Living With Intention: Less May Be More

This week on Off The Couch, The Psych Guys focus on the #1 challenge heard by their male clients: how do I effectively balance every aspect of my busy life as a father, husband, employee, friend, son, and self? The answer: Less Is More.

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Consider stepping back and seeing the underlaying issue. You're talking about being a better juggler. Why be a juggler at all? Why get yourself into a position of having to juggle?
I'm 67. I went into the Army, worked construction, college for computer science, dropped out to join a startup to create video games. Went on to work at 14 different startups/ None hit big but it was a blast. Marriage? Kids? No way. Wives expect their husband to "make them happy". Kids demand attention. Both demand you bring home money that's never enough. That didn't look like fun. When 11 I watched "Divorce American Style" on TV and that cured me of wanting kids.
I retired at 45 and been having fun, I didn't have a pile of cash but being single that's not a problem.
Always had plenty of "me time" to workout, ski, hunt, fish, whatever I wanted. If I didn't like a job I quit. Moved often. Upstate NY, FL, Germany, AK, TX, CA, AZ.
I do understand marrying a good wife and having kids can be great. But what's the big hurry? Having a fun career is great too. Juggling all 3 takes away from all 3 imo. Wouldn't you like to be a stay at home Dad for at least the first 15 years of their lives? Or be able to work 60-80 hours in a career you love? Or focus on a wife when she young?
Now I'm getting ready to sell my house and move to SE Asia. There I will likely find and marry a great young woman and have kids. I'll have the time to spend with my kids, have lots to teach them. I have the funds now to ensure my wife's entire life at 4x the median local income. SE Asian wives are not as demanding as US wives in general. A simple house and family are what most seek. Our kids will be American citizens and be fully covered through college if they want. They'll have the advantage of dual language and culture with full rights of 2 countries. If I pass before they reach 18 Social Security survivor benefits will provide 150% of my $3800 check with inflation adjustment. I have the budget to hire a live-in housekeeper and nanny and fully trained caregiver if needed for myself. So I'll be able to travel and have fun too with or without the kids.
You don't have to live the lives we see on TV. You can live it backwards or inside out.
Men got way off track imo. When I was young fathers rarely went to our sporting matches. And we didn't expect them to. We didn't seek approval from our fathers like that. Seems unhealthy to me. We (kids in my family) were taught to be independent and not seek the approval of others. Respect others, treat people well, but not seek approval.
With a falling marry rate and declining birth rate I don't see how the Disney lifestyle of the past 60 years will continue forever. Both men and women seem pretty unhappy about the current state and it's downward trajectory.