Update: Hitting Rock Bottom and how i picked myself back up
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- Опубліковано 30 гру 2015
- Feeling down and out?
Looking back at recent events they don't seem as bad as they felt to me then. Hell, it may even be light in comparison to some of the stuff you might have gone through. If thats the case use my story as a metaphor for your troubles. Let it remind you that you already have EVERYTHING you need to pick yourself up and change your own life! You are not short of anything! You only need to believe that, wholeheartedly. Below is an outline of the steps that are tried and true to get me out of that funk. Do one, do them all. Just do something.
1- Identify the specific thoughts and triggers that feeds your self doubt
2- STOP Repeating them!!!
Be conscious of when you’re allowing things to seep into your sub conscious and steal your joy.
3- Replace those thoughts with POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS. Repeat them often.
Dedicate time at the start of your day to meditate on those positive thoughts. You can do this in many forms. I often listen to Joel Osteen podcast or success tips on a local radio program. You can also read your bible or do devotion. Anything that quiets your thoughts, renews your spirit, and encourages you to appreciate the gift of LiFe.
4- Have an attitude of gratitude.
Identify and be grateful for every single thing you have!!! The seen and the unseen! If you’re focused on all that you DO have you’ll have less time to feel sorry for your self for what you don’t have!
5-Set some GOALS! Activity goals! Motion creates emotion.
Don’t allow yourself to go too long without doing something nurturing for yourself. Go for a walk, clean yourself up and your space. Put something on that makes you feel good and energizes your spirit! Music, perfume, makeup, a dress whatever! Start small and work on being consistent with your effort until you manage to replace bad habits with new ones.
6- Do NoT underestimate the impact your space can have on how you feel!
Clutter and untidiness often make you feel overwhelmed. Make it a priority to have a spot in your house that you can relax and reflect. Start with your spot and move on to making the rest of your space a sanctuary. A change of scenery makes a world of difference. If redecorating your house is too big of a task to take on then treat yourself to a stay at a nice hotel or bed and breakfast. - Навчання та стиль
Thank you for sharing! Most people sit on a high horse and act like real life doest not happen, but it does. I'm so happy for you that things have changed. Houston will accept you with open arms if you ever want a change of scenery. So so so happy for you. Patience is key and you had it. God never forsakes His children. Love you.
+KendrasBeautyCorner Awww Thanks so much for checking out my video! Love you back!!!
thank you for your transparency. thank God for deliverance!
Amen 🙌🏾
Thank you for opening up... I totally know how you feel girl. With the unideal living situation, social media stress/envy, & the stresses of living in NYC, things can be hard and depression can easily come. I'm glad to see you back & feeling a lot better. Your determination & story certainly influenced me!
Girl I think that we are so kindred. I also grew up in Belize! (Yay us!) and I lived in a room here in New York for like 3 years and it was sometimes okay, but most times I was super depressed. I kept feeling frustrated that my living situation wasn't up to par. I kept comparing myself to others who were in my age range or social circle. I'm also married and I felt like my partner wasn't proactive about moving and had become complacent but I felt like I was outgrowing the space and at times felt so boxed in. I also began to be super jealous of others and that's not how I strive to live my life. I don't like to think "why isn't this happening for me?" when others are accomplishing their dreams. Thank you for being honest about your situation and also your depression. I've since moved into two apartments and nothing feels better than coming home to your own place. I have roommate horror stories for days honey! I'm talking crackheads, prostitutes,thieves, etc. congrats on your move!
Tae girl!!! I feel we will be in touch and have plenty of time to share these lessons learned! What part of BZ did you grow up?
+Hi-imcurrentlyobsessed yes girl I definitely think so too! I can't wait! Maybe once we've shared enough correspondence and your certain I'm not a serial killer Or an obsessed "single black female" (lol)we can have drinks 😜. I know this cute lil place in the city that has $5 cocktails! I lived in belize city. I grew up on east collect canal near batty bus (directly across from where Pacheco's jewelry store is now ) but now my family lives near the complex building (where folks go for passports). Hbu? Did you go to school in belize? (I went to st. Ignacious.)
I loved this video. Your transparency was everything. I've been following you on social media since tumblr which was like 3 or 4 years ago. You were the one who inspired me to wear different color lipsticks. This just goes to show that you never truly know what another person is going through. I totally understand how important it is to have a good quality of life. I live in ATL but my husband is from Brooklyn and we come up there to visit family often. While I think NYC is a great city I know I would never be able to live there comfortably so I salute those who can. Anyway I'm happy that your in a better place now and I look forward to seeing more videos from you.
Thank you Neecey for being a long time supporter! Girl, every time I go visit anywhere else I question "what is my life and why am I still here😩" lol. But I am a fighter so I'll tough it out a bit longer! But I am so open to trying another city!
I am in awe. you are amazing and brave. thank you for opening the dialogue, whether its depression, being our truest self, or organizing our lives. Speak on it!
Thank you for allowing me to be myself and giving me that last little push I needed!
I love love love this video!!! Not sure why i didn't check you out a while ago since we've been friends in my head forever!!! I totally feel the social media envious thing and feeling like you you don't compare to people your age. As soon as i start feeling that way i say a prayer and remind myself that what God has for me is for me and his blessings ALWAYS come right on time!!!
+AKAKristin Amen!!! That reminder helps keep the negative thoughts at bay
I love this video so much .. Thanks for sharing being open and transparent 😍l definitely catch myself feeling depressed at times when it comes to relationships and Social media but then I had to remind myself like you said people post what they want you to believe .... Your amazing I'm glad your better
+Uniqu3neverway AWW thanks for watching! Yo i remember when you set a goal to work at MAC and get your own place and did it! I was amazed!
I can definitely relate. I live in Brooklyn and from 2013- mid 2015 I was at my lowest. Although I lived in my apartment alone (great neighborhood and safe)... my rent had increase from 975 to now 1200 /month. My salary didn't change and I had to give up my car in 2013. In addition, I was accustom to doing certain things that I was trying to maintain (hair, nails, shop, dining out, traveling ). I was so depressed. it wasn't until August 2015, I vow to no borrow money, put myself on a budget and still maintain my bills and lifestyle. I feel like now, I have complete control of my life. I don't struggle as much anymore and I don't borrow anymore (won't He Do It). Thanks for posting this video.
+mlaventure84 Amazing comeback story!!!! It can be done once we decide to find a way! Love it! Thanks so much for watching and sharing!!!
I feel like I should know you in person lol. I've been following you for so long on social media and I'm truly excited to hear about your journey. you have definitely helped put things into perspective for me! I thank you for sharing your journey and opening up to us (your followers) because you never know who you might reach. you are a beautiful person and this video helped display that. continue on your upward mobility in every thing you do and touch. stay blessed and always have faith. I wish you and yours nothing but more beautiful moments. 😍
+Lamozia Banks AWW i feel the same way! I am working on doing an event this year, real soon! I hope we can connect in person!
Thank you so much for sharing. It is indeed very hard here in NY. Glad you were able to pull yourself out of the low place. Keep pushing.
+K Natasha i appreciate you watching! And i intend to!
I love how honest u are in this video and you would be very surprised what ppl are actually going through we never really know so thank u for being brave enough to share your situation!
+MekaSharee You know, it wasn't until I decided to share my story that I'm learning exactly that! I appreciate the support and likewise I am here for others going through dilemmas where they lack faith!
Love this!! This NYC living is truly one that shapes you for anything indeed, and you're right I find as well lots of people who don't live here fantasize so highly about it, because they envision the 'manhattan luxe life 24/7' because most people really don't share the downside. Thanks for being open, honest and for sharing your story totally resonated with me :)
Shae yes! I've been meaning to do a follow up vid with tips for NY living for people looking to make the move. I appreciate you watching!
I would like everyone who watches your video to understand that You have to live in New York City (any of the 5 boroughs) to truly understand your plight. I want you to know personally from me you are not alone.... as a fellow social media involved (ie: obsessed with looking at social media pics/video and occasionally posting) The Struggle is so real. I feel we as NYC cannot have it all (cute spacious apartment, dress, travel, and socialize often) without 2 jobs or 2 salaries. I hustle super hard with 2 jobs to afford me the lifestyle I want... but I choose to live in end of Bronx/ Westchester to have large apartment. But by commute is the sacrifice. I struggle with prioritizing my purpose in NYC. There is always something that has to be given up to achieve specific goals. Unfortunately (but fortunately) I have no desire to move out of NYC so like you I had to find my happiness to remain focused. sorry for long post but you spoke to my struggle this Sunday morning.
+FluffyKFierce I appreciate you feedback! You totally get it! Westchester is beautiful! Definitely my first choice if i had to coins lol. I used to go to West Harrison every week to hang with my mom.
Thanks for sharing! I definitely needed to hear your testimony as I have been going through a very similar situation. God bless you!
+Anika Rawlins I am glad you received my msg. I outlined some points in the description and id like to do a follow up vid. Which angle are you struggling with?
Thank you for your candor. I'm glad that you are feeling better and that you've improved your situation.
+Azurewinged I learned so much about myself and having faith from this one experience! I just hope it serves as encouragement for others going through similar situations!
Always know you are blessed and highly favored!! May God continue to bless your life and others through your testimony..you look just as radiant as ever..keep pushing baby girl..keep putting it in Gods hands..step back and watch him work!!!!
When I ask him for help he always comes through! Thank you for watching!
Happy late birthday wishes. I'm glad you shared this I'm going through something similar and your just let me know to keep trying. Thank you and I'm glad you are on to a new chapter. Happy New Year.
+Morena Azucar Thank you!!! It was one of my most memorable birthdays!!!I am looking forward to this new year. Blessing to you as well this year and going forward!
The power of positive thinking!
+Lisa S AMEN!!!! I tested it and it came all the way through!!!
Thank you for sharing! You just motivated the heck out of me!
Really? Your so witty and fun and bring so much laughter to my days! So unexpected but awesome none the less! I feel great things in store for us!!!
It was really nice to hear you open up. Living in NYC is sooo challenging but when you find a good spot it's worth it. Happy you're in a better place 😊
Hey Kham!!! You are right, as tough as it is living here it's an even tougher decision to try living somewhere else! I battle with that decision often
Beautiful testimony! So inspiring!!
+Takeisa I so appreciate you watching this particular video of mine!!!
O and your accessories are 🔥🔥🔥 especially the rings
Great great advice! Start exactly where you are and repeat! Make the most of what you have. Your style is so booooommmb. You did a great job and inspire me. NYC is rough and rewarding. Thanks for the video ❤️❤️
+kals sendo thanks so much for watching and for your feedback!!! I greatly appreciate you for showing support!
You rock I swear you motivate me !! 😘 I'm so happy for you
It feels great to be able to help people any way I can! Thanks for watching!
This is so motivating!! Thank you so much for sharing your story.
+GrooveCityMagazine Thanks for taking the time to watch! I appreciate it!
Thank you for being so honest with this video! I definitely understand how where you live is such a challenge, especially NYC! Keep up the good work, girl.
+Shoppingaddict27 #Squad!!!🤗
Thanks for sharing so encouraging seriously!! i will be moving to the east coast soon and this was super !!! so many helpful like goals!!!
+CHRISTIAN LACY when is this move going down? And are you moving to NY?
This video just motivated the heck out of me! Thank you for being so open & Sharing your story. Can't wait to see more from you :)
+Jelicia Moss oh wow! get yours boo! :) I'm excited for whats to come from you also!
Thank you for posting this vid and for being so gracious, so open, so truthful and positive! I haven't seen a vid like this in a long time and if more people would come from behind the mask we'd all be in a better place. Your message was so timely for me...I often find myself having the exact same thoughts and I beat myself up a lot but like you I found a way to push past the pain and be grateful for what I've been given. I wish you the best and I look forward to more of your life story and everything you hope to share!
+mahoganymi now that i allowed myself to open up it is ever flowing!! I love how weightless i feel since just being honest. Being able to connect with you guys made the risk feel worth it! I appreciate your support!
good to see you smile. You made up your mind and did IT!!!!
I have plenty to smile about but usually do so off camera 😁 takes a bit getting used to capturing it lol
i love you so much!!! i feel like I've been struggling the same way with a different situation. We gone be alright! I'm here for you! xoxox
Aww thanks so much for the love🤗🤗🤗
I'm so happy to have viewed this and happy you shared your story. I remember following on ig, then snap and kinda begging for you to do more yt. This is an inspiring story, stay blessed in the new year
Happy New Year Jessica! I thought for a while o wasn't interesting enough to do any of this social media stuff...all while this was going on lol. Thanks for supporting!
Thanks for sharing, I am learning how to get out of my head too! Positive vibes into the new year!!
+K Henry (3TheChicWay) I have to keep busy and focused on things that bring me gratification! Once i hone in on those things it quiets all the other chatter in my head! Thanks for watching and subbing!
Oh yeah I love your new apartment. Congrats on finding it!!
+FluffyKFierce Thanks!!! I am truly blessed and highly favored!!!
I loveee this video!
I love and appreciate your ability to be open with us. i needed to hear this and I feel like you spoke to me. I'm also looking for my own place here in NYC if you have any pointers. I'll be following and applying your outline 💕
+Ashley Ramsey It was one of the hardest things i've ever attempted! The positive feedback definitely eases my anxiety and i knew someone could be having the same struggle. Ugh girl the apartment hunting struggle was a whole other issue. I Must do a vid on it and i will share all that i know! Email me if your on a deadline and want some info before i make the vid (hi.imcurrentlyobsessed@gmail.com)
Greetings from a fellow NY'er. You're very brave and powerful for posting this video. Shout out to you and your road ahead. There will be bumps in the road but you'll be fine sugah. Be safe and be well. Wishing you continued success from the inside out🤗
Thank you for your encouraging words!
Your speaking to me so much I'm going through this video going throu the same thing right now. I thank you so much for this I feel like god sent me here to hear this.
AWWW just hold tight! It won't last forever! Thank you for taking the time to watch
There's nothing like God's promises to us. He does not change how He loves and cares for us...there is no shadow of turning with thee...So when you pray ask in faith, He delivers! I have hit the jackpot tonight in finding your channel. God bless you and please continue to discover and share.
+Alicia Collins Aww thank you for your kind words of encouragement!!! I appreciate your support!
I thank you also, tho I don't live in NYC-I do live in NYS! I'm in a similiar situation and this video just motivated me not to give in to my fear of pushing forward. I have kids depending on me.
+Deedee Hardy No don't let it rule you and rob you of opportunities! Just be grateful for what you have no matter how little it may be and you'll be blessed with more! Thank you for watching!
I am glad that you were brave enough to be transparent and share your story. I do have a question. Does your family treat you as if you have everything together and are problem free?
I feel like my family looks at me that way so, when I am having a problem or issue I feel like I can't look to them for support.
Good question. Well I am the go to person in my family for my mom and siblings. It's a combination of me being the most resourceful and the most logical out of all of us. The more they come to me for help the more settled I got into that role which made it harder to be honest about the areas I needed to improve upon myself. But I'll have to ask them if they get around to watching this video. I appreciate you watching!
Your so Beautiful, really up you post more videos 😊
Thank you Destiny!!! I am open to sharing all that I've learned. Pray I get a better understanding of the filming process lol
Ahhhhhhh(screaming) and we share the same birthday. 👍🏾😀🎁
Virtual hugs🤗🤗🤗
Bestie bad. That's all. :-*
You made it though the whole video *pats self on the back*😂