If you have a hair pulling or skin picking - you need to know this

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  • @Faythe98
    @Faythe98 Рік тому +42

    My boyfriend won’t stop pointing it out when I pick my skin. It’s making my anxiety and shame worse. I try to tell him this isn’t helping me but he won’t stop.

    • @ervingabrielcolon8437
      @ervingabrielcolon8437 Рік тому

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      Hello. Show him this video that talks more about BFRB so that he's informed about the theme. I would also like to suggest that if he does not understand the subject about BFRB and keeps pointing out the skin picking even after you showed him this video and told him to stop, set some solid boundaries about the situation. You deserve to be understood and not shamed. I hope I was able to help.

    • @ervingabrielcolon8437
      @ervingabrielcolon8437 Рік тому +1

      @@JeffryMichaels That's not the point. She didn't say that her boyfriend has a compulsion to point out everytime she picks her skin. She clearly said that when her boyfriend points out when she picks her skin, it makes her feel more anxious and ashamed of the behavior. Perhaps you thought that her boyfriend pointing out everytime she picks her skin was a compulsion when she wrote: "I try to tell him this isn't helping me but he won't stop".

    • @Pigstarpatch
      @Pigstarpatch Рік тому +3

      Same here with my husband

    • @TheDarkVoid
      @TheDarkVoid 9 місяців тому

      @@Pigstarpatchshow him this video

    • @sneakerbabeful
      @sneakerbabeful 6 місяців тому +4

      You deserve to be with someone who respects your boundaries and wants to support you.

  • @nanetten6238
    @nanetten6238 Рік тому +26

    I never thought I would hear this from a therapist, but this is absolutely true and makes a lot of sense. I have been skin-picking for 50 years, sometimes just a little, and sometimes out of control. Many times I have stopped and started again. However, if I don't feel out of control it doesn't bother me that much (I like the idea of 30%). After all this time I do feel like this habit is a part of my personality and don't want to lose the habit completely. There, I admitted it. Maybe that's why I've never been able to stop completely, and now a therapist I respect is saying "you're OK as you are". Genius, thank you!

  • @AnnularFrisson
    @AnnularFrisson Рік тому +14

    Thanks for this. I've gone through periods where this has completely ruined my life, including one that lasted almost a year. It's a spectrum that can be a mild annoyance, or an incredibly serious problem. I'll never be totally rid of this but it doesn't interfere greatly with my life at this point.

  • @tpaige4890
    @tpaige4890 Рік тому +7

    I dont feel embarrassed. I just feel pain. Currently bleeding from it. Its REALLY gonna hurt to walk tmw

  • @Libbylg
    @Libbylg 6 місяців тому +4

    Bitten the inside of my mouth for 9 years and pull out my hair and never realised it could be ocd. Defo an anxiety thing now but I just did it as a habit back then

  • @ms.sherlock
    @ms.sherlock 10 місяців тому +4

    I took all the mirrors out of my house and have one only one compact mirror and keep it far enough from face to check my lipstick twice a day - I don't allow myself to bring it close to my skin. For me, I have figured out what circumstances triggered the compulsion. What made me determined to stop was the very real fear of getting an unstoppable blood infection and losing a limb or death. I believe my Continued picking for years lowered my immune system gradually. I stopped by taking that compulsive energy and channeling it into anything neutral or (preferably) productive - cleaning, play doh, silly putty, modeling clay, painting my home, just painting and drawing, embroidery. Picking stole so many hours of my life that I finally said that I won't allow to steal one more minute of the finite hours of my life!

  • @blwlmnswg
    @blwlmnswg 4 місяці тому +4

    watchin this video while doin the exact brfb skin picking thing

  • @GwishinSong
    @GwishinSong 5 днів тому

    I think the main issue with telling people who skin pick to 'just allow yourself to do it' is that it can cause things like infections. It's not one of those harmless habits that you can always just let yourself do; if it's bad enough and you don't know how to properly take care of the results - it can hurt, a LOT. Having open wounds all the time like that is not good and if not taken care of correctly it can lead to infections

  • @Michaelajane07
    @Michaelajane07 Рік тому +5

    I have done it all my life, I'm now 31 I don't know if I will ever stop and if I want to stop or not.
    I do both skin-picking and my hair story is I always 9 times out of 10 in the day I fiddle or plait, unplait, plait my hair until I feel better. I do it when depressed, stressed, anxious or sad.
    My mum tells me to stop all the time but it makes me want to do it all the more.
    The most I've gone without doing any of them is 2 days.
    I'm so confused about it but you videos are helping a lot.
    Thank you.😊

    • @shara1979
      @shara1979 7 місяців тому +1

      I have been a hair puller my whole life. I was always pretty, but pulling my hair out made me have huge bald patches all throughout my hair, even tho it was long. It made it hard to find a job ,bcuz it had to b a job where Im allowed to wear a hat, so, no office jobs. Bcuz a baseball cap or bandana don't go with dress clothes & heels. So it affected my entire life, made me broke, getting intimate with a guy. No job no boyfriend, it affected everything.
      But believe it or not,I was able to beat it. For 7 years now.
      And I started as a child, til almost 40 years old. I'm 44 now. Sometimes, when I'm under stress,I catch myself starting to pull,but it's a lot easier to stop myself now. It wasn't at first
      But, u can beat this. No matter how long it's been happening. I thought I'd b doin it for the rest of my life & was so ashamed. But there's hope.

  • @kellibabb6141
    @kellibabb6141 4 місяці тому +1

    When you said what the secret was, my anxiety shot way up. My skin picking caused my oncologist to prescribe antibiotics. I pick around my cancer related scars.

  • @lemonstraws7940
    @lemonstraws7940 Рік тому +2

    You are the best My intrusive thoughts are gone thanks to u I started to agree with the thoughts but not care and I sad ya totally, maybe maybe not let's do maybe I will, etc and that got rid of it it still happens time to time but it's way better love from Canada

  • @mrswang5574
    @mrswang5574 Рік тому +2

    Thanks! More if this for us skin-pickers!

  • @myphone-ph4hh
    @myphone-ph4hh Рік тому +4

    Hi I was hoping you could do something on stress related OCD where it goes away or mostly for long periods of time but comes back when life gets stressful? Thanks for your time.

  • @immaisuradze
    @immaisuradze Рік тому +1

    Natham peterson, can ocd thoughts be about anything you love? Like i love animals but recently my ocd was coming up with "you hate animals"

  • @Trichylady
    @Trichylady 8 місяців тому +2

    I have trich for 20 years !😮

  • @LonesomeLalo
    @LonesomeLalo Рік тому +2

    Hello Nathan, I have begun punching myself in my arms and legs as a compulsion. I feel like I need to prove to myself that the thoughts I have are bad and the physical action seems to ‘help’ with that. What does this mean?

  • @opencurtin
    @opencurtin 7 місяців тому +1

    I pluck the hairs on my fingers i pull them out with my teeth or a tweezers , Im doing it since 1987 when I was very nervous in school .

  • @SilverHawk214
    @SilverHawk214 Рік тому +2

    Weird one that seems to be working for me is allowing myself to shave it. Obviously, can't do that to my eyelashes but has been working so far with my brows, I'm a lot less aware of them which is awesome!

    • @ocdandanxiety
      @ocdandanxiety  Рік тому +2

      That's actually really awesome. Thanks for sharing what works for you! Everyone is on such a different journey. Thanks for sharing yours.

    • @ezkhan8690
      @ezkhan8690 Рік тому +1

      @@ocdandanxiety nathan sir can u pls make a video on phobia from blood pressure. When ever i go to clinic for any kind of treatment my heart starts racing just by seeing sphygmomanometer. And most of the time my bp reading raises because of that.. and whenever i chck my bp at home by my self only it appears to be normal Allahmdullilah. Can u plss plss make a video on this issue because it effects my life as i scared to go for any typ of treatment just because i got anxious that what if my bp raises if dr chck it and i even try to calm my sef down but nothing help me in this i watch almost all your videos but i dont find video on this topic plss plss do rep or make a detail video on this🙏🙏

  • @drvssrinivas1779
    @drvssrinivas1779 Рік тому +1

    Health anxiety playlist please

  • @lizettecarreon4265
    @lizettecarreon4265 Рік тому +1

    Is Harm OCD the same as constantly thinking of suicide? Like not in the sense that I would do it but just in general like my thoughts are how could people do that? Like what were there thoughts? @OCDandAnxiety

  • @ashleyashleym2969
    @ashleyashleym2969 11 місяців тому +1

    Wait what!?!?! Where were you when I was a young teen being shamed by my mother via therapy to stop this "awful" behavior?? I have always felt confident in myself despite hair pulling but that was never good enough to my mom, she must bring me to feel shame for it. It wasn't ok that I was ok in that I did it, to her she must find a way to stop me because in her eyes there was no way that I could possibly be ok with myself and feel confident in myself since I did it. I wish someone explained this to my mom, would have saved me a lot of truama in regards to truama and my counsellor and my mother attempting to force me to stop via forcing me to attend therapy and via privacy invasions and shaming.

  • @SableIsland2024
    @SableIsland2024 7 місяців тому +1

    Hi . I was wondering about something. I don't pull my hair out. But , shave my head whenever I get stressed. Which is alot of the time. Just can't let my hair or nails grow out. Tired of being bald . Is there a term for such behavior ?

  • @lonup8361
    @lonup8361 5 місяців тому +1

    Hello . I am from Iran and I have a problem with hair and skin pulling. In Iran, international currency accounts are not supported and there is no way to pay. Also, the amount of 217 dollars is my salary for several months. And I do not have the ability to pay such an amount. Do you have a solution for that? I will be very grateful
    This disease hurts me a lot and I suffered a lot of personal and social problems. I hate myself and I don't like my appearance at all. I don't know what your beliefs are, but I promise to make it up to you in any way I can

  • @mahraalkaabi2769
    @mahraalkaabi2769 Рік тому +5

    I went to therapy a couple of times, but most of the therapists are saying that hair-pulling disorder will be extremely hard to treat without medications, do you believe this is true based on your clinical experience?

    • @ocdandanxiety
      @ocdandanxiety  Рік тому +5

      No way. Most I see tend to do treatment without medication. If some are trying really hard at treatment and are struggling, then maybe they look to see if it’ll help.

    • @ashleyashleym2969
      @ashleyashleym2969 11 місяців тому

      I've tried medication, it has no effect on some people. I can modify my behavior and the pulling decreases though.

  • @nikita2841
    @nikita2841 Рік тому +1

    Rebt works

  • @helloimyams
    @helloimyams 4 місяці тому

    Sitting here with my mouth stinging, trying to eat. I’ve chewed on my face for so long and I’m sooo sick of it 😤

  • @aninaalvarez
    @aninaalvarez Рік тому

    Does your BFRB Program help for nail biting? I’m 31 and it’s been a struggle with me with my nail biting. I’ve been able to stop for periods of time but always go back to it. Ugh!

    • @ocdandanxiety
      @ocdandanxiety  Рік тому +1

      Hi Anina! Yes it does! It's the exact same treatment. 😄

    • @aninaalvarez
      @aninaalvarez Рік тому

      @@ocdandanxiety thank you so much! Love all of your content! It’s super helpful! 🙏🏼

  • @user-mw3xf9le8q
    @user-mw3xf9le8q 2 місяці тому

    I hope one day I'll stop to do it

  • @crystalclear8604
    @crystalclear8604 Рік тому +1

    I would have liked to watch this to the end, but the frequent flashes along with sound effects were very irritating. I don’t know why; maybe my Vyvanse needs to be increased.
    Please don’t use this visual/sound effect in your videos.

  • @premkolkar6861
    @premkolkar6861 4 місяці тому

    My hand always on my head 😂 pulling the sticky hairs

  • @lolalee2301
    @lolalee2301 Рік тому

    4:24 All thE thoughts...plus you didnt add "the" to two of the other phrases you typed out. Also, feelingS not feeling. Still a good video though :p

    • @ocdandanxiety
      @ocdandanxiety  Рік тому +2

      It's on purpose to see if people can handle mistakes and sit with the discomfort! 😄

  • @qwerty36ish
    @qwerty36ish Рік тому +2

    I usually like this channel but i think this is bad advice.
    Don’t just let yourself do it! Of course if you relapse don’t beat yourself up about it, but don’t just let yourself do it. Picking can be really destructive to your skin and you should try your hardest to stop.
    One thing that helped me was taping over the light dimmer switches in my bathroom so it was less bright and harder to pick at my skin. You could also just leave a little post it reminder on your mirror if that works. Alternatively you can put paper or cloth over your mirrors and cover them completely. Knitting, crocheting, coloring books, drawing, and fidget toys help some people because they help you zone out in a less destructive way.
    Another thing that helps me is making a rule for myself that I can only pick 3 pimples every time I go to the bathroom. This works for me some of the time.

    • @floof69
      @floof69 Рік тому +7

      maybe it's the perspective of giving yourself the permission to do it, instead of saying you shouldn't be doing it at all which can lead to shame and guilt when you engage. i understand your point though. what may work for some might not work for others