Can confirm, being asked to be a friend is weird. One thing, is that sometimes it is necessary to leave people behind. And, sometimes one is the one left behind. In either case, your advice is apt.
@@chiccaraki yeah, and what I’ve realized is the difference between brand new friends, or friends you’ve had for a while. Isn’t quite as big as we might imagine. Some of my friends I met them and they were instantly my best friend I swear.
I agree with the fact that getting to know more friends will lead you to a higher chance to get opportunities you wouldn't have gotten by yourself Though I guess the one major part that's kept me from making new friends (in university at least) is because of the (often justified) fear I have that people are going to take advantage of my friendship purely for their own personal gain.
@@Racers03 yeah it’s true, I have totally felt the same way. And a lot of people will take advantage and hurt you if you are vulnerable. It’s a hard balance.
I get that people see other people as a way to get opportunities but I just don't feel comfortable with that. When I make friends it's not because I see them as a potential stepping stone but I see them as a person and I enjoy their company. I get though the whole opportunities thing but I haven't gotten any job because I knew a friend. If I did get a job that way it was because I had worked with them. And that's only been managers. But getting into the job itself, it has always been because of my own initiative and my ability to pass that interview and my own merit. Though I'm told constantly I'm going to have to learn how to ask people for jobs that I'm friends with. Not sure how I'm going to do that but I guess some day I will.
@ don’t make friends BECAUSE of those opportunities. But I guess the point I was trying to make was more so just that we’re a social species and the more people you know, the more apart you are of the world and the greater a social framework you have the further you can get in life in some ways. I think even just making the effort to be more social, getting out of your comfort zone and meeting new people, can really enhance quality of life.
Hahaha, no I totally feel that I feel like I can only handle a couple of real, deep friendships. I'm talking more along the lines of like casual friends, school friends, or work friends, type of thing.
"There's another person to befriend. Here, I'll mark it on your map."
@@theminecraftbro661 Hahhaha love that
Never befriend coworkers, especially the ones with a criminal record... I've got stories.
Good advice
I don't know why UA-cam recommended this video to me but glad it did
@@CristianLopez-sh8vx happy to hear that 🙏.
Can confirm, being asked to be a friend is weird.
One thing, is that sometimes it is necessary to leave people behind. And, sometimes one is the one left behind. In either case, your advice is apt.
@@chiccaraki yeah, and what I’ve realized is the difference between brand new friends, or friends you’ve had for a while. Isn’t quite as big as we might imagine. Some of my friends I met them and they were instantly my best friend I swear.
@@RawLensGaming yes, we need to bring the good people with us, if they choose to accompany, while finding new ones with which to journey.
I agree with the fact that getting to know more friends will lead you to a higher chance to get opportunities you wouldn't have gotten by yourself
Though I guess the one major part that's kept me from making new friends (in university at least) is because of the (often justified) fear I have that people are going to take advantage of my friendship purely for their own personal gain.
@@Racers03 yeah it’s true, I have totally felt the same way. And a lot of people will take advantage and hurt you if you are vulnerable. It’s a hard balance.
I get that people see other people as a way to get opportunities but I just don't feel comfortable with that. When I make friends it's not because I see them as a potential stepping stone but I see them as a person and I enjoy their company. I get though the whole opportunities thing but I haven't gotten any job because I knew a friend. If I did get a job that way it was because I had worked with them. And that's only been managers. But getting into the job itself, it has always been because of my own initiative and my ability to pass that interview and my own merit.
Though I'm told constantly I'm going to have to learn how to ask people for jobs that I'm friends with. Not sure how I'm going to do that but I guess some day I will.
@ don’t make friends BECAUSE of those opportunities. But I guess the point I was trying to make was more so just that we’re a social species and the more people you know, the more apart you are of the world and the greater a social framework you have the further you can get in life in some ways. I think even just making the effort to be more social, getting out of your comfort zone and meeting new people, can really enhance quality of life.
@@RawLensGaming I guess so. I won't stop making friends though. I like having friends to hang out with and enjoy the present moment with.
@@Goddessღ good, friends are great!
Great advice, but the real question is, HOW can we make more friends? 🤔
Not sure, I’ll look into it and report back 😂🤔.
Alcohol 🍸
@@themagnus2919I don't drink though 😢
My inability to keep up with more than 4 people disagrees
Hahaha, no I totally feel that I feel like I can only handle a couple of real, deep friendships. I'm talking more along the lines of like casual friends, school friends, or work friends, type of thing.
For the sake of my mental health, I will need to make friends eventually, but I just don't trust people.
I totally feel that tbh