7 Things I Changed to Improve my Life | Simple Living, Self Care, Slowing Down
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Welcome to this new video! I share 7 things I changed to improve my life in my thirties. They have to do with sensitivity, self care, simple living, slowing down and embracing the lovely small pleasures of life. Hope you'll enjoy the video!
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🌼 Vera
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Not taking myself seriously 1:33
Jealousy & comparison 4:43
Accepting my sensitivity 7:32
Valuing relationships 9:33
JOMO vs FOMO 12:25
Prioritizing self care 14:11
What it takes to be happy 15:27
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Hiya! 🤗 People are asking about the healthy cookie recipe. Here's what I do:
3 ripe bananas
125 gr rolled oats (1.5 cups)
3 tbsp peanut butter
30 gr raisins (about 1/5th of a cup)
cinnamon
bit of salt
Mash bananas and add the rest of the ingredients to form a sticky 'dough'. Form little balls in your hands of about 5 cm (2 inches) and press them on a baking tray until you have a cookie of about 2 cm thick (1 inch). Bake in the oven for about 15-18 minutes on 180 degrees Celcius (356 F). Check if they're nice and golden brown.
Remove from the oven and let them cool a bit before transfering them, to make sure they don't fall apart. Enjoy! :)
Thank you Vera!
Thank you
Hi, I am 71 and my biggest bit of advice is never to say ‘I’m too old’. In my forties I took up tae kwon do and trained to black belt. In my fifties I changed career and became a nurse. I am now recently retired and thinking about what I can do next. Try and keep a positive mindset, you never know what the future holds ❤️😀
Thanks so much. I find it such a drag to read about all the people who complain about age in this negative way to hold you back and try to give up.
Thank you for sharing this! I’m 51 and considering a drastic career change but keep thinking “it’s too late”. Your comment gives me hope that change is still possible.
Awesome ❤
I learned to ride bi-cycle when I was 37 yrs.because I understood that being in netherlands. If you don't bike, you will miss out a lot of fun that comes along with it. P.s I never took help of friends. Found a trainer through website and enrolled for training. Do it yourself and don't wait for help. Because you will later realise that it was waste of time waiting for others to help you.rather just get started and universe will play its part to protect your intention.
Yes!!!
Thé best thing about getting older is being more comfortable in your skin and not caring what other people think because their opinions are theirs and not your business.
Totally agree - that's exactly the change I experienced as soon as I turned 40 🙌
Some of the cruelest people I know are the ones who are twenty years older than I am. They never forgive a grudge.
This is so true I'm 25 but I feel so much better about myself as compared to 3-4 years back
This video is so valuable to me. I’ll be 55 this summer and I’m in a deep time of reflection in my life. When I see younger people developing the wisdom that has taken me so long to find out for myself, I want to celebrate with them! I’m happy to learn from the younger generation. 🙏💕
Exactly!
I can relate. I am 55 too and I wish to learn quickly! Pacience isn't one of my virtues. I have been on my journey of decluttering for several years now and I'm still working on it. I realize that I have achieved a significant amount of decluttering but still have a long way to go. 😊
@ataylor3202 I am just realising it all at 39! I feel like I've never once stopped to understand myself my whole life and now I feel like I've spent years doing things I don't really like to do, jobs that never suited my personality, friends that are just so different to me (but I never realised because I was just drifting along.) I feel so empowered and ready to continue my life with intention, good luck with your journey xx
Life really does move fast as you get older. I’m going to be 57 next week and due to dealing with chronic illnesses the last 20 years I do still feel envious of people who are healthy enough to travel and can afford it. But I am finally in a better mental state as far as who I let into my life now. It took me until my 40’s to finally stop allowing toxic people in my life. It really is true what they say about being in your 50’s and finally not caring what others think about you.
Yes! Exactly! At my job, there are many younger people now. They see me as old…but I don’t care. I see myself as wise and talented and having value.
I love being in my fifties too. Boomers are still trying to tell me what to do with my time and how I should behave but I am finally no longer afraid of what they think of me. I think the lockdowns gave me a small taste of freedom. It is so important to me now to make sure my children feel that freedom to be themselves and live their own lives according to their own personality and values right from the start.
@@lornam3637 yes…agreed! My children are young adults and they’ve learned that they’re free to determine their own path…as long as they live a life of integrity.
I turned 38 beginning of this year and I have spent my 30s chronically ill and living with a brain tumor. And my life just isn’t and never will be normal i suppose (not operable) but I’m said to live a long life) just with many struggles and symptoms. I feel robbed of my 30s and I wonder if there is a way to not feel that way about my 40s too. I will admit living ill has also allowed me to shut out the toxic people from my life too. And that is definitely one huge improvement that has come from the cards that I’ve been dealt. Hopefully I’ll have no caring what people think about to look forward too in my 50s too.
roberta9428 - I agree with finally not caring at this point about what other think of me. Happy Birthday to YOU, dear!
I am 63 and what you have to look forward to is: being free from your hormones - as they decline many see it as a sadness..it is a blessing to flip things that are biologically driven to making a choice!
Not caring about others opinions... living your best life on your terms.
I hope that gives you some hope for the future..it really does get better but it's a different life - the ones that struggle are those who are trying to hang on to the you in your 30's,40's,50's... being the best you can be at your age.
Love your channel - you are so authentic xx
sueancell- I agree- well said!!
Yes!!! That.
Yes!
I worried a lot in my 20ies and thirties about relationships and to have it all husband and children. It never worked out and I was depressed for a while. Now I’m 45 yrs old single, have an apartment near the beach (Sydney, Australia ❤) have a full time job I love, lovely friends around me and live my best life over here! Peace of mind and feeling happy! Life experience just makes you stronger and independent! 🧘♀️
I'm so happy for you you're living your best life now :) Thanks for sharing your thoughts!
I used to be the same in my 20s and beat if up for not being on everyone else's timeline. But soo glad now it didn't work out how i wanted. I'm 40, have travelled by myself, worked out who i am and that i don't actually want kids. And then one day a man started working in another department at my work and we've now been together 7 years. Neither of us were looking for live and both happily single.
Hi from across the ditch! 🇳🇿
I turned 30 in August last year. One thing that I learnt during my therapy is that overworking was a trauma response coupled with my need to control everything, so I simply started allowing myself to do nothing without feeling guilty :)
One thing that really put life into perspective for me was when I turned 60 and someone said to me, welcome to your 7th decade of life. Even though I had been a math teacher, it took me a bit to realize that was true. I have already lived 6 decades and am now in my 7th decade of life. No time to waste or worry. Just enjoy it. ❤
I'm turning 35 next month and all your messages are really validating for the changes I've found myself!f naturally making lately. Thank you.
I'm 40, so I'm just entering this new phase but... what I'm realising is that I understand and accept myself a lot more than I used to. I'm letting go a lot of the things that didn't work out for me, and that means people and situations as well. :) Thank you for this video. 💛
Time flies faster with each decade. I am 59 years old and I can honestly say that life gets better as I age. I love each decade more than the last. I look forward to my sixties in which life is free from the responsibilities of parenthood and can be focused on my self and my husband now. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and wisdom 💖
I am 40. I used to have the same fear that you described of throwing a party and nobody wanting to come, or not having people to invite. I have realised its really fun to throw a little party and invite all kinds of people, including people you met two days ago. I have done this a few times this year and we have had the best time every time. So I guess in my 40s Im realising that we all have way more potential for social fun and silliness than we thought!
In my early 20s, my work ethic as an aspiring doctor was egregiously taken advantage of to the point to where I was in an all around debilitative state at the end of my twenties.
In my 30s, I am getting to figure out who I am. I am setting strict boundaries with myself and others. I get to be a human being and not a human doing. I just get to enjoy more freedom without worrying someone is watching me, grading me, going to judge me, you name it.
Thank you for the video. ☺️
Our hard and painful times help to make us stronger and more resilient. You seem to have grown in wisdom as a result. Bravo for being reflective and learning to value the really important aspects of life. - I’m about to turn 76, in good health and living fully. The last decade has possibly given me the most joy. Retired from a fascinating career as a research scientist, I’m now very active caring for our large acreage. I love tending my vegetable garden and small orchard, observing the wildlife, watching the sunrise, while sipping the first cup of coffee on my deck, cherishing my small but very special circle of friends and my family. The older I get, the more I appreciate all the myriad strengths and talents of other people. - You are on the right path!
Like many of the “older” commenters here, I can confirm that life goes very quick. If you have dreams/aspirations to do anything, do it now. With regard to friends. We have very few friends in life. We can normally count them on one hand. True friends should never be confused with social acquaintances, which we may have many. 🙏
I am 65 and in the last three years I’ve car camped to Utah, Yellowstone, DC for cherry blossoms, and the UP. I never dreamed living simply, frugally could ignite this passion. I retired at 60. Carpe Diem
I’m 53 next month and finally getting used to the idea of being older and feeling comfortable with it. I’m slowing down, my interests have changed along with so many other things making life fun and new🎉❤😊
Hi Vera, I am in my fifties now, and what I experinced during growing older was that I finally know what I really want from life, and, which I find more important, what I do NOT want from or in my life. I feel somewhat "settled" now, and that is a feeling I like very much.
Great video! ❤️ I'm 43 and I think now, in my 40s, I'm finally comfortable in my own body. This has a huge impact on everyday things, like getting dressed, on working out and just taking up space in the world.
The best thing about being in my 50s is that I am now living a very authentic life. I do not try to “fit in” anymore, I do not try to please people, I am much more peaceful and calm. Everyday is an opportunity to learn new things and enrich our lives with experiences. Thank you for a wonderful video… sending lots of love to you and this amazing community of like minded folks. 🌼🌻
Aw thank you!! Wishing you a lovely rest of your day, take care!
Perfection is the enemy of the good. Comparison is the thief of joy.
Such an insightful and wise video Vera. You are never too young or too old to embrace fully the unique person you were created to be. When I developed a disabling chronic illness, life was forever changed. Not only in loss, but the gains of insight, wisdom, and freedom of walking in who I AM, not who I want to be. Blessings and joy Vera! 🥰❤👏🏻
I've been diagnosed with a chronic illness myself a couple of years ago and still struggling with the loss of my old life. Any wisdom you've learned I'd love to hear!
@@jess53nz I’m awfully sorry that you’re “in the club.” First, you have to grieve. Whatever you have has changed your life drastically, and your old identity is transforming into something new. Believe it or not, there will be GREAT things, but you have to face the loss. Give yourself ALL the time you need. #2 Learn as much as you can about your illness through research and people who have it. Being an informed and proactive patient is essential. Not all doctors are equal, and finding a team that supports you 100% is essential. A chronic illness means that this team you curate will be your literal bodyguards. There will be times you are emotionally fragile, and if you ever need to go up against insurance, you need people to guard you like a lion. #3 Find shortcuts in your routines. Zone your house, minimize steps, energy, and CLUTTER! other sites to explore on this are The Minimal Mom, Clutterbug, and A Slob Comes Clean (Dana White). I’d love to hear more…. God bless you ❤️🩹💖
I am 69 and am just figuring myself out because I was too busy working and dealing with family. You are way ahead of the game and I wish I discovered things earlier in life. As I aged I did notice that I stopped caring what others thought about me and started caring more about me.
Envy goes away, yes, me too. Today when i see beautiful people inside and out, i appreciate it, it gives me joy instead of envy, how wonderful and colourful the world is.
Loneliness: i felt it, too..now i think i couldn't handle too much friends, because i wouldn't be a good friend splitting my attention for everyone.
It is so good to see a young person enjoying their youth. Time goes by fast. I’m 64 and miss doing things I could do when I was young. You are wise beyond your years! With that being said, I love having the memories of the great decades I was able to live through: 60s, 70s, 80s ❤ and 90s❤❤❤
Thank you for sharing your thoughts! Those must have been interesting times hihi :) I have many nostalgic feelings for the 90s and early 2000s. :)
Hi Vera, thank you for another wonderful video. It drove some tears into my eyes to see someone thinking so much like I do. I am 56 now and have struggled, ever since I got married with 29, to adjust to life in the US (being German), to have a husband who worked/still works way too much, feeling lonely a lot and having given up friends and family. I am finally back home but have several illnesses now. It is really important to enjoy life every moment and do the things you want to do or that are important to you when you´re younger. You never know when your possibilities will get restricted, so live the life you want to live right now.
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts Claudia. I'm sorry to hear about your struggles, but happy for you that you're back home now. Thank you for your advice, I'll take it to heart. Wishing you all the best, take care! 🌺 Sending love your way
Love your videos, Vera! I’m almost 63 and it took me a *lot* longer to learn these things you’re talking about. I only found out I was HSP in 2020 & it gave me such a deeper, clearer insight into why I’ve naturally done things so differently than others!
An observation regarding friends in your 30s-40s… A majority of people in that age group are having families and raising kids so their time is often taken up by that. I didn’t have kids so it was sometimes hard to connect with people my age. Now that most of my peers are empty nesters, I have almost *too much* of a social life for this HSP, which presents a brand new challenge! Thanks for all you do! ❤️
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and also what you said about friendships, that's very interesting and makes a lot of sense :)
I will be 55 this summer and learned that I was an HSP about 5 years ago. It gave so much context to my life, finally. It’s one of the things I hope to speak about in some videos soon. It’s comforting to reach out to others who understand. ❤
I think it boils down to contentment. When I turned 50 (16 years ago 😳) I remember thinking that a burden had been lifted. I never had kids by choice but the constant questions about that choice really felt like pressure. At 50 they stop asking 😁!! I remember thinking that my life as a woman was finally my own as it had been prior to puberty.
I'm now closer to 60 than 50 and I have found that you have to do what's best for you, not others, YOU!! Even if it doesn't make sense to others.
63 here. Look forward to being more comfortable in your own skin and not giving a damn. Lol. It’s great.
Awesome, can't wait! 😁👍
As someone who’s 22 and a confirmed HSP thanks to watching dozens of your videos, I’ve finally been able to accept who I am including my worries, anxieties, personal needs, and the people and things that overwhelm me. Growing up I always somehow invited toxic people into my social group, and I’ve just recently started to let them go. I’ve been told by family many times that I haven’t “fully experienced life yet” which is true in some ways, but you’ve helped me see that what I have experienced so far is valid. I hope that when I reach my 30s I’ll be prepared to tackle those new challenges while prioritizing myself in the process. I believe I’ll be more mentally equipped for the journey thanks to your advice. Thank you for inspiring me to look deeper and reminding me that I’m not being selfish by choosing not to do something. This has helped me quit worrying so much and definitely relieved a lot of my FOMO.
So many of us women waste our twenties worrying about pointless things when we should be embracing life. Even before the pressure of public media! You are wise to drop the toxic people from your life, it took me a lot longer to figure that one out. Be yourself and enjoy!
You are wise beyond your years! I am over 60:and I can tell you that you have already figured out thing I have just realized. I would never go back because being older means being so much more confident and secure in your decisions. By the way, I am not a highly sensitive person but I have always prioritized self care. I know when I need to take time for myself and say no to everything else. Life has been kind to me and I am so grateful! I am grateful for you too and the wonderful work that you do for everyone in the world. You have made a huge impact! ❤❤❤❤
I'm 60, and what you have to look forward to, Vera, is more and more of what you are discovering about yourself right now. Truly knowing and accepting who we are, what we like or dislike, what/who makes up happy, and embracing those things will produce a well fulfilled life.
Love that! Thanks Julie :) Have a great day!
I'm in my early 70s and I'm reinventing myself and my life. This was a helpful video!!
Awesome! :)
Exceptional video!! Thank you.
In your 60 you will still find it even more rewarding to enjoy the time with people you love, simple pleasures will be even more pleasurable, but above all you will be intensely happy with yourself, knowing that you are beautiful exactly how you are , extra weight and wrinkles included.
You will spend zero time on people that treat you bad.
My most favorite part is almost never need to lie or explain things. You just simply say how it is. “ I am sorry I did not call back yesterday ,I was tired”
Love it
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Love that, thanks so much for sharing :)
Wonderful video, it gives me a lot of food for thought -- and I am 70! Still evolving, ever-changing, ever-challenged to prioritize and determine/focus on what is important!
Happy to hear you enjoyed the video, thank you so much! Have a wonderful rest of your day
I’m turning 34 in November, and can honestly say, after graduating last year with my Master’s as a librarian, being in the 30’s has been a challenging, yet better decade for me than my 20’s. In my 20’s it was always about school, work and immature young men in relationships, but now as a single woman, I am learning what I want and who I want, in the future, and am comfortable embracing myself or trying new things to reinvent myself, in the meantime. This version of me feels like someone who is more confident and has higher standards now, whether dating in the future or not. Being happy is also easier at this time, because I’ve embraced who I am and accept that not everyone will always stay around in life because of that. But this is about gratitude, for the people who do stay in my life and the new people I may meet in the future, who don’t try to change me into the girlfriend they want, but instead accept the level that I’m at now. Growth is always still happening, but I don’t want to change the crux of who I am for a man who won’t stay, anyway. It’s not aligning with my values anymore, to sacrifice that.
"It's finding magic in the mundane" 💚 So true :) Thank you, such a great and thoughtful video!
Thank you, so glad you enjoyed it! :) Have a nice day!
That is a great way to express a relationship one can have with life, whether alone or not.
Very wise video !
Be yourself and not comparing to anyone is the way I live.
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Thank you Teresa, have a wonderful rest of your day!!!
I love your videos Vera. For me, I’m 50 now and I have found that knowing the real purpose of my life and knowing and loving our Creator are two main factors that have made my life happier, peaceful and content. Moreover, believing that this life is not the end and there will be another life after death made me not worrying about getting older. Thank you so much
Vera I have watched your videos for a long time now. You are so inspiring for minimising and simplifying my life. Love your work, please continue. ❤
Aw thank you so much Susan for being around for a long time already 🤗🌱🍵 Have a wonderful weekend!
I'm in my 50s and A LOT of what you mentioned resonated deeply. I would say, at least for me, that many of the things you mentioned are felt at this age, but on a perceived deeper level at times... maybe bc you keep relearning the lessons as you age so there's even more depth and resonating with each growth moment. You also begin thinking about your legacy, which motivates you to try new things and challenge the boundaries. You realize how precious life is, in a whole new way :-)
Love that, thank you for sharing your thoughts :)
As the saying goes, “The days are long, but the years are short.”
I'm 22, I look forward to being older and having a stronger sense of self and more confidence
Thank you for sharing! I remember feeling and wishing for exactly the same at 22 :)
When you get to that age and have that stronger sense of self you might realize that it is possible at 22 as well, not that I had it then either.
I’m not 30 yet but I think many times you already know who you are, you’ve always known it but probably covered it from expectations or judgment from outside people. So many times it’s just realizing your opinion is the most important and coming back to the person you always were
@@Milsukix3 I love your point of view! Thank you for the comment
Hey Vera I am 36 this Monday and also had a burnt out at 28 for similar reasons. I enjoy your videos and have been watching them for a while. 😊 In answer to your question... in my 30's I have learnt more about self awareness and the art of slowing down. Two vital things you discuss. But also how family (as relationships) bring me joy when I spend time with them so I as I value this. I am planning to more closer to home to enjoy their company which supports me and my wellbeing. Thanks for sharing.❤
I love your videos, Vera! I love that you always give permission to slow down! I have a hard time allowing myself time to relax, and not be so productive all of the time. Thanks for the great reminder!
You are wise for your age so don’t sweat the coming years. I identify with so much of what you said here, except I have only in the last 3 years (I’m almost 60) learned I am HSP, about toxic people, about trusting myself, gaslighting, etc etc. You will thrive in your 40s & 50s. The hard part is not recognizing that face and body in the mirror, and in my case, feeling like a whole brand new person with no history, because I’ve fundamentally changed so much with my new empowerment. My main advice is, continually feel gratitude for all the little good things in life, it gives me a very deep sense of peace and joy.
A great part of age 55 is that instead of feeling pressure to be like or live like those I see or follow on social, I take it all as suggestions or ideas that may or may not work for me. I recently bought a suitcase and rain jacket that were highly recommended by a UA-cam travel expert, but not because I felt pressured to have the latest and greatest. Only because the items fulfill my needs and preferences. So I can appreciate the recommendations now instead of being pressured or bullied by them. 😊
I love your analogy of the eating a piece of cake in regards to being envy and jealousy. That made me really understand it better. So happy to hear that you overcame your burnout. I would have never known seeing how calm you are❤️
Glad to hear that resonated with you! :) About my burnout, I was very calm throughout that period as well :) It was just that my battery had completely died out. I do have an older video where I go into more of the specifics, in case you're interested: ua-cam.com/video/ObM0DRNm1a4/v-deo.html
@@SimpleHappyZen thank you so much for the link. I’m definitely checking it out! I am actually gonna go through your other old as well. Happy I found you!
At 24, I'm gaining valuable insights from you, Miss. Your guidance is incredible. Thank you for empowering me to become the best I can be.
Simplifying life seems to be a great way to a happy life, thank you.
POOF! You are 58 and each decade has had things you have loved. I adore myself at 58. So many truths in your vlog!🥰
I don’t believe that is more difficult to make new friends when you’re getting older…an older than Vera and I always meet new amazing people and we help each other and travel and go for coffee. For me is easier now. We have more things to share. My experience)😊😊😊
I think we should normalize comparing and not suppress those feelings or telling people they are wrong. It can be many things: unprocessed loss, insecurity, trauma with siblings. People get so uncomfortable when someone tells them they envy them. Why not react compassionately, connect, let their feelings be. And then they will feel better much quicker. Jealousy doesn't mean they don't want you to be happy, it just means it triggers something underneath. ❤
I'm 25 and just want to say that since the day I accepted myself the way I am and started enjoying the little things in life... My life has become so much better
I have been following you since so long and you truly changed so many things in my life. thank you
Aw thank you, that's so nice to hear 🤗🌱🍵 Have a wonderful weekend!
Thank you, Vera ❤ It's very rainy and cold where I live today so this upload from you came at the perfect time
Ah you're so welcome, hope you'll get some gentle sunshine soon!
Turning 43 this year, you are looking to strengthen what started already now. Most probably you will prioritize even more people and activities that bring joy into your life.
We had kids around the age of 32, which is a small or bigger game changer. Since that lifetime just runs like crazy! I have my list of what activities / places / music / films / books, etc. are good for charging my batteries. It helps me to quickly remember those and grab it when running low.
I still keep working in corporate, but also building side income to quit my job later. Time outside of business hours is valued more and more. Hope you will enjoy being older.
Couple of months back, I realized that if multiple people will talk at my funeral (members of my family, neighbours, colleagues, friends), some of them would have not much to say. Not knowing me well or not being in touch, or not having many from some category.
Running too long, wish you long and happy life!
Loved your video ! So blessed! Thank you ! I'm in my 40s! What you have to look forward to in your 40s is not worrying about what everyone thinks so much. You find comfort confidence and peace in the wisdom you've gained in your earlier years and live more true to your values and not that of others.
Iam Christian so having God as the centre of my world helps guide my life path.
JOMO! Yes! I am 48 now and I agree with everything that you said. Growing older through many challenges & losses never fails to remind me of the preciousness and the beauty of life: being able to perceive beauty keeps us young at heart: "Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder", I see that more and more as I grow older - what a privilege to grow older I am grateful to life in so many ways! You are so precious and inspiring Vera - keep up with the good work...
Thank you so much for your kind words and for sharing your thoughts! Have a lovely rest of your day
I am about to be 30 in three weeks, I am glad I clicked on this video
What do you have to look forward to? Knowing yourself better. As I’m also an hsp, I’m very aware that everyone has different strengths and abilities and that I shouldn’t expect myself to be who I am not. And finally being able to be more assertive in asking for what I need has been a big help for me.
That's awesome!! Being more assertive is definitely something I'm looking forward to.
thank you for sharing Vera. I am a highly sensitive person as well and it has been hard coping with this world. I have learned so much from your videos and I'm so grateful you have the courage to share your journey with us. Much love ✨🤍
Thank you for sharing your thoughts Abigail, take good care! 🤗💕🍵
"Old friends" are the best friends..I have 3 friends I've known since the 7th grade, two from the 10th grade and another since I was 19. I LOVE these ladies. They know me and they are a rich blessing in my life. I will be 56 in two days.
Awesome, so nice 🤗💕🍵 Have a happy birthday tomorrow!!!!
Happy Birthday 🎉
Great video Vera! Things to look forward to in your 40’s : You could care less about what other people think of you 😅 You become even more authentic. And you get to know yourself better as the years go by, which also helps to establish boundaries and deeper connections.
That sounds great :) Thanks for sharing!
The thing I'm looking forward to the most in my 30s (I'm 29 now): Having a stable and long term job.
I finished my studies in June last year and I'm doing a year long internship this year until the end of September. I need to start looking for a job and I'm terrified not to find (a good) one. So I'm really looking forward to having a stable job in my 30s
Great video as always! ☺️💛
Congratulatinos on finishing your studies last year and good luck with finishing up your internship! Wishing you all the best in your career 🤗🍵 Sometimes it might go differently than planned, but you never know where one thing can lead to :)
Thank you, you're so nice 🤗
I can relate to so much of what talk about! thanks for another wonderful video and for being so candid and sharing your experiences - you help so many people ❤
I am now where you are and I am 60 later this year. It took me that long to accept myself as I am and realise I am just fine as I am. I don't pretend to be anything I am not any more, and it's given me confidence. As for what you have to look forward to Vera, I think 40's and 50's are just an extension of what you already have, with a little extra maturity sprinkled in 😅. Just know you will not feel any different in your mind . And I also love JOMO 😊 Thanks for another great video ❤
I see the same cycle in every generation: acquire in your 20s-50s. Then you look around and think, “what was I thinking?!” Then you go through the stage of simplifying: selling, donating, or trashing. It is such a waste of resources. I am in my early 60s and downsizing a home we have been in with 3 (now young adults who have moved out but left all their crap behind) decades. I have painful spinal stenosis and the overwhelming task of tossing everything out of this house is physically painful. I wish I had your insight 40 years ago.
You are lovely Vera, body and soul.
OMG. You are totally the European version of me. LOL.
All your videos make me connect with you, because the experiences, behaviors, thoughts, sensitivity and not being popular that you bring to the videos are very very similar to my life, besides we are the same age.
Thank you for your videos, they have helped me a lot on my life journey.
Greetings from Brazil.
I am in my mid 50s. I think you know yourself better as a person. There is growth from overcoming obstacles. There is greater knowledge, wisdom and discernment in dealing with people’s different personalities. I find I am learning more about nutrition and trying to eat better and to avoid or minimise foods that are not good or great for my health. I do like to go to restaurants as much as I can, to savour foods and gourmet experiences. I think channels like yours help us to enjoy simple pleasures like a good cup of coffee or tea, or a home made meal that we like. I am gradually trying to improve my food preparation rituals in a more mindful manner. When you are older, you have benefits from compound interest on your investments and you plan for a secure future. Even though I have travelled the world on some trips, there is also the joy and dream of further trips and experiences- to go to new places to immerse yourself in the culture, to learn a foreign language and to try to converse with the locals.
Love watching your videos Vera, thanks for sharing your thoughts so honestly and selflessly! 🌺😍
Thank you Saskia 🤗🌱🍵
I am 48. I loved my 30s and being more settled in my life. My 40s have been a lot of walking away, trying and stopping. I have minimized myself because I've felt less than, and not very successful. These setbacks have guided me to myself, and what's important in life. If I can give you one tip, it is to research perimenopause to know what to expect and be prepared to advocate for yourself (it starts anywhere from 35-45). I believe many of my struggles were tied to perimenopause. Basically all the things happening in your body are related, not separate issues. Your 40s can be empowering and a time to stand in your own truth and power. ❤
Oh thank you! I'll look it up. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experiences, have a wonderful rest of day and take care!
Also in my 40s I've tried all the things I've wanted to but was too afraid of in thepast...creating pottery, photography, experimenting with trial and error.
The fear of not being seen trying is somethjng I had a lot as a child. I was recently wondering how to express this feeling and you said it well. Thanks
I just turned 38 today. I can't believe how fast it happened! I needed this video so much. Thank you,Vera
Good video.Good coments here. I started to watch it just to improve my English, but now I'm really interested in it.
Seven great tips. Thanks Vera.
Thanks Markus, have a great day!
@@SimpleHappyZen Roger that
My nan says the older you get, the less you care what people think of you. Its liberating.
Yes time does move very quickly. I'm 74 and I often wonder where did the years go. We enjoyed your video thank you Vera.❤
Sending a hug your way!
❤ Really appreciate hearing where you are coming from on this. Thank you for your honesty. I can identify with various elements & some excellent points you make. 1 Timothy 6:6-7 But godliness with contentment is great gain. For we brought nothing into this world, and it is certain we can carry nothing out. Wishing you many blessings. Perhaps further along the way I will get to visit Holland. My 1st stop Haarlem. x
Thank you for sharing ❤️ I needed a reminder I needed to hear this 🫶🏼
I love your videos, Vera. We are one year apart in age and I just find your videos so relatable and uplifting. When I’m experiencing chaos, I trust that when I see your videos, I tap into my inner sense of calm and quiet again.
Aw thank you, that means a lot to me 🤗🍵💕 Take care and have a lovely rest of your day!
You're amazing, your video was exactly what I needed ❤️ I'm 22 and turning 23 soon, and now that I'm on vacation I want to do everything I've been wanting to do when I still had classes to attend, but I want to do so much and I pressure myself a lot because they are only 24 hours in a day and you can't do everything in one day. + I miss out on a lot of videos coming out because I've been keeping myself away from my phone for a few months now after overworking myself, but when I saw your video popping out, it definitely grabbed my attention and I'm so grateful for getting this advice at this very moment and for you to provide them ❤️
Great vídeo, Vera! Thanks for sharing all these points!
You gave me many things to think about.
I had this moment of understanding and accepting that I don't have to aim for higher positions and it's OK!
Best thing I learned in my 65 years.. i can't care what others think of me, esp when doing my best, which i consistently have aimed to put fourth. Good thoughts helpful, often we may need to think good thoughts on purpose ..
Best to all. Ty for the vid 🌺🕊️✨
Really cool summary, thank you for sharing your thoughts!!
I love what you are saying. Your gentle encouragement is wonderful.
Hi Vera, great video! I love what you said about being unapologetically yourself and it being enough ❤
Love your videos! New subscriber. Really glad I found your channel! Since you asked near the end of the video,,, In a few months, September, I'll be turning 47 years young and I'm now learning from you, a lady who is younger than myself. I used to think that there wasn't anything to learn from someone younger than me. In the past few years I've learned that's not true at all! I am now paying attention to younger people all ages. I've always known I'm highly sensitive and intuitive but ego gets in the way big time! That's a Virgo personality most of the time. Seeing every little detail but missing the bigger picture. I feel guilt and shame when I feel my mind and body needs to slow down because after all, I should be a super soldier doing all the things and taking care of all, listening to everyones problems as they dump them on me, as if I'm a crappy cold hearted person if I don't hear them out and come up with solutions for them to heal and be happy again. As you know this leads to burnout. I've been a good little listener since birth. My mother's therapist to the best of my ability. Now, I can't even take a phone call from her because she has drained me. When she asks about me it's just an opening statement to go into her own issues. I just say, I'm fine, bcz I know she's not really interested in me and the truth but only wants to talk about herself and the men in her life. So, now, with depression and burnout, chronic fatigue, chronic physical pain, I'm having to stop, unlearn, and relearn how to live life and deal with all the people and things I can't change. I can only change myself. One careful slow step at a time. Thank You! It's a truly good thing that you learned these lessons so early in life!
Love your channel so much! On Sunday it is one of my favorite to watch to renew myself. Just enjoyed a bit of nixen today! Thank you so much for teaching me that word to describe something I love to do !! Have a lovely week!!
These tips are so helpful and a great reminder that all is good.
Hey Vera! Great video as usual. I simply enjoy your wise and inspiring videos every weekend. As a HSP in my late thirties, taking care of myself without feeling guilty is very critical. Thanks again for this and be blessed! Hope you enjoyed the rest of the cookie 😅
I love the topic! Letting go of unnecessary pressures and comparisons can really free us to live more fully and authentically. 🌟
You've just made me realize that i'm normal and nothing is wrong with me🎉Thank you❤
Love listening and getting inspired by you. Thank you so much for your great content. I am always looking forward to your videos 👏🏼☺️
すてきな動画でした。
Veraさん美しすぎて目がはなせない💐
30代でこれほどの知恵を持っている人は、きっといつまでも成長しつづけることでしょう。
私は47才。
もし10年前にこのチャンネルを見ていたら、わたしの40代は全くちがったものになっていたでしょう…
always, always love your video💕
Thanks Vera for a nice educative video 👌☺️ I'm looking forward to seeing myself as a strong, independent woman in my 30's, and mostly to be better at setting healthy boundaries and say no when I feel like it, be more secure in myself 🤗💚 Thank you for sharing your knowledge and experience, I'm also a HSP, and it's not easy, heheh
You transmitted a lot of emotion which makes the video more authentic and special. I am almost 38 and I am trying to learn all the things you discussed here. Thanks for sharing :)
You're so relatable and I love everything about your content ❤