WHY MEN WILL ALWAYS SWITCH UP- IT'S NOT IF BUT WHEN???😳🌚🏃🏽‍♀️💨

Поділитися
Вставка
  • Опубліковано 30 жов 2024

КОМЕНТАРІ • 298

  • @mslabranche
    @mslabranche 19 днів тому +295

    When they switch up I switch out quickly.

  • @Kenyacannn
    @Kenyacannn 17 днів тому +138

    REMEMBER- SWITCHING UP HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU! They had these intentions before they even met you! They were going to do it to anybody they met!

    • @Website_Blogs
      @Website_Blogs 15 днів тому

      Because they carry demons inside of them telling them to pillage people

    • @shaybluu08
      @shaybluu08 9 днів тому +5

      Correct!

    • @Lifeishard237
      @Lifeishard237 3 дні тому

      Exactly I hope every woman really can grasp this so they can stop being so hard on themselves

  • @Wall0fCatz
    @Wall0fCatz 15 днів тому +98

    It’s not a switch up!!! It’s a reveal of how he truly feels

  • @cutietae247
    @cutietae247 19 днів тому +314

    I never fully trust men so when they do this it just disappoints me . Not breaking any hearts over here buddy, saw it coming.

    • @Plutos_Child69
      @Plutos_Child69 18 днів тому +29

      Sadly but this is how I do also

    • @corimoon3360
      @corimoon3360 18 днів тому +42

      It’s gotten to the point where it’s no longer disappointing for me. Men and disappointment are synonyms atp. 😂

    • @TheMentalLevelUpPodcast
      @TheMentalLevelUpPodcast 12 днів тому +8

      Yes, and for me, its the same attitude with new female friends, unfortunately. Too many women are insecure and they switch up too: hating on you, spotlighting your failures, making friends with your enemies, telling your business, etc.
      Thank goodness they can't baby trap us! (men seem to REALLY switch up after pregnancy)

    • @stephaniewencek6618
      @stephaniewencek6618 3 дні тому +1

      @@TheMentalLevelUpPodcast100%

  • @maryfields877
    @maryfields877 19 днів тому +264

    When they switch up, you switch up . Always match that energy.

    • @caitlindavies1278
      @caitlindavies1278 18 днів тому +31

      No just leave

    • @jacquelineh1867
      @jacquelineh1867 18 днів тому

      ​@@caitlindavies1278both.

    • @tammygarrett8427
      @tammygarrett8427 18 днів тому +10

      @@caitlindavies1278 I agree

    • @CorinaGilligan
      @CorinaGilligan 17 днів тому +13

      @caitlindavies1278 yes , just take the hint and leave .
      Wish I'd have saved myself from my own humiliation and twigged what was occurring.

    • @KurosakiLuvar01
      @KurosakiLuvar01 17 днів тому +6

      ALLWAAYSSSSSS. And then leave lol

  • @danilaroche1156
    @danilaroche1156 17 днів тому +78

    I was always considered gorgeous & I found many men resented that. Wanting to 'humble ' me when I wasn't arrogant or vain.

    • @irinaivanovic9792
      @irinaivanovic9792 16 днів тому +17

      Same here

    • @kourtenayt1927
      @kourtenayt1927 16 днів тому +25

      Yep.... It's like men hate us cuz they are jealous of us.

    • @brunoqnzbk7891
      @brunoqnzbk7891 11 днів тому +15

      Because good-looking women ALWAYS have more options than them. 😂

    • @danilaroche1156
      @danilaroche1156 8 днів тому

      They're resentful & jealous because we have 2 holes & they only have one. I know it's a crude thing to say. I do know some good CHRISTIAN men but they are few & far between. I think men like power over women. Nothing new under the sun.

    • @gabrielletwymon2229
      @gabrielletwymon2229 5 днів тому +1

      This has always been my problem

  • @saharkhalili5303
    @saharkhalili5303 17 днів тому +109

    Dating a man should be treated just like business relationships. We don't give graces when people jeopardise the workplace or profits. Same thing with our energy and peace.

    • @KurosakiLuvar01
      @KurosakiLuvar01 17 днів тому +11

      Yessssssssssssss

    • @IraSol37
      @IraSol37 15 днів тому +5

      True! 🎯🎯

    • @LaKymana
      @LaKymana 15 днів тому +3

      🎉

    • @mskabue
      @mskabue  10 днів тому +4

      Preach Sis 🗣️❤️

    • @come_on_barbie_123
      @come_on_barbie_123 3 дні тому

      This is exactly why I don't get offended at the men testing women topic. Just like corporate/jobs tests, why wouldn't or shouldn't they test also? WOMEN should have test too, and even more rigorous ones! Jobs test to see who is QUALIFIED!

  • @Adefunke16
    @Adefunke16 18 днів тому +118

    Honestly no woman should love a man with her whole heart... save that for The Lord only. Always have expectations that the switch up will come. I dont care if you happily married . A man can wake up one day like a bad dream and decide he wants a new life

    • @tiffiebaebee
      @tiffiebaebee 16 днів тому +13

      Save it for yourself.

    • @irinaivanovic9792
      @irinaivanovic9792 16 днів тому +13

      Minus the saving it for the Lord part, I agree 💯. I’m saving it for ME!

    • @oliviastar3812
      @oliviastar3812 15 днів тому +1

      @@irinaivanovic9792 then you lose twice ... we all need God and he wants us because he loves us and died for us to save our souls.

    • @magnarcreed3801
      @magnarcreed3801 11 днів тому

      Only myself and my fur babies. F the genocidal maniac.

    • @onlynature8740
      @onlynature8740 9 днів тому

      @@irinaivanovic9792Lord have Mercy on you girl.

  • @Nat-mw3bz
    @Nat-mw3bz 18 днів тому +129

    Once I stop caring and talking, IT'S OVER!!!

  • @thats_toya4ya505
    @thats_toya4ya505 16 днів тому +75

    My ex started casually saying nicca to me!? I asked him, when did we start using that word with each other and to not call me that even in a friendly convo I do not want to be called that. We were together for years!!!! Years, and never went there. Then suddenly he was using it frequently in conversations with me referring to me. Not in a mean way… like, for example, “nicca what you in here cooking?” I knew then that he was seeing somebody else who allowed him to speak that way, or who was also speaking that way to him. There were times when I was extremely assertive on how I did not want to be called that and to stop calling me that. It is definitely blatant, disrespect and a clear sign to get out!

    • @mzlinna3683
      @mzlinna3683 15 днів тому +24

      Try casually calling him the bhitche word and watch how it goes 😂

    • @magnarcreed3801
      @magnarcreed3801 11 днів тому

      What’s it mean? Sounds Spanish.

    • @user-kp3rc4eq8x
      @user-kp3rc4eq8x 10 днів тому +4

      Or maybe he on the DL spending lot of time with the 'homies'

    • @Greatsouthernbelle
      @Greatsouthernbelle 9 днів тому

      Did y’all break up ? Was he cheating .? I’m invested

    • @Freethnkr
      @Freethnkr 8 днів тому +6

      Not respecting a very clear boundary!! A huge red flag

  • @Denzelswife-rb7qz
    @Denzelswife-rb7qz 17 днів тому +78

    yup when a man is giving you mixed signals, and switch up ...walk away in silence !!

  • @elisavh7
    @elisavh7 18 днів тому +95

    It's so much easier dating men once you know how they are; their true nature, their behaviour, their maniplulation tactics and eventually ...the switch up.
    It doesn't confuse or hurt me anymore, I already expect it. But this time, I just WALK AWAY. Block, delete and move one. Bye bye.

    • @nightwishisthegreatestband6355
      @nightwishisthegreatestband6355 18 днів тому +29

      After learning all of this i would rather be alone

    • @dream_on_sammi
      @dream_on_sammi 18 днів тому +18

      Why bother at all? Don’t date, stay single.

    • @bremd2018
      @bremd2018 17 днів тому +1

      @@dream_on_sammiexactly! A waste of time and energy. Give that love to yourself and water the relationships in your life that are family and friends instead. They are reciprocal and reliable to be there for you consistently throughout your life. I am staying single by choice.

    • @vashtikelly6837
      @vashtikelly6837 17 днів тому +5

      all you have to do understand that men feel entitled and want you to see them as such and treat them this way...
      they are not enttiled!!!

    • @KurosakiLuvar01
      @KurosakiLuvar01 17 днів тому +7

      Yesss!! Exactly!! 😂
      That’s why it’s always beneficial to only date them if they’re wealthy with these notes in mind. That way you can just dip when the time comes when the switch-up arrives. Like thank you for your service, sir. Bye now!!💖💖

  • @manifest2203
    @manifest2203 18 днів тому +110

    They always switch up when the woman is at her lowest. They never fail to make a bad situation worse. That’s why it’s so common to see that they did that or this during child birth, when there is an important work meeting they will act up, when a woman falls s5ck they ch5at and leave, when her parents face health issues or pass away they act up. It’s so very common.
    The other day there was story about a woman who had surgery and had to follow a very strict diet. She made all the food for herslef and her son and husband separately before she went into surgery. What did he do? He ate all her (bland but nutritious) food. And gaslit her. He literally endangered her life. It was always the case. But earlier other women pitched in to help women (mothers, sisters, daughters, daughters in law). Men never gave care giving for their women (but always got it back). Now becaus of social media women are getting to discuss all these and know more about it.

    • @corimoon3360
      @corimoon3360 18 днів тому

      YUP! and they hate that. They’ve worked TIRELESSLY since the dawn of time to keep women separated. To keep women from having class consciousness. Because when we get together and compare notes. We realize we aren’t alone and it really is ALL of them! You can’t trust ANY of them!
      They are guilty until proven innocent at this point. They have to KEEP proving themselves to be “one of the good ones” and not a danger to us and it’s their own fault because they can’t be trusted and don’t know how to act. I need more of us to wake up and realize you cannot truly trust a single one of them….
      Some women (pick me’s) will get SO mad at what I said above and they’ll go on a whole “not my Nigel!” Rant but all I can say to them is: Do You Really Know? But Do You Really Know???
      You never know what they (or anyone tbh) will do 5/10/20 years down the line… you can’t just walk around thinking “he would never”… many women that are gone now (or had their lives ruined) thought the same thing too….
      Time for us to wise up about the true nature of them. Even the “good” ones benefit from and enable the awful ones.
      The case of the woman whose husband decided he wanted to drug and SA her and have other men SA her is the perfect case for my point.
      Not only did her husband decide to do something heinous to her after they’d been together for decades already…. Other males also joined in and the ones who declined to SA her still didn’t take charge and get justice for the victims… (I believe the husband did the same to their daughter too)
      This proves that they cannot and can NEVER be trusted.

    • @romansuzana46
      @romansuzana46 18 днів тому +18

      Facts, very selfish creatures

    • @Nat-mw3bz
      @Nat-mw3bz 18 днів тому

      @@manifest2203 Honey! The situation with the woman who had surgery is damn ATROCIOUS! I'd FIX HIS ASS ONCE I HEALED UP! BELIEVE THAT!

    • @come_on_barbie_123
      @come_on_barbie_123 14 днів тому +5

      I heard that story. It was sick! He literally h8s her

    • @nussknacker9827
      @nussknacker9827 10 днів тому +6

      They also use sleep deprivation as a weapon

  • @NafisaSophia
    @NafisaSophia 19 днів тому +119

    The Spiritual Whistle Blower is 100% correct. Never let anyone play you like a chump.

  • @randomworld4615
    @randomworld4615 18 днів тому +91

    Take this from an older woman, the 1st lady told no lies, especially about the representative part.

  • @3xyrz
    @3xyrz 18 днів тому +49

    my ex started treating family and friends better than me and became very rude and hostile so i left

  • @kellysnyclife663
    @kellysnyclife663 19 днів тому +104

    The first lady was 🎯🎯🎯🎯‼️‼️‼️‼️💯💯💯💯💯💯

    • @1111ScorpQueen
      @1111ScorpQueen 18 днів тому +15

      She is really on point. Everything she said is my experience with men.

  • @tamekadavis6641
    @tamekadavis6641 19 днів тому +122

    Stay safe ladies and choose wisely when dating a new guy.

    • @nofybn7794
      @nofybn7794 19 днів тому +29

      I'm done with romantic relationships.

    • @misha9856
      @misha9856 18 днів тому

      @@nofybn7794same

    • @TheJalesa1207
      @TheJalesa1207 18 днів тому +17

      Hard to choose wisely when they pretending

    • @777hathor
      @777hathor 18 днів тому +12

      ⁠​⁠@@TheJalesa1207. But they love to push the blame on the women and say they need to choose better.

    • @irinaivanovic9792
      @irinaivanovic9792 16 днів тому

      Men are too narcissistic to realize it’s THEY who need to get professional help!
      Therefore, there is NO reason whatsoever for me to ever date another man again.

  • @cierrabennett206
    @cierrabennett206 18 днів тому +73

    And this is why I WILL NEVER get married! I can commit to the present, but I can not commit to whatever changes you choose to undergo at any point.

    • @Soulgrace5
      @Soulgrace5 18 днів тому +13

      Cierrabennet206 Amen 🙌🏾 I have been divorced now 16 years and plan to not do it again. My single life has taught me a lot and honestly I love it.

    • @Soulgrace5
      @Soulgrace5 18 днів тому +17

      Cierrabennett206.. Also honey I am meeting men now with health issues. I send them right on about their way. Eff that, nope. No hospice wife here.

    • @cierrabennett206
      @cierrabennett206 18 днів тому +6

      @@Soulgrace5 Right!!! 💯

    • @ulovemichelle
      @ulovemichelle 15 днів тому +3

      I heard that!😂😂👌🏾

  • @reginayfavors
    @reginayfavors 18 днів тому +133

    If you get into the dating scene today, you may end up with a mental health issue, homeless, or jail/prison. Let this time be your time and rest and heal, so you can see snake coming early. The game they are playing today, which is not new, but there were societal consequences, is baby trapping just to make you a baby mother on purpose. Then have a forever claim to you. They are dangerous out here.

    • @modernvibes1990
      @modernvibes1990 18 днів тому +17

      So true a lot of men have mental issues

    • @reginayfavors
      @reginayfavors 18 днів тому +7

      @@GlockPeace I know the experience personally. I'm in my healing season.

    • @reginayfavors
      @reginayfavors 18 днів тому +2

      @@GlockPeace Amen to that.

    • @CorinaGilligan
      @CorinaGilligan 17 днів тому +13

      @reginayfavors I always say show me a woman who isn't crazy and I guarantee she's young free and single

    • @vashtikelly6837
      @vashtikelly6837 17 днів тому

      this is why men and women be mad at me becuz i only have one child and no grandkids yet....men have no power in my life, i never give it to them...

  • @Nat-mw3bz
    @Nat-mw3bz 18 днів тому +62

    I LOVE the term first woman used, "mental funeral". I'm using this from now on! 100% Sis!!

  • @ericae6611
    @ericae6611 16 днів тому +19

    My mom always said that my dad didn't act "that way" until they got married. They were together 26 years until he died.

  • @ms.virgo82187
    @ms.virgo82187 14 днів тому +13

    Yep! Ninja tried it with me this year. Telling me because I lost weight, I'm not "thick" anymore, and that's what he likes because he is a southern man. Mind you, I'm around the same weight when I met him over 10 years ago. We wasn't together like that we were just friends. But in the last 2-years we tried as a couple and it was good...until I wasn't accessible to him because I was on my grind so I was tired! Those WYD texts at 1130pm I didn't take the bait anymore. So he got into his feelings.
    Then I started losing weight and he started showing his insecurities on top of having the excuse now all of a sudden that he working a lot of OT and don't feel like going out. But he went to a philly game no problem...🙄 . So I stopped communicating with him and went ghost after he said that silly ish.
    Guess he couldn't believe I wasn't reaching out to him like I would in the past. So now he the one keeps reaching out even though I gave him what he wanted and exited my not so thick ass stage left. So I don't know what's his problem is. I should have left his ass where he was years ago, but I thought he was the good one. But these males can't handle not being chased like a damn female...too insecure and emotional for me...🫠

    • @nussknacker9827
      @nussknacker9827 10 днів тому

      He wanted you to become less desirable to other men.
      He wanted to keep you small and away from other men

  • @QueenQueenly
    @QueenQueenly 16 днів тому +31

    It’s so scary when they switch up. Be prepared.

    • @shaybluu08
      @shaybluu08 9 днів тому +1

      Sure is😢

    • @JasbeingJaz
      @JasbeingJaz 6 днів тому

      It's like they have a mental illness

  • @Sapphire37.
    @Sapphire37. 18 днів тому +28

    If no nonsense was a person, she's the lady in the first 3 clips, and I love her

  • @NickysWorld88
    @NickysWorld88 17 днів тому +37

    Stop sleeping with these men i promise your dating life will be much better

  • @hannahdavies2926
    @hannahdavies2926 15 днів тому +12

    this is why i dont do relationships anymore , no strings attatched. Single and using boys for a fun time on quick time when im ever bored. Keep em like friends but no getting feelings involved . Just desire and lust and games. No trust so no love

  • @jakemiles1427
    @jakemiles1427 16 днів тому +42

    Ladies this is why it's so important that you don't procreate with these guys too soon. When they switch up you want to make the process of leaving him as easy as possible.

    • @mimi42428
      @mimi42428 9 днів тому +3

      It still doesn't matter. Some women do things by "the book"
      They wait years to get engaged and then married and then years before having kids and these men still switch up. Even the owner of this channel herself waited 3 years before having kids and the guy switched. I've known other women that have experienced the same. I have as well. Waited 2 years before marriage and a further 3 years before having a child and he switched. Stop telling women to be careful who they have kids with. These men will mask for as long as it takes them to feel comfortable enough to disrespect you. It's not about the women's choices. It's about the men's abusive behaviours.

    • @jakemiles1427
      @jakemiles1427 9 днів тому

      @@mimi42428 I agree with you 100 percent. You are absolutely right, some men switch up after years of being with a woman. I wasn't blaming woman, I'm just trying to think of ways woman can protect themselves from things like this. But you are absolutely right.

    • @milliontimesover2180
      @milliontimesover2180 5 днів тому +2

      ​@jakemiles1427 stop having kids with the expectation of having the men support or coparent, have as many kids YOU AND YOU ONLY CAN TAKE CARE OF.

  • @brittanyb5942
    @brittanyb5942 15 днів тому +17

    When dating give a man 3 to 6 mths and you will see their true colors! AND do not have sex with them either!

  • @Vstar87
    @Vstar87 17 днів тому +20

    I love spiritual whistleblowers energy .I have cut off friends and family im over being constantly disrespected .

    • @nussknacker9827
      @nussknacker9827 10 днів тому +2

      Yes, I love that she pointed out the part about family.
      It's so important

  • @danaparfitt2491
    @danaparfitt2491 18 днів тому +37

    He's in competition with his representative, "Split" style

  • @maureajulise
    @maureajulise 5 днів тому +1

    "His family is going to be pissed cause your sending him back to them." 😱😱😱 Just when I think Spiritual whistle blower covered every aspect of my life she says something else that resignates that I missed! 👏👏👏

  • @gwendolynsnyder463
    @gwendolynsnyder463 17 днів тому +22

    If I dated after having become a psychologist, I would stick to the whole "I work at a daycare" shit. That way, I can pretend to have less money than I actually have, so that way, I can avoid male golddiggers.
    And also if some dude expects me to subsidize shit for me, I can still pull the good ol "but I'm just a daycare worker" stiek. I ain't gonna subsidize a man.

    • @ms2bloved126
      @ms2bloved126 15 днів тому +4

      GOOD TIP!!!

    • @mskabue
      @mskabue  15 днів тому +7

      Aah this is so good I'll be telling them this😂🤌🏽 thankyou

    • @adriennedouke1880
      @adriennedouke1880 13 днів тому +4

      I support myself, and I don't invest in men any longer. Just a zero sum game in my opinion. Who wants an investment that can just up and change its mind and walk away? There goes your investment. I invest in myself. Much better strategy for success.

  • @KC_days
    @KC_days 18 днів тому +46

    The trend that I keep seeing over and over again is how the woman has to constantly stay vigilant on weeding out the good and the bad while also being a person/human who has her own ups and downs, joys, habits, etc. yet while trying to be yourself to the best of your ability you also have to sift through other humans in making sure you pick right? God forbid they are amazing liars or narcissists. Then who is at fault? The woman? Because she couldn’t weed him out? Why are women being held accountable for finding the right partner when men should be holding themselves accountable and working towards being good people? While it is informative at times to watch these videos, it becomes so exhausting hearing day in and day out that women need to choose right and always be on the alert for people who should be grown enough to have plain common sense and act right! This world is so freaking confusing simply because there are so many selfish and greedy people. Sheesh!!!!!!!

    • @vashtikelly6837
      @vashtikelly6837 17 днів тому

      the issue is men feel entitled and above reproach, and women have to show men that they are not.....entitlement way of thinking is where domestic violence stems from.....

    • @irinaivanovic9792
      @irinaivanovic9792 16 днів тому +1

      Thank you!!! 🔥🔥👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 No wonder women always suffer from anxiety SO MUCH more than men do. WE are constantly told everything’s OUR fault and we better get it ALL right or else it’s our fault …day in and day out…all year…all our lives. I AM DONE WITH ROMANCE AND MEN. To hell with these evil, conniving creatures that share a human form with women. They are PURE EVIL! 😡😡🤬🤬🤬

    • @oliviastar3812
      @oliviastar3812 15 днів тому

      Only God knows (Jesus knew when he walked the earth) what's in the hearts of men. We ought to consult His wisdom. Bible says when men wanted to promote him he passed, because he knew what was in their hearts. He knows all.

    • @cynthiakila1161
      @cynthiakila1161 15 днів тому +1

      With great power comes great responsibility

  • @DailyDose926
    @DailyDose926 18 днів тому +40

    21:00 Felt like that video contradicted the entire message of men switching up. Not every man is going to "Be a man" after you change whatever they seem to claim you're doing wrong. Some men will continue to find fault in everything you do. Eventually you come to realize that YOU were never the issue. That's when you need to remove that dead weight from your life

    • @KeyaReneeMonroe
      @KeyaReneeMonroe 18 днів тому +4

      Exactly I’m so tired of her. This is always the direction her advice go. Strokin his ego or attending to his void. I do not like her content and try to avoid it at all cost. She is dangerous to women who don’t know any better. I don’t see how she’s a coach.

    • @vashtikelly6837
      @vashtikelly6837 17 днів тому

      the point is men think they are entitled and above reproach, this is where domestic violence stems from...

    • @irinaivanovic9792
      @irinaivanovic9792 16 днів тому +2

      So I’m not the only one who noticed that lousy “advice.” 🤦🏼‍♀️

  • @mimi42428
    @mimi42428 9 днів тому +5

    When they switch up you "go no contact"
    Don't do anything else. Block him and go no contact. I don't care if you have kids together. This is how they become entitled. society tells them that they are entitled to behave that way and that women and children are their property and society makes women responsible for men's choices and behaviours and still gives them what they want. Ladies stop fearing society and men. Do you. Self preservation is your best friend. ALWAYS PUT YOURSELF FIRST. ESPECIALLY if you have children. Because a mother's happiness is directly linked to her children's happiness and success

  • @sofiesop1rey2
    @sofiesop1rey2 18 днів тому +22

    All about protecting your mental health!! Agree even its family!!! Protect you first

  • @Ka3Burton
    @Ka3Burton 17 днів тому +24

    Mental funeral is the best way to feel better and move on from narcissists.

    • @argates6507
      @argates6507 15 днів тому +3

      I realized that I was a widow long before I became a divorcé. I had to give myself permission to grieve the death of the man I thought I had married in order to move on.

  • @keishab7505
    @keishab7505 19 днів тому +30

    Thank you for not doing gossip talk. Your channel is life changing.

    • @mskabue
      @mskabue  10 днів тому

      You are so welcome 🤗....

  • @VictoriaQuitane
    @VictoriaQuitane 17 днів тому +16

    More social and clinical research needs to be done on men.

  • @HamletsMill1969
    @HamletsMill1969 6 днів тому +5

    "True Colors" should be a brand name for men’s clothing. The logo could be a little red flag 🚩 😂😂😂😂😂

  • @CorinaGilligan
    @CorinaGilligan 18 днів тому +27

    Sometimes they do it to get you to end it.
    Theyre not intrested in any accountability in this life

    • @LadyMarigoldWithers
      @LadyMarigoldWithers 17 днів тому +8

      Yes! They always want to be able to tell their homies and family they’re the good guy and did nothing wrong when they’ve purposely neglected or mistreated you until your breaking point 🙄

    • @CorinaGilligan
      @CorinaGilligan 17 днів тому +3

      @@LadyMarigoldWithers so they can get himpathy , the audacity is top much

  • @KeyaReneeMonroe
    @KeyaReneeMonroe 19 днів тому +47

    First of all! Red lips!! They are talking about when you aren’t the reason a man switches us.. I can’t stand when women look for anything to be a pick me. Most times it isn’t the woman’s fault.

    • @dollhouseq1530
      @dollhouseq1530 19 днів тому +14

      I noticed that too

    • @soppres7406
      @soppres7406 19 днів тому +1

      Red lips is definitely capping. Never trust a woman who wears a fake collar to appear wise and noble.

    • @KeyaReneeMonroe
      @KeyaReneeMonroe 19 днів тому +9

      @dollhouseq1530 they be soo damn annoying.

    • @corimoon3360
      @corimoon3360 18 днів тому

      She’s an airhead and I’m sure she’s gonna get played and still blame herself. 🤦🏽‍♀️ Women like that make it so hard to be a feminist I stg, but real feminism is having empathy for and wanting to help all women, even the ones that are still brainwashed. (Tbh they need the MOST help. 💀)

    • @BusiM94
      @BusiM94 18 днів тому +7

      I also got annoyed with her commentary.

  • @mscaine2291
    @mscaine2291 18 днів тому +23

    I have a 30-45 day delusional period because i already know they about to switch up on my ass so when they start showing signs im already mentally start to detach

    • @irinaivanovic9792
      @irinaivanovic9792 16 днів тому

      I changed my delusional period to at minimum 6 MONTHS. Ideally it would be one year.

  • @SaWilliam
    @SaWilliam 11 днів тому +3

    9:04 baby this is me. I’ve been no contact from “family” for 2 years. Health, wealth, Spiritual, mental etc. has improved. I don’t play about me.

  • @stephanieskyes5777
    @stephanieskyes5777 6 днів тому +1

    Yes I had to leave my family and both parents who abused and used me I was tired it's always the same thing never a time of healthy relationships which followed me into my relationships with men and my friendships . God revealed who was who and their intentions. He delivered me out I will never look back. I'm thriving and living better than ever I'm accomplishing things I thought I never could Amen Glory be to God delivered me out of tourment and abuse forevermore! ❤❤❤

  • @_empressofdeath
    @_empressofdeath 4 дні тому +1

    Spiritual Whistle Blower be going awfffff 😮😂

  • @TheGuniverse2k
    @TheGuniverse2k 18 днів тому +12

    14:32 has the science of it down. Its so crazy how uniform the spirit of narcissism behaves. That family ish is so fr. The parents / sibs love that they're getting that shiddy person off their hands. Knowing dang well you're about to go thru hell w/their son.😵‍💫🤧

    • @brittanyb8997
      @brittanyb8997 16 днів тому +1

      💯💯💯

    • @nussknacker9827
      @nussknacker9827 10 днів тому

      They also always encourage to stay with the abuser, defend the abuser
      and blame the victims

  • @jdd6958
    @jdd6958 16 днів тому +9

    Somebody send and tag this to Halle Bailey.

  • @shetalk2much673
    @shetalk2much673 5 днів тому +4

    I notice they switch up IMMEDIATELY after meeting family.... shyt funny af to me my family KNOWS I cut ✂️ off ninjas 🥷 like split ends cause I do the SAME SHYT to them😂.... Biiiyeeee!!!

  • @PandaHead602
    @PandaHead602 18 днів тому +16

    The lady at the start w the glasses she isn’t lying I’m 38 just turned 38 😮 who switches up ⬆️ the only do because they don’t have to take no more or there’s someone else

  • @Gemma0519
    @Gemma0519 14 днів тому +6

    The dating scene is all f#@*ed up nowadays. Single and celibate is the way to go 💯

  • @stephaniewencek6618
    @stephaniewencek6618 3 дні тому +1

    Mental health evaluation. That is such a good idea.

  • @tteehenderson8341
    @tteehenderson8341 13 днів тому +2

    I start praying loud and praying praising thanking the higher power within me to notice what he thinks might bother me. Laugh inside while I'm collecting my funds. Cause he gives me the strength to say I'm OK by myself * FREE *

  • @stephaniewencek6618
    @stephaniewencek6618 3 дні тому +1

    You are 💯 about his family.

  • @stephanieskyes5777
    @stephanieskyes5777 6 днів тому +1

    Fact so much truth 💗💗 I just stay to myself Amen

  • @sherrita8582
    @sherrita8582 18 днів тому +8

    Spiritual whistle blower, always come through with the facts❤

  • @curtistinemiller4646
    @curtistinemiller4646 18 днів тому +14

    Be prepared for the switch up.....

    • @mskabue
      @mskabue  15 днів тому +1

      Always.....

  • @Fryjnkk
    @Fryjnkk 17 днів тому +10

    The switch-up after the wedding... Is the most heartbreaking bait n switch, because you think you did everything right. You required a commitment and consistency, all that... and then when that wedding is over and the marriage certificate is signed, what u gonna do then when he shows you a totally different person??? No vetting can really protect u from a man, it can help, but dealing with men is always a huge risk. Always. So take your time on having kids and don't ever go into marriage financially reliant, that way it's much harder to trap you.

    • @nussknacker9827
      @nussknacker9827 10 днів тому

      The amount of cheating that happens right before the wedding is also so sad

  • @mirafarah8944
    @mirafarah8944 18 днів тому +17

    Mental funeral 👍👍i am a very happy widow !! Smart woman btw 🙏

  • @OmniLoved
    @OmniLoved 8 днів тому +4

    He treated me so well for the first two weeks and then went cold and stopped responding. Weird.

  • @RedDeadReverie
    @RedDeadReverie 18 днів тому +15

    Everything they say is a lie usually. Actions speak the truth. Just walk away!

    • @nussknacker9827
      @nussknacker9827 10 днів тому

      I'd much rather date beautiful women than these predators.
      Or just be alone and at peace.
      Most XY are attracted to underage girls.
      I know because I look like one and can't be anywhere without them chasing after me
      Even if I'm wearing a wide hoodie and other non-flatrering clothes.
      I'm scared of XY.
      The only XY I'm willing to trust are openly gay, feminine guys.
      Because then the chances are higher that they aren't after me for my body

  • @marisworld8037
    @marisworld8037 5 днів тому +1

    Great video! You were spot on.❤❤❤

  • @KeyKey3787
    @KeyKey3787 3 дні тому +1

    Going through this right now, he was just trying to use me for my resources and what he can get.

  • @nussknacker9827
    @nussknacker9827 10 днів тому +1

    What spiritual whistle blower said about family is very important!
    (about 10 minutes into the video)

  • @AtmaDiAce
    @AtmaDiAce 17 днів тому +4

    All I can say is WOW because you actually covered everything within the relationship dynamics - Thank you so very much for this post now we all just need to get this out to everyone else - This needs to go viral to help relationships and marriages be stable - Absolutely FLAWLESS - i am Atma Di Ace in your atmosphere speaking Real talk Raw and Uncut facts truth always - One luv respect always my pure hearted people

  • @ShawdyAhStar
    @ShawdyAhStar 18 днів тому +8

    It’s sooo many gems💎 in this video☝🏽💕

    • @corimoon3360
      @corimoon3360 18 днів тому +4

      Except for red lipstick lady. She’s getting played and it’ll only get worse. 😂

  • @Silent.Presence
    @Silent.Presence 13 днів тому +4

    I wish I heard all this at least in April 2009....😢

    • @mskabue
      @mskabue  13 днів тому +2

      It's never too late Sis

    • @Silent.Presence
      @Silent.Presence 12 днів тому

      @@mskabue my hugs to you, Sister🤩😇

    • @Silent.Presence
      @Silent.Presence 12 днів тому +1

      @@mskabue and thank you for your amazing videos🥰

  • @Tha_DMS
    @Tha_DMS 17 днів тому +5

    Thanks!

    • @mskabue
      @mskabue  17 днів тому +1

      Bless your heart Sis 💕🫶🏽

  • @MrsLaAutentica
    @MrsLaAutentica 16 днів тому +6

    This is for men and women!
    I have a son and brothers, and I tell you what, shady comes in both genders!

    • @DeeLyteWorker
      @DeeLyteWorker 16 днів тому +1

      Males are the Best ACTORS, Women are REACTIVE to males Manipulation and Abusive behavior 95% of them have, because they don't EVER do self development a lot of women do the work males refuse to do the work they blame everything on the woman.

  • @tashawandz4377
    @tashawandz4377 14 днів тому +2

    Thank you for the enlightenment ❤

  • @stunningbeaute1037
    @stunningbeaute1037 8 днів тому

    “Mental funeral” 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @attcustomer1863
    @attcustomer1863 18 днів тому +13

    men love to text you I'm sick of these tests

    • @ms.virgo82187
      @ms.virgo82187 14 днів тому

      Right😂😂😂 I got a ninja I stopped dealing with back in August show got mad and tried to shame me for losing weight want leave me alone! Like I went silent on his ass and he keeps textinf😢 "hi" "hey", I've been working hard lately, blah blah but have nothing else to say or talking about. I hardly ever reply back and if I do it would be days later. Like you just trying to see if you still have that you think is access to me.
      Because you never call or ask how I'm doing. You just want to talk about your insecure immature ass. This man turned 40 this year and got into his feelings because I stopped answering his "wyd" at 1130 and took my sleep and what I was trying to do over what he wanted. Then losing weight and other men complimenting my hardworking his insecurities started to come out. And he going to say he like thick women and I don't have any curves anymore 😅ninja funny you say that but everyone else sees it differently.
      But he keeps texting this "none thick" women as if he can't fathom that I finally decided I'm good on his ass. These ninjas can't take what they try to dish the shit out 😅😊

  • @lilijody
    @lilijody 19 днів тому +25

    That lady on red lips is a bonified pick me

    • @corimoon3360
      @corimoon3360 18 днів тому

      She’s so so so dumb I could not handle it. 🤦🏽‍♀️

  • @aileen3267
    @aileen3267 15 днів тому +2

    The way I needed this ❤

  • @bethanyLogan123
    @bethanyLogan123 15 днів тому +2

    Ah I love your videos. They are so correct..great info for the younger girls.

    • @mskabue
      @mskabue  10 днів тому

      Glad you like them!

  • @irinaivanovic9792
    @irinaivanovic9792 16 днів тому +7

    The lady at 21:54 is way off….. that’s a very small percentage of why men switch up. Like VEERRRRYYYY small..

    • @8806Erika
      @8806Erika 7 днів тому +2

      I was looking for this lmao she delusional and she blamed herself for her man's actions...or lack thereof. He fixed it so it worked out but she sure didn't address what happens when they don't fix it because we know that's USUALLY what happens

  • @kameshiam1674
    @kameshiam1674 15 днів тому +1

    Good talk!! This is so true.

  • @annjohnson4061
    @annjohnson4061 7 днів тому +1

    The girl at 19:30 talking about we want control. Women are running to divorce attorney offices because men want you to be their mother. It's exhausting. The "controlling woman" stereotype is just that. She just happened to fit it.
    Most women don't. If they did they wouldn't run to the divorce lawyer office. They would be happy to have a man to control.
    We are NOT happy about men who need to be mothered and that's what 'mothering' does to a man. It's not control .

  • @chantalemon8746
    @chantalemon8746 18 днів тому +2

    Yessss My Love Talk Yo Stuff 🎉🎉.....This Was Needed

  • @severalpiece7105
    @severalpiece7105 19 днів тому +7

    2:27 That part

  • @PandaHead602
    @PandaHead602 День тому

    11:22 she said it that’s their character that’s how ppl are

  • @Investinyourselfdarling
    @Investinyourselfdarling 8 днів тому +1

    Its sonething how you're so cold to rhem and rhey are so concerned ..they are backwards as hell😂😂

  • @danaparfitt2491
    @danaparfitt2491 18 днів тому +2

    13:20
    With the laughing
    With the quickness

  • @Mike-ce6vr
    @Mike-ce6vr 13 днів тому +2

    If we’re being honest though, both men and women switch up.
    SprinkleSprinkle 😂

  • @ImMi0810
    @ImMi0810 18 днів тому +4

    13:38 OMG my Baby Daddy's family is like this to a T!!!!! He's schizophrenic & a narcissist, always homeless, they'll take advantage of him tho, they steal from each other, he's also always begging them for something but they're greedy. His parents had 8 kids together, dad is selfish and walked off, mom was poor stressed, abusive. His Irish twin & favorite brother unalived himself at 15 years old, then 3 yrs later another little brother passed from a car accident, trauma everywhere. They WERE nice to me at first but fake also, he started telling them lies about me and then they started being nasty. Now he's accusing me of sleeping with his family members as an excuse to abandon our kids. They'll all fight & talk shit about each other but still act cool again, it's just very toxic AF! I don't even tell my siblings about our relationship, our relationship is our business and also I wanted them to like him so I hid how he was treating me but it was just way too obvious so I couldn't really hide it.

  • @mauricaribon9819
    @mauricaribon9819 16 днів тому +2

    Thanks

  • @etaokha4164
    @etaokha4164 18 днів тому +7

    I switched out forever and took my son with me

  • @PandaHead602
    @PandaHead602 День тому

    She said it even parents family etc .. stay away of it hurts u and ur mental health

  • @Dass1996
    @Dass1996 18 днів тому +21

    Girl with the red lipstick…..STAND TF UP. She gives off strong pick-me vibes.

    • @corimoon3360
      @corimoon3360 18 днів тому

      She’s an airhead. 🤦🏽‍♀️

  • @PapayaPepper202
    @PapayaPepper202 14 днів тому +1

    a game to play for prizes

  • @alisanina
    @alisanina 19 днів тому +27

    Not one of these women are telling women to be single and choose GOD.

    • @attitudeproblem6462
      @attitudeproblem6462 18 днів тому

      Be single? Ok. But “choose ‘god’?🙄 A male diety is not going to save you from the problem of males made in his crummy image.

    • @INGEN_Dahnie-el-aha-ha
      @INGEN_Dahnie-el-aha-ha 18 днів тому +17

      🙄😒 OMGAWD. Just take the meat and leave the bones. Did you GET THE D@MN POINT or NAH??? Ugh.

    • @danaparfitt2491
      @danaparfitt2491 18 днів тому +1

      AGREE with ingen

    • @mobutter2879
      @mobutter2879 18 днів тому +2

      @@INGEN_Dahnie-el-aha-ha❤

    • @danilaroche1156
      @danilaroche1156 16 днів тому

      ​No need for impertinent comment.

  • @tadams827
    @tadams827 18 годин тому +1

    #BOUNCE

  • @reginayfavors
    @reginayfavors 18 днів тому +6

    I prefer the guy in the closet in addition to the Spiritual Whistleblower.

  • @WildAntics13
    @WildAntics13 19 днів тому +16

    The family member cut off is true! So im a single mom and have successful career! i help my sister to go to! The youngest but at the end sniffed off on me the entitlement of these young generations! My thirds sister save her life because her boyfriend dru….gging her put her to hospital to recover she did! Get angry when i say things like dont come! Im done ! When i have nothing no one gives a a….fck but when they need me they call me! I cut off contacts even to my mom who always thinks she is a victim! I think i have enough! I stay away from them far with my daughter!

  • @MC-8
    @MC-8 17 днів тому

    Yes. Just yes.

  • @CandyDee-oz4qp
    @CandyDee-oz4qp 15 днів тому +1

    💯💯

  • @angelalynn4225
    @angelalynn4225 18 днів тому +1

    Facts

  • @Lyra4ran
    @Lyra4ran 9 днів тому +1

    5:48 - and then THEY will switch up too lol

  • @canadiangirl9992
    @canadiangirl9992 17 годин тому +1

    They will do it sooner or later.