You Can Connect Physically in Dating without Sinning By . . .
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- Опубліковано 9 лют 2025
- What does the Bible say about connecting physically with someone before marriage? Can a Christian dating couple connected physically without sinning?
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Seems no one wants to commit or date me once they find out that I'm no sex before marriage. Even so-called Christian men. I'm a senior, and I still stand by my Christian values. Been single now 8 years, and haven't met my person. I continue to trust God.
I feel the same ✝️
Please stand strong. Those men are not worth it
Pliz continue waiting ou man is on the way
@PhionaAinebyona ✝️
If they can’t respect that then they are simply not the one for you. Your future spouse from God will stand on kingdom business just as much as you do. ❤ You won’t have to explain or defend it, they will already understand and be on board.
Yes please talk about the emotional part. I feel it’s something I need to hear
Thanks for the feedback! Also, here's a past video I've done about emotional promiscuity: ua-cam.com/video/IppUIBNz78I/v-deo.html
@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallengerI have a question were you saying that outside of marriage all those sexual things are sin but is it okay in marriage
This is an awesome video. As a 30 year old man who’s practicing abstinence with his lady after we were both sexually active in previous relationships, we need all the help we can get to ensure we honor the Lord ☕️
I’ve never heard point 3 before (have always heard “never be alone together”) and that’s an excellent point! Gonna change my mindset about that. Self control requires practice, and practicing a hard discipline like self control with your future spouse is not only great bonding spiritually but a litmus test of your ability as a couple to navigate difficult situations together 🤔 excellent job Mark!
Practicing "never be alone together" is a great way to end up single or emotionally enstraged in a relationship. I wonder what kind of leader(s) could've told you _that_ advice
This message is so timely! Right on time and lining up with the things the Lord has been speaking to me
So glad to hear that!
Me too! Literally googled something similar yesterday
amen
Same here
Awesome message. This was very helpful to use as a guide when being alone, especially for those of us over the age of 40. I want to date responsibly and with intention.
Glad it was helpful!
Mark, you're so on point when you expounded dating should be to know if the person, you're involved with is marriage material. Dating is to assess the other person. Also, your suggestions for non-intimate connections, enables us to see a person from a different perspective thus giving us a broader sense of evaluating the other person. We should take the time to implement these dating tips if we truly believe we're worth it.
I'm single but will definitely apply and refer back to this video when im dating someone ❤
Definitely am interested in learning the ways a couple might sin emotionally in a relationship without touching.
Thanks for the feedback!
Yes, please! ❤ 0:27
Thanks for the feedback!
Yes, I would like to hear more about emotionally with men. I have been working on boundaries and this would be great information that I don't find elsewhere. I've overcome many things and want to become a champion in this area too!!😊😊😊😊😊
Thank you for the feedback! God bless!
This was fruitful. Thank you, brother ❤
So glad it was helpful!
Oh my word! You were so blunt, honest and to the point in this video! Bravo 👏 well done!
Such an excellent and nuanced discussion of a crucial topic! Thank you!
Thanks Mark!! Can you please make the emotional promiscuity video too? In this video you mention how it’s important to have vulnerable conversations with the one you’ll marry, but where do we draw that line in dating?
Thanks for the feedback!
Yes please Mark, could you please do a video on emotional boundaries but please could you also speak about how to recover and heal and let go of a relationship that you got too emotionally involved in but then split up? Thank you 🙏
I was able to see my future husband in November. (LDR) Thankful that even without having seen this video, we were able to follow these guidelines! Thank you for the clarity! 🙏🏼
How did you see him .please share
@christoffeljongwa192 I was able to go visit him. He is from & in Panama, and I'm in the US. So, now we're working on getting him here, so we can marry. 🙏🏼
Its so difficult to come to terms with sometimes, but i was a corrupting force in her life. I want to learn from these mistakes, i know what i was doing was not right. I pray that my mind and body learn to be disciplined. And i pray for forgiveness, im trying to turn my life around and i cant do it alone.
This was extremely blunt and well said! The world needs to hear it just like it this!
This is powerful and helpful on so many ways and answered so many questions as I'm stepping out in a relationship...
Yes, let’s hear a video about the emotional sin aspect.
Very practical and straightforward. Thank you
Thank you, Mark! You did such a beautiful job delivering this message! ✨🙏🏼✨
Glad you enjoyed it!
I definitely needed to see this video. This video was right on time. Thank you Mark for sharing.
That is really GREAT!!!!
Thank you so much for talking so frankly!!!!
Whew! This one was spicy 😅! Thank you for the encouragement, guidance, and wisdom!
Great video ❤❤❤. Thank you ❤
This was a super helpful video!!! Thank you Mark!! ❤😄
Awesome advice. Thank you
Please talk about the emotional places our hearts shouldn't be at in certain times of our walk.
Thanks for the feedback!
I agree, good work Mark.
This was so helpful! Thanks Mark
Great tips bro!
Great video, Mark. God bless your wisdom as you expand and expound these topics. 🙏🏾✝️📚
This was a very good video, I never thought about all these factors.
to be honest it's impossible to not get sexual arousal when you're even just kissing a person you're attracted to..
Absolutely true
But there are different kinds of kissing. I think he mentioned tongue (French kissing). Also, if regular kissing is an arousal, then resorting to pecking? It’s all about self- control and not furthering the temptation. Not easy, but, it is what it is 🤷🏻♀️
I don't think the point is to avoid sexual arousal entirely - that's impossible, esp w someone you're very attracted to. The point is what you do with that information, and limiting your exposure to the arousal. Learning how to redirect, switch gears, focus on Christ, aim for a higher, holier goal, etc.
I agree, even a simple hug causes me an arousal, or a “im proud of you” message. Im strange lol
@@leticiavallejo7914far out this is so legalized, there is not a single place in the Bible that talks about kissing in different ways, it just says, basically if you can't control yourself then be married. Stop guilt tripping yourself when Jesus isn't condemning you for having those desires. That's black and white but the grey area in-between isn't going to send you to hell, because you obviously have a plan to be married. God looks at our hearts not our sins.
Enjoyed this video Mark! Subscribed today, so glad I did. Have a great day!!!!
No nakedness, no touching "private parts"
All the rest is fine to me, kissing, hugs, snuggles etc
In the end it's up to us to judge what is to far or not.
Some people get arroused just by kissing and placing hands on the bum
Great video. Just needed this
I agree with thr last point, but how long are you supposed to date? You wanna make sure the person is right yall be spending the rest of yalls lives together
How about discussions about the difference between compatability vs. Chemistry. Day - night difference. Should be able to enjoy each others presence in a non- sexual way.
My Partner and I have decided to not kiss AT ALL. Reason being we are also biological human beings. Kissing is likely to tempt to doing other things. Rather to avoid things can tempt the body from the onset. We should be REALISTIC with the nature of our bodies. And no need to be ashamed of it.
We cook together, clean the pool, and clean the yard or cleaning his garage. In doing these things we're learning the kinds of activities we enjoy doing together and seeing each other's capabilities
If he shows no interest in kissing or is not really sexually attracted to you he may be gay in denial and just looking for heterosexual cover. Just be aware as this happens often these days. Blessings. ❤
@ANaturalLife777 he actually showed interest in kissing much more than me. But we still choose to respect the boundaries.
Well said. Thank you
Great information! Thank you for sharing 🙏🏽❤️✝️🕊️
Amen 🙏 🙏 🙏 🙏 ❤
God bless!
This was a great way of dating
Very good video, you answered a lot of good questions a lot of Christians I know have but are to shy to ask
0:27 yes absolutely!
~~~ keep faith ~~~
Would you please do a video more on long distance dating, especially if you're an ocean apart from the other person?
Here's a past video about long distance dating: ua-cam.com/video/AGeSOWm8UjU/v-deo.html
@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger mahalo!!
What about if you are someone who gets excited even without touching?😮
Point 2 relates
Then it might be a matter of renewing your mind from lustful thoughts 🙏🏾
So what happens in my situation when I will be soon become a widow as my husband has dementia and has not had sex anymore now 9 years except for 3 times because he has forgotten how to?
Sex is mot a sin. Its outside of marriage that is
This is so important for people to understand
Yes talk about the emotional part
That was a very powerful and inspiring topic.❤
I got a question, what if we're in a long-distance relationship where no such thing as doing physical work together will ever be possible. What do we do to have the best long-lasting relationship without sinning?
This may help: applygodsword.com/christian-dating-advice-on-long-distance-relationships/
@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger okay. Thankyou. Even though you might never know us, please do remember us in your prayers from time to time so we could follow your advice and lead a good life to glorify God as long as we live. 👍🛐
Thank you
You're welcome!
Its so hard tho 😢
Yes please
Great points. Run , run, run from fornication and run some more. Pick someone to be accountable to.
Manual labor like golf, basketball, filing taxes lol
Hey mark how do you cheat emotionally?
Yes, 0:27
There's this guy that i have a crush on but he only wants to be friends with me and thats all and he's also asked for pictures of my feet and toes so i don't know what to do
Really? This seems like prank comment. If this is true, just block him and accept he's not the one.
Say no!
@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger yeah it's actually true i have the texts of him asking me i guess God is telling me that he's not the one
And to be honest when he asked me that my heart started beating really fast
he's not an healthy person.. run..
Please talk about emotional promiscuity!!!
Amen
Can you hold hands?
If it doesn't lead to lust or sex then sure. 👍
Kissing is fine
I hooooope so.
As others have said, there's levels of kissing.
French kissing is innately sexual, for men, even if not for women.
Kissing on the lips can be fine if the context is safe (outside during the day versus alone in a house) but can sometimes lead to Frenching (see above)
Kissing the body varies. Hand kissing is probably the least sexual. Similarly forehead, cheek, etc
Neck, shoulder, and certainly anything lower is sexual.
In my own relationship, we decided no French kissing period before marriage and only one kiss on the lips if we get engaged.
Hand kissing and forehead/cheek kissing is absolutely on the table
Idk why im here 😂 but it was interesting tho
this is so lovely ideas, but realistically, it only applies to two people who really are on the same wavelength, same mindset, and same spiritual maturitt and they both have to be attracted each other. to find that in someone plus attraction to them, waiting for marriage which needs financial, life goals, and attractive personality traits, it's better off trying to catch a unicorn. these days, with social media, and lack of social activities where these two kinds of people can meet each other, it is not possible. but then again, with God everything is possible. if you try these things with someone that cant handle it, it is a huge recipe for disaster. once its broken, and someone messes it up, it is impossible to try to fix it because trust is broken. then anger and mistrusts seeps in. at that point, hearts are broken. i just dont see this happening at all, but like before, nothing is impossible with God. faith, trust, and put God first
Ah , Does not St. Paul writing to the church in Corth .1 Corth Chapter 7 Vs 1 "better it be that a Man does not touch a women" and 19 other times in his writing to the church Express the same thing? That marriage is allowed so you do not burn with lust?
there is a difference between Celibacy and Chastity . Chastity is always required by Christian teaching from the 1 century on.
Yes, plaeaso 0:27
I send by this but I still ended up in a relationship with a man who never wanted a woman in the first place. 30 years later I am devastated
That doesn't make sense...........
Yes it does. It was easy for him to not be sexual because he really wasn't attracted in the first place. He saw her as a "friend". I worry about waiting for similar reasons. How do you know if you are compatible?
@@weldonwillifordrealtor A man wouldn't marry a woman he wasn't attracted to unless he had sinister ulterior motives. Compatibility isn't rocket science. If you have a strong desire for the woman and you get along well together then you are compatible. 😎
Stop this bs. Just marry fast.
That's what I want to do, marry a woman immediately. Can't find any to marry though. 😎
Very good comment.
Yet, not too fast for the danger of making a hasty decision that's permanent.
It can be dangerous to marry fast, you could end up in a marriage your stuck in.
Also, not everyone is in a stage of life where they can feasibly get married quickly, like long distance dating.
@@tangerinefruit7205 You gotta wonder why anybody would want to do long distance dating at all. Would be a no go for me. 😎
Isn’t doing labour with a person more quality time than physical touch?
Why all of these videos on intimate relationships and dating? No... This world is corrupt. We are in the last days. I'm not interested in "connecting" with a creature here. Biblical end time prophecy fulfillment is unfolding before my eyes. I'm in a "Personal Relationship" with God the Father Abba.
You don't know how much time is left. But if you really aren't interested in a relationship with the opposite sex then you are truly blessed! 👍
How can you talk about sex in such a rigid way? It's quite clear to me that marriage as we know it didn't exist in biblical times. You were "married" if you slept with a woman or a man. Anyone who still thinks in 2025 that sex before marriage is a sin that will lead you to hell has missed the bullet.
🤔
Missed the bullet? If you think sex before marriage isn't a sin then YOU missed the Bible. 😎
I have a similar opinion. This view is more for the birth control era. If you slept with someone in the past, you most likely got someone pregnant. You would want to refrain from temptation during those times. My opinion is what's in the heart that matters. Have you both forsaken all others and monogamous with a goal for marriage? I just can't see that as sin. Sin is hatred. There is no hatred in that situation. The marriage ceremony is little more than your public acknowledgment, IMO.
@ You don't see it as a sin but God does. Between the 2 of you who do you think wins this battle? 😎
@@ModelJames13 the only one battling here is you. It's between those 2 people, what's in their hearts and God. The closer I get to God the more I reject what humans have done creating "religion". You're telling me that if 2 people lived hundreds of miles from a church or pastor a 1000 Years ago and loved one another, had sex, a family but didn't have a "formal ceremony" that they are sinning and arent married? It's makes absolutely zero logical sense. Same could apply today. I simply reject that other humans need to be involved between you and God and your relationship. I think relationships should be taken more seriously for that reason. We know sex creates spiritual ties which is what I believe God intended for "marriage" between 2 people. Fornication is sex for pleasure, sexual addiction, to cover for emotional damage, or other purposes IMO.
Sin is a made up concept, folks.
Try arguing that with God and see how far you get.