I am an electrical engineer in construction. It can be an extremely stressful job in a very male ego driven industry. I have gotten around burnout by working for no more than 1 to 2 years maximum at a time, then taking a full year off to travel or do my own personal stuff. This has been a very satisfying way of working because it always gives me something to look forward to, plus recharges my interest in my job. I can take these time out periods because in the early part of my working life i focused with a passion on paying off my mortgage by the time i was 40 and having many, many years of engineering experience behind me so that i am always employable because of my knowledge base. Even after taking extended time out. Also, I only take contract positions, which are normally higher paid without all the employee relationship bull crap. Finally, i always leave jobs without burning any bridges to get a good reference. I leave before i burn out and ruin any work relationships. This helps me to get future work.
Wish I could do this but I have a hard time saving money ugh. Would love to take a year off. This is such a great idea though. My boyfriend just lost his job but they are paying him and he gets a severance pay and he told me he was going to take a lot of time off to. He worked at the company for 4 years.
A lot of therapists are doing it for the money and status. Many lack adequate stability, compassion or other needed qualities. At least half of people studying psychology are trying to solve their emotional problems, which doesn't work. Psychology departments fail to redirect them to therapy. Many of those students get degrees and work in the field while still broken. Psychology faculty should have responded to this phenomena a long time ago. All schools that teach a trade or profession should enable interested parties to see what working in the profession is really like. They should have people that washed out of grad school/work tell their stories, etc. There should be a non judgemental process that allows people to find their place.
Life teaches you the lessons you need to learn. Experienced burn-out in the corporate world (surprise, surprise). At 39, I started my life again in every possible way conceivable. Pain is a wonderful engine for growth.
“they can’t put me in a little box” / the “barnacle stuck on a rock” imagery. Very astute. And despite the insecurities and doubt, continuing to love yourself helps you continue on and avoid the burnout you see around you. An encouragement … thank you
Yup I thank God everyday for giving me a benign brain tumor where I thoughtbI was going to die. It is gone now but now I refuse to be disrespected and I refuse to be unhappy. We can die any time. Never take life or ourselves for granted. You can make more money but you can’t make more time!
@@ginagg200I have that exact issue currently and I’m on cabergoline also. Do you find the medication difficult, I’m just in my first month? I was so miserable prior it’s hard to know. I’m so glad this experience has been positive for you. ❤❤❤
I totally agree with you, committing to love our true selves is the most valuable and important job we will ever do! Money comes and go, status is an illusion, love is the only wealth we need!
Thank you, Daniel -- very timely and thus comforting video for me. I just a left full-time commitment as a freelance journalist last week, thus stepping out of a very familiar identity. Now I am a Communications Director at a non-profit. I mourned letting go of my old identity -- I have spent nearly 16 years in full-time journalism. But I am excited to see what this new phase will be like -- it will be fun to learn new skills and connect with people in ways that don't always have to do with trauma and drama.
Thank you for your honesty and courage in sharing your story. I'm the same age as you, unmarried, no children, with a very similar set of experiences from my childhood and adult life. Listening to you is very reassuring. I avoided burnout as a teacher by going part-time and doing other things outside of work. I retrained as a psychological therapist but have not managed to turn it into a new career. I'm not sure what I really want to do to be honest. Thank you again for your wisdom and inspiration, I look forward to your videos! Joe. UK
When you talked about how you've changed career path every time it has become comfortable or stable, it reminded me a nice thing from the "Dune" book series. Somewhere around the fourth book (where i've stopped), Herbert (the author) makes an interesting point quite clear: The comfort zone is the death of humanity. So yeah, your guts and courage are not only impressive, but an essential property of being a (strong) human. Also, i think this ties in perfectly with your point / hypothesis that dementia occurs from being too much comfortably numb.
I think being a librarian gives you a lot of time for introspection. You’d definitely have room to continue your healing if you ultimately decide that path is where you’d like to travel next! If it feels nourishing to your soul, I say go for it!
you deserve to do to something you enjoy, you deserve a good job and fulfilment. Just because you have a "career" doesn't mean you should let other people / the company exploit you and burn you out. There are many companies that are great and also you can stand up for yourself too, in a professional manner. If that doesn't work you can leave and go somewhere else that values you but don't give up on your dreams just because of what other people did to do in the past. Do what you love and you will deal with it as it comes, just remain connected to yourself and you will thrive and if you have to quit then do it too but don't give up on something that you haven't even started. If you want it deep down go for it! Moreover, librarian seems a much less political workplace to be than other places so that might be a good fit :))
It's truly therapy to me just listening to you airing your thoughts, Daniel.. (validating a lot of feelings I have but keep to myself/ on the inside). Thank you 🌿🙏🌈💫
What I am going to say is scary, because I wish there were more therapists out there like you, but Thank you for quitting being a therapist Daniel. I have grown up believing that we need to sacrifice ourselves in order to help others and I still struggle to prioritise my needs against the needs of others. Taking care of yourself in a respectful way and deciding to do what is best for you, even if that means to stop serving people in a way that was truly helpful, is such a powerful example for me and for many others that do not think they deserve to live their lives for themselves (because they probably never learned how to do that - but if we are still alive we can always start...).
I find changing something in our life is often freeing, refreshing. Changing every now and then is more healthy to keep up with what we truly value and what grows us into a better person. Sadly people around me often ask me, "well weren't you so into it at the beginning" I think I took and integrated what had to be learnt from the process and am now moving on.. :) Cheers people who go after their dreams and don't choose to settle just for the sake of society
Thank you for talking about these important topics that society avoids to discuss in an honest way. I agree. Self awareness is key to understanding your joy in life, but it takes COURAGE to leave and pursue what gives you joy. Thank you for your time, honesty and courage.
And possibly also because you take your job nuch more seriously than most other therapists. The ability to disconnect relax and rest is wonderful antidote. I do retreats, to switch off and tune into nature solace 🌿🍃
I'm glad you are modeling what it looks like to have a healthy confidence in ones perception or perceptual abilities. It's very courageous to say what you truly think, your true opinion, especially when it involves yourself and your growth as a person. I wish more people would speak their minds in the mental health field, both professionals like therapists and clients or patients
I agree to an extent, but most people don’t have the luxury of doing work they care about. People have to survive and shouldn’t judge themselves for doing what they have to. I do agree about the connection to self being vital.
More to say here...interesting hearing about your resets and this is an unforgettable thought- being a “barnacle on rock stuck there for eternity” 🙀 I literally told a friend yesterday that I call Saturdays “Self-care Saturdays”...this video is layered and deep talking love it really relate to a lot and it’s helpful...part of comment got deleted but will add more after otherwise will never post
As a hypnotherapist, I can relate totally. People come to me to stop smoking (or to start or stop something) and within a few sessions it’s almost always revealed that there is deep trauma that has caused the habit. It’s intense to take on and take in. Sometimes I wondered if I should get further training bu I don’t want to.
Definitely safeguard yourself tho. I was under trained and took on therapy clients and was super ineffective at it. It caused me burnout and exacerbated my nervous system nearly ro the point of paralysis. Don't ever give more than you have and try to detach from others stories. Unless you're a trained, ordained monastic it's nearly impossible to be both compassionate and detached. That's the reality of it. Most of the therapists I'd observe who were successful didn't have a ton of empathy anymore. The really really good ones did still, but they were all older and usually had PhDs. People don't talk enough about the shifty training required to work in mental health. It's a joke honestly. Not saying hypnosis is, but a lot of therapists are and the mental health field definitely IS.
I couldn't agree more about keeping it interesting, growing and learning. But I must say, in my situation, I suffered a brutal burnout at 15, the age when my hair started going sheer white from the stress. So my perspective on life is quite a bit different than most.
Sometimes it seems as though being "burned out" is a badge of validation of "doing a job well" for others to see when in fact it probably signifies a downward spiral of success......live smarter not live harder?
Therapist. Many immediately think it's rooted in two words, the rapist; however,, AP comes from Up as in aptitude or approval, the appealing or appeal to the mind.
Daniel, a question: do you think becoming more of an individual, being more at home with yourself, means sacrifice of money and friends? Is the reverse having your cake and eating it?
You were on the edge of Burn Out Daniel....why...because you took your job on your holidays...and told us that you were not having relaxing or none holidays...
When you are really connected to yourself and your desires, being somewhere you can't stand anymore becomes like torture.
100%
Torture! Exactly! Not being authentic or real...being with others that seem like inferior or sick but hey their not my crowd. Good commentary.
Totally agree..you feel as if you are damaging yourself and must get out or let go of it...
I am an electrical engineer in construction. It can be an extremely stressful job in a very male ego driven industry. I have gotten around burnout by working for no more than 1 to 2 years maximum at a time, then taking a full year off to travel or do my own personal stuff. This has been a very satisfying way of working because it always gives me something to look forward to, plus recharges my interest in my job.
I can take these time out periods because in the early part of my working life i focused with a passion on paying off my mortgage by the time i was 40 and having many, many years of engineering experience behind me so that i am always employable because of my knowledge base. Even after taking extended time out. Also, I only take contract positions, which are normally higher paid without all the employee relationship bull crap. Finally, i always leave jobs without burning any bridges to get a good reference. I leave before i burn out and ruin any work relationships. This helps me to get future work.
Wish I could do this but I have a hard time saving money ugh. Would love to take a year off. This is such a great idea though. My boyfriend just lost his job but they are paying him and he gets a severance pay and he told me he was going to take a lot of time off to. He worked at the company for 4 years.
A lot of therapists are doing it for the money and status. Many lack adequate stability, compassion or other needed qualities. At least half of people studying psychology are trying to solve their emotional problems, which doesn't work. Psychology departments fail to redirect them to therapy. Many of those students get degrees and work in the field while still broken.
Psychology faculty should have responded to this phenomena a long time ago. All schools that teach a trade or profession should enable interested parties to see what working in the profession is really like. They should have people that washed out of grad school/work tell their stories, etc. There should be a non judgemental process that allows people to find their place.
Sadly, there are people who do not see others as people but rather the source of their luxuries. It happens in every profession
I agree.
That’s what I’ve noticed also. Plus a lot of therapists are talk therapists which never worked for me it was just a waste of time
Life teaches you the lessons you need to learn.
Experienced burn-out in the corporate world (surprise, surprise). At 39, I started my life again in every possible way conceivable.
Pain is a wonderful engine for growth.
My mom calls them, Growing pains.
What have you started doing after corporate life at this age?
Reminding me to always 'Honour Myself' and to live my life 'authentically'.
Extremely validating.
Thank You !
“they can’t put me in a little box” / the “barnacle stuck on a rock” imagery. Very astute.
And despite the insecurities and doubt, continuing to love yourself helps you continue on and avoid the burnout you see around you.
An encouragement … thank you
Yup I thank God everyday for giving me a benign brain tumor where I thoughtbI was going to die. It is gone now but now I refuse to be disrespected and I refuse to be unhappy. We can die any time. Never take life or ourselves for granted. You can make more money but you can’t make more time!
Amen! Glad you’re now ok- and yes, time is of the essence :) I remind myself everyday- the pandemic has highlighted this point much more.
I'm glad you are OK. I had an acute lung problem in April which I got over. I completely understand what you mean. Life is too short.
Can i ask how do you heal?
@@saumitrsharma2816 medication called cabergoline
@@ginagg200I have that exact issue currently and I’m on cabergoline also. Do you find the medication difficult, I’m just in my first month? I was so miserable prior it’s hard to know. I’m so glad this experience has been positive for you. ❤❤❤
I totally agree with you, committing to love our true selves is the most valuable and important job we will ever do! Money comes and go, status is an illusion, love is the only wealth we need!
Thank you, Daniel -- very timely and thus comforting video for me. I just a left full-time commitment as a freelance journalist last week, thus stepping out of a very familiar identity. Now I am a Communications Director at a non-profit. I mourned letting go of my old identity -- I have spent nearly 16 years in full-time journalism. But I am excited to see what this new phase will be like -- it will be fun to learn new skills and connect with people in ways that don't always have to do with trauma and drama.
Thank you for your honesty and courage in sharing your story. I'm the same age as you, unmarried, no children, with a very similar set of experiences from my childhood and adult life. Listening to you is very reassuring. I avoided burnout as a teacher by going part-time and doing other things outside of work. I retrained as a psychological therapist but have not managed to turn it into a new career. I'm not sure what I really want to do to be honest. Thank you again for your wisdom and inspiration, I look forward to your videos! Joe. UK
Me too
I love you, Daniel!
this is wise
Having good boundaries helps with burn outs.
This video is very helpful thank you!
When you talked about how you've changed career path every time it has become comfortable or stable, it reminded me a nice thing from the "Dune" book series. Somewhere around the fourth book (where i've stopped), Herbert (the author) makes an interesting point quite clear:
The comfort zone is the death of humanity.
So yeah, your guts and courage are not only impressive, but an essential property of being a (strong) human.
Also, i think this ties in perfectly with your point / hypothesis that dementia occurs from being too much comfortably numb.
im thinking about getting my masters and becoming a librarian🤓 but i dont know if i can handle having a career type job with all my childhood ptsd.
I'm in the same situation.
That you feel such desire now shows tremendous hard won healing on your part. All the best to you.
I think being a librarian gives you a lot of time for introspection. You’d definitely have room to continue your healing if you ultimately decide that path is where you’d like to travel next! If it feels nourishing to your soul, I say go for it!
you deserve to do to something you enjoy, you deserve a good job and fulfilment. Just because you have a "career" doesn't mean you should let other people / the company exploit you and burn you out. There are many companies that are great and also you can stand up for yourself too, in a professional manner. If that doesn't work you can leave and go somewhere else that values you but don't give up on your dreams just because of what other people did to do in the past. Do what you love and you will deal with it as it comes, just remain connected to yourself and you will thrive and if you have to quit then do it too but don't give up on something that you haven't even started. If you want it deep down go for it! Moreover, librarian seems a much less political workplace to be than other places so that might be a good fit :))
Thank you Daniel, Your words speaks to my soul.
Me too! (particularly with the words here in this video)
It's truly therapy to me just listening to you airing your thoughts, Daniel.. (validating a lot of feelings I have but keep to myself/ on the inside). Thank you 🌿🙏🌈💫
Very raw and real. Thanks for this
Great topic! 💙
What I am going to say is scary, because I wish there were more therapists out there like you, but Thank you for quitting being a therapist Daniel. I have grown up believing that we need to sacrifice ourselves in order to help others and I still struggle to prioritise my needs against the needs of others. Taking care of yourself in a respectful way and deciding to do what is best for you, even if that means to stop serving people in a way that was truly helpful, is such a powerful example for me and for many others that do not think they deserve to live their lives for themselves (because they probably never learned how to do that - but if we are still alive we can always start...).
You are a very honest and deep person. Not many people are at this level.
Thank you for your clear and understandable speech. True words without manirism. Greetings from Germany
I find changing something in our life is often freeing, refreshing. Changing every now and then is more healthy to keep up with what we truly value and what grows us into a better person. Sadly people around me often ask me, "well weren't you so into it at the beginning"
I think I took and integrated what had to be learnt from the process and am now moving on.. :)
Cheers people who go after their dreams and don't choose to settle just for the sake of society
Agreed!!
Hi Daniel. Best blessings. Thanks for everything Scott
You are always an inspiration, thank you for sharing 🤗
Thank you for talking about these important topics that society avoids to discuss in an honest way. I agree. Self awareness is key to understanding your joy in life, but it takes COURAGE to leave and pursue what gives you joy. Thank you for your time, honesty and courage.
This is so insightful! Thank you Daniel.
And possibly also because you take your job nuch more seriously than most other therapists. The ability to disconnect relax and rest is wonderful antidote. I do retreats, to switch off and tune into nature solace 🌿🍃
Very enlightening Daniel. Thank you.
NICE observations, connections, and actions -- then and now!!
I'm glad you are modeling what it looks like to have a healthy confidence in ones perception or perceptual abilities. It's very courageous to say what you truly think, your true opinion, especially when it involves yourself and your growth as a person. I wish more people would speak their minds in the mental health field, both professionals like therapists and clients or patients
Thank YOU for existing Daniel 🙏🏼
Hi Daniel I hope you’re well, we hope you received justice 💙
Know thyself ❤💋❤
Love,light and conciousness.
Vibration,frequency and energy.
Love you Daniel!!!!!
So insightful Daniel thank you!💯💯💯
You’re awesome Daniel
I agree to an extent, but most people don’t have the luxury of doing work they care about. People have to survive and shouldn’t judge themselves for doing what they have to. I do agree about the connection to self being vital.
You nailed it. Doing the work one really cares about is a luxury. Even having time to figure out what one cares about is luxurious.
More to say here...interesting hearing about your resets and this is an unforgettable thought- being a “barnacle on rock stuck there for eternity” 🙀 I literally told a friend yesterday that I call Saturdays “Self-care Saturdays”...this video is layered and deep talking love it really relate to a lot and it’s helpful...part of comment got deleted but will add more after otherwise will never post
Oh goodness, this was an excellent video 💛🙏
Your video remind me of the book ‘the road less traveled’ by Scott Peck. Hard work but worth it.
As a hypnotherapist, I can relate totally. People come to me to stop smoking (or to start or stop something) and within a few sessions it’s almost always revealed that there is deep trauma that has caused the habit. It’s intense to take on and take in. Sometimes I wondered if I should get further training bu I don’t want to.
Definitely safeguard yourself tho. I was under trained and took on therapy clients and was super ineffective at it. It caused me burnout and exacerbated my nervous system nearly ro the point of paralysis. Don't ever give more than you have and try to detach from others stories. Unless you're a trained, ordained monastic it's nearly impossible to be both compassionate and detached. That's the reality of it. Most of the therapists I'd observe who were successful didn't have a ton of empathy anymore. The really really good ones did still, but they were all older and usually had PhDs. People don't talk enough about the shifty training required to work in mental health. It's a joke honestly. Not saying hypnosis is, but a lot of therapists are and the mental health field definitely IS.
Groundhog Day...with no humor and no way out.
Excellent!!! Again. Thank you
i really understand you man
that's true, love enough to make a change
I couldn't agree more about keeping it interesting, growing and learning. But I must say, in my situation, I suffered a brutal burnout at 15, the age when my hair started going sheer white from the stress. So my perspective on life is quite a bit different than most.
thank you!!
I can relate on so many levels.:)
Me too! I am so thankful for people as brave as Daniel!
Same here
I relate to you So much!!!!
Anywho. What’s wrong with burning out? People will simply run you down instead of making one single change within.
Sometimes it seems as though being "burned out" is a badge of validation of "doing a job well" for others to see when in fact it probably signifies a downward spiral of success......live smarter not live harder?
Did you use the audience for the insight into your own recovery?.
I relate to you!
I have a similar history, i sometimes question if i quit after 10 years isnt it self sabotage or fear of success?
I burnout my burnout
Yes yes yes!
Therapist. Many immediately think it's rooted in two words, the rapist; however,, AP comes from Up as in aptitude or approval, the appealing or appeal to the mind.
Que bonito muchacho.
Authenticity makes you look young.. Also it can age you from stress, go figure :)
Id love to learn how to listen to my subconscious better. If only I had that talking Doug collar from UP that could just let it talk straight to me.
Inner identity. Yes, that's what I am thinking about, more and more, because society is going the other way, for some 15-20 years.
Daniel, a question: do you think becoming more of an individual, being more at home with yourself, means sacrifice of money and friends? Is the reverse having your cake and eating it?
♥
13:00 :D
unrelated but what is your stance on animal rights?
This guy can make really good sheep noises.
Lmaooooooo thats nice of her. I call retirement as “throwing the towel” lol there is just so much we can do. Love the poor. -Mother Teresa
You were on the edge of Burn Out Daniel....why...because you took your job on your holidays...and told us that you were not having relaxing or none holidays...
barnacles on a rock lol
Are you an Aquarius ?
So how do maintain a lifestyle without a paying vocation? What is your main source of income?
Daniel, you are my crush 😍
I’d love so much to hear your thoughts on Deleuze and Guattari’s Anti-Oedipus: Captalism and Schizophrenia if you have a chance to read it!!!!