8 Toxic Behaviors That Prove They Don’t Really Care | Inspired by Anthony Hopkins
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- 8 Behaviors of People Who Don’t Care About You | Inspired by Anthony Hopkins
Have you ever paused to wonder if the people around you truly value you? Not in their words, not in their promises, but in their actions? Recognizing these behaviors isn’t just about protecting yourself-it’s about valuing your own worth and choosing relationships that truly uplift you.
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This video draws inspiration from the motivational teachings of Anthony Hopkins and is meant solely for educational and inspirational purposes. The voiceover used in this video is an AI-generated voice, not that of any human being, although it closely resembles the voice of Antony Hopkins. As admirers of this legendary figure, we channel our passion into creating these motivational speeches, inspired by his timeless words and virtues. Through our dedicated efforts, we aim to inspire and motivate everyone to achieve success and inner peace.
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One of life's hardest lessons is to realize that not all in your life love and care about you.
@TheOriginalQueenBee love is a word misunderstood .
@@TheOriginalQueenBee love is a word misunderstood.
True
True
so. much. this.
Anyone that turns into an enemy over money, jealousy, or trivial matters was an enemy from day one.
Wow.....love this one.
So true
This is so true. I learned this after experiencing it with people I thought they cared about me. It didn’t take much for them to write me off.
The faster you let go and detach from self centered narcissists, the faster you will have Peace and Joy in your life!
Even worse when it’s your own son brainwashed by his narcissistic wife.
It's better to be alone,than with the fools beside!!!
Amen to that!!!!!
Amen👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
By the time one realizes those "fools" whatever that means, they are already in to deep.
@elianad2083 I speak from experience on your comment. Working my way out now-
Being alone as a human is the WORST THING you can do!! Stop playing a victim and get out there and make some damn friends!! Be a big brother or sister to someone in need of leadership or just in need of a friend. A connection to another human. You might be narcissistic to have such a negative outlook on life. Please cheer up. Stop spreading pessimism. It's not a good look. Heal and grow
Fact is you only have yourselves ... realise it and move on ....peace will be yours 😌
So so true!.
Why do people always say "oh..just move on" like..oh sure I'll get right to it! There is no such thing. We are all uniquely different and some take longer than others to grieve and heal or to walk away. People who say "Move on" are usually the ones in pain themselves but don't want to admit it.
@@elianad2083 you are exactly correct!
The people that speak like this, they are fakes!!! so easy for them to say just move on and get over it… They know in their hearts this is BS and not possible if you’re a human being that is.
So please, please please move at your own pace heal at your own pace. Own who you are which is a strong, beautiful woman and nobody can beat you down OK? Nobody absolutely nobody. !! You are so encouraging. You are so loved and you are so worthy of loving who you are.
Maybe the ones that say move on don't realize it's your own mother that doesn't care. It frigging takes a minute. The positive is it is OK to move on without guilt and never look back, at least never go back. 😢 It can be heart rending. These kind will hurt you exponentially every time you go back.
Now that is one selfish comment I've ever read on YT. Wake up and smell the Lord! God never said to be alone. You NEED to find connection and work with young kids who have no connection. You have a purpose and I'm here to tell you what that is. God is watching you. He is serious.. Take this with a grain of salt or pay the consequences. It's your choice. God bless you. He loves you. You have a purpose so please don't mess it up.
I had a longtime "friendship" where I was constantly ignored and dismissed. When I finally woke up, I walked away, never looking back. Peace.
Same here!
Sadly it took me until 70 but I got there.
I HEAR YA! I don’t know why I kept being a friend to a person such as yours. And when I told her my thoughts about our friendship she acted surprised and dumbfounded. That was the icing on the cake. In the end she made me feel stupid again. And that was the last time.
I’m 57 and am now of the age where when people treat me with disrespect I walk away and move on if they can’t see my value it’s their loss not mine. It does hurt when this happens because if I put my time and energy getting to know someone and they treat me poorly its sad but I just need to protect my heart and I no longer allow people to treat me like garbage. Life is very short we need loving kind friends and family.
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True that!
Absolutely!
Next time you pass by someone looking like they’ve lost faith in humanity,give them a smile compliment,better yet your time when others do not
It’s all about the simple things in life that matter the most.
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Walked away from friends and family who do this... its hard but its worth it
The family teaches you and conditions you to accept such behaviour, even when your primal instinct tells you its wrong.
Me too!
Big mistake, you need to be able handle hearing that you are wrong. This video is giving terrible advice.
@@CooeeChris1 this is very true. Lessons learned are to find genuinely nice people. They‘re out there but there are a lot of deeply unpleasant people who mistake kindness for weakness and then they jump in and try and take you down. Usually it is something within them selves they either can‘t won‘t or don‘t even realise.
So true, life-long abuse from family members. I finally, at 50 years old, disconnected from my siblings when my mom died. Best decision I ever did. Im not missing a thing. They never supported me and treated me like garbage.
I understand exactly what you’re feeling.❤️
This is why I got I beautiful dog.
I’m sorry. I know how you feel. It’s a terrible feeling to realise you don’t matter. It’s devastating.
Free...
Im sorry to read what you experienced but I'm glad you advocated for yourself and removed yourself from such behavior. You are worth a lot and defiantly worth or love and affection. Wishing you well.
You are not alone. Happy New Year!
I'd rather be hated for who I truly am than loved for who I am not.
UH... Yikes! You must be a pretty angry person or something. Why would people hate you? Think about it.
I need this on a plaque on my wall.
Well put Kimberly!
Ive dealt with various forms of dismissal starting with my narcissist mother & sister. I was conditioned to tolerate disrespect. It took me decades to see why I wasn't setting healthy boundaries.
I can relate to that.
same,. same. but once i wisened up - easy peasy, no longer accept that. thank G!!
@@alexperkins8433awesome 😊😊
@@angelwings7930 I can, too!
You are amazing, and inspiring, I guess I am not alone in this experience.
Thank-you.
This is probably all about Narcississ's. This is exactly how they are. I wish more of the world would put a name on this insidsidious mental disorder. It is so complex and so many layers to it its like no one wants to confront it. And believe me they will ruin you're life just like drugs or any other negative entity. God Bless Sir Anthony Hopkins
I agree there is a lot of narcissism in this video. I think this vid has potential, but it's not updated to narcissism. Also, I don't believe this is anything to do with Anthony Hopkins. It's obviously an AI voice. I doubt he would put out a 3 hour vid like this. AH is intelligent and married and writes music for orchestras. This is not his passion. I think this is a rip off. Regardless, it is a very good vid, but not extremely accurate by today's standards of what narcissism is. Watch HG Tudor. The ultimate narc
They're just nasty people, plain and simple. I don't need to be a therapist to survive in this world. You just feel their evil.
My thoughts exactly.
Wish I listened to this 50 yrs ago.
Narcissist is a nice word for Evil. There's a lot of evil in this world
Thank you, I am 73 and still learning. I don't believe I will ever stop learning. Your wisdom is quite helpful.
Still learning indeed considering you support g-cide....
Same here! Never stop learning! Blessings..
If you're watching this you already know that they don't care about you. Please know that you deserve better. You're enough for the right person don't waste your life trying to fit into their perception of what they need you to be for them.
I got rid of two them by 2020/21. losers who don't respect you .. fail to respect themselves (while using you)
Yeah but sometimes you can’t just leave
@@food2loseweight-thefreshma278 This is true, but don’t sleep, make a plan, take care of you… be your best frend. One day you will be free. ❤
Amen! ✝️🙏💖💕😇
😢yes, watching this is only a confirmation of what you know!
The first person you need to love and respect you is YOU. My family was toxic and I'm dinally out of it. Learning to love myself was a wonderful gift to myself
SOOOO TRUE! Congradulation's, you deserve the best! Your BEST friend should be, YOU! RATHER BE ALONE AND HAPPY, THEN WITH SOMEONE WHO DOESN'T VALUE ME!🥰
I agree. But one thing I wonder is... Does this video teach us to be selfish and play a victim? Or does it teach us to be more aware of ourselves and check ourselves? This video teaches us how to feel sorry for ourselves and play victims. I almost fell for it. But then I realized that I have performed some of those bad acts on others and i have also been treated badly. So what does that make me? A victim or a perp? I have been BOTH. I'm a normal with empathy and narcissistic traits. Most people in the world have some narcissistic traits. Nobody is good or bad. We are all a little bit of both, whatever bad or good means. Anyway, sorry for the long comment.... I'm sorry... This video just really bothered me.
@@rachaelb. The more you live in your heart, you will not do bad acts on others! That's coming from narcissistic traits! A narcissist needs to devalue others to make themselves feel better or they play victim to get back their prey! If your an empath, you couldn't do bad stuff to others because it would hurt you deeply to hurt others! Healing your past, is a way to be your best self and this video is about not giving your power away to someone who mistreats you! Very empowering and those who learn to move on will get the gift of getting their power back! They are not victims, quite the opposite! The fact that it really triggered/bothered you, is a gift for you to see, "why that is" and you are ready for a healing that if you face it and make peace with it, you will grow and not see your world in such black and white! You will listen to this again one day, if you do the work and get what this beautiful message is really saying! You can't be selfish and play victim. You are only a victim when you don't care enough about your self and allow others to demean you, so you need to be selfish by taking good care of yourself, until you can learn to care enough about yourself, to NEVER give your power away again! This will create a deep respect and love for yourself, so you can love others and be a "light", in this world! 💝💖🌟Blessings to you for a awakening new year!
@rachaelb…this is a very enlightening and uplifting video for those who have people in their lives that bring them down. It is best to let go of those that surround you with negativity and make your life miserable and toxic. If YOU demonstrate a level of self-awareness, insight, and empathy ; it is considered to be healthy narcissism. If you have had a troubled past and feel you treat others badly, you might consider getting some help. Nothing wrong with improving yourself if needed 😊
I’m ending a friendship right now because of the lack of respect & the criticisms.
I’m ending several! 😊😊‼️‼️
I had to go no contact with a lifelong friend. They were a bully with disregard for others’ feelings. Lied, manipulated, conned me. I kept focusing on their goodness. One day it was over because of a misunderstanding. One word was all it took!!!!! I’ve let that go now. I wish no ill will, I just saw they did not acknowledge me & could suck the life out of me!!!
@ We have to set our boundaries & live up to them. Good for you for walking away! We deserve to be treated with respect at all times.
@@bayoubabe6698 They are indeed psychic vampires.
I'm so SICK OF NARCISSIST 😐
Stand tall in the face of negativity. You are enough just as you are! 💝
I love that! Good comment.
you as well. you stay true to yourself and it is more than alright to stand up for yourself and to defend what you believe in.
@@jennsilo80 no I disagree, she will soon find out, what he is really like when he leaves her
@mjperfume1523 All I said was to stand tall while facing a situation and you are enough as is. You're saying that he will find out about someone else. I wasn't speaking on your issue. I hope you find peace and joy within yourself regardless of anyone else.
@@beladimitrescu3045agreed 💯💜
Carelessness:
1. Lack of respect - dismissive, belittling you. What you think is not important. Strip away dignity.
2. Ignoring boundaries - communicate what you respect. Ignoring it means lack of respect.
3. Persistent absence when it matter.
if not fleeting commitments and excuses when absent. It is an emotional failure. It is careless disguised as business. Actions say " you matter to me" let this absence be a lesson.
4. Self centerdness. Focus on personal needs desire they constantly consume your energy. They are charming but tell their stories and actions are in their interest. Chose themselves not the relationship.
5. Lack of support in moments of challenge. True support is about being there when someone struggles. They dissappear or show indifference when you need them morem when hope seems distant.lack of support leaves a void
6. Constant criticism which tears you dow Goal is to undermine confidence. Constat criticism aims to keep youdown and assert dominance. They make you feel down and keep you down. It says more about them not you. It means lack of care.
7. Betrayal if trust - trust is a silent agreement. Promises are commitments when kept = trusBreaki g it - even smaller lies create a fracture and lead to
8. Inconsistent effort- fluctuating means they are shallow. If it is sp I radic= not a priority. Unanswered calls ... = you are the only one who tries to keep it alive. Exhausting. It creates doubt. Do not invest you deserve more. You have to matter to them.
9. Emotional manipulation = non care based on selfishness and deceit. Manipulators distort reality. They play and exagerate and make you feel guilty and then withholding affection, create conflict. They calculate to make you feel doubtful . In the end u question yourself to not question them. That is lack of care of you and self service.
Set boundaries and walk away from them.
10 architect of relationships is you. Not here to be used manipulated or undervalued.
Are they building you up or putting you down.
Surround yourself with those who respect stand by you and show they care.
Write a book, you have taken and writing skills, why not?
# 3. Characterizes most male adult persons I have ever met and all the single women after them. Single women some of whom are only pretending to be not looking at the time. There is good reason as to why the number 144,000 seems so small in comparison to all the male adult persons in the world.
Sounds like my ex husband. We were together 30 years. I divorced him 15 years ago. I didn't realize how much I did for him until I didn't have to do it anymore. He was sucking the life out of me.
Perfectly said!
🙏🏼Thank you! ❤
thank you so much for painting a clear portrait of hate cloaked with love
Well put.
I am living this nightmare right now. I got very ill for many years. And the doctors could not find the problem. But they were not really looking. Anyway I just got iller and iller over the years . My friends and family got sick of being sick. And it got to the point every time I spoke in the room they would all talk over. Me and I would need to speak very loudly to get them to stop talking and hear what I have to say on the subject.. but it was not always that way. When I was well they would stop speaking to listen to what I had to say. This has been a nightmare for me. And I no longer want to be around any of them. Because I am just a goast in the room.
I'm sorry that happened. Seek true friends..they are better for you than family
Donna, me too. Heartbreaking but it’s their loss. I hope we both get better asap. ❤️🩹
Seems your family is gaslightig and stonewalling you. I am so sorry! I would try hard to stay away from them like I did with my own family. I know that may not be possible and if so, emotionally detach from them and find some inline communities! there are so many nice ladies groups for all ages. Look into it if you can.
Thank you for sharing this and may God bless you. I've been trying to figure out why I keep talking so loud with a couple of my closest neighbors whom I thought were my friends. You gave me insight and I'm done, not going to do it anymore. They don't care what I have to say at all. So from now on I'll just say Hi! and walk right by them on the way to my car or the mailbox. I needed this, you are a blessing, I pray you recover completely from your illness, In Jesus name, Amen.
Well, this tends to happen to me as well with my family and friends. Nobody wants to hear it after a while and it’s so so devastating and traumatizing. That your own family and friends are “over” me and my health conditions.
My heart goes out to you. It’s so sad when our so-called loved ones no longer see or hear us even in the same room.
My family actually says I care too much about people and they don’t understand what being an empath is.
Praying for you and your continued health 🙏🏻
I've given soo much to others in my life, far more than ive ever received, looked after sick loved ones, given things away, to people who don't have very much. Treated with disregard by husband's family ( jealousy I think as i was much younger) looking out for elderly neighbour, stayed and waited for ambulance for four hours in middle of night..
That's me too.
Me too ❤
I can certainly relate to some of your comments. Those that do the most get hurt and taken advantage of the worst. Our kindness is a show of weakness to a spineless vulture.
Well I want to say thank you from afar, because you sound exactly like myself. I wish you a happy peaceful and blessed and abundant year this year please keep the feet piece keep your focus and don't stop shining your light that's what they want you to do what you think they want give what only you can and that's your empathy your love and your common respect for other folks unity is the answer if we shine our lights bright enough someone will pick up on it and maybe follow in our footsteps I'm an old soul myself. And my bag is so heavy right now I'm about to drop it and run but I'm going to take my babies with me they're now deceased, but you know what? I'm not going to leave them behind just for somebody to throw them away like most of my family has me
@@faithbyrge484 Always, always do what makes you happy and what makes you feel like you have a heart and soul. I wish you the happiest of New Year's! 🩷
This is so sad Ive lived like this for over forty yrs. But God is my answer ❤
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If I didn’t have God, I would have nothing. Everyday I thank God for his love, nurturing and support. I’ve tried & tried with my mother, and other family members but my trying fails. My mother is a narcissist who cares only for herself. Thank God, I have God.
If I didn’t have God, I would have nothing. Everyday I thank God for his love, nurturing and support. I’ve tried & tried with my mother, and other family members but my trying fails. My mother is a narcissist who cares only for herself. Thank God, I have God.
I'm so sorry for your 40 yrs of whatever you're referring to. i'm super glad that God is your way. But how is he your way? Why are you watching YT vids if the Bible should be the way? YT can easily deceive viewers like you, like me. I would think that the bible would be the way to a fulfililing life? If you need help deciphering the bible, I think there are sites to help with that! I have a bible that was printed to help teens understand the verses. Written for teens, lol. I'm sorry you lost your way, and I hope you can get back on track with God. I love you and know you are blessed!!!!! Stay strong.
Oh dearest wonderful wonderful man ,
Sir Anthony if only I heard this 4 years ago.
Having been married to a narcissist for 43 years I then 4 years ago moved out even moved another country, the best thing I could’ve done.
Thank you Anthony this is so valuable right now since I’ve just come up against another narcissist this Christmas in my youngest daughter.
Thank you for the truth I now feel armed with the strength of your Care within your Sincere words. Patricia
totally agree Patricia. I cant believe how I tolerated his treatment of me all these years. I just always blamed myself. Let's hope we can both start to appreciate ourselves more and learn to turn them off
A person that’s is bragging all the time is not your friend. It’s not about competition. It’s about being their for a friend
Usually a BSer.
Huh? How are they not your friend? Maybe that person is in dire need of being recognized? Maybe they were completely ignored as a child and never respected. Maybe YOU were supposed to be their "savior" and give them what they were missing. It's not up to us to figure it out... it's God's job to do that. You are his disciple, your job was to fulfill what was missing from their life. Did you do it? Or did you fail you mission?
Yes, it's disrespectful. They feel the need to reiterate how much more important they are than you. When you're the only one left that will give them the time of day.😅
I have not been heard and been in a family does not even listen when I am speaking. I am not heard people walk away. It is dismissive and the disrespect falls over to the youngest of children. It is unsettling. The expressions of their faces is ever so revealing.
Smartest thing I ever did was leaving my narcissistic husband leaving everything behind
I did the same thing guess what 15 years later they still don’t care
Such wise words. I recognize that someone I thought cared , really didn't and it hurts !
I know! It hurts so much but as Maya Angelou says "When someone shows you who they really are, believe it". Though it's painful to be treated dismissively, realize that now you know exactly where you stand with this creep, and let him or her go!! This permits you to free up space for a truly kind, caring person.
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Thanks for the video so true ,trust in God ❤️🙏
Sometimes its better to detach just live your life and be happy
Who knew that Anthony Hopkins was such an advanced soul? So impressive and agree with all he had to say! I have zero regrets for moving on from relationships that are unhealthy and never look back! Love myself enough to not settle for fake! Lesson is: "You can't lose what you never had."
Was it really Hopkins who said all of this? To me it was apparent to be an AI voice. We don't actually see him talking. I'm glad all of these viewers are taking in everything and looking inside of themselves to judge themselves. Not! Nobody here is looking at themselves and their OWN behaviors. Everyone here is playing a victim. That's a LOT of victims. Where are the perps? Hm...... Think about that.
@@rachaelb.Sounds as though you answered your own question.
@@rachaelb.You sound like a bully. Let’s ignore you, and listen to Anthony.
I am at a loss for words as I am not valued by my son….perhaps only when I am giving him something he wants.
_I Feel the same way about my 38 year old daughter._
Wonderful words to listen to, makes you think. I have a son who is a doctor, for some reason was being dismissed a lot, not listened to. Now he has disowned me won't talk or even wish me Happy Christmas, I did but got no response. I cannot believe it really but it's true
The Law of Natural Consequences. LEAVE THEM ALONE.
I'm sorry you're going through that....
Sorry to hear that…my son is similar. He used to adore me and said I was the best mother in the world. Gradually he became more distant but still requires my help so stays connected because of that. It’s almost like I had another life or the good times were all a dream. Fortunately my husband loves me very much otherwise I would feel I have no one. I’m just glad I only had one child.
Thank you. So glad I walked away from all that. I'm so much happier now that I have taken back my power, and living my truth. 🙏🏼💫
Not one person on this earth values me. That’s the truth and at least I know.
I survived a cancer battle & had a "friend" of 35 years tell me she didn't want to be friends anymore because I'm no longer any fun. What a horrible way to treat a person who's just trying to bounce back from cancer!?
My supposed best friend told me by chance one time, that she ' left me to get on with it cos she knew I'd prefer it that way !'however she never once asked me, needless to say we are no longer in touch and it's been 21yrs since I was diagnosed with breast cancer
@@Awakened-tarot Nor me I am 78 years old and too old to leave and start over. Looking back I was devalued and cheated on in my twenties, could not prove things and was Raged down. I had nowhere to turn and was bringing up someone else’s child, I look at him every day and know the things he got away with. He is still at 80:years old, gazing at selfies of some woman, and has a cam model. What sort of a skunk is he. He is shortening my life and making me ill. Seen things but still can’t prove anything . The only way would be to record him , but I’am too afraid
I had a very manipulative and dismissive colleague who would complain to the boss when I set boundaries, ad she expected me to do her work for her. When she expected me to plan with her repeatedly after working hours, I told her "No," as I was being treated for basal cell carcinoma. She was furious and actually mocked me and accused me of getting a cosmetic procedure, which was untrue - I did have cancer, but thankfully it was a mild case and I recovered well. I found a different job because she was such a narcissist and the boss supported her due to excessive flattery. Seven years later the narcissistic was diagnosed with Stage 4 cancer and died a few years after that. I felt nothing but relief. That's how abusers make us feel. If only they realized their poison seeps from the inside out.
Actually l value you and the comments you've given. All the best from the great southern land of Tasmania
Beautiful words by one of my favorite Actors, Anthony Hopkins.
Thank God, I live these words and stay alert of people's behavior. My Mother use to say, do not take up time with anyone who does not mean you well.
If we live by these words, we would be in less predicaments in life.
It’s not Anthony Hopkins,,,,it’s an AI bot
this is absolutely beautiful. I wish more people understood these things I had all of this figured out years ago. I’m now 71 years old and I am experiencing a lot of the things that he’s talking about from my family. You get older in this country and you are no longer of use to anyone they don’t care about you anymore. It’s our society that’s breeding this not caring about others.Specially if they’re old.
I'm going through the same. I'm 65 , my kids and grandkids seem to have forgotten that I'm still alive. They've stopped calling and visiting, all the grandkids have nice cell phones, but I never hear from them unless I text them.... they might text back one line. Oh well, I've got my best friend Jesus 🧡 with me through it all.
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I'm 80 and been going through this all my life 🤔. Got some thinking to do.
Ditto I'm almost 76 where did everyone go ?
@@Fran-fz5wl Seems all we have left are our thoughts and regrets Blessings x
The hardest part for me is that it's my own adult children who are not there for me . Causing me to feel alone and uncared for. Flaky friends are easy to cut off, but it's hard to walk away from your own family.
I never dreamed I'd be abandoned by my own.😢
But i've got to take care of myself. Because apparently no one else will.
Grandkids these days are the same. They just want you when they want something from you. I never treated my mom that way. I was there no matter what.
Bugsea 54 I know what u mean my family treat me the same ! My 2 cats are my true family!take care happy new year!❤
Everything u say Anthony Hopkins is so true thank you for that my family are so unfeeling to me! Happy new year to you and good health,❤❤
Thank you very much for the wise, good and healing words of truth.
Imagine the impact this video could have if the flow wasn't interrupted every five minutes with adverts.
Yes the greed of the person who posted the video…one can choose the extent to which their video is monetised.
I needed to hear this today…. Thank you Sir Anthony Hopkins.🙏❤️
He describes narcissists. Glad I am free of that manipulative person and divorced and anulment. It was perfect timing. I am free. Your emotions are not tools they are part of humanity and right to protect our emotional well being. Walk or run away. Even friendships reflect how you vakue yourself. Step back and see who is building you up or not. Make changes to my time and my life. ❤
Exactly ! Life is short but meaningful and after all it is Yours ! 💜
Sadly, he just described my husband.
@@cherylp.3347And mine!!
I would prefer to be alone than live with people who do not love or respect me .
Me too, 20 years. Many misunderstanding finally started to making sense and understood now.
Makes me want to be a better person, friend, mother. Show up, and extend a hand of caring and love.
Amen
Even if we are already good people and we truly know that we are we still strive to be even better when mentally and emotionally abused by others. It's an endless cycle of approval until we finally reach a breaking point and make the big escape. It's a good but hurtful realization that all we did was never good enough in their eyes anyway. Live for yourself and be happy. Nobody else can do that for you.
He shows that actions prove love for love is action.
Thank you, I am 65 and still learning. I don't believe I will ever stop learning. Your wisdom is quite helpful.
I love this guy.. hes always open-minded and gives you the real knowldege that he's gained.
I have a sister who is 4 years older than myself who whdn we were kids, always got me in trouble and caused me to get severe beatings by my mother with a razor strap laughing when I got beatwn severly all the time. Now that we all are adults, she loves to throw digs into me, gets everybody on her side, and no matter what I say or do, it isn't good enough and nobody hears what I say when something has to be said or brought out into the open. So a lot of this information presented here, I pretty much relate to it all, as I know quite well what it feels like to be overlooked and abused all the time.
If you are telling the truth on UA-cam in front of strangers, then I guess you really need help.. If what you're saying is true, why haven't you called the police?
Also, the best thing to do is cut off all communications with her to the point that there is NO WAY either of you can contact each other or spy on each other. This has to be done (GOSO =get out and stay out) for at least 6 months. That means you don't look them up and they can't find you. Physically, social media, etc.. Lose all contact with the person you feel is abusing you. Good luck!
This is incredibly HEALING for me!
Get to steppin!
IAM 62 YEARS, I NOTICED PEOPLE TREAT ME DIFFERENTLY. IAM STILL A FEELING PERSON. IT HURTS.
Im shy and quiet because im better that way. Less is more. Be a silent woman. Be humble. Im deeply depressed
Words hurts
Actions hurt
My brain hurts
So why not just please you , and defend that. Go for it .
This made me cry. I have been voicing this my whole life as all this has been happening to me all my life. When I say these things it always turns into an argument. The worst thing that has been said to me is, " oh not this shit again" when I voice any of these things. I have several people who show up and listen to hear and understand allowing me the space to be heard and comforted by their mere presence.
I have a son who said it simply- “ Mom - What do you LOVE to do???? Then DO IT!!!
ENJOY yourself and forget about stupid, selfish people!!!!!!”
Excellent advice….we have all fallen short at times and over invested at other times.
The most hurtful one for me has been to accept no excuse from someone who keeps violating my privacy in many ways, despite knowing how private i am, even more after all the damage they already caused me on purpose and keep causing bc of their over the top toxic antics. A person's toxic decisions and lack of accountability keep showing the truth. Their loss.
Love ❤️ Anthony Hopkins ...
Always ❤ thank you😊
Amen🙏🏼❤️
Thank-you God, Thank-you Jesus & Thank-you Sir Anthony Hopkins🫂
It hurts when a close friend you have known for awhile, have had many personal comversations, was there for them when they needed someone to talk to starts to drift away. It is normal and thats life, but 1 experience I had, after awhile they would come arpund only when other people are involved too, ignored me when I spoke to them or text messages, asked if they were okay or if something was wrong and always got the same "im okay" answer with nothing else. If I gave the same energy back, or put my energy elsewhere to people that appreciate my presence, then they would start to question me and why I havent been giving them attention. This gaslighting and manipulative behavior really made me question what I knew about them and our friendship. Eventually I had to cut them from my life because thier dishonest behavior, lying, gaslighting patterns were starting to be seen by my other friends and made me realize that this behavior is really damaging on my mental health. It hurt to remove a close friend from my life but it was clear that they werent willing to aknowledge thier actions or even considered how I felt.
Excellent! Thank you
Beautifully said. Just what I needed to hear. Thankyou ❤
I knew A H in London in the 70’s before he became the mega-star he is, and he is such a fantastic person. He absolutely deserves everything he has accomplished. ….
Thank you. I needed to hear this today.
Thank you so much helping people ❤
Poverty is a bigger factor in life than well off, educated, wealthy people know about.. I can tell by the speech and voice of this man, he is in a different world than myself. I pray for my loved ones, I hug loved ones, I cannot send birthday cards or Christmas cards. If they should "lower" themselves to stop by occasionally for a visit, I know they care about me. I do not look to anyone to provide for my needs. They live and are able to meet their own needs and I thank GOD for them. They live in my mind and heart, and I in theirs.
What if we were raised in a dysfunctional uncaring environment and you became self-destructive as a child, you grow up with such problems that block your growth into a healthy adult, mentally, physically and spiritually, you spend your life running from the pain and the darkness, searching for love and healing in all the wrong places, then one day you find a way out but you have to face the fact that you need rehabilitation in every aspect of your life...learn your boundaries and how to respect yourself, learn to love yourself, the love you never received in the past, you give to yourself, take the time to grieve and heal the wounds and then learn to stay away from whatever and whoever makes you feel unwell...you cannot yourself be a very good friend to others when you haven't learned to be a friend to yourself...but sometimes we are better alone than in bad company! Thank you for this very valuable teachings...
Such very wise words from a man I have always admired Anthony Hopkins! It seems I have always walked a one way street in most of
of my relationships and friendships! Not all, but certainly most of the them. I have always tried my best to give 💯 plus, to everyone I care
about and Love, but it's seldom returned, if ever. I have given in every aspect of my being, it's never been enough. At 66 years old, I'm kind
of tired of the same ole same. Thank You Sir, for your wisdom!!
Thank you Sir Anthony, you are very good medicine.
I've never seen so many self centered people as I have in this world. We're all here to learn.❤
Thank you.This is my story.
You are not alone
Completely true and correct. ❤
Thank you for sharing and teaching! In addition, reading others pains and release those that did you a favor to let them go! May God give you comfort and ❤ that really matter🎉
All I can say thank you so very much, you are so very right, it was like a arrow went straight through my heart.
So truthful! Respect is crucial and you might learn something too about the other person. Love Anthony Hopkins! Listen to the end…. really grounding advice that will let a relationship thrive!
Only Jesus Truly sees you and deeply loves and cares for you.The rest of us are all broken human beings who can't meet each other's deep needs.Only Jesus can.When I finally surrendered my life to Jesus, I stopped seeking or expecting anything from anyone else.His Love is more than enough.
God expects a lot from us in our relationships with others. As a Christian we are not excused from what he expects from us. He lays it all in his word what he expects from us as sons, daughters, wives, husbands, mothers, fathers, neighbours, friends. We can expect those things from our Christian relationships. When one person fails an apology and repentance is expected in Gods plan. This video is talking about those who simply don’t care what God expects of him or her. It is shameful and very very bad to be a Christian and to live for himself. It’s devastating in a marital relationship. And very destructive. I’ve been a Christian for over five decades and I find your statement greatly lacking in wisdom and understanding and compassion. His love is shown through others, we are ambassadors for Christ, we represent him both in the giving and receiving of that love through others.
@@cherylp.3347 absolutely agree with you
Tell me if I’m too sensitive or selfish . They don’t care about you when they don’t use a telephone but text. Text is hard to read for the elderly and it’s not a conversation by any means. As a senior, They don’t visit but give lip service saying you should visit instead. They plan something, invites you but you can’t mange it, like driving in rain or night time. When they get itchy because you’ve visited for a time until they want you to go hime. When they have family car vacations but don’t ask you to join & your the mother or grandmother. When you’re not invited for birthday parties or offer for you to spend the night to ease a trip. When you try to have a conversation and they can’t take their eyes off their cell phone. When they “hint” at money but don’t offer a lunch or card, or small gift as a thank you. When they don’t offer compliments for anything you have, a sweater, haircut, lipstick, my home, my pet, car, a book, anything.
I am so sorry you are going through that. There is nothing selfish about needing to be seen and appreciated for who you are. You are not selfish for wanting to be acknowledged and included. You matter...you are a good person Donna and I hope that you can find some loving companions who can give you the respect you deserve and spend less time with such selfish self centered people. Wishing you well
I too had people in my life who replaced phone calls and spending time together to sending emails, not necessarily replying to mine, and must have felt that was sufficient for a relationship. No prior arguments, no indication something was wrong, no explanation, just nothing. That's all I needed to know. I stopped trying to communicate and they disappeared. I knew then like I know now that they did not value me. Did it hurt? Absolutely but I've moved on because I know that I deserve better.
If I were in that situation I’d take a long hard look at myself.
@@christinacreates2393 Unless and until you have experienced something of this nature, perhaps you should take a long look at your comment.
Gosh, yes, a lot of self-absorbed people. No matter how much effort you put in they missed the reciprocal part of the lesson.
This is a marvelous message. So much great advice!
I've noticed that people appear to be greatly lacking in communication skills. I find myself repeating what I just said because there is no awknowledgement at all of it. I don't think they feel one way or the other about me, I see so many people doing the same thing thing to others. People seem surprised when I follow and engage in what they are saying or conveying. Like they are being heard for the first time in a long time.
I also remember and come back to ask about the things that we spoke of, their concerns or what is coming up for them or family members. Others don't seem to do that ever or very rarely. Perhaps people have gotten so caught up in themselves that they see no value in anyone else's opinion, interests, concerns or trials.
I hope parents and teachers are able to start teaching good communication skills again. Not holding my breath for that as we live in a world where peoples cell phones are their constant focus, not on those around them.
He’s talking about family members and friendships.
They are successful in doing with telephones and interet separating people and this is a good way to control people talking most about money and do not mention family ties so the demons on charge of government s are doing their work homeless and controlling humans with drugs and povery
I have two sisters , and they are well off . They constantly belittle me and overlook me , I have told them repeatedly to speak to me like they would treat a stranger, Christmas Eve I had a go back, and now they are not speaking to me , and my mother will always take their side , this does not upset me , it is expected, as for my sisters I don't care , I brought my older sister and her children presents and money ,I didn't even get a card , I say no more I am not allowing it !!!!!!!!!!!😊🇬🇧
Well said!
What a wonderful lesson he is giving us.❤
Hallelujah 💜 LOVE will find a way! 🎉One living God One Love 🎉
Thank you Sir for shaking me back to reality..w/ much respect for you Sir I pray God bless you and yours abundantly
Powerful message. EXCELLENT
Truer words if ever.
How I appreciate this lectures👏
Well strategised and logical!❤❤
Thank you very much Sir Anthony Hopkins. This was exactly what I needed. To believe in myself again. After breaking up with people who exactly threaded me the ways you described.🌻
Truth in its simplest form
This includes family as well😢. They are perhaps the hardest to accept. But God...❤
They strip away THEIR dignity. In reality, what is happening is that they feel inferior. It is that they are projecting their insecurities towards you. I think stating that they have no right to belittle you, is the best way to stop the narcissist.
Love your tutorials, thank you! Love these snowflakes! Happy new year, may you have a healthy and joy-filled year!
great sermon...the best brother....im not a doormat afterall🌲even a doormat is valuble
So true
A great actor
Beautiful voice
Not changed by fame
Love his giddyants
Down to earth
Dysfunction doesn’t happen in a vacuum. Many of us were the scapegoats from early childhood in Narcissistic families. Love and acceptance had to be earned and the bar was continually raised so that we were never accepted or appreciated. Growing up with sarcasm, criticism, shame and blame severely damages the child’s sense of self worth. We repeat these relationship dynamics as adults. Finally there is a light at the end of our tunnel.
I have been on the fence about my relationship for quite some time. Like years. Honestly, after listening to this, I have so much clarity. As I listen, I look back at the years and can attach examples through the years I've been with this man to what this video is portraying.
So Beautifully said, Sir Anthony! So up lifting,revealing,trust and care in a relationship,True care is shown in Actions,effort,Thank you!
I come from a very dysfunctional "family", my parents emigrated to Canada in the mid 50's from the UK, taking with them two little girls. parents spilt up, i was concieved during one of many overnight "reunions" and my mom failed to abort me like the one she had done to just before me. my dad finally disappeared forever when i was four. my oldest sister who was a tomboy bad chick running with the druggy gangs bullied me badly as a toddler until she married. mom came back to the UK when i was eight and my youngest sister who was the "good one" out the two was always really nice to me until her bad boy wolf in sheeps clothing husband committed adultery and left her. she really changed and turned against me altho she had gone back to CA. Poison letters condemning me, telling me she never wanted to see me again etc. funny tho, her developed eldest daughter developed muchousen syndrome and that made my sister worse. she disowned her own daughter then too. funny thing is it seemed back then that she was the only one that seemed "unaffected" by the broken family during in the 60's-70's and to a large extent the 80's, is the only one left alive now and more fcuked up than any of us put together ever were. apparently according to my shitstirring cousin, she go's to church. well, living in a garage does'nt make you a motor car.
Yes!! I married a man who had adult children..His daughter ..who is a therapist!. Treats me nice only when her father is nearby....she acts cold friendly. Sad. Does things like call her father at 6 or 7 am just to make sure he made it through the night...every single day. Refuses not to stop. Married 10 yrs now and I have to go outside and pray not to leave because he is a sweet man to me..
Thank You😁😁😁😁😁