Powerful Best Man Speech Delivered By Gay Best Friend
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- Опубліковано 2 вер 2018
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Karl is my best friend, we met at a youth conference in high school. He’s straight, I’m gay. And we have the greatest friendship ever - I love him dearly ❤️🙏🏽 Today I am the godfather of his daughter!
Since posting this video, it’s gotten 200K+ views and I get questions about how to write a good speech all the time. Here’s what you need to know:
1. Ask yourself these three questions, first: what do you want the crowd to THINK? How do you want the crowd to FEEL? What do you want the crowd to DO? When you can get still and take time to crystallize clear answers, the first words of your speech will start to flow. Or you’ll begin to see the outline / arch of where you want to go. And if you still don’t know what to write, you’ll at least have a litmus test for what not to write.
2. Think about the journey you’ve been on with that person. What’s been so special about it? What are some deep, really truths about the friendship? For me, it was that karl helped me realize I was gay LOL. Hence jokes related to the crush (the way I describe him, the implications of him not taking Ash seriously). When you can get to the deep truth, and find a way to share it with others, your story elevates to another level because it is rooted in human emotion.
3. Find ways to identify the jokes, moments of emphasis, key pauses in the speech. I had to use my phone - I created a Apple Pages document with the speech, and I used colored text for jokes. And I used spaces between paragraphs for pauses. In short: I needed a visual que along the draft to know when I should change how I showed up. Whether to tell a joke, let the silence create some space for a deepening of the message, or to give myself flexibility in an area where I knew I might mess up (or cry). I highly recommend doing this, which leads me to my next point.
4. Rehearse in your head and alone in a room, standing up. Use your voice in your head or a room to help you find where the pauses are, where the jokes are, when people may laugh, etc. mediate on it, try to imagine yourself being in that room giving that speech. And when you feel stuck on something, ask “what is the root of my stuckness? Is it that I won’t remember it’s a joke? Ok, so I’m going to turn this font color red so I don’t forget.” Problem solved, nerves go away. I can do hard things.
5. Trust yourself. If you can get crystal clear on what you want every person in that crowd to THINK, DO, and FEEL. And you connect those to a deep, emotionally true story between you and the groom. And you can try speaking it to find the magic moments of pause and laughter and tears. Then with all that, trust yourself to share with the world, no matter how it comes out. What I know for sure is that you will be more than ok. More than ok!
Still need help? Hit me up on Instagram at @letsgowithjulio - happy to share thoughts! - Комедії
I thoroughly recommend that everyone gets a gay best friend; they will be there when friends, and even family, have turned their backs on you.
YES! Louder for those in the back.
@@letsgowithjulio I wouldn't mind, but I'm gay too! LMAO :D
I had a gay best friend couple until one by one I had to lose them in death. 💙 RIP Mike & John.💙
@@letsgowithjuliojulio is married too🥹 got an instant crush on you😁😍
I completely agree! I had one! He was rad!
His genuine love for his friend is so beautiful it made me cry.
Aww thank you. Still makes me cry watching it! ❤
Oh my goodness, I was crying too...
Exactly...
@@letsgowithjulio0
Me too.🥲
Tears. Wow. Any man would love to hear another man say such kind words about them. Every straight guy needs a gay bestie. They are the ultimate wingman for girls and will tell you when you're acting or looking like a total douchebag in a way your straight buddies cannot because they are just as clueless. You have brothers by birth and brothers by choice. Julio is going to be an amazing sounding board when the marriage has its ups and downs and the best uncle their kids will ever have.
Wow. This got me emotional, I am going to cherish this forever. Thank you.
You can tell groom he was probably the first person or one of the first that accepted you for who you were and didn't give a damn that you were gay. You guys became family for each other. Really show.
❤❤ thank you
What inspired you to watch this John??
This is guy is charming and oozing with charisma. Great homage to his friends!
Omg oozing with charisma?? I’ll take it! Haha
That's the gays for you
@@SScott-nr9vlGot that right!
Yup, the best wedding speech on here. Well prepared and well delivered, humorous and touching. I hope Julio, Karl and Ash are still best of friends and living their best lives.
Thank you JP! We are indeed, and I appreciate your love for the speech. Omg I was so nervous!
I met my childhood bestfriend as high school freshmen, we were straight as an arrow but we loved each other, even both our families loved us. It was a joy growing up together as we perfectly fit. And heads even turn as we pass by as we looked good together! We chaperoned each other's dates most of the time with all those girls.. then it was my time to get married first. I expected a bestman speech from him too. But he died barely a month before the wedding.. was doubly painful as it was a senseless murder! We never say we loved each other, but i wish i had. Hey buddy, wherever you are i love you and i'd be seeing you in time.🥲
@@pingyu5141 Well, this didn't go the direction I thought it would. My condolences in the loss of your friend. Even though he is no longer here, you have years of good times to remember.
I agree great speech
“On that note, we should drink.” 😂😂😂 You have the gift of gab, my friend! What a heartwarming speech.
Gift of the gab - ha! Thank you so much. That means the world to me 🙏🏽❤️
Gift of gab. I still think about that!
When good people find each other, that alone is reason to celebrate.
Here here! 🎉
A PERFECT speech delivered with humor, respect, and love. Holy smokes, this left me teary.
Ahhh this comment makes me tear. THANK YOU FOR SAYING SO!!!!
My what a sincere presentation I could feel you in every word you spoke got me teary too! I hope Carl would be able to reciprocate at your wedding!
What a beautiful heartfelt best man speech! As a gay man myself, this brings me so much joy seeing the unconditional love these two men have for each other. In our current world so full of judgment and hate this gives me hope that we can coexist and respect one another no matter how you identify or who you love! Congrats to the newlyweds! ❤❤
Thank you for saying so 🙏🏽❤️
Your message inspired me to start a podcast. So thank you.
Beautiful comment. 😊
@@letsgowithjuliowhat is the name of your podcast?
I was to be my cousins best man but his MIL who had never met me was adamant that she would not attend if I was in the wedding. My cousin I used to baby sit was horrified and his future bride apologized to me but in order to keep the peace I attended as a guest. At the rehearsal dinner and party after I was very attentive to my ailing grandmother and to the. grooms mother my dearest aunt, later that evening the MIL approached me. saying she was sorry about everything as she had never met a gay man before and wasnt sure if Id show up in a dress or leather gear. I told her no problem as to not cause any attention to be drawn from the couple but when I told them of her talking to me. the bride, a sweet girl, was angry say9ing her mothers hairdresser and supposed friend of 40 years was gay and although they never talked about it felt it was impossible that she didnt know. Glad to see this guy get his chance. They have now been married 230 years and I still love them both and dont attend anything the mother is at as I dont want to know someone so dishonest
What an absolutely adorable young man and that was one hell,of a speech …
I’m grateful for you saying so! Thank you ☺️
This made me cry because of having been in your position. You handled it so beautifully. I hope you have found your partner who cherishes you as much as you do Karl and Ash. You deserve it so much. Love from Sydney, Australia.
Thank you so much! I appreciate the note and hello down under!!!
I have literally watched this for 4 or 5 times already and it never fails to touch my heart. What a gift to have a friendship like yours. That’s priceless.
Wow really?!? I’m going to make more content - follow me on IG @letsgowithjulio.
Maybe I’ll do more UA-cam videos too!! Haha
Julio i don't know you but you have one of the purest heart i have ever seen.
Gosh, that touches me. Thank you. I believe that for myself now than ever before. Wasn’t always the case!
Thank you Julio! I have this video saved for whenever the world has me down. This is PURE LOVE! Everyone deserves a gay best friend as sweet as you. Bless you for sharing this amazing moment with the world! I laughed, I cried … best best man speech ever! ❤️❤️❤️
Ahhhh this warms my heart!!! THANK YOU FOR SAYING SOO!!! ❤❤
man he's a natural being able to move people like that
Whew. I’m trying to turn it into my career after all these feedback. Never saw myself as natural. Fingers crossed
This best man speech had it all...humor, anecdotes, a little "spice", gratitude, respect, acknowledgement and was delivered with confidence, sentiment and above all else, love for a best friend and his bride. Public speaking can be an arduous and stressful task, especially in this circumstance when the challenge is to get it "perfect". This guy gave a masterclass in hitting all the right notes. Bravo, Julio!
wow, nice and thank you. Im going to keep this near my desk for when I'm feeling in shame. A reminder that I can do this!
Best wedding speech ever! I can feel the love surrounding the place. Now I know why people cry all the time at weddings ❤
This means so much to me, thank you for saying so! I'm going to start doing more speeches LOL
Great speech! I am a gay man myself and I don’t know if I could do it, because I was in love with both of my closest straight male friends for a few years. It was extremely painful and one of my biggest regrets to have wasted those years pining. Of course we are just friends now and I feel nothing
These messages always warm my heart - thank you for taking the time to share!
Literally this. I also have had deep feelings for a coworker of mine. He’s straight and doesn’t feel the same. But we always find ourselves talking for hourssss, which I don’t mind, but I’d rather save my energy to someone would feel the same way. But I know I couldn’t watch him be with someone else, even tho my feels are little by little waning
This 57 year old gay man just cried his eyes out. How wonderful to be friends with such wonderful and kind people.
Thank you for saying so,. This means more than you know. It's nice to know I can have that impact on people.
Oh my goodness he had me in tears. That is a good friendship brotherhood they share. He did an excellent job speaking came from his heart❤
I’m going to speak professional because of this video! Enough people have shown me I can do this!!
@letsgowithjulio that's amazing, congratulations! I'd love to see what you do, you have a gift!
Mother of God. I’m in bits. Job WELL DONE 🇬🇧
Haha appreciate you mate!
Wow, that is straight up one of the most poignant, heartfelt, humorous and genuinely feel good speeches ive heard from a best man. I love it! Though this was posted 5 years ago from the time im writing this - im wishing all of the well wishes!
Can't keep from smiling and crying at the same time. You are loved by the entire Skare family, Julio!
Who’s cutting onions? This was everything
What be failed to say what a wonderful, caring and loving young man he is.
Such love in that speech.
Just wonderful.
They are so lucky to have you in their lives. I hope everyone gets to be friends with someone like you! ❤️
❤❤❤
How beautiful and heartwarming. I hope Julio also finds the love of his life - my gay son has been with his partner for 10 years and has never been happier ❤❤
Wow thank you - this means the world to me! What inspired you to watch?
Best speech ever. Truly a good friend
WOW, you got me.. what an amazing friendship. I only wish I had a male friend I could call a bestie. you are so lunky to have found such a beautiful gem much love and respect.
Thank you for saying so 🙏🏽☺️❤️
Just came across this, what a lovely heartwarming speech from the hottest best man ever!! ;)
Haha oh my gosh - too kind. THANK YOU!!
@@letsgowithjulio You are very welcome, hope life is treating you good :)
Greatest best man speech I have ever witnessed.
Haha thank you! Appreciate that ❤️
What a awesome best man!! I don’t know them but I was crying listening to this. Awesome job mate.
Thank you Andrew!!!
I love the fact the his best friend never judge him for him being who is is but excepting that he is a human being. Wonderful speech. Love and respect for a man who was instilled with good values. From New Zealand with love
That’s right - he never judged me. He accepted me 🙏🏽❤️
I'm proud of all of you and I don't know any of you. You are an amazing young man. ❤🌈🙏
Thank you 🙏🏽 that means so much to me! 🥺
Wow. Just beautiful. This is the sort of powerful love and kindness that can heal anything or anyone. ❤🏳️🌈☮ ❤ Bravo for being able to express it so well, Julio!
Oh thank you! More UA-cam videos coming!!!
Wow I hope this is a sign I have a gay best friend coming my way 😩😂 . This was so beautiful 🥰😩😭
So beautiful..so eloquent. 😢
Awww thank you secret agent!!
That was very nice. True Friendship is hard to come by.
Indeed it is. If you end up with two or three you're doing well. Most come and go from your life. True friend no.
With a name like Julio you know it's gonna be good !!!
Haha let’s go with Julio!!!
It was so rich confession of the bonding. May god bless you all.
Thank you 🙏🏽
I’m not sure why the algorithm suggested this for me, as I was absolutely and unabashedly in a Mariah Carey Christmas song rabbit hole (O Holy Night, specifically), but I’m grateful it did. Hearing you describe your story and bond with your best friend reminded me of mine with my best friend. It’s a beautiful thing when people with the greatest differences are able to form the strongest ties, that often can become stronger than those of the family we share blood with. I was fortunate enough that the woman my best friend chose to marry was also a best friend of mine, and we have been able to really enjoy such unforgettable and even more so unifying experiences since they’ve been married. There is so much space for love, and I’m sure that you guys have been able to continue growing, expanding those loving limits throughout the years, and will continue to do so. Thank you for sharing a moving reminder that with stories like this, there is still so much beauty in the human condition.
Wow - louder for everyone in the back! That is so beautiful. Thanks for taking the time to articulate this and share it.
LMAO about Mariah Carey.
Any guy watching mariah carey videos is gay, there u go
@@letsgowithjulio Thank YOU! Absolutely a pleasure.
@@johniii8147 🤭😂
That was so beautiful. This is how we are supposed to be as human beings. This gives me hope for humanity
Yea. Love that ❤
Bravo ❤❤❤ I love love love your speech. It is authentic as it gets.
Appreciate that. Trying to love from authenticity!
The most amazing best man speech ever! And what a wonderful, special, and beautiful friendship. You guys have something so very special. Cheers! 🥂
Awww thank you I appreciate this note!!!
Awesome speech. Nothing is stronger than true love, friendship.
I stumbled across this tonight. Thanks Julio, you've got me sitting here crying, bro! LOL. That was an incredible speech. You looking for a husband, by chance? Great job, buddy!
Haha thank you sir! I appreciate your warm note ☺️🙏🏽❤️
Yep, I cried!
Ugh reminds me of me and my best friend from college. I love him and his wife so much. We have so many stories and adventures! I appreciate them so much ❤
Such a great wedding speech ! I hope the best and love in the world Julio
Thank you!!
I loved this. Ugh my heart.
It took 4 years for this awesome video to show up in my feed. Better late than never. This made my day and felt the need to share with others. Thank you!
Thank you!!! ☺️☺️☺️
oh goodness, i'm crying again. great speech.
Awww man... my eyes just started to sweat for no reason😭😭😭😍😍😍😳
From just listening to you talking about your amazing friends, i feel like i know them. You are so blessed to have such wonderful people around you and they're so soooo lucky to have YOU.
Sending all of ye mucho love🥰🥰
ahhhhh this brings me so much joy reading your comment!!! I am blessed indeed. Every day I wake up and remember this
You give me hope..... hope for friendship in my lonely world, i envy them for having a friend like you. Thank you for upload this :)
Hope yess....and that hope has come as a function of my pain and struggle. Using that to rise like a phoenix and share that love with the world!
What a sweet guy. Absolutely delightful speech.
Thank you for making the time to watch! ❤
Wow i m speechless 😶 that was a beautiful and emotional speech. Wish i had such a great best friend
Thank you for saying so 🙏🏽🙏🏽
Lot's of love in that speech ..... awesome!
Such a beautiful treasure / bless Him !!!
Bless you for writing this and making the time to watch!
This is such an eloquent speech. Sitting here with tears in mg eyes at such a wonderful speech. Many blessings to all of you!
awwww whohoooooo I'm going to be a professional speaker now because of all this feedback ha.
@@letsgowithjulio that’d be awesome. You ARE AMAZING!
Oh my god I'm in bits.😢😢😢😢Absolutely gorgeous and brilliant ❤❤❤❤❤
Awwww THANK YOU!!! ☺️
This was such a beautiful moment, made my day after watching :)
You are so kind. Thank you!!
I teared up😢 that was so beautiful
Thank you!
What a beautiful, genuine, heartfelt speech you made 🫶
I’m about to give another big speech soon, so these comments really help. Thank you 🙏🏽
@@letsgowithjulio Welcome 😀
I love toast part where everyone was celebrated.
And when they finally showed the groom and bride, they looked exactly how he described them. They were truly radiant with beauty.
Thank you!!
This is one of the best speeches I have ever seen. Wow.
ahhhh thank you! I need the encouragement...got another one coming up!!
Lovely, heartfelt, eloquent, sincere, funny, compassionate & honest. Thank you for sharing the depths of your truth
Thanks for listening and watching.
I love this! I'm going to have to make a speech because my brother just asked me to be his best man for his wedding next year. Very nervous, yet very excited!
You can do it! Follow the tips I gave in the about section of video. Go go go!
@@letsgowithjulio Thank you! I'm also gay, so your video definitely helped me. I know I'm gonna cry like a baby giving it but it's going to be so worth it
@@letsgowithjulio Hey man, came back to report that my best man speech went GREAT! I did in fact break down a bit (who wouldn't??) but it was very well received and I can't thank you enough for your guidance!
wow proud of you -- and thank you for making the time to come report back!!!!@@dylansh99
Friends can be soul mates to and this proves it ❤
Yes 🙏🏽
Wish we could see Karl's reaction to the speech! It's so sweet ❤
This was so incredibly thoughtful
Awesome speech man. Listened to this many times
Nice to stumble upon this again, very heartwarming speech
Also the best man on my best friend’s wedding. This is so relatable ❤ So happy to see your video 🥰
this is easily the best speech I've ever heard! amazing job!
This is literally my favorite speech
WOW !! that was a great trubute !! - well done lad !!!XXX
I appreciate you saying so!
so well done, brought tears to my eyes.
Great speech but the crowd was also amazing!
great job young man. that speech was something else. Usually I get mad that UA-cam suggests videos that I have no idea why I should like. not the case with this one! Even if that happened a long time ago, I don't care. You guys are lucky to have each other as friends. hope it lasts a life time ! cheers!!
I expect it will.
Thank you - I will cherish this kind note! ❤
What inspired you to watch?
A beautiful space to share with the kind of humans many of us never have the privilege of meeting♥
Such a heartwarming very sincere speech! Keep the friendship you guys!
Damn! This was seriously amazing!
this just came up on my recommended & I LOVE IT! Karl is so lucky to have a friend like you!
Awww appreciate that!!!
Barely watching this 4 years after you posted it and all I have to say is I’m not crying, you are! LOL Awesome speech!! #MuchLove
Oh yea - plenty of tears. And you know? I was so afraid of showing those tears. And who knew I’d get so much love for having the courage to share them with you all. ❤️
You hit this out of the park, @Julio! ❤
Also just heard you on the Coffee + Change podcast - brilliant!
Ha - how did you manage to find that episode?! Thank you…I appreciate the love!!!
I can't wait to give my speech. Thanks for putting this up, it helps generate some ideas!
GOOD LUCK!
Amazing speech from an amazing best man. Glad I came across this! You have the it factor Julio! You will be amazing at what ever you do. It’s great to see such joy and happiness expressed between two young men who have so much love and friendship for each other and have it shared at a wedding for friends and family. Best wishes to everyone in the video!
Wow, what a touching thing to say. I will treasure this note for when I’m feeling down. You’ll remind me of my power!
I have just been ditched by my bestfriend for over a year for admitting that i am not straight! But seeing this video, reminds me of being a true friend on him! had tearful weeks of looking back, but hey time to move on and think about my self worth! ❤
Awww love you. Thank you for sharing ❤️❤️
Just happened across this video. You have me in tears at 8 O'clock in the morning. That was so beautiful. They are lucky to have you as a friend.
It’s amazing when other people cry - just goes to show how powerful emotions and storytelling can be. I never realized.
Welp now im crying.
Got me reminiscing about my straight best friend.
Great speech! Moving in all the right ways.
Thank you for sharing!
I love how this talk helps others reminisce of their own stories! I didn’t expect this and it’s magic.
So sweet what a privilege to have a friend who loves you from the heart
I'm sure they treasure this speech and memory like they cherish you. You are a wonderful storyteller. When you spoke, I was with you. I thought of the admiration and love I have for my own dearest friends - how they have been heroes in my own story.
It was such a beautiful thing to watch you remember. I found myself wondering, what are the affecting stories they would tell you about you? I see that you and your friend have given the greatest gift, yourselves, to one another.
Thank you for saying so. I needed to hear this as I prepare for my TED talk
That was so beautiful. Thank you for sharing. 😭
Awwww thank you for taking the time to watch and comment! Means a lot to me ☺️☺️
That was the most beautiful heartfelt best man toast ever ❤❤
Julio, you are a fkin rockstar. Cheers to you, man! Love that speech.
Thank you 🙏🏽
This right here is Golden. Loved every single word.
Thank you for saying so ❤❤
This is so beautiful!!
Amazing. Bravo that best man. Sincerity, humour and an absolute commitment to his very best friend in the world - beautiful.
Appreciate you saying so!
This made me cry. Beautiful ✨
Thank you I’m so appreciative ❤️❤️