if you (like me) are feeling really overwhelmed with uni & are thinking of dropping out, please don't be ashamed of it! Your mental health deserves to be put first - doing what will make you happy is the most important thing 😌 * also didn't really mention this oops but for the time I was there, Sussex was fab! My decision had nothing to do with the actual uni :)
I am so glad that I came across ya video. 100% reflects how I'm feeling, been feeling. I have been miserable, MH has taken a knocking recently so.. onwards and upwards. I will be dropping out of uni. And carrying on with my life xx sending love + sunshine xx
@@smallflamesx I'm so sorry you've been struggling too, but thank you so much for sharing (every single person that has said they feel the same it's like ahhh thank goodness it's not just me!?) it's sounds like you are doing the right thing for you & that's whats most important, I hope you start feeling happier soon :) lots o love x x
I’ve been feeling very depressed and lonely at uni. Currently in first year in halls and thinking about commuting for the second year for my mental health. As I think being at home for second year will just be better for me. I was thinking about dropping out but I think the issue is being away from home. It will be hard to tell my parents that but they would want what’s best for me and my well being.
@@gingersnapp114 I'm so sorry to hear that you are struggling too :( I know it's so hard but you really have just got to do what is right for you !!! exactly as you say, I'm sure your parents would much rather you be healthy & happy over forcing yourself to stay somewhere that is having a negative impact upon your health. Just know so many people experience issues like this (unfortunately it seems just not many people speak on it!) well done for coming to terms with it all, you got this 💞
@@gingerels thank you so much for replying and for your kind words! I know they will understand I will just find it hard to tell them but I hope and sure it will work out xx
I just made the decision to not go back next year to uni. I've never felt more alone and anxious in my life, but i know i'm making the right decision. I applie to this degree bc people kept telling me that is such a good area to study (btw I was studying law, more specifically to be solicitor) and not bc I wanted it. I've lost 3 years of my life in something that made me absolutely miserable bc I didn't know what to do but I realized that I have to live for myself and stop trying to impressed others. So now I'm going to find a job, save some money and, hopefully, go and get my degree in something i've always wanted to do!
I wish I’d heard a more balanced talk about uni too, I don’t think I’m the type of person cut out for the big lectures, meeting SO many ppl every week, and the type of work (assignments) we do. I have one year left, so bc of the time and energy I’ve invested, I’m likely to just stick it out. Thank you for this video, it really confirmed a lot of the ways I’m feeling about it:) I couldn’t agree more about uni being advised to the more academic people, and I think that’s unfortunate :(
aw thank you so much for this comment - I completelyyy agree!! I felt the exact same - like uni 'lifestyle' & the style of learning, socialising just did not suit me at all! I'm so sorry to hear that you have felt similarly whilst at uni still :( (if its any consolation a lot of my friends are in the exact same boat, thinking oh god this probably wasn't for me but it's third year so I'll hang on in there) which sucks, but might be reassuring to hear I hope?! Good luck in your final year I'm sure you'll do fabby, make sure you give yourself lots of self-care & treats along the way, you got this ❤x
@@gingerels awe yes thank you! It is pretty reassuring honestly🥰 I’m taking a little break from school which has been really beneficial, and then yeah, I agree with the self care, I’m gonna do my best to focus on that💛
Hey there! I stumbled upon this video trying to seek some comfort on the internet and ive been finding so many videos of people talking about their experience dropping out of uni. I told .y mom today that i dont want to keep going anymore, it was a very emotional call and i still cant believe i did this but it was my breaking point, i couldnt handle lyinng to myself more anymore, i had to let her know. Its just sad since she fought so much for me so i can be able to go to uni and shes definitely disappointed but i honestly had to consider my own health at thus point and the way i lived and where i lived. I am so unhappy and exhausted mentally. This is the end of my third year and i think i had enough of thinking that i like something that i clearly i actually dont. I just dont want to do it, i dont like it, i dont enjoy it, i have 0 passion for it. In case you wanna know its a mathematics university. I thought i had the strength to keep going but i realized there wasnt even a reason to keep going. I absolutely hated my time, my life, my lectures, the environment and i finally can make the decision to quit and give myself time to see what i actually like and want. Im freshly 21 now, im probably going to work for a year and maybe next year i might have a different type of mindset about it
Damn. I do deliveries some evenings and deliver to your uni. I had my doubts about uni when I was a student but mainly due to depression and ultimately it paid off because although I don't directly use my degree, it got me a job doing what I like (day job) because they value the degree. That alone is a reason to stick it!
Thank you so much for this video, I guess the reason I’m here is because I got so mentally unwell at uni in the first year that I was suspended and now I’m so conflicted on what to do! 💗
Yay! so happy youve followed what is true to you! I regret not doing because I followed everyone else. Thank you so much for sharing this, I wish I waited to go to Uni. I had no idea what I wanted to do or lacked confidence to pursue what I wanted to do so after a term there I really wanted to drop out or change uni but my parents wouldnt allow me to. Not going to lie I did love clubbing but it was because i felt so empty. I think I drank too much and went out to cover how I was feeling. But mental health wasnt spoken about back then so I majorally felt like a failure when it all realness it just wasnt the time for me to be there. Its fantastic youre sharing youre experiences as I dont think everyone should feel they should stay somewhere just because others are, its best to do whats best for you and have more clarity, I wish Id dont the same. xx
aw thank you so much Lissy!! I feel the exact same, looking back I'm like ahhh why didn't I just recognise the fgact I was being such a sheep! But it's ok we were all silly teenagers once 🤣 That's the trouble with clubbing/drinking culture too, if you are struggling it can turn into a coping mechanism (which is not the healthiest yikes) it's so tricky trying to balance everything ! aw thank you, I hope it could help somebody! :) x x
Really brilliant video.. should be shared beyond your CF circle.. well thought out..honest and candid and what so many unsupported young people, or even mature students need to hear.. ACE my dear.. brilliant 🙂👏💕💗
aw thank you so much as always Linda !!! honestly I think all students could do with remembering uni can be bloody hard 🤣 so easy to think that you are the only one who is a complete mess phahah - lots of love x x 🥰
@@gingerels absolutely!! It's crucial for people to know that they genuinely aren't alone and life is a journey.. twists, turns, etc and no shame in having the courage to choose a different route. Life is to be lived, not suffered unnecessarily. So many roads leading to where you could be happy, content and to your personal point or idea of what success is. Too much shite put on kids and people these days.. 👀🤗💖
Hi, I am considering dropping out of the ‘University of Sussex’. Will I get a refund for the first tuition fee instalment that I paid back in September?
if you (like me) are feeling really overwhelmed with uni & are thinking of dropping out, please don't be ashamed of it! Your mental health deserves to be put first - doing what will make you happy is the most important thing 😌
* also didn't really mention this oops but for the time I was there, Sussex was fab! My decision had nothing to do with the actual uni :)
I am so glad that I came across ya video. 100% reflects how I'm feeling, been feeling. I have been miserable, MH has taken a knocking recently so.. onwards and upwards. I will be dropping out of uni. And carrying on with my life xx sending love + sunshine xx
@@smallflamesx I'm so sorry you've been struggling too, but thank you so much for sharing (every single person that has said they feel the same it's like ahhh thank goodness it's not just me!?) it's sounds like you are doing the right thing for you & that's whats most important, I hope you start feeling happier soon :) lots o love x x
I’ve been feeling very depressed and lonely at uni. Currently in first year in halls and thinking about commuting for the second year for my mental health. As I think being at home for second year will just be better for me. I was thinking about dropping out but I think the issue is being away from home. It will be hard to tell my parents that but they would want what’s best for me and my well being.
@@gingersnapp114 I'm so sorry to hear that you are struggling too :( I know it's so hard but you really have just got to do what is right for you !!! exactly as you say, I'm sure your parents would much rather you be healthy & happy over forcing yourself to stay somewhere that is having a negative impact upon your health. Just know so many people experience issues like this (unfortunately it seems just not many people speak on it!) well done for coming to terms with it all, you got this 💞
@@gingerels thank you so much for replying and for your kind words! I know they will understand I will just find it hard to tell them but I hope and sure it will work out xx
I just made the decision to not go back next year to uni. I've never felt more alone and anxious in my life, but i know i'm making the right decision.
I applie to this degree bc people kept telling me that is such a good area to study (btw I was studying law, more specifically to be solicitor) and not bc I wanted it. I've lost 3 years of my life in something that made me absolutely miserable bc I didn't know what to do but I realized that I have to live for myself and stop trying to impressed others. So now I'm going to find a job, save some money and, hopefully, go and get my degree in something i've always wanted to do!
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I wish I’d heard a more balanced talk about uni too, I don’t think I’m the type of person cut out for the big lectures, meeting SO many ppl every week, and the type of work (assignments) we do. I have one year left, so bc of the time and energy I’ve invested, I’m likely to just stick it out. Thank you for this video, it really confirmed a lot of the ways I’m feeling about it:) I couldn’t agree more about uni being advised to the more academic people, and I think that’s unfortunate :(
aw thank you so much for this comment - I completelyyy agree!! I felt the exact same - like uni 'lifestyle' & the style of learning, socialising just did not suit me at all! I'm so sorry to hear that you have felt similarly whilst at uni still :( (if its any consolation a lot of my friends are in the exact same boat, thinking oh god this probably wasn't for me but it's third year so I'll hang on in there) which sucks, but might be reassuring to hear I hope?! Good luck in your final year I'm sure you'll do fabby, make sure you give yourself lots of self-care & treats along the way, you got this ❤x
@@gingerels awe yes thank you! It is pretty reassuring honestly🥰 I’m taking a little break from school which has been really beneficial, and then yeah, I agree with the self care, I’m gonna do my best to focus on that💛
Hey there! I stumbled upon this video trying to seek some comfort on the internet and ive been finding so many videos of people talking about their experience dropping out of uni. I told .y mom today that i dont want to keep going anymore, it was a very emotional call and i still cant believe i did this but it was my breaking point, i couldnt handle lyinng to myself more anymore, i had to let her know. Its just sad since she fought so much for me so i can be able to go to uni and shes definitely disappointed but i honestly had to consider my own health at thus point and the way i lived and where i lived. I am so unhappy and exhausted mentally. This is the end of my third year and i think i had enough of thinking that i like something that i clearly i actually dont. I just dont want to do it, i dont like it, i dont enjoy it, i have 0 passion for it. In case you wanna know its a mathematics university. I thought i had the strength to keep going but i realized there wasnt even a reason to keep going. I absolutely hated my time, my life, my lectures, the environment and i finally can make the decision to quit and give myself time to see what i actually like and want. Im freshly 21 now, im probably going to work for a year and maybe next year i might have a different type of mindset about it
Damn. I do deliveries some evenings and deliver to your uni. I had my doubts about uni when I was a student but mainly due to depression and ultimately it paid off because although I don't directly use my degree, it got me a job doing what I like (day job) because they value the degree. That alone is a reason to stick it!
Thank you so much for this video, I guess the reason I’m here is because I got so mentally unwell at uni in the first year that I was suspended and now I’m so conflicted on what to do! 💗
Yay! so happy youve followed what is true to you! I regret not doing because I followed everyone else. Thank you so much for sharing this, I wish I waited to go to Uni. I had no idea what I wanted to do or lacked confidence to pursue what I wanted to do so after a term there I really wanted to drop out or change uni but my parents wouldnt allow me to. Not going to lie I did love clubbing but it was because i felt so empty. I think I drank too much and went out to cover how I was feeling. But mental health wasnt spoken about back then so I majorally felt like a failure when it all realness it just wasnt the time for me to be there. Its fantastic youre sharing youre experiences as I dont think everyone should feel they should stay somewhere just because others are, its best to do whats best for you and have more clarity, I wish Id dont the same. xx
aw thank you so much Lissy!! I feel the exact same, looking back I'm like ahhh why didn't I just recognise the fgact I was being such a sheep! But it's ok we were all silly teenagers once 🤣 That's the trouble with clubbing/drinking culture too, if you are struggling it can turn into a coping mechanism (which is not the healthiest yikes) it's so tricky trying to balance everything ! aw thank you, I hope it could help somebody! :) x x
Really brilliant video.. should be shared beyond your CF circle.. well thought out..honest and candid and what so many unsupported young people, or even mature students need to hear.. ACE my dear.. brilliant 🙂👏💕💗
aw thank you so much as always Linda !!! honestly I think all students could do with remembering uni can be bloody hard 🤣 so easy to think that you are the only one who is a complete mess phahah - lots of love x x 🥰
@@gingerels absolutely!! It's crucial for people to know that they genuinely aren't alone and life is a journey.. twists, turns, etc and no shame in having the courage to choose a different route. Life is to be lived, not suffered unnecessarily. So many roads leading to where you could be happy, content and to your personal point or idea of what success is. Too much shite put on kids and people these days.. 👀🤗💖
Hi, I am considering dropping out of the ‘University of Sussex’. Will I get a refund for the first tuition fee instalment that I paid back in September?
Like you could get so sick If you study the wrong subjects