Opinionated Groom Has A List Of RULES For Wife’s Dress! | Say Yes To The Dress Atlanta
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- Опубліковано 26 лис 2022
- Julianne Poe wants a simple and straightforward dress, but has to worry about appeasing her husband who's set her a list of rules he wants her to follow when choosing her dress!
From season 8 episode 5.
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Sounds like she needs to say “NO” to the groom. Very toxic start to a marriage…
Agree!
It`s a double whammy since his Mother backs him. I don`t blame the bride for wanting to elope, she would have had very little say in the planning & so much drama from his family. She should have said NO to the groom & his toxic Mother.
The groom is an immature idiot!
You are absolutely right!! This is her wedding as well and she has no say in her dress. What the hell!! Girl you need to run!! This is just awful and I believe she will grow to regret not having the wedding to share with her family and friends.
Yes...I see domestic violence in her future. RUN 🏃♂️ from the guy and his mother.
Don't worry Mum you will get to go to her next wedding. I can't imagine a strong girl like this will tolerate a control freak for too long.
That's what I said - "within a few years", this CHILD will grow up enough to assert her own identity and enjoy a real man - not some controlling freak show.
EXACTLY!
@@WhirledPublishing I LOVE THE WAY YOU WORDED THAT
@@Claireannette77 Thank you!
@@Claireannette77 That groom's mother took such pleasure in asserting his insane obsession with control.
if my fiancé tried telling me my mom couldn’t come to my wedding i would’ve laughed and given the ring back immediately
Me too, thousands of ground rules from the groom it would be bye bye from me
Same for the grooms mom
I would show that would husband the door!
Yes, doesn't matter if you elope or not, you can have whoever you want. I'll only marry a man if he is on page with me having a grand princess wedding
@@ScarlettOHara-zn8dn good luck with that
I just asked my dad (who isn’t married to my mom yet) if he cared what my mom would wear on their wedding day. His reply was “She could wear a paper bag and still be the most beautiful woman ever” and I’m like that’s the ONLY correct answer
Sounds like a good time for you to have given your dad a big hug! And you're absolutely right. There is only one correct answer to your question, and your dad gave it to you, apparently straight from the heart.
I mean, men usually like form fitting and skin showing, they really shouldn't have any meaningful "opinions". Preferences and likes? Sure. Rules? NO.
Well his opinion doesn’t matter as he has not married your mom. I don’t agree with the groom, but you should ask to a husband that actually married his wife.
@@e2ndcomingsoon655 who hurt you 😭 not that its your business but my parents have very valid reasons for not being “married”. Lets be honest they are a married couple with kids and a house minus a piece of paper that says so.
@@e2ndcomingsoon655 Who the fuck are you to judge? It doesn't matter bro.
The poor bride eloped to avoid the drama. She didn't realize she was MARRYING the drama.
yup. 👏👏
They should pin this
You can see that her mum hates him and you can totally understand her. Her daughter will come back to her crying after a lot of drama that she was right with her opinion about him. Been there done that, but luckily not married.
LMAO!!! Omg, so true
What do you bet it is the controlling grooms idea to exclude everyone ? RUN
I love her mom.
She's clearly heartbroken but still doesn't want to ruin her daughter's moment.. So thoughtful
Her daughter's a selfish b*@ch for allowing a man to not only control where they get married, what she wears and what she does, but also not allowing her mom to be there?? You can see how heartbroken her poor mother is. Selfish!
She deserves better!!!
I'd ruin my daughter's moment to save her from a lifetime of a miserable marriage.
@@toforgetisagem8145 Exactly!
Her mother should be warning her poor daughter about how many red flags her fiancé is showing.
Absolutely. Ditch him now! 9:07
If I was this bride's mother, I would be devastated she's marrying into such an obnoxious and bullying family
Is this bride too stupid to realise what she's doing.........my dog, unbelievable.
Amei o vestido com pedraria, lindoooo
The groom's "RULES" ARE ALARMING! BIG RED FLAG! And the fact that the groom's mother is all on board with her son's demands is even more scary! Really makes me wonder if the bride is the one that wants to elope or is that just what the groom wants! Hope she realizes it before it is too late!
Eloping doesn't solved the problem of his penchant to control her. BIG RED FLAG that she can't see it because of those damned rose colored glasses she is wearing.
Another big red flag is that he is isolating her from her family and friends. I hope their marriage has been happy.
Sounds like an abusive relationship forming. Controlling what she wears? Really?
Also not letting her parents be at the wedding.
So sad to see that .
Right. And the fact that the family were putting his opinion forward so forcefully above hers, 'no straps'...the straps looked gorgeous. A sad situation.
Exactly what I am thinking
I agree. He is so controlling that it will lead to an abusive relationship. Seen it happen before
If Jordan is so opinionated about the dress she wears then maybe he should pick out his own to wear on the wedding day 💅🏻✨
Exactly what I was thinking!
Lmaooo
All I have to say is Yes. 😂
😂😂😂😂😂
😂😅😂
The groom and his mom is going to rule the whole marriage
If my fiancé gave me a list of "rules" for my dress - I'd have a list of reasons to walk away. Trust me that I'm going to choose an amazing dress and love it because I love it. End of story.
“He knows what he likes……..”he has worked in a mens store” so he should focus on what he is going to wear, let her choose what SHE likes. She is going to regret so much about this marriage, you can see it in both her and her moms faces. Would love to know how this turned out.
Yes and men wear so much tulle don’t they.
@@carolefraser8194 Lol
What year is this? SYTTD just vomits up repeats ad nauseum.
@@georgielancaster1356 from 8 years ago
I found her on facebook and looked at her wedding pictures. She didn't wear the dress she picked out here. She wore just a PLAIN white strapless dress with no lace, no bling, no embellishment of any kind. It looked like she wrapped a tablecloth around her body and got married.
So he's waving all kinds of red flags in your face by being opinionated and controlling. Then he sends his mother to do his bidding. The bride denies the family the wedding tradition to keep the drama away from her event, and her mother is heartbroken about it. What's wrong with this picture. She likely chose to elope to stop the drama between the two families. When Lori said, "mom, is this breaking your heart," the camera panned to the daughter's face, and she did not look happy. I think she had it out with her mother about the eloping thing. This is not a way to start your married life.
I mean, I think it's normal for a guy to have some opinion, but a list of rules? Sending his mom to enforce them? Really?
He's only gonna get worse from here.
They should sell her a red divorce dress on the spot as well since she's signing up for that at the same time!! Um, can you say RED FLAGS? More like a huge bonfire..girl, take off those rose colored glasses and wise up or you're going to be miserable!! And goodness, don't have any children w/him - can you even begin to imagine?!
I wonder what other sacrifices this bride is going to have to do for her husband to be.
I think they're eloping because the bride is caving to the groom and she's ashamed. The drama she's referring to, I'm willing to bet, is the controlling opinionated groom's family. I give them a year.
Her mother looks so heartbroken…
The groom and his mom are waving their red flags. Run!
The poor bride's mum spent a lot of time pursing her lips and looking away every time one of the groom's 'rules' was mentioned. I feels she's not happy but is trying to avoid a row because she knows she might not see her daughter again.
Even the bride had a sad little moment when the future mother-in-law said "he'd like something a little more form-fitting" but then she said she didn't like the dress. I think she was covering up how she really felt. I've got a bad feeling about this marriage, at least for the girl anyway.
This may be a case where Mom has to let her daughter find out the hard way. If she remains loving and neutral, the girl will, hopefully, come to her senses . Who knows how long it will take. We all have our Journeys.
I hope she doesn’t marry him. He and his mother will rule her.
Trouble ahead for sure
For the first dress, when they said that comment, she said she didn't like the dress even before stepping out.
Her Mom knows he is no good
Her smile immediately dropped everytime her MIL mentioned one of her fiancés rules
I wish she knew that that nagging feeling inside her is not going to magically disappear after they are married. I hope the best for her, though.
BIG red flag with that groom wanting to control her dress
If a man is this controlling before you marry, then you run as far and as fast as you can. You are NOT his possession for him to control your decisions and what you wear. I hope this young lady is ok, and has a strong support network around her for when she needs help.
Jordan’s mother has raised a controlling man and we all know where that leads
where does it lead
@@amydumas573 abuse, controlling toxic relationship that will never end good.
Instead of being ashamed that she raised a controlling piece of garbage for a son, she is proud of it and enforces his toxic “rules”. I highly doubt that a wedding planner wouldn’t want her own wedding! She said HE didn’t want a wedding and hated her showing him dresses, the eloping was his idea which she agreed to because he is emotionally abusive. Her shame is evident when she sees her mother crying. I hope she leaves him and can do so safely.
And I found the bride’s instagram - still married and mother of two now. I really hope they’re happy and he doesn’t control everything now, too :/
My husband can be very opinionated but when I asked him if he had any preference on what kind of wedding dress I should get, his answer was “it’s your choice and whatever you choose you will look beautiful in”… that’s the difference between having an opinion and being controlling! A supportive and respectful MIL would be having stern conversation with HER son!
This MIL seems frightened.
I agree. There's a difference between stating one's opinion when asked, and being controlling. That said though... they were right not to go with that lace top in dress 2. The high neckline looked strangely disproportionate. Also a good decision to lose the straps in the last dress. It looked so much better without them.
I did some digging and Unfortunately she married him and they have a child together. A son. I can’t imagine what he’s doing to her and that baby.
yes
Right, it's one thing for him to give you an honest opinion if you ask. Like, I'm not a big fan of poofy ball gowns. It's quite another to have a list of rules for your bride's dress (barring modesty rules for a religious venue, such as shoulders must be covered in some way). My boyfriend always says that I should be comfortable and happy with what I'm wearing, even if he is honest about things he finds particularly attractive.
His mum is an enabler for sure.
Wow! Say no to the groom and his family. That she would deny her mother to see her get married is heartbreaking.
That Mother in Law is toxic af
That is why her son is a controlling freak. Mama is toxic and instilled that in her son, her perfect special little boy!
Fr
@Destiny good one!
Son like mother in that aspect. Too many red flags.
No wonder her son is the way he is.
She like that 2nd dress and did a 180 like Monty said when the future mother-in-law and groom said No. Run girl as fast as you can, and don't look back. The mother-in-law is going to have her way in every decision that couple make. I feel so sorry for the mom.
and the girl too, honestly. i’ve been in a controlling relationship but i rly couldn’t see it until my surroundings warned me about it. love IS really blind isn’t it
Monty definitely picked right up on it. She clearly loved the dress until future MIL made negative comments. She likes the vintage lace look. Fiance and future MIL do not.
I hope the bride has a good divorce attorney on speed dial.
This was one of the more upsetting shows. That's not the kind of man anyone should marry. And his mother! Ugh!
Run Baby! Run!
OMG. Run! That groom sounds like a control freak.
this show needs to have info on abusive/toxic relationships in the dressing room like how bathrooms in doctor's offices do. it's just messed up how nobody said a thing to the bride about this
That would be smart yeah
Great suggestion.
You are not seeing every single second.
They're selling wedding gowns--it's not their business. They can have their thoughts though!!
Awesome idea!
I hope someone she trusts will explain to her what she's getting herself into. I would avoid him like the PLAGUE.
She wouldn't listen if they did, sadly. She's in too deep. As a therapist, I've seen this so many times. At least 1/3 of my clients are people who have been destroyed by narcissistic abusers. Things have to get pretty bad before they will finally leave or the narc discards them for someone else.
Me too
But she won't listen shes already in love with him they are gonna be married so why does it matter to y'all
@@puppypower7166 why does it matter? Hun. Let’s stop being naive. It matters because this will influence other woman to think this behavior is ok coming from the groom. It is not. And we must speak against these types of males at all cost to protect future women.
Idiot groom probably wanted isolation in a park. r
If the groom is that picky about HER wedding dress, she is in for a lifetime of criticism. Run, girl!! Run!!
"This is all actually happening. I AM the bride." This poor girl hasn't had it sink it that it's HER wedding too, because no one will let her have any input...such a sad sight to see.
My heart just broke for her momma. 🥺
i know right and the reason is her future husband. he doesnt want to her to have anything on the neck he doesnt want her to get married infront of her family he is literally like a control freak. i hope she realises it early what shes getting herslef into
@@thekharataykid She's the one who decided she wanted to elope though. Not saying he isn't controlling but she had her reasons for that.
@@thekharataykid exactly. In the future he will make her mama and her have a distant relationship because he’s controlling her sm
Wild to say he has a great sense of fashion after posting his pictures 💀
I know right? That's exactly what I said. The way he was dressed in the pictures and especially the day he proposed ≥﹏≤ She looked lovely in her dress and he was in shorts and a plad shirt. OMG!
To be fair we’ve only seen the men’s clothes he wears outside. I’m sure the women’s clothes he wears when he’s alone is AAAMAZING!
@@len452000 Thats what I was thinking. She's his beard
I was thinking the same. This guy has the audacity to set rules. He should worship the ground she walks on. He is no prize. She is too good for him.
FACTS! Even if he was frickin Valentino himself, don't tell a woman what to wear!!
She will spend the rest of her life living up to what he wants. This sort of controlling behaviour is a red flag to me personally! And what bothers me mkre is the groom’s mother sitting there and being the spokesperson for her son when really it should be her telling her son that it is what the bride wants to wear that she should wear and he should learn to respect his wife and her choices
No. She’ll spend the next couple of years trying to live up to his expectations and then divorce him.
@@beverlystewart1096 That is the best case scenario I guess, unless she calls it off ! 🤷♀️
Run. RUN from that mother in law and her toxic son.
The fiancé is throwing up huge red flags already! And his mom is enabling that controlling behavior…
if he has so many rules about the dress he might as well wear it! this seems like the start of a potentially abusive relationship.
Best comment!
Was thinking the same
and marry his mom while he's at it
Sounds like she's doing all the compromising.
The Mom in this episode is so sweet and graceful.
The definition of eloping is to 'run away secretly in order to get married'. So perhaps not eloping....?
And that fiancé sounds SO controlling it's frightening.
It seems to me as if his mother approves of his controlling ways as well. She seems happy to chip in with his 'rules' so the bride doesn't dare stray. The girl loved the second dress then was more or less 'told' that she didn't like it after all. Even with the third dress she wasn't happy until she'd made her change something about it that she liked. She turned it into just another plain strapless wedding dress. So much for 'fashion'.
Well, she'll have her real wedding in a few years - with a real man.
It really is and why isn’t her mother being so agreeable to her marrying an abuser. No doubt about that, even her mother- in-law is afraid of her son. Why are they running away to marry? Please I know it’s too late but I hope I’m wrong. I hope she’s safe and happy.
The bride is just as bad, plus throw in the mother-in-law for more drama.
@@MBAinternetmktg It's more complicated than that because of the psychological implications of being enthralled to a narcissistic abuser. You lose your identity and everything becomes about pleasing that person because of how they manipulate and gaslight you. They devalue and chip away at you slowly. It's the analogy of the frog in slowly boiling water. You have no idea it's happening until your in crisis. Everyone around you may see it and try to tell you, but you dont' believe it. The best example today is Prince Harry and Meghan Markle. She manipulated him like a pro and his friends and family tried to tell him to slow down, but he refused to see all the red flags and the next thing you know, she played into his paranoia,controlled him, isolated him and separated him from his family.
I hope this dude see this episode and reads the comments. He should be ashamed for putting those silly restrictions on her like that and sending an enforcer. I can't imagine what happens behind closed doors. 😕
I just can't wrap my head around saying you want simple and nothing flashy, you just want it to be him and you, and then buying a wedding dress. If you want it to be simple, just wear a dress you already own.
Wear jeans and a sweatshirt.
You can tell he controls her because she is demonstrating fear.
Don’t worry mom, u can be there for her next wedding 😉
Finally an optimistic comment
Excellent comment!
Or a witness at the divorce hearing!
if she's still alive by the time her current marriage ends.
@@Herrera_70 ik
Control over clothing (and other things) is one of the signs of an abuser. As is separating someone from family and friends through various means. None of us can diagnose her fiancé based on a tv show, of course. I do hope she will be safe and happy in her new marriage.
i feel so bad for this poor girl. you can see the way her smile stops as soon as monster in law starts talking. she needs to say "no" to her controlling groom and the mother who's enabling him.
If a spouse has “rules”, RUN and run FAST!!!!
This marriage will never work. The groom is a control freak who has talked the bride into excluding her mom and support system. Very cold hearted to the woman who raised her. Gives me the shivers!
Oh it will "work" Because she's in too deep with that abusive relationship. If she can say out loud "I can hear his voice in my head... " And not realise what's wrong with that, then sadly she's lost
@@user-ml4ps5cq3vYes, blame the victim.
I wouldn't mind betting that MIL is there on the day!!!
*I believe we're all aware that any reality show demands a level of drama be included, but I have never seen a comment section with almost 100% agreement that this groom, and his mom, are as toxic as we have ever seen. This episode made me almost grieve for the future of a stranger.*
The groom’s mom prioritizing her son’s opinions over the bride gives all kinds of red flags😳😳😳
I can understand the groom having opinions but to actually make rules is going too far imo. This is one decision that should be 99% her choice.
100%, not 99%
“He’s worked in men’s clothing stores-“ honey, that’s different from the ladies’ bridal shops for DRESSES 🤦🏼♀️ if you want to elope by all means do it, I’m just worried about how bossy he is and how she just accepts it, even changing her mind on stuff she likes the minute the idea of him not liking it comes up.. (anyone ever get an update on this couple, because I know this show is pretty old?)
Did you see someone found a reference to a child. I wouldn't know how to look.
They are still married. Two kids. She didn't wear this dress. She didn't even like this dress. She replied to a couple comments about it on her Instagram. Seems she said she liked it to get out of the there. She said the producers were annoying her.
@@ATLCheerBoi tell me her IG
@@ATLCheerBoi That’s honestly sorta rude of her. Just because someone is annoying her, you feel the need to say yes to the dress and make your family cry?
So they are basically eloping because "he" wants to elope and she has to pick the type of dress that fits "his" criteria. Seems weird to me.
I think this is probably the outcome of a family fight, as in, who will contribute how much to the wedding, and his his controlling ways. So the answer was no one goes to their wedding; elopement.
@@treehouse2902 I would probably file for divorce before I got married to him.
Does the bride get to pick the groom's apparel for the wedding? Yeah, I didn't think so.
“He has great taste” but hates everything about wedding dresses and isn’t a woman. He and his mom called lace and tulle netting ffs. He gave her a list of nos and only said yes to form fitting. It’s icky
Controlling narcissist comes to mind. Both mother & son. If she has any sense, she'll run in the opposite direction from him 🙄
Yes. But she’s in looooove…
@carolynworthington8996 She is bless her. She's sweet but easily manipulated. A dream wife & dil for that awful woman & her equally awful son.
Carolyn Worthington true, not for long tho when she hopefully wakes up 🤦♀️
true
“If she has any sense”….. a little lacking in empathy for the victim of an empathy-devoid abuser, don’t you think? They are professional manipulators.
My heart breaks for her mother. You can see the pain in her eyes.
“Jordan is opinionated” no Jordan sounds like he’s insecure and controlling. If he’s so “opinionated” and has “a great sense of fashion” then why isn’t he there?? What a miserable way to start a marriage.
This one has all kinds of heartbreak written all over it. Good luck to her is all I can say
I have a son and if he treated his bride like this he would be swiftly put in his place by me or his father and wouldn't do it again. I hope the MIL looks back at this and realises she and her son are idiots.
"He is very Opinionated" His number 1 rule. So so sad for this girl and what is coming!!!!!! Wow she is in danger, and what is worse he is supported and encouraged by another woman, his mama!
I see Narcissistic traits. controlling, isolating her from those who love her. It will take time for her to see it.. she still naive and young. Sad….
I never even asked my husband-to-be if he had an opinion on what sort of wedding dress I should go for. It wasn’t up to him. Likewise, I didn’t choose his suit.
Not only is she marrying the man… she’s also marrying his mother… “Run Girl”
So true that includes Karen.
If a man cares that much about the details of the wedding dress I’d be worried he’s either controlling or gay. Either way, it’s a red flag. My ex was super controlling and abusive and he had a lot of opinions about what I would be wearing if we got married. My current boyfriend would marry me in a potato sack and would barely notice the difference.
Well if something happens his mom will never tell. Scary way to start your marriage
@@victoriagriffiths4205 She will tell the girl to stop crying & try harder to please her son. TOXIC.
Exactly! My current husband said" what would you like darlin,and how can I help you?" He made my wish for a no stress beach wedding happen and it was very special! My dress was my favorite ocean blue with little water crystals...and not even expensive lol. I picked it out, and he loved it . Maturity in a groom matters!!
Did you see what the groom was wearing in the pictures of him? Especially in the picture of the day he proposed..... OMG he's in shorts and a plad shirt and she was in a lovely dress....
Oh but hey, HE KNOWS ABOUT MEN'S FASHION, RIGHT 🤔
Probably gay or bi. Men’s clothing store was a big giveaway. No Christian, God fearing man would intrude on his wife this way unless he was frustrated with his own internal turmoil.
This screams red flags all over the place, omg. A man deciding what she can or can’t wear? Really? Girl I hope you didn’t go through with the wedding. Also, her mom is absolutely lovely and kind, very supportive of her daughter, no matter what
Someone said they have 2 children
@@georgielancaster1356 Sad, bringing children into this unhealthy dynamic.
I would agree if he were that controlling with everything she wears (like day to day). I’m willing to give them both the benefit of the doubt for the wedding, though, since it’s for both of them. I’m pretty sure if the bride here said she vetoed certain colors for the groom’s suit no one would bat an eye.
Never saw a girl being so cruel to her mum like this one. 😢 Poor mum
I felt so sad for the bride's mother. I have only one child, a son, and I would be devastated if I wasn't included when he marries.
How DARE the groom to set requirements on her gown. SOUNDS LIKE HE'S GOING TO BE VERY CONTROLLING TO ME....
if he's helping to pay for it his opinion matters. his opinion clearly mattered to the bride as well
Selfish couple. Not wanting to share there special day with the people that brought them up
@@modest8930 wrong.
The eloping thing sounds like he's already trying to alienate her from family and friends like most abusers do
@@modest8930 Why on earth are you assuming that her fiancé is paying for her gown? Usually the bride herself, or the brides family pays for the gown.
The only thing her going along with what he wants for HER dress indicates, is that he is successfully controlling what she wears before they are even married, which is a really bad sign.
"Mom is this breaking your heart?"
"Yes"
We all know how her heart is really breaking 🥺
I love Monte, Lori and their TEAM. She looks perfect and perfectly happy.
My husband would have NEVER dictated my wedding dress. Screams divorce
Oh boy! We all know where this is heading. I have never understood why some women opt for a controlling partner. And, to have her future mother-in-law there to enforce her son's wishes is pitiful.
Trauma-bonding..
Right.
@@angelica7543 bingo
@@angelica7543 Flying monkey MIL…
Pitiful indeed.
It would be interesting to see how this marriage turned out. Are the parents paying for this dress for a wedding they aren't invited to?
TRUTH! She will be raising that entitled boy all their lives!
It was pretty easy to find her on Facebook. She’s still married to him and has been since 2014
She also didn’t wear the dress??
@@bdubs9040 can you post her profile link?
It seems she's may have been there more for the advertising of her wedding planning business, but it didn't work out well!
There needs to be room in the relationship for both people.
She loves every dress but soon after listening her mil she completely change her decision upside down. When you see that her opinion doesn’t matter at all, it’s very clear that the groom has decided not to invite anyone for the wedding. Shame that she can’t stand for herself and decided to be a doormat for both son and his mom. Good luck girl.
Mother-in-law is kind of a pain!!!! At least Mom realizes it's her choice! If it looks great on her, he SHOULD love it too!! Don't listen to everyone else!!
Exactly ik she's gonna regret marrying him but it's her choice
So basically this bride is not allowed to have her own opinion! It starts with the wedding dress but won't end there... He will be even more controlling once she said 'I DO'. And the mother knows her daughter is so much involved with him that if she would say anything her soon-to-be-in-law will ensure she won't see her daughter anymore. So sad.
"he knows what he likes and he knows what looks good on her" ...... yeah nope
That second dress looked AMAZING on her! And she really loved it too, then the mother in law had to chime in. I’m glad she seems to be happy with the one she picked and she still looks great in that as well. Hope her marriage is still going!
I found her page, they are still married and have two children. Looks like she wore a different dress though
Sounds like her fiancé and his family are very controlling. Comes across like she is not going to be allowed to make her own decisions. This is going to be a very difficult and sad relationship. 😢 She said she only wants to make him happy. She is now going to lose herself in this relationship forever neglecting herself. If he loved her he would have said sweetheart, whatever you choose you will be beautiful in it. I am marrying you not the dress.
Exactly! If she doesn’t like it now, just wait, it’ll double or triple the misery. His Mom is just as bad. You saw the brides face not being too pleased when his Mom brought up the rules. I’m as nice as the next woman, but I don’t think I could had just sat there and not said a word. Her and I would have a come to Jesus meeting in a private room. Surely her Mom has to see what lies ahead for her daughter.
Exactly
Mother in law needs to shut up!!!! And so does the groom!!! It’s HER DAY!!!!!
He doesn't want her to have HER day... hence the elopement. He doesn't want the dress to make her feel pretty but for him to show he got someone with a nice figure who won't upsurge him. He's a narcissist. RUN.
I’ve been the bride who wanted to buy the dress that would make the groom happy, and I ended up years later looking at my wedding photos feeling unhappy with a lot of things on my wedding day. It also set a precedence for the whole marriage. I wish I had also not forgotten my own happiness, too. Sometimes, lessons are learned the hard way. I try to pass on that wisdom when I get the chance so other brides don’t make the same mistake.
I get that, honey. I married the man I THOUGHT I loved because I wanted to please my daddy and because I was pregnant. I was literally crying while walking done the aisle. My Daddy said "you don't have to do this if you really don't want to." But I stuck to it just for my Daddy. Since it was a quickie wedding, we hadn't spent a lot of money, but I didn't want Daddy to pay for all of it for nothing. I think the total cost was about $1,500, and even that small amount was over their budget. We made our party favors, which were tiny bottles of soap bubbles with a small wand and birdseed as the "rice," my cake, his cake and all the snacks for the guests. A lot of people from my church were there (about 100). My dress was a style that was popular at the time (1974), the dress itself was a maxi-dress with burgundy as the main background and a pretty beige flower print all over it. It also had some thin lace on the sleeves, and a sweetheart neckline. My veil was a very pretty lace shawl that I pinned to my hair.
Unfortunately, my husband threw out all of the wedding pictures in a rage and he burned them. That's how he reacted to get his own way in insignificant arguments. I had one more child 4 years later. The last straw was when he threw out all the cloths that I had saved from my first child, and were being passed down to my younger baby, I filed for divorce and he continued his affair with a married woman at the place where he worked. He had been cheating with her for over 3 years, and she was almost 10 years older than he was.
@@queenoftut So glad you got out of that situation.
Ok, so she compromises with her fiance's "no wedding" decision, but yet he can't let her at least choose her own wedding dress without "rules"?
And WHY TF couldn't he have called them "preferences" in stead of "rules"?
You can tell the mother is very disappointed with the daughter's choice in everything
Maybe even the groom? 🤔
@@brandywineblogger1411 very true
If Jordan doesn’t want netting, then let him decide to not wear any netting. What a controlling groom.
The mother in law saying her son has worked in a clothing store so he knows fashion was funny. I worked in a clothing store at 16 too, but that did not make me an expert. If she said he was a designer or buyer it would be a different story.
The groom giving her rules is such a red flag
When I got married, my husband & I didn't want the drama either, but we DID invite our parents as our witnesses. (And my parents had just gotten divorced, but they let it be our day).
Oh her mom knows things the bride doesn’t realise yet.
Is this not alarming to her family??? I’ve never ever heard of a groom that had demands about the bride’s wedding dress. That is very controlling on so many levels. Good luck to this woman.
I absolutely loved the delicate straps!! 😭
What the heck !!! Is the groom....girl open your senses your mom is crying! That silly guy cares for nothing!!
Is she crazy?? Dump this awful fiancé and his Mother!!! Who doesn’t want there own Mother at there wedding, especially a Mom who is as sweet and kind as she is. I could tell
She is as heartbroken
Shame on this young woman. You can do a lot better
@@phylmar1 yeah well she's not gonna listen they are still married and have two kids
Well some people want to elope. Doesn't mean they don't love their mothers
Mom looks thrilled at the grooms control and missing her daughter’s wedding.
She's very good at changing her mind to alone herself with the groom's wishes. It's very Stepford.
If my groom came at my family like that, he's done. So many handsome men in TN and she picks this one.
This is very common. Many women feel like they have to have the same opinions as their man. And they find men who will happily go along with it and then get mad when she has an opinion of her own.
@@carlycrays2831 thankfully I found a man who has no problem with me having my own mind and stating my opinion. If we disagree about something I want to wear, how I do my hair, etc his view is, it's your body, it's your decision.
@@carlycrays2831 There's a reason so many women are unopinionated and always say "whatever you want" to their man. They actually don't want us to have opinions. Men would always call me demanding or bossy because I'd speak my opinion when asked. I've had so many friends change their personality every time they'd start dating a new guy.
Yes to the Stepford. You could see her face change.
My god, he controls her this much already. Don't walk away from this marriage - RUN. Run now and don't look back. I'm genuinely frightened for this woman and what her future holds.
I found some of their wedding photos on Facebook, looks like she didn’t even end up wearing that dress 😶 She wore a plain satin gown with a thin black belt. She looked gorgeous in all those dresses & on her wedding day!
Momma knows that after the honeymoon phase, all those rules are going to become overwhelmingly restrictive.
"He would like something more form fitting"... that was absolutely disgusting to hear 🤢 and I feel so bad for her! She's settling and this was really hard to watch