I cried at the good news for your mum. We’re the same age and I lost my mum to cancer when I was 23, 6 weeks before my son was born and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. I felt watching Jane the Virgin helped so much through my grieving period.
hey Jess, just wanted to say... I am in school for software/tech and I have learned about all sorts of data privacy concerns (they are quite shocking). And even though I would love to see your daughter on the screen, I would stick to intuition and continue to be strict about it. ~from a long time subscriber
Part of my studies was related to cyber crime issues and I cannot impress on your or anyone reading this enough, how spot on your intuition is when it comes to protecting your daughters privacy online. Beyond the simple issue of her not being able to consent to her image being on the internet forever and the conversation you may have 10 or 20 years down the line on this topic, especially Instagram and UA-cam have failed miserably to combat the proliferation of images which exploit children on their platforms. Err on the side of caution and anyone who thinks they're entitled to this part of your life will just have to accept that they're not :)
i completely agree with you about her personality being more vulnerable than her appearance. like you say, babies are all doing the same things so it feels less exposed at an early age as we all look at each other's baby pictures and talk about things we did, it sort of doesn't feel like it's you? whereas, as she grows, i think if it were me i wouldn't want information about my personality to be out there before i even knew what that meant. even people from my school having access to it would be odd, and even worse for strangers. i think thats how id feel growing up as a youtubers baby. ofc you decide what is best but i think this is the right direction
I absolutely loved this vlog Jessie! Such good news on your moms health. I'm so happy for you and your family. Also, I think it is very impressive how you try to handle your baby's privacy. It is so important and such a difficult complex issue. Lots of love!
always admire your honesty and also how seriously your take your own and your child's privacy-i think its such an important thing which most people do not realise the importance of it!!!
I totally understand and support your concern and decision to keep her life private. I think that's very wise of you. She's lucky to have a thoughtful mother.
My little one is a couple weeks younger than your little one and I've been having identical thoughts about motherhood and its so refreshing to hear. I almost thought at times that I'm going crazy with so many thoughts, especially about work versus SAHM, and I feel relieved to know that its another part of motherhood! Thank you for sharing xxx
Completely respect your decision and reasoning behind keeping your baby’s privacy. As an aside, loved hearing about your mum! Sending all good thoughts and love ❤️
So eloquent and wise. Its why I love your vlogs. You’re a very special person Jess. Full of admiration and respect for everything you touched upon in this upload. So happy about your mum’s good news and the developments in the house. Always enjoy every vlog/upload x x x
Hi Jess, watching your video with a two week old baby and so much of what you said just made complete sense to me. It felt so nice hearing someone else expressing the many feelings and emotions I am currently going through. Congratulations on little Ines and just to say that your video helped me a little today when I was struggling and feeling alone. Xx
Your fears are completely comprehensible, Jess. Unfortunately, there are lots of people who are really really scary online and who have, in my opinion, some sort of mental disorder, because it's just not normal for people to go out of their way to stalk someone who they, in all honesty, don't know. For example, I've been following for many years, I really enjoy your videos, the way you talk, the way you talk about books but, although I feel like I am accompanying you, I don't feel like I know you and I don't want to! You are a person outside your job, as we all are, and you are entitled to your privacy as all of us are. For someone to feel it's ok to disrupt your space or make you feel endangered just because they follow you online is bizarre. Keep your baby's life as private as you wish, your relationship with her as well, because many people take advantage. I've seen lots of youtubers having to move houses because someone was stalking them, I obviously wouldn't wish that to you.
Hi Jess! My own experience with sharing my baby online has been very similar to yours, even without being an influencer. I've had very similar thoughts, conflicting emotions, and realizations to you. I think your protectiveness of Ines is wise and natural, and honestly I think as viewers it's what we expected. Obviously she's a part of you that we'll love to see, but you have to make the call that feels good and safe for your family. New moms are pressured from all sides, sometimes even by those closest to us, and that's absolutely not fair. So I really hope you can shake off any mean or hurtful opinions and comments about you sharing too much or too little, or anything regarding you as a mother for that matter. We will all make mistakes as parents, we try to minimize them as much as possible, but they don't get to be pointed out or analyzed by strangers on the internet. I hope this can be a chapter of your life in which you thrive more than ever. And I'm sure it will be. It's very clear how in love with you baby girl you are, and that being a mom has always been in your plans. I've been watching you for about 5 years and consistently enjoying your content. Don't blame yourself too much for feeling in limbo. We all did throughout 2020. On top of that, you had wrapped up your academic life just shortly before these crazy times started, and it's natural to wonder and be at a loss of what to do next after such a long and time consuming journey ends. You will find yourself, I'm sure. Wishing you, Zak, Ines and the rest of your family the very best. So happy with all the good news about your mom.
Totally respect and encourage your decision on keeping Ines physical and psychological development private - its a scary world we live in. & so glad to hear about your mother (: Wish you all the best ✨
We totally support your decision, whatever you decide I'm sure all of us support anything you put out with open arms! Sorry to hear about the house, I hope it gets sorted out in time! Thank you for the heart to heart chat. I'm a year older than you and can relate to your 'limbo' feeling.
I'm so happy for your family around your mom's health and Ines, I'm glad there's been some light in the chaos of the last year and a half. Not that you need approval, but I think your intuition is right to respect your child's privacy and keep your content focused on you, not only for your sake but for hers. When I think about the amount of sharing folks do online, I can't imagine how it would feel to be a teenager and have private details of your childhood splattered for anyone to find.
So happy to hear your mum is okay and that you're changing up how much you want to share! Do what you feel is right, you have our support! I've just upgraded my pc, after having my desktop for 10 years xD I've got a laptop as I missed the portable vibe and it's such a dream now!
i'm sorry that the renovation is taking longer than expected but if it's any consolation, the house already looks amazing, i just know it's gonna turn out so cosy and chique !!
500% agree with you and sharenting.. I’m mortified as it is that there are photos of me at 16, 17, 18 on Facebook (I’m 28 now) let alone if my parents had photos of me any earlier! A very wise, rational and refreshing perspective online ☺️☺️
I'm not a public person and yet I've decided I won't be sharing anything related to my baby boy on the internet (I'm due in a month). The world is just cruel and you never know who might be watching, so I totally understand why you want to maintain Ines's privacy. :)
You’re always so thoughtful and considered Jess 🧡💛 Whatever content you decide to share going forward will be wholeheartedly accepted and appreciated, I have no doubt! 🌞✨
The vlogs just fill me with such joy ❤ And I loved the heart to heart conversation, thank you for being so honest. And yes I do believe that you should follow your intuition and thank you for sharing your thoughts with us.
Hi Jessie, it was so nice to get an update on your life and to hear you chatting about things. Huge congratulations on your little one. I hope things go smoothly with the house from here on out. :)
It's certainly great to see you back in vlog! I found your channel 6 yrs ago when I was preparing for exchange program at Goldsmiths College - and here I am still figuring out how my life will turn out at the next corner and you're a mom already! I understand how your life have made sharp turns (not in a bad way) when your little one came into your life and you seem to be handling that challenge so well 😃 I support your choices and I don't know why I am babbling so long - but I hope you feel better and stop feeling bad for feeling bad!! Love you 😍
omg i always forget we have the same birthday i’ve been watching you since I was like 15 or something?! (i’m turning 23 oh my lord) happy birthday for friday 💕
Do what makes you feel comfortable! I like how Fleur did it. She didn't really show her daughter's face until she was much older. But even then, it was a quick glimpse (from the side, top of her head, feet, etc). There's no such thing as overly cautious. People are creeps. That's just it.
I'll be honest. I did not think getting the house was the best idea when it happened (totally not my business). Is there anyway you can sell it and purchase something that doesn't need so much love? I understand the need to be settled and have your things where they need to be. My husband died and I moved back with my mother and just stayed---and stayed--- but I'm over the "limbo feeling." I have things in tubs and two storage units. I hope things work out for you soon.
I totally understand what you mean about the house situation. My husband and I bought a house in August 2020 and we’re coming up on a year and we still haven’t started our extension renovation. We have a contractor,designer, we have our permits approved by the city. And because of Covid and various other things, we haven’t been able to start. So we’re still basically kind of living out of boxes it’s frustrating even though I’m very grateful to be fortune enough to buy a house in Los Angele. But its a downer
It is exhausting in the first few months, then it gets easier. I didn't find a perfect recipe for a healthy balance, except for taking walks and time for ourselves, teaching the baby that it's okay to also spend time with the father.
الَّذِينَ يُنْفِقُونَ فِي السَّرَّاءِ وَالضَّرَّاءِ وَالْكَاظِمِينَ الْغَيْظَ وَالْعَافِينَ عَنِ النَّاسِ ۗ وَاللَّهُ يُحِبُّ الْمُحْسِنِينَ Those who give in prosperity and adversity, and those who restrain anger, and those who forgive people. God loves the doers of good. 3:134 Quran
your reasoning and everything with ines just makes so much sense. i read just yesterday that i cant remember if it was a US state or another small country, but a legislation has been passed to do with child 'influencers' etc so it is all very new and strange, and one thing that stood out was the 'right to forget' in that once a child is older they have the legal right to have their whole presence online through childhood deleted and wiped which is so good. but i really think it's very smart to just, let her be her little baby self, exploring the world around her etc. so great to have a mum with a good head on her shoulders
I completely support your decision to maintain your daughter’s privacy ❤️
I cried at the good news for your mum. We’re the same age and I lost my mum to cancer when I was 23, 6 weeks before my son was born and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. I felt watching Jane the Virgin helped so much through my grieving period.
I’m so sorry for the loss of your mum 😔
I am so sorry for your loss❤️
hey Jess, just wanted to say... I am in school for software/tech and I have learned about all sorts of data privacy concerns (they are quite shocking). And even though I would love to see your daughter on the screen, I would stick to intuition and continue to be strict about it.
~from a long time subscriber
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Part of my studies was related to cyber crime issues and I cannot impress on your or anyone reading this enough, how spot on your intuition is when it comes to protecting your daughters privacy online. Beyond the simple issue of her not being able to consent to her image being on the internet forever and the conversation you may have 10 or 20 years down the line on this topic, especially Instagram and UA-cam have failed miserably to combat the proliferation of images which exploit children on their platforms. Err on the side of caution and anyone who thinks they're entitled to this part of your life will just have to accept that they're not :)
i completely agree with you about her personality being more vulnerable than her appearance. like you say, babies are all doing the same things so it feels less exposed at an early age as we all look at each other's baby pictures and talk about things we did, it sort of doesn't feel like it's you? whereas, as she grows, i think if it were me i wouldn't want information about my personality to be out there before i even knew what that meant. even people from my school having access to it would be odd, and even worse for strangers. i think thats how id feel growing up as a youtubers baby. ofc you decide what is best but i think this is the right direction
Mimi sending down her last wish broke my heart. What wonderful news
Ines sounds like a combination of indi and jess ~~
I absolutely loved this vlog Jessie! Such good news on your moms health. I'm so happy for you and your family. Also, I think it is very impressive how you try to handle your baby's privacy. It is so important and such a difficult complex issue.
Lots of love!
So lovely to see you navigate motherhood Jess, sharing or not, we love your ways and find your vlogs so calm and reassuring, xx
I just cried with the Mimi part....heart broken!! So happy for your mum ❤ and YES, she send you the best gift;you deserve all the good things!.
I'm a very long time subscriber and just wanted to say that it's so nice to watch you in this new phase of your life- thank you for bringing us along!
always admire your honesty and also how seriously your take your own and your child's privacy-i think its such an important thing which most people do not realise the importance of it!!!
I totally understand and support your concern and decision to keep her life private. I think that's very wise of you. She's lucky to have a thoughtful mother.
My little one is a couple weeks younger than your little one and I've been having identical thoughts about motherhood and its so refreshing to hear. I almost thought at times that I'm going crazy with so many thoughts, especially about work versus SAHM, and I feel relieved to know that its another part of motherhood! Thank you for sharing xxx
Completely respect your decision and reasoning behind keeping your baby’s privacy. As an aside, loved hearing about your mum! Sending all good thoughts and love ❤️
So eloquent and wise. Its why I love your vlogs. You’re a very special person Jess. Full of admiration and respect for everything you touched upon in this upload. So happy about your mum’s good news and the developments in the house.
Always enjoy every vlog/upload x x x
Hi Jess, watching your video with a two week old baby and so much of what you said just made complete sense to me. It felt so nice hearing someone else expressing the many feelings and emotions I am currently going through. Congratulations on little Ines and just to say that your video helped me a little today when I was struggling and feeling alone. Xx
I can’t add anything new to the lovely positive comments already posted! I second everything on here ^.^!
I cannot WAIT to see your house when it's done! I can't imagine how much more anxious/excited you must be.
That Mimi and your mom thing made me cry. ❤️ sending love from Italy! I lost my dog last year and it still breaks my heart
I love these vlog style videos, they’re so relaxing. And the Ines necklace is so beautiful! 💕
Your fears are completely comprehensible, Jess. Unfortunately, there are lots of people who are really really scary online and who have, in my opinion, some sort of mental disorder, because it's just not normal for people to go out of their way to stalk someone who they, in all honesty, don't know. For example, I've been following for many years, I really enjoy your videos, the way you talk, the way you talk about books but, although I feel like I am accompanying you, I don't feel like I know you and I don't want to! You are a person outside your job, as we all are, and you are entitled to your privacy as all of us are. For someone to feel it's ok to disrupt your space or make you feel endangered just because they follow you online is bizarre.
Keep your baby's life as private as you wish, your relationship with her as well, because many people take advantage. I've seen lots of youtubers having to move houses because someone was stalking them, I obviously wouldn't wish that to you.
We'll respect your final decision no matter what, Jess! We just want you and your little one to be happy and safe❤️
So happy your mom is doing well, I don’t even know her name but have been hoping that you would share good news soon. Big hugs from Florida ❣️
Hi Jess! My own experience with sharing my baby online has been very similar to yours, even without being an influencer. I've had very similar thoughts, conflicting emotions, and realizations to you. I think your protectiveness of Ines is wise and natural, and honestly I think as viewers it's what we expected. Obviously she's a part of you that we'll love to see, but you have to make the call that feels good and safe for your family. New moms are pressured from all sides, sometimes even by those closest to us, and that's absolutely not fair. So I really hope you can shake off any mean or hurtful opinions and comments about you sharing too much or too little, or anything regarding you as a mother for that matter. We will all make mistakes as parents, we try to minimize them as much as possible, but they don't get to be pointed out or analyzed by strangers on the internet.
I hope this can be a chapter of your life in which you thrive more than ever. And I'm sure it will be. It's very clear how in love with you baby girl you are, and that being a mom has always been in your plans. I've been watching you for about 5 years and consistently enjoying your content. Don't blame yourself too much for feeling in limbo. We all did throughout 2020. On top of that, you had wrapped up your academic life just shortly before these crazy times started, and it's natural to wonder and be at a loss of what to do next after such a long and time consuming journey ends. You will find yourself, I'm sure.
Wishing you, Zak, Ines and the rest of your family the very best. So happy with all the good news about your mom.
Ah so lovely to see you on our again screens, Jess xx
Totally respect and encourage your decision on keeping Ines physical and psychological development private - its a scary world we live in. & so glad to hear about your mother (: Wish you all the best ✨
We totally support your decision, whatever you decide I'm sure all of us support anything you put out with open arms! Sorry to hear about the house, I hope it gets sorted out in time! Thank you for the heart to heart chat. I'm a year older than you and can relate to your 'limbo' feeling.
This is so wise what you said about your daughter's privacy. Completely support such decision! Also, lovely to see you 🥰
Loved this vlog. It's the relatable bits that can never make it boring. Hoping for a swift renovation. Sending love 🌞💚
I'm so happy for your family around your mom's health and Ines, I'm glad there's been some light in the chaos of the last year and a half. Not that you need approval, but I think your intuition is right to respect your child's privacy and keep your content focused on you, not only for your sake but for hers. When I think about the amount of sharing folks do online, I can't imagine how it would feel to be a teenager and have private details of your childhood splattered for anyone to find.
i feel like your house is gonna turn out sooo beautiful
So happy to hear your mum is okay and that you're changing up how much you want to share! Do what you feel is right, you have our support!
I've just upgraded my pc, after having my desktop for 10 years xD I've got a laptop as I missed the portable vibe and it's such a dream now!
I missed you Jess! Hope you're well and looking after yourself and the little one! xx
I've missed your vlogs! We support your decision to keep things private, whatever you choose is ok! Sending lots of love to you and your little family
i'm sorry that the renovation is taking longer than expected but if it's any consolation, the house already looks amazing, i just know it's gonna turn out so cosy and chique !!
I love hearing about your experience with motherhood but completely understand and respect your decision to keep it private! ❤️
500% agree with you and sharenting.. I’m mortified as it is that there are photos of me at 16, 17, 18 on Facebook (I’m 28 now) let alone if my parents had photos of me any earlier! A very wise, rational and refreshing perspective online ☺️☺️
I'm not a public person and yet I've decided I won't be sharing anything related to my baby boy on the internet (I'm due in a month). The world is just cruel and you never know who might be watching, so I totally understand why you want to maintain Ines's privacy. :)
I loved this vlog. Thank you for being so candid with us! Totally agree with all your thoughts about sharing too much, you do you ❤️
You’re always so thoughtful and considered Jess 🧡💛 Whatever content you decide to share going forward will be wholeheartedly accepted and appreciated, I have no doubt! 🌞✨
You're not just an influencer. You are an inspiration! Xx
The vlogs just fill me with such joy ❤ And I loved the heart to heart conversation, thank you for being so honest. And yes I do believe that you should follow your intuition and thank you for sharing your thoughts with us.
Hi Jessie, it was so nice to get an update on your life and to hear you chatting about things. Huge congratulations on your little one. I hope things go smoothly with the house from here on out. :)
I love your content, guess is because of how natural and honest you are in everything that you share, also you have the most relaxing voice
Congrats Jess! I’m so happy for you. I am so grateful I live in America and not the UK
It's certainly great to see you back in vlog!
I found your channel 6 yrs ago when I was preparing for exchange program at Goldsmiths College - and here I am still figuring out how my life will turn out at the next corner and you're a mom already!
I understand how your life have made sharp turns (not in a bad way) when your little one came into your life and you seem to be handling that challenge so well 😃
I support your choices and I don't know why I am babbling so long - but I hope you feel better and stop feeling bad for feeling bad!! Love you 😍
omg i always forget we have the same birthday i’ve been watching you since I was like 15 or something?! (i’m turning 23 oh my lord) happy birthday for friday 💕
Do what makes you feel comfortable! I like how Fleur did it. She didn't really show her daughter's face until she was much older. But even then, it was a quick glimpse (from the side, top of her head, feet, etc). There's no such thing as overly cautious. People are creeps. That's just it.
I'll be honest. I did not think getting the house was the best idea when it happened (totally not my business). Is there anyway you can sell it and purchase something that doesn't need so much love? I understand the need to be settled and have your things where they need to be. My husband died and I moved back with my mother and just stayed---and stayed--- but I'm over the "limbo feeling." I have things in tubs and two storage units. I hope things work out for you soon.
Hope you're doing well and that everything's ok xx
I totally understand what you mean about the house situation. My husband and I bought a house in August 2020 and we’re coming up on a year and we still haven’t started our extension renovation. We have a contractor,designer, we have our permits approved by the city. And because of Covid and various other things, we haven’t been able to start. So we’re still basically kind of living out of boxes it’s frustrating even though I’m very grateful to be fortune enough to buy a house in Los Angele. But its a downer
It is exhausting in the first few months, then it gets easier. I didn't find a perfect recipe for a healthy balance, except for taking walks and time for ourselves, teaching the baby that it's okay to also spend time with the father.
Always a delight to wake up to a new video from you! Sending lots of love to your family ❤️
So happy your mum is doing well ❤️
Enjoyed this vlog very much! Sending you lots of love❤
I love your vlogs ❤️ but i also miss your outfit videos sometimes, wish you could make some in the future
الَّذِينَ يُنْفِقُونَ فِي السَّرَّاءِ وَالضَّرَّاءِ وَالْكَاظِمِينَ الْغَيْظَ وَالْعَافِينَ عَنِ النَّاسِ ۗ وَاللَّهُ يُحِبُّ الْمُحْسِنِينَ
Those who give in prosperity and adversity, and those who restrain anger, and those who forgive people. God loves the doers of good.
3:134 Quran
I totally agree about respecting your kids' privacy! I definitely think once I start having kids I won't post their face online to keep them safe
Bit naughty but you can just get cheap crap doors that meet fire regs, get the inspection done then put the old ones back on
You uploaded ~ ✨ Yay!! I think you should keep the daughter out of screen Jess. To keep your privacy and to protect her as well.
Would love to read the article! Can you post it?
Turn the doors into a table, bookcase, create something outside with them
Sending love to you Jess ❤❤❤❤❤
Where is your gorgeous dressing gown from please?
You're doing great 💕
Keep your girl off the screen 😉 love you Jess ☺️
Love the nails Jess!
love ur vlooogs so much x take care
Love the nails! x
Thoughts on Introvert? Or extrovert?
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“You never know what you can do until you try.” Do you agree
I keep forgetting she had a whole human being 🥴
sorry but what is the constant background noise? it's mega tiring :/
your reasoning and everything with ines just makes so much sense. i read just yesterday that i cant remember if it was a US state or another small country, but a legislation has been passed to do with child 'influencers' etc so it is all very new and strange, and one thing that stood out was the 'right to forget' in that once a child is older they have the legal right to have their whole presence online through childhood deleted and wiped which is so good. but i really think it's very smart to just, let her be her little baby self, exploring the world around her etc. so great to have a mum with a good head on her shoulders
Always the thinker! Maintaining her privacy is a great objective 🤍.