A Trauma Informed Approach to Assessment and Treatment with Lisa Ferentz
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- Опубліковано 25 сер 2024
- In this introductory video, Lisa presents in more detail what will be covered and the learning outcomes to be expected from her upcoming webinar in association with PCPSI " A Trauma-Informed Approach to Assessment and Treatment with Lisa Ferentz " Lisa is a recognised expert in the treatment of trauma and has been in private practice for almost 4 decades.
For more details on the upcoming event please check out link.pcpsi.ie/...
Thanks Liam and Lisa
I never comment. But this was incredibly validating and empowering. It always felt wrong to ask a million questions when I just met a client
There is no “critical moment of choice”. That’s (just one) of the problems. Asking me how I feel, or what I’m feeling “in my body” is so frustrating. Telling me that delving into the past is “not necessary in order to put out the fire” feels…..more like a protective measure for YOU than for me. All it does is confirms the things we were told - and which we told ourselves - and most importantly, which we believe - that “Nobody cares”, “Nobody will truly understand”, and that “Nobody will believe this could really happen”. Also, we don’t like being patronized, placated, or congratulated and spoken to as if we are five years old (even - and maybe even especially - when we are feeling five years old). Are you sure you are not shutting us down rather than slowing us down?
Slowing what down? You are forgetting that THERE IS A DISCONNECT. There’s nothing to “slow down” - the feeling of connection stopped a long time ago, so it doesn’t matter, anyway.
Also, when a doctor decides he/she doesn’t need to actually “see” you in order to help you - that they can just as easily CALL you. Yikes. Run. The doctor is literally telling you that they’ll just be “dialing in”.
PS: When an adult raises their hand up, it is not helpful. Explain all you want, smile all you want as you do it. Hand in the air is not helpful.
“How is this landing”. What? How the hell should I know. The answer is “it’s not landing”.
Everybody is different. I’m open to the thought that this method can be helpful FOR SOME. Likewise, be open to knowing that this approach is NOT helpful for everybody. Personally, I don’t like being spoken to like I’m an idiot. Tone is a huge factor. Don’t talk to me like we’re in pre-school. And the hand up in the air is just sooooooo - NOT well received. THINK ABOUT IT. Raising your hand in the air to silence (or “pause” as you say) your client is so……can’t even find words for it.
The fire analogy “sounds clever”, but it really isn’t. I have a better analogy but I’m not going to share it’s mine. Sticking to the clever-sounding-fire-analogy, though, knowing where the fire began matters TO US, which doesn’t (at all) mean we”ll be willing to share it with you.
I believe that helpful therapy is getting to a place where we ABLE to share our experiences, both with ourselves and with our therapist.