enjoying my own company while living rural (I'm happier as a non-perfectionist)

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  • @margauxpnw
    @margauxpnw Рік тому +868

    A wise woman once said “You will never be lonely, if you like who you are alone with”. It’s taken me becoming older to realize how right she is. I’m never lonely now, though I struggled when I was younger. It’s good to become your best friend. 😊

    • @debby891
      @debby891 Рік тому +38

      I’m 64 and love your message, it’s so true

    • @livelikeliz
      @livelikeliz Рік тому +26

      This is such an important message. It's also important to be aware that we often treat ourselves way harsher than we would ever treat a friend. Once we realize this we can start truly being a friend to ourselves ❤

    • @carahdolley5842
      @carahdolley5842 Рік тому +3

      @@livelikelizso true 💕

    • @shantatendulkar1871
      @shantatendulkar1871 Рік тому +2

    • @MythicalPath
      @MythicalPath Рік тому +9

      So true, just love yourself is the only one you will have until the end!!

  • @CAGChannel1
    @CAGChannel1 Рік тому +2

    The beauty of that dog! Perhaps our best friends aren’t human

  • @EnglishCoach3Ts
    @EnglishCoach3Ts Рік тому +3

    I love how you said you are sharing this field of lupines with us. We have a few lupines near by buy nothing like this and sometimes I so wish I could live where you are. Then today, I remembered, I love where I live so much and I can share where you live through these videos. Thank you for such a beautiful reminder.

  • @TheCottageFairy
    @TheCottageFairy  Рік тому +575

    I filmed this before it was officially not spring anymore 😭 so if you think it's strange I seem to be acting as if it's not summer... you are correct. I am a spring fairy, it's in my nature to deny summer 😂sending well wishes
    Also, to answer a question that has been popping up a lot recently: I actually film my videos myself with the help of a sturdy tripod and a lot of adjustments and trials/errors. My brother did help me for a short while as he was visiting, but that was well over a year ago ❤my husband loves to come along and enjoy nature along with me, but he doesn't use the camera. It's my own thing! I Hope that clarifies things!

    • @richardybanez9052
      @richardybanez9052 Рік тому +25

      Sweetheart You Never Need Explain Yourself.We Adore You.
      And The Info You Bring Forth
      Is Mind Blowing Awesome.
      Ok Ok Here It Is.
      You Rock Richard.

    • @mutiaradianhergiati2220
      @mutiaradianhergiati2220 Рік тому +25

      Paola, we all know that you're talented 💐
      I watched your videos since my undergraduate thesis overwhelmed me. That was around 2 years ago, I guess. Now, I still watch your videos to release my stress after work. Thank you for making such a great videos, it helped me to heal from stress 💟

    • @purpleicewitch6349
      @purpleicewitch6349 Рік тому +14

      As someone who spends all summer waiting for fall, I totally understand this

    • @MsRainbow1983
      @MsRainbow1983 Рік тому +16

      I love your videos so much. Like a slice of pure heaven added to my day ❤️ Thank you Paola 🌸

    • @meyerdigitalfilm
      @meyerdigitalfilm Рік тому +6

      There is nothing more relaxing than your videos, thank you so much

  • @karinawetherbee860
    @karinawetherbee860 Рік тому +154

    As a new widow at 54, having met my husband when I was 19, I am having to learn how to be alone with the person I am now, so different from the person I was then. Though I have always loved solitude and being on my own, I now am having to look inward even more to discover who this "new me" is.

    • @awildbecoming
      @awildbecoming Рік тому +7

      Thank you for sharing. Sending you love ❤

    • @stephaniebrogdon4024
      @stephaniebrogdon4024 Рік тому +5

      Sending you wishes for love, strength and peace on your new path💚

    • @Tamara-pens
      @Tamara-pens Рік тому +8

      Wishing you peace and love. I was where you are now at 39 ten years ago. Be kind to yourself and very patient, it takes a lot of time.

    • @karinawetherbee860
      @karinawetherbee860 Рік тому +1

      @@Tamara-pens Thank you. Yes, I am taking each day as it comes, and learning to embrace the idea that I can choose what comes next.

    • @carolynfettes1785
      @carolynfettes1785 Рік тому +3

      Thank you for sharing your loss. I am feeling the same with transitions and losing loved ones. It is so hard to let go of those we love.

  • @stacycheck7951
    @stacycheck7951 Рік тому +207

    Appreciating death because it gives meaning to life… As a caregiver who has seen much illness, pain, and death, I agree completely. After a shift where a rather young patient passed away unexpectedly, I was distraught. I went to a private space and cried asking why? Why are we born and why must we experience the pain of such heart-wrenching loss? After working through my thoughts and feelings, I came to believe something very similar:
    Life and death are powerful things, and death is what gives life meaning. However, more powerful than both is love. It transcends everything, even death. 🦋

    • @lifeisagift.cherisheverymoment
      @lifeisagift.cherisheverymoment Рік тому +11

      Beautiful and very wise thoughts you have shared. Death does indeed give life meaning. And love is definitely more powerful than both, and love is why we are here, to learn love. And love is all that endures. Thank you for sharing what you went through and what you have learned. 🌹🙏

    • @Englishroserebecca
      @Englishroserebecca Рік тому +5

      Blessings to you ❤

    • @dreamthedream8929
      @dreamthedream8929 Рік тому

      How can death give life a meaning? Makes no sense. Its just an unfortunate and tragic thing that is part of this material world and happens due to us having these bodies here. It is what it is, its sad but there is no meaning that it gives to life as far as i can tell, its even not connected. Living should be meaningful whether there is dying or not

    • @dreamthedream8929
      @dreamthedream8929 Рік тому

      @@lifeisagift.cherisheverymoment it doesnt

    • @lifeisagift.cherisheverymoment
      @lifeisagift.cherisheverymoment Рік тому +7

      @@dreamthedream8929 Two people can experience the same thing and each can come away with different experiences.
      I experience each moment of my life knowing that I will not live forever and that knowledge helps me to appreciate and feel profound gratitude for every moment. Life is more meaningful for me knowing that my life is finite.
      Perhaps it is different for you. Only you can answer why you are alive and what that means for you. Only I can answer why I am alive and what that means for me. Viktor Frankl and many others helped me to find meaning. Without meaning, what does it mean to be alive?
      Edit: After reading your comment several additional times, I may have missed your point completely. Life and death are connected. Every living entity dies. It is part of the "circle of life". We can ignore that fact. We can deny that fact. But life and death are connected.
      As Stephen Covey has suggested, "We are spiritual beings having a physical experience".

  • @saracrhs
    @saracrhs Рік тому +139

    i'm currently going through such a hard time in my life, i just want to escape all this nightmare,
    my dream life is to be able to just breathe fresh air, feel the sun, the rain, every simple thing, i just want peace, and your videos make me feel a little bit of this freedom, thank you so much for this, it really means a lot!
    i hope everyone who's going through something similar, gets the life you all deserve, it may not be the right time rn, but i believe we'll get through it.

    • @Englishroserebecca
      @Englishroserebecca Рік тому +5

      You will get through this. Be strong. Be patient. This too will pass. Take as much care of yourself as you can. Rest and nourish yourself with good food. ❤

    • @polinakonstantynopolska1060
      @polinakonstantynopolska1060 Рік тому +8

      Sometimes we have these hard times in life. I had my worst a few years ago. When it is over and it will be over before you know it, you will become so much stronger inside. You may then even look back at your past hardship and feel thankful for it. That is what happened to me. But when I was in the middle of it I felt like I was drowning. Think of it as the Universe is working on you right now. Don’t think of yourself as a victim, you are not.

    • @rachelmontgomery44
      @rachelmontgomery44 Рік тому +4

      Thank you, that really meant a lot to me

    • @darkrose1983
      @darkrose1983 Рік тому +5

      I have a chronic illness that is progressive and I’m in constant pain, but no matter how bad things get, your videos give me a sense of peace and calm. I also love and need my own company to recharge from being with others. My animals keep me company without constant demands. And like you, I find nature very calming. I also overwhelm myself by setting myself to much to achieve. 💕🌸

    • @iamgroot4706
      @iamgroot4706 Рік тому +2

      Are you a Christian?

  • @DEPARTMENTOFREDUNDANCYDEPT
    @DEPARTMENTOFREDUNDANCYDEPT Рік тому +58

    Paola, you are a lovely "wildflower" among the wildflowers, and you reside in the perfect environment for your spirit. I like what you said about appreciating death instead of fearing it. At 77, I am very much closer to the end of my life than the beginning, but I decided long ago that worrying about inevitable death was a terrible waste of energy, and presently I can say honestly that I do not fear or worry about death. When the time comes, and if it turns out to be a long, lingering process, I will try to maintain my choice to not indulge worry and fear, but it remains to be seen how strong will be my resolve. But I'm not going to worry about that, either. I will strive to take your example to heart and treasure every moment as a precious gift, to appreciate all the good things and experience gratitude every day. Gratitude for the good things and acceptance for those things which are not so good but beyond my sphere of influence are my daily goals. Thank you for the gentle beauty you bring into so many lives. I doubt you fully comprehend the scope of good you are doing for so many other souls whom you will never meet but touch in a positive way with your work.

    • @jenniferb.7250
      @jenniferb.7250 Рік тому

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts, such wise words.

    • @Vigorswitch
      @Vigorswitch Рік тому

      Thanks for sharing your comment. I feel so touched

  • @deirdreclark2128
    @deirdreclark2128 Рік тому +7

    My mantra is "Treat others as you would wish to be treated", very simple and one cannot go wrong.

  • @dawnly5993
    @dawnly5993 Рік тому +39

    Never judge a book by its cover. No one knows what anyone goes through, or feels, so true.

  • @charlie-l7r
    @charlie-l7r Рік тому +3

    I want to live this life more than anything in the whole world. I love how peaceful and simple it is. I hope I can one day 💜

  • @paulinalavayen2578
    @paulinalavayen2578 Рік тому +1

    Paola, just be yourself, enjoy your life your family and also being overwhelming is ok too!! your a human being!! I love your doggie and your cat.

  • @paulinalavayen2578
    @paulinalavayen2578 Рік тому +1

    Hi Paola, the scenery is amazing !!! I live in Florida where I love , but those woods full of yellow flowers is showing such a beautiful fields that the only feeling that shows is peace !!! OMG God is perfect.

  • @ny2phillyholloway592
    @ny2phillyholloway592 Рік тому +93

    It's hard to put into words the beauty that surrounds you. I feel fortunate to see it even through a screen. Being kind to oneself is so important. I've been mothering myself for a few years know. If I have harsh words or thoughts for myself I think my mother wouldn't have said that to me and I would never say it to my daughter's. It's like a muscle that gets used and eventually you see the results of your thought process changing. 💖

  • @ariana.billett
    @ariana.billett Рік тому +1

    Love seeing your hair down and wild! 😊 You looked gorgeous in a way I haven't seen you before. You always look gorgeous, but it was just different this time, in the best way. 😊❤

  • @donnawatson845
    @donnawatson845 Рік тому +1

    I can't imagine how peaceful it would be to walk thru that field of yellow flowers! N ty for your valuable insights! I really appreciate them.

  • @barbaracarlson1331
    @barbaracarlson1331 Рік тому +8

    I can’t believe these gorgeous fields of flowers you have to stroll through! Lucky you!

  • @robynvirts1387
    @robynvirts1387 Рік тому +1

    Your videos of early spring wildflowers are wonderful. I have enjoyed your videos and commentaries for several years now. Thank you…your voice and images are so relaxing and calm…so much better than any tv show. Life is good.

  • @katiewillson7759
    @katiewillson7759 Рік тому +8

    *Everyone needs a field they can run through.*

  • @sherrimartin1057
    @sherrimartin1057 Рік тому +45

    You are a gift to this world sweetie. Your videos are healing and comforting. Thank you❤

  • @I.m95
    @I.m95 Рік тому +1

    I really like your country, the nature here is wonderful. Although Vietnam is really beautiful, I also like the scenery in your videos

  • @mayracaceres3813
    @mayracaceres3813 Рік тому +1

    hola paola
    ese hermoso bosque lleno de flores silvestres simplemente es maravillo y muy relajante me llena de una inmensa paz
    gracias muchas gracias
    me encanta escuchar tus reflexiones
    que tengan un lindo fin de semana tu esposo y tú 😘

  • @kallistoindrani5689
    @kallistoindrani5689 Рік тому +1

    All the flowers! 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍

  • @WayneThePoet
    @WayneThePoet Рік тому +4

    Beautiful location, hills, distant mountains and spectacular color everywhere. So comforting. And I have to add, allowing your curls to relax, gives you a different persona, like a different historical time. Usually I think of the late 1800s, but this new look is a confident women of the 1910s. Wonderful! Thanks for another great episode. ✌🏼

  • @truthbetold2611
    @truthbetold2611 Рік тому +16

    Your sister spoke the truth. The process of becoming is the point. My garden is never done and that's what excites me and gets me out of bed every morning. Life is like growing a garden. We're never done and that's the beauty and excitement : )

  • @Simplyfarmhouse7
    @Simplyfarmhouse7 Рік тому +5

    What a beautiful meadow, yes it is worth the walk! Remember, we love others and ourselves, because HE first loved us. I have times that I can be hard on myself, but I remind myself that I am a child of God and he loves me and I seek Him to change me , so I can become what He wants me to be. Your paintings are amazing ~ thank you for sharing your lovely walk. Hugs to you!

  • @moonbeanification
    @moonbeanification Рік тому +31

    As a highly sensitive person and introvert, I relate deeply to the feelings of overwhelm you describe. I tend to overextend myself also. It's so easy to get burned out, cranky and resentful (mostly at myself, for not being "perfect" lol). Thank you for the gentle reminder to slow down and be kind to ourselves. ♥♥♥

  • @jannybranciforte9295
    @jannybranciforte9295 Рік тому +24

    Expressing your spiritual perspectives while sitting in those exquisite fields of flowers is like a symphonic prayer. Thank you Paola. 🙏🌷

  • @debby891
    @debby891 Рік тому +68

    “Pain wishing to be soothed by love”….such a powerful message. Our journey includes many challenges, trials and tribulations that help us become our true selves. A very humbling video that really makes one think of how we strive to be our own best friend♥️

    • @loretogazituamunoz1166
      @loretogazituamunoz1166 Рік тому

      Yes Those feelings are not what we are Put in a list in paralel and write what you like about you and the contrary, that is what you don't like
      Meditate.Continiously and You will see and notice things that yesterday you just looked at , but you didn' t watch When we become real ! people and transparent it's the most kool thing in life We may be able to say No! Or Yes! We learn to define ourselves Thats the path we need to pass through and mostly in the caos mode
      Lovely those mountains lovely girl, Paola I send you an embrace of light It's lovely where you live 🪄✨✨🎨💖

  • @floraldrivedreams7003
    @floraldrivedreams7003 Рік тому +89

    Paola, you’ve been doing this YT channel for a while now, and you have developed a huge following of admirers, including myself. But in this video you seem to be more confident and poised than ever before. I am very happy and impressed to see this. Much respect. I wish you and your husband a continuing happy and healthy life.

  • @angelanice
    @angelanice Рік тому +1

    I have learned to accept my emotions and let them wash over me like a wave, no matter how "negative" I perceive that emotion to be. Sometimes it helps to figure out why I'm feeling that way, but even if I can't, accepting that the emotion is there without judging it allows it to pass more quickly than if I fight it and get more upset because it's not how I want to feel ❤

  • @karagalactic
    @karagalactic Рік тому +45

    The timing of this video couldn't be more perfect 🪻I'm facing the biggest hurdle within myself right now and everything in my life is pointing me to a new path, learning to love myself. I'm 22 and have spent 95% of my life in hate, but now I feel called to show the deepest and most traumatized parts of me with the love they deserve and need. Watching this video, I did my hair care routine of oiling and derma rolling. Your words washed over me and I felt peaceful and like I was returning to my spirit. Your words truly hit me and resonated. Your videos bring me great peace, like I'm seeing myself again without all the filters. Thank you for your wisdom, kindness, and child like nature. I love all parts of you and how they express themselves into the beautiful person you are 🦋

  • @shinjiloverr
    @shinjiloverr Рік тому +151

    I wish I had friends. Feeling lonely is hard even if I'm a friend of myself. It's different

    • @matios6013
      @matios6013 Рік тому +9

      I need..to share with friends..too...even if is only one..l like bée alone..but not for long time..👍...

    • @goldendiamon
      @goldendiamon Рік тому +23

      Happiness is different from pleasure don't pressure yourself...Live life on your own terms without being controlled by anyone... It's better to be solo than to be with people making you lonely, don't quit being friend to yourself

    • @odinthorson1830
      @odinthorson1830 Рік тому +2

      🙏🐾

    • @kristydavies1665
      @kristydavies1665 Рік тому +11

      You do, we are right here with you.

    • @hsoderberg6505
      @hsoderberg6505 Рік тому +8

      ​@@goldendiamonshe is married, so it's not as if she's always alone

  • @margolucas3793
    @margolucas3793 Рік тому +2

    Beautiful scenery! I remember the first time I read that Jesus said, “Love your neighbor as you love yourself.” At that time I did not love myself. I have truly had to work towards doing so. I had to realize that I will never be perfect, but I am still worthy of love.

  • @moonbeanification
    @moonbeanification Рік тому +28

    Paola, you are a living, breathing work of art ... thank you for the beauty and peace you bring to the world ♥♥♥

  • @julienelson4874
    @julienelson4874 Рік тому +9

    I really needed this today! Yesterday I beat myself up verbally again and I realized how I have absolutely no compassion for myself. I do expect 100% perfection or I'm upset with myself. As you say that is not humble nor is it possible. So as I ask where this comes from I believe it comes from my CPTSD, my childhood. It is very hard to treat yourself kindly when your parents and others never did. It's hard work to defeat those negative voices and instead speak love. With God's love and grace I am on that journey now. Thanks for your wise words. They have helped! 🤗❤

    • @grizeldaxxx4568
      @grizeldaxxx4568 Рік тому +1

      I hear You ..sending Peaceful thoughts to You Inner Child from Mine !

  • @gailhorrocks
    @gailhorrocks Рік тому +14

    To live amongst daily bouquets, symphonies and natural existence is beyond imagination❤

  • @eiryamorlais4978
    @eiryamorlais4978 Рік тому +56

    You bring tears to my eyes. How have you managed to recognize so much...at such a young age? And, to have such a sense regarding humility/humble-ness...as a starting point? I allowed fear to be an obstacle per the last - for much/most of my 63 years. Still an ongoing source of reflection/practice!

    • @marizee5615
      @marizee5615 Рік тому +13

      I am 63 and also have lived my life in fear and trying to please people who don't treat me well because I fear they'll abandon me. I am trying very hard to love being alone and be my own best friend, but will admit it gets lonely at times. (sigh)

    • @June-qo2xl
      @June-qo2xl Рік тому

      @@marizee5615 Я Вас так понимаю

    • @iamgroot4706
      @iamgroot4706 Рік тому

      Proverbs 29:25
      The fear of man lays a snare, but whoever trusts in the LORD is safe.

    • @marizee5615
      @marizee5615 Рік тому

      @@June-qo2xl Not sure what your message is.

    • @June-qo2xl
      @June-qo2xl Рік тому

      @@marizee5615 l mean, I understand you

  • @ellenbragonje9221
    @ellenbragonje9221 Рік тому +4

    Hello Paola, I live in Holland, where the landscape is flat almost everywhere. Where you live looks like heaven to me. You are very blessed with the beautiful nature around you. I hope you feel happy most of your life, because you're such a kind person. I love your peaceful videos. They make me peaceful and happy. It's like you are a friend of mine. Thank you for sharing your life and thoughts. Sending you my love, Ellen.

  • @MangoNizer
    @MangoNizer Рік тому +3

    Every single frame of your films is a piece of art I would happily hang on my wall as a picture. You are a true master of capturing the beauty of the wonderful world we are living in. I wish I could be there with you.

  • @JacQui-nice2meetU
    @JacQui-nice2meetU Рік тому +8

    When i was young i wished to be perfect and could never attain it but now that i am at the end of my life i wish to just be who i am accepting all of my flaws.

  • @ntrelis
    @ntrelis Рік тому +1

    I am deeply inspired by your words. Human perfection is imperfection that is a part of life. What makes you reflect the beauty around you and beauty that you are is so profoundly perfect because you are the creation of almighty God and you are made in his image! I am so glad that you are talking about these lovely flowers and how you feel.❤❤❤

  • @mmiller1011
    @mmiller1011 Рік тому

    Oh my young woman!
    Your narrative is pure poetry! Please document it.
    You are wonderful.

  • @narcole
    @narcole Рік тому +21

    This video felt slightly different but in a really lovely way! The sit down chat out in the field, seeing your hair let loose… as always you deliver a grounding message in a beautiful setting, but this was a special one somehow. And you look gorgeous!

    • @amberhawke
      @amberhawke Рік тому +3

      I agree. This one felt more natural, with Paola giving off a radiant glow. This is how I picture fairies to be; natural cascading hair, dress flowing freely, in the middle of nature.

  • @dr.allisongunneph.d.6494
    @dr.allisongunneph.d.6494 Рік тому +6

    As a highly sensitive person, I see this in your videos & what you are saying to your followers. HSP’s are a challenge to themselves & a mystery to those who believe that they know them. Blessings and peace pass your way this beautiful day!🌼

  • @omannamwar3383
    @omannamwar3383 Рік тому +1

    I have my own definition of perfection
    & it is
    '' the definition of being perfect is being imperfect in something while being perfect '' it means flows are acceptable until you work on it even perfect person is imperfect because his flow is he's too perfect and has no clues its a continuous cycle but it doesn't mean being imperfect is acceptable.

  • @hidden909
    @hidden909 Рік тому +8

    Another remarkable and insightful video. I’m 68, but I feel like I learn so much from you!

  • @iyattam.uprety7804
    @iyattam.uprety7804 Рік тому +1

    Such a soothing and healing video, Paola. God bless ❤

  • @brandonsanders9674
    @brandonsanders9674 Рік тому

    Her hair looks absolutely gorgeous, the color in contrast to the other beautiful colors in the field with the mountains in the background!! 😍 enough said, have a wonderful day, week and month everyone! 😉👍

  • @demohamed6220
    @demohamed6220 Рік тому +1

    Its amazing how our fears and hopes even life lessons are the same but each one of us have their own path

  • @hammersteve2746
    @hammersteve2746 Рік тому +4

    Thank you for your beautiful videos, gentle music, softly spoken words......and a few minutes of heavenly calm for many of us listening. Love from the U.K....❤

  • @moonzain.
    @moonzain. Рік тому +15

    Paola, finding your channel way back then is something that I feel very grateful for. I've always been wanting to live alone in a cottage, surrounded by flower fields and just live with nature. Watching your videos really helps to soothe my longing heart for a life like this because I quite know for sure that for me, it's almost impossible. I don't know much about herbs, plants, or just wildlands in general. I just like them without knowing much about them. Through your videos, I learnt a lot about them. And I really appreciate you being vulnerable and open about your feelings. Although you don't show it, you talk about it, and it means a lot to me as a reminder that we're all going through the same thing perhaps without we realize. It's a great reminder that we always have to be kind and gentle to others. I don't usually write a comment in your videos, but I just want to tell you this now. Thank you for sharing the beauty of life from your point of view, cottage fairy💚

  • @merckypenamerckypena3768
    @merckypenamerckypena3768 Рік тому +1

    Gracias Paola por tus videos llenos de belleza y sensibilidad. 💛💚🧡💜❤️💙

  • @starseeker4716
    @starseeker4716 Рік тому +9

    My goodness, you are SO blessed to live where you do.....enjoy your life Dear One! 💙💚💛

  • @caraEH4
    @caraEH4 Рік тому

    Sitting in such a beautiful field of wildflowers with your dog just seems like bliss to me!

  • @paigeb7214
    @paigeb7214 Рік тому +17

    I have been discussing "observing my feelings" with my therapist lately and we have been using the analogy of my mind being an aquarium and the fish in my aquarium are representative of my feelings. I often find myself saying "I am the aquarium" and it helps a bit. Also makes me laugh! Thanks for the video Paola :)

  • @patlafever2049
    @patlafever2049 Рік тому +33

    I would so dearly love living as you do. But I am older and not very well health-wise. I couldn’t make a garden or walk nearly as far as you do. But when I watch your videos I find myself wishing so much to live as you do. I’ve been watching for quite some time but I don’t think I’ve ever made a comment. You bring me peace while I’m watching your videos. Thank you so much. Much love and good wishes.

  • @tammyroyal7547
    @tammyroyal7547 Рік тому +24

    The flowers in this video are so beautiful!! Seeing them growing so wild brought me joy. Being your own best friend is an ongoing process. When I find myself being so negative about me I ask myself, "Would you talk this way to a real friend or would you encourage them?" That usually helps me work through those negative emotions. Take care sweet fairy 💚

  • @katem3961
    @katem3961 Рік тому +11

    Your videos often bring me to tears because they touch my soul. You are truly an amazing young woman. Your messages are so pure and relateable. Thank you, so much ❤ and respect from Australia 🇦🇺

  • @missholly7534
    @missholly7534 Рік тому

    I save your videos for when I have seen all the difficult news of the day and need the beauty, peace, and optimism you bring. God bless you and your family. 🐇🌻🌺

  • @mommylovespink
    @mommylovespink Рік тому +5

    I was voted most friendly girl in 8th grade I do have a best friend however I enjoy time by myself more than anything .. I would love to be living your cottage fairy life your not missing out your life is magical ❤

  • @belovegarden
    @belovegarden Рік тому +1

    Omg it's amazing i love flowers so much ❤

  • @janelleetsitty36
    @janelleetsitty36 Рік тому +6

    Very wise for your age - I almost wanted this video to go on for an hour, your way with words... so eloquently spoken and made me think of my mother who passed in 2019. She always expressed her fears and death being one of them. I was there alone with her when she took her last breath... I was holding her close whispering in her ear, thanking her for being the most gorgeous mother inside and out... and in those last moments it made me think of all the beauty in how she gave me life, seeing me take my first breaths and I was there to see her last.
    Thank you for your words ❤

  • @darrenmirfin8737
    @darrenmirfin8737 Рік тому

    True femininity never fails to captivate me and still my mind. You are truly a beautiful expression of the divine feminine.

  • @pippas5808
    @pippas5808 Рік тому

    I loved the background noise of the birds and insects - and even the panting dog! It adds to the video instead of detracting from it, in my view. It is precious to see the beautiful part of the world you live in, but now we get to hear it as well!

  • @MidwestGirl
    @MidwestGirl Рік тому +2

    You are so fortunate to live surrounded by such beautiful landscape. I'm very sensitive to my surroundings and I MUST live in nature.

  • @mieletea
    @mieletea Рік тому

    You're so beautiful, Paola. Inside and out. Just a joy to watch you marveling at the world and sharing such wise perspectives. Thank you.

  • @judymohre1430
    @judymohre1430 Рік тому +6

    I just loved this video. It brought tears to my eyes, and my heart runneth over with love for your words. Your sister is so right. ...100%. I must remember her words. And seeing Eastern Washington was just what I needed. Sometimes, actually, all the time, I'm so torn by yearning for my home of Sammamish, Washington, and all things that represent Washington State. I lived there for 43 yrs. Since the age of just turning 21. I had lupine growing wild in my backyard on the last street on Education Hill, in Redmond Washington. I had woodpeckers, many kinds of owls, and several migrating birds that visited me yearly on their journey to wherever they were going. Sometimes, a bear and her mother cubs, along with wolves and coyotes, were visiting periodically. Ahh, on the Sammamish Plateau, where my family and I moved in 1987 was a gorgeous new home...a Bucken Home, which I absolutely loved, however, I truly missed my backyard on the last street on Education Hill. I transformed my new backyard into a flower wonderland, which I spent 10 to 15 hrs a day in in the summertime and fall. My house looked like a funeral home because I spent so many hours in the spring, winter, and fall arranging every kind of blooming flowers from my backyard and front yard. I can honestly say that flowers, birds, and animals are my true loves. Of course, I love my children and grandchildren and spouse dearly, yet my love for nature and animals and birds truly touch my heart in a very special way. HARD TO EXPLAIN PROPERLY. OH, AND NATURALLY, I CAN'T FORGET THE BUTTERFLIES.

    • @anna8282
      @anna8282 Рік тому +1

      As a fellow flower, bird and animal lover I enjoyed reading your comment. Thank you. 🌷🌻🌹🐦🐾🌲🦋

  • @ashokaekanayake5036
    @ashokaekanayake5036 Рік тому

    Paola ,Thank you so much for sharing like this Video. Nature is so amazing.

  • @DaestrumManitz
    @DaestrumManitz Рік тому +23

    Life is filled with such longing. Self reflection, in times spent alone, have provided me with such solace.

  • @fluentinoverthinking
    @fluentinoverthinking Рік тому +20

    I can relate so much! People always describe be as calm, optimistic and life-loving person when in fact I am the most melancholic and sad person I’ve ever known constantly struggling with existential crisis 😂 I think people like us just know what suffering is and try to do our best to bring peace and joy to others like you’re doing with your wonderful videos! Thank you Paola❤

  • @sarahjones6858
    @sarahjones6858 Рік тому

    Yes, the field of flowers is really beautiful!!🥰

  • @michellebeddok2228
    @michellebeddok2228 Рік тому +3

    Nature is so perfectly godly made....who are we?....little creatures who think that everything is for granted.... you're so right when you say it takes a lifetime to be a bestself...i learn every new day from the day before and it such a delight to accept myself as ''non perfect ''. The most important according to me is to try as much as possible not to hurt everyone, to insert ourselves in life as a loop in the chain of life and not thinking we are the chain itself. I enjoyed your video so much.
    Hello from Israel....now we are deeply in the summer time with very hot days....i wish i could have a walk beyond a blooming field. Take care.

  • @DianEnglish56
    @DianEnglish56 Рік тому

    I so enjoy watching your videos. You are an old soul in a young body. So much wisdom. TY

  • @sujammaz
    @sujammaz Рік тому +1

    observing and labelling my feelings helps me a lot too, but i wouldn't call it "distancing" or "separating" myself from them (even though some of that might be neccessary to do the observing). quite the opposite: observing and labelling helps me to accept and even embrace my feelings, especially the fact that i can't escape them. it's the lived practise of understanding that all feelings are valid, so there is no use in trying to fight them, but instead as soon as i have reached this point of observation and labelling (you're absolutely right, it takes a lot of practise to get there!), i can then relax a little and help myself to wait it out ("survive" it) somehow. it has a lot to do with re-parenting myself, since i was raised a typical "big sister" who always has to put other people's needs first (even my parents, unfortunately - it is a form of emotional abuse to be adultified!) and was socialised to feel a lot of shame around being helpless and needy. so my new inner parent now accepts my woes unconditionally and basically says "i know it's confusing and scary to feel like this and i can't tell you how to fix it - but i'm here for you now and i'll make you as comfortable as possible in the meantime. take a break, breathe deeply, drink some tea, grab a blanket, go to sleep - whatever you need. just put yourself first. i'll defend your right to do so with my life!". so there may be an element of distancing in the process, but ultimately i come much closer to my real self by doing this.

  • @Jgilbil24
    @Jgilbil24 Рік тому +7

    Thank you for sharing the beauty not only of that breathtaking field - like a slice of heaven ! but of your comforting words, your restful video and your warm smile. I so appreciate it tonight- I am not my feelings - it’s a freeing thought. ❤

  • @lynnek4226
    @lynnek4226 Рік тому

    You live in such a beautiful place, what a blessing to have fields of beautiful flowers nearby.

  • @marizee5615
    @marizee5615 Рік тому +6

    I love your sister's analogy of why it is best to not be able to snap your fingers and change. When it takes decades to change something in your life that is difficult, even the smallest change is a milestone and worth celebrating. I do very much like being alone. But I am still, at 63, very hard on myself. Your videos help to put things into perspective and I envy your wisdom at such a young age. You seem to have a big following of women my age. I am sure we all wish that we had learned your wisdom at younger ages, but there is no going back so I have to learn to appreciate that I am still learning and growing! Lots of love and well wishes to you, my dear!🥰

  • @naturewitch8687
    @naturewitch8687 Рік тому

    Whenever I feel overwhelmed and want to get headspace I go to nature it makes me feel so wonderful. The trick is to go into nature everyday and not get overwhelmed but we are human after all 💚🧚‍♀️✨

  • @coralawson3059
    @coralawson3059 Рік тому +15

    i've been wanting to learn about the life of living rurally, in a cottage, and pretty much just simpler living. your channel is amazing and i'm really glad that i found it!!

  • @marigold2741
    @marigold2741 Рік тому

    The sunflowers made my day 💛 Also in the part where you mentioned it is your husband behind the camera, you were glowing with confidence. It's such a blessing to have a partner who can bring such a positive shift in demeanor .

  • @molinajoseph7315
    @molinajoseph7315 Рік тому +1

    To be in God's territory of nature is such a blessing. Your beautiful spirit blends in well with the beautiful flowers. God bless you. 🙏🌺

  • @viviannango4730
    @viviannango4730 Рік тому +5

    You inspired me to live out near nature! Love your dog, he is so loyal and always with you! 💜 🙏 🐕

  • @sherriepiechowski4556
    @sherriepiechowski4556 Рік тому +8

    Our feelings are so wrapped up in our perspective and how we see things. I have learned to change my mindset about different issues and live with self respect and love for the woman I encourage myself to become. I no longer expect perfection of myself and just do the best I can. I push myself hard sometimes and other days I relax and enjoy peace. We make our lives so much more complicated than they were ever ment to be. Lovely video!❤

  • @melaniehealy7230
    @melaniehealy7230 Рік тому +7

    Absolutely loved this video as with all the others, but today's video really spoke to me especially "life is changeable"...it reminds me that life isn't perfect and must embrace the good and not so good times in life because eventually the sad and frustrating times surpass and joy and happiness appears again. It's impossible to be happy all the time....
    So cute how puppy was sitting behind you in the field...having his own moment of joy...Thank you for sharing your beautiful video...
    Blessings & love

    • @grizeldaxxx4568
      @grizeldaxxx4568 Рік тому

      andwhen He was running along behind her with his floppy ears ...so sweet!

  • @sammi8967
    @sammi8967 Рік тому +2

    you are looking so radiant and healthy! your face looks "fuller" in the most beautiful way. i think i recall you talking about some changes you were making, for better nourishment.

  • @farakhalemdar9862
    @farakhalemdar9862 Рік тому

    You are wonderful and so beautiful Paola. I have your little postcards dotted around my house and I've learned to appreciate nature x

  • @Henrique.Souza0601
    @Henrique.Souza0601 Рік тому +9

    Your channel is like an oasis in a desert. Thank you! ❤️

  • @Marie-n6s1k
    @Marie-n6s1k Рік тому

    Paola, I really appreciate thus video. The vibrant colors of the flowers warm my Soul. Thank you for your honest and humble words of wisdom. Please continue to make videos, they make the world a better place.

  • @peggyschmidt7715
    @peggyschmidt7715 Рік тому

    Thank you so much for this great video, I always feel so much better after watching and listening to your videos, Peace and Love to You ❤🙏✌️

  • @namitasekhri911
    @namitasekhri911 Рік тому +2

    You're literally living my dream life idk it's feels so good and peaceful 💗😭

  • @hounaidafarhat9396
    @hounaidafarhat9396 Рік тому +1

    Those lupins are beautiful 😍 🤩

  • @sandyschipper5008
    @sandyschipper5008 Рік тому +3

    How fortunate for you to have such beautiful, peaceful surroundings and how fortunate for us that you share them via such professional videos!! To have views like this within walking distance of your home makes those of us living in suburbia wish for it! So happy your surroundings give you peace of mind and comfort when you need it most. Best wishes to you in your quest for balance, it is something we all need to strive for too!

  • @KL9702.
    @KL9702. Рік тому +2

    This is the exact message I needed today. Brought me to tears.... thank you. ❤️

  • @lynnemanning9553
    @lynnemanning9553 Рік тому +4

    One the biggest lessons I've learned in life, become your own best friend! It is fundamental in understanding others, and having compassion and forgiveness for others as well. When you can forgive yourself time and time again, for little things, and bigger things, you kind of find a big key in life. I remember hearing that said to me when I was younger, and I totally did not get it until, I had no choice but to do just that....One of the best and most valuable things I learned in my 60 years of living.....Of course, I wish I had learned it at a younger age, but I'm learning it now, and it is everything sometimes. Paola, glad you can help younger people, drawing them in, and perhaps, they too, can try practicing some of the suggestions and wisdom you have learned at a very young age. Bravo to you!....I do enjoy your channel, many thanks for the non-superficiality of your words and living your life....I've often wondered, do you have ticks in your neck of the woods? I live in Maine and it's almost impossible to go into the woods unless it's cold. The other day, I took my dog walking in a beautiful meadow, where there was a path cut in the grass, with lots of wildflowers and tall grasses blowing in the wind, right next to the sea, and I found 13 ticks on her that night!

  • @thewillsfamilyaccount6486
    @thewillsfamilyaccount6486 Рік тому +3

    Wow! The intro was just enough to love the rest of the video! Beautiful..

  • @오원경-m5i
    @오원경-m5i Рік тому +44

    지금은 도시에서 매우 바쁘게 살고 있고 휴가는 꿈도 꾸지 못하는 더구나 자연과 함께하는 것과는 거리가 먼 삶을 살다보니, 우리 아이들이 어릴적 가족들이 함께 살았었던 한국의 시골 경기도 가평에서의 자연에 묻혀서 행복하고 여유로웠던 나날들이 떠오릅니다. 그러다보니 파올라님의 영상을 매번 기대하며 기다리는것 같습니다. 덕분에 이렇게라도 해서 잠깐의 여유와 힐링을 느껴보기 때문입니다.

    • @purplephoenixartbymicheled9298
      @purplephoenixartbymicheled9298 Рік тому +1

      🌬🌻🌺🌹I agree.
      Her videos Always Relax me. Stay STRONG
      We are all stronger together 💪🤍💙💛💪

    • @오원경-m5i
      @오원경-m5i Рік тому +2

      ​@@purplephoenixartbymicheled9298
      Thank you so much!

    • @purplephoenixartbymicheled9298
      @purplephoenixartbymicheled9298 Рік тому +1

      @@오원경-m5i 🌬🦋❣Your VERY Welcome XOXO Stay STRONG
      💪🤍💙💛💜💖💪

  • @sherryvalerietheloneshewolf

    My grandfather often enough reminded me about some of those flowers that grows out from cracks between the cement road, walls or in nature itself which makes them look like an outsider, alone and grow out of their own space making them stands out than the rest in the fields. Because they look so uniquely different, brave and thoughtfully brilliant in pure silence. I never knew what it meant until I am older and being an introvert separated me from the rest of friends or cousins, or classmates. But, then it shows me that to be imperfect is perfect because you are always in constant change and searching to learn something new, and being an explorer of nature that filled with beauty and magic. That is, if one do believe in magic. I am more than happy to found your channel and you inspired many here to be ourselves. As young as you are, there are some maturity that surprises me always that I could not find in some older women. Stay as you are, Paola. You are a beautiful human being.💗

  • @juicisushi7943
    @juicisushi7943 Рік тому

    Your video has inspired me to paint ! The stunning scenery captured in it is simply breathtaking.

  • @dianegriffith3006
    @dianegriffith3006 Рік тому +1

    Absolutely beautiful-thank you Paola ❤️