Dating a man should be treated just like business relationships. We don't give graces when people jeopardise the workplace or profits. Same thing with our energy and peace.
This is exactly why I don't get offended at the men testing women topic. Just like corporate/jobs tests, why wouldn't or shouldn't they test also? WOMEN should have test too, and even more rigorous ones! Jobs test to see who is QUALIFIED!
They're resentful & jealous because we have 2 holes & they only have one. I know it's a crude thing to say. I do know some good CHRISTIAN men but they are few & far between. I think men like power over women. Nothing new under the sun.
Honestly no woman should love a man with her whole heart... save that for The Lord only. Always have expectations that the switch up will come. I dont care if you happily married . A man can wake up one day like a bad dream and decide he wants a new life
My ex started casually saying nicca to me!? I asked him, when did we start using that word with each other and to not call me that even in a friendly convo I do not want to be called that. We were together for years!!!! Years, and never went there. Then suddenly he was using it frequently in conversations with me referring to me. Not in a mean way… like, for example, “nicca what you in here cooking?” I knew then that he was seeing somebody else who allowed him to speak that way, or who was also speaking that way to him. There were times when I was extremely assertive on how I did not want to be called that and to stop calling me that. It is definitely blatant, disrespect and a clear sign to get out!
They always switch up when the woman is at her lowest. They never fail to make a bad situation worse. That’s why it’s so common to see that they did that or this during child birth, when there is an important work meeting they will act up, when a woman falls s5ck they ch5at and leave, when her parents face health issues or pass away they act up. It’s so very common. The other day there was story about a woman who had surgery and had to follow a very strict diet. She made all the food for herslef and her son and husband separately before she went into surgery. What did he do? He ate all her (bland but nutritious) food. And gaslit her. He literally endangered her life. It was always the case. But earlier other women pitched in to help women (mothers, sisters, daughters, daughters in law). Men never gave care giving for their women (but always got it back). Now becaus of social media women are getting to discuss all these and know more about it.
YUP! and they hate that. They’ve worked TIRELESSLY since the dawn of time to keep women separated. To keep women from having class consciousness. Because when we get together and compare notes. We realize we aren’t alone and it really is ALL of them! You can’t trust ANY of them! They are guilty until proven innocent at this point. They have to KEEP proving themselves to be “one of the good ones” and not a danger to us and it’s their own fault because they can’t be trusted and don’t know how to act. I need more of us to wake up and realize you cannot truly trust a single one of them…. Some women (pick me’s) will get SO mad at what I said above and they’ll go on a whole “not my Nigel!” Rant but all I can say to them is: Do You Really Know? But Do You Really Know??? You never know what they (or anyone tbh) will do 5/10/20 years down the line… you can’t just walk around thinking “he would never”… many women that are gone now (or had their lives ruined) thought the same thing too…. Time for us to wise up about the true nature of them. Even the “good” ones benefit from and enable the awful ones. The case of the woman whose husband decided he wanted to drug and SA her and have other men SA her is the perfect case for my point. Not only did her husband decide to do something heinous to her after they’d been together for decades already…. Other males also joined in and the ones who declined to SA her still didn’t take charge and get justice for the victims… (I believe the husband did the same to their daughter too) This proves that they cannot and can NEVER be trusted.
It's so much easier dating men once you know how they are; their true nature, their behaviour, their maniplulation tactics and eventually ...the switch up. It doesn't confuse or hurt me anymore, I already expect it. But this time, I just WALK AWAY. Block, delete and move one. Bye bye.
@@dream_on_sammiexactly! A waste of time and energy. Give that love to yourself and water the relationships in your life that are family and friends instead. They are reciprocal and reliable to be there for you consistently throughout your life. I am staying single by choice.
Yesss!! Exactly!! 😂 That’s why it’s always beneficial to only date them if they’re wealthy with these notes in mind. That way you can just dip when the time comes when the switch-up arrives. Like thank you for your service, sir. Bye now!!💖💖
Men are too narcissistic to realize it’s THEY who need to get professional help! Therefore, there is NO reason whatsoever for me to ever date another man again.
I realized that I was a widow long before I became a divorcé. I had to give myself permission to grieve the death of the man I thought I had married in order to move on.
Yep! Ninja tried it with me this year. Telling me because I lost weight, I'm not "thick" anymore, and that's what he likes because he is a southern man. Mind you, I'm around the same weight when I met him over 10 years ago. We wasn't together like that we were just friends. But in the last 2-years we tried as a couple and it was good...until I wasn't accessible to him because I was on my grind so I was tired! Those WYD texts at 1130pm I didn't take the bait anymore. So he got into his feelings. Then I started losing weight and he started showing his insecurities on top of having the excuse now all of a sudden that he working a lot of OT and don't feel like going out. But he went to a philly game no problem...🙄 . So I stopped communicating with him and went ghost after he said that silly ish. Guess he couldn't believe I wasn't reaching out to him like I would in the past. So now he the one keeps reaching out even though I gave him what he wanted and exited my not so thick ass stage left. So I don't know what's his problem is. I should have left his ass where he was years ago, but I thought he was the good one. But these males can't handle not being chased like a damn female...too insecure and emotional for me...🫠
If you get into the dating scene today, you may end up with a mental health issue, homeless, or jail/prison. Let this time be your time and rest and heal, so you can see snake coming early. The game they are playing today, which is not new, but there were societal consequences, is baby trapping just to make you a baby mother on purpose. Then have a forever claim to you. They are dangerous out here.
21:00 Felt like that video contradicted the entire message of men switching up. Not every man is going to "Be a man" after you change whatever they seem to claim you're doing wrong. Some men will continue to find fault in everything you do. Eventually you come to realize that YOU were never the issue. That's when you need to remove that dead weight from your life
Exactly I’m so tired of her. This is always the direction her advice go. Strokin his ego or attending to his void. I do not like her content and try to avoid it at all cost. She is dangerous to women who don’t know any better. I don’t see how she’s a coach.
When they switch up you "go no contact" Don't do anything else. Block him and go no contact. I don't care if you have kids together. This is how they become entitled. society tells them that they are entitled to behave that way and that women and children are their property and society makes women responsible for men's choices and behaviours and still gives them what they want. Ladies stop fearing society and men. Do you. Self preservation is your best friend. ALWAYS PUT YOURSELF FIRST. ESPECIALLY if you have children. Because a mother's happiness is directly linked to her children's happiness and success
Ladies this is why it's so important that you don't procreate with these guys too soon. When they switch up you want to make the process of leaving him as easy as possible.
It still doesn't matter. Some women do things by "the book" They wait years to get engaged and then married and then years before having kids and these men still switch up. Even the owner of this channel herself waited 3 years before having kids and the guy switched. I've known other women that have experienced the same. I have as well. Waited 2 years before marriage and a further 3 years before having a child and he switched. Stop telling women to be careful who they have kids with. These men will mask for as long as it takes them to feel comfortable enough to disrespect you. It's not about the women's choices. It's about the men's abusive behaviours.
@@mimi42428 I agree with you 100 percent. You are absolutely right, some men switch up after years of being with a woman. I wasn't blaming woman, I'm just trying to think of ways woman can protect themselves from things like this. But you are absolutely right.
If I dated after having become a psychologist, I would stick to the whole "I work at a daycare" shit. That way, I can pretend to have less money than I actually have, so that way, I can avoid male golddiggers. And also if some dude expects me to subsidize shit for me, I can still pull the good ol "but I'm just a daycare worker" stiek. I ain't gonna subsidize a man.
I support myself, and I don't invest in men any longer. Just a zero sum game in my opinion. Who wants an investment that can just up and change its mind and walk away? There goes your investment. I invest in myself. Much better strategy for success.
Yes! They always want to be able to tell their homies and family they’re the good guy and did nothing wrong when they’ve purposely neglected or mistreated you until your breaking point 🙄
The trend that I keep seeing over and over again is how the woman has to constantly stay vigilant on weeding out the good and the bad while also being a person/human who has her own ups and downs, joys, habits, etc. yet while trying to be yourself to the best of your ability you also have to sift through other humans in making sure you pick right? God forbid they are amazing liars or narcissists. Then who is at fault? The woman? Because she couldn’t weed him out? Why are women being held accountable for finding the right partner when men should be holding themselves accountable and working towards being good people? While it is informative at times to watch these videos, it becomes so exhausting hearing day in and day out that women need to choose right and always be on the alert for people who should be grown enough to have plain common sense and act right! This world is so freaking confusing simply because there are so many selfish and greedy people. Sheesh!!!!!!!
the issue is men feel entitled and above reproach, and women have to show men that they are not.....entitlement way of thinking is where domestic violence stems from.....
Thank you!!! 🔥🔥👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 No wonder women always suffer from anxiety SO MUCH more than men do. WE are constantly told everything’s OUR fault and we better get it ALL right or else it’s our fault …day in and day out…all year…all our lives. I AM DONE WITH ROMANCE AND MEN. To hell with these evil, conniving creatures that share a human form with women. They are PURE EVIL! 😡😡🤬🤬🤬
Only God knows (Jesus knew when he walked the earth) what's in the hearts of men. We ought to consult His wisdom. Bible says when men wanted to promote him he passed, because he knew what was in their hearts. He knows all.
this is why i dont do relationships anymore , no strings attatched. Single and using boys for a fun time on quick time when im ever bored. Keep em like friends but no getting feelings involved . Just desire and lust and games. No trust so no love
I have a 30-45 day delusional period because i already know they about to switch up on my ass so when they start showing signs im already mentally start to detach
14:32 has the science of it down. Its so crazy how uniform the spirit of narcissism behaves. That family ish is so fr. The parents / sibs love that they're getting that shiddy person off their hands. Knowing dang well you're about to go thru hell w/their son.😵💫🤧
The lady at the start w the glasses she isn’t lying I’m 38 just turned 38 😮 who switches up ⬆️ the only do because they don’t have to take no more or there’s someone else
First of all! Red lips!! They are talking about when you aren’t the reason a man switches us.. I can’t stand when women look for anything to be a pick me. Most times it isn’t the woman’s fault.
She’s an airhead and I’m sure she’s gonna get played and still blame herself. 🤦🏽♀️ Women like that make it so hard to be a feminist I stg, but real feminism is having empathy for and wanting to help all women, even the ones that are still brainwashed. (Tbh they need the MOST help. 💀)
I start praying loud and praying praising thanking the higher power within me to notice what he thinks might bother me. Laugh inside while I'm collecting my funds. Cause he gives me the strength to say I'm OK by myself * FREE *
"His family is going to be pissed cause your sending him back to them." 😱😱😱 Just when I think Spiritual whistle blower covered every aspect of my life she says something else that resignates that I missed! 👏👏👏
The switch-up after the wedding... Is the most heartbreaking bait n switch, because you think you did everything right. You required a commitment and consistency, all that... and then when that wedding is over and the marriage certificate is signed, what u gonna do then when he shows you a totally different person??? No vetting can really protect u from a man, it can help, but dealing with men is always a huge risk. Always. So take your time on having kids and don't ever go into marriage financially reliant, that way it's much harder to trap you.
Yes I had to leave my family and both parents who abused and used me I was tired it's always the same thing never a time of healthy relationships which followed me into my relationships with men and my friendships . God revealed who was who and their intentions. He delivered me out I will never look back. I'm thriving and living better than ever I'm accomplishing things I thought I never could Amen Glory be to God delivered me out of tourment and abuse forevermore! ❤❤❤
I'd much rather date beautiful women than these predators. Or just be alone and at peace. Most XY are attracted to underage girls. I know because I look like one and can't be anywhere without them chasing after me Even if I'm wearing a wide hoodie and other non-flatrering clothes. I'm scared of XY. The only XY I'm willing to trust are openly gay, feminine guys. Because then the chances are higher that they aren't after me for my body
Males are the Best ACTORS, Women are REACTIVE to males Manipulation and Abusive behavior 95% of them have, because they don't EVER do self development a lot of women do the work males refuse to do the work they blame everything on the woman.
Right😂😂😂 I got a ninja I stopped dealing with back in August show got mad and tried to shame me for losing weight want leave me alone! Like I went silent on his ass and he keeps textinf😢 "hi" "hey", I've been working hard lately, blah blah but have nothing else to say or talking about. I hardly ever reply back and if I do it would be days later. Like you just trying to see if you still have that you think is access to me. Because you never call or ask how I'm doing. You just want to talk about your insecure immature ass. This man turned 40 this year and got into his feelings because I stopped answering his "wyd" at 1130 and took my sleep and what I was trying to do over what he wanted. Then losing weight and other men complimenting my hardworking his insecurities started to come out. And he going to say he like thick women and I don't have any curves anymore 😅ninja funny you say that but everyone else sees it differently. But he keeps texting this "none thick" women as if he can't fathom that I finally decided I'm good on his ass. These ninjas can't take what they try to dish the shit out 😅😊
All I can say is WOW because you actually covered everything within the relationship dynamics - Thank you so very much for this post now we all just need to get this out to everyone else - This needs to go viral to help relationships and marriages be stable - Absolutely FLAWLESS - i am Atma Di Ace in your atmosphere speaking Real talk Raw and Uncut facts truth always - One luv respect always my pure hearted people
I notice they switch up IMMEDIATELY after meeting family.... shyt funny af to me my family KNOWS I cut ✂️ off ninjas 🥷 like split ends cause I do the SAME SHYT to them😂.... Biiiyeeee!!!
I was looking for this lmao she delusional and she blamed herself for her man's actions...or lack thereof. He fixed it so it worked out but she sure didn't address what happens when they don't fix it because we know that's USUALLY what happens
13:38 OMG my Baby Daddy's family is like this to a T!!!!! He's schizophrenic & a narcissist, always homeless, they'll take advantage of him tho, they steal from each other, he's also always begging them for something but they're greedy. His parents had 8 kids together, dad is selfish and walked off, mom was poor stressed, abusive. His Irish twin & favorite brother unalived himself at 15 years old, then 3 yrs later another little brother passed from a car accident, trauma everywhere. They WERE nice to me at first but fake also, he started telling them lies about me and then they started being nasty. Now he's accusing me of sleeping with his family members as an excuse to abandon our kids. They'll all fight & talk shit about each other but still act cool again, it's just very toxic AF! I don't even tell my siblings about our relationship, our relationship is our business and also I wanted them to like him so I hid how he was treating me but it was just way too obvious so I couldn't really hide it.
The girl at 19:30 talking about we want control. Women are running to divorce attorney offices because men want you to be their mother. It's exhausting. The "controlling woman" stereotype is just that. She just happened to fit it. Most women don't. If they did they wouldn't run to the divorce lawyer office. They would be happy to have a man to control. We are NOT happy about men who need to be mothered and that's what 'mothering' does to a man. It's not control .
The family member cut off is true! So im a single mom and have successful career! i help my sister to go to! The youngest but at the end sniffed off on me the entitlement of these young generations! My thirds sister save her life because her boyfriend dru….gging her put her to hospital to recover she did! Get angry when i say things like dont come! Im done ! When i have nothing no one gives a a….fck but when they need me they call me! I cut off contacts even to my mom who always thinks she is a victim! I think i have enough! I stay away from them far with my daughter!
When they switch up I switch out quickly.
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Bloop!
😂lmao this is a good 1😂
I LOVE IT!
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It’s not a switch up!!! It’s a reveal of how he truly feels
Yessss💯
exactly!! true colors
I never fully trust men so when they do this it just disappoints me . Not breaking any hearts over here buddy, saw it coming.
Sadly but this is how I do also
It’s gotten to the point where it’s no longer disappointing for me. Men and disappointment are synonyms atp. 😂
@TheMentalLevelUpPodcast100%
Same, now in my 40s. I’m just turned off and gone ✌️
Wasted too many years heartbroken in my younger years. Not anymore. I love my own company.
REMEMBER- SWITCHING UP HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU! They had these intentions before they even met you! They were going to do it to anybody they met!
Because they carry demons inside of them telling them to pillage people
Correct!
Exactly I hope every woman really can grasp this so they can stop being so hard on themselves
I needed to hear that thank you ❤
This
When they switch up, you switch up . Always match that energy.
No just leave
@@caitlindavies1278both.
@@caitlindavies1278 I agree
@caitlindavies1278 yes , just take the hint and leave .
Wish I'd have saved myself from my own humiliation and twigged what was occurring.
ALLWAAYSSSSSS. And then leave lol
Dating a man should be treated just like business relationships. We don't give graces when people jeopardise the workplace or profits. Same thing with our energy and peace.
Yessssssssssssss
True! 🎯🎯
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Preach Sis 🗣️❤️
This is exactly why I don't get offended at the men testing women topic. Just like corporate/jobs tests, why wouldn't or shouldn't they test also? WOMEN should have test too, and even more rigorous ones! Jobs test to see who is QUALIFIED!
Once I stop caring and talking, IT'S OVER!!!
I was always considered gorgeous & I found many men resented that. Wanting to 'humble ' me when I wasn't arrogant or vain.
Same here
Yep.... It's like men hate us cuz they are jealous of us.
Because good-looking women ALWAYS have more options than them. 😂
They're resentful & jealous because we have 2 holes & they only have one. I know it's a crude thing to say. I do know some good CHRISTIAN men but they are few & far between. I think men like power over women. Nothing new under the sun.
This has always been my problem
yup when a man is giving you mixed signals, and switch up ...walk away in silence !!
Honestly no woman should love a man with her whole heart... save that for The Lord only. Always have expectations that the switch up will come. I dont care if you happily married . A man can wake up one day like a bad dream and decide he wants a new life
Save it for yourself.
Minus the saving it for the Lord part, I agree 💯. I’m saving it for ME!
@@irinaivanovic9792 then you lose twice ... we all need God and he wants us because he loves us and died for us to save our souls.
Only myself and my fur babies. F the genocidal maniac.
@@irinaivanovic9792Lord have Mercy on you girl.
My ex started casually saying nicca to me!? I asked him, when did we start using that word with each other and to not call me that even in a friendly convo I do not want to be called that. We were together for years!!!! Years, and never went there. Then suddenly he was using it frequently in conversations with me referring to me. Not in a mean way… like, for example, “nicca what you in here cooking?” I knew then that he was seeing somebody else who allowed him to speak that way, or who was also speaking that way to him. There were times when I was extremely assertive on how I did not want to be called that and to stop calling me that. It is definitely blatant, disrespect and a clear sign to get out!
Try casually calling him the bhitche word and watch how it goes 😂
What’s it mean? Sounds Spanish.
Or maybe he on the DL spending lot of time with the 'homies'
Did y’all break up ? Was he cheating .? I’m invested
Not respecting a very clear boundary!! A huge red flag
The Spiritual Whistle Blower is 100% correct. Never let anyone play you like a chump.
They always switch up when the woman is at her lowest. They never fail to make a bad situation worse. That’s why it’s so common to see that they did that or this during child birth, when there is an important work meeting they will act up, when a woman falls s5ck they ch5at and leave, when her parents face health issues or pass away they act up. It’s so very common.
The other day there was story about a woman who had surgery and had to follow a very strict diet. She made all the food for herslef and her son and husband separately before she went into surgery. What did he do? He ate all her (bland but nutritious) food. And gaslit her. He literally endangered her life. It was always the case. But earlier other women pitched in to help women (mothers, sisters, daughters, daughters in law). Men never gave care giving for their women (but always got it back). Now becaus of social media women are getting to discuss all these and know more about it.
YUP! and they hate that. They’ve worked TIRELESSLY since the dawn of time to keep women separated. To keep women from having class consciousness. Because when we get together and compare notes. We realize we aren’t alone and it really is ALL of them! You can’t trust ANY of them!
They are guilty until proven innocent at this point. They have to KEEP proving themselves to be “one of the good ones” and not a danger to us and it’s their own fault because they can’t be trusted and don’t know how to act. I need more of us to wake up and realize you cannot truly trust a single one of them….
Some women (pick me’s) will get SO mad at what I said above and they’ll go on a whole “not my Nigel!” Rant but all I can say to them is: Do You Really Know? But Do You Really Know???
You never know what they (or anyone tbh) will do 5/10/20 years down the line… you can’t just walk around thinking “he would never”… many women that are gone now (or had their lives ruined) thought the same thing too….
Time for us to wise up about the true nature of them. Even the “good” ones benefit from and enable the awful ones.
The case of the woman whose husband decided he wanted to drug and SA her and have other men SA her is the perfect case for my point.
Not only did her husband decide to do something heinous to her after they’d been together for decades already…. Other males also joined in and the ones who declined to SA her still didn’t take charge and get justice for the victims… (I believe the husband did the same to their daughter too)
This proves that they cannot and can NEVER be trusted.
Facts, very selfish creatures
@@manifest2203 Honey! The situation with the woman who had surgery is damn ATROCIOUS! I'd FIX HIS ASS ONCE I HEALED UP! BELIEVE THAT!
I heard that story. It was sick! He literally h8s her
They also use sleep deprivation as a weapon
It's so much easier dating men once you know how they are; their true nature, their behaviour, their maniplulation tactics and eventually ...the switch up.
It doesn't confuse or hurt me anymore, I already expect it. But this time, I just WALK AWAY. Block, delete and move one. Bye bye.
After learning all of this i would rather be alone
Why bother at all? Don’t date, stay single.
@@dream_on_sammiexactly! A waste of time and energy. Give that love to yourself and water the relationships in your life that are family and friends instead. They are reciprocal and reliable to be there for you consistently throughout your life. I am staying single by choice.
all you have to do understand that men feel entitled and want you to see them as such and treat them this way...
they are not enttiled!!!
Yesss!! Exactly!! 😂
That’s why it’s always beneficial to only date them if they’re wealthy with these notes in mind. That way you can just dip when the time comes when the switch-up arrives. Like thank you for your service, sir. Bye now!!💖💖
my ex started treating family and friends better than me and became very rude and hostile so i left
The first lady was 🎯🎯🎯🎯‼️‼️‼️‼️💯💯💯💯💯💯
She is really on point. Everything she said is my experience with men.
And this is why I WILL NEVER get married! I can commit to the present, but I can not commit to whatever changes you choose to undergo at any point.
Cierrabennet206 Amen 🙌🏾 I have been divorced now 16 years and plan to not do it again. My single life has taught me a lot and honestly I love it.
Cierrabennett206.. Also honey I am meeting men now with health issues. I send them right on about their way. Eff that, nope. No hospice wife here.
@@Soulgrace5 Right!!! 💯
I heard that!😂😂👌🏾
Stay safe ladies and choose wisely when dating a new guy.
I'm done with romantic relationships.
@@nofybn7794same
Hard to choose wisely when they pretending
@@TheJalesa1207. But they love to push the blame on the women and say they need to choose better.
Men are too narcissistic to realize it’s THEY who need to get professional help!
Therefore, there is NO reason whatsoever for me to ever date another man again.
Take this from an older woman, the 1st lady told no lies, especially about the representative part.
Right!
I LOVE the term first woman used, "mental funeral". I'm using this from now on! 100% Sis!!
It’s so scary when they switch up. Be prepared.
Sure is😢
It's like they have a mental illness
Mental funeral is the best way to feel better and move on from narcissists.
I realized that I was a widow long before I became a divorcé. I had to give myself permission to grieve the death of the man I thought I had married in order to move on.
Yep! Ninja tried it with me this year. Telling me because I lost weight, I'm not "thick" anymore, and that's what he likes because he is a southern man. Mind you, I'm around the same weight when I met him over 10 years ago. We wasn't together like that we were just friends. But in the last 2-years we tried as a couple and it was good...until I wasn't accessible to him because I was on my grind so I was tired! Those WYD texts at 1130pm I didn't take the bait anymore. So he got into his feelings.
Then I started losing weight and he started showing his insecurities on top of having the excuse now all of a sudden that he working a lot of OT and don't feel like going out. But he went to a philly game no problem...🙄 . So I stopped communicating with him and went ghost after he said that silly ish.
Guess he couldn't believe I wasn't reaching out to him like I would in the past. So now he the one keeps reaching out even though I gave him what he wanted and exited my not so thick ass stage left. So I don't know what's his problem is. I should have left his ass where he was years ago, but I thought he was the good one. But these males can't handle not being chased like a damn female...too insecure and emotional for me...🫠
He wanted you to become less desirable to other men.
He wanted to keep you small and away from other men
If you get into the dating scene today, you may end up with a mental health issue, homeless, or jail/prison. Let this time be your time and rest and heal, so you can see snake coming early. The game they are playing today, which is not new, but there were societal consequences, is baby trapping just to make you a baby mother on purpose. Then have a forever claim to you. They are dangerous out here.
So true a lot of men have mental issues
@@GlockPeace I know the experience personally. I'm in my healing season.
@@GlockPeace Amen to that.
@reginayfavors I always say show me a woman who isn't crazy and I guarantee she's young free and single
this is why men and women be mad at me becuz i only have one child and no grandkids yet....men have no power in my life, i never give it to them...
My mom always said that my dad didn't act "that way" until they got married. They were together 26 years until he died.
If no nonsense was a person, she's the lady in the first 3 clips, and I love her
I love spiritual whistleblowers energy .I have cut off friends and family im over being constantly disrespected .
Yes, I love that she pointed out the part about family.
It's so important
21:00 Felt like that video contradicted the entire message of men switching up. Not every man is going to "Be a man" after you change whatever they seem to claim you're doing wrong. Some men will continue to find fault in everything you do. Eventually you come to realize that YOU were never the issue. That's when you need to remove that dead weight from your life
Exactly I’m so tired of her. This is always the direction her advice go. Strokin his ego or attending to his void. I do not like her content and try to avoid it at all cost. She is dangerous to women who don’t know any better. I don’t see how she’s a coach.
the point is men think they are entitled and above reproach, this is where domestic violence stems from...
So I’m not the only one who noticed that lousy “advice.” 🤦🏼♀️
When they switch up you "go no contact"
Don't do anything else. Block him and go no contact. I don't care if you have kids together. This is how they become entitled. society tells them that they are entitled to behave that way and that women and children are their property and society makes women responsible for men's choices and behaviours and still gives them what they want. Ladies stop fearing society and men. Do you. Self preservation is your best friend. ALWAYS PUT YOURSELF FIRST. ESPECIALLY if you have children. Because a mother's happiness is directly linked to her children's happiness and success
Ladies this is why it's so important that you don't procreate with these guys too soon. When they switch up you want to make the process of leaving him as easy as possible.
It still doesn't matter. Some women do things by "the book"
They wait years to get engaged and then married and then years before having kids and these men still switch up. Even the owner of this channel herself waited 3 years before having kids and the guy switched. I've known other women that have experienced the same. I have as well. Waited 2 years before marriage and a further 3 years before having a child and he switched. Stop telling women to be careful who they have kids with. These men will mask for as long as it takes them to feel comfortable enough to disrespect you. It's not about the women's choices. It's about the men's abusive behaviours.
@@mimi42428 I agree with you 100 percent. You are absolutely right, some men switch up after years of being with a woman. I wasn't blaming woman, I'm just trying to think of ways woman can protect themselves from things like this. But you are absolutely right.
@jakemiles1427 stop having kids with the expectation of having the men support or coparent, have as many kids YOU AND YOU ONLY CAN TAKE CARE OF.
If I dated after having become a psychologist, I would stick to the whole "I work at a daycare" shit. That way, I can pretend to have less money than I actually have, so that way, I can avoid male golddiggers.
And also if some dude expects me to subsidize shit for me, I can still pull the good ol "but I'm just a daycare worker" stiek. I ain't gonna subsidize a man.
GOOD TIP!!!
Aah this is so good I'll be telling them this😂🤌🏽 thankyou
I support myself, and I don't invest in men any longer. Just a zero sum game in my opinion. Who wants an investment that can just up and change its mind and walk away? There goes your investment. I invest in myself. Much better strategy for success.
Sometimes they do it to get you to end it.
Theyre not intrested in any accountability in this life
Yes! They always want to be able to tell their homies and family they’re the good guy and did nothing wrong when they’ve purposely neglected or mistreated you until your breaking point 🙄
@@LadyMarigoldWithers so they can get himpathy , the audacity is top much
He's in competition with his representative, "Split" style
The trend that I keep seeing over and over again is how the woman has to constantly stay vigilant on weeding out the good and the bad while also being a person/human who has her own ups and downs, joys, habits, etc. yet while trying to be yourself to the best of your ability you also have to sift through other humans in making sure you pick right? God forbid they are amazing liars or narcissists. Then who is at fault? The woman? Because she couldn’t weed him out? Why are women being held accountable for finding the right partner when men should be holding themselves accountable and working towards being good people? While it is informative at times to watch these videos, it becomes so exhausting hearing day in and day out that women need to choose right and always be on the alert for people who should be grown enough to have plain common sense and act right! This world is so freaking confusing simply because there are so many selfish and greedy people. Sheesh!!!!!!!
the issue is men feel entitled and above reproach, and women have to show men that they are not.....entitlement way of thinking is where domestic violence stems from.....
Thank you!!! 🔥🔥👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 No wonder women always suffer from anxiety SO MUCH more than men do. WE are constantly told everything’s OUR fault and we better get it ALL right or else it’s our fault …day in and day out…all year…all our lives. I AM DONE WITH ROMANCE AND MEN. To hell with these evil, conniving creatures that share a human form with women. They are PURE EVIL! 😡😡🤬🤬🤬
Only God knows (Jesus knew when he walked the earth) what's in the hearts of men. We ought to consult His wisdom. Bible says when men wanted to promote him he passed, because he knew what was in their hearts. He knows all.
With great power comes great responsibility
Stop sleeping with these men i promise your dating life will be much better
Exactly ‼️
"True Colors" should be a brand name for men’s clothing. The logo could be a little red flag 🚩 😂😂😂😂😂
this is why i dont do relationships anymore , no strings attatched. Single and using boys for a fun time on quick time when im ever bored. Keep em like friends but no getting feelings involved . Just desire and lust and games. No trust so no love
All about protecting your mental health!! Agree even its family!!! Protect you first
I have a 30-45 day delusional period because i already know they about to switch up on my ass so when they start showing signs im already mentally start to detach
I changed my delusional period to at minimum 6 MONTHS. Ideally it would be one year.
Thank you for not doing gossip talk. Your channel is life changing.
You are so welcome 🤗....
More social and clinical research needs to be done on men.
When dating give a man 3 to 6 mths and you will see their true colors! AND do not have sex with them either!
14:32 has the science of it down. Its so crazy how uniform the spirit of narcissism behaves. That family ish is so fr. The parents / sibs love that they're getting that shiddy person off their hands. Knowing dang well you're about to go thru hell w/their son.😵💫🤧
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They also always encourage to stay with the abuser, defend the abuser
and blame the victims
Somebody send and tag this to Halle Bailey.
The lady at the start w the glasses she isn’t lying I’m 38 just turned 38 😮 who switches up ⬆️ the only do because they don’t have to take no more or there’s someone else
Be prepared for the switch up.....
Always.....
First of all! Red lips!! They are talking about when you aren’t the reason a man switches us.. I can’t stand when women look for anything to be a pick me. Most times it isn’t the woman’s fault.
I noticed that too
Red lips is definitely capping. Never trust a woman who wears a fake collar to appear wise and noble.
@dollhouseq1530 they be soo damn annoying.
She’s an airhead and I’m sure she’s gonna get played and still blame herself. 🤦🏽♀️ Women like that make it so hard to be a feminist I stg, but real feminism is having empathy for and wanting to help all women, even the ones that are still brainwashed. (Tbh they need the MOST help. 💀)
I also got annoyed with her commentary.
In nature animals think of their babies first, they hunt and bring back food and feed their babies first before they eat.
9:04 baby this is me. I’ve been no contact from “family” for 2 years. Health, wealth, Spiritual, mental etc. has improved. I don’t play about me.
I wish I heard all this at least in April 2009....😢
It's never too late Sis
@@mskabue my hugs to you, Sister🤩😇
@@mskabue and thank you for your amazing videos🥰
I start praying loud and praying praising thanking the higher power within me to notice what he thinks might bother me. Laugh inside while I'm collecting my funds. Cause he gives me the strength to say I'm OK by myself * FREE *
"His family is going to be pissed cause your sending him back to them." 😱😱😱 Just when I think Spiritual whistle blower covered every aspect of my life she says something else that resignates that I missed! 👏👏👏
The switch-up after the wedding... Is the most heartbreaking bait n switch, because you think you did everything right. You required a commitment and consistency, all that... and then when that wedding is over and the marriage certificate is signed, what u gonna do then when he shows you a totally different person??? No vetting can really protect u from a man, it can help, but dealing with men is always a huge risk. Always. So take your time on having kids and don't ever go into marriage financially reliant, that way it's much harder to trap you.
The amount of cheating that happens right before the wedding is also so sad
The dating scene is all f#@*ed up nowadays. Single and celibate is the way to go 💯
Going through this right now, he was just trying to use me for my resources and what he can get.
Mental health evaluation. That is such a good idea.
Spiritual Whistle Blower be going awfffff 😮😂
Yes I had to leave my family and both parents who abused and used me I was tired it's always the same thing never a time of healthy relationships which followed me into my relationships with men and my friendships . God revealed who was who and their intentions. He delivered me out I will never look back. I'm thriving and living better than ever I'm accomplishing things I thought I never could Amen Glory be to God delivered me out of tourment and abuse forevermore! ❤❤❤
He treated me so well for the first two weeks and then went cold and stopped responding. Weird.
Everything they say is a lie usually. Actions speak the truth. Just walk away!
I'd much rather date beautiful women than these predators.
Or just be alone and at peace.
Most XY are attracted to underage girls.
I know because I look like one and can't be anywhere without them chasing after me
Even if I'm wearing a wide hoodie and other non-flatrering clothes.
I'm scared of XY.
The only XY I'm willing to trust are openly gay, feminine guys.
Because then the chances are higher that they aren't after me for my body
Spiritual whistle blower, always come through with the facts❤
This is for men and women!
I have a son and brothers, and I tell you what, shady comes in both genders!
Males are the Best ACTORS, Women are REACTIVE to males Manipulation and Abusive behavior 95% of them have, because they don't EVER do self development a lot of women do the work males refuse to do the work they blame everything on the woman.
Mental funeral 👍👍i am a very happy widow !! Smart woman btw 🙏
men love to text you I'm sick of these tests
Right😂😂😂 I got a ninja I stopped dealing with back in August show got mad and tried to shame me for losing weight want leave me alone! Like I went silent on his ass and he keeps textinf😢 "hi" "hey", I've been working hard lately, blah blah but have nothing else to say or talking about. I hardly ever reply back and if I do it would be days later. Like you just trying to see if you still have that you think is access to me.
Because you never call or ask how I'm doing. You just want to talk about your insecure immature ass. This man turned 40 this year and got into his feelings because I stopped answering his "wyd" at 1130 and took my sleep and what I was trying to do over what he wanted. Then losing weight and other men complimenting my hardworking his insecurities started to come out. And he going to say he like thick women and I don't have any curves anymore 😅ninja funny you say that but everyone else sees it differently.
But he keeps texting this "none thick" women as if he can't fathom that I finally decided I'm good on his ass. These ninjas can't take what they try to dish the shit out 😅😊
Indeed Truth Real Talk 💯
All I can say is WOW because you actually covered everything within the relationship dynamics - Thank you so very much for this post now we all just need to get this out to everyone else - This needs to go viral to help relationships and marriages be stable - Absolutely FLAWLESS - i am Atma Di Ace in your atmosphere speaking Real talk Raw and Uncut facts truth always - One luv respect always my pure hearted people
I notice they switch up IMMEDIATELY after meeting family.... shyt funny af to me my family KNOWS I cut ✂️ off ninjas 🥷 like split ends cause I do the SAME SHYT to them😂.... Biiiyeeee!!!
It’s sooo many gems💎 in this video☝🏽💕
Except for red lipstick lady. She’s getting played and it’ll only get worse. 😂
What spiritual whistle blower said about family is very important!
(about 10 minutes into the video)
Sis your English is fine lol we hear you loud and clear ❤
Good to hear this❤️😘
The lady at 21:54 is way off….. that’s a very small percentage of why men switch up. Like VEERRRRYYYY small..
I was looking for this lmao she delusional and she blamed herself for her man's actions...or lack thereof. He fixed it so it worked out but she sure didn't address what happens when they don't fix it because we know that's USUALLY what happens
Thanks!
Bless your heart Sis 💕🫶🏽
Fact so much truth 💗💗 I just stay to myself Amen
That lady on red lips is a bonified pick me
She’s so so so dumb I could not handle it. 🤦🏽♀️
2:27 That part
You are 💯 about his family.
If we’re being honest though, both men and women switch up.
SprinkleSprinkle 😂
13:38 OMG my Baby Daddy's family is like this to a T!!!!! He's schizophrenic & a narcissist, always homeless, they'll take advantage of him tho, they steal from each other, he's also always begging them for something but they're greedy. His parents had 8 kids together, dad is selfish and walked off, mom was poor stressed, abusive. His Irish twin & favorite brother unalived himself at 15 years old, then 3 yrs later another little brother passed from a car accident, trauma everywhere. They WERE nice to me at first but fake also, he started telling them lies about me and then they started being nasty. Now he's accusing me of sleeping with his family members as an excuse to abandon our kids. They'll all fight & talk shit about each other but still act cool again, it's just very toxic AF! I don't even tell my siblings about our relationship, our relationship is our business and also I wanted them to like him so I hid how he was treating me but it was just way too obvious so I couldn't really hide it.
and what made you want his baby ??
I switched out forever and took my son with me
Ah I love your videos. They are so correct..great info for the younger girls.
Glad you like them!
Thank you for the enlightenment ❤
11:22 she said it that’s their character that’s how ppl are
The way I needed this ❤
Its sonething how you're so cold to rhem and rhey are so concerned ..they are backwards as hell😂😂
Great video! You were spot on.❤❤❤
Correct. He gonna tired of you and switch up. He will cheat I don't care what you do or how you look
The girl at 19:30 talking about we want control. Women are running to divorce attorney offices because men want you to be their mother. It's exhausting. The "controlling woman" stereotype is just that. She just happened to fit it.
Most women don't. If they did they wouldn't run to the divorce lawyer office. They would be happy to have a man to control.
We are NOT happy about men who need to be mothered and that's what 'mothering' does to a man. It's not control .
Yessss My Love Talk Yo Stuff 🎉🎉.....This Was Needed
The family member cut off is true! So im a single mom and have successful career! i help my sister to go to! The youngest but at the end sniffed off on me the entitlement of these young generations! My thirds sister save her life because her boyfriend dru….gging her put her to hospital to recover she did! Get angry when i say things like dont come! Im done ! When i have nothing no one gives a a….fck but when they need me they call me! I cut off contacts even to my mom who always thinks she is a victim! I think i have enough! I stay away from them far with my daughter!
Good talk!! This is so true.
13:20
With the laughing
With the quickness
Thanks
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“Mental funeral” 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
She said it even parents family etc .. stay away of it hurts u and ur mental health
Facts
#BOUNCE
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I prefer the guy in the closet in addition to the Spiritual Whistleblower.
Yes. Just yes.