I Lost the Majority of my Life Savings in an Online Dating Scam
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- Опубліковано 10 тра 2023
- To learn more about my romance scam story called the pig butchering scam and next steps I am taking, subscribe to my blog: Massage, Love & Health shaip.substack.com/
Resources to Report if this has happened to you:
FBI Internet Crime Complaint Center: www.ic3.gov/
The Global Anti-Scam Org: www.globalantiscam.org/contact
A story about the pig-butchering scam: www.cnbc.com/2022/08/25/pig-b...
Thank you for watching and I hope this helps get the word out and prevents it from happening to you or people you care about. In case this has happened to you or someone you know, I hope sharing my story can provide some support. - Розваги
So grateful for the kind words and support I am receiving!
I'm wondering if you have reported it to the law enforcement?
You can track your money on the blockchain explorer. The same thing happen to me. The big butchering scam is ruthless. I just recently got all my money back. Their is a way to get your funds back
Thank you so very much for sharing your experience! Hold your head up! Just knowing that going forward you have helped at least ONE person from getting scammed! Go out there and ENJOY your Life! Today is the best day ever! Seize the moment!
Why would I need to fund you? You made your bed,you lie on it!
You are a scammer,pretending to be scammed! 😩
If someone you have “met” online and never met in person, EVER asks to borrow or help with money. That’s an online “dating”scam.
Yeah obviously. I feel bad for none of these people
No way in San Jose
Not necessarily true.. it could be your sister's long lost son who you've never met because you don't have a sister, calling you to borrow $10,000 to get outta jail. That's believable. 😐
@@mercedesmaltese4407 don´t judge we´re all humans and some of us makes mistakes during vulnerable times. Give the guy a break he is opening up.
If they even mention money, walk away. Just stop responding and block.
I'm 99% sure he was talking to a man.
I'm 100％ sure they are Chinese or Indian.
Do you suggest that women are not smart enough to perform a pig butchering scheme? Are you mysoginist?
Nigerian 110% 🤦♂😂😂😂👨🏿🦲
Got to be careful, regardless. Some of these scammers hire real women to do short video calls to lure in more victims!
Probably a team of people
I was contacted by a man who looked 30 and GQ model. He said I was the most beautiful woman he had ever seen. 🙄I told him we could meet but not at my house because I live in my son’s basement since I have no money, lol. That was the end of that 😂.
Lmao
What? But why? A GQ model should be able to help you out 😆 he didn’t want to help you?
Yes. Exactly. Whenever the scammers contact used to contact me, I asked them how much money they could send me. The conversation ends fast.
🤣🤣
lol!
Outstanding job done by *Charge backtools* I'm so Glad you're out there battling these vile con artists. We must take every precaution to protect the general people and the elderly from these vile con artists!!
Bravo to you!! You ought to be awarded the Nobel Prize for protecting us. Big up, brother.
Same thing happened to me and my initial $100 turned into $230. She told me to try withdrawing it and it worked and i transferred $230 to my bank! She said "I told you so" and told me to now put $20,000 in to make easy bigger money. I said nah, I'm happy with my $230 and cut her off my contact ever since
😂😂😂
Pray you don't ever fall for crap like this again although I have my doubts 😅
you are smart, not joking, you scammed the scammer, hahahahahaa
😆🥂👍😉
Smart
Some Chinese "woman" tried to pig butcher me, too. But once I told her I worked at McDonald's, it was an immediate "bye." I don't work at McDonald's, but I could easily tell where it was going and just wanted to play along.
That is smart! And good advice
@@shaithaimassage I was just lucky because my thing is that I would have to meet a woman in person within a few days of first contact -- not the months and years that scammers want you to wait. But what I noticed is that nearly 80% of the women I ran into were all "traveling on business" even though they said they lived in my hometown. What was really funny and totally made it clear it's all a scam was one woman tried to talk investments with me on Tinder! Tinder of all places!! That's when I knew it was all a BS scamming game. One thing that I found interesting is that pig butchering scams always starts off with pics of Asian models. The standard romance scam is just any porn model the scammers can get ahold of. But what breaks them all is a simple request for a video chat. Here's the thing: Romance scams are usually done by males, so it's hard for them to scam other men since replicating the female voice is too difficult.
Call it lucky if you like, but you had a boundary and you respected it. Is interested as you were, you made sure you'd at least meet the person once before trusting someone, as intriguing as it seemed. That was my biggest mistake! I applaud you for your choices and I'm glad it saved you.
@@shaithaimassage Meeting the person first does not prevent a scam. The criminals will hire women to talk to you on the phone and even meet you. You cannot actually protect yourself from this. It is human nature to want love, and this makes a human being vulnerable.
I tell em im a janitor 😑that soon gets rid
Why do you call it “dating” if you never met the person? That’s not dating. It’s just a delusion.
I can't feel sorry for this guy. If he was 20 ok. We've all been dumb and young, but this guy is clearly in his 30s +
Exactly. It’s astounding to me how these people who fall for these pig butchering scams are both simultaneously naive and narcissistic as fuck. Naive to fall think that a person they’ve never met online is going to actually be their significant other, and narcissistic to believe that some random super attractive girl is going to want to be with them just off seeing their picture online
Yep - he’s desperate.
@@MR_THINQ Lot of similar guys out there....
Lots of people desperately looking for love. Don’t trust the Chinese they hate us honestly, they love our money and selling us their junk. They are worse than the Japanese or Philippines.
This guy is as witty as his scammers with this grafting video. “Oh look at me, I got scammed! Buy my course!”
I think you mean "grifting." "Grafting" is the surgical implantation of living tissue.
@@matukonyc i grift a graft! And I have sinned!
And he has the nerve to set up a GFM account!🤯👎🏼
You should probably teach the bot how to spell properly.
Anytime a woman refuses to talk to you on the phone and insists only on text messages, run away immediately! Run away immediately!
“She” doesn’t want to talk on the phone because it’s probably a he.
Even easier...When you start talking to a complete stranger on a dating website and she offers a magic investment ---> RUN !
Maybe it's a guy too. LOL
Block that ass
It is a man that’s why he won’t talk on phone
Something like this happened to a friend of mine, he. He felt so ashamed he told friends each a little part and no one the whole. It is upset him so much he committed suicide and has been devastating for all of us that he felt unable to talk to us about it. Therefore, the fact you’re talking about it and warning people makes such an important contribution. Thank you for that and stay well.
Oh wow I'm so sorry for your loss
Wow, I'm so sorry for your friend and all of you impacted by this. My heart goes out to you. I really appreciate your words and sending lots of love your way.
😢
I'm really sorry for the loss of your friend. I hope the animals that did this to them get everything that's coming to them and more.
We can talk forever about scammers. Whats needed is solutions and how to get the money back. Bank in australia has not cooperated and freeze his account instead. Anyone with solution ???
*RetrieveTron* Thank you for doing this! Please DON'T STOP what you do! It's sad that we need your help...but we do!The monster's that take older people's money should somehow get jail time in return, and we are talking a level 5 prison in with the worst of the worst so they can be well y'all know…
Scam!
*Retrievetron* I love this and, you are a freaking LEGEND my dude! I love the recovery's videos and the angry scammers and the hacking of their wallet but I absolutely love these videos where you help the victims in real time. I don't have much confidence in this scammer "coming to the good side" so to speak but I hope you come out with more ideas like this, stopping the scams with the victims…
Why would somebody you don t know want to make you money, wake up .
even people you know and pretend they earn big, never shares their secrets...
Yeah, I feel bad for him, but he sent his money willingly
🤷♂️🤷♂️🤷♂️
this guy was gonna loose his savings somehow. just happened to be this way....
Love. When you love someone you want what’s best for them, like help them make money. Even if you don’t love someone but you care about them enough then you still want to show them how to make money.
And if it’s a secret and so easy to do why would they tell more people about it? I know I wouldn’t ..Maby my family and close friends 🤷🏿
Why would you think a complete stranger would be interested in building wealth for you ?
Amen.
Amen again
Just look at em, might as well have “thirsty” tattooed on his face.
Don't Go In--- Goldfinger!
Bravo to *Charge backtools* - I'm so glad you're out there fighting these scumbags. We must do everything in our power to protect the elderly and the general public from these despicable scammers. You're a true hero, my brother
Scam!
This isn't a dating scam. It's a greed/investment scam
It's not even that, it's not a scam. It's just asking stupid people for money... That's not a scam, it's a good way of living because of the amount of dumb people with money that are out there
@@dontbetreadin4777 Well, it's a scam in that the point of the conversation is not for purposes of a relationship, but to trick someone out of their money---if the video itself isn't a scam.
@@dontbetreadin4777it is a scam. and no its not a good way of living. people get killed over shit like this 😭
It’s definitely a scam. They convinced him to put money in a crypto account, gave exorbitant temporary profits, then took it all, eventually.
Dating online is a scam. Don't do it.
This is why I always pretend I'm poor & broke keeps the Nigerian scammers away
This is why I stay off dating sites and never accept friend requests online or on Facebook. I have observed too many victims with broken hearts and shattered lives to fall for any of these criminal tricks. They are all a despicable, filthy bunch of thieves and I sincerely hope Karma comes around and teaches them how to behave as human beings.
Dont be silly he clearly said she was Chinese. Your own people are scammers too. They just do it on an even bigger scale, like sim swapping and hacking.
that is not always the case! if they need a VISA for a Western country, money doesn t matter at all! Even social-welfare Western women get scammed because they re dumb enough to allow musl trash to talk to them on vacation or on the web!
Why even communicate with them in the first place?
With the white colonialism across the world, we deserve it.
This is an established scam. I'm always shocked when someone falls for this.
He is also a scammer!!! He wants people to donate on go fund me to rebuild his savings!! A go fund me isn’t to rebuild a savings! It’s for people in major need. He never got scammed I bet you he is lying
@@sparkles7420 I thought the same thing! He stopped thinking with his brain, got scammed, and now he wants people to donate to help him recoup his loss??? He'll be waiting a very long time for my donation!
@@sparkles7420I don't think he is
these scammers prey on vulnerable people. the human need for love and companionship is very easy for a predator to exploit. it seems impossble but this happens all the time to intelligent people.
No, it doesn't happen to intelligent people. It happens to greedy fools. This one is counting on other fools to replenish the money he idiotically gave away.
Impressively awesome this man *Retrievetron* really hit the ground running and hasn't stopped yet. He gives us more understanding of him without interviews and negative antics he just shows us who he is through the Recovery. True living legend. We salute you. Incredible recovery. The execution, creativity, and goodness that came from it were inspiring on a number of levels. Cheers and looking forward to seeing what you do next!!!
Scam!
Ten years ago I lost all the money my mother left me to a heartless fraudster. I was devastated and plaintively asked my sister whether I would ever get over it. She said, OF COURSE YOU WILL! And she was right.
Great work *Chargebacktools* You take the fight back to the scammers! Great to have people like you and the Team fighting back for the victims and keeping the scammer from taking miney from the vulnerable
So you regained what you lost right?
@@cgasucksno they got over trauma I’d imagine
@@cgasuckslife isn’t that fair.
Sorry for your loss
If everyone had the courage to share their scam stories the scammers would go out of business.
No they wouldn’t. Literally everyone can spot a nigerian prince scam and yet the people who do them are somehow still successful
Not true...they'd just figure out a different scam....
There is one born every minute.
Barnum and Bailey said that....
@@acornsucks2111
Nope! IF people weren't mugs then they would not get scammed.
Bravo, *Charge-backtools* - I'm so glad you're out there fighting these scumbags. We must do everything in our power to protect the victims and the general public from these despicable scammers. You're a true hero, my brother
We need to stop using "met" and "relationship" for people we've never actually met in person. No in-person meeting = no meeting. No in-person relationship = no relationship. We need to establish this as a foundation. Romance scammers parasite from people with weak principles, boundaries and definitions.
Maybe they get to people who are very lonely and wanting a relationship? Or they pretend to have an opportunity to make money and the person is in financial need? It’s not appropriate to shift the blame to the victims which people only do to feel a sense of superiority above others and to convince themselves this could never happen to them. Good for them but it’s not accurate and misplaces where the blame belongs. Even if they don’t have strong principles, boundaries and definitions for some reason we would have no clue about doesn’t make them the bad person in the scenario. It’s the scammer thief liar who is the bad person taking advantage of someone’s vulnerabilities. I agree we shouldn’t call an online never met person or even a scammy IRL a person, gold digging, scamming assholes have been around long before the internet. This isn’t new and there are always victims who will fall for it for their individual reasons. But dissing the victim is pretty bad behavior in and of itself, and doesn’t make you better than anyone else.
Yep, my rule with online dating is until my mouth touches a vagina the person doesn’t actually exist
I agree, but it happens because that's what we're able to get. The market's rough. There's really not much available out there, and so we're trying to take what we can. Similar to how the part time, piecemeal, gig economy now constitutes having a "job" these days. Glad I met my wife abroad, in person, 5 years ago. I feel for the young people these days.
Victim blaming in its purest form
@@M_SCcalling someone stupid /w a weak mindset is not victim blaming. This guy is 100% stupid /w a weak mindset, not a victim. Dude gave his daughters entire savings fund meant for school to a stranger. Call it like it is. Don't be a clown...
I don’t even lend money to the people I date. I can’t fathom giving money to someone I haven’t met.
He wasn’t giving, he was investing.
@@Dbb27 yes, by giving this person his money to invest.
@@chowfun1976No he didn’t give or invest with her. He invested with an online brokerage. Still not smart.
Same
@@chowfun1976No, he did not give her money, he signed up to a site she recommended.. then he did many testruns with small amounts and all seemed legit at first
NEVER EVER invest money that you can’t afford to lose.
Investing rule no1.
you're far better off putting $250 in 4 places rather than $1000 in 1 place
Indeed
Hilarious, *Charge backtools* I love the work you do mate. Those low life scammers take money from old ladies, they have no soul or heart and deserve everything u give them. Your doing a service to humanity. Love the videos, keep doing the good work mate
I’m so sorry this happened to you. You’re helping others avoid scams like this by sharing this story.
Why are you wasting sympathy on a total mug?
@@bobjames6622not just a mug, a scammer himself. Who buys this phony story? He should at least be showing photos and real evidence of the scam to his audience. He's a lying bum.
So true
He thought he'd get an asian third world peasant with a filthy sewer.
He deserves being scammed.
@@bobjames6622what does that mean? What can we learn from this?
I'm so sorry you went through this. I met an Asian (Chinese) woman online and we developed a very nice friendship. I was much older than her so our intention were platonic. We exchanged life stories, pictures, we encouraged each other through day to day trials. It took many weeks before "money" even came up. She explained to me exactly what you described and shared her success with short-term crypto investing. She wanted to teach me and she was a well spoken teacher. But I explained to her that a year earlier I had a bad experience losing small amount of money trusting a woman on-line and I now had a principle that I would not send any money. I said I would have to come & meet her and see this in person. Over a few weeks of trying to change my mind she stopped communicating. I actually missed her because we'd communicated so much. But I would not & could not violate that principle I had put in place a year earlier.
she was a dude named chang
i dont say that to be mean. i say it to let you know not to get sentimental over these morons
You're smart. Just took a while trying to suck you in to build trust. Once you held your ground and it was a firm no, it was over. Good job
Did you only text or did you talk on the phone too?
Smart, you dodged a bullet.
Man it sucks that this happened to you. I've had a couple of these scammers hit me up. What I've learned is whenever the conversation switches to money, it's pretty much a scam.
That's even the case for some women IRL on dates nowadays. There's a video going around about this chick that asks to see your bank account in the 1st 5 min. on a date because she doesn't wanna waste any time in case you're broke. lol
If someone introduces themselves online, it's a scam!!!😅
@@donnahilton471 Not always but there's way too many scammers out here, & it's only going to get easier for scammers with improving AI LLMs & voice bots, they can literally be indistinguishable from humans online. But AI's to detect scams should also become available, so we'll see how things turn out.
"What I've learned is whenever the conversation switches to money, it's pretty much a scam."
Wow! Really!? Who woulda thunk that, eh?
@@bobjames6622 Nah man, they're just good Samaritans that spend all day on the Internet looking for people they can give free financial help to. Trust me bro. : p
It probably wasn’t even a woman you were talking to.
you didn't lose your savings, you gave them away to a scammer.
I'm a Police officer and I'm tired of taking these reports where people are scammed anywhere from 100 to seriously $50,000. It's quite unfortunate, *Grind Techiei* Seriously thank you for flagging down these swindlers. You make me want to spend my next 10 years learning how to do this!
There’s definitely a certain “type” that falls for these scams 🙄
i can spot the certain type, just by looking at his goofy face 😂
@@moiseskerschener2634yessss look at his eyes 😅
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@moiseskerschener2634 How do you look like?
I fell into the trap also..... for 27 months and money lost and am having a nervous breakdown....... I'm so sorry this happened to you.
Soo Sorry.. hope your life improves! 😢
that's happend to me this week oh my god it's so bad
@@oliverarrow8431 So sorry...... I know exactly what you are going through 😭
Sometimes the cost of tuition in the school of hard knocks is very high.
Does anybody have any advice for me since I lost my life savings also. I don't want to lose my condo because I can't pay condo fees and taxes. And on top of all the other stress I'm having a nervous breakdown. I can't believe I was so stupid and naive.
Great work, *Vortextrace* - I’m thrilled that you’re actively combatting these scammers. It’s crucial to prioritize the safety of the elderly and the public by taking every necessary measure to protect them. You truly deserve recognition for your efforts!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You didn’t “lose” your life savings. You gave it away.
savage
Watch the content, pfff he invested on a crypto platform that she says using, and he god scammed the girl also disappeared
@@Tibetchoongchoong Wrong
@@DrFrankenschteinEveryone loves a semantic.
We found the scammer loool
I don't know what's worse:
1 - having your "heart broken" by some dude in Lagos or wherever
2 - socializing your losses by e-bagging for 20k
the latter
He is grifting. So even if he was scammed 20k. It is on him. Why socialize the losses. Start over cryptocel
I truly can't believe the amount of people using SM to get subs to basically pay bills, holidays, medication and pets. I'm not against people supporting channels but the sad fishing is next level...
I feel bad for those scammed, but they learnt a valuable lesson.
There's another online scam where you make up a sob story and then try to get people to give you money by setting up a go fund me...
If those are your only choices you are dumber than you sound
You lost it or gave it away? Telling the truth is an important part of healing. 😊
Very true
Either way, now he’s begging others to makes him good.
I agree. This guy is ridiculous. He needs to chalk it up as a loss and move on. Don't ask other people to get you out of your own hole.
i don’t believe yall understand or know what “scamming” is
@@pxmpkxn6163- Is it taking advantage of someone else’s greed?
I LOVE when scammers hit me up. I try to take the dialogue as long as I can agreeing with what they want and pretend that that I have sent something or signed up for something or whatever it is that they want and then I fall silent but then contact them again and “try again” and just keep it going. I have disappeared for 3 months and contacted them back and ask them if the chance is still there or if they still need money and I restart the process. They eventually get mad which fuels me to do it all again with a new scammer.
Oh yeah....boy, you sure showed them!....smh
@@kendallevans4079 sounds like you’re a bit of Scammer Sympathizer, huh Bra? You feel sorry for the scammers, do ya? GTFOH!
I love messing with them 😅 they always need a gift card or money for a babysitter lmao
@@kendallevans4079calm down princess sofia he is just joking
Its so Sadistic... :DDDD
As soon as you said, “she presented herself as also someone who had a very strong business background” I knew exactly what this was….. I watch way too many catfished videos 😆
Hearing these people’s voices over the phone so thrilled to be evil, almost giddy sounding, is utterly disgusting. Thank you *VortexTrace* all you and your team does to shut them scammers down.!!!!!!!!
Thanks for sharing. A couple things to note. If someone is wealthy they are not interested meeting strangers and giving their business plans away freely. Also, never trust someone you’ve never met and have no shared experience with. Next, There’s no proof it’s a she. It’s a business organization that preys on compassion/ naïveté.
Great points.
Yes. It's a highly organized international organization of Nigerians doing this.
I believe you.@@pearlperlitavenegas2023
Yup, a lot of men have been found to be the ones behind these scammer accounts. They have no problem being lovey-dovey and sexting other men to take all their money. And the bonus for them is they know those men will only blame women.
Yep, or Asians
I hope you won't think me a Pollyanna, but this might offer you some comfort: I in no way wish to downplay the devastating sense of loss and betrayal you must have experienced, but I have come across several people who at some point in their lives lost pretty much everything. My own late parents were holocaust surviving refugees and I know a family who were driven off their land in Zimbabwe and were forced to flee for their lives with nothing to the UK. I noticed in these people an extraordinary ability to savour the here-and-now. A cup of tea on a sunny balcony for them was as good as any beach-holiday in the Bahamas. They discovered that tiny pleasures and joys in the present were worth far more than potential future bonanzas. My late dad's catch-all maxim seemed to be: "Once you've lost everything you own, the smallest pleasures and the tiniest acts of kindness suddenly mean the world to you." I'm happy to say he led a long and happy life.
I very much appreciate that perspective and what you shared. I take that very much to heart. Thank you kindly Laurence
That's the same as me, I lost everything (well didn't 'lose' it, more I expended it all and found God) - I've never been happier, and more grateful, more present, fearless, non-worrying. Sometimes we need to lose all those layers to find the real you. If I were this person I'd just look forward to the version he now wants to be (in the future) and focus on that. I know that's incredibly easy to say, and it's something I'm now trying to do, but he needs to let go of that past. Be present, and I'm quietly confident that he'll make a lot more than he lost and will look back on this as some kind of blessing. Meanwhile he has helped others by sharing his story.
As long as you have your life , your health, your faith , you have everything that truly matters.
Great post. Thanks!
thanks i just get scammed this week and i like your words@@Jez2008UK
I SALUTE You for all that your doing, helping all the victims of these scambaggs!
They so deserved to be humiliated and be exposed to the public, these people have No place on this world, welldone *ChargeBack Tools* we're here to support you, More Power to you and all your friends, watching from France
Getting scammed or robbed is the worst feeling ever, I've had my apartment broken into and a lot of stuff stolen and just had mr car stolen and it truly sucks.
*GREYCYBERFIX* I wish there are more people like you out there. If I would have the knowledge, I would be part of your team indeed. God bless you Greycyberfix!!!
Such a shame that the government that is supposed to do what you do, could care less, while you have to take matters into your own hands to do what authorities neglect to do, while taking our tax payers money.!!!!!
His page is on Instagram
@@Smith-zx4jbI think he’s legit, he helped me got all my stolen funds
Very sorry to hear it. I feel for you and wish you well on your recovery
Anyone who asks for money is a huge NO. Never give anyone money. What would they do without you? They would find a way to manage. Never be desperate. Better to be alone than to be lied to and taken advantage of. NEVER BE DESPERATE.
She didn’t ask him for money. He asked her about helping him with investing. He was never asked for money. He invested. He was the one who chose to invest with an online brokerage. Really bad decisions.
@@dogger37JCwhy not send him a donation to his “go fund me” account than. 😂
It’s simply desperation!
What they would do is keep an itunyil they find a sucker to take the bait.
If they asked for money and your not married never give money only for dates !
Sorry to hear this. What's even worse about these scams are that the victims most likely were actually corresponding with some guy from Nigeria. They often steal photos of real women and use that as the bait. You probably weren't even corresponding with a real woman.
Very true he was all alone charting and dating with a woman
Pig butchering scam is usually a Chinese script.
We (legal analysts) seldom see this scam coming from Nigeria.
@@JaimeMesChiens sorry now you know them even white guys are in it too they friend request and start with cripto coin investment I just blocked automatically
@@JaimeMesChiens Regardless where this originated from... the point is that more than likely the person running the scam is a guy, not a real woman. The guy simply stole a photo of a woman and posed as her for the scam. In some cases... the guy may have a female assistant in case a short phone call is needed to help convince the victim that this "is legit". Though that assistant is very unlikely to be the woman in the photo.
These scams can be run from anywhere. I saw on another You Tube channel where this guy exposes scams... he traced his would be scammer to Nigeria.
Duhhhhhh,of course it wasnt a real girl,taking advantage of stupid grown men,amazing that it happens!!!!
*Briskdeft* your dedication to combating these fraudsters is truly admirable. We must go above and beyond to ensure the safety of the elderly and the wider community by taking decisive action against these despicable individuals. You truly deserve recognition for your invaluable work! …..
The real scam is that gofundme link
I was waiting for it.
Could be. My motto these days is, "Don't trust anyone."
@@sandiegan3788Totally agree I steer clear of these funds if I want to help e.g cat rescue I buy food for them be be very careful I don’t trust anyone only those close
It’s funny how he keeps calling the guy that scammed him “she”
He doesn't get yet "she" doesn't exist.
its not even he...its a network of many.....
Delusional still
It takes time, it’s very common even after people realise
Not helpful .. it’s easy to say if you haven’t gone through being isolated, or lose your partner, or dies, it’s all about people being alone
Not many people are brave enough to talk about something like this, let alone publicly. Keeping things in the dark only benefits the scammers. Good on you for sharing your story. I hope you’re doing better these days.
Thank you very much. Your words are felt and they mean a lot. Warm wishes to you
www.ftc.gov/romancescams
I might add that the scammer could most likely have been male (ergo, no actual two way relationship was ever really there) Cheers
@shaithaimassage
Sorry to hear that person scammed you
True but honestly anybody with even 2 brain cells should know better. This guy is a word that rhymes with Timp, but starts with an S
Brave? He makes money on likes and subs, AND he started a GoFundMe? Nothing "brave" about that. He is basically using a scam story to scam you!
Sorry to hear about your story.
Kudos for sharing- takes guts and will help others.
Everyone be careful. NEVER give anyone you meet (either virtually or in person) money.
Thank you!
Astounding work *GrindTechiei* so lively you are out there connecting with these disappointments. We really want to do all that we can for spare the more prepared and the general public from these horrendous clowns! Adulation to YOU!! You merit the Nobel prize for keeping us safe.big up family>
I think that scams like this are more common than we realise. Most people would feel so much shame and embarrassment that they would keep it to themselves. However I think that speaking out helps the grieving process and internalising the pain must make it even worse.
I think you're right and sharing this and seeing how people are reaching out to share their stories is helping to reveal that. You are very right at least for me. Speaking out has been a very helpful way to heal and turn the pain into helpful medicine. It's a process... and I thank you for sharing
Oh there are plenty. There is a whole channel dedicated to them and telling their story. Several, even after being shown proof will continue to send their scammers money. Even if it means they have to take out loans. I’m glad I am ok with being alone when time I have been single.
Billion dollar industry.
Seniors get wiped out and then your tax dollars must care for them.
people keep thinking that there are real people talking to you online.
It’s very common. Unfortunately people who aren’t very smart make it worthwhile for scammers.
Go fund you?? You made your own bed!!
It’s called he’s scamming lol
Seriously, whatever he gets will be lost again next time he’s scammed.
I like how these scammed people always play victim when the scammers aren't holding a weapon on them.
Yay! Trusting online strangers with a lot of money! The guaranteed path to succes.
This scam has been going on decades; warning’s about it everywhere ! I can’t believe it’s still happening ! Meeting on line is a big no no !
Meeting online is not a problem, starting a fake investment on a dating website makes absolutely no sense at all !!!!
I met my wife online and I've been happy for 8 years so far 😊
For many people online dating works, or so they say..For me, only real life relations ever worked..I met online few men, did not do me anything bad, on the contrary, tried to do me good, but it did not feel real...nothing beats real life meeting..sweet and real
I can believe it’s still happening. Some people are very desperate for love and companionship. Some people are dumb.
One must use discernment at all times. Never let your guard down. People will take advantage of you. It doesn't matter how nice they portray themselves to be.
Lots of truth here. At the same time I know I was skeptical and discerning. I tried to research this opportunity to see if it was a real thing. What's more, they are very good at their job and know how to build trust. So it is a little more nuanced than that.
That's part of why I made this video, to help point the direction and share the clues so people know what to look out for as they are using their discernment to evaluate if something is the real deal or not...
It all comes down to trusting no one. How terribly sad. Devastating.
@@shaithaimassage I'm so sorry this happened to you, but please don't gaslight yourself by saying you were discerning. The huge, enormous, screeching red flag right at the beginning was her refusing to talk or video. And her saying that writing helped her to see into someone's "soul". Please watch lots of scam videos because you are now on many scammer's victim lists. You also need to work on yourself because you're still looking for free money with your GoFundMe.
@@shaithaimassage What are you talking about? You asked her about helping you with investing. She didn’t even have to start scamming you! What research did you do??? It’s super easy to find this scam online. It’s all over the internet with detailed information. Anyone who invests in an online brokerage and who doesn’t vet that brokerage is an idiot. Sorry but you are a scammers dream. It doesn’t get any easier than you. It’s super easy to vet these online brokers and investment websites.
ANYBODY can say ANYTHING. Very sorry that this happened to you. Thank you for having the courage and motivation to share your story with others.
I'm very sorry for you. These kinds of scams are especially hurtful and personal. It always breaks my heart when good people get hurt like this.
Thanks. Very much appreciated.
Isolating, and enjoying being alone, is a super power these days.
I will NEVER understand how people fall for these obviously fake romance scams. It’s so odd how some people will put their guard down for someone they never met and have no real life connection with and give them money - not small amounts of money, literally their life savings.
And the scam techniques aren’t even that complex. The average person can spot them from miles away. People will bleed themselves dry for someone they’ve never seen, touched, hugged, kissed, nothing.
It's not a scam, it's just asking an idiot for money and he's more than willing to do so due to unbelievable stupidity
Very lonely men frustrated with western women dating culture. I can see how it'd be hard to understand for someone not in that position. But think about it objectively and it at least makes sense. I got taken for a few thousand from someone in the Philippines. Thankfully I was smart enough to end it before I lost more. I learned my lesson, got back on the horse, and eventually met and married a very good woman from Thailand. We are 11 years into marriage now.
They fall for them because they’re desperate.
Loneliness and desperation for a connection can blind you to obvious/minor red flags. I didn't and would've never sent this person or possibly people any money, but I wasted 4 months being emotionally attached to a random person I had never seen or heard. At first, I thought they were a catfish because of his limited online presence and the lack of me ever seeing him or hearing his voice.
This caused suspicions and arguments about him being a catfish. It wasn't until the last week of us talking, that was the first time he hinted at money and said, "Let's not fight through a keyboard, buy me a ticket, I'll come there and we'll fight in person." That's when all of the alarm bells started going off in my head, and I realized some minor red flags throughout our 4 month interaction.
A lot of these scammers will play the long game, build up a friendship, etc, over weeks, months, or even years before they hint at or outright ask for you to do something financially for them. Scammers like that are usually smart, strategic, and patient at their con/scam. My experience taught me about long con scammers, I always assumed most scams were short cons where, within the first or few messages, it would be very obvious it was a scam, and I'd spot them easily.
The long game scammers usually juggle multiple prospects simultaneously, all at various stages of the con.
I'm sorry you had this experience, and it's admirable that you're prepared to put your story out there to try to prevent this happening to someone else.
One way these criminals get away with this stuff is because victims tend to say nothing because of the embarrassment they feel.
Sadly this is what the world has come to. Scams have been around as long as man has walked on two legs but our modern communication capabilities has multiplied the potential for this crap.
One piece of wisdom I've applied my entire life is to NEVER EVER EVER gamble what you can't afford to lose, no matter how tempting and how 'sure fire' something is claimed to be.
Thank you for your words. I completely agree with all of it. It's a big motivation for making the video.
Sorry my dude, no one deserves that but thank you for sharing, it’s a huge deal and you should be proud of yourself.
The moral of the story is: Don’t be a sucker!
(s)He was a heartless scammer. Thank you for sharing.
You're welcome and I thank you for your words. They make an impact!
Bless your heart *VortexTrace* . Its so sad how the scammers prey on the elderly and the uninformed public. Bless you and all others who fight against these crimes. It’s horrible how mainstream media is not doing the right thing by shining light on these things to help the public.!!!!
I’m so sorry this happened to you. These con-artists have a metaphoric Ph.D in Con-vincing people to part with their money. Romance is one part of their scheme. It’s very kind of you to share you story to save others. Please continue to heal. This is not your fault. Empathy, Lisa 🙏🕊
She didn’t even have to do anything besides be nice to this guy. He was the one who asked her to help him make money investing. This guy in an idiot.
Who's fault is it?
Your name is not Lisa Smith. I think you are a scammer. Even your thumbnail was stolen from another site I saw. Cute dog regardless. Do better in life "LISA."
PhD? Nah. They have the same intellectual capabilities as people who drop out of highschool... If you've seen any romance scammer revealed videos, scammers just shower their victims with generic compliments... This dude has some sort of social deficit in his life, maybe not due to his own actions, there is a loneliness epidemic going around at the moment, but he got suckered in because out of either excessive loneliness or lust.
This type of thing has been going on for so long, It's truly amazing to me that anyone would still fall for it!
Exactly what I was thinking!
Totally agree.
Loneliness. I am lonely too but I compensate through parasocial relationships on UA-cam lollll
I never replied to the guys who are oil engineers good looking middle aged with pics all uploaded on the same day on Instagram. It screams catfishing!
Five months on from posting this video..... I hope things are improving every day and you are feeling less pain. I also hope you have had the right sort of attention from viewers. Best wishes.
Awesome work, Team *ASTRATRUSTHQ* It's So satisfying to see you putting in the effort to stop those shady characters. Protecting the public, especially the elderly, from those despicable con artists is crucial. You truly deserve recognition and appreciation for keeping us secure. I'm thrilled for you because you're my sibling. - Your accomplishments definitely make you a strong contender for the Nobel Peace Prize. Keep up the outstanding performance! You are a living testament to an honest and devoted worker! I am thankful for your input! 💕
He has a daughter and a business but sent money to a complete stranger "
And found a way to make it profitable too with a go fund me. Who’s scamming who I wonder 💭
Thank you for speaking out. It really does help others.
Thank you very much. It's very much appreciated
Happened to me online dating scam too. Lost a lot of money & retirement money. Will have to work for the rest of my life. I hope people will watch and learn that there are scammers out there. FBI didn't help me at all. My family tried to tell me that I was being scamed, but I didn't listen. I thought this person loved me. And I was trying to help him. God Bless You.
Outstanding job done by *Charge backtools* I'm so glad you're out there battling these vile con artists.
We must take every precaution to protect the general people and the elderly from these vile con artists!!
Bravo to YOU!! you ought to be awarded the Nobel Prize for protecting us. Big up, brother.
I SALUTE You for all that your doing, helping all the victims of these scambaggs!
They so deserved to be humiliated and be exposed to the public, these people have No place on this world, welldone *ChargeBack Tools* we're here to support you, More Power to you and all your friends, watching from France
You’re great . Seriously. You’re super likable at the same time. The FBI should seriously hire you right now based off of these videos. You’re a true patriot, sir. Thank you *VortexTrace* for all you do please don’t stop. You’re so important to this country people like you. You’re putting fear into literal countries. On a funny note; your characters are legendary at this point……..
This feels so familiar. I lost my dad but the pain and shame I felt when I got scammed on FB dating to someone I thought was Soo sincere was unbelievable. Sorry to hear this happened to you too
My heart goes out to you as well. Hard to know what it's like unless it has happened to you. I hope your healing process is going well.
Don't feel bad. I had the same thing happen on a dating site. I lost over 1500 dollars being ignorant. I deleted all apps and quit online dating all together
Same thing happened to me but I was lucky. I got out only losing $1000....but the shame and heart break is still the same.
Bro i appreciate you sharing this. My friend is going thru this and i really couldn't understand this was a thing but it KILLED his self confidence.
Bro, I'm so sorry it happened to your friend. It really is a thing and I feel for him. It's a big process of rebuilding and I'm holding space for him that he can do it in as healthy a way possible
Quickly report to KRUDCRACKS for help he leaped me out
On instagram
It's called catfishing.
Thank you for sharing your experience as difficult as it is. I would imagine that you have saved someone elses life. The monetary damage is horrible, but the emotional damage is down right cruel in my eyes.
I wish you all the best in your healing.
This isn’t cat fishing. Quite often they’re not stealing someone’s identity and pictures. They hire real women to do these scams.
This is different. Pigbutchering is a very specific scam
Not at all cat fishing. It’s a pig butchering scam. Cat fishing isn’t even a monetary thing, it’s something morbidly obese and ugly people do to try and feel attractive
@@dogger37JCnone of these people are real women. These are Nigerian men behind fake pictures of women. The idea that these women are real is completely incorrect and actually is a dangerous myth to spread because it makes these pathetic losers think that a real woman was actually interacting with them instead of an 85 IQ Nigerian man. There’s a reason no video chat, and often not even a phone call, are involved in these scams
I have watched a zillion shows about scammers, especially catfish…and on Wednesdays they have a new episode…I call it scammer Wednesday….and the stories are so similar as what your situation was….I hate scammers…scourge of the earth…glad your healing….you look like a super cool man…you’ll be ok❤
Thanks!
I love that channel.
I’m so sorry this happened. Best wishes to you!
Your strength to reveal this is amazing. Best of luck with everything!
Really powerful that you come out to us and share your story. Your recovery, awareness, and aligned commitment to the rest of us is inspiring, assuring, and awakening. I'm greatful that you have decided to be a catalyst and a storyteller supporting a more empowered future.
Thank you! That really means a lot
Sentimental nonsense.Hes just a silly tw*t
This experience is a harsh realty for many, and I can see where the shame could drive one into silence, inner pain and even worse. Revealing that this happened to you lets other victims know they're not alone. By speaking up, you're shedding a light on this evil that will spread awareness and stop this from happening more. Thank you for sacrificing your privacy to help others.
Thank you so much. Yes, you know it. It has that potential power. Your comments are very much appreciated.
Wow! Sorry to hear this man. Sending you healing, love and light. We live and learn. Thank you for sharing your story. ❤
Thank you for sharing your story. These stories about people taking advantage of trust and love always hit me on different level. I can't imagine how people can live with themselves hurting others this way. Hopefully life has been treating you better the past few months.
Now he has a go fund me page. Maybe he's a scammer!
Exactly what I’m thinking too.
I think you are right!!! First of all I don’t think you’re supposed to make a go fund me to rebuild your savings! People on here need to be alerted so they don’t donate to rebuild his savings!!!
@@sparkles7420 click on the link he provided and report it as a scam
The first thing I thought is he’s trying to scam with his sad scamming story! He would be more convincing if he didn’t ask for money at the end. Now I doubt his story.
I'll give you my 2 cents. You gave your money away. Hopefully you learned something. That's my contribution to you.
Lots of Red Flags in this Relationship that I would have heeded….#1 NEVER let money out of your hands and it’s too good to be true……
Pretty brave to share this. Imagine the folks you have helped already!
I'm 35 years married so no dating for me but scams can come in many forms. Kudos to you.
"Brave"? then Bozo the Clown must be a superhero
@@kendallevans4079 Hey Kendall, how is mom? Can you empty the dehumidifier?
Thanks bro!
@@superameric8 No one says "bro" in 2023....got t?
@@kendallevans4079 OK "homie".
"kudos to you"???
For losing his life savings???
Let me guess: you're from Florida! 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Cannot help (the currency in my country is 12.5% of a dollar) but I really hope you recover fully (mentally, spiritually and monetarily) from this. You seem like a good guy
The 1st 'Red Flag' was when he told about his 'dating story'. Never 'dated', never met. Sorry for all the pain, that's the only part that becomes real. A broken heart really is life changing.
He says he met her once, which does help add an extra level of credibility to the scam. That woman must be very busy travelling around meeting with potential victims though! She's probably also working as a money mule to move cash.
I'm so sorry this happened to you. I'm glad your friends were skeptical and helped you research this. I pray you can recoup your $$$. All the best to you!
More like glad his friends are smarter than he is.
That’s sucks man. Genuinely really wishing you all the best moving forward
it was a chinese scammer. It is a guy he did the same thing to me. It NOT a female. ITS a name. I know him. HE scammed me out of 7k. HE lives in Long Beach here in California. I track him down.
Being deceived in this way, hard earned money stolen, hopes stolen.. that's devastating. A unique kind of loss. I'm so sorry this happened to you. Thank you for bravely sharing your story so that hopefully others can avoid the scam. My heart goes out to you.
Thank you very much. Your support is very well received.
This has got to be really hard to share & I appreciate you for doing this
I hope you’ve recovered even more now. I will always despise any type of scammer. Your message is helping others! ❤
Really feel for you. These type of scams are so prevalent nowadays. Thanks for being so brave and sharing your story.
Yea so prevalent that you have to be kind of dumb to fall for it.
"Brave"? He's making money with every "like". Nothing brave about that!