@erdbeerzwiebel3404 It's reality checking with truth . When i did so, it wasn't mean, it was factual. I even said he may be okay as a tenant if he picks up after himself, but he clearly showed he was not a reciprocating partner, so I don't want a boyfriend like that. The fact is these individuals degrade and demean, telling us we are not good enough for them or anything, always trying to make us feel that way, so what's wrong with telling them the actual truth ? They are the ones that call it on by their own words, false accusations and behaviours. I delivered it in a matter of fact, firm way, not mean and yelling. Only the truth can set us free. (Without arguing or fighting). It's obviously not recommended if it's going to trigger violence - discretion is required. We also must make sure we don't cross the line into becoming abusive ourselves, otherwise we also become narcissists. We don't want that. Two wrongs don't make a right. It's not about vengeance. It's about taking our power back and speaking and holding truth. 🙏🏼😇🕊
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My ex absolutely lost it when he kept begging me to tell him whether I still loved him. At first I refused to answer. Then I got tired of him asking so I told him the truth. I told him that I still loved the man I THOUGHT he was but I’ve had to accept that that man does not exist AT ALL! He stared at me in shock then screamed that I had no idea what the hell I was talking about and then retreated to another room for the rest of the day. I got three days of peaceful silence from him as a result which I’m sure he saw it as him “punishing me” with the silent treatment. If he only knew, silent treatment was a literal vacation for me from having to hear his voice! 😊
They'll turn it around and make you the one that's delusional. My dad always did that when I called him out, calling me the psychologically sick one and also to my mother to make me look the crazy one!! Blood from under my nails all the times!!
The one thing that living with a narcissist has taught me, is that you can NOT win. They love nothing better than the emotional release that confrontation offers them. The only thing you will achieve is giving them a segue for unloading all the things that they have waiting in store for you. Instead, stay aware of their behaviour. Stay disciplined with your responses. And do not take the bait! If you try to get clever, they will only turn the tables on you. When you play that game, they will always have the advantage. This is what they excel at. As the saying goes, "Don't feed the trolls." When someone shows you who they are ... Believe them.
One can never be safe around a narc to say those things. Who knows what kind of darkness hides in them to be unleashed. You say one clever thing they will say twenty in reply, even if it will be an arguement its not healthy or helpful to argue with them. Instead of saying anything to them, let them learn from your actions. Those may as well trigger much of their anger for example leaving them or ignoring them.
I didn’t say a word to him. I just got a restraining order and got to say it all in court before a judge with the narc present. He couldn't say a word back and since I used up all the time the hearing had to be continued. In the meantime, he broke the order twice. We arrived in the courtroom for next hearing (after he traveled 1000 miles to get there) only to find the judge was on vacation. Then he got arrested that afternoon. At the next hearing for breaking the order, he accepted the order for a year in exchange for no further jailtime, giving me full custody of the kids. I didn’t plan on it going this way, but it has given us all a needed break. They will eventually reap what they sow.
i love how you saved your words for court. then gobbled up all the time on the clock. revenge is a dish best served cold, even if it's unintended. except with narcs, they bring it upon themselves. doesn't matter how old they are, they got the emotional maturity and situational awareness of a toddler. stay relentless, and protect your peace by any means necessary. especially given you got kids. narcs are the biggest sore losers. they got no problem ruining kids lives to get what they want. cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁
Im no longer playing Tom and Jerry. They will get haunted regardless. No need to get revenge, they will go down anyway. Be grateful you got a chance to escape them. Don't ever let that parasite back in your life ever again.
Whenever the narcissist complains or gaslights me. I tell him to live somewhere else if he's not happy with me. I'm not forcing anyone to live with me. Go and find happiness somewhere else.
I had a death recently of someone I loved, I'm greiving, and since those in living with see me vulnerable they pounced on me with great force and evil.......yes narcs have demons
I can relate. Several years ago I lost almost everything in a fire. My 'loving family' went after me with everything they had trying to take control of my life for it. Their view of 'helping me' was to force me to give up what little I had left and do as they said for the rest of my life. It was insane.
@@mrsqueakthecat.8061 wish I could get out of here. I have many "friends" with money but no one will help me. This world is about self.back in my day it wasn't like that
I would also reaffirm that this can be risky too as some can get violent. I honestly believe it is the level they are at, whether they are from the psychopathic level or sociopathic side of NPD. As you said. We must be safe.
Yes I told him I am a special gift for you, so you have to appreciate me being with and you have to look after me , once I’m gone no one can replace me because I got everything that you want . You have no time and years to spend looking for someone special like me .
At first when he withheld credible compliments, I recognized the 'salesman' in him and knew he was playing games. As the years went on, I accepted that behavior because I'm not the type to need validation or compliments for every small thing. I even let him take the credit for things I did. (As a couple, that will happen) ----- I'm 5 months out of that ten years of hell. It IS nice to get validation for some things. Your comment did that for me. It Was His Ego. Sick Sick Sick. And I WAS Sick thinking I was being the mature example and he would learn or see the truth. (I got a 4 page message from him listing all the things he did for ME this week....) (I only read the first two sentences) I recognize that he is mad that I don't acknowledge him anymore. Not the nice messages and not that (what else is new) ugly messages. I'm free from that ridiculous situation. Enough was enough.
Good suggestions ! I called him out on everything as I got so sick of his delusions needing validation and I surely am not doing that anymore. I basically used slightly different variations of what you just said, and then I don't bother arguing if he tries to say I'm wrong by accusing me of something else. I just repeat the facts i know like a broken record statement and walk away or I tell him everything thats happened is all on him; that he set things up this way, because he's the sabatoger and despite me giving him everything out of love for love creation, he only opted for hate creation so he must be crazy if he thinks I'll be spending the rest of my life with him. Now anytime he starts spewing with his ego i just directly reality check with truth and walk away. I've taken my power back. Its too bad I need his rent money right now, or I'd make him leave. P.s. I stopped doing the dishes since i do all the cooking, so now when he wakes up, he automatically does the dishes and sweeps the floor before he goes to work, lol.
🥳 Congratulations on standing up to him by throwing the truth at him! In fact, you must have hit a nerve becuz you've even got him doing the dishes before he leaves for work!😏 Thank you for sharing. It's encouraging to see that it CAN be done!
@cindys.9688 Awwwh thank you so much for your support in saying so. It means so much ! Yes, it can be done ! Standing up to a bully corrects the power imbalance. We must be sure we stick with truth in an assertive way, not cross the line or become abusive like them. I am so isolated here, he thought he could get away with anything, and I just got so fed up of listening to his nonsense. He kept saying and acting like I'd be nothing without him, meanwhile, it's my house and my life savings he spent so wrecklessly by betraying my trust, so I made sure I pointed out that betrayal ! Reality check ! ✔️Also, setting boundaries in place ! Biess you sweetheart ! 🥰 Also, thank you, and Bless you Danish and everyone here ! Don't bother arguing with them, just hold and voice your truth with your head up high ! (Then walk away if you need to and do something for yourself)! Sending Love and Light and Strength to you all ⚡️💞🌟🎶🐾🌿🙏🏼😇🌈🕊💫
Sounds like my situation. I can't afford rent or moving expenses, so I stay. But I have carved another part of the house for me and that's where I spend most of the day. I have my little activities that I do, then I leave him alone. Sending love and warmth - - - we will make it, just one step at a time. I have hope now, but didn't before watching these validating videos. It's easier to deal with when we know what's actually going on instead of thinking it's us.
@jacquelinemarie1078 yes of course, i agree; also not having false hope for them, which is so energy draining. Best to keep that energy and put it into faith for ourselves. Thank you so much for all your encouragement and lovingkindness. Gratitude beyond words. Sending Love and Light to you, also. Bless you ! 🌞💞🎶🙏🏼😇🕊💫
My narc. & I had a musical relationship. He popped in & out of my life many times over the course of 3 decades. Over that time I joined and started new musical projects every time he disappeared. Each time I started a new musical project without him, he reinjected himself into my life. In the last decade of our friendship, I got really tired of his loose & inconsistent commitment and he knew that. So he decided to try and beat me at that game by telling me how bored and tired he was of me. Oddly he fed me this line of "I'll never abandon you" while he did just that, projecting his fear of abandonment onto me, when I had endured it many times in our relationship and moved on without issue. He knew by my actions that I didn't need him so he waited for the perfect time to exact his revenge when it would sting the most. Since we parted he has enjoyed a band and many original songs that wouldn't exist without my commitment. I'm sure he's trying to emulate my groundedness but the truth is he needs someone grounded like me, without it he's pure chaos. I'm so happy to be off that crazy train.
Yes, this speech is more to make ones anger come to light and not keep suppressed inside. These are the things I would like to say to my narcissistic sister. Release this anger. It is good. To give it a voice. An expression. To show the pattern. But if possible, witb the narcissistis. Do not speak to them. Do not explain yourself to them. Do not engage with them.
Yikes! I'm pretty sure that the narcs I deal with would be totally triggered by all of those! I would like to say some of those things to them, but my gut tells me that I should just continue to remain silent. 🤔🤐
That is my reaction as well. They just don't care. Sometimes I think it's a source of pride that he isn't enough, it's like he is a rebel and is fooling everyone. He once said, I just pretend to be stupid to throw people off - - - But he really is stupid.
The narcissist is capable of feeling infatuation, but not love. Once that cools off, and inevitably it does, they get bored and lose interest because they don’t enter the love stage like normal people do. They are just going to get bored laboring over you and thats precisely how its going to feel to them. You are like a novel toy that suddenly isn’t novel and they seek a new one. Of course if you damage their ego thats why they will move on. Even if you keep supporting their ego they’re going to want something better, or just different and novel. The narcissist doesn’t care about you, and, why settle for the adorations of just one person when you could get it from many? That is how they think. So, they will stop giving you attention. They will stop clicking like on your posts, stop texting, stop calling… sometimes they might throw you a scrap here and there while phasing you out just to keep a hook in, but it won’t be much. They won’t fake smiles or try to start conversations with you anymore. They might even slime you with negative remarks to create distance so that your attention won’t continue to annoy them. Basically, the novel appeal of a new toy is gone. That is all you are to the N. They never saw you as a human, an equal, because they don’t have the empathy it takes to see you as that. You were merely something to make N feel good, and when you aren’t needed anymore, thats that. Additionally I got to know about my narc husband bad ways when I reach out to a private detective MetaspyHub@gmail. com for help he did a perfect work for me I can see everything he’s doing on his device.
What a great video, short, well explained, never seen the idea of explaining "how to do a collapse", I'm 3 years later but I still watch some of those narcissist video when the subject is good... This video I would have really liked to watch it 3 years before. To resume, I have done the #1 to my ex-wife without knowing she was a covert narc, I have begun to see that in our relationship everything was one-sided, we got a religious marriage, she was an SDA, but her actions and words never matched her faith, with time I began to find her past on the Internet, she hid her lesbian past to her faith and even to her family, always playing the victim on everything, even her own family was supposedly evil, she was always doing a silent treatment with her own siblings or nieces for I don't know what stupid reason. When did my boundary limit have broken? It is when I was asking her to do a call a day at my job, "Hey she didn't even have a job," but I was asking her, "too much," after months and months she was doing it like 1-2 times a week, I was not asking too much. A damn call a day...wow the drama, "I'm too strict," "me too I'm like you when you are at work, I do my stuff," with time she was even hiding me her days... I began to talk more with her family to know what she was doing. Oh wow the drama again, silent treatment after silent treatment, after a 2 weeks silent treatment I got enough, I have done the #1 but with witnesses, I sent everything that I was having against her to her family and her pastor and 2-3 years of WhatsApp + the money she spent on my back. Wow the final discard got really fast, I never got a word from her ever again, I was blocked from everywhere and she started a new online Facebook like I never existed, in a dating website she has done a new profile saying in big, "I WANT A TRUE CHRISTIAN." People around her told me that she was doing a depression but my psychologist helped me to know about a "narcissist collapse." Her pastor helped me in the divorce to make her sent back my deceased mother’s ring. (She took 2 years because she refuses to talk to me or my lawyer.) Her family explained to me about my toddler wife and surely that her dad was a narc too. The pastor made her write 2 letters to explain why I'm the evil bad husband and why we need to divorce...(very "clever" to make her be like the good one). I was amazed! In those letters not even a single "valid" reason for a Christian divorce, it was like a kid complaining about 2-3 arguing we got in our couples and that I was now too "strict"... I was so amazed that she could write this and not be ashamed, I will always be thankful to her pastor, those letters really helped me to free myself from her and helped my mind. I have been truly lucky to take precautions to not have kids. (We were both in our 30.) The divorce was again one-sided, thanks to the feminist law, she didn't lose anything when I have lost easily 3 years of salary...but oh well truly lucky to not have got kids, thank Father in Heaven! When I see the world of today and how couple and men struggle, I begin to really think to become a MGTOW. I have co-workers that have lost more than me, their wives were not even cluster-B... From 40 to lose the house in divorce 50-50 and pay for child support because the wife never wanted a stable job... that's the new reality. (Playing the Russian roulette with 70% of a chance for a divorce, no thanks, better to be eunuchs for the sake of a kingdom.) The last update I got from my ex-wife by her family, she is now in Thailand with my family name, she didn't even change her passport after the divorce and live with the money she leeched me. When I see the comments in all Narc Video on UA-cam or TikTok, it is always 80-90% of women who complain against their husband when cluster-B are 50-50... how many of them are in reality cluster-B and doing projections to be an eternal victim? She has done a reddit of victimization against me, I fell on it recently, so funny people answered her that she was a narc. Some statistic says that women are more covert and men more overt...but we never have a good answer to that. If some men are reading my comment, BEWARE of victimization it is a "huge" red flag. Thanks for this video Dr. Danish Bashir.
💬 Thank you for commenting. I like knowing a man's perspective about narcissistic abuse when it was a wife or girlfriend doing the abusing. Men really do have to watch out. When it's about a partnership it's usually the women talking about the men. Where are the men talking about the women?? I'm a 63F, single, straight, and a Christian. I'll admit, some people use the Christian label for the wrong reasons. They're the ones who make Christians look bad. It's not a label, it's a lifestyle. Shame on those who use it as a worm on a fishing hook. I hope you've been okay and I hope you've been able to put your ex behind you for a fresh start. She sounds like "one of those".🙄 Dishonest, plays the blame game, won't admit she's wrong even if her life depended on it. It scares me as a "single/never married" to see marriages dissolve shortly after the wedding. I like to think I'm a person who can "read the room" so if the vibes are wrong between him and me, the wedding ain't happening. But what if I miss something? What if "love is blind, deaf, & dumb" and I don't become aware until after we say "I Do"?? What if shortly after I say "I Do" I wanna say "I Don't"?? Truthfully, I'd wanna throw up! Danish always has the best knowledge and advice. I'm glad he's helped you find comfort, understanding, and answers. We're truly blessed!🥳
Hello and thank you for the videos, lessons and insights. The one time I said " Sorry, but I have different values and a moral compass' .... did not go down well...... stunned silence. Another time I said " well if you are not part of the solution, maybe you are part of the problem".... stunned silence. The phrase 'NO...thank you" also has its merits.
This video is awesome! The quotes shared are really powerful and useful for talking to a narcissist. The way you analyze the psychology and the solution tips are really practical and easy to apply. Thank you for helping us understand this issue better! Have you ever used similar quotes to talk to a narcissist? How effective was it? Share it for everyone to learn!
I have to say this to you . I feel like you were living under my bed . Whatever you saying here . Exactly what I was been through . You are not exaggerating at all ! I know so much from your channel to learn how to deal with it .
At the beginning I told him Me and you are not matching your behaviours and my behaviours are different so we need to separate.he became angry and repeat what I told him all day
Hey Danish, make a video on a narcissistic boss who is power hungry, jealous of other more talented people, and insults their subordinates, especially ones they feel insecure around. And how to handle such bosses.
1. ✅ 2.✅ 3.✅ Said all the Things by accident, it's the Way i feel. And i was wondering why all the Hate showed up and why he's acting so bad and super passive-aggressive. I should be quiet more often, instead of pulling myself right into the warzone, first row.....🤦🏻♀️🤭 Now it's pretty clear why i feel like i do, i told my Friend he looks kinda really dangerous to me and he is so controlled, talking very quiet but i see in his Eyes there's not much left and the Bomb will explode. Thank You Danish ! 😊
Just like you said,,i went no contact. Its been 3 weeks since my angry texting that he lived. Hes now at the gym with a huge smear campaign the likes ofxwhich i cannot repeat. I havnt seen him in 5 mos and im not even his wife. I may thsnk him in public for building my resume!
My narcissistic husband left me back in August. We work at the same job. I got him this job. He has told some of our personal business. I want to quit but i have a good position.
Right now, my husband is gaining so much power and higher designation in office..he also started a coaching busineas and getting many many much attention.....he is trying to be a speaker...and his audacity is he speaks about morales and values...... when he has noneeee!! He shows himself as if he is women respecting person when actually he is abusser at home... and doesnt care even of the child... He portrays himself as the most idolist peraon on earth!! I finds him similar to BIRLA case who was rummning some scam... But i feel very lonely and tired and waiting to see when will he have his karma...... 😢😢 Since 6 years its only me who is suffering and hw is living eveey day of his life like last day........enjoying and im doing every responsibility task if house and child.......
A lie being told is what upsets me but the truth upsets a narc. They try to twist you into thinking and honestly some of the commenters on these videos dont help them twisting that any anger or physical action is bad and means your a narc. They read comments saying how the narc they experienced got angry got physical so they think if you get mad at all your in the wrong which is far feom true. He will gaslight me till i snap then use my reaction as the issue. Sometimes a person deserves a punch in the face 😂. I can't stand lying and I've always liked my word meaning something and if I'm wrong i admit it and do what i can to not make the same mistake. I love helping people and seeing others happy but if im messed with enough I'll put up a fight over being completely walked on. I think many fail to realize there's two type of narcissist the type to rage and the type to cause you to rage from all the manipulation and gaslighting 😢 ifnit werent for certain pages and commenters i would of thought i was the only one and it caused me to stay in the relationship longer thibking i was wrong.... it's why i keep teying to comment so someone won't feel like i did.
My narc ex recently found himself a new supply after I finally went full no contact. It took him about 3 months to realise I was serious. He even tried a last ditch attempt to Hoover me by trying to ruin a relationship that was important to me. It didn’t work so he gave up. I suspect he was in the throes of cultivating his new chick. She lives right next door to him in the townhouse complex where he lives. She’s 18 years younger than him (he’s 58 and she’s 40. He likes them younger). But I have it on good authority that she’s “not all there” in the brain department. At his age and level of bad health, he could easily charm her and he’s even “suggesting” she dress a certain way and dye her a certain colour. It’s sick and twisted but at least he’s lost interest in me now. I think she’ll be his last as they are talking about moving in together. I believe she will end up being his nurse when his body finally breaks down. He has high blood pressure, diabetes, and is at the risk of mini strokes and heart attacks as he’s had them at random his whole adult life. He takes medication for everything but like his nursing home bound father, it won’t be long before he’ll need someone to wipe his arse for him and push him around in a wheelchair. This poor chick is in for a world of hurt.
I agree they need to find a lower class woman or mentally unstable to where she can’t point or address the dysfunction literally I figured he has brain damage and with those kind of people there is no fix possibly therapy & medication but that’s a slim chance he refused to see a doctor or seek any medical check up going into no contact day 7 & my life is getting better ❤️🩹
I called the mindfu k out on everything he did, everything. This went on for weeks. Then i hired the best attorney and left without warning. Got a very nice settlement of 51%. There is a life time restraining order to never see or hear that demonic voice EVER AGAIN. 5.5 years of peace and joy. Dont walk, run.
WOW ! Very powerful Danish! There is much to learn, ponder and enforce here! Thank you so much! Sometimes all it takes is a change in strategy to change.....everything. Warrior on all of us Light bearers!! 🙏🙏✝️🙏🙏❤️🫂🕯️💪🫂🕯️💪...... ALWAYS.
I did the opposite. I told him I know who I am with all my worths. I dont fit in your expectations, so You'd better find someone else to abuse, I dont really care so stop wasting my time dude! After 10 years of abuse. He didnt even know what to say to this.
Yeah, they come up with some off the wall stuff sometimes, that is rich the life of the party, they literally leave others dead along the way in many cases. It feels like Resident Evil because the actual threat of death all Covert Narcissists have.
Oh my... evweything u are saying is exactly.....what happpens wveyday with me....and i tell exact answers...as ur saying..... Yea they have no values, no consciousness.....
I called him boring and useless showed him out and said it was about time I said my final goodbyes and closed my door. Adiós. Bare minimum man I called him
I am 73 years old and my daughter in law aged 34 is a manipulating liar. My son aged 41 is suffering with anxiety stress anger his mental health is deteriorating . I have to be so humble and quiet and she is enjoying our helplessness She has epilepsy and has been pampered by her parents and is not homely at all. Harrasess the servanand treats them like slaves. Has no empathy, respect tfor anyone My son has become like a puppet Whatever you suggested. He has said and done and insults her. She leaves and goes to her parents house and then sweet talks him but provokes me to a large extent and my son requests me to ignore her. At the slightest correction he is so aggressive with me . I am scared one day he may hit me as he comes right into my face with fists clenched and abusive language. He was such a decent boy. She us a party animal and met my son at a night club . We are catholics and she is a Hindu. The flat is mine but she forced him to tell me that if his name is not put as a second name. She will not marry him. They live off me and I am not able to sell and move out because he is not willing to sell and live with her. What should I do. I am in Mumbai, India. 😢 .
First they take your physical privacy, then they take your mental privacy, then they take your emotional privacy. You feel hollow inside. Then they tell you how you feel. But I tell you! You are you and you are not their creation! You are who you choose to be! Transparent is not a crime or hopelessness. Hidden in my Heart is the Lord Jesus Christ. No one can overcome Him for He had already overcome this world. I put my trust in Him. I see small victories everyday. Revenge is the Lord's!
At the age if 78 i studied PD and relise after 40 year living with a cleaver professional npd who deserted mine rather his owen parental family regards
See any of those statements wouldnt make me upset. Now if he tried to say i wasnt doing enough when im the only one cleaning the house he might get a slipper to the head cause i cater to him like a king so people come on sometimes words are worse than getting a slipper to the head for manipulation. He has had the audacity to say he was the one who cleaned and it was hard for him to do all that when i showed him before and after pics of me cleaning up after him i about threw the ohone in his face cause he never cleans and he was all serious, he will say i should get cameras to prove how he does so much and im lazy after i sat i meex to get a camera to show how he lies. He will after all that say it will trigger me when i see the truth he don't know if i can habdle seeing myself being wrong whwn i know he don't clean and i know me being wrong doesn't upset me and I'm always admitting when im wrong but he doesn't. Its a lot and i wish
When you think about these sayings, you can consolidate them and use your own words. This is just the essence of phrases that will trigger them into a meltdown.
@naowright9308 I wish it was the essence, which would mean the main ideas upon which I could expand. Generally great content here, so this is my first minor criticism.
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@erdbeerzwiebel3404 It's reality checking with truth . When i did so, it wasn't mean, it was factual. I even said he may be okay as a tenant if he picks up after himself, but he clearly showed he was not a reciprocating partner, so I don't want a boyfriend like that.
The fact is these individuals degrade and demean, telling us we are not good enough for them or anything, always trying to make us feel that way, so what's wrong with telling them the actual truth ? They are the ones that call it on by their own words, false accusations and behaviours. I delivered it in a matter of fact, firm way, not mean and yelling. Only the truth can set us free. (Without arguing or fighting). It's obviously not recommended if it's going to trigger violence - discretion is required. We also must make sure we don't cross the line into becoming abusive ourselves, otherwise we also become narcissists. We don't want that. Two wrongs don't make a right. It's not about vengeance. It's about taking our power back and speaking and holding truth. 🙏🏼😇🕊
Sir, In india, as a college student we can not afford your fees, but pls provide us in prices which we can afford. And you are really doing a great job... Thank you so much
My ex absolutely lost it when he kept begging me to tell him whether I still loved him. At first I refused to answer. Then I got tired of him asking so I told him the truth. I told him that I still loved the man I THOUGHT he was but I’ve had to accept that that man does not exist AT ALL! He stared at me in shock then screamed that I had no idea what the hell I was talking about and then retreated to another room for the rest of the day. I got three days of peaceful silence from him as a result which I’m sure he saw it as him “punishing me” with the silent treatment. If he only knew, silent treatment was a literal vacation for me from having to hear his voice! 😊
And its so good not to hear their voice
"I trust myself" can be less confrontational
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Brilliant ✨️
Amen. 🥰
They don't listen. They twist and then return these statements.
One thing always collapses the narc -- the truth about THEM
They'll turn it around and make you the one that's delusional. My dad always did that when I called him out, calling me the psychologically sick one and also to my mother to make me look the crazy one!! Blood from under my nails all the times!!
The one thing that living with a narcissist has taught me, is that you can NOT win. They love nothing better than the emotional release that confrontation offers them. The only thing you will achieve is giving them a segue for unloading all the things that they have waiting in store for you. Instead, stay aware of their behaviour. Stay disciplined with your responses. And do not take the bait! If you try to get clever, they will only turn the tables on you. When you play that game, they will always have the advantage. This is what they excel at. As the saying goes, "Don't feed the trolls." When someone shows you who they are ... Believe them.
One can never be safe around a narc to say those things. Who knows what kind of darkness hides in them to be unleashed. You say one clever thing they will say twenty in reply, even if it will be an arguement its not healthy or helpful to argue with them. Instead of saying anything to them, let them learn from your actions. Those may as well trigger much of their anger for example leaving them or ignoring them.
Couldn't agree more.. narcs don't deserve any mercy.
Exactly!
Only one is the right answer.
You're right
I will listen. I have tried and tried but it is a game of chess for him.
I didn’t say a word to him. I just got a restraining order and got to say it all in court before a judge with the narc present. He couldn't say a word back and since I used up all the time the hearing had to be continued. In the meantime, he broke the order twice. We arrived in the courtroom for next hearing (after he traveled 1000 miles to get there) only to find the judge was on vacation. Then he got arrested that afternoon. At the next hearing for breaking the order, he accepted the order for a year in exchange for no further jailtime, giving me full custody of the kids. I didn’t plan on it going this way, but it has given us all a needed break. They will eventually reap what they sow.
Stay safe & far away....they dont take defeat well & spend hours, days planning revenge. They are very unstable. 🙏🙏🙏🙏
@@sandracrandall4561 yes they r mentally ill
i love how you saved your words for court. then gobbled up all the time on the clock. revenge is a dish best served cold, even if it's unintended. except with narcs, they bring it upon themselves. doesn't matter how old they are, they got the emotional maturity and situational awareness of a toddler.
stay relentless, and protect your peace by any means necessary. especially given you got kids. narcs are the biggest sore losers. they got no problem ruining kids lives to get what they want.
cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁
Im no longer playing Tom and Jerry. They will get haunted regardless. No need to get revenge, they will go down anyway. Be grateful you got a chance to escape them. Don't ever let that parasite back in your life ever again.
100% right.
Fly 🐒 monkeys
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Right
Not all of us can leave, each case is different. What is good for you, may not work for me. Have you experience narcissism? It doesn't sound like it.
Whenever the narcissist complains or gaslights me. I tell him to live somewhere else if he's not happy with me. I'm not forcing anyone to live with me. Go and find happiness somewhere else.
I had a death recently of someone I loved, I'm greiving, and since those in living with see me vulnerable they pounced on me with great force and evil.......yes narcs have demons
I can relate. Several years ago I lost almost everything in a fire. My 'loving family' went after me with everything they had trying to take control of my life for it.
Their view of 'helping me' was to force me to give up what little I had left and do as they said for the rest of my life. It was insane.
@@mrsqueakthecat.8061 wish I could get out of here. I have many "friends" with money but no one will help me. This world is about self.back in my day it wasn't like that
Sending warmth and positive energy!
@bmoenvironmentcommunityfri8277 You're a nice soul.
My narc ex boyfriend broke up with me 2 days before my father's funeral.
U r real advocate for souls like us
They really do the bare minimum.
And too often not even that.
I would also reaffirm that this can be risky too as some can get violent. I honestly believe it is the level they are at, whether they are from the psychopathic level or sociopathic side of NPD. As you said. We must be safe.
That's one scenario, there are others.
Yes I told him I am a special gift for you, so you have to appreciate me being with and you have to look after me , once I’m gone no one can replace me because I got everything that you want . You have no time and years to spend looking for someone special like me .
The narcissistic knows that they need to acknowledge you for all the things you do for
them , but they don't do so because of their inflated ego.
There is nothing I have not done for him and our marriage and how he disrespected still !!!!!
At first when he withheld credible compliments, I recognized the 'salesman' in him and knew he was playing games.
As the years went on, I accepted that behavior because I'm not the type to need validation or compliments for every small thing.
I even let him take the credit for things I did.
(As a couple, that will happen)
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I'm 5 months out of that ten years of hell.
It IS nice to get validation for some things.
Your comment did that for me.
It
Was
His
Ego.
Sick
Sick
Sick.
And I WAS Sick thinking I was being the mature example and he would learn or see the truth.
(I got a 4 page message from him listing all the things he did for ME this week....)
(I only read the first two sentences)
I recognize that he is mad that I don't acknowledge him anymore.
Not the nice messages and not that (what else is new) ugly messages.
I'm free from that ridiculous situation.
Enough was enough.
i’m glad you have these self survival sessions
Live in a house full. Being told they don't want you talking because they don't care.
So true - keeps coming back after shaming me, saying I'm useless, saying I deserve to be yelled out, etc. etc.
Y do they come bk after calling us useless and all this nasty words
Good suggestions ! I called him out on everything as I got so sick of his delusions needing validation and I surely am not doing that anymore. I basically used slightly different variations of what you just said, and then I don't bother arguing if he tries to say I'm wrong by accusing me of something else. I just repeat the facts i know like a broken record statement and walk away or I tell him everything thats happened is all on him; that he set things up this way, because he's the sabatoger and despite me giving him everything out of love for love creation, he only opted for hate creation so he must be crazy if he thinks I'll be spending the rest of my life with him. Now anytime he starts spewing with his ego i just directly reality check with truth and walk away. I've taken my power back. Its too bad I need his rent money right now, or I'd make him leave.
P.s. I stopped doing the dishes since i do all the cooking, so now when he wakes up, he automatically does the dishes and sweeps the floor before he goes to work, lol.
🥳 Congratulations on standing up to him by throwing the truth at him! In fact, you must have hit a nerve becuz you've even got him doing the dishes before he leaves for work!😏
Thank you for sharing. It's encouraging to see that it CAN be done!
@cindys.9688 Awwwh thank you so much for your support in saying so. It means so much ! Yes, it can be done ! Standing up to a bully corrects the power imbalance. We must be sure we stick with truth in an assertive way, not cross the line or become abusive like them.
I am so isolated here, he thought he could get away with anything, and I just got so fed up of listening to his nonsense. He kept saying and acting like I'd be nothing without him, meanwhile, it's my house and my life savings he spent so wrecklessly by betraying my trust, so I made sure I pointed out that betrayal ! Reality check ! ✔️Also, setting boundaries in place !
Biess you sweetheart ! 🥰
Also, thank you, and Bless you Danish and everyone here ! Don't bother arguing with them, just hold and voice your truth with your head up high ! (Then walk away if you need to and do something for yourself)! Sending Love and Light and Strength to you all ⚡️💞🌟🎶🐾🌿🙏🏼😇🌈🕊💫
Sounds like my situation. I can't afford rent or moving expenses, so I stay. But I have carved another part of the house for me and that's where I spend most of the day. I have my little activities that I do, then I leave him alone. Sending love and warmth - - - we will make it, just one step at a time. I have hope now, but didn't before watching these validating videos. It's easier to deal with when we know what's actually going on instead of thinking it's us.
@jacquelinemarie1078 yes of course, i agree; also not having false hope for them, which is so energy draining. Best to keep that energy and put it into faith for ourselves. Thank you so much for all your encouragement and lovingkindness. Gratitude beyond words. Sending Love and Light to you, also. Bless you ! 🌞💞🎶🙏🏼😇🕊💫
My narc. & I had a musical relationship. He popped in & out of my life many times over the course of 3 decades. Over that time I joined and started new musical projects every time he disappeared. Each time I started a new musical project without him, he reinjected himself into my life. In the last decade of our friendship, I got really tired of his loose & inconsistent commitment and he knew that. So he decided to try and beat me at that game by telling me how bored and tired he was of me. Oddly he fed me this line of "I'll never abandon you" while he did just that, projecting his fear of abandonment onto me, when I had endured it many times in our relationship and moved on without issue. He knew by my actions that I didn't need him so he waited for the perfect time to exact his revenge when it would sting the most. Since we parted he has enjoyed a band and many original songs that wouldn't exist without my commitment. I'm sure he's trying to emulate my groundedness but the truth is he needs someone grounded like me, without it he's pure chaos. I'm so happy to be off that crazy train.
Yes, this speech is more to make ones anger come to light and not keep suppressed inside.
These are the things I would like to say to my narcissistic sister.
Release this anger.
It is good.
To give it a voice.
An expression.
To show the pattern.
But if possible, witb the narcissistis.
Do not speak to them. Do not explain yourself to them. Do not engage with them.
Yikes! I'm pretty sure that the narcs I deal with would be totally triggered by all of those! I would like to say some of those things to them, but my gut tells me that I should just continue to remain silent. 🤔🤐
Silence is as loud as a war.
My X at the airport asked me to reconsider the silence was defining.
Seriously, the gut knows what kind of microbe cultures you are warring with. Always listen to your gut.
@@ILoveAstronomy Best analogy ever! 🤣
I would be dead by now if I ever told him that....thank God I left
They know they're not enough. They don't care.
That is my reaction as well. They just don't care. Sometimes I think it's a source of pride that he isn't enough, it's like he is a rebel and is fooling everyone. He once said, I just pretend to be stupid to throw people off - - - But he really is stupid.
Never defend yourself If you are an emotional safe person 🚩🙂🌞
The narcissist is capable of feeling infatuation, but not love. Once that cools off, and inevitably it does, they get bored and lose interest because they don’t enter the love stage like normal people do. They are just going to get bored laboring over you and thats precisely how its going to feel to them. You are like a novel toy that suddenly isn’t novel and they seek a new one. Of course if you damage their ego thats why they will move on. Even if you keep supporting their ego they’re going to want something better, or just different and novel. The narcissist doesn’t care about you, and, why settle for the adorations of just one person when you could get it from many? That is how they think.
So, they will stop giving you attention. They will stop clicking like on your posts, stop texting, stop calling… sometimes they might throw you a scrap here and there while phasing you out just to keep a hook in, but it won’t be much. They won’t fake smiles or try to start conversations with you anymore. They might even slime you with negative remarks to create distance so that your attention won’t continue to annoy them. Basically, the novel appeal of a new toy is gone. That is all you are to the N. They never saw you as a human, an equal, because they don’t have the empathy it takes to see you as that. You were merely something to make N feel good, and when you aren’t needed anymore, thats that.
Additionally I got to know about my narc husband bad ways when I reach out to a private detective MetaspyHub@gmail. com for help he did a perfect work for me I can see everything he’s doing on his device.
What a great video, short, well explained, never seen the idea of explaining "how to do a collapse", I'm 3 years later but I still watch some of those narcissist video when the subject is good... This video I would have really liked to watch it 3 years before. To resume, I have done the #1 to my ex-wife without knowing she was a covert narc, I have begun to see that in our relationship everything was one-sided, we got a religious marriage, she was an SDA, but her actions and words never matched her faith, with time I began to find her past on the Internet, she hid her lesbian past to her faith and even to her family, always playing the victim on everything, even her own family was supposedly evil, she was always doing a silent treatment with her own siblings or nieces for I don't know what stupid reason. When did my boundary limit have broken? It is when I was asking her to do a call a day at my job, "Hey she didn't even have a job," but I was asking her, "too much," after months and months she was doing it like 1-2 times a week, I was not asking too much. A damn call a day...wow the drama, "I'm too strict," "me too I'm like you when you are at work, I do my stuff," with time she was even hiding me her days... I began to talk more with her family to know what she was doing. Oh wow the drama again, silent treatment after silent treatment, after a 2 weeks silent treatment I got enough, I have done the #1 but with witnesses, I sent everything that I was having against her to her family and her pastor and 2-3 years of WhatsApp + the money she spent on my back. Wow the final discard got really fast, I never got a word from her ever again, I was blocked from everywhere and she started a new online Facebook like I never existed, in a dating website she has done a new profile saying in big, "I WANT A TRUE CHRISTIAN." People around her told me that she was doing a depression but my psychologist helped me to know about a "narcissist collapse." Her pastor helped me in the divorce to make her sent back my deceased mother’s ring. (She took 2 years because she refuses to talk to me or my lawyer.) Her family explained to me about my toddler wife and surely that her dad was a narc too. The pastor made her write 2 letters to explain why I'm the evil bad husband and why we need to divorce...(very "clever" to make her be like the good one). I was amazed! In those letters not even a single "valid" reason for a Christian divorce, it was like a kid complaining about 2-3 arguing we got in our couples and that I was now too "strict"... I was so amazed that she could write this and not be ashamed, I will always be thankful to her pastor, those letters really helped me to free myself from her and helped my mind. I have been truly lucky to take precautions to not have kids. (We were both in our 30.) The divorce was again one-sided, thanks to the feminist law, she didn't lose anything when I have lost easily 3 years of salary...but oh well truly lucky to not have got kids, thank Father in Heaven! When I see the world of today and how couple and men struggle, I begin to really think to become a MGTOW. I have co-workers that have lost more than me, their wives were not even cluster-B... From 40 to lose the house in divorce 50-50 and pay for child support because the wife never wanted a stable job... that's the new reality. (Playing the Russian roulette with 70% of a chance for a divorce, no thanks, better to be eunuchs for the sake of a kingdom.) The last update I got from my ex-wife by her family, she is now in Thailand with my family name, she didn't even change her passport after the divorce and live with the money she leeched me. When I see the comments in all Narc Video on UA-cam or TikTok, it is always 80-90% of women who complain against their husband when cluster-B are 50-50... how many of them are in reality cluster-B and doing projections to be an eternal victim? She has done a reddit of victimization against me, I fell on it recently, so funny people answered her that she was a narc. Some statistic says that women are more covert and men more overt...but we never have a good answer to that. If some men are reading my comment, BEWARE of victimization it is a "huge" red flag. Thanks for this video Dr. Danish Bashir.
💬 Thank you for commenting. I like knowing a man's perspective about narcissistic abuse when it was a wife or girlfriend doing the abusing.
Men really do have to watch out. When it's about a partnership it's usually the women talking about the men. Where are the men talking about the women??
I'm a 63F, single, straight, and a Christian. I'll admit, some people use the Christian label for the wrong reasons. They're the ones who make Christians look bad. It's not a label, it's a lifestyle. Shame on those who use it as a worm on a fishing hook.
I hope you've been okay and I hope you've been able to put your ex behind you for a fresh start.
She sounds like "one of those".🙄 Dishonest, plays the blame game, won't admit she's wrong even if her life depended on it.
It scares me as a "single/never married" to see marriages dissolve shortly after the wedding. I like to think I'm a person who can "read the room" so if the vibes are wrong between him and me, the wedding ain't happening.
But what if I miss something? What if "love is blind, deaf, & dumb" and I don't become aware until after we say "I Do"?? What if shortly after I say "I Do" I wanna say "I Don't"?? Truthfully, I'd wanna throw up!
Danish always has the best knowledge and advice. I'm glad he's helped you find comfort, understanding, and answers. We're truly blessed!🥳
Hello and thank you for the videos, lessons and insights. The one time I said " Sorry, but I have different values and a moral compass' .... did not go down well...... stunned silence. Another time I said " well if you are not part of the solution, maybe you are part of the problem".... stunned silence. The phrase 'NO...thank you" also has its merits.
Danish you got this down 100 %. Thank you !
You have a mayor talent to help and use words to describe the hell they put me thru!!
Omg, I enjoy your videos so much 😂 you're awesome! Glad I found you
Excellent! Oh to be brave enough to say this to him & not be manipulated back to square 1 again ! Someday...someday!
I've said it all to narcissists I've encountered, phrased a little differently but have mentioned all three.
Waiting for every episode ❤❤❤
Do you think a narcissist would go to psychologic counseling just when they have no alternative?
If people don't value us, then instill fear in them. That is what dad did and ex did.
No, thats not what you do, you just leave for good. You deserve better
Great sir i hav being telling all three but they don't care ....
This is helpful, Specially the second point is so so good, Thanks for sharing this
This video is awesome! The quotes shared are really powerful and useful for talking to a narcissist. The way you analyze the psychology and the solution tips are really practical and easy to apply. Thank you for helping us understand this issue better!
Have you ever used similar quotes to talk to a narcissist? How effective was it? Share it for everyone to learn!
I have to say this to you . I feel like you were living under my bed . Whatever you saying here . Exactly what I was been through . You are not exaggerating at all ! I know so much from your channel to learn how to deal with it .
Why deal with it, don’t settle with this person, you deserve to be free, make that choice before you spend your whole life in misery
@ well I finally can’t take it anymore . I took my leave! There still have time I have to live with it . Can’t just walk away . But thank you 🙏🏼
At the beginning I told him Me and you are not matching your behaviours and my behaviours are different so we need to separate.he became angry and repeat what I told him all day
Hey Danish, make a video on a narcissistic boss who is power hungry, jealous of other more talented people, and insults their subordinates, especially ones they feel insecure around. And how to handle such bosses.
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Said all the Things by accident, it's the Way i feel. And i was wondering why all the Hate showed up and why he's acting so bad and super passive-aggressive. I should be quiet more often, instead of pulling myself right into the warzone, first row.....🤦🏻♀️🤭 Now it's pretty clear why i feel like i do, i told my Friend he looks kinda really dangerous to me and he is so controlled, talking very quiet but i see in his Eyes there's not much left and the Bomb will explode. Thank You Danish ! 😊
among your best work. thank you.
Just like you said,,i went no contact. Its been 3 weeks since my angry texting that he lived. Hes now at the gym with a huge smear campaign the likes ofxwhich i cannot repeat. I havnt seen him in 5 mos and im not even his wife. I may thsnk him in public for building my resume!
Tell them to quit begging,,,they'll know how you mean it!!
Begging,,spiritually,,for your sessence
Thanks a million for the advice, Danish .... 👍👍👍.
All 3 are gold. I'm going to try all of them.
Ooooh that's a good one thank you
Great video. Thank you, Danish!
My narcissistic husband left me back in August. We work at the same job. I got him this job. He has told some of our personal business. I want to quit but i have a good position.
😮💨😮💨😮💨🤏🏾🤏🏾🤏🏾 you clocked it ALL!!
Right now, my husband is gaining so much power and higher designation in office..he also started a coaching busineas and getting many many much attention.....he is trying to be a speaker...and his audacity is he speaks about morales and values...... when he has noneeee!!
He shows himself as if he is women respecting person when actually he is abusser at home... and doesnt care even of the child...
He portrays himself as the most idolist peraon on earth!!
I finds him similar to BIRLA case who was rummning some scam...
But i feel very lonely and tired and waiting to see when will he have his
karma......
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Since 6 years its only me who is suffering and hw is living eveey day of his life like last day........enjoying and im doing every responsibility task if house and child.......
A lie being told is what upsets me but the truth upsets a narc. They try to twist you into thinking and honestly some of the commenters on these videos dont help them twisting that any anger or physical action is bad and means your a narc. They read comments saying how the narc they experienced got angry got physical so they think if you get mad at all your in the wrong which is far feom true. He will gaslight me till i snap then use my reaction as the issue. Sometimes a person deserves a punch in the face 😂. I can't stand lying and I've always liked my word meaning something and if I'm wrong i admit it and do what i can to not make the same mistake. I love helping people and seeing others happy but if im messed with enough I'll put up a fight over being completely walked on. I think many fail to realize there's two type of narcissist the type to rage and the type to cause you to rage from all the manipulation and gaslighting 😢 ifnit werent for certain pages and commenters i would of thought i was the only one and it caused me to stay in the relationship longer thibking i was wrong.... it's why i keep teying to comment so someone won't feel like i did.
My narc ex recently found himself a new supply after I finally went full no contact. It took him about 3 months to realise I was serious. He even tried a last ditch attempt to Hoover me by trying to ruin a relationship that was important to me. It didn’t work so he gave up. I suspect he was in the throes of cultivating his new chick.
She lives right next door to him in the townhouse complex where he lives. She’s 18 years younger than him (he’s 58 and she’s 40. He likes them younger). But I have it on good authority that she’s “not all there” in the brain department. At his age and level of bad health, he could easily charm her and he’s even “suggesting” she dress a certain way and dye her a certain colour. It’s sick and twisted but at least he’s lost interest in me now.
I think she’ll be his last as they are talking about moving in together. I believe she will end up being his nurse when his body finally breaks down. He has high blood pressure, diabetes, and is at the risk of mini strokes and heart attacks as he’s had them at random his whole adult life. He takes medication for everything but like his nursing home bound father, it won’t be long before he’ll need someone to wipe his arse for him and push him around in a wheelchair.
This poor chick is in for a world of hurt.
I agree they need to find a lower class woman or mentally unstable to where she can’t point or address the dysfunction literally I figured he has brain damage and with those kind of people there is no fix possibly therapy & medication but that’s a slim chance he refused to see a doctor or seek any medical check up going into no contact day 7 & my life is getting better ❤️🩹
"You are a selfish person."
That's so true for the narcissistis.😂
Read Proverbs and Jesus' rebuke of the Pharisees. Narcissism(pride) in a nutshell and how to defeat it.
I called the mindfu k out on everything he did, everything. This went on for weeks. Then i hired the best attorney and left without warning. Got a very nice settlement of 51%. There is a life time restraining order to never see or hear that demonic voice EVER AGAIN. 5.5 years of peace and joy. Dont walk, run.
WOW ! Very powerful Danish! There is much to learn, ponder and enforce here! Thank you so much! Sometimes all it takes is a change in strategy to change.....everything. Warrior on all of us Light bearers!! 🙏🙏✝️🙏🙏❤️🫂🕯️💪🫂🕯️💪...... ALWAYS.
I did the opposite. I told him I know who I am with all my worths. I dont fit in your expectations, so You'd better find someone else to abuse, I dont really care so stop wasting my time dude! After 10 years of abuse. He didnt even know what to say to this.
Rotten fruit falls by itself!
Christine Albright
Thank you🙏...
😮I would like to find a therapist with focus on narcissisism
I'm done,these are cursed spirits.
When he walks in the front door, evil walks in with him. The demons dance but I ignore the lot of them and go grey rock.
Yeah, they come up with some off the wall stuff sometimes, that is rich the life of the party, they literally leave others dead along the way in many cases. It feels like Resident Evil because the actual threat of death all Covert Narcissists have.
Oh my... evweything u are saying is exactly.....what happpens wveyday with me....and i tell exact answers...as ur saying.....
Yea they have no values, no consciousness.....
If i was not sensitive, i would have said u r not enough. But, if they think i am asking for too much then i can say u are not enough
I called him boring and useless showed him out and said it was about time I said my final goodbyes and closed my door. Adiós. Bare minimum man I called him
Excellent
I am 73 years old and my daughter in law aged 34 is a manipulating liar. My son aged 41 is suffering with anxiety stress anger his mental health is deteriorating . I have to be so humble and quiet and she is enjoying our helplessness
She has epilepsy and has been pampered by her parents and is not homely at all. Harrasess the servanand treats them like slaves. Has no empathy, respect tfor anyone
My son has become like a puppet
Whatever you suggested. He has said and done and insults her. She leaves and goes to her parents house and then sweet talks him but provokes me to a large extent and my son requests me to ignore her. At the slightest correction he is so aggressive with me . I am scared one day he may hit me as he comes right into my face with fists clenched and abusive language.
He was such a decent boy. She us a party animal and met my son at a night club
. We are catholics and she is a Hindu. The flat is mine but she forced him to tell me that if his name is not put as a second name. She will not marry him. They live off me and I am not able to sell and move out because he is not willing to sell and live with her. What should I do. I am in Mumbai, India. 😢
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The last one appeals to me the most lethal for matured npd
😂🤣😂 *they R really cray cray* that....
First they take your physical privacy, then they take your mental privacy, then they take your emotional privacy. You feel hollow inside. Then they tell you how you feel. But I tell you! You are you and you are not their creation! You are who you choose to be! Transparent is not a crime or hopelessness. Hidden in my Heart is the Lord Jesus Christ. No one can overcome Him for He had already overcome this world. I put my trust in Him. I see small victories everyday. Revenge is the Lord's!
Looking at the comments just reminds me of the enablers and narcs I've dealt with. Cowards everywhere.
At the age if 78 i studied PD and relise after 40 year living with a cleaver professional npd who deserted mine rather his owen parental family regards
Danish, these are strong impulses attacking the false self.
But they are strong enough to create collapse? Or just narcistic rage?
Isn't saying anything give them supply?
These statements will kill their ego. But the Narc might retaliate harshly if you say these.
You are so funny.
A good way to collapse a narc husband is to tell him the kids are more important than him 😂
On point as always!
It was fun until it wasnt. How far will they go to maintain their house of cards
Ok thanks alot... but why I'm able to leave him
I'm doing that now..but he doesn't get it
Oef I know ❤
Play damn and be indifferent
Dumb?
@aniagrandprime7630 yep that's right, you play dumb
@@aniagrandprime7630 Autocorrect hats us all.
See any of those statements wouldnt make me upset. Now if he tried to say i wasnt doing enough when im the only one cleaning the house he might get a slipper to the head cause i cater to him like a king so people come on sometimes words are worse than getting a slipper to the head for manipulation. He has had the audacity to say he was the one who cleaned and it was hard for him to do all that when i showed him before and after pics of me cleaning up after him i about threw the ohone in his face cause he never cleans and he was all serious, he will say i should get cameras to prove how he does so much and im lazy after i sat i meex to get a camera to show how he lies. He will after all that say it will trigger me when i see the truth he don't know if i can habdle seeing myself being wrong whwn i know he don't clean and i know me being wrong doesn't upset me and I'm always admitting when im wrong but he doesn't. Its a lot and i wish
Mine ended his life in his collapse
Sad😢
Walk away
Dont say a word to them 😊
Please isko hindi main karein
My narsisict husband tells me tgis all the tims...that im not enough ...then leave me...
Get out of this house...
Everyday...
Sir Npd and paranoid schizophrenia is same
No
Sir unicorns and dragons is the same
The Venn Diagram is just a single circle with two lables.
Too many words. Confusing.
When you think about these sayings, you can consolidate them and use your own words. This is just the essence of phrases that will trigger them into a meltdown.
@naowright9308 I wish it was the essence, which would mean the main ideas upon which I could expand. Generally great content here, so this is my first minor criticism.
Stay Free & Far away
Super. Ty