Why Being Mysterious is So Attractive to Women | The Mystery Man
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- Опубліковано 15 вер 2024
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When you first meet a woman, it’s tempting to open up and tell her as much about yourself as possible.
And while you might initially be rewarded for your candid disclosure, you’ll inevitably be punished later on for having given away too much information too soon.
Instead, you must use the elements of mystery and challenge to your advantage. If you spend countless hours sending messages back and forth, texting and calling a woman, talking about your life, your dreams, and what you had for dinner, you inadvertently kill attraction by revealing too much information.
When you over-communicate, you not only risk revealing too much about yourself, you risk killing attraction by being too available and responsive.
Regardless of whether or not you want to see a woman, it’s always advisable to keep the calls and messages to a minimum. That doesn’t mean you must act cold and distant, but it does mean you should be aware of the dangers of over communication.
In the early stages of a relationship, it’s important not to move too fast. There’s a tendency to worry that if you don’t get a woman out on a date as fast as possible, she’ll forget about you and move on. You must have enough confidence in yourself to know that a woman won’t be able to forget about you that easily.
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Long story short: talk less to her and add more value to your life in her eyes! 🙂
Correct
Less is more
women want drama in their life , it's just their drama they want, not urs !
Don't reveal much , be a good listener , true story !
This is true, everytime I try to open up they just pretend to listen. Men only listen to men
Hmm Accha Thik hai
Really man you can never out talk a woman and never fix her life. She presents Herself to be innocent in every possible situation and rest of the world is torturing her including her parents. Staying indifferent can save you.
@@01amitkumar why would you be indifferent?
This is probably the most valuable advice a man can take in! Learn from it young men!
PatientMental it’s wrong! I’m a women! I would go for Ken!
@@lexiemaep7930 No u would not!
@@zizou357 I married a ken. Now we are divorced. I like guys that put in effort. If a guy doesn't message me back that day I forget he exists. The other guy sounds like a flake. If you just want sex then this method might work. But if you want a relationship, it won't.
@@zizou357 if you like a girl ask for her number on Thursday, chat a little and ask her out friday.
It doesn't make sense that Ken guy didn't do anything wrong.
We've all been Ken at some time.
*WE'VE ALL BEEN THAT INTERESTED OR CARED BEFORE.... NOW, IT'S ALRIGHT THEN, TREAT ME LIKE THAT THEN I'LL TREAT YOU MORE.*
@@AJ-zu3bk well said
Thats my name lol
Yes bro. We only learn after many flakes and disappointments. I turned red pill after the last straw when this chick flaked on me last second. I didn't realize I was being Ken. Come to find out some other guy was piping her down.
@@AJ-zu3bk
You have idea how much that 35+ stat hits home!
I'm turning forty this year. Something funny has been happening to me in the last few years: women around my age, who had rejected me when we were on our thirties, twenties and even teens, are now actively chasing me!
WTF?! Why would I want them now?! They have rejected me in their prime!
There's only one logical answer: they want a sucker to settle down. A spineless wimp to pay their bills and satisfy their whims.
Less is more
And more is less
The first time I heard of this concept of "less is more" was actually a relationship expert called Doc Love back in the early 2000's. Doc Love was the first relationship guru to come up with the concept of never revealing your true interest in a woman and acting aloof. For example, if a girl gave you her number or you went on a date, never call her back the next day. Wait at least a week or so. Back then it was revolutionary because guys thought the way to win the heart of a woman was by being super nice and doing things like giving her flowers on the first date. So this concept is nothing new.
Minimalism solves all problems
Man ... you nailed it! That's why being distant from your loved one too makes love grow leaving her wondering how you are actually doing... Being mysterious is the key.. 🤔
Lesson: Dont be needy.
I also find it so attractive when guys are content in their own energy and just focused on themselves. Pursuing self development through education (could be school or a challenging career), going to the gym, having hobbies they’re passionate about. Rather than chasing after girls and being desperate for validation. The mystery is attractive but it also makes me value a guy’s time more.
My favorite Hobbies & Activity’s that keeps women calling me🏅🏆 Knowing I’m not ever picking Up 😂
XX Tardation
Ken still lives in me but hold tight with his mouth shut. Life teaches.
Well, a girl broke up with a friend of mine. After some months she regrets it, takes contact with him, but also act a little mysterious trying to get my friend back into a relationship with her. But after a long “mysterious” period, my friend thought she seemed uninterested and selfish. So, he moved on and found another girl. He is married to that girl today 😊
You’re a dumb ass for not realizing men want total transparency, reliability, predictability and so on from women
It’s the opposite for what women want in men
Are you the Phil that they are referring in the video? 😁
@@DESIBOY-fe7nm he is
The sexes are swapped in your stories, why do you apply the same principle?
indeed, i would never advise a woman to seem unavailable to a man, as we take things at face value (you don't want to meet because you are uninterested) instead of their implied meaning (you want to meet but you are so busy). We need to act different according to our condition
Its fun trying this because its so easy. The trick is you have to genuinely not care what she thinks of you. Focus on what you think of her.
Ken messed up when he kept saying that he was looking forward to seeing her.
I will never Ken again 😭😭
pity Ken 😆
@@jackie5618 No 😁
You're Kenough
I realize that I'm "mysterious" because of my hyper vigilance. Moving around alot from foster homes has made me constantly worry about other people and how I appear and how to seem likeable so now I literally can't talk about myself because I haven't decided on what I should tell them to seem acceptable.
Bruh I'm broken
You must adopt the mindset and lifestyle of Not Giving A Fuc. It's the most liberating feeling ever
This entire video is pure GOLD!!
Thank you Chris
The last bartender part got me laughing out loud 😂... nice one Chris... I’m currently talking to this lady who’s an introvert like myself... so i get forced to do too much talking knowing very well that’s a no no... so now i try to get her to talk more abt herself...
I acted cold and distant. My now Ex told me, that this was the problem in our relationship. But when we started dating, she said that she loved that about me compared to other men who wrote all the time..
Women want different things based on how she feels in different stages. A woman lusting after a guy doesn't want lots of chat or a relationship and keeps it cool going for the alpha who just wants sex. Then she wants to see him more and wants the alpha to want a relationship when he is ready. Last, she wants you to text all the time and spend time more as a bf. If she loses attraction it can reverse and she will want less of you
@@timothygibney159 she broke up, i accepted it and she wanted to come back immediately. Fuck her, shw regrets it and I live as a free man. She is together with the other one but still texted me until I did not response anymore. Fuck bitches, get money is my philosophy now😎
@@timothygibney159 spot on. happens 99% times
you can be her nice guy when she is already in love with you. As long as the "apparent" attraction is higher on her side you will be good
finally found on how to tranquilize my inner Ken.. thank you coach! Learned a lot from these and your Book! 💯
Thank you Chris! :)
I should've watched your videos along time ago... so I won't experienced too much broken hearts.
Don't tell your weakness to any woman cause they will use that against you
Terapy can homie a think you need it
Wow this video is eye opening and explains female psychology to a tee
You’re absolutely amazing. This is great great content, and it’s the truth. Thank you for posting this valuable content, it’s so entertaining and understanding.
I am a truck driver that has no time to text and most of the time the girl thought I wasn’t interested so they moved on. It’s better to be like Ken but don’t text everyday
Exactly.. in my country, in our culture, men should do the first move, initiate first.
I dont know in Amerika
Keep doing more. It'll be useful for so many guy's who don't know how to deal with girls.
Too much is always and I mean ALWAYS bad. Example, look at the RPM on your car's instrument panel, you'll should rev your engine to accelerate, but there's that redzone that you should avoid at all cost to prevent damage.
But there's a limiter,so u can't Rev past the red zone
Though, damage to an engine can still be done outside of that red zone.
Hey chris, thanks for making videos . It really helps a lot
This is true. I rarely spoke to this girl I liked out of fear. One day, out of nowhere, I waved her over to me, and she was walking right beside me stride-for-stride hanging on my every word.
This is right until she falls in love. Then you're safe to chat a little bit more, but always on the listener side of the fence. Also, I managed to seduce many girls from texts alone, so this is not an absolute. But as general rule of the thumb, it's pretty good.
Girls that fall for you over texts are usually shy and use this media as a way to get the attention/excitement she isn't getting in her life. So SHE should be one starting convos, because she gets the reward of talking to you...for a while. Then she invests more and falls more and more over time. Notice: if you can meet up with her with ease, don't text as much. But if she lives far, you both have a busy schedule or something like that this is a good way to seduce her, open her up, etc.
The problem is...some guys just keep being the initiators, so the girl doesn't even have the time to miss them because they don't give it to them. If she doesn't respond or doesn't start a convo, go about your business as usual. She will come eventually if she is interested.
Egg fookin zactly
If she's not interested it means u not the one to be with. Move on with another girl. 😒
I hate defeat
@@robertmoore294 that's a way more succinct way to put it, but yeah hahaha
Good analogy, makes a lot of sense, thank you Chris
Tbh... there is really not much a man can say to a woman. Besides being pretty, woman is boring in general. Unless she understands your dreams and goals.
LMAO..bro.. you need to meet more women
@@dominicvaldes5890 In general he said.
Lol. She doesn't give a fuck about your dreams and goals. All that she cares about is that you generate a good income and live a great lifestyle that she can hopefully benefit from. She doesn't care about the process, only the result. Come on now.
I’ve recently started to appreciate the Phil’s, and it’s working
When I saw a girl I liked , I usually try to give her most of my information and its not attractive , stop right now . Seeking female validation behiviour is so unattractive
Notification squad 🔔!!! Thanks Chris
Being named Ken is really hard, I have the same traits as Ken☹️
🙃🙃
I get the whole mystery thing but texting like “Phil” the girl will not be thinking about you after a week, it’s important for them to have enough interest to text you instead
ben fleming she didn’t have his number
No, that is wrong. She WILL be thinking about you if she had initial interest in the first place.
I learned this by accident. Not so much because I was trying to be mysterious, but because I'm more fascinated by learning and doing things than other people's lives and social proof. I guess I become and puzzle to some women
Ingrid. A woman in her mid 30s whose only true love is her career= bed her, don't wed her.
"If she doesn't want me in her prime, she doesn't deserve me in her decline"
It's just hypergamy at work. Plate spinning at its best
Someones read the rational male ;-)
Yep
You're a real relationship expert sir
Less is always more with the Lady's and in Life sometimes you have to slow down to speed up.
I like the way you said the words at the end.
This was a good video. I got to see it from a females perspective but it was explained with male logic. The moral of the story is not to seem too available and make her question if you like her.
Nice presentation you do man... Thanks. They are more explanatory than reading
Ken, relax dude.
I love how their hands move when they text
What if you’re married, is being mysterious the key to keeping your marriage flame alive?
It can be
No. I think what the speaker was trying to say that being mysterious related to attraction.
When you're married, the key is love.
when you r married..ye i wish you the best lol, uphill battle for intimacy has started there
This sums up everything a man should do or rather not..to attract a woman.
👍👏
The less you are available! The more intrigued she becomes! Problem solved!!!
Deffo Open up lightly about some things some people will appreciate that and see it as a form of trust also it can make people relate to each other a bit better but like he said don’t over do it by telling them your life inside out what u do all day and stuff like that keep them things to yourself always work in silence but don’t be an asshole
The tactic i use on everybody not just females.
Today I clicked the notification bell 🔔
Glad to be mysterious
I believe more men need to see this video. This is not the typical fresh and fit, Andrew Tate aggressive style in dating and suffocating red pill nonsense. If you’re into that because I have no problem listening to Andrew Tate and Myron, but this video equally hits well to show you from the woman’s perspective how much of a Simp you can look like🤷🏿♂️if you were Ken
So true , I fall into this trap too many times , switch my mindset right now
Ken CAN do it at one time but Phil can FILL her up when he thinks the time is right.
Wow you are mine LOVELIFE MENTOR.
I thought I was mysterious but they say, I am an asshole😅
Yes don't be too available
Wow, that's a very interesting story. Very captivating
I have this massive crush on this woman who's a coworker,the first day i met her she was sitting all alone,so naturally i thought she was introverted/ shy and sat next to her and socialized with her ,then i came to know that she has nothing in common with me and although we sit next to her i seldom talk to her .I honestly don't know what to do next ,i sometimes ask her stuff about her childhood but she's too different from me personality vise that i am struggling to talk to her.
If you have nothing in common with her then why are you still pursuing her? It’s clearly just physical attraction and nothing more. There’s lots of attractive women out there whom you’ll have more in common with and your value systems will line up. Don’t create a fantasy of what you think a woman will be in your head. Move on
How does Ken reverse this to become attractive again and is that even possible for Ken to do now since he's no longer mysterious?
Dont be needy! Just dont do be, throw away your phone before you write something cringe that you will later regret
Be a man with huge balls live and act like that, stay true to yourself even if it means you get rejected
Dont always message her, show her she isnt your biggest priority (passion over pleasure)
Dont talk about yourself, be a good listener, and have a good sense of humour, because women love emotions, negative and positive ones
Dont try to fix or repair her, bro she isnt a car and you arent her therapist, its not your duty to do that
Have respect on your self, she will test you, if you dont put up boundaries you deserve to be disrespected
We have all been through this being to available
This is indeed a fact. But a piece of advice is here: Keep in mind that the five fingers of a palm are not same and equal. Likewise not every woman's are same.
Never a better feeling than when I’m at work (bartender) and the one girl at the bar with the huge…. “smile”, surrounded by 5-6 dudes, all trying way too hard, and she’s getting frustrated because I won’t tell her my name or even give her a 2nd look. My dudes, if you’re not clowning on these broads and letting them know they ain’t sh*t, you’re not doing it right. Let her know you’d rather rebuild an engine or chop down a gigantic redwood than smash and that crown will be bestowed upon you, mah kaaaaanngggzzz
Then u will be single forever😂
Different people different opinions.. I will not meet Phil .
Phil was busy in dating someone else while Ken was investing his time in her ... why would someone cancel a planned date . Just for someone who was ignoring for few days . That’s rude 🙄
u put more value on that thing which u cannot get easily
The bar dude got me dead at the end 😂
This even applies for women....
M using it 😁
Thank you for this video.
I feel flattered
So Ken did too much?
The phone is for setting dates. Not to get to know someone.
So if you did this....how to repair it??
You make these concepts really easy to understand. It all seems super obvious now. Thanks! Ahhaha.
Honestly a woman just wants a guy that asks genuine questions and listens well cause women love to talk
I like this video. You are a genuis
If we have messed up like Ken, can we recover those attractions
Introverts:so I'm attractive?
Shit. I been kening it my whole life. I just started to pull back.
Side note if she wanted to speak with Phil why she didn't just text him?
Does uploading less photos of youself in social media also contribute for being mysterious?
All answers are greatly appreciated
Depends on the frequency and type of things you post. Overly Posting boring normal life stuff is not mysterious. A few drops of "cool" things, specially outdoors or social and you'll get her interest.
How do you be mystery one or two years or more ,after love is there , into the relationship and still maintain that charm
You spend some time apart. You can also incorporate new activities into your routine and she will wonder about you more as a result. Don't always be predictable either. It's fun to change things up.
I’m glad I’ve never been a Ken
YOU ARE 100% RIGHT
Every gf ive ever had, when i first got their #, i also had 5 other #'s. So i was dating, going out, having fun. So the girl i chose only initially got mystery me. I was MIA at night via text cause i was with other girls. I must if been so mysterious, going 10-15 hours without texting.
Lmao at the end. Yea I've been that guy. But when you finally start working on yourself, you don't have time to feel like shit.
Keep mysterious
But we like to settle with Ken in the end
Ken became Ken't
This is not the Ken that I know. Ken's an alpha.(Ken Masters from Street Fighter)
😂😀
My co worker spend 24/7 talking on the phone with girlfriend!!! How come they don’t lose attraction
infinityDuck Because they are dating it’s different. This is before dating
because they are friends, but maybe no sexy time anymore..
don' t judge based on what you see...
Don't not do what Ken doesn't do
The main issue here, if she thinks differently about Phil, she would never say yes. Just cause he does not give a shit about her, it does not mean he is higher value, what if he does not interested at all, just try to use her as a sidechick. It is only one side of the story and depends on what this woman wants, I suppose.
It's all about perception and she gets to decide is more valuable based on their behavior.
Who wants a 35 year old woman in this Society? I date no woman over 26.
They don't give a fuck to you
Lol Mannnnnn I Love these animations
Yeah guys.... I am still a mystery to everyone as I choose not to reveal anything.... i just focus on doing God's work so
Don't be like Ken 😃
Thank you
Phil didn’t send text because he got diarrhea ...he didn’t mentioned to her because ..
... He was busy shitting his guts out and lamenting the fact that his diarrhea would keep him off of his purpose for a couple of days.
When Ken got diarrhea later that day, he texted the details of his predicament to Ingrid, sharing the experience with her during a 20 minute texting session while he was on the can, telling her all the details about his bowel movements and how much it splashed everytime he squirted poop and farts from his butt-hole.
@@kristianjensen5877 Oddly specific.
@@cralo2066 Interesting stories are defined by their oddly specific details. Look at any Tarantino movie and notice all the oddly specific details in them. :p :)
Ken : beta male
Phil : alpha male
More like
Ken:beta male
Phil:sigma male
Why the batender laugh at the crying one at the end 😁