almond moms and the illusion of wellness
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"As women, we pass down eating disorders like family heirlooms"
Wow, needed a moment to digest that.
pun intended?
@@saul_goodmanirl omg I didn’t even notice that🤭
I’m genuinely so privileged I didn’t get any body issues or eating issues from my mom. Soooo many girls I know were bullied by their mothers about their body. 90s/2000s diet culture was ROUGH. I have an eating disorder related to food textures and choking, but that is because my dad force fed me as a kid. But hey I’m breaking the cycle with my kids 😂
Yeah theres so many things i avoided doing cause my said no thats fat. Or just so fat. Like using normal butter.
@@zoommiesbay dude my entire ED was me pretty much copying my mom and then she was mad when she found out i had an ED like girl i learned it from you 😭
Eating food in America literally feels like all we're eating is poison, like half the things we eat is just processed corn and other chemicals. But then trying to find healthy options are so much more expensive and out of reach for a lot of people, and then we're being constantly told contradictory things about food and eating, it's exhausting!
It feels impossible. jUsT eAt bAlaNcEd mEalS when a) addictive sugar is in everything in the US and b) a burger is a lot cheaper than vegetables. not to mention ulterior motives. I'm so fuvking tired man
I saw something on the internet once. It was an episode of what would you do. And this woman who was a nutritionist was like if you need more greens you can buy canned fruits and vegetables
Pretty simple, organic when you can, shop the perimeter, avoid food in boxes/ premade
grow your own food
@@wsdfghj95easy to say, not so easy to do especially for those in homes with pets/no backyards or lawns unfortunately
Almond mon is growing up saying “im hungry” and being met with “how about a handful of almonds or an apple?” And if you didnt want those “well then you must not really be hungry then.”
Exactly like this, no joke 😮😢
Edit: I had an almond father when I grew up so.. yes, relatively speaking…
My mum says this daily 😭
1000%. My mom said this growing up and guess who developed an eating disorder? 🙋♀
i had an almond dad. I feel u
almond dad...
my grandma is 83 and just last week quit trying to diet. she has literally had the quote “nothing tastes better than being thin feels” taped to the dining table since before i was born.
How come she decided not to diet anymore?
Jesus
@@ixi3emo Well-she's 83 for one!! Thin for who and for how long??
“Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels” it’s a kate moss quote
This is so sad
She goes out with NO MAKEUP - ONCE, and everyone freaks out and acts like she's dying.
Yeah, I can relate...
felt that
That's what happens when you wear "natural" make up 24/7 all the time..... people can't see what a no make up face looks like
i definitely have an almond mom, and honestly I feel so bad for her because i can see that she always tells me to stop eating and to do more exercise because being ""fat"" left a big trauma in her, but at the same time i just wish that she would realize that her behavior is so wrong for me. I am a 15 year old girl who's in her puberty and i am really sensitive about my body and my body imagine in general, most of the times she also makes comments about my weight (I am in no way overweight, just not skinny enough in her eyes) and those comments led me to develop bulimic behaviors. at the end i realize that it's not her fault if she does this, but i just wish that she would stop honestly.
Is it possible for you to seek out a mentor with the type of body/lifestyle you prefer instead?
Sometimes it’s hard to escape the shadow of a pushy parent without guidance, so finding someone further along your favorite life path is a solid first step 🤷♂️
you are wise beyond your years to already know that it's her problem, not yours.
@@corpsefoot758 when she first noticed some of my bulimic behaviors she sent me to a nutritionist, but in the long run she would make some comments that would make me feel ashamed for going; so at the end i stopped going because i couldn't take it. so yeah, I tried seeking help from someone who isn't her, but it didn't work
@@giulia17139 Oh no, it hurts reading this. If you can’t find a solution now I wish you all the resilience in the world to keep you from falling into the diet culture trap until you can move out from your mother‘s ❤
I was bulimic off and on for years starting around your age. Take it from me- it’s not worth it. It will impact your digestive and endocrine systems for the rest of your life if you allow it to win. Please seek help for it. Your body is fine just the way it is and you deserve food ❤️ sending healing
My mom is an “un voluntary” almond mom, she’s never really made me feel horrible to a point of affecting my mental health, but For YEARS she used to talk and brag about the time in her life where she was the skinniest she’s ever been, she would sometimes look at me and tell me (I’ve always been skinny) that she was even slimmer than I was and that she missed looking like that, years later, now me being in my early 20’s I was talking with her about how dangerous fitness culture could be if you took the wrong advices, about how a lot of fitness models would starve themselves for days just so they could look ripped asf for the photoshoots, and how we are so used to think that looking like that must mean that someone is healthy, then I proceeded to tell all of the side effects of eating barely anything and exercising constantly like hair loss, low libido, depression, headaches etc. and then she was like “oh so that’s why all of that happened to me” and I got concerned and asked her how much she weighted at that time when she told me she looked her “best” and she said 38 kg, she was a 30 y/o woman who weighted less than a teenager and she told me that was the healthiest she’s ever been, but she also told me she was the saddest she’s ever been, I try to talk to her about how her ED affects us both and that she needs to stop thinking like that was ok, my mom was relentlessly bullied by my grandma and siblings for being chubby as a kid and when she became an adult it really messed her idea of what “healthy” really means, my job now is to tell her constantly beautiful and perfect she is right now because she really is
I wish the best for your mom 💕 I'm glad you were able to help her realize how unhealthy this was!
This is a time where I think we can bring up a more specific type of ED: orthorexia, it's the unhealthy obsession with eating healthy - lost of contradictory information, etc on what is actually healthy, and usually another aspect of anorexia.
We’re pretty sure my grandmother has this. She doesn’t really under eat, but she will only eat the foods that she feels to be healthy or “safe.” Super anal about fats, eggs, bread, and portions of food. She will freak out if we try to convince her to just finish her plate and not eat if a safe food is not available. It really does rule your life as much as any other eating disorder. It’s depressing to watch now that she has dementia and it has gotten much worse along with many other things. We definitely need more awareness of orthorexia.
7:49 🕯
And the part about diet soda really caught me, cause the shit they put in it is almost worse for you…. But not like McDonald’s would sell anything other than Coca Cola type drinks 🥤
Water is key, yet much of it is chemically saturated or contains heavy metals or plastic chemicals….
I had a PE professor in college who was going over a lesson about eating disorders with a PowerPoint, and when he got to orthorexia, he straight up told us that, to him, it "wasn't really a real eating disorder, because it's good to be healthy anyway". He was a pretty nice guy for the most part, but looking back, he said a lot of questionable stuff in our class, and that was probably the most nonsensical thing he said, but none of us said anything at the time. I mean, eating healthy and exercising is good, obviously, but making anything into an obsession isn't good for you, and sometimes people with this disorder have a different definition of "healthy" that aligns with extreme diets and over exercising to the point of exhaustion, and they're also trying to stay healthy for the wrong reasons, and that is worth evaluating and being concerned about.
Though this doesn't excuse my professor's misinformation, I can't help but be concerned about this guy's own mental health if he thought that having orthorexia "wasn't that bad", with him teaching fitness for a living and being a former body builder who seemed passionate about healthy. Of course, there's nothing wrong with being passionate about health and fitness in itself, but when you combine that with his questionable views, it seems concerning.
This reminded of those Tik Tok’s where people travel to Europe and eat a bunch of carbs and diary foods and don’t get sick or bloated at all, and they compare it to America where the bread is practically plastic 😭
So I'm from europe and a few years ago I moved to north america.
I actually had to go keto for a few months here because the bread made me so sick. After a few months I figured that things like oats, potatoes and imported pasta from italy are palateable carbohydrates, and my only source of carbs. I also cannot eat sweets here, can't eat chocolate it tastes so bad here. In a way, I'm actually healthier living in a city in Canada than i was in living in a village in England simply because the food quality here is so bad (and most of it is imported from USA) and they don't even list the ingredients. In England "flavours" is NOT a legal ingredient that can be printed. They must list each and every added flavour's E-Number. So you can look up *EXACTLY* what is in your food.
The milk here is also something I had to cut, but fortunately Walmart has a cheese imported from England so that's good.
As a result of all this, I actually have found myself eating a diet of just whole foods because virtually anything in a packet is going to give me stomach pains. So when i go grocery shopping, all that is in my basket are loads of raw vegetables, potatoes/pasta/oats, imported cheese, a big slab of salmon for me to cut up and freeze, tuna cans, salmon cans, quail/duck eggs and some beef (the chicken in this country is horrific. God awful nasty quality) with a big selection of spices.
So because the food here is so bad, I actually HAVE to eat whole foods so I've ended up losing weight slowly over the years.
Any cake or sweets I have to make myself, cause any I buy cause my pain.
My american friends suggested I may be sensitive to "corn syrup" which isn't an ingredient in most european countries, but is in everything here.
When I go home do I do look forward to a week of eating unhealthy foods without stomach pain.
talked to a group of german scouts a few years ago at a campground, they had recently come back from an international camp in the us which my group hadn't attended, so we were all asking how it was, what's america like? And literally all they talked about was how horrible the food was, how there was sugar in EVERYTHING, how huge the portion sizes were, how they had to buy bottled water bc the tap water tasted like chlorine, etc. Apparently they asked their new american friends if the food was always this bad on their camping trips, and they were like huh, wdym that's just our regular food :/
Yeah I can see that. I’m from the states and I don’t have a strict diet but I really don’t like eating too many carbs here. I get way too bloated and constipated 😂 Keto definitely helps & since it’s low carb, you’re not cutting anything out
@@Alex-wl9xw actually the way they process flour and the additives used are different from america to the EU. The dairy is often raised differently too, leading to less irritants for sensitive people. It can also change the ratio of proteins in milk to favor more digestible proteins (I buy specially raised milk with more of this protein in the US). My mom developed allergies in her 30s after moving back to the states (we all lived in Germany for a decade). The food in America is also full of processed corn, corn syrups, palm oil, etc which are significantly less common in other countries. Plus basically all of our food isn’t local. Europeans typically eat a much more local diet. All that adds up to why Americans have so many food related problems.
Yeah we have so much sugar and salt shoved into our foods to make them addictive. Like candy bar has a specific smell to make it more appetizing ts not just the ingredients creating the smell. Consumerism has fucked us in all aspects.
in high school i had to do a health and wellness class and we were given an assignment to write the calories we eat during the week and i told my teacher hey i cant do this i have a history of an ED and she told me to suck it up and just because i have an unhealthy relationship with food doesn't mean i can opt out an assignment. fun fact i got an ED again after that
Big yikes
Few people are more damaging to a young person’s life than shitty teachers
thats so messed up wth
I had the same project at my school cooking class and I felt so uncomfortable doing it. like I felt like she was going to judge what everyone was eating when she went and graded it.
@Blue Plumbob she told everyone she could tell when they were lying which is probably a lie but she was an asshole anyways, I got her introuble a second time because of something in my requirements form that she ignored and she left me alone after her job was threatened by the principal (and my mom threatening to sue)
That’s so dangerous, I’m so sorry you went though that! I started using a food log and it quickly became a very unhealthy fixation, an assignment like that can be incredibly damaging to some, especially with ocd as it tends to be a major risk factor. Hopefully someone gave her the facts and reality smacks some sense into her :P
I have a cousin who emotionally and financially abuses anyone who dares to try to be close to her, and she's been overweight all her life until she recently had one of those gastric band surgeries and lost over 100 lbs. Now my mom (who has been repeatedly burned by this manipulator) is back in contact with her and trying to convince me that she's a better person now. No behavior has changed except for the weight loss, and I genuinely think she's unconsciously associating thinness with moral goodness. It's infuriating.
A former colleague of my mom was obsessed with health food. When her niece converted to Catholicism, she thought that her aunt's strict organic diet was part of the religion. Like she thought she'd burn in hell for not eating organic vegetables. It's no wonder she got sick.
Woah - crazy how common this phenomenon is.
People really are insane
Ugh growing up with an almond mom was the worst…its so funny bc when I compare myself to my boyfriend, who always had access to healthy and unhealthy food, he has the most healthy relationship to food ever. He can eat two chips and be like, yes I’m done while I am always overeating because there was so much attention on bad food, I feel like I need to eat it all now because the access to it is limited even tho I’m a adult and do my own groceries😅
omg yes. I didn't grow up with an almond mom but an almond DAD and in my adolescence whenever I had access to eating junk food I binged on it because I knew that I wouldn't be able to have more in a while
This! I remember as a kid my mum had a rule about Halloween. You could eat as much candy as you want that night and the rest was thrown out. Needless to say, I started binging in my late teens and still struggle with a scarcity mindset around junk food 😅
I'm from Europe and spent 3 months in the US last summer for work. First off, I've never had such terrible digestive issues in my life. The bread there is just toxic. Secondly, the thing that really struck me was how the ability to access healthier food is very much determined by race and class. Obviously, I was aware of food deserts before, but seeing them in person was a very different experience. When staying in poorer neighbourhoods (which because of racist housing policies, redlining, etc. were almost always Black neighbourhoods), it was almost impossible to find anything even resembling a grocery store. You might have a liquor store or a fast food outlet, but nowhere you could buy dairy products, vegetables, etc. There are literally no food stores in many neighbourhoods and the lack of reliable public transportation in many cities, especially in smaller cities in the South and Midwest, means that people who cannot afford cars or who are unable to drive due to illness, disability and so on are basically cut off from something as basic and essential to human survival as FOOD! Basically, people are shamed for not eating healthy, but access to healthy foods (organic, etc.) is determined by race, class, ability, location, etc. Being able to eat even a little bit healthy is the US is a real privilege that not many people can afford.
crazy how it used to be fat = rich, skinny = poor, now it’s the other way round. its always the wealthiest that’s in style. crazy how whole foods used to be cheaper, and processed shit was considered fancy. almost like beauty is always gonna be locked behind a paywall. beauty of course correlating with happiness, social respect, and job opportunities.
but thank you for looking at a new perspective, i appreciate it. as someone who grew up fat on food stamps.
you know that white people arent the highest earning race right ?
So I had an almond DAD. He would constantly say food portions are too big. Make faces at 'unhealthy' foods. Push me to eat whatever his new favorite 'superfood' is. Just constant, relentless lectures about health. When I didn't want to play sports anymore in highschool, he made me sign a 'contract' he wrote that I would still excersie X many days a week. 🙃 All of this resulting in me completely rebelling when I got to college, eating terribly, never exercising and gaining weight. ✨
Gwenyth has been detoxing for like 20 years lol I think she’s good at this point. Latterly, her ex husband Chris Martin went on a podcast a few weeks ago saying he only eats one meal a day.
That’s wild considering how intense his tour is. 😮 You’re performing for almost 3 hours - besides the crowd, where’s your fuel?
@@JuriAmari cocaine
I seen that with Jack Dorsey
Having one meal a day can be sustainable if you are eating the correct amount of nutrients. It’s just another way to intermediate fast.
You only need one meal a day.
I'm Nigerian and I never heard of things such as grass fed beef or organic egg until I started consuming Western media. That shits unhinged.
Also I'm in a state where I don't know if I'm having an eating disorder or if I'm just too depressed to eat. Almost passing out even. But usually I love food so much that depression never stopped me. It doesn't help when people keep saying I look better now.
NO LITERALLY SAME ON THE ED THING. It's literally so stressful because like idk i have this terror of an eating disorder but another part of me is begging me to starve myself. I hate it so much
@@fawndflwr5532 I know what it feels like. I used to be so so skinny. I looked unhealthy, fragile and pale and I'm even brown. Then I had my first break down when I entered University and I started taking anti-depressants and I started adding on a little body. And my roommates then where bashing me and telling me adding weight did not fit me and it was such a mind fuck. I kept on getting bigger and bigger and people I grew up around, way older people started telling me shit about my weight and calling me fat Pat lol. And I don't know I never saw it in the mirror. I didn't even look fat I looked like an average young woman. It got to the point I stopped looking in the mirror, stopped eating as much and I woke up a few pounds down. And everyone is like you look good and shit. Maybe I do have an Ed
Yo! As a fellow Nigerian I feel you
PS. Sending you love tho
@@sundiva7642 I hate this sh*t when people tell you "oh you gained weight you look so bad now! ". Like b*tch please, attractiveness is subjective, if you're slim it doesn't automatically mean that you are a sex symbol for everybody. Personally, I've never experienced this sh*t but my sister has and I'm so glad that she didn't take it to heart and trusted her feelings more. Don't listen to your roommates they clearly don't have good intentions towards you.
@@sundiva7642 It's literally not fair when people shame women for weight going up and down. Nobody knows what's going on, so instead of trying to talk to you about it they shame them for it, assume you have an Ed or are just binging. It's not fair. I am a girl, and my body is preparing to be a woman. My weight will never stay the same. I eat, I drink water, I take pills, And boom I'm fat. I try to restrict my eating and refuse sugary drinks and take more pills due to the shaming, boom I'm unhealthy and sad and shouldn't be trusted. It's just not fair anymore. Nobody seems to know that the basic reality of a woman's weight it going to go up and down. With moon cycles, with birth, stress, food, menopause, basic growing, even growing boobs, and more and more and more. It's not fair for people to judge and assume those things and I'm so tired of it.
I'm latina and even if my mom isn't an almond mom, other people DEFINITELY make sure you're self conscious. Some family members (especially my grandma) would make comment about your rolls were showing when you slouched, how good and thin you looked when you got taller, how you shouldn't be eating junk food and instead get an apple or smth. So now, me and my cousins usually feel guilty eating "junk food" but kinda developed an obsession with things we "shouldn't eat" so we always wanted more of it. Sadly i'd say it's super common in Mexico at least to get these comments cuz it's happened to a few of my friends too
nah cuz im romanian and i got shamed by my grandma for eating sweets, its common for eastern europeans too
Same gurl, I'm Mexican and my aunts have always body-shamed all the nieces, to the point where even one of them became anorexic. I don't think they really meant harm, like they just wanted to "make sure we were healthy", but it certainly didn't seem that way to us. My mom has also been affected by this mindset and I guess she's an almond mom, to an extent, but it was only until puberty when she started pointing out the things I would eat. Before that I would always just eat whatever I wanted and I guess she felt guilty about letting me become overweight at some point during my childhood.
Latino families always bodyshame no matter the shape lmao I've been bodyshamed because I was extremely thin
I have an almond mom and almond dad, it’s basically a living hell. They put me in the keto diet when I was in highschool and I feel like that was one of the things that sparked my binge eating disorder after I got off it. My dad is always getting on and off the keto diet now and my mom always likes showing me pictures of myself when I was thinner trying to encourage me to eat better and exercise more. It’s exhausting and I wish I had the money and courage to get out of the house already
I hope you get out soon, that sounds horrible
That sounds so tough and toxic. I hope you're doing self care as best as you can and not letting it take too much of a toll on you until you can navigate setting those boundaries/get away.
The 80s we're far more about the hard body look and being super fit more than heroine chic, but that does also play a huge part, my father always pressed working out and eating healthy, I wasnt allowed any candy or gum witth sugar till I was like 8, and that whole culture of the fit/hard body had a weird impact on us that I dont think alot of people talk about.
@Blue Plumbob That's probably a part of it, and the weird love of greased up muscles the nazis had really impacted amercian fashion
Weird to police an eight year olds body but I can respect restricting sugar for young children. It’s addictive.
@evaphillips2102 don't think he was intentionally policing it more as trying to do what he thought would help. He was always very encouraging in me staying active, and I am a professional athlete now so I thank him for instilling some of that, he was always careful to never make me or my siblings feel bad about ourselves, but I have seen how it can go wrong if thats youre only priority
I have an almond mom, but not? She’s not healthy herself, but she’s obsessed with other people’s bodies. It’s fuxked me up so much hearing the comments about other women over the years. She hasn’t called me pretty since I was a child (and small).
Pretty messed up. You’d think a mother would prefer to set an example in order to teach a lesson.
I think you have a good head on your shoulders and it feels like you’re saying something you believe in and have thought about instead of regurgitating information and that’s nice
That's what I was thinking, she feels what she's saying
it’s funny cause my dad actually contributed to my ed. my mom never cared to show a balance in “healthy” and “unhealthy” foods and my dad over compensated with criticizing EVERYTHING i eat
My dad has always been like that too always trying new diets
It was always "that will give you cancer!"
@@Em_Elizabeth omg my dad is the same!!
Same, my dad told me to lose weight when I was 8 years old💀
i've always thought this ngl. I used to live in a vv wealthy white area and people used to be so annoying about organic this and wholefoods that. it was pretentious asf
the western food industry is insane, i haven’t even finished the video, but for example, my grandma is celiac and can’t do red meats at all here, but she went to italy and was able to eat bread and have a little bit of steak and she was completely normal.
you can be celiac and asymptomatic.. the fact she felt fine after eating "european gluten" doesn't mean it didn't do damage to her.. I am also celiac and live in the mediterranean and bread makes me feel sick always so
But u need to have these american food that are so processed and are eaten every freaking day by them , to knw why they are more worse.
Being an indian who had access to fresh food (which weren’t always organic necessarily) ,I’d say I found the food we eat in india far healthier than the one we were having in US ,when went there for phd. It literally made us weak n sick!
Italy is part of the western world...
There’s a chemical in the US farming called roundup that can cause gluten intolerances similar to celiac. Some health professionals believe that the intolerance is due to “roundup” and not as much as the gluten. Also roundup is illegal in many countries in Europe.
Celiac does not work this way, it will always cause a reaction to gluten, no matter how “clean” or “organic” it is a permanent well studied and understood immune disorder, not some malleable intolerance. Eating gluten for someone with the disease is extremely dangerous. Also Celiac has nothing to do with red meat.
My mom put my whole family on a "detox" diet when I was seven. During the diet we were all, exhausted, irritated, and even throwing up and my Mom was like, "this means it's working! You are cleansing your body!" Then when I was nine, I was having sleep issues so my mom again put me on an "elimination diet" to see if I was allergic to anything. She cut out all food except for broth and unseasoned beef. I couldn't even eat fruits and vegetables lol. After a couple weeks of misery and much worse sleep with some added stomach issues, the diet finally allowed me to add in bananas. Not all fruit and veg, just bananas. But after a week of just broth, beef, I felt like I was in heaven. Since I was so sick of beef and broth at that point, and the only other food I could eat was bananas, my diet consisted of daily six-eight bananas and nothing more. So I went a while eating a banana-only diet lol. Eventually, after many months of slowly bringing back food, I was able to eat normally again. But man, I feel like that experience kind of messed me up mentally. Made me look at food in a very restrictive and abnormal way, which may have partly contributed to me developing anorexia at 13. Once I was at the age where I started having body image issues, coupled with the experience of severely restricting food, it felt natural to go days without eating... Anyways that's my little story about having an almond Mom lol. It's pretty sad, as my mom is almost sixty years old now yet she still brags about going such and such days without eating. It just shows how deeply ingrained in her it is.
as someone who grew up with an overweight almond mom, now i do struggle with an ED because growing up, the reason she wanted to be “well” and “healthy” was a coverup for her trying to lose weight. i grew up listening to her listening to her talk about how ugly she was, how unhealthy, which lead to me thinking thin was the only way of being pretty, and as i grew up and lacked attention relating to my looks, i realized when i lost weight i received more positive attention, so now the easiest way to lose weight and the safest way for me to deny that i actually have a problem but saying “oh im fasting” or “oh you know everyone’s body is different” bc that’s what i watched my mom do at a young age
fun fact, it is currently the month of Ramadhan where muslims fast from sunrise to sunset for 30 days. other than for religious purposes, a lot of us see it as a chance to reconsider our eating habits, and try to adopt a healthier habit by consuming more fruits and vegetables. since seeing a dietician when i began my weight loss journey 6 months ago, she's reminded me to avoid overeating during this fasting month, as our stomachs will shrink and it might go into shock if we have too much junk food (i am 6 kilos away to reaching the overweight line for my BMI, yay!).
a potential risk to fasting that i've noticed is that muslims with ED's are having a really hard time adapting. some resort to going back to binge-eating and it's taking a toll on their mental health. any type of fasting deffo comes with pro's and con's, and if you are facing these issues, deffo see a therapist and a nutritionist/dietician to help you through it. it never hurts to reach out for help!
I tried fasting because my friend challenged me ( I am not a Muslim but my friend is) but I failed miserably! How did survive without water for hours straight? I drank litres of water before
@@sayno8685 it's deffo more challenging for folks who are very new to fasting, but the best way to get a try on fasting (IMO) is not going for more than 5 hours for your first week. loading up on fresh fruits and vegetables helps a lot for the body to stay hydrated, watching your body temperature so you don't overheat/overwork yourself.
working up to longer hours by the weeks to help your body adapt slowly is good too, often this is how younger kids practice before they go for a full sunrise-sunset fasting (in SE Asia, it's often 8 hours of fasting). good luck!
I have seen a similar pattern with my fellow Christians during Lent. I was tempted to use it as my excuse to restrict more and attempt a dry fast but stuck to a basic two small meals.
I'm latine and have an almond mom, grandma, aunt, cousins u name it lmao. My mom has handed down her restrictive eating when I was a teenager and needed to eat more bc my body was literally growing and she would shame me for how much I ate and made me wear her compression garments (fajas iykyk) so I could look more snatched as a teen!!!. All of this coupled with me being neurodivergent and having been shamed for being too skinny as a small child bc I had a really hard time eating. So no winning with Latino families, the first thing they comment on after not seeing me in, sometimes years, is about my weight.
Latina here, I felt every little bit of this. From like age 13-17 i slept wearing belts or fajas to get a snatched waist and every family gathering ive ever been to always becomes a “is she skinny or fat” debate where you are always the loser.
@@quenepacrossing4675 U rlly feel me, I swear I have some bruising on my ribs from sleeping with fajas. You really can't win with them they're so superficial
I never expected to hear the sentence "Try new peanut butter AIDS" in my life, but now I have
As soon as she said shea butter mom I knew she was coming for Eryka Badhu 💀
when gweneth says "I lost a half day of skiing" has me dead
I never realized how much shit gets put in our food until i went to the UK and the ingredients list on food was waaaaay shorter and they actually use real sugar in soda.
What is not real sugar? 😳
@@schmeterling like high fructose corn syrup instead of cane sugar
@@schmeterling Also artificial sweeteners like aspartame or sucralose (now being linked to stomach issues, headaches, and possibly cancer). I can’t eat aspartame because it makes me feel sick. It’s crazy what they allow.
you’re definitely right about the uk vs us healthcare stuff - i also realised, in the uk recently our nhs has gone downhill rapidly (like hour long ambulance wait times) and you can literally see the rich profiting- we were supposed to have a ban on unhealthy food tv adverts before a certain time (to stop child obesity) but it’s been pushed back twice and now been delayed until 2025
As a Ukrainian that grew up with my grandparents in the suburban almost village area, I feel blessed for having eaten the vegetables that my family grew themselves. They didn’t smell like plastic and they were divine in salads. Also grateful for not having an almond mom, jeez it’s messed up that that’s a thing. Hod bless hereditary fast metabolism
Another Ukrainian here! I confirm. Our food is the best! I couldn’t eat anything during trips to Europe. It just felt like you eat paper
According to my relatives from abroad, even McDonald's tastes better in Ukraine😅
@@justwonder1404 I didn’t eat much of McDonald’s at home, but that might as well be true. They also tend to be cleaner than most places in Western Europe
@@NatBKiev 😭😭😭 🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦
There is literally nothing sweeter than Ukrainian tomatoes. 🤤 I can relate to this comment. ❤
I also have an almond mom who fed me chocolate but would then shame me for not being skinny.
She would compete with me in high school who would be skinnier. She never told me that but I could tell as she was glowing one time after she had less kg than me. She just looked satisfied. I remember starving myself because I thought I couldn’t weight more than my mom because I’m younger. So I fell down to 46 kg when I was 16. I was so skinny!
I was often told by guys that they thought I was skinnier than I present myself to be leading into starving myself even more. I’m a curvy girl, I always had curves and it’s just how my body is build! Now I appreciate it.
The whole hereditary aspect of diet culture is suuuuch an important issue. My mom definitely struggled with the binge-restrict cycle, tried every diet under the sun, would fast and "detox" and what not - guess who has an eating disorder now? Right, me.
My mom passed away 2 years ago and since I've been raising my two younger sisters since, I'm trying to actively combat that shit. I want them to be healthy, to enjoy food and to listen to their bodies. That is so hard, especially when you are struggling yourself, but it is so so important - for them, but also for our future children.
Got my kidney from the black market with your code girl. Thank you👍👍
Her speech really touched my soul, dealing with an eating disorder is a torture everyday
we need to stop caring about what famous people eat and weight 🤷🏻♀️
Sure, but I also think we should realise that that is easier said than done for most women and girls. It’s not a 13 year old girls fault that the world around her is obsessed with women’s weight and that having an influence on her and it’s not a 43 year old woman’s fault that she believes something she’s been fed since she was a child.
I've recently "relapsed" into ED thoughts/habits that I first started having at 15 (I'm now 29) and all this discourse about almond moms and social media's effect on our body image has been so confirming for me. I felt so alone and confused when I was teen bc I didn't know why I had an ED, just that I had one and couldn't stop it. It took until my early 20s to finally get some control and develop a healthier mindset towards food. Seeing these discussions happening so openly makes me so happy because I hope it will help someone who might be going through what I did at 15. Just having someone tell you that this kind of shit is toxic, wrong, and hurtful would have been a lot for me back then. But all I got was constant bombardment of the 90s super thin, low rise, eat diet food bullshit that took years to shake off.
Also just a caveat here, what's considered "healthy" is also massively subjective bc medical markers like the BMI are not rooted in science or any definitive research. Would highly recommend the podcast Maintenance Phase if you're looking to get even more into these kinds of topics! They do a great job debunking health and fitness myths😊
Interesting enough, I had the opposite of an almond mom, my mom is extremely overweight and seeing how she suffers because of it and how it ruined her health, I have developed a fear of gainig weight and the tendency to develop behavior that is close to anorexia. I also think she is the kindest human being on this earth and I love her to death which makes seeing her suffer even more hurtful.
My twin brother (21) is like that too, he also has body dysmorphia and always thinks his body is too big while he has the body of a 14 year old boy (he’s quite tall, but really skinny). So it had that effect on both of us. My mother had an ovarian cyst recently because of her weight, but they had to wait with surgery, because it is really risky when someone is that overweight. She also has really high blood pressure and needs to take medication because of it. She can barely move, after 40m of walking, she is out of breath and her legs get swollen. She has bad teeth because of her eating habits. Her body and her joints are constantly hurting, she can’t move, it’s horrible.
Not only am I afraid of gaining weight, I also have health anxiety, I am terrified of getting sick, because I see how it ruins your life, I am obsessed with learning as much about health as possible and with living as healthy as I can, I also study medicine. I am also really aware of the fact that my behavior as well as my brother’s behavior is not normal and quite unhealthy for my mind.
So while eating disorders can definitely be caused by these so-called “almond moms”, overweight parents can also give you anorexia, (health) anxiety, PTSD and OCD.
So I guess the lesson is that all kind of unhealthy eating habits that parents have can have a negative impact on their children.
YES, THIS! Both of my parents are overweight and my mom got diagnosed with terminal breast cancer very young and my dad’s had orthopedic issues for years.
I am TERRIFIED of ending up like that. Especially since they were skinny when they were my age and then gained a bunch when I was born.
@@HeatherSchrivener-el2mx I’m really sorry for your mom’s diagnosis and I totally feel you. The fear of never wanting to end up like that can really mess up the relationship we have with food and with our bodies.
It's like the opposite of an almond mom, yet still has the same effect.
I have this type of mom and dad. They're overweight and constantly tell me to watch what I eat and always exercise with no breaks all the time or else I'll "end up like them"
It's really daunting cause my mom and dad and sister used to be skinny at my age and then once they reached their mid-twenties they got bigger.
They count every calorie and are always talking about weight. It sucks
RN here! Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome causes cysts in the ovaries as well as hormone disruption that can cause uncontrolled weight gain. You may be blaming your mother for a health condition that’s outside of her control. Please give it a little research.
@@indiafmlmay she has a diagnosed binge eating disorder and has been overweight for over a decade. Plus her ovaries have been removed by now.
And even if she had no control over her weight (which most people DO in fact have), it would still scare me.
i have an almond mom, i was raised as one of those organic kids. it got worse when i developed a thyroid disorder and had to change my diet to gluten, dairy, and corn free. my mom started with me out of solidarity but it just kind of got out of control to the point where she started eliminating things out of our diets that didn’t need to be. i’m thankfully out of my parents’ house and i’m able to make my own decisions regarding my health (only restricting the things i need to) meanwhile my mom is creating a bunch of new “allergies” for herself every few months and she’s skinnier than ever. it’s terrifying, and i’ve tried to get her help, but i can’t do much since i’m in tennessee and she’s in new york. so yeah that’s my experience 😔
I thought my aesthetic was earth child 😭 turns out I'm a Shea Butter mom wtf
Right but u don’t mind being a shea butter mom 😭 like I won’t stop u from eating fast food but it’ll be wendys before McDonalds
@@AsheandAscend this fr 🎉 I won’t deny fast food, but my son has never had McDonald’s 😂 that shit is pure plastic
my mom is a shea butter mom lol,
Such an important topic to talk about!! There’s so many preconceived notions around the idea of “health” in America- how people approach obesity as a “shame” and at the same time, seeing anything less than a balanced diet being reason for concern. It’s IMPOSSIBLE to navigate eating and activity in a healthy and knowledgeable way. It’s so sad
When I visited my in laws in Denmark the food was amazing. They have some of the strictest laws about what can go into food. Even a bag of chips had such a short ingredients list and the most detailed breakdown of nutrition I'd ever seen. People there are also so active and like to bike or walk most places. It was so amazing. I wish I could live there.
Edit: as a sugar addict though, sugar laws was the only thing that I didn't enjoy. It cost 4 times as much for sugar soda and the multi pack sizes were so much smaller.
I have an almond mom. Growing up and still today she tries to police everything I eat. Because of this I prefer to not eat around her when I can. It’s caused me in the past to binge eat when she’s not around. My sister is the opposite. I wouldn’t say she starves herself but she definitely doesn’t eat as much as she should
What I find truly fascinating is the obsession with Detox. Swapping towards a few healthy foods for a few days to feel a little better or when someone had a bad stomach day may be okay. But I’m finding it excessive and no amount of green juice will revitalise you if you have to work and stress non-stop.
I’m so obsessed with this video and I’m so happy I found your channel this is like EXACTLY how I feel!!! thank you for putting it all into words
i got notification for this video hours ago but without a cover
me too lol
My aunt had to be hospitalized from orthorexia. It's genuinely challenging to draw the line between healthy, nutritious foods and overly fearmongery and greenwashed labelling.
Just stopped by to say how much I appreciate your content and the way you're presenting it! Keep up the good work - this is so meaningful and important! Thank you 🙏
I fully laughed out loud when you said “a whatever the fuck bitch” 😂 Gonna have to start using that. Anyway, I think what really weirded people about what Gwyneth said about her “wellness routine” was that she focused on eating? Like, yeah, she added some extra details like how she has an hour of movement and how she does some type of sauna (I’m too broke that there was a linguistic barrier, I have no idea what she was saying lmao). But a wellness routine could just be I drink a lot of water, I go for walks, I journal, I eat paleo? It focused sooo much on food. And I get it, that’s part of wellness. But it’s almost like that’s what she’s focused on because that’s what her first reaction was to talk about. Does that make any sense?
Makes alot of sense good point!
I think having orthoerxia can be really common in America because of the ingredient issues and how it causes a lot of problems
as someone who has celiac disease, having to restrict my diet took about two months of a deep toll of on my mental health. even though i grew up with my mom having it too (making us a mostly ingredients household), having to go from my regular diet to no wheat or processed food at all sucked. even though i was eating healthier, i lost so much weight during the initial diagnosis that when i gained back the weight i needed to i felt horrible. thankfully i have a good support system but it was a real close call to disordered eating.
My ex’s parents were both almond parents. They were always trying health trends and his dad did intermittent fasting and turned my ex onto it. My ex claimed he felt great and even tried getting me to do it. But I definitely noticed he was more irritable during his not eating periods and he ended up going to the doctors cause he was having dizzy spells, they said he was malnourished. Obviously there’s a healthy way to intermittent fast but I think both men and women don’t do it the right way then claim they’re in perfect health when they’re not.
i have an almond dad😭 my mom has a decent relationship with food but it’s the opposite with my dad. a lot of stuff you said in this video represents him pretty well. i’ve been struggling with an eating disorder for almost 2 years and watching this helped me understand him more and why he’s so obsessed with his health. thank you for this video it made me realize a lot of the stuff he says isn’t on purpose but internalized.
Shea butter mom had me cracking up
I have quite a few friends who grew up with "almond moms" and I was always at least somewhat aware because my mom had/has a good relationship with food. I'm very fortunate to have been raised by such a great role model of a woman in many ways, so I absolutely agree that self-esteem, habits etc.. start at home
Just found your video, but the part where you said that as women we pass down our eating disorders, that really resonated with me. My mom was bulimic and I ended up having both that and binge eating disorder. I’ve been in recovery for over two years, but I still struggle with it a lot. Great vid tho ❤
Girl really said what’s on my mind everyday ILY MADISYN
My Caribbean almond mom definitely contributed to my eating disorder and to this day anxiety riddled relationship with food. Now I have thyroid liver and kidney malfunction as a result of starving myself over 10 years ago.😂
that ayds commercial was wild
my mom was so good about never making me feel like i had to diet and was very careful with her words around me because she was SO worried she would give me an eating disorder like her sister had. i never felt insecure and i was even excited to gain weight in college but the only two long term boyfriends i had in college valued me being as small as possible. my first boyfriend told my i was getting fat because i went from a size 00 to a size 2. women only pass on these eating disorders because theyre told their value is based on how small they are.
I love her, she's so unintentionally funny 🤍
I don't have an almond mom, but I kinda have an almond....dad? He really damaged my relationship with my body and food sadly.
I have almond parents and It took me years to understand that. I was alienated me from my peers when I was younger (my reality had nothing to do with theirs) and developed a couple of EDs (Guess they were on sale or sth)
They see the world in a black and white lense, this good this bad. Microwaving food? Bad, organic food? Good, sugar? Bad, traditional medicine? Bad etc ... And It impacts every area of life, only moving out gave me freedom. ✨
Context: I was born in ‘86, so I went to high school in 2000. I had an eating disorder for 20+ years…..with that said, I agree with 100% of what you said. Really well put. Thanks for being an example of a healthy influencer who has a more holistic idea of health and well-being . It’s refreshing! 🎉 see you in the next one! ✌️
love ur video essays
I loveee the intro and picture at the beginning of the video!!
In American we truly have such an unhealthy relationship with food. It is a relationship of extremes, on one end ridiculous restrictive diets, and on the other end nothing but processed food. It can make it really difficult to live a genuinely healthy, guilt free, balanced life style. I don’t blame anyone in this country for their unhealthy diets, because you walk into the grocery store and it is like 70% processed garbage, and when the processed garbage tastes better and is more convenient than the small portion of healthy food offered, of course people are going to pick that. A little over a year ago I decided I wanted to eat healthier, actually for my health and with no intention of losing weight. I have succeeded at maintaining it so far, but only because I have taken on the mentality that I don’t want to live either extreme. I want to eat a balanced diet where I’m not focusing on restriction, I’m focusing on nutrition. This is the first time changing my diet has actually stuck, because I’m not depriving myself of foods I love.
American here living in Spain, as someone who has an “almond dad” it can be exhausting going to the supermarket with someone who’s always looking at the ingredients. However, I really think that the US has this problem where food is fuel not part of the culture. Constantly snacking on carbs which sends you on a insulin rollercoaster making you hungry in the next hour. It’s easy to blame the government and massive food companies for poor eating but it’s not impossible and it doesn’t have to be as expensive as the excuse people like to give. If your diet contains lots of healthy fats, vegetables, and protein you’re not going to be fat/gain weight. You’re going to remain full, and get all the nutrients you need. But if you’re constantly snacking on a bag of Cheetos for lunch, then yea, you’re going to over eat because you’ll be hungry in villa he next hour.
You're friken hilarious (while making a point) - love your content and your music. Subscribed
I love the way you explain this topic. The kidney joke is a plus 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂❤❤❤❤
My (almond)mom literally loked the fridge and made me pay her when i wanted to eat a snack:,)
Jesus Christ friend, I'm so sorry.
@@MW-zz3sy it got better:)
How much per snack?
@@Em_Elizabeth the more calories the more i had to give her
Bro that's some nightmare fuel shit right there whattttt😭
I have noticed such an increase in orthorexia and toxic diet culture since the pandemic too. I think a lot of people put on extra weight during that time, even people who never thought much about their weight before, and it scared them. I wish we could all be a little kinder to ourselves.
I appreciate you adding footage from What the Health because some Almond Moms can really come from a fear of the Standard American Diet
But I might be a recovering almond mom 😅😅
After such a long time I finally realized that my eating disorder tendencies have been passed down and learned from my mother. Hearing you say it made it very clear in my mind. On one hand, you can't help but feel bad for our mother's generation, because they suffered a lot. On the other, I can't help but be a bit mad that I have to suffer the consequences too. Don't get me wrong, I'm not fully blaming others for something I suffer with and is my responsibility to manage, it's more of a frustration. In my country, the version of "almond mom" is "dancer mom" - mom whose daughter is doing gymnastics, athletics or ballet. They can get very intense with the routines and food.
Yessss so excited for this
Do you think you could make a video on how you maintained your weight but reduced your body fat/gained muscle? I've been watching tons of videos on how to do that but none of them were really helpful and I feel like you'd be able to explain it really well!!
Strenght exercises and protein
Your hair looks exquisite ❤
I thought this ❤
for someone who is so obsessed with "health", Gwyneth sure looks like she was a little to generous at the blood drive
I read something that said, "we're taught how to diet, but we were never taught how to eat," and it hit me hard. I am 29 and still learning basic nutrition facts and unlearning myths
i had an ingredient mum. there wasn't a toxic diet culture in my home but we just didn't have processed foods at home. now i'm an adult who only really buys ingredients, eats healthy and has a good relationship with food.
this made me realize how much of an almond mom my mother was/is
I had an almond aunt and she definitely gave me an eating disorder. I haven’t addressed it at all because as long as I’m high I have a normal diet but if I don’t have weed I literally just do not eat basically. Like my appetite is just non existent
Shea butter mom!!! Sis, you brought back the childhood tho. 😂👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 take me back to the 90s please 🙏🏽
I don’t personally have an almond mom, but 2 of my aunts are 1000% almond moms. One of my aunts literally made her 2 girls fast for a whole day when they were only 5 & 8 years old….
Also, one of them got her dads genes (being really tall and growing super fast) so she always had a bigger appetite and my aunt would literally call her a pig and call her fat at only 6 years old… they are now 15 & 19 and this probably still continues to this day because they are both extremely thin.
Only a year ago, I witnessed my aunt & her youngest daughter sharing a SALAD… like girl… sharing a fucking SALAD?? Are you kidding??
My other aunt did the same thing with her 2 girls… now all 4 of my cousins have an extreme hyperfixation on being thin and staying thin. All of them are 15 to 23 and none of them have boobs and I know this is because of the extreme lack of fats and carbs that they never had in their diets. Their bodies/hormones couldn’t even go into full effect because they weren’t getting the nutrients they needed. They’re literally 15, 19, 20, and 23 and they’ve had the same body as they did when they were 12. It’s honestly really sad and all of them have personally talked to me separately about having body image issues, eating disorders, and mental health problems.
It’s really sad to see them go through all this just to be seen as “perfect” by their mothers.
Ty! I almost lost my life to this mindset. If I ‘broke’ my ‘diet’ I’d get punished…I finally broke away age 25…and I’m at a healthy weight but the mental/emotional pain has left life lasting damage.
this literally is with no context but ... shawty be killing that look i love the hair you so pretty 😍
I grew up in a healthy environment where being chubby as a kid or teen is considered being healthy but because my so-called frnd grp fat-shamed me for so long i started eating less (because my mom and dad won't let me NOT eat) and now at 18 if i eat a little bit too much than what my limit is, 2 rotis made of wheat/flour and milk, i feel my stomach hurt and I will vomit if i don't take any medicine, because of my lifestyle and eating habits changing (along with bad mental health) i developed PCOD at 13, it wasn't very severe but still, it got severe a few years later and i stopped getting periods for around 6 months and when i got em, i bled for 34 days approx, women's bodies always have a hormonal up and down and we should always eat healthy and exercise to keep ourselves in check. These diets or starving ourselves is not going to help us at all. Stay healthy and happy y'all
Love the video!
I saw something wrong immediately because that’s what I used to be trying to always eat and have like that schedule and it was an eating disorder. But I didn’t have house staff to make sure I was getting enough food even if it’s the worst bland food. I hope her kids can eat whatever they want
Naming the product ayds was an interesting choice
Had to leave a like for the 😺 flavored ChapStick 🤣🤣🤣 I didn't catch it until you did Madisyn. We good😂😭😅
my mom grew up with a very unhealthy diet, she used to workout intensely everyday like 100 sit ups and a few mile run+weight and stuff and she ate very little but she appeared healthy, she had extremely strong had had shredded abs but she regrets it now becuase it’s ruined her body as in all of her joints are bad, she has arthritis ect. i feel so bad for women that grew up in suite culture and did not have anyone to tel them they were beautiful
From a women who does intermittent fasting, woman can and absolutely should do intermittent fasting considering its health benefits.
Agreed! It feels so natural for my body
Do what you feel works for you but a lot of studies show IF isn’t as supportive for women’s physiology as it is for men’s
@@brieoflyng4755 cite some credible studies please. The truth is IF is supposed to be more flexible for women than men, other than that it's very healthy. Stop spreading misinformation especially about things beneficial to women's health and weight.
Omg the kidney and the liver technique. It's so good😭😭
As a german/european, who lived in the states for seven month I completely agree with you. I was actually shocked to see how normal families eat there, that often times what they call cooking is actually just warming up highly processed food, that theres such a lack in different legumes, veggies and fruitd but that they also so f*in expensive and about the fact that there seemed to be so little knowledge about what and how actually to eat. I gained so much weight while I was staying there and lost it all without dieting when I was back in germany, just because I was eating so much healthier without even trying hard.
Also a lot of my favorite junk foods from the states really are not available here because like you said, they are forbidden here since they are so toxic for you! That blew my mind.
Also I noticed the lack of movement/ sports especially for high school kids who really need it, but also for adults.
Here alot of people just walk certain ways or ride a bike, because our infrastructure is completely different. In the states I tried to jogg and walk but it was simply not possible because there wasnt even sidewalks most of the time, everything is made for cars and I got alot of concerned or confused looks the times I did walk and/ or jogg.
I really hope the US government will take the health of their citizens more into consideration and do something to improve it.
Its not the fault of the people themselves that alot of them are not healthy, its the system that supports this bad lifestyle.
(Also I am a vegan and I am NOT the healthiest person BUT it definetly can help and I personally think it is the best way to eat for yourself, environment and empathy, there are also alot if studies and books on that, but that is just a personal take I had to bring in here on that note. I also know though that it can be hard to change eating habits, especially in the US. Here it is really easy and enjoyable and not hard at all and I love being vegan but I do it for the animals, not for health reasons. So yeah I will have my oreo cookies and chips occasionally :) )
Just discovered your channel. Im in love