It depends. Parents are not also perfect. some parents are cool. some were not. Its always depends on the situation. You should be man enough to stand for your woman but make sure that she's the right woman for you otherwise it will backfire to you. lol. Man always know if she is the one.
I agree but the problem is her husband got no balls he should have been sorted out a long time ago but he doesn't like Confrontation that is the magic word but like Steve Harvey said woman needs closure I need to know why do you not like me what is your reason I can't see the husband talking about her negative to the parents so I just feel like the parents have got an issue
My ex husbands family didn’t like me. Our marriage ended. His Mom & Sister were the most evil ppl I ever encountered. They stooped very low to show me that they didn’t like me. Only a man with a spine protects his wife, he never protected me.
My ex was in the military and we had two children before I ever met his family. They hated me. Never knew me for one second and my ex was afraid of his mother who gave him ultimatums about being with me and he eventually chose them over the children and I. I know exactly how you feel. I am so sorry this happened to you and your family.
Elisa Ellis i know how that feels. I’m honestly sorry that you had to go through all of it. Hopefully, you’ll find a better man and have a way better relationship.
Not really because the kids will start asking questions on why do you dislike my mum so it's better that they keep them away from the Grandparents then keeping them around them and picking up and seen their behaviour towards their parents so you really just saving them to be honest so now I don't feel sorry for the kids because the kids will never know what's coming because the mother has protected them if you can not respect the mother then it's wrong that they see the kids can't be playing up and down with the kids and not respecting the mother out of order and time is precious so it's wrong that she has to be around that type of surrounding while they're running up and down with the kids but disrespecting the mother in a cold manner way
Good for the husband!! He is right on!! The wife has to get on board and know that she has made a significant impact on her husband's life and move on!!! She doesn't need validation at all!
Escape Reality christianity is not a religion Christianity is the truth. Religion is just a bunch of rules and regulations and norms that can be obeyed without Love. A religion can be practiced without Love. But the truth can not be practiced without Love. That’s what makes it different. I could go to a mosque and impersonate them and go up the ranks real quick. But try that with genuinely real Christians, The Holy Spirit will spot you and alert them. You can’t fake it when the Holy Spirit is looking at you. That’s the difference between the truth and religion, The requirement is Love and the Holy Spirit. Satan knows the Bible verbatim, but he’s spotted a mile away when the Holy Spirit raises the alarm.
Exactly, that's the reason b/c of in-laws hated feelings, cause someone took their child away and they no longer need them as much, which is wrong. The child still needs the support and love. Parents are afraid their child will forget about them. God knew why he had to address this cause if married and still under parents approval, no one will ever grow up and be a responsible adult.
Iam not sure I could marry someone if their parents did not like me. I know I will get thumbs down for this...but when you marry-you marry the family noy just the wife or hubby (or ins the USA and Europe- wife and wife or hubby and hubby).
I agree. My super christian, extended family have abandoned other family members who are not Christian, for no reason whatsoever. Every family function (like weddings, milestone birthdays etc.) they have always had a church excuse (eg. hillsong concert/bible study/band practice) for not attending, just because we are not christian. But they go to all church functions at a drop of a hat and even drive an hour and a half away to church, 3 times a week, even though the members are not blood related. They never visit family that are 5min from their home or any family functions that are within half hour from them, even when invited several times... Just shows how hypocritical and judgemental some Christians are.
Jo Amor As a real Christian, they should go out there into the world and be lights therefore they should go visit your events too. They need to be lights. Humble modest lights but bold when they need to. They should not huddle together so much like how you were saying. That’s too much salt in one place. Got to spread out over the food you know? Not all of it in one spot. Humble lights man. So I agree with you. Christians are supposed to be warriors. Soldiers. Fighters. Not scaredy cats huddling and acting like Pharisees.
Puro Religous people and Atheists are weird. Non religious people can be just as weird or weirder too. Lots of serial killers on the west coast of the United States in states like Oregon and Washington state who didn’t believe in a after life had pretty weird ways of expressing their feelings towards this life they’ve been given here on earth. Tons of Hollywood actors who aren’t religious have done very very weird things in their private lives and domestic lives and public lives too. So... Nice to meet you... Captain Obvious. It’s been awhile.
Charlene Carmon---Be careful, sis. Many times, women who say they don't need closure really do, but are in denial. Once you've been in denial for so long, you actually start to believe it. Lack of closure will cause you to stay angry with people and harbor unforgiveness in your heart, which will lead to bitterness. I have a sister who swears up and down that she doesn't need closure. She is so bitter and she's angry with the whole damn world. She'll snap off on people over trivial things, because she's really taking all of the bitterness in her heart out on the people who didn't hurt her. Everybody needs closure. If you choose not to get that closure for whatever reason, trust me, it will affect you in the long run!
The problem is, it ain’t just them in the situation, it’s also their kids who are suffering without the contact of their grandparents, so I can see why she is very bothered by this
Hubby needs to grow a pair !! 14+ years? really? I'd told my parents long before to accept it and get over their hang ups'..........They didn't like all my girlfriends, but too bad I said. They taught me to speak up for myself, and I do and did even to them. They didn't rule my life, or make me change any thing for them.....
Honestly I think when they first dated in high school, she must of done something and he woulda ran to mama and told her and she’s been holding onto that this whole time and because of that she’s just grown to resent the gf/wife and doesn’t remember why other than the fact that wifey broke her sons heart.
Yeeeees, parents dont dislike your partner for no reason mostly, there must be something big that happened before they married or during their marriage, and parents feel like their son is way better to be someone like that regardless. I need well articulated back story on this case. I dont trust the son and wife confessions... I need to hear the other side of the story from the parent. The one sign i knw that these two is hidding something is that when the son said i cant confront my parents, its clear he cant because they give him the truth and he dont want to face the truth. Thts it.
Yeah true.. u know what .. just becos u go to church doesn't make u an honest person .. Steve couldn't give a judgement like that ..not like him.. u need to speak to the parents to understand .. they've lived their lives to know something is not right .. the husband looks like he's got a gun to his head ..
Not always my exs family were horrible to me. They had a warped way of thinking and i warped as everyone ive spoken too and has physically seen how they are uses that word Mental health wasnt dicussed its like they didnt believe in it. Unless youd gone threw something they deemed bad enough. Or was severe enough like aspergers ect. I have adhd and anxiety. I was told i play on it and that i should deal with on my own. Was told that no wonder there brother used babe station im a burden.i was actually going threw a lot of health issues down there sex was excruciating stopping hald way threw resulted in him yelling st me to get it sorted. Adhd was somthing only kids have and you can grow out off that its my perents fault that i haven't grown out of it. He had a second job and made it clear it wouldnt drive 15 minutes to me at weekends so i had to stay at his. Instead of telling him to quit his job or make the comute when they made it clear that they didnt like we staying on a friday and saturday night up in the room out of there way might i add they expected him to choose the job and not see me. As payment i was to get up on saturday n sundsy at9 am and clean the house. Exact words we go out on Saturday and sunday and wed like you to hover the house. Tidy up any mess weve left in the kitchen. Hang out there washing do there washing. Fun fact i would wash the dished and clean the kitchen after dinner which i never asked for but was alway told theres always some left anyway. I would ask if i could do my laundry in there machine but if they had any i would seperate into the correct piles and wash them together ie there white and mine and so on. Id also hand it up and fold it and place it on there bed. I never asked for anything asked before i made things as simple as tea if theyd like anything. I always kept the tv low and when they went bed at 8 id make an effort to be extra quiet with any movements and use headphones if watching somthing. His room was never messy. they called me lazy cos i slept in with there son as i too would stay up untill he came home at 4am due to my anxiety cause i troubked sleeping unless he was home save. They knew this but still expected me up at 9am. They also didnt take into consideration that my adhd means my brain works harder and that my week at college can take it out on me. And ive got proof from my doctor stating i need more rest then most. Were are my perents u may ask. Stupid 19 year old me decided to move hrs away from home to be with ex due to distance and family issue on my side that genually nothing to do woth him as he was great to begin with any way yeap. So during the week i also lived on my own and aswell as going college had to deal with the other live aspect which adhd people also struggle with. Im now free from him and his family as he choose a night out with work instead of being there for me after my op. Yeap my op fell on the same day that he had a night out with work. Im lucky my mum was there to take care of me. Ass whole thought it was ok to come back at 4 am even tho we asked him to come back at 2am. Didnt text me. Gets blind drunk. When told to go back to his own house as my mum needed sleep he ignored her then come back at 4am and then trys to turn it on us. Why didnt he have key you ask well student accommodation has fobs that work the doors and kitchens. Meaning i cant give him the fob or i wont beable to access my kitchen. Moral of my story sometimes they dont need a reason they just hate you
He might know something I don't think so because you go to church they should be happy if because of the church if you involve some thing bad thing what they gonna say he is hiding something I agree with you
This is a great segment! It does hurt to see families broken and disconnected. unfortunately, when you are person who loves God and has morals and values, family will reject you if they don't share the same convictions. the bible has a lot to say about family dinamics. it just may be a blessing in disguise. The last thing they need is the grandparents having a negative infuence on the children.
Is there an update on this family's story? I'd love to see them back on the show and maybe even have the husband's parents, too. You know, men want closure, too, Steve ;)
Me too!!! We’re in the SAME boat!!!My husband doesn’t like confrontation so he rather just walk away from it because whatever he says won’t matter. We don’t even know why they haven’t liked me from the beginning. After 2 years of the bs I stood up for myself and us. They wasn’t good.he told them not to invite him if my son and I were invited. For 1 year they continued to invite him and he just didn’t reply. I knew right then how much he loved me! For him to be willing to just walk away from his family bc they didn’t accept me told me right there he was in love with me and no one can break that bond.The WHOLE family has followed. They still won’t talk 2 us or invite us to things.We went 6 years without hearing from Gus parents.To see his kids they would call his ex. They didn’t come to the wedding we had in MX, they were invited. They booked their room then cancelled it...smh...They give up there son because they didn’t like the person he dated.🤦🏻♀️We have 4 boys we could never do that!So I want to know the outcome too!!!
Probably the mother is manipulative, controlling, wanting to be centre of everyone's attention and focus. The Father-in-law is whooped by the Mother-in-law. He won't tell her back off. The wife is direct threat to the narcissistic mother. The grandchildren too, as the babies take attention away from her. My take - mother in law is toxic, narcissistic. Son and his own father cope with the horrible woman through caving in to her demands, submitting to her control
Dude needs to have a heart to heart with his parents and if they insist on being petty, dilly, and hateful, then he needs to stand by his wife and children. MAN UP, MAN.
If he made an effort, and his parents are still not wanting to do their part, I’d cut your losses and move on. It’s hard and better said than done though
I am on the husband side. I am not going to force you to like my wife. They made their choice. Don't get me wrong it sad that the grandparents are missing out. I am also like the wife as in I sometimes would like 2 know why u don't like me. Trust me I will not wonder all those 14 years. I'll give u a few months only because you are my in laws. After that be gone with u.
Wow! This is unheard of. Usually, you can dislike your kid in law but never let that affect your relationship with your grandkids. So weird. And the husband need to step up. You should love your wife more than you hate confrontation.
Sometimes family members will dislike your partner for no logical reason. My parents don't like my boyfriend, and when I sat them down and asked them why, they said, "We just don't like him." And they wonder why I never call or visit anymore.
This reminds me of my wife. My parents (mom, specifically) does not like my wife. It’s been 6 years now and it’s slowly getting better. I worry once we have kids, it may be like this too. We will see! My wife is so hurt by this. I always stick up for her. 💕☀️ I’ve been working on this for 7 years now…
+ugaas wiilhoog yeah but come on 14 years later and they go 2 years without seeing their grandchildren? They're all adults you don't have to like someone to be cordial especially when there's children involved. They really need to hash it out and if they're not gonna like her don't but geez be civil...
I had a similar situation when my soon-to-be in-laws weren't big fans of mine, and sometimes wouldnt even speak to me when we were in the same room. It didn't really bother me, but I told my husband if they don't like me then they better not expect to be in our children's lives. He had a conversation with them along the same lines and they changed their tune real quick.
My question is why fight, why confront them? My mother told me if a person makes up their mind, it's best to not change it. You don't know what the outcome maybe.
Hey I had the same situation and you know time heals all wounds. So with time about 2 years, the wounds healed and now we are a family in communion with having a relationship with each other. Life is just too short to cry over that kind of stuff.
That's their loss if they dont want to see you or like you. My mom has never met my children and hasnt heard my voice in almost 8 years and thats her choice. You cant make someone love you or want you.
The same thing happen to my sister. She's married and have a 1yr old son now. Our parents dont like my brother in law. I dont know why but they think he's not a good fit for her. From what im seeing, my sister is very happy with her marriage life, never had any problems with her family. They did tried to make it up to our parents, talk them out of it but nothing seems to be working. Its been going on for a year now. As a brother, i felt bad for her. My parents are missing up a lot coz its their only grandson for now and he's growing up fast. Sometimes i just dont know how to help coz im not married and dont have these kind of experience yet.
Fitry Hakim yeah thats exactly what happened to me. Its been almost 8 years and its hard but there really isnt anything to do. Since you are her brother, i would recommend being there for her. It hurts to know your mom doesnt want you so it helps to have someone with you in your corner
+Caren Collins damn, that's sad! I don't even know what to say. 8 years!! Idk if you're a religious or spiritual person but I am and based on the benefits I received from that all I can say is pray about it. Pray for your mom. There certainly has to be something wrong with her for her to feel comfortable with not seeing or hearing her child for 8 years! I wish you all the best cause that's just so sad man!
That was really splendid advice. Everyone said something meaningful and touched on something different but the message was ultimately the same and very clear. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Being dealing with this since our first child was born. Sadly, our kids are their (grandmothers) only grandkids. They have never touched, seen or met them. This is 100% on them and we have accepted it. This has made our family of 5...tighter than ever! Their loss!
The answer would be different had it been his parents liking her, and her parents hating his guts, because he would have gotten the "what did you do" speech.
I wonder if this is an assumption about the parents and their feeling about them being church goers. I know James said that he hates confrontation which, let's be honest, causes many issues in relationships due to an avoidance of dealing with any issue, making everything that much more difficult to resolve. Without being willing to confront the issue he can always deflect by saying, I'll just carry on with my wife and children and its their loss. I agree with the consensus to confront, address and resolve the issue. Confronting them about the issue opens up dialogue, allows you to listen to their concerns, fears (rational or irrational)etc and allows you to understand things from their perspective while sharing your own
Why do some parents do that especially, after such a long time and then take this out on the grandchildren. It should not be a matter of her or us, that is not right.
Happy he changed his life around for the better. Great advice from everyone. Sir give it one more chance with your wife in their presence. If it does not work out. God will place an older couple in your life for your daughters. Steve can you please do a follow up. I would love to see the outcome. I will be praying for them.
The impact of family squabbles can be huge. You have to know when you've done enough. Walk away when you did what you could but refuse to let anyone destroy your relationship.
Absolutely. What if her in-laws did somewhat accept her, she'd probably still feel uncomfortable because she'd know that their behavior wasn't truly genuine.
There are so many parents out there who keep saying they want happiness and good life for their children. However then when you grow up and when somebody comes in your life, you marry and have stable solid family (with or without religion, whatever works for you), great career and all is well in the hood. Somehow those very parents who said they want a good life for you start to create kinks, dents and vacuum in your life by holding out. Why do parents resent their children's success in finding a good spouse, lifemate and love? 🤔
The wife needs closure. But honestly.. there is more peace when you dont have the extra drama. If it's not happening naturally you cannot force it. I wouldn't want anyone near me or my family if they dont have respect for us as a family. I wouldn't want my children around/or being influenced by 2 faced devils. Yeah stay away from me and mines.
I'm in the same position as the husband except I was raised in the church. My parents missed my sons first bday because of their personal feelings and knowing my husband will be there. What they assume is that my husband has taken me from them yet fail to realize their decision to put themselves above me, their daughter, and their first grandson is the type of decision that will have major consequences.
Wow. I have a VERY strong opinion about this. Firstly, this man's beautiful wife is a SAINT for putting up with this for so long. She is allowing her husbands parents to see one of their grandchildren. I would not. No way. If my husbands family disliked me for no reason, they would never see my kids again in their lifetime. Secondly, it does not matter WHY they don't like her. Some people have NO reason why they don't like someone. They are just hateful people and they will hate someone for no reason. Also, this is what happens when you marry a passive man. Her husband is weak and passive. That is really why this happened in the first place. His parents have too much power because they know that their son is not assertive enough to confront them. They take advantage of this fact. If this man really loves his wife like he claims to, what is he afraid of? Really. What? He needs to rock the boat and tell his parents off. Then he needs to block their numbers off his phone and never see them again. Enjoy life with the woman of his choice and their beautiful children.
So very sad. May God bless you for choosing your wife and children as many don’t and on the other hand like Marjorie said have a word but if they don’t listen it’s fine God knows your heart.
That's a real man. You will love someone or marry someone because you love the person. Nobody must tell you who should you marry. Nobody is perfect.
OptimusXian Prime funny because often in love stories , when you don't listen to your parents people bash you
It depends. Parents are not also perfect. some parents are cool. some were not. Its always depends on the situation. You should be man enough to stand for your woman but make sure that she's the right woman for you otherwise it will backfire to you. lol. Man always know if she is the one.
OptimusXian Prime RIGHT
@OptimusXian Prime - that’s so true !
She might even be disrespectful to ur family behind husbands back. Anything I’s possible
His parents didn't force him to do anything and they don't have to love his wife
His wife is so pretty
Shelly Jensen Yes she is
I know!! Him not so much!!
Why the f&$@ you lyingg?? Tell me why you lying.. oh my god!! ..Stop f*#@n lying!!
Yeah she looks like an american girl doll.
I totally agree
This problem should have bee addressed long ago.
i feel like HE knows why they dont like her but in the end it shouldnt matter, noones going anywhere
I agree but the problem is her husband got no balls he should have been sorted out a long time ago but he doesn't like Confrontation that is the magic word but like Steve Harvey said woman needs closure I need to know why do you not like me what is your reason I can't see the husband talking about her negative to the parents so I just feel like the parents have got an issue
He's too submissive.
The wife's hair is beautiful
Aki Scott and her eyes + face
The husband got no hair
@@dervettehenderson9532 the bald and the beautiful
My ex husbands family didn’t like me. Our marriage ended. His Mom & Sister were the most evil ppl I ever encountered. They stooped very low to show me that they didn’t like me. Only a man with a spine protects his wife, he never protected me.
Elisa so sorry to hear they treated you that way...freaking witches! They probably both single too.
@Douglas Jacquez 😂
@New England Patriots Go Eagles! ;)
My ex was in the military and we had two children before I ever met his family. They hated me. Never knew me for one second and my ex was afraid of his mother who gave him ultimatums about being with me and he eventually chose them over the children and I. I know exactly how you feel. I am so sorry this happened to you and your family.
Elisa Ellis i know how that feels. I’m honestly sorry that you had to go through all of it. Hopefully, you’ll find a better man and have a way better relationship.
I could listen to Marjorie Steve's wife all day. She's very humble & Wise♥️
So sad for the kids
MissTinasheXO Excatly I agree with you on that.
Not really because the kids will start asking questions on why do you dislike my mum so it's better that they keep them away from the Grandparents then keeping them around them and picking up and seen their behaviour towards their parents so you really just saving them to be honest so now I don't feel sorry for the kids because the kids will never know what's coming because the mother has protected them if you can not respect the mother then it's wrong that they see the kids can't be playing up and down with the kids and not respecting the mother out of order and time is precious so it's wrong that she has to be around that type of surrounding while they're running up and down with the kids but disrespecting the mother in a cold manner way
Not really. I don't deal with my grandparents and better for it
Yes and no. If the grandparents are lame, they're better off without em
Ikr!
Good for the husband!! He is right on!! The wife has to get on board and know that she has made a significant impact on her husband's life and move on!!! She doesn't need validation at all!
Mikki Taylor the husband isn't standing up for his wife though.
His wife seems like a nice lady, that is why she is being strangling.
True and hes man enough to choose her and that's enough
@@mikenelson8377 he did , they made their choice and he made his without hesitation
exactly
"Going to Church" and being a Christian are two different things. sitting in my garage doesn't make me a car
I love that example!! 👍👍👍 you have to live a life that is pleasing unto God. The parents are being immature.
Mr Pine Amen
He probably means the whole shebang
Mr Pine idk............... I mean how is someone religious without practicing the religion? 😐
Escape Reality christianity is not a religion Christianity is the truth. Religion is just a bunch of rules and regulations and norms that can be obeyed without Love. A religion can be practiced without Love. But the truth can not be practiced without Love. That’s what makes it different. I could go to a mosque and impersonate them and go up the ranks real quick. But try that with genuinely real Christians, The Holy Spirit will spot you and alert them. You can’t fake it when the Holy Spirit is looking at you. That’s the difference between the truth and religion, The requirement is Love and the Holy Spirit. Satan knows the Bible verbatim, but he’s spotted a mile away when the Holy Spirit raises the alarm.
Well goodbye to the parents when a man and woman gets married they become one
Exactly, that's the reason b/c of in-laws hated feelings, cause someone took their child away and they no longer need them as much, which is wrong. The child still needs the support and love. Parents are afraid their child will forget about them. God knew why he had to address this cause if married and still under parents approval, no one will ever grow up and be a responsible adult.
True no one can choiced your wife or husband for you.
They his parents how could you say that
stive martin RIGHT
Iam not sure I could marry someone if their parents did not like me. I know I will get thumbs down for this...but when you marry-you marry the family noy just the wife or hubby (or ins the USA and Europe- wife and wife or hubby and hubby).
“That is why a man will leave his father and his mother and he must stick to his wife and they must become one flesh.”
- Genesis 2:24
Omg, that's one of my worst fears, having in laws that don't like me!!!!!!!!!😬😖😬😖
Banana Anna me too
Banana Anna it is so hard... And you never feel good enough.
Be yourself,that's all u need
Really? That’s a plus for me. It means I never have to deal with them.
Banana Anna exactly
1:56 I love how Marjorie reflects before answering a question so elegantly
If your family abandons you for the sake of Christ you don't have to regret it or cry over it.
We don't know that that is the reason. No one has asked them.
I agree. My super christian, extended family have abandoned other family members who are not Christian, for no reason whatsoever. Every family function (like weddings, milestone birthdays etc.) they have always had a church excuse (eg. hillsong concert/bible study/band practice) for not attending, just because we are not christian. But they go to all church functions at a drop of a hat and even drive an hour and a half away to church, 3 times a week, even though the members are not blood related. They never visit family that are 5min from their home or any family functions that are within half hour from them, even when invited several times... Just shows how hypocritical and judgemental some Christians are.
Jo Amor As a real Christian, they should go out there into the world and be lights therefore they should go visit your events too. They need to be lights. Humble modest lights but bold when they need to. They should not huddle together so much like how you were saying. That’s too much salt in one place. Got to spread out over the food you know? Not all of it in one spot. Humble lights man. So I agree with you. Christians are supposed to be warriors. Soldiers. Fighters. Not scaredy cats huddling and acting like Pharisees.
religious people are weird.
Puro Religous people and Atheists are weird. Non religious people can be just as weird or weirder too. Lots of serial killers on the west coast of the United States in states like Oregon and Washington state who didn’t believe in a after life had pretty weird ways of expressing their feelings towards this life they’ve been given here on earth. Tons of Hollywood actors who aren’t religious have done very very weird things in their private lives and domestic lives and public lives too. So... Nice to meet you... Captain Obvious. It’s been awhile.
I think I'm the only woman on the planet who doesn't need closure lol.., sometimes it just is what it is. hope it all works out for them
Charlene Carmon agree girl.. same here..
Charlene Carmon---Be careful, sis. Many times, women who say they don't need closure really do, but are in denial. Once you've been in denial for so long, you actually start to believe it. Lack of closure will cause you to stay angry with people and harbor unforgiveness in your heart, which will lead to bitterness.
I have a sister who swears up and down that she doesn't need closure. She is so bitter and she's angry with the whole damn world. She'll snap off on people over trivial things, because she's really taking all of the bitterness in her heart out on the people who didn't hurt her.
Everybody needs closure. If you choose not to get that closure for whatever reason, trust me, it will affect you in the long run!
The problem is, it ain’t just them in the situation, it’s also their kids who are suffering without the contact of their grandparents, so I can see why she is very bothered by this
Nightingale Bou you’ve may not have been hurt that bas
You are so ironically strong
She needs to get over it. Some people are demonic and try to hurt others because they are hurt.
Agree
His parents should be o their knees thanking this lady ... Good for him sticking by his wife and kids
Hubby needs to grow a pair !! 14+ years? really? I'd told my parents long before to accept it and get over their hang ups'..........They didn't like all my girlfriends, but too bad I said. They taught me to speak up for myself, and I do and did even to them. They didn't rule my life, or make me change any thing for them.....
Her husband answered that beautifully!
Honestly I think when they first dated in high school, she must of done something and he woulda ran to mama and told her and she’s been holding onto that this whole time and because of that she’s just grown to resent the gf/wife and doesn’t remember why other than the fact that wifey broke her sons heart.
I agree
Yeeeees, parents dont dislike your partner for no reason mostly, there must be something big that happened before they married or during their marriage, and parents feel like their son is way better to be someone like that regardless. I need well articulated back story on this case. I dont trust the son and wife confessions... I need to hear the other side of the story from the parent. The one sign i knw that these two is hidding something is that when the son said i cant confront my parents, its clear he cant because they give him the truth and he dont want to face the truth. Thts it.
Yeah true.. u know what .. just becos u go to church doesn't make u an honest person .. Steve couldn't give a judgement like that ..not like him.. u need to speak to the parents to understand .. they've lived their lives to know something is not right .. the husband looks like he's got a gun to his head ..
Not always my exs family were horrible to me. They had a warped way of thinking and i warped as everyone ive spoken too and has physically seen how they are uses that word
Mental health wasnt dicussed its like they didnt believe in it. Unless youd gone threw something they deemed bad enough. Or was severe enough like aspergers ect.
I have adhd and anxiety. I was told i play on it and that i should deal with on my own.
Was told that no wonder there brother used babe station im a burden.i was actually going threw a lot of health issues down there sex was excruciating stopping hald way threw resulted in him yelling st me to get it sorted. Adhd was somthing only kids have and you can grow out off that its my perents fault that i haven't grown out of it. He had a second job and made it clear it wouldnt drive 15 minutes to me at weekends so i had to stay at his. Instead of telling him to quit his job or make the comute when they made it clear that they didnt like we staying on a friday and saturday night up in the room out of there way might i add they expected him to choose the job and not see me. As payment i was to get up on saturday n sundsy at9 am and clean the house. Exact words we go out on Saturday and sunday and wed like you to hover the house. Tidy up any mess weve left in the kitchen. Hang out there washing do there washing. Fun fact i would wash the dished and clean the kitchen after dinner which i never asked for but was alway told theres always some left anyway. I would ask if i could do my laundry in there machine but if they had any i would seperate into the correct piles and wash them together ie there white and mine and so on. Id also hand it up and fold it and place it on there bed. I never asked for anything asked before i made things as simple as tea if theyd like anything. I always kept the tv low and when they went bed at 8 id make an effort to be extra quiet with any movements and use headphones if watching somthing. His room was never messy. they called me lazy cos i slept in with there son as i too would stay up untill he came home at 4am due to my anxiety cause i troubked sleeping unless he was home save. They knew this but still expected me up at 9am. They also didnt take into consideration that my adhd means my brain works harder and that my week at college can take it out on me. And ive got proof from my doctor stating i need more rest then most.
Were are my perents u may ask. Stupid 19 year old me decided to move hrs away from home to be with ex due to distance and family issue on my side that genually nothing to do woth him as he was great to begin with any way yeap. So during the week i also lived on my own and aswell as going college had to deal with the other live aspect which adhd people also struggle with.
Im now free from him and his family as he choose a night out with work instead of being there for me after my op. Yeap my op fell on the same day that he had a night out with work. Im lucky my mum was there to take care of me.
Ass whole thought it was ok to come back at 4 am even tho we asked him to come back at 2am. Didnt text me. Gets blind drunk. When told to go back to his own house as my mum needed sleep he ignored her then come back at 4am and then trys to turn it on us.
Why didnt he have key you ask well student accommodation has fobs that work the doors and kitchens. Meaning i cant give him the fob or i wont beable to access my kitchen.
Moral of my story sometimes they dont need a reason they just hate you
He might know something I don't think so because you go to church they should be happy if because of the church if you involve some thing bad thing what they gonna say he is hiding something I agree with you
This is a great segment! It does hurt to see families broken and disconnected. unfortunately, when you are person who loves God and has morals and values, family will reject you if they don't share the same convictions. the bible has a lot to say about family dinamics. it just may be a blessing in disguise. The last thing they need is the grandparents having a negative infuence on the children.
Amen!
Is there an update on this family's story? I'd love to see them back on the show and maybe even have the husband's parents, too.
You know, men want closure, too, Steve ;)
Claus Zuhaus I agree I want to know myself
Claus Zuhaus...🤣🤣true it would be awesome
Me too!!! We’re in the SAME boat!!!My husband doesn’t like confrontation so he rather just walk away from it because whatever he says won’t matter. We don’t even know why they haven’t liked me from the beginning. After 2 years of the bs I stood up for myself and us. They wasn’t good.he told them not to invite him if my son and I were invited. For 1 year they continued to invite him and he just didn’t reply. I knew right then how much he loved me! For him to be willing to just walk away from his family bc they didn’t accept me told me right there he was in love with me and no one can break that bond.The WHOLE family has followed. They still won’t talk 2 us or invite us to things.We went 6 years without hearing from Gus parents.To see his kids they would call his ex. They didn’t come to the wedding we had in MX, they were invited. They booked their room then cancelled it...smh...They give up there son because they didn’t like the person he dated.🤦🏻♀️We have 4 boys we could never do that!So I want to know the outcome too!!!
Probably the mother is manipulative, controlling, wanting to be centre of everyone's attention and focus.
The Father-in-law is whooped by the Mother-in-law. He won't tell her back off.
The wife is direct threat to the narcissistic mother. The grandchildren too, as the babies take attention away from her.
My take - mother in law is toxic, narcissistic. Son and his own father cope with the horrible woman through caving in to her demands, submitting to her control
Hayley Doan , man you’re right on the money, are you a professional? You should be
I have in-laws issues but my husband has chosen his parents over us
It makes me so angry
But this guy is amazing I wish I could have a man like that
Omg Steve your wife needs to make her own talk show she is amazing! Also I love the way you look at her so cute♥️
I love Juliana and Steve's answer! Even if it doesn't work out its nice to know he tried. Because she is obviously who they have a problem with.
Dude needs to have a heart to heart with his parents and if they insist on being petty, dilly, and hateful, then he needs to stand by his wife and children. MAN UP, MAN.
If he made an effort, and his parents are still not wanting to do their part, I’d cut your losses and move on. It’s hard and better said than done though
The way Steve looks at his wife 🙊🥰
I am on the husband side. I am not going to force you to like my wife. They made their choice. Don't get me wrong it sad that the grandparents are missing out. I am also like the wife as in I sometimes would like 2 know why u don't like me. Trust me I will not wonder all those 14 years. I'll give u a few months only because you are my in laws. After that be gone with u.
eugene robinson exactly
Wow! This is unheard of. Usually, you can dislike your kid in law but never let that affect your relationship with your grandkids. So weird. And the husband need to step up. You should love your wife more than you hate confrontation.
Is good you have her as a wife but you still need to asked your parents what is really wrong about your wife and they will open up to you
I agree.
+idomagirl abahi yes for sure
Sometimes family members will dislike your partner for no logical reason. My parents don't like my boyfriend, and when I sat them down and asked them why, they said, "We just don't like him." And they wonder why I never call or visit anymore.
@@lillyautumn3110 maybe they see something in him that you don't. Plus, he's a boyfriend not a husband. Big difference!!!
the two thumbs dawn are the parents.
lmfao...omg 😂😂😂😂😂😭😭😭😭😭😩😩😩😂😂😂😂
Looooooooooooooooooooollll
Haha trueeeee
#nochill 😂😂😂😂
Lmbo!!!!!!! Rotfl!!!!!!!!!!
This reminds me of my wife. My parents (mom, specifically) does not like my wife. It’s been 6 years now and it’s slowly getting better. I worry once we have kids, it may be like this too. We will see! My wife is so hurt by this. I always stick up for her. 💕☀️ I’ve been working on this for 7 years now…
Nope. If you can’t have a conversation and all with your family then done deal. I’ve dealt with this before. Security and respect is everything💯
I think there is more to this story, remember there are 3 sides to each story, the version of the two parties and the truth.
+ugaas wiilhoog yeah but come on 14 years later and they go 2 years without seeing their grandchildren? They're all adults you don't have to like someone to be cordial especially when there's children involved. They really need to hash it out and if they're not gonna like her don't but geez be civil...
+Lufann Stewart Amen! 14 years!?! Come on now! They're being children themselves!
Maybe the wife is the one who isn't civil.
They probably got together while he was with the first baby momma
Wow! So crazy. Hit home for me. Thanks Steve💙
I had a similar situation when my soon-to-be in-laws weren't big fans of mine, and sometimes wouldnt even speak to me when we were in the same room. It didn't really bother me, but I told my husband if they don't like me then they better not expect to be in our children's lives. He had a conversation with them along the same lines and they changed their tune real quick.
Always a pleasure to watch this amazing Lady Harvey. GOD Bless her.
His wife is freaking beautiful! God bless her ♥️
these segments are so real and informative, i love it. we need more of that!
Go Bill!! So proud of yall...
My question is why fight, why confront them? My mother told me if a person makes up their mind, it's best to not change it. You don't know what the outcome maybe.
Hey I had the same situation and you know time heals all wounds. So with time about 2 years, the wounds healed and now we are a family in communion with having a relationship with each other. Life is just too short to cry over that kind of stuff.
That's their loss if they dont want to see you or like you. My mom has never met my children and hasnt heard my voice in almost 8 years and thats her choice. You cant make someone love you or want you.
The same thing happen to my sister. She's married and have a 1yr old son now. Our parents dont like my brother in law. I dont know why but they think he's not a good fit for her. From what im seeing, my sister is very happy with her marriage life, never had any problems with her family. They did tried to make it up to our parents, talk them out of it but nothing seems to be working. Its been going on for a year now. As a brother, i felt bad for her. My parents are missing up a lot coz its their only grandson for now and he's growing up fast. Sometimes i just dont know how to help coz im not married and dont have these kind of experience yet.
Fitry Hakim yeah thats exactly what happened to me. Its been almost 8 years and its hard but there really isnt anything to do. Since you are her brother, i would recommend being there for her. It hurts to know your mom doesnt want you so it helps to have someone with you in your corner
+Caren Collins damn, that's sad! I don't even know what to say. 8 years!! Idk if you're a religious or spiritual person but I am and based on the benefits I received from that all I can say is pray about it. Pray for your mom. There certainly has to be something wrong with her for her to feel comfortable with not seeing or hearing her child for 8 years! I wish you all the best cause that's just so sad man!
SwaggerChiick1 yeah I've prayed for God's will because there's nothing else for me to do
Caren Collins exactly, just live your life and keep it moving!!
I don't think people shouldn't let people bring them down
That was really splendid advice. Everyone said something meaningful and touched on something different but the message was ultimately the same and very clear. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
When the husband spoke I just got so emotional and cried... 😢
Love Steve Harvey's advice as well as the other's. Wise crew indeed.
Being dealing with this since our first child was born. Sadly, our kids are their (grandmothers) only grandkids. They have never touched, seen or met them. This is 100% on them and we have accepted it. This has made our family of 5...tighter than ever!
Their loss!
Cutie takes note when others speak and give advice. Steve never stops learning
beautiful advice !!!
I just came to hear Marjorie talk.😍😍😍😍
The answer would be different had it been his parents liking her, and her parents hating his guts, because he would have gotten the "what did you do" speech.
I wonder if this is an assumption about the parents and their feeling about them being church goers.
I know James said that he hates confrontation which, let's be honest, causes many issues in relationships due to an avoidance of dealing with any issue, making everything that much more difficult to resolve. Without being willing to confront the issue he can always deflect by saying, I'll just carry on with my wife and children and its their loss.
I agree with the consensus to confront, address and resolve the issue. Confronting them about the issue opens up dialogue, allows you to listen to their concerns, fears (rational or irrational)etc and allows you to understand things from their perspective while sharing your own
Thanks Steve :D Yes, we all need closure!!!
Why women always want closure, you cannot change people, you can move on now
Why do some parents do that especially, after such a long time and then take this out on the grandchildren. It should not be a matter of her or us, that is not right.
Happy he changed his life around for the better.
Great advice from everyone. Sir give it one more chance with your wife in their presence. If it does not work out. God will place an older couple in your life for your daughters.
Steve can you please do a follow up. I would love to see the outcome. I will be praying for them.
Amen!
As long your husband like you.. That's what matters period
The impact of family squabbles can be huge. You have to know when you've done enough. Walk away when you did what you could but refuse to let anyone destroy your relationship.
Serenity prayer here. Grant me the courage the things I can and peace to accept the things I can't.
I like this segment. Good advice given by the two couples
The opposite family usually the guys family doesn’t like Nobody 💔
This is so painful but i say as long as your man got your back all is good
My parents like him and his just don't like me. He needs to man up and start speaking up for his wife.
At least, she is very lucky her husband chosen her. God keeps blessing them.
one of the best shows
STEVE you rock
The wife just needs to let it be. Some people arent meant to be in your life. And sometimes its for the best for you.
Absolutely. What if her in-laws did somewhat accept her, she'd probably still feel uncomfortable because she'd know that their behavior wasn't truly genuine.
There are so many parents out there who keep saying they want happiness and good life for their children. However then when you grow up and when somebody comes in your life, you marry and have stable solid family (with or without religion, whatever works for you), great career and all is well in the hood. Somehow those very parents who said they want a good life for you start to create kinks, dents and vacuum in your life by holding out. Why do parents resent their children's success in finding a good spouse, lifemate and love? 🤔
The wife needs closure. But honestly.. there is more peace when you dont have the extra drama. If it's not happening naturally you cannot force it. I wouldn't want anyone near me or my family if they dont have respect for us as a family. I wouldn't want my children around/or being influenced by 2 faced devils. Yeah stay away from me and mines.
Tremendous advices from them all.👌👌👌👌👌
Steve & Marjorie collectively amazing.
Sounds to me like she's better off without them in her life and she might be careful what she wishes for.
Steve's the truth
best show
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Even if the parents don't like the wife, they shouldn't take it out on their grandchildren by not seeing them...
I like bill and giuliana they’re so honest
I'm in the same position as the husband except I was raised in the church. My parents missed my sons first bday because of their personal feelings and knowing my husband will be there. What they assume is that my husband has taken me from them yet fail to realize their decision to put themselves above me, their daughter, and their first grandson is the type of decision that will have major consequences.
Bravo to him. 💙💜🧡
This is a good question
You just killed me! Ahhahaahahahahaha.
PROFESS,PROVIDE,AND PROTECT MY BROTHER. GO AND TALK TO YOUR FOLKS ON YOUR WIFE BEHALF.
Great advice Giuliana!
Been there, done that, For 23 years. Wife needs to do just move on. Live your life.
This is a good man right here..
Girl wam as long your husband loves you don't worry about his family. Be happy girl I love you and your husband 😍😍
I can totally relate to this omg
U being with ur wife and it's a bessing to u then man ❤️❤️
There both adults and live and build the life they want for themselves. You don’t need your parents approval. You guys live your life
Daaamn, real talk! I have never seen Steve's wife before .. How beautiful is she??!
Wow. I have a VERY strong opinion about this. Firstly, this man's beautiful wife is a SAINT for putting up with this for so long. She is allowing her husbands parents to see one of their grandchildren. I would not. No way. If my husbands family disliked me for no reason, they would never see my kids again in their lifetime. Secondly, it does not matter WHY they don't like her. Some people have NO reason why they don't like someone. They are just hateful people and they will hate someone for no reason. Also, this is what happens when you marry a passive man. Her husband is weak and passive. That is really why this happened in the first place. His parents have too much power because they know that their son is not assertive enough to confront them. They take advantage of this fact. If this man really loves his wife like he claims to, what is he afraid of? Really. What? He needs to rock the boat and tell his parents off. Then he needs to block their numbers off his phone and never see them again. Enjoy life with the woman of his choice and their beautiful children.
The Harvey & Marjorie Show 💖
The minute I heard "I don't like confrontation" I was like oh poor sis, you married an avoidant that won't ever solve anything for you
Marjorie is just an INCREDIBLE woman!
I think the parents are immature not reaching out and connect with their grandkids.
So very sad. May God bless you for choosing your wife and children as many don’t and on the other hand like Marjorie said have a word but if they don’t listen it’s fine God knows your heart.
That man loves you. Who cares about his parents. Let it go.
Respect to this guy he married the one he loved no matter what...it s rare and it s his choice not their parents choice...
Marjorie 😩😩😩 she so beautifullll😍
Why do I feel like his parents don’t like him...😂😂😂