The meaning of 'Wai' is 'I respect you', either respect elderly (experiences) or respect your quality (fame, skills, good heart, etc). And another circumstance to 'Wai' is to thank someone who did helping you something. It will be useful that you know the meaning behind gestures. You can better apply it in real situations.
What the vid didn't mention was age. Generally I will wai someone obviously older than me as a mark of respect (yes "respect your elders" is still a thing) when meeting them and follow my wife's prompt in other social and business situations. Her being a few months older than me is helpful.
1. True. We have traffic laws but practically pedestrians should always look before crossing. 2. True. 3. It's not that haggling more than 10-15% is not a good etiquette, but we don't use the expression "Best Price" (ราคาดีที่สุด). Asking that, even in Thai, would not sound like you're haggling at all. 4. True 5-6. Shouldn't these be *universal rule* ?? Still, it's not unusual to find Thais who do these. 7. Totally Agree 8. Normally you don't need to "wai" someone who's not in a position that should receive it (e.g. waiters, janitors, bellhops, those who are much younger than you etc.). However, there's nothing wrong if you insist on doing it. They may (or may not) get a little comfortable, but definitely not to the point of causing people to quit companies (sorry but I don't believe that story😂). 9. This is complicated, but mostly true. There are sayings "We would rather lose money or get hurt than to lose face!" 10. Even if it's for good reasons, hearing a honk annoys me. I guess it's in our blood. P.S. I'm a native Thai.
what do you mean by "someone who's not in a position that 'should' receive it" ???????? I have no problem Wai-ing the waiters or people who give me the Wai first as a reciprocal Wai and there is a subtle way to do it like u don't have to put ur hands really high up but just a subtle gesture of putting ur hand together and bowing ur head a little bit will do. whether they are waiters, janitors, bellhops or WHATEVER, it does not mean that they don't deserve a Wai.
@StuartJayRaj Alright, with more context I'm convinced, thanks. @@bookerandavril I mean "someone who you're generally *not required* to wai". NOT "someone who doesn't deserve it". My bad if I didn't phrase it well.
@@bookerandavrilIt is not about 'deserve'. It is not even about respect. It about acknowledgement of position. It is similar to standing when a lady enters the room, a judge enters a court, soldiers saluting higher ranks etc.
Thais and Filipinos are very much alike. As a Filipina, these don’t only apply to Thailand but I think most of Southeast Asia. So if you plan to do a side trip to the Philippines, please keep these reminders with you,too. 😊
A Serious Warning: Never provoke a Thai person’s anger. Unlike in some cultures where arguments end with words, things might escalate differently in Thailand. Thai people are known for their warm smiles and forgiving nature, but if you push their patience to the breaking point, the outcome can be unpredictable. In Thai culture, respect (“kreng jai”) and saving face in public are deeply valued. Crossing this fine line, especially in a public setting, can be a serious misstep. Thai people often say “jai yen” (stay calm) as a way to suppress their emotions, but beneath that calm exterior lies a strength you shouldn’t underestimate. While not everyone in Thailand is trained in Muay Thai, the fighting spirit is ingrained in their nature. More concerning, though, are the spontaneous decisions in the heat of conflict-improvised weapons like knives or even objects from the environment could come into play. In real-life confrontations, unlike movies, there’s no dramatic music as a warning. The scariest moment is the silence before an action so decisive, there’s no time for response. Respect the culture, and you’ll find Thai people to be some of the kindest and most forgiving individuals. But tread carefully if you challenge their boundaries. 😂😂😂
hehe…My uncle was a serviceman in the a Korean War, and spent time in Japan as well. He had a really loud nose-blow and once he blew his nose, a screaming honk, on a bus in Japan. The other passengers applauded. :-)
I'm both a pedestrian and a driver. If there were few cars behind me, I would stop my car every time to let pedestrians cross the crosswalk. As a pedestrian, I would never expect to stop the traffic flow of several hundred people in cars just to let a single person cross. I would wait for a safe space and distance to cross.
Omg i love these! They are so true. And on the side note, vehicles normally take priority on the street, to the extent that some pedestrians would slightly bow or nod as a sign of thanks to drivers while crossing the street 😂
the traffic thing is super helpful, i had no idea. in my original country we stand on our right and curse out anyone that would dare to drive on a red light etc, i will never do that in bangkok now lol, thing makes a lot more sense now after i learnt this
Coming from the States, only living here 18 years, and living those years in a northern district of Bangkok, my credibility might be in question. However, I frequently am forced to visit “downtown”. In any case, here’s my 2 satang …. 1) The elephant in this segment is the word “law”. When it comes to traffic, very few laws are followed and even fewer are enforced. Beyond what you have suggested, whenever possible make use of the “flyovers” and BTS/MRT stations. It also helps to cross with a herd. One person might dent a fender, but a herd could do some serious damage to the vehicle. Plus, if in the middle of the herd, the outsiders could act as airbags! 2) Beach wear, let alone shirtless, will brand one as a dolt. I can understand the mindset of someone coming from a cold, dismal climate. But most people living in hot, sunny climates cover up. Personally, I wear big boy pants, long sleeved shirt, real shoes and a wide brimmed hat. The hat is removed indoors - it’s not a fashion statement. 3) Bargaining in Thailand, for Thais, is almost a social interaction. If done in good faith, and congenially, it’s all in fun. But, when arrogance steps in, it can be insulting. Know your pricing, feel out the vendor, and be polite. Read the room. 4) Never heard the term But, brickflicking is way down on my list of sidewalk hazards. Bangkok’s sidewalks are a death trap. Loose bricks, uneven bricks (wet or otherwise), potholes, and countless other obstacles must be observed. Bangkok sidewalks are not a place to walk with your nose buried in TikTok. 5) Speaking of TikTok, from my observations, Thais are actually the worst when it cones to generating unwanted noise. I have never ridden public transportation without someone talking on the phone, playing games, or perusing social media. I have even enjoyed the soundtracks from many an old crone watching Thai daytime dramas. I see more foreigners using headphones and earbuds. Then there are restaurants and waiting rooms! 6) Due to allergic reactions, and some clown flashing perfume samples in my face, I have had the occasional sneezing fit. I carry tissue and head as much out of sight as the surroundings allow. I will then spend the next 10 minutes trying to fin a bin! I always carry a handkerchief, not for snot, but as a napkin/towel. I’m not one to use the Thai method of drying my hands on my pants. 7) It is, indeed, important to understand that feet and heads hold extreme significance. Don’t point your soles, at anyone. Don’t step on dropped money; it’s considered an insult to the king who’s face is on all money. The head is sacred. Do not touch anyone’s head, not even to pat a cute little child. I’ve seen extreme reactions to innocent pats on the head. 8) I have a friends who, like so many other foreigners, wai just about anything that moves. I’ve tried to beat it out of him, but he continues. My suggestion to foreign visitors is to simply give a little nod/bow in reaction to a stranger’s wai. This would be acceptable to just about anyone They understand you won’t understand. If you become part of the society, the nuances will come. 9) Thais do not handle confrontation, or even criticism, well. In many situations it can become dangerous. This is especially true when one argues because they feel scammed. Scammers are crooks. and like most crooks, they tend to stand together. Often, when one thinks they can intimidate “the punk”, that punk turns into a gang. I always suggest one cuts one’s loses and carry on with the rest of your holiday. In the States, I didn’t put up with anyone’s crap. But here, my wife constantly reminds me “Life is cheap”. There was a case a few years back when an arrogant Thai man was shot dead by a petrol attendant, over a 1 baht discrepancy at the pump. 10) I honk (short beep) to make people aware I am there. I may also honk to wake someone from TikTok because the traffic light went green. But, I never honk as a display of anger. (reread item #9)
all of these just make sense. recently I went to bangkok for three weeks and I subconsciously adapted to the crossing road "rule" after only three days.
I had culture shock when I first came to Thailand from Australia. I didn't realise that what seemed like all the bogans on planet visited Thailand. Things that foreigners in Thailand did included, touched children that they didn't know, crossed the road without looking and not 'negotiating' with car drivers, walked around in public without shirts, turned up Government agencies eg Immigration dressed for the beach, shouted at people, waved their hands around, put their feet up on furniture eg tables, sat with the soles of feet pointing at people, caused people to loose face in public etc I was in a 5 star hotel on the river adjacent to the BTS Saphan Taksin station in Bangkok and a foreigner had their feet on the table in the foyer. People had to eat off the table eg coffee, cake etc. I really don't know what say, it seems that manners, etiquette and polite behavior is something that is no longer valued and applicable outside Thailand (except Japan).
Very informative and thought provoking video, being my second time heading to thailand 1 month before and now for 3. This really helped with a better foundation of the culture.
This is so useful for Thais as well as foreigners. I also think that staying humble and enjoying the city are the best strategy to live peacefully in Bangkok. Pushing other people to the limit like the vdo said or showing off your power may look cool and doable in your country but I really think it’s not worth it at all in Bangkok. You just can’t read the Thai people card. Some may have weapons or really prepare to jump to the fight. Some may have connections. That may twist your stay in Thailand.
i learnt how to cross the roads in Kung Thep. A wai helps. Let the traffic go and when there is a moment step out confidently but without hurry and they will generally slow down but not stop. A smile and an another Wai 🙏
Super thankful for the fact that pedestrian don't have the right of way. I'm currently in Thailand right now and noticed that even if a pedestrian is already in the pedestrian crossing, you can clearly see that vehicles are not slowing down. But in my experience taking Grab bike in Bangkok, Chiang Mai, and Chiang Rai, all the Grab drivers slow down and allow a pedestrian to cross. That has always impressed me. But I also wondered what really is the general mentality regarding traffic laws. So this advice is very practical since I value my life. 💀
As a 47 year resident expat using a handkerchief is common as long as it's used to pat your perspiration. L earning when to Wai is a cultural thing that one learns living in Thailand.
On the whole I found riding a motorcycle easier in Thailand than my home country. Thai’s are more alert and on to it. I found the wai very useful, signifying that I see you and let you go first. I can’t wait to retire there ❤
I queried the point of even having pedestrian crossings here years ago and a Thai told me "your family will get more money if you are killed on a pedestrian crossing" rather than just crossing somewhere randomly..
The difficult thing is to know when to wai back. It depends on the situation. When a kid (for instance my girlfriend's relative) wai at me for the first time we meet it would be rude to not wai back. When I pay at 7 Eleven and the cashier ends with a wai it looks silly to wai back.
I'm Thai. About wai we have 4 type style to wai use in different situations depending on who you wai (wai is the way to show your respect to others ppl ) 1 wai pu yai = use when you are wai someone who elderly than you or someone who have higher statues than you (But if you're having a higher status then elder at work usually elderly will wai you first and you can wai them back use rub wai or wai pu yai) if someone give you wai pu yai you should wai black with rub wai 2 wai puan = use when you wai some one who in the same age of you or to some one you have equally status ( you give and then they gave back) 3 Wai pra(monk) = use with monk when you meet them to show you respect no matter you're elderly more than monk or not cause even king himself he still have to wai pra(monk) 4 Rub wai = use when someone younger than you or have lower status than you wai you and you give it back to say your appreciate theirs respect Lower status is kinda like Customer will get wai pu yai from seller or even president of company cause customer will bring money to you so your company will be success Or student have to wai pu wai to teacher cause they teach you and they are older than you Or employee will wai employer cause employer will give money to you Not in the way that looking down on lower status or something like that but in the way to show you respect to someone who deserves it kinda way We will wai in 5 situations 1 when your seeing eachother first time in the day 2 whan your saying goodbye to eachother in the day 3 when you say your sorry 4 when you say thank you 5 when you wai pra (monk) But now day actually wai now usually use in formal situations such as in schools in temples in meeting or when you first met and didn't know eachother much or when you meet someone who have very high status only. it not so strict anymore now we usually say sawatdee only in normal situations and that is enough. If you're a foreigner it not that serious it kinda cute that you do it no matter it right or wrong but if you mean to stay in Thai for long term it will be more good that you use it properly or else Thai people will think you dum or you are ignorant.
Hi Stuart. cycling is ok out here in the burbs at Phuttamonthon/Salaya. but you have to stay away from the main roads and highways or yes, you will get killed!
Not sure what part of Bangkok these issues apply to but having over 50 years of Thailand experience including having a large Thai family I cannot agree with some of these issues. Feet issues yes; blowing nose yes; loud noise no (try sitting in AIS Serenade room without noise) and wai, Thais do it a lot. Historically, Thais did not argue in public, but this has changed, just go to any Talad and one will see.
No. 11 Never ever interfere in an dispute among Thais or Thai couples as it often leads to loosing face "Siia Naa". We are just guests, not our cup of tea
No honking. Interesting. Back in the 60's and 70's Bangkok was known for all its honking. As soon as a light turned green you could guarantee cars in the back of the line laying on the horn. Usually the taxis. Fast forward some 40 years and I immediately noticed the lack of honking when I returned. Wonder when and how that all changed?
I havent been in Thailand in many years after living there for many years. The 10 rules are completely accurate, but I recall the Thais do something we in the west find appalling or repellent......publicly picking their nose. And they will grow their pinky finger to a longer, sharper point for better and deeper excavation of the nasal passage. Not a bad idea really, just never wanted to see it. Nope, I never got used to public nose picking.
I recently went around Bangkok I have two walking sticks and I'm in my 60s. I never had any trouble crossing the roads. The drivers always let me cross we had a tour guide one day and he said I was always to cross first as thai drivers would stop for me. I after 3 days I was, totally surprised they must respect old disabled people.
Pedestrian crossings are the WORST place to cross because you may actually get a rare driver who DOES stop, but the car behind them are not expecting it and the stopping car will get rear ended. Just cross ANYWHERE else and use the training you got as a five year old on how to cross a road I.e "look right, left, right again, walk and do not run".
1. a) While I agree that you have to be very careful, things have improved a lot recently. After Dr Waralak was mowed down by a motorbike on a pedestrian crossing outside her hospital in 2022, many crossings were repainted and cars are much more likely to stop now. (Also, the killer was ordered to pay 27M baht in damages and the Appeals court this year increased his jail sentence to 10 years.) b) Some crossings now have red flags in a pouch on a pole on each side, so you can grab a red flag and wave it at the traffic when you are crossing the road. c) I've also noticed that if I step out into the road at a big crossing (when the nearest vehicle is still far enough away that I can avoid being hit even if it doesn't stop), I might have a dozen Thais follow my lead! At that point, the cars have to stop for the sea of pedestrians. 9. The hardest thing is how to deal with someone who is ripping you off. If someone, for example, overcharges you, they are going to lose face when you point it out. It's intrinsically embarrassing to have your criminal behaviour exposed, but the choice is to let them get away with it. 10. I've noticed one exception. Buses. I've heard them honk other drivers quite a bit. I'm not sure if they are just claiming special privilege because they are bigger, or if the thinking is that they have passengers on board and that makes them more important than the idiot they are honking losing face.
Number ten rules are critical; I am not joking or bluffing. If you do not wish to experience issues or negative happenings. Do not beep your horn unnecessarily.
I’m sure years ago Thai drivers would honk the horn to let the car next to them know, there passing. But I can’t remember hearing this in the last few years
I’m interested in your description of the many types of Thai smiles. Could you please point out where we can find out more about Thai smiles types. I’m married to a Thai, been student of Thai for 3 years and interested in the language.
Bricflicked😂, I've always looked at loose bricks and all the raised thresholds as drunk traps and have kept an eye out for them 😅. The fee times I have been flicked were during sogkran, so maybe a little less festered. 😊
I am Thai, and I agree with your rules, especially about not walking around shirtless. I often see foreigners walking shirtless in the Sukhumvit area, which is a very urban part of the city. It makes me wonder what kind of family environment they grew up in. Also, making loud and annoying noises in public is another issue. Of course, some Thai people can be loud, especially when in groups, but it’s much less common. These days, when I take the BTS (Skytrain), I often encounter tourists engaging in these behaviors. Every time I have to use the BTS, it feels like a kind of burden. I always pray in my mind "The tourist please be kind to me because I'm sick of it".
This has happened quite a few times: Thai parents will encourage their kids, especially very young ones, to wai adults around, including Uncle (me). Other adult Thais will wai back playfully, like 'how lovely'. I always go along, but feel a bit awkward knowing the rules as you laid-out. Any thoughts? Good video, thanks!
When you're with kids, it's a usual thing to coach them when they meet people to say หวัดดีรึยัง ? - 'Have you sawatdee'd yet?' - and then often, you will do the behaviour you want them to mimmic - so here it's fine when teaching the kids. In general though - say i go to a school and the kids wai me, i would รับไหว้ 'receive the wai' with a nod and smile and maybe say 'khrap' or sawatdee back with a gesture. Llike i mentioned in the clip though - Wai'ing is an art - especially when and when not to.
Actually when someone (who are normally younger than you) wai you, you suppose to rub wai รับไหว้ which is basically wai but the hands are at around the chest with little nodding, this is what I was taught in the school since I was young. You suppose to wai a person who are older than you and they should rub wai you. ( there are 3 level of wai which I won’t mention here because it gonna be too long) Wai is a formal thing the same as shake hand in the west, people who don’t know each other don’t wai the same as you don’t randomly shake hand to some stranger on the street. But now the companies make service staffs, receptionists, waiters, cashier staffs etc. wai the customers, to promote Thai culture to foreign tourists? Which I find it’s weird and it’s kinda awkward, imagine the older staff have to wai to younger costumers which is so wrong because the older shouldn’t wai the younger person first except they are the boss or have higher rank/position or that wai is for saying thank you, not for the greeting. Anyway after many years people come to the conclusion that we don’t wai back to any service staffs.
@@vassanab4243 Thank you so much for your detailed reply. Along with Stuart Jay Raj's reply I now have a better understanding of how to handle that situation. I have always used the รับไหว้ technique when in the situation described (not the same as when encountering free-range kiddos), so I appreciate knowing that I am not entirely wrong about it. Similar to when I go to Foodland and the checkout clerk wais to me while I'm in the middle of unloading groceries, I give a half-wai or just a nod and smile. We learn to copy what people around us are doing, but that is not always the most appropriate response. Learning continues...
I grew up in Russia 1. Dangerous road traffic and not enough overhead crossings or crossings with traffic lights is one of the main downsides of Thailand for me, but downtown Bangkok is relatively OK, there are skywalks, BTS stations etc. 2. Couldn't care less either way about barechested people 3. I hate haggling, I think every price should be fair and final, just don't make me engage in any dialogue 4. I was spared from brickflicks so far 5. Keeping the noise down should be a universal rule, one of the reasons I love Japan 6. Worse than blowing into a handkerchief is when people just spit on the ground. Unfortunately very common where I come from 7. I never had any need to put my feet up. Is it that comfortable? 8. Never once wai-ed anyone during my more than 10 visits to Thailand. I just say 'Thank you' 9. Trying to save another person's face should be a universal rule. Unfortunately in Russia nobody cares for saved faces. It is even customary that when you feel wronged you have to call out the person responsible, perhaps make a big scene, especially at supermarkets, restaurants, taxis, planes etc. And it also caused some nasty incidents that made the news 10. No horns is a very good rule. I hate when drivers honk their horns to greet somebody or because the traffic is slower than they want. In Central Asia in a traffic jam everyone just honks their horn. Why? It will not make the traffic jam disappers. Traffic rules say that you should only honk to avoid an accident
It would be interesting to learn about some of the differences between Southeast/East Asian cultures for those of us who travel around crossing borders etc. Many of things apply across most Asian countries I've spent time in with mainland China being the exception to most of them and using the car horn being the exception in Vietnam, where it's used continuously at least by truck drivers. Many other differences are subtle and you don't notice them straight away. (South Asia is a totally different world though.)
All bang on. Another thing (if driving). I'm not 100%, maybe someone can confirm, but there is NO ROAD RULE that states you must pass on the right (if driving on left hand side). You can overtake on either side. That's a big difference. On a lot of roads that would seem like "motorways", they have u turns from the fast lane. That's very different (and dangerous if you don't know) from the "west" Cheers
I am curious, why are you choosing to teach Korean along with Thai and Chinese in your Mindkraft program for the kids? I love the Korean language and I am actively studying it and I am wondering why you chose it specifically in your course.
purely from understanding fundamentals of 1. articulation, 2. using an abugida, 3. getting core strokes that can then transpose across to kanji brush strokes
@@StuartJayRaj Hangul is an abugida? I can read Korean more easily than Thai and I always think of Korean as its own thing or as an alphabet with its own quirks. I think Koreans consider it an alphabet and teach it as an alphabet.
I think most of these tips are common courtesy, but will help people remember what not to do. I can't stand seeing men not wearing shirts and I live in a hot climate too. Women wearing bikinis is worse though. I've seen plenty of Thai men blow their nose in public, so that may be a situational thing. I do not wai anyone because I don't do things that I do not understand. I'm not a Buddhist and I know that you have to raise your palms higher depending on who the wai is for. I just greet verbally and it has been working out.
that's fine done politely.. but best I think is to know the price and make an offer to show you're respecting what you know the price is and giving them space for a bit of profit. Always good to do in a fun spirit too
@@StuartJayRajSome cultures are offended, if I don't try to bargain. They enjoy bargaining and I dislike it a lot. I don't see the point to bargain about one dollar more or less. I don't mind paying a higher fee or more for a service. My limit is when I suspect that I am being ripped.
Another unspoken rule is: don't assume it's ok the get involved in small crime. There is no small crime in Thailand - only big crime. You will be punished and the punishment is severe. I've seen foreigners taking candy out of 7-11 without paying. They don't realize what they are risking. It's so stupid.
You didn't need to do an accent for me to know that "Give me your best price," is an Indian thing. I used to sell via classified ads in the UK and those were the first words out of the mouth of every Indian that called.
Reminds me of an incident that I witnessed in the former Pantip plaza where an indian customer was kicked out by the thai shop owner who was fed-up with endless bargaining...
It's very much an Israeli thing too. I learned how to haggle like a local in Mexico but haggling in Asia is different and I never learned how to do it properly. But I'm usually not in tourist areas so it doesn't matter. But at home in Australia we rarely do it so when I was working in hospitality in Australia I was surprised when Israeli tourists often asked for a discount. Then again you can sometimes get a discount at accommodation if you ask, if you arrive late and pay directly rather than through an app, or if you stay more than a day and don't want your room serviced before you leave. Haggling seems to be something to learn about in each country, a bit like tipping maybe.
i have wai'ed at everyone before, i still tend to wai the doorman at the hotel and the receptionist and so on, its kinda automatic, , it never did get me into any trouble, but i can see that in this culture it is discruptive. my wife told me for years not to do it, now i see more why! ill still wai my moterh in law i think, and monks!
Adding to Stuart's comments about negotiating price... DO NOT negotiate with a Thai and then when they agree to your offered price say "Oh I don't really want it anyway."... and you walk away. There is one nationality that is notorious for doing this and Thais hate it with a passion. (And who can blame them?) Anybody want to suggest what that nationality is?
As a Thai people, I won't complain much unless it's on the point of unaceptable but I'll give suggestions to the things they should improve; as polite as I could btw. As for me I think it's a manner that it would be good if we don't make other lose their feeling; if they don't do that to me first. And if I give suggestions and they won't improve I'll just don't go to their place anymore. And sorry if my English is bad btw.
@@ranrun7492 Regarding "make other lose their feeling", I don't know why it's ok for them to make me lose my feeling, due to them taking my money while not doing what was agreed upon.
Great video! Being. a fan since many years and even have a copy your book!! So here comes my question: While watching the video and you talking about the wai, Is there an alternative for a wai? I mean what do people do, if they are physically not able to wai? For example, broken arms or being severely disabled. is it acceptable to nod the head or close the eyes? Do you have any idea or recommendation about what to do?
If you have broken arms, or your arms are full, even a gesture to doing a wai is acceptable - intent is the main thing here. IF however you went out of your way to put things down and then wai'd, you'd get extra cred in whoever's books you were wai'ing.
Nod is fine, do not wink. The meaning of 'Wai' is 'I respect you', either respect elderly (experiences) or respect your quality (fame, skills, good heart, etc). And another circumstance to 'Wai' is to thank someone who did helping you something.
I really question number five. I hate this kind of behavior, but Thais are very good at it as well and it is one of the things that are quite puzzling for me, since it doesn’t really fit in the whole scheme of เกรงใจ IMO. Music, tiktok, radio, monks preaching- I have seen (and heard it) all and they do not seem to care even a little bit. I have also seen this in all kinds of situations. Many Thais don’t even seem to care about others sleeping. Admittedly it’s congruent with attaching the loudest exhaustion pipe available on the market to your motorbike or tuk tuk, and letting it roar at 2:30am though. Edit: Since I moved here I also curbed the wai-ing a lot, but it’s not really tragical if you over-do it as ฝรั่ง and you will probably not end up making things uncomfortable for anyone. I can’t speak about corporate world, but Thais wai a lot in daily life. My friends and me will do everytime coming and leaving to everyone regardless of status and sometimes even follow up with a Western greeting and a handshake. Maybe it’s also a generational thing, since my friends are around 30. Admittedly I cringe at witnessing friends coming here for holidays and wai-ing their way through the country, but on the other hand it is the result of how Thailand and Thais are portrayed to them. I also curbed my ขอบคุณครับ a lot and usually go for ครับผม depending on the situation and the amount of thankfulness I feel . 😂
The loud exhaust pipe is a true annoying case. Those people doing that had been cursed and may live not long if it happen every night. Some loud noise sources are from occasional events or ceremonies, neighborhood people can allowed it for a certain of period. Anyway, the repetitive annoyance behavior can be raised to ligitimacy. The meaning of 'Wai' is 'I respect you', either respect elderly (experiences) or respect your quality (fame, skills, good heart, etc). And another circumstance to 'Wai' is to thank someone who did helping you something. It will be useful that you (and friends) know the meaning behind gestures. You can better apply it in real situations
I will help answer as a Thai and a Bangkok resident. Yes, those who engage in the behaviors you mentioned do not adhere to the concept of krengjai at all. I might sound politically incorrect, but the “Thai values,” which consist of many unspoken rules, are so subtle that even some Thai people who are not very “cultured” struggle to fully grasp the concept. I’m not that old, but I’ve noticed that over the last 10-15 years, the media (including social media) has been pushing “unsophisticated” content-some of it straight-up garbage-and forcing it down our throats. That might be the reasons why some of these concepts seem to be so “foreign” even to some Thais? Ironically, they still crave respect, dignity, and recognition, yet fail to realize that these things must be earned, not freely given.
I never felt comfortable doing the wai here so I hardly ever do it and sometimes worry I should be doing it sometimes. But my American friend now living up in Vientiane does it all the time to everybody and that also makes me uncomfortable. In Laos they use the "nop" a lot less than Thais use the wai. I wonder what the cultural differences are. In Cambodia the "sompiah" is much rarer again.
Number 6 is really interesting. Multiple times here I've been sitting next to a Thai person that was just constantly loudly sniffing in clearly blocked noses. I've offered tissues and they were always rejected. I thought it was disgusting but obviously they thought I was the same for using tissues instead. Hilarious culture difference.
rest i can ignore but the hooking part is a must especially with disregard of the law motorcyclists which drive in all directions or swerving in & out of traffic especially on busy road - the point here is if you don't honk at them its either an accident or death on the road which i rather avoid than not honk - example a motorcyclist cutting into your path which he not supposed to yet driving on without care expecting his oncoming traffic to give away which is what see daily on roads down here & accidents is a norm so don't honk?
1, Interesting top 10. I would like to comment that I agree with most of the unspoken rules you talk about, however a couple came to me across as the opposite of what I have experienced in my 7 years living in Thailand. I don't agree with 2, 6 nor 7. I had a lapse of curiosity of whether you were describing behaviors in Thai society in an alternate reality. I often see Thais without shirts and actually just in their boxer underwear or toweled up as if they were going or coming from a shower sitting unbothered next to the road in front of their homes. Also, the mucus and fingers seem to have a romance. Frequently I notice people picking their nose while playing on their phone and oblivious to the moment, just scraping like there's no one watching (or as if it were as normal as rubbing their fingers on their chin while thinking) And lastly, mostly Thai society seems to not be bothered by the display of feet so unapologetically in any direction. Whichever situation a Thai may be in could be a reason to take off their shoes. To sit down to eat, off. To walk drive, off. Office, off. Lay in the bed of a truck, off and facing the back of the traffic. Win, waiting for a customer, off and up on the motorbike handlebars facing the sidewalk. These unspoken rules may be in theory expected to be general expectations, but in practice any society as carefree as Thais would be unfazed of how they may be seen. Though, this might just be an unfair comment based on my experience in communities with lower education in Samut Prakan and Chon Buri.
note that I'm talking about 'Bangkok' here and there is certain accepted 'Bangkokian' behaviour that to stray from it may suggest otherwise. Also, I'm speaking about your general Middle Class bangkok expectations - and so you do get many demographics, but for foreigners in Thailand, IF you are in Bangkok and want to know what's expected by Middle Class Native Bangkok, I think what I mentioned are pretty close to reality . Doesn't mean that people will always follow it, but it's what's expected.
Ten Essential Unspoken Rules for Foreigners in Bangkok Respect Traffic Rules for Pedestrians: Pedestrians do not have the right of way in Bangkok. Always stay alert when crossing streets and follow traffic signals carefully. Dress Modestly: Walking around shirtless is considered inappropriate. Respect local customs by wearing proper attire, even in casual settings. Master Bargaining Etiquette: Avoid asking for the "best price" outright. Offer a polite, reasonable counteroffer (no more than 10-15% off the listed price) to maintain respect for vendors. Avoid Loud Public Behavior: Playing loud sounds or taking speakerphone calls in public is frowned upon. Use headphones to respect others’ space. Be Mindful of Cultural Sensitivities: Do not show the soles of your feet, as this is considered highly disrespectful. Keep your feet off public furniture and avoid pointing them at people. Understand the "Wai" Greeting: Learn when and how to greet with a wai, a traditional gesture of respect. It reflects an understanding of Thai social hierarchy. Avoid Public Confrontations: Maintaining harmony is crucial in Thailand. Avoid heated arguments or confrontations that might cause someone to "lose face." Exercise Caution with Defamation: Defamation, even if truthful, is taken seriously and can lead to severe consequences. Avoid making public accusations. Navigate Rainy Season Hazards: Watch out for "brick flicks," where stepping on a loose pavement brick can splash dirty water. Wear waterproof shoes during the rainy season. Avoid Road Rage and Honking: Aggressive driving or honking can provoke strong reactions. Stay calm and patient in traffic to avoid unnecessary confrontations. By following these unspoken rules, foreigners can better integrate into Bangkok's cultural landscape, fostering positive interactions and enhancing their overall experience in Thailand.
To deal with your first point that pedestrians don't have right of way in Thailand, they don't in the UK either and many other places, in general, but in the UK and other places, as soon as a pedestrian steps onto a zebra crossing the approaching traffic must stop and in this case, the pedestrian has right of way. The logic behind the pedestrian (zebra) crossing says that such crossing allows the public to cross the road safely. Your final remark under this heading at around 3:00 that putting your hand out to suggest to the oncoming traffic to stop and let you cross the road, perhaps at a marked crossing, is a death wish, because the driver might take it as a challenge, should make one wonder how an average person weighing 200 lbs moving at a modest clip could challenge an average car weighing 4000 lbs moving at 20 kilometres an hour or more, shouldn't it? Is a man driving a 4000 lb machine at speed challenged by a man of 200 lbs on foot and walking at a modest pace? What kind of a man would that be? Maybe a man with a Buddhist heart. How about it?
I told a farang friend not to wai the waitress explaining why, but he replied that, although he knew that the Thai didn't do that, he will continue to do so because it is right to do so. Read: I am civilised and I treat "inferior" people with all the courtesy they deserve. It's like saying: I teach you the education. Isn't it the most rude (and I would say colonialist) thing to do?
yeah. .. it's that attitude that led me to include it in this clip. it doesn't mean don't respect or don't wai anyone... it just means that IF you really want to be respectful, then spend time learning the protocols and emulate them too. Not mandatory, but would be appreciated
Interesting interpretation. I can understand it. Do you know for sure that he was assuming infallibility about his way of doing things, or you do think he might have also been inviting you to challenge his opinion? Either way, rude or not, was he wrong? What do you think about his opinion on wai?
It's their resident area, that's fine and neighboring people familiar to it. It's different when seeing someone without tops go shopping or walk around the city making uncomfortable to local people eyes. It means disrespectful.
THANK YOU ,The word. " Footpath" 99.99% of Thai people never know this word ,all of them called ฟุตบาท ฟุต=foot บาทmean เท้า ฟุตบาท= เท้าไทย+ เท้าฝรั่ง😮😮😮 thank you.😊😊
I too hate the no shirt thing. The image in your video was very generous, the reality is it is often big fat white men with no shirts squeezing through the isle in 7-eleven. I have no idea why people leave their manners & respect at home when they travel.
You forgot to mention PDA. Holding hands with your lover is about the limit, anything beyond that will attract disapproving looks, swapping spit will elicit disgust. Thais are actually quite prudish, despite the country's reputation as a sex destination.
Respect is a 2 way street.I respect the people but I will not bow. Thai people feel pain ,bleed, and experience fear like anyone else.I never had a problem because I am respectful.I expect the same from others.
No. 8 is great and so right. We westerners are not part of the Asian class system. So the only persons that should be wai'ed are monks and then do not say "sawadi" but "namasakan" , please!!!
After 16 years here ,all of these on the list resonated powerfully with me .
After being there for the last 20 years a lot of what you say is false
The meaning of 'Wai' is 'I respect you', either respect elderly (experiences) or respect your quality (fame, skills, good heart, etc). And another circumstance to 'Wai' is to thank someone who did helping you something. It will be useful that you know the meaning behind gestures. You can better apply it in real situations.
I cringe every time I see a foreigner wai a bar girl, even more so because the bar girls rarely, if ever, wai foreigners.
That's a bit of a stretch. You don't wai everyone who has helped you. It's much more about status than about helping anyone.
What the vid didn't mention was age.
Generally I will wai someone obviously older than me as a mark of respect (yes "respect your elders" is still a thing) when meeting them and follow my wife's prompt in other social and business situations. Her being a few months older than me is helpful.
@@somluck2813ผู้หญิงที่ทำงานบาร์ส่วนใหญ่ไม่ค่อยมีคนไทยแล้วไทยแล้วเดี๋ยวนี้คนไทยทำงานแบบนี้แทบจะไม่ถึงแทบจะไม่มีแล้วเพราะว่าอัตราการเกิดของประเทศไทยหลายปีอัตราการเกิดต่ำมากข้าจะไปถามเขมรลาวพม่าถ้าผ่านเขาก็บอกว่าเป็นคนไทยเขาบอกว่าเป็นคนไทยแต่ในความเป็นจริงแล้วคนไทยแทบจะไม่มีแล้วนะ
You wai first up, not down for any reason
1. True. We have traffic laws but practically pedestrians should always look before crossing.
2. True.
3. It's not that haggling more than 10-15% is not a good etiquette, but we don't use the expression "Best Price" (ราคาดีที่สุด). Asking that, even in Thai, would not sound like you're haggling at all.
4. True
5-6. Shouldn't these be *universal rule* ?? Still, it's not unusual to find Thais who do these.
7. Totally Agree
8. Normally you don't need to "wai" someone who's not in a position that should receive it (e.g. waiters, janitors, bellhops, those who are much younger than you etc.). However, there's nothing wrong if you insist on doing it. They may (or may not) get a little comfortable, but definitely not to the point of causing people to quit companies (sorry but I don't believe that story😂).
9. This is complicated, but mostly true. There are sayings "We would rather lose money or get hurt than to lose face!"
10. Even if it's for good reasons, hearing a honk annoys me. I guess it's in our blood.
P.S. I'm a native Thai.
เรื่องแม่บ้านเป็นเรื่องจริงครับเนื่องจากว่าเจ้าของบริษัทซึ่งเป็นฝรั่งแก่ๆทับแม่บ้านคนเดียวจากแม่บ้าน 6 คนทุกวันเราก็ไหว้แม่บ้านคนนั้นเช้าเย็นทุกวันจนแม่บ้านคนอื่นเริ่มเอะใจว่าเฮ้ยทำไมถึงมีการทักทายแบบพิเศษจากเจ้านาย นินทากันทั้งออฟฟิศจนอยู่ไม่ไหว
what do you mean by "someone who's not in a position that 'should' receive it" ???????? I have no problem Wai-ing the waiters or people who give me the Wai first as a reciprocal Wai and there is a subtle way to do it like u don't have to put ur hands really high up but just a subtle gesture of putting ur hand together and bowing ur head a little bit will do. whether they are waiters, janitors, bellhops or WHATEVER, it does not mean that they don't deserve a Wai.
@StuartJayRaj Alright, with more context I'm convinced, thanks.
@@bookerandavril I mean "someone who you're generally *not required* to wai".
NOT "someone who doesn't deserve it". My bad if I didn't phrase it well.
@@bookerandavrilIt is not about 'deserve'. It is not even about respect. It about acknowledgement of position. It is similar to standing when a lady enters the room, a judge enters a court, soldiers saluting higher ranks etc.
Native Thai here.
I Wai people who did any sorts of service for me e.g waiters/waitress or cashiers all the time.
But not everybody of course.
Thais and Filipinos are very much alike. As a Filipina, these don’t only apply to Thailand but I think most of Southeast Asia. So if you plan to do a side trip to the Philippines, please keep these reminders with you,too. 😊
A Serious Warning: Never provoke a Thai person’s anger. Unlike in some cultures where arguments end with words, things might escalate differently in Thailand. Thai people are known for their warm smiles and forgiving nature, but if you push their patience to the breaking point, the outcome can be unpredictable.
In Thai culture, respect (“kreng jai”) and saving face in public are deeply valued. Crossing this fine line, especially in a public setting, can be a serious misstep. Thai people often say “jai yen” (stay calm) as a way to suppress their emotions, but beneath that calm exterior lies a strength you shouldn’t underestimate.
While not everyone in Thailand is trained in Muay Thai, the fighting spirit is ingrained in their nature. More concerning, though, are the spontaneous decisions in the heat of conflict-improvised weapons like knives or even objects from the environment could come into play. In real-life confrontations, unlike movies, there’s no dramatic music as a warning. The scariest moment is the silence before an action so decisive, there’s no time for response.
Respect the culture, and you’ll find Thai people to be some of the kindest and most forgiving individuals. But tread carefully if you challenge their boundaries.
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true . and also remember that majority of "Thai man" will not fight one on one , but often three or more versus one
Lol
Patience always has a limit doesn't it? How much patience is in play with Thais?
hehe…My uncle was a serviceman in the a Korean War, and spent time in Japan as well. He had a really loud nose-blow and once he blew his nose, a screaming honk, on a bus in Japan. The other passengers applauded. :-)
I'm both a pedestrian and a driver. If there were few cars behind me, I would stop my car every time to let pedestrians cross the crosswalk. As a pedestrian, I would never expect to stop the traffic flow of several hundred people in cars just to let a single person cross. I would wait for a safe space and distance to cross.
Omg i love these! They are so true. And on the side note, vehicles normally take priority on the street, to the extent that some pedestrians would slightly bow or nod as a sign of thanks to drivers while crossing the street 😂
the traffic thing is super helpful, i had no idea. in my original country we stand on our right and curse out anyone that would dare to drive on a red light etc, i will never do that in bangkok now lol, thing makes a lot more sense now after i learnt this
Coming from the States, only living here 18 years, and living those years in a northern district of Bangkok, my credibility might be in question. However, I frequently am forced to visit “downtown”.
In any case, here’s my 2 satang ….
1) The elephant in this segment is the word “law”. When it comes to traffic, very few laws are followed and even fewer are enforced.
Beyond what you have suggested, whenever possible make use of the “flyovers” and BTS/MRT stations. It also helps to cross with a herd. One person might dent a fender, but a herd could do some serious damage to the vehicle. Plus, if in the middle of the herd, the outsiders could act as airbags!
2) Beach wear, let alone shirtless, will brand one as a dolt. I can understand the mindset of someone coming from a cold, dismal climate. But most people living in hot, sunny climates cover up. Personally, I wear big boy pants, long sleeved shirt, real shoes and a wide brimmed hat. The hat is removed indoors - it’s not a fashion statement.
3) Bargaining in Thailand, for Thais, is almost a social interaction. If done in good faith, and congenially, it’s all in fun. But, when arrogance steps in, it can be insulting. Know your pricing, feel out the vendor, and be polite. Read the room.
4) Never heard the term But, brickflicking is way down on my list of sidewalk hazards. Bangkok’s sidewalks are a death trap. Loose bricks, uneven bricks (wet or otherwise), potholes, and countless other obstacles must be observed. Bangkok sidewalks are not a place to walk with your nose buried in TikTok.
5) Speaking of TikTok, from my observations, Thais are actually the worst when it cones to generating unwanted noise. I have never ridden public transportation without someone talking on the phone, playing games, or perusing social media. I have even enjoyed the soundtracks from many an old crone watching Thai daytime dramas. I see more foreigners using headphones and earbuds.
Then there are restaurants and waiting rooms!
6) Due to allergic reactions, and some clown flashing perfume samples in my face, I have had the occasional sneezing fit. I carry tissue and head as much out of sight as the surroundings allow. I will then spend the next 10 minutes trying to fin a bin!
I always carry a handkerchief, not for snot, but as a napkin/towel. I’m not one to use the Thai method of drying my hands on my pants.
7) It is, indeed, important to understand that feet and heads hold extreme significance. Don’t point your soles, at anyone. Don’t step on dropped money; it’s considered an insult to the king who’s face is on all money.
The head is sacred. Do not touch anyone’s head, not even to pat a cute little child. I’ve seen extreme reactions to innocent pats on the head.
8) I have a friends who, like so many other foreigners, wai just about anything that moves. I’ve tried to beat it out of him, but he continues. My suggestion to foreign visitors is to simply give a little nod/bow in reaction to a stranger’s wai. This would be acceptable to just about anyone They understand you won’t understand.
If you become part of the society, the nuances will come.
9) Thais do not handle confrontation, or even criticism, well. In many situations it can become dangerous. This is especially true when one argues because they feel scammed. Scammers are crooks. and like most crooks, they tend to stand together. Often, when one thinks they can intimidate “the punk”, that punk turns into a gang. I always suggest one cuts one’s loses and carry on with the rest of your holiday.
In the States, I didn’t put up with anyone’s crap. But here, my wife constantly reminds me “Life is cheap”. There was a case a few years back when an arrogant Thai man was shot dead by a petrol attendant, over a 1 baht discrepancy at the pump.
10) I honk (short beep) to make people aware I am there. I may also honk to wake someone from TikTok because the traffic light went green. But, I never honk as a display of anger. (reread item #9)
all of these just make sense. recently I went to bangkok for three weeks and I subconsciously adapted to the crossing road "rule" after only three days.
I had culture shock when I first came to Thailand from Australia. I didn't realise that what seemed like all the bogans on planet visited Thailand.
Things that foreigners in Thailand did included, touched children that they didn't know, crossed the road without looking and not 'negotiating' with car drivers, walked around in public without shirts, turned up Government agencies eg Immigration dressed for the beach, shouted at people, waved their hands around, put their feet up on furniture eg tables, sat with the soles of feet pointing at people, caused people to loose face in public etc
I was in a 5 star hotel on the river adjacent to the BTS Saphan Taksin station in Bangkok and a foreigner had their feet on the table in the foyer. People had to eat off the table eg coffee, cake etc.
I really don't know what say, it seems that manners, etiquette and polite behavior is something that is no longer valued and applicable outside Thailand (except Japan).
Very informative and thought provoking video, being my second time heading to thailand 1 month before and now for 3. This really helped with a better foundation of the culture.
This is so useful for Thais as well as foreigners.
I also think that staying humble and enjoying the city are the best strategy to live peacefully in Bangkok.
Pushing other people to the limit like the vdo said or showing off your power may look cool and doable in your country but I really think it’s not worth it at all in Bangkok.
You just can’t read the Thai people card. Some may have weapons or really prepare to jump to the fight. Some may have connections. That may twist your stay in Thailand.
Great Video Stu, Thanks! Ill send this to friends before they visit me!
Thank you. Very useful information.
as a native thai, i cannot stand people who do 2. i think its incredibly gross, disgusting and unhygenic to everyone around them. good video!
i learnt how to cross the roads in Kung Thep. A wai helps. Let the traffic go and when there is a moment step out confidently but without hurry and they will generally slow down but not stop. A smile and an another Wai 🙏
Super thankful for the fact that pedestrian don't have the right of way. I'm currently in Thailand right now and noticed that even if a pedestrian is already in the pedestrian crossing, you can clearly see that vehicles are not slowing down. But in my experience taking Grab bike in Bangkok, Chiang Mai, and Chiang Rai, all the Grab drivers slow down and allow a pedestrian to cross. That has always impressed me. But I also wondered what really is the general mentality regarding traffic laws. So this advice is very practical since I value my life. 💀
Great video! I learned something new despite having lived in Bangkok for over a year. Thanks!
As a 47 year resident expat using a handkerchief is common as long as it's used to pat your perspiration. L earning when to Wai is a cultural thing that one learns living in Thailand.
Very good info ! Thanks for the share
On the whole I found riding a motorcycle easier in Thailand than my home country. Thai’s are more alert and on to it. I found the wai very useful, signifying that I see you and let you go first. I can’t wait to retire there ❤
Great summary. You got a new subscriber
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Thank you. Very useful!
Great advice thanks mate.
The Brick Flick! Brilliant stuff mate 🙏🏻
I queried the point of even having pedestrian crossings here years ago and a Thai told me "your family will get more money if you are killed on a pedestrian crossing" rather than just crossing somewhere randomly..
The difficult thing is to know when to wai back. It depends on the situation.
When a kid (for instance my girlfriend's relative) wai at me for the first time we meet it would be rude to not wai back.
When I pay at 7 Eleven and the cashier ends with a wai it looks silly to wai back.
From what I've observed, it's ok (but not necessarily expected either) to wai back at a kid.
learnt a lot here, thanks
I'm Thai. About wai we have 4 type style to wai use in different situations depending on who you wai (wai is the way to show your respect to others ppl )
1 wai pu yai = use when you are wai someone who elderly than you or someone who have higher statues than you (But if you're having a higher status then elder at work usually elderly will wai you first and you can wai them back use rub wai or wai pu yai) if someone give you wai pu yai you should wai black with rub wai
2 wai puan = use when you wai some one who in the same age of you or to some one you have equally status ( you give and then they gave back)
3 Wai pra(monk) = use with monk when you meet them to show you respect no matter you're elderly more than monk or not cause even king himself he still have to wai pra(monk)
4 Rub wai = use when someone younger than you or have lower status than you wai you and you give it back to say your appreciate theirs respect
Lower status is kinda like Customer will get wai pu yai from seller or even president of company cause customer will bring money to you so your company will be success
Or student have to wai pu wai to teacher
cause they teach you and they are older than you Or employee will wai employer cause employer will give money to you
Not in the way that looking down on lower status or something like that but in the way to show you respect to someone who deserves it kinda way
We will wai in 5 situations
1 when your seeing eachother first time in the day
2 whan your saying goodbye to eachother in the day
3 when you say your sorry
4 when you say thank you
5 when you wai pra (monk)
But now day actually wai now usually use in formal situations such as in schools in temples in meeting or when you first met and didn't know eachother much or when you meet someone who have very high status only. it not so strict anymore now we usually say sawatdee only in normal situations and that is enough.
If you're a foreigner it not that serious it kinda cute that you do it no matter it right or wrong but if you mean to stay in Thai for long term it will be more good that you use it properly or else Thai people will think you dum or you are ignorant.
Awesome video Stuart! Thank you. I think we should campaign TAT and THAI to make this watch mandatory before entry to the Kingdom! 😄
Hi Stuart. cycling is ok out here in the burbs at Phuttamonthon/Salaya. but you have to stay away from the main roads and highways or yes, you will get killed!
yeah ... out in the burbs or in gated neighbourhoods okay... but not downtown Sukhumvit 😁
Should you always return a wai ?
Not sure what part of Bangkok these issues apply to but having over 50 years of Thailand experience including having a large Thai family I cannot agree with some of these issues. Feet issues yes; blowing nose yes; loud noise no (try sitting in AIS Serenade room without noise) and wai, Thais do it a lot. Historically, Thais did not argue in public, but this has changed, just go to any Talad and one will see.
Even lately I have seen arguments in public places end up badly. General rule is better to avoid public arguments... especially if you're not Thai.
No. 11 Never ever interfere in an dispute among Thais or Thai couples as it often leads to loosing face "Siia Naa". We are just guests, not our cup of tea
This seems to apply in Japan and Taiwan as well. At least with couples in cities.
No honking. Interesting. Back in the 60's and 70's Bangkok was known for all its honking. As soon as a light turned green you could guarantee cars in the back of the line laying on the horn. Usually the taxis. Fast forward some 40 years and I immediately noticed the lack of honking when I returned. Wonder when and how that all changed?
I havent been in Thailand in many years after living there for many years. The 10 rules are completely accurate, but I recall the Thais do something we in the west find appalling or repellent......publicly picking their nose. And they will grow their pinky finger to a longer, sharper point for better and deeper excavation of the nasal passage. Not a bad idea really, just never wanted to see it. Nope, I never got used to public nose picking.
I recently went around Bangkok I have two walking sticks and I'm in my 60s. I never had any trouble crossing the roads. The drivers always let me cross we had a tour guide one day and he said I was always to cross first as thai drivers would stop for me. I after 3 days I was, totally surprised they must respect old disabled people.
Pedestrian crossings are the WORST place to cross because you may actually get a rare driver who DOES stop, but the car behind them are not expecting it and the stopping car will get rear ended. Just cross ANYWHERE else and use the training you got as a five year old on how to cross a road I.e "look right, left, right again, walk and do not run".
Thank you for good information ❤
1. a) While I agree that you have to be very careful, things have improved a lot recently. After Dr Waralak was mowed down by a motorbike on a pedestrian crossing outside her hospital in 2022, many crossings were repainted and cars are much more likely to stop now. (Also, the killer was ordered to pay 27M baht in damages and the Appeals court this year increased his jail sentence to 10 years.)
b) Some crossings now have red flags in a pouch on a pole on each side, so you can grab a red flag and wave it at the traffic when you are crossing the road.
c) I've also noticed that if I step out into the road at a big crossing (when the nearest vehicle is still far enough away that I can avoid being hit even if it doesn't stop), I might have a dozen Thais follow my lead! At that point, the cars have to stop for the sea of pedestrians.
9. The hardest thing is how to deal with someone who is ripping you off. If someone, for example, overcharges you, they are going to lose face when you point it out. It's intrinsically embarrassing to have your criminal behaviour exposed, but the choice is to let them get away with it.
10. I've noticed one exception. Buses. I've heard them honk other drivers quite a bit. I'm not sure if they are just claiming special privilege because they are bigger, or if the thinking is that they have passengers on board and that makes them more important than the idiot they are honking losing face.
Number ten rules are critical; I am not joking or bluffing. If you do not wish to experience issues or negative happenings. Do not beep your horn unnecessarily.
I’m sure years ago Thai drivers would honk the horn to let the car next to them know, there passing.
But I can’t remember hearing this in the last few years
ภูกทุกข้อ โดยเฉพาะการถอดเสื้อเดินกลางเมือง ถ้าเป็นคนไทยเดินถอดเสื้อกลางเมืองจะถูกมองว่า กำลังทำตัวเป็นนักเลงอันธพาล ท้าทายนักเลงเจ้าถิ่น อาจจะกลายเป็นปุ๋ยได้ในทันที
For tourists I can recommend a bicycle tour in Bangkok. You will drive where there are almost no cars at all.
I’m interested in your description of the many types of Thai smiles. Could you please point out where we can find out more about Thai smiles types.
I’m married to a Thai, been student of Thai for 3 years and interested in the language.
Bricflicked😂, I've always looked at loose bricks and all the raised thresholds as drunk traps and have kept an eye out for them 😅. The fee times I have been flicked were during sogkran, so maybe a little less festered. 😊
I am Thai, and I agree with your rules, especially about not walking around shirtless. I often see foreigners walking shirtless in the Sukhumvit area, which is a very urban part of the city. It makes me wonder what kind of family environment they grew up in. Also, making loud and annoying noises in public is another issue. Of course, some Thai people can be loud, especially when in groups, but it’s much less common. These days, when I take the BTS (Skytrain), I often encounter tourists engaging in these behaviors. Every time I have to use the BTS, it feels like a kind of burden. I always pray in my mind "The tourist please be kind to me because I'm sick of it".
Hooray!!!
Some foreigners put their hand up like they’re a Jedi master lol (when crossing a road).
This is good to know. I always gave like a thank you wave and try to jog across when someone slows down will do the praying hands or bow next time
thanks a million
Except for no.6, I agree with you.
I agree with 6, My wife hates when foreigners blow their nose in public
Married 17 years, 2 kids to my Thai wife, still respect the anger levels, you have to know the rules and play by them. 😂
This has happened quite a few times: Thai parents will encourage their kids, especially very young ones, to wai adults around, including Uncle (me). Other adult Thais will wai back playfully, like 'how lovely'. I always go along, but feel a bit awkward knowing the rules as you laid-out. Any thoughts? Good video, thanks!
When you're with kids, it's a usual thing to coach them when they meet people to say หวัดดีรึยัง ? - 'Have you sawatdee'd yet?' - and then often, you will do the behaviour you want them to mimmic - so here it's fine when teaching the kids. In general though - say i go to a school and the kids wai me, i would รับไหว้ 'receive the wai' with a nod and smile and maybe say 'khrap' or sawatdee back with a gesture. Llike i mentioned in the clip though - Wai'ing is an art - especially when and when not to.
Actually when someone (who are normally younger than you) wai you, you suppose to rub wai รับไหว้ which is basically wai but the hands are at around the chest with little nodding, this is what I was taught in the school since I was young. You suppose to wai a person who are older than you and they should rub wai you. ( there are 3 level of wai which I won’t mention here because it gonna be too long) Wai is a formal thing the same as shake hand in the west, people who don’t know each other don’t wai the same as you don’t randomly shake hand to some stranger on the street. But now the companies make service staffs, receptionists, waiters, cashier staffs etc. wai the customers, to promote Thai culture to foreign tourists? Which I find it’s weird and it’s kinda awkward, imagine the older staff have to wai to younger costumers which is so wrong because the older shouldn’t wai the younger person first except they are the boss or have higher rank/position or that wai is for saying thank you, not for the greeting. Anyway after many years people come to the conclusion that we don’t wai back to any service staffs.
@@vassanab4243 Thank you so much for your detailed reply. Along with Stuart Jay Raj's reply I now have a better understanding of how to handle that situation. I have always used the รับไหว้ technique when in the situation described (not the same as when encountering free-range kiddos), so I appreciate knowing that I am not entirely wrong about it. Similar to when I go to Foodland and the checkout clerk wais to me while I'm in the middle of unloading groceries, I give a half-wai or just a nod and smile. We learn to copy what people around us are doing, but that is not always the most appropriate response. Learning continues...
I grew up in Russia
1. Dangerous road traffic and not enough overhead crossings or crossings with traffic lights is one of the main downsides of Thailand for me, but downtown Bangkok is relatively OK, there are skywalks, BTS stations etc.
2. Couldn't care less either way about barechested people
3. I hate haggling, I think every price should be fair and final, just don't make me engage in any dialogue
4. I was spared from brickflicks so far
5. Keeping the noise down should be a universal rule, one of the reasons I love Japan
6. Worse than blowing into a handkerchief is when people just spit on the ground. Unfortunately very common where I come from
7. I never had any need to put my feet up. Is it that comfortable?
8. Never once wai-ed anyone during my more than 10 visits to Thailand. I just say 'Thank you'
9. Trying to save another person's face should be a universal rule. Unfortunately in Russia nobody cares for saved faces. It is even customary that when you feel wronged you have to call out the person responsible, perhaps make a big scene, especially at supermarkets, restaurants, taxis, planes etc. And it also caused some nasty incidents that made the news
10. No horns is a very good rule. I hate when drivers honk their horns to greet somebody or because the traffic is slower than they want. In Central Asia in a traffic jam everyone just honks their horn. Why? It will not make the traffic jam disappers. Traffic rules say that you should only honk to avoid an accident
Good educational video for the foreigners that lack common sense/finesse. Thanks Stuart 👊
Thank you!
It would be interesting to learn about some of the differences between Southeast/East Asian cultures for those of us who travel around crossing borders etc. Many of things apply across most Asian countries I've spent time in with mainland China being the exception to most of them and using the car horn being the exception in Vietnam, where it's used continuously at least by truck drivers. Many other differences are subtle and you don't notice them straight away. (South Asia is a totally different world though.)
All bang on.
Another thing (if driving). I'm not 100%, maybe someone can confirm, but there is NO ROAD RULE that states you must pass on the right (if driving on left hand side). You can overtake on either side. That's a big difference.
On a lot of roads that would seem like "motorways", they have u turns from the fast lane. That's very different (and dangerous if you don't know) from the "west"
Cheers
I live in Pattaya no rules on the road, very dangerous. I will however WAI. a cop if I’m pulled over😅😅😅😅
I am curious, why are you choosing to teach Korean along with Thai and Chinese in your Mindkraft program for the kids? I love the Korean language and I am actively studying it and I am wondering why you chose it specifically in your course.
purely from understanding fundamentals of 1. articulation, 2. using an abugida, 3. getting core strokes that can then transpose across to kanji brush strokes
@@StuartJayRaj Hangul is an abugida? I can read Korean more easily than Thai and I always think of Korean as its own thing or as an alphabet with its own quirks. I think Koreans consider it an alphabet and teach it as an alphabet.
I think most of these tips are common courtesy, but will help people remember what not to do. I can't stand seeing men not wearing shirts and I live in a hot climate too. Women wearing bikinis is worse though. I've seen plenty of Thai men blow their nose in public, so that may be a situational thing. I do not wai anyone because I don't do things that I do not understand. I'm not a Buddhist and I know that you have to raise your palms higher depending on who the wai is for. I just greet verbally and it has been working out.
I don't wai, because I look western and I feel akward doing this. Sometimes I put my hand below my throat, smile and nod.
Is it okay to politely say "lot noii dai mai" ?
that's fine done politely.. but best I think is to know the price and make an offer to show you're respecting what you know the price is and giving them space for a bit of profit. Always good to do in a fun spirit too
@@StuartJayRajSome cultures are offended, if I don't try to bargain. They enjoy bargaining and I dislike it a lot. I don't see the point to bargain about one dollar more or less. I don't mind paying a higher fee or more for a service. My limit is when I suspect that I am being ripped.
Another unspoken rule is: don't assume it's ok the get involved in small crime. There is no small crime in Thailand - only big crime. You will be punished and the punishment is severe. I've seen foreigners taking candy out of 7-11 without paying. They don't realize what they are risking. It's so stupid.
yes! very true kris
Strange one on the phone being loud. Living in Bkk I see Thai’s doing this more than I seen in the UK, where I am from.
bangkokians or PPL from up country?
I have seen seen maybe once or twice in 15 years travelling on the BTS once or twice a week.
เห็นน้อยมากนะ ที่คนไทยจะทำ มีเขม่นมองหน้ากันบ้างละ ถ้าทํา 😂😂😂 เปรียบเทียบกับ UK ขโมยโทรศัพท์กันหน้าตาเฉย กลางถนน ไม่ต่อคิวขึ้นรถไฟฟ้าใต้ดิน แย่งกันขึ้น มีอันธพาลแย่งที่นั่งคนแก่ เห็นกันประจํา อย่าบอกว่าไม่เคยเห็นนะ คน UK 😂😂😂
I remember explaining the traditional western use of toilet paper to a Thai friend and I thought she was going to be sick . 😂
You didn't need to do an accent for me to know that "Give me your best price," is an Indian thing. I used to sell via classified ads in the UK and those were the first words out of the mouth of every Indian that called.
Reminds me of an incident that I witnessed in the former Pantip plaza where an indian customer was kicked out by the thai shop owner who was fed-up with endless bargaining...
It's very much an Israeli thing too. I learned how to haggle like a local in Mexico but haggling in Asia is different and I never learned how to do it properly. But I'm usually not in tourist areas so it doesn't matter. But at home in Australia we rarely do it so when I was working in hospitality in Australia I was surprised when Israeli tourists often asked for a discount. Then again you can sometimes get a discount at accommodation if you ask, if you arrive late and pay directly rather than through an app, or if you stay more than a day and don't want your room serviced before you leave. Haggling seems to be something to learn about in each country, a bit like tipping maybe.
As an Israeli I can confirm that. Israelis are just very direct and we’re not easily embarrassed which makes us good at bargaining I think.
i have wai'ed at everyone before, i still tend to wai the doorman at the hotel and the receptionist and so on, its kinda automatic, , it never did get me into any trouble, but i can see that in this culture it is discruptive. my wife told me for years not to do it, now i see more why! ill still wai my moterh in law i think, and monks!
Didn’t know no.6, do it all the time with tissues. Thought picking nose was ok in Thailand?
Super useful advice! I didn't know about the wat.
I've been watt-ing everyone like a twat.
Yeah, don't wai people unless they're older than you, your boss, or a government official, etc.
Adding to Stuart's comments about negotiating price... DO NOT negotiate with a Thai and then when they agree to your offered price say "Oh I don't really want it anyway."... and you walk away. There is one nationality that is notorious for doing this and Thais hate it with a passion. (And who can blame them?) Anybody want to suggest what that nationality is?
yes...anyone who does that will really piss people off.. and usually result in being insulted as Khaaaeekkk
14:48 So what if I paid for something, some product or service, and didn't get what was agreed to. I guess this means I shouldn't complain?
As a Thai people, I won't complain much unless it's on the point of unaceptable but I'll give suggestions to the things they should improve; as polite as I could btw. As for me I think it's a manner that it would be good if we don't make other lose their feeling; if they don't do that to me first. And if I give suggestions and they won't improve I'll just don't go to their place anymore. And sorry if my English is bad btw.
@@ranrun7492 Regarding "make other lose their feeling", I don't know why it's ok for them to make me lose my feeling, due to them taking my money while not doing what was agreed upon.
Great video! Being. a fan since many years and even have a copy your book!! So here comes my question: While watching the video and you talking about the wai, Is there an alternative for a wai? I mean what do people do, if they are physically not able to wai? For example, broken arms or being severely disabled. is it acceptable to nod the head or close the eyes? Do you have any idea or recommendation about what to do?
If you have broken arms, or your arms are full, even a gesture to doing a wai is acceptable - intent is the main thing here. IF however you went out of your way to put things down and then wai'd, you'd get extra cred in whoever's books you were wai'ing.
Nod is fine, do not wink.
The meaning of 'Wai' is 'I respect you', either respect elderly (experiences) or respect your quality (fame, skills, good heart, etc). And another circumstance to 'Wai' is to thank someone who did helping you something.
You can bow or I often wai with one hand.
@@etvi1 I sometimes do that! To actually 'acknowledge the person' politely is enough here!
I lived at Hyde across the street from Trendy in 2019 when Trendy when murder went down.
That makes no sense. Want to try again? 🥴
Ok got it. Only wai when trying to get across the road.
All the people watching listening to stuff on there phones without earphones have been Thais
I really question number five. I hate this kind of behavior, but Thais are very good at it as well and it is one of the things that are quite puzzling for me, since it doesn’t really fit in the whole scheme of เกรงใจ IMO.
Music, tiktok, radio, monks preaching- I have seen (and heard it) all and they do not seem to care even a little bit. I have also seen this in all kinds of situations. Many Thais don’t even seem to care about others sleeping.
Admittedly it’s congruent with attaching the loudest exhaustion pipe available on the market to your motorbike or tuk tuk, and letting it roar at 2:30am though.
Edit: Since I moved here I also curbed the wai-ing a lot, but it’s not really tragical if you over-do it as ฝรั่ง and you will probably not end up making things uncomfortable for anyone. I can’t speak about corporate world, but Thais wai a lot in daily life. My friends and me will do everytime coming and leaving to everyone regardless of status and sometimes even follow up with a Western greeting and a handshake. Maybe it’s also a generational thing, since my friends are around 30.
Admittedly I cringe at witnessing friends coming here for holidays and wai-ing their way through the country, but on the other hand it is the result of how Thailand and Thais are portrayed to them.
I also curbed my ขอบคุณครับ a lot and usually go for ครับผม depending on the situation and the amount of thankfulness I feel . 😂
Maybe I need to preface ... what is preferred by Bangkok... not always adhered to though
The loud exhaust pipe is a true annoying case. Those people doing that had been cursed and may live not long if it happen every night. Some loud noise sources are from occasional events or ceremonies, neighborhood people can allowed it for a certain of period. Anyway, the repetitive annoyance behavior can be raised to ligitimacy.
The meaning of 'Wai' is 'I respect you', either respect elderly (experiences) or respect your quality (fame, skills, good heart, etc). And another circumstance to 'Wai' is to thank someone who did helping you something. It will be useful that you (and friends) know the meaning behind gestures. You can better apply it in real situations
What about the cars in villages driving around and shouting loudly for hours?
I will help answer as a Thai and a Bangkok resident. Yes, those who engage in the behaviors you mentioned do not adhere to the concept of krengjai at all.
I might sound politically incorrect, but the “Thai values,” which consist of many unspoken rules, are so subtle that even some Thai people who are not very “cultured” struggle to fully grasp the concept.
I’m not that old, but I’ve noticed that over the last 10-15 years, the media (including social media) has been pushing “unsophisticated” content-some of it straight-up garbage-and forcing it down our throats. That might be the reasons why some of these concepts seem to be so “foreign” even to some Thais?
Ironically, they still crave respect, dignity, and recognition, yet fail to realize that these things must be earned, not freely given.
Why did I watch this I’m never going to Thailand? 😊
I never felt comfortable doing the wai here so I hardly ever do it and sometimes worry I should be doing it sometimes. But my American friend now living up in Vientiane does it all the time to everybody and that also makes me uncomfortable. In Laos they use the "nop" a lot less than Thais use the wai. I wonder what the cultural differences are. In Cambodia the "sompiah" is much rarer again.
Number 6 is really interesting. Multiple times here I've been sitting next to a Thai person that was just constantly loudly sniffing in clearly blocked noses. I've offered tissues and they were always rejected. I thought it was disgusting but obviously they thought I was the same for using tissues instead. Hilarious culture difference.
rest i can ignore but the hooking part is a must especially with disregard of the law motorcyclists which drive in all directions or swerving in & out of traffic especially on busy road - the point here is if you don't honk at them its either an accident or death on the road which i rather avoid than not honk - example a motorcyclist cutting into your path which he not supposed to yet driving on without care expecting his oncoming traffic to give away which is what see daily on roads down here & accidents is a norm so don't honk?
1, Interesting top 10.
I would like to comment that I agree with most of the unspoken rules you talk about, however a couple came to me across as the opposite of what I have experienced in my 7 years living in Thailand.
I don't agree with 2, 6 nor 7.
I had a lapse of curiosity of whether you were describing behaviors in Thai society in an alternate reality.
I often see Thais without shirts and actually just in their boxer underwear or toweled up as if they were going or coming from a shower sitting unbothered next to the road in front of their homes.
Also, the mucus and fingers seem to have a romance. Frequently I notice people picking their nose while playing on their phone and oblivious to the moment, just scraping like there's no one watching (or as if it were as normal as rubbing their fingers on their chin while thinking)
And lastly, mostly Thai society seems to not be bothered by the display of feet so unapologetically in any direction. Whichever situation a Thai may be in could be a reason to take off their shoes.
To sit down to eat, off. To walk drive, off. Office, off. Lay in the bed of a truck, off and facing the back of the traffic. Win, waiting for a customer, off and up on the motorbike handlebars facing the sidewalk.
These unspoken rules may be in theory expected to be general expectations, but in practice any society as carefree as Thais would be unfazed of how they may be seen.
Though, this might just be an unfair comment based on my experience in communities with lower education in Samut Prakan and Chon Buri.
note that I'm talking about 'Bangkok' here and there is certain accepted 'Bangkokian' behaviour that to stray from it may suggest otherwise. Also, I'm speaking about your general Middle Class bangkok expectations - and so you do get many demographics, but for foreigners in Thailand, IF you are in Bangkok and want to know what's expected by Middle Class Native Bangkok, I think what I mentioned are pretty close to reality . Doesn't mean that people will always follow it, but it's what's expected.
Brickflicked.......after nearly 20 years I finally have something to call it other than *$&$^#*#@(@)@)**&$% lol
hahaha... it deserved a name
Ten Essential Unspoken Rules for Foreigners in Bangkok
Respect Traffic Rules for Pedestrians:
Pedestrians do not have the right of way in Bangkok. Always stay alert when crossing streets and follow traffic signals carefully.
Dress Modestly:
Walking around shirtless is considered inappropriate. Respect local customs by wearing proper attire, even in casual settings.
Master Bargaining Etiquette:
Avoid asking for the "best price" outright. Offer a polite, reasonable counteroffer (no more than 10-15% off the listed price) to maintain respect for vendors.
Avoid Loud Public Behavior:
Playing loud sounds or taking speakerphone calls in public is frowned upon. Use headphones to respect others’ space.
Be Mindful of Cultural Sensitivities:
Do not show the soles of your feet, as this is considered highly disrespectful. Keep your feet off public furniture and avoid pointing them at people.
Understand the "Wai" Greeting:
Learn when and how to greet with a wai, a traditional gesture of respect. It reflects an understanding of Thai social hierarchy.
Avoid Public Confrontations:
Maintaining harmony is crucial in Thailand. Avoid heated arguments or confrontations that might cause someone to "lose face."
Exercise Caution with Defamation:
Defamation, even if truthful, is taken seriously and can lead to severe consequences. Avoid making public accusations.
Navigate Rainy Season Hazards:
Watch out for "brick flicks," where stepping on a loose pavement brick can splash dirty water. Wear waterproof shoes during the rainy season.
Avoid Road Rage and Honking:
Aggressive driving or honking can provoke strong reactions. Stay calm and patient in traffic to avoid unnecessary confrontations.
By following these unspoken rules, foreigners can better integrate into Bangkok's cultural landscape, fostering positive interactions and enhancing their overall experience in Thailand.
was this generated by AI?
@@StuartJayRaj yes a combo of sider and chat gpt
Crossing the street is like playing frogger in real life. 5555
yes... so a bonus for gamers 😜
Number 2.0 if you want to be taken seriously men should wear long trousers/jeans
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To deal with your first point that pedestrians don't have right of way in Thailand, they don't in the UK either and many other places, in general, but in the UK and other places, as soon as a pedestrian steps onto a zebra crossing the approaching traffic must stop and in this case, the pedestrian has right of way.
The logic behind the pedestrian (zebra) crossing says that such crossing allows the public to cross the road safely.
Your final remark under this heading at around 3:00 that putting your hand out to suggest to the oncoming traffic to stop and let you cross the road, perhaps at a marked crossing, is a death wish, because the driver might take it as a challenge, should make one wonder how an average person weighing 200 lbs moving at a modest clip could challenge an average car weighing 4000 lbs
moving at 20 kilometres an hour or more, shouldn't it?
Is a man driving a 4000 lb machine at speed challenged by a man of 200 lbs on foot and walking at a modest pace?
What kind of a man would that be? Maybe a man with a Buddhist heart.
How about it?
ห้วย not easy to say. Lake, stream, lottery, both, all the above.....OK
tone is different
I told a farang friend not to wai the waitress explaining why, but he replied that, although he knew that the Thai didn't do that, he will continue to do so because it is right to do so. Read: I am civilised and I treat "inferior" people with all the courtesy they deserve. It's like saying: I teach you the education. Isn't it the most rude (and I would say colonialist) thing to do?
yeah. .. it's that attitude that led me to include it in this clip. it doesn't mean don't respect or don't wai anyone... it just means that IF you really want to be respectful, then spend time learning the protocols and emulate them too. Not mandatory, but would be appreciated
Interesting interpretation. I can understand it. Do you know for sure that he was assuming infallibility about his way of doing things, or you do think he might have also been inviting you to challenge his opinion? Either way, rude or not, was he wrong? What do you think about his opinion on wai?
I saw some locals in Bangkok walking without T-shirt, but there was near their neighboorhoods where less foreigners pass by.
It's their resident area, that's fine and neighboring people familiar to it. It's different when seeing someone without tops go shopping or walk around the city making uncomfortable to local people eyes. It means disrespectful.
Bangkok has bogans, like everywhere else.
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THANK YOU ,The word. " Footpath" 99.99% of Thai people never know this word ,all of them called ฟุตบาท ฟุต=foot บาทmean เท้า
ฟุตบาท= เท้าไทย+ เท้าฝรั่ง😮😮😮 thank you.😊😊
"Foothpath" is Australian English. Other English speaking countries use the words "pavement" or "sidewalk".
Thanks. Been here 20 years..the worst people for playing stuff on mobiles are the Thais!! Travel on any bus!!😅
This is very shameful and I hope the later generations of Bangkokians will abandon these rules.
I too hate the no shirt thing. The image in your video was very generous, the reality is it is often big fat white men with no shirts squeezing through the isle in 7-eleven. I have no idea why people leave their manners & respect at home when they travel.
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You forgot to mention PDA. Holding hands with your lover is about the limit, anything beyond that will attract disapproving looks, swapping spit will elicit disgust. Thais are actually quite prudish, despite the country's reputation as a sex destination.
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Respect is a 2 way street.I respect the people but I will not bow. Thai people feel pain ,bleed, and experience fear like anyone else.I never had a problem because I am respectful.I expect the same from others.
No. 8 is great and so right. We westerners are not part of the Asian class system. So the only persons that should be wai'ed are monks and then do not say "sawadi" but "namasakan" , please!!!