Narcissist's are in an exclusive relationship with themselves the best they can offer you is a situationship. They are more interested in changing you than themselves. Take your focus off them and focus on making the necessary changes in your own life that can bring you a little more peace and happiness.🕊
My ex said he liked that I was quiet and calm and not " bubbly" and in your face, but then he started subtly trying to change me, to " get me out of my shell" him and his mom and grandma, his grandma met me ONCE and asked me I'd I ever had professional help, because I was so QUIET, like what !?!??! I'm respectful, and quiet because I am shy, and you people are so judgemental, and I speak when I am sure of something, and my ex then stated how he hates how shy I was ans how quiet I was... he hated that I was a introvert.
Yeah exactly, they can't love or just love themselves. They are senseless, pretty scary. I am divorcing now after 4 years, have to run for my life, this is not a marriage. He doesn't even feed or put a roof over his own child, very disturbing!
@@serenamoon248 Narcissists are insensitive to other's feelings then they turn things around and say that you are too sensitive. My youngest son is very talented in many things and quiet natured but his covert grandmother on his father's side would only talk about how quiet he was like there was something wrong with him. Narcissists are fault finder's they will make a mountain out of a molehill to create trouble. I can relate to what you have said, take care.🌻
I had narcissistic tendencies. Along came a moment of truth where I asked myself why I'm not leading the life which I have always dreamt of. Instead of blaming others this time I blamed myself and BOOM my life changed. I hate my previous self
Yep deeeeeep pain was the trigger for inner work for me. I’m glad I opened that door in on myself 😍 Now it’s a never ending growth cycle of self reflection, self awareness and self love.
Once NPD sets in and the narcissist atrophies, a process I call “crystallization of the behavioral patterns” of a narcissist”prevents the narcissist from changing unless serious, constant and unflagging inner work to change is required which the narcissist is generally not willing to do!
I myself have dealt with a narcissist In the past and I'm so glad that relationship was over years ago I tried so many things and literally nothing seemed to work a 100% eventually I found a church that was in my area of downtown Orlando Florida gave my life to Christ and lived for Christ and from there forward began to live my life for God and change my lifestyle Everything that needed to work out from then on did work out and I got to even see certain spiritual aspects of this past relationship as to why this person was being affected by this evil spirit it was demonic things going on in that household (Gods word says if you go to Christ he will show you things you've never known. Narcissism is demonic overall it's so crazy and yet amazing on how every bad thing is tied to an evil spirit some way somehow and even more amazing that it's covered in The Bible God really does look out for us even from before to now if I had to give anyone advice after reading this I would say find a local Bible based church And start going doesn't matter where you're at doesn't matter what you know literally everyone's welcome come as you are make sure you pray every day and ask God to show you himself In your life somehow He will begin to show you things more and more as you get closer to him as his holy word says draw near to me and I will draw near to you, we have to take that step. Later on in life after one more failed relationship I learned a few more lessons got closer to God throughout that process and he actually brought someone that was Divinely orchestrated by him Into my life it's hard to explain but trust what I'm saying it makes sense as you get closer to him. It's like the gym you don't just walk in there and bench 250 pounds it's discipline in different areas and consistency same thing with God that's how you grow in him and he reveals things to you he talks to you, he talks to his creation he loves us. I pray Whoever finds this message that it finds you well and that God Almighty protect you and bless you and reveal all truth to you if you choose to follow him and decide to discover the real truth and meaning of life In Jesus Christ's name Amen!🙏🏼🔥🕊✝️💪🏼 🚨A few referrals I'd say checkout for good Biblical teachers, sound doctrine and just people who make it easy to understand and help you grow in Christ. (Voddie Bauchan, John Hagee, Billy Graham RIP, Derek Prince RIP does great teachings on spiritual warfare, Michael Todd Transformation Church, Francis Chan, Michael Koulionus, Dharius Daniels, Mark Ballenger from Apply Gods Word, Carter Conlon, Tim Dilena, Times Square Church on UA-cam. Todd White, Daniel Adams The Supernatural Life, Isaiah Salvidar, Nathan Morris. (Check these out everyone, I KNOW it will help you and if you take it seriously as the Bible says seek God with your whole heart then you will find me, everything at that point will change radically. STEPHANIE LYNN I know this will benefit you and take you to a whole other level AND carry you to fulfilling God's purpose for your life. Trust in Christ. This is not a coincidence, take the step to full surrender and Jesus will meet you there💯🕊✝️ JESUS CHRIST THE WAY THE TRUTH AND LIFE, IF ANYONE SEES THIS ACCEPT HIM TODAY, TURN FROM YOUR SINS, AND DIVE INTO THE WORD OF GOD ELOHIM DAILY. JESUS CHRIST LOVES YALL! 🙏🏼🔥🕊✝️💪🏼 TikTok GianTheLion UA-cam🔔 Giancarlos Hernandez Snapchat StacksNotorious
Congratulations on you establishing your own personal relationship with Christ. That's awesome 🙌🏽😊🥰 love how you shared from your perspective & spoke so highly of God & how he stepped in to rescue you.
@3:45 spot on “I’m not the problem, you are… It’s way easier to flip things and put it on someone else” “ I like to be around people that will tolerate & enable my behaviour …”
A relationship with a narcissist is nothing short of a hostage situation, in which you (the victim) are being forced to surrender your autonomy on pain of death or destruction. With the distress that narcissists put you through, it is utterly impossible for them to change. The former narcissist in my life six years ago has not changed for the better one bit, but deteriorated in fact, harassing my buddies for casual sex and also physically, sexually and emotionally abusing others.
There’s no way these toxic narcs will change. My ex has had strings of beautiful empathic women, and it’s worked out very well for him so far. He just moves on. No self reflection at all. He’s been enabled all his life. Everything was my fault and he discarded me after 3 years. He will never change.
My narcissistic friend is so brave. He is working on himself, becoming selfaware and has asked for therapy. I am so proud of him and he is one of my best buddies. He IS the proof that all people can change when they really want to. Love him to pieces!❤
It is so hard!!! I’m in the depression part. I thought I’d be learning how to leave my narcissistic husband. But going to trauma therapy is opening such deep wounds that I didn’t even know. Battling that on top of my narcissist.. I feel like I have nothing left and I am taking steps to leave him. When does this ease!? Struggling soooooo much.
@@barrys7515 October 1st I have a plan set to leave. I just pray he doesn’t find out before then. Please keep this stranger in your thoughts or prayers or whatever you believe in. I can do this.. things will work out. My son and I deserve so much more!
They will never change its kind of impossible some one can change if he accept that he have to change in order to become a better person but if some one is already 100% perfect how he or she can change ? Hopefully you got the point they can’t change because in there head they are perfectly fine !! The only way to deal with them is accept them as they are and pray for them ! focus on healing once you will heal you don’t need them any more you need to accept the reality your relationship was just a fantasy nothing more or less it was a big scam accept your loss and move on for good!!
Just saw this and totally agree, why would someone change when they're never wrong about anything. With good looks they just move on easily to the next poor person.
I’ve suffered that type of severe loss and pain that makes you want to change your life. I knew I never want to feel this way again. I immersed myself into an awakening to discover, reflect and change. Listening to you explain everything definitely opened my eyes to having unknown subconscious narcissistic tendencies. I am ready to “walk through that storm” because I know the other side is beautiful and peaceful
I was one where I felt with certain ones I "fell for" oh I think otherwise, I feel these ones can change. Just realized recently, if a person is not my assignment to help them; it's not my place trying to do so. You can only help one who wants help. One told me how no one can change him not even his momma. The thing is I never tried changing him, I wanted him to realize for his self on how he could make better life decisions to better himself to help bring forth change. I'm choosing to step back & release it. He even said he tried keeping his distance from me I guess because I was one who wanted better for him lol smh like it makes zero sense. He wanted to distance his self from me because he didn't want to change.
There’s also the fact that people won’t see your change. People will only see you the way they want that fits their narrative. I was raise by a very dysfunctional family, I knew nothing different and I developed traits and became very emotionally numb. I decided to go seek help back in 2013, I had what I called a breakthrough in January 2019, but I have continued to self reflect and take input, but the input goes through a process and if at the end I see there’s something there then I address it. One thing to keep in mind is that people don’t know what they don’t know till they know it. Healing is painful, you basically have to rebuild yourself. My therapist called it peeling me like a onion, I called it deleting all the corrupt file and inputting healthy file and installing fire walls.
The people around the narcisist will usually encourage their bad behavior, sometimes even using peer pressure. And because they don't already have an identity of their own, they'll do these things just to impress others. If you take a good look, a lot of the people they associate themselves with are unhealthy and unhappy too. Misery loves company.
Agreed, my ex's friends are all guys who think marriage is a joke...they all go to bars every 2 days and all hangout super late. He has this group of friends for years, they stick to each other....it is very strange
@@adamoart211 oh yeah lol 😂 they can eventually marry each other and build a home cuz I see that's where their loyalty lies. To be realistic though, if they don't care having a wife or like my ex doesn't commit to his own child, I bet they would truly care about each other, all are doing a collateral damage to each other.....very depressing. The best thing is just get away from negative ppl, life is short!
Another great video and really validating and comforting to hear. You are 100% right that the mental energy and effort required to change and take accountability for your stuff is HUGE. I started on my therapy journey about 18 months ago and the last 12 have been dealing with my narcissistic mother’s impact on me. OH BOY, the exhaustion of going through this is beyond what I could have imagined and I now see why when friends got my mum into therapy when she lost her husband, my dad, she went for 2 sessions and then announced “I’m fixed” and never went again. I guess it’s true what my therapist says that no one knows if narcissists could change with therapy as they never stay in it long enough!
Wow that is a testimony @Dartmoo Paul I can relate because my mom will never go and that is the reality of my situation with my mom and brothers and sisters all her flying monkeys 🙈 who keep on enabling her behavior and my youngest brother who has no idea and all the others who have no clue 🕵️♀️ the affect she had on all of them and my dad and her separated years ago ! He was a Alcoholi in denial who got sick because of his behaviors after she left him and he passed away! And she is been a widower for years and is still refusing treatment! I tried years ago and she didn’t want to go because she thought it would mean she was crazy ect ! But she was abused by step mom and my dad and that a huge effect on her mental health and I tried to get her to go many many many years ago ! When I was younger All these years and I watched her manipulate all the other grown adults with kids and grandkids and she using them as her flying monkeys 🙈 and they have gone against me and they do it to thier kids and is a vicious cycle 🔁 of narcissistic abuse and I stay to myself but every time I try to go around her because she is 81 and she doesn’t know what to do and none of them will help her get help and they sweep 🧹 it under the rug and they themselves have the same denial with themselves! I’m the scapegoat the black sheep 🐑 because I wonder 💭 off and have been on my spiritual path and I’m still struggling with certain areas in my life attracting women females friends and relationships and have been working on myself and it hasn’t been easy and I know that I need to go to therapy and I have to understand that that if I go and get better ❤️🩹 that they will never 👎 get better ❤️🩹 because they all in denial something that she is enabling them to do and they go along with it spreading it to thier children and grandchildren!! Trust me I see it clearly but they have no clue 🕵️♀️ yet or they know and don’t want to do the work!!
That was my biggest thing... I had been in therapy for a year BEFORE THE covert. And it felt like (and thankfully I recognized it and caught myself after 8 months) I was reverting back to my old ways and losing all of the work I had done. I had struggled with sobriety in the past. And found myself slipping back into that as a coping mechanism for the abuse. I'm not blaming her at all for relapsing... My drinking is all on me. I forgot the the healthy coping skills I had learned throughout the process. Which is easy to do.
At least you recognize that you are using those coping mechanisms to not feel the pain of being hurt and why you are doing it and least you are aware of it and now can work on it ! I can see why I use nicotine for years or toxic relationships friends other narcissistic relationships that use alcohol 🍷 to cope and I don’t drink anymore but they are using other behaviors to cope and enable the narcissist who may have other things they do like alcohol, sex ect ! I have a long way to go but I acknowledge and accept my role in it and I’m willing to do the work to get better ❤️🩹 so I can get better and not have to be caught up in these situations with people who have no idea 🤷♀️ and refuse to get help and never ever giong to get help because they are in big denial and are not willing or wanting to change or even acknowledge it ! 😮😮❤❤❤
Thanks Stephanie, wonderful as always. I think you're right about suffering needing to be strong enough for a person to see motivation for change, which means it almost never happens voluntarily. My own greatest personal change, 30 years ago, was totally unexpected and out of the blue. Not at all something I signed up for voluntarily, but as you said I could absolutely not ignore it. I realise very seriously that I had to deal with things and reconstruct myself plank by plank day by day to a new, more solid and healthy version of myself. I also like what you said about thinking an ex partner's changed but you're also continuing to change yourself. I think that's also spot-on. Thanks again.
11:20 is so important to remind yourself off.... all the time 😮💨😉 What you see/hear on social media is not the full picture 👏👏 Thank you Stephanie 🌸💗🌸
I love your vids, Stephanie! fyi- It seems like you're using a new mic and the volume is really low compared to old vids (I have it turned up to 100% on my end).
Leaving my bf becuz of this....he refuses, was blatant enuf to say this..."I am 62 years old and I am not going to change! Talk about learning a sad/painful but VERY helpful, lesson!!! Sooo narcissistic!👋
Good stuff, important subject and to be discussed like this in a constructive building towards a better understanding I think is a great way to go because it gives people some ability to avoid some life traps! 💪🏼 It’s not just in relationships too but in life in general because you are going to deal with Narcissism from all different directions not just a potential primary partner. That being said I go by what I believe Freud put forth that Narcissism is something we all develop at some point but people have an inclination to work through it as a phase, and the ones that don’t that’s when it becomes a serious personality disorder. I think that’s what you have to kind of feel out and determine from other people.
A narcissist will never change. A person has to realize that they have a problem before they can change. With the narcissist everything is always someone else's fault, they are perfect. People that think they're perfect don't change. PS. A narcissist will pretend to change until they find a new victim, but they will never change. They can't change, narcissistic personality is a mental disorder, it's like asking someone that has schizophrenia or bipolar to change. It's not possible, a lot of it is actually in their genetics, I looked all this stuff up. There is treatment if you can get them to go by some miracle, but it's not very effective and there is no cure. They don't even have medication for it. Once a narcissist always a narcissist.
God ,all these ads would turn one off what are brilliant videos.they will never change, from what I've seen they get worse,as more people eventually see what they really are.
After 8 years of being together.. almost 3 of those married with a 2 year old child, my narcissist concluded we don’t click, don’t share the same hobbies and simply just “looked good” together. They will do ANYTHING to enable their awful behavior and discard their supply once held accountable for their $hit behaviors. Thanks be to the freedom!
I couldn’t ever be upset if they changed for the next. Cause my love is genuine, I only wanted better for you even if it wasn’t with me. A better you is for you.
I think it's normal to feel hurt for when they change for the next. It's only natural. But a healthy person will work on moving forward in a healthy way and realistically that will be a process not instantaneous.
@@blueseptember2174 You’re allowed that hurt. In my situation I was with the Narcissist for 12 years and married 4 of them 12 years. Did it hurt to see her move on yes indeed. But her happiness truly mattered to me. So if what made her happy and gave her growth in life wasn’t me. I am self-less enough to give her that.
Omfg! I am in crisis mode and wish I had someone to talk to. I told my narcissist BF to leave after 6 years. He still lives in my house and says he can't move because he is broke. He wants to free load until he can find another supply. He hasn't paid rent, he hasn't paid electric bills and he talks to his new supply every night while I am home. Omg! Thus pain is horrendous. It's my house his name is not on the lease.
Hey Stephanie if you happen to see this, I love to see you do more videos also on narcissistic friends and families ,and how to deal and handle them as well with also being manipulative, vindictive and also more examples on responding vs reacting, to any kind of narcissist..I hear so many coaches making more video's about like dating relationships, but not too much on friends as family as well... And I love to learn more about family & friends, I seem to have some narcissist family, and a friend I'm slowly now finally starting to cut off slowly I can't deal with her anymore, she is constantly trying to put on guilt trips & manipulative, example this past summer she brought up my birthday from a yr or 2 ago, she goes remember that one b'day when I kept asking what you we're doing, & you said you were going out with your son and you kept asking me why do I keep asking you what you we're doing, we'll you hurt my feelings I had a cake I made for you, & I wanted to surprise you, and i was gonna take you out to dinner..she kept saying so that really hurt my feelings..which remind you she never even said anything at that time about a cake or taking me out.. but she's always bringing up something.. she brought over meatballs the one day, she first said she didn't have enough for everyone then said you & your mom can share them, in this little tiny container, but I said ok ..but then she tells my mom ya I told her to share them with you but she said she was gonna hide them from you,but I told her no you can't do that, that's rude 🤦.. Like what hell I never even said that.... The same day she brought over the meatballs, she asked me the day before if her and her son could stop by I said ya sometime tomorrow, the next day she messaged me & she said call me I told her I just got up not too long ago, and I was drinking my coffee and watching my soap soon, and I told her if she plan on still coming over it wouldn't be for a little bit, and I was also waiting on my towels to get down so I could take a shower.. She text back not to long after & said before your shower call me we might be going to the water park, and we're gonna be creamed and wet, when I called her a hour later, she brought up about me going I told her no, she was going we'll why not, we can sit in the sun & so on , I said I don't want to go so she's going on how I'm like her mother, & I should of told her sooner,& should of called her when she asked me to, and now her son was basically missing out well looks like we're not going anywhere 🤦🤨🙄🤔🙃.. I said it's not even that late you & your son can still go , she goes yeah but I want you to go too.. one time she asked me to send her a pic and I said no, she said stop acting like a bitch and said me a pic telling me I'm being difficult, & OMG it's just a pic I don't know why you can't send one.. ya she's to much.. I knew her for a very long time but stopped talking to her at times , but now I want to be done.. seems like she's getting worse as the time goes on..
My ex once said that I was 95% responsible for all the problems in our marriage. She also said, while shaking her head in disgust not long before I left, "Why are you so unhappy?" She couldn't conceive that she was the source of my misery. I was nearly destroyed. The day I walked out, I said, "I never had a chance with you. You wanted an amalgam of your father, John Wayne, Cary Grant, Jack Lord, Michael Landon, and all the other movie stars you have your high-school girl crush on, and all you got was me. She said nothing - didn't even deny this reality. She has since convinced our four children that I am a demon, and they will have nothing to do with me. God's grace sustains me, and I'm happy most of the time now.
Why am I labeled a narcissist be cause I risked my overall health..finances in an attempt to give my ex gf a better home to live in... which successfully got her a sweet equity loan to help pay off debt. All I wanted was recognition..gratitude and to say hey..even with multiple life threatening illnesses you pulled off a miracle..thank you..instead..I was labeled a freeloading narcissist.....and people wonder why I behave like a feral cat
Wow that's ironic I said all of this to my ex boyfriend. I sound exactly like you. I do think he's narcissistic, and I have two Psychology Degrees so I guess it makes sense that I said the same things as you.
I changed. When you hit rock bottom and there's nobody left to lend you a hand and you're forced to face your demons alone, you have no choice to change. Also, when all the bad things you did without empathy happens to you and you feel how horrible it feels, you never do it again.
@@blueseptember2174 It's amazing what can happen when you have to look at yourself and realize your the only one to blame. It's like having a spiritual awakening. You can literally feel the moment of change.
it's a good video - here is another point of view: you shouldn't try to change yourself, because you don't know what you are doing. if you use your will, you don't really know the source of that will. on the other hand if you surrender yourself to God, then you can go ahead and be yourself, and let God change you from within - because he knows what he is doing, and can gradually bring you to awareness and change your content. he can do this for instance, by making you feel and be aware of the effect your actions have on other people - so that you actually feel the effect that your actions have on them - if you decide that you want to be a good person, and you are submissive, then God will always guide you to follow your good character, and in that process you become aware of not going with your bad character, and also with not going with the lower forces that reside within your being. thru fasting every year you can become more aware of who you actually are, and what forces within you are influencing you, while at the same time being purified of what is out of place within you, and becoming more you... :)
It's a bitch to get through but but going g through the storm will be the best thingnto ever happen to you.. make no mistake were calling it a storm for a reason! It sucks but it's worth it
I have a hard time when I text this guy im dating, and he doesn't text back in a reasonable time, I blow up and go after him in a text or a phone call. I thought something was wrong with me, but I don't do that to other people, just him.
I have a hard time when I text my mother. She doesn't text back. Mom is just her name. Her name is mom and she is just like other people that don't text back or don't respond very often. I just try to cut back reaching out to her. I try not to think about her as my mother. Reduce my expectations. I have a friend that does respond to me. You blow up and go after him. Go after someone else that does respond to you. You have expectations of him bc you consider him your boyfriend. He isn't acting the way you would like your partner to act. Keep dating around until you find someone who does.
thank you.i think i am a narcissist and my daughter too.i guess i'm at fault for that too.I am drawing closer to God as much as i can.she yells and says i don't own it when sometime i don't see the problem.i feel totally gaslighted and drained.i know a lot of what she says is true but she uses it against me.i am trying. but i am enabling since my wife died.almost 8 years.i'm so stuck.
Enablers are just as bad.....they help nothing. If folks didn't have enablers to contribute to their lies and destruction...enablers are a big problem....but who knows what they even tell or withhold from their enablers.... Enablers ....stay out of the way of a marriage couple that need to work on their own issues..... just focus on your own self and marriage. If one isn't going to do anything to make things better between a marriage couple, JUST STAY OUT OF IT, and don't enable one to abuse their spouse by enabling their toxic pattern of behavior.
It can be both. P@rn addiction is rampant with narcissistic individuals. That and substance abuse can actually make them more selfish and unempathetic.
The most difficult and rewarding thing to do. I refuse to stop praying for her. Not for my sake. For hers. Can't go back. I can and will pray. God bless
What about this 10-day silence course, it changed my life. I could see stuff i never looked at before. I wonder if this could enable a narcissist to see clearly all the way back to birth.?
Name any behavior that any human being posses, whether its considered "good" or "bad" behavior. For example, an empath. Why doesn't an empath stop blaming others for how they feel when they are the ones who controls how they feel. Always trying to blame others or force others to be nice to them because they cant control their own feelings. Why don't they stop doing that? This example can be spread equally across all other behaviors. It's not the narcissists that's the problem. It's the human
100% Spot on!! They are not capable of change at all. Too much work and too lazy. My ex wife cheated the whole 24 years we were together. All learned from her serial cheating mother and grandmother. That’s why I am teaching my son and daughter healthy boundaries. They understand what their mother is as she was bringing her AP into our house and not even hiding the fact she was cheating. She is now married to her AP who himself is a serial cheater. My kids want no part of either of them but with 50/50 there is nothing I can do as that is my ex wife’s way to punish me for divorcing her. I only have one question, how long do two narcissists last together? I ask for the kids sake.
I DONT CARE: * U go into a place, they change probably cartells * Never put 50 box of petrol into the car * So u have to come back, cuz u have not anymore money * So in a water park, they break the balls while u do xxxx * Near another state, u hear high voices while u xxxx * They are just figures of xxxx and xxxx
SO VOLPI (the devil?? EYWA in Ebrew= persecuted from church) SAYS: * The Mallory is MINE at high volume voice, like screaming (controll the voice, it's unhuman) * Mallory is for/under church that controlls cartells... a surplus and destroy the Devil's reign * But she's/was Mallory?? how can it be.. one walking demon is one demon, cant be 2 demons SO IT MEANS THAT TO CHANGE MALLORY: * One of the some of her child make someone pregnant * That one was my doughter (ohhh, little Charlie) * Transform into some= Satanism?? "I Renounce to LOYALTY long time ago", one of the carachteristics of God/Michael in Ebrew religion * If Volpi is the death, but she was Mallory?? Who has become it, "MALLORY" PUGH?? SO BY DEFINITION MORGAN SCREWED ME (SOSIA... and deep inside she loves NIGGA cuz for definition all a trap zone and arabs/dark color/satanism/demons color and clips/movies/proves= politic adoptions) And "I DID THE MAGIC TO MAKE HIM BECOME CRAZY"... and the other pestiferous telling her "Came on, she's her, she's crazy" and a kick in the axx (It's ur doughter, she's with the son of xxxxxxxx/Eminem??, she's a huge xxxxx, do the first thing she pass into her mind/satanism) * So that jackaxx put someone of my children pregnant?? Or someone else... (better take it in the axx, controll who was beside Checkik Adriana), and they've killed the sister?? In this way they change Mallory and Satan again?? * I know that they want to be WANDA NA RA and I CAR DI = translated= a dumbaxx succubus of a narcissist PS: * DONT TELL/REVEAL THAT LEGA NORD WAS UNDER ARABS * CUZ THEY ALL ADMIT/TESTIMONY THAT THEY ALL SELL SOME UNLEGAL * AND THEY WERE ALL NAZI, MORE OR LESS AND THEY ALWAYS FIND THE SOLUTION= TRANSLATED= THEY KNOW IT ALL... THE SYSTEM FINISH THE FIGURE OF SHXX, NOW
Narcissist's are in an exclusive relationship with themselves the best they can offer you is a situationship. They are more interested in changing you than themselves. Take your focus off them and focus on making the necessary changes in your own life that can bring you a little more peace and happiness.🕊
On point
My ex said he liked that I was quiet and calm and not " bubbly" and in your face, but then he started subtly trying to change me, to " get me out of my shell" him and his mom and grandma, his grandma met me ONCE and asked me I'd I ever had professional help, because I was so QUIET, like what !?!??! I'm respectful, and quiet because I am shy, and you people are so judgemental, and I speak when I am sure of something, and my ex then stated how he hates how shy I was ans how quiet I was... he hated that I was a introvert.
Yeah exactly, they can't love or just love themselves. They are senseless, pretty scary. I am divorcing now after 4 years, have to run for my life, this is not a marriage. He doesn't even feed or put a roof over his own child, very disturbing!
@@sukma5277 Thank you, keep well.👍🙂
@@serenamoon248 Narcissists are insensitive to other's feelings then they turn things around and say that you are too sensitive. My youngest son is very talented in many things and quiet natured but his covert grandmother on his father's side would only talk about how quiet he was like there was something wrong with him. Narcissists are fault finder's they will make a mountain out of a molehill to create trouble. I can relate to what you have said, take care.🌻
People change when the pain not to change exceeds the pain to change.
I had narcissistic tendencies. Along came a moment of truth where I asked myself why I'm not leading the life which I have always dreamt of. Instead of blaming others this time I blamed myself and BOOM my life changed. I hate my previous self
They turn you into something you don't like over time with gaslighting and reactive abuse
Yep deeeeeep pain was the trigger for inner work for me. I’m glad I opened that door in on myself 😍
Now it’s a never ending growth cycle of self reflection, self awareness and self love.
I believe they are hard wired to be that way. Asking them to change is like putting a CD into a toaster and expecting it to start playing music.
Spot on.
Once NPD sets in and the narcissist atrophies, a process I call “crystallization of the behavioral patterns” of a narcissist”prevents the narcissist from changing unless serious, constant and unflagging inner work to change is required which the narcissist is generally not willing to do!
I myself have dealt with a narcissist In the past and I'm so glad that relationship was over years ago I tried so many things and literally nothing seemed to work a 100% eventually I found a church that was in my area of downtown Orlando Florida gave my life to Christ and lived for Christ and from there forward began to live my life for God and change my lifestyle Everything that needed to work out from then on did work out and I got to even see certain spiritual aspects of this past relationship as to why this person was being affected by this evil spirit it was demonic things going on in that household (Gods word says if you go to Christ he will show you things you've never known. Narcissism is demonic overall it's so crazy and yet amazing on how every bad thing is tied to an evil spirit some way somehow and even more amazing that it's covered in The Bible God really does look out for us even from before to now if I had to give anyone advice after reading this I would say find a local Bible based church And start going doesn't matter where you're at doesn't matter what you know literally everyone's welcome come as you are make sure you pray every day and ask God to show you himself In your life somehow He will begin to show you things more and more as you get closer to him as his holy word says draw near to me and I will draw near to you, we have to take that step. Later on in life after one more failed relationship I learned a few more lessons got closer to God throughout that process and he actually brought someone that was Divinely orchestrated by him Into my life it's hard to explain but trust what I'm saying it makes sense as you get closer to him. It's like the gym you don't just walk in there and bench 250 pounds it's discipline in different areas and consistency same thing with God that's how you grow in him and he reveals things to you he talks to you, he talks to his creation he loves us. I pray Whoever finds this message that it finds you well and that God Almighty protect you and bless you and reveal all truth to you if you choose to follow him and decide to discover the real truth and meaning of life In Jesus Christ's name Amen!🙏🏼🔥🕊✝️💪🏼
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I guarantee they will never change. In the three wasted years with mine she was two faced and just improved her skills in lying and cheating
@3:45 spot on “I’m not the problem, you are… It’s way easier to flip things and put it on someone else”
“ I like to be around people that will tolerate & enable my behaviour …”
A relationship with a narcissist is nothing short of a hostage situation, in which you (the victim) are being forced to surrender your autonomy on pain of death or destruction. With the distress that narcissists put you through, it is utterly impossible for them to change. The former narcissist in my life six years ago has not changed for the better one bit, but deteriorated in fact, harassing my buddies for casual sex and also physically, sexually and emotionally abusing others.
There’s no way these toxic narcs will change. My ex has had strings of beautiful empathic women, and it’s worked out very well for him so far. He just moves on. No self reflection at all. He’s been enabled all his life. Everything was my fault and he discarded me after 3 years. He will never change.
Similar to mine ex, she's beautiful so is never without, even though it'll inevitably end the next victim isn't far away.
@@JohnSmith-wo7ns That is what narcissists do 😂they go to their next supply of enablers!
My narcissistic friend is so brave. He is working on himself, becoming selfaware and has asked for therapy. I am so proud of him and he is one of my best buddies. He IS the proof that all people can change when they really want to. Love him to pieces!❤
I’m so thankful for stepping into the storm of this change. Accountability is a gem💪🏼 I’ve learned so much about myself.
Me too❤️❤️
Same here 🍃
It is so hard!!! I’m in the depression part. I thought I’d be learning how to leave my narcissistic husband. But going to trauma therapy is opening such deep wounds that I didn’t even know. Battling that on top of my narcissist.. I feel like I have nothing left and I am taking steps to leave him. When does this ease!? Struggling soooooo much.
@@barrys7515 October 1st I have a plan set to leave. I just pray he doesn’t find out before then. Please keep this stranger in your thoughts or prayers or whatever you believe in. I can do this.. things will work out. My son and I deserve so much more!
Hope you're doing ok Amy.
They will never change its kind of impossible some one can change if he accept that he have to change in order to become a better person but if some one is already 100% perfect how he or she can change ?
Hopefully you got the point they can’t change because in there head they are perfectly fine !! The only way to deal with them is accept them as they are and pray for them ! focus on healing once you will heal you don’t need them any more you need to accept the reality your relationship was just a fantasy nothing more or less it was a big scam accept your loss and move on for good!!
Just saw this and totally agree, why would someone change when they're never wrong about anything. With good looks they just move on easily to the next poor person.
@EXPOSED. Algerian satanic narcissist. Bilal lakama I agree, if they really want it. Most dont, too much hard work. Easier to move on to a new victim.
I’ve suffered that type of severe loss and pain that makes you want to change your life. I knew I never want to feel this way again. I immersed myself into an awakening to discover, reflect and change. Listening to you explain everything definitely opened my eyes to having unknown subconscious narcissistic tendencies. I am ready to “walk through that storm” because I know the other side is beautiful and peaceful
I was one where I felt with certain ones I "fell for" oh I think otherwise, I feel these ones can change. Just realized recently, if a person is not my assignment to help them; it's not my place trying to do so. You can only help one who wants help. One told me how no one can change him not even his momma. The thing is I never tried changing him, I wanted him to realize for his self on how he could make better life decisions to better himself to help bring forth change. I'm choosing to step back & release it. He even said he tried keeping his distance from me I guess because I was one who wanted better for him lol smh like it makes zero sense. He wanted to distance his self from me because he didn't want to change.
There’s also the fact that people won’t see your change. People will only see you the way they want that fits their narrative. I was raise by a very dysfunctional family, I knew nothing different and I developed traits and became very emotionally numb. I decided to go seek help back in 2013, I had what I called a breakthrough in January 2019, but I have continued to self reflect and take input, but the input goes through a process and if at the end I see there’s something there then I address it. One thing to keep in mind is that people don’t know what they don’t know till they know it. Healing is painful, you basically have to rebuild yourself. My therapist called it peeling me like a onion, I called it deleting all the corrupt file and inputting healthy file and installing fire walls.
Thank you for guiding us all through this demented world..hope you have a great day ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
The decision is such a deep amazing process. It does take work but emotional excavation is, just as it seems, a very deep process.
This is like a gift for me , right on time . Thank you 🙏
The people around the narcisist will usually encourage their bad behavior, sometimes even using peer pressure. And because they don't already have an identity of their own, they'll do these things just to impress others. If you take a good look, a lot of the people they associate themselves with are unhealthy and unhappy too. Misery loves company.
Agreed, my ex's friends are all guys who think marriage is a joke...they all go to bars every 2 days and all hangout super late. He has this group of friends for years, they stick to each other....it is very strange
@@zullmiramajid475 I'll bet they were all single, and saw that he had something good going for him that they didn't
@@adamoart211 yup! OmG you nailed it!! Bad influences are real!
@@zullmiramajid475 hahaha! I hope those "friends" of your ex were worth it LOL!
@@adamoart211 oh yeah lol 😂 they can eventually marry each other and build a home cuz I see that's where their loyalty lies. To be realistic though, if they don't care having a wife or like my ex doesn't commit to his own child, I bet they would truly care about each other, all are doing a collateral damage to each other.....very depressing. The best thing is just get away from negative ppl, life is short!
Man this was so damn well said. Everything about this was perfect
Another great video and really validating and comforting to hear. You are 100% right that the mental energy and effort required to change and take accountability for your stuff is HUGE. I started on my therapy journey about 18 months ago and the last 12 have been dealing with my narcissistic mother’s impact on me.
OH BOY, the exhaustion of going through this is beyond what I could have imagined and I now see why when friends got my mum into therapy when she lost her husband, my dad, she went for 2 sessions and then announced “I’m fixed” and never went again. I guess it’s true what my therapist says that no one knows if narcissists could change with therapy as they never stay in it long enough!
Wow that is a testimony @Dartmoo Paul I can relate because my mom will never go and that is the reality of my situation with my mom and brothers and sisters all her flying monkeys 🙈 who keep on enabling her behavior and my youngest brother who has no idea and all the others who have no clue 🕵️♀️ the affect she had on all of them and my dad and her separated years ago ! He was a Alcoholi in denial who got sick because of his behaviors after she left him and he passed away! And she is been a widower for years and is still refusing treatment! I tried years ago and she didn’t want to go because she thought it would mean she was crazy ect ! But she was abused by step mom and my dad and that a huge effect on her mental health and I tried to get her to go many many many years ago ! When I was younger All these years and I watched her manipulate all the other grown adults with kids and grandkids and she using them as her flying monkeys 🙈 and they have gone against me and they do it to thier kids and is a vicious cycle 🔁 of narcissistic abuse and I stay to myself but every time I try to go around her because she is 81 and she doesn’t know what to do and none of them will help her get help and they sweep 🧹 it under the rug and they themselves have the same denial with themselves! I’m the scapegoat the black sheep 🐑 because I wonder 💭 off and have been on my spiritual path and I’m still struggling with certain areas in my life attracting women females friends and relationships and have been working on myself and it hasn’t been easy and I know that I need to go to therapy and I have to understand that that if I go and get better ❤️🩹 that they will never 👎 get better ❤️🩹 because they all in denial something that she is enabling them to do and they go along with it spreading it to thier children and grandchildren!! Trust me I see it clearly but they have no clue 🕵️♀️ yet or they know and don’t want to do the work!!
That was my biggest thing... I had been in therapy for a year BEFORE THE covert. And it felt like (and thankfully I recognized it and caught myself after 8 months) I was reverting back to my old ways and losing all of the work I had done. I had struggled with sobriety in the past. And found myself slipping back into that as a coping mechanism for the abuse. I'm not blaming her at all for relapsing... My drinking is all on me. I forgot the the healthy coping skills I had learned throughout the process. Which is easy to do.
At least you recognize that you are using those coping mechanisms to not feel the pain of being hurt and why you are doing it and least you are aware of it and now can work on it ! I can see why I use nicotine for years or toxic relationships friends other narcissistic relationships that use alcohol 🍷 to cope and I don’t drink anymore but they are using other behaviors to cope and enable the narcissist who may have other things they do like alcohol, sex ect ! I have a long way to go but I acknowledge and accept my role in it and I’m willing to do the work to get better ❤️🩹 so I can get better and not have to be caught up in these situations with people who have no idea 🤷♀️ and refuse to get help and never ever giong to get help because they are in big denial and are not willing or wanting to change or even acknowledge it ! 😮😮❤❤❤
Thanks Stephanie, wonderful as always.
I think you're right about suffering needing to be strong enough for a person to see motivation for change, which means it almost never happens voluntarily. My own greatest personal change, 30 years ago, was totally unexpected and out of the blue. Not at all something I signed up for voluntarily, but as you said I could absolutely not ignore it. I realise very seriously that I had to deal with things and reconstruct myself plank by plank day by day to a new, more solid and healthy version of myself.
I also like what you said about thinking an ex partner's changed but you're also continuing to change yourself. I think that's also spot-on. Thanks again.
Never works when they put themselves first.
11:20 is so important to remind yourself off.... all the time 😮💨😉
What you see/hear on social media is not the full picture 👏👏
Thank you Stephanie 🌸💗🌸
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This is gold. Good job!
thanks for the free coaching Steph.
Your BEST video!!!! Thank you for ALL this❤
This is the best video on roll enablers play in sabotaging the growth within your relationship with the narcissist
Leaving my bf becuz of this....he refuses, was blatant enuf to say this..."I am 62 years old and I am not going to change! Talk about learning a sad/painful but VERY helpful, lesson!!! Sooo narcissistic!👋
I'm so glad about this video. Really give me clarity and peace of mind
You brought the heat in this video. Thank you so much, you're amazing. Much love and respect. 🖤
Good stuff, important subject and to be discussed like this in a constructive building towards a better understanding I think is a great way to go because it gives people some ability to avoid some life traps! 💪🏼 It’s not just in relationships too but in life in general because you are going to deal with Narcissism from all different directions not just a potential primary partner. That being said I go by what I believe Freud put forth that Narcissism is something we all develop at some point but people have an inclination to work through it as a phase, and the ones that don’t that’s when it becomes a serious personality disorder. I think that’s what you have to kind of feel out and determine from other people.
Stephanie, pleasure to listen you. Good arguments and points, appreciate you time and effort.
It would be impossible for my ex to change, in 13 years she was never wrong so never apologised. With her it was always the man's fault.
Same here.
Sounds like my soon to be ex-wife. Doesn't even believe her affair and leaving me for the other guy is wrong at all. She's never been wrong ever.
@@JoeVolz they can always justify their actions. Even though to regional people it makes no sense whatsoever. They are just impossible people.
A narcissist will never change. A person has to realize that they have a problem before they can change. With the narcissist everything is always someone else's fault, they are perfect. People that think they're perfect don't change.
PS. A narcissist will pretend to change until they find a new victim, but they will never change. They can't change, narcissistic personality is a mental disorder, it's like asking someone that has schizophrenia or bipolar to change. It's not possible, a lot of it is actually in their genetics, I looked all this stuff up. There is treatment if you can get them to go by some miracle, but it's not very effective and there is no cure. They don't even have medication for it. Once a narcissist always a narcissist.
God ,all these ads would turn one off what are brilliant videos.they will never change, from what I've seen they get worse,as more people eventually see what they really are.
Beautiful explanation. I def needed to see this
After 8 years of being together.. almost 3 of those married with a 2 year old child, my narcissist concluded we don’t click, don’t share the same hobbies and simply just “looked good” together. They will do ANYTHING to enable their awful behavior and discard their supply once held accountable for their $hit behaviors. Thanks be to the freedom!
I couldn’t ever be upset if they changed for the next. Cause my love is genuine, I only wanted better for you even if it wasn’t with me. A better you is for you.
I think it's normal to feel hurt for when they change for the next. It's only natural. But a healthy person will work on moving forward in a healthy way and realistically that will be a process not instantaneous.
@@blueseptember2174 You’re allowed that hurt. In my situation I was with the Narcissist for 12 years and married 4 of them 12 years. Did it hurt to see her move on yes indeed. But her happiness truly mattered to me. So if what made her happy and gave her growth in life wasn’t me. I am self-less enough to give her that.
Omfg! I am in crisis mode and wish I had someone to talk to. I told my narcissist BF to leave after 6 years. He still lives in my house and says he can't move because he is broke. He wants to free load until he can find another supply. He hasn't paid rent, he hasn't paid electric bills and he talks to his new supply every night while I am home. Omg! Thus pain is horrendous. It's my house his name is not on the lease.
Sounds like hell.
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Hey Stephanie
if you happen to see this, I love to see you do more videos also on narcissistic friends and families ,and how to deal and handle them as well with also being manipulative, vindictive and also more examples on responding vs reacting, to any kind of narcissist..I hear so many coaches making more video's about like dating relationships, but not too much on friends as family as well...
And I love to learn more about family & friends, I seem to have some narcissist family, and a friend I'm slowly now finally starting to cut off slowly I can't deal with her anymore, she is constantly trying to put on guilt trips & manipulative, example this past summer she brought up my birthday from a yr or 2 ago, she goes remember that one b'day when I kept asking what you we're doing, & you said you were going out with your son and you kept asking me why do I keep asking you what you we're doing, we'll you hurt my feelings I had a cake I made for you, & I wanted to surprise you, and i was gonna take you out to dinner..she kept saying so that really hurt my feelings..which remind you she never even said anything at that time about a cake or taking me out..
but she's always bringing up something.. she brought over meatballs the one day, she first said she didn't have enough for everyone then said you & your mom can share them, in this little tiny container, but I said ok ..but then she tells my mom ya I told her to share them with you but she said she was gonna hide them from you,but I told her no you can't do that, that's rude 🤦..
Like what hell I never even said that.... The same day she brought over the meatballs, she asked me the day before if her and her son could stop by I said ya sometime tomorrow, the next day she messaged me & she said call me I told her I just got up not too long ago, and I was drinking my coffee and watching my soap soon, and I told her if she plan on still coming over it wouldn't be for a little bit, and I was also waiting on my towels to get down so I could take a shower..
She text back not to long after & said before your shower call me we might be going to the water park, and we're gonna be creamed and wet, when I called her a hour later, she brought up about me going I told her no, she was going we'll why not, we can sit in the sun & so on , I said I don't want to go so she's going on how I'm like her mother, & I should of told her sooner,& should of called her when she asked me to, and now her son was basically missing out well looks like we're not going anywhere 🤦🤨🙄🤔🙃.. I said it's not even that late you & your son can still go , she goes yeah but I want you to go too.. one time she asked me to send her a pic and I said no, she said stop acting like a bitch and said me a pic telling me I'm being difficult, & OMG it's just a pic I don't know why you can't send one.. ya she's to much.. I knew her for a very long time but stopped talking to her at times , but now I want to be done.. seems like she's getting worse as the time goes on..
This people never give up
Please turn your volume up, I cannot hear it on 100% volume. I'd rather turn it down that turn it all the way up to barely hear it on my laptop.
Your audio is consistently very low.
Love the content. Thank you for all that you do
Thank you, i really needed this Video!
My ex once said that I was 95% responsible for all the problems in our marriage. She also said, while shaking her head in disgust not long before I left, "Why are you so unhappy?" She couldn't conceive that she was the source of my misery. I was nearly destroyed. The day I walked out, I said, "I never had a chance with you. You wanted an amalgam of your father, John Wayne, Cary Grant, Jack Lord, Michael Landon, and all the other movie stars you have your high-school girl crush on, and all you got was me. She said nothing - didn't even deny this reality. She has since convinced our four children that I am a demon, and they will have nothing to do with me. God's grace sustains me, and I'm happy most of the time now.
As always thank you!!😍
Thanks for the very pertinent content.
Thank you, Stephanie! 💜
Very good and helpful, true video thanks you for this!!
Thank you, I wondered this if its possible.
They actually like who they are .. they can keep that negative energy
Why am I labeled a narcissist be cause I risked my overall health..finances in an attempt to give my ex gf a better home to live in... which successfully got her a sweet equity loan to help pay off debt. All I wanted was recognition..gratitude and to say hey..even with multiple life threatening illnesses you pulled off a miracle..thank you..instead..I was labeled a freeloading narcissist.....and people wonder why I behave like a feral cat
Wow that's ironic I said all of this to my ex boyfriend. I sound exactly like you. I do think he's narcissistic, and I have two Psychology Degrees so I guess it makes sense that I said the same things as you.
I have NEVER known a narcissist to change.
Give them enough time and those narcissist that claims to have changed will reveal his true self.
I have known one! But they worked so hard and continue to do so.
I changed. When you hit rock bottom and there's nobody left to lend you a hand and you're forced to face your demons alone, you have no choice to change. Also, when all the bad things you did without empathy happens to you and you feel how horrible it feels, you never do it again.
@@SuperSuperman1976 amazing. I'm very happy for you that you got to turn it around.
@@blueseptember2174 It's amazing what can happen when you have to look at yourself and realize your the only one to blame. It's like having a spiritual awakening. You can literally feel the moment of change.
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it's a good video - here is another point of view: you shouldn't try to change yourself, because you don't know what you are doing. if you use your will, you don't really know the source of that will. on the other hand if you surrender yourself to God, then you can go ahead and be yourself, and let God change you from within - because he knows what he is doing, and can gradually bring you to awareness and change your content. he can do this for instance, by making you feel and be aware of the effect your actions have on other people - so that you actually feel the effect that your actions have on them - if you decide that you want to be a good person, and you are submissive, then God will always guide you to follow your good character, and in that process you become aware of not going with your bad character, and also with not going with the lower forces that reside within your being. thru fasting every year you can become more aware of who you actually are, and what forces within you are influencing you, while at the same time being purified of what is out of place within you, and becoming more you... :)
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I appreciate you making theses videos thanks 😊 🙏
It's a bitch to get through but but going g through the storm will be the best thingnto ever happen to you.. make no mistake were calling it a storm for a reason! It sucks but it's worth it
Thanks for the encouraging words
I'd send this to my ex but I won't because I'm going no contact. Good info, and I wish she'd see this.
How come I'm not getting notifications on your channel your helping me with my situation I like your videos
even if you are not a narcissist or know one, there is still something to take from it
Why change when you get whatever they want, narcissistic supply. I honestly think they get a high from being narcissistic.
Yup, sick puppies! 🤢
I am not narcisist! My husband is!
No therapist are calling me back to talk to me at all!
You're so smart
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Thank you🌺
Yep. It's the damnable flying monkeys that are really, really the problem; of course, he is too. I hate them all. 😒
I have a hard time when I text this guy im dating, and he doesn't text back in a reasonable time, I blow up and go after him in a text or a phone call. I thought something was wrong with me, but I don't do that to other people, just him.
U think he’s with someone else ?
I have a hard time when I text my mother. She doesn't text back. Mom is just her name. Her name is mom and she is just like other people that don't text back or don't respond very often. I just try to cut back reaching out to her. I try not to think about her as my mother. Reduce my expectations. I have a friend that does respond to me. You blow up and go after him. Go after someone else that does respond to you. You have expectations of him bc you consider him your boyfriend. He isn't acting the way you would like your partner to act. Keep dating around until you find someone who does.
@@linabeans6328 I don't know, I do know that the relationship is toxic
It is a red flag, leave it while you can. ...
I got like this with my ex but this was after a long time and when she stopped caring.
thank you.i think i am a narcissist and my daughter too.i guess i'm at fault for that too.I am drawing closer to God as much as i can.she yells and says i don't own it when sometime i don't see the problem.i feel totally gaslighted and drained.i know a lot of what she says is true but she uses it against me.i am trying. but i am enabling since my wife died.almost 8 years.i'm so stuck.
Maybe this self awareness can be the start to better things.
Personally, I believe they are not neurologically capable. I believe there are brain and chemical issues going on that manifest as narcissism.
So so so true 👏😘
Enablers are just as bad.....they help nothing. If folks didn't have enablers to contribute to their lies and destruction...enablers are a big problem....but who knows what they even tell or withhold from their enablers....
Enablers ....stay out of the way of a marriage couple that need to work on their own issues..... just focus on your own self and marriage.
If one isn't going to do anything to make things better between a marriage couple, JUST STAY OUT OF IT, and don't enable one to abuse their spouse by enabling their toxic pattern of behavior.
Wow… thought I was with an addict now I’m wondering if I’m just with a narcissist. 😢
It can be both. P@rn addiction is rampant with narcissistic individuals. That and substance abuse can actually make them more selfish and unempathetic.
Hits hard 👊
Right!
Pray for them if you want to win
The most difficult and rewarding thing to do. I refuse to stop praying for her. Not for my sake. For hers. Can't go back. I can and will pray. God bless
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Primal Scream, Arthur Janov.
Great.
What about this 10-day silence course, it changed my life. I could see stuff i never looked at before. I wonder if this could enable a narcissist to see clearly all the way back to birth.?
Expecting a narc to change is like flogging a dead horse.
And they Definitely are not spiritual
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Name any behavior that any human being posses, whether its considered "good" or "bad" behavior.
For example, an empath.
Why doesn't an empath stop blaming others for how they feel when they are the ones who controls how they feel.
Always trying to blame others or force others to be nice to them because they cant control their own feelings.
Why don't they stop doing that?
This example can be spread equally across all other behaviors.
It's not the narcissists that's the problem. It's the human
25th, 30 August 2022
100% Spot on!! They are not capable of change at all. Too much work and too lazy. My ex wife cheated the whole 24 years we were together. All learned from her serial cheating mother and grandmother. That’s why I am teaching my son and daughter healthy boundaries. They understand what their mother is as she was bringing her AP into our house and not even hiding the fact she was cheating. She is now married to her AP who himself is a serial cheater. My kids want no part of either of them but with 50/50 there is nothing I can do as that is my ex wife’s way to punish me for divorcing her.
I only have one question, how long do two narcissists last together? I ask for the kids sake.
I DONT CARE:
* U go into a place, they change probably cartells
* Never put 50 box of petrol into the car
* So u have to come back, cuz u have not anymore money
* So in a water park, they break the balls while u do xxxx
* Near another state, u hear high voices while u xxxx
* They are just figures of xxxx and xxxx
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Thanks again
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SO VOLPI (the devil?? EYWA in Ebrew= persecuted from church) SAYS:
* The Mallory is MINE at high volume voice, like screaming (controll the voice, it's unhuman)
* Mallory is for/under church that controlls cartells... a surplus and destroy the Devil's reign
* But she's/was Mallory?? how can it be.. one walking demon is one demon, cant be 2 demons
SO IT MEANS THAT TO CHANGE MALLORY:
* One of the some of her child make someone pregnant
* That one was my doughter (ohhh, little Charlie)
* Transform into some= Satanism?? "I Renounce to LOYALTY long time ago", one of the carachteristics of God/Michael in Ebrew religion
* If Volpi is the death, but she was Mallory?? Who has become it, "MALLORY" PUGH?? SO BY DEFINITION MORGAN SCREWED ME (SOSIA... and deep inside she loves NIGGA cuz for definition all a trap zone and arabs/dark color/satanism/demons color and clips/movies/proves= politic adoptions)
And "I DID THE MAGIC TO MAKE HIM BECOME CRAZY"... and the other pestiferous telling her "Came on, she's her, she's crazy" and a kick in the axx (It's ur doughter, she's with the son of xxxxxxxx/Eminem??, she's a huge xxxxx, do the first thing she pass into her mind/satanism)
* So that jackaxx put someone of my children pregnant?? Or someone else... (better take it in the axx, controll who was beside Checkik Adriana), and they've killed the sister?? In this way they change Mallory and Satan again??
* I know that they want to be WANDA NA RA and I CAR DI = translated= a dumbaxx succubus of a narcissist
PS:
* DONT TELL/REVEAL THAT LEGA NORD WAS UNDER ARABS
* CUZ THEY ALL ADMIT/TESTIMONY THAT THEY ALL SELL SOME UNLEGAL
* AND THEY WERE ALL NAZI, MORE OR LESS
AND THEY ALWAYS FIND THE SOLUTION= TRANSLATED= THEY KNOW IT ALL... THE SYSTEM
FINISH THE FIGURE OF SHXX, NOW