If You Struggle To Let Go Of Hatred, Watch This
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- Hatred and anger can weigh heavily on our hearts, preventing us from experiencing true peace and happiness. In this heartfelt video, we delve into the transformative journey of letting go of hatred. Whether you're struggling with anger from past hurts or finding it hard to forgive, this video offers compassionate guidance and practical advice to help you find relief and healing.
Learning how to let go of hatred is a vital step toward reclaiming your emotional well-being. We'll discuss effective anger management techniques, the importance of forgiveness, and how to move forward from past grievances. By sharing personal stories and expert insights, we aim to support you in letting go of anger and embracing a more peaceful, fulfilling life.
Remember, the journey to letting go of hate is not an easy one, but you don't have to walk it alone. We're here to provide support, tips, and encouragement every step of the way. Join us in this important conversation, and take the first step toward healing and inner peace.
#hate #letgo #advice #mentalhealth
Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Editor: Kelly Soong, Isadora Ho
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice Over: Amanda Silvera ( / amandasilvera )
Animator:ADRIANA
UA-cam Manager: Cindy Cheong
References:
Russel, K. (2014 Mar 15). "How to Forgive Someone You Hate." Psychology Today. www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/how-be-grown/201403/how-forgive-someone-you-hate
Abrams, A. (2017 Mar 9). "The Psychology of Hate." Psychology Today. www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/nurturing-self-compassion/201703/the-psychology-hate
Sutton, J. & Nash, J. (2020 Sep 3). "Psychology of Forgiveness: 10+ Fascinating Research Findings." Positive Psychology. positivepsychology.com/psychology-of-forgiveness/#the-science-behind-forgiveness-10-findings
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Does anyone struggle with letting go of hatred? Hope this video helps and bring you peace
Not generally, but if I do, it would have to involve someone who has REALLY pushed me to my limit.
I was Sad
I really needed this video
Now i know whats holding me back. Thanks, i will need to rewatch this video a lot! Thank you.for this insight.
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For me, letting go of hatred means no longer caring about the people who wronged you. And concentrating your compassion, empathy, and love to people who deserve it. People that give you just cause to hate them in the first place never deserved you
Thank you so much for your words 💗🙏🏾
Very wise and mature perspective.
I used to fully believe everyone deep down just wanted to hurt me,so I would be as detached from everyone as humanly possible lmbo I still try to keep everyone at arm’s length,but now I got someone who I care about
I learned that during last year. And most important for me was concentrating my compassion, empathie and love towards myself.
My selfimage was pretty f***ed up...
Took me too long to learn this. Spent too many nights thinking "no, i wont forgive him because that'd just be opening up an opportunity for him to hurt me again!" and "no, he doesnt deserve my forgiveness!" and "no, i will not justifying his actions *as wrong as they were!"* Frankly, I'm just tired of thinking about him. He doesn't deserve anything from me, not even a single *thought.* Letting go is hard; but I can't imagine how relieving it will be when I get there.
Timestamp!
-0:33 The poison of resentment
-1:27 The prison of the past
-2:10 The burden of holding on
-2:27 The loss of empathy
-3:19 The power of forgiveness
-4:12 The path to empowerment
Ty
@@Starlz_bxbbl3 :)
This video just came in the right time, I’m currently trying to let go of the hatred that i had against my senior manager for treating me unfairly.
Same
Me too. I'm trying to let go of my hatred of a toxic clique that wronged me severely from over a year ago. Honestly, even if I do forgive, I will never forget, and I believe that they should still be punished for what they did.
I know exactly how you feel. Same here.
It can be very difficult to let it go.
I also am trying to let go of the hatred against my manager
I try to let go the hatred I feel for my former martial arts teacher. A complete waste of love, genetic material and education moving on two legs. Well, instead of making such a complete failure of nature coming to life, his parents could have used time and other resources for something more productive:
1. Hiking
2. Travelling
3. Yoga
4. Backgammon
5. Searching for mushrooms in the forest (for a good mushroom meal)
6. Knitting and crochetting
7. Watching tv.
8. Boosting career.
9. Engagement for social service.
10. Watching Monty Python's flying circus instead of creating a living and breathing circus terrorizing others.
Let go hate rule no. 5:
If you hate someone, write down what you think about him/her without holding back...and let go and forgive then.
The people who wronged me Never gave me closure
I think that's the truth
You give yourself closure! How I don't know but you have to take the power away from them and give it back to yourself. They won't give you closure because they won't see things your way.
that makes it SO difficult
She prioritizes her closure.
Over mine.
... that's my mom.
Forgiveness is difficult as hell. Mostly because it does feel like you're "letting them off the hook." Trick to letting that go is to remember, that you holding onto that chain, that binding hate, can be let go by you as well. You don't have to forgive the ones that wronged you, but you can forgive yourself for things involving it. You can forgive yourself for "falling for their lies" or for "wearing the rose colored glasses" or any other idiom. You don't have to forget what they did, but you can let it go.
...not when it was formational to me.
I'm gonna "let bygones be bygones," but my mom ain't getting close enough to mess me up like she did before, _ever_ again.
Not me _or_ my future kids.
I’ve been diagnosed with ptsd from severe abuse from my mother, and school bullying.
I found that figuring out the root causes of your mental health problems, and committing to the exercises offered for ptsd sufferers really helps.
It also helps when you see your abusers for what they truly are: insecure, weak and jealous people who are projecting their nonsense onto you.
My former abusers didn’t seem so powerful or scary after I came to that conclusion. Now I just view them as clowns. And even when former bullies who never matured past that stage come round and say mean things, I just feel sorry for them and laugh. They are adults with the emotional capacity of children, miserable in life and looking to take it out on former victims than grow up.
I am a well adjusted adult with empathy who deals with problems in a mature and healthy way. I am loved and liked by others, I won.
Felt hatred for longer than I can remember. Learning to let go but it doesn't help with the voice always speaking that someone will bring the hatred back for selfish reasons.
I still don't really understand how to forgive the most heinous infractions, especially for something that has been with you all your life. I can repeatedly say I'm letting go, but the brain is an accomplished multi-tasker and it just seeps right back in.
You can forgive them but don't forget it. Keep boundaries with them. What they did was wrong and they will pay for it.
you dnt necessarly need to forgive. acceptance is a good alternative.
@@chuck25 Very true! "Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change."
Right when this video started playing, i thought, "Huh, i dont think I've hated anybody." But then later on, i realized i was still holding on to negative moments with my dad. And when it started talking about forgiveness, i prayed to God that i would be able to forgive like He forgives us every time. Then they said that "forgivness isnt excusing what the person did, its letting go for your own sake." I had never heard that before. I am very much an optimist, and I've been told i see the best in people, so I've always given people the benefit of the doubt and tried my best not to judge. I thought i was forgiving, but all i was doing was trying to forget. *You can't forget what you haven’t forgiven.* And in that moment, I was wondering, "How do you forgive? How do you let go?" Then they said that forgiveness is a choice. How do I choose to forgive? What does that even mean? Well, I truly want to forgive, so if I genuinely want to, then maybe I have? And just then, I felt a huge weight lift off of me, and i was just left staring into my own surprised reflection in my bathroom mirror. Then God said, "See?" And I had forgiven.
The Lord loves you and forgives you ALWAYS no matter what you've done❤.
I know thats something that you hear everyone say, but they say it cause its true.
They say it because its happened to them. Multiple times a day, even!
And listen, prayer is so powerful. It's amazing! Just try it.
If it works, AWESOME!! You just made contact with the God of the universe!!!
And if it doesn't (and i mean if it REALLY doesn’t, not if it just doesn’t SEEM to work instantly), then oh well. There's a measly few seconds you won't get back. You probably took some deep breaths too when you prayed, so maybe even those few seconds weren't wasted.
And make sure you have an open mind and AREN'T prejudiced (judge too quickly). NOTHING ever works for you if you're like that, especially prayer.
Maybe you don't know what to pray? Here, just say this-either out loud or in your mind, it doesn't matter: Oh Lord Jesus
Yep. That's it, three words. Say them thoughtfully. Take a deep breath while you say them. If you just did that, you just called on the Lord! Congratulations! And what happens when you call someone, like from another room? They come to you! So you will call Him, and He will come!
I hope you stay strong and have a wonderful day or night❤❤❤
I can relate because I still have huge hatred on the people who bullied me and treated me like dirt during my school days (and that math teacher of mine in my senior high school days who falsely pointed me out for cheating). And in college, in a group activity, I dealt with a really emotional classmate (she only sees me as a freeloader when in reality, I did help in a fairly decent amount). I find it sad that the professor never heard my side of the story (only her side). Thanks to the people who called me a freeloader and a spoonfed person, this made me a demotivated and huge worthless loser in college. 😔
I was bullying in school so I can relate and my best friend betrayed me.
@@SuperWolfpack2010 betrayal is the worst to experience
So sorry, I hope you are improving
The thing I think of is... the person you have hate for... probably doesn't even know or care, or actually find it funny. Rarely do they seem bothered by it. If they cared, they probably would have been decent enough to apologize or not be $#:++¥ to you. So you gain nothing but become a slave to letting someone else decide how you feel. Which is more attention than I think you should give to someone who doesn't treat you appropriately. I've also found that when you let it go and don't give the person who wronged you any attention at all... it drives them nuts!
Very wise
@@aran511 awww well thank you! Mostly I just kinda used my intuition and scientific method to test out the results. Observe how they react when I act savage and mean mug and get all upset... and that just left me upset and they seemed to enjoy that or it didn't bother them I was upset because I wasn't important enough to be decent to. So I tried the opposite. And it either confused them, or really made them upset that they weren't making me feel bad like they thought I should be. I mean, it's not perfect... I have had some people turn it up to 11 to get a reaction, and there are a few times I kept one eye looking over my shoulder to make sure they didn't devolve on me. But overall, it is my preferred way to deal with it. And the important part isn't how it makes them feel, but how much better I feel about things and how much it has shown me the silliness of one upping a bad attitude is.
I have anger issues cause of my parents
But they don't understand
I am finding peace starting with this video thank you
I am drawing and have started Journaling as a therapy
Same here! ❤
@@ArtsyStaff81794 that's great! I love how you didn't give up and continue to go. You won't regret this path.
Same here too.😑
@@NavatejRatnan I gotta thank my friends and anime for the support of my life
I am uploading my art work too to get more supporters
Yes! I've been there! I never had a happy child hood. At home I was abused by my father and bullied by my own brother and if that wasn't bad enough we lived in an area where it seemed everyone hated us for all sorts of reasons. At school I was constantly being harassed, beaten and bullied and it was happening at church and on the school bus! I wanted to join the cub scouts when I turned 8. That first evening when I met the fellow cub scouts I was severely beaten up. I wet home covered with in scrapes and bruises. It hurt so bad walking in the door I was crying with tears streaming down my cheeks My mother was shocked seeing me like this. She reported this to the scout master and nothing was done about it. I had a stepsister later and she was just as mean as those others from my early child hood and her own mother always let her get away with it! In recent years I heard that my father, step mother and step sister have passed away. Normally anyone hearing of the passing of a father and those you knew would mourn their passing. not me I felt greet joy knowing that the worst people in my life will never bother me again. At least now I can focus on forgiveness which I wasn't able to do before because the ones who knew the wrongs they were doing from the beginning took full advantage of my forgiveness. I hated each and every one of them for that! Now my brother is still alive and he now regrets what he has done and is now a much nicer person and I love him.
I feel the same way about my father. I know I shouldn't, but his time is short now and he won't be missed.
@@theinvisibleman2194 My father won't be missed either, neither the step mother or the step sister. Growing up in Utah was a real life nightmare. The kids that bullied me never did face consequences for their actions but when I did the same things they did I was in serious trouble for it. Even when I felt justified in doing what I had to to defend myself I ended up in trouble for it. So when these bullies came after me I ran from them. What else could I do? Even now when I meat a friendly person I want to keep my guard up.
I can definently say, hatred is one thing that can be the most corrosive but addicting feeling a person can feel. I struggle with this often, and it brings about great levels of stress into my life. Less so now than it used too, but it still is there. I am glad I saw this video today as I havent really reflected how much pure hatred I have for the very few people who have wronged me. It has encouraged me to make a difference in my life to try to forgive and move on from these things, even if in my mind they seem unforgivable. Being stuck in the past is no way to live.
Such perfect timing shouldn't be possible
"To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you."
U guys help me cope with what’s going on at home with my parents, so I thank u for being here for me to watch
Nobody's perfect but I need to make peace with my MIL.
LOL! Mine will never get another word of of me! Glad to have seen her for the very last time ... Walking away is also a valid strategy! Do what works for you though.
I'm actually in tears irl rn after watching this....😢
I've always been a peaceful, loving, and forgiving person... Yes, I may have seen and even gotten mixed up in dramas, mostly online, but I've always tried to be comforting and help my friends and other people cope with whatever issues they were having, and I also tried to share my positive personality with everyone around me... Simply because I just want to make people happy in whatever way I can...
Sadly... Things changed over time... And I've gone through my own problems... I've had to end up cutting ties with certain people because I was wronged in some way...
And almost every time I saw a post from certain people... It would drive me crazy because in my POV, it looks like they're going on with their lives like nothing is wrong, while I'm stuck in a limbo of hatred and being unforgiving...
Honestly tho... I'm tired of holding grudges against people... And all I want to do is just stop being stuck in the past, and just go back to being myself again...😔💔
Its not fair to ask a victim of abuse to forgive their abuser, it misses the whole point that anger and hatred are legitimate emotions that are there for a reason and forcing yourself to forgive in order to move on is only going to take you farther from your authenticity, and hence create more mental problems
I had an abuser that I hated up until about a year ago it happened when I was 5 I'm almost twenty now and I all could ever think about was revenge or what I'd do if I ever saw them again they did horrible thing to me and my mother but I forgave them I let go of the past because it's wasn't helping me become a functioning adult and now little by little I'm trying to forgive my wrong doers from the past because I don't need that hate I have such a good life now and letting go of that hate and resentment will only make my new life better and better for the wonderful people around me
I really struggled for a long time with a couple specific people. I had an old job where the managers were basically emotionally abusive to their employees on top of it being a high stress food service job. They literally broke federal labor laws at one point with me. I was so miserable with them that i had almost started self harming. I got out of that situation eventually but it left me with horrible anxiety, and a deep inherent mistrust of authority figures. And i struggled with letting go for a long time because it felt like that would invalidate my experiences. But something i had to learn to acknowledge was that “you need to let go of the past” and “the way they treated you was aweful” are not mutually exclusive statements. Both are true. Yes they treated me terribly and will probably never see repercussions for it and that sucks. But also im not doing myself any favors by dwelling on it.
For me all of this is far easier said than done, especially when it comes to the betrayal by family. Honestly I don’t think I’ll ever be able to forgive my uncle for what he did to me and my parents, not entirely anyways. And now his actions are causing my cousins to turn against him too. In a way, I am seeing the retribution I wanted, but I know it won’t fix what he’s done. Still, knowing that his perfect little kingdom is collapsing around his ears, it does put a smile on my face.
Actually helpful in understanding hatred as a whole
“You have heard it said you shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy. But I say to you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you. For if you love only those who love you, what reward is there in that?"
Jesus knows about it firsthand, amen!
Amen! Thank you lord for delivering me from hatred vengeance❣️
You just reminded me of one of my favourite Simpsons scenes, Bart’s class were told to write a Valentine’s Card for everyone else including the class bully, Bart says he hates him to Marge and the following dialogue happens:
“Jesus says to love your enemy!”
“That’s cos Jesus knows one day he gets to look his enemies in the eye and say ‘it was *me* that sent you to Hell!” 🤣🤣🤣
@@LadyLeomon 😂
It's incredibly hard to let it go when it's systematic....
generalizations will only make you feel worse about everything you encounter in life. you're already setting yourself up to hate people who haven't met you. is that on them or you?
@@cynthx Generalizations made against me because of my gender, skin color, financial status,etc when I didn't ask for it in the first place is pretty effed up too. I didn't start this crap, it was heaped on me and others who have skin of midnight. Tell them to fix themselves and their thought process bc it's still going on.
@@lb1477 Can't fix other people. And what other people think isn't a reflection of you, it's a reflection of them. Has nothing to do with you or your potential to be amazing. Pity them and continue to grow. But setting yourself up to hate people who haven't met you yet is the exact thing that got you into this mentality. So .... perpetuate it or glow beyond it?
@@cynthx You won't understand. Have a nice day.
@@lb1477 There you go again assuming and generalizing. I wasn't even born in the US and faced every discrimination possible before turning 5. but I will absolutely have a nice day. Hope you find yours.
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS VIDEO!
It almost brought me to tears. A lot of times I want to, or, have got my revenge against those who did me wrong. But I always feel empty inside... like the whole world is against me, then I got to have me guards-up for ROUND 2!
I know it's not true, just a fragment of my subconsciousness eager to fulfill my satisfaction for divine retribution, it's just difficult to accept people trying take the piss-outta your joy, and I happen to like playing karma. Hopefully this video could be a starting inspiration to moving forward from the hate. Wish me luck 🙏🏾
Perfect timing as usual.
Whoever sees this, I hope you are about to heal from whatever has happened to you and lead you here.
Be kind to yourself, it takes time.
Thank you, and you do the same.🥹😢
Yes I can relate to this video I’ve been hurt by family and past relationships but when you’ve been betrayed by a sister whom should love you I find hard to forgive ❤️😊thanks 👍🏻
Me too!!!
Creepy how accurate the timing of this video is! Thanks though! Really helpful! ❤
I really enjoy being antagonistic. Thanks.
Set my heart ❤️ free from pain
Pain is inevitable but suffering is optional ❤
Ive started to hate myself, the more frustrated I become with life any myself. Having turned 29 and never been in love, i feel so lost and hopeless living the same week for the past few years.
I just see everyone enjoying the experiences of life, the good, the bad and the ugly of it all. While i feel like I wasted my 20's playing it safe and boring. Avoiding sex/hookup culture, saving every penny I make, not knowing what to do with my free time, or even having friends to waste it with.
The last few weeks I felt so alone, and feel like im just stuck far in the background of everyones life thats passing me by. Just hoping someone will notice me beyond the stranger who passes them by.
Being so forgiving is the reason to why I suffered for so long. Forgiving them is like allowing them to continue to hurt others and myself. I’ll never forgive them again.
Thank you for making this video! It exactly what I needed…
About a year ago, I was at the discord server where my close friend I know for 7 years invited me to, where I see my ex friend again, (I know them 3 years ago before and I unfollowed them because of they highly critical nature on media like Disney movies and games, even watching them knowing they gonna hate or know it’s sucks…) I thought she might had changed and might give her a second chance, she act like she doesn't know me and she completely rude to me when I made a comment that on my MacBook Pro I can’t play MMD on it... till this day, I still hurts... I can’t stop thinking about those who hurt me, how they hate everything in media, no matter how many times I analyze her with no ease… as it is taking a toll on my mental health, because of that discord group as well that causes me to mental health (due to one of them is misanthropist…) sadly my close friend still with them who hurt me…
I hope to find peace soon and I hope everyone who went through a similar situation as I am is not alone.
This video came at the right time.
I have toxic, dysfunctional family members from dad's side (especially from dad and grandma) who made my life a living hell (that's why I have low self-esteem and pressure from them) and then act like they're victims or even act like nothing happened, so they gaslight me and stepped over my boundaries. And then they expect me to forgive them after that. But how am I supposed to forgive them if they keep doing it all over again in the span of months. They only give me resentment to them and I struggle to forgive them. Now all I want is to get a job and get out of this family once and for all.
When they hate you, they do it because you are wonderful. I've learned from experience that haters fear your abilities.
Yep. Jealousy.
I've found forgiveness and peace to be lacking, and never give the resolution I hope for.
The big problem in dealing with hatred and consequencial anger is that the source and cause of one's anger is difficult to evade in life, and that source still does the same things that made You hate, whenever You encounter it, with the source being without showing signs of improvement, but even worse.
I struggle/ don't struggle with hate, my intire life has been betrayal and getting stabed in the back, left behind by many I stood by and fought for...I not just hate but anger and rage as well, yes I do agree that all 3 a power poisons to are mind, body and spirits, at some point I toke out my emotions on others who I saw as...happy and wanted to take it away like mine was, but it never brought me any joy or relief only sadness. But then I decided ill hold on to these monsters and use there power on thoes who...deserve it, in school I started going after bullies, those who hurt others, some even became my best friends but the power of such emotions comes at a heavy cost, I now only use them in fights to defend myself or others, but the power and strength I get comes at a great cost, even just controlling these beasts cost my health, but I can never forgive nor forget, iv relied on these emotions so long, letting go makes me physically sick and weak to the point I can't even get out of bed, without them...I'll die, with them ill simply die a little later, don't repeat my mistake...let go but never forget forgiveness is not the same, not everyone should be worthy of your forgiveness cus it can blind you and you'll simply get hurt again, but hopefully some1 read my tail and can learn from it, sorry for the long read 💜
Well that’s a perfect way to say it “poison of resentment” because it will only affects us. Bringing us negative emotions. I have started to let go of negative emotions but from time to time maaaan, it’s so hard thinking back how people have treated me when I try my best to always give as much of my love to everyone.
De-programming myself to not forgive the abuser... but I am trying to bring forgiveness to myself in the silence.
18 years of resentment... and with the Internet, I can only use it to cry for help. A wound that only gets bigger if I stay too long in the place of my abusers.
You cannot forgive everyone, but forgiving yourself is always the greatest priority.
Sometimes, it's the only feeling that makes any sense.
I hate no one, I just want to set myself free from hating my own self.
I feel like I always have intense hatred for almost anything and watching this feels like it helped this is why I love psych2go
Such a beautiful video. Every word said resonates and is precise with the topic being discussed!
This is what i needed
Thanks you
Letting go is difficult, but as you stated, it's beneficial to your overall health when you do so!
Common sense was taught to us at preschool, but we tend to forget all good values as we grow older! Thanks for reminding us and keeping us on track towards a brighter future! Take care!
I was really very angry at a former friend for betraying my trust for quite sometime, howerver I never acted on that anger with vengance and "only" let it out when I was alone. I hurt myself more than anyone else, because I knew she is actually a good-hearted person who however just doesn't respect/ understand boundaries (not just mine but of others as well) and remebering that she is simply wired that way helps me letting go of my hatred (well some times I still get angry for a short time when I think of the specifics tbh).
When I talked to a good friend of mine (who is also my former friends best friend) about it I made it clear that I don't want her to pick a side and I just wanted to explain where I was coming from/ why I didn't want to meet up with her anymore/ avoided her. I do not wish my former friend ill or that she loses her friends, I never wanted this, so I was relived when she said that this wouldn't change anything between her and my former friend.
I tried after sometime to drink a cup of coffee with my former friend lately (because she invited me and I didn't want to be rude) but I just didn't feel really comfortable and I don't want to pretend anymore that everything is okay between us. My goal is to be neutral towrads her, so we can interact without beeing too close and without me beeing uncomfortable or beeing angry afterwards.
This video was really helpful ❤ Could you maybe do a video on how to let go of self hatred, please? 😊
I literally need this right now - I've been slumping into depression because of this so thank you!
I really needed this. Just looking through the comments its crazy how many people needed to see this right now too. Recovering from heart break is hard and its even harder to forgive the person who was involved. Ive been filled with so much hate for awhile now and its been getting worse and worse. Ive lost my empathy, something that I used to take pride in having and being able to relate to people and what they are going through. I miss the old me and I hope I can get myself back.
I’m always mad for some reason
Love all your videos. I'm 16 and still stress a lot regarding the future. I still haven't decided what career to take. I've been fascinated by animation and animated films recently made. I believe that I have the ideas that are great but just worry. I believe I can make them great and better than ones that exist. Just hope I find ways to make my path to career more clear and straightforward.
I think in a way I’m just too scared of letting go of that hatred or resentment because I’ve had it so long in a way it’s become comforting and fuel. And I’m afraid that if I try to forgive those memories will come back and I’ll relive it again. To forgive them I’d have to deconstruct myself on why I hated them in the first place and honestly I’m scared to do that, do be that intimate even with myself. This was an interesting video it has given me some things to think about.
I fight strongly with hate not towards those who wronged me , but those who hurt people I love
Recently began contemplating my hatreds and began thinking about whether I was overreacting with my hatreds. Recently been thinking of potentially making amends with those I hated. I will say this though,
I will forgive, but I won't forget.
Thank you for making this video. I think maybe most of us are struggling with this right now. The gender war, what’s going on in politics, the way the planet is being treated, the way we treat each other it’s enough to make you hate life itself. We live in very bitterly dark times.
This video is a glimmer of light. Thank you again.
You know what the weird thing is? These videos help me way more than therapy. My last 4 therapist have just told me ‘to let it go’ LIKE YEAH NO DUH, I CAN’T THOUGH, EVEN IF I TRY!
Anyways great video ^^
I really do. This. This is gonna help. I haven’t watched it. I will comment to my video when I have. But I know it’s gonna help. I have done this. Thank you. Thank you, for all these videos. My mental health owes you.
It’s hard to let go of hate when that is all people feel about me
Narrator’s voice of reason always gives me peace of mind.
☺️ Psych2go rocks.
Thank you so much for this video.
I still have love but it's just mostly from the hurt I've been feeling, the hate is years of bottled up stuff that should've come out but didn't, now I'm just 50% love and 50% hate if that makes sense
It got to a point where I felt fire in my chest and all I could see was red.
The problem is, all my hatred is at the world for ruining all the things that make me happy, so I don't have any self-care activities I can engage with. Plus, I don't have any friends, and I don't trust my family or the mental health system because all they ever do is screw me over. I've reached out to them for help millions of times and I never get any.
Just remember that you're not alone.
Thank you for the video. Received it at the right time
I was just trying to not think about a friend who betrayed me. And now thanks so much psych2go. Your videos have always helped me so much, in dealing with that friend. ❤❤
Hatred is like a hot burning coal we hold onto and plan to throw at someone else, while not realizing how much it burns us as we grasp it.
I really need to forgive this guy who hurt me. I see him every other week at church and even though I don’t have anxiety, I still have bitterness to the point where I’m talking crap/joking about him with his friend smh…. It’s a clear sign I’m not ok with him 😪
I searched this up this morning, it's like I've found this the right time.
LOVE and RESILIENCE💙💙
Its horribly hard when a person is constantly hurting you and you can't take any control then anger comes from impotence, maybe time and pasivity slows it down and makes them more conscious of their actions and forgiving them is the only good option for letting them go, so the rewarding feelings and calmness when you are the one who mainly decides if a person can get the forgiveness from something in the past, can be even magic.
Constantly earning hate for yourself is poisonous and can even start cycles of mental violence if you can't stop it, all this coming from a guy who knows exactly how this is made and felt...
Thank you.
Timestamps
1). The poison of resentment 0:32
2). The prison of the past 1:26
3). The burden of holding on 2:09
4). The loss of empathy 2:27
5). The power of forgiveness 3:18
6). The path to empowerment 4:10
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
I spent my entire life hating my parents and at some point revenge became my entire reason for living.
Oh...
Hello, Kratos!
@@dmitriiaksenov3609 I wish I was that powerful
Thank for this ❤❤❤
I got the video on the exact time i wanted
So true
Finally something relevant for me!
For me, what helps is realizing that forgiveness isnt about ignoring or forgetting what happened, but fully acknowledging that it happened and that it sucked, but also trying your best to heal and not let them hurt you more by letting them live rent free in your head.
It also helps to realize, people are flawed and make dumb, honest mistakes all the time (including you, the reader, and especially me). People who are abusive or hurtful tend to have been abused and hurt themselves. Of course, that doesn't excuse them either. Its really not about justifying the other person or their actions or making yourself a vulnerable target, but about breaking the chain of pain and understanding how they might have ended up doing what they did.
It might seem counterintuitive, but thankfully it doesnt require the other person to do anything at all. Forgiveness is about healing BECAUSE the other person didnt acknowledge or fix the damage. It really is about you moving on and taking back control over your own life and mind. (Plus imagine having to go back in time or get the other persons permission todo that)
One last thing, its not a one and done deal. It takes a long time and its hard, because in all honesty hatred and anger have their benefits too. You can blame them for your life not being as good as you'd like instead of taking it in your own hands. You get social and emotional validation because some one hurt you, even though the pain itself sucks. You can fantasize and even plan out how to get your revenge, even if its probably gonna back fire or, even if it works, not do much to actually make your life better. You can channel your hatred and make your life better in some aspects, but it could also drain your health, emotional, mental, and even physical. Also, if you have years and years of trauma, of course that'll take a lot of forgiving to recover from. Its a decision you have to make over and over again.
Actual final thing. Be nice to yourself, and be willing to forgive yourself too.
Struggling with hatred since I was 7-13, I can't quite digest this vid at the moment (guess this is what people call blinded by rage). Hopefully my future and happyness doesn't depend on leaving behind everyone that did harm to me anymore. I'm still leaving them, but I would like to feel other things more often. Thank you Psych2go Team.
That's what I need rn.
No matter how I say it, I have a form of hatred towards my mother whom left me at the age of 1.
A decade and a half later, they are pursuing contact with me and my family, and its difficult for me to decide anything with my conflictions towards her.
This video is honestly something I needed, genuinely, thank you Psych2Go!
After four years straight of being with someone who did nothing but hurt me over and over again,emotionally manipulating me into staying every time I tried to leave,I spiraled mentally and worked myself into an RSI (an overworking injury). It’s been 2 years since I finally managed to cut them out and I’m still far from healed. I used to think about them every day. I only stopped hating them somewhat recently,without even realizing,thanks to the one person I can trust now. Hate is all you’re left with when someone takes everything from you. So I understand. And I might never heal. But it means nothing beyond simply,I lost. At least I have someone now to be a loser with though
I won't lie, this video was well timed. I honestly can't let go off it though cus I've always found it to be motivational in a weird way. It's also addictive in a way
a year ago, my father had brought 2 of my most precious cats while moving. he hadn't had a place to stay as he was in a different state, where his family had always lived. my dad couldn't bring my cats inside my uncles (a family member who was kind to accept a night there) house. since he couldn't bring them in, my uncle had a barn at the back of his house, where the cats stayed during that time. apparently, there was a hole. they left, and never returned. i've felt deeply betrayed and anger towards my uncle ever since. hearing his name makes me feel a tension of resentment and rage. ever since, ive never wanted to visit my fathers family ever.
wow you really read that all? yeesh, you're a tough one to get bored. have a good day and always cherish your lively pets. (and family)
spot on
love is what got me hurt, I'll take the protection of hatred of them and of the part of myself that allowed them into my life. waste of 10 years that i never want to repeat.
thank you
I needed this
Just hold the hate in and let it out at the right time
(The bullying stopped)
To be honest I struggle with the past and hatred, then.
🗣 I once had some sweet memories🎵
really true
Anger and hatred are not the same.
Everything in this video is true, I have gotten to the point where I feel nothing but hate and despair, I hate hundreds of people, I'm starting to hate everyone and everything, but most of all I hate myself.
Hate is at its most, useless.
Forgive to forget and live for you
people fail to realize that hatred is power, just like love can be... it can drive you forward when everything else fails.
my hatred has kept me going for as long as i have, cause i have NO love in my life... no friends, no family, no lovers.
i have NOTHING... and the world is full of horrible people who will do everything they can to erase people like me and so many others... my hatred keeps me strong, it has kept me smart, and it has helped me survive.
the key is to not let hatred control you, same goes for any other emotion.
rage and hatred are powerful emotions that can be used to benefit you, if you know how to.