ALL THE TIME! I plan every conversation especially when I feel I will upset someone.I plan what and how to say it and how to react ,I assume their reactions and kind of prepare . Most of the time my worrying that they will get upset make my lie or try to escape the situation which is the real think that upset them but I can`t stop
Yes. I sometimes stay awake at least half the night planning how I will respond if they say certain things or how I will explain something so that they will actually understand what I am saying. This is understandable as I have had many situations when I have, for example, failed to get help which I really needed, because of communication breakdown, including a situation where I was being beaten unconscious regularly. Because people on the Autism Spectrum cannot do the same amount of processing in the same amount as time as most people, it really helps to do some processing in advance. So if you are expecting to have a difficult, or important, conversation about something, it makes sense to prepare for it, identifying precisely what you want to focus on, perhaps preparing a vocabularly, using a dictionary & thesaurus, and working out how to describe events etc, in terms the others involved, will understand. This means you might not have to do so much processing during the conversation especially if it does not take too many unexpected turns. I also find it really helps me to prepare for visiting unfamiliar places, because that reduces the amount of processing I have to do during the visit. So for example if I am going on an outing to an unfamiliar place, I get maps of the area & study them, till I have a general idea of the layout. I get any leaflets or read information online, so I am aware of specific features I want to see. If possible I go on google streetview, familiarise myself with the visual landscape, & learn my way around. I find places I can use the toilet, buy a bottle of water, sit down & rest, find shade & shelter, and get food. Sometimes I also locate somewhere I can go for help. I work out what it will be best to wear, (allowing for changes of weather), & what bag/s I will need. I prepare what I need in advance & gather together everything, including such items as a binoculars or a camera, snorkelling gear etc. If using public transport, I get all the timetable & route information, plan my journey, & I identify how to get home if I miss a bus or train etc. This involves hours of work, but makes it possible for me to enjoy outings & sometimes it means I can really help my friends too. It also helps me not to fall over, because I have more processing capacity left to use on processing the lumps, bumps & changes of gradient underfoot. The more familiar a route is, the less processing you have to do, because you have already done some of the processing. It is anxiety provoking to walk an unfamiliar route because it is too much processing for your capacity. The feeling produced by not being able to process what you need to process, when your processing capacity is being overwhemed, is of sheer panic, as if you are about to be obliterated & leads to meltdowns. There is a core impairment involved in Autism which causes the difficulties, symptoms & characteristics, this impairment is called 'Stasis' &, once you know about it, it really helps to make sense of Autism.
I'll occasionally go through a "dry spell" where I won't have a special interest or an extreme one, then I'll latch on to something soon, and they switch through the years
I feel like crying whenever I watch anything about Asperger's because everything in them describes me. I have always felt like a weirdo since highschool. I definitely need to get a diagnosis before I die. I feel like I need to have that closure and validation.
Me too. I'm going into my junior year of high school and I've realized that my friends will point out how I'm very sensitive to certain things and ask me why, but I never know how to answer. My mom has talked about how she thinks I might have aspergers but she doesn't know how to find out if I do.
I pretty much cried through this whole video. I'm not sure if it's because I'm sad that it's fully discribing me... or if I'm happy because, there are others just like me, there is a reason.
I know it’s not a clinical term, but I think people with ASD are empaths. They are super sensitive to the energies around them and they can be very overwhelming for them. And they say Aspies don’t understand what someone else is feeling, but that’s because they cannot label it. They FEEL much more keenly than other people, that’s why they’re so particular and have meltdowns.
I have a tendency to get overwhelmed by other people’s feelings. I get lost in the emotion of someone else and I don’t know where my own emotion ends and the other person’s emotions start. I even get this when watching movies or tv; if there’s a baddass hero kickin’ ass I feel badass, if they take a drink I’ll get a drink etc.
I'm not sure about every single person, but this is very true of me. Or I label it with very simple words like sad/mad/happy. But I am overly empathetic, and people I'm close to I can end up feeling what they feel even if they're miles away. My mom was in Illinois a month or two ago, and she was so upset and exhausted, she couldn't stop laughing. But I felt it and couldn't stop laughing either.
I do as well believe this. I remember being extremely sensitive as a child (I still am today) and getting too emotionally connected with movies or people I don't know and getting very disappointed when I saw someone fall and imagining their emotions and the tragedies in their lives. I don't know if anybody else can relate, but I spend more time thinking about how others may feel instead of myself, and I definitely do relate to the term "empath".
I'm 35 and just always thought my anxiety was really bad or whatever and I found your videos and you've opened my eyes so much thanks a ton great videos
At 78 I’m just learning about Aspergers thru videos like yours. Arriving way late to the table but so glad to have finally found answers to the lifelong feeling of being “different.” My daughter at 36 recently discovered she is an Aspie and thought I might be too. Now I’m spending a lot of time on UA-cam learning about Aspergers and really grateful to channels like yours that give me a sense of community. (I’m female, born in New England but transplanted to the beautiful Ozark mountains in Arkansas thirty-five years ago.)
Leticia Rabelo Same 😅 I find it so much more effective to learn by myself instead of how it was at school 😁 Much interests and so little time to dig in... ich hoffe du bist dran geblieben 😉
ive found a way to make yourself look like you are looking somebody in their eye and its super simple: all you have to do is look at their nose and the point of it. the part where you would boop :)
I look between people's eyes (at the "third eye"), or at just one eye, or if it's a girl I like...I will alternate between staring at her lips and her eyes (as mentioned previously). They like when you look at their lips, I noticed.
That's super helpful and should really be more well known. The only issue is that my co with eye contact is based on the situation and the person. I can look my little sister in the eyes for a bit, I can't even look at the face of somebody who's angry or otherwise unpleasant and untrustworthy.
Newly found autistic and autism has become almost a special interest to a degree. I'm constantly thinking and learning more about it and I love learning more about it!!! GREETINGS FROM NY
OMG same! It's extra interesting because as you learn you learn about yourself too. It's awesome to learn about a trait you didn't know and realise that that's why you act that way or why you find something difficult
I use to have really bad issues with eye contact, but as i got older i kind of got more and more use to it. Now i tend to completely stare into the person's soul though lmao. This video makes a lot of sense though. It puts a lot of pieces together in my head Edit: this is more of a self diagnosis, but i should see a doctor
The exact same thing happened to me. Right now I can look straight into their eyes when they talk to me, but I think it's comfortable for me because I feel like they are focused on their thoughts and what they say and they don't pay attention to me, I guess. But then it happens to me that I get lost in my thoughts so you can see that I look directly at you but I'm lost, I'm not there paying attention :( And I miss part of the conversation because of that, like I remember something or they say something that reminds me or makes me think about something and I don't stop until I realize it late.
Do you think having other disorders (like OCD, ADHD or depresion) make it harder for an aspie to get diagnosed? Like, they would ask me if I had any special interests but I couldn't say any because my depresion made me lose interest in anything (but later on I thought about it and I definitely had special interests in the past)
Without a doubt it makes it harder. The other disorders are more common and have a lot of overlap so they are likely going to be explored first. I honestly don't know if i have ASD, i suspect i do, however i am diagnosed with Major Depression and treatment is focused on that. I laughed so hard at the "throw this in the bin" because i've been there many times. People say to do something that doesn't make sense to me, but its what they said to do, so i do it, then they get upset and ask "why did you do that!". I had to learn not to take things literally, which then means interpreting, which has variables, and what variables they are the weighing and what weight are they giving to each? Combine that with how often people want you to do EXACTLY what they said, no matter how little sense it makes to you, makes following instructions stressful for me.
Definately, since asperger kind of consists of parts of adhd, ocd, depression. Some aspies like me even have some sociopathic symptoms. I have now watched a few of this guys videos and one thing he doesent really talk about is aspergers and empathy, and many people with aspergers dont really feel empathy like other people, similar to sociopaths with the difference that they can still feel empathy and they can feel remorse over their actions. I was first suspected of adhd as a kid (and rn i think i may have it), but the meds they gave me just made me really sad and didnt really work.
“So I can just sort of overdose on this information” Yes, that is the perfect way to phrase it! So relatable. I am so excited to have finally been properly diagnosed because it is waking me up to this whole world of possibility that there a people who actually understand me and I can understand because we think similarly in that our thought patterns and sensory experience is so very different from the average person. Thank you so much for your videos!
Along with echolalia comes reciting lines from one's favorite movies... My daughter and I have complete conversations back and forth just using movie lines!
Hello from The Philippines! 1. Eye Contact: Although I can look people in the eye, I can only look for a few minutes. I really can't explain why, I just feel uncomfortable when I do eye contact for too long. 2. Special Interests: Like I said, I'm currently interested with History, Autism, and Video Games. 3. Literal Thinking: I'm very much improved with this aspect, people tell me that I'm the most sarcastic person they met, so I must be doing something right, right? 4. Routines: Although I pride myself with a flexible routine, I still follow a routine. It's a simple one really, wake up, eat breakfast (or Brunch), take a bath, and recreation. 5. Sensory Processing Issues: There is only one kind food I refuse to eat, even if I starve: Curry. Not only is its texture looks like puke with yellow food colouring, its smell is utterly disgusting. Oh, and yes, I hate bright light, especially sunlight. 6. Repeating Words: I've never caught myself repeating words. On the flipside, I do speak in an American accent but with a British vocabulary. 7. Social Cues: Come to think about it, I've always barged into my classmates' conversations. Unfortunately, they're too polite to point out my wrong-doings. As of now, It's 4:14, so I should really go to sleep.
MAN. YOU DON’T EVEN KNOW HOW THANKFUL I AM FOR YOU UPLOADING THIS. 16 years in hell and always wondered why I always felt so much different. now I’m waiting for my appointment with my therapist, there is a lot to talk about. Thank you man.
There is a Tex Avery cartoon that told a story and gave literal depictions of many, many idioms, and I LOVED it! I only saw it once on TV, but I remember it still as an adult.
@@GBfanatic15 Yes! That one always freaked me out. It also freaked out my daughter when she was 3, she changed the words to “the baby will not fall”. 😊
I haven't been diagnosed (I'm on a waitlist to see a specialist) but I'm still trying to differentiate between my panic attacks and possible meltdowns and its really difficult. All my other symptoms make sense, especially my sensitivity to sensory things, but I have a hard time figuring out what meltdowns really are, how they differ from person to person, how I can tell its not just my anxiety. I have so many of these signs, its crazy that no one even tried to diagnose me earlier! Love your videos, watching all the way from Canada!
It took 10 years of various counselors, therapists, diagnosis, and medications until I started seeing someone who put all of the signs together and referred me to a specialist for testing. I got diagnosed this past summer, I’m a guy in my mid 20’s. As far as panic attack vs meltdown goes the way I am able to tell is I recover from a panic attack much more quickly. A meltdown can knock me out of sync for several days. Panic attacks I recover the same day. Good luck to you, testing was very interesting. Mine took 12 hours over the course of 4 days, but part of he process taking so long was due to my excessive detail sharing.
Same, fellow Canuck here! Waiting list, bummer it's years long...I even looked up in the private sector but it's loads of money and a year wait time!! 😱 meanwhile I'm struggling, daily.
May be different for you, but for me meltdowns involve strong irritation and anger which tends to end in tears. Panic attacks are not angry, just rapid heartbeat and breathing, feeling like a weight is on my chest, like I'm dying almost, racing mind etc.
watching from Oregon, I just found your channel. I was diagnosed 4 years ago at 20 years old with ADHD and Asperger's and it changed my life. Everything makes sense as to why I am the way I am.
I didn't really know much about Autism. My best friends son was diagnosed in his mid-teens about 3 years ago and over the past two years I have met and formed friendships with several Aspie people. I stumbled on your vids by accident and they have helped me communicate effectively and be more patient with my Aspie friends. I take it as a huge compliment when they tell me "you get it." I can say that you gotta take credit for that too as you explain your reality so very clearly, that I can't help but get it. Thank you for posting these amazing videos. Watching from Sheffield, UK.
Little note: Watching the TV show "Lie to Me" helped me be better able to pick up on more body language cues. Some of the cues include looking at people's feet to see if they are still interested in talking (feet direction has helped me a lot with understanding when to stop).
My 7 year old daughter has learned a great deal of her language from tv and music. She will play pieces of a show or music over and over and Over. Then she takes that language and applies it appropriately in real life. She has a more severe form of autism however and is still minimally verbal with receptive language difficulty as well.
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Hello from Minneapolis, Minnesota USA. I wasn’t diagnosed with Asperger’s until I was 43, and I find your content extremely relatable. I’m still learning about the condition, and your videos offer a perspective not shown in books or explained by mental health professionals. Thank you so much for providing this material!
I have questionable social skills.I can't engage in small talk I can only discuss things that I have spent hours researching and are very precise. I spent all my time listening to podcasts and lectures so I'm able to speak to other people but I come off as intense. Is this ASD?
TL;DR, Great video! My feedback: I don't identify with all symptoms but I'm still on the spectrum. Don't let not identifying with all symptoms stop you from exploring a diagnosis. I know, I know that's not what you're saying, but it bears repeating. You said you don't know anyone on the spectrum who doesn't have obsessive interests. Well, you do now! :-) Thanks for your vids! ASD woman here, formally diagnosed three years ago at the age of 43. The diagnosis made so much sense to me and clarified a lot. I always suffered from anxiety, especially social anxiety, and this was a large reason for me to explore the subject and I eventually received the diagnosis. Previous to my diagnosis, I thought, I can't have autism, because I have no "obsessive" or "narrow" interests. So, for years, I thought, I might be a lot of things, but I'm not autistic. BUT, that's not true. So, although having intense interests might be an important indicator for some, it doesn't resonate with me much. To be fair, I think obsessive interests were a factor in my childhood, and perhaps I don't think of myself as having obsessive interests in my adulthood as they're not apparent to me as such. I don't like fantasy novels, SciFi or video games. jk :-) Oh, where I'm watching from? From South Africa. On holiday. I'm Australian and live in The Netherlands.
From Wikipedia: "Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater" is an idiomatic expression for an avoidable error in which something good is eliminated when trying to get rid of something bad, or in other words, rejecting the favorable along with the unfavorable. It comes from German. I don't know if it will help, but I always picture it (or any idiom) literally and then translate the items into other items. For instance, “They don’t want to make the distinction between one independently owned franchise location and another. They’re throwing the baby out with the bathwater with this regulation.” [The Washington Times]. So I picture the individual franchise location as the baby, and the whole corporation as the bathwater. I don't think that's a very helpful example but I can't find one online and I can't come up with one off the top of my head.
Thank you so much for sharing this video. Eye contacts, obsessions, loving routines, sensory issues, repeating sentences, social cues issues... I made a lot of efforts to fix them as a kid who did not know she had Asperger's. Since I was diagnosed at the age of 19, now I am 25 years old and started to realise that trying to cover these features makes me even more mentally unstable as well as creates conscious and subconscoius resentments towards people around me like "why do I have to pretend myself" or "nobody understands and truly loves me". I am dealing better with my Aspie looking into the symptoms and how other Aspies deal with themselves. The biggest relief has come when I stopped feeling ashamed of my syndrome. I talked about it with my boyfriend and he saved my heart. So, I just wanted to say that albeit you can make an effort to decrease symptoms of Asperger's but it is not always good for your mental health. We feel difficulty fitting in this society not because we are inferior but because we are a minority. Love and Peace!
So I have always worn black and grey shirts with jeans and it took me until I was in my late 20s to realize this was autism related or that I even did that lol. I would try to buy different cloths and colors, but then I would never wear that.
I have three shirts and pants I will wear out. Usually, I'll wear a sweatshirt, even in the summer time. It's just comfortable for me. Done this with other clothes my entire life. Hate dresses and baggy pants, etc.
I am a 67 year old woman living in California with my husband of 32 years. Just found out last year through me going to marriage counseling (he would not go) that he has Asperger's. I knew he had some weird quirks and now it all makes better sense, that being said however, it's been one of the hardest things to deal with. I kept wondering why after 32 years of marriage nothing has changed or gotten better. I am now relearning our relationship and it's hell. Books and videos have helped me understand it better and all the things he did all these years were not intentional to hurt me, but they did. Thank you for your channel, I will definitely tune in to learn more.
I'm from North Dakota. I can relate to all the points in this video. Also I scored a 46 when I did the aq test. But none of my friends I've talked to about this believe that I could be autistic. Your videos have been so helpful for me to understand so many difficulties I've delt with my entire life. I wish trying to get a diagnosis didn't take so much time and money.
I’m watching from Minnesota. My two boys have aspergers . My older son got some help in school in it. His school was really good and it helped him quite a bit. My ex husband wouldn’t allow our youngest son get help. I wish I could help him more without making him mad. I work with people with autism in group homes.
The more I learn about this the harder it hits home . I've recently started working as a support worker , supporting people with a range needs and I love it . after my first autism training I got home and the whole thing hit me hard ! I have a long history of obsessive behaviour/anxiety/depression and thought that it was what it was yet I discovered this and there's no better way I've found to describe myself . Thing is that I've discovered that I've been masking heavily over the years and to be honest I don't have a clue who I am anymore , so much stuff I thought everyone did I now realised they don't and it makes me understand why hardly anyone understands what im On about unless I strain really hard to filter and condense my ideas . Could use some advice to be honest .
Enjoying your videos from El Paso Texas. My son is 14 and was diagnosed with ADD and later Aspergers. Thank you for your dedication to educating the world on Aspies..You have been tremendously helpfull.I hope my son can one day be like you.
Hello, I'm 37 and for the last couple of years I have suspected I might have aspergers. I'm awaiting an assesment and I've been afraid to do research as I don't want to convince myself I am just to have the test say I'm not. Today I got over my fear and decided to listen to your podcast. I listened to about 4 episodes on a walk. During this episode when you talked about achaelea I stopped and my jaw dropped and I just cried and cried (luckily I was on a forest walk with no one around). It's like you're describing my life. I'm happy that I might finally have an answer of why I've always felt different and strange. Thank you, I just wanted you to know that you've helped and affected me and I'm so grateful. I'm now going to listen and look at everything you've done!
I have all of them! Even the way I picking up accent! I thought everyone is like this until I am sent to an autism specialized therapist by my counselor. So many puzzle pieces now put together. Sun light gives me pressure pain at the bottom of my eye sockets. Those white light from bulbs makes me depressed like walking into a morgue on top of irritating my eyes. Walking by bath and body works makes my head hollow and I feel the pressure inside about to explode my head up. Same allies to Indian foods. Everyone close to me knows I have trouble with jokes. I take words so literally beyond belief. Easily getting anxious. Getting dumped cold turkey or being used like a sucker by female “friends” is a lifelong theme, I never understood why. Now I do and it is a huge relief.
i am mom of aspie 16 yr old boy. I want to add that some of the characteristics ( behaviors ) do change with time - for example my son would refuse to eat puddings , yogurt , ice cream , whipped cream when he was younger. but after trying these things finally in his teens he now likes them. there are other things too that changed through the years.. one constant is the stimming - always been the same
When you said that ppl talk and talk and talk, i do this so much, and one of my obsessions is knowing things, so when my teacher is teaching something i just totally take over, i do this so much and for so long that other students in the class turns around and looks at me and asks ME questions
I always knew I was very different by the time I was 9-10 years old. I couldn’t go to football games, shopping malls or supermarkets without feeling intense anxiety. I couldn’t order food without experiencing intense anxiety. By middle school going into high school, public education was a nightmare and I couldn’t concentrate due to so many distractions and attention. I could not understand sarcasm from others and took things very literally (idioms were quite weird). My syntax and diction was very eccentric and unusual, and I did terrible in debates but loved communicating via computers. Veering away from any personal pattern sparked immediate anxiety and frustration. I felt like a hypersensitive computer gathering data of everyone around me in attempt to put together the life puzzle. I researched endlessly and explored all avenues for understanding my cognitive behavior, employing psychoanalysis, psychedelics and meditation to help reconfigure my brain. I eventually found Traveling abroad can be very helpful for those with aspergers because they’re in a foreign setting free from judgement by their native peers. This is what first helped really ameliorate my negative asperger symptoms. Now of course the caveat is becoming normalized in a foreign culture, then the onset of asp symptoms re-emerge. Regardless such an environment allows oneself to keenly assess their own behavior in relation to others. The ironic thing about this journey was it wasn’t until I became quite confident, seemingly neural typical, and spiritually sound that I realized I had aspergers all along. I thought I had ADD or Bipolar, but it was never sufficient. Instead of relying on labels I turned to philosophy, psychology, and theology to gauge the middle path. By understanding life, my place in life, and my nature, I was able to tune my brain dials to appropriate levels. The benefits and strengths aspergers gave me i maximized, and my weaknesses I strengthened. Aspergians are like empathic super humans. I don’t say this to gloat or lie to myself; rather we have a unique perception of the world around us. We feel more, thus we see more. We study the intent of others and the nature of society so much more deeply for our own sake, which consequently results in the betterment for everyone else for many reasons. It’s almost as if we’re not from this planet, or, our unique wiring permits the soul to see itself inside a body trying to learn to be one with the mind and body complex within themselves and others.
This is what I do because I can't make eye contact: I look at their four head. This makes it looks like you are looking into their eyes to them but you actually arent
just gonna add my comment to everything! 1: i did always avoid eye contact until everyone pointed it out a lot and said it was disrespectful, now i can't keep my eyes of theirs and feel uncomfortable hoping the conversation will end asap! 2: all of my attention goes to harry potter, it was once one direction but i grew out of it and continued with harry potter. rn i get obsessed with crystals and incense stuff. all i talk is about this and people are so annoyed, all my money goes to this, i got a lot! and i never get tired of it 3: things like the one with cats and dogs, i never understood. i still have difficulties understanding these and always have to ask. also since i always get called out for taking literal i started asking for what to do exactly. i get scared, i get a panic attack, anxiety attack. it freaks me out.. 4: i have this routine on how to get up in the morning, what to do first when i arrive at work. i always have a lollipop after work, i get freaked out when i don't. i hate when this change but i also have another routine at my boyfriends because it's not the same if i do my used routine at his. 5: i have a problem with loud noises. i cover my ears, i panic, i start to cry. when people touch me i flinch, expectations are people very close to me even tho it still happens with them too but not that often., textures like meat or mushrooms trigger me, i can't eat this. it's just no!! also bright light! bright light always is and always was a problem to me.. my boyfriend has very bright light and he always put it a bit darker for me so i don't freak out. 6: repeating word is a thing i always catch me doing, i mimic the other people, i copy other people for so long until i talk it out loud like them.. 7: social communication? i work at a kindergarten but other like that it's hard. i have problems to know when i should start talk. i have problems to stop talking especially when i'm at my boyfriends
"Throwing out the baby with the bath water" actually comes from a literal meaning... Some centuries ago, when tap water was not readily available, taking a bath was kind of a problem: you had to fill a large tub with water and then the people that made your household used the same water to bathe in a hierarchical order. That usually meant that the older male of the house used it first (usually the father) followed by the mother, and then the kids in order of their age. Obviously, the youngest (baby) of the family took the bath last, so by then, the water was quite unclean and murky (yuck!) So you could literally get the baby lost in the filth and toss him out with the contents of the tub, if you were not careful. Basically, it is a metaphor for one to be careful about something. You don't want to throw out something valuable (the baby in the story) by being inattentive or careless. Greetings from tropical Costa Rica!
Interesting im not autistic and interpret this slightly differently, a bit more abstractly. Rather than simply be careful in a general or vague sense I have always understood it to be referring to not engaging in black and white thinking where you might be tempted to instantly disregard all aspects of something because in doing so you might miss something valuable. For example my husband being quite a black and white thinker is quite distrusting of medicine because of the extensive and proven mistakes and corruption among the medical industry. But I use this saying to remind him not to instantly disregard all medicine because of this, as I doing so he will be throwing out alot of the valuable things medicine has brought society
wow. a few years ago, i had to move to a different school overseas. when i got there, my english teacher wanted to know what i sounded like because i came from new zealand and the new zealand accent is very distinct. i read out a passage from a book to her and she said that i had more of an american accent. i watch a lot of youtube in my spare time. thank you so much, this explains a lot
I don't know if I am on the Asperger's spectrum, but I feel really close to everything you said. I've often been told that I'm annoying or stuck up because I overreact when touched lightly, it just makes my skin crawl! I can relate to the food one too! I sometimes had to throw the food out even though I loved it in general because my brain just went "eww" and made me gag. I have always brushed all these things off as me being weird, but now I'm seriously considering looking further into it.
Hi from Merriville indiana, i have ADD and aspergers. I am a criminal justice student and planing on become a police officer. Your videos are inspiring and fun to watch. Thank you for doing videos on this.
I related to everything in this video! One example I can think of is my finger tips and nails are extremely sensitive. I can't file my nails, scratch anything if my nails are long, or feel clothes with my nails. My sister was so confused when I told her the sequins hurt my fingerd on the pillows that change images when you move them back and forth. I dont know how to describe it more than hurting and making me cringe...
When I was younger (7-13), I was obsessed with sports statistics, and I mean sickly obsessed. Particularly baseball statistics since they have the longest season and they have the "&" (ampersand) sign to designated whoever won their respective division. Wow, to this day I am still absolutely in-love with the ampersand sign. I didn't even realize that I may have Asperger's until my nurse mentioned it to me last fall (I was 23 at the time.) and after she said it, everything instantly clicked for me: my awkwardness, etc. all began to make sense. Great video.
Thank you, I have all three twoo, which made it hard for me to know what was going on. I'm literally answering YES to ALL the symptoms (women and men have slightly a bit of different symptoms...) on top of it I have also have CPTSD too, with abusive parents as a child, and as an adult husband... I'm strong though, and my best and onky friend aside from my kids, who knows a lot about ADHD said she would have never known... I'm not happy to have these issues, however I'm happy that I FINALLY know what was "wrong" with me... Thank you for your information - you and the ithet GREAT people on YT have been such a relief for me. Thanks!!!!!!! 🌷
Hi, I'm a mom from the US. I have several people in my immediate family on the spectrum and I think it is quite possible for me as well. Thank you for the information and your honesty. I feel this condition or state of being is more mysterious the more I learn. Keep the vids coming. I enjoy them.
I was planning on doing a collab on common traits that most aspies have that I don’t. I was hoping you’d join in but you don’t have to if you don’t want to. Also I’m watching from Virginia USA. Hopefully you can come there soon 😃
I'm 18 and I have Aspergers. My school is poorly informed about the conditions. I was yelled at by my accounting teacher for forgetting my book (despite not being told it was the same book from last year XD) and I got really upset because he obviously doesn't know what I'm dealing with, and I cried because I feel so defective due to such a simple mistake. I love being an Aspie; my hyper fixation on my writing has given my life meaning and I love it, but more people NEED to understand this. Thank you for making these videos, I really appreciate you informing people about this stuff
hi dan! Can you make a video about autism and sexual orintation or gender identity? 'cause i feel like there is a lot of people with autism that struggle with it (of course neuratypical people struggle with it too) and i think that it would be a quite interesting video! and to answer the question in this video i'm from denmark!
@@maiynnai From my comment above you can see I try to figure out if I may be autistic and there is big chance I may be had this topic is huge for me because I struggle a lot with my gender identity that lead to strong anxiety.I will be really happy to see video like this !!!!
@@behindzerosp you might want to check out Aaron Ansuini or the channel "ask an autistic". Aaron is a disabled, trans and autistic advocate on you tube. He talks about gender and disability a lot. Ask an autistic is a bit more autism focused.
Hello I’m watching from sweden. 1. But I can look at someone in the eyes for a quick moment, it’s a bit disturbing but I do it to fit in a bit more and it differs from person to person. 2. To get into everything will take too long but one of the first things that my parents, and I, remember is when I was 5 and recited my favourite book word for word. (I loved it because of the art and how I could relate to the Kitten who got anxious about everything) I counted the words of it yesterday and it was like 600 words in total. 3. I take everything literal but by studying TV shows and humour I have it much easier to understand most the obvious parts of sarcasm, irony etc. 4. God... I have the same morning routine every day except for weekends when I need to sleep as much as possible because my school is very energy consuming. 5. I have to have music in my ears most of the day because I cannot stand high Decibels from other humans. I also have this thing where with most people I feel uncomfortable being touched by people but others I am closer too I can be overly clingy and I never know why. I can’t eat bread in the morning without gagging, my smell is certainly the most heightened because almost everything makes me gag and eggs are just... no it doesn’t work, I can stand most lights except for some stores and public places where I just get a headache. 6. I used to watch these Swedish prop/theatre comedians and every single person I watch I adapt something from them which just makes me feel like I don’t have my own personality at times. 7. This one is mostly about getting someone’s attention without saying anything. That and what you said about knowing when to talk, I am rubbish at that.
I believe I may have Asperger's. For all my life ever since I was little I have had an extremely difficult time socializing with my peers. I have had a history of petit mal seizures and twice I have had grand mal seizures. I believe they are caused by extreme anxiety attacks. It's extremely difficult to look someone in the eye, especially authority figures. I have phases of all encompassing obsessions. When I was age 6-10 I was obsessed with Spider-Man, when I was 12 I was obsessed with WW2, When I was a teen I was obsessed with Resident Evil 4 ( beat it probably well over 20 within a few years) Then I was obsessed with anime and martial arts. My mother has always described me as somewhat of a genius. I was walking at 9 months however I refused to talk until I was about 4 years old. And I didn't have a first word, I had a first sentence. I had the ability to talk the whole time I just chose not to. My shyness and social anxiety is pretty bad, I usually have to work my way in to friendships. When I am with friends, depending on who I am with I don't feel like I am really being myself, instead I'll will mimic actions and personality traits of people within that circle in order to socialize. I'm academically very smart. I joined the police academy 2 years ago and graduated at the top of the class. Out of 18 students I had the highest grades and placed first place at graduation, however when I actually got out on the road I lost my job within a year because I just did not know how to socialize with the public or even my fellow officers. I lost my career based on how socially awkward I am around people I do not know. That's when I started looking into all my symptoms and it led me here. I'm going to speak to my doc to see if I do in fact have it or not. All my life I've been described as awkward, quirky, intelligent and kind of weird. I wonder if this may be an explanation.
I've never been diagnosed, and probably don't meet enough criteria for Aspergers, but I have a lot of traits- enough so that when I meet new people on the spectrum, they will often ask me at some point if I've been diagnosed. Sensory issues (esp fabrics! And lights, smells, and sounds), social awkwarness and talking, and obsessive interests are very apparent with me. My husband has echolalia (repeats your last word as you say it or mouths it), sensory issues, and other things as well. Our son is a true combination of us and is your completely, absolutely sterotypical Aspergers kid- all 7 characteristics and then some. He's 14 now and my absolute favorite human. Thanks for being you, and sharing yourself, your experience, and your knowledge with all of us :-)
It should be noted that a large percentage of people on the autistic spectrum have a metabolic disorder called pyroluria,which results in a severe zinc and b6 deficiency.A lot of the anxiety/depression symptoms can be traced to a lack of these vitamins.If you think you have aspergers or other expressions of autism,get yourself tested for pyroluria with a good knowledgable naturpath.Zinc deficiency is serious
I have anxiety and the sensory processing just makes it works. Funnily enough the pressure thing causes me to tap people extremely hard (I have a batters arm) also I’m watching from Connecticut!
Hello and thank you for sharing this information. I am from Michigan, USA. My mother's family comes from England and Wales. We are related to the Drakes. I am 57 years old and it is the first time that I have ever commented on a U-Tube video. My daughter has been researching this subject quite a bit. She has been sharing a lot of what she has learned with me. I often wonder why so many people (including myself and my children) have autism. It was very difficult for me when I was a child, getting the impression that there must be something 'wrong' with me. I have ALL of those symptoms. I am very independent and have a difficult time being around people. Even those that I love. Ironically, I am a hair stylist and I talk a lot. But I am getting better at listening and allowing silence. Yeah, it gets painful. Major accomplishment for me.....lol
on the topic of lights... I hate hate hate blue lights! Driving at night around Christmas is awful... The blue lights hurt my eyes so bad and they just look really blurry to me.
Well im from nz -Its great just coming to these kind of videos to learn . Becauxe my son has dyslexia and my daughter has adhd an autism and my partner in crime ...my ride or die has Asperger's so i embrace learning because u can never know everything . Everyday is different an there's always something to learn as thats my world an the kind of journey i choose to have .....and i dont see it as any different then someone like me who doesnt .... And ive not had to change who i am to be like them ..... They make me who i am today an theres nothing i would never do for them ❤
I just found your channel and appreciate your videos. I'm a recently diagnosed Aspie and a late diagnosed (37). I always thought I was just weird but it all makes sense now. I've always been drawn to music and I have been playing piano since I was 10 (self taught and play by ear)
Watching from a city near Paris [France]. Discovered this syndrome a few days ago and compiling everything talking about it now. Thank you for your vidéo.
hahah, that was so dead on point when you said looking someone into their eyes is like reaching into their soul, I'm avoiding eye contact from same reason. I don't want to do it to others and I dont' want others do it to mee either. When you look at them you can see it all, all their positives, negatives, insecurities, flaws, in some way you strip them down when you look at them, I just want to have conversation and exchange basic data, I don't want to know everything else about the person too. I also don't want to create opinion of their soul because it influences my objectivity then to the data they're throwing out.I think I need on average like 1 minute max of when I meet a new person to know exactly in what situations he's going to screw me over, in what situations I can count on them, how they're going to react in different situations, their morals and reactions on social situations.
Watching in California Obsess a lot about water, bugs, psychology, photography, music And now learning about the autism spectrum has been an intense interest for several months now, like thats all ive read about, every day, for months. Baby and bathwater! Haha And apple of my eye. Could not figure out how an apple and an eye were related at all, like enough to be used in a phrase together Same clothes, same food, Can change, but it takes so much effort to cope with new change, even if its good. same routine (must have music on) Can't do soft touch either, bothers so much. Sunglasses all day, indoors too. The more i investigate, the more i feel secure that ive found the answer ive been looking for Thanks for these informative videos!
Hello! My mom and sister are diagnosed with ADHD and autism. I am diagnosed with ADHD, but I am not diagnosed as autistic and I experience many of the things that autistic people do. 1. Taking things literally. I have learned the art of sarcasm, but I honestly NEVER understood figures of speech. Still to this day I am completely stumped by most figures of speech. 2. Social cues! Oh man, I can’t tell you how many times I’ve ruined other people’s jokes/stories because of this. I also have learned to avoid group settings because I always end up saying/doing something awkward or socially inappropriate. Social etiquette is something I never quite “got”, even though I’m an extroverted personality. I’m always unintentionally pissing people off. 3. Eye contact! I have been told that my eyes are always “darting around the room” during conversation. I can’t help it, looking into other people’s eyes makes me feel psychically sick. 4. Obsessions. Oh my lord. I do become super fixated on things, however, (I believe this is due to my ADHD) it doesn’t take very long for me to lose interest and find a new obsession. It completely engulfs my mind for a while, then I suddenly give up, get bored, or get distracted by a new interest. I can’t tell you how many unfinished projects I’ve started. 5. Sensory processing. Everyone always told me my entire life that I was just being a brat because many noises actually bother me so much that I get incredibly irritated. Hearing someone drink pop, eat cereal, or set a cup down on a table will literally send me into a rage. Another thing sensory issue I have of course is lights (particularly fluorescent or flashing lights), but the strange stimulation issue I have is certain visual things. For instance, floral aisles in the craft store (especially if the shelves of flowers is too tall and the flowers are jam packed together), ornate patterns on vases, stained glass windows in a chapel, antique stores, or when people have Knick knacks all over the shelves in their house. I feel an extreme sense of discomfort, lightheartedness, and panic. It’s the strangest thing and I never understood why I am like this
I have no diagnosis, language is not an issue, do not take things literally but I do have problems with certain smells (like musk) and lights (ceiling spots). It makes me avoid people and stores. Also big crowds make me angry and anxious. and very tired.
It's also possible to have a sensory processing disorder (in this case being highly sensitive) without being on the autism spectrum! It's when the brain has problems filtering, so you may have trouble when a lot of people are talking at ones and avoid certain smells, sounds etc. and are getting tired easily by being around those things. Stimming does help, or directing the sensory input (put in earphones with soft music, wear sunglasses, maybe have something that feels good to touch in your pocket just in case). If you feel troubled by this or feel constantly overwhelmed, definitely go seek out a professional!
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Hi from Brazil. In my case I'm in doubt. I scored just above the thresholds of suspicion for some tests and I do recognize minor intensity on some traits, but there's not anything too intense excepting perhaps social difficulties, which I've gotten better at but still am bellow my peers in skill. I didn't know echolalia could take this form of registering what someone said. I do that sometimes. I don't know if I've picked this habit out of observing the mannerism of others, but it's there. In my case it's just a form of consciously registering what someone said for easier processing. My oral verbal processing also takes a wee little bit more sometimes, and I'll understand what someone said a short time after. All of it seems very mild even for what I've seem of aspergers accounts, but not neurotypical either.
Hi from Las Vegas, Nevada, USA. I'm a 54 lady, and I believe I also have ADHD, autism, OCD, and dyslexia - just like you. Lif2 have been super hard, but little by little I've been literally beaten out of me, andvibhad to work extra hard to fit in. It made me quite high functioning. A good example is that I was the class clown asd a child, and whatn I tell people today, they can't believe me - im so put together. I also got thick red 4 for behavior, yet I eas super smart, and after a tests with v several 10s of thousands of other kids my own age, I was one of the top ten. My father and brother were geniuses. My mother was never tested but it wouldn't surprise me now that she too was "weird." Every time you have these lists, or others asd well, I always get 90% of your lisr. Would you talk more about your ADHD, dyslexia and OCD please - especially dyslexia. That one im suspecting lately because I see the word correctly on my text, but after I reread what I already sent it, it's riddled with misspellings and I get super embarrassed. Thank you 😊
This is my son, he is 6 next month and he has all these traits, he use to repeat what I said constantly I thought he was winding me up, he repeats lines from shows, and wakes up saying them. He's obsessed with Godzilla and Minecraft, it's all he talks about and literally can not stop talking to let others speak. I'm only now beginning to put all the pieces together because his development has been spot on, thanks for your videos
I only have ADHD and OCD (no autism) but there is some definite overlap. I have sensory issues as well and eye contact is somewhat difficult (I've learned that if I watch someone's mouth or stare at the tip of their nose or their hairline, they can't tell I'm not making eye contact). Social cues are definitely difficult for me, too. This could be why I identify with my son, who was diagnosed with autism this summer, more than anyone else. Also, I'm from Illinois, in the US (not far from Chicago)
I love spending huge periods of time at home (reading, writing, playing video games, and whatnot). I feel free when I'm on my own. Large crowds make feel smothered. When it comes to phone calls it's like "why do you have to call me? Don't you have anything else to do? Why bother me at this time?" Outings... I come up with some excuse not to go out or join them. I have my daily routine, and yes, I get upset if there's a sudden change. I'm over the moon if I was supposed to go out and it gets cancelled. When something tickles my fancy/interest I can read and watch about it relentlessly. You're right, I wanna know every detail there is to learn. But I do it obsessively. An ex told me I had OCD, as she saw my obsession with certain topics. I would laugh it off, tho'. Now I know she was right. The duration of a conversation depends on whom and what the subject is about. If I'm not interested, I just switch off. Now, talk to me about something I have some knowledge about, or something I wanna know about, and you'll have me talking the whole night thru. I tend to overthink. Not very good at making my mind up. Even the slightest decision can make me feel awkward, uncomfortable. I practice Chinese calligraphy, and when I lived in China, I would buy brushes by the handful, even if I didn't need so many. Or when I was obsessed with the Titanic, I'd buy anything on her, books, vids, .... Anything to do with the "Ship of Dreams" I would get. I can't help it. Same went on when I was obsessed with WW2. I also relate to a lot of traits of INTP and INFJ. Great vids, by the way. I watch them religiously. Greetings from Tenerife.
Does anyone else find themselves worrying about arguments that haven't even happened yet?
Yeah.
ALL THE TIME! I plan every conversation especially when I feel I will upset someone.I plan what and how to say it and how to react ,I assume their reactions and kind of prepare . Most of the time my worrying that they will get upset make my lie or try to escape the situation which is the real think that upset them but I can`t stop
Yes!! I get so upset about what someone is going to say or do, and often plan my argument, before I even see them.
Yes. I plan carefully what i will say and anticipate what they will reply, so i can have a rough idea of what i will reply to their reply.
Yes. I sometimes stay awake at least half the night planning how I will respond if they say certain things or how I will explain something so that they will actually understand what I am saying. This is understandable as I have had many situations when I have, for example, failed to get help which I really needed, because of communication breakdown, including a situation where I was being beaten unconscious regularly.
Because people on the Autism Spectrum cannot do the same amount of processing in the same amount as time as most people, it really helps to do some processing in advance. So if you are expecting to have a difficult, or important, conversation about something, it makes sense to prepare for it, identifying precisely what you want to focus on, perhaps preparing a vocabularly, using a dictionary & thesaurus, and working out how to describe events etc, in terms the others involved, will understand. This means you might not have to do so much processing during the conversation especially if it does not take too many unexpected turns.
I also find it really helps me to prepare for visiting unfamiliar places, because that reduces the amount of processing I have to do during the visit. So for example if I am going on an outing to an unfamiliar place, I get maps of the area & study them, till I have a general idea of the layout. I get any leaflets or read information online, so I am aware of specific features I want to see. If possible I go on google streetview, familiarise myself with the visual landscape, & learn my way around. I find places I can use the toilet, buy a bottle of water, sit down & rest, find shade & shelter, and get food. Sometimes I also locate somewhere I can go for help.
I work out what it will be best to wear, (allowing for changes of weather), & what bag/s I will need. I prepare what I need in advance & gather together everything, including such items as a binoculars or a camera, snorkelling gear etc.
If using public transport, I get all the timetable & route information, plan my journey, & I identify how to get home if I miss a bus or train etc. This involves hours of work, but makes it possible for me to enjoy outings & sometimes it means I can really help my friends too. It also helps me not to fall over, because I have more processing capacity left to use on processing the lumps, bumps & changes of gradient underfoot.
The more familiar a route is, the less processing you have to do, because you have already done some of the processing. It is anxiety provoking to walk an unfamiliar route because it is too much processing for your capacity. The feeling produced by not being able to process what you need to process, when your processing capacity is being overwhemed, is of sheer panic, as if you are about to be obliterated & leads to meltdowns.
There is a core impairment involved in Autism which causes the difficulties, symptoms & characteristics, this impairment is called 'Stasis' &, once you know about it, it really helps to make sense of Autism.
I'll occasionally go through a "dry spell" where I won't have a special interest or an extreme one, then I'll latch on to something soon, and they switch through the years
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Same here expect my usually stay within the realm of adventures, superheroes and powers, or basic slice of life
I am EXACTLY the same.
I’m usually pretty depressed during those
Likewise!!
I feel like crying whenever I watch anything about Asperger's because everything in them describes me. I have always felt like a weirdo since highschool. I definitely need to get a diagnosis before I die. I feel like I need to have that closure and validation.
Aw that’s ok.
Me too. I'm going into my junior year of high school and I've realized that my friends will point out how I'm very sensitive to certain things and ask me why, but I never know how to answer. My mom has talked about how she thinks I might have aspergers but she doesn't know how to find out if I do.
rayanne liu if you have autism it doesn’t matter your still awesome your still you
Don't worry, you may know this already, but the diagnose won't change you. Keep it strong 💪
I pretty much cried through this whole video. I'm not sure if it's because I'm sad that it's fully discribing me... or if I'm happy because, there are others just like me, there is a reason.
I know it’s not a clinical term, but I think people with ASD are empaths. They are super sensitive to the energies around them and they can be very overwhelming for them. And they say Aspies don’t understand what someone else is feeling, but that’s because they cannot label it. They FEEL much more keenly than other people, that’s why they’re so particular and have meltdowns.
I have a tendency to get overwhelmed by other people’s feelings. I get lost in the emotion of someone else and I don’t know where my own emotion ends and the other person’s emotions start. I even get this when watching movies or tv; if there’s a baddass hero kickin’ ass I feel badass, if they take a drink I’ll get a drink etc.
I'm not sure about every single person, but this is very true of me. Or I label it with very simple words like sad/mad/happy. But I am overly empathetic, and people I'm close to I can end up feeling what they feel even if they're miles away. My mom was in Illinois a month or two ago, and she was so upset and exhausted, she couldn't stop laughing. But I felt it and couldn't stop laughing either.
I do as well believe this. I remember being extremely sensitive as a child (I still am today) and getting too emotionally connected with movies or people I don't know and getting very disappointed when I saw someone fall and imagining their emotions and the tragedies in their lives.
I don't know if anybody else can relate, but I spend more time thinking about how others may feel instead of myself, and I definitely do relate to the term "empath".
I thought the same thing long before I even learned I was aspie..
Yaaaaaaaaaaas you bitch finally someone said it
I'm 35 and just always thought my anxiety was really bad or whatever and I found your videos and you've opened my eyes so much thanks a ton great videos
Jt Piercy I feel you man
I was about 36 when I was diagnosed with Aspergers at a VA (Veteran's Affairs) hospital.
Two psychologists picked up on it very quickly.
1. Difficulties with Eye contact
2. Special/obsessive interests
3. Literal thinking
4. Love routines
5. Sensory issues
6. Repeating people words/ echolia
7. Social cues difficulties
Yes; yes and yes
@@turtleanton6539 Which three?
(jk) ;)
At 78 I’m just learning about Aspergers thru videos like yours. Arriving way late to the table but so glad to have finally found answers to the lifelong feeling of being “different.” My daughter at 36 recently discovered she is an Aspie and thought I might be too. Now I’m spending a lot of time on UA-cam learning about Aspergers and really grateful to channels like yours that give me a sense of community.
(I’m female, born in New England but transplanted to the beautiful Ozark mountains in Arkansas thirty-five years ago.)
So one never stops learning about themselves? Humans are fascinating
How have you got a girl friend while you have asperger syndrome.?
I somehow knew you were a lady lol.
Great
@@cumuluseremiel1209true we dont😊
I’m obsessed with plants, art, and learning languages. And so many things. Lol. I get really really into it.
Same with me I'm really in social studies language sociology
I am very interested in languages too! :)
Same here to all of those!! I have several journals around me at all times where I’m constantly identifying plants and all of the ways to use them
That is really eerie because I'm interested in plants(and their medicinal properties) and foreign languages as well.
Leticia Rabelo Same 😅 I find it so much more effective to learn by myself instead of how it was at school 😁 Much interests and so little time to dig in... ich hoffe du bist dran geblieben 😉
ive found a way to make yourself look like you are looking somebody in their eye and its super simple:
all you have to do is look at their nose and the point of it. the part where you would boop :)
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Eyebrows work too, and it avoids the looking down = dishonest conundrum. 😥
I look between people's eyes (at the "third eye"), or at just one eye, or if it's a girl I like...I will alternate between staring at her lips and her eyes (as mentioned previously). They like when you look at their lips, I noticed.
That's super helpful and should really be more well known.
The only issue is that my co with eye contact is based on the situation and the person. I can look my little sister in the eyes for a bit, I can't even look at the face of somebody who's angry or otherwise unpleasant and untrustworthy.
That's what I do. Or I look at their eyebrows.
I was diagnosed with classic autism when I was 5 and not Asperger’s, but I was able to relate to pretty much all of the things listed.
Newly found autistic and autism has become almost a special interest to a degree. I'm constantly thinking and learning more about it and I love learning more about it!!! GREETINGS FROM NY
Stargazing Fawn same! 😂
Hey that is awesome!!
I'm the same with ADHD!
OMG same! It's extra interesting because as you learn you learn about yourself too. It's awesome to learn about a trait you didn't know and realise that that's why you act that way or why you find something difficult
Hey Stargazing Fawn, I'm also in Ny. Rochester, Ny actually.
I use to have really bad issues with eye contact, but as i got older i kind of got more and more use to it. Now i tend to completely stare into the person's soul though lmao. This video makes a lot of sense though. It puts a lot of pieces together in my head
Edit: this is more of a self diagnosis, but i should see a doctor
Ahh yeah, I would say that is autism. Thank you so much for the comment! Please subscribe to my channel to see more videos from me :).
Under stand that.
Same here
The exact same thing happened to me. Right now I can look straight into their eyes when they talk to me, but I think it's comfortable for me because I feel like they are focused on their thoughts and what they say and they don't pay attention to me, I guess. But then it happens to me that I get lost in my thoughts so you can see that I look directly at you but I'm lost, I'm not there paying attention :( And I miss part of the conversation because of that, like I remember something or they say something that reminds me or makes me think about something and I don't stop until I realize it late.
I had a real problem with it. Then I just look through them. So generally people think I am looking at their eyes when I am not.
Do you think having other disorders (like OCD, ADHD or depresion) make it harder for an aspie to get diagnosed?
Like, they would ask me if I had any special interests but I couldn't say any because my depresion made me lose interest in anything (but later on I thought about it and I definitely had special interests in the past)
Without a doubt it makes it harder. The other disorders are more common and have a lot of overlap so they are likely going to be explored first. I honestly don't know if i have ASD, i suspect i do, however i am diagnosed with Major Depression and treatment is focused on that.
I laughed so hard at the "throw this in the bin" because i've been there many times. People say to do something that doesn't make sense to me, but its what they said to do, so i do it, then they get upset and ask "why did you do that!". I had to learn not to take things literally, which then means interpreting, which has variables, and what variables they are the weighing and what weight are they giving to each? Combine that with how often people want you to do EXACTLY what they said, no matter how little sense it makes to you, makes following instructions stressful for me.
Definately, since asperger kind of consists of parts of adhd, ocd, depression. Some aspies like me even have some sociopathic symptoms.
I have now watched a few of this guys videos and one thing he doesent really talk about is aspergers and empathy, and many people with aspergers dont really feel empathy like other people, similar to sociopaths with the difference that they can still feel empathy and they can feel remorse over their actions.
I was first suspected of adhd as a kid (and rn i think i may have it), but the meds they gave me just made me really sad and didnt really work.
“So I can just sort of overdose on this information”
Yes, that is the perfect way to phrase it! So relatable. I am so excited to have finally been properly diagnosed because it is waking me up to this whole world of possibility that there a people who actually understand me and I can understand because we think similarly in that our thought patterns and sensory experience is so very different from the average person.
Thank you so much for your videos!
Along with echolalia comes reciting lines from one's favorite movies... My daughter and I have complete conversations back and forth just using movie lines!
I have already been diagnosed.. I got a 49 out of 50 on the test. My wife has me watch your channel, I am obsessed with tech. Thanks for the video.
I learned something about myself recently. I am so socially inept that I isolate myself from others, people think I’m scary.
Hello from The Philippines!
1. Eye Contact: Although I can look people in the eye, I can only look for a few minutes. I really can't explain why, I just feel uncomfortable when I do eye contact for too long.
2. Special Interests: Like I said, I'm currently interested with History, Autism, and Video Games.
3. Literal Thinking: I'm very much improved with this aspect, people tell me that I'm the most sarcastic person they met, so I must be doing something right, right?
4. Routines: Although I pride myself with a flexible routine, I still follow a routine. It's a simple one really, wake up, eat breakfast (or Brunch), take a bath, and recreation.
5. Sensory Processing Issues: There is only one kind food I refuse to eat, even if I starve: Curry. Not only is its texture looks like puke with yellow food colouring, its smell is utterly disgusting. Oh, and yes, I hate bright light, especially sunlight.
6. Repeating Words: I've never caught myself repeating words. On the flipside, I do speak in an American accent but with a British vocabulary.
7. Social Cues: Come to think about it, I've always barged into my classmates' conversations. Unfortunately, they're too polite to point out my wrong-doings.
As of now, It's 4:14, so I should really go to sleep.
MAN. YOU DON’T EVEN KNOW HOW THANKFUL I AM FOR YOU UPLOADING THIS. 16 years in hell and always wondered why I always felt so much different. now I’m waiting for my appointment with my therapist, there is a lot to talk about. Thank you man.
My family insisted "Look at me when I'm talking to you." My masking includes completely staring them in the eyes after years of being forced to.
I love people within the spectrum. Their souls are so beautiful! Much love to you all!
Literal interpretations of sayings are funny to me because I can see them play out in my head like cartoons!!
Yeah!
you ever thought of nursery rhymes? because boy the implications of a literal rock a bye baby XD
Same
There is a Tex Avery cartoon that told a story and gave literal depictions of many, many idioms, and I LOVED it! I only saw it once on TV, but I remember it still as an adult.
@@GBfanatic15 Yes! That one always freaked me out. It also freaked out my daughter when she was 3, she changed the words to “the baby will not fall”. 😊
Could you make a video about ocd or how ocd affects you?
I have ocd
I haven't been diagnosed (I'm on a waitlist to see a specialist) but I'm still trying to differentiate between my panic attacks and possible meltdowns and its really difficult. All my other symptoms make sense, especially my sensitivity to sensory things, but I have a hard time figuring out what meltdowns really are, how they differ from person to person, how I can tell its not just my anxiety. I have so many of these signs, its crazy that no one even tried to diagnose me earlier! Love your videos, watching all the way from Canada!
It took 10 years of various counselors, therapists, diagnosis, and medications until I started seeing someone who put all of the signs together and referred me to a specialist for testing. I got diagnosed this past summer, I’m a guy in my mid 20’s. As far as panic attack vs meltdown goes the way I am able to tell is I recover from a panic attack much more quickly. A meltdown can knock me out of sync for several days. Panic attacks I recover the same day. Good luck to you, testing was very interesting. Mine took 12 hours over the course of 4 days, but part of he process taking so long was due to my excessive detail sharing.
Same, fellow Canuck here! Waiting list, bummer it's years long...I even looked up in the private sector but it's loads of money and a year wait time!! 😱 meanwhile I'm struggling, daily.
I have the same problem but I aren’t on a list to get diagnosed because I live with my great grandma so she says it’s not a thing
May be different for you, but for me meltdowns involve strong irritation and anger which tends to end in tears.
Panic attacks are not angry, just rapid heartbeat and breathing, feeling like a weight is on my chest, like I'm dying almost, racing mind etc.
watching from Oregon, I just found your channel. I was diagnosed 4 years ago at 20 years old with ADHD and Asperger's and it changed my life. Everything makes sense as to why I am the way I am.
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I also have adhd but not Aspergers
I didn't really know much about Autism. My best friends son was diagnosed in his mid-teens about 3 years ago and over the past two years I have met and formed friendships with several Aspie people. I stumbled on your vids by accident and they have helped me communicate effectively and be more patient with my Aspie friends. I take it as a huge compliment when they tell me "you get it." I can say that you gotta take credit for that too as you explain your reality so very clearly, that I can't help but get it. Thank you for posting these amazing videos. Watching from Sheffield, UK.
Little note: Watching the TV show "Lie to Me" helped me be better able to pick up on more body language cues. Some of the cues include looking at people's feet to see if they are still interested in talking (feet direction has helped me a lot with understanding when to stop).
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My 7 year old daughter has learned a great deal of her language from tv and music. She will play pieces of a show or music over and over and Over. Then she takes that language and applies it appropriately in real life. She has a more severe form of autism however and is still minimally verbal with receptive language difficulty as well.
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The Aspie World nothing better than fruity pebbles and an Aspie World video for breakfast! (yes I ate the video lol!!! 😄) here from America 🇺🇸
Hello from Minneapolis, Minnesota USA. I wasn’t diagnosed with Asperger’s until I was 43, and I find your content extremely relatable. I’m still learning about the condition, and your videos offer a perspective not shown in books or explained by mental health professionals. Thank you so much for providing this material!
I have questionable social skills.I can't engage in small talk I can only discuss things that I have spent hours researching and are very precise. I spent all my time listening to podcasts and lectures so I'm able to speak to other people but I come off as intense. Is this ASD?
Watching from Australia, I am 64 years old and I have learned to cope using different strategies to overcome some of the symptoms you describe.
Everytime someone says anything REMOTELY negative about me I start thinking that everyone in the world hates me.
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@@TheAspieWorld I've already subscribed! Love your vids btw, they're very helpful! :)
TL;DR, Great video! My feedback: I don't identify with all symptoms but I'm still on the spectrum. Don't let not identifying with all symptoms stop you from exploring a diagnosis. I know, I know that's not what you're saying, but it bears repeating. You said you don't know anyone on the spectrum who doesn't have obsessive interests. Well, you do now! :-) Thanks for your vids!
ASD woman here, formally diagnosed three years ago at the age of 43. The diagnosis made so much sense to me and clarified a lot. I always suffered from anxiety, especially social anxiety, and this was a large reason for me to explore the subject and I eventually received the diagnosis. Previous to my diagnosis, I thought, I can't have autism, because I have no "obsessive" or "narrow" interests. So, for years, I thought, I might be a lot of things, but I'm not autistic. BUT, that's not true. So, although having intense interests might be an important indicator for some, it doesn't resonate with me much. To be fair, I think obsessive interests were a factor in my childhood, and perhaps I don't think of myself as having obsessive interests in my adulthood as they're not apparent to me as such. I don't like fantasy novels, SciFi or video games. jk :-)
Oh, where I'm watching from? From South Africa. On holiday. I'm Australian and live in The Netherlands.
From Wikipedia: "Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater" is an idiomatic expression for an avoidable error in which something good is eliminated when trying to get rid of something bad, or in other words, rejecting the favorable along with the unfavorable.
It comes from German. I don't know if it will help, but I always picture it (or any idiom) literally and then translate the items into other items. For instance, “They don’t want to make the distinction between one independently owned franchise location and another. They’re throwing the baby out with the bathwater with this regulation.” [The Washington Times]. So I picture the individual franchise location as the baby, and the whole corporation as the bathwater. I don't think that's a very helpful example but I can't find one online and I can't come up with one off the top of my head.
My son was diagnosed with pdd-nos in 2009 he is 18 almost 19 , you are amazing and I love your content thankyou so much .
I'm male that has Asperger Syndrome, I was diagnosed at age 3, live in California, and I'm studying Electrical Engineering.
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Good job!
Thank you so much for sharing this video.
Eye contacts, obsessions, loving routines, sensory issues, repeating sentences, social cues issues... I made a lot of efforts to fix them as a kid who did not know she had Asperger's. Since I was diagnosed at the age of 19, now I am 25 years old and started to realise that trying to cover these features makes me even more mentally unstable as well as creates conscious and subconscoius resentments towards people around me like "why do I have to pretend myself" or "nobody understands and truly loves me". I am dealing better with my Aspie looking into the symptoms and how other Aspies deal with themselves. The biggest relief has come when I stopped feeling ashamed of my syndrome. I talked about it with my boyfriend and he saved my heart. So, I just wanted to say that albeit you can make an effort to decrease symptoms of Asperger's but it is not always good for your mental health. We feel difficulty fitting in this society not because we are inferior but because we are a minority.
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So I have always worn black and grey shirts with jeans and it took me until I was in my late 20s to realize this was autism related or that I even did that lol. I would try to buy different cloths and colors, but then I would never wear that.
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Right there with you!
I have three shirts and pants I will wear out. Usually, I'll wear a sweatshirt, even in the summer time. It's just comfortable for me. Done this with other clothes my entire life. Hate dresses and baggy pants, etc.
Oh my god me too. I wear only black t shirts and jeans. Bright colors are exhausting to me.
Yeah, black and gray don't require the attention we have to pay to colored clothing.
I am a 67 year old woman living in California with my husband of 32 years. Just found out last year through me going to marriage counseling (he would not go) that he has Asperger's. I knew he had some weird quirks and now it all makes better sense, that being said however, it's been one of the hardest things to deal with. I kept wondering why after 32 years of marriage nothing has changed or gotten better. I am now relearning our relationship and it's hell. Books and videos have helped me understand it better and all the things he did all these years were not intentional to hurt me, but they did. Thank you for your channel, I will definitely tune in to learn more.
Wow. Now I can finally understand why I do the things that I do.
This is life changing. Thank you.
You hit the nail on the heas with this video and my son...watching your videos helps me understand him and his asperger alot better..thanks
I'm from North Dakota. I can relate to all the points in this video. Also I scored a 46 when I did the aq test. But none of my friends I've talked to about this believe that I could be autistic. Your videos have been so helpful for me to understand so many difficulties I've delt with my entire life. I wish trying to get a diagnosis didn't take so much time and money.
I’m watching from Minnesota. My two boys have aspergers . My older son got some help in school in it. His school was really good and it helped him quite a bit. My ex husband wouldn’t allow our youngest son get help. I wish I could help him more without making him mad. I work with people with autism in group homes.
I have a headache still because about three days ago i beat the shit out of my head over some garbage.
PS keep up the good work (from Mississippi)
I find it weird I share a lot of the signs but man I love eye contact you can tell how honest people are with their eyes
The more I learn about this the harder it hits home . I've recently started working as a support worker , supporting people with a range needs and I love it . after my first autism training I got home and the whole thing hit me hard ! I have a long history of obsessive behaviour/anxiety/depression and thought that it was what it was yet I discovered this and there's no better way I've found to describe myself . Thing is that I've discovered that I've been masking heavily over the years and to be honest I don't have a clue who I am anymore , so much stuff I thought everyone did I now realised they don't and it makes me understand why hardly anyone understands what im On about unless I strain really hard to filter and condense my ideas . Could use some advice to be honest .
Enjoying your videos from El Paso Texas. My son is 14 and was diagnosed with ADD and later Aspergers. Thank you for your dedication to educating the world on Aspies..You have been tremendously helpfull.I hope my son can one day be like you.
Love you dan I’m not gay but I love you and I’m autistic
Hey thank you!! Love yo you to!
Hello, I'm 37 and for the last couple of years I have suspected I might have aspergers. I'm awaiting an assesment and I've been afraid to do research as I don't want to convince myself I am just to have the test say I'm not. Today I got over my fear and decided to listen to your podcast. I listened to about 4 episodes on a walk. During this episode when you talked about achaelea I stopped and my jaw dropped and I just cried and cried (luckily I was on a forest walk with no one around). It's like you're describing my life. I'm happy that I might finally have an answer of why I've always felt different and strange. Thank you, I just wanted you to know that you've helped and affected me and I'm so grateful. I'm now going to listen and look at everything you've done!
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I have all of them! Even the way I picking up accent! I thought everyone is like this until I am sent to an autism specialized therapist by my counselor. So many puzzle pieces now put together. Sun light gives me pressure pain at the bottom of my eye sockets. Those white light from bulbs makes me depressed like walking into a morgue on top of irritating my eyes. Walking by bath and body works makes my head hollow and I feel the pressure inside about to explode my head up. Same allies to Indian foods. Everyone close to me knows I have trouble with jokes. I take words so literally beyond belief. Easily getting anxious. Getting dumped cold turkey or being used like a sucker by female “friends” is a lifelong theme, I never understood why. Now I do and it is a huge relief.
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i am mom of aspie 16 yr old boy. I want to add that some of the characteristics ( behaviors ) do change with time - for example my son would refuse to eat puddings , yogurt , ice cream , whipped cream when he was younger. but after trying these things finally in his teens he now likes them. there are other things too that changed through the years.. one constant is the stimming - always been the same
When you said that ppl talk and talk and talk, i do this so much, and one of my obsessions is knowing things, so when my teacher is teaching something i just totally take over, i do this so much and for so long that other students in the class turns around and looks at me and asks ME questions
I always knew I was very different by the time I was 9-10 years old. I couldn’t go to football games, shopping malls or supermarkets without feeling intense anxiety. I couldn’t order food without experiencing intense anxiety. By middle school going into high school, public education was a nightmare and I couldn’t concentrate due to so many distractions and attention. I could not understand sarcasm from others and took things very literally (idioms were quite weird). My syntax and diction was very eccentric and unusual, and I did terrible in debates but loved communicating via computers. Veering away from any personal pattern sparked immediate anxiety and frustration. I felt like a hypersensitive computer gathering data of everyone around me in attempt to put together the life puzzle. I researched endlessly and explored all avenues for understanding my cognitive behavior, employing psychoanalysis, psychedelics and meditation to help reconfigure my brain. I eventually found Traveling abroad can be very helpful for those with aspergers because they’re in a foreign setting free from judgement by their native peers. This is what first helped really ameliorate my negative asperger symptoms. Now of course the caveat is becoming normalized in a foreign culture, then the onset of asp symptoms re-emerge. Regardless such an environment allows oneself to keenly assess their own behavior in relation to others.
The ironic thing about this journey was it wasn’t until I became quite confident, seemingly neural typical, and spiritually sound that I realized I had aspergers all along. I thought I had ADD or Bipolar, but it was never sufficient. Instead of relying on labels I turned to philosophy, psychology, and theology to gauge the middle path. By understanding life, my place in life, and my nature, I was able to tune my brain dials to appropriate levels. The benefits and strengths aspergers gave me i maximized, and my weaknesses I strengthened.
Aspergians are like empathic super humans. I don’t say this to gloat or lie to myself; rather we have a unique perception of the world around us. We feel more, thus we see more. We study the intent of others and the nature of society so much more deeply for our own sake, which consequently results in the betterment for everyone else for many reasons. It’s almost as if we’re not from this planet, or, our unique wiring permits the soul to see itself inside a body trying to learn to be one with the mind and body complex within themselves and others.
This is what I do because I can't make eye contact: I look at their four head. This makes it looks like you are looking into their eyes to them but you actually arent
Thank you man ill try it!
just gonna add my comment to everything!
1: i did always avoid eye contact until everyone pointed it out a lot and said it was disrespectful, now i can't keep my eyes of theirs and feel uncomfortable hoping the conversation will end asap!
2: all of my attention goes to harry potter, it was once one direction but i grew out of it and continued with harry potter. rn i get obsessed with crystals and incense stuff. all i talk is about this and people are so annoyed, all my money goes to this, i got a lot! and i never get tired of it
3: things like the one with cats and dogs, i never understood. i still have difficulties understanding these and always have to ask. also since i always get called out for taking literal i started asking for what to do exactly. i get scared, i get a panic attack, anxiety attack. it freaks me out..
4: i have this routine on how to get up in the morning, what to do first when i arrive at work. i always have a lollipop after work, i get freaked out when i don't. i hate when this change but i also have another routine at my boyfriends because it's not the same if i do my used routine at his.
5: i have a problem with loud noises. i cover my ears, i panic, i start to cry. when people touch me i flinch, expectations are people very close to me even tho it still happens with them too but not that often., textures like meat or mushrooms trigger me, i can't eat this. it's just no!! also bright light! bright light always is and always was a problem to me.. my boyfriend has very bright light and he always put it a bit darker for me so i don't freak out.
6: repeating word is a thing i always catch me doing, i mimic the other people, i copy other people for so long until i talk it out loud like them..
7: social communication? i work at a kindergarten but other like that it's hard. i have problems to know when i should start talk. i have problems to stop talking especially when i'm at my boyfriends
"Throwing out the baby with the bath water" actually comes from a literal meaning... Some centuries ago, when tap water was not readily available, taking a bath was kind of a problem: you had to fill a large tub with water and then the people that made your household used the same water to bathe in a hierarchical order. That usually meant that the older male of the house used it first (usually the father) followed by the mother, and then the kids in order of their age. Obviously, the youngest (baby) of the family took the bath last, so by then, the water was quite unclean and murky (yuck!) So you could literally get the baby lost in the filth and toss him out with the contents of the tub, if you were not careful. Basically, it is a metaphor for one to be careful about something. You don't want to throw out something valuable (the baby in the story) by being inattentive or careless. Greetings from tropical Costa Rica!
Excellent thank you for that!! Greetings from wales!
Interesting im not autistic and interpret this slightly differently, a bit more abstractly. Rather than simply be careful in a general or vague sense I have always understood it to be referring to not engaging in black and white thinking where you might be tempted to instantly disregard all aspects of something because in doing so you might miss something valuable. For example my husband being quite a black and white thinker is quite distrusting of medicine because of the extensive and proven mistakes and corruption among the medical industry. But I use this saying to remind him not to instantly disregard all medicine because of this, as I doing so he will be throwing out alot of the valuable things medicine has brought society
I'm in Canada. Your videos help me understand and learn how to communicate and understand my Grandson.
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Sensory Processing Issues: What about being very ticklish?
wow. a few years ago, i had to move to a different school overseas. when i got there, my english teacher wanted to know what i sounded like because i came from new zealand and the new zealand accent is very distinct. i read out a passage from a book to her and she said that i had more of an american accent. i watch a lot of youtube in my spare time. thank you so much, this explains a lot
I don't know if I am on the Asperger's spectrum, but I feel really close to everything you said. I've often been told that I'm annoying or stuck up because I overreact when touched lightly, it just makes my skin crawl! I can relate to the food one too! I sometimes had to throw the food out even though I loved it in general because my brain just went "eww" and made me gag. I have always brushed all these things off as me being weird, but now I'm seriously considering looking further into it.
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Hi from Merriville indiana, i have ADD and aspergers. I am a criminal justice student and planing on become a police officer. Your videos are inspiring and fun to watch. Thank you for doing videos on this.
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I related to everything in this video!
One example I can think of is my finger tips and nails are extremely sensitive. I can't file my nails, scratch anything if my nails are long, or feel clothes with my nails.
My sister was so confused when I told her the sequins hurt my fingerd on the pillows that change images when you move them back and forth. I dont know how to describe it more than hurting and making me cringe...
When I was younger (7-13), I was obsessed with sports statistics, and I mean sickly obsessed. Particularly baseball statistics since they have the longest season and they have the "&" (ampersand) sign to designated whoever won their respective division. Wow, to this day I am still absolutely in-love with the ampersand sign. I didn't even realize that I may have Asperger's until my nurse mentioned it to me last fall (I was 23 at the time.) and after she said it, everything instantly clicked for me: my awkwardness, etc. all began to make sense. Great video.
I was obsessed with The Grand Budapest Hotel for awhile. Love that film.
"Open your Baws" 😂
Thank you, I have all three twoo, which made it hard for me to know what was going on. I'm literally answering YES to ALL the symptoms (women and men have slightly a bit of different symptoms...) on top of it I have also have CPTSD too, with abusive parents as a child, and as an adult husband... I'm strong though, and my best and onky friend aside from my kids, who knows a lot about ADHD said she would have never known... I'm not happy to have these issues, however I'm happy that I FINALLY know what was "wrong" with me... Thank you for your information - you and the ithet GREAT people on YT have been such a relief for me. Thanks!!!!!!! 🌷
Thank you so much 😊 for all good information you give us,greetings from Houston!!!
Thank you!!
Hi, I'm a mom from the US. I have several people in my immediate family on the spectrum and I think it is quite possible for me as well. Thank you for the information and your honesty. I feel this condition or state of being is more mysterious the more I learn. Keep the vids coming. I enjoy them.
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I was planning on doing a collab on common traits that most aspies have that I don’t. I was hoping you’d join in but you don’t have to if you don’t want to. Also I’m watching from Virginia USA. Hopefully you can come there soon 😃
im in VA to!
I'm 18 and I have Aspergers. My school is poorly informed about the conditions. I was yelled at by my accounting teacher for forgetting my book (despite not being told it was the same book from last year XD) and I got really upset because he obviously doesn't know what I'm dealing with, and I cried because I feel so defective due to such a simple mistake. I love being an Aspie; my hyper fixation on my writing has given my life meaning and I love it, but more people NEED to understand this.
Thank you for making these videos, I really appreciate you informing people about this stuff
hi dan! Can you make a video about autism and sexual orintation or gender identity? 'cause i feel like there is a lot of people with autism that struggle with it (of course neuratypical people struggle with it too) and i think that it would be a quite interesting video! and to answer the question in this video i'm from denmark!
^I second that!!!
Stastically trans people have a higher percentage of autistic people than other gender groups. We don't know why yet, but I am curious
This is an interesting topic, I will do. Thank you :).
@@maiynnai From my comment above you can see I try to figure out if I may be autistic and there is big chance I may be had this topic is huge for me because I struggle a lot with my gender identity that lead to strong anxiety.I will be really happy to see video like this !!!!
@@behindzerosp you might want to check out Aaron Ansuini or the channel "ask an autistic". Aaron is a disabled, trans and autistic advocate on you tube. He talks about gender and disability a lot. Ask an autistic is a bit more autism focused.
Hello I’m watching from sweden.
1. But I can look at someone in the eyes for a quick moment, it’s a bit disturbing but I do it to fit in a bit more and it differs from person to person.
2. To get into everything will take too long but one of the first things that my parents, and I, remember is when I was 5 and recited my favourite book word for word. (I loved it because of the art and how I could relate to the Kitten who got anxious about everything) I counted the words of it yesterday and it was like 600 words in total.
3. I take everything literal but by studying TV shows and humour I have it much easier to understand most the obvious parts of sarcasm, irony etc.
4. God... I have the same morning routine every day except for weekends when I need to sleep as much as possible because my school is very energy consuming.
5. I have to have music in my ears most of the day because I cannot stand high Decibels from other humans. I also have this thing where with most people I feel uncomfortable being touched by people but others I am closer too I can be overly clingy and I never know why. I can’t eat bread in the morning without gagging, my smell is certainly the most heightened because almost everything makes me gag and eggs are just... no it doesn’t work, I can stand most lights except for some stores and public places where I just get a headache.
6. I used to watch these Swedish prop/theatre comedians and every single person I watch I adapt something from them which just makes me feel like I don’t have my own personality at times.
7. This one is mostly about getting someone’s attention without saying anything. That and what you said about knowing when to talk, I am rubbish at that.
I believe I may have Asperger's. For all my life ever since I was little I have had an extremely difficult time socializing with my peers. I have had a history of petit mal seizures and twice I have had grand mal seizures. I believe they are caused by extreme anxiety attacks. It's extremely difficult to look someone in the eye, especially authority figures. I have phases of all encompassing obsessions. When I was age 6-10 I was obsessed with Spider-Man, when I was 12 I was obsessed with WW2, When I was a teen I was obsessed with Resident Evil 4 ( beat it probably well over 20 within a few years) Then I was obsessed with anime and martial arts. My mother has always described me as somewhat of a genius. I was walking at 9 months however I refused to talk until I was about 4 years old. And I didn't have a first word, I had a first sentence. I had the ability to talk the whole time I just chose not to. My shyness and social anxiety is pretty bad, I usually have to work my way in to friendships. When I am with friends, depending on who I am with I don't feel like I am really being myself, instead I'll will mimic actions and personality traits of people within that circle in order to socialize. I'm academically very smart. I joined the police academy 2 years ago and graduated at the top of the class. Out of 18 students I had the highest grades and placed first place at graduation, however when I actually got out on the road I lost my job within a year because I just did not know how to socialize with the public or even my fellow officers. I lost my career based on how socially awkward I am around people I do not know. That's when I started looking into all my symptoms and it led me here. I'm going to speak to my doc to see if I do in fact have it or not. All my life I've been described as awkward, quirky, intelligent and kind of weird. I wonder if this may be an explanation.
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I’m just discovering I have Asperger’s at 61. It’s such a relief to finally begin to understand myself.
I've never been diagnosed, and probably don't meet enough criteria for Aspergers, but I have a lot of traits- enough so that when I meet new people on the spectrum, they will often ask me at some point if I've been diagnosed. Sensory issues (esp fabrics! And lights, smells, and sounds), social awkwarness and talking, and obsessive interests are very apparent with me. My husband has echolalia (repeats your last word as you say it or mouths it), sensory issues, and other things as well. Our son is a true combination of us and is your completely, absolutely sterotypical Aspergers kid- all 7 characteristics and then some. He's 14 now and my absolute favorite human. Thanks for being you, and sharing yourself, your experience, and your knowledge with all of us :-)
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It should be noted that a large percentage of people on the autistic spectrum have a metabolic disorder called pyroluria,which results in a severe zinc and b6 deficiency.A lot of the anxiety/depression symptoms can be traced to a lack of these vitamins.If you think you have aspergers or other expressions of autism,get yourself tested for pyroluria with a good knowledgable naturpath.Zinc deficiency is serious
I have anxiety and the sensory processing just makes it works. Funnily enough the pressure thing causes me to tap people extremely hard (I have a batters arm) also I’m watching from Connecticut!
Hello and thank you for sharing this information. I am from Michigan, USA. My mother's family comes from England and Wales. We are related to the Drakes. I am 57 years old and it is the first time that I have ever commented on a U-Tube video. My daughter has been researching this subject quite a bit. She has been sharing a lot of what she has learned with me. I often wonder why so many people (including myself and my children) have autism. It was very difficult for me when I was a child, getting the impression that there must be something 'wrong' with me. I have ALL of those symptoms. I am very independent and have a difficult time being around people. Even those that I love. Ironically, I am a hair stylist and I talk a lot. But I am getting better at listening and allowing silence. Yeah, it gets painful. Major accomplishment for me.....lol
on the topic of lights... I hate hate hate blue lights! Driving at night around Christmas is awful... The blue lights hurt my eyes so bad and they just look really blurry to me.
I hate bright Christmas lights.
Blue light does suck. I have to turn the blue light off on my phone or its to bright.
@@johnstover4584 same. I'm looking at getting "blue light blocker" lenses for my next pair of eyeglasses.
Well im from nz -Its great just coming to these kind of videos to learn . Becauxe my son has dyslexia and my daughter has adhd an autism and my partner in crime ...my ride or die has Asperger's so i embrace learning because u can never know everything . Everyday is different an there's always something to learn as thats my world an the kind of journey i choose to have .....and i dont see it as any different then someone like me who doesnt .... And ive not had to change who i am to be like them ..... They make me who i am today an theres nothing i would never do for them ❤
Tucson, Arizona
There are a few of you from AZ
I just found your channel and appreciate your videos. I'm a recently diagnosed Aspie and a late diagnosed (37). I always thought I was just weird but it all makes sense now. I've always been drawn to music and I have been playing piano since I was 10 (self taught and play by ear)
As far as sensory stimuli, is over startling to loud noises a common theme too? I resonate with the light touching thing, it freaks me out.
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Watching from a city near Paris [France].
Discovered this syndrome a few days ago and compiling everything talking about it now.
Thank you for your vidéo.
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Watching from Washington State USA. Thanks Dan.
Hey thank you!!
hahah, that was so dead on point when you said looking someone into their eyes is like reaching into their soul, I'm avoiding eye contact from same reason. I don't want to do it to others and I dont' want others do it to mee either. When you look at them you can see it all, all their positives, negatives, insecurities, flaws, in some way you strip them down when you look at them, I just want to have conversation and exchange basic data, I don't want to know everything else about the person too. I also don't want to create opinion of their soul because it influences my objectivity then to the data they're throwing out.I think I need on average like 1 minute max of when I meet a new person to know exactly in what situations he's going to screw me over, in what situations I can count on them, how they're going to react in different situations, their morals and reactions on social situations.
If someone sits at my place during breakfast i just stand at the counter and eat, and my dad gets angry
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Watching in California
Obsess a lot about water, bugs, psychology, photography, music
And now learning about the autism spectrum has been an intense interest for several months now, like thats all ive read about, every day, for months.
Baby and bathwater! Haha
And apple of my eye.
Could not figure out how an apple and an eye were related at all, like enough to be used in a phrase together
Same clothes, same food,
Can change, but it takes so much effort to cope with new change, even if its good.
same routine (must have music on)
Can't do soft touch either, bothers so much.
Sunglasses all day, indoors too.
The more i investigate, the more i feel secure that ive found the answer ive been looking for
Thanks for these informative videos!
I have Asperger's, too. And, I got made fun of for my clothes being always many paurs if the same pattern and colour. But, that's my preference.
Hello! My mom and sister are diagnosed with ADHD and autism. I am diagnosed with ADHD, but I am not diagnosed as autistic and I experience many of the things that autistic people do.
1. Taking things literally. I have learned the art of sarcasm, but I honestly NEVER understood figures of speech. Still to this day I am completely stumped by most figures of speech.
2. Social cues! Oh man, I can’t tell you how many times I’ve ruined other people’s jokes/stories because of this. I also have learned to avoid group settings because I always end up saying/doing something awkward or socially inappropriate. Social etiquette is something I never quite “got”, even though I’m an extroverted personality. I’m always unintentionally pissing people off.
3. Eye contact! I have been told that my eyes are always “darting around the room” during conversation. I can’t help it, looking into other people’s eyes makes me feel psychically sick.
4. Obsessions. Oh my lord. I do become super fixated on things, however, (I believe this is due to my ADHD) it doesn’t take very long for me to lose interest and find a new obsession. It completely engulfs my mind for a while, then I suddenly give up, get bored, or get distracted by a new interest. I can’t tell you how many unfinished projects I’ve started.
5. Sensory processing. Everyone always told me my entire life that I was just being a brat because many noises actually bother me so much that I get incredibly irritated. Hearing someone drink pop, eat cereal, or set a cup down on a table will literally send me into a rage.
Another thing sensory issue I have of course is lights (particularly fluorescent or flashing lights), but the strange stimulation issue I have is certain visual things.
For instance, floral aisles in the craft store (especially if the shelves of flowers is too tall and the flowers are jam packed together), ornate patterns on vases, stained glass windows in a chapel, antique stores, or when people have Knick knacks all over the shelves in their house. I feel an extreme sense of discomfort, lightheartedness, and panic. It’s the strangest thing and I never understood why I am like this
I have no diagnosis, language is not an issue, do not take things literally but I do have problems with certain smells (like musk) and lights (ceiling spots). It makes me avoid people and stores. Also big crowds make me angry and anxious. and very tired.
It could be a Social Anxiety disorder?
The Aspie World could be, I will probably get a reference to a psych health practictioner from my gp’s in house psychologist.
It's also possible to have a sensory processing disorder (in this case being highly sensitive) without being on the autism spectrum! It's when the brain has problems filtering, so you may have trouble when a lot of people are talking at ones and avoid certain smells, sounds etc. and are getting tired easily by being around those things. Stimming does help, or directing the sensory input (put in earphones with soft music, wear sunglasses, maybe have something that feels good to touch in your pocket just in case). If you feel troubled by this or feel constantly overwhelmed, definitely go seek out a professional!
Elly Vitullo, Do you by any chance get migraines?
Antonia Levan no, never have migraines.
I used to do SEO wayyy back in 2003 or 2004, while i was working for a corporate company developing web sites from scratch in highschool, it's cool that is one of your special interest
Oh that’s fire!!
Hi from Brazil.
In my case I'm in doubt. I scored just above the thresholds of suspicion for some tests and I do recognize minor intensity on some traits, but there's not anything too intense excepting perhaps social difficulties, which I've gotten better at but still am bellow my peers in skill.
I didn't know echolalia could take this form of registering what someone said. I do that sometimes. I don't know if I've picked this habit out of observing the mannerism of others, but it's there. In my case it's just a form of consciously registering what someone said for easier processing. My oral verbal processing also takes a wee little bit more sometimes, and I'll understand what someone said a short time after.
All of it seems very mild even for what I've seem of aspergers accounts, but not neurotypical either.
Thanks for the video! I used to live in Brighton and now I am in Switzerland
Great video. I'm watching this from Apache Junction, Arizona 🤠👍.
Hey!
Hi from Las Vegas, Nevada, USA.
I'm a 54 lady, and I believe I also have ADHD, autism, OCD, and dyslexia - just like you. Lif2 have been super hard, but little by little I've been literally beaten out of me, andvibhad to work extra hard to fit in. It made me quite high functioning. A good example is that I was the class clown asd a child, and whatn I tell people today, they can't believe me - im so put together. I also got thick red 4 for behavior, yet I eas super smart, and after a tests with v several 10s of thousands of other kids my own age, I was one of the top ten. My father and brother were geniuses. My mother was never tested but it wouldn't surprise me now that she too was "weird."
Every time you have these lists, or others asd well, I always get 90% of your lisr.
Would you talk more about your ADHD, dyslexia and OCD please - especially dyslexia. That one im suspecting lately because I see the word correctly on my text, but after I reread what I already sent it, it's riddled with misspellings and I get super embarrassed.
Thank you 😊
Watching from Brazil 🇧🇷🇧🇷
Eu também! 😊
This is my son, he is 6 next month and he has all these traits, he use to repeat what I said constantly I thought he was winding me up, he repeats lines from shows, and wakes up saying them. He's obsessed with Godzilla and Minecraft, it's all he talks about and literally can not stop talking to let others speak. I'm only now beginning to put all the pieces together because his development has been spot on, thanks for your videos
I only have ADHD and OCD (no autism) but there is some definite overlap. I have sensory issues as well and eye contact is somewhat difficult (I've learned that if I watch someone's mouth or stare at the tip of their nose or their hairline, they can't tell I'm not making eye contact). Social cues are definitely difficult for me, too. This could be why I identify with my son, who was diagnosed with autism this summer, more than anyone else. Also, I'm from Illinois, in the US (not far from Chicago)
Oh that is interesting!!
I love spending huge periods of time at home (reading, writing, playing video games, and whatnot). I feel free when I'm on my own. Large crowds make feel smothered. When it comes to phone calls it's like "why do you have to call me? Don't you have anything else to do? Why bother me at this time?" Outings... I come up with some excuse not to go out or join them. I have my daily routine, and yes, I get upset if there's a sudden change. I'm over the moon if I was supposed to go out and it gets cancelled. When something tickles my fancy/interest I can read and watch about it relentlessly. You're right, I wanna know every detail there is to learn. But I do it obsessively. An ex told me I had OCD, as she saw my obsession with certain topics. I would laugh it off, tho'. Now I know she was right. The duration of a conversation depends on whom and what the subject is about. If I'm not interested, I just switch off. Now, talk to me about something I have some knowledge about, or something I wanna know about, and you'll have me talking the whole night thru. I tend to overthink. Not very good at making my mind up. Even the slightest decision can make me feel awkward, uncomfortable. I practice Chinese calligraphy, and when I lived in China, I would buy brushes by the handful, even if I didn't need so many. Or when I was obsessed with the Titanic, I'd buy anything on her, books, vids, .... Anything to do with the "Ship of Dreams" I would get. I can't help it. Same went on when I was obsessed with WW2. I also relate to a lot of traits of INTP and INFJ. Great vids, by the way. I watch them religiously. Greetings from Tenerife.