My heart is open and I'm listening, but I fear failure in this regard... and I know it's important. I will continue listening. I know I can't resolve 40 years of complicated and strong feelings all at once. I am searching my heart. Sometimes I feel like people are expecting me to make some specific kind of act towards reconciliation within some secret window of time. But if I stumble around and jump at some misapprehension of others' advice, the mode of my reaching for "no regrets" may just be play acting, inauthentic, and useless. I know such things ought not to take forever. This is important to me. I will see you at the next video. Thanks.
@Your Move with Andy Stanley yes!!! I have seen a pattern across my lifetimes of people and me, living in stubbornness and unwilling to own our own role in the disconnect in relationships.. and seen how detrimental it is in our hearts and in our families . And knowing now that somebody (me) can do my part to own MY part can he a catalyst for change in my own life.. because what I do not own cannot be changed.. it's made me take a hard look at myself and how much I've pushed sole responsibility on others.. but also areas that I need to forgive and ask for forgiveness.. its a huge eye opener. I've always been told "own your role" but its never been beautifully explained that doesn't imply full responsibility.. I think our defenses go up the second we hear that because it's black or white thinking. If I am responsible, they must not be.. and that's just not the case.. we are human and we are all sinners and we are not expected to be perfect.. but change cannot be birthed where we don't see a problem. I pray often to soften my heart and to forgive those in my life but also I pray that God can put somebody in their life that can plant a seed so that they, too, can feel and know God's love, forgiveness and peace! If we cannot forgive but then expect that God forgives us, what then does that make us? I pray for those that have hurt me. First step toward forgiveness and forgiving myself as well. Progress is made once we know better and once we know better we will not repeat the same mistakes, the same sins, the same patterns. It breaks the chains that hold me back in my relationship with God.
Thank you for this series. I’m sure it will change my life. I’m making calls and having meetings before the New Year which is in less than 48 hrs away. I am also being baptized again on Sunday.
Today sermon was very powerful from God today from Brendon have a blessed day also ✨️ 😊 🙏 🙌 we need to pray every day also our world needs prayer every day also we need to pray for our military 🪖 every day and Jesus every day also we need to pray every day for our family's and our lives and our country and our churches ⛪️ and our friends every day also
For me, my growing faith has brought me to reconcile broken relationships so that I may be reconciled to God in a bond that I pray will never be broken 🙏
One question, or thoughts, I have. Pastor Andy says, never "to reconcile with someone unsafe physically or emotionally." What if a person has actually proven their behaviors to be better? If that is the case, then how are we to forgive and rebuild. Isn't that being prejudice? We are all sinners. In fact, I have created this acronym...SIN....Stupid Idiotic Nonsense. I mean think about it. Every SIN we do falls into one, if not all categories. I digress. I'm saying the introduction statement, because I'm facing that situation in my marriage where I hurt a person but I am learning how to cope and also become a better person. Asking God to help encourage me that I'm not some evil doer person destroying people lives like a tornado in a mobile home park. In short, I believe through God's grace and infinite mercy, even the ones we think shouldn't be reconciled with, should be dealt with cautiously,.of course, but not pushed away to a box of no return. Perhaps, I misunderstood Pastor Andy, but that is my thoughts and opinion. Thank you. May God Bless and keep sharing the gospel in the right manner that is intended for. -- Matthew
The saying I am sorry, in most cases has no meaning as they do not feel sorry. It is just a useless word. One has to feel and understand what they have done and actually mean it. Otherwise, saying sorry is just a word., an empty meaningless act. People that are forever saying Love you, again, It has no meaning. Only say it if it is meant and felt. So sorry, but I found this lacking. How does one ever forgive anyone who can not understand or ever admit that they ever did something wrong.? A narcissist. for example. Impossible.
Thank you. I walked away and know I have past unresolved fears that contributed. This series has helped me.
My heart is open and I'm listening, but I fear failure in this regard... and I know it's important. I will continue listening. I know I can't resolve 40 years of complicated and strong feelings all at once. I am searching my heart. Sometimes I feel like people are expecting me to make some specific kind of act towards reconciliation within some secret window of time. But if I stumble around and jump at some misapprehension of others' advice, the mode of my reaching for "no regrets" may just be play acting, inauthentic, and useless. I know such things ought not to take forever. This is important to me. I will see you at the next video. Thanks.
This is a great series and it has given me a lot of perspective.. thank you
Thanks, @Kelly W - is there a takeaway you found helpful? - the Your Move team
@Your Move with Andy Stanley yes!!! I have seen a pattern across my lifetimes of people and me, living in stubbornness and unwilling to own our own role in the disconnect in relationships.. and seen how detrimental it is in our hearts and in our families . And knowing now that somebody (me) can do my part to own MY part can he a catalyst for change in my own life.. because what I do not own cannot be changed.. it's made me take a hard look at myself and how much I've pushed sole responsibility on others.. but also areas that I need to forgive and ask for forgiveness.. its a huge eye opener. I've always been told "own your role" but its never been beautifully explained that doesn't imply full responsibility.. I think our defenses go up the second we hear that because it's black or white thinking. If I am responsible, they must not be.. and that's just not the case.. we are human and we are all sinners and we are not expected to be perfect.. but change cannot be birthed where we don't see a problem. I pray often to soften my heart and to forgive those in my life but also I pray that God can put somebody in their life that can plant a seed so that they, too, can feel and know God's love, forgiveness and peace! If we cannot forgive but then expect that God forgives us, what then does that make us? I pray for those that have hurt me. First step toward forgiveness and forgiving myself as well. Progress is made once we know better and once we know better we will not repeat the same mistakes, the same sins, the same patterns. It breaks the chains that hold me back in my relationship with God.
What incredible insights, @Kelly W! Thank you for sharing them and inspiring me - Anne from the Your Move team
Do you typically attempt to make the first move when repairing a relationship, or do you wait for the other person? Why do you think that is?
Thank you for this series. I’m sure it will change my life. I’m making calls and having meetings before the New Year which is in less than 48 hrs away. I am also being baptized again on Sunday.
Today sermon was very powerful from God today from Brendon have a blessed day also ✨️ 😊 🙏 🙌 we need to pray every day also our world needs prayer every day also we need to pray for our military 🪖 every day and Jesus every day also we need to pray every day for our family's and our lives and our country and our churches ⛪️ and our friends every day also
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For me, my growing faith has brought me to reconcile broken relationships so that I may be reconciled to God in a bond that I pray will never be broken 🙏
One question, or thoughts, I have.
Pastor Andy says, never "to reconcile with someone unsafe physically or emotionally."
What if a person has actually proven their behaviors to be better? If that is the case, then how are we to forgive and rebuild. Isn't that being prejudice?
We are all sinners.
In fact, I have created this acronym...SIN....Stupid Idiotic Nonsense. I mean think about it. Every SIN we do falls into one, if not all categories.
I digress.
I'm saying the introduction statement, because I'm facing that situation in my marriage where I hurt a person but I am learning how to cope and also become a better person. Asking God to help encourage me that I'm not some evil doer person destroying people lives like a tornado in a mobile home park.
In short, I believe through God's grace and infinite mercy, even the ones we think shouldn't be reconciled with, should be dealt with cautiously,.of course, but not pushed away to a box of no return.
Perhaps, I misunderstood Pastor Andy, but that is my thoughts and opinion.
Thank you. May God Bless and keep sharing the gospel in the right manner that is intended for.
-- Matthew
Hi Matthew - thanks for reaching out. Our team would love to help. Will you email us at info@yourmove.is? - Anne from the Your Move team
The saying I am sorry, in most cases has no meaning as they do not feel sorry. It is just a useless word. One has to feel and understand what they have done and actually mean it. Otherwise, saying sorry is just a word., an empty meaningless act. People that are forever saying Love you, again, It has no meaning. Only say it if it is meant and felt.
So sorry, but I found this lacking. How does one ever forgive anyone who can not understand or ever admit that they ever did something wrong.? A narcissist. for example. Impossible.
So true, had some very good points, but and it's a big but, but having no regrets seems a bit trite.