Jazakallahu kairan. Salaamu alaikum to your entire family. Especially the sister coach’s husband, without diminishing the sisters. This platform is needed & beneficial. I dare to say it. Especially for us, African-American reverts. This is one of the hardest tests to reconcile. Prophet(saw) said he did not leave a greater test than ………..well we as Muslims know the rest. Jazakallahu kairan to the three of you!!! Salaamu alaikum wa rahmatullah wa barakatuhu.
When a second or next wives enter a marriage you can't possibly understand how the first wife feels if you never been there you choose to be a second wife most of the first wives don't willingly choose that then are made to feel selfish
U know that in Islam men are allowed to have more than one wife. So why trying to keep him for urself when u have the possibility to be one out of 4? Why lying to urself that u will always be the only one n then get shocked when the other decreed woman arrives to take her due right?? She entered at the decreed time for her to enter. Decreed by who?? By Allah the Almighty. The One who decreed u to marry ur husband earlier than the second woman. U got chance to be with him earlier that's it. U dont get to take over him completely just because u want to. Unless he was fated to marry only u then say alhamdu lillah. But if he was also fated to have another wife or more then u dont get to refuse his fate.
@@SallyHeart-y2h polygny is a choice. Nobody should be made to feel guilty for choosing to live the lifestyle or not. Everyone is different and not all people are able to handle all things in life. Milk is halal, but if some people drink it, they can’t tolerate it and get very sick. Everything ain’t for everyone. Drop the guilt trip on women who have difficulty with it. We all have different experiences that shape who we are and our level of tolerance to certain situations. Let’s be kind and respectful to each other. May Allah bless those who CHOOSE to participate and those that choose other options (Halal). Ameen
It's true that an incoming wife doesn't understand the position of the wife or wifes that are in the marriage already but it is also true that they don't understand the incoming wife. Each position has its challenges and none are smaller than the other. Also both positions have unique advantages.
When having information of not just want to have a second queen I become fearful of things that I love getting snatched from me I felt as tho I was a failure listening to you my sister help me understand my pass I am now understand what my purpose is being in this marriage by me having epilepsy help me understand that he needs help it's not just for me but it's also for him thank you so much my sister for an intelligent information i
It’s negotiating care, accommodation, attentiveness, conflict in achieving goals, the future that is harder to be objective about. A single wife owns everything material that her husband does she has a level of comfort that polygyny takes away. I’m sure there are arguments about what she gains that someone will insert. To further address the pains….It’s the inconveniences. A husband that was pouring into and solely focused on a dream home and accommodation for the two of you is now juggling a lot of competing demands in 2-3 different places. I’m not saying I’m selfish of course he needs to meet his obligations, I’m just answering the question of the pain of sharing.
As salaamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu ukhti! JazakAllahu khair for the kind words. I just watched an Ali Dawah episode with you on it and looked you up. AlHamdulilah it's good to hear that from you as I got that vibe from you as well. Of course, it's not popular in this day and age, however definitely needed. AlHamdulilah. 💎~Coach Nyla
💗💃 Appreciate your video on polygamy, just interested in the topic for educational purposes. Years ago I could have been in a polygamous relationship, but it might have been hard for the man to convince me of that without him meeting a lot of requirements. Nevertheless I'm glad I stuck with monogamy, which is not a put down to polygamy.
May all muslim women out there can accept that everything that comes from Allah must be good. So just like what coach Nyla said if u want to look at it as negative then it will be negative, n if u look at it positive then it will be positive. It's all in the mindset.
Not going to feel bad for functioning the way Allah created me to. I don’t want own a man just want the benefits they provide. Willing to give but not everyday. Don’t want to be a servant to a man
What would be your advice if the second wife that came into the relationship doesn't want to fulfill her share of the responsibilities though? We had to make a chore chart and she still refuses to do things around the house most of the time until she gets yelled at by the husband. She just wants to lay around and do nothing but snuggle the husband and play with the dog while the first wife does everything.
Sharing a husband would be more like sharing your underwear than a piece of cake. NOBODY likes the idea of someone else wearing something so intimate with their body. I’m gonna have to disagree with your analogy on this one Coach Nila. To each his own. May Allah bless your family for sharing. Ameen
@@livefromplanetearth I did hear the video; but, like my underwear, I feel a personal connection and would not like for anyone else to share something that intimate with my body. Just making a closer comparison. No shade on Nyla.
Your husband is not actually yours. Allah created him, gave him life, and Allah sets the rules for his life: his responsibilities and his rights. And the same for wives, Allah knows the struggle that polygyny is. Yet, it is still in the Quran until the end times. Do you propose to know better than Allah what is good for you?
@@khaledhassan4706 No! But just understand that the struggle women face is real! Expecting that everyone will be happy and cooperative is not realistic if everyone is not on board. Allah did not promise men that women would happily go along without any kind of turmoil. Isn’t it unrealistic to assume that women are all the same and should respond similarly?
There are quite a few flaws I found with your observations and the overall perspective being conveyed. Firstly, I think it is completely erroneous to suggest that because a wife has a problem sharing her husband, she has a problem with the concept of sharing. In this case, it is absolutely not the act of sharing that is the issue, rather WHAT is being shared. You wouldn't scorn someone who was disinclined to share their toothbrush? Or the contents of their diary? I have absolutely no problem in sharing my lunch with someone, in sharing an umbrella in the rain, sharing my phone with someone who needs to make a call. Therefore, to compare a wife being reluctant to share her husband romantically/sexually with another woman is, to me, rather patronizing. I also utterly disagree with the implication that a woman who does not wish to partake in being married to a man with multiple wives, has the emotional maturity of a toddler. Again, very patronizing. Most women ensure they spend a lot of time evaluating and reflecting on the hardships they encounter, the impact is has on their relationship, their family and themselves. It is very dismissive to suggest that if she has a boundary that is being crossed, if she decides that she does not feel comfortable with such a dynamic, that it is lack of emotional maturity. Now let's get to the cause of reluctance when it comes to sharing. The idea that you can equate a toddler fearing not getting something back with a woman who must endure her husband being with another woman is completely absurd. Even the Quran for example mentions the fact that husbands cannot possibly be emotionally just to their wives. So logically, where you were once entirely devoted to each other, now your husband has another means of receiving intimacy, support and comfort. Your own value can decline. Your connection can decline. The strength of your relationship can decline. The fact is you are being replaced for periods of time and that can cause fractures. This is why most women do not want to share husbands, because they are aware that there will not be emotional justice and that is cruel. It was an interesting analogy with a cake. Unlike sharing a cake, I do think an analogy could be made between polygyny and SPLITTING a cake. Because, you are now splitting your time with your husband. You are not getting that time back. If you once spent every evening together, now you have lost 50% of that time, it is being split with someone else and you are being replaced with someone else. On the point of fears that women have in sharing. It is not a loss of control. It is an unwillingness to share because you do not want to lose time, you do not want to lose intimacy, you do not want to lose trust, you do not want to lose stability, you do not want to lose the value that your marriage has accumulated because it was exclusive. When exclusivity is lost, things become less special, less cherished, less valuable. I agree that with emotional maturity comes the awareness of what you can handle, what you can endure, what you want. Personally, I want the same level of commitment, fidelity and devotion. If I am all in, if I am completely making my husband my world, forsaking all other men, I need to have that commitment back. Otherwise, I do not feel loved, I do not feel fulfilled, I do not see the worth. In my case, it is absolutely possible for me to get what I need from one person, but that man cannot be polygynous. It will of course, not necessarily be possible in a monogamous relationship, but that would be due to the man, not the dynamic of monogamy. In other words, it is not possible for me to have my needs met in a polygynous marriage. I find it interesting that you claim a man may not be able to receive the level of emotional comfort he requires from one woman. I would attest that more so, for most women, they would not receive the level of emotional comfort they require from their husband in a polygynous marriage. The irony of a woman not always being there to provide emotional comfort being used as a reason for men to enter into a polygynous marriage....where he by necessity will not be able to be there for the emotional comfort or security of his wife for 50% of nights...cannot be an irony lost on you? A woman who does not do it all absolutely can be sufficient for a man if he chooses monogamy. However, let's not sugarcoat things by saying it is an insecurity if a woman feels she is not sufficient if her husband chooses polygyny because the reality is, she is not. If she were sufficient, then his needs by definition would be met. If you want more, if you crave more, then what you have is not sufficient to satiate your desire. So it is absolutely no wonder at all when women are hurt or insecure because their husband wants someone else. It is a curiosity that you highlight how emotionally manipulative a woman can be in monogamy, but you fail to mention the emotional manipulation that polygyny lends itself easily to that wives have to endure. I don't think either relationship type should be characterised as good or bad based on their capacity for emotional manipulation because they are fairly balanced. I find your final conclusion to be extremely inaccurate, especially given the fact that you seem to acknowledge its flaw nearly a minute prior. You claimed that most women don't have pain because of polygyny itself, that it is not the nature of the dynamic that is the problem....but earlier in your comments you stated very clearly that women are monogamous by nature?? So, logic would follow, that of course it is the very dynamic of your husband marrying someone else that is unsettling, that is heartbreaking. It is the pain that inevitably occurs when you see your husband holding hands with his other wife, when you are alone during a night, replaced by a woman who is being held by your husband at a time when you would normally be. It is the pain of knowing that it is not just 'him and I' forsaking all others. A couple who are able to face any adversity because their attention is not divided or split or shared with others. The pain of sharing in polygyny is real. It is debilitating. It can cost someone their relationship. It cost my husband and I, ours.
You seem to have a lot to say as well as have questions about what I stated in this short video. This topic is extensive and there is a lot to unpack, with that being said, I do have a proposal for you. I invite you to discuss this topic with me on a live. I believe that having a discussion is better than just commenting back and forth under a video, or videos for that matter. We don't shy away from the topic of polygyny as well as the challenges that can surface in polygynous marriages and we have no problem speaking to our audience as well as educating and providing clarity on a very misunderstood form of marriage. Let's schedule a time to go live and clear the air. I look forward to it. 💎~Coach Nyla
@@outstandingpersonalrelationshi Thank you for your offer, it is very thoughtful. May I ask what it would entail specifically? I have not participated in livestream on UA-cam before so I’m a little uncertain as to how it works.
Wow!! You said it ALL. I’m so sorry that you’ve had to go through this. This is not the way the Lord intended for marriage to be. This is a man made flawed design
Seeing such videos amazes me.. how women are always ready to stretch out themselves in the name of love for their husbands and its really admirable but so unhealthy sonetimes. Im asking myself dont women have desires too.. do they necessarily get satisfied with ine man 100%?? Or its about choice to love and be to one person? Men dont always meet all the needs of a woman either. So i think its all about choices. A man can choose to be content and happy with one wife or choose more. Same way a woman can choice to be content with one man. It doesnt necessarily mean she is dead to desire another man. But she shooses to be faithful to one man. I think religion iffered them the option some women would also explore the option if it was correct.
Assalam alaikum So my husband told me that he may get married to second wife one day in the future, but he's not sure . It's really painful 😢 and hard i love my husband so much i don't want to lose him. he's great husband and wonderful father to our children . I just need some advice please. I am mother of four beautiful children full time stay home mom. I depend on my husband financially for everything 💯 he provides. I don't have income to my self. So i can't say everything My husband said in case he married married the second wife it will be in Africa and we live in Canada 🇨🇦 My question is in Canada we gets child benefit from the government the money we get for our children my husband use as his income and the money he worked. If he get married the second wife i will take way our kids money from him . How i should tell him the kids money will be kids not his income that i will be saving the money for the kids future. Any advice please 🙏
You should ask a scholar if you’re entitled to do what you wanna do. Dont know if it’s permissible to decide such a thing on your own without your husband (who takes care of the kids financially) agreeing
She is most definitely entitled to do as she wants, just like her husband is doing. She is not a prisoner. Islam is about empowering women not imprisoning them. She is a free soul who belongs only to Allah, no man can rule over her if she does not wish to. She is the one that lets a man care for her@@oemyaqoub6984 Anything that imprisons a woman is not from Allah, its from patriarchy.
Dont worry polygyny doesnt mean you lose your husband by the way. And dont stress too much about something that hasnt happened yet and may never happen
@@orionash7067 Its not about losing the husband that is the problem. It's about living in poverty due due to not being able to afford another wife, its about the husband. not being able to be there for her, it's about her her voice and emotions not being heard or taken in to consideration. A decision like this should be about both partners being ok with it. Not about the man doing whatever he wants. However, you are right it has not happened yet and it might not.
I don't know if it's permissible to do that. But Like if he can provide all the things for both families like education for kids, food, bills medical expenses, transportation etc then it may be not wrong. God knows best. If you want tell him something. Just tell him. Then you can have a discussion
Jazakallahu kairan. Salaamu alaikum to your entire family. Especially the sister coach’s husband, without diminishing the sisters. This platform is needed & beneficial. I dare to say it. Especially for us, African-American reverts. This is one of the hardest tests to reconcile. Prophet(saw) said he did not leave a greater test than ………..well we as Muslims know the rest. Jazakallahu kairan to the three of you!!! Salaamu alaikum wa rahmatullah wa barakatuhu.
Greater test than "WOMEN" 🧕🧕🧕
When a second or next wives enter a marriage you can't possibly understand how the first wife feels if you never been there you choose to be a second wife most of the first wives don't willingly choose that then are made to feel selfish
U know that in Islam men are allowed to have more than one wife. So why trying to keep him for urself when u have the possibility to be one out of 4? Why lying to urself that u will always be the only one n then get shocked when the other decreed woman arrives to take her due right?? She entered at the decreed time for her to enter. Decreed by who?? By Allah the Almighty. The One who decreed u to marry ur husband earlier than the second woman. U got chance to be with him earlier that's it. U dont get to take over him completely just because u want to. Unless he was fated to marry only u then say alhamdu lillah. But if he was also fated to have another wife or more then u dont get to refuse his fate.
@@SallyHeart-y2h polygny is a choice. Nobody should be made to feel guilty for choosing to live the lifestyle or not. Everyone is different and not all people are able to handle all things in life. Milk is halal, but if some people drink it, they can’t tolerate it and get very sick. Everything ain’t for everyone. Drop the guilt trip on women who have difficulty with it. We all have different experiences that shape who we are and our level of tolerance to certain situations. Let’s be kind and respectful to each other. May Allah bless those who CHOOSE to participate and those that choose other options (Halal). Ameen
In the Bible, the same way too
It's true that an incoming wife doesn't understand the position of the wife or wifes that are in the marriage already but it is also true that they don't understand the incoming wife. Each position has its challenges and none are smaller than the other. Also both positions have unique advantages.
When having information of not just want to have a second queen I become fearful of things that I love getting snatched from me I felt as tho I was a failure listening to you my sister help me understand my pass I am now understand what my purpose is being in this marriage by me having epilepsy help me understand that he needs help it's not just for me but it's also for him thank you so much my sister for an intelligent information i
It’s negotiating care, accommodation, attentiveness, conflict in achieving goals, the future that is harder to be objective about. A single wife owns everything material that her husband does she has a level of comfort that polygyny takes away. I’m sure there are arguments about what she gains that someone will insert. To further address the pains….It’s the inconveniences. A husband that was pouring into and solely focused on a dream home and accommodation for the two of you is now juggling a lot of competing demands in 2-3 different places. I’m not saying I’m selfish of course he needs to meet his obligations, I’m just answering the question of the pain of sharing.
we only negotiating with women open to polygyny in 2024
@@livefromplanetearthExactly!
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Where have you been all my life? 😮 I’ve never heard any other women think or speak like me 👏👏👏👏 this video was amazing loved it ❤
As salaamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu ukhti! JazakAllahu khair for the kind words. I just watched an Ali Dawah episode with you on it and looked you up. AlHamdulilah it's good to hear that from you as I got that vibe from you as well. Of course, it's not popular in this day and age, however definitely needed. AlHamdulilah.
💎~Coach Nyla
💗💃 Appreciate your video on polygamy, just interested in the topic for educational purposes. Years ago I could have been in a polygamous relationship, but it might have been hard for the man to convince me of that without him meeting a lot of requirements. Nevertheless I'm glad I stuck with monogamy, which is not a put down to polygamy.
May all muslim women out there can accept that everything that comes from Allah must be good. So just like what coach Nyla said if u want to look at it as negative then it will be negative, n if u look at it positive then it will be positive. It's all in the mindset.
Not going to feel bad for functioning the way Allah created me to. I don’t want own a man just want the benefits they provide. Willing to give but not everyday. Don’t want to be a servant to a man
And a man shouldn't feel bad for how Allah created him, may wanting more than 1 wife
What would be your advice if the second wife that came into the relationship doesn't want to fulfill her share of the responsibilities though? We had to make a chore chart and she still refuses to do things around the house most of the time until she gets yelled at by the husband. She just wants to lay around and do nothing but snuggle the husband and play with the dog while the first wife does everything.
Why are both wives living in the same house. The husband should provide separate home for both
Great insight
if my man wants another wife, he can have her while I file for a divorce
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Sharing a husband would be more like sharing your underwear than a piece of cake. NOBODY likes the idea of someone else wearing something so intimate with their body. I’m gonna have to disagree with your analogy on this one Coach Nila. To each his own. May Allah bless your family for sharing. Ameen
she literally said you can’t share a piece of cake you should watch the whole video
@@livefromplanetearth I did hear the video; but, like my underwear, I feel a personal connection and would not like for anyone else to share something that intimate with my body. Just making a closer comparison. No shade on Nyla.
💯 even the prophets'wives struggled with it and there are many hadiths like Aisha throwing the tray with food down
Your husband is not actually yours. Allah created him, gave him life, and Allah sets the rules for his life: his responsibilities and his rights. And the same for wives, Allah knows the struggle that polygyny is. Yet, it is still in the Quran until the end times. Do you propose to know better than Allah what is good for you?
@@khaledhassan4706 No! But just understand that the struggle women face is real! Expecting that everyone will be happy and cooperative is not realistic if everyone is not on board. Allah did not promise men that women would happily go along without any kind of turmoil. Isn’t it unrealistic to assume that women are all the same and should respond similarly?
SHARING IS CARING!!🧕👳♂️🧕السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته
It is not unlawful to have more than one wife what is lawful for a a brother or a a son to take another man wife that’s unlawful
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There are quite a few flaws I found with your observations and the overall perspective being conveyed.
Firstly, I think it is completely erroneous to suggest that because a wife has a problem sharing her husband, she has a problem with the concept of sharing. In this case, it is absolutely not the act of sharing that is the issue, rather WHAT is being shared. You wouldn't scorn someone who was disinclined to share their toothbrush? Or the contents of their diary? I have absolutely no problem in sharing my lunch with someone, in sharing an umbrella in the rain, sharing my phone with someone who needs to make a call. Therefore, to compare a wife being reluctant to share her husband romantically/sexually with another woman is, to me, rather patronizing.
I also utterly disagree with the implication that a woman who does not wish to partake in being married to a man with multiple wives, has the emotional maturity of a toddler. Again, very patronizing. Most women ensure they spend a lot of time evaluating and reflecting on the hardships they encounter, the impact is has on their relationship, their family and themselves. It is very dismissive to suggest that if she has a boundary that is being crossed, if she decides that she does not feel comfortable with such a dynamic, that it is lack of emotional maturity.
Now let's get to the cause of reluctance when it comes to sharing. The idea that you can equate a toddler fearing not getting something back with a woman who must endure her husband being with another woman is completely absurd. Even the Quran for example mentions the fact that husbands cannot possibly be emotionally just to their wives. So logically, where you were once entirely devoted to each other, now your husband has another means of receiving intimacy, support and comfort. Your own value can decline. Your connection can decline. The strength of your relationship can decline. The fact is you are being replaced for periods of time and that can cause fractures. This is why most women do not want to share husbands, because they are aware that there will not be emotional justice and that is cruel.
It was an interesting analogy with a cake. Unlike sharing a cake, I do think an analogy could be made between polygyny and SPLITTING a cake. Because, you are now splitting your time with your husband. You are not getting that time back. If you once spent every evening together, now you have lost 50% of that time, it is being split with someone else and you are being replaced with someone else.
On the point of fears that women have in sharing. It is not a loss of control. It is an unwillingness to share because you do not want to lose time, you do not want to lose intimacy, you do not want to lose trust, you do not want to lose stability, you do not want to lose the value that your marriage has accumulated because it was exclusive. When exclusivity is lost, things become less special, less cherished, less valuable.
I agree that with emotional maturity comes the awareness of what you can handle, what you can endure, what you want. Personally, I want the same level of commitment, fidelity and devotion. If I am all in, if I am completely making my husband my world, forsaking all other men, I need to have that commitment back. Otherwise, I do not feel loved, I do not feel fulfilled, I do not see the worth.
In my case, it is absolutely possible for me to get what I need from one person, but that man cannot be polygynous. It will of course, not necessarily be possible in a monogamous relationship, but that would be due to the man, not the dynamic of monogamy. In other words, it is not possible for me to have my needs met in a polygynous marriage.
I find it interesting that you claim a man may not be able to receive the level of emotional comfort he requires from one woman. I would attest that more so, for most women, they would not receive the level of emotional comfort they require from their husband in a polygynous marriage. The irony of a woman not always being there to provide emotional comfort being used as a reason for men to enter into a polygynous marriage....where he by necessity will not be able to be there for the emotional comfort or security of his wife for 50% of nights...cannot be an irony lost on you?
A woman who does not do it all absolutely can be sufficient for a man if he chooses monogamy. However, let's not sugarcoat things by saying it is an insecurity if a woman feels she is not sufficient if her husband chooses polygyny because the reality is, she is not. If she were sufficient, then his needs by definition would be met. If you want more, if you crave more, then what you have is not sufficient to satiate your desire. So it is absolutely no wonder at all when women are hurt or insecure because their husband wants someone else.
It is a curiosity that you highlight how emotionally manipulative a woman can be in monogamy, but you fail to mention the emotional manipulation that polygyny lends itself easily to that wives have to endure. I don't think either relationship type should be characterised as good or bad based on their capacity for emotional manipulation because they are fairly balanced.
I find your final conclusion to be extremely inaccurate, especially given the fact that you seem to acknowledge its flaw nearly a minute prior. You claimed that most women don't have pain because of polygyny itself, that it is not the nature of the dynamic that is the problem....but earlier in your comments you stated very clearly that women are monogamous by nature?? So, logic would follow, that of course it is the very dynamic of your husband marrying someone else that is unsettling, that is heartbreaking. It is the pain that inevitably occurs when you see your husband holding hands with his other wife, when you are alone during a night, replaced by a woman who is being held by your husband at a time when you would normally be. It is the pain of knowing that it is not just 'him and I' forsaking all others. A couple who are able to face any adversity because their attention is not divided or split or shared with others.
The pain of sharing in polygyny is real. It is debilitating. It can cost someone their relationship. It cost my husband and I, ours.
You seem to have a lot to say as well as have questions about what I stated in this short video. This topic is extensive and there is a lot to unpack, with that being said, I do have a proposal for you.
I invite you to discuss this topic with me on a live. I believe that having a discussion is better than just commenting back and forth under a video, or videos for that matter.
We don't shy away from the topic of polygyny as well as the challenges that can surface in polygynous marriages and we have no problem speaking to our audience as well as educating and providing clarity on a very misunderstood form of marriage.
Let's schedule a time to go live and clear the air. I look forward to it. 💎~Coach Nyla
@@outstandingpersonalrelationshi
Thank you for your offer, it is very thoughtful. May I ask what it would entail specifically? I have not participated in livestream on UA-cam before so I’m a little uncertain as to how it works.
Wow!! You said it ALL. I’m so sorry that you’ve had to go through this. This is not the way the Lord intended for marriage to be. This is a man made flawed design
@@Crown149 who is your lord
Seeing such videos amazes me.. how women are always ready to stretch out themselves in the name of love for their husbands and its really admirable but so unhealthy sonetimes.
Im asking myself dont women have desires too.. do they necessarily get satisfied with ine man 100%?? Or its about choice to love and be to one person? Men dont always meet all the needs of a woman either.
So i think its all about choices. A man can choose to be content and happy with one wife or choose more. Same way a woman can choice to be content with one man. It doesnt necessarily mean she is dead to desire another man. But she shooses to be faithful to one man. I think religion iffered them the option some women would also explore the option if it was correct.
What!??? 🤦🏽♀️
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AlHamdulilah
Assalam alaikum
So my husband told me that he may get married to second wife one day in the future, but he's not sure . It's really painful 😢 and hard i love my husband so much i don't want to lose him. he's great husband and wonderful father to our children . I just need some advice please. I am mother of four beautiful children full time stay home mom. I depend on my husband financially for everything 💯 he provides. I don't have income to my self.
So i can't say everything
My husband said in case he married married the second wife it will be in Africa and we live in Canada 🇨🇦
My question is in Canada we gets child benefit from the government the money we get for our children my husband use as his income and the money he worked. If he get married the second wife i will take way our kids money from him . How i should tell him the kids money will be kids not his income that i will be saving the money for the kids future. Any advice please 🙏
You should ask a scholar if you’re entitled to do what you wanna do. Dont know if it’s permissible to decide such a thing on your own without your husband (who takes care of the kids financially) agreeing
She is most definitely entitled to do as she wants, just like her husband is doing. She is not a prisoner. Islam is about empowering women not imprisoning them. She is a free soul who belongs only to Allah, no man can rule over her if she does not wish to. She is the one that lets a man care for her@@oemyaqoub6984 Anything that imprisons a woman is not from Allah, its from patriarchy.
Dont worry polygyny doesnt mean you lose your husband by the way. And dont stress too much about something that hasnt happened yet and may never happen
@@orionash7067 Its not about losing the husband that is the problem. It's about living in poverty due due to not being able to afford another wife, its about the husband. not being able to be there for her, it's about her her voice and emotions not being heard or taken in to consideration. A decision like this should be about both partners being ok with it. Not about the man doing whatever he wants. However, you are right it has not happened yet and it might not.
I don't know if it's permissible to do that. But Like if he can provide all the things for both families like education for kids, food, bills medical expenses, transportation etc then it may be not wrong. God knows best.
If you want tell him something. Just tell him. Then you can have a discussion
But but sharing a man is like sharing a toothbrush! Lol do u share a toothbrush?
Lol
SIC 😂
What utter rubbish
close minded
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