Thank you everyone for your kind messages, I honestly can’t express how much they mean to me in a time like this. I’m so grateful and thankful for this online connection as you all have continued to support and show care throughout the years in my life. I hope to break my own cycles and be more open as I see how freeing it can be and how kind people can be. I will continue to pray and fight for our day but regardless I know it *will* happen one way or another and will be great when it does and I can’t wait to share more with you too xx
Ooooh Zig (yes I'm on a zig Beswick saga rn) I totally feel you when you say that every time you seem happy something comes to crush it so you're never really happy! I really hope your wedding will occur on the date you've planned and that the people you xare for will be around you. I also feel you when you say that you are uncomfortable with all the niceness, I have the same issue. But you have to embrace it, just like you embrace some of your flaws, because at the end of the day, people love you just as much as you love them and you seem to have a really big heart so you'll never get away with it hahaha
Hi Zara, thank you for sharing this and your vulnerability. So many brides-to-be in Facebook bride groups are sharing the same dissapointment and methods of adjustment. Have you considered therapy? It has helped a lot of people get through, and help people understand why they feel certain ways! 💚 Many on Psychology Today therapists offer online sessions during this period.
First, sorry for your loss. Second, Your feelings are that - yours, first world or not. Validate them, it’s ok not to be ok. Therapy will help you get the language to express why you kindness makes you feel uncomfortable and how to overcome it. In the meantime if you find yourself overthinking things, wiggle your toes. I know it sounds ridiculous but it takes you out of your head and back into your body. I feel honoured by your vulnerability. Perhaps more importantly, it shows great strength. Lastly, just like a rollercoaster life will have ups and downs...one goes on a 🎢 to ride at the same speed, in a straight line. It’s the ups and downs that make it enjoyable. Sending love to you and your family 💓
Thank you Chika. I have actually had/started therapy in 2016. I hopefully one day will get into that a bit further. I really hope to find space to have further therapy after all of this. One thing my therapist noted was my safety behaviours and hopefully as I do more videos like this I can break them down. Thank you for your kind words, I will WIGGLE THEM TOES xx
Zara sweetheart, what you’re feeling is perfectly normal and your reasons for not wanting to postpone your wedding are absolutely legitimate. Hang in there 🤗
Thank you for sharing and opening up Zig- even though you don't owe us any explanations. That takes strength. So sorry to hear about how difficult this has all been. I know we're all experiencing this pandemic in different ways, some worse than others, but that doesn't invalidate how you feel about other things going on in your life that are important and meaningful to you. I do hope everything works out in the end. Love and hugs to you, Alex and family❤️
Awww Zig thank you for sharing this with us. I can relate so much to this video. I'm meant to be getting married in August and I've been constantly up and down with the worry of what will happen and whether my parents, who live abroad will be able to get a flight. I've learnt that it's ok to cry and to hold on to hope. The lord is powerful and my prayers are with you and your family. You are also already blessed and further blessings are coming your way!
Same with my mum! I will pray and think of you also. We can only persevere with positivity and know that we will get our day and it will be special! Thinking of you xx
Zig I’m with you my soul aches I’m a nurse in long term care and I’m use to death but the thought of my resident and their families and friends that can’t be together to celebrate and comfort each other breaks my heart. My sister in law lost a sister and grandpa and we cannot be with each other it is really taking toll. All we can do is do our best to stay positive don’t let this dim your light
I am thinking of you also and sending you all my love and support. And thank you as well for all the hard work you have done and continue to do for people xxx
Aww, praying for you. Things will work out Zhara, things may seems alittle cloudy at times, don't lose faith, God will pull everything together for your union. Blessings to both families 😚💛💛
I am praying for you......speak it and its shall manifest......stay strong as I have about 3 different friends who are also going through the same thing and its not easy.........stay positive as I will do for you and my friends so we all come out this safe/satisfied.....sending you blessings ...;-)
i always tell myself when i get really sad , i say to myself “there are better days to come” and i think of all of the possible great things to happen.. i hope that helps btw you’re so pretty! best wishes to your new union
Following you for so long I truly feel like you're a friend (call me weird eek! Dont care) honestly I really truly hope our Heavenly Father above will allow blessings upon blessings to flow within your family, as you said just not that what you're experiencing is normal and absolutely understandable... this season is strange but we know hope and believe that it'll pass💛sending you so much love and a massive hug. All things will work together for good 💯
Hi-5 on the Bridey top! Sending positive vibes for your journey to marriage and growth in accepting kindness 🙏🏾💕 I believe in the Lord Jesus Christ and I will most definitely lift you and your family up to in prayer x
Did you get one? My maid of honour told me about them so it’s another positive to take from this! And thank you soo much for your prayers it means a lot xx
@@Zigandstuff I got one 😁 love it, perfect for lockdown chilling. I joined a FB group called weddings 2020 - 2022 (I think) and someone had advertised on there. My wedding was supposed to be this August but as we have around 350+ guests we postponed it to next year where it will just be a party. We are going to do a registry wedding for as soon as we can get a booking this year 😊 x
Please don’t apologize for having feelings and problems during this pandemic that have nothing to do with this pandemic. We don’t think globally. We think individually. We can sympathize with the world, but we empathize with each other as people.You’ve lost your uncle, which is devastating. You’ve almost lost your brother and Alex’s. You’re sad and tired and stressed and you want to be with family. That’s ok. Normalcy and normal feelings aren’t bad. They’re just normal. Your wedding is the most important thing to you right now, for all of the reasons you mentioned, all of which are important reasons. ALL of them. .Yes, eczema during the winter is important to think about, and anyone who says it isn’t has never been female. 😂 This isn’t a first world problem. It’s a fiancée problem, a bride-to-Be problem, a family problem, and that’s universal. You want people to be safe, but you want to get married. Those aren’t mutually exclusive feelings. I also want you to know that this is how fear works. You have a bad scare like the ones you’ve been having with your brothers. And it scars you. You’re terrified of something else happening. I understand that feeling. I’ve dealt with a lot of sudden losses the past three years. It’s paralyzing. And sometimes it doesn’t go away. So you learn to navigate the fear, and to try to live around it. And that’s ok. Your fear is ok. Your worry is ok. Don’t feel bad about it. Talk it out with Alex, with your dad, with your brother, with your mom and aunt and cousins. Let them know how scared you are. Those conversations can help you cope. I’m so sorry you’ve been through all this. I really want you to get married (and I think a lot of places let you if you were already living together), even if it’s just in jeans. Take those newlywed casual photos and make a video. Have a Zoom reception. Put your dress on and dance like you’re in the biggest reception hall in the world. Lots of love and hugs to you and your family. ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for taking the time to write this message and LOL at bride to be problems! Thank you for reminding me my feeling are valid it does mean a lot and thank you for understanding. I can only hope it gets better from here xx
Hi @Zig I've just sent you the longest message on insta, I really hope you get a chance to read it. It was a bit too personal for here but just want you to know what I completely understand and hoping, praying, asking the universe for you and your family to be covered in love, light and positivity 💜
Oh man Zara. So sorry you’ve lost your uncle. All your concerns are valid, as “first world problems” as they seem. You’ve anticipated and looked forward to this day, on top of all your planning.
Thank you everyone for your kind messages, I honestly can’t express how much they mean to me in a time like this. I’m so grateful and thankful for this online connection as you all have continued to support and show care throughout the years in my life. I hope to break my own cycles and be more open as I see how freeing it can be and how kind people can be. I will continue to pray and fight for our day but regardless I know it *will* happen one way or another and will be great when it does and I can’t wait to share more with you too xx
Ooooh Zig (yes I'm on a zig Beswick saga rn) I totally feel you when you say that every time you seem happy something comes to crush it so you're never really happy! I really hope your wedding will occur on the date you've planned and that the people you xare for will be around you. I also feel you when you say that you are uncomfortable with all the niceness, I have the same issue. But you have to embrace it, just like you embrace some of your flaws, because at the end of the day, people love you just as much as you love them and you seem to have a really big heart so you'll never get away with it hahaha
Hi Zara, thank you for sharing this and your vulnerability. So many brides-to-be in Facebook bride groups are sharing the same dissapointment and methods of adjustment. Have you considered therapy? It has helped a lot of people get through, and help people understand why they feel certain ways! 💚 Many on Psychology Today therapists offer online sessions during this period.
Your future children (should you both choose to have any) are going to be so lucky to have such a kind, loving and thoughtful mum.
I was out walking with Alex when I saw your comment, it really is the sweetest thing I’ve read and means so much xx
Omg hun. Feel what you feel. It's okay. You're allowed.
Love and light, Zig!🌸
I really admire and your sincerity. Sending all the hope and light to the universe for you and your family
So sorry for your loss, love and light to you and your family.
Ohhh, Zig! You didn't even need to ask! My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family!!! Sending lots of love! xo
Thank you that is much appreciated xx
I admire how honest you have been in this video. I feel for you and things will get better! All my love to your families x
Wishing you the best, sorry for your loss
Thank you x
Awww bless you. Sorry for your loss & I’ll be praying for you sis 😘🙏🏾❤️
Thank you !
First, sorry for your loss. Second, Your feelings are that - yours, first world or not. Validate them, it’s ok not to be ok. Therapy will help you get the language to express why you kindness makes you feel uncomfortable and how to overcome it. In the meantime if you find yourself overthinking things, wiggle your toes. I know it sounds ridiculous but it takes you out of your head and back into your body. I feel honoured by your vulnerability. Perhaps more importantly, it shows great strength. Lastly, just like a rollercoaster life will have ups and downs...one goes on a 🎢 to ride at the same speed, in a straight line. It’s the ups and downs that make it enjoyable. Sending love to you and your family 💓
Thank you Chika. I have actually had/started therapy in 2016. I hopefully one day will get into that a bit further. I really hope to find space to have further therapy after all of this. One thing my therapist noted was my safety behaviours and hopefully as I do more videos like this I can break them down. Thank you for your kind words, I will WIGGLE THEM TOES xx
Zara sweetheart, what you’re feeling is perfectly normal and your reasons for not wanting to postpone your wedding are absolutely legitimate. Hang in there 🤗
Thank you xx
Thank you for sharing and opening up Zig- even though you don't owe us any explanations. That takes strength. So sorry to hear about how difficult this has all been. I know we're all experiencing this pandemic in different ways, some worse than others, but that doesn't invalidate how you feel about other things going on in your life that are important and meaningful to you. I do hope everything works out in the end. Love and hugs to you, Alex and family❤️
Thank you so much I hope you and yours are well also xx
Awww Zig thank you for sharing this with us. I can relate so much to this video. I'm meant to be getting married in August and I've been constantly up and down with the worry of what will happen and whether my parents, who live abroad will be able to get a flight. I've learnt that it's ok to cry and to hold on to hope. The lord is powerful and my prayers are with you and your family. You are also already blessed and further blessings are coming your way!
Same with my mum! I will pray and think of you also. We can only persevere with positivity and know that we will get our day and it will be special! Thinking of you xx
@@Zigandstuff just seen this. Thank you!x
My deepest condolences dear 😔🖤 Things will get better dear, stay positive.
Zig I’m with you my soul aches I’m a nurse in long term care and I’m use to death but the thought of my resident and their families and friends that can’t be together to celebrate and comfort each other breaks my heart. My sister in law lost a sister and grandpa and we cannot be with each other it is really taking toll. All we can do is do our best to stay positive don’t let this dim your light
I am thinking of you also and sending you all my love and support. And thank you as well for all the hard work you have done and continue to do for people xxx
Sorry to hear about your loss Zig 😥. Just keep thinking positive it will work out in the end. Will keep you and your family in my prayers.
Aww, praying for you. Things will work out Zhara, things may seems alittle cloudy at times, don't lose faith, God will pull everything together for your union. Blessings to both families 😚💛💛
Thank you so much x
Sending you so much love Zig! ❤️
I am praying for you......speak it and its shall manifest......stay strong as I have about 3 different friends who are also going through the same thing and its not easy.........stay positive as I will do for you and my friends so we all come out this safe/satisfied.....sending you blessings ...;-)
Thank you so much for your prayers and kind words xx
God bless you sweetheart💔
i always tell myself when i get really sad , i say to myself “there are better days to come” and i think of all of the possible great things to happen.. i hope that helps btw you’re so pretty! best wishes to your new union
Thank you! That’s a great affirmation! It will help me stay positive, thank you x
Following you for so long I truly feel like you're a friend (call me weird eek! Dont care) honestly I really truly hope our Heavenly Father above will allow blessings upon blessings to flow within your family, as you said just not that what you're experiencing is normal and absolutely understandable... this season is strange but we know hope and believe that it'll pass💛sending you so much love and a massive hug. All things will work together for good 💯
Nooo never weird! (That being said weird people are the best kind 😉) thank you for your kind words and continued support it means a lot xx
Hi-5 on the Bridey top! Sending positive vibes for your journey to marriage and growth in accepting kindness 🙏🏾💕 I believe in the Lord Jesus Christ and I will most definitely lift you and your family up to in prayer x
Did you get one? My maid of honour told me about them so it’s another positive to take from this! And thank you soo much for your prayers it means a lot xx
@@Zigandstuff I got one 😁 love it, perfect for lockdown chilling. I joined a FB group called weddings 2020 - 2022 (I think) and someone had advertised on there. My wedding was supposed to be this August but as we have around 350+ guests we postponed it to next year where it will just be a party. We are going to do a registry wedding for as soon as we can get a booking this year 😊 x
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Saying a prayer for you and your family 🙏
Please don’t apologize for having feelings and problems during this pandemic that have nothing to do with this pandemic. We don’t think globally. We think individually. We can sympathize with the world, but we empathize with each other as people.You’ve lost your uncle, which is devastating. You’ve almost lost your brother and Alex’s. You’re sad and tired and stressed and you want to be with family. That’s ok. Normalcy and normal feelings aren’t bad. They’re just normal. Your wedding is the most important thing to you right now, for all of the reasons you mentioned, all of which are important reasons. ALL of them. .Yes, eczema during the winter is important to think about, and anyone who says it isn’t has never been female. 😂 This isn’t a first world problem. It’s a fiancée problem, a bride-to-Be problem, a family problem, and that’s universal. You want people to be safe, but you want to get married. Those aren’t mutually exclusive feelings.
I also want you to know that this is how fear works. You have a bad scare like the ones you’ve been having with your brothers. And it scars you. You’re terrified of something else happening. I understand that feeling. I’ve dealt with a lot of sudden losses the past three years. It’s paralyzing. And sometimes it doesn’t go away. So you learn to navigate the fear, and to try to live around it. And that’s ok. Your fear is ok. Your worry is ok. Don’t feel bad about it. Talk it out with Alex, with your dad, with your brother, with your mom and aunt and cousins. Let them know how scared you are. Those conversations can help you cope. I’m so sorry you’ve been through all this. I really want you to get married (and I think a lot of places let you if you were already living together), even if it’s just in jeans. Take those newlywed casual photos and make a video. Have a Zoom reception. Put your dress on and dance like you’re in the biggest reception hall in the world. Lots of love and hugs to you and your family. ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for taking the time to write this message and LOL at bride to be problems! Thank you for reminding me my feeling are valid it does mean a lot and thank you for understanding. I can only hope it gets better from here xx
Oh no baby girl. This will pass, sorry for your loss honestly xxx
Thank you x
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Hi @Zig I've just sent you the longest message on insta, I really hope you get a chance to read it. It was a bit too personal for here but just want you to know what I completely understand and hoping, praying, asking the universe for you and your family to be covered in love, light and positivity 💜
Thank you again xx
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Oh man Zara. So sorry you’ve lost your uncle. All your concerns are valid, as “first world problems” as they seem. You’ve anticipated and looked forward to this day, on top of all your planning.
Thank you xx