You are not an introvert.

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  • @LanaBlakely
    @LanaBlakely  2 роки тому +397

    Sorry about the colors + quality of this video. I'm in the midst of moving (more on that later) and so I don't have my normal setting + equipment. But I still wanted to film this video for you all.

    • @Pkvlog-tm7bm
      @Pkvlog-tm7bm 2 роки тому +7

      Your soul is beautiful Lana 🌃

    • @markokircanski9157
      @markokircanski9157 2 роки тому +2

      Cannot emphasize this enough, you're my hero Lana! :)

    • @nickbieloff3228
      @nickbieloff3228 2 роки тому +3

      Your new style is amazing! I mean glasses and a t-shirt and hair. It all fits together. Thanks for this video! Actually, I learn english watching and listening to your videos) Have a good day!

    • @ibrahimbajwa2471
      @ibrahimbajwa2471 2 роки тому +2

      Lana's words of wisdom

    • @vlogsbydaisy
      @vlogsbydaisy 2 роки тому +2

      The quality was pretty good in my opnion, its okay

  • @qqq6309
    @qqq6309 2 роки тому +705

    I feel people’s vibes toward me. If i feel that he or she doesn’t vibe with me a tiny bit, i back off. I like hanging out with people that genuinely likes and shows interest towards being friends with me. I do not try to be nice to someone who dislikes me in the first place anymore, it was a lesson learned.

  • @ChaosArtist
    @ChaosArtist 2 роки тому +723

    "When they define you, they are limiting themselves and it's their problem". That's something that has been sinking in with me more recerntly.

    • @Ihavemadeit999
      @Ihavemadeit999 2 роки тому +1

      Omg.thank you for this

    • @Ihavemadeit999
      @Ihavemadeit999 2 роки тому +6

      Wait i just realized it was from the video🤣Thank you for making me realizing twice

    • @ChaosArtist
      @ChaosArtist 2 роки тому +1

      @@Ihavemadeit999 glad the comment was a useful reminder :)

    • @MartinAliberti
      @MartinAliberti 2 роки тому +3

      Could you say a little more about how you interpret that? I'm not sure I understand it.

    • @ChaosArtist
      @ChaosArtist 2 роки тому +15

      @@MartinAliberti well in this context if someone see's me as an introvert according to their own definition of an introvert then that's not a reality I have to live with but one they're living with. For example somebody might define an introvert as someone who is quiet, soft spoken and passive and in their minds they can make this mean that this type of person wouldn't do things like actively creating videos on UA-cam or enjoying travelling and meeting new people. They are limiting themselves by not taking the time to get to know and understand the individual person in front of them rather than what they think they know about them. The only thing that really matters is how I understand my more introverted qualities and what I make that mean about myself.

  • @1OBGS
    @1OBGS 2 роки тому +621

    I am a very confident person in myself, do well in large groups, in front of people and around people but, I find people tiring and absolutely love retiring back to my home space to enjoy complete and utter peace and quiet.
    I can’t bring myself to engage in pointless conversations or to laugh for the sake of not being awkward.
    I would much rather be in my own space than out and about and absolutely identify as an introvert

    • @chadsoflyyy8201
      @chadsoflyyy8201 2 роки тому +3

      Thats me for sure.

    • @sarscov9854
      @sarscov9854 2 роки тому +1

      @E v e NO

    • @timwannell6477
      @timwannell6477 2 роки тому +12

      Introversion/extroversion can be thought of as a continuum. No need for ambiversion/ bi-directionality/ multiversion or else. It’s nonsensical, rhetorical and low on utility

    • @user-sr5kj6ej9z
      @user-sr5kj6ej9z 2 роки тому +3

      @E v e I mean, it's like a spectrum right. And you're probably just right in the middle. So basically, you're liluzivert.

    • @leighadams9727
      @leighadams9727 2 роки тому +2

      Holy crap!😦 It's so weird this video showed in my recommended list. I was just journaling today and I asked myself whether I'm a social creature who forgot how to be social. (It's weird cause I wrote it down in a book so there's no way my phone could have heard me.) 😅 I've always had a lot of friends growing up and I can get along with almost anyone but the last 10-12 years I've kind of been keeping to myself. I hardly see any of my friends. I can go for months without needing to see anyone outside of my family. I don't even really like texting and I only have one friend who gets this, everyone else takes offense. I was also thinking that I wouldn't mind befriending some high energy people and going hiking or doing other fun activities instead of what my friends and I usually do when we get together and that's smoke mj or occasionally drink and I find that those things drain my energy and makes me feel like I need a break from human interaction.

  • @14.ananyahkrishna76
    @14.ananyahkrishna76 2 роки тому +16

    You gave the correct distinction between social anxiety and introversion...period!

  • @DoctorAzmain
    @DoctorAzmain 2 роки тому +429

    This is SO RELATABLE! I've been told so many times "there's no way you're an introvert, you must have so many friends"! We are all individuals - personally I can relate with INFJ / shyness / introversion. But I'm not necessarily the same as another person who identified like this! OPINION STILL VALID! The years of effort and personal development we've put into opening up and growing into ourselves - other people don't see it! Labels may or may not be helpful, depends on the individual, and we should respect that! And btw I ❤️ the glasses 🙌✌️

    • @yathprem
      @yathprem 2 роки тому +1

      ayyy good to find you here brother!

    • @DoctorAzmain
      @DoctorAzmain 2 роки тому

      @@yathprem Ayyy my dude ❤️ good to see you too 🙌 things we can relate to, right?? 😂

    • @Raquel_Covington
      @Raquel_Covington 2 роки тому +1

      Couldn’t have said this better myself

    • @bhanveegupta1531
      @bhanveegupta1531 2 роки тому +4

      I identify with INFJ as well but I can really connect with people, deep down. Latter is something I've figured out via self-development over the years.. .not to become an extrovert, but to able to connect with people better coz I wanted to 🙌

    • @mirelasemanjaku
      @mirelasemanjaku 2 роки тому +2

      I agree! I am 32 and have been working on myself my entire life! At first to understand it and now to find a way to live in this world/society of extroverts and feel as normal as I can. Extroverts don't do 1/4 of the self-work we put into because since the beginning we are told that we are not ok and should change.

  • @mikegreenguitar
    @mikegreenguitar 2 роки тому +105

    People are sometimes surprised when I tell them I'm an introvert. That surprise is a complement, I've worked hard developing ways of coping with the parts of life that aren't my natural habitat. It can sometimes be exhausting!

    • @mar4348
      @mar4348 2 роки тому +3

      it’s really exhausting, especially when other people tell you stuff

    • @Thelittleclipstore
      @Thelittleclipstore 2 роки тому

      What’s ur mbti?

    • @mikegreenguitar
      @mikegreenguitar 2 роки тому

      @@Thelittleclipstore INSP

  • @NatureDaydream
    @NatureDaydream 2 роки тому +239

    It is OK to be an introvert and extrovert simultaneously (ambivert personality). Even though, I don't like attending the parties with too many people, there are other situations where I like being surrounded with more people. It all depends on my mood / energy level in a certain day. We all deserve appreciation for who we are. I can't wait for upcoming transformation in your life, Lana! ❤️ I hope your life will still be full of awesomeness. You still look beautiful with glasses.

    • @nabilapinontoan7763
      @nabilapinontoan7763 2 роки тому +8

      totally agree! in my case energy and also my mood level play a really huge role. like sometimes i can be so bold and always talkative when in a group of people (although it's truly exhausting). but when my battery is running low, i'll be so quiet and immediately need an alone time sooner

    • @user-yv7nb3fu9r
      @user-yv7nb3fu9r 2 роки тому +1

      u don't have to say that she's still look beautiful with glasses. because she is really beautiful and we are all beautiful.

    • @Thelittleclipstore
      @Thelittleclipstore 2 роки тому +3

      We all have introverted parts and extroverted parts in us. One of them just dominates always

    • @Thelittleclipstore
      @Thelittleclipstore 2 роки тому +1

      You heard of cognitive functions ?

    • @yuibkys3522
      @yuibkys3522 2 роки тому +1

      Yeah we used to just call that human beings. But i guess that's not quirky enough

  • @save_your_mind
    @save_your_mind 2 роки тому +102

    Being an introvert and constantly being pushed to socialize is absolutely draining. But sometimes I just get tired of giving explanations on being asked why I won't to a certain event or socialize with people like most of the people in my circle do. I am guilty of masking my introversion at times. It sure takes a toll later on. I am trying to fix it and be who I really am without bothering to give explanations or playing an extrovert. I am slowly taking courage to reflect and be better to myself first than to others.

    • @mae5939
      @mae5939 2 роки тому +2

      Youre just insecure dw

    • @yuibkys3522
      @yuibkys3522 2 роки тому +2

      Look i hate to tell you. But this whole introvert extrovert thing has no real scientific backing. What it's really used for is a massive coping mechanism. You can just blame all your problems on being introverted. Everything socially expected from you, no need to fix that nothing wrong with me im just an introvert.
      The problem is how serious and how far people take this whole thing, like its somekind of religion. And that's because they wouldn't rather live in their safe little coping box then accept reality.

    • @kenz2756
      @kenz2756 2 роки тому

      @@yuibkys3522 Yeah i agree, there are many 'introverts' who are nice, pleasant, giggly, angsty, hostile, whatever. Just as there are many variables of extroverts. I do think that many people use introversion as a coping mechanism to a problem that lies somewhere else. Being quiet's fine, but the internet has shown that many introverts sort of use it to justify acting like an ass or something.

  • @taabishkhanself-improvemen7331
    @taabishkhanself-improvemen7331 2 роки тому +227

    *“You’ll watch an entire Netflix series even when the first episodes are slow just because someone told you that ‘it gets better’, but what if you looked at your goals like that and watched your life get better instead?”*
    Love from a small UA-camr💙

  • @amalie7891
    @amalie7891 2 роки тому +104

    I tend to use my introversion as a safety blanket and I think I needed this! Incredible video, thank you Lana!

    • @LanaBlakely
      @LanaBlakely  2 роки тому +32

      Honesty is everything. Thanks for sharing.

  • @Someone-gj3go
    @Someone-gj3go 2 роки тому +155

    Sometimes people use labels as a crutch not to step out of there comfort zone, both introverts and extroverts.

  • @KreeZafi
    @KreeZafi 2 роки тому +26

    THANK YOU for addressing that being an introvert is not the same as having social anxiety! It drives me absolutely mad how so many people think introvert equals socially anxious or at least shy (and I bet plenty of shy or socially anxious people mistakenly define themselves as introverts for this reason). That just straight up is not what it means. If I see one more meme about "introverts" having anxiety about phone calls I'm going to SCREAM!
    I'm one of the most extreme introverts I've ever come across, I think I could genuinely go months without seeing another human and be perfectly content. I hardly EVER feel any longing for social interaction, I can't remember what loneliness even feels like, and whenever I'm around people I will pretty quickly get tired and need alone time to recharge. But I am not at all shy or anxious or any of those introvert stereotypes. I'm quite loud and animated when I speak, if I actually get into a conversation that interests me. I've had people who don't know me very well be really shocked when I say I'm super introverted, because I don't look like the stereotype people expect of someone who is staring down at the ground and speaking in a quiet meek voice. It cannot be stated enough that THAT'S NOT WHAT INTROVERTED MEANS!

  • @minecraftstation6422
    @minecraftstation6422 2 роки тому +11

    Those glasses complete the therapist look 👌

  • @turtleshell8835
    @turtleshell8835 2 роки тому +12

    one particular thing you mentioned really stuck with me. for years, I've always simply labeled myself as an "introvert". I felt safe and understood if I was under that label. but only recently, I've understood that it was my social anxiety and fear that was holding me back. throughout my school years I silently hoped people would talk to me, but I was too anxious to take the initiative. I realized that introversion/extroversion has nothing to do with how you openly behave at all.

  • @majesticderik1347
    @majesticderik1347 2 роки тому +25

    In my opinion, everyone needs their peace and quiet from time to time. Being around people is fine but there are times where people just need time for themselves.

  • @hassel412
    @hassel412 2 роки тому +48

    At least being on youtube, we are not physically socializing which is less draining than meeting people in person.

  • @SFlaidlaw101
    @SFlaidlaw101 2 роки тому +219

    I was not expecting this. But Lana, I LOVE how you take everything and spin it on its head. 💕 I feel like your perspectives are always unique and new, and watching this is like having a deep conversation with a good friend. ✨😃

  • @blognroses3161
    @blognroses3161 2 роки тому +2

    You are an ambivert. So am I. We are comfortable with socializing, but also wanting our alone time very often. Sometimes socializing more than what we can stand, it drains our energy.

  • @adelaticha7553
    @adelaticha7553 2 роки тому +14

    You really got my attention, when you said those words about whether it is fear or our decision that hold us back. Now I know what to figure out. Thanks 💖

  • @missgaja_259
    @missgaja_259 2 роки тому +57

    You gave me a whole new perspective on my introversion, this was really illuminating, thanks

    • @LanaBlakely
      @LanaBlakely  2 роки тому +12

      ❤️❤️

    • @namalpresath4579
      @namalpresath4579 2 роки тому

      @@LanaBlakely hi will you merry me we can create beautiful life together hope

  • @deanjames1934
    @deanjames1934 2 роки тому +14

    "I don't hate people, I just prefer it when they aren't around" Charles Bukowski.

  • @slobwithoutaname3714
    @slobwithoutaname3714 2 роки тому +10

    I’ve questioned exactly this and other similar stuff, like, for example, “do I really hate social media or am I afraid to put myself out on the internet for fear of being judged?” soooooo many times

  • @jaimebenson6102
    @jaimebenson6102 2 роки тому +5

    YOU are always LOVELY and BRILLIANT, Lana!

  • @serena6418
    @serena6418 2 роки тому +10

    i really like this video. i've always considered myself an introvert but i'm now starting to realise that in many situations, i'm confusing introversion with social anxiety

  • @save_your_mind
    @save_your_mind 2 роки тому +3

    I just love the way you make things so simple yet special and relatable. Its like a therapy session that calms me, everytime I watch your videos. It intrigues me to look within myself as well.💕

  • @hemanthkotagiri8865
    @hemanthkotagiri8865 2 роки тому +8

    Was going through hard times, thank you so much for this.

  • @kathi6844
    @kathi6844 2 роки тому +8

    Oh my god I love the glasses!! They're so aesthetically pleasing and suit you really well!

  • @Oskieniebs
    @Oskieniebs 2 роки тому +2

    That doubting self thing is really what makes an introvert so special and having “me” time is fun. Keep doing vids 😊

  • @masruramashiur3801
    @masruramashiur3801 2 роки тому +5

    Your videos are literally like my therapies🥺. I can connect more with myself while watching your videos.
    Love you 💞💞💞💞💞🥺

  • @emanuelmarqueztorres4222
    @emanuelmarqueztorres4222 2 роки тому +4

    Finding this channel has been a blessing, i love Lana in every step of her life!!!

  • @MartinAliberti
    @MartinAliberti 2 роки тому +18

    Introversion has been a relevant theme for me as well lately. I was in a typical college dorm setting for a few weeks this summer and there would sometimes be several parties over the weekend. I would go to one on Friday and muster my energy to project the more social side of myself but then usually on the second day I would find myself having no desire to go to any parties or particularly social events. When I did go to another party anyways, there would often come this moment where I was just chilling on the couch away from the center of activity, just trying to regain my energy but also enjoying the experience in my own way for what I needed and wanted for that time. I didn't want to talk to people or seek out others attention but it was sort of nice to just lie down there and take in the music, hear the talking in the background and observe everything from the outside. Then some friendly folk would come over to me and ask me, as you had mentioned, "are you okay? Is everything alright?" And I really was okay. I was just doing what I wanted, it was a little asocial sure, but I didn't quite want to go home and sleep and that was a good middle ground for me. At some point it becomes quite annoying to have different well-meaning people ask you the same question many times and have to convince them that I'm actually fine and I'm just introverted.
    Anyways that was just a relevant memory but the thing I've been thinking about lately is actually the relationship between introversion and introspection. With this summer experience I had much more frequent social activity, especially coming from the pandemic, and along with the fact that I made several extroverted friends there with whom I could talk candidly, I think I became more sensitive to my own experience of introversion, that is, my perception and how it's different than that of an extrovert. I've reflected on how I identify with introversion, for example, I'm often thinking to myself and tuning in to my own inner feelings and thoughts. I suspect that, at least for me, introversion is a tendency to perceive inwards rather than outwards, to be introspective. I feel almost stuck in that tendency. I listened to these extroverts describe how they get energy just from being around other people -- a concept I have a hard time understanding because I NEVER feel that way, even at my most social moments, it may feel like a very efficient flow and synergy with the people around me and I am still playing off of them but I never thought I was getting any "energy" or what not from them ... although now I'm not so sure.
    Anyways I clearly haven't organized my thoughts very well about this subject but what I've been trying lately is to play with my perception and to try to get an understanding of what it means to look outwards and gain energy from others. I want to learn something by trying the thing I'm usually not doing. If introspection is a thing, then surely extrospection is a thing as well. And it kinda seems to be working? For example when there's no one around, sometimes I'll be looking out, at my back yard or whatever, and I notice that although my eyes are looking outward, I see so little.. my inner narration of thoughts and feelings are shaping my perspective of how I see the outside world so intensely that I sense that I'm missing details or a wider lense or something. I try to practice focusing less on what is going on inside and strain to observe what is happening around me and something sort of starts to change and I actually feel generally less anxious in these moments. I've tried it with people around with similar results; just by trying to focus on what they say and less on my inner reaction or feelings about what they say and trying to perceive their "energy", whatever that is, being social seems to come a little easier to me and I'm a little more on their wavelength (it's easy for me to lose track of the conversation sometimes). It reminds me of meditation in which the goal is to quiet those thoughts gently, not by dismissing them but focusing on something singular like one's breathing (I'm terrible at meditation but I think intro/extroversion plays a role in that process; perhaps meditating is balancing those flows of energies). One can do the same thing in social events simply by refocusing one's attention to what is happening outside of their body, heart, and minds and instead on how others are expressing information from those respective sources of their own. An introvert's - or anybody's - awareness of their self never fully goes away, that's impossible. No one is fully introverted or extroverted, it is of course a spectrum. There's a tendency, a flow of energies or direction of perspective/perception and one can play with that and try to bend it in the opposite direction. And we're not trapped in box, I believe we're all capable of flexing like that as humans. I think we have a lot to learn by trying to be what we're not, because it will move us towards balance.

    • @dr.garimadhull1451
      @dr.garimadhull1451 2 роки тому +1

      This is near exact explanation to my thoughts about introversion, introspection, and trying to feel the energy not only of the people..but the surroundings in general as well.I feel being an introvert sometimes I'm so much focused on my inside aspects that I don't have the energy left to feel anything from outside.. shutting down the thoughts within just gets a bit too overwhelming at times and draining obviously.
      But yeah trying to consciously focus on opposites just might give an insight to different ways of coping or socially adjusting.

    • @MartinAliberti
      @MartinAliberti 2 роки тому

      @@dr.garimadhull1451 I can definitely understand what you describe! Those sound like two extremes to adapting to introversion but since they're so extreme they seem like maladaptations. I think the idea of balance is good, to be introspective and extraspective at the same time. Aware of one thoughts and feelings but also perceiving the energy from others and world around you. We are already near that balance on a relatively introverted side. Instead to completely block our inner noise or let it play out on full blast to ourselves (ultimately counterproductive and exhausting), we should strive to let our introspective self remain speaking but also be more extroverted by putting a priority on perceiving the external energies over our inner energies. You have to focus to do that because there's that consistent pull where we end up introspecting again without noticing the shift. Like a a game of tug of war but the rope for some reason is automatically moving towards you and we should try to pull it away from us to reach a balance ... as uncomfortable or unnatural as that is/sounds
      But we can become good at any one thing when we practice it, right?

  • @chloekitching
    @chloekitching 2 роки тому +53

    People can assume things so quickly before getting to know someone for who they really are. This video showed me a new perspective on this topic. Thank you for making this Lana 💕

  • @skalitosepwh3340
    @skalitosepwh3340 2 роки тому +85

    Lana’s literally my therapist😌✨

  • @jboughtin7522
    @jboughtin7522 2 роки тому +3

    You're really rockin' those new glasses girl! They really look good on you. So there, and that's coming from an introvert. What do thing of them apples?

  • @maomao_O
    @maomao_O 2 роки тому +8

    no one is talking about how beautiful her English is, even tho it's not her native language, i mean, look at those phrases she used through out the video, wow

  • @brookcej
    @brookcej 2 роки тому +2

    Thanks for your 2 cents! You have a very soothing voice and way of speaking. 😁

  • @fullsunoo
    @fullsunoo 2 роки тому +3

    love this so much. the quote at the end 💯💯💯

  • @mansityagi7848
    @mansityagi7848 2 роки тому +1

    I'm loving how your style is changing..more colorful 😍

  • @nicolebinko9998
    @nicolebinko9998 2 роки тому +5

    i really appreciate you Lana. Thanks for a video!

  • @reneenannemendoza7053
    @reneenannemendoza7053 2 роки тому +1

    Im so glad to see you're vlogs it gives me peace of mind :) introvert for life :)

  • @mariemmattoussi1461
    @mariemmattoussi1461 2 роки тому +3

    The safety blanket and boxing ourselves. I totally felt like that's what i've been doing for too long and I didn't know how to explain it properly therefore didn't know how to get out of tue cycle. Your video is spot on and makes me feel confident abt what i've been feeling and yes it's indeed time to change. Thank you 💕

  • @YestoHawaii
    @YestoHawaii 2 роки тому

    Definitely relatable. Agree 100%. Labels to box ourselves in are so self-limiting even if it starts as something small.

  • @ItsMe-wj1be
    @ItsMe-wj1be 2 роки тому +4

    Wise words well spoken, from your experience I’m sure! 👏🏻 If we are gentle with ourselves, then we allow ourselves freedom to explore and grow without personal judgment 💗

  • @Camocam28
    @Camocam28 2 роки тому +3

    I just enjoy your content so much omg

  • @Alex-fj3zk
    @Alex-fj3zk 2 роки тому +13

    Lana, you’re such a smart and insightful girl! I would be glad to have a friend like you! ❤️Yeah , I’m an introvert as well. We, alas, are judged by others who are more gregarious. They judge us before we can actually have a real conversation so we could express our personality and show the beauty of our inner world to the outer one. But most of the time they choose to consider introverts as weird people rather than get to know them better…

  • @JacobCarlson-uq1my
    @JacobCarlson-uq1my 7 місяців тому

    So true, I agree.
    I think that I recognize and do believe that thoughts and words do have meaning & power .

  • @ruqaiyyabohari9630
    @ruqaiyyabohari9630 2 роки тому +8

    I love how this video has been titled. Overall, it gave me so much insight ❤️✨

  • @pransharma680
    @pransharma680 2 роки тому +5

    Really needed this one, thx Lana😊❤

  • @user-yl1rl6lg2m
    @user-yl1rl6lg2m 2 роки тому +11

    The key is to keep a balance between our introvert and extrovert version. If I'm right the term is called: *ambivert*
    thanks for sharing Lana.

  • @uraveragenugget2772
    @uraveragenugget2772 2 роки тому +3

    i am the way i am. i relate most to the label of “introvert.” it makes me feel comforted, knowing that there’s other people like me and that it’s completely normal. i’ve been an introvert since i was a child, since a time i cannot even remember. my mom told me that teachers would worry about me (in preschool and elementary school) because i wouldn’t participate much, but nothing was really wrong. i was content with just observing people. i like to talk to people sometimes, but it’s exhausting and anxiety-inducing for me. for me it’s not a label i choose, but one that i relate most with.

  • @2ssSTEPupPP2
    @2ssSTEPupPP2 2 роки тому +3

    I loved this video. Thank you so much. I feel like your videos should be shown to everybody so they can know about the differences of people, because you explain it so well. And also it would make my life as an introvert so much easier because I just can't or I just don't want to explain to people why I am the way I am

  • @stewart1555
    @stewart1555 2 роки тому +3

    Interesting topic to tackle for sure and I agree with your final thoughts and that quote at the end. I feel like the more I analyze/define myself is the more I box/limit myself. Labels are truly a limitations, to a point were I hardly give myself a chance to surprise myself or do/try anything new.
    Ever since the pandemic began I found myself more on UA-cam seeking companionship in reactions/reviews of the entertainment that i enjoy.
    I'd say it's more of a case of me having Social Anxiety, than being an Introvert.

  • @eshxta5004
    @eshxta5004 2 роки тому +1

    i just want to say thankyou so much for making this video, its actually so important what you pointed out about identifying whether being an introvert is a choice based on preference or on fear. I sometimes catch myself backing out in social situations because of anxiety, even if i want to be there. I guess its important to sometimes just step out of our comfort zone and put ouselves out there if it really is a fear-based decision

  • @rutujatawde9611
    @rutujatawde9611 2 роки тому +1

    THIS VID IS SO IMPORTANT I CANT STRESS ENOUGH

  • @wood1793
    @wood1793 2 роки тому +3

    Just tough day at work, Lana's new video notification appears. well this day is not that bad after all. ❤

  • @pianoboy3225
    @pianoboy3225 2 роки тому +3

    You’re awesome Lana! :)

  • @selfhelpstuff
    @selfhelpstuff 2 роки тому +1

    I'm one of your biggest fans. Thank you so much for inspiring me opening my own UA-cam Channel Lana. You're loved !

  • @JuanGarcia-ds4sl
    @JuanGarcia-ds4sl 2 роки тому +1

    a few years ago i met this group of people where we would hang out pretty much all the time, slowly i started to say NO to some invitations until i barely went out with them. back in the day i wouldn’t notice why i lost that friendship, in fact nowadays i do and i regret it. thankfully i learned from this experience that closing yourself is not always a good thing if you want to have a relationship with someone else, especially if that someone else is a person you really get along

  • @SeraphineClarisse
    @SeraphineClarisse 2 роки тому +2

    thank you for this good talk :)

  • @stephanieshindo7537
    @stephanieshindo7537 2 роки тому +4

    Heyy everything you said in this video is so important like in every other videos you do
    And i must say, i loved this chill kinda cloudy vibe of this specific video

  • @erinperise
    @erinperise 2 роки тому +3

    I am literally in love with your videos! Thank you so much for sharing your beautiful thoughts they help so much 💓

  • @rodrigomaximilianobellusci8860
    @rodrigomaximilianobellusci8860 2 роки тому

    Cool glasses!
    I definitely have limited my behavior more than once to stay within the labels I assigned to myself. Since realizing that I've been trying to stop defining myself but it's not easy.
    I like that quote at the end. I'll try to remember it.

  • @PracticalInspiration
    @PracticalInspiration 2 роки тому +14

    lol, the opening 30 seconds or so left me completely confused, but I can relate to this for sure. I have friends who sometimes misunderstand me as extroverted, despite the contrary

  • @AndrewForeman88
    @AndrewForeman88 2 роки тому +5

    Good reminder to choose to be aware and ask "what do I really want" when offered choices. Still, typically I'll choose solitude :)

  • @mastrake
    @mastrake 2 роки тому +1

    I didn't notice anything bad about the quality of the video and as usual, your message is very sensible.

  • @markokircanski9157
    @markokircanski9157 2 роки тому +6

    Thank you Lana for making another insightful video. :) Oh and by the way, every Sunday is reserved for watching what you create with great anticipation. :)

  • @rodcmf
    @rodcmf 2 роки тому +4

    Introvert or not, your content is alwalys great. You produce quality videos and have substance behind your topics. You're always so well organize with your thoughts and sometimes humorous; like at the end of this video. Keep the videos coming, thanks.

  • @anabelapliso
    @anabelapliso 2 роки тому +6

    Never enyojed a video more than this one. THANK YOU LANA

  • @aglene7906
    @aglene7906 2 роки тому +2

    I can't stop thinking about how the short hair with bangs will make you more gorgeous :> ✨

  • @haniyell
    @haniyell 2 роки тому +1

    Your contents are so profound. Keep creating🌱

  • @sabermaster80
    @sabermaster80 2 роки тому +12

    Yeah i'm very happy lana that your addressing people's thoughts on this, because to be completely honest, i also wondered a few times if your a real introvert because you seemed quite comfy on camera, or were you just a highly intelligent academic who completely understood introverts. But this vid answered those wonderings anyhow 👍🏿

  • @Jan-ib9hp
    @Jan-ib9hp 2 роки тому

    It's easy to reflect on many things, but to reflect on self is like looking for a hidden treasure. (Love how perceptive you are)!

  • @flamingaish
    @flamingaish 2 роки тому +3

    THANKYOU SO MUCH for making this video!! I appreciate it very much.

  • @mariamnader2016
    @mariamnader2016 2 роки тому +4

    "Give up definding urself, to urself or to others, u won't die .u will come to life , and dont be concerned with how others definding u , when they define u , they r limiting themselves, and it's their problem" 💙

  • @Whatisright
    @Whatisright 2 роки тому +20

    It's always funny when people go after introverts who make content. You'd hope they'd be intelligent enough to think about it for a moment. Behind the camera is no one, there's rarely anyone else involved. This is why the internet works for us, we can communicate without actually having to deal directly with people. And if at any point anyone becomes too much, we can easily ignore them. As for the labels, don't identify with them, understand what they are. They're descriptive, but not thee thing they're about. Especially when talking about people. Introversion is how we move through the world, but it's not a definitive "what we are." We'll become extraverts quick with the right people/conversion. With any label it's most important in how you see yourself. If someone is going to write you off or not because whatever it is we or they may toss our way, it's on us not to think we're only those things. And honestly how is anyone else really supposed to know who we really are? It's an unrealistic expectation. No one can ever fully understand someone else unless they are that person. No matter what we only have limited interactions, even with loved ones. How often does a loved one surprise you with something you didn't know about them? A gear in a watch is not the watch itself right? Same thing with labels. Same wya light from a bulb is not the bulb, and bulb is not the light.

  • @lauranalie
    @lauranalie 2 роки тому

    May I just say that I love Lanas Videos sm. She is so calm and nice

  • @ren7056
    @ren7056 2 роки тому

    Thank you so much sharing this! For the past months, I've been trying so much to box myself in an mbti type. I searched for days and days to find where I would fit in. I wish I used all that time to do something productive :') And I think there are lots of people who do the same.. trying to box themselves inside something.

  • @ForzaGrowth
    @ForzaGrowth 2 роки тому +9

    Success may be contagious, so choose your friends wisely.

  • @michaelwiebe4282
    @michaelwiebe4282 2 роки тому +3

    Excellent video, Lana, may God bless you!

  • @CasContents
    @CasContents 2 роки тому +1

    Oh I LOVE this!! Thank you!!

  • @nadiarambles
    @nadiarambles 2 роки тому +20

    Yes we CAN be introverts who enjoy social connection, creating on social media and/or going to social events. "period ." 😂
    Loved this video Lana, providing great food for thought as always.

  • @mariammohamed2503
    @mariammohamed2503 2 роки тому +4

    The feeling that haunts me when I know that leaving school is strange with mixed feelings, I want to get rid of it, not because I study, the idea that I will make disturbing friendships, oh, at school, I stay alone, but when I see friends with each other, I pity myself and hope to be with them

  • @videofanimal
    @videofanimal 2 роки тому +1

    You have a calming voice 🙂

  • @SalwasTalks
    @SalwasTalks 2 роки тому +5

    Thanks Lana for this video! I really felt as if you were sitting in front of me and talking to me! here’s my little story : I am an introverted person and throughout my life I struggled to form relationships with people and I always had a problem to work with a group of people! so I looked for a job for introverts and found myself in the field of Graphic Design, I am very happy that I work alone in this field and I would like to tell all the introverts not to be ashamed of yourselves, but to be proud and look for a job that suits you and dream big!! 💙💫💫

  • @theprocess7222
    @theprocess7222 2 роки тому

    Oh my god this is everything!! EVERYTHING!!!!

  • @RaffaelloLorenzusSayde
    @RaffaelloLorenzusSayde 2 роки тому +3

    I learned to take risks in life to overcome my introverted lifestyle during childhood. I live in Lebanon where life is very open and friendly. It depends where you live, the people around you, and how social you are towards others. Thanks for revealing your experiences coping with introvesion and the advice given btw 🌹❤

  • @hendabuassad7554
    @hendabuassad7554 2 роки тому +4

    You are the best!!

  • @kryptonite754
    @kryptonite754 2 роки тому +7

    Just because I watch UA-cam doesn't mean I'm not an introvert, I disagree with that. Introverts are great listeners, and when watching UA-cam, all we are doing is literally just listening.

  • @theprocess7222
    @theprocess7222 2 роки тому

    I was literally thinking of filming a similar video last the other day! You've done an amazing job

  • @josephhudson7378
    @josephhudson7378 2 роки тому +1

    Lana is absolutely breathtaking....

  • @MrMarkalderman1
    @MrMarkalderman1 2 роки тому +4

    I love my job but I also look forward to my vacations. I usually don’t plan anything. I just sit home and read, watch Netflix, listen to music and write. I don’t usually plan anything with friends (it’s my time to be alone and do what I love)! I really look forward to this! My extroverted friends don’t understand but that’s ok with me because I’m doing what I love!

  • @brandonsanders9674
    @brandonsanders9674 2 роки тому +1

    I actually love your two scents!

  • @asogundaniel
    @asogundaniel 2 роки тому +3

    There is quite a lot to learn from this video. Thanks

  • @chelsea7755
    @chelsea7755 2 роки тому

    I've had issues trying to push myself to be more social in order to challenge my self appointed title of introversion.
    I have found I'm highly introverted. I need alone time in order to calm myself and recharge (just like you said).
    When I'm at social events I will also disappear for 15 minutes (maybe outside or in the bathroom).
    Challenging myself made me understand that I truly am in need of this recharge and its through challenging myself that I deeply acknowledged it as necessity.

  • @timgarth9207
    @timgarth9207 2 роки тому +1

    Nothing to be sorry about! You are absolutely awesome. Well done! Even the background is more real and appealing than if you did this video somewhere else!

  • @daalooll
    @daalooll 2 роки тому +1

    Thank u lana i luv u♥️♥️
    I feel like this was made for me

  • @jeremymullinax6982
    @jeremymullinax6982 2 роки тому +1

    Well done Lana!!!
    It's all about balance
    This was Awesome

  • @CJHealthyLife
    @CJHealthyLife 2 роки тому +1

    I love the glasses...you look great!

  • @ayahmazing2461
    @ayahmazing2461 2 роки тому +1

    It’s like I’m meditating while listening to her.