This is soooo true been in love with him for 10yrs and still wont commit but cant seem to pull away from him I get breadcrumbs sending you love and many blessings ❤🤗🌹
Exactly!, that's what I've learned. Well regarding guys, my dad told me . ",less is more with guys" . We don't have to give a ton of info In order for it to be quality toward them. 😼
@@Mushroom321- well I'm a guy and regarding the "less is more" investment theory; nonsense. Games nothing more. Give everything and you just might get everything back.
It became more apparent when his lack of effort was excused by him being tired and working a lot..when he works no more than he used to. I feel better being alone than being with someone who makes me feel alone.
I didn't know it was breadcrumbing because this is how I felt my whole childhood with my parents. They were never available for me, never wanting to spend time with me one-on-one. And I was so used to missing my own mom and dad - so much that it always hurt me. But they told me they loved me. So, I learned that missing someone (so much that it hurts) is what love feels like because I truly loved my parents and thought they truly loved me too. But only in my late 30's I realized that loving my parents actually was a very painful experience. When, already as a teen, I had implied to my mom that I felt like she didn't love me enough and that I felt like I couldn't get any of her attention, she raged at me and screamed wildly, making me feel guilty, spoiled, entitled and crazy. So, I learned that having needs meant I was selfish. Later when my two boyfriends started breadcrumbing me, I felt it would be selfish of me to complain about that and I just continued to miss them more and more, never bringing up the issue. My first boyfriend eventually ghosted me. The second boyfriend didn't ghost but discarded me. I was so emotionally devastated. Indeed, my heartbreak was brutally painful. Fortunately, youtube videos, like yours, taught me more about love than my own parents could teach. Thank you so much for your tools. I'm getting better now.
And I still love my parents, but I do so from a distance and never get too close or too attached to them. I won't allow myself anymore to get attached to anyone who isn't available for me, whether it's a friend, family member\blood relative or a partner/boyfriend.
Look up Dylan James’ UA-cam channel and listen to his nightly tapes. It’s made a world of difference in my life over all the therapy I have tried. I experienced similar to you.
Sorry you had to go through that with your parents. I can totally relate, my parents were also emotionally immature and unavailable to me too. So my last relationship brought me so much joy because it was the first time I ever felt such unconditional love from my anyone. My heart definitely ripped into two near the end as he slowly drifted away from me and the talks we had on the phone became less and less. When it ended it hurt even more with him breadcrumbs me and I didn't realize it until I learned about it on the internet too. It really sucks how our relationships with our parents also affect us in our own personal relationships, but I'm grateful for the internet for helping us with these topics and seeing others also going through similar experiences gives some comfort too. I hope you're doing well and continuing to thrive 💗
thank you Diana. I waited a long time as I didn't want to inconvenience anyone. But when I calculated what I'm leaving on the table with 400K views a month.... I pulled the trigger.
I’m finally aware and onto Bread Crumbing . It’s just enough to keep you hanging in . A relationship that is going somewhere has a natural pattern of moving forward with consistent actions . If it doesn’t move forward or stops and starts then time to cut ties . Agree they think you are on their back burner . They will gladly lead you on .
Just thank you Susan. Listening to you helps me go to sleep a little easier at night knowing that I am good enough and that rejection is..... just another disliked word.
I've been through 3 years of breadcrumbing to the point of severe physical illness from the stress and can say the guy who said "Its not about you -Its them" is completely right. There is always an issue with a breadcrumber being it depression or whatever but there is a reason theyre doing this and it's with them. I am not saying this to make those who have been treated this way feel better but this is experience and turning the issue inside out over 3 years. The problem is with them, they have something big in their life thats wrong and thats why they cant invest in a relationship. So when someone does this my advice is to end the contact and do NOT under any circumstance look back.
I hope you are feeling better. I too got deathly ill being and tolerating abuse in a relationship and it’s taken me the better part of 3 1/2 years to regain about 60% of my health. I learned a very hard lesson to never allow someone to treat me poorly ever again. I almost died.
@@madeinhisimage3447 Ooooh my poor friend! Same here! Im still recouperating and its been 2 years, they say it takes 3 years to recover after an episode. He's still in my life, confusing me as hell and now my hearts so trashed, I cant get out of it. I had my chance yesterday when we talked but started bawling. He's told me time and time again he's just using me for cuddles and that Im to iritating to have a relationship with so I told him "Then you have no right to my body anymore" and rejected him physically when he tried to seduce me. Then he switched to "Listen to my actions and not my words, I wouldnt come here like this if I didnt like you" I've told all my friends and now even they're confused aswell. But they all beg me to leave once and for all.
I noticed a guy at my gym keep making eye contact with me. Naturally, I would look back. I wasn't sure why he kept initiating eye contact. I felt that I should just go over and introduce myself. Did that. Learned his name and felt a connection. He waved at me from across the gym more than once. More brief conversations led me to believe he was attracted to me and wanted to keep getting to know me. I began to get excited and feel it was the start of a new relationship. Began to develop feelings for him. I made steps to actually go on a date with him. He said it would be a couple of weeks. I asked about his weekend and he mentioned spending time with his daughter and his wife's family. I decided to friend zone him just as a protective measure for me.
I'm afraid that a lot of people are afraid to face the fact that the breadcrumber is just playing games. They themselves so want to believe the excuses, delays, etc because they want to feel the other is truly interested and has plans with them someday. It is quite adult and grown up to read between the lines and lies and deceit and move on with your disappointed heart and soul. I have found that many young victims cannot be shown the truth and will defend these stupid games and selfish behaviors. It's a shame but I guess it takes what it takes to mature and get gut level honest. A twice divorcee and 52 year old female like myself ain't got no time for no foolishness! Lol Thank you and keep up your awesome guidance and support.
I have spent the whole day watching your videos and I could cry from gratitude. Thank you sooo much for making these videos. I feel exponentially better right now at 9:40pm than i felt when I woke up at 8am . Thank you. I feel my healing happening from the inside out. Thank you! 🤗
If a guy starts reducing or giving his attention to me, and no good reason for it, giving bits & pieces or just calling you up when he is lonely or his friends ditched him so he now thinks about you. They say "it be nice to see you today" and I say "maybe next time" over & over.
“Good Morning Gorgeous, how was your night/weekend”. When I would respond with thoughtful replies with some detail he would ask no further questions/ show no interest in conversation. It was annoying as hell.
Rather than blaming another for our experiences, we must accept our inability to move out of a dilapidated relationship which is failing to provide support. If we are accepting this behavior it means we are short changing our emotions. Let's take the challenge to move forward with a new focus and attract the right relationship. Spoilt milk is never useful for preparing porridge & Rotten people can't participate in fulfilling relationships.
I wish I learned this at the beggining of dating again. I am emotionally exausted and it has been really hard to get over a person I liked. He is really emotionally unstable and just needed attantion and my admiration.
Ladies, I've been blessed with great healthy long term relationships. When a man adores you authentically, he will bookup your calendar months in advance. Become healthy friends first... men who want to use you can't sustain a real non sexual friendship.
Thank you Susan, thank you for helping us in our confused state and sharing us the tools and analysis we need. I love your passionate vibe and tone when you make videos. We, as the viewers, can feel your authentic self and it's easy to understand the information you share.
I have been mentally and verbally abused very recently by a horrible man who was deeply wounded as a child, physically abused and neglected and did jail time. He wielded it over me with power, making me feel stupid for wanting a deeper relationship with him. He only meets at night, only wants sex and then he'd reveal his deepest darkest secrets to me and then push me away and cycle back and forth telling me he wants me then treating me like shit. i walked. Never going back. i have cried bitter tears over him. He will never get to do that to me again. I fell in love with him and i know my brain and heart will heal with time. None of my friends understand how i feel. it is isolating and lonely but it is what it is. i am an adult and i must pick up the pieces and move on. he (symbolically)threw scraps at me on the floor like a homeless dog begging for food. It is still playing with my psyche.
This couldn't have come at a better time. I've been talking to a guy for the last month and he has started doing this this week! He went from texting/calling me often to just a quick "How's your day?" now. So irritating! The good news: I know to move right on!
@@dinadavies6153 men are hurt and the sad thing is, they have no real interest in healing. So they look for 'the blood of young virgins' to drain, metaphorically speaking.
Thank You Susan for this thorough examination of Bread crumbing. Just recently went through this, and didn't know that there was a "profile" on this type of behaviour. Thanks to you, I can clearly see that my " being around", close to her orbit as you put it, fulfilled all of her needs that she had from me. I, of course, wanted more. Already knew enough these past few months to stay completely away, and that having created hat space, along with my continually trying to figure out this whacky world of interpersonal relationships, and along with truly helpful people like you, will end up being my salvation in the gut~churning endeavour. Thank you again! Steven, Charlotte, NC
I so appreciate you and your generosity, Susan. Thank you, thank you, thank you. These videos really help in these hard and confusing times. Makes isolation seem less strenuous.
I played myself - I shadow boxed with my animus for years, and years... with the same man. It was always emotional. Waiting and waiting... because he always came to me to prove our connection. Now, up to this very moment - Covid has exacerbated the need for physical touch, you know, warmth from and with a good friend. But it’s always just enough. I feel it. He never comes fully through. The bottom line is I have to accept responsibility for my choices that built this deserted Castle. I wake up daily by degrees - to my own strength, or lack of it...
Branford CT. He denied his other relationship. I was breadcrumbed after love bombing. I handled it! I wanted him to know I knew, so I sent him an email with just subject line filled in. “I DESERVE SO MUCH MORE, STICK WITH YOUR CLEANING LADY” then I blocked him on my phone. I’m so done! Thank you. Stay safe. 🌹
Sapphire Sky Thanks. That’s not how I roll. She’s been with his sorry narcissistic ass a long time. I’m sure she knows. ( I don’t think she IS the Cleaning Lady, that’s how he referred to her.) I’m sure he’ll show up one of these days. I’m ready to tell him where to go!
Thank you so much for the information!!!! I just ended a bread crumbing experience that lasted over two months. I’m disappointed but this video is helping me understand the necessity of moving forward. New Sub!!!!!
Susan you are an amazing woman! I was settled for breadcrumb for over10 years. Your video helped me so much. I hope to arrange a private session with you, my story is so different and I need your insight. Hope to talk to you soon.
Susan you are helping so many people around the world with your wisdom, empathy and kindness. You are brilliant because you've experienced pain first hand, have sought the counselling, done the work and research to be able to deliver your guidance and support to help us all get a better understanding of how to communicate and understand our wants and needs. I am only just awakening to what I want and what I will accept from others. I am becoming more empowered and speak up more. We as people appear to all need some sort of guidance as we are all complex creatures due to our life experiences, and you are just the right fit to teach this stuff. Love what you're doing and appreciate your work and empathetic nature. 💕🤗👍xx
I am a very direct person. I asked for a video call to discuss this revolving door he thinks is on my life. So I texted the break up bc he left me no other choice because I want to move on. I told him if he couldn't call not to call me at all.
Perfect timing Susan , with a guy who calls me his partner and girlfriend yet haven’t had a phone call in two weeks just the usual miss you so much texts and plan to see you as soon as possible .I’ve sat back and observed but have made the decision to cut him funny thing is there’s nothing to cut 😆 he’s a very busy with huge responsibility in his work which I’m understanding of but no one is too busy to have a phone call . It’s so confusing I’m done
I want to thank you Susan. I finally expressed my feelings for a woman who was breadcrumbing me from last 6 months. I recently came to know about it. Asked her not to talk to me as we are not on the same page....
Susan...superb content. Intelligent, wise and in high contrast with so many relationship 'experts.' Some in this life are doing precisely what they were designed to do. You are are clearly numbered among them. You are deeply appreciated. May your life be richly rewarded for the truth and wisdom you sow.
I've just found you. Thank you. Ps; ''They give you just enough air to breath, not enough Oxygen to survive!'' So, True. Besides, they suffocate you at times!
learn detachment 🙃 then breadcrumbing is powerless to impact you .... but if you genuinely love someone don't bother about yourself ...... love is only and all about giving ..... Sans calculating 🙃 losses and / or gains ..... love is love is all
Protect yourself regardless of how you love. Know your boundaries and live by them. Walk your talk. Or some ‘loving’ person will come along - and drain the very sun from your name.
I thought so too. Love is all about giving giving giving and not caring to receive anything back. Well, I was giving and giving and then, I somehow ended up feeling like a doormat. Honestly, it is impossible to genuinely care about someone and totally be detached. If you truly loved someone and deeply cared about someone and was completely detached at the same time, you'd never miss them and you would not care if they suddenly disappear from your life, or worse, die in a car crash - you would not even have to grieve their death because you were never deeply attached to them in the first place. I don't think it's possible or realistic to deeply care about someone and not be attached to them in way at all. Attachment is natural and there must a healthy level of attachment, and it should be mutual, I think.
I’m just stepping back now, saw someone a year ago. Always kept in touch flattered /flirted with each other and made it clear I wanted to take her out again even if for a day , she accepted but nothing got pencilled in. Always too busy with studies . Then saw her profile pics recently, at the festival, at the races, kind of told me. I just got a message ‘ I’ve been thinking about you, how are you ?. I haven’t answered yet, when I do I won’t ask to go out for the day, what’s she been up to and keep it minimum. Will say I’ve been busy. Not contacted her for about 5 weeks now, I think I’m out of trying.
Hello Susan! I’m from Perth Western Australia. I love watching your videos full of wisdom and passion about relationships. I have grown so much just by listening to you. Thank you so much! 🙏🏼💗🌻🦋
Wow, thank you, Susan. Me and my ex are separated for a 6 months now and I was all in this "no contact to get them back" videos. Couple of days ago I found your channel and now I understand much more. They were "grey rocking", "breadcrumbing" me for the whole year of our relationship. F**k them 👌🏻
I´m still sad over a "breakup" and it´s been four months already. The thing we had together I don´t even know what to label because it was a hot and cold behaviour and I went along with it. Yet I can´t seem to get over it. I keep thinking about everything that maybe went wrong. I know that I should just move on but still there are this neverending thoughts in my head.
Hey Niv, this is a natural thing your going through and your not the only one. I'm heartbroken currently as I heard the girl I like who I haven't seen since college (4 years now) might be married now. Been around 2 months for me now and wanting to move on from it but going through the loop also where my mind goes back to thinking about her and playing detective on what I might of done wrong even though I know she was too decent to go with a guy outside her family and probably race. You'll get through it. Try and focus on yourself, think about what good / achievements you've done in life and improve your self respect as it really does make you appreciate yourself 👍.
Niv niv Look up videos on ruminating....I'm same as you. Was with him 6 years on and off living off his breadcrumbs. I was never able to label our 'relationship ' bc he hated labels. I used to call it the 'almost relationship '. Absolutely no commitment. .I never even knew when I was gonna see him again. He'd text me about 8pm and say he'd come over and I'd be like wow. .he's actually coming over and I'd drop everything rush to have a shower, put some make up on, do my hair. I'd be exhausted by the time he arrived but had to put food for him. By midnight I'd be wishing he'd go so I could get to bed but he'd hang around til the early hours. Sometimes I'd invite him to bed and mostly he'd say no he's got stuff to do at home!! But occasionally he'd say yes and I'd be like oh wow he actually wants me!! Now I'm seven months no contact I find it unbelievable what I tolerated from this man. He used me and I let him. I tried to end it many times but he hoovered me back in after a few months of not speaking. And I was non stop ruminating over him . He was like a drug. I'm doing ok now since finding these channels and joining a Facebook support group. Once you put distance between you and him it's amazing how the light bulbs start popping. Don't give up.
Hi Susan! Thank you so much for such great and supportive information. I appreciate you, your knowledge, experience and perspective. I'm from the PNW, in Washington State. 💙🌲🌲🌲💚
Hi Susan sending Love from Philippines! 🇵🇭 I love seeing how happy you are having interaction thru super chat your reaction is purely genuine happiness 🤗 keep inspiring us! 😊
Dear Susan -you have helped me so much in different areas of relationships and self value. Thank you for sharing your wisdom ,insight and advice! p.s. I'm from New Jersey
God good. I got caught in this for 11 months until last week i called her out. Also friendzoned by ex. This is an unreal toxic trait. Every time since last august,Soon as i start feeling good boom whack a mole she comes in. Literally any excuse possible….i just said please don’t contact anymore i need to heal. She says i just thought we could be friends uhh nooooo. Left a long message told her how i felt (step kids involved) so made it abit harder but i am finally done with it……i feel for anyone whos dealt with this or is…walk away set yourself free. Painful as it is as mush as i love her and her children. I heard it all. I miss u. I cant commit im confused i dont know what i want blah blaah blah. 🤷🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️My lord its all text book Susan. Unreal. Thank u thank u thank u for all your videos 🙏🙏🙏🙌🇨🇦
we all looking for the love we never got enough of from our childhood - if we learn to love accept and honour ourselves we got more chance to find love !
Yes be direct and call them out asap! I sent my ex a long text on Christmas day for breadcrumbing for two years, while he is engaged and after cheating on me. I felt good by doing that and I wish I've done it sooner. I haven't heard back from him since then and gosh, I'm so happy!
Susan, thank you so much for your program! I just discovered it today and you are so real! I love the way you state you have the same issues as everyone else. It makes you more relatable. And your logic and the way you express your thoughts are amazing!
not sure if it is age related. its more the type of guy. from my point of view, guys are relationship type or casual type. if a guy wants a relationship with you they don't play these games...
seh Thats very true! Because this forum and plenty of others have people of all age groups where the message applies. And yes, it is always one or the other. I don’t believe in FWB’s. I simply believe a man doesn’t want a relationship or he does.
Absolutely ..predialogue ..Terms and Conditions -Yes!! same situation for me At 60+ i have very little time not to be specific regarding what I am looking for in a potential partner! Love your work /information/guidance -Thank You so so very much Blessings Keep safe,
Hi Susan from Brisbane Australia 🥰. Sorry I cannot be in live chat but always love watching the replay. Dont change a thing..your videos are so helpful and you deliver advice in such a beautiful way. Maybe instead of only reading questions from live chat you could have a list of questions from viewers that you collected prior..and when oh when are you coming to Australia to do some live get togethers????? Wouldn't that be super!!! Thanks for all you do xo
Susan, I've had this twice recently. It's very annoying, but at the same time, I find that being clear and "calling it" helps you to save a lot of time and prevents them from putting you in their orbit. I had a guy contact me out of the blue; we went on one date a year and a half ago. At the time, I was seeing someone else, so I asked to be friends. He didn't seem too keen on that so we went our separate ways. He texted me a year and a half later saying he "missed me" and wanted to meet up. I was keen, but I noticed he started being inconsistent with his texting. Anyway, we had plans for him to come over to my house for coffee (all restaurants are closed) at 2.00 one afternoon. At 2.00, he sent me a text saying he was just getting out of the bath and wanted to "cool down" and have coffee before coming over and that he would "probably" be there before 3.00. I phoned him and said I felt it was a bit inconsiderate for him to mess around our times like that as I had been waiting for him and there were other things I could be doing. He got huffy and hung up the phone on me, and then texted me to say that he "tried" but that it obviously wasn't good enough for me. I calmly told him that no, it wasn't good enough for me, and I wished him the best of luck. Just astonished at the bad manners of these breadcrumbers.
Omg these men must all have a book they go by! I knew reading half way down reading your comment he was going blow you off. You know when your going through this you think why me whats wrong with me! but its them they are creeps! and i used to think i was only one going through this but know now im not its very common sadly. Men are so wishy washy its only a date? its like they feel they have to marry us lol
@@pam164 yes it is as though they are reading from the exact same guide book. You can almost feel it happening before it happens because these types of people are so blindingly predictable. But yes, you are right - it is not us. It is these people. No manners, no consideration, no sense of direction, and no strength of character whatsoever. I've learned to set my expectations extremely low for online dating, but all the same, I don't give someone like this a second chance to stand me up or mess around plans. If someone isn't capable of sticking to a simple coffee date without giving a halfhearted excuse (just getting out of the bath? needed to cool down? really?) then they simply aren't a person I need around me.
@@dancingappaloosa8926 Yes agree you think oh dear here we go again 🙄and they have cheek to say 'how you still single' you feel like saying coz bloody idiot men like you keep letting me down!lol i think on dating sites a lot of men are just happy to talk to you but don't want to meet up have no intention of doing so. At end of day im a bit old fashioned that way think its up to men to arrange date and aleast keep to his word! do they think we have 50 years to wait until they then decide to meet up 😂i came off dating sites bout 2 years ago utter waste of time! only men that meet you want to come to your house for a hook up! yak no thanks. And lots of married men, men with girlfriends oh and i got a couple times a crossdresser man dressed in all the woman kit with blonde wig wanting to meet for coffee! omg that was it for me lol
Susan, you've just made me realize that I have never been loved by a woman. I've been bread crumbed and orbited. I think about the ones that I dated that I might have had a chance with, but they were just stringing me along. They were never interested in me. They only enjoyed a free meal and a movie. My efforts were in vain. This video confirms that. I'm going to crawl into a hole now.
Wait!! Everyone loves differently. You weren't loved in a way that fills your needs. Try an experiment. Go out with ladies who are 'against type' for you. Just to shake it up and see what happens
I know how you feel, but please don’t give up. As Susan and others say, look at the types you are drawn to. You may be attracted to emotionally unavailable women and haven’t learned yet to listen to the red flags that creep up during a relationship. It’s ok to hurt and process grief, but let’s zoom out and examine the pattern before we start believing this lie that we are unlovable. I hope you find acceptance in yourself and know that you are valuable and you are lovable. Continue with these videos and start to discover your childhood wounds etc that are drawing you to these broken women.
So I've been talking to a man every day for the past 2 months and each day after we chat for a least an hour on facetime, he says "talk soon" even though I know we will talk tomorrow. We know we like each other but haven't met yet as he lives in another country. We get on so well and have told each other we like each other but he cannot commit to a relationship so soon. He is really honest and lovely but my feelings were involved from after a week. I often have to create space and remind myself we are JUST friends.
Susan when are you writing a book about all this? I really enjoy your videos and you are such a positive influence in the lives of all the lonely hearts of this world. Take care!
Hello dear Susan! Thank you for your video's full of wisdom and kindness. I love these series about bad bahaviour. I try to watch it live everytime. This time I missed your live video by an hour, so sad. Keep doing this. Love it! Judith from The Netherlands
I'm from England And just want to say in this lockdown you are helping soooo much as I'm going through a really hard time 😢😢😢 With someone I'm in love with but he just wants fwb now in lockdown he is been really cool pulling away keep telling him I love him 😢😢😢 xxx
CASSIANO MALHEIROS from Brazil. I read your message at the top of the page. And thank you ALEX FLIPS for offering him sound advice! Cassiano, you haven't met in person. You have a LRD, online. You say that it's exclusive, but he's on Tinder. This setup is not in your favor. Exclusivity is by mutual agreement, which you don't have. I suggest you review your relationship goals with each other and consider if this is a workable partnership.
I have bread crumbed someone before, but it wasn't intentional. I just wasn't into this guy, he was very persistent and I didn't know what to do. I liked him, but probably not ENOUGH and didn't want to spend so much time with him, or talk to him. I think I wanted to give him a chance, but ending up hurting and disappointing him.
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Breadcrumbing is simply getting enough of them to survive, but not enough to thrive... If you except breadcrumbs, you will always be starving💯
"accept"
This is soooo true been in love with him for 10yrs and still wont commit but cant seem to pull away from him I get breadcrumbs sending you love and many blessings ❤🤗🌹
The person who is least invested controls the relationship. The trick is to recognize this early on so you don't waste your time.
Exactly!, that's what I've learned.
Well regarding guys, my dad told me .
",less is more with guys" .
We don't have to give a ton of info
In order for it to be quality toward them.
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Bam 💥
@@Mushroom321- well I'm a guy and regarding the "less is more" investment theory; nonsense. Games nothing more. Give everything and you just might get everything back.
R G Wow, I never thought of it like this. I’m going to watch out for it, but you’re so right.
@@troycarpenter3675 Bull. Gave everything many times and looking back, the other person doesn't appreciate your efforts.
It became more apparent when his lack of effort was excused by him being tired and working a lot..when he works no more than he used to. I feel better being alone than being with someone who makes me feel alone.
This is a very wise and self loving affirmation. They don't have time to meet. It's OK, you have made a choice to move on, it's wise.
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I didn't know it was breadcrumbing because this is how I felt my whole childhood with my parents. They were never available for me, never wanting to spend time with me one-on-one. And I was so used to missing my own mom and dad - so much that it always hurt me. But they told me they loved me. So, I learned that missing someone (so much that it hurts) is what love feels like because I truly loved my parents and thought they truly loved me too. But only in my late 30's I realized that loving my parents actually was a very painful experience. When, already as a teen, I had implied to my mom that I felt like she didn't love me enough and that I felt like I couldn't get any of her attention, she raged at me and screamed wildly, making me feel guilty, spoiled, entitled and crazy. So, I learned that having needs meant I was selfish.
Later when my two boyfriends started breadcrumbing me, I felt it would be selfish of me to complain about that and I just continued to miss them more and more, never bringing up the issue. My first boyfriend eventually ghosted me.
The second boyfriend didn't ghost but discarded me. I was so emotionally devastated. Indeed, my heartbreak was brutally painful. Fortunately, youtube videos, like yours, taught me more about love than my own parents could teach. Thank you so much for your tools. I'm getting better now.
And I still love my parents, but I do so from a distance and never get too close or too attached to them. I won't allow myself anymore to get attached to anyone who isn't available for me, whether it's a friend, family member\blood relative or a partner/boyfriend.
Look up Dylan James’ UA-cam channel and listen to his nightly tapes. It’s made a world of difference in my life over all the therapy I have tried. I experienced similar to you.
Sorry you had to go through that with your parents. I can totally relate, my parents were also emotionally immature and unavailable to me too. So my last relationship brought me so much joy because it was the first time I ever felt such unconditional love from my anyone. My heart definitely ripped into two near the end as he slowly drifted away from me and the talks we had on the phone became less and less. When it ended it hurt even more with him breadcrumbs me and I didn't realize it until I learned about it on the internet too.
It really sucks how our relationships with our parents also affect us in our own personal relationships, but I'm grateful for the internet for helping us with these topics and seeing others also going through similar experiences gives some comfort too.
I hope you're doing well and continuing to thrive 💗
I felt like I was reading my own words in this post..
@@lifeaccordingtosally same here
Your empathy about emotional pain is so appreciated.
My Breadcrumber replied to my snap story and guess what I did?? LEFT HIM ON READ!!!!
G O O HAHAHA...GOOD TO LAUGH THIS WEEK, THANKS! A😎
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thank you Diana. I waited a long time as I didn't want to inconvenience anyone. But when I calculated what I'm leaving on the table with 400K views a month.... I pulled the trigger.
Great reply, this lady is the tops.
Another bread crumb:
Me: we should meet up.
Them: sounds good.
And then it never happens lol
Lets not txt back and forth for weeks why not meet up for a coffee? oh yes that sounds great ....... they fall off earth!! 🤣🤣🤣
@@pam164 On a positive note he you did you a favour... life is too short for time wasters like that. You deserve better. :)
Thats why u shouldn’t suggest to meet - thats their job
I’m finally aware and onto Bread Crumbing . It’s just enough to keep you hanging in . A relationship that is going somewhere has a natural pattern of moving forward with consistent actions . If it doesn’t move forward or stops and starts then time to cut ties . Agree they think you are on their back burner . They will gladly lead you on .
And they will lead you on with breadcrumbing as long as you allow it.
Yes ma’am!
Just thank you Susan. Listening to you helps me go to sleep a little easier at night knowing that I am good enough and that rejection is..... just another disliked word.
I've been through 3 years of breadcrumbing to the point of severe physical illness from the stress and can say the guy who said "Its not about you -Its them" is completely right. There is always an issue with a breadcrumber being it depression or whatever but there is a reason theyre doing this and it's with them. I am not saying this to make those who have been treated this way feel better but this is experience and turning the issue inside out over 3 years. The problem is with them, they have something big in their life thats wrong and thats why they cant invest in a relationship. So when someone does this my advice is to end the contact and do NOT under any circumstance look back.
I hope you are feeling better. I too got deathly ill being and tolerating abuse in a relationship and it’s taken me the better part of 3 1/2 years to regain about 60% of my health. I learned a very hard lesson to never allow someone to treat me poorly ever again. I almost died.
@@madeinhisimage3447 Ooooh my poor friend! Same here! Im still recouperating and its been 2 years, they say it takes 3 years to recover after an episode. He's still in my life, confusing me as hell and now my hearts so trashed, I cant get out of it. I had my chance yesterday when we talked but started bawling. He's told me time and time again he's just using me for cuddles and that Im to iritating to have a relationship with so I told him "Then you have no right to my body anymore" and rejected him physically when he tried to seduce me. Then he switched to "Listen to my actions and not my words, I wouldnt come here like this if I didnt like you" I've told all my friends and now even they're confused aswell. But they all beg me to leave once and for all.
@@madeinhisimage3447 ohhhh so sorry. Me too and it hurts so so badly. Bless you we will heal 🙏
I noticed a guy at my gym keep making eye contact with me. Naturally, I would look back. I wasn't sure why he kept initiating eye contact. I felt that I should just go over and introduce myself. Did that. Learned his name and felt a connection. He waved at me from across the gym more than once. More brief conversations led me to believe he was attracted to me and wanted to keep getting to know me. I began to get excited and feel it was the start of a new relationship. Began to develop feelings for him. I made steps to actually go on a date with him. He said it would be a couple of weeks. I asked about his weekend and he mentioned spending time with his daughter and his wife's family. I decided to friend zone him just as a protective measure for me.
Guy is a loser, so immature. I think I would switch gyms.
I'm afraid that a lot of people are afraid to face the fact that the breadcrumber is just playing games. They themselves so want to believe the excuses, delays, etc because they want to feel the other is truly interested and has plans with them someday. It is quite adult and grown up to read between the lines and lies and deceit and move on with your disappointed heart and soul. I have found that many young victims cannot be shown the truth and will defend these stupid games and selfish behaviors. It's a shame but I guess it takes what it takes to mature and get gut level honest. A twice divorcee and 52 year old female like myself ain't got no time for no foolishness! Lol
Thank you and keep up your awesome guidance and support.
I have spent the whole day watching your videos and I could cry from gratitude. Thank you sooo much for making these videos. I feel exponentially better right now at 9:40pm than i felt when I woke up at 8am . Thank you. I feel my healing happening from the inside out. Thank you! 🤗
She helped me too was so down too, but felt better as i was binge watching susan... angel on earth.
Hi fromTasmania, Australia. Breadcrumbing is the worst! So emotionally draining 😔
Another good breadcrumbing to keep you is,”I honestly care about you” then you don’t hear from them for a month
If a guy starts reducing or giving his attention to me, and no good reason for it, giving bits & pieces or just calling you up when he is lonely or his friends ditched him so he now thinks about you. They say "it be nice to see you today" and I say "maybe next time" over & over.
Stringing you along! I see that now with a man he is out.
I think you hit it perfect. You want someone who wants what you want and they want to go with you💯
“Good Morning Gorgeous, how was your night/weekend”. When I would respond with thoughtful replies with some detail he would ask no further questions/ show no interest in conversation. It was annoying as hell.
Rather than blaming another for our experiences, we must accept our inability to move out of a dilapidated relationship which is failing to provide support. If we are accepting this behavior it means we are short changing our emotions. Let's take the challenge to move forward with a new focus and attract the right relationship. Spoilt milk is never useful for preparing porridge & Rotten people can't participate in fulfilling relationships.
I LITERALLY BROKE DOWN HEARING THIS IYS IS SO TRUE....IM DEVESTATED BUT I THANK GOD I FOUND YOUR CHANNEL PLEASE PRAY FOR MY HEALING..
I wish I learned this at the beggining of dating again. I am emotionally exausted and it has been really hard to get over a person I liked. He is really emotionally unstable and just needed attantion and my admiration.
Ladies, I've been blessed with great healthy long term relationships. When a man adores you authentically, he will bookup your calendar months in advance. Become healthy friends first... men who want to use you can't sustain a real non sexual friendship.
Thank you Susan, thank you for helping us in our confused state and sharing us the tools and analysis we need. I love your passionate vibe and tone when you make videos. We, as the viewers, can feel your authentic self and it's easy to understand the information you share.
That is so sweet of you to write. Thank you so much Charle.
I was literally in tears when you said the right person will say, tell me more. Thanks for your videos
I have been mentally and verbally abused very recently by a horrible man who was deeply wounded as a child, physically abused and neglected and did jail time. He wielded it over me with power, making me feel stupid for wanting a deeper relationship with him. He only meets at night, only wants sex and then he'd reveal his deepest darkest secrets to me and then push me away and cycle back and forth telling me he wants me then treating me like shit. i walked. Never going back. i have cried bitter tears over him. He will never get to do that to me again. I fell in love with him and i know my brain and heart will heal with time. None of my friends understand how i feel. it is isolating and lonely but it is what it is. i am an adult and i must pick up the pieces and move on. he (symbolically)threw scraps at me on the floor like a homeless dog begging for food. It is still playing with my psyche.
This couldn't have come at a better time. I've been talking to a guy for the last month and he has started doing this this week! He went from texting/calling me often to just a quick "How's your day?" now. So irritating! The good news: I know to move right on!
D D Good for you!
@Sapphire Sky Yes, I'm on Match now and it seems to be a "thing". They chat you up and are so excited initially, only to breadcrumb you later.
@@dinadavies6153 men are hurt and the sad thing is, they have no real interest in healing. So they look for 'the blood of young virgins' to drain, metaphorically speaking.
I'm from Cape Town, South Africa. I enjoy listening to you.
Thank You Susan for this thorough examination of Bread crumbing. Just recently went through this, and didn't know that there was a "profile" on this type of behaviour. Thanks to you, I can clearly see that my " being around", close to her orbit as you put it, fulfilled all of her needs that she had from me. I, of course, wanted more. Already knew enough these past few months to stay completely away, and that having created hat space, along with my continually trying to figure out this whacky world of interpersonal relationships, and along with truly helpful people like you, will end up being my salvation in the gut~churning endeavour. Thank you again!
Steven, Charlotte, NC
I so appreciate you and your generosity, Susan. Thank you, thank you, thank you. These videos really help in these hard and confusing times. Makes isolation seem less strenuous.
You are welcome!!
I played myself - I shadow boxed with my animus for years, and years... with the same man. It was always emotional. Waiting and waiting... because he always came to me to prove our connection. Now, up to this very moment - Covid has exacerbated the need for physical touch, you know, warmth from and with a good friend.
But it’s always just enough. I feel it. He never comes fully through. The bottom line is I have to accept responsibility for my choices that built this deserted Castle. I wake up daily by degrees - to my own strength, or lack of it...
Branford CT. He denied his other relationship. I was breadcrumbed after love bombing. I handled it!
I wanted him to know I knew, so I sent him an email with just subject line filled in. “I DESERVE SO MUCH MORE, STICK WITH YOUR CLEANING LADY” then I blocked him on my phone. I’m so done! Thank you. Stay safe. 🌹
Sapphire Sky Thanks. That’s not how I roll. She’s been with his sorry narcissistic ass a long time. I’m sure she knows. ( I don’t think she IS the Cleaning Lady, that’s how he referred to her.) I’m sure he’ll show up one of these days. I’m ready to tell him where to go!
Thank you so much for the information!!!! I just ended a bread crumbing experience that lasted over two months. I’m disappointed but this video is helping me understand the necessity of moving forward. New Sub!!!!!
Susan you are an amazing woman! I was settled for breadcrumb for over10 years. Your video helped me so much. I hope to arrange a private session with you, my story is so different and I need your insight. Hope to talk to you soon.
Susan how do I get in contact with you? Michelle - Australia
Man, this is dead on, Susan; you nailed it.
thank you!
Susan you are helping so many people around the world with your wisdom, empathy and kindness. You are brilliant because you've experienced pain first hand, have sought the counselling, done the work and research to be able to deliver your guidance and support to help us all get a better understanding of how to communicate and understand our wants and needs. I am only just awakening to what I want and what I will accept from others. I am becoming more empowered and speak up more. We as people appear to all need some sort of guidance as we are all complex creatures due to our life experiences, and you are just the right fit to teach this stuff. Love what you're doing and appreciate your work and empathetic nature. 💕🤗👍xx
I am a very direct person. I asked for a video call to discuss this revolving door he thinks is on my life. So I texted the break up bc he left me no other choice because I want to move on. I told him if he couldn't call not to call me at all.
Susan, you're so kind and wise. I love everything you said and stand for.
Perfect timing Susan , with a guy who calls me his partner and girlfriend yet haven’t had a phone call in two weeks just the usual miss you so much texts and plan to see you as soon as possible .I’ve sat back and observed but have made the decision to cut him funny thing is there’s nothing to cut 😆 he’s a very busy with huge responsibility in his work which I’m understanding of but no one is too busy to have a phone call . It’s so confusing I’m done
Thank you, Susan! I like this format--your educating us, then answering questions. Your honesty and wisdom are such a gift...very much appreciated!
You have such a big heart, Susan. I love your videos.
Sending you electronic hugs!
I can't believe I've never come across your page. I absolutely love your advice. Much love from Memphis, TN.
Yeah..it's called GAME....I burst out laughing...😂😂😂...brilliant Susan ❤
You're so calming!!😌❤
What a lovely compliment! Thank you, dear Courtney.
I want to thank you Susan. I finally expressed my feelings for a woman who was breadcrumbing me from last 6 months. I recently came to know about it. Asked her not to talk to me as we are not on the same page....
Susan always nails it, another fantastic live!
Thanks Thais
Susan...superb content. Intelligent, wise and in high contrast with so many relationship 'experts.' Some in this life are doing precisely what they were designed to do. You are are clearly numbered among them. You are deeply appreciated. May your life be richly rewarded for the truth and wisdom you sow.
Susan, We love your authenticity and generosity! We love you. ❤️😘
I've just found you. Thank you. Ps; ''They give you just enough air to breath, not enough Oxygen to survive!'' So, True. Besides, they suffocate you at times!
Just want to say that I'm grateful that I found your channel. You're GODsend...🙏🏻
learn detachment 🙃 then breadcrumbing is powerless to impact you .... but if you genuinely love someone don't bother about yourself ...... love is only and all about giving ..... Sans calculating 🙃 losses and / or gains ..... love is love is all
Protect yourself regardless of how you love. Know your boundaries and live by them. Walk your talk. Or some ‘loving’ person will come along - and drain the very sun from your name.
I thought so too. Love is all about giving giving giving and not caring to receive anything back. Well, I was giving and giving and then, I somehow ended up feeling like a doormat. Honestly, it is impossible to genuinely care about someone and totally be detached. If you truly loved someone and deeply cared about someone and was completely detached at the same time, you'd never miss them and you would not care if they suddenly disappear from your life, or worse, die in a car crash - you would not even have to grieve their death because you were never deeply attached to them in the first place. I don't think it's possible or realistic to deeply care about someone and not be attached to them in way at all. Attachment is natural and there must a healthy level of attachment, and it should be mutual, I think.
Susan how did you know I needed this video right now? Love you!!
Toronto, Canada
Oh i love this!! So happy to read your note
I’m just stepping back now, saw someone a year ago. Always kept in touch flattered /flirted with each other and made it clear I wanted to take her out again even if for a day , she accepted but nothing got pencilled in. Always too busy with studies . Then saw her profile pics recently, at the festival, at the races, kind of told me. I just got a message ‘ I’ve been thinking about you, how are you ?. I haven’t answered yet, when I do I won’t ask to go out for the day, what’s she been up to and keep it minimum. Will say I’ve been busy. Not contacted her for about 5 weeks now, I think I’m out of trying.
Hello Susan! I’m from Perth Western Australia. I love watching your videos full of wisdom and passion about relationships. I have grown so much just by listening to you. Thank you so much! 🙏🏼💗🌻🦋
Irena, you're amazing! Thank you for your support.
Wow, thank you, Susan. Me and my ex are separated for a 6 months now and I was all in this "no contact to get them back" videos. Couple of days ago I found your channel and now I understand much more. They were "grey rocking", "breadcrumbing" me for the whole year of our relationship. F**k them 👌🏻
I´m still sad over a "breakup" and it´s been four months already. The thing we had together I don´t even know what to label because it was a hot and cold behaviour and I went along with it. Yet I can´t seem to get over it. I keep thinking about everything that maybe went wrong. I know that I should just move on but still there are this neverending thoughts in my head.
Yes, you're in the 'loop.'
Hey Niv, this is a natural thing your going through and your not the only one. I'm heartbroken currently as I heard the girl I like who I haven't seen since college (4 years now) might be married now. Been around 2 months for me now and wanting to move on from it but going through the loop also where my mind goes back to thinking about her and playing detective on what I might of done wrong even though I know she was too decent to go with a guy outside her family and probably race. You'll get through it. Try and focus on yourself, think about what good / achievements you've done in life and improve your self respect as it really does make you appreciate yourself 👍.
You’re likely dealing with a dismissive avoidant person.
Look up trauma bonding .. Narcopaths do this intentional so your hooked .. likes drug 🤬
Niv niv
Look up videos on ruminating....I'm same as you. Was with him 6 years on and off living off his breadcrumbs. I was never able to label our 'relationship ' bc he hated labels. I used to call it the 'almost relationship '. Absolutely no commitment. .I never even knew when I was gonna see him again. He'd text me about 8pm and say he'd come over and I'd be like wow. .he's actually coming over and I'd drop everything rush to have a shower, put some make up on, do my hair. I'd be exhausted by the time he arrived but had to put food for him. By midnight I'd be wishing he'd go so I could get to bed but he'd hang around til the early hours. Sometimes I'd invite him to bed and mostly he'd say no he's got stuff to do at home!! But occasionally he'd say yes and I'd be like oh wow he actually wants me!!
Now I'm seven months no contact I find it unbelievable what I tolerated from this man. He used me and I let him. I tried to end it many times but he hoovered me back in after a few months of not speaking. And I was non stop ruminating over him . He was like a drug. I'm doing ok now since finding these channels and joining a Facebook support group. Once you put distance between you and him it's amazing how the light bulbs start popping. Don't give up.
Hi Susan! Thank you so much for such great and supportive information. I appreciate you, your knowledge, experience and perspective. I'm from the PNW, in Washington State. 💙🌲🌲🌲💚
Thank you!
Hi Susan sending Love from Philippines! 🇵🇭
I love seeing how happy you are having interaction thru super chat your reaction is purely genuine happiness 🤗 keep inspiring us! 😊
Dear Susan -you have helped me so much in different areas of relationships and self value. Thank you for sharing your wisdom ,insight and advice! p.s. I'm from New Jersey
God good. I got caught in this for 11 months until last week i called her out. Also friendzoned by ex. This is an unreal toxic trait. Every time since last august,Soon as i start feeling good boom whack a mole she comes in. Literally any excuse possible….i just said please don’t contact anymore i need to heal. She says i just thought we could be friends uhh nooooo. Left a long message told her how i felt (step kids involved) so made it abit harder but i am finally done with it……i feel for anyone whos dealt with this or is…walk away set yourself free. Painful as it is as mush as i love her and her children. I heard it all. I miss u. I cant commit im confused i dont know what i want blah blaah blah. 🤷🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️My lord its all text book Susan. Unreal. Thank u thank u thank u for all your videos 🙏🙏🙏🙌🇨🇦
we all looking for the love we never got enough of from our childhood - if we learn to love accept and honour ourselves we got more chance to find love !
I got "I'll be in touch" this week! LOL I was able to chuckle to myself b/c I had already watched this video once...
Hello Susan Im From Nova Scotia, 🇨🇦
Yes be direct and call them out asap! I sent my ex a long text on Christmas day for breadcrumbing for two years, while he is engaged and after cheating on me. I felt good by doing that and I wish I've done it sooner. I haven't heard back from him since then and gosh, I'm so happy!
Susan, thank you so much for your program! I just discovered it today and you are so real! I love the way you state you have the same issues as everyone else. It makes you more relatable.
And your logic and the way you express your thoughts are amazing!
Yes I have just gone NC with a breadcrumber. I think I will say "this isn't working for me" when he next gets in touch!
Hi Susan, I watch all of your videos, and I must say this one is exceptional from beginning to end. Thank you, as always for sharing your advice!
You're so awesome! Thank you, Mike!
You are too sweet, Cristina! Thank you for your support.
I was whelmed, breadcrumbed and finally ghosted by the same guy.. I think these bad behaviour comes in 2s and 3s.. lol
not sure if it is age related. its more the type of guy. from my point of view, guys are relationship type or casual type. if a guy wants a relationship with you they don't play these games...
Wow... a triple hit. So sorry
seh Thats very true! Because this forum and plenty of others have people of all age groups where the message applies. And yes, it is always one or the other. I don’t believe in FWB’s. I simply believe a man doesn’t want a relationship or he does.
Thanks Susan. Guys whelm to breadcrumb. After breadcrumbs run dry they finally ghost. lol..
Sorry not just guys, it could be anyone. Just a human trait I guess.
That is actually right.
Thanks for the tips on bread crumbing
Everything make sense
Susan, your colors are GREAT! Lips nails blouse!
Absolutely ..predialogue ..Terms and Conditions -Yes!! same situation for me At 60+ i have very little time not to be specific regarding what I am looking for in a potential partner! Love your work /information/guidance -Thank You so so very much Blessings Keep safe,
Hi Susan from Brisbane Australia 🥰. Sorry I cannot be in live chat but always love watching the replay. Dont change a thing..your videos are so helpful and you deliver advice in such a beautiful way. Maybe instead of only reading questions from live chat you could have a list of questions from viewers that you collected prior..and when oh when are you coming to Australia to do some live get togethers????? Wouldn't that be super!!! Thanks for all you do xo
Hi Annette. I love AUS! Been there several times. As for q&a: the only way to get the questions in advance has been the Community page
I love your channel and advice Susan👏❤️❤️
"We should meet SOON" always soon ha
You're a true angel Susan. Thank you. From Paris with love💜
Thank you so much Susan. Your words have a huge impact and know that you change worlds
Susan, I've had this twice recently. It's very annoying, but at the same time, I find that being clear and "calling it" helps you to save a lot of time and prevents them from putting you in their orbit. I had a guy contact me out of the blue; we went on one date a year and a half ago. At the time, I was seeing someone else, so I asked to be friends. He didn't seem too keen on that so we went our separate ways. He texted me a year and a half later saying he "missed me" and wanted to meet up. I was keen, but I noticed he started being inconsistent with his texting. Anyway, we had plans for him to come over to my house for coffee (all restaurants are closed) at 2.00 one afternoon. At 2.00, he sent me a text saying he was just getting out of the bath and wanted to "cool down" and have coffee before coming over and that he would "probably" be there before 3.00. I phoned him and said I felt it was a bit inconsiderate for him to mess around our times like that as I had been waiting for him and there were other things I could be doing. He got huffy and hung up the phone on me, and then texted me to say that he "tried" but that it obviously wasn't good enough for me. I calmly told him that no, it wasn't good enough for me, and I wished him the best of luck. Just astonished at the bad manners of these breadcrumbers.
He was lazy and unmotivated. Imagine... this is the point where 'good behavior' is at its peak!!
Omg these men must all have a book they go by! I knew reading half way down reading your comment he was going blow you off. You know when your going through this you think why me whats wrong with me! but its them they are creeps! and i used to think i was only one going through this but know now im not its very common sadly. Men are so wishy washy its only a date? its like they feel they have to marry us lol
@@pam164 yes it is as though they are reading from the exact same guide book. You can almost feel it happening before it happens because these types of people are so blindingly predictable. But yes, you are right - it is not us. It is these people. No manners, no consideration, no sense of direction, and no strength of character whatsoever. I've learned to set my expectations extremely low for online dating, but all the same, I don't give someone like this a second chance to stand me up or mess around plans. If someone isn't capable of sticking to a simple coffee date without giving a halfhearted excuse (just getting out of the bath? needed to cool down? really?) then they simply aren't a person I need around me.
@@dancingappaloosa8926 Yes agree you think oh dear here we go again 🙄and they have cheek to say 'how you still single' you feel like saying coz bloody idiot men like you keep letting me down!lol i think on dating sites a lot of men are just happy to talk to you but don't want to meet up have no intention of doing so. At end of day im a bit old fashioned that way think its up to men to arrange date and aleast keep to his word! do they think we have 50 years to wait until they then decide to meet up 😂i came off dating sites bout 2 years ago utter waste of time! only men that meet you want to come to your house for a hook up! yak no thanks. And lots of married men, men with girlfriends oh and i got a couple times a crossdresser man dressed in all the woman kit with blonde wig wanting to meet for coffee! omg that was it for me lol
@@pam164 this is exactly my experience. Such a shame and such juvenile behaviour from supposedly intelligent men.
Hi Susan. I’m from Scotland. Luv the advice & Guidance.
Thank you Scotland!
Thanks SUSAN! You are such a GEM
Awww... love the love Trannyglitter
Susan, you've just made me realize that I have never been loved by a woman. I've been bread crumbed and orbited. I think about the ones that I dated that I might have had a chance with, but they were just stringing me along. They were never interested in me. They only enjoyed a free meal and a movie. My efforts were in vain. This video confirms that. I'm going to crawl into a hole now.
Wait!! Everyone loves differently. You weren't loved in a way that fills your needs. Try an experiment. Go out with ladies who are 'against type' for you. Just to shake it up and see what happens
@@SusanWinter I'll make a note. Thanks.
@@SusanWinter Compatibility is what I seek - not more rejection and torture.
Please don’t give up! There are good women out there who will be compatible with you :)
I know how you feel, but please don’t give up. As Susan and others say, look at the types you are drawn to. You may be attracted to emotionally unavailable women and haven’t learned yet to listen to the red flags that creep up during a relationship. It’s ok to hurt and process grief, but let’s zoom out and examine the pattern before we start believing this lie that we are unlovable. I hope you find acceptance in yourself and know that you are valuable and you are lovable. Continue with these videos and start to discover your childhood wounds etc that are drawing you to these broken women.
You're so sweet and intelligent Susan. I love your videos!
Sometimes breadcrumbing comes from immaturity! I tend to date younger men. I notice if I act as if I don't care they run right back. LOL
This is happening be to me right now thank you Susan this is what I needed to hear.
So I've been talking to a man every day for the past 2 months and each day after we chat for a least an hour on facetime, he says "talk soon" even though I know we will talk tomorrow. We know we like each other but haven't met yet as he lives in another country. We get on so well and have told each other we like each other but he cannot commit to a relationship so soon. He is really honest and lovely but my feelings were involved from after a week. I often have to create space and remind myself we are JUST friends.
saffylew tell him what you want. If you dont want the same dont waste too much time
Susan, love you and your videos! Bread crumbers: Off with their heads!🤣
Susan when are you writing a book about all this? I really enjoy your videos and you are such a positive influence in the lives of all the lonely hearts of this world. Take care!
You're too sweet!
Hello dear Susan! Thank you for your video's full of wisdom and kindness. I love these series about bad bahaviour. I try to watch it live everytime. This time I missed your live video by an hour, so sad. Keep doing this. Love it! Judith from The Netherlands
thanks Judith
I'm from England And just want to say in this lockdown you are helping soooo much as I'm going through a really hard time 😢😢😢 With someone I'm in love with but he just wants fwb now in lockdown he is been really cool pulling away keep telling him I love him 😢😢😢 xxx
And you need to advertise! You’re worth it!
You're wonderful, Susan. Happy to see you get rewarded :)
I REALLY NEEDED THIS SUSAN THANK YOU SOOO MUCH 😢😢☹💜❤💜💐💐💐❤💜❤💐💐💖💖
CASSIANO MALHEIROS from Brazil. I read your message at the top of the page. And thank you ALEX FLIPS for offering him sound advice! Cassiano, you haven't met in person. You have a LRD, online. You say that it's exclusive, but he's on Tinder. This setup is not in your favor. Exclusivity is by mutual agreement, which you don't have. I suggest you review your relationship goals with each other and consider if this is a workable partnership.
Love your videos Susan! You always have the best advice!
Thank you! This Is essential stuff Susan..wish I knew this a decade ago. Seriously, most folks are messed up.
This is gold
Love you Susan. Your advices are very helpful.
I've been led on for 3 years, finally I got rid of him
Just found this. I really enjoyed it! Loved the interaction and questions. Also loved the dialogue expressed for us! Really, really loved!
Wh'atsapp him for heIp
I have bread crumbed someone before, but it wasn't intentional. I just wasn't into this guy, he was very persistent and I didn't know what to do. I liked him, but probably not ENOUGH and didn't want to spend so much time with him, or talk to him. I think I wanted to give him a chance, but ending up hurting and disappointing him.
I missed the live but now I'm here. :) (Stockholm)
Same - Thanks Susan:)
~ Copenhagen☀️