As an INFP with an ESFJ mom, i gotta say she's a perfect parent. Sure, strict with quite a lot of rules, but caring and always trying to understand me even if we're bit different. Her care for others combined with outgoing personality never ceases to amaze me and is always there for me. She always brings me back to ground with her chores, but she's always there if i need emotional support.
This made me smile. All my life I’ve been an infp; but through growth, I’ve been an esfj for the last 2 years. I’ve read they are they are the perfect balance
I'm as INTP as it gets and ESFJs make me very uncomfortable. I am watching this to confirm my analysis of a large chunk of the people I have to deal with in this world.
Esfj have nothing but sincerity for the wellbeing of others and are kind... how is that such a hard person to deal with in this world? ~ TAKE YOUR COMMENT. FOR INSTANCE ~ WOULD IT BE MUCH HARDER AND MUCH MORE UNCOMFORTABLE FOR THE WORLD TO HAVE TO DEAL WITH SOMEONE WHO OPENLY SPUES THEIR NEGATIVITY OF KIND PEOPLE TO OTHERS OR TO DEAL WITH THE PERSON WHO TRULY ONLY GENUINELY CARES TO CREATE HARMONY WITH OTHERS? I DO KNOW FOR A FACT AN ESFJ WOULD NEVER LEAVE SUCH A NAIVE COMMENT ABOUT ANOTHER PERSONALITY TYPE AIMING TO PUT THEM DOWN. ☆GOOD LUCK WITH YOUR HAPPINESS IN THIS WORLD AND REMEMBER TO WATCH OUT FOR THOSE ESFJ'S♡
Haven't looked up INTP yet, but if you are a good representative of them, I suddenly lost all my appetite. For you show me that INTPs are unsociable, highly critical, unkind and rather rude. You probably are just a non-functional one then? Can't believe an entire group is all about being just quite nasty... And no, I'm not ESFJ.
@@gardenjoy5223 You don't understand how people work! Some personality types mesh really well and other types don't at all. It is very well known that INTPs and ESFJs have a hard time dealing with each other, they all do, it's not just this person here. Every personality type has types they get along with great and other types they have a difficult time with, this is just how it works! It's called compatibility. Ever meet someone that just rubs you the wrong way but you can't explain what it is about them that you don't like? This happens to everyone and it's because they're not compatible with that person. No one is compatible with everyone.
@@stefgodfrey6617 Watch this video on ESFJ compatibility and enlighten yourself. ESFJs and INTPs are not very compatible ua-cam.com/video/DLPQOoASnec/v-deo.html
@@doggydeeds Just because people are less inclined to understand a certain group, doesn't mean they Have to clash. There still is something like common courtesy, the will to understand others and kindness. But now that you mention it: I certainly do not have any appetite for the group of people, that ignore such basic human interaction rules. Has not necessarily to do with compatibility. Most often though with self-centeredness. One can look over the hedge and not with his vicious dog besides him. Besides: this typing isn't gospel truth. It's just a way of trying to Understand oneself and others. Not to smash the door in other people's faces.
My mother is an ESFJ and has the ability to agree with both my point of view and my dad's even if our views are opposite lol She doesn't want to rock the boat ;-)
Wow ! My mother does the same and I resented her for years because I felt like she would betray me in front of my dad. But I guess it’s just her personality
My spouse took the 'real' test and came out as the provider. According to another personality typing, he is choleric. That makes him a hard worker, eager to put in a lot of time to indeed: provide. He is not easily corrected, which is the hardest part of living with him, but he is very loyal indeed, which is very endeering. He actually loves to cook for me, just to make me happy. I myself am the teacher type (ENFJ). We are married for over 30 years and have opened our house to many children in need of fostering. Me being the idealist and coach and him being the realist and provider, making us an excellent team.
I’m an ENTJ, and all the girlfriends I’ve had have been ESFJ. Listening to this sounds like I would hate people like this, but in real life Its different because we complement each other, I think we are attracted to each other
I am ESFP and One of my best friends is ESFJ and the other One is INTJ. Me and my ESFJ friend usually pick on the INTJ o ne. Anyway me and my ESFJ friend are a true match. Both are outgoing and a bit “shallow” and “materialistic” yet she is more mature responsible and realistic and selfless like i am damn selfish sometimes. Anyway i tend to bring out her playful side
Not at all! I'm a fellow ESFJ and the description should not be taken as written word. I fit what they said very well, however I do not like the spotlight. Instead I would rather it be on other people. As a chemical engineer you are helping people in your own way. I have pursued a career in IT, it started off as game developing but I found my career in medicine was something I loved. I've combined the two and am studying Health Information Management Technology. So there is some wiggle room in all this. :)
How am I an ESFJ I don't like a tradition? I'm barely on the extroverted scale. I don't care what random people think about me. I hate hierarchy it's dumb. HOW
You are the second INTP making such an unfriendly remark. So I start to believe I really dislike INTPs, for they display themselves as not understanding (nor willing to), unkind and rejecting others quickly... I don't like them. And no, I'm not ESFJ.
To me, an ENFP, this doesn’t sound like a good reason to dislike ESFJ‘s. What I don’t like about ESFJ‘s is something that has been said about them by some other ENFP‘s on UA-cam. ESFJ tends to be too self centered. As long as everything from a situation is good for them they don’t care about trouble that comes from it for others.I don’t like that the most about this type.
It's not about rules, rather structure. Rules are just tenants people put in place, and they can either make sense or not. We want to have rules that make sense and benefit those around us.
As an INFP with an ESFJ mom, i gotta say she's a perfect parent. Sure, strict with quite a lot of rules, but caring and always trying to understand me even if we're bit different. Her care for others combined with outgoing personality never ceases to amaze me and is always there for me. She always brings me back to ground with her chores, but she's always there if i need emotional support.
This made me smile. All my life I’ve been an infp; but through growth, I’ve been an esfj for the last 2 years. I’ve read they are they are the perfect balance
Now I know what is my personality type is, finally!🙃
I'm as INTP as it gets and ESFJs make me very uncomfortable. I am watching this to confirm my analysis of a large chunk of the people I have to deal with in this world.
Esfj have nothing but sincerity for the wellbeing of others and are kind... how is that such a hard person to deal with in this world?
~ TAKE YOUR COMMENT. FOR INSTANCE ~
WOULD IT BE MUCH HARDER AND MUCH MORE UNCOMFORTABLE FOR THE WORLD TO HAVE TO DEAL WITH SOMEONE WHO OPENLY SPUES THEIR NEGATIVITY OF KIND PEOPLE TO OTHERS OR TO DEAL WITH THE PERSON WHO TRULY ONLY GENUINELY CARES TO CREATE HARMONY WITH OTHERS?
I DO KNOW FOR A FACT AN ESFJ WOULD NEVER LEAVE SUCH A NAIVE COMMENT ABOUT ANOTHER PERSONALITY TYPE AIMING TO PUT THEM DOWN.
☆GOOD LUCK WITH YOUR HAPPINESS IN THIS WORLD AND REMEMBER TO WATCH OUT FOR THOSE ESFJ'S♡
Haven't looked up INTP yet, but if you are a good representative of them, I suddenly lost all my appetite. For you show me that INTPs are unsociable, highly critical, unkind and rather rude. You probably are just a non-functional one then? Can't believe an entire group is all about being just quite nasty... And no, I'm not ESFJ.
@@gardenjoy5223 You don't understand how people work! Some personality types mesh really well and other types don't at all. It is very well known that INTPs and ESFJs have a hard time dealing with each other, they all do, it's not just this person here. Every personality type has types they get along with great and other types they have a difficult time with, this is just how it works! It's called compatibility.
Ever meet someone that just rubs you the wrong way but you can't explain what it is about them that you don't like? This happens to everyone and it's because they're not compatible with that person. No one is compatible with everyone.
@@stefgodfrey6617 Watch this video on ESFJ compatibility and enlighten yourself. ESFJs and INTPs are not very compatible
ua-cam.com/video/DLPQOoASnec/v-deo.html
@@doggydeeds Just because people are less inclined to understand a certain group, doesn't mean they Have to clash. There still is something like common courtesy, the will to understand others and kindness. But now that you mention it: I certainly do not have any appetite for the group of people, that ignore such basic human interaction rules. Has not necessarily to do with compatibility. Most often though with self-centeredness. One can look over the hedge and not with his vicious dog besides him. Besides: this typing isn't gospel truth. It's just a way of trying to Understand oneself and others. Not to smash the door in other people's faces.
My mother is an ESFJ and has the ability to agree with both my point of view and my dad's even if our views are opposite lol She doesn't want to rock the boat ;-)
Wow ! My mother does the same and I resented her for years because I felt like she would betray me in front of my dad. But I guess it’s just her personality
My spouse took the 'real' test and came out as the provider. According to another personality typing, he is choleric. That makes him a hard worker, eager to put in a lot of time to indeed: provide. He is not easily corrected, which is the hardest part of living with him, but he is very loyal indeed, which is very endeering. He actually loves to cook for me, just to make me happy. I myself am the teacher type (ENFJ). We are married for over 30 years and have opened our house to many children in need of fostering. Me being the idealist and coach and him being the realist and provider, making us an excellent team.
I’m an ENTJ, and all the girlfriends I’ve had have been ESFJ. Listening to this sounds like I would hate people like this, but in real life Its different because we complement each other, I think we are attracted to each other
Very true! I’m an ENTJ married to an ESFJ and it works well ✨
Im more intuitive so I contradict the ESFJs, no hatred, I think it's natural.
I am ESFP and One of my best friends is ESFJ and the other One is INTJ. Me and my ESFJ friend usually pick on the INTJ o ne. Anyway me and my ESFJ friend are a true match. Both are outgoing and a bit “shallow” and “materialistic” yet she is more mature responsible and realistic and selfless like i am damn selfish sometimes. Anyway i tend to bring out her playful side
As an esfj...Thanks for sharing
I have moments like this but know for a truth this isn’t my type.
Software develop ESFJ here and sadly you might be right D:
Wow... what an amazing structured video. Best video on UA-cam.
I'm an ESFJ and I'm taking degree in chemical engineering. Have I chosen the wrong career? D:
Not at all! I'm a fellow ESFJ and the description should not be taken as written word. I fit what they said very well, however I do not like the spotlight. Instead I would rather it be on other people.
As a chemical engineer you are helping people in your own way.
I have pursued a career in IT, it started off as game developing but I found my career in medicine was something I loved. I've combined the two and am studying Health Information Management Technology.
So there is some wiggle room in all this. :)
@@Based_Shivers What a coincidence me too!
Shivers But what are you ESFJ-A or T im turbulent
My dad is ESFJ and he is a chemical engineer
Follow your dream❤
Well spoken!
I'm an ISTP personality type and I am also an ESFJ.
That’s my Pops.
Omg you are amazing.
How am I an ESFJ I don't like a tradition? I'm barely on the extroverted scale. I don't care what random people think about me. I hate hierarchy it's dumb. HOW
Sounds like u are more mindful n got stuff together
INTP here the word hierarchy literally translates to a ruling priests class that are viewed as Heroes... I don't like them
Right
You are the second INTP making such an unfriendly remark. So I start to believe I really dislike INTPs, for they display themselves as not understanding (nor willing to), unkind and rejecting others quickly... I don't like them.
And no, I'm not ESFJ.
Im enfp and I dont really like esfj, they tend to follow rules and for me Im like Why..
Because rules are made to be followed? 😅😅😅 unless you wanna create your own rules and think that nobody deserves to go to jail, then yeah sure.. zzz
@Erebus ve exactly
@@dolsemiyano yeah rules that make sense. Rules that are dumb fuck no. N Types we are the kind of person to revolt not u guys
To me, an ENFP, this doesn’t sound like a good reason to dislike ESFJ‘s. What I don’t like about ESFJ‘s is something that has been said about them by some other ENFP‘s on UA-cam. ESFJ tends to be too self centered. As long as everything from a situation is good for them they don’t care about trouble that comes from it for others.I don’t like that the most about this type.
It's not about rules, rather structure. Rules are just tenants people put in place, and they can either make sense or not. We want to have rules that make sense and benefit those around us.
So how is this a bad disorder lol