I can tell that this book is well-penciled. She articulates her thoughts so seamlessly brilliant, and on top of that, she’s critical in how she recollects her experiences! We have such ladies in SA! It’s not that bad!
I can totally relate, not from a place of falling in love with a prisoner but from a place of being so wounded to the point of allowing my vulnerability drive me to people and things that I would not have ever chosen had my internal environment been clean.
Interesting take but I wonder if that point as a woman you cease to think. In other words, does rational thinking and applying ones mind to situations stop ? I'm baffled by this. It appears to me there's always an excuse why people fall into these situations.
@@jobesithole5590 it’s only women that fall for such ba ba thanda😂inzito that’s why why would I as a man be with a woman criminal noway all in the name of love she liked the fast soft life that’s why
Dear Tshidi, your book came at the right time. It personally helped me to understand my late brother's behaviour and why women would fall for prisoners. I really enjoyed your book. Thank you for what the Therapist revealed to you, that people don't change they just wait for a good time reveal who they have always been. Well Done. Thank you eNCA for this Gig! Mihloti P Mogale - Author (undistracted)
Exactly what I said yesterday. Yes you can fall in love with a criminal but if you're not a criminal yourself you will NEVER commit a crime regardless of your feelings for a criminal.
Doesn’t matter, simply being present during the commission of a crime and benefiting from the proceeds of said crime can have you literally guilty by association and a co-conspirator. Get with reality.
@@eyedgaf4955 who said anything about being present? Did you even watch the video? This woman only met this man AFTER he was convicted and no mention was made of her being present in his future crimes or benefitting from them she had her own career. Stop making your own assumptions about the story and my comment then disputing them. The benefitting and presence during crime are all made up by you in this instance.
@@kagomolokwane710 how do you figure? She certainly never made mention of enjoying or spending his money during or after the crime. She said she had a career so again how do you figure?
She’s better than most psychologists I’ve seen so far commenting on this story and I don’t think she said she was a psychologist even! Clearly an intelligent woman who definitely wrote this book from her heart! A must read!
I once reacted to a video on youtube that "Bester isn't smart at all, he just happened to be latching at people's desperate situation.... For instance, Dr Nandipha is one desperate medical professional for money and quick riches. Dr Nandipha is also a middle-aged lady desperate for some fairy tailed affection and infatuation. Social media people are always desperate. That bogus conference of his was saturated by desperate people who yearned to associate with success without having to work for it. It is very easy to swindle a desperate individual regardless of how smart they may have been..."
I once met a girl who had alopecia through Facebook. I represented this place she's talking about in this girl's life. She was willing to travel 400km just to see me. Anything could have happened to her because no one else knew about us and her coming to see me. Looking at it in hindsight, young women are just not safe in SA because of how much they seek affection to a point of trusting strangers. We really need a strong campaign on this because we need more awareness.
Totally aggree brother..... Fatherlessness is a real problem .. These young beautiful black girls grow up broken and unfulfilled... Due to the lack of male validation in the household. It's really fucking sad!!
I can relate to this..I met my first baby daddy through Facebook and he was in prison...emotionally he was there even financially I was in love but when he came out...I couldn't believe 💔 and till today I don't have Facebook because it reminds me of the traps in which I feel these people have on us ladies...women we need to love ourselves and stop going for love in the wrong places
Will definitely buy the book, it sounds interesting. I once dated a prisoner in Boksburg, was so in love with him and was giving him every support he needed, but believe me when they are out the tune changes🤞
Very well spoken lady, I rememer her from Relebogile Mabotjas show last last year if not year before. Sad story with a beautiful ending 🤍may God continue blessing u🫶🏼
Great interview, though I can’t wait to hear Dr Nandipha real story... psychologist definitely need to interview & asses Dr . Nandipha... many are empty emotional relationships, don’t even know intimacy.
I can totally relate to her story, I have never dated a prisoner myself.. But someone I met through Facebook, they portray this beautiful image, that fits perfectly into what you are looking for, once you let down your walls, and let him in.. He is a totally different person. 😢😕 For that reason I don't have Facebook even today!
You leave an abusive man for a convict. At some point you are your own prison, the warden, the jail cell and the abuser. There is no psychologist that will fix that. The choices you make are your crimes. Unfortunately your tears can't the appeal. The Doctor must go to jail.
@@kevinakugizibwe1359 expect when they tell you what they are in for. Seems like you don't want to see her role in all of this. She said yes she felt safe and had hopes unfortunately she was dealt a bad hand from the beginning of the game and yet some how she thought she will win
the spirit of discernment is critical. red flags were she had no boundaries who spills their life story to a stranger on a call? not judging I guess we all just go through a lot in life.
If you talking about love, real love Nandipha is the embodiment of what 2Pac said is a "Ride or die". Women accept "I will die before I let someone touch them or something of that nature" and this is thought as an expression of deep feelings, and truthfully if you are in love there's nothing you wouldn't do
@@thandodyani9285 Clearly not according to Nandipha, isn't? The thing that bugs everyone about this is that this was done by none other then upper middle class highly sophisticated woman, and I bet all sorts of things will be said had it been a common girl next door.
I've been approached several times by men in prison via Facebook and one of them was a cop. But one thing about me as soon I hear their in prison I run for my life. I asked all of them why they are in for and it was quite scary the crimes they committed and I had to look at my career and decided what I want. Men in prison have money shame and they run successfull business than most of us outside. But it's a no for me shame
I have also learnt that life is a mirror what ever is happening on the outside is as a result of what is happening in your inner world. If you change and heal your inner world you will see the change in your outa world. I speak from experience.
The question is does that person love you or just passing time? In most cases prisoners are just passing time and it happened that she fell for the same old tricks.
@@nhlakanakhwela1037 passing time as a prisoner is different from the 1 you are talking about. Besides we are talking about inmates dating people out side
@@sibongisenikhumalo8198 The very same damage is done nonetheless to the person being played. Whether they're inmates or free. The initial post spoke of second chances and it not being a crime to date an inmate. I'm trying to point out that, most people use people on a daily basis in relationships irrespective whether they're locked up or not. It happens everywhere, not only when inmates are concerned.
@@nhlakanakhwela1037 We are talking about inmates and their tricks, am not disputing that this happens to any1 anywhere but asikho lapho. You can't give a second chance to a person you don't know, how will you know if they are trying or not? Some women take it to themselves to fix some1 they didn't break when they get burnt they play victim instead of taking accountability, you honestly can't start a relationship over a voice making you feel wanted
The ANC politicians should be ecstatic that the people of Sa have the Thabo Bester saga to focus on, rather than complaining about loadshedding, economic hardship , service delivery issues and basically about how useless and inefficient they are in running the country. If aspects of this story is shoved into our face every day until the 2024 election, the ANC will be re-elected, we may forget that higher stages of loadshedding loom and that the Gupta's involvement in state capture pales in comparison to tales of prison break and prison love.❤
Even this story still speaks to their uselessness, incompetence and corruption. Either way, we're still complaining and cannot wait to remove them from power come 2024 💯
Exactly, what so special about the his two morons who are just low life creatures ? The less is spoken about this the better but the government is benefiting from their low level trend
This was an eye opener. It is sad but we cannot help it as woman because we are emotional beings it’s unfortunate that there are some men who exploit this vulnerability from us at the same time we woman have strength and intelligence to overcome ourselves from this weakness but I’m glad Tshidi is raising awareness sharing her life story with us hope it changes someone
*But the mistake she made from the beginning was not trying to find out from her colleague first about this strange caller who introduced himself as the colleague's brother, atleast to find out more before jumping into a relationship. Maybe the colleague was gonna explain better about this brother of hers*
I am currently dating a man in prison and I would say we don’t all fall under the same bracket. Prison love stories are very unique and different they are not all based on being vulnerable
I wonder When will women take responsibility for their decisions though? How do you seat there and say “These men find us” 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I don’t understand! 😅😅😅
They are mentally ill. How can you live like you don't care about the future. How can anyone be so desperate? I don't understand. You men better be careful. These women might be easy to get but you must watch out because it seems these women will get involved with anyone. You don't want a gangster knocking on your door because you are with his ex 😮
I'm totally baffled by Nandipha committing crimes to assist Thabo in his criminal behaviour... she is a qualified Medical Doctor... one who bears the responsibility for the lives of other people... she cannot be blamed for falling in love with a convicted criminal... that can happen to any person... but to become so irresponsible to commit crimes for love is shocking... and also the pain and misery upon her children and family who were once proud of 'the doctor' in their family... may God have mercy upon her
"... but to become so irresponsible to commit crimes for love is shocking...." I disagree with this, to me there is absolutely nothing shocking about someone acting out of character in the name of love. Love is somewhat like a hypnosis, many people sacrifice their values, traditions, morals etc. All in the name of love. Come on Gavin!
@@acceptinglife6491 Thanks took the words out of my mouth, but not only love, also sex and money can make person (to be politically correct) leave a home and children and then people say no its witchcraft love portion
But in this case don't exclude GREEDINESS from the doctor. This so call socialite seek attention from anyone, popularity, famous, celebrity etc... don't care where the partners get money, All they want it is money, bigs cars etc...
@@yampanyamulenda9377 Oh yeah greed is covered in green (money) but when it come with the best SEX and good LOVING, you will for sake all that is true to you
Women need to realize that they can't find happiness in a man. They can only find happiness within yourself and, when you are vulnerable you need to face the pain and deal with it before you find another partner. ❤
What a great topic and great interviewee, she held Mr. Moyane's curiosity. I can relate on the part of wanting to replace a male presence in your life after you loosing or breaking up with one.
Im sure there would be a need for male presence in any woman's life. That's natural and how God intended it to be. What I'm grappling with is why go for bad if not lethal characters ? ( African ) Women never cease to amaze me. I deliberately focus on African women because they are the ones I can relate to better as I'm an African myself.
@@jobesithole5590 you know in my not so grand old age, I am beginning to realise that we as Africans have and still don't deal with our collective traumas & hurt effectively, which would allow us to heal. Hurt and trauma stays in the body and is passed on from generation to generation if not dealt with. Through this blind hurt, we have developed the most mind bogling of behaviors. I believe this is one of them
so if that guy didnt change and become abusive after leaving prison she would still be dating him? i understand she would'nt commit crimes for him but i cant stop wondering and imagining the life they'd be leaving right now if the guy continued to be sweet and loving to her while continuing with his illegall stunts? would she turn him in or what? somebody please explain maybe my comprehension of the story is not that good. i see everybody being sympathetic with this woman just because the guy didnt turn out to be who she wanted him to be ko mjolong
Exactly! They should have interviewed a professional psychologist on this topic. This woman sounds like she is in support of dating prisoners as long as they are in prison and can give you emotional support. She said she wouldn't agree with his crimes, but that makes no sense. If you are aware of his crimes and not reporting him you are committing a crime.
No. Your comprehension is spot on. It doesn't make sense. These women are attracted to these men because they're the same as those men. Something impresses them about these criminals. It can't be denied. No matter what she is saying, there are men everywhere but she chose someone who is locked up. It's doesn't make sense. In some ways, she may not admit it but she liked the fact that this man can fulfill her fantasy - there's no competition with other women, he's locked up so they don't even see each other - there's nothing to argue about because he's doing nothing for her. He's like a fantasy.
this is Madness u fall in love with rapist armed robberies murders this woman is insane.....and how come this people have access to cell phones internet while they serving life sentences......
Whilst what she said was presented in her context and that of Dr Nandipha, I think the ideas expressed can be applicable more broadly to society as a whole. Men and women accept people that are toxic because in that season that toxic person needs them and therefore presents themselves in another fashion in order to fill the gap in the other person .
An excuse me for horrible people and thri horrible ways. This is not complicated, this kind of women are just bottom women and they just stupid people, is really is that simple
This angle that many ppl are taking where Nandipha is a helpless, innocent woman who fell in love with the wrong guy who manipulated her into doing evil is dangerous and not fair. Nandipha is a grown woman who knows right from wrong. I believe she is more than capable of differentiating between what is legal from illegal. She is a male version of Thabo Bester and did all those crimes because she had it in her to do so,they supported and encouraged each other in all this madness. Love for money, things and self over and above love for each other is what drove these two.
One other reason a lady would fall for a prisoner in my view is " FREEDOM TO CONTROL RESOURCES OF THE INCARCERATED AT FREE WILL". Certain Ladies are schemers and chancers and to such, when an opportunity like Besters fall on their laps, there is no time to think twice but grab it foregoing all other issues like ones current status. When one is enjoying that luxury and is way too deep into it, again it becomes a problem to run away from such danger when the Prisoner start asking for favours. In the selfish kind of thinking that you will probably get more, ladies become blinded to the fact that death is already on their laps waiting for the right time strike. If Bester had managed as planned, Nandipa would have been dead by now because she was going to be more a liability than an ally. My take.
I can tell that this book is well-penciled. She articulates her thoughts so seamlessly brilliant, and on top of that, she’s critical in how she recollects her experiences! We have such ladies in SA! It’s not that bad!
💯
Bought it. It's such a good read, she really paints the picture so well. Once you pick it up,.you can't put it down
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@@LA-jq2yi 😂😂😂
@@LA-jq2yi Yea of little to no faith!
She’s wearing an orange dress, a prison uniform color. Her necklace is chains and handcuffs. I want to read her book.
Noticing the fashion elements ❤
very perceptive. I legit missed that one...my brain was stuck on that chain thinking 'its huge, its loud, its shiny, its strange
@@Maria_Podesta I think she marketed the book well in that attire. Now I need to just get hold f her book and read it.
I was looking for this comment. I was like "are those handcuffs around her neck?"
Me too..
This lady needs to start a youtube channel and intervoew women in such situations
I agree
I totally agree
Defenately, I saw her on "Unpack with Relebogile Mabotja"
Definitely
Straight!
Tshidi is well spoken and presents herself well- I’m going to buy her book
I can totally relate, not from a place of falling in love with a prisoner but from a place of being so wounded to the point of allowing my vulnerability drive me to people and things that I would not have ever chosen had my internal environment been clean.
Interesting take but I wonder if that point as a woman you cease to think. In other words, does rational thinking and applying ones mind to situations stop ? I'm baffled by this. It appears to me there's always an excuse why people fall into these situations.
Just an excuse of been a low level human being with zero standards. This women are just trash and they deserve this prisoners stop making excuses
@@jobesithole5590 it’s only women that fall for such ba ba thanda😂inzito that’s why why would I as a man be with a woman criminal noway all in the name of love she liked the fast soft life that’s why
@@jobesithole5590 women don’t want to take responsibility for anything
And there are people who pry on this vulnerability in a professional manner. I hope you are in a better space now @Linda Hlengwa
I almost found myself in the same situation this year 2023. But I got a warning from the person within me who said I should not settle for less.
Never ignore your intuition
Haibo please share kaloku🥺
Same. I ghos6ed after going through therapy and choosing to go through a cleanse period. These brought me back to my sense.
Yoh kunzima
i think people are so lonely and emotionally starved in today's life they'll grab onto anything just for connection. discernment is key.
Love, sex and money are a powerful combo if you haven't experienced the best of either one you always gonna be longing doesn't matter you status
Starved 😂😂😂😂
Starved 😂😂😂😂
Starved 😂😂😂😂
Discernment is key indeed.
Bra Dan just killed me. “You were ripe for that visit”😅
💀💀
She was well cooked and tender 😂😂😂😂
Ripe and ready... 😂😂👌
Juicy.....
Dear Tshidi, your book came at the right time. It personally helped me to understand my late brother's behaviour and why women would fall for prisoners. I really enjoyed your book. Thank you for what the Therapist revealed to you, that people don't change they just wait for a good time reveal who they have always been. Well Done. Thank you eNCA for this Gig!
Mihloti P Mogale - Author (undistracted)
Thank you for reading my book Mihloti "Joy" Mogale. I appreciate your feedback.
Sorry for your loss❤
@@tshidimonkoe4080 hie Tsidi
I love your story ..how much is your book if i may ask??i need one copy definateley
@@sithulisiwendlovu8202 The price of the book is R360
@@sithulisiwendlovu8202 Thank you so much. Let's connect on Whatsapp
A excellent book written by Tshidi❤ reflects the realities in our society 👏
Women should learn from this.. that you will never ever change a men
amen😉
True
Exactly what I said yesterday. Yes you can fall in love with a criminal but if you're not a criminal yourself you will NEVER commit a crime regardless of your feelings for a criminal.
but youd be enjoying his dirty money from criminal proceedings. double standards
Doesn’t matter, simply being present during the commission of a crime and benefiting from the proceeds of said crime can have you literally guilty by association and a co-conspirator. Get with reality.
If you are okay with dating a criminal ans enjoying dirty money, it's means you have no values. You are like a criminal. Don't fool yourself Olga.
@@eyedgaf4955 who said anything about being present? Did you even watch the video? This woman only met this man AFTER he was convicted and no mention was made of her being present in his future crimes or benefitting from them she had her own career. Stop making your own assumptions about the story and my comment then disputing them. The benefitting and presence during crime are all made up by you in this instance.
@@kagomolokwane710 how do you figure? She certainly never made mention of enjoying or spending his money during or after the crime. She said she had a career so again how do you figure?
What a lovely woman this is! She deserves all her Good dreams and wishes to come true! Wish her well going forward!! ❤
She’s better than most psychologists I’ve seen so far commenting on this story and I don’t think she said she was a psychologist even! Clearly an intelligent woman who definitely wrote this book from her heart! A must read!
It's the noise from the handcuffs😅That was insightful and eye opening 😮
I once reacted to a video on youtube that "Bester isn't smart at all, he just happened to be latching at people's desperate situation.... For instance, Dr Nandipha is one desperate medical professional for money and quick riches. Dr Nandipha is also a middle-aged lady desperate for some fairy tailed affection and infatuation. Social media people are always desperate. That bogus conference of his was saturated by desperate people who yearned to associate with success without having to work for it. It is very easy to swindle a desperate individual regardless of how smart they may have been..."
Makes a lot of sense
Absolutely
Desperation is why people fall for romance scams
I once met a girl who had alopecia through Facebook. I represented this place she's talking about in this girl's life. She was willing to travel 400km just to see me. Anything could have happened to her because no one else knew about us and her coming to see me. Looking at it in hindsight, young women are just not safe in SA because of how much they seek affection to a point of trusting strangers. We really need a strong campaign on this because we need more awareness.
Totally aggree brother..... Fatherlessness is a real problem
.. These young beautiful black girls grow up broken and unfulfilled... Due to the lack of male validation in the household.
It's really fucking sad!!
I agree with both of y’all. So true.
I can relate to this..I met my first baby daddy through Facebook and he was in prison...emotionally he was there even financially I was in love but when he came out...I couldn't believe 💔 and till today I don't have Facebook because it reminds me of the traps in which I feel these people have on us ladies...women we need to love ourselves and stop going for love in the wrong places
Yho I wish I knew your story, I'm wondering about someone in that same situation.
Ya'll are so naive, damn
Love and Light to you beautiful ✨💖
😆 Silly girl
U brave, Gul
She's such a good story narrator. I can't wait to lay my hands and eyes on her book
I am definitely getting myself a copy. Love the energy and bravery from the author. thank you for opening up and to eNCA.
She is such a good story teller 👌🏾
Not really
Will definitely buy the book, it sounds interesting. I once dated a prisoner in
Boksburg, was so in love with him and was giving him every support he needed, but believe me when they are out the tune changes🤞
Authors are all smooth talkers. Always open to explain vulnerability. Cool!!!
Lol 😂
Very well spoken lady, I rememer her from Relebogile Mabotjas show last last year if not year before. Sad story with a beautiful ending 🤍may God continue blessing u🫶🏼
If you ever read this, your story is so powerful and I’m definitely eager to read your book 😊
Tshidi I am hearing her for the second time she was in another channel I wish she could start from growing up. She is an eye opener.
This is an eye opener l really need a copy...she's a very good story teller
Great interview, though I can’t wait to hear Dr Nandipha real story... psychologist definitely need to interview & asses Dr . Nandipha... many are empty emotional relationships, don’t even know intimacy.
oh wow i love ausi Tshidi, she so articulate and very well spoken, i need to get myself that book.
Great interview. For me she consolidates the so called top G`s gospel that with women its always feelings, feelings and more feelings.
Well Said!! Nothing else, feelings, greed and status. 👌👌👌
I can totally relate to her story, I have never dated a prisoner myself.. But someone I met through Facebook, they portray this beautiful image, that fits perfectly into what you are looking for, once you let down your walls, and let him in.. He is a totally different person. 😢😕 For that reason I don't have Facebook even today!
Wow!! What a beautiful, eloquent lady who articulates herself so graciously.
Buying the book now!!
Il definitely buy the book💯she represents herself well indeed
😂😂😂What! She said : 'The man looked like he was in a magazine while he was in an orange jumpsuit.
You leave an abusive man for a convict. At some point you are your own prison, the warden, the jail cell and the abuser. There is no psychologist that will fix that. The choices you make are your crimes. Unfortunately your tears can't the appeal. The Doctor must go to jail.
Couldn’t have put it better ❤🥂
Not all that are convicted are guilty..and the other thing is prison changes people into better ones
@@kevinakugizibwe1359 expect when they tell you what they are in for. Seems like you don't want to see her role in all of this. She said yes she felt safe and had hopes unfortunately she was dealt a bad hand from the beginning of the game and yet some how she thought she will win
Wow that's rich
She's so well spoken. I need to get my hands on that book.
Lovely interview. Hope she sells lots of copies 🎉
She’s well spoken👌👌I really enjoyed this interview
We should get a psychologist perspective on this matter. Thanks for sharing your story anyway.
She is so well spoken wow I want the book too
I didn't have to buy the book after listening to her on Mashabela she is such a story teller.Very eloquent.
Please do buy it. Let’s support our one of our own
THIS!! Thank you for saying it
Someone must donate this book to Dr Nandipha..she might be bored and lonely in the jail cell..this book can help her a lot
the spirit of discernment is critical. red flags were she had no boundaries who spills their life story to a stranger on a call? not judging I guess we all just go through a lot in life.
Even in our homes. The naughty son controls some mothers emotions. You can see it at our courtrooms. The good child gets neglected.
I’m glad Tshidi made mention that love can’t lead one to commit such a crime! Its either your flawed enough to commit such or not.
If you talking about love, real love Nandipha is the embodiment of what 2Pac said is a "Ride or die". Women accept "I will die before I let someone touch them or something of that nature" and this is thought as an expression of deep feelings, and truthfully if you are in love there's nothing you wouldn't do
Easier said than done
@@thandodyani9285 Clearly not according to Nandipha, isn't? The thing that bugs everyone about this is that this was done by none other then upper middle class highly sophisticated woman, and I bet all sorts of things will be said had it been a common girl next door.
@@akho2304 they must take accountability for their own actions
God loves this woman. Yes she wrote the book 2021, Thabo and Nadipha do their Bonny and Clyde stunt, she's gonna make a killing with that book now.
Articulate, beautiful and well spoken.
Thanks for the insight my sister this book will save a lot of women 🙏🏾💕
I wanted to give HER the like, she has something beautiful to share with the world.
Very Interesting !!!!
I've been approached several times by men in prison via Facebook and one of them was a cop. But one thing about me as soon I hear their in prison I run for my life. I asked all of them why they are in for and it was quite scary the crimes they committed and I had to look at my career and decided what I want. Men in prison have money shame and they run successfull business than most of us outside. But it's a no for me shame
Well articulated, thanks for the insights
I like that she says that if you are a criminal then you would help the criminal. So true. Nandipha is not innocent people.
Thanks for your book I will get it you are a blessing 🙌
Good for her for sorting herself out so far. I'll like to read her book.
Definitely going to buy it, love is withcraft in its own right.
You made me laugh so loud! Love is indeed witchcraft that`s the best way to put it.
😂😂😂😂😂😂 witchcraft neh?
Wow, i completely understand, when you the vulnerable one in a relationship.
Most men don't understand you can control a women's mind and programme her towards you just by listening and meaningful conversations.
True ... but a woman's intuition will tell her if she's being manipulated. Sadly a lot don't listen.
@@chosenqueen5109 they choose to stay, even being emotionally abused. They rather stay than losing the man.
No bro, there is nothing you will control if you offer nothing from the combo of 'Love, sex and money'
True
True
I have also learnt that life is a mirror what ever is happening on the outside is as a result of what is happening in your inner world. If you change and heal your inner world you will see the change in your outa world. I speak from experience.
It's not criminal to love someone who made a mistake. Life is about second chances.
The question is does that person love you or just passing time? In most cases prisoners are just passing time and it happened that she fell for the same old tricks.
@@sibongisenikhumalo8198 People outside of prison date one another cause it's convenient all the time. They date people to pass time all the time.
@@nhlakanakhwela1037 passing time as a prisoner is different from the 1 you are talking about. Besides we are talking about inmates dating people out side
@@sibongisenikhumalo8198 The very same damage is done nonetheless to the person being played. Whether they're inmates or free.
The initial post spoke of second chances and it not being a crime to date an inmate. I'm trying to point out that, most people use people on a daily basis in relationships irrespective whether they're locked up or not. It happens everywhere, not only when inmates are concerned.
@@nhlakanakhwela1037 We are talking about inmates and their tricks, am not disputing that this happens to any1 anywhere but asikho lapho.
You can't give a second chance to a person you don't know, how will you know if they are trying or not?
Some women take it to themselves to fix some1 they didn't break when they get burnt they play victim instead of taking accountability, you honestly can't start a relationship over a voice making you feel wanted
The ANC politicians should be ecstatic that the people of Sa have the Thabo Bester saga to focus on, rather than complaining about loadshedding, economic hardship , service delivery issues and basically about how useless and inefficient they are in running the country.
If aspects of this story is shoved into our face every day until the 2024 election, the ANC will be re-elected, we may forget that higher stages of loadshedding loom and that the Gupta's involvement in state capture pales in comparison to tales of prison break and prison love.❤
Even this story still speaks to their uselessness, incompetence and corruption. Either way, we're still complaining and cannot wait to remove them from power come 2024 💯
Subversion..
😂😂😂
Exactly, what so special about the his two morons who are just low life creatures ? The less is spoken about this the better but the government is benefiting from their low level trend
To be honest, I did myself think the whole thing is so out there its like a make belief story that is meant to capture your whole imagination
Wonderful story ❤️
This was an eye opener. It is sad but we cannot help it as woman because we are emotional beings it’s unfortunate that there are some men who exploit this vulnerability from us at the same time we woman have strength and intelligence to overcome ourselves from this weakness but I’m glad Tshidi is raising awareness sharing her life story with us hope it changes someone
Hai take accountability, how come nothing is ever your fault? You made those choices what's sad about that?
*But the mistake she made from the beginning was not trying to find out from her colleague first about this strange caller who introduced himself as the colleague's brother, atleast to find out more before jumping into a relationship. Maybe the colleague was gonna explain better about this brother of hers*
Yes I was wondering if she didn't ask her colleague more about him
@@diamondgirl1264 *Her story is indeed a bit confusing in that part*
Have you read the book?
She did, search her other interviews, the colleague told her that it was not her place to share anything about this prisoner
@@leratorammile2298 Ohk dear thnks!
I love what she is saying❤
Her words are imagery. Beautiful.
I am currently dating a man in prison and I would say we don’t all fall under the same bracket. Prison love stories are very unique and different they are not all based on being vulnerable
Love this woman
I'm definitely buying that book 👌
Sis, it's such a good read. Once you pick it up, you can't put it down till the end
Awesome talk ❤😊❤
I so love Tshidi
Wow!...most people need intense therapy.
I wonder When will women take responsibility for their decisions though? How do you seat there and say “These men find us” 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I don’t understand! 😅😅😅
Stop making excuses for women. This is just stupid people and women lead in stupidity.
@@cindynamate4515 you can't make this stuff up 😂😂😂
They are mentally ill. How can you live like you don't care about the future. How can anyone be so desperate? I don't understand. You men better be careful. These women might be easy to get but you must watch out because it seems these women will get involved with anyone. You don't want a gangster knocking on your door because you are with his ex 😮
Damn. What a great woman 🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️
I need the book,well done Tshidi.
I'm totally baffled by Nandipha committing crimes to assist Thabo in his criminal behaviour... she is a qualified Medical Doctor... one who bears the responsibility for the lives of other people... she cannot be blamed for falling in love with a convicted criminal... that can happen to any person... but to become so irresponsible to commit crimes for love is shocking... and also the pain and misery upon her children and family who were once proud of 'the doctor' in their family... may God have mercy upon her
"... but to become so irresponsible to commit crimes for love is shocking...." I disagree with this, to me there is absolutely nothing shocking about someone acting out of character in the name of love. Love is somewhat like a hypnosis, many people sacrifice their values, traditions, morals etc. All in the name of love. Come on Gavin!
@@acceptinglife6491 Thanks took the words out of my mouth, but not only love, also sex and money can make person (to be politically correct) leave a home and children and then people say no its witchcraft love portion
@@akho2304 100%
But in this case don't exclude GREEDINESS from the doctor.
This so call socialite seek attention from anyone, popularity, famous, celebrity etc... don't care where the partners get money,
All they want it is money, bigs cars etc...
@@yampanyamulenda9377 Oh yeah greed is covered in green (money) but when it come with the best SEX and good LOVING, you will for sake all that is true to you
Women need to realize that they can't find happiness in a man. They can only find happiness within yourself and, when you are vulnerable you need to face the pain and deal with it before you find another partner. ❤
A well spoken lady
I watched her interview on the King David podcast and went straight to Exclusive Books to get a copy.
What a great topic and great interviewee, she held Mr. Moyane's curiosity.
I can relate on the part of wanting to replace a male presence in your life after you loosing or breaking up with one.
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Im sure there would be a need for male presence in any woman's life. That's natural and how God intended it to be. What I'm grappling with is why go for bad if not lethal characters ? ( African ) Women never cease to amaze me. I deliberately focus on African women because they are the ones I can relate to better as I'm an African myself.
@@jobesithole5590 you know in my not so grand old age, I am beginning to realise that we as Africans have and still don't deal with our collective traumas & hurt effectively, which would allow us to heal. Hurt and trauma stays in the body and is passed on from generation to generation if not dealt with. Through this blind hurt, we have developed the most mind bogling of behaviors. I believe this is one of them
so if that guy didnt change and become abusive after leaving prison she would still be dating him? i understand she would'nt commit crimes for him but i cant stop wondering and imagining the life they'd be leaving right now if the guy continued to be sweet and loving to her while continuing with his illegall stunts? would she turn him in or what? somebody please explain maybe my comprehension of the story is not that good. i see everybody being sympathetic with this woman just because the guy didnt turn out to be who she wanted him to be ko mjolong
Exactly! They should have interviewed a professional psychologist on this topic. This woman sounds like she is in support of dating prisoners as long as they are in prison and can give you emotional support. She said she wouldn't agree with his crimes, but that makes no sense. If you are aware of his crimes and not reporting him you are committing a crime.
No. Your comprehension is spot on. It doesn't make sense. These women are attracted to these men because they're the same as those men. Something impresses them about these criminals. It can't be denied. No matter what she is saying, there are men everywhere but she chose someone who is locked up. It's doesn't make sense. In some ways, she may not admit it but she liked the fact that this man can fulfill her fantasy - there's no competition with other women, he's locked up so they don't even see each other - there's nothing to argue about because he's doing nothing for her. He's like a fantasy.
this is Madness u fall in love with rapist armed robberies murders this woman is insane.....and how come this people have access to cell phones internet while they serving life sentences......
I remember seeing Tshidi at Pretoria Central public library
Its the fact that he changed when he came out😂😂😂 ai amadoda no drop of loyalty in their blood
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Beautiful, articulate lady.
Whilst what she said was presented in her context and that of Dr Nandipha, I think the ideas expressed can be applicable more broadly to society as a whole. Men and women accept people that are toxic because in that season that toxic person needs them and therefore presents themselves in another fashion in order to fill the gap in the other person
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An excuse me for horrible people and thri horrible ways. This is not complicated, this kind of women are just bottom women and they just stupid people, is really is that simple
Let’s go buy the book!!!
She’s even wearing Orange
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It's basically cosplay at this point 😂
I'm interested to find out if there are lots of men who go visit women in prison, or do we see the phenomenon only from women?
Relebogile needs to unpack this story
The lady has appeared on her show ua-cam.com/video/dS7aagFLMxc/v-deo.html
I so miss unpacked
She actually did I know her from her show
Here she the link
ua-cam.com/video/dS7aagFLMxc/v-deo.html
I know this lady from Relebogile's show
I respect this woman 👏🙏
This angle that many ppl are taking where Nandipha is a helpless, innocent woman who fell in love with the wrong guy who manipulated her into doing evil is dangerous and not fair.
Nandipha is a grown woman who knows right from wrong. I believe she is more than capable of differentiating between what is legal from illegal. She is a male version of Thabo Bester and did all those crimes because she had it in her to do so,they supported and encouraged each other in all this madness. Love for money, things and self over and above love for each other is what drove these two.
Agreed, nandipha found a male version of her in bester hence she fell inlove. She's a criminal period,she was not deceived by bester.
When it come to women it's all about emotions. Women love drama/dramatic life that's they watch soaps. Emotional rollercoaster.
Very touching story 🤔
I am definitely gonna read it
Shout out to Dr Nandi for holding her man down.
hahahahahaha I want a woman like that
One other reason a lady would fall for a prisoner in my view is " FREEDOM TO CONTROL RESOURCES OF THE INCARCERATED AT FREE WILL".
Certain Ladies are schemers and chancers and to such, when an opportunity like Besters fall on their laps, there is no time to think twice but grab it foregoing all other issues like ones current status.
When one is enjoying that luxury and is way too deep into it, again it becomes a problem to run away from such danger when the Prisoner start asking for favours. In the selfish kind of thinking that you will probably get more, ladies become blinded to the fact that death is already on their laps waiting for the right time strike.
If Bester had managed as planned, Nandipa would have been dead by now because she was going to be more a liability than an ally. My take.
Its the rattling of the handcuffs for me🤣🤣🤣
Very interesting
If you can do more talk shows about your book and your lifetime you are an empire sister, more love more life more success for you..
Not realising self-love leads to picking from low-hanging if not ground-dropped fruit.
Loved it 🎉