She is in denial. Nobody needs to "step up" before they WANT to date someone. She's been barking up the wrong tree and now looking for someone to blame.
They used the wrong word. They’re not intimidated, they’re irritated by her. Also (and I say this with love), i can’t tell the comfortable lie and gotta tell the uncomfortable truth, but the men she likes probably aren’t attracted to her (to include her attitude). That’s a hard pill to swallow, but you can’t fix what you won’t acknowledge.
@@downbad2874 you don’t know me well enough to know what I feel so stop the trolling. What I’m telling you is what most men are thinking. And consider this about intimidation . Men fight wars, run into burning buildings, jump out of airplanes, play games where we run full speed at each other and try to take somebody’s heads off, wrestle alligators and more. It’s highly unlikely that a man is intimidated by a woman. Sometimes we say things to not hurt a woman’s feeling. Even the panel was trying to tell her it’s her.
I’ve seen plenty of women like her that make up lies when talking about their dating troubles. I actually had a homegirl similar to her. The men with jobs and stability that wanted her always had something wrong with them. But the good looking bums was the ones she entertained but complained about.
I guess that makes you feel better. Come on now, we're talking about a man being intimidated because he didn't have a job. Now you are just adding on things, projecting.
@SkyBlue-vn9im why do we discuss men without jobs? Nevermind, i forgot, they are what BW find more attractive than men with actual jobs. So i guess men with jobs intimidate bw. Sounds about right.
Some women need to stop repeating “social media talk” and be themselves. Some women want to be accepted for “looking the part” and not be examined to see if they possess the qualities they claim. Those men she speaks of were not intimidated. Why is a woman who claims to be independent and has her stuff together talking to a man with no job. It doesn’t mean he’s not a good man, however, she’s just trying to portray him as not being good because she doesn’t hold herself to own standards.
Both sides are doing this lately and to be perfectly honest this is only a black thing...I have yet to see other races discussing this type of nonsense
@@niquamagby502 Both sides have a problem, for sure. However, every time it gets too real in a conversation, too many women jump to how its a problem on "both sides" instead of owning their personal shit.
@@niquamagby502 Perhaps, but I've personally never seen or heard men say that women aren't women because they don't do this or have that. Yes, a lot of men on social media have said that many women today are more masculine in their behavior, but again, never have I heard a man say that a woman isn't a woman if she doesn't have a job or isn't feminine enough.
It's literally only within the black community or party 304 community among other races. I have yet to see an attractive white or Hispanic woman talk like black women do...ever
@@niquamagby502as a white guy, white people engage in this bullshit just as much. Men telling women what to be like, women telling men what to be like, etc.
Its the aura she gives off. Had she been nicer, these men might've bern what she was looking for. My departed wife, in the beginning, made considerably more than i did. But i wasn't intimidated, in fact, she shared with me and my young family. 15 years later, as a Journeyman Electrician, I retired her. Money doesn't intimidate/irritate men, attitude does.
That’s what you say for you. I have literally men say you make 3 times the money I make and can never be in a relationship with any woman if she makes more than me. For some men her making more matters. Trust there males that state this and it’s okay. At least you know where they stand and you move on. No harm no foul. It’s funny how men don’t look at the attitudes they have when they make money. Some of you aren’t really nice guys. Some are mean spirited and straight up azzholes. I know you can point a few out. As women we don’t like those attitudes either. It’s okay he has it we just see him for who is. A good tine if we want to bothered.
@@tam6011 your response sounds quite close to the woman in the video, even more negative honestly. Don't hate all men because of a few "mean spirited azzholes". I wish you healing and all the best in life.
Exactly listening to this advice is trash. Women always have to sacrifice for something or someone it's total bullshit. Her first mistake was getting on this panel and asking this question. No one should need the validation from anyone but themselves period.
I like this… 1. An adult human male is a man, regardless of what your respect level of him may be; 2. If several men who don’t know one another have made the same assessment of you, maybe it’s time to do some self reflection and evaluation; 3. As the saying goes, you are what you attract. So if you keep attracting shiftless/jobless men, what spirit are you emitting into the atmosphere that consistently brings those men to you?
The "you are what you attract" is a manipulative lie, meant to take away accountability from predators and psychologically subjugate good people with morals.
I see what you saying but it’s also like avoiding accountability because, I’ve seen people call an adult, human female, a “girl” even though she’s a grown “woman” based on her behavior and how she was acting, so I feel like this woman and generally when people say, Steppa be a man or whatever they’re saying stop acting like a little boy
@@JanayNikki behavior is subjective. A person’s behavior can be juvenile in nature(according to another individual), but it does not negate the fact a man is a man or a woman is a woman. In this clip she’s saying they are not men, not that there are acting like boys.
@@JanayNikkithere are “adult males” that act like boys, and that can be said of anybody who exhibits improper behavior, male or female. the problem is, she tried to say that men arent men because they didnt have a job, or made a certain amount of money. manhood is not defined by external things or material possessions, its about the strength of your character, morals, and actions. women use material factors to define what men can provide in terms of mating/dating, but that is NOT the proper way of judging manhood.
"Masculine" and "feminine" are not real things. These are socially constructed ideas that humans made up in a misguided attempt at understanding the biological differences between men and women. A "masculine tone"???? Really?
Independent from what ?? independent from needing a man, Imagine if men went around talking about they are independent after we start making money. Men get money and want to get a wife and family , women get money and want to be independent and say how they don't need a man. We are not the same
In General your statement is correct..however statistically & realistically Bw will take a man with no money, no job no career and give him all of her money. Especially if his sex is good to her! On the other hand, I'm realizing that alot of women allow this dynamic to happen as a way to gain the control & validation, they lack within self. Many men get money, and see that as a golden ticket to live the Polyamorous lifestyle they really desire. And poor men cheat all the time, while creating multiple broken homes. It's a mess out here🤷🏽♀️
Fair comment, but Some Men do the same...they don't won't a woman unless it's for sex..I'm sure we all know both of these type of people...childish on both parts especially when complaining about not finding someone good enough to be with
@@niquamagby502 Majority of men who make good income are not trying to be single and are not claiming they are independent . This is something that women do who are making money
Its definitely the energy she's giving off. I have never had a man say that he's intimidated by men. I've had men say that they know they have to step their game up to date me. Men will step up to date you if they feel like you're worth it. Change that energy sis...
Some men are intimidated by women but it can be for a multiplicity of reasons. For example, I know that brothers usually claim tall women intimidate them. Or muscular women. But if it's attitude, that can be adjusted.
If she thinks men have been "intimidated" to date her before, they're certainly gonna be after they seeing this and hearing her say that a man isn't a man unless he meets whatever criteria she has for him. Wow.
Well I can tell you right now she has misdiagnosed her problem the real issue here isn't men in general the real issue here is her CHOICE of men. Sis was on point when she told her that she might need to look in the mirror
Her question definitely took a turn. I expected her to inquire about a man’s perspective about what the other men could have possibly been seeing experiencing with her that made them feel that way about her. Her mind was way in a different space than I expected.
All adult males are not MEN. There’s a very distinct difference between a male and a man that has nothing to do with his material accomplishments but much more to do with his emotional intelligence, ability to communicate and willingness to accept responsibility and accountability for his words and actions.
Nobody told her they were intimidated. They told her she was masculine. Aggressive. Insufferable. She told herself they were intimidated. & She believed herself. Then told the panel they said they were intimidated
Well she’s attracting broken men that are broke. For them to be jobless and telling her she’s intimidating is an interesting observations. It’s a sad reality for both men and women. If a person is attracting a certain type of individual to be in their lives. They are most definitely the problem.
we dont know enough about those men to say they are “broken.” we heard half of an overgeneralized story from a disgruntled woman in the audience of a talkshow, and jump to some conclusion about some men who werent presented, we dont know, and didnt get to explain their side of the story. shes likely looking for love in the wrong places, and needs to stop approaching dudes who are not already what she wants them to be
When women experience trauma it makes them hyper-independent and defensive. I think the panel needs to take several seats because they missed the mark to pour into this woman. If you pay attn they the men demonstrated they exact problem she sought advice from them. They were intimidated by her strong personality and became triggered. This is why elders are so important.
If she's hyper-independent and defensive, that's still _her_ problem, not anyone else's. Regardless what made her that way, it's still _her_ problem to deal with, not anyone else's. No man is obligated to sign up to fix her trauma.
@SkyBlue-vn9im oh stop it 😂 she didn't say he never had a job, but at the moment he didn't but why who knows. Everyone understands we all need to work.. but don't overlook the point with an ignorant statement. A man is a man rather his accomplishments are your's or not.
They are intimidated by you sis because they are not on your level. So its best to screen carefully to see if they have the same priorities as you before you give our your number. Dont waste your time if they dont check off what your requirements. Stay respectful about it though. Blessings 🙏
@@BREASHONTELL The men sounded a little ego bruised on this one. I still enjoy watching and hearing everyone's commentary. Thanks for letting me know you agree.
Do you feel that she was being 100% honest about her interactions? Do you think she approached these men in a balanced fashion? Why is she cavorting with "broke, unemployed men" if she's an "independent, intimidating" woman who sees herself on a higher level?
@@reimourrpower9357 Yes, I do think she was honest and I dont think those guys expected that. I don't think she screened well before going on a date or talking to them more in-depth before exchanging numbers. I don't think she did a good job getting background info initially. I promote that women ask men directly about their top 3-5 priorities first and ask men what are they looking for. These questions should be answered before exchanging numbers. I think she comes off as intimidating cause these guys levels are are mismatch to her and in vice versa and thats ok. This is why people date, to see if they can find a match.
Yo.. Trip is the man. I subscribed primarily for him but I am starting from the beginning and working forward to see how this evolved into what I am feeling.
When I had a few guys over the years tell me that I’m hot and cold and can’t tell whether or not I liked them, I started to pay attention. Strangers saying the same thing, must be true. So im aware of how I come off to significant other and make sure he knows how I feel about him.
There is a difference between being intimidating and being intimidated. If the man in question feels intimidated by her, he might want to look at himself and ask why that is.
@@reimourrpower9357 they would need a connection first to begin with....that's one of the problems. But most don't want a connection, just that one thing, sex.
1st of all she is picking people that aren't in place where they should be dating. If I'm unemployed I need to fix that situation before I look for companionship. It's not that these men aren't men It's she has at least the problem of talking to men that don't have their priorities in order if they are approaching her.
It’s seems like the “it’s her” is being taken too negatively. I would join in and say it’s her as well. She seems like Avery confident person who goes after what she wants. She seems to be choosing men who are not confident and more passive in their outlook. What she seems to need is a male who is confident. Who can work with her and at the same time make her feels feminine. One that can appeal to her softer side and bring it out. She seems like a nice person.
She does seem 'nice' inside but overall it appears she's frustrated by her romantic situation. If she's stepping to men that is the first problem; men like to chase, yes we are the hunters traditionally. If she's leading with 'hey I'm an independent woman seeking an alpha male', blah-blah-blah then that's strike two. She cannot enter social circles with the same energy men do, it does not attract most of men. Third if she shows no element of even being able to submit to a 'real man' or 'alpha male' that she claims she desires, then why would that strong brother waste time stepping to her? The last thing any man wants is a woman competing for dominance in his personal space and realm. It's rough enough out here in this world for Black man, none of us want to fight with a woman in our home.
She is jumping to conclusions too quickly about men in general because of what she dealt with in the past. She started sounding off her qualities real fast but dial that strong energy back a bit because she is sending a message to men that she is intimidating. If she is meeting men like that with no jobs, no children, etc then it's something she needs to change about herself.
the problem is, shes doesnt want to be accountable for her own choices/actions. men are not intimidated by women… she needs to accept that the energy she has is _unattractive_ to men. she wants to be able to be whoever she wants, but still get the man that she wants… but the men she seemingly desires, dont want women like her. itd be the equivalent of a 5’4” 300lb dude with no job and no car talkin about “i need me a submissive, bad chick who can sing and cook, these women have to step up cause they intimidated by a man of my size” bro would sound RIDICULOUS. people have to accept when they dont meet the qualifications for who they desire, and be willing to change.
The only thing she needs to know is, if they don't have a job, she's not interested. A men without a job will have low self-esteem, and it would be very difficult to have a healthy relationship with someone who doesn't have the bare essentials they need to be an adult.
Every person has problems in their life. Second just because they do not have jobs does not mean they are not men. Who is she to tell a man he is not based on his status in life.. Why do most women think they know the true definition of a man!! Do they know the true definition of being a woman.. Seems like everyone seems to know the true definition and meaning of a man. Sounds like she loves to emasculate men when given the chance... Iminate
That's 3 men out of billions. Not all men are the same, what those men call intimidating the next may find her tenacity sexy. She needs to change her environment if she's around that many men in economic scarcity. Hang out in more affluent areas, volunteer, join a club, do whatever you need to do to make friends and connection with people with something. Your circle is everything in the game of dating.
This is solid rational advice. Unfortunately I sense a level of disingenousness in her tone and story. She may be leaving out crucial details of where, how, why and when she ran into these specific men and what was the energy she led with interacting with them. She's not a negative person I believe but opening up blaming the last three men she met and disparging men in general as not being 'real men' clue me into believing that she herself is at LEAST 50% of the problem in finding someone who matches her. And her personality and attitude when meeting men might be the source of her failure finding a mate, not all men in general as she presented.
Magnets attract everything, so the more highly magnetic you are the more of everything you attract. The issue is using your discernment, and also recognizing what areas you may need to make personal adjustments.
I love it, a man is a man regardless of what you feel he has accomplished or not. Trip drop gems 💎 every time he opens his mouth. Love the insight he brings. Women love to scream real man at a real man as if they are talking to a trans-man or something. A person is born a man, no action or lack of action makes them a man.
I can't believe the female actually fixed her mouth to say 🗣️ _What are _*_you_*_ doing to intimidate them_ ? *_Annnnnnd_* she did that to satisfy the males beside her; her facial expression/body language suggests she was going along to get along. Ahh 😔😔😔
She fixed her mouth to say that because there was an obvious issue....if you don't see the issue in that woman's opening statement then I wish you the absolute best 😂😂😂❤
Gurl, they're intimidated because they don't have a job....I don't understand why it has to be this deep. And they also know that you don't respect them because they don't have a job, and they feel they don't measure up because they don't have a job....why would you want a man who doesn't have a job? Why are they looking to date if they don't have a job? Is he looking for a job? Did he get laid off from his job? Is he in between jobs? Gurl 😂🤣
Okay, I see both sides. She wants men to step up and lead ,but,the men she encountered are not doing that,and,so she has no choice but be independent.have her own,do what she needs to do,by herself, because she can't rely on the men she dealt with
The idea that because she's attained a level of success that satisfies her does not automatically mean that the ideal, successful Idris Elba/Michael B. Jordan/Morris Chestnutt fantasy man she desires will miraculously appear. Men in general are not attracted to a woman because of her achievments, men are attracted to femininity. Men want a woman who is confident in herself and can support them and a family, women want a man who has succeeded in certain field or occupation and can support and protect the family. She needs to be honest with herself first and then the public.
I have guys who tell me I'm intimidating but they still be trying to holla. Mainly because they sense my loving,caring, positive,etc vibes . Like the one said she needs to check herself and how she comes off to a man.
It’s a strange world. Marriage and family oriented men tend to find a wife in their early 20s or in their mid-30s. A lot of women are busy working on themselves (church, school, career) in their 20-30s…there is a misalignment. I married my wife when she was 21, and I was 24 years of age. If I had not met her, I likely would have waited to get married after the age of 30. Trust and believe I would have pursued a woman between the ages of 21-25 years of age.
As per usual modern women want to believe people being irritated by them is intimidation. Trust and believe they’ll step up and go their own way and be men with no dead weight and peaceful lives.
“its gets dangerous when we chip away from men cause they haven’t accomplished what we think they should have” yo realest shit i ever heard you’ve earned a subscriber 💯
I don’t think she’s wrong I think she’s just going after the wrong type of men. If you surround yourself with the same kind of men who are bums expect the same results they would be intimidated. Dont lower your standards just because their saying that just be careful on what kind of men your talking to. The men for u wouldn’t view u that way but just right.
No this woman is it not conventionally attractive and is very disagreeable, You can be one or the other, but you can’t be both and attract a high quality man.
I feel like their response to her could possibly be because in their eyes she's not attractive had she been attractive I feel like their answers would have been totally different different
She is at deflector not what did she ever think about pondering whether she is the problem she went right back to dogging men.. she just wanna be alone cause they ain’t no man gonna deal with her
No man should or would put up with an argumentative, combative, quarrelsome woman. The fact that she is blaming men for her dating blunders clearly shows who really is the common denominator in the mirror.
There's a saying: "there is a lid for every pot".... & her problem is she's a lid choosing the wrong pots over and over. It may not be so much that something is wrong with *her* but that there's something off with her choices, which she needs to step back & evaluate more closely. Figure out what's the commonality between each of the men she's chosen, make some adjustments and choose more wisely in the future. Finally, if each of them are offering the exact same assessment of her, she may need to do some work on self as well before putting herself out there again.
Start with your "finally" assessment and you have the answer. Women need to start looking at themselves and their attitudes. Are you approachable, agreeable, someone that brings peace and feminine energy? A guy can easily find a guy to argue with and be at odds with all the time, that's NOT what we want in a woman.
nah, shes not a lid choosing the wrong pot over and over, shes a bottle cap trying to look for a pot shes never gonna be able to match, unless she changes what she is, or decides to settle for a bottle.
The problem isn't that she's choosing the wrong part. The problem is that there are no good pots out there. There's a big difference between a good man and a good person.
I think women be in denial about the whole intimidation thing. It’s an oxymoron to want a super masculine man but you’re not that feminine. It’s more than makeup, aesthetics. But a man that is very masculine and has his ish together doesn’t want an independent boss. Nothing wrong with being an entrepreneur as a woman but it has to be balance. If you don’t value aura/appearance/self care then how do you expect to come across a man that does? You gotta let go of masculine traits if wanting to attract a masculine man, period
When she said I’ve been running into men with no jobs. Well seems like that’s problem number 1. Why are you dealing with men with no jobs. Gotta be very intentional about who you date
True! Men generally aren’t intimidated by a woman. They were probably irritated by the woman. If you can see that energy through a video, I can only imagine what it’s like in person. Unfortunately, she probably has people in her circle that won’t tell her the truth. That or she isn’t listening.
Truthfully (speaking) No Man Is Ever Really Scared (Afraid) of Women, In what She May Be "Misinterpreting" As (fear) In Actuality Is A Man's Action And or Reaction To his own SELF PRESERVATION what Man Fears most of ALL is Not Ever Being (Prepared) Qualified In Any Area of Human Endeavor when and when Ever he's Called on for Assignment (Assistance)
when YoOU've THREATENED does The one who gets Threatened Ever Say Oh "YOU helped me" (when You act positive it's Acknowledged And when You Threatened it's Acknowledged) ?
The way this presenter approached this Lady ; emphasising the men didn’t want you, is because he don’t find nothing appealing about her. Hence why he approached her like that. Look carefully, beyond skin colour, this black woman has essentially the features that some black men chase, straight nose etc. To fit into this shallow society… what if she branded herself differently…understanding that she already has those features, those men will be chasing her. All she needs is Lipstick, daily beauty skin routine, soft make up, curly hair with some high lights, exercise, increase feminine energy etc and to talk less. She shouldn’t need to do this at all however, a lot of people in this part of the world are indoctrinated to think certain looks are more attractive when this isn’t really the case. It’s all an illusion. People not studying the heart, only external features and money matter because we are living in a capitalist materialistic societyetc so that’s why relationships in todays time are so temporary and easily replaceable, with a physical copy. This is the problem with homogeneous societies. This woman can choose not to conform and be herself. In remaining true to oneself, one will probably need to travel more, use every opportunity to broaden their chances of finding a man who loves from within first and also invest in self reflection and self love and healing.
She is in denial. Nobody needs to "step up" before they WANT to date someone. She's been barking up the wrong tree and now looking for someone to blame.
u know accountability is like kryptonote to them
Accountability is king 👑
They used the wrong word. They’re not intimidated, they’re irritated by her. Also (and I say this with love), i can’t tell the comfortable lie and gotta tell the uncomfortable truth, but the men she likes probably aren’t attracted to her (to include her attitude). That’s a hard pill to swallow, but you can’t fix what you won’t acknowledge.
Nailed it!!
They used the words right u want to change them based on your feelings stop
@@downbad2874 you don’t know me well enough to know what I feel so stop the trolling. What I’m telling you is what most men are thinking. And consider this about intimidation . Men fight wars, run into burning buildings, jump out of airplanes, play games where we run full speed at each other and try to take somebody’s heads off, wrestle alligators and more. It’s highly unlikely that a man is intimidated by a woman. Sometimes we say things to not hurt a woman’s feeling. Even the panel was trying to tell her it’s her.
I agree.
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I’ve seen plenty of women like her that make up lies when talking about their dating troubles. I actually had a homegirl similar to her. The men with jobs and stability that wanted her always had something wrong with them. But the good looking bums was the ones she entertained but complained about.
Sounds about right.
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I guess that makes you feel better. Come on now, we're talking about a man being intimidated because he didn't have a job. Now you are just adding on things, projecting.
@SkyBlue-vn9im why do we discuss men without jobs? Nevermind, i forgot, they are what BW find more attractive than men with actual jobs. So i guess men with jobs intimidate bw. Sounds about right.
@@SkyBlue-vn9imshe said “ I run into men that are not men, they don’t have a job”
Some women need to stop repeating “social media talk” and be themselves. Some women want to be accepted for “looking the part” and not be examined to see if they possess the qualities they claim. Those men she speaks of were not intimidated. Why is a woman who claims to be independent and has her stuff together talking to a man with no job. It doesn’t mean he’s not a good man, however, she’s just trying to portray him as not being good because she doesn’t hold herself to own standards.
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The whole women deciding who is man and who's not gettin is outta hand. Thank you brotha.
Both sides are doing this lately and to be perfectly honest this is only a black thing...I have yet to see other races discussing this type of nonsense
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Both sides have a problem, for sure. However, every time it gets too real in a conversation, too many women jump to how its a problem on "both sides" instead of owning their personal shit.
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Perhaps, but I've personally never seen or heard men say that women aren't women because they don't do this or have that. Yes, a lot of men on social media have said that many women today are more masculine in their behavior, but again, never have I heard a man say that a woman isn't a woman if she doesn't have a job or isn't feminine enough.
It's literally only within the black community or party 304 community among other races. I have yet to see an attractive white or Hispanic woman talk like black women do...ever
@@niquamagby502as a white guy, white people engage in this bullshit just as much. Men telling women what to be like, women telling men what to be like, etc.
Every word she spoke just dug her into a deeper hole. So much to unpack here 😂
Its the aura she gives off. Had she been nicer, these men might've bern what she was looking for. My departed wife, in the beginning, made considerably more than i did. But i wasn't intimidated, in fact, she shared with me and my young family. 15 years later, as a Journeyman Electrician, I retired her. Money doesn't intimidate/irritate men, attitude does.
That’s what you say for you. I have literally men say you make 3 times the money I make and can never be in a relationship with any woman if she makes more than me. For some men her making more matters. Trust there males that state this and it’s okay. At least you know where they stand and you move on. No harm no foul. It’s funny how men don’t look at the attitudes they have when they make money. Some of you aren’t really nice guys. Some are mean spirited and straight up azzholes. I know you can point a few out. As women we don’t like those attitudes either. It’s okay he has it we just see him for who is. A good tine if we want to bothered.
@@tam6011 your response sounds quite close to the woman in the video, even more negative honestly. Don't hate all men because of a few "mean spirited azzholes".
I wish you healing and all the best in life.
@@reimourrpower9357 no healing needed. The word some implies not all.
@@tam6011 The woman making more only matters because they expect you to hold that over their head and talk down to them because of it.
@@smoothsavage2870 have you experienced a woman making more than you and talking down to you? Not your friends but you
Why do we always get blamed for this shit.
Exactly listening to this advice is trash. Women always have to sacrifice for something or someone it's total bullshit. Her first mistake was getting on this panel and asking this question. No one should need the validation from anyone but themselves period.
I like this… 1. An adult human male is a man, regardless of what your respect level of him may be; 2. If several men who don’t know one another have made the same assessment of you, maybe it’s time to do some self reflection and evaluation; 3. As the saying goes, you are what you attract. So if you keep attracting shiftless/jobless men, what spirit are you emitting into the atmosphere that consistently brings those men to you?
Well, let’s keep it real. She’s not attractive at all. If you have options you’re not gonna even think about dating her.
The "you are what you attract" is a manipulative lie, meant to take away accountability from predators and psychologically subjugate good people with morals.
I see what you saying but it’s also like avoiding accountability because, I’ve seen people call an adult, human female, a “girl” even though she’s a grown “woman” based on her behavior and how she was acting, so I feel like this woman and generally when people say, Steppa be a man or whatever they’re saying stop acting like a little boy
@@JanayNikki behavior is subjective. A person’s behavior can be juvenile in nature(according to another individual), but it does not negate the fact a man is a man or a woman is a woman. In this clip she’s saying they are not men, not that there are acting like boys.
@@JanayNikkithere are “adult males” that act like boys, and that can be said of anybody who exhibits improper behavior, male or female.
the problem is, she tried to say that men arent men because they didnt have a job, or made a certain amount of money. manhood is not defined by external things or material possessions, its about the strength of your character, morals, and actions.
women use material factors to define what men can provide in terms of mating/dating, but that is NOT the proper way of judging manhood.
Accountability = Kryptonite. She was doing everything she could to shift blame.
She started off the conversation in a masculine tone but wonders why she’s called intimidating 🤦🏾
"Masculine" and "feminine" are not real things. These are socially constructed ideas that humans made up in a misguided attempt at understanding the biological differences between men and women. A "masculine tone"???? Really?
Kevin Samuel's talked about this. She went to shaming them because they don't want her.
Independent from what ?? independent from needing a man, Imagine if men went around talking about they are independent after we start making money. Men get money and want to get a wife and family , women get money and want to be independent and say how they don't need a man. We are not the same
In General your statement is correct..however statistically & realistically Bw will take a man with no money, no job no career and give him all of her money. Especially if his sex is good to her!
On the other hand, I'm realizing that alot of women allow this dynamic to happen as a way to gain the control & validation, they lack within self.
Many men get money, and see that as a golden ticket to live the Polyamorous lifestyle they really desire. And poor men cheat all the time, while creating multiple broken homes. It's a mess out here🤷🏽♀️
Fair comment, but Some Men do the same...they don't won't a woman unless it's for sex..I'm sure we all know both of these type of people...childish on both parts especially when complaining about not finding someone good enough to be with
@@niquamagby502 Majority of men who make good income are not trying to be single and are not claiming they are independent . This is something that women do who are making money
Independent is a Basic for Men but it's something to brag about for the Other Gender, that's just how different we are.
You mean being an adult. She's independent from her parents she's taking care of herself. Yes, that is what Independence is.
Man, he brought that to the table straight up- we need to stop judging so quickly 🤷♀️
Its definitely the energy she's giving off. I have never had a man say that he's intimidated by men. I've had men say that they know they have to step their game up to date me. Men will step up to date you if they feel like you're worth it. Change that energy sis...
Dame!. Why dont these clip be longer. When it was getting good too lol.
Gotta get a subscription like I did! So worth it!
Ikr!!!
Some men are intimidated by women but it can be for a multiplicity of reasons. For example, I know that brothers usually claim tall women intimidate them. Or muscular women. But if it's attitude, that can be adjusted.
If she thinks men have been "intimidated" to date her before, they're certainly gonna be after they seeing this and hearing her say that a man isn't a man unless he meets whatever criteria she has for him. Wow.
TRIPP FONTAINE speaks TRUTH again!!
What truth?
Well I can tell you right now she has misdiagnosed her problem the real issue here isn't men in general the real issue here is her CHOICE of men. Sis was on point when she told her that she might need to look in the mirror
He said exactly what she and others needed to hear.
Her question definitely took a turn. I expected her to inquire about a man’s perspective about what the other men could have possibly been seeing experiencing with her that made them feel that way about her. Her mind was way in a different space than I expected.
All adult males are not MEN. There’s a very distinct difference between a male and a man that has nothing to do with his material accomplishments but much more to do with his emotional intelligence, ability to communicate and willingness to accept responsibility and accountability for his words and actions.
Crazy podcasting has turned into life coaching lol
Nobody told her they were intimidated. They told her she was masculine. Aggressive. Insufferable. She told herself they were intimidated. & She believed herself. Then told the panel they said they were intimidated
Correct. No man (especially not three men) actually said to her, "You intimidate me."
@@rdkirk3834 Exactly bro. They delusional. Believing their own lies
Exactly. This is an issue about her being too masculine, and her size doesn't help. No one wants a big, masculine woman.
If you keep running into these types of men, maybe you need to change your course? You run the same route, you see the same sights!
Well she’s attracting broken men that are broke. For them to be jobless and telling her she’s intimidating is an interesting observations. It’s a sad reality for both men and women. If a person is attracting a certain type of individual to be in their lives. They are most definitely the problem.
She's not attracting anything...a predator is sniffing out prey. You are what you attract is a goofy lie.
we dont know enough about those men to say they are “broken.” we heard half of an overgeneralized story from a disgruntled woman in the audience of a talkshow, and jump to some conclusion about some men who werent presented, we dont know, and didnt get to explain their side of the story.
shes likely looking for love in the wrong places, and needs to stop approaching dudes who are not already what she wants them to be
When women experience trauma it makes them hyper-independent and defensive.
I think the panel needs to take several seats because they missed the mark to pour into this woman.
If you pay attn they the men demonstrated they exact problem she sought advice from them. They were intimidated by her strong personality and became triggered.
This is why elders are so important.
If she's hyper-independent and defensive, that's still _her_ problem, not anyone else's. Regardless what made her that way, it's still _her_ problem to deal with, not anyone else's. No man is obligated to sign up to fix her trauma.
SHE NEED TO MAKE A LIST, AND CHECK OFF THE GOOD AND THE BAD, REGARDING HERSELF 💯
"It get dangerous when we chip away from men just cause they haven't accomplished what we think they should accomplish!"😮😢😱
Yep, but a job is a very important accomplishment. Having a job is a basic function in our society for adults.
@SkyBlue-vn9im oh stop it 😂 she didn't say he never had a job, but at the moment he didn't but why who knows. Everyone understands we all need to work.. but don't overlook the point with an ignorant statement. A man is a man rather his accomplishments are your's or not.
Men don't use the word "Intimidating." Not my brothers, dad, uncles, male friends of any color.
They are intimidated by you sis because they are not on your level. So its best to screen carefully to see if they have the same priorities as you before you give our your number. Dont waste your time if they dont check off what your requirements. Stay respectful about it though. Blessings 🙏
I agree
@@BREASHONTELL The men sounded a little ego bruised on this one. I still enjoy watching and hearing everyone's commentary. Thanks for letting me know you agree.
Do you feel that she was being 100% honest about her interactions? Do you think she approached these men in a balanced fashion? Why is she cavorting with "broke, unemployed men" if she's an "independent, intimidating" woman who sees herself on a higher level?
@@reimourrpower9357 Yes, I do think she was honest and I dont think those guys expected that. I don't think she screened well before going on a date or talking to them more in-depth before exchanging numbers. I don't think she did a good job getting background info initially. I promote that women ask men directly about their top 3-5 priorities first and ask men what are they looking for. These questions should be answered before exchanging numbers. I think she comes off as intimidating cause these guys levels are are mismatch to her and in vice versa and thats ok. This is why people date, to see if they can find a match.
Yo.. Trip is the man. I subscribed primarily for him but I am starting from the beginning and working forward to see how this evolved into what I am feeling.
Translation: These men called me irritating but i want them to deal and settle with me
😂😂😂
When I had a few guys over the years tell me that I’m hot and cold and can’t tell whether or not I liked them, I started to pay attention. Strangers saying the same thing, must be true. So im aware of how I come off to significant other and make sure he knows how I feel about him.
World needed to hear this. 🎯
What's crazy is I never heard this address this way... This shit is dope
There is a difference between being intimidating and being intimidated. If the man in question feels intimidated by her, he might want to look at himself and ask why that is.
As in, is she really intimidating, or do I feel inadequate/lesser than.
Nice and kind women are the women that are taken from Walmarts. More than likely, they're intimidated because they can't get over on her.
Do you believe she was being 100% forthcoming in her statement?
Do you really think those men are self-examining over a woman they don't connect with?
@@reimourrpower9357 they would need a connection first to begin with....that's one of the problems. But most don't want a connection, just that one thing, sex.
I thought I was bad! But sis clearly address the issue!!! They aren’t on her level , is she that stupid to not put that together????😂
Perfect example of how so many women blame their shortcomings on all men. This clip should be archived.
So her having a job is a shortcoming.
“Men need to step up” no mam you need to step down
She literally get rejected by jobless men 🥴 n still don't understand she's the problem
1st of all she is picking people that aren't in place where they should be dating. If I'm unemployed I need to fix that situation before I look for companionship. It's not that these men aren't men It's she has at least the problem of talking to men that don't have their priorities in order if they are approaching her.
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It’s seems like the “it’s her” is being taken too negatively. I would join in and say it’s her as well.
She seems like Avery confident person who goes after what she wants. She seems to be choosing men who are not confident and more passive in their outlook.
What she seems to need is a male who is confident. Who can work with her and at the same time make her feels feminine. One that can appeal to her softer side and bring it out. She seems like a nice person.
She does seem 'nice' inside but overall it appears she's frustrated by her romantic situation. If she's stepping to men that is the first problem; men like to chase, yes we are the hunters traditionally.
If she's leading with 'hey I'm an independent woman seeking an alpha male', blah-blah-blah then that's strike two. She cannot enter social circles with the same energy men do, it does not attract most of men.
Third if she shows no element of even being able to submit to a 'real man' or 'alpha male' that she claims she desires, then why would that strong brother waste time stepping to her? The last thing any man wants is a woman competing for dominance in his personal space and realm.
It's rough enough out here in this world for Black man, none of us want to fight with a woman in our home.
She is jumping to conclusions too quickly about men in general because of what she dealt with in the past. She started sounding off her qualities real fast but dial that strong energy back a bit because she is sending a message to men that she is intimidating. If she is meeting men like that with no jobs, no children, etc then it's something she needs to change about herself.
Unfortunetly a woman like her will never change or even admit that she is the problem on why she keeps choosing men like that
the problem is, shes doesnt want to be accountable for her own choices/actions. men are not intimidated by women… she needs to accept that the energy she has is _unattractive_ to men.
she wants to be able to be whoever she wants, but still get the man that she wants… but the men she seemingly desires, dont want women like her.
itd be the equivalent of a 5’4” 300lb dude with no job and no car talkin about “i need me a submissive, bad chick who can sing and cook, these women have to step up cause they intimidated by a man of my size” bro would sound RIDICULOUS. people have to accept when they dont meet the qualifications for who they desire, and be willing to change.
The only thing she needs to know is, if they don't have a job, she's not interested. A men without a job will have low self-esteem, and it would be very difficult to have a healthy relationship with someone who doesn't have the bare essentials they need to be an adult.
Every person has problems in their life. Second just because they do not have jobs does not mean they are not men. Who is she to tell a man he is not based on his status in life.. Why do most women think they know the true definition of a man!! Do they know the true definition of being a woman.. Seems like everyone seems to know the true definition and meaning of a man. Sounds like she loves to emasculate men when given the chance... Iminate
The word I was texting is intimidate. Plenty of women is using the term intimidating and intimidation like it is new word
I need to know the male definition of masculine females, from a Man’s POV only. I'm lost at all these Black Males calling Black women masculine. 🤷🏽♀️
Let them be amen 💯 and keep it real 💯💯💯💯💯 and keep it moving forward 💯💯
That's 3 men out of billions. Not all men are the same, what those men call intimidating the next may find her tenacity sexy. She needs to change her environment if she's around that many men in economic scarcity. Hang out in more affluent areas, volunteer, join a club, do whatever you need to do to make friends and connection with people with something. Your circle is everything in the game of dating.
This is solid rational advice. Unfortunately I sense a level of disingenousness in her tone and story.
She may be leaving out crucial details of where, how, why and when she ran into these specific men and what was the energy she led with interacting with them. She's not a negative person I believe but opening up blaming the last three men she met and disparging men in general as not being 'real men' clue me into believing that she herself is at LEAST 50% of the problem in finding someone who matches her.
And her personality and attitude when meeting men might be the source of her failure finding a mate, not all men in general as she presented.
The energy you attract is usually the energy you are...
Exactly!!! They dont want to have that conversation though.
False. A healer will always attract people that need to be healed. And light attracts darkness.
Magnets attract everything, so the more highly magnetic you are the more of everything you attract.
The issue is using your discernment, and also recognizing what areas you may need to make personal adjustments.
@@pretti_dopeit is said that the healer attracts the brokenness that needs to be healed in them...
Yeah, that's not true. Light can still attract darkness.
Facts Tripp Facts 🏆🐐🎯🙏❤️
Tripp sets SHIT STRAIGHT 💯
You survive ten shootouts just for a woman to claim she intimidates you 🥴🤦🏾♂️😂😂😂😂😂😂🙏🏾❤️
I love it, a man is a man regardless of what you feel he has accomplished or not. Trip drop gems 💎 every time he opens his mouth. Love the insight he brings. Women love to scream real man at a real man as if they are talking to a trans-man or something. A person is born a man, no action or lack of action makes them a man.
I can't believe the female actually fixed her mouth to say 🗣️ _What are _*_you_*_ doing to intimidate them_ ? *_Annnnnnd_* she did that to satisfy the males beside her; her facial expression/body language suggests she was going along to get along. Ahh 😔😔😔
She fixed her mouth to say that because there was an obvious issue....if you don't see the issue in that woman's opening statement then I wish you the absolute best 😂😂😂❤
Can’t believe you fixed your fingers to type this message!
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Gurl, they're intimidated because they don't have a job....I don't understand why it has to be this deep. And they also know that you don't respect them because they don't have a job, and they feel they don't measure up because they don't have a job....why would you want a man who doesn't have a job? Why are they looking to date if they don't have a job? Is he looking for a job? Did he get laid off from his job? Is he in between jobs? Gurl 😂🤣
Okay, I see both sides.
She wants men to step up and lead ,but,the men she encountered are not doing that,and,so she has no choice but be independent.have her own,do what she needs to do,by herself, because she can't rely on the men she dealt with
You have to be quiet sometimes, agreeable, bringing non competitive vibes. If you are not this, they will find you annoying...period.
The idea that because she's attained a level of success that satisfies her does not automatically mean that the ideal, successful Idris Elba/Michael B. Jordan/Morris Chestnutt fantasy man she desires will miraculously appear.
Men in general are not attracted to a woman because of her achievments, men are attracted to femininity. Men want a woman who is confident in herself and can support them and a family, women want a man who has succeeded in certain field or occupation and can support and protect the family.
She needs to be honest with herself first and then the public.
Tripp is correct! Every person IS who they are man or woman first! There is no be!
I wish we could've heard #2
I have guys who tell me I'm intimidating but they still be trying to holla. Mainly because they sense my loving,caring, positive,etc vibes . Like the one said she needs to check herself and how she comes off to a man.
First guy just said EXACTLY what I was thinking 🤣
I doubt any man has ever told her that she intimidates them. Mugs be lying just to make themselves feel better I swear smh.
Mugs?
It’s a strange world. Marriage and family oriented men tend to find a wife in their early 20s or in their mid-30s. A lot of women are busy working on themselves (church, school, career) in their 20-30s…there is a misalignment.
I married my wife when she was 21, and I was 24 years of age. If I had not met her, I likely would have waited to get married after the age of 30. Trust and believe I would have pursued a woman between the ages of 21-25 years of age.
Cant wait to see him in person 😊
As per usual modern women want to believe people being irritated by them is intimidation. Trust and believe they’ll step up and go their own way and be men with no dead weight and peaceful lives.
Tripp that was absolutely beautiful sweetheart.
You ain’t never seen Tripp throw his hands up like that 🤣 bro was like you just proved why.
No way they used "intimidating"😂😂😂
“its gets dangerous when we chip away from men cause they haven’t accomplished what we think they should have”
yo realest shit i ever heard you’ve earned a subscriber 💯
Ladies ain't no dude who's a dude you actually like is ever intimidated by you.
Ace was already done with her before she finished 😂😂😂
What is dude’s name and where is he the pastor/therapist/whatever so I can enroll or become a member? He spits nothing but logical fire!!!
For men to step up. Someone else has to step down. Mic drop.
Listen to how she package it up as if she’s not the problem are part of the problem
The problem is that she's going for "ninjas" instead of men.
I don’t think she’s wrong I think she’s just going after the wrong type of men. If you surround yourself with the same kind of men who are bums expect the same results they would be intimidated. Dont lower your standards just because their saying that just be careful on what kind of men your talking to. The men for u wouldn’t view u that way but just right.
No this woman is it not conventionally attractive and is very disagreeable, You can be one or the other, but you can’t be both and attract a high quality man.
So, if she lives in the hood she she needs to start dating guys from different zip codes.
I feel like their response to her could possibly be because in their eyes she's not attractive had she been attractive I feel like their answers would have been totally different different
Tripp for president
She is at deflector not what did she ever think about pondering whether she is the problem she went right back to dogging men.. she just wanna be alone cause they ain’t no man gonna deal with her
Example,/ when YOU sat In A Class Room And "COPIED" off of Anothers Paper Is Your Act Credited (Does The one Who COPIED Get Credited) ?
Just from her speaking those 2-3 times they already figured out the issue 😂
Very well said God
No man should or would put up with an argumentative, combative, quarrelsome woman. The fact that she is blaming men for her dating blunders clearly shows who really is the common denominator in the mirror.
There's a saying: "there is a lid for every pot".... & her problem is she's a lid choosing the wrong pots over and over. It may not be so much that something is wrong with *her* but that there's something off with her choices, which she needs to step back & evaluate more closely. Figure out what's the commonality between each of the men she's chosen, make some adjustments and choose more wisely in the future.
Finally, if each of them are offering the exact same assessment of her, she may need to do some work on self as well before putting herself out there again.
Start with your "finally" assessment and you have the answer. Women need to start looking at themselves and their attitudes. Are you approachable, agreeable, someone that brings peace and feminine energy? A guy can easily find a guy to argue with and be at odds with all the time, that's NOT what we want in a woman.
nah, shes not a lid choosing the wrong pot over and over, shes a bottle cap trying to look for a pot shes never gonna be able to match, unless she changes what she is, or decides to settle for a bottle.
The problem isn't that she's choosing the wrong part. The problem is that there are no good pots out there. There's a big difference between a good man and a good person.
@@SkyBlue-vn9im which one did you miss out on? Sounds like you're hurt still.
They didn't tell her that, they were turned off by her masculine attitude and she concluded that they were intimadating.
What was masculine about her attitude.
"Every man is a man, regardless of what he does" is a male equivalent to "Every woman is 10/10". Different insecurity. Same behavior
I think women be in denial about the whole intimidation thing. It’s an oxymoron to want a super masculine man but you’re not that feminine. It’s more than makeup, aesthetics. But a man that is very masculine and has his ish together doesn’t want an independent boss. Nothing wrong with being an entrepreneur as a woman but it has to be balance. If you don’t value aura/appearance/self care then how do you expect to come across a man that does? You gotta let go of masculine traits if wanting to attract a masculine man, period
It's not intimidating all. Just annoyance and Men dont have time for bs
No accountability 😑
Where can I go to watch the full video?
All I see on this channel is like snippets and shorts
When she said I’ve been running into men with no jobs. Well seems like that’s problem number 1. Why are you dealing with men with no jobs. Gotta be very intentional about who you date
Went straight to blaming men
You would think upon first meeting someone youd show your best possible self. If she starting it being "masculine" just find someone who wants that.
She set herself up to failure with her personality
True! Men generally aren’t intimidated by a woman. They were probably irritated by the woman. If you can see that energy through a video, I can only imagine what it’s like in person. Unfortunately, she probably has people in her circle that won’t tell her the truth. That or she isn’t listening.
@dccarsonmusic , She needs a new circle and embrace her femininity.
@JulindaLeDee What would be the point of her changing who she is?
Truthfully (speaking) No Man Is Ever Really Scared (Afraid) of Women, In what She May Be "Misinterpreting" As (fear) In Actuality Is A Man's Action And or Reaction To his own SELF PRESERVATION what Man Fears most of ALL is Not Ever Being (Prepared) Qualified In Any Area of Human Endeavor when and when Ever he's Called on for Assignment (Assistance)
what's The Purpose of Claiming To have Helped Anybody Even Though Facts Show YOU Actually Hindered And Sabotaged For yOUR own Grandiosement ?
when YoOU've THREATENED does The one who gets Threatened Ever Say Oh "YOU helped me" (when You act positive it's Acknowledged And when You Threatened it's Acknowledged) ?
what happens when Children Enter Life's (School) without Proper Tools + (Thorough Knowledge) Required To Achieve ?
Nahh they are intimidated by her period!
Those are her demographics, she’s talking down to the only group that will look her way.
Where can i watch the whole thing???
Multiple issues here but men should never tell a woman she intimidates them
The way this presenter approached this Lady ; emphasising the men didn’t want you, is because he don’t find nothing appealing about her. Hence why he approached her like that. Look carefully, beyond skin colour, this black woman has essentially the features that some black men chase, straight nose etc. To fit into this shallow society… what if she branded herself differently…understanding that she already has those features, those men will be chasing her. All she needs is Lipstick, daily beauty skin routine, soft make up, curly hair with some high lights, exercise, increase feminine energy etc and to talk less. She shouldn’t need to do this at all however, a lot of people in this part of the world are indoctrinated to think certain looks are more attractive when this isn’t really the case. It’s all an illusion. People not studying the heart, only external features and money matter because we are living in a capitalist materialistic societyetc so that’s why relationships in todays time are so temporary and easily replaceable, with a physical copy. This is the problem with homogeneous societies. This woman can choose not to conform and be herself. In remaining true to oneself, one will probably need to travel more, use every opportunity to broaden their chances of finding a man who loves from within first and also invest in self reflection and self love and healing.