgeous. I was literally just saying to myself that I was done with my hair. Its been so hard. When you showed your ends it looks exactly like mine. Im literally in tears. Thank you for seeing me and thank you for saying it.
You're about to make me cry!! 😭I know this journey is so so so hard at atimes. Please hang in there! Take a break from it if you need to. Know that you're not alone! You've got a community around you sis ❤
@@preciousfroit has been extraordinarily difficult for me. I've been natural since 08. I have struggled this entire time. I've constantly cut my hair because I thought It was bad ends. It literally isn't. I really thank you for saying what I really needed to hear. I am going to step away for a little and get braids so I can regroup. But I definitely feel so relieved now. I feel seen thanks to you.
THANK you for talking about coily hair naturally twisting and coiling around itself. I despise that people have been saying it’s not supposed to coil or make fairy knots. My hair makes fairy knots for protection of the shaft not because it’s bad
What I learned through going through my own natural hair journey is that if I’m taking care of my hair (finger detangling, moisturizing my end, drinking a lot of water) then I don’t need to cut my end. The only time I cut my ends is when i leave my hair in cornrows for a long period of time or if I see split ends . My hair is now to the middle of my back now.
I have 4C hair. I only trim my hair when I see split ends (I cut the splits I can see), single strand knots (I cut the knots I can see) or when I decide to straighten my hair (for aesthetic reasons only).
I haven’t cut mine in 7 years and it’s hip length.
This is why I do my own hair because stylists are so scissor happy and want to cut my hair every 3-6 weeks (which as you said, the math ain’t mathing). I trim once a year when I do a silk press at the salon, then I dust if I notice dead ends/heat damaged
I haven't got my hair done prob 30 yrs, CAUSE once once they gave me a perm and burnt it spool bad it fell out in gobs ,I had to cut it to my ears, another time, ask for a cut or trim, man they cut spool much off..i think I only went professional 2 or 3 times in my life in now 58, never again.
1st, you are stunning 😍 2nd, there are so many points you've made that I wholeheartedly agree with. While I believe hair needs to be trimmed, I also believe the way we manipulate it sets the tone for why and how often. The more you're in it, the more often you'll need a trim. I think locs show us that unmanipulated hair will flourish.
The largest part of your case that resonates is applying the Euro-standard to our natural hair. I've been natural my whole life, but it's only been the last 20yrs I've been heat-free and totally accepting of my curls. I was as addicted to my Marcel iron as many are addicted to relaxers. But, I've also had my whole life to "get" my hair. I think, subconsciously, many are still trying to make their hair "do" what their relaxed hair did. Hence the 50step wash routines, endless search for the best curl definer, all kinds of tricks to encourage the hair to lay "down" instead of "up" like it wants to. The whole obsession w length and curl definition, to me, is an extension of the Euro-standard.
I had hair down my back most of my life and many don't understand why I keep it short on purpose. To me, there something is wrong w that mindset. Why can't I have beautiful short natural hair? But that's another topic! Loved the video 💕💚
Thank you for sharing all of that and for your perspective. I agree that locs really show what our hair is capable of which is amazing! And i agree there's absolutely NOTHING wrong with short hair. I personally am someone who always wanted long hair all my life and didn't know HOW to grow it. I wouldn't be surprised if after another decade of this i switch to like a Halle Berry look lol!
The Black hair stylists are responsible for that trimming BS. They will almost fight you if you refuse to let them cut your hair. They are almost all scissor happy.
This is the best 4c hair tutorial, hands down! Thank you! ❤
Thank you so much!
I do not take advice from people who are constantly trimming their hair then complain their hair is stuck at their neck. 😂😂😂. I stopped going to happy scissors hairdressers over 20 years ago. If my hair become raggety, I do not trim it because it ain't necessary. I treat it and it heals itself. I know my hair. I am sure most of our mothers or nans did not trim their hair.
What they want us to do is keep cutting until it's the same length all over then let the growth begin and if one side grows faster than the other, they'll trim that again....😅.
Omg YES. I always hated the uniform blunt look of a trim (and it's a bit harder to style).
To add to my comment- thank you so much for challenging us to rethink how we view & see our naturally textured hair & the appearance of our ends & limiting/eliminating the excessive use of hair tools on the ends of the hair. You are spot on! 🎯
You are so welcome!❤️
I totally agree w/you. I never trim my hair and it retains just fine. I’m near waist length also and I’m 4c natural. Your hair looks nice and thick. Edit: I’m a straight hair natural- so I also use heat regularly and retain too.