Such behavior makes me shut down because I then become more concerned about protecting myself and my heart from getting hurt. As a result I no longer want to be receptive to him.
@@ox_trueprotagonistchrisred9085 if you ignore your crush. What are you hoping to achieve? From a female perspective, the coldness/indifference after being friendly. Comes across as mean, disingenuous and unreliable. Kindness, respect and consistency is attractive (to non toxic females).
@@beefortebrea9386 You’re literally in a video comment section about the topic if your crush ignores you is he friendly. So why are u doing here on this video?
When they act that way I move on. Mixed signals are the worst. Because you are constantly analyzing everything little detail. Treat them how they treat you!!
I had the same problem as you. But I'm a guy and my crush was a girl. And if he's playing games such as ignoring you. Just full on ignore him. My crush ignored me and I was like wtf. And then I ignored her and I even deleted her off Facebook and few days later she noticed me again. I understand your comment was posted 3 months and you probably don't care about him now. But next time this happens, ignore him. Like what some people say "2 can play that game" and also if he continues ignoring you after you ignored him for a bit then ya that's the point where you have to move on.
@@jamiemohan2049 but surely there has to be a degree of patience and understanding. Males/females don't get things right everytime. Especially if they have a traumatised history or are shy/tired/distracted sometimes.
In the end, this strategy boils down to the man being ridiculously insecure in general, moreover insecure of the woman and her power over him. If you notice this lame tactic, just leave him where you found him...there's plenty more out here. I speak to myself as much as I speak to any one of you :-)
Honestly though women are more attracted to guys who ignore them. That's been proven. They lose interest in a guy after 3 months if they constantly talk to them any time they wish. You may think you're being the right guy for a woman but even women don't know their own brain strategy.
Donald Trump you are 100% right 😖 it’s not a game ladies, we just don’t want to feel vulnerable and attached to you because we got feelings for you, for me at least it’s not a game 😖 I’m 17 btw in high school
Non toxic adult women appreciate: genuine, honest, respectful communication and connection. Men with trauma or a painful past should seek therapy before approaching any prospective relationship. Instead of dragging that nonsense into every new relationship and leaving emotional carnage behind.
I've dealt with this more than a few times. It is so cruel. I'd suggest not doing it to anyone either. Regardless, of whether or not it's been done to you.
this kind of man really hurts and kill the soul. you dont know where to start, if you really love him. when he is in the mood he laugh, can be really nice, but when it comes to ignore, it can be for days, weeks are more.you send him apps, chats massage. .still no answers. just ignore and watching you if you are online
I dislike wasting my time in mind games. If I feel like it will be a battle of emotions and a person seems confused even tho they like me. I let go easily. I have a busy life
***** Absolutely. My assumption is that, if you don't know where you have them right from the beginning, it'll prob. be like that later on in a relationship. It's not worth the headache.
And you're probably single or constantly settling. Men do this who are good at watching you do the exact same crap to them. The men who do this almost always are pulling back when you do, and engaging when you are. It's called mirroring. This is usually done by coworkers and for solid reasons.
I'm sometimes guilty of doing this myself because I'm pretty naive when it comes to dating. So I'll be friendly sometimes, but feel weird about it afterwards because they might not like me as much. So I back off just in case I'm coming on too strong. All I know is that relationships are built on mutual respect. People can be friendly with each other and also have gf/bf and may not want to lead the other person on. Whatever the case you'll never know until you ask... bc everyone knows rejection just feels like crap.
You said it perfectly. If your really in love you'll you stay faithful until he or she talks to you. Some people don't have the patience they want a microwave. You have to take your time. If guy or gal is doing this for a year or more then it shows that your faithful and it's true love. If you get impatient you don't understand love real love waits and is patient. Those relationships lasts longer than a quick date. I remember my mom told me about my dad she kept passing by where he works and he kept saying something to her but it took time it wasn't instant.
As someone who, shame on me, has done that myself - being very friendly sometimes and rather cold or ignoring other times - i think it doesn't always mean that he (or she) is playing a game. I, as a shy guy, did it, when i felt that the person i was interested in did the same thing to me or if someone i think is crushing on me and i don't know how to react properly when they're around. It doesn't always have to be a "i play with your feelings thing" if you ask me
I'm doing this now but not because I want to play mind games with the person or anything malicious. It's just that I literally have no idea what to do next so I don't want to come across too strong and let her know that my intentions are ultimately very good for her. There's this thing were you can't be straight forward with women so they back off. Damned if you do, damned if you don't really.
Ok, I would love to get an answer to this: So I matched up with this guy on a dating app. I wrote on my profil that I only look for friendships and he totally knew that. Somehow I felt that we had a special bond, lots of similarities etc. He then started flirting with me, telling me that he finds my accents super attractive (I'm 6 yrs older than him, I'm in mid 30s, he is almost 30) and I kinda tried to hide my feelings. I flirted back, but for me it was still just friendship. We wanted to meet up and he always initiated a meeting, but always found excuses. He asks me questions like what kind of men I like, nationality etc. I found that weird, I don't know. And I told him that I don't find men in his nationality attractive, he was then ironically saying 'oh what a lucky guy i am'. I don't know I didn't understand anything back then, I just wanted to meet up and hang out with him, cuz I really liked him. I knew that he was talking with other girls at that time. So this went on for like 2/3 weeks. Last time he initiated again a meeting but found again excuses, I never asked me out, cuz I didn't want to put him under pressure. I just couldn't take it anymore and blocked him everywhere, cuz he was rude and saying 'yeh if I feel like it, we can meet up'. I found that super disrespectful. After he found out that I blocked him he immediately wrote me a text msg the other morning saying that he found it sad and that he was disappointed that I've done it. So I told him why and we kinda were in contact again after this. But somehow everything went downhill, he went abroad for couple days and we didn't write each other then and he blocked me over there, after I saw that, I just deleted him, cuz for me it was over. He came from abroad and unblocked me and asked me out, but last minute on a early Saturday evening. What was this all about it? It's been almost 3 months now since that all happened and I somehow cannot move on. I totally ignored his last minute, cuz I felt so unworthy and like a trash can. We even never met! Could any of the guys tell me what his intentions were, please?
If they really liked you and were interested in you, they would not put themselves in a position to lose you. Some men are just naturally friendly and flirt with everyone. When he gives you his attention, you feel like a million bucks. When he ignores you and directs his attention to another, even while you are there, makes you feel horribly. Bottom line- you have to question the degree of his interest in you. If you disappeared, would he even care or notice. If you really like him and care about him, they may want to only consider him a friend for your own mental health. He could be in a committed relationship and still flirt with everyone. If you love him and care about him, be nice to him if you see him as you would a friend, but try not to be so attached to him. You will only get hurt. I know it's difficult because once attached, he is like a drug to you. It may help to stay away from him for a bit and re-evaluate your emotions and what he will be in your life. Effort is a good sign of evidence of how someone feels about you. How much effort is he putting into the relationship? If it was right, it would seem easy. This also applies to friends or any relationship.
I know someone currently doing that to me. Sure, it's annoying, but I think I'm relatively secure enough with myself not to let it faze me. I just figure he's got a funky ass attitude and when he wants to act right, he knows where to find me.
And it only becomes worst, when they move on because they think I’m playing. In my perspective, it’s like they’re thinking “he’s not worth my time” when in reality I’m screaming “I love everything about you and even the things you hate about yourself ! I’m sorry I’m constantly anxious and want to die. Don’t go! :(“. Not. A. Game. :(
@@hortopiro Or if you're just having a bad day not greeting your love interest just minding your own stuff and they believe that you play with them because you ignored them, even if it's just once. I'm going through the same situation now and it's horrible.
I'm literally going through the same situation. This guy I like at work would act likes he likes me one day (has even told me he did.) And then would completely ignore me the next and even act a bit cold towards me. I've even asked him what his problem was and he would just say he's having a bad day but then I see him being really friendly with everyone else. It's very frustrating and confusing.
it's a game to reel you in. but you see we do this because we know if we are friendly to you everyday that will become boring and dull fast. women THINK and operate differently than men
@@banderas2000 there's nothing dull or boring about getting to know another person or having banter or being kind, genuine and respectful towards each other. Mind games are weak, cowardly and insecure. They just cause hurt and mistrust.
@@strongerasone2403 Just cruel & immature. And if the person being ignored and taken for granted loves there self enough he\she would walk away and just end the game all together.. No need for any of those mind games to keep someone interested or test someone’s real interest..
Hot and cold games are a red flag. Either unhealthy attachment style or already in a relationship. If you genuinely like someone, you are not treating him/her badly even if you have a bad day. And you are honest, not treating someone bad and the others well then excusing this with having a bad day. If you see inconsistency, dishonesty, push pull - run! All of a sudden, you are in a toxic mind game. The second you ask yourself 'why?' the other person entered your mind.
That's not always the case. Some men may just be unsure about how they truly feel about the woman and need more time first. Some men are also shy and nervous about being upfront with their feelings as they don't want to be rejected. Some men might also be friendly and the woman reads it wrong.
Exactly, some men or women may genuinely be busy and not have as much free time to chat. Especially if the crush has much more free time than the person ignoring them.
Lmao, women always want to know "why". Like damn, you don't need to understand why a man clowning. All you need to understand is how it makes you feel and act accordingly. When you start trying to figure out why, you set yourself up for the cycle of games. You have to not give no fucks when you are dealing with men. For real.
God I have this exact same problem..one day he's like I think about you, I want to see you,we'll talk tomorrow..and we never talk tomorrow because he suddenly disappears.It's the most frustrating thing ever.Like why do they always play this stupid mindgame ?
Staying away from such people is the best way to save yourself from heartbreaking.I mean..If you like me..show me..If not..just stay the eff away from me....don't just play those stupid mindgames bc it's immature and excruciating..they usually don't have the slightest idea of that they truly want.Thankfully there are actually good guys out there that know what they want and they just show you.Whatever that is.
@@SofiaL1D It's very difficult to distinguish the "players" from the others, especially if you never talked to them. But you can still cut the communication with him or her if you're feeling mistreated or like a "lab rat". Nevertheless, a guy sometimes ignoring you and being friendly other times doesn't always mean that he isn't really interested or is playing a game. He might really just having a bad day, minding is own business and "ignore" you when you're around. I'm a shy and socially awkward guy. I'd never show my crush that i have feelings for her.
Im reading all these comments and I cant believe women dont get it. Guys who know the game will do this sometimes because its a scientific fact women are attracted to men whos feelings are unclear. If men are always available and constantly give you attention most women will get bored pretty soon and end up dumping the guy
@@nofybn7794 they like feeling the emotional roller coaster of emotions. it gives them that feeling of a love story so to speak. if the feeligns are to sure they get bored. like your favorite meal if you get it every now and then or don't know the next time you will eat it it adds to anticpation. but if you eat it everyday VERY soon you will loose your interest it and even become resentful of it
I noticed this with the guy I liked. I’m pretty shy, so it was hard for me to even initiate a greeting and that’s how I get repaid? I knew he liked me, but I started doing it right back to him- he’s always staring and trying to talk to me now- too late. He’s still getting ignored. NEXT!
This is happening in my life right now. He is still getting ignored,he tried to come up to me to make things go the way it used to,but I have a change of heart.
I see it as security, if they’re shy or nervous, they really like you but have convinced themselves your out of there league like we do but shouldn’t because we are all just people at the end of the day, there just protecting themselves from disappointment or rejection!! It is a silly tactic but I think it’s just for self preservation, not all men do it cz there arseholes, there protecting themselves, we all do that, especially if we’ve been hurt 😔 x
Men say we are the difficult ones but dang usually us women just throw our intentions out there. A man will expect you to stay interested after 5 years worth of mind games. If you communicated the truth it change everything
So, there's this guy I like. We take the same bus ever morning and would sometimes make eye contact. However, I started noticing a few things about that I didn't notice before. Like, the way he looked at me, acted and spoke. A few days ago, I remember talking to my mom about him and told her what he was like and she said "he sounds like a nice guy." Which was true, but then, he started acted different. He wouldn't talk to me or look at me. If I stared at him, he would glare at me and look away. I don't know what I did wrong, because he was all smiles just a few days ago and now he's giving me dirty looks.
Playing hard to get in the "initial" stages of courtship is what spikes the dopamine center. If someone shows clear interest we are momentarily satisfied then move on. But the mystery is what keeps us hooked. It's why we are more attracted to someone who MIGHT like us
when a girl can categorize several men in her mind and use them for just herself ie 1 boy is for rides, 2nd boy for cash and 3rd for fun, and never gets serious with anyone, then good worthy men starts doin it, so IF you like the guy who acts this way, all you need to do is tell him straight what you think of him, believe me he'll surprise you in a whole new way.
What usually happens to me is, if I'm talking with a woman and I feel she is getting creeped out, I will ignore her because then she won't have a clue what to think of you after that point - and if she likes you, she'll come back eventually and make subtle signs of interest. If she doesn't try to get your attention again, then just keep ignoring her and move on.
What if she is not creeped out at all? What if she likes you and enjoys your company? You ignoring her, will make her think you don't like her or want her in your life. You might miss out because she will expect mutual interest. Not a one sided friendship/relationship.
@@strongerasone2403 If she really enjoyed my company then she would come to me, instead of me going to her all the time... if you go to the girl more than the girl goes to you... that is the sign to back off. But if the girl goes out of her way to talk to you, then it's a good sign.
@@James-4812 sorry just came across your response today. Men seem to have a long list of inaccurate fears when it comes to females including approach anxiety and coming across as creepy. As long as guys take things slowly, there is usually no creepiness involved. Men by their testosterone and bodies are pursuers and givers. Women are receivers. Males/females are made like that...Most females value communication and connection and would interpret the sudden coldness as a sign of disinterest or a man moving on to someone else. So there's a strong possibility, she may not want to bother you by approaching you. If the coldness continues too long, then it's likely she will make the effort to switch off the feelings she has. Which would be a shame.
What does it mean when a guy has shown initiative, contacted you CONSTANTLY for months, made an effort to visit you and then all of a sudden disappears with no explanation or anything. Then all of a sudden pops back up and gives you an excuse of having family problems. Why would he suddenly reappear months later? Does he genuinely have an interest in me or is he just trying to play with my head?
Shanice Potts ohh and by the way he does not respect your feeling at all....why would he just disappear out the blue?Then come back months later like its ok for him to play both sides?Nawh girlie hes playing with your feelings,head,emotions and most of all your life....move foward hun...HE IS NO EFFIN GOOD
Latreesea Spence Yup. The same exact thing happened to me 4 year's ago. I had little to no experience for a 21 year old and was completely naive to everything and didn't see the red flags of a scum bag. He first came into my life and showed interest, said he really liked me then a month and a half later ignores me won't hang out with me anymore and he would message me out of the blue every now and then and tell me that he does care about me but is having alot of personal problems then dissapear again. He knew how much he was hurting me and he didn't care. He was playing games the whole time and i know i wasn't the only girl he was talking to he was fucking a couple other girls on the side and we never even had sex thank god! I had enough and moved on and found mutual love with another guy the connection i feel for this guy i never felt for that jerk! He tried talking to me again a few more times and i told him to cut the shit and leave me alone and i had a boyfriend. He finally stopped. Yeah guys who do that don't like you they just like your attention when they need an ego boost.
I prefer to see apply "the mirror effect". Although that be the situation with you and some guys, playing mind games is a waste of time which usually accomplishes little or nothing in life but confusion, mistrust, and possibly a broken heart.
I do this because I've got nothing to offer past saying hello. So there's no point to get to know one another further so i just give them the cold shoulder.
No, this happens when their two shy people... if u know he like u, u should talk to him, stop acting shy or being intimidated... so, he doesn't feel like hes creepy.. u send him "he's creepy feeling"
This is happening to me pretty often 😭it hurts I don’t play around with guys that ignore then nice I think it’s wrong and it can mean he either is busy or they aren’t busy don’t want to make time to talk to you
My crush at the gym used to always make prolonged eye contact, I would catch him starring and once we looked at each other without speaking for about 8 seconds and he then looked me up and down . We never spoke whilst this was going on it carried on for about 6 months until I decided to say hi and he looked terrified and looked like he was blushing. After that the glancing continued and he would always seem to be near me. So eventually I said hi with a smile and he gave a big smile back and looked really happy . Then he would say hi walking past occasionally but nervously . I would always catch him starring when I'm not looking and from across the room also. So then I actually initiated conversation and it seemed to go well , after that he actually says hello without me saying hi first. He waved at me whilst leaving gym and yesterday said hi and smiled and looked down . It's not like I'm putting myself in front of him so he has to say hi he actually seems to try and say hi but he seems really shy. But today he ignored me completely but he was looking at me again . The starring is always intense, it used to be him who initiates it not me I try not to stare but he seems hot and cold. He also seems to know what time I come in the gym and is always there st the times I've gone for 2 years I've never changed or altered routine to be near him but he seems to. If he didn't like me surely he wouldn't wave and say hi and look away nervously or would he? I don't know whether to give up because I'm tired or thinking he likes me then thinking he doesn't. He also looks at me and il turn around and he will turn away instantly . Sometimes he makes an effort but if I'm near him he ignores me sometimes . Today I sat next to him waiting for him to say hello and he just stares into gym mirror fixing his hair. He did say hello yesterday but it's so hard to get him to actually speak . What shall I do? Does he like me or not? And I'm an attractive girl who gets enough attention but I really like him so much. I didn't at first but I grew to like him because I sensed he likes me but know I don't know . I feel like a crazy person I think about him all the time. I should just forget about him but part of me sometimes feels like he does like me and he's scared and his reactions to when I'm nearby is really sweet and cute the way he looks nervous but maybe he looks nervous cuz he isn't into me. And once we had a intense starring contest and we locked eyes for 8 seconds or something. It was the longest I've ever had a mutual eye contact thing for , this was before the starring and constant glancing too. This was when I first noticed him, I went home and dreamt about him and thought it was special we had a moment . But all he does know is stare from a distance and look way, say hi and look away or completely blank me. But he's always around me which confuses me even more please someone give me an opinion on what to do . Btw we are both 18.
I don’t play mind games. Maybe that’s why I’m still single. For me, guys who are nice to me and the ignore me (or vice-versa) are either: a) insecure b) not interested in me. The only thing I do when that happens is moving on.
Yep they do too much. They need to get it together. Especially if they make the first move. They should have it together, or keep it moving. It is just that simple. People don't have time for all that.
My crush does not talk to me at all. But, my problem is he stares one day the next day he acts like he doesn't stare and he's nervous around me but other girls he's completely normal this is so confusing can someone please give me advice.
I've done this to guys because they misinterpreted my friendliness as interest, then they start being creepy and I panic, so I wind up ignoring them, hoping they'll get the message. But they probably think I'm playing games 🙈
No, they won't get your message by you ignoring them. Be kind and tell them in their face. You save yourself a bad karma and avoid breaking someone's heart who misinterprets your ignorance as playing hard to get, thus leading them on.
@@andreeaciobanuc404 how is blatantly ignoring someone playing hard to get? It clearly means you want nothing to do with them. And since you decided to skim over the part where I said they were creeps, let me reiterate. The man in question was married, so how can I break his heart? Don't call me ignorant or accuse me of leading him on, when I owe him nothing at all.
I have a problem doing this. Sometimes it’s because of I don’t want to get close to anyone. Because I had Narcissistic parents and don’t trust anyone But at the same time I’m attracted to women, and want more One chick at work has a boyfriend and she seems like she wants me. Because of work and her relationship status. I can’t get too close
NAH f* the mind games ! I’m not playing ! I had this happen to me and I just picked up and left ! Literally I left the building and never went back, never saw that person again ! It’s very frustrating and it isn’t good for your mental health to be played with your emotions ! I say leave it behind before it gets toxic !
Plus I think it can be a defence mechanism as well, we know as men if we put ourselves out there too much too soon will have a negative effect so hold back an play the game. Also it shows that a woman's interested which men need that reassurance sometimes.
A guy did this to me we first talked alot and hung out like 3 times then out of no where starts ignoring me, stood me up 2 times and would message me again telling me he really likes me and i would believe him then ge wouldn't talk to me again for a while.. I was such an idiot before but it got to the point where i had enough and didn't care anymore bc the shit was old as much as i liked him i realized he wasn't worth it bc all he ever did was hurt me. So i finally moved on.. I didn't wait for him to come back again to repeat the same shit. I got into a serious relationship and he tried a few more times to bother me and i told him i was done with him and had a boyfriend.. He finally gave up.
I had this problem and i ignored her because i didn't know how to react to the attention i got from her and her friends properly, but i would look her when i had the chance. The Problem is that she believed that i wasn't interested and moved on.
I called him out on this and friend zoned him in a matter of two texts. Last text is him apologizing this was Friday, let’s se how long it takes for a double text
Aint going to happen anymore 😂 thx so much. The only thing is why the hell do they do this when your already in a relationship and you have expressed how much you cared prior.
im a guy i do that but its not a game i whant to no for shure she is interested in me if she is going an extra way to talk to me or ask me something it means she dont like to be ignored vice versa but you are doing a great job
what ok. So I have this guy who's been like this for abt 5months now. And he smiles at me when I try to approach him.. But still doesn't talk to me. I figured him out.. So I smiled and we both laughed.. But now he ran away..😧WTF!!! I dnt get this.. Since you know what is this Shit.
Games are tiresome 😝🙄 shows you he is immature . If you do date him these games will never end 🙄. He is always gonna question your motives for bein with him. He will be jealous, possessive and very insecure. You have been warned lmao
My situation was different but I caught onto things pretty soon. He would ask me for rides to the store or to the laundry mat. Sure, he would invite me to eat before going, but afterwards, at the laundry mat or the store he would go one way and me another. Pretty soon, I had a list of excuses to no longer help out with those things. Besides, the fact he insisted on driving my car, and even though he wouldn't answer his cell phone while driving, he would speed up or park places, where parking was kind of questionable. smh
Well he working my nerves.. All that sometimes stuff.. Is stressing me out.. Got me so confuse...Ain't got time for that.. Life too short.. If u want me.. Want me.. Treat me right.. Stop playing ghost..and stop playing i want u.. And i don't want u games... I'm too old for games...I'm so done..
This is painful and gets old and boring real quick! Healthy adult friendships/relationships require direct/consistent communication and mutual effort to last. If you both don't water it, nothing will grow!
I do this to women. I try to see if they will break. If they dont i move on. Hopefully they end up just getting passive aggressive with me. Then the chase is on. 😆😆 im sick i know.
So in other words he's wanting me to show him how attracted I am to him by making my own move as well then...so I guess maybe whistling at him might work then cause I've been too afraid to ACTUALLY go up and talk to him myself.
It's funny I commented on a video two years ago with a guy who came to me like this. I cut him out of my life for almost a year and he came back into my life apologizing. He is again now doing this behaviour. We started to say we'll be friends and see where it goes. Recently he says he likes me, misses me. He then like vanishes not completely sending texts here and there. I try to initiate conversation but it's just dragging. He always starts texts. Just yesterday he messages asking what's up, I say nothing much and ended. I guess he had work. So later I sent a small 0.2 sec video of driving. Nothing. I duno whether to just call him up and ask him how he is doing to see what's going on? I haven't really been invading his space or massively texting him or anything.
So true it’s not that I want to play games it’s just that once she KNOWS her attraction goes down dramatically. I didn’t create women that’s just how they are
I don't do it to play with her.. I have a crush on her and sometimes I talk a lot with her and other times I pretend she's not there (I know that last bit is really stupid of me but I am just too shy to talk to her)
Yeah but that only works on a girl who show that she's bothered by it. If she doesn't give a damn or at least comes off as she doesn't, he no longer has that upper hand...lol
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I hate these mind games makes me even more stressed out😠
haha exactly!
Ikr ffs like stop it. It's so annoying and mentally disturbing ._.
Lmao for real
Exactly I’m stressing my ass out cause my girl was cool all of a sudden and the next day she not saying shit at all and was just ignoring me 😑
Hey l feel you 😫😥😏
Such behavior makes me shut down because I then become more concerned about protecting myself and my heart from getting hurt. As a result I no longer want to be receptive to him.
Same here. It makes me want to stay away from him.
If my crush ignores me I always ignore him back lol Its a good thing bc that way im able to gauge how he feels and i’ll lose interest sooner
Girls always do that. I ignore my crush and she does the same back but we still look at each other when not talking with each other
@@ox_trueprotagonistchrisred9085 adults don't do that. That's abnormal.
@@ox_trueprotagonistchrisred9085 if you ignore your crush. What are you hoping to achieve? From a female perspective, the coldness/indifference after being friendly. Comes across as mean, disingenuous and unreliable. Kindness, respect and consistency is attractive (to non toxic females).
@@beefortebrea9386 You’re literally in a video comment section about the topic if your crush ignores you is he friendly. So why are u doing here on this video?
@@strongerasone2403 You talk like girls don’t do the same thing and yet here u are watching this video. Commenting
I like a guy who is currently doing this to me. It's so frustrating and I'm not playing. Next guy!!
GOD I SO UNDERSTAND!! ITS HAPPENING TO ME NOW!!! But I really like that guy and all my friends say he really likes me so...
IKR!!
When they act that way I move on.
Mixed signals are the worst. Because you are constantly analyzing everything little detail. Treat them how they treat you!!
I agree with you!!
I had the same problem as you. But I'm a guy and my crush was a girl. And if he's playing games such as ignoring you. Just full on ignore him. My crush ignored me and I was like wtf. And then I ignored her and I even deleted her off Facebook and few days later she noticed me again. I understand your comment was posted 3 months and you probably don't care about him now. But next time this happens, ignore him. Like what some people say "2 can play that game" and also if he continues ignoring you after you ignored him for a bit then ya that's the point where you have to move on.
As a woman when men do this, it's hurts! In my experience this is something that a player does!!!
lol no
@@banderas2000 lol yeah. Players do this. You should know.
@@beefortebrea9386 lol oh are u accusing me of being a playa PLAYA? i believe the saying goes. don't hate the fisherman. hate the bait ;)
Tbh, I do this. But I don't intend to play mind games. Normally the girl doesn't reciprocate in the way I want so I kinda back off to save face.
@@jamiemohan2049 but surely there has to be a degree of patience and understanding. Males/females don't get things right everytime. Especially if they have a traumatised history or are shy/tired/distracted sometimes.
In the end, this strategy boils down to the man being ridiculously insecure in general, moreover insecure of the woman and her power over him. If you notice this lame tactic, just leave him where you found him...there's plenty more out here. I speak to myself as much as I speak to any one of you :-)
So what would be ideal behavior from him?
@@BITCOIN_TO_1OOOOOOOOOOOO acting like a normal person.
My thoughts exactly
This is exactly what this girl ia doing. She will be friendzoned.
Honestly though women are more attracted to guys who ignore them. That's been proven. They lose interest in a guy after 3 months if they constantly talk to them any time they wish. You may think you're being the right guy for a woman but even women don't know their own brain strategy.
Grown men do this too. They just need to grow up!
we have to keep it interesting. as well do you.
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Bitch stfu
Nastassia C it’s about picking out the good ones vs all the fucked up hoes
@@brent8169 that's what the mind games are for? A vetting process?
The man does this when he’s been deeply hurt by a woman. He will protect himself at all costs.
Donald Trump you are 100% right 😖 it’s not a game ladies, we just don’t want to feel vulnerable and attached to you because we got feelings for you, for me at least it’s not a game 😖 I’m 17 btw in high school
Non toxic adult women appreciate: genuine, honest, respectful communication and connection. Men with trauma or a painful past should seek therapy before approaching any prospective relationship. Instead of dragging that nonsense into every new relationship and leaving emotional carnage behind.
I've dealt with this more than a few times. It is so cruel. I'd suggest not doing it to anyone either. Regardless, of whether or not it's been done to you.
You're the most direct UA-camr on this site. Literally jumping straight to the point. I dig it 👌
Yeah i love this guy hahaha
this kind of man really hurts and kill the soul.
you dont know where to start, if you really love him. when he is in the mood he laugh, can be really nice, but when it comes to ignore, it can be for days, weeks are more.you send him apps, chats massage. .still no answers. just ignore and watching you if you are online
I dislike wasting my time in mind games. If I feel like it will be a battle of emotions and a person seems confused even tho they like me. I let go easily. I have a busy life
All the way 100%
Eve Heart
i agree with you!!!i was in the same situation,but guess what?I turned that game around and left his ass completely alone...boom!!
Truth. Life is too short 💯
well said, I agree...x
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thats stupid an childish- if a guy does that..guess what.i move on!
***** Absolutely. My assumption is that, if you don't know where you have them right from the beginning, it'll prob. be like that later on in a relationship. It's not worth the headache.
You're smart lol
And you're probably single or constantly settling. Men do this who are good at watching you do the exact same crap to them.
The men who do this almost always are pulling back when you do, and engaging when you are. It's called mirroring.
This is usually done by coworkers and for solid reasons.
I'm sometimes guilty of doing this myself because I'm pretty naive when it comes to dating. So I'll be friendly sometimes, but feel weird about it afterwards because they might not like me as much. So I back off just in case I'm coming on too strong. All I know is that relationships are built on mutual respect. People can be friendly with each other and also have gf/bf and may not want to lead the other person on. Whatever the case you'll never know until you ask... bc everyone knows rejection just feels like crap.
You said it perfectly. If your really in love you'll you stay faithful until he or she talks to you. Some people don't have the patience they want a microwave. You have to take your time. If guy or gal is doing this for a year or more then it shows that your faithful and it's true love. If you get impatient you don't understand love real love waits and is patient. Those relationships lasts longer than a quick date. I remember my mom told me about my dad she kept passing by where he works and he kept saying something to her but it took time it wasn't instant.
As someone who, shame on me, has done that myself - being very friendly sometimes and rather cold or ignoring other times - i think it doesn't always mean that he (or she) is playing a game. I, as a shy guy, did it, when i felt that the person i was interested in did the same thing to me or if someone i think is crushing on me and i don't know how to react properly when they're around. It doesn't always have to be a "i play with your feelings thing" if you ask me
fr. it's not always a game. it's a way if not coming in to strong.
I'm doing this now but not because I want to play mind games with the person or anything malicious. It's just that I literally have no idea what to do next so I don't want to come across too strong and let her know that my intentions are ultimately very good for her. There's this thing were you can't be straight forward with women so they back off. Damned if you do, damned if you don't really.
Ok, I would love to get an answer to this: So I matched up with this guy on a dating app. I wrote on my profil that I only look for friendships and he totally knew that. Somehow I felt that we had a special bond, lots of similarities etc. He then started flirting with me, telling me that he finds my accents super attractive (I'm 6 yrs older than him, I'm in mid 30s, he is almost 30) and I kinda tried to hide my feelings. I flirted back, but for me it was still just friendship. We wanted to meet up and he always initiated a meeting, but always found excuses. He asks me questions like what kind of men I like, nationality etc. I found that weird, I don't know. And I told him that I don't find men in his nationality attractive, he was then ironically saying 'oh what a lucky guy i am'. I don't know I didn't understand anything back then, I just wanted to meet up and hang out with him, cuz I really liked him. I knew that he was talking with other girls at that time. So this went on for like 2/3 weeks. Last time he initiated again a meeting but found again excuses, I never asked me out, cuz I didn't want to put him under pressure. I just couldn't take it anymore and blocked him everywhere, cuz he was rude and saying 'yeh if I feel like it, we can meet up'. I found that super disrespectful. After he found out that I blocked him he immediately wrote me a text msg the other morning saying that he found it sad and that he was disappointed that I've done it. So I told him why and we kinda were in contact again after this. But somehow everything went downhill, he went abroad for couple days and we didn't write each other then and he blocked me over there, after I saw that, I just deleted him, cuz for me it was over. He came from abroad and unblocked me and asked me out, but last minute on a early Saturday evening. What was this all about it? It's been almost 3 months now since that all happened and I somehow cannot move on. I totally ignored his last minute, cuz I felt so unworthy and like a trash can. We even never met! Could any of the guys tell me what his intentions were, please?
If they really liked you and were interested in you, they would not put themselves in a position to lose you. Some men are just naturally friendly and flirt with everyone. When he gives you his attention, you feel like a million bucks. When he ignores you and directs his attention to another, even while you are there, makes you feel horribly. Bottom line- you have to question the degree of his interest in you. If you disappeared, would he even care or notice. If you really like him and care about him, they may want to only consider him a friend for your own mental health. He could be in a committed relationship and still flirt with everyone. If you love him and care about him, be nice to him if you see him as you would a friend, but try not to be so attached to him. You will only get hurt. I know it's difficult because once attached, he is like a drug to you. It may help to stay away from him for a bit and re-evaluate your emotions and what he will be in your life. Effort is a good sign of evidence of how someone feels about you. How much effort is he putting into the relationship? If it was right, it would seem easy. This also applies to friends or any relationship.
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You talk too much
I know someone currently doing that to me. Sure, it's annoying, but I think I'm relatively secure enough with myself not to let it faze me. I just figure he's got a funky ass attitude and when he wants to act right, he knows where to find me.
+Alex Boyd LMAO yes. Exactly! I won't be waiting, but he knows where to find me! He needs to get his act together.
Lmao
Sometimes it’s not a game. It’s social anxiety and major depression that makes me like that. Not a game.
And it only becomes worst, when they move on because they think I’m playing. In my perspective, it’s like they’re thinking “he’s not worth my time” when in reality I’m screaming “I love everything about you and even the things you hate about yourself ! I’m sorry I’m constantly anxious and want to die. Don’t go! :(“. Not. A. Game. :(
@@hortopiro in social settings what relieves your anxiety? And what would you like the female you're interested in to do?
As a shy guy, i can confirm that you're right. Especially if someone is interested in you and not the other way round.
@@hortopiro Or if you're just having a bad day not greeting your love interest just minding your own stuff and they believe that you play with them because you ignored them, even if it's just once. I'm going through the same situation now and it's horrible.
My bf does that to me sometimes i do the same back to him you get what you give.
I'm literally going through the same situation. This guy I like at work would act likes he likes me one day (has even told me he did.) And then would completely ignore me the next and even act a bit cold towards me. I've even asked him what his problem was and he would just say he's having a bad day but then I see him being really friendly with everyone else. It's very frustrating and confusing.
it's a game to reel you in. but you see we do this because we know if we are friendly to you everyday that will become boring and dull fast. women THINK and operate differently than men
@@banderas2000 there's nothing dull or boring about getting to know another person or having banter or being kind, genuine and respectful towards each other. Mind games are weak, cowardly and insecure. They just cause hurt and mistrust.
@@strongerasone2403 Just cruel & immature. And if the person being ignored and taken for granted loves there self enough he\she would walk away and just end the game all together.. No need for any of those mind games to keep someone interested or test someone’s real interest..
Hot and cold games are a red flag. Either unhealthy attachment style or already in a relationship. If you genuinely like someone, you are not treating him/her badly even if you have a bad day. And you are honest, not treating someone bad and the others well then excusing this with having a bad day. If you see inconsistency, dishonesty, push pull - run!
All of a sudden, you are in a toxic mind game. The second you ask yourself 'why?' the other person entered your mind.
That's not always the case. Some men may just be unsure about how they truly feel about the woman and need more time first. Some men are also shy and nervous about being upfront with their feelings as they don't want to be rejected. Some men might also be friendly and the woman reads it wrong.
Exactly, some men or women may genuinely be busy and not have as much free time to chat. Especially if the crush has much more free time than the person ignoring them.
I want an honest man. I'm an honest woman. I don't play games
No you don't
@@redfather5342 shut up dude.
Maybe he just doesn't really like you.
He might just be unsure about his feelings towards her.
Lmao, women always want to know "why". Like damn, you don't need to understand why a man clowning. All you need to understand is how it makes you feel and act accordingly. When you start trying to figure out why, you set yourself up for the cycle of games. You have to not give no fucks when you are dealing with men. For real.
lol,,,,,,kinda true, we woman need itty gritty details,,,,we need to know his soul!!!
Great advice.
Preach. You need to take their actions for what they are and not read into it, only reason they’re searching for a “why” is to excuse his behavior.
God I have this exact same problem..one day he's like I think about you, I want to see you,we'll talk tomorrow..and we never talk tomorrow because he suddenly disappears.It's the most frustrating thing ever.Like why do they always play this stupid mindgame ?
Staying away from such people is the best way to save yourself from heartbreaking.I mean..If you like me..show me..If not..just stay the eff away from me....don't just play those stupid mindgames bc it's immature and excruciating..they usually don't have the slightest idea of that they truly want.Thankfully there are actually good guys out there that know what they want and they just show you.Whatever that is.
@@SofiaL1D It's very difficult to distinguish the "players" from the others, especially if you never talked to them. But you can still cut the communication with him or her if you're feeling mistreated or like a "lab rat". Nevertheless, a guy sometimes ignoring you and being friendly other times doesn't always mean that he isn't really interested or is playing a game. He might really just having a bad day, minding is own business and "ignore" you when you're around. I'm a shy and socially awkward guy. I'd never show my crush that i have feelings for her.
Im reading all these comments and I cant believe women dont get it. Guys who know the game will do this sometimes because its a scientific fact women are attracted to men whos feelings are unclear. If men are always available and constantly give you attention most women will get bored pretty soon and end up dumping the guy
truthseeker not true
@@ItsKeishaBN Notice how it's always girls who say this. I'll guarantee you 90% of your own breakups was initiated by you!!
yup. truth is women like the up and down of emotions. it is the way it is.
@@grandoldsoul4691 No, women don't LIKE it. Can't help it. There's a difference.
@@nofybn7794 they like feeling the emotional roller coaster of emotions. it gives them that feeling of a love story so to speak. if the feeligns are to sure they get bored. like your favorite meal if you get it every now and then or don't know the next time you will eat it it adds to anticpation. but if you eat it everyday VERY soon you will loose your interest it and even become resentful of it
Been 14 months. Just sitting in my car crying....
Ms. Erica Harris it’s gone be alright
I know the feeling. Did this before I finally detached myself.
:(
THAt is a clear sign of an unhealthy dynamic. GTFO of there ASAP.
Sounds like self-sabotage to me...
I noticed this with the guy I liked. I’m pretty shy, so it was hard for me to even initiate a greeting and that’s how I get repaid? I knew he liked me, but I started doing it right back to him- he’s always staring and trying to talk to me now- too late. He’s still getting ignored. NEXT!
Too bad he might have been shy as you
This is happening in my life right now. He is still getting ignored,he tried to come up to me to make things go the way it used to,but I have a change of heart.
That’s pretty immature
@@Setofhornsandahalo That might be one of the stories we tell ourselves when we crave love.
So a little boy. Thank you so much for this insight.
lol little boy for a little girl
I see it as security, if they’re shy or nervous, they really like you but have convinced themselves your out of there league like we do but shouldn’t because we are all just people at the end of the day, there just protecting themselves from disappointment or rejection!! It is a silly tactic but I think it’s just for self preservation, not all men do it cz there arseholes, there protecting themselves, we all do that, especially if we’ve been hurt 😔 x
Men say we are the difficult ones but dang usually us women just throw our intentions out there. A man will expect you to stay interested after 5 years worth of mind games. If you communicated the truth it change everything
So, there's this guy I like. We take the same bus ever morning and would sometimes make eye contact. However, I started noticing a few things about that I didn't notice before. Like, the way he looked at me, acted and spoke. A few days ago, I remember talking to my mom about him and told her what he was like and she said "he sounds like a nice guy." Which was true, but then, he started acted different. He wouldn't talk to me or look at me. If I stared at him, he would glare at me and look away. I don't know what I did wrong, because he was all smiles just a few days ago and now he's giving me dirty looks.
Block people that are manipulative like that! Ain’t got no time for that 💅
Only real men know what they want
Lol u must love my comment >.
Eve Heart but when we say we want to fu*k then y’all get all mad and act like y’all got all these morals
@@Lak3baby dumb*ss. If you want a one nighy stand, look for a hooker.
I would cut off permanently, he can then play with himself
Playing hard to get in the "initial" stages of courtship is what spikes the dopamine center. If someone shows clear interest we are momentarily satisfied then move on. But the mystery is what keeps us hooked. It's why we are more attracted to someone who MIGHT like us
@Fp Jones Exactly! No time for mind games!
Doing this kind of strategy is so useful because it help you know almost everything about the person
Yes!
How?
when a girl can categorize several men in her mind and use them for just herself ie 1 boy is for rides, 2nd boy for cash and 3rd for fun, and never gets serious with anyone, then good worthy men starts doin it, so IF you like the guy who acts this way, all you need to do is tell him straight what you think of him, believe me he'll surprise you in a whole new way.
lmao the boy that likes me does that all the time he's friendly one day and ignores me and Doesn't talk To me the next.
What usually happens to me is, if I'm talking with a woman and I feel she is getting creeped out, I will ignore her because then she won't have a clue what to think of you after that point - and if she likes you, she'll come back eventually and make subtle signs of interest. If she doesn't try to get your attention again, then just keep ignoring her and move on.
What if she is not creeped out at all? What if she likes you and enjoys your company? You ignoring her, will make her think you don't like her or want her in your life. You might miss out because she will expect mutual interest. Not a one sided friendship/relationship.
@@strongerasone2403 If she really enjoyed my company then she would come to me, instead of me going to her all the time... if you go to the girl more than the girl goes to you... that is the sign to back off. But if the girl goes out of her way to talk to you, then it's a good sign.
@@James-4812 sorry just came across your response today. Men seem to have a long list of inaccurate fears when it comes to females including approach anxiety and coming across as creepy. As long as guys take things slowly, there is usually no creepiness involved. Men by their testosterone and bodies are pursuers and givers. Women are receivers. Males/females are made like that...Most females value communication and connection and would interpret the sudden coldness as a sign of disinterest or a man moving on to someone else. So there's a strong possibility, she may not want to bother you by approaching you. If the coldness continues too long, then it's likely she will make the effort to switch off the feelings she has. Which would be a shame.
this is what the p.u.a. call, push and pull. Mixing signals.
What does it mean when a guy has shown initiative, contacted you CONSTANTLY for months, made an effort to visit you and then all of a sudden disappears with no explanation or anything. Then all of a sudden pops back up and gives you an excuse of having family problems. Why would he suddenly reappear months later? Does he genuinely have an interest in me or is he just trying to play with my head?
Shanice Potts
ohh and by the way he does not respect your feeling at all....why would he just disappear out the blue?Then come back months later like its ok for him to play both sides?Nawh girlie hes playing with your feelings,head,emotions and most of all your life....move foward hun...HE IS NO EFFIN GOOD
Latreesea Spence Yup. The same exact thing happened to me 4 year's ago. I had little to no experience for a 21 year old and was completely naive to everything and didn't see the red flags of a scum bag. He first came into my life and showed interest, said he really liked me then a month and a half later ignores me won't hang out with me anymore and he would message me out of the blue every now and then and tell me that he does care about me but is having alot of personal problems then dissapear again. He knew how much he was hurting me and he didn't care. He was playing games the whole time and i know i wasn't the only girl he was talking to he was fucking a couple other girls on the side and we never even had sex thank god! I had enough and moved on and found mutual love with another guy the connection i feel for this guy i never felt for that jerk! He tried talking to me again a few more times and i told him to cut the shit and leave me alone and i had a boyfriend. He finally stopped. Yeah guys who do that don't like you they just like your attention when they need an ego boost.
He has someone else in his life.
Those guys are not good to society. NEXT!
@Abe gfy
I prefer to see apply "the mirror effect". Although that be the situation with you and some guys, playing mind games is a waste of time which usually accomplishes little or nothing in life but confusion, mistrust, and possibly a broken heart.
That's when I move on I don't have time for games
Kelly Sutton your right, you should only have time for picking out them cool dentures you saw in the newspaper
@@Lak3baby lol
He useally came back with ' hey'
I do this because I've got nothing to offer past saying hello. So there's no point to get to know one another further so i just give them the cold shoulder.
No, this happens when their two shy people... if u know he like u, u should talk to him, stop acting shy or being intimidated... so, he doesn't feel like hes creepy.. u send him "he's creepy feeling"
I do this. This is to protect myself. If girls wana play games ill be the final boss. GGs to uploader too, you hit the nail on the head
This is happening to me pretty often 😭it hurts I don’t play around with guys that ignore then nice I think it’s wrong and it can mean he either is busy or they aren’t busy don’t want to make time to talk to you
thanks buddy this was the exact answer of my problem.
My crush at the gym used to always make prolonged eye contact, I would catch him starring and once we looked at each other without speaking for about 8 seconds and he then looked me up and down . We never spoke whilst this was going on it carried on for about 6 months until I decided to say hi and he looked terrified and looked like he was blushing. After that the glancing continued and he would always seem to be near me. So eventually I said hi with a smile and he gave a big smile back and looked really happy . Then he would say hi walking past occasionally but nervously . I would always catch him starring when I'm not looking and from across the room also. So then I actually initiated conversation and it seemed to go well , after that he actually says hello without me saying hi first. He waved at me whilst leaving gym and yesterday said hi and smiled and looked down . It's not like I'm putting myself in front of him so he has to say hi he actually seems to try and say hi but he seems really shy. But today he ignored me completely but he was looking at me again . The starring is always intense, it used to be him who initiates it not me I try not to stare but he seems hot and cold. He also seems to know what time I come in the gym and is always there st the times I've gone for 2 years I've never changed or altered routine to be near him but he seems to. If he didn't like me surely he wouldn't wave and say hi and look away nervously or would he? I don't know whether to give up because I'm tired or thinking he likes me then thinking he doesn't. He also looks at me and il turn around and he will turn away instantly . Sometimes he makes an effort but if I'm near him he ignores me sometimes . Today I sat next to him waiting for him to say hello and he just stares into gym mirror fixing his hair. He did say hello yesterday but it's so hard to get him to actually speak . What shall I do? Does he like me or not? And I'm an attractive girl who gets enough attention but I really like him so much. I didn't at first but I grew to like him because I sensed he likes me but know I don't know . I feel like a crazy person I think about him all the time. I should just forget about him but part of me sometimes feels like he does like me and he's scared and his reactions to when I'm nearby is really sweet and cute the way he looks nervous but maybe he looks nervous cuz he isn't into me. And once we had a intense starring contest and we locked eyes for 8 seconds or something. It was the longest I've ever had a mutual eye contact thing for , this was before the starring and constant glancing too. This was when I first noticed him, I went home and dreamt about him and thought it was special we had a moment . But all he does know is stare from a distance and look way, say hi and look away or completely blank me. But he's always around me which confuses me even more please someone give me an opinion on what to do . Btw we are both 18.
5 years later I feel safe to ask: DID YOU LET HIM SMASH?
I don’t play mind games. Maybe that’s why I’m still single. For me, guys who are nice to me and the ignore me (or vice-versa) are either: a) insecure b) not interested in me. The only thing I do when that happens is moving on.
It's a bit more complex than that lol
Yep they do too much. They need to get it together. Especially if they make the first move. They should have it together, or keep it moving. It is just that simple. People don't have time for all that.
My crush does not talk to me at all. But, my problem is he stares one day the next day he acts like he doesn't stare and he's nervous around me but other girls he's completely normal this is so confusing can someone please give me advice.
Sweet Angel’s Channel it the high attraction tension he has for u that he doesn't have for other so when ur around it too much for him to handle
Concise and straight to the point! Love it
I've done this to guys because they misinterpreted my friendliness as interest, then they start being creepy and I panic, so I wind up ignoring them, hoping they'll get the message. But they probably think I'm playing games 🙈
No, they won't get your message by you ignoring them. Be kind and tell them in their face. You save yourself a bad karma and avoid breaking someone's heart who misinterprets your ignorance as playing hard to get, thus leading them on.
@@andreeaciobanuc404 how is blatantly ignoring someone playing hard to get? It clearly means you want nothing to do with them. And since you decided to skim over the part where I said they were creeps, let me reiterate. The man in question was married, so how can I break his heart? Don't call me ignorant or accuse me of leading him on, when I owe him nothing at all.
I have a problem doing this. Sometimes it’s because of I don’t want to get close to anyone. Because I had Narcissistic parents and don’t trust anyone
But at the same time I’m attracted to women, and want more
One chick at work has a boyfriend and she seems like she wants me. Because of work and her relationship status. I can’t get too close
I have a person who does this to me
Thank you sir
Yes yes yes that playing with my mind is a no no
Unbalanced is what I feel thank you for clarifying this. ✌🏽😊👍🏽
If a woman shows interest in me and I show one ounce of interest in her they always ignore me then so I don't bother at all
I don't think that he's playing a game
He's probably protecting himself
NAH f* the mind games ! I’m not playing ! I had this happen to me and I just picked up and left ! Literally I left the building and never went back, never saw that person again ! It’s very frustrating and it isn’t good for your mental health to be played with your emotions ! I say leave it behind before it gets toxic !
Plus I think it can be a defence mechanism as well, we know as men if we put ourselves out there too much too soon will have a negative effect so hold back an play the game. Also it shows that a woman's interested which men need that reassurance sometimes.
😂 I love control so the battle is real . I like being direct as I know the person.
A guy did this to me we first talked alot and hung out like 3 times then out of no where starts ignoring me, stood me up 2 times and would message me again telling me he really likes me and i would believe him then ge wouldn't talk to me again for a while.. I was such an idiot before but it got to the point where i had enough and didn't care anymore bc the shit was old as much as i liked him i realized he wasn't worth it bc all he ever did was hurt me. So i finally moved on.. I didn't wait for him to come back again to repeat the same shit. I got into a serious relationship and he tried a few more times to bother me and i told him i was done with him and had a boyfriend.. He finally gave up.
what does it mean when you have a crush on someone and they know you do and stare at you and sometimes ignore you??
Top 5 list of what? To play with
I had this problem and i ignored her because i didn't know how to react to the attention i got from her and her friends properly, but i would look her when i had the chance. The Problem is that she believed that i wasn't interested and moved on.
I called him out on this and friend zoned him in a matter of two texts. Last text is him apologizing this was Friday, let’s se how long it takes for a double text
... Like making you wait five hours
-,-" and later explaining they had to do something only after they realized you were mad
Aint going to happen anymore 😂 thx so much. The only thing is why the hell do they do this when your already in a relationship and you have expressed how much you cared prior.
thank god for this channel bc it always gives me the answers i need!
im a guy i do that but its not a game i whant to no for shure she is interested in me if she is going an extra way to talk to me or ask me something it means she dont like to be ignored vice versa but you are doing a great job
what ok. So I have this guy who's been like this for abt 5months now. And he smiles at me when I try to approach him.. But still doesn't talk to me. I figured him out.. So I smiled and we both laughed.. But now he ran away..😧WTF!!! I dnt get this.. Since you know what is this Shit.
agreed bro. we need to see how much they invested in us to. it's about knowing your worth.
A lot of women fake interest so you'll show interest so they can reject you so I ignore the flirting and don't waste my time with them
Games are tiresome 😝🙄 shows you he is immature . If you do date him these games will never end 🙄. He is always gonna question your motives for bein with him. He will be jealous, possessive and very insecure. You have been warned lmao
Omg, why would he do that to me? -.-
I agree with this video. They want to know but distance. Curious but act funny
My situation was different but I caught onto things pretty soon. He would ask me for rides to the store or to the laundry mat. Sure, he would invite me to eat before going, but afterwards, at the laundry mat or the store he would go one way and me another. Pretty soon, I had a list of excuses to no longer help out with those things. Besides, the fact he insisted on driving my car, and even though he wouldn't answer his cell phone while driving, he would speed up or park places, where parking was kind of questionable. smh
I only did this to a girl who rejected me but never to any other women.
Okai ... Then what's the best way forward in this scenario ?
SO TRUE! Thank you for this insight ❤️☝️❤️ It’s is VERY HELPFUL!
Well he working my nerves.. All that sometimes stuff.. Is stressing me out.. Got me so confuse...Ain't got time for that.. Life too short.. If u want me.. Want me.. Treat me right.. Stop playing ghost..and stop playing i want u.. And i don't want u games... I'm too old for games...I'm so done..
This is painful and gets old and boring real quick! Healthy adult friendships/relationships require direct/consistent communication and mutual effort to last. If you both don't water it, nothing will grow!
😭😭😭😭 a guy did this to me a year ago and I’m still sad about it
How do you handle this? Let him kick rocks and you move on.
I do this to women. I try to see if they will break. If they dont i move on. Hopefully they end up just getting passive aggressive with me. Then the chase is on. 😆😆 im sick i know.
thats right baby. yeahhhh its a mind game.
Andrew Arevalo fuck you! You know you stress girls out when doing this! Fuck you
Hey this is what you call "intermittent reinforcement".
So in other words he's wanting me to show him how attracted I am to him by making my own move as well then...so I guess maybe whistling at him might work then cause I've been too afraid to ACTUALLY go up and talk to him myself.
+Amos Døssing I usually do smile around him...but I don't want him to think I'm a total weirdo who just smiles for no apparent reason.
+Amos Døssing kinda hard when he purposely walks by me and acts like I'm not there...
Allison Taylor did it get better...? 😊
Allison Taylor oh yeah cuz us men really like the whistle treatment to lol
It's funny I commented on a video two years ago with a guy who came to me like this. I cut him out of my life for almost a year and he came back into my life apologizing. He is again now doing this behaviour. We started to say we'll be friends and see where it goes. Recently he says he likes me, misses me. He then like vanishes not completely sending texts here and there. I try to initiate conversation but it's just dragging. He always starts texts. Just yesterday he messages asking what's up, I say nothing much and ended. I guess he had work. So later I sent a small 0.2 sec video of driving. Nothing. I duno whether to just call him up and ask him how he is doing to see what's going on? I haven't really been invading his space or massively texting him or anything.
Ok . So how to counter this person ? How to handle it as a girl ?
Be straight forward as possible, he more than likely won't hurt you if anything
Well i dont like it, im to old to be walking on a tightrope. My feelings are truly hurt right now.
So true it’s not that I want to play games it’s just that once she KNOWS her attraction goes down dramatically. I didn’t create women that’s just how they are
Hes protecting his heart
I don't do it to play with her.. I have a crush on her and sometimes I talk a lot with her and other times I pretend she's not there (I know that last bit is really stupid of me but I am just too shy to talk to her)
Yeah but that only works on a girl who show that she's bothered by it. If she doesn't give a damn or at least comes off as she doesn't, he no longer has that upper hand...lol
why does the player guy have a girlfriend but flirts with me in the cafeteria at school
And thats y I leave them right tf alone ....
Funny to see all the ladies upset but there is two sides to the story. Are you all not playing games as well? Hmmm, I wonder.
Just ask the question "Hey I like you but what do you want from me ? " Problem solved.
What if they ignore you RIGHT before you are going to visit them? ( It's a long distance relationship)