Why We Should Give Up Our Grievances

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  • Опубліковано 21 жов 2024

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  • @BecomeNew
    @BecomeNew  8 місяців тому +11

    QUESTION FOR THE COMMENTS:
    As a community, let’s practice: Think about a grievance you have and type “Enough” in the chat as an act of surrender.

  • @eliacuomo490
    @eliacuomo490 8 місяців тому +12

    I used to indulge in rumination and found myself creating scenarios that made me the victim or the person who was “Right.” Then I realized realized that there was no room for Jesus in my ruminations and I began to work at stopping the negative thoughts and emotions. Now I’ll be tempted to start thinking but my Good Friend, the Holy Spirit, steps in and stops me from continuing. Now, I’ll say, “ENOUGH!” I’ll add the Our Father to calm me and bring me back to the Father and Jesus. Thank you so very much for this transformative lesson.🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️

  • @Julie-gv9xe
    @Julie-gv9xe 8 місяців тому +10

    I read a story this morning about a woman who just turned 116 years old. She lives in Northern California, where she was born in 1908. She says her longevity is because she has 2 fingers of red wine every day and minds her own business. I think grievances could be about how others live their life. I had to learn this and sometimes still slip into ruminating about the mistakes someone else is making. I tell myself, " STOP, it is not your life, and it is not your call."

  • @bibilar48
    @bibilar48 8 місяців тому +12

    I heard a phrase that helps me avoid luxuriating in my grievance story. It sounds a bit hokey, but it works wonders for me: "No stinkin' thinkin'!" Whenever I start going down a negative path about people or situations, this phrase stops me in my tracks. I believe the Holy Spirit brings it to my mind immediately when my "old man" invites me to indulge in stinkin' thinkin'. Thank you, Lord, for saving me from myself!

  • @sarahdavies7795
    @sarahdavies7795 8 місяців тому +5

    I don't think I can fully let of of grievances as there is a family member who has repeatedly hurt me over the years with harsh criticism and manipulative behaviour. I keep bringing my hurt to God and asking for his help to forgive this person. But I find myself tending towards self preservation in the relationship and being quite guarded as I am constantly expecting the next attack. I do try not to dwell on the hurt and to remind myself that the harsh words come because they are in a bad place mentally. I pray for them and want God's goodness for them but I also want to protect my own mind and heart.

  • @rayfowler9765
    @rayfowler9765 8 місяців тому +5

    Thanks, John. A real eye-opening... or maybe a real heart-opening message today. It gave me pause to think about a grievance I have been harboring, and the person who is the focus of that grievance is harboring one right back at me. Grievance vs. Grievance is serving no one. So, I plan to stop ruminating and stop yielding to impulse. I will take that first step and let the other person know... I am out of the grievance business.

  • @Frchum
    @Frchum 8 місяців тому +7

    ‭‭Romans‬ ‭8:6‬ ‭ESV‬‬
    [6] For to set the mind on the flesh is death, but to set the mind on the Spirit is life and peace.
    That civil war within is often a fierce battle, as I want to choose what is right but to often don't.
    Thanks be to God through Christ Jesus that I serve him in my spirit and make the right choice to live in the freedom of his kingdom.

  • @kathrynolson2418
    @kathrynolson2418 8 місяців тому +3

    Enough!

  • @missjanetmb
    @missjanetmb 8 місяців тому +8

    Enough. And saying that was easier than I thought it would be.

  • @darinsloan1454
    @darinsloan1454 8 місяців тому +5

    I soooo relate to this struggle! God, in such amazing grace, has also started to do some of this healing. It has been so helpful to have your words and thoughts to help me see and understand what God is doing in me:))
    Thanks!!

  • @lhutcheson9854
    @lhutcheson9854 8 місяців тому +4

    Enough.

  • @jjerichoGilly
    @jjerichoGilly 8 місяців тому +5

    So good, and so hard! But it's wonderful to be able to feel hopeful about becoming that kind of person, thank you 💛

  • @joejablonski7676
    @joejablonski7676 8 місяців тому +4

    Enough!!!!!

  • @SueBrown-ok5kw
    @SueBrown-ok5kw 8 місяців тому +3

    Enough. 😍

  •  8 місяців тому +7

    "Enough!" So good and a welcomed word to my wounded soul. Thanks. #freshbread

  • @EberweinKristin
    @EberweinKristin 8 місяців тому +6

    Enough. Waiting for the transition of my heart

  • @deborahcohen1990
    @deborahcohen1990 8 місяців тому +5

    That quote from CSLewis hit me sideways…😅
    Enough already!

  • @barb3523
    @barb3523 8 місяців тому +3

    Enough

  • @elaineh1041
    @elaineh1041 8 місяців тому +3

    good morning ☀️ YAS! ENOUGH! thank you 🙏🏻💕🍃

  • @DianeGordy
    @DianeGordy 8 місяців тому +4

    How I look forward to the daily teachings & widened perspectives! Father God is at work! PS: I also think Tim & his tail-end comments & follow-through are thoughtfully & well done…

  • @tomjennings8394
    @tomjennings8394 8 місяців тому +8

    Enough! Enough of my foolishness.

    • @susangroves5380
      @susangroves5380 8 місяців тому

      Love the addition of ‘enough of my foolishness’

  • @JeanneCorrigan-ej4le
    @JeanneCorrigan-ej4le 8 місяців тому +2

    Just what I needed to hear !! Enough !! Definitely it’s about another person’s destructive choices and how it’s hurting them and they deny their choices. It’s painful but it’s not my call. Thank you John.
    And thank you for these great comments!! ❤️

  • @cheryloechsle1880
    @cheryloechsle1880 8 місяців тому +6

    So good! That “spiritual gift of pouting” needs to be rooted out at the source in my life. Learning to experience being open to the source and root causes in the heart.
    Thank you for sharing your personal growth and stories. Am beginning to experience some “holy ground” “meetings”/conversations.

  • @wendyellis2181
    @wendyellis2181 8 місяців тому +3

    Enough🙌🏼

  • @DebbieRidler
    @DebbieRidler 8 місяців тому +4

    Enough!! 🙏 Thank you, John, for your words and wisdom. Roomination is a heavy load.

  • @jwwarner28
    @jwwarner28 8 місяців тому +4

    I hope that today, anger will not come, but if it does I remember to say "ENOUGH" to myself. Thanks for you do for us.

  • @jlheidbreder
    @jlheidbreder 8 місяців тому +3

    ENOUGH 🙏🏻🕊

  • @robertboyd8017
    @robertboyd8017 8 місяців тому +3

    "Enough!" That is (Good) news I can use.

  • @karengeers3338
    @karengeers3338 8 місяців тому +3

    ENOUGH

  • @greencastleelementarype3264
    @greencastleelementarype3264 8 місяців тому +3

    Yes, on key fobs, but it started years ago. Who remembers car windows that we had to manually roll up?
    Christ’s precepts offer only good: helping the downtrodden, forgive others, show mercy, show goodness, treat others better than yourself, love God. I don’t understand why people are so against Him? ( rhetorical)
    Lord, Jesus, we want to be the light and the salt.

  • @georgemckamey1688
    @georgemckamey1688 8 місяців тому +1

    I am so frustrated at being interrupted before I finish a thought by those who are not really listening but are really pre-thinking their response and simply cannot wait to express it. This is a form of me perceiving the other person is dismissing me.
    It is a common repetitive grievance of mine - and to it I say ENOUGH!!!

  • @jhanmole8717
    @jhanmole8717 8 місяців тому

    Enough. Enough already! Sometimes, it's like the needle skipping on my old 45's (some of you know what I mean). Just because I'm justified in being angry doesn't mean it's healthy for me to ruminate. It's a continual battle of surrender. Thank you, John and team. As always wise, wise words.

  • @revannekh
    @revannekh 8 місяців тому +3

    Yes about the key fobs!!!

  • @dawnakeiser205
    @dawnakeiser205 8 місяців тому +2

    Wow thats me…yike

  • @kimberlyhamilton8288
    @kimberlyhamilton8288 8 місяців тому +3

    E N O U G H

  • @GOSATX
    @GOSATX 8 місяців тому

    Enough! Felt prompted to listen to this message again and I needed to hear it. Thank you!

  • @kidsauthordave1463
    @kidsauthordave1463 8 місяців тому

    Thank you for pointing this out. Yes, I can relate to this so well and have been greiving abd bbitter. This has made things so clear for me. God Bless, Pastor John. You are a blessing to so many, To all of us.

  • @rayleneberryman7673
    @rayleneberryman7673 8 місяців тому +1

    I was really ticked off with a couple in my family and the intensity of the feel was not moving with forgiveness, which I keeping doing. I told the Lord I wasn’t happy about the fact that I could shake off the feeling. So, using a neruoplasticity technique I imagined them apologising to me and immediately I was released. It can be a journey.

  • @charlesrobinson8121
    @charlesrobinson8121 8 місяців тому

    My spiritual gift is “pouting” I can relate. My servant story or my trauma (the things that have happened to me) can become my identity. My identity is to be in Christ, but my pain can be so great that I can't accept the fullness of the Spirit and healing. My past becomes my “cloak of many colors” that I wear with the pride of misery, wanting others to know just how bad it is. And when it's not acknowledged I can thrash out in anger based on my fear of not being recognized. Just a thought from one withered hand to another.

  • @tracykamemoto4602
    @tracykamemoto4602 8 місяців тому

    Enough!!! Making it a golden rule day!❤️

  • @kimhill1254
    @kimhill1254 8 місяців тому +2

    Anger with a cause

  • @lovecyril999
    @lovecyril999 8 місяців тому

    Enough. You are a blessing to me in my journey. Thx.

  • @elaineh1041
    @elaineh1041 8 місяців тому +1

    Ps John, by the way, ditto on the key fob! 😐🙏🏻💕🍃

  • @lindar.1223
    @lindar.1223 8 місяців тому

    What a wonderful message, John. Thank you so much. Enough!

  • @scott_9704
    @scott_9704 Місяць тому

    I’m reading the Soul Whisperer. It’s well worth it!

    • @BecomeNew
      @BecomeNew  Місяць тому

      Thank you for sharing - so glad you enjoy it Bucky

  • @ritadove7910
    @ritadove7910 8 місяців тому

    ENOUGH!!! 🙏🏾

  • @allisontuckwell7437
    @allisontuckwell7437 8 місяців тому

    Enough. And THANK you

  • @suzannebradshaw3926
    @suzannebradshaw3926 8 місяців тому

    Enough. Yep. Enough. 😊

  • @marywanoKC
    @marywanoKC 8 місяців тому

    Enough! ❤

  • @coletteparker9982
    @coletteparker9982 Місяць тому

    This message was fantastic

  • @kathychristopher9983
    @kathychristopher9983 8 місяців тому

    More than enough.

  • @Brazz0123
    @Brazz0123 8 місяців тому

    This is good stuff. I really need to cut that grievance inner dialogue OFF!!

  • @Meadow-qe9xd
    @Meadow-qe9xd 8 місяців тому

    So helpful great timing 🕊

  • @lvshope
    @lvshope 8 місяців тому +1

    ENOUGH!!!

  • @anjeladejesus5549
    @anjeladejesus5549 8 місяців тому

    Thank you

  • @davecollins2637
    @davecollins2637 8 місяців тому

    Interesting that Richard Rohr's Daily Meditation yesterday was on "The Story of Victimization" and the theme that rumination plays.... to steal our joy.

  • @candyboyer
    @candyboyer 8 місяців тому

    I heard in a sermon many years ago: Do you want to be right or do you want to have a relationship?

  • @elizabethclark4722
    @elizabethclark4722 3 місяці тому

    Oh rumination… How do I love thee? Let me count the ways!
    Enough…

    • @BecomeNew
      @BecomeNew  3 місяці тому

      Enough - indeed Be blessed Bucky

  • @anniekirkby5340
    @anniekirkby5340 8 місяців тому

    I'm thinking of this Daniel Austin Napier definition of the heart and comparing it to that other definition we learned in the "Personhood 101" episode of the series on Renovation of the Heart, with that memorable bullseye diagram. Willard restricts heart to will/intention, but Napier seems to be taking a broader view that certainly includes Willard's mind and feelings, and probably also includes his social context as well as his unifying master-characteristic called soul. I was starting to feel really confused, and then I thought "Enough!. It's probably all mushed up together in a person anyways."

  • @RoseExieDavis
    @RoseExieDavis 8 місяців тому

    🐑🫶🏼Enough🙌🏻✌🏻❣️

  • @joanncampbell5839
    @joanncampbell5839 8 місяців тому +3

    Enough.

  • @lisajones-tw8dc
    @lisajones-tw8dc 8 місяців тому +3

    Enough!

  • @robinmadson7549
    @robinmadson7549 8 місяців тому

    Enough

  • @terriwerning3477
    @terriwerning3477 8 місяців тому +4

    Enough.

  • @timwilliams1395
    @timwilliams1395 8 місяців тому +1

    Enough.

  • @nan3110
    @nan3110 8 місяців тому

    Enough!

  • @shirleyproakis5321
    @shirleyproakis5321 8 місяців тому

    Enough!

  • @susangroves5380
    @susangroves5380 8 місяців тому

    Enough!