I had a T.B.I. in 2019. My friends list got real short, and just recently I got dumped by my GF who hung in there for a few years. But based on what he's talking about this is exceptional given how the majority of humans treat you once this happens. I don't personally feel "bad" about myself. I feel hurt, betrayed and furious towards all the people who left because I'm "less" than them now. One thing the T.B.I. taught me is that the large majority of your friendships are based on convenience and people at large aren't worth a damn.
This is really hard to hear because it's true. You want to so bad to just go back to your life before the injury. It's hard to make a new life and then you realize that sometimes you have to make all new friends. That loss is so much worse than the physical pain. It's why I fill my day with so many hobbies and work and try to meet so many people, but it's hard because you also have to find people that are trustworthy and won't take advantage of your injury.
I do the same... I drive part time for a car dealership,receive SSDI-(after fighting the system for 15 years through 4 appeals and 3 attorneys),and build model cars as a hobby... These activities bring meaning to my life,help me deal with my TBI and PTSD issues,and improve my self esteem...
This is the worse part of my TBI . My ex filed for divorce because I wasn’t following his ‘rules’ when I had been told I was not ready to go back to work. Told me to go back to work or go on welfare. So many difficult things happened after that I ‘look’ ok but have lost about everyone and have not had a ‘caregiver’ truly since the TBI. Doing all this alone is making me so lost.
All this is true. All my friends are gone since my serious TBI. My family is all gone. No one in my family has even caled in over a year to see if I'm alive. My husband died a year before my accident. Just totally alone and suffering.
Friends and family don't get it. I was 50 yrs old when I had a severe TBI. My "recovery".......realizing one never fully recover from a TBI....was a miracle. . I however did not go back to work. As a registered dental hygienist I would see 10 patients per day. People think I am lazy and "not trying." After 19 yrs, I still have flooding and neurofatigue. I am an outcast at family functions. I wouldn't wish a BI on anyone.
I am/was a logger and even though my most recent TBI wasn’t work related, I’ve had 4 mild TBI’s and 2 moderate/severe ones that I was hospitalized and diagnosed with them and everyone except my wife’s (been together since we were 15-we’re 31 now)parents and siblings have been helpful. Sad part is that my brother was the only person I really cared about and was actually the driver of the ATV that changed my life and personality and career(logger since 18) but even though from what I was told, he cried and was devastated when it happened! I’m now absolutely beat to the ground, living in an actual hell! Went from the quiet countryside with cows all around, to the hood and regular gun shots and so I lay at night, crying and wishing it would all end after losing everything, including my business….my last check was okay for my standards at $2300 that week and now I even get a job at Autozone, it’s “oh you’re fine! You and your wife gotta find a job! No…I’m getting help and neuro appointment is 5 months out and I have several breakdowns/day and I need her with me to stop them!! I’m actually surprised I’m still alive HOWEVER….I grew up without a dad and my stepdad who treated me like I was his, died when I was 14 and I swear on EVERYTHING that even though I fantasize about it multiple times a day, I will not abandon my family and I stand by that!
This is exactly what has happened to my husband (survior) & I (caretaker) , We was very lucky to find a support group HTSP of Sacramento. We have very few friends & family that actually keep in touch.
So hard to hear, thought he was describing my life. The drunk driver hit my car so hard, I never should have walked away. Thera are many days I wish I did not. Most friends, former work mates are now out of my life. Dozens of drugs to no avail. One doctor I had, compared blood letting from hundreds of years ago to the actual insight they have about tbi. God bless you all. My God does comfort me at times. Other than that I am waiting for new technologies that may help us. God Bless
I have lost several friends since my TBI 27 years ago .. I figure the only ones that hang around are the ones that can handle my TBI "quirks"...Many are fellow survivors...
I had a T.B.I. in 2019. My friends list got real short, and just recently I got dumped by my GF who hung in there for a few years.
But based on what he's talking about this is exceptional given how the majority of humans treat you once this happens.
I don't personally feel "bad" about myself. I feel hurt, betrayed and furious towards all the people who left because I'm "less" than them now.
One thing the T.B.I. taught me is that the large majority of your friendships are based on convenience and people at large aren't worth a damn.
So true... same
I have learned the same thing... I have given up on love because I believe no woman would be able to deal with my TBI " quirks "..
This is really hard to hear because it's true. You want to so bad to just go back to your life before the injury. It's hard to make a new life and then you realize that sometimes you have to make all new friends. That loss is so much worse than the physical pain. It's why I fill my day with so many hobbies and work and try to meet so many people, but it's hard because you also have to find people that are trustworthy and won't take advantage of your injury.
I do the same... I drive part time for a car dealership,receive SSDI-(after fighting the system for 15 years through 4 appeals and 3 attorneys),and build model cars as a hobby... These activities bring meaning to my life,help me deal with my TBI and PTSD issues,and improve my self esteem...
This is the worse part of my TBI . My ex filed for divorce because I wasn’t following his ‘rules’ when I had been told I was not ready to go back to work. Told me to go back to work or go on welfare. So many difficult things happened after that I ‘look’ ok but have lost about everyone and have not had a ‘caregiver’ truly since the TBI. Doing all this alone is making me so lost.
May I suggest getting involved in a TBI support group??.. People at a TBI support group "get it" and are there for you when you need someone...
@@RoadRunnergarage8570 Thank you so much. I will try & find one near me
All this is true. All my friends are gone since my serious TBI. My family is all gone. No one in my family has even caled in over a year to see if I'm alive. My husband died a year before my accident. Just totally alone and suffering.
I’m so sorry
Friends and family don't get it. I was 50 yrs old when I had a severe TBI. My "recovery".......realizing one never fully recover from a TBI....was a miracle. . I however did not go back to work. As a registered dental hygienist I would see 10 patients per day.
People think I am lazy and "not trying." After 19 yrs, I still have flooding and neurofatigue. I am an outcast at family functions. I wouldn't wish a BI on anyone.
I am/was a logger and even though my most recent TBI wasn’t work related, I’ve had 4 mild TBI’s and 2 moderate/severe ones that I was hospitalized and diagnosed with them and everyone except my wife’s (been together since we were 15-we’re 31 now)parents and siblings have been helpful.
Sad part is that my brother was the only person I really cared about and was actually the driver of the ATV that changed my life and personality and career(logger since 18) but even though from what I was told, he cried and was devastated when it happened!
I’m now absolutely beat to the ground, living in an actual hell! Went from the quiet countryside with cows all around, to the hood and regular gun shots and so I lay at night, crying and wishing it would all end after losing everything, including my business….my last check was okay for my standards at $2300 that week and now I even get a job at Autozone, it’s “oh you’re fine! You and your wife gotta find a job!
No…I’m getting help and neuro appointment is 5 months out and I have several breakdowns/day and I need her with me to stop them!!
I’m actually surprised I’m still alive HOWEVER….I grew up without a dad and my stepdad who treated me like I was his, died when I was 14 and I swear on EVERYTHING that even though I fantasize about it multiple times a day, I will not abandon my family and I stand by that!
This is exactly what has happened to my husband (survior) & I (caretaker) , We was very lucky to find a support group HTSP of Sacramento. We have very few friends & family that actually keep in touch.
So hard to hear, thought he was describing my life. The drunk driver hit my car so hard, I never should have walked away. Thera are many days I wish I did not. Most friends, former work mates are now out of my life. Dozens of drugs to no avail.
One doctor I had, compared blood letting from hundreds of years ago to the actual insight they have about tbi. God bless you all. My God does comfort me at times. Other than that I am waiting for new technologies that may help us. God Bless
welp this is exactly what's happening to me. fucking awesome. wish i didn't even wake up from my coma sometimes.
cvc
Same
@@taliabranger what is cvc?
Sad to say, me too.
I have lost several friends since my TBI 27 years ago .. I figure the only ones that hang around are the ones that can handle my TBI "quirks"...Many are fellow survivors...
I just lost my best friend and caregiver of 13 years, I am devastated!
How true! It's very annoying.