When I was a kid…no one and I mean NO ONE loved learning mor then me. Covid hit and that all went downhill. Family drama didn’t help. I am disappointing younger me. I DESPERATELY need to take it seriously. I LOVE school so much and it makes me sad to see I’m just throwing time away instead of lifting myself up. Today on my 16th birthday I am ADAMANT to fix all this bullshit and get on with my life PROPERLY.
Dude you fkn got this shjt don’t give up man you’re young, you can do this. Your older self is going to thank you for not giving up on yourself. May god be with you.
Family drama or any drama for that matter is psychologically and intellectually really draining! No wonder youve been struggling. Try to preserve your inner peace and keep as much distance you can to be able to concentrate on you and your future ❤ you got this ❤
gosh that "It was easier to handle emotionally if I failed because I wasn't trying than to fail despite trying" spoke to my soul... been there! I had to resit my entrance exams and I am now a 4th year med student in my home town in Athens, Greece! Never give up!!
i'm so glad you commented on this because I went through the exact same situation. lost my motivation to study for my entrance exam and failed and now i'm studying again and trying to function.
Today, I reached a low. Im just tired physically and mentally. On top of that, im tired of feeling tired. I don't know what to do so i'm coming here. I find comfort in knowing I'm not alone. Good luck to anyone who is also struggling.
I really related to your “smart kid but when you failed, you thought that you had already reached your peak so everything goes downhill from there” experience. Took a leave of absence from uni for 3 semesters because of burn out and fear of my last year at school, thinking that I hadn’t really learned anything at all. I was always scared of people finding out i’m a fraud and that the smart girl they knew is actually just really average. Got impostor syndrome bc i got into my country’s top uni, then realized how big the world is and how naturally smart some people are. Then i didn’t even know how to study because i never needed to in high school, so i got shit grades in uni. Now, i can’t say that i’m not afraid anymore or that i’ve turned into a more driven person, but i’m trying to implement this growth mindset now that i’m going back to uni. Instead of focusing on the fact that I failed, I need to focus on why I did and what I could do better. I need to actually make use of the consultation hours of my professors. Instead of memorizing, i need to understand why. Loved the video! Thanks for sharing
Wow, you described exactly what I've been feeling for years, but have never had the courage to admit. I honestly felt so much better as I read your comment, knowing that there were other people that felt like that.
@@thatroyalnuisancenext year is my graduation year from high school i used to be the TOP of my class my whole life but this year my grades just dropped and im in a math class(its the main subject and i love it)and now i feel like an imposter like the other girl said,and im gonna study in summer vacation we have three months i rested a month and im gonna start now hoping i can make things better,today we got the last semester's grades(even tho it ended a month ago)all my friends got better grades than me and they're enjoying that i didn't take a high grade(sorry i forgot the word English isn't my mother language)so im feeling sad now i wrote a lot i needed to talk lol even my 'freind' wouldn't listen nor my family
ive found my people, wow u literally just described me in the end... being labeled as a "smart kid" I always got good grades but convinced myself it was just cuz the teachers liked me and I was being. good student, and now when I am about to start high school after summer, I tried looking at some stuff we would be working with there and I genuinely didn't understand a lot of what I was learning, I felt like I had just lost my potential and right now I am so horrified becase I just lost hope in myself nd im not even TRYING to pick myself up, I try to gaslight myself into thinking I know what im doing and its all gonna work our just fine beacause thru out 0-9th grade ive always done my sh1t last minute and my "natural intelligence" saved my ass and so I got A's, but in 9th grade things changed, things got harder and my "natural talent" wasn't good enough, I fel hopeless. ur video really made me realise that this is not the end. I have 3 years to change things so that I can pursue my dream of maybe some field in either medicine or maybe engineering, maybe even dentistry. idk yet, but with good grades I can become what I want.
Your video popped up to me at the best time. I was a straight A student in secondary school and now that I'm in A-levels I can't seem to get it. It's like I've lost my "magic" and I feel as though I'll never make it and that everyone who ever doubted me was right. You showed me that it isn't the end and I can still get up again, thank you so much and I wish you well on your journey through medicine. My dream is to one day become an Emergency Room doctor.
@@seeitall8921 Good luck to you in your studies. Just keep pushing and you will succeed, if you failed don't dwell too much on it. Just get back up find out why you failed and execute your new found knowledge. Keep a positive mindset, you got this.
i have the same but in university. I was a quite good student in high school but now it seems like i am a very bad student. I just did 2 exams and i think i failed them both
When she said " ITS OUR EDUCATION SYSTEM THAT MADE US BELIEVE THAT WE ARE NATURALLY SMART " it hit home cause I think we all made it a part of our identity to be academically gifted and then suddenly the reality hits like a truck when we all enter uni because we see that everyone is the " THE SO CALLED SMART STUDENT WHICH U WERE TOLD THAT YOU ARE AND SUDDENLY THERE ARE SO MANY OF THEM LIKE YOU OR BETTER THAN YOU" and we suddenly go into a whole identity crisis because our "SMART" isn't enough to pass the exams like in scl ... Oh man this video was seriously eye-opening
I'm a sophomore (and still in my flop era). i failed my first class in freshman year after years of being the "gifted kid". don't worry, it'll get better!
"you're not stupid, it’s your academic flop era ", the title couldn't have been more resounding for me. As someone who was also labelled as a smart child since primary schools it has always been inbuilt for me to perform academically better. The first 2 years of my college year went really nice then starting 3rd year i failed both my 5th and 6th semester and it was such a blow that i found it really hard to accept that fact. The worst fact was that I actually worked very hard for them. I had studied the hardest in my life an still getting such results it felt just like how you explained, that i had already peaked academically and there's only downfall from now on, from being annoyed seeing a C on my mark-sheet to straight up seeing Ds and Fs have been a terrible experience. It wasn't that i gave up but I stopped trying for a while and let go because working hard didn't seem to have meaning anymore. It just felt unlucky to experience that, cause i clearly worked hard . Right? But thankfully I've started to get out of the slump. and watching this video and reading all the comments of people experiencing the same thing have made me feel a bit more understood and relieved a part of my worries. So huge thank you to you and also to every other comments on here. i just want to say all of you that you all will surely get over the slump you are currently facing. No matter the amount of odds you are facing, you got this and you will definitely rise up victorious. Everyone, we are bound to be successful💪💪❤🩹❤🔥
I never cry while watching videos or movies. But i bawled while watching this. Thank you so much Faye. You have no idea how grateful i am to you for this video. YOURE SO SLAY LOVE YOU
@@DrFayeBate Until the time is at hand, the same old warning must come forth: (THE M. O. T. B) masons try for generations to try and create too, what GOD has created, the human body from dust. So far they mange to only make a copy, (human cloning). The body may be manageable to create by the masons, but the most important part in this specific creation. Is the SPIRIT PART, Human Spirit comes only from GOD/CHRIST and not from the devil. The devil can make a clone aka empty vessel, and fill it whit the spirit of demon. = the outcome is not human, but a demon/evil spirit in body. With the MARK OF THE BEAST, the human SPIRIT shall be locked into a body which used to be flesh and blood, but now are more machine like. And since the machine aint aging nor getting sick = death never to arrive. To a human mind, it may 1st hand sound cool, that they no longer getting sick nor die, but in long run, the SPIRIT gets tired and wants to leave it`s vessel/body. Sadly unless GOD steps in and melts the body away, the SPIRIT shall never be freed. Revelation 9:6 And in those days shall men seek death, and shall not find it; and shall desire to die, and death shall flee from them. This verse is about the souls, who took the MARK OF THE BEAST and no longer can die. Read carefully what this verse is saying. Revelation 19:20 And the beast was taken, and with him the false prophet that wrought miracles before him, with which he deceived them that had received the mark of the beast, and them that worshipped his image. These both were cast alive into a lake of fire burning with brimstone. Revelation 13:17 And that no man might buy or sell, save he that had the mark, or the name of the beast, or the number of his name. Revelation 14:9 And the third angel followed them, saying with a loud voice, If any man worship the beast and his image, and receive his mark in his forehead, or in his hand, Revelation 14:11 And the smoke of their torment ascendeth up for ever and ever: and they have no rest day nor night, who worship the beast and his image, and whosoever receiveth the mark of his name. Don´t transform into machine, keep being HUMAN.
Thank you so much for this video queen. I myself am currently in an academic slump didn’t do so well in my first semester in medical school classes and also got out of a toxic 4 year relationship. Your video gave me the motivation to push forward and know that I am not alone and it will get better. Sending you lots of love from Miami ❤
Im so sorry to hear that 😢😢 toxic relationships and break ups can have such a huge impact on all areas of our lives including our studies and I’m sorry you’ve had to go through that!! So happy you’ve made the decision to keep pushing on! Well done and best of luck with med school 💗💗
been bawling my eyes out because for years I haven't been able to regain my academic drive when all I want in life is to succeed and further my education and become a lawyer but I've just been feeling so lost and unmotivated and I really needed to hear this. I hope I can improve and make myself proud in time for my GCSEs. every time I've applied to sixth forms I constantly get the horrible thought that I will never succeed and it's just tiring. I just want to prove to myself that I'm not wasted potential but it's so hard to do that when it's been all I've been feeling and all I've been told for the past 2 years. I just want to better myself but it's so hard sometimes. I honestly needed this and I genuinely bawled like a child at the end
I feel u bud. I feel you. Try looking a bit into self sabotage and limiting beliefs. Maybe you have some deeep ingrained beliefs about yourself that are blocking success. Also- Id recommend the book PsychoCybernetics and Joseph Rodrigues’ UA-cam’s about it. Also, maybe u could benefit from some talk therapy and there’s a good UA-cam channel the crappy childhood fairy
My phone is most definitely listening in on my convos lol. I was talking to a friend earlier today about not doing well in school and not getting the grades I needed for medicine. I also have to retake the entrance exam soo many times. Glad your vid was recommended to me by the YT algorithm. I’m trying to get into graduate entry med and that GAMSAT is kicking my ass lol. I keep trying, because trying is the only thing I can do. Thankfully, I did a lot better in my undergrad and got the grades I needed. Got diagnosed with ADHD midway through and that cleared a bunch of things up. Stopped comparing myself to others, and questioning why I couldn’t be like them, or do as much as they seem to do in a day, etc.
😂😂😂 the algorithm knows xoxox I’ve heard from others who sat the GAMSAT it’s a BITCH so best of luck! where there’s a will, there’s a way 🫶🏼 From a fellow adhd-er, diagnosis can be so enlightening but also a tough time when you start to see all the points in your life it negatively impacted when you had no idea 🥲 Your story sounds very similar to mine so sending lots of love and when you SMASH the GAMSAT and get your place, please come back and let me know 💗
In my flop era, I failed two papers despite having pitting more effort than I did before and it's really been getting to me where I'm starting to think thoughts like, no matter how much I grovel I will never get there. I think detaching myself from my failures has been the best piece of advice fron this. I have a huge wave of exams coming up October onwards and I don't want to be overwhelmed and stuck anymore. Here's to revisiting this comment with a different standpoint. Thank you Faye ❤
I was so caught of guard when you ended the video with saying “I’m sorry” it actually made me tear up, its hard to relate to people and it felt like you know exactly what i am going through. Makes me feel not as alone as i thought i was. Thanks Faye, I appreciate this sm
I actually went looking for this video coz honestly I'm starting to doubt whether I'll make it to my graduation😭 All throughout primary and secondary school i was one of the 'smart' kids who didn't need to put in too much effort but uni is seriously humbling me. I'm in my 3rd yr and the smart girl exterior is slowly but surely cracking and despite trying my best it just isn't cutting it anymore. This coming year I'm hoping to really turn things around for myself coz i am done letting myself down! Clearly I'm not the pull-an-all-nighter girlie so disciplining myself into studying throughout the semester it is🙃 Success and well wishes to anyone in the same boat as me we got this!!
i failed a midterm last semester and barely passed two of my classes after my finals. now i'm in my second semester and i realized that my fear of the soul-crushing disappointment i felt after failing DESPITE studying last semester has kept me from reaching my academic goals :( i'm struggling with a few classes and i've been putting off work/not trying hard enough because i felt so hopeless and stupid. this video could not have come at a better time gosh. hearing advice from someone who has hit a low point in their life and visibly worked so damn hard to turn their life around is incredibly special to witness and i am forever changed. i am sobbing so hard right now lmao but i can't thank you enough for this faye ily !!! :')
I have been in my flop era for 2 years and I'm not used to it... it's a continuous cycle of academic depression...u seem to get better but then u fall back again... u call yourself unworthy and undeserving of love because of your grade, u loose ur motivation...it's a rough time but hey!! If you're reading this, don't stop moving on, constantly appear for ur exams even if your feeling down, prepare as much as you can and at the end of the day be proud of being so strong...I swear many give up before attempting and even if u did bad, you should be proud that you did it...ur suchha strong babie and ur gonna be ok!! Everything will fall into place and u will see it all assembling itself into its place, everything will make sense....u my love, just have to keep pushing through, keep going!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️✨️✨️✨️✨️✨️✨️
the last point is exactly how i feel. I took bio, chem and history alevels and chem is crazy, my teacher told me that if i don’t start getting As soon then i have no chance in going to med school (i’m currently on Cs) i felt totally defeated but i’m improving and the hope is coming back😭thanks faye❤️
Hey Isabella! I just want you to know that not getting consistent As at this point DOES NOT mean you can’t turn it around - smash the practice papers, focus on you weak spots, seek support from your teacher (even if they aren’t encouraging)
Personally, when I felt discouraged by my chemistry teacher, I stopped going to him fro help out of pride and that was a TERRIBLE decision. Keep trying and pushing forward.
I literally cried when you started talking about how your academic flop area impacted you mentally. I could not relate more to your situation, thank you for your kind words.
I literally cannot believe I failed in physics (it's so embarrassing to even say it here, its my first time ever failing) and just got marks in chemistry and I got zero (I asked for a recheck i'm so frickin nervous) I really don't wanna cry and actually do smth about it and then I see this. lets hope I do it right this time edit. the teacher said the answer was correct but there was some silly mistake and strict checking so still zero :/ but there's like another test next week and guess who's gonna try her best to ace? I will make 2023 my academic year. i just will. UPDATEEE : i got 20/20 in listening skills (me being the only one from my class B]) ANDDD I THINK I'LL GET ABOVE 4 IN CHEM THIS TIME LIKE I LITERALLY DIDNT SLEEP BUT WHATEVER (I got a 5.5!!! now i swear I'll work harder and get full in chemistry on this week's test) GUYS UPDATE!!!! I GOT 8.5 OUT OF 9 IN THE RECENT CHEMISTRY TEST AND 6.5/10 IN PHYSICS!!! (I know not the best but we getting thereee^^) update pt. 2 : so like i've always loved math and well, in the last two tests i got full score. my math final is the day after tomorrow (overmorrow i suppose?) and idk why i'm just not studying i think i am getting overconfident? idk my friend called me and was like you'll get good marks you always have even in the last tests you did great...but idk i feel like i'm getting some kind og god complex and i need help to change it and actually study idk how edit. physics exam in a few hours and i'm so scared i really hope it goes well UPDATE!! OH MY GOD ITS FINALLY THE RESULTS OF THIS ACADEMIC SESSION TOMORROW I'D BE LYING IF I SAID I'M NOT SCARED. I'M TERRIFIED ACTUALLY, ESPECIALLY FOR MY MUM I REALLY HOPE IT ALL GOES ALRIGHT LIKE I DO THINK (WANT) I'LL GET ABOVE 80 PERCENTAGE BUT AAARGGGHH I'M SCARED LETS HOPE FOR THE BEST so probably the last update,, but i got 82.16% in this grade. and i wouldve been happy like atleast my sleepless nights paid off but you know what? i got a freakin 18/30 in english practical (which includes the listening skills i was talking about + speaking skills) like i was so happy but for what?! to be disappointed? idk i'm really pissed and not very proud of myself i just...i just feel like i couldve been better if i tried harder but honestly, i'm not so sure anymore i really am not i thought i'd be happy but argh nevermind i got 18/20 💀💀 i'm just stupid LAST FR I SWEAR IM SO SORRY BUT I THINK ITS THE 2ND HIGHEST IN MY FREAKIN' CLASS ARGDKXHDKD also,,, 12th grade is hard it's the second day and I'm having a breakdown (tho it's for a completely different reason but connected :,]) well no one asked but since i saw this again today i'm gonna update again until the finals hehe (i'm super nervous and this makes me feel accountable for some reason) and since a super kind person replied here which made me realise i had commented smth like this ajahsksj anyways. so i saw my marks today (the coincidence) and to say i need to work hard again in physics is an understatement but i will. i frickin' will. i got 34/70 (i know bad bad bad) it's not like i got really good marks in other subjects but still better than this so imma have to work hard this time
I failed Calculus I this semester and I had to retake this subject. Don't worry❤ everyone is struggling one way or another. You are in this path for a reason. Maybe you have to solidify your basics before proceeding to the next level and its fine. Life is not a race😊
I had just got my senior certificate, passed highschool with a deploma (my parents and everyone wanted me to get a bachelor). My mom pretends to the world she is happy ND proud and tells ppl I got a bachelors... Then when we're alone she tells me how she has to lie and pretend and how she is ashamed and disappointed. I know it's my fault I ddnt do better so I'll do better, upgrade my points so I can get into med school, my teacher said the same thing to me, but I'll prove her ring like u did. U really helped me, thank you so much Faye 🥺
"It was easier to handle emotionally if I failed because I wasn't trying than to fail despite trying". Unfortunately, I still subconsciously do this all the time. I tried to get into medical school twice and didn't make it. Now I'm in pharmacy school because I thought it was close enough, but apparently the universe wanted me to see this video and call me out. Thank you for sharing your story in such an honest way.
@@DrFayeBate OMG what are the chances i'm def gonna give that a watch !! i always feel like i'm somehow studying too hard and too little at the same time ? i get so stressed about my a levels that i *can't even revise* which is.. you know. a self propagating cycle. not fun at all
thank you for this video, I really needed it. im in year 13 and my grandma just passed away leaving me clueless about absolutely everything. I am determined to do well because I NEED the academic validation and this video made me feel like getting the grades I need is still possible
I rarely sit through studying videos like this because they always seem so perfect, like they’ve never struggled or flopped even once. Your video really resonates with me. I am also doing A Levels, and despite doing well for my GCSEs, I’m struggling a lot right now. Everything feels like a total mess and I can’t keep anything together. I can’t help but keep comparing my current self to my younger self: have I became more stupid or more lazy? Am I worse than I was before? This video really got me to jump out of that thinking and to accept that despite flopping, this is still a part of me and part of growth and eventually, everything will be ok. You really made me feel hopeful for the future despite the mess I’m in right now. Thank you.
currently doing my mocks and what you said at the end really got to me, about giving up and feeling overwhelmed by everything. I chose this fate, I'm doing four and I did an EPQ last year. too much work that I feel has 'ruined me' in a way, but I am determined to persevere and get the grades I want.
i found this video at the perfect time, i used to be really good at school but rn i'm struggling a lot, it makes me feel like a failure and i'm convinced that i'm stupid, even though i study hard. you made my day and now i have a little more hope. thank you for this, i will try your method
thx u! as a first time watcher (i’m american), i’m glad i’m not alone. I’m currently in my flop era and feeling very burnt out. i spent the better half of my 1st yr in college finding a way to study and i still couldn’t get it. I keep falling into procrastination and negativity habits. Starting my second yr in a few weeks and i’m glad i stumbled onto this video❤
I also want to say that some teachers bring students down on purpose. I have felt anxiety, sadness and feel that I’m not worth much because of their words. I know after A-Levels, it will take time to heal from such a traumatic experience. My college would not cooperate with me and only cared about themselves. I have A-Levels in May & June and I’m terrified. Just keeping my faith in God and trying to work hard.
hey! aw i'm so sorry you went through all that, with everything else going on it's no wonder your studies were effected :( i hope 2023 is a little bit kinder to you and best of luck xx
when your goal is high struggle is too, when your future is bright your today might be dull too. in these past few days i feel like i'm not at all pushing myself and somehow my screentime skyrocketed from 1hr a day to 7hr a day. but i will push myself through this and reach where i see my future self to be and so can you. just remember "just keep swimming, just keep swimming"
I had almost an identical experience, and it was soooo bad. I became seriously depressed and I struggled so much with my self-identity and self worth. The school environment didn't help at all, and I just needed advice like this. Honestly still struggling with the grades now, so I'm definitely going to try these techniques. Thanks a bunch Faye!
this video was so heartwarming and helpful :') i was also one of those "smart" kids from primary to secondary until online school started and so did my igcses.. In Year 9 I'd get top if not the highest grades in maths tests and my math teacher suggested I take addmaths for IGCSEs, so i did. then started online school and i started struggling. I ended Year 10 with a B in maths and C in addmaths and i felt my world collapsing. i ended up dropping addmaths and took art instead, and did finish IGCSEs with some A*s, As, and mostly Bs thanks to the Blurting method and practice papers. But it got worse in A Levels. I had moved countries because of the pandemic and financial issues, and didn't go to a good school. It didn't help that most of my AS year was online but offline exams were back. Most of my class ended up failing their AS exams and I got a DEU (English Language, Biology, Maths) and it was one of the highest collection of AS grades throughout the year group lol. I fainted twice in school on results day cause I had already tried more study methods like flashcards, spaced repetition, even more practice tests and it made me feel exhausted. I felt that if I had put more effort I'd have burnt myself out. I realize now that mindset and positive thoughts could possibly help (i tend to panic before exams and forget everything). I also don't feel so alone now, thank you.
I love you, I was you before and I had to move cities due to family reasons and I lost my spark for a year, I WANT TO BE LIKE THIS AGAIN! I literally feel like you made me remember who I was and changed my life in such a good way, THANK YOU VERY MUCH !!! Today has been SO SO IMPORTANT FOR ME OH MY GOSH :)) Let me update daily what’s going on in my life from now on here, I feel like since I don’t have any support system this’ll be very helpful :))
nahh cause the accuracy of my you tube algorithm is hella scary, thanks this is just what i needed 5 months to May June ill be back after mocks whishing everyone the best of luck we can do this!
This video came to me as a miracle. I needed to hear it so bad because i am struggeling with my grades and my motivation and i feel like i am not good enough. I already knew these tips but hearing it from your point is what gehts me trough it. Thank you so much Faye
you have no idea how much this video helped me. I have been feeling like a failure for quite sometime now, and hearing this from you that it's not me but it's my ways that are making it hard for me to achieve what I want to and I just need to change my habits and my ways of studying. Thank you so much. This is the first video of yours that I'm watching but I intend to be your active follower! Keep it up Dr. Faye!
I donno I just needed this. How did this popped up at the most perfect time? I did pass the whole day thinking about giving it all up. I have my board exam in 3 months and my head was about to explode overthinking that I’m not good enough to get a good result .I was feeling like the people who ever doubted me was right probably. I was literally crying the shitt out of me and a lot more. Thanks for this though
Year 2 of uni, 2nd round of exams in biological sciences and I am living in the peak flop era. Burnout is at its max as i barely got to rest over Xmas and I have never been so unmotivated in my life. Exams are less than two weeks away and apart from feeling like I don’t know anything, I also don’t know how to revise anymore. However, this seems to happen at all my exams and somehow I get through okay. So I’m on a mission to watch a few more of your vids to motivate me for the final push (over the next 2 weeks) to stop being so scared and get on with it. So thanks for your vids, they really do help people 💗💗
Stop I’m literally gonna cry watching this. The bit about growth mindset is so so so so moving. I had thought I was getting better fixing my mindset but there’s a difference between thinking something and believing it. This video was so amazing tysm
i'm crying. this came at a perfect time. I failed my board exams for med for the 2nd time and i'm struggling preparing for a 3rd time because i feel like i've given up on myself. Thank you for reminding me that I need to keep fighting for myself. I didn't come this far just to stop here.
Thank you Fay, im from the U.S and trying to get into the a nursing Program, I will take this advice. I dropped out of uni because i basically flopped first semester. I’m definitely usining these techniques.
It feels good to know I am not alone. I struggled a lot academically my second semester of college (this past spring), Fall Semester grades were decent and I expected improvement but I fell short of those Expectations. Coming out of spring semester I still carried those negative thoughts and feelings. Hoping to take classes In Summer (now today the summer semester has ended) to hopefully fix some of the past damage and I feel somewhat better, The two online classes I had taken, resulted in One passing mark and the other failing mark. The failing mark sucks especially because It was history, a subject that I was familiar and fond of. Another hit to my gpa, But Now I understand What I did Wrong, What works for me, How I can be more strategic in planning.... etc. Learning is a process with its fair share of accomplishments and setbacks. But let's keep trying, I know I will! Failure can make us feel as if we are unworthy but We aren't. It is going to be okay, slowly but surely. :) -updates in fall semester possibly
Just found your channel, while studying for Biology. Woahhh here in the Netherlands we need 8 subjects (A level: chemistry, biology, physics, maths, Dutch, English) to get into Medical school and it depends on what uni what they are going to check (like CV or motivation, tests) …. So so difficult because there are only a few spots. Butttttttt I am trying this year since I am in my last year of high school😊tysmmm for this video! I love how calm and inspiring your videos are! Just real!❤
Yes, I was and A student until I started a Master Degree, that it's unaliving me because it's not in my first language but the second. I don't retain information in my second language.
After watching this video, it was like it was made for me. Thank you so much for making this video I realized i just wasnt trying after all my past failures, and that there is still hope
hi! i wanted to comment on this video about my experience in school! i’ve always been the average -below average student (in english) and below average in maths, i never really paid attention in classes, i would always try and disturb my friends simply because i was bored, especially in maths, i felt like i couldn’t ask for help because i would breakdown and feel stupid and every time i did ask for help that exact thing happened and i just couldn’t keep a clear mind, in mid 7th grade i told myself to just try and pay attention to the classes and surprisingly i became one of the top students in all topics expect maths, i was doing a little better, but then again we always had substitute teachers in math and i suppose that also paid a big part, but despite that, the teacher i had when trying to better myself was truly one of my favorites, and that was a substitute teacher for my actual teacher who was pregnant, so when we figured out that our normal teacher came back i was so so scared that i would lose all my academic achievements and become unmotivated, especially when going into 8th grade with the exams right around the corner, but i just kept telling myself not to let myself down and that i got here because of hard work, and that i just need to keep working hard. and now in 8th grade im still one of the top students
Thank you for this video. I just got my first 4/8 on a test. As someone used to getting top marks, it really hurts. Adopting a growth mindset is essential for when you hit a roadblock, don’t give up just because of a few failures, you can do this ❤
I always was the kind of student that was good but not veryyy good, you know the one that like studying but don't do it regularlly, that always get B's and C's but very hardly A's, that always felt like was wasting my potential. So in the second half of my first year of University I am trying to take the courage to really try hard for once, and this video came in the best time. We always see the good students as naturally smarter, but there is just so much effort behind these achivements, and it just makes it a more powerful thing.
Listen!!! this is my second night pulling all nighters because my chair, doesn't like a single sentence of any of the chapters that I have written for my dissertation (PHD, USA). School has always been my jam... now I feel sooooo dumb! Wow this came at the perfect time I needed this!!!
im a 3rd year premed student and semester 2 is just around the corner and yet there’s no assurance that my grade reached the passing mark. 2 weeks of sleepless nights and overthinking, but all i can say is that this came at a ✨perfect✨ time. thank you, Faye!!
Ohmygod , this video made me feel so seen and it's so helpful . The growth mindset part made me cry because I finally stopped feeling so alone and feeling like there's no way out of this rut . Thank you so much for this 🥺❤️
I think UA-cam was listening to me while I was breaking down, weeping, and verbally destroying myself because of acads earlier today because it suddenly recommended this video to me. Thank you, ma'am. I bookmarked this video. I want you to know that this video helped me when I was at my lowest. Thank you
You really helped me alot with this video. I just finished crying my eyes out not understanding why I’m falling school so much this term. Thanks a lot💗
Watching this after failing my med school entrance exam really helped me got through it emotionally, thank youuu!! I hope this year i could be like you
I am med student who is failing and failing from last 2 years😢 Your last words are sth i desirly wanted😩😍 Thanks alot u don't know u are helping alot of us here Its is not like i am not studying its just i am not studind the correct way Pray for my up coming result i am scared but i will try changing what iam doing to myself right now
Getting into medical school is reallly hard. I'm a premed , sometimes I just want to give up but then my innerself keep telling me not to give up. I just want to be in med school fr 🥺❤ Thank you freya for this video♥
Have had this video saved in my "Watch later" folder for a while now. It came onto my feed when I was at my lowest and had no willpower to leave my slump. I'm 17 in 11th year now, my results will get me into uni so playtime is f*ed up.😅 It is currently 01:35 AM and never have I ever been so grateful to whatever force that FORCED me to watch this video today. You helped me realize that my study method is the problem. Luckily, we are on break so I have about 3 weeks to research, improve and practice these new methods. We relate so much- especially on the "smart kid" label. God bless your gracious heart, Faye. So grateful for you! xoxo 💗
Thank you so so much Faye❤I used to be first in my class before the pandemic. Fast forward into the future, I am still recovering from a period of depression and the trauma I got from bad grades because of "friends" who made fun of me. This year I am studying Law in Pretoria, SA thanks to listening to amazing people like you.
What you were saying that the start is so familiar to my experiences at GCSE. Although I was passing all my mocks, none of my teachers predicted anything above a D. I proved them wrong. Went to college with 3 C's, 5 B's and 1 A. Left college with higher grades then my A-level peers, got 2:1 at undergraduate and now studying for a PGCE. I found out last year that I am dyslexic. Wasn't picked up till undergraduate study and got diagnosed during postgraduate. I now work with students who have very low academic self-esteem and, instead of laughing in their faces, like your teacher did. I work through actionable steps with them to achieve their goals. Giving students resources instead of resentment towards learning.
Hi Faye! I really enjoy your videos, I find that with all of my searching for answers for how to deal with my adhd, depression and anxiety and how to go about succeeding as a chem major with a poor high school experience, I really identify with alot of the issues you mentioned going through. Alot of them which I have not seen much recognition for, like the failing on purpose because thats easier to handle emotionally than failling even though you tried. An urge im feeling strongly since yesterday I completely fumbled a midterm with a 57% grade. F. Fail. But I feel alot more hopeful and my spirit to persevere feels rejuvinated after listening to your videos. Thank you! I will keep on
Definitely needed this video right now, lately I feel like even though I give my all in schoolwork I still do not get even near the results that I wanted or used to get before and ngl it has taken a big toll on my mental health. Thank you
Faye, your videos have changed my life for the better, not even being dramatic. I’ve taken all the advice you have shared and went from being a B average student to getting a 4.0 in my masters. I just had my first interview for my Doctorate in Dentistry yesterday. Thank you for all you do❤️
I cried yesterday over one of my assignment grades at uni. Spiralled immediately. I need to get 80% (which is seen as nearly impossible there) to get a scholarship (there is no way I'll be able to afford moving on my own). Quickly realised that I probably react so strongly to failure because my stepdad is always comparing me to more successful people he knows, or to my (nine years older) stepbrother. (As if we're supposed to be at the same stage in life). I know I also need to care a lot less about what other people think, but it's really hard when you've spent 20 years living to please other people and never knowing what you really want because of that. If anyone has any tips please let me know
This video truly came at the most perfect time.. thank you for sharing your experiences with us, Faye. I've felt so alone for long and I've found it difficult to open up about this. Your video has allowed others to share their experiences and I realize that there are so many of us that resonate and have felt this way. Thank you for being the older sister we all need.. providing us with comfort, inspiration and encouragement. So proud of you for pushing through and for making it as far as you have! Much love, Faye
Thank you so much for sharing this Faye 💕 You are so right with this! Growth Mindset is the Way to turn things around💯 Throughout secondary school, I was an A student and I got straight As in my Diploma exams but then got my first F ever in my 1st year in university. I was so deflated and felt like I wasn't so smart after all...My only regret is I stayed in that place too long. But I know better now and I am working with a Growth Mindset and I am seeing the results🌟💫😁
I am failing 4 classes and felt like i may not make it to my other honor classes and that i would have to re-take the other classes but but these videos got me motivated made me understand that i am good enough the school has made me feel like a failure but after seeing this video it made me feel better and helping me get on track and will continue to help push me through the 2 years left of my Highschool years.
When I was a kid…no one and I mean NO ONE loved learning mor then me. Covid hit and that all went downhill. Family drama didn’t help. I am disappointing younger me. I DESPERATELY need to take it seriously. I LOVE school so much and it makes me sad to see I’m just throwing time away instead of lifting myself up. Today on my 16th birthday I am ADAMANT to fix all this bullshit and get on with my life PROPERLY.
may allah be with you.don't give up
@@gfyfuo990 thank you very much ❤️
Dude you fkn got this shjt don’t give up man you’re young, you can do this. Your older self is going to thank you for not giving up on yourself. May god be with you.
@@cekinegarcia5627 thank you! I’m trying ❤️
Family drama or any drama for that matter is psychologically and intellectually really draining! No wonder youve been struggling. Try to preserve your inner peace and keep as much distance you can to be able to concentrate on you and your future ❤ you got this ❤
1. make tough choices
2. think strategically
3. develop a growth mindset
gosh that "It was easier to handle emotionally if I failed because I wasn't trying than to fail despite trying" spoke to my soul... been there! I had to resit my entrance exams and I am now a 4th year med student in my home town in Athens, Greece! Never give up!!
Well done for preserving and getting there!! Personally I know that going through that has made me more dedicated and I hope you feel the same xx
i'm so glad you commented on this because I went through the exact same situation. lost my motivation to study for my entrance exam and failed and now i'm studying again and trying to function.
Yesss
Today, I reached a low. Im just tired physically and mentally. On top of that, im tired of feeling tired. I don't know what to do so i'm coming here. I find comfort in knowing I'm not alone. Good luck to anyone who is also struggling.
sending love to you 🙏💕
thank you so much for sharing this, it makes me feel better that I found someone who feels the exact same ❤
You are not alone! God is always with you, I'll be praying for you 🙏 ❤️
This. I've been struggling to put it into words but this is how I feel
Thanks❤
I really related to your “smart kid but when you failed, you thought that you had already reached your peak so everything goes downhill from there” experience. Took a leave of absence from uni for 3 semesters because of burn out and fear of my last year at school, thinking that I hadn’t really learned anything at all. I was always scared of people finding out i’m a fraud and that the smart girl they knew is actually just really average. Got impostor syndrome bc i got into my country’s top uni, then realized how big the world is and how naturally smart some people are. Then i didn’t even know how to study because i never needed to in high school, so i got shit grades in uni. Now, i can’t say that i’m not afraid anymore or that i’ve turned into a more driven person, but i’m trying to implement this growth mindset now that i’m going back to uni. Instead of focusing on the fact that I failed, I need to focus on why I did and what I could do better. I need to actually make use of the consultation hours of my professors. Instead of memorizing, i need to understand why.
Loved the video! Thanks for sharing
Wow, you described exactly what I've been feeling for years, but have never had the courage to admit. I honestly felt so much better as I read your comment, knowing that there were other people that felt like that.
This is practically my whole life word for word. Except I found out I had ADHD
@@thatroyalnuisancenext year is my graduation year from high school i used to be the TOP of my class my whole life but this year my grades just dropped and im in a math class(its the main subject and i love it)and now i feel like an imposter like the other girl said,and im gonna study in summer vacation we have three months i rested a month and im gonna start now hoping i can make things better,today we got the last semester's grades(even tho it ended a month ago)all my friends got better grades than me and they're enjoying that i didn't take a high grade(sorry i forgot the word English isn't my mother language)so im feeling sad now i wrote a lot i needed to talk lol even my 'freind' wouldn't listen nor my family
This is exactly what I feel. Thank you for sharing
ive found my people, wow u literally just described me in the end... being labeled as a "smart kid" I always got good grades but convinced myself it was just cuz the teachers liked me and I was being. good student, and now when I am about to start high school after summer, I tried looking at some stuff we would be working with there and I genuinely didn't understand a lot of what I was learning, I felt like I had just lost my potential and right now I am so horrified becase I just lost hope in myself nd im not even TRYING to pick myself up, I try to gaslight myself into thinking I know what im doing and its all gonna work our just fine beacause thru out 0-9th grade ive always done my sh1t last minute and my "natural intelligence" saved my ass and so I got A's, but in 9th grade things changed, things got harder and my "natural talent" wasn't good enough, I fel hopeless. ur video really made me realise that this is not the end. I have 3 years to change things so that I can pursue my dream of maybe some field in either medicine or maybe engineering, maybe even dentistry. idk yet, but with good grades I can become what I want.
Your video popped up to me at the best time. I was a straight A student in secondary school and now that I'm in A-levels I can't seem to get it. It's like I've lost my "magic" and I feel as though I'll never make it and that everyone who ever doubted me was right. You showed me that it isn't the end and I can still get up again, thank you so much and I wish you well on your journey through medicine. My dream is to one day become an Emergency Room doctor.
Im going through the exact same thing, doing a levels right now too
@@seeitall8921 Good luck to you in your studies. Just keep pushing and you will succeed, if you failed don't dwell too much on it. Just get back up find out why you failed and execute your new found knowledge. Keep a positive mindset, you got this.
same I just got my first grades back and I got B E D 😭
i have the same but in university. I was a quite good student in high school but now it seems like i am a very bad student. I just did 2 exams and i think i failed them both
When she said " ITS OUR EDUCATION SYSTEM THAT MADE US BELIEVE THAT WE ARE NATURALLY SMART " it hit home cause I think we all made it a part of our identity to be academically gifted and then suddenly the reality hits like a truck when we all enter uni because we see that everyone is the " THE SO CALLED SMART STUDENT WHICH U WERE TOLD THAT YOU ARE AND SUDDENLY THERE ARE SO MANY OF THEM LIKE YOU OR BETTER THAN YOU" and we suddenly go into a whole identity crisis because our "SMART" isn't enough to pass the exams like in scl ... Oh man this video was seriously eye-opening
I am currently in freshman year and literally in my flop era, I needed this right now, thank you
We all know what comes after a flop era ✨✨✨✨ you got this queen, I have faith that you’ll come back stronger than ever
same !!
I'm a sophomore (and still in my flop era). i failed my first class in freshman year after years of being the "gifted kid". don't worry, it'll get better!
@@DrFayeBatelb
You got this ❤
"you're not stupid, it’s your academic flop era ", the title couldn't have been more resounding for me. As someone who was also labelled as a smart child since primary schools it has always been inbuilt for me to perform academically better. The first 2 years of my college year went really nice then starting 3rd year i failed both my 5th and 6th semester and it was such a blow that i found it really hard to accept that fact. The worst fact was that I actually worked very hard for them. I had studied the hardest in my life an still getting such results it felt just like how you explained, that i had already peaked academically and there's only downfall from now on, from being annoyed seeing a C on my mark-sheet to straight up seeing Ds and Fs have been a terrible experience. It wasn't that i gave up but I stopped trying for a while and let go because working hard didn't seem to have meaning anymore. It just felt unlucky to experience that, cause i clearly worked hard . Right? But thankfully I've started to get out of the slump. and watching this video and reading all the comments of people experiencing the same thing have made me feel a bit more understood and relieved a part of my worries. So huge thank you to you and also to every other comments on here.
i just want to say all of you that you all will surely get over the slump you are currently facing. No matter the amount of odds you are facing, you got this and you will definitely rise up victorious. Everyone, we are bound to be successful💪💪❤🩹❤🔥
I’m literally crying as I’m reading this. Thank you so much
Omg Tysm!! 😭
I never cry while watching videos or movies. But i bawled while watching this. Thank you so much Faye. You have no idea how grateful i am to you for this video. YOURE SO SLAY LOVE YOU
awww noooo i'm so sorry it made you cry but im happy you found it useful!! and thank you so much for all the kind words xxx
@@DrFayeBate Until the time is at hand, the same old warning must come forth: (THE M. O. T. B)
masons try for generations to try and create too, what GOD has created, the human body from dust. So far they mange to only make a copy, (human cloning). The body may be manageable to create by the masons, but the most important part in this specific creation. Is the SPIRIT PART, Human Spirit comes only from GOD/CHRIST and not from the devil. The devil can make a clone aka empty vessel, and fill it whit the spirit of demon. = the outcome is not human, but a demon/evil spirit in body.
With the MARK OF THE BEAST, the human SPIRIT shall be locked into a body which used to be flesh and blood, but now are more machine like. And since the machine aint aging nor getting sick = death never to arrive. To a human mind, it may 1st hand sound cool, that they no longer getting sick nor die, but in long run, the SPIRIT gets tired and wants to leave it`s vessel/body. Sadly unless GOD steps in and melts the body away, the SPIRIT shall never be freed.
Revelation 9:6 And in those days shall men seek death, and shall not find it; and shall desire to die, and death shall flee from them. This verse is about the souls, who took the MARK OF THE BEAST and no longer can die.
Read carefully what this verse is saying.
Revelation 19:20
And the beast was taken, and with him the false prophet that wrought miracles before him, with which he deceived them that had received the mark of the beast, and them that worshipped his image. These both were cast alive into a lake of fire burning with brimstone.
Revelation 13:17
And that no man might buy or sell, save he that had the mark, or the name of the beast, or the number of his name.
Revelation 14:9
And the third angel followed them, saying with a loud voice, If any man worship the beast and his image, and receive his mark in his forehead, or in his hand,
Revelation 14:11
And the smoke of their torment ascendeth up for ever and ever: and they have no rest day nor night, who worship the beast and his image, and whosoever receiveth the mark of his name.
Don´t transform into machine, keep being HUMAN.
Thank you so much for this video queen. I myself am currently in an academic slump didn’t do so well in my first semester in medical school classes and also got out of a toxic 4 year relationship. Your video gave me the motivation to push forward and know that I am not alone and it will get better. Sending you lots of love from Miami ❤
Im so sorry to hear that 😢😢 toxic relationships and break ups can have such a huge impact on all areas of our lives including our studies and I’m sorry you’ve had to go through that!! So happy you’ve made the decision to keep pushing on! Well done and best of luck with med school 💗💗
been bawling my eyes out because for years I haven't been able to regain my academic drive when all I want in life is to succeed and further my education and become a lawyer but I've just been feeling so lost and unmotivated and I really needed to hear this. I hope I can improve and make myself proud in time for my GCSEs. every time I've applied to sixth forms I constantly get the horrible thought that I will never succeed and it's just tiring. I just want to prove to myself that I'm not wasted potential but it's so hard to do that when it's been all I've been feeling and all I've been told for the past 2 years. I just want to better myself but it's so hard sometimes. I honestly needed this and I genuinely bawled like a child at the end
Your story has been me for 7 years now and today I have decided to take that power back good luck to I’m rooting for you🎉
I feel u bud. I feel you. Try looking a bit into self sabotage and limiting beliefs. Maybe you have some deeep ingrained beliefs about yourself that are blocking success. Also- Id recommend the book PsychoCybernetics and Joseph Rodrigues’ UA-cam’s about it. Also, maybe u could benefit from some talk therapy and there’s a good UA-cam channel the crappy childhood fairy
same i cried to this a lot.
Update!!!
My phone is most definitely listening in on my convos lol. I was talking to a friend earlier today about not doing well in school and not getting the grades I needed for medicine. I also have to retake the entrance exam soo many times. Glad your vid was recommended to me by the YT algorithm.
I’m trying to get into graduate entry med and that GAMSAT is kicking my ass lol. I keep trying, because trying is the only thing I can do. Thankfully, I did a lot better in my undergrad and got the grades I needed. Got diagnosed with ADHD midway through and that cleared a bunch of things up. Stopped comparing myself to others, and questioning why I couldn’t be like them, or do as much as they seem to do in a day, etc.
😂😂😂 the algorithm knows xoxox
I’ve heard from others who sat the GAMSAT it’s a BITCH so best of luck! where there’s a will, there’s a way 🫶🏼
From a fellow adhd-er, diagnosis can be so enlightening but also a tough time when you start to see all the points in your life it negatively impacted when you had no idea 🥲
Your story sounds very similar to mine so sending lots of love and when you SMASH the GAMSAT and get your place, please come back and let me know 💗
In my flop era, I failed two papers despite having pitting more effort than I did before and it's really been getting to me where I'm starting to think thoughts like, no matter how much I grovel I will never get there. I think detaching myself from my failures has been the best piece of advice fron this. I have a huge wave of exams coming up October onwards and I don't want to be overwhelmed and stuck anymore. Here's to revisiting this comment with a different standpoint. Thank you Faye ❤
I was so caught of guard when you ended the video with saying “I’m sorry” it actually made me tear up, its hard to relate to people and it felt like you know exactly what i am going through. Makes me feel not as alone as i thought i was. Thanks Faye, I appreciate this sm
I actually went looking for this video coz honestly I'm starting to doubt whether I'll make it to my graduation😭
All throughout primary and secondary school i was one of the 'smart' kids who didn't need to put in too much effort but uni is seriously humbling me.
I'm in my 3rd yr and the smart girl exterior is slowly but surely cracking and despite trying my best it just isn't cutting it anymore.
This coming year I'm hoping to really turn things around for myself coz i am done letting myself down!
Clearly I'm not the pull-an-all-nighter girlie so disciplining myself into studying throughout the semester it is🙃
Success and well wishes to anyone in the same boat as me we got this!!
i failed a midterm last semester and barely passed two of my classes after my finals. now i'm in my second semester and i realized that my fear of the soul-crushing disappointment i felt after failing DESPITE studying last semester has kept me from reaching my academic goals :( i'm struggling with a few classes and i've been putting off work/not trying hard enough because i felt so hopeless and stupid. this video could not have come at a better time gosh. hearing advice from someone who has hit a low point in their life and visibly worked so damn hard to turn their life around is incredibly special to witness and i am forever changed. i am sobbing so hard right now lmao but i can't thank you enough for this faye ily !!! :')
I have been in my flop era for 2 years and I'm not used to it... it's a continuous cycle of academic depression...u seem to get better but then u fall back again... u call yourself unworthy and undeserving of love because of your grade, u loose ur motivation...it's a rough time but hey!! If you're reading this, don't stop moving on, constantly appear for ur exams even if your feeling down, prepare as much as you can and at the end of the day be proud of being so strong...I swear many give up before attempting and even if u did bad, you should be proud that you did it...ur suchha strong babie and ur gonna be ok!! Everything will fall into place and u will see it all assembling itself into its place, everything will make sense....u my love, just have to keep pushing through, keep going!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️✨️✨️✨️✨️✨️✨️
the last point is exactly how i feel. I took bio, chem and history alevels and chem is crazy, my teacher told me that if i don’t start getting As soon then i have no chance in going to med school (i’m currently on Cs) i felt totally defeated but i’m improving and the hope is coming back😭thanks faye❤️
Hey Isabella! I just want you to know that not getting consistent As at this point DOES NOT mean you can’t turn it around - smash the practice papers, focus on you weak spots, seek support from your teacher (even if they aren’t encouraging)
Personally, when I felt discouraged by my chemistry teacher, I stopped going to him fro help out of pride and that was a TERRIBLE decision. Keep trying and pushing forward.
And please reply to me in a few months time when you get your A!!! (And then ofc when you get your place in med school 💗)
Best of luck lovely!! This vid might also be useful with your studies - ua-cam.com/video/qk4GnIxJGdM/v-deo.html
@@DrFayeBate thanks! :)
I literally cried when you started talking about how your academic flop area impacted you mentally. I could not relate more to your situation, thank you for your kind words.
I literally cannot believe I failed in physics (it's so embarrassing to even say it here, its my first time ever failing) and just got marks in chemistry and I got zero (I asked for a recheck i'm so frickin nervous)
I really don't wanna cry and actually do smth about it and then I see this. lets hope I do it right this time
edit. the teacher said the answer was correct but there was some silly mistake and strict checking so still zero :/
but there's like another test next week and guess who's gonna try her best to ace?
I will make 2023 my academic year. i just will.
UPDATEEE : i got 20/20 in listening skills (me being the only one from my class B]) ANDDD I THINK I'LL GET ABOVE 4 IN CHEM THIS TIME LIKE I LITERALLY DIDNT SLEEP BUT WHATEVER (I got a 5.5!!! now i swear I'll work harder and get full in chemistry on this week's test)
GUYS UPDATE!!!!
I GOT 8.5 OUT OF 9 IN THE RECENT CHEMISTRY TEST AND 6.5/10 IN PHYSICS!!! (I know not the best but we getting thereee^^)
update pt. 2 : so like i've always loved math and well, in the last two tests i got full score. my math final is the day after tomorrow (overmorrow i suppose?) and idk why i'm just not studying i think i am getting overconfident? idk my friend called me and was like you'll get good marks you always have even in the last tests you did great...but idk i feel like i'm getting some kind og god complex and i need help to change it and actually study idk how
edit. physics exam in a few hours and i'm so scared i really hope it goes well
UPDATE!!
OH MY GOD ITS FINALLY THE RESULTS OF THIS ACADEMIC SESSION TOMORROW I'D BE LYING IF I SAID I'M NOT SCARED. I'M TERRIFIED ACTUALLY, ESPECIALLY FOR MY MUM I REALLY HOPE IT ALL GOES ALRIGHT LIKE I DO THINK (WANT) I'LL GET ABOVE 80 PERCENTAGE BUT AAARGGGHH I'M SCARED LETS HOPE FOR THE BEST
so probably the last update,,
but i got 82.16% in this grade. and i wouldve been happy like atleast my sleepless nights paid off but you know what? i got a freakin 18/30 in english practical (which includes the listening skills i was talking about + speaking skills) like i was so happy but for what?! to be disappointed? idk i'm really pissed and not very proud of myself i just...i just feel like i couldve been better if i tried harder
but honestly, i'm not so sure anymore i really am not
i thought i'd be happy but argh
nevermind i got 18/20 💀💀 i'm just stupid
LAST FR I SWEAR IM SO SORRY
BUT I THINK ITS THE 2ND HIGHEST IN MY FREAKIN' CLASS ARGDKXHDKD
also,,, 12th grade is hard it's the second day and I'm having a breakdown (tho it's for a completely different reason but connected :,])
well no one asked but since i saw this again today i'm gonna update again until the finals hehe (i'm super nervous and this makes me feel accountable for some reason) and since a super kind person replied here which made me realise i had commented smth like this ajahsksj
anyways. so i saw my marks today (the coincidence) and to say i need to work hard again in physics is an understatement but i will. i frickin' will. i got 34/70 (i know bad bad bad) it's not like i got really good marks in other subjects but still better than this so imma have to work hard this time
you can do it!!! Dont give up
I failed Calculus I this semester and I had to retake this subject. Don't worry❤ everyone is struggling one way or another. You are in this path for a reason. Maybe you have to solidify your basics before proceeding to the next level and its fine. Life is not a race😊
Literally same sis
Girl , in 11th standard I scored -5 in physics. You start somewhere. Let the zero be your start
We’re so happy for you 🥹
I really thought I was alone when it came to this and currently at the verge of tears this helped so much thank you
I had just got my senior certificate, passed highschool with a deploma (my parents and everyone wanted me to get a bachelor). My mom pretends to the world she is happy ND proud and tells ppl I got a bachelors... Then when we're alone she tells me how she has to lie and pretend and how she is ashamed and disappointed. I know it's my fault I ddnt do better so I'll do better, upgrade my points so I can get into med school, my teacher said the same thing to me, but I'll prove her ring like u did. U really helped me, thank you so much Faye 🥺
"It was easier to handle emotionally if I failed because I wasn't trying than to fail despite trying". Unfortunately, I still subconsciously do this all the time. I tried to get into medical school twice and didn't make it. Now I'm in pharmacy school because I thought it was close enough, but apparently the universe wanted me to see this video and call me out. Thank you for sharing your story in such an honest way.
my a levels are in 2 weeks but i’m gonna turn it around at the last minute 😤 thanks for the support queen !! 💕
BEST OF LUCK!! I just uploaded a UA-cam video on cramming last min you might find helpful!! You’ve got this 🫶🏼🫶🏼
@@DrFayeBate OMG what are the chances i'm def gonna give that a watch !!
i always feel like i'm somehow studying too hard and too little at the same time ? i get so stressed about my a levels that i *can't even revise* which is.. you know. a self propagating cycle. not fun at all
I needed this I be been depressed crying almost every day
Feeling like a failure 😞
Thanks I see light at the end of the tunnel now😊
thank you for this video, I really needed it. im in year 13 and my grandma just passed away leaving me clueless about absolutely everything. I am determined to do well because I NEED the academic validation and this video made me feel like getting the grades I need is still possible
I rarely sit through studying videos like this because they always seem so perfect, like they’ve never struggled or flopped even once. Your video really resonates with me. I am also doing A Levels, and despite doing well for my GCSEs, I’m struggling a lot right now. Everything feels like a total mess and I can’t keep anything together. I can’t help but keep comparing my current self to my younger self: have I became more stupid or more lazy? Am I worse than I was before? This video really got me to jump out of that thinking and to accept that despite flopping, this is still a part of me and part of growth and eventually, everything will be ok. You really made me feel hopeful for the future despite the mess I’m in right now. Thank you.
currently doing my mocks and what you said at the end really got to me, about giving up and feeling overwhelmed by everything. I chose this fate, I'm doing four and I did an EPQ last year. too much work that I feel has 'ruined me' in a way, but I am determined to persevere and get the grades I want.
i found this video at the perfect time, i used to be really good at school but rn i'm struggling a lot, it makes me feel like a failure and i'm convinced that i'm stupid, even though i study hard. you made my day and now i have a little more hope. thank you for this, i will try your method
thx u! as a first time watcher (i’m american), i’m glad i’m not alone. I’m currently in my flop era and feeling very burnt out. i spent the better half of my 1st yr in college finding a way to study and i still couldn’t get it. I keep falling into procrastination and negativity habits. Starting my second yr in a few weeks and i’m glad i stumbled onto this video❤
I also want to say that some teachers bring students down on purpose. I have felt anxiety, sadness and feel that I’m not worth much because of their words. I know after A-Levels, it will take time to heal from such a traumatic experience. My college would not cooperate with me and only cared about themselves. I have A-Levels in May & June and I’m terrified. Just keeping my faith in God and trying to work hard.
Girl it's always been labelling they label you which leads to self fulfilling prophecy just work work hard and don't make yourself stressed
@@reginaloki Thank you
thank you for this video sm
hey! aw i'm so sorry you went through all that, with everything else going on it's no wonder your studies were effected :(
i hope 2023 is a little bit kinder to you and best of luck xx
@@DrFayeBate thank you sm for the support and understanding
when your goal is high struggle is too, when your future is bright your today might be dull too.
in these past few days i feel like i'm not at all pushing myself and somehow my screentime skyrocketed from 1hr a day to 7hr a day. but i will push myself through this and reach where i see my future self to be and so can you. just remember "just keep swimming, just keep swimming"
this video helped me get 3 a’s and 2 b’s so thank you so much for helping me out
THE BEST COMMENT EVER!! Well done you!! ❤️❤️
I had almost an identical experience, and it was soooo bad. I became seriously depressed and I struggled so much with my self-identity and self worth. The school environment didn't help at all, and I just needed advice like this. Honestly still struggling with the grades now, so I'm definitely going to try these techniques. Thanks a bunch Faye!
Exactly school literally put us into a fake reality of "SMART"... And univerity literally caught us off guard
this video was so heartwarming and helpful :') i was also one of those "smart" kids from primary to secondary until online school started and so did my igcses.. In Year 9 I'd get top if not the highest grades in maths tests and my math teacher suggested I take addmaths for IGCSEs, so i did. then started online school and i started struggling. I ended Year 10 with a B in maths and C in addmaths and i felt my world collapsing. i ended up dropping addmaths and took art instead, and did finish IGCSEs with some A*s, As, and mostly Bs thanks to the Blurting method and practice papers. But it got worse in A Levels. I had moved countries because of the pandemic and financial issues, and didn't go to a good school. It didn't help that most of my AS year was online but offline exams were back. Most of my class ended up failing their AS exams and I got a DEU (English Language, Biology, Maths) and it was one of the highest collection of AS grades throughout the year group lol. I fainted twice in school on results day cause I had already tried more study methods like flashcards, spaced repetition, even more practice tests and it made me feel exhausted. I felt that if I had put more effort I'd have burnt myself out. I realize now that mindset and positive thoughts could possibly help (i tend to panic before exams and forget everything). I also don't feel so alone now, thank you.
Thank you for sharing! I feel you on the last few lines esp.
I love you, I was you before and I had to move cities due to family reasons and I lost my spark for a year, I WANT TO BE LIKE THIS AGAIN! I literally feel like you made me remember who I was and changed my life in such a good way, THANK YOU VERY MUCH !!! Today has been SO SO IMPORTANT FOR ME OH MY GOSH :)) Let me update daily what’s going on in my life from now on here, I feel like since I don’t have any support system this’ll be very helpful :))
nahh cause the accuracy of my you tube algorithm is hella scary, thanks this is just what i needed 5 months to May June ill be back after mocks whishing everyone the best of luck we can do this!
this video literally popped on my feed on the day I needed it the most. I am so grateful to you, Faye
This video came to me as a miracle. I needed to hear it so bad because i am struggeling with my grades and my motivation and i feel like i am not good enough.
I already knew these tips but hearing it from your point is what gehts me trough it. Thank you so much Faye
you have no idea how much this video helped me. I have been feeling like a failure for quite sometime now, and hearing this from you that it's not me but it's my ways that are making it hard for me to achieve what I want to and I just need to change my habits and my ways of studying. Thank you so much. This is the first video of yours that I'm watching but I intend to be your active follower! Keep it up Dr. Faye!
I feel like you're an older sister guiding me, love youuu
I donno I just needed this. How did this popped up at the most perfect time? I did pass the whole day thinking about giving it all up. I have my board exam in 3 months and my head was about to explode overthinking that I’m not good enough to get a good result .I was feeling like the people who ever doubted me was right probably. I was literally crying the shitt out of me and a lot more. Thanks for this though
That’s my current situation ,i’ve been feeling like shit in every possible way and this really helped me thank you so much
Year 2 of uni, 2nd round of exams in biological sciences and I am living in the peak flop era. Burnout is at its max as i barely got to rest over Xmas and I have never been so unmotivated in my life. Exams are less than two weeks away and apart from feeling like I don’t know anything, I also don’t know how to revise anymore. However, this seems to happen at all my exams and somehow I get through okay. So I’m on a mission to watch a few more of your vids to motivate me for the final push (over the next 2 weeks) to stop being so scared and get on with it. So thanks for your vids, they really do help people 💗💗
so glad i dropped physics one month in a levels, i’m now doing biology, chemistry, english literature and i haven’t been happier
ahahah they are 3 tough subjects as it is, im so happy for you that you dropped physics too!!
You're a kind hearted person its so cute. I wish you all the best and hope everything goes your way !
The last point of thinking there's no way out really hit home ...
I'll come back in two months to tell you all i got over myself . Please remind me 😉😉
2022 was so hard 😭it definitely was my academic flop era but still I learned a lot in 2022 academic wise
Stop I’m literally gonna cry watching this. The bit about growth mindset is so so so so moving. I had thought I was getting better fixing my mindset but there’s a difference between thinking something and believing it. This video was so amazing tysm
Gonna start truly believing that I haven’t just hit a smartness ceiling
i'm crying. this came at a perfect time. I failed my board exams for med for the 2nd time and i'm struggling preparing for a 3rd time because i feel like i've given up on myself. Thank you for reminding me that I need to keep fighting for myself. I didn't come this far just to stop here.
Thank you Fay, im from the U.S and trying to get into the a nursing Program, I will take this advice. I dropped out of uni because i basically flopped first semester. I’m definitely usining these techniques.
It feels good to know I am not alone.
I struggled a lot academically my second semester of college (this past spring), Fall Semester grades were decent and I expected improvement but I fell short of those Expectations.
Coming out of spring semester I still carried those negative thoughts and feelings. Hoping to take classes In Summer (now today the summer semester has ended) to hopefully fix some of the past damage and I feel somewhat better,
The two online classes I had taken, resulted in One passing mark and the other failing mark. The failing mark sucks especially because It was history, a subject that I was familiar and fond of.
Another hit to my gpa, But Now I understand What I did Wrong, What works for me, How I can be more strategic in planning.... etc.
Learning is a process with its fair share of accomplishments and setbacks. But let's keep trying, I know I will!
Failure can make us feel as if we are unworthy but We aren't. It is going to be okay, slowly but surely. :)
-updates in fall semester possibly
Just found your channel, while studying for Biology. Woahhh here in the Netherlands we need 8 subjects (A level: chemistry, biology, physics, maths, Dutch, English) to get into Medical school and it depends on what uni what they are going to check (like CV or motivation, tests) …. So so difficult because there are only a few spots. Butttttttt I am trying this year since I am in my last year of high school😊tysmmm for this video! I love how calm and inspiring your videos are! Just real!❤
Good luck!
@@catelynsilverine8508 thank uuu so muchhh Catelyn!❤
Ja en je kan geen vak laten vallen zoals zij zegt dan zit je al niet meer op vwo-niveau of je NG pakket.
@@lakshmip9505 klopt!
Yes, I was and A student until I started a Master Degree, that it's unaliving me because it's not in my first language but the second. I don't retain information in my second language.
The timing of the video is impeccable🤌🏾 I NEEDED THIS‼️
So happy you found it helpful!! Best of luck with ya studies 💗
thanks for this faye! definitely needed this as a boost to keep me going study-wise :)
Hope you find the vid helpful!! And best of luck 💗💗💗
Honestly, the positivity in this video is amazing, emotional detachment from failures so key!!!
currently in my flop era and really needed this, thank you so much
After watching this video, it was like it was made for me. Thank you so much for making this video I realized i just wasnt trying after all my past failures, and that there is still hope
there absolutely is still hope!! keep pushing forward! sending you the best of luck xx
hi! i wanted to comment on this video about my experience in school! i’ve always been the average -below average student (in english) and below average in maths, i never really paid attention in classes, i would always try and disturb my friends simply because i was bored, especially in maths, i felt like i couldn’t ask for help because i would breakdown and feel stupid and every time i did ask for help that exact thing happened and i just couldn’t keep a clear mind, in mid 7th grade i told myself to just try and pay attention to the classes and surprisingly i became one of the top students in all topics expect maths, i was doing a little better, but then again we always had substitute teachers in math and i suppose that also paid a big part, but despite that, the teacher i had when trying to better myself was truly one of my favorites, and that was a substitute teacher for my actual teacher who was pregnant, so when we figured out that our normal teacher came back i was so so scared that i would lose all my academic achievements and become unmotivated, especially when going into 8th grade with the exams right around the corner, but i just kept telling myself not to let myself down and that i got here because of hard work, and that i just need to keep working hard. and now in 8th grade im still one of the top students
And your video actually related to what im experiencing at the moment. Thanks so much for the encouragement.😊
Thank you for this video. I just got my first 4/8 on a test. As someone used to getting top marks, it really hurts. Adopting a growth mindset is essential for when you hit a roadblock, don’t give up just because of a few failures, you can do this ❤
I always was the kind of student that was good but not veryyy good, you know the one that like studying but don't do it regularlly, that always get B's and C's but very hardly A's, that always felt like was wasting my potential. So in the second half of my first year of University I am trying to take the courage to really try hard for once, and this video came in the best time. We always see the good students as naturally smarter, but there is just so much effort behind these achivements, and it just makes it a more powerful thing.
Listen!!! this is my second night pulling all nighters because my chair, doesn't like a single sentence of any of the chapters that I have written for my dissertation (PHD, USA). School has always been my jam... now I feel sooooo dumb! Wow this came at the perfect time I needed this!!!
Thanks for sharing ❤
It is so easy to doubt ourselves, but that should never stop us 👍🏻
im a 3rd year premed student and semester 2 is just around the corner and yet there’s no assurance that my grade reached the passing mark. 2 weeks of sleepless nights and overthinking, but all i can say is that this came at a ✨perfect✨ time. thank you, Faye!!
Ngl I can’t be bothered to watch the video. That’s how done i am
Ohmygod , this video made me feel so seen and it's so helpful . The growth mindset part made me cry because I finally stopped feeling so alone and feeling like there's no way out of this rut . Thank you so much for this 🥺❤️
I think UA-cam was listening to me while I was breaking down, weeping, and verbally destroying myself because of acads earlier today because it suddenly recommended this video to me. Thank you, ma'am. I bookmarked this video. I want you to know that this video helped me when I was at my lowest. Thank you
10:04" a growth mindset acknowledges as an attitude you are capable of achieving anything as long as you have a right mechanism of getting there" ✨✨✨✨
Ily girl :) This video brought me so much motivation. GROWTH MINDSET is the answer to all things
GROWTH MINDSET!!! Exactly!!!
You really helped me alot with this video. I just finished crying my eyes out not understanding why I’m falling school so much this term. Thanks a lot💗
This is everything. Thank you for this. Faye, you have saved my life more than once ❤
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Thank you for this video ❤ The timing of it , could not have been any better♥️
I'll only say that I love you Faye, you inspire me so much ❤️
Thank you so much 🥲🥲🥲
Watching this after failing my med school entrance exam really helped me got through it emotionally, thank youuu!! I hope this year i could be like you
I am med student who is failing and failing from last 2 years😢
Your last words are sth i desirly wanted😩😍
Thanks alot u don't know u are helping alot of us here
Its is not like i am not studying its just i am not studind the correct way
Pray for my up coming result i am scared but i will try changing what iam doing to myself right now
Getting into medical school is reallly hard. I'm a premed , sometimes I just want to give up but then my innerself keep telling me not to give up. I just want to be in med school fr 🥺❤ Thank you freya for this video♥
best of luck with getting in med school!! You’re right, it’s not easy but where there’s a will, there’s a way 💗
This was so comforting and motivating. Thank you!
You’re so inspirational and loving ❤
I literally have my physics final exam coming next week and I’m stressing so much. Thank you!
Have had this video saved in my "Watch later" folder for a while now. It came onto my feed when I was at my lowest and had no willpower to leave my slump. I'm 17 in 11th year now, my results will get me into uni so playtime is f*ed up.😅
It is currently 01:35 AM and never have I ever been so grateful to whatever force that FORCED me to watch this video today. You helped me realize that my study method is the problem. Luckily, we are on break so I have about 3 weeks to research, improve and practice these new methods. We relate so much- especially on the "smart kid" label.
God bless your gracious heart, Faye. So grateful for you! xoxo
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This is exactly what I needed at the moment, perfect timing
Thank you so so much Faye❤I used to be first in my class before the pandemic. Fast forward into the future, I am still recovering from a period of depression and the trauma I got from bad grades because of "friends" who made fun of me. This year I am studying Law in Pretoria, SA thanks to listening to amazing people like you.
What you were saying that the start is so familiar to my experiences at GCSE. Although I was passing all my mocks, none of my teachers predicted anything above a D. I proved them wrong. Went to college with 3 C's, 5 B's and 1 A. Left college with higher grades then my A-level peers, got 2:1 at undergraduate and now studying for a PGCE.
I found out last year that I am dyslexic. Wasn't picked up till undergraduate study and got diagnosed during postgraduate. I now work with students who have very low academic self-esteem and, instead of laughing in their faces, like your teacher did. I work through actionable steps with them to achieve their goals. Giving students resources instead of resentment towards learning.
Hi Faye! I really enjoy your videos, I find that with all of my searching for answers for how to deal with my adhd, depression and anxiety and how to go about succeeding as a chem major with a poor high school experience, I really identify with alot of the issues you mentioned going through. Alot of them which I have not seen much recognition for, like the failing on purpose because thats easier to handle emotionally than failling even though you tried. An urge im feeling strongly since yesterday I completely fumbled a midterm with a 57% grade. F. Fail. But I feel alot more hopeful and my spirit to persevere feels rejuvinated after listening to your videos. Thank you! I will keep on
Hey girl you are next level motivation ❤ thanks for existing . I m in third year med school and I relate a lot to you
I'm at lost for words....I thought it couldn't be fixed, thank you so so much Faye ♥♥
you got this!! keep pushing forward, I have faith xx
She's so realistic 💖
Thankyou…your last lines in the video were very comforting
Definitely needed this video right now, lately I feel like even though I give my all in schoolwork I still do not get even near the results that I wanted or used to get before and ngl it has taken a big toll on my mental health. Thank you
You make me cry because these time I struggling so much and I hope this time passed peacefully
Faye, your videos have changed my life for the better, not even being dramatic. I’ve taken all the advice you have shared and went from being a B average student to getting a 4.0 in my masters. I just had my first interview for my Doctorate in Dentistry yesterday. Thank you for all you do❤️
I cried yesterday over one of my assignment grades at uni. Spiralled immediately. I need to get 80% (which is seen as nearly impossible there) to get a scholarship (there is no way I'll be able to afford moving on my own). Quickly realised that I probably react so strongly to failure because my stepdad is always comparing me to more successful people he knows, or to my (nine years older) stepbrother. (As if we're supposed to be at the same stage in life). I know I also need to care a lot less about what other people think, but it's really hard when you've spent 20 years living to please other people and never knowing what you really want because of that. If anyone has any tips please let me know
This video truly came at the most perfect time.. thank you for sharing your experiences with us, Faye. I've felt so alone for long and I've found it difficult to open up about this. Your video has allowed others to share their experiences and I realize that there are so many of us that resonate and have felt this way. Thank you for being the older sister we all need.. providing us with comfort, inspiration and encouragement. So proud of you for pushing through and for making it as far as you have! Much love, Faye
Thank you so much for sharing this Faye 💕 You are so right with this! Growth Mindset is the Way to turn things around💯 Throughout secondary school, I was an A student and I got straight As in my Diploma exams but then got my first F ever in my 1st year in university. I was so deflated and felt like I wasn't so smart after all...My only regret is I stayed in that place too long. But I know better now and I am working with a Growth Mindset and I am seeing the results🌟💫😁
I have my mock exams soon, this gave me motivation, fingers crossed it goes well!!
best of luck!! you can do this!
I am failing 4 classes and felt like i may not make it to my other honor classes and that i would have to re-take the other classes but but these videos got me motivated made me understand that i am good enough the school has made me feel like a failure but after seeing this video it made me feel better and helping me get on track and will continue to help push me through the 2 years left of my Highschool years.