How doing LESS drains you MORE

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  • Опубліковано 11 лип 2024
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    The dreadful exhaustion funnel, 8 signs you’re heading down there, and how to avoid it ❤️ Extra videos every week (this week, it’s a chat about movies that shaped me as a person): / anagoldberg
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    Chapters:
    00:00 Doing less depletes you more
    01:23 8 signs your life optimization has gone wrong
    02:03 What is the exhaustion funnel
    02:56 The worst productivity tip from Stephen Covey
    04:24 How to avoid the exhaustion funnel
    06:41 Personal example
    08:39 Sponsored by Skillshare
    09:55 Main takeaways

КОМЕНТАРІ • 66

  • @m_a_r_a__
    @m_a_r_a__ 2 місяці тому +12

    When you live in survival mode for so so long, everything drains you even if life gets better.

    • @anagoldberg
      @anagoldberg  2 місяці тому +1

      Yes, unfortunately it's true...

  • @flowerboy7810
    @flowerboy7810 2 місяці тому +7

    As someone with depression, executive dysfunction, and chronic illness, you are speaking to my soul. ❤

  • @SchneppFlute
    @SchneppFlute 2 місяці тому +17

    Exhaustion funnel. First time I've heard that term but it's fitting. I really enjoy these videos where you explore and explain psychological topics. ❤

    • @anagoldberg
      @anagoldberg  2 місяці тому +1

      I'm so glad the video resonated with you, Gayle ❤️

  • @jodyoaks
    @jodyoaks 2 місяці тому +4

    I have a love/hate relationship with cooking. I have dozens of cookbooks I love and love to cook when I have energy. This happens on the weekends when I make the menu and go shopping. I often dread grocery shopping too. And during the week I am burned out and think, who was this person that thought I'd have enough energy to cook this meal after work?

  • @jasongore6309
    @jasongore6309 2 місяці тому +5

    I was for sure at the bottom of the exhaustion funnel and I had all 8 signs on your list until recently, all I did was work and sleep. All of the things I used to enjoy became a chore and I was not interested in leaving the house unless I absolutely had to. I recently started delivering food and groceries to make extra money and I've found I actually enjoy getting out and interacting with people again, I feel like it's helping my depression and making me feel better.

  • @catherinerhyno9581
    @catherinerhyno9581 2 місяці тому +2

    More good advice and so nice to see that your subscribers are increasing! Kind and intellectually supported advice must be catchy!

  • @margarettownsley9500
    @margarettownsley9500 2 місяці тому +4

    Thank you dear Ana I’ve suffered a lot of depression over the course of my life I could seriously write a book but I look back and think how did I manage to get through such a difficult times i felt as though I was burned out from morning to night for years it was terrible

    • @anagoldberg
      @anagoldberg  2 місяці тому +1

      I'm so sorry you have to go through such tough times, dear Margaret ❤️

  • @soniaalam6278
    @soniaalam6278 2 місяці тому +13

    Ana this was such an affirming video for me. I’m just shy of 6 months pregnant with a toddler, a husband who has been sick in bed with covid for over 2 weeks and a busy (albeit part time) job. Despite the days feeling long and being stretched in lots of directions, finding the time to journal, read, paint or watch a movie (in 15 min segments) and daydream have really helped to keep my sense of identity. It’s so crucial that we build these habits in so that at our most challenging times, we feel anchored to ourselves. Stay well friend x

    • @anagoldberg
      @anagoldberg  2 місяці тому +2

      Thank you for sharing your story, Sonia ❤️ I love what you said about "feeling anchored to ourselves". So true! Sending love 🌷

    • @CrisOnTheInternet
      @CrisOnTheInternet 2 місяці тому +2

      I love how you're approaching things ❤

    • @vladimir_obama_
      @vladimir_obama_ 2 місяці тому

      ​@@anagoldberg omg your so pretty do you have a twitter? / X?

  • @CrisOnTheInternet
    @CrisOnTheInternet 2 місяці тому +3

    I'm a person with low physical energy, so my body would like to be laying on bed all day, my mind on the other side always have the itch to do things. Let me tell you that I made the mistake several times to indulge my mind forgetting my body. I learned my lesson after two burnouts. Now I try to spend half of my free time engaged in physical activities like yoga and walking, that help me calm my mind and generate a bit more of energy.

  • @ellahopkinson
    @ellahopkinson 2 місяці тому +2

    I have spent the past few years in this state for various reasons and am desperately trying to build up my life. Thank you for making these videos, they give me hope ❤

  • @rhosymedra6628
    @rhosymedra6628 2 місяці тому +2

    This was the perfect video for me to see this week! I've definitely been sinking down that exhaustion spiral. I'm going to try and refocus this week on doing less...but cutting out some of the draining activities (work) that I think I have treated as too much of a priority so that I can make time for more life giving things. I hope my creativity will return!

  • @allthebest744
    @allthebest744 2 місяці тому +5

    Sometimes I feel like I can slide down the exhaustion funnel 🛝 just thinking about what I need to do. A friend of mine suggested going for a walk instead of resting. Even if it’s just around the block, it can revive you. Retirement is wonderful, but it is easy to lose the sense of urgency I had when I worked. This is a great video! 😊

    • @anagoldberg
      @anagoldberg  2 місяці тому +2

      Dear Ruthann, your friend gave you such a great advice! It's so true ❤️

  • @akane2366
    @akane2366 2 місяці тому +2

    I can relate to all the 8 signs that you listed here, but I've recently started focusing more on my personal priorities (and not other people's and what they want from me). It was partly thanks to one of your recent videos ("No.1 habit to boost mental clarity & scroll less") that I've finally decided to stop procrastinating and doom-scrolling. I even signed up to Skillshare (using your link 😄) and am really enjoying learning new things that I've wanted to learn for the longest time ever, but kept postponing for various reasons (most of which are just excuses and fear-based). So thank you for the motivation! 💖

  • @EmbraceYourselfBaby
    @EmbraceYourselfBaby 2 місяці тому +2

    Your videos are part of my weekly nutrition. They keep me inspired and grounded. I‘m going through a tough time right now and this video calmed me down. Thank you sweet Ana ❤️

  • @Lisa-hr4zz
    @Lisa-hr4zz 2 місяці тому +3

    obviously not just me then?! lol

  • @martaukaszewicz9080
    @martaukaszewicz9080 2 місяці тому +2

    It was an eye-opening video, thank you so much! I would add that sometimes you have to give up some depleting (albeit seemingly important) activities in order to make room for those which fill you up (and may seem unnecessary).

  • @etta7082
    @etta7082 2 місяці тому +4

    This is such an insightful video, as always, thank you. I was completely at the bottom of the funnel last year- there were dark points where I was barely eating, only exercising while either listening to my lectures or literally reading while on the treadmill, etc etc. In the end, I got top marks for the classes I was doing- but to my surprise, even though I had wanted those so badly, I couldn’t bring myself to be happy about that. That was really when my perspective shifted- I realised that no academic outcome was worth all that I had sacrificed to achieve it. I’m doing much better this year and keeping a sense of proportion and continuing to prioritise my health, mental and physical :)

    • @anagoldberg
      @anagoldberg  2 місяці тому +2

      Ugh, studying and academic work can be so depleting... I'm glad to read that now you're back to mental & physical health priorities❤️

  • @gracesimplified3860
    @gracesimplified3860 2 місяці тому +5

    Oh my! This really hit home. Caretaking has really taken its toll on me.
    I recently made a list of 5 rudimentary chores for maintaining a sense of order that I need to accomplish. I made sure they were things I could accomplish within a maximum of 20 minutes. I can get so easily distracted by trying to meet the needs of my loved ones, that basic chores pile up and then I’m overwhelmed and feel as if I’m failing. I need to set myself up for a certain level of feeling successful or I’ll be impatient and irritable.
    I also made a list of 5 opportunities for improvement that help to restore my sense of self. I’m going to dedicate daily a minimum of 20 minutes.
    Americans might remember a kids show my daughter used to watch, The Big Comfy Couch. Lunette, the clown would do her 10 second tidy. Well, I’m doing my twenty minute tending to a sense of sanity and self.

    • @anagoldberg
      @anagoldberg  2 місяці тому +1

      Thank you for sharing, my friend ❤️ 20 mins a day sounds like a very doable plan. I'm wishing you all the best with it!

  • @marysattic
    @marysattic 2 місяці тому +4

    Thank you so much !! It was so in time , I’m so grateful, because I really feel like I’m close to the bottom right now

    • @anagoldberg
      @anagoldberg  2 місяці тому

      I hope you will make it to the top very soon, Maria ❤️

    • @marysattic
      @marysattic 2 місяці тому

      @@anagoldberg thank you 🙏🙏🫶

  • @AmanCreatesArt
    @AmanCreatesArt 2 місяці тому +3

    Wow… today is the last day for me to submit art to something too. Very similar situation to what you described. This video came at exactly the right moment! 🙏🏽💙

    • @anagoldberg
      @anagoldberg  2 місяці тому +1

      Yay! Wishing you all the best with your submission, Aman🌿

  • @amandachapman4708
    @amandachapman4708 2 місяці тому +8

    This is a timely video for me! I am near the bottom of the funnel just now and am struggling so much to keep going. So I have decided to flip my priorities, and prioritise creativity so I aim to spend at least an hour each day on creative things, starting now.

    • @allthebest744
      @allthebest744 2 місяці тому +1

      Great idea! 😊

    • @anagoldberg
      @anagoldberg  2 місяці тому

      This sounds like a great plan, Amanda ❤️ Sending love your way.

  • @bogusiasymonowicz7649
    @bogusiasymonowicz7649 2 місяці тому +2

    I haven't heard this term before, but I recognise this in myself. I have a tendency of focusing only on what is 'important', but I learnt this is not sustainable, and just makes me bitter and less effective in those daily struggles.
    Thank you for sharing ❤

  • @mashed1476
    @mashed1476 2 місяці тому +4

    oh, this video came out right as I began to think that maybe dedicating all my time to this one big thing that i don't want to do results in me just... wasting all that time. so in the end I haven't done the thing and haven't even partaken in any of my beloved hobbies. not quite what you've talked about here, but certainly when I have more to do I am more likely to do most of those things and feel more fulfilled, the day doesn't end up being so monotone. the stuff I'm not 'supposed' to be doing becomes the highlight of my day and lets me keep going!

  • @Maggies87
    @Maggies87 2 місяці тому +4

    As always, it’s good to enjoy a Sunday video with Ana.

  • @Roter_reis
    @Roter_reis Місяць тому

    Hello Ana, I am now completely at rock bottom at my exhaustion funnel but I’m going to start a new job soon and I hope it’ll get better soon. I’ve been juggling studying and commuting 1 hr back and forth to work and I am well aware of that but I feel to fragile in this productive driven society 😢

  • @nyckolaus
    @nyckolaus 2 місяці тому +2

    Thank you, Ana!

  • @alexandrailnyckyj6059
    @alexandrailnyckyj6059 2 місяці тому +2

    Very useful perspective. Thank you

  • @skincaremakeup40
    @skincaremakeup40 2 місяці тому +2

    A hug from Sicily,my sweet elf

    • @anagoldberg
      @anagoldberg  2 місяці тому

      Hugs back to you, dear Marialuisa ❤️

  • @sheliamaynus9869
    @sheliamaynus9869 2 місяці тому +1

    Your video was a one for me because in church this morning the sermon was on setting your priorities. Priority number one to love God with all your heart mind and might. Then the priorities for the day come next. Do the priority that's number one first in the day and don't go on to the next until you finish that one. Your video went along with the sermon! Which cemented the message even further in my mind! Cool beans. Thanks Ana.

  • @sandrineloron8335
    @sandrineloron8335 2 місяці тому +4

    Very interesting and original way to approach this topic. Congratulations ! Sandrine

    • @anagoldberg
      @anagoldberg  2 місяці тому

      Thank you, Sandrine ❤️

  • @liammcweeney1674
    @liammcweeney1674 2 місяці тому +3

    Another great video Ana have a great week

  • @houndlover870
    @houndlover870 2 місяці тому +1

    I'm struggling with that too. It's Beagle Momma. I'm still here. Catching up on everything I missed on my long social media break.

    • @anagoldberg
      @anagoldberg  2 місяці тому +1

      I'm glad to see you back here, my friend ❤️ Hope the break brought you comfort.

  • @sharonshmuel3386
    @sharonshmuel3386 2 місяці тому +1

    This was a very interesting video, I hadn’t heard of this term before but it definitely makes sense! ❤I love to see your collages you are so creative ❤ Enjoy your week ahead 🙏🇮🇱❤️🌹

    • @anagoldberg
      @anagoldberg  2 місяці тому

      Thank you, dear Sharon ❤️ You too, have a beautiful week.

  • @sandrabentley8111
    @sandrabentley8111 2 місяці тому

    Excellent. Loved this.

  • @dannysmith2794
    @dannysmith2794 2 місяці тому

    Thank you Ana....

  • @shiftit6133
    @shiftit6133 2 місяці тому +1

    This was helpful

  • @kathrynmcnerney6490
    @kathrynmcnerney6490 2 місяці тому +1

    Thank you for this, i will find this so helpful.❤

  • @greeneyedmimibostian3013
    @greeneyedmimibostian3013 Місяць тому

    We love you

  • @deborahtodd3088
    @deborahtodd3088 2 місяці тому

    Ana, thank you so much. I just discovered you and enjoy your topics, suggestions, and your apartment tour. I would love to find out more about your jewelry business. Cheers!

    • @anagoldberg
      @anagoldberg  2 місяці тому

      I'm so glad to welcome you here, Deborah! Thank you ❤️

  • @glaight6362
    @glaight6362 2 місяці тому

    Very interesting. I've never heard of the exhaustion funnel. It's difficult I think because there are so many conditions now which include or develope exhaustion. For instance I have PDD part of which is lack of energy. Recently this has become much worse for me and I would now describe if as CFS chronic fatigue syndrome. Ultimately I think we have to let go of our attachments to all these labels. It strikes me the more attached we become the more obsessed we become and this does not help us escape from the rabbit hole or the funnel of our minds. We are not sick from the conditions society and doctors tells us we have. We are sick because of our mental attachment to them.

  • @ladagkudlackova3800
    @ladagkudlackova3800 2 місяці тому

    🖤

  • @BrianGrady-wo7mo
    @BrianGrady-wo7mo 2 місяці тому +1

    ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @joni1
    @joni1 2 місяці тому

  • @lllthink
    @lllthink 2 місяці тому

    😊

  • @SimpleHealth83
    @SimpleHealth83 2 місяці тому

    😊😊